I drew boundaries, I stood up for myself, I asked for what I needed. He broke all boundaries, he flipped things on me when I would stand up for myself and said my needs were not ok. My self doubt grew and grew. Out of that relationship now for almost 3 months, I now see how manipulative and controlling he was.
Glad you left the relationship. Controlling and manipulative people damages your emotional and mental well-being. Good for you! Love yourself first. ❤️
Know you deserve love Self talk Goal to feel good Take action or be stuck Rebuild and heal Do the work Know what you need Connect with yourself Take care of yourself Acknowledge how you feel, I understand and remind yourself to be hopeful again Stress. Fear, anxiety Be happy Boundaries Confrontation Have standards
Self worth is #1. If you have no self worth, you have nothing. I lost basically ALL self worth when I was with the narc. If someone gave me a compliment, I wouldn't believe it. I lost it all. After I discarded the narc and felt better about myself, it slowly came back to me. Today, 11.5 years later, I'm back to where I used to be. It took TIME and work, but I did it, and so can all of you beautiful people.❤️
I am realizing that self-love and self-worth are two different things. I do really love myself, like myself, feel good about myself. But placing value and worth on myself when it comes to other people is more of a struggle. I suppose I expect them to notice my worth and act accordingly. Not so. I can see that my confidence in placing and keeping boundaries needs work, as well as my ability to really trust my thoughts and feelings. I am getting there! Just adding another layer to focus on and grow in. Thanks for the video...good words!
Been a victim for so long, I'm tired of it. Realising that all the negative things people have said about me are more a reflection of them than me is liberating. I've hated myself for so long, am ugly, am unworthy etc. I'm nearly 50 and I'm changing a lot. It's tough and I have a long way to go but I'm on my way. Thanks for this, it's incredibly helpful.
I always hear “learn to love yourself” and I struggle with that. I hate myself. And I don’t even know where to begin to get better. Being nice to myself feels fake
Stephanie, excellent topic and advice. My insecurities and lack of feeling worthy came from my childhood and i have been struggling with that emotional wound my whole life. This came to light through counseling,and i have been working on my self worth, setting and keeping boundaries,etc.You have to believe in yourself so others can believe in you. Thanks for your continued help. Greatly appreciated. Be safe and well.
Stephanie. I want to let you know that I discovered your videos last year. You have helped change my life! I came to understand, for the first time, that I was in an abusive marriage. We divorced last week. I continue to follow you and do the work. I am looking forward to learning more about doing the work on self worth. It is essential stuff! Thank you!
One thing I learned about worthiness is that it can never be earned nor can anything take away from it. I am worthy because I am human. That is the only prerequisite. Remember you are all worthy and valued too.
Thank you for this video, really helpful. When I started dating a woman (who I later learned was a covert narcissist), I understood I have a really low self-worth. It wasn't only her narcissistic tendencies that affected me, but I already had a feeling inside me that I'm worthless, and our relationship helped bringing it to surface and make me aware of it. Thankfully this experience didn't leave me too scarred and I left her before it was too late. She was unable to make me feel loved , though I felt that I deserve to be loved, appreciated and respected. This was my key to better and higher self-worth. I know I have a lot of work and healing ahead, but I'm in a better place than I was before (sorry for my English).
I don’t believe anybody will love me for me it stems from abandonment issues, childhood trauma, dated a narcissist he changed my identity he has ruined me as a person it’s been two years and I’m still struggling with my self esteem
Your videos gave me so much strength that I finally after 33 yeas of marriage , I told him how I feel wish all that emotional and physical abuse. He doesn't take any responsibility of his behavior towards me or my children. I need self love and self care. Please keep guiding us! May Allah bless you and your family🙏🏽
This is amazing and so true, as a person who struggles with low self-esteem, I can totally relate to everything you're saying and how it affects our lives. Self-esteem is such an important part of us and we should really invest the time in improving it to a healthy level. Thank you for sharing!!
I wish I'd had a Stephanie in my life 30 years ago ! Seriously, learning all I am by watching Stephanie's videos & starting her 9-week online course feels like the weight of the world has been lifted from my shoulders. Already I've noticed from the changes I've made so far, and I'm only just beginning really, that people are looking at me in a different way, speaking to me in a different way and respecting me more, but ultimately the way I feel about myself now is filling me with joy, relief, strength and happiness. I just feel a little sad thinking about all the years I've felt unhappy inside and suffered awful narcissistic relationships, I could have had a different life but still, living in the moment and looking to the future is the way to go. Thank you Stephanie, you have a very special gift the way you help people.
I have been working on low self worth issues all of my life. I try not to have a low self worth and not to let it interrupt my plans, dreams and goals. But low self worth is triggered when someone says something negative to me. I don't always have assertiveness to stand up for myself. When someone violates my rights or belittles me I have started to defend myself. It takes years of self- discipline and belief in myself. Ultimately this is a goal that I will have to reach so I can reach Maslow's Hierarchy of high self-worth. Sometimes people are jealous or envious of me and they have insecurities. So they want to demean me into brainwashing me to make me feel like it's something wrong with me. Self-worth is a excellent quality and asset to acquire in lifetime.
I allowed myself to be part of and drawn into a “long distance”,relationship that I should have never been part of. After completely detaching from him (after almost 4 months of wasted time and energy), I now realize what a habitual liar and narcissist he is. Either way, I thank God for the lesson learned which I won’t be repeating. Thank you Stephanie. 🌹
Grateful I have come across your site !! Was married to a full blown Narc for 32 years .. Been out over 5 years but still going at it with him in the court system witch has been extremely hard !! Your videos are helping... Thanks Millions For sure I am a Survivor but I want to be a Thriving Survivor
Many are unaware what they are missing, the fact you are looking is a great thing, you are already on the path, keep walking and you will be running down it in no time. Much love to you on your journey 🙏
Thanks Stephanie, this was the reminder that I really needed today. I recognise how far I have come in my journey and today I need to self-sooth! Lots of love from London 💕
Was speaking to a friend about self worth just yesterday. So timely . I will watch this a couple of times to imbibe the essence. Thank you Beautiful Soul❤️
Every thing she said resonates with me. Every facet of my life is affected by being held captive to no self esteem/worth, self hate etc. Losing my hair was a death blow leading to body dismorphic disorder. I long for a selfie but not courageous enough to do it so I do avatars all the time. My idea of a perfect date would be a preety but blind woman. To top it off my relationship with god is in tatters. I just cannot imagine a life free of this mental baggage.
Check out Electrasoul channel- her last video on changing your appearance could help your BD which is not just based on vanity only( my op)she has a lot of great vids to help with getting through this thing we call life with help from God our creator. There’s mental AND physical hope when we learn who we are and just how powerful we are.
Electrasoul has got a lot of helpful vids to help with so much too along with some helpful vids sometimes like this one I see your comment on. You are going to be ok - everything is going to work out you will see!
Omg the compliment thing resonates! I feel uncomfortable at times bc I’m worried what others think and usually feel I need to dim my light so as not to make others feel bad.. I definitely need to work on this!! Thank you so much 😊❤️🙏🏾
I am spending some of my time wrighting a tellall book of my life they know about it and they worrie because all will see what i went through direct evidence truth many will be shamed and embarresd about what they did my gloves are off true story this gives me a outlet to realise my thoughts on what i went through maby this will inspire many to change their ways the truth always comes out the proseeds will go to chairty so they cant sue me they can try you cant get blood out of a rock good luck!
You have been so helpful for me , I am in the beginning stages of leaving a very manipulative, emotionally abusive 20 year marriage and it’s a huge struggle. Not only did he cheat with women but also with his best friend, a guy. He continues to try to manipulate me into thinking it’s not that bad and that he needs me to help him and so on. Your videos really strengthen me so thank you. I have a lot of self healing to do but slowly I’m getting there.
you know what i’ve been bullied since i was a kid. Started high school and people just didn’t want to be my friend or associate with me. I started to see the disrespect from others just because of the way I looked . I was never mean and pretty much stayed to myself... Now here I am 17 years old afraid of what people think of me and scared that my insecurities will fall over in my relationships. I have made some changes within myself like talking about myself to friends or just saying i’m ugly on my instagram. There’s improvement but it’s not where I want to be... i’m tired of getting disrespected because of my looks and have to work non my personality to be accepted by people. At this point, I don’t care what people say about me...I just feel like I absorbed all of the horrible things said to me and now I just think it’s true..
It will get better with age sooner or later you will realize that you will want to work on your self-esteem for you not others and that’s what’s most important
So helpful Stephanie. I found your channel when researching how to handle and heal from a narcissistic mother, but watching this one really rang true with me and I need to absolutely focus on self worth before I can heal. Thank you.
WOW 😳 is all I can say! I’m only 6 minutes into this video and everything you have said so far I can relate to. Thank you 🙏🏾 so much for this message, I needed to hear this message as a reminder to continue my journey to SELF WORTH, SELF ESTEEM AND SELF CONFIDENCE!
I don't understand for 1 second why anyone would click a thumbs down any one of your vids.....thanks for all the amazing and helpful content, your helping so many :-)
Hey I can refer you to a powerful woman she once helped me out in this kinds of spell when I was in a great need of it, can help you with anything you ask🤞
I wanted to add that I KNOW I am capable and smart and valuable to others, but I just had this deep dynamic of being unlovable that affected all my interactions. Had issues with compliments definitely... Everything changed when I figured out the “thank you” trick... but I didn’t internalize it. It’s such deep programming. It’s weird when you investigate your programming because you can only see it in the patterns writ large in your life. That says it all. Thanks so much and I wanted to say that just looking at your face in the video I am filled with so much love and gratitude that it brings tears. I just wanted to let you know because it’s important. YOU are important ❤️
it is a process to heal your self worth!! I have a video on my channel with my favorite exercise to increase your self worth - its titled "heal from an abusive relationship - this exercise will change your life"
Thank you, so much Stephanie and to everyone who is a victim of domestic violence. Stephanie you have helped me so much and I think very soon I will have a safe new home have a appointment schedule for a wonderful beautiful studio. God Bless you 💜💜💜💜🙏🙏🙏🙏
I used to have a lot of these issues growing up and into my early adult hood. Some thing to get over for me is to accept that. Not to become narcissistic to spite the people who appreciate the fact that I could be their “loser”. Btw you look beautiful in your videos and you got very cute puppy dog eyes.
Stephanie I didn't even have a mindset that I was a self. Forget self-worth. I would have thought I had it because I had a level of confidence/standards/success. But deep down I didn't have a concept that I am a person. I used to say I don't want what I deserve because as a sinner I deserved only death and only Jesus could give me the grace (my religious views). Those thoughts are about my abandonment trauma and covert narc mom (cause she is a wounded person). Once I was able to recognize ME in my life, only then could I work on self-worth, then my needs, and then my boundaries.
I struggle daily with low self esteem and self worth....I was at the point where I didn’t think I was good looking enough and wanted to end my life... I’ve gotten better but still struggle daily off and on
It’s like you have to be easy just to be in a relationship and married basically the opposite of being a good person having self worth.now that I know my self worth and I know what I want after dealing with a narcissist nobody wants me,want to talk to me like nothing.
It's ok💘 You're not alone - Very few people, I'm finding, actually appreciate a strong mind, they can't let go of their own egos.....Keep up the good work!!
Thank you for this talk .It was so helpful as I really needed this at the moment,as I'm continuing working on my self worth as iv got issues with this from childhood .But I accept them .out of a bad situation a lot of good can be foundxx
Would love to see more on actions to take towards building self worth. In my professional life I’m good but I’m my personal life I definitely get walked all over
Wow. I ticked all the boxes. I always told myself I had good self worth. I actually thought I did but i struggled for so long with everything you mentioned in this video. Been depressed ever since I was a kid, been on every antidepressants there is, attempted suicide uncountable times, I never knew what the problem was so I could fix it. Now I know. Thank you! ❤
Can she really change that condition? I doubt it. I've been held hostage to all of what she said all my life and cannot fathom living as a "free" person.
I’m getting goosebumps too. I never knew what it meant to have self love or to really know how I feel and not just automatically be whatever anyone else around me wanted. In the family you grow up with it’s especially bad because they learn to use you and get things from you psychologically and they absolutely freak when you change things. Just fair warning there. The problem is that It’s so transparent and unfortunately becomes even comfortable- and all that you know. I used to think people who were doing things for themselves were somehow immoral. Planning, career, imposing their feelings and desires on others... yeah. Basically normal stuff. Wow. I still cannot understand competitive people 🤷♀️ I basically have lived a rich and expansive life underground my whole life. I can see way way beyond a single life and what a single person might want so it’s not all bad. I just want to live, to surface and breathe the cool clean air of self-acceptance and love. I have so much to give. Thanks 🙏🏻 ❤️
Stephanie Lyn that was a great video! Thank you so much for sharing this. You don't realise what a 14 and half minutes can do for somebody that has low self worth for such a long time
Wow. Could absolutely relate to a lot of those signs. It's hard when you don't believe at the core that you are valuable and worthy. I was raised to believe that only if you are skinny and pretty you are valuable. and I think often our society reinforcea that lie. So now that I'm in my 40# and had two kids. I'm not feeling very attractive. I stay home with my special needs son. It's so hard to believe that I'm anything other than useful.
I got goosebumps too... I get it when I talk about what is TRUE... I've learnt now that is normally the holy spirit brushing past or around.. Pure love ❤️❤️❤️ love your channel. Thank youu! Am on a journey to find myself again after abusive relationships.. your advice is helping me lots! Xx
Another great video, thank you for your help and guidance. I always wonder about the people that give your videos a thumbs down and can't help but ask why in the world they would do that and after giving it some thought I think it must be jealously, pure and simple.
Hey! I feel like I have issues regarding self worth. Sometimes even though I know deep inside that this behaviour is wrong from someone else, I get this feeling in my stomach like no I am not gonna complain because he/she may think this about me or say this about me, get upset (fear of confrontation), sometimes it can be almost absurd like I am afraid of losing that friendship or whatever. And which takes things even further deeper with the fear of being alone (something I've been struggling with from time to time). Anyhow, this is really really deep stuff and something I really really need to work on, because this can almost get absurd. Sometimes feeling really stuck at that point. Thanks for this video, I know now that self worth is a big part of this and I have a lot to work on here!
I really liked this lesson I have low self worth like i dont feel worthy mostly because I let mean girls tell me who I am and I’ve been abandoned so please do videos like this you’ve helped me so much Stephanie I’m learning how to love myself and a lot of times I need to be reminded so thank you love
I think i might be important for us to understand the difference between what our society calls " disorders" and what we know as traits. Yes, there are levels of depression, anxiety etc. When these feelings disrups our ADL whatever that looks like for us then it's a disorder. One doesn't need to be a clinical psychologist to understand behavior, feelings, emotions.. being a human being.. maybe understanding ourselves lends to us understanding each other.. Great video.. this is actually better than most clinical videos I've seen on UA-cam..What you're describing in part sounds like Glass's Reality Theory.. Lol. Great video.. really good energy! Thanks
I told my ex " I will never be too much for someone who cannot get enough of me" and he said " you're just saying that to make you feel better about yourself" he also would say "you're a burden" "you're too much to handle" "I will never love you you're not worth it and other men will find out you're not worth it either" I was my authentic self and knew I was worthy of love before all that.
I drew boundaries, I stood up for myself, I asked for what I needed. He broke all boundaries, he flipped things on me when I would stand up for myself and said my needs were not ok. My self doubt grew and grew. Out of that relationship now for almost 3 months, I now see how manipulative and controlling he was.
Glad you left the relationship. Controlling and manipulative people damages your emotional and mental well-being. Good for you! Love yourself first. ❤️
I deserve to be treated with respect!
AMEN!!!
You are and will always be 3/5 of a person. No more.
Respect yourself first
rossiQA that’s first always
Know you deserve love
Self talk
Goal to feel good
Take action or be stuck
Rebuild and heal
Do the work
Know what you need
Connect with yourself
Take care of yourself
Acknowledge how you feel, I understand and remind yourself to be hopeful again
Stress. Fear, anxiety
Be happy
Boundaries
Confrontation
Have standards
Thanks!
I gain such insight watching your videos. They are helping me self parent and understand myself.
Me too!! She is amazing at explaining things she really cares about. Love her vids 😍
Self worth is #1. If you have no self worth, you have nothing. I lost basically ALL self worth when I was with the narc. If someone gave me a compliment, I wouldn't believe it. I lost it all. After I discarded the narc and felt better about myself, it slowly came back to me. Today, 11.5 years later, I'm back to where I used to be. It took TIME and work, but I did it, and so can all of you beautiful people.❤️
Years of being put down by society has completely shattered me and destroyed my self esteem I believe there is no coming back from this
I am realizing that self-love and self-worth are two different things. I do really love myself, like myself, feel good about myself. But placing value and worth on myself when it comes to other people is more of a struggle. I suppose I expect them to notice my worth and act accordingly. Not so. I can see that my confidence in placing and keeping boundaries needs work, as well as my ability to really trust my thoughts and feelings. I am getting there! Just adding another layer to focus on and grow in. Thanks for the video...good words!
The self doubt is so real. Sometimes I feel like I will never overcome it.
You will . Do the work. It can be tough but so worth it.
Vow to never let a temporary vulnerability lessen your self esteem boundarys. It's when the opportunistic strike.
Wow thanks for this comment. I really needed to see that...I am in this exact situation right now.
Spot on, peace is better than beating a cluster B narcissist. Heal your own wounds first.
Been a victim for so long, I'm tired of it. Realising that all the negative things people have said about me are more a reflection of them than me is liberating. I've hated myself for so long, am ugly, am unworthy etc. I'm nearly 50 and I'm changing a lot. It's tough and I have a long way to go but I'm on my way. Thanks for this, it's incredibly helpful.
I always hear “learn to love yourself” and I struggle with that. I hate myself. And I don’t even know where to begin to get better. Being nice to myself feels fake
Stephanie, excellent topic and advice. My insecurities and lack of feeling worthy came from my childhood and i have been struggling with that emotional wound my whole life. This came to light through counseling,and i have been working on my self worth, setting and keeping boundaries,etc.You have to believe in yourself so others can believe in you. Thanks for your continued help. Greatly appreciated. Be safe and well.
Stephanie. I want to let you know that I discovered your videos last year. You have helped change my life! I came to understand, for the first time, that I was in an abusive marriage. We divorced last week. I continue to follow you and do the work. I am looking forward to learning more about doing the work on self worth. It is essential stuff! Thank you!
Really helpful Stephanie. Your videos have helped me to work on my confidence and self worth. Please keep doing them. Thank you
I struggle with very low self-worth, I needed this video!! ☺️
Have you practiced it
One thing I learned about worthiness is that it can never be earned nor can anything take away from it. I am worthy because I am human. That is the only prerequisite.
Remember you are all worthy and valued too.
i have tears in my eyes just listening to you, that's how accurate that feels
I deserve good relationships in my life, yesss!!!
What are good relationships?
Thank you for this video, really helpful. When I started dating a woman (who I later learned was a covert narcissist), I understood I have a really low self-worth. It wasn't only her narcissistic tendencies that affected me, but I already had a feeling inside me that I'm worthless, and our relationship helped bringing it to surface and make me aware of it. Thankfully this experience didn't leave me too scarred and I left her before it was too late. She was unable to make me feel loved , though I felt that I deserve to be loved, appreciated and respected. This was my key to better and higher self-worth. I know I have a lot of work and healing ahead, but I'm in a better place than I was before (sorry for my English).
Your English is great ! Keep up the work and healing, you are most definitely worth it
@@sueharrison3382 Thank you for your kind words! I'm doing much better now compared to how I was 7 months ago when I wrote that comment.
I don’t believe anybody will love me for me it stems from abandonment issues, childhood trauma, dated a narcissist he changed my identity he has ruined me as a person it’s been two years and I’m still struggling with my self esteem
You have an extremely deep understanding of what self-worth really is. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, Stephanie.
Your videos gave me so much strength that I finally after 33 yeas of marriage , I told him how I feel wish all that emotional and physical abuse. He doesn't take any responsibility of his behavior towards me or my children. I need self love and self care. Please keep guiding us!
May Allah bless you and your family🙏🏽
This is amazing and so true, as a person who struggles with low self-esteem, I can totally relate to everything you're saying and how it affects our lives. Self-esteem is such an important part of us and we should really invest the time in improving it to a healthy level. Thank you for sharing!!
I wish I'd had a Stephanie in my life 30 years ago ! Seriously, learning all I am by watching Stephanie's videos & starting her 9-week online course feels like the weight of the world has been lifted from my shoulders. Already I've noticed from the changes I've made so far, and I'm only just beginning really, that people are looking at me in a different way, speaking to me in a different way and respecting me more, but ultimately the way I feel about myself now is filling me with joy, relief, strength and happiness. I just feel a little sad thinking about all the years I've felt unhappy inside and suffered awful narcissistic relationships, I could have had a different life but still, living in the moment and looking to the future is the way to go. Thank you Stephanie, you have a very special gift the way you help people.
Well done and keep going 👏🏾👏🏾
I have been working on low self worth issues all of my life. I try not to have a low self worth and not to let it interrupt my plans, dreams and goals. But low self worth is triggered when someone says something negative to me. I don't always have assertiveness to stand up for myself. When someone violates my rights or belittles me I have started to defend myself. It takes years of self- discipline and belief in myself. Ultimately this is a goal that I will have to reach so I can reach Maslow's Hierarchy of high self-worth. Sometimes people are jealous or envious of me and they have insecurities. So they want to demean me into brainwashing me to make me feel like it's something wrong with me. Self-worth is a excellent quality and asset to acquire in lifetime.
I allowed myself to be part of and drawn into a “long distance”,relationship that I should have never been part of. After completely detaching from him (after almost 4 months of wasted time and energy), I now realize what a habitual liar and narcissist he is. Either way, I thank God for the lesson learned which I won’t be repeating.
Thank you Stephanie. 🌹
Grateful I have come across your site !! Was married to a full blown Narc for 32 years ..
Been out over 5 years but still going at it with him in the court system witch has been extremely hard !!
Your videos are helping...
Thanks Millions
For sure I am a Survivor but I want to be a Thriving Survivor
Just feel like I don’t know where to go .... there’s so much I am having to learn over again. Plus I can’t seem to find the right road to head towards
I absolutely needed this video perfect timing..... I struggle with this so much
Many are unaware what they are missing, the fact you are looking is a great thing, you are already on the path, keep walking and you will be running down it in no time. Much love to you on your journey 🙏
Thanks Stephanie, this was the reminder that I really needed today. I recognise how far I have come in my journey and today I need to self-sooth! Lots of love from London 💕
Was speaking to a friend about self worth just yesterday. So timely . I will watch this a couple of times to imbibe the essence. Thank you Beautiful Soul❤️
Every thing she said resonates with me. Every facet of my life is affected by being held captive to no self esteem/worth, self hate etc. Losing my hair was a death blow leading to body dismorphic disorder. I long for a selfie but not courageous enough to do it so I do avatars all the time. My idea of a perfect date would be a preety but blind woman. To top it off my relationship with god is in tatters. I just cannot imagine a life free of this mental baggage.
Check out Electrasoul channel- her last video on changing your appearance could help your BD which is not just based on vanity only( my op)she has a lot of great vids to help with getting through this thing we call life with help from God our creator. There’s mental AND physical hope when we learn who we are and just how powerful we are.
Electrasoul has got a lot of helpful vids to help with so much too along with some helpful vids sometimes like this one I see your comment on. You are going to be ok - everything is going to work out you will see!
I listen to her podcasts while driving in the car. Even her voice is calming 😊
Omg the compliment thing resonates! I feel uncomfortable at times bc I’m worried what others think and usually feel I need to dim my light so as not to make others feel bad.. I definitely need to work on this!! Thank you so much 😊❤️🙏🏾
Great video. Its so easy to slip back into not caring and not loving yourself. These videos are so valuable. Thankyou.
I am spending some of my time wrighting a tellall book of my life they know about it and they worrie because all will see what i went through direct evidence truth many will be shamed and embarresd about what they did my gloves are off true story this gives me a outlet to realise my thoughts on what i went through maby this will inspire many to change their ways the truth always comes out the proseeds will go to chairty so they cant sue me they can try you cant get blood out of a rock good luck!
I hope you are having a great weekend 🤗
@Stephanie Lyn Coaching, you are by far, the most helpful person that I have found on UA-cam! Thank you so much for all of your coaching and advice!
You have been so helpful for me , I am in the beginning stages of leaving a very manipulative, emotionally abusive 20 year marriage and it’s a huge struggle. Not only did he cheat with women but also with his best friend, a guy. He continues to try to manipulate me into thinking it’s not that bad and that he needs me to help him and so on. Your videos really strengthen me so thank you. I have a lot of self healing to do but slowly I’m getting there.
thank you for being the therapy I can't afford
Learn to draw your boundaries.
you know what i’ve been bullied since i was a kid. Started high school and people just didn’t want to be my friend or associate with me. I started to see the disrespect from others just because of the way I looked . I was never mean and pretty much stayed to myself... Now here I am 17 years old afraid of what people think of me and scared that my insecurities will fall over in my relationships. I have made some changes within myself like talking about myself to friends or just saying i’m ugly on my instagram. There’s improvement but it’s not where I want to be... i’m tired of getting disrespected because of my looks and have to work non my personality to be accepted by people. At this point, I don’t care what people say about me...I just feel like I absorbed all of the horrible things said to me and now I just think it’s true..
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It will get better with age sooner or later you will realize that you will want to work on your self-esteem for you not others and that’s what’s most important
One thing I want to share that I do thing for friends and family members easily but I can't do things for my self, I become lazy at that time.
So helpful Stephanie. I found your channel when researching how to handle and heal from a narcissistic mother, but watching this one really rang true with me and I need to absolutely focus on self worth before I can heal. Thank you.
WOW 😳 is all I can say! I’m only 6 minutes into this video and everything you have said so far I can relate to. Thank you 🙏🏾 so much for this message, I needed to hear this message as a reminder to continue my journey to SELF WORTH, SELF ESTEEM AND SELF CONFIDENCE!
I don't understand for 1 second why anyone would click a thumbs down any one of your vids.....thanks for all the amazing and helpful content, your helping so many :-)
Thank you so much! Your videos have saved my life. I am dealing with a lot. I watch your library of videos about 3-4 times per week.
Hey I can refer you to a powerful woman she once helped me out in this kinds of spell when I was in a great need of it, can help you with anything you ask🤞
I wanted to add that I KNOW I am capable and smart and valuable to others, but I just had this deep dynamic of being unlovable that affected all my interactions. Had issues with compliments definitely... Everything changed when I figured out the “thank you” trick... but I didn’t internalize it. It’s such deep programming. It’s weird when you investigate your programming because you can only see it in the patterns writ large in your life. That says it all. Thanks so much and I wanted to say that just looking at your face in the video I am filled with so much love and gratitude that it brings tears. I just wanted to let you know because it’s important. YOU are important ❤️
Well damn.... I have terrible self worth but I’m working on it. I started speaking up.
it is a process to heal your self worth!! I have a video on my channel with my favorite exercise to increase your self worth - its titled "heal from an abusive relationship - this exercise will change your life"
Thank you for validating m'y émotions. When you want to talk people will feel like you are a mad person
Thank you, so much Stephanie and to everyone who is a victim of domestic violence. Stephanie you have helped me so much and I think very soon I will have a safe new home have a appointment schedule for a wonderful beautiful studio. God Bless you 💜💜💜💜🙏🙏🙏🙏
I used to have a lot of these issues growing up and into my early adult hood. Some thing to get over for me is to accept that. Not to become narcissistic to spite the people who appreciate the fact that I could be their “loser”. Btw you look beautiful in your videos and you got very cute puppy dog eyes.
you are a loser. a big loser. lol
Some of this was spot on in my case! Child hood, avoiding confrontation, etc! Just hope I can go the work to build myself up
Stephanie I didn't even have a mindset that I was a self. Forget self-worth. I would have thought I had it because I had a level of confidence/standards/success. But deep down I didn't have a concept that I am a person. I used to say I don't want what I deserve because as a sinner I deserved only death and only Jesus could give me the grace (my religious views). Those thoughts are about my abandonment trauma and covert narc mom (cause she is a wounded person). Once I was able to recognize ME in my life, only then could I work on self-worth, then my needs, and then my boundaries.
I struggle daily with low self esteem and self worth....I was at the point where I didn’t think I was good looking enough and wanted to end my life... I’ve gotten better but still struggle daily off and on
Self confidence is good but it's more important that you care about people.
It’s like you have to be easy just to be in a relationship and married basically the opposite of being a good person having self worth.now that I know my self worth and I know what I want after dealing with a narcissist nobody wants me,want to talk to me like nothing.
It's ok💘 You're not alone - Very few people, I'm finding, actually appreciate a strong mind, they can't let go of their own egos.....Keep up the good work!!
Thank you for this talk .It was so helpful as I really needed this at the moment,as I'm continuing working on my self worth as iv got issues with this from childhood .But I accept them .out of a bad situation a lot of good can be foundxx
This is an interesting distinction between confidence and self-worth. It's not the same thing.
I see no distinction. Unless I do suffer from both?
I subscribe to this channel when I was going through a breakup.. watching your channel bring me right back on my feet continue doing a good job💯💞
I've been listening to her videos for 4 years.. im thankful and I think she's awesome but I'm still stuck!!
Would love to see more on actions to take towards building self worth. In my professional life I’m good but I’m my personal life I definitely get walked all over
Wow. I ticked all the boxes. I always told myself I had good self worth. I actually thought I did but i struggled for so long with everything you mentioned in this video. Been depressed ever since I was a kid, been on every antidepressants there is, attempted suicide uncountable times, I never knew what the problem was so I could fix it. Now I know. Thank you! ❤
God i wish i could afford her. It would change my life !!
SAME
Can she really change that condition? I doubt it. I've been held hostage to all of what she said all my life and cannot fathom living as a "free" person.
Very important video Steph 👍🏻
Oh my god. This is so completely me in absolutely every way. Kinda eerie. I greatly look forward to the followup, i need it like you couldn't believe!
Looking forward to the "Now what do we do" videos... 😊
Great video and topic!! I truly look forward to seeing more videos on self ❤️ self worth and building self confidence. Thank you 🙏🏼
I’m getting goosebumps too. I never knew what it meant to have self love or to really know how I feel and not just automatically be whatever anyone else around me wanted. In the family you grow up with it’s especially bad because they learn to use you and get things from you psychologically and they absolutely freak when you change things. Just fair warning there. The problem is that It’s so transparent and unfortunately becomes even comfortable- and all that you know. I used to think people who were doing things for themselves were somehow immoral. Planning, career, imposing their feelings and desires on others... yeah. Basically normal stuff. Wow. I still cannot understand competitive people 🤷♀️ I basically have lived a rich and expansive life underground my whole life. I can see way way beyond a single life and what a single person might want so it’s not all bad. I just want to live, to surface and breathe the cool clean air of self-acceptance and love. I have so much to give. Thanks 🙏🏻 ❤️
I am worthy of having my values & beliefs respected
So true
Thank you Stephanie! Much needed this topic, love your clips
I absolutely love love love your videos! I have gained so much insight to not only my life but how to handle someone toxic in my life that I do love
Stephanie Lyn that was a great video! Thank you so much for sharing this. You don't realise what a 14 and half minutes can do for somebody that has low self worth for such a long time
I believe this video is the first step of my new life! Thank you!! You are amazing. Ive learned so much from this one video!
Hello to whom it may concern I can recommend you to someone that helped me get my ex back
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👏🏾👏🏾 keep going
Gosh, it's so funny when Stephanie was talking about the goosebumps thingy. Lol
Wow. Could absolutely relate to a lot of those signs. It's hard when you don't believe at the core that you are valuable and worthy. I was raised to believe that only if you are skinny and pretty you are valuable. and I think often our society reinforcea that lie. So now that I'm in my 40# and had two kids. I'm not feeling very attractive. I stay home with my special needs son. It's so hard to believe that I'm anything other than useful.
This helped me TREMENDOUSLY!!!
I needed to here this!
I appreciate your time that you spend on educating us to becoming more conscious of ourselves 💜
I got goosebumps too... I get it when I talk about what is TRUE... I've learnt now that is normally the holy spirit brushing past or around.. Pure love ❤️❤️❤️ love your channel. Thank youu! Am on a journey to find myself again after abusive relationships.. your advice is helping me lots! Xx
Another great video, thank you for your help and guidance. I always wonder about the people that give your videos a thumbs down and can't help but ask why in the world they would do that and after giving it some thought I think it must be jealously, pure and simple.
Hey! I feel like I have issues regarding self worth. Sometimes even though I know deep inside that this behaviour is wrong from someone else, I get this feeling in my stomach like no I am not gonna complain because he/she may think this about me or say this about me, get upset (fear of confrontation), sometimes it can be almost absurd like I am afraid of losing that friendship or whatever. And which takes things even further deeper with the fear of being alone (something I've been struggling with from time to time). Anyhow, this is really really deep stuff and something I really really need to work on, because this can almost get absurd. Sometimes feeling really stuck at that point. Thanks for this video, I know now that self worth is a big part of this and I have a lot to work on here!
I don't want to be complemented I just don't want to devalued and put down.
Very insightful and informative video.
Wow right off the bat with number one. 😩 sad to know that I suffer from this. 🥲
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This was Brilliant! Thank you!
I really liked this lesson I have low self worth like i dont feel worthy mostly because I let mean girls tell me who I am and I’ve been abandoned so please do videos like this you’ve helped me so much Stephanie I’m learning how to love myself and a lot of times I need to be reminded so thank you love
Such a great video, and so timely for me! Thank you so much.
Welcome and thanks
Very helpful video 👍
I think i might be important for us to understand the difference between what our society calls " disorders" and what we know as traits. Yes, there are levels of depression, anxiety etc. When these feelings disrups our ADL whatever that looks like for us then it's a disorder. One doesn't need to be a clinical psychologist to understand behavior, feelings, emotions.. being a human being.. maybe understanding ourselves lends to us understanding each other.. Great video.. this is actually better than most clinical videos I've seen on UA-cam..What you're describing in part sounds like Glass's Reality Theory.. Lol. Great video.. really good energy! Thanks
These videos are great and you are a great teacher and genuine caring person!
I told my ex " I will never be too much for someone who cannot get enough of me" and he said " you're just saying that to make you feel better about yourself" he also would say "you're a burden" "you're too much to handle" "I will never love you you're not worth it and other men will find out you're not worth it either" I was my authentic self and knew I was worthy of love before all that.
Stay respectful
I LOVE this video. I think we all need to heal from our personal wound programming.
I have to listen to this again. I have been so put down , I have become so disabled. Thank you.
The timing of this video was perfect for me, thank you!!!!
i don't know how you didn't take compliments well, you're so pretty.
thank you so much 🤍
Thank you so much! everytime i go to your channel i feel uplifted and happy because i learned more! ❤️
Fantastic Steph. Thank you a million times.
Thank you❤, Stephanie!
That was so helpful!
Thank you for this inspiring video, listening to more of your personal guidance is going to help me tremendously! 🙂
I have been addicted of low self-esteem