Romance Scam 💔 is only ONE of Many out there! - Don't Let it Happen To YOU!
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- There are a bazillion types of scams out there today and in this video we discuss one person's experience with a Romance Scam and how it empowered her to fight back!! Darlene Petrie started Scam Prevention International - a business to educate and inform everyone so that they don't get scammed.
Scam Prevention International’s (SPI) mission is to ensure a seamless and secure online experience for internet users by providing education and awareness of how to identify and prevent threats from scammers.
The services we provide include:
Educational workshops and seminars to learn about the most common type of scams, as well as current scams, how to recognize them, and how to protect yourself.
Follow up assistance: We provide one to one, counselling if you have reported being scammed, check on you, and provide additional assistance, if needed.
Support groups: We provide an online support group to allow you to share your experiences and receive emotional support so you know you are not alone.
We know, victims of online scams are often too embarrassed to come forward. However, the more of these incidents that are reported, the more people will know they are not alone, law enforcement will have a better chance of shutting down the perpetrators, and the more aware others will be of the dangers lurking online.
Victims suffer in silence. If you are a victim or suspect someone is a victim, contact us ASAP.
Darlene Petrie
Founder & CEO
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E-mail: Darlene@noscam.ca
Phone: 587-432-6198
WhatsApp: +1-587-432-6198
I wish the dating sites, especially Facebook, would take this more seriously. I can't tell you the number of people that I've reported and they never do anything. The scammers are careful not to ask for money while on that platform. Once someone is talked into trusting the scammer, it is too late!
@cnl3977, good for you for reporting the people that are scammers! I agree with you. Facebook doesn't do anything until after the fact. It kind of reminds me of when the police can't arrest an abusive husband until he's already beat his wife and the damage is already done. 😢
They always want you to move off the platform real quick.
@TheLydiaR, you are so right!! That should be the FIRST red flag, eh? 🚩
A red flag for sure. A person should not move of the site because the scammers will have you go to a site that they can’t be traced on. Before you switch have a few video conversations.
@@darlenepetrie6932 that is great advice!! Only makes sense. If they are not willing to do the video chat, you gotta know something's fishy!! 🐠
NEVER SEND ANY MONEY TO ANYONE
@bengtina, EXACTLY!!! 👌 We all work hard for the money we have, so don't be so quick to give it away. 🙄
Of course, the scammers don't just outright ask for your money. They get you to trust them first and build an emotional connection, and THEN an emergency situation presents itself where your money is urgently needed to bail them out of a pickle. Red flag!! 🚩🚩🚩
@@coffeeconnectionspodcast exactly my money is my money
@@bengtina and it should stay that way!! ❤️
@@coffeeconnectionspodcast I have never been scammed I am 66 years old and I am enjoying to be alone with my dog. Everywhere on social media are mostly scammers.
I prefer to live the real life not the virtual.
@@bengtina you are SO wise!!
I'm not sure if you follow any scambaiters or not but the woman from Romance Scammers and Online Scams is amazing! She extraordinarily good with technical stuff and has a feel for getting to the scammers most annoying core. She does a couple of voices/personalities (like a single older lady taking care of her family estate as well as a cashier at the local grocery store and an 85 year old woman). She is cunning and down right hilarious and has a real feel for how to attack the scammers where it hurts--and they are all real scammers. She has written a few books that are fictional but really very interesting. Most of her videos are in a series so be sure you start with the first episode.I am glued to UA-cam until the next one comes out (every other day). She has a few videos that are strictly information. Again...on UA-cam and her channel is Romance Scammers and Online Scams. It is entertaining but extremely educational as well. She lives in England and has that English accent that I love to listen to.
Awesome!! Thanks for the information @catherinemccarty2307! The more info available, the less power the scammer will have. ❤
@@catherinemccarty2307 🤗Thank you so much for sharing this. The more we share the less people will be scammed.
Never send money to someone you have never met .Someone asks for money ,ask for money instead ,they will drop you really fast!
@user-uq8cn4ov2n it sounds like you may have had a bad experience just like Darlene from the video. I'm sorry if you did! 😕 Thank you for taking the time to comment and reiterate to NOT give money when asked. The trick that scammers use is to get you to care for them - and then ask for money. Any time someone asks for money that is a red flag! 🚩
Thank you for doing this in Calgary, scamming affects everyone that is involved. I've been involved with Romance Scam prevention for about the same time. Education is key I really wish everyone was not as trusting as they are online. I wanted to add, a video call will be faked so people need to be aware of this!
@sophieswan8816 thank you for your valuable feedback! That's great that you are involved in educating the public about romance scams. Can you describe how a video call can be faked? Just so viewers know what to watch for.
Thank you @sophieswan8816, for your knowledge and sharing. You are absolutely right! Scammers have gotten very good with using AI in video calls. Thank you @coffeeconnectionspodcast for asking. Some of the signs will include the lips-are they moving to the words the person is saying. Is it a video chat they are doing where you are talking back and forth or is it just a video they are using? The video chat needs to be a two way conversation. Ask them to show you around the room they are in. Is their voice consistent to where they say they are from, or do they have an accent. The scammers may keep a dark screen and keep saying his/her camera isn’t working. Don’t accept that. Also, when they ask for personal information, money, gift cards cryptocurrency don’t send them anything, no matter what the reason. Ask yourself, “Do I want to be in a relationship with someone who is asking me for money?”
@@darlenepetrie6932great insight and advice!
Wow! you have such good advice! I often share videos like this with friends and ask them to watch.
Knowledge is the best way to prevent it from going any further. Sometimes they will admit what they are doing and play the 'poverty' card and say that they do this because where they live (usually Nigeria) has no opportunities for them and they haven't eaten in a week. How it is that makes it okay for them to scam other people is beyond me. I was wasting a scammers time one day and he admitted to who he is but then he claimed that he had a STD, had no money to go to the doctor and his manly parts (for lack of a better word) were on fire and he can't do anything about it until he has some money.
Don't let anybody with that type of scheme soften your stance...trust me, they all have an angle! I have heard from people who met their victim in all sorts of places...book clubs, bars (and you just don't remember them), gaming platforms, puppies for sale, house rental etc...Please ladies...they just aren't real people and they really do not have your best interest in mind! I'm looking forward to more videos!
We love getting this type of feedback, @catherinemccarty2307. It makes the time and effort of creating videos like this one worth it! If just one person is forewarned about the dangers of scammers, and what to look for when being approached by a suiter, then mission accomplished! 🙂
But if anyone is unfortunate to have already been tricked, been scammed or taken for money, this information is meant to tell them there is support for you! Don't carry the burden and guilt all on your own. Darlene of Scam Prevention International is there for you to talk to. Her contact information is in the details below the video.
@catherinemccarty2307 I love that you are willing to share this valuable information to your friends. And I am glad that you are wise enough not to be fooled.
This is great information @catherinemccarty2307. Thank you so very much for sharing this information. Keep up with sharing posts and information. That’s how we will make a difference and protect people from becoming victims. 🤗🤗🤗 You are a superstar 🤩🤩🤩
@catherinemcmarty2307 do you have any particular videos you would like to hear, regarding Scam Prevention and anything else?
@@darlenepetrie6932 I will think about it...I do know of another one that has touched my life and caused an uproar in my own family. We were almost the victim of that scam where a 'lawyer' calls a grandparent to say that their grandchild is in jail and needs thousands of dollars to get out...they usually have a story, in our case, it was that my nephew had been taking cough syrup and hit a pregnant woman in his car and she was in medical trouble at the hospital. The lawyer convinced my mom that she needed to get thousands of dollars to this lawyer before they actually release him from waiting to jail. It went far enough that my mom went and got cash out of the bank but thanks to a tracker on my nephew's phone...we caught it before the deed was done. I knew before anyone else that it was a scam but I was terrified that he was being kidnapped and the $ would be ransom. Thank God he was just at the park having a picnic with his girlfriend. This scam is so prevalent that it has become a movie! I really really enjoy doing a little amateur scam baiting online but it can go wrong quickly so i wouldn't particularly recommend it. I just like wasting their time so he isn't bugging someone who could really become a victim. i will think about it and let you know about other scams and videos that would be helpful.
@@catherinemccarty2307wow! That's absolutely terrible how they will lie and scare you like that! I'm so thankful that the scam was discovered before losing all that money!! Thank you so much for sharing.
Delete a scammer as soon as possible they will wreck your life
@MaryannNunes, I agree! I imagine that Darlene from Scam Prevention International could tell us how to report a scammer before we block and delete them. 🤔
I would love to stand up in front of an audience and tell you so much of what scammers do and how they groom everyone even gentlemen
@MaryannNunes, you're welcome to be a guest on my podcast where you can share your experience so others will be warned. Let me know if that's something you'd be interested in.
These scammers are full of deceit...they spend all their time being liars...it would be easier to get a job sweeping the sidewalk...so ultimately they are very ignorant.
@lindamcdermott2205, you know I used to have this boyfriend who was constantly lying about anything and everything. He was very intelligent but I think he just got a thrill out of lying. We didn't last obviously, but I always thought you know he could really go somewhere if he put that intelligence to good use.
If someone loves you they would never ask you for money they would have money their self to pamper you and take care of you don't believe those scammers they're awful
@@MaryannNunes absolutely!! You got that right!!
These people need to love their self before they love a scammer they need to believe that they are real in their heart trust their heart before anyone else
@MaryannNunes, I completely agree! I think that one of the issues that is causing such low self-esteem in people but especially in women, is social media and advertising with all the photoshopped beautiful women with their perfect lives.
Before I knew what catfishing was, I was also playing scrabble. I get a lot of friends request here. I started talking to a guy from "London" then he called and had an African accent. I told my millennial friend and he told me about catfishing. I went to you tube and learned about all the scams.
Wow!! Thank goodness you had someone to share what was going on, someone who was educated and aware of the dangers of online predators!!
@lianidri80, your story goes to show how important it is to educated the public about scammers and the signs to watch for. I am so glad you had a happy ending to YOUR story!! Thank you for sharing!!
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I am so glad that you had a friend who you listened to. So often people are told they are being scammed but don’t listen and the scammer lures their victims away from their family and friends, isolating them. Please continue sharing your story so others will not be scammed. 🥰🥰🥰
#Crack Asset Support, your work is a masterpiece of expertise, woven with the threads of dedication, passion, and precision. You are the architects of digital justice, building a safer online community one success story at a time. Your tireless efforts are a testament to the power of teamwork and the impact of human determination. Keep crafting your legacy, a shining beacon of hope in the digital world!"
@BensonPeace, what a wonderful thing to say! Yes, Darlene is committed to preventing other people from experiencing what she went through, or worse!
@BensonPearce, thank you so very much for your kind and wonderful words. Scam prevention education and awareness is a passion of mine. I’m always interested in connecting with others who would like to learn more about it. I send weekly emails on tips of different types of scams, how they work, what to watch out for to avoid being scammed. I also encourage people to share posts, videos or news when they hear about others being scammed. Again, Thank you so very much for your kind words. 😊
My gosh her uncle lied to her! Oil rig guys every few weeks getting off the platform to get few week of rest before going back to that platform. They're well paid and do not starve. They have internet connection there as well. They have even a medical personnel on the spot when they need.
@@tessaroma1970 Yeah I have to agree that it is kind of confusing but I wasn't there for the conversation. Sometimes people don't give all the details about a subject or situation so there can be a communication breakdown. But good thing you mentioned it for other people to be forewarned.
I've seen Scott Kufus's picture used many times on facebook dating using many different names. All reported but the profile is not removed.
Honestly, I had to google who that is. He's certainly all over the place!
That is so great that you are reporting. So many people don't. It is sad and frustrating that the sites that have been given reports don't take the sites down. Thank you for sharing this.
Oil rig 🚩🚩🚩
@donnahilton471, definitely a triple red flagger!! You know what really struck me from my conversation with Darlene? When she said that if the person would not do a video call then that should be a huge red flag!
Educating the public is crucial!! Having this conversation even helps bring awareness.
I am very familiar with the Oil Rig profession of the scammer. That is where the person who was scamming me said they were working. For someone who doesn't know about romance scams, and there are many who don't, this isn't hard to believe. That is why it is necessary to get this information out to as many people as possible. People commenting, liking, sharing are all ways to decrease people's risk of being scammed. Thank you, @donnahilton471 for commenting. You are making a difference
I love this lady I would love to do what she's doing
@@MaryannNunes Awe! ❤️ I love her too!! Darlene is awesome and she is so committed to educating people about scammers so that they don't get scammed.
You know, since this podcast came out we realized how necessary this information is, so now every week on my Coffee Connections Podcasts I have Darlene as a guest for a scam alert update. So if you really love her you can see her every week! Be sure to Subscribe! 😍
I love the graphics! And your content. Thank you for this info!
@seasontruax2341, thank you so much for saying that!! I really enjoy getting to know each guest on the podcast, and then editing the video to portray what makes each guest unique. The added graphics or B-roll allows me to reiterate the point being made.
I love the additions also. 🥰🥰🥰
@@darlenepetrie6932 thank you!! 🤩
How do you helps someone been romantic scams victims ?
I know that Darlene from Scam Prevention International can best answer your question @seed1252. Here is her contact info. Please reach out to her.
www.scampreventioninternational.org
darlene@noscam.ca
587-432-6198
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@seed1252, thank you for asking. Often people don't want to talk about scams or share information about scams. I greatly appreciate your question. At Scam Prevention International, we help people in many ways, but mostly on a personal basis. Being a victim of a romance scam is very heartbreaking and brings about so many emotions. It can also be financially draining. We usually talk to the victim on a one-to-one basis. We usually connect through direct messaging and then switch to video calls. Depending on where the person lives we also connect through WhatsApp. We provide one-to-one counseling, support individuals in reporting the scam, and periodically check in on them. We provide education and awareness on how to identify a scam, how to avoid being scammed, what to do if someone is being scammed. We also help victims talk to their families to let them know they have been scammed. Reporting being scammed is very important, so we will help the victim go through the process of reporting. Depending when the victim was scammed, if recent, we will refer them to an organization that works on getting funds back - but keep in mind this very rarely happens. If you would like to connect, you can direct message me on Facebook, Scam Prevention International Facebook page.
@@coffeeconnectionspodcast
Thank you
@@seed1252 I've spoken with Darlene this morning and she's trying to post a reply to you. She is hoping to hear from you
@@coffeeconnectionspodcast
I booked on the 12 of July I hope I we’ll contact her
I have to share something that happened to me today. I don't know if I was scammed or if I was being a good samaritan. I was on my way to the hospital to visit my son who was in a bad accident last week and broke his back and is paralyzed but on a side note I'm praying that God will undertake and overcome.
So as I said I'm driving to the hospital and taking an off-ramp which goes around in a circle and I see the there's a vehicle pulled over and a guy is trying to flag down some people so I pulled up behind the vehicle and the guy came to my door and he's got a strong accent and he says oh could you please help me I'm trying to get to the airport to go to Saudi Arabia any shows me his family photos on his phone of people in Saudi Arabia and he tells me that he lost his wallet and he doesn't have any money and I said well what's wrong with your vehicle and he says I'm out of gas and so I had recently gotten paid cash by a client and so I had some cash in my wallet and pulled out a 50 and handed it to him and he was so thankful. And then he shows me a necklace a real expensive-looking gold chain necklace around his neck and offers to sell it to me for $200 and I said I'm sorry I don't have $200 and he says well give me your business card so I gave him my business card and he said he would email me now as I'm driving away I'm thinking is he doing that to everybody that drives by and just makes a ton of money? So all afternoon when I would get phone calls from numbers I don't know I expected to be the king of Saudi Arabia thanking me and asking for my bank account number so he can deposit a trillion dollars LOL 😂
God did not “ allow “ her to be scammed , she volunteered
I don't know if I'd say she volunteered. That's like saying rape victims volunteer to get raped.
I would like to put it out there, if you do not feel safe talking on this platform please don’t hesitate to contact me.
@darlenepetrie6932, that is great!! And they can get your contact information from in the description area below the video! 😀
Women are falling for AI videos!
You're absolutely right, @lynnparrish1335! I just searched online for that and apparently that is not uncommon. I watched a UA-cam video by The National News entitled "Woman falls in love with AI chatbot" ua-cam.com/video/DTq0MaOwTjE/v-deo.html and she is aware that "Eren" is not real, but because she just got out of an abusive relationship, she finds that speaking with him and sharing her thoughts and feelings with him, has allowed herself to heal and grow in confidence, rather than going back to the abusive relationship out of desperation and defeat. Very interesting . . . 🤔
My question is this: If she is having a relationship with an AI bot and everything is PERFECT, later on down the road when she needs real human contact and love, will a mere human being suffice?? Will they be able to live up to her newly acquired expectations???
@@coffeeconnectionspodcast The number of victims, especially in English-speaking countries is already shocking. I fear that, unless we conquer worldwide gullibility, as AI becomes perfected (in scammer speech “more better!”), this will become far worse!
@@lynnparrish1335 more better! That's funny!! 🤣
I do agree with you though. Our current society has such low self esteem - probably because we are inundated with "perfection" as propagated by media and advertising, telling us what is beautiful so we will purchase products to attain to that level of perfection AKA happiness.
I really feel sorry for this new generation of youth because they only know what is put in front of them on their digital devices. That is their REALITY! Their security blanket so to speak. Try taking a phone away from a teenager these days! It's like that is the end of world.
We do need to conquer worldwide gullibility! How can that happen though when we have events like what happened in the Olympic women's boxing competition? Men becoming women for gain? People changing who they naturally are in order to take advantage of a weaker counter-part. Very sad!!! @lynnparrish1335, how do WE start this awakening? 🤔
I am 3/4 th Thursday and she still has "spit it out". Too drawn out to follow.
@sheilagadde5975, I appreciate your feedback but until someone has been in the other person's shoes, I don't think we can put words in their mouth, or try to take them out of their mouth. Often when we are trying to convey an emotional experience, we can't do it in only one or two words.
And I don't expect them to. I guess that's why there's different strokes for different folks.
@sheilagadde5975 thank you for your comment. I wanted to add that when a friend or anyone tells you they are connected to someone on line and you think it’s a scammer, please be patient with them. Be empathetic and continue to talk to them. I know it can be frustrating if they don’t listen to what you are saying. If you need support to support a friend you can contact me and I will provide assistance. Our friends need us.
That's very kind of you, @@darlenepetrie6932
God didn't allow you to get scammed. You did that yourself and have to come to grips with it.
@deborahc.9869, apparently she realizes she allowed herself to be scammed but she's doing something about it, Sista!! And you should be happy about it because she's making people like you and me aware of how easy it is to be duped! So maybe be thankful instead of critical 😜
Nieve or playing dumb?
Learn to answer clearly in one or 2 words. Poor communication.
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This is her honest friendly communication style. I appreciate hearing this.
@lindamcdermott2205, thank you for your support of Darlene! She is a very genuine and caring lady, and doesn't deserve to be criticized for sharing her story for others to learn from so they don't fall for the same type of scam. You are very kind!
She has problems giving direct, simple "yes or no" answers. Take 2 paragraphs to say "Yes",.
I wonder if she’s starved for attention and feels the need to talk.
@@terijo2504I believe everyone who feels they need to talk through a trauma should have that opportunity and right. Empathy is usually the best way to support victims. For those who don’t want to hear it, they to have the opportunity to walk away, preferably with not leaving negative words.
@@darlenepetrie6932empathy is underrated
@@terijo2504 I know for a fact that Darlene has a lot going on in her life including family, friends, and colleagues, and she is not starved for attention. Some people may be and that's why they may fall for a scammer's fake adoration, but not in this instance. As you watch the podcast you will hear and see that Darlene was reluctant to pursue a conversation with him.
#1) dictionary #2) sheila has a lot to say.... Instead of just clicking away🤔. That time of the month love?
Why did god allow me to be scammed? Why do these idiots blame all on a god, or they pray to a god to give them love or money??? Beyond ridiculous and ludicrous!!!
@@klientproby are they really blaming God or just asking God why?
I love this lady I would love to do what she's doing