Full Episode: How I Was Catfished And Lost $1,000,000 | The Mel Robbins Show

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  • @claire111
    @claire111 3 роки тому +524

    It's frightening that this person was an intelligence officer. Giving away a million dollars to someone you have never met is insane.

    • @mysurfing3550
      @mysurfing3550 3 роки тому +29

      Makes sense why masks were mandated, despite them being studied for over a decade and show no ability to slow or stop viral spread. The fact people in charge can send someone they never met in person a million dollars helps understand masks....

    • @KM-nq7ez
      @KM-nq7ez 3 роки тому +9

      @@mysurfing3550 TRUTH

    • @combatduckie
      @combatduckie 3 роки тому +4

      No, she was not intelligent, because as soon as she learned he was in "Malaysia" or any similar far or third world countries aND black, , ALL her red warning lights should have gone on!!! these love scams to Western women from african countries have been going on FOR DECADES!

    • @louiscyfer6944
      @louiscyfer6944 2 роки тому +43

      @@mysurfing3550 that is patently untrue. you can't stop viral spread, but you can slow it and they do that effectively when properly worn. where do you get your nonsense from?

    • @jackwills7092
      @jackwills7092 2 роки тому

      Just another greedy woman who wants more money oh a international business man
      What wrong with Joe from the loading bay the forklift truck driver oh he has no money and no business forget about him

  • @renevanderwesthuizen1520
    @renevanderwesthuizen1520 4 роки тому +826

    Kids are taught not to take anything from strangers and ironically enough, adults need to be taught not to give anything to strangers...

  • @catmoore3024
    @catmoore3024 3 роки тому +542

    One fool-proof way to avoid being scammed: Never send anyone money. Why is this so hard to understand?

    • @donnarupert4926
      @donnarupert4926 3 роки тому +47

      I can’t send money 💵 because I’m broke 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @normasouthwood3182
      @normasouthwood3182 2 роки тому +11

      @cat Moore So Very Well Said Cat!!!

    • @normasouthwood3182
      @normasouthwood3182 2 роки тому +17

      @@donnarupert4926 me too, but I NEVER would anyway!

    • @marciathehooligan9967
      @marciathehooligan9967 2 роки тому +9

      @@normasouthwood3182 so you & I ARE immune to it, huh? Cuz I wouldn't either

    • @鳳美虹
      @鳳美虹 2 роки тому +14

      Don't talk to strangers!

  • @lilsyevasifuentes7628
    @lilsyevasifuentes7628 2 роки тому +278

    This is the perfect example of someone who needed a therapist INSTEAD OF dating

    • @kdeloris2225
      @kdeloris2225 Рік тому +5

      💯%

    • @susand495
      @susand495 Рік тому +6

      One victim said her therapist suggested she seek out online dating.

    • @karenharrison885
      @karenharrison885 Рік тому

      It's so easy to fake profiles. I became a 35 year old man from Alberta Canada, and uploaded any photo of a Welsh child killer, all on Fakebook. I did this so I could send photos of him marrying a little boy, to everyone who knew my housemate paedophile, including his children. It worked and it proved Zuckerberg was a liar when he stated all his profiles are authentic.

    • @dtyallen9864
      @dtyallen9864 7 місяців тому

      ​@@susand495😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

    • @rosebudadkins6803
      @rosebudadkins6803 6 місяців тому +5

      Grief counseling…….people. Grief is horrendous! I lost my son and 1/4 of my immediate family in 7 month span. Grief counseling is imperative.

  • @mariahsmom9457
    @mariahsmom9457 2 роки тому +56

    None of them answers the first question- "what was it about their profile that attracted you?" They go off on another topic but never ever answer that one.

    • @Stefanonymous
      @Stefanonymous 6 місяців тому +11

      The pictures

    • @singingbeach
      @singingbeach 6 місяців тому +1

      Yes indeed, the photos...

    • @mightymouse1005
      @mightymouse1005 3 місяці тому +2

      Most say "I wasn't attracted to him physically, he was so handsome and had a great body "

    • @mightymouse1005
      @mightymouse1005 3 місяці тому

      They ALWAYS use the race card....not the scammer, liar, manipulation card......its all about "it's because I'm black, your upset "

    • @mightymouse1005
      @mightymouse1005 3 місяці тому

      Knowing military intelligence can be scammed explained why America is in such a mess

  • @melisherwood9734
    @melisherwood9734 4 роки тому +897

    Here’s an example of how important it is to be your own best friend..I was totally alone (no parents or kids) when my husband died, but I focussed on my pets, my job, and taking care of myself.

    • @FadelessSparklz
      @FadelessSparklz 4 роки тому +42

      Amen!!!! I would hope to do the same ...

    • @loralieisa
      @loralieisa 4 роки тому +61

      @LiveOkie Pets are loneliness busters,

    • @shirleyharrison2580
      @shirleyharrison2580 4 роки тому +36

      Exactly.
      My husband died 4 & a years ago. I was surprised that men, a lot were Army, or some type of service.
      I left my profile as married, pictures show that I'm elderly & they start telling me how beautiful I am, (I know I'm not) what a beautiful smile I have..ect..
      They tell me to send them friend request.
      ( i don't)
      Couple just flat out ask if I can still send them Google play cards or phone cards. (I CERTAINLY do not)
      At first I was upset & wondered how they can get on my Facebook page without my permission or sent request..but now I know they can manage that, I've been told/ explained to me but now I don't remember..( remember I'm old..lol.)
      I do have money in a savings account from selling my home when my husband died, & as I say often, nobody is going to get any of that money except myself, my 2 sons & 3 granddaughters. My sister (she 75 yrs old but don't act or look it ) & I like to shop sometimes once a week & eat lunch & just have fun acting like we have good sense.

    • @melisherwood9734
      @melisherwood9734 4 роки тому +27

      @@shirleyharrison2580 Be careful with requests from men online, especially army types..many are fraudulent and sent by the fraudsters in Africa (or others places) looking for vulnerable (usually older) women to manipulate into sending money.

    • @debbierandall6256
      @debbierandall6256 4 роки тому +10

      I was exactly in the same position.

  • @greenpedal370
    @greenpedal370 2 роки тому +49

    No friend would tell a recently bereaved person to go to an online dating site.

    • @berniceedwards8450
      @berniceedwards8450 6 місяців тому +2

      I agree with you 💯

    • @behabtwa
      @behabtwa 5 місяців тому +2

      i dont get that either. plus, its a hunting ground.

    • @zxyatiywariii8
      @zxyatiywariii8 5 місяців тому +1

      Ikr, WT actual F??? That's like putting a crippled deer onto a lions' hunting grounds.

    • @nata3467
      @nata3467 2 місяці тому +2

      I bet her kids are absolutely ticked off that Mom did not listen to them... Not going to lie I would go berserkers if my mom fell for something like this

  • @rebeccayoung8790
    @rebeccayoung8790 3 роки тому +168

    I'm going to make this very short. A man found me on FB. We were talking for about two weeks he told me that he was in the Army, single dad and his wife passed away in a car accident. Within two weeks he said he loved me I didn't feel the same. He asked for money. I said no. I stopped talking to him and blocked him. I wasn't going to fall for that.

    • @sirennem.6890
      @sirennem.6890 3 роки тому +17

      smart

    • @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat
      @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 2 роки тому +17

      .. Well the red flag is a proclamation of love after two weeks to someone you have never met.

    • @uyoebyik
      @uyoebyik Рік тому +8

      That's how most people would react

    • @videoettaceo8900
      @videoettaceo8900 Рік тому +12

      I like a short story with a happy ending 🎉🎉

    • @maryhurst4663
      @maryhurst4663 Рік тому +7

      The story he fed you is typical. They seem to have a similar script/bio. They often say they were born in another country (usually Europe), and are engineers working on a project here in the USA. I’ve been contacted by so many of them…it’s downright funny.

  • @winkieblink7625
    @winkieblink7625 3 роки тому +175

    I don’t understand HOW Debbie could fork over, OVER a million bucks to someone shes NEVER met.

    • @virginia3222
      @virginia3222 Рік тому +30

      The catfish really struck gold with her. Who would even have that much $ to hand over?

    • @tabathagreen1313
      @tabathagreen1313 Рік тому +18

      Exactly how you can be so naive

    • @loveandlight3486
      @loveandlight3486 Рік тому +4

      wow 😲

    • @jonaswatson533
      @jonaswatson533 7 місяців тому

      Women are stupid.

    • @janewainwright9756
      @janewainwright9756 7 місяців тому +15

      It's absolutely beyond me! I'm 67, been divorced over 35 years. Sure, it's been hard at times, even lonely, but OMG, full-time teaching wages were ALL needed to raise my 2 baby daughters. Sorry, but I just DO NOT get it!!!

  • @jennyonthecoast
    @jennyonthecoast 6 місяців тому +16

    It’s scary how many people are willing to have relationships with people they never meet and think it is love

    • @mightymouse1005
      @mightymouse1005 3 місяці тому

      I can't comprehend spending weeks much less years with someone you never meet and almost never get to call.....
      People need to research all these entities, military, UN, oil rigs etc for policy a s protocol

  • @rachelhagen9176
    @rachelhagen9176 4 роки тому +215

    Just a reminder to everyone out there, if someone you never met before starts asking for money run the other way don't walk

    • @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat
      @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 2 роки тому +13

      Even more importantly, if someone you have never met claims they love you and wants to be your boyfriend.......run even faster.

    • @hilarymeyerov2934
      @hilarymeyerov2934 6 місяців тому +2

      RUN 🏃‍♀️

  • @johnfairweather9188
    @johnfairweather9188 3 роки тому +96

    The red flags are ALWAYS there, but they all get ignored when someone is desperate for affection and attention, and doesn’t have enough inner confidence.

    • @andreah6379
      @andreah6379 10 місяців тому +2

      Who better to pick on but the vulnerable. Some sociopath can just check obituaries, look up the survivors & play on them. Too much private info about each of us is made public with very little effort. WTF.

  • @helenlingard7790
    @helenlingard7790 4 роки тому +219

    I've connected with men and every time they've asked me for money, i've cut them off..

  • @JabbaBlue
    @JabbaBlue 2 роки тому +75

    When you lived an honest life and surrounded by good people , it is easy to trust people. She's so brave to share her story.

    • @fayeking5066
      @fayeking5066 Рік тому +11

      Not very smart . And the topper is she wanted to get closure from a scammer. Like he cares 😂. But I thank her for bringing this scam to light.

    • @loveandlight3486
      @loveandlight3486 Рік тому +2

      That's true. Shielded from the "ugly" world

    • @howdareyou5800
      @howdareyou5800 Рік тому +6

      Honest is how you say stupid?

    • @zxyatiywariii8
      @zxyatiywariii8 5 місяців тому +2

      Sheltered, pampered, and excruciatingly naïve.

  • @shonii119
    @shonii119 2 роки тому +24

    After a scammer depletes your bank account completely, they usually either dump you or they will often confess to you in the hopes that as you keep working and earning more money you will continue to send money to them.

  • @ewechoober3355
    @ewechoober3355 3 роки тому +56

    Quite disturbing how much she lights up talking about her phantom boyfriend. Dopamine rush from a scammer on a computer in Nigeria

    • @Beststateintheland
      @Beststateintheland 7 місяців тому +3

      Exactly! I don’t think it helps to shame lonely people who are scammed. I don’t have millions of dollars to lose, but I would be sick and humiliated if I did. I admire her for speaking out to help others. I would be too embarrassed to tell people. Also, people are very critical. A woman I worked for was scammed, but not to this degree! I was afraid she might do something to herself because people were not empathetic.
      She was divorced and so lonely. A perfect victim. She also said she felt like a teenager again. Who wouldn’t want to feel that way and I’m married!
      Spreading information is good. Please be kind to these men and women.

    • @teriliebmann3491
      @teriliebmann3491 5 місяців тому

      😂

    • @mightymouse1005
      @mightymouse1005 3 місяці тому

      Talking in present sense...he IS a business man, he IS in England etc....thats NOT acknowledging he's not real

  • @shannonbradley4699
    @shannonbradley4699 4 роки тому +473

    LOL. I used to get friend requests from high ranking, widowed, retired military guys all the time. For fun, I'd play along for a couple of days then I would ask what part of Nigeria they were the from. LMAO. Then I would be blocked. I must have been put on some list because I never receive friend requests anymore. Hahahahahaha!

    • @carolannemckenzie3849
      @carolannemckenzie3849 3 роки тому +73

      I ask them how the weather is in Lagos 😂

    • @NanaTop70
      @NanaTop70 3 роки тому +43

      I did it as fun as well. When he asked for money I told him I hope he had friends to help him. Lol He started getting a little agressive as I just laughed. Never heard from him again. Hahaha

    • @kelliwilliams3592
      @kelliwilliams3592 3 роки тому +2

      @@NanaTop70 pd

    • @kathyescobedo461
      @kathyescobedo461 3 роки тому +18

      Got them all the time, wanting cards, phones, laptops, help coming to America, help with school money. Military usually wanted money for cards for their phone😂 Such fun, blocked, was so smart, then got caught by someone who never asked for money! Said he was a contractor from England, waiting to get paid for work he did in Denver🤬
      Think he might have been trying to apply for loans, credit cards in my name😡

    • @ShaneBales
      @ShaneBales 3 роки тому +6

      Yeah bullshit.

  • @jovitavillalpando2827
    @jovitavillalpando2827 4 роки тому +109

    Talked to him only 3 times in 2 years RED FLAG!!

    • @kidneycarecoaching3766
      @kidneycarecoaching3766 3 роки тому +14

      Common sense ain’t common

    • @rubytuesday5412
      @rubytuesday5412 3 роки тому +5

      @@kidneycarecoaching3766 ~ My favourite saying and unfortunately so very true.....

    • @jovitavillalpando2827
      @jovitavillalpando2827 2 роки тому +3

      @A H she was in a fantasy world and paying for it

    • @nata3467
      @nata3467 2 місяці тому

      I am so glad that I am such a tightwad and frugalista ...

  • @SausageSideways
    @SausageSideways 2 роки тому +10

    The second girl in the red is an absolute head melter. Her voice, the way she speaks and how she hasn't gotten over it yet. She acts like she's 13 years old.

  • @janedoe1347
    @janedoe1347 3 роки тому +37

    I flew home a few days ago and there was a woman at the airport that had flown in from Texas days before. She had been staying at the airport for days waiting for the man she had never met to be released from a private hospital or for friends he would send to pick her up. She had sent him money over a period of several months and had flown in to take care of him when he finally got out of the hospital. She said he had no siblings and his parents had passed so he was alone, she was all he had.
    I told her there was a very good chance she was being scammed... after I retrieved my luggage and went back outside she was gone. I do hope she is safe and has since returned home.

  • @jonathantaff3007
    @jonathantaff3007 3 роки тому +327

    What a brave women to publicly admit to her misgivings , amazing person.

    • @blondecat666
      @blondecat666 3 роки тому +19

      Not very clever though.

    • @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat
      @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 2 роки тому +16

      Yes I agree, it is brave of her. I would feel too embarrassed to admit this sort of sheer foolishness and stupidity on national television.

    • @jackwills7092
      @jackwills7092 2 роки тому +5

      Think maybe it's not true just entertainment value

    • @lucyw.7597
      @lucyw.7597 2 роки тому +4

      @@jackwills7092 why would you think that? how ridiculous!

    • @parthsavyasachi9348
      @parthsavyasachi9348 2 роки тому +12

      One of the reasons why these women get scammed is that they can't admit they are wrong when they family and friends tell them they are scammed.
      One woman who was scammed drove two hours to send money after bank refused to send money telling her she is getting scammed.

  • @nolaparker9574
    @nolaparker9574 4 роки тому +161

    I had the utmost empathy for this lady as she thought she was in love. But as I got further into the video I realize " a fool and his money go separate ways".

    • @connielanzaro2203
      @connielanzaro2203 4 роки тому +8

      absolutely true Nola

    • @Aydingenc62
      @Aydingenc62 2 роки тому

      @@connielanzaro2203 dork

    • @mpazinambao2938
      @mpazinambao2938 2 роки тому

      she is is extremely foolish, i can't believe her!! i was trying to be understanding but it's too much!

    • @karenstrong8546
      @karenstrong8546 2 роки тому +3

      His smile said it all … he had hit the jackpot, literally .. evil

    • @JessBlake2
      @JessBlake2 2 роки тому +4

      @Nola Parker, an even bigger fool is the person who thinks they're above being scammed. Plus, if you're prone to shaming people who get caught in some kind of deception as you did here, you're also more likely to fall deeper because you'll hide and be embarassed.

  • @HandbagDiva
    @HandbagDiva Рік тому +17

    That whole confession thing is part of the scam. I’ve seen it multiple times. It just makes it easier for the scammer by not having to keep up the ruse. He didn’t have feelings for her. You’d be surprised how many women fall for this as well and keep sending money as the scammer claims they’re living in poverty in Nigeria. Meanwhile they drive luxury cars & live in extravagant homes.

  • @tinywalnut6337
    @tinywalnut6337 2 роки тому +48

    When they "confess," ladies, it's just another phase of the scam.

  • @elliebellie7816
    @elliebellie7816 2 роки тому +10

    Perfect example of having more money than sense.

  • @neasacoyne2706
    @neasacoyne2706 4 роки тому +117

    If these clowns ask for anything; iPhones, iTune cards or money delete and block. Don’t engage.

    • @peterkherisson5186
      @peterkherisson5186 3 роки тому

      Like seriously honey??

    • @hotmess2766
      @hotmess2766 3 роки тому +3

      @@peterkherisson5186 Are you one of them why are you all over the comments defending scammers fck off

    • @marioncannon9924
      @marioncannon9924 6 місяців тому

      The women are the clowns

  • @gwenscott535
    @gwenscott535 5 років тому +297

    just because you have book smarts, it does not mean you have street smarts and you need street smarts to survive online.
    WHEN DID IT BECOME WOMEN RESPONSIBLITY TO SUPPORT MEN? ladies ask yourself this when men ask for money.

    • @cmck2021
      @cmck2021 5 років тому +11

      Lazy men. Btdt unfortunately. Stay single and stay sane! 💖

    • @SumCommonSense
      @SumCommonSense 4 роки тому +23

      Women have been doing it to men for years without it being called catfishing. Someone wanting your money should be a red flag for both men or women.

    • @gillygilly3423
      @gillygilly3423 4 роки тому +15

      musima41 - It shouldn’t be a “man’s job” to provide and it’s a red flag if a woman expects that from a man simply because she’s a woman.

    • @AlisonWonderland999
      @AlisonWonderland999 4 роки тому +4

      In the UK, it happened when social security payments ceased to be considered something that you only turn to in times when you have no other option, and became an acceptable way of life generally. I am fully in support of the welfare state, especially looking back on times when children would starve. But honestly? I've been fleeced by partners only too happy to be completely inactive. There's an old-fashioned joke about marriage, "making a decent woman of her" -- but if you really look at it, a "kept woman" had no choice ... they were either not allowed to work at all, or only in certain limited circumstances. Just watch out for parasites.

    • @starquant5217
      @starquant5217 4 роки тому +8

      Men have been doing it for decades.. you never heard of a pimp?

  • @clarissahallowell5436
    @clarissahallowell5436 4 роки тому +127

    Thanks for this show. Hopefully this will help others. My mom was being catfished. She met a guy online that said he was from Texas, but was working overseas. They were talking for hours. Luckily my mom kept me in the loop, and when he asked for money I said hell no. She didn’t give him any money and he quit talking to her. My husband works for a grocery store and they have Western Union and he said lots of elderly women come in and want to send money overseas. They will refuse to send the money if the women sending it doesn’t know the person and have not met the person. The women get so mad when they refuse to send the money, but the grocery stores are trying to prevent the money being sent. Great show. ☀️

    • @bonniemoerdyk9809
      @bonniemoerdyk9809 4 роки тому +23

      That's wonderful that you helped your mother avoid disaster, and that your husband helps elderly women ... even if they can't see what is really going on. Keep up the good work!!

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 4 роки тому +16

      I have seen so many shows where the old ladies ignore or get angry at all warnings amd cautions - and then complain that they weren't warned enough and the bank should have stopped them! So hypocritical. You can see why it is hard to prosecute when the person wants and insists on doing what they choose with their own money.

    • @marciloni12
      @marciloni12 4 роки тому +21

      Yes, I used to work in customer service and I processed Western Union transactions. As my position required online training for Western Union transactions, I learned that as well, to prevent theft and money laundering. This one particular woman started coming in to send $200 to Nigeria, about twice a month, so I asked her what the purpose of the transaction was and she said: I can do what I want with my money and asked to speak to my manager who allowed it. So, moral of the story, you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help.

  • @CynLG
    @CynLG 3 роки тому +59

    I am flabbergasted that this grown woman, who apparently is not stupid…got scammed by such an obvious catfish. The red flags were everywhere.

    • @joevann7365
      @joevann7365 Рік тому

      probably she is a pervert

    • @Juliana65
      @Juliana65 9 місяців тому

      Apparently she IS stupid!!

    • @Lunafalls
      @Lunafalls 6 місяців тому +9

      We do need to keep in mind that this case happened back in 2012, when these scams weren't as prevalent or well-known. But still. 🤯

    • @michellepalmer5283
      @michellepalmer5283 6 місяців тому +4

      These scammers seem very successful when hitting someone at a very emotional time such as loss of a spouse. That is what happened to her. I know a man who was scammed within a few months of losing his wife. It's sad.

    • @Catnipatrick
      @Catnipatrick 3 місяці тому +2

      The fact she ignored her kids warnings is telling

  • @nanaserwaah9955
    @nanaserwaah9955 3 роки тому +22

    Thank God for the work you guys do. I met a guy online and after chatting for 4 months, I went to meet him in Bilbao (Spain). His demeanour changed at the airport which set off alarm bells. To cut a long story short....upon my return to the UK, he started asking me to send him money via Western Union. I refused and that was then the end of the relationship. Please women, DO NOT send money to anyone you've not met!

    • @鳳美虹
      @鳳美虹 2 роки тому +4

      Don't give them money, period!

    • @pinklady7184
      @pinklady7184 2 роки тому +2

      Well done. You are smart not to send money to anybody.

    • @boxesbinslidsllc
      @boxesbinslidsllc Рік тому +1

      Or traveling to meet them. Let him travel to you.

    • @petestreet7535
      @petestreet7535 Рік тому

      Thank God you're black. If you were white that money would be flowing.

  • @carolewise
    @carolewise 5 років тому +251

    When a man ask me for money my antennas goes up scammer and hell no I do not need a broke ass man. Dealbreaker ladies!

  • @TheJustice29
    @TheJustice29 4 роки тому +211

    Sorry but the best advice for girls and women here and always should be don't date and look for love when you are feeling sad and lonely. Nothing good comes out of it.And beeing scammend has nothing to do with how smart you are. It's the lack of ability to nourish, love and support ourselves what makes us vulnerable and attracted to wrong people. That's what I've learned in my 40 years of Life. Sorry for my English :-D Take care, love yourself and know your worth

  • @sueknoll8567
    @sueknoll8567 4 роки тому +188

    My husband was in the hospital for a few days and I remember thinking how empty that bed looked at night without him there. I knew he would be home soon, but it really made me think about how lonely a person can and probably does get on their own all the time. Now after watching several of these videos, if you end up being alone I think a dog or cat would be a better choice of a companion.

    • @dianadundidit5343
      @dianadundidit5343 3 роки тому +8

      AGREED!

    • @annbelmonti3737
      @annbelmonti3737 3 роки тому +9

      A really sweet pit bull.

    • @VeledaG
      @VeledaG 3 роки тому +5

      @@annbelmonti3737
      Anything but an evil pit bull.

    • @snookies1224
      @snookies1224 3 роки тому +20

      @@VeledaG she said sweet and, i'm sorry, but the nature of the dog comes down directly to the owner. No dog is born nasty.

    • @tvs9978
      @tvs9978 3 роки тому +5

      One of the reasons I've stayed away from marriage. To be with someone for 20, 30, 40 years and then wake up one day and that person isn't there, that would be a very hollow feeling.

  • @mariancounsellor
    @mariancounsellor 3 роки тому +49

    The woman in the first story needs psychological help. She’s got journals of conversations but has never insisted on meeting him in 2 years? She’s saying she’s a smart woman but actions speak louder than words. I think she’s lying about him saying he wanted to keep things going. If she was my mother, I’d be advocating for her not to go out by herself or use the Internet without supervision. The second woman doesn’t have time to FaceTime but has time to send nice photos and videos?

    • @lux.mea23
      @lux.mea23 2 роки тому +1

      Marian Hanson - - - - - - You comment in every video about catfishing... And ALWAYS blaming the victim... Unbelievable!

    • @debbiegrimison6705
      @debbiegrimison6705 2 роки тому +6

      @@lux.mea23 but it IS her fault!

    • @CGeeThompkins
      @CGeeThompkins 2 роки тому +4

      @@debbiegrimison6705 Truly! She knew she was wrong as soon as she began hiding her actions from her family. She earned the badge of VICTIM, but she will recover. Seeing the face of that young Black man blew the door to her delusion wide open! She will survive.

    • @dqverify6797
      @dqverify6797 5 місяців тому +1

      Don’t forget, those journals were going to be treasured heirlooms for “their grandkids” so the grandkids would know the story of their love. Ffs. As if the grandkids would care so much about the internet love story of grandma and her second husband who is unrelated to them.

  • @Wombats-1
    @Wombats-1 2 роки тому +8

    If you can go stand in a crowd and not have a beautiful woman or guy come up to you and say they love you, why would it happen online? If it seems too good to be true, it always is

  • @kdp8133
    @kdp8133 4 роки тому +114

    These type of scams have been going on for YEARS. Here in the UK, you get older ladies going to countries like Turkey on holiday and are flattered by the attention they get from the young men there. All those men want is their money and a Visa!

    • @patricia247able
      @patricia247able 3 роки тому +7

      All the women want is male attention and validation of their inherent feelings of superiority over other women. It's an ugly transaction but reciprocal.

    • @sirennem.6890
      @sirennem.6890 3 роки тому +7

      Turkey?not sure honey. Its global job. You can fall in love and choose, but send money to someone you have never seen and person who are not real is something else. People lie in Usa also, scammers are everywhere

    • @irenemax3574
      @irenemax3574 3 роки тому +14

      From what I have heard about the Turkish holidays, it seems that the young men give their ladies a good time. I suppose it’s a bit sordid, but at least there’s some kind of exchange.

    • @kdp8133
      @kdp8133 3 роки тому +9

      @@sirennem.6890 Countries like Turkey - yes it's rife in many other countries where a Visa for the UK is the main goal.

    • @mandyedwards6729
      @mandyedwards6729 2 роки тому +9

      I can still remember going to Cyprus as a 15 year old with mum. I was swimming with her and a waiter started smiling at me . I i was very shy and it felt embarassing but at the same time a little part of me was flattered. He came up to me and asked me if I wanted to go for a drink with him. My mum was furious ( she was late 40s at time ) and told him in no uncertain terms that young girls like me didnt go out with grown men . He turned round to mum and said Oh Im sorry you want to go out with me yes ? Put me off mediterranean waiters for life!!!

  • @CarmenLuxuryRealty
    @CarmenLuxuryRealty 4 роки тому +114

    This woman needs treatment with a physiologists for life. When the guy ask for initial $45 That was a clue to run fast. So sad what desperation and loneliness can do

    • @annfeeney1662
      @annfeeney1662 3 роки тому +21

      She was a widow who apparently was in a good marriage . I think her experience with her good marriage clouded her judgement . Perhaps she thought most relationships are good ones , like she had with her late husband .

    • @sabrinawang6267
      @sabrinawang6267 3 роки тому +4

      @@annfeeney1662 I agree, when woman fall love she hard to see around & get out!

    • @Aydingenc62
      @Aydingenc62 2 роки тому

      dork simply a dork

    • @maryhurst4663
      @maryhurst4663 Рік тому +3

      I agree. The windows/widowers, who where in long marriages….need grief counseling and also someone to educate them about the tactics the scammers are going to use…BEFORE they ever decide to go on a dating site. They’re lonely and vulnerable!
      I’ve been twice. First time when I was young (19), second time married for 37 years. Maybe one reason I’m not buying into what scammers spew out is because I divorced both of those men. I’m not lonely or needing a man.

    • @debbiemurphy2512
      @debbiemurphy2512 Рік тому

      No excuse for such stupidity

  • @sweetsugar1014
    @sweetsugar1014 3 роки тому +59

    My mom taught me something about dating and it has helped me TREMENDOUSLY I hope that whoever's reading this will take the advice. A man should NEVER ask a woman for money (esp. so b/c he's NOT her husband and that should be limited b/c he suppose to be the provider). Be it a big or small amount, he should NEVER fix his lips to ask YOU. If he has to borrow it from his momma, a friend, or a bank, if he's trying to impress you and win you over, asking for YOUR money should be the last thing on his list. (This is a Red Flag ladies).

    • @TheTag51280
      @TheTag51280 Рік тому +4

      A man should never ask a man for money, he can ask his friends before he ask a woman, I really feel like people try to buy love, because it's no way they would give all this money to a person they see homeless in the street

    • @luciac9123
      @luciac9123 10 місяців тому +5

      And never ever send explicit photos. No way no how!!!

  • @BitishSAFFA
    @BitishSAFFA 2 роки тому +9

    Not only scamming, but also pouring her heart out to. What an experience.

  • @lisaholmes8881
    @lisaholmes8881 3 роки тому +17

    Why would you send explicit photos to someone you’ve never met ?

  • @hollystiener16
    @hollystiener16 4 роки тому +94

    I don't understand. All you need to do is have facetime or Skype with the person. And then yes, do research.

    • @yungaterror
      @yungaterror 4 роки тому +8

      Apparently they have technology that can put the persons face on and it will move as well

    • @abdurrahmanwakeel3923
      @abdurrahmanwakeel3923 4 роки тому +5

      @@yungaterror so they have become sophisticated this much, ahh I never new

    • @abdurrahmanwakeel3923
      @abdurrahmanwakeel3923 4 роки тому +1

      @A. A. but the feelings of heart overwhelms even our experience and knowledge

    • @crystalberry748
      @crystalberry748 3 роки тому +5

      Yeah someone tried that with me and I laughed and said I'm not that dumb if i can't see you personally not happening and if you are always asking for money big red flag and I didn't work where this women worked

    • @susankievman642
      @susankievman642 3 роки тому +4

      @@abdurrahmanwakeel3923 Nah; not me! It takes more than video chatting for me to fall in love. I am a skeptic. Words are just words. Actions are what I am interested in.

  • @marciathehooligan3861
    @marciathehooligan3861 4 роки тому +120

    While he was confessing, he was laughing all the way to the bank! His smiling face tells it all!

    • @minoritymindset6464
      @minoritymindset6464 3 роки тому +3

      they prey on vulnerable women who are single or divorced lure them to sending money because of love actually this women are ignorant about it and they give them willingly as a bitcoin and forex analyst I’ve discovered they convert it to crypto in other to avoid suspicion from their local bank now calculate how much is being circulated to this scammer because following “Thelma lee Gaddis strategies a verified broker and financial advisor on forex trading and binary option, just 500$ could give you 2500$ in 2 days guaranteed which is a very nice way to make good money because I know of it and it works, but she had to waste it on a stupid scammer she could’ve have just invested in her children future actually it’s a pity

    • @dancewitme211
      @dancewitme211 3 роки тому +12

      @@minoritymindset6464 Never mind her children, how is SHE going to be able to afford it if she needs to be put in a nursing home or needs assisted living when grows older??? Smh

    • @bostontowny4life744
      @bostontowny4life744 3 роки тому +19

      The guy she was talking to was not getting the money himself. More likely than not he was working in a sweat shop internet café owned by someone who can afford a bunch of computers and internet access. The money these guys scam, goes to that boss, and he'll divide a percentage out for all his scammer/workers. It's literally a business in places like Nigeria and India.

    • @PerrySkyePhoenix
      @PerrySkyePhoenix 2 роки тому +3

      Yeah, makes you want to slap that satisfied smirk right off of his face.

    • @thanapornperan1869
      @thanapornperan1869 6 місяців тому

      My husband got scammed who pretended to be a celeb romance n I do have a feeling that whom he talked to is from India coz the words that she used similar liked my indian friend😅

  • @lilt2119
    @lilt2119 4 роки тому +133

    Don't give money to anyone, whether in person or online, but especially online!

  • @beckyjones3578
    @beckyjones3578 3 роки тому +12

    I get scammers on face book at least once a week. When they say anything about money of any sort I block them right away.

    • @pm2886
      @pm2886 3 роки тому +2

      I've been on FB for years, and never once been contacted by a stranger. Know why? Because I have a strictly private profile. Don't complain when you created the problem.

  • @jeroenjanssen6870
    @jeroenjanssen6870 3 роки тому +33

    She was an Airforce intelligence officer. This explains a lot about why the US invaded Iraq because of weapons of mass destruction, while other intelligence services like France and Germany insisted that there were no WMD.

  • @loradurling2358
    @loradurling2358 4 роки тому +27

    Asking for money is when I say goodbye.

  • @AshaGlenn
    @AshaGlenn 5 років тому +102

    It just goes to show that it doesn't matter how smart you are, emotions are strong. And when you're vulnerable you'll forget everything you've learned. So glad this is being talked about.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 3 роки тому +3

      Well said.

    • @louiscyfer6944
      @louiscyfer6944 2 роки тому +9

      who was smart? they are gullible. they already believe all kinds of nonsense.

    • @isay207
      @isay207 2 роки тому +6

      Theyre not smart

    • @debbiemurphy2512
      @debbiemurphy2512 Рік тому

      Not smart at all..really stupid woman

    • @clivesweeting4410
      @clivesweeting4410 Рік тому

      I've watched about a dozen of these and all the "victims " think they are so highly intelligent people. So from now on I will stop watching.

  • @inthesun3884
    @inthesun3884 4 роки тому +41

    No more social media dating. Only date in person. Meet them in the coffee shop, church, work.

    • @aminuawwal3760
      @aminuawwal3760 4 роки тому +6

      Even with that,scammers still set bait at those placeses

    • @leona2222
      @leona2222 7 місяців тому +1

      Back to basics

  • @mariancounsellor
    @mariancounsellor 3 роки тому +19

    I will never understand how people can have conversations, fall in love, and give money to anyone they’ve never met or spent time with. What are you falling in love with? Words? A profile? At least do a Video Call and go on a first date.

    • @neighbourhoodwitch18
      @neighbourhoodwitch18 3 роки тому +3

      I 100% don’t get it either. The very _minute_ someone asks for money doesn’t that ring enormous alarm bells? If I find out one of my friends or relatives is embroiled in this I’ll do my damndest to get them out!! 🤬

    • @mariancounsellor
      @mariancounsellor 3 роки тому +4

      @@neighbourhoodwitch18 yes, I understand that people can feel lonely and can maybe fall for words but I agree, the minute someone starts asking for money, that would be a red flag. The fact that the guy from the first story asked for $45?? Wouldn’t that indicate to her that he’s broke? but to give away $1,000,000? I can hardly believe it 😮

    • @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat
      @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 2 роки тому +1

      @@mariancounsellor - Agreed. If someone is so skint (especially an "international businessman") that they have to ask for $45.....

  • @GradKat
    @GradKat 3 роки тому +58

    You’re communicating with somebody for TWO YEARS and yet talked to him only three times - plus in all that time he couldn’t visit you, even once? How deluded can a person be?
    And the second woman - she “didn’t have time” to contact the guy by webcam, but apparently she had plenty of time to send him nude photos? 🤣🤣🤣

    • @Lara-tm5nz
      @Lara-tm5nz 3 роки тому +5

      Yeah this is craaaazy.

    • @speakupify
      @speakupify 3 роки тому +2

      2nd woman kept making g excuses...1st woman is just plain stupid!!!!!

    • @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat
      @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 2 роки тому +4

      Agreed Gradkat. I really don't understand, how you can have a boyfriend and be in a relationship for two years, with someone you have never actually met, and have hardly talked to verbally. Makes absolutely NO sense whatsoever to me.

    • @PerrySkyePhoenix
      @PerrySkyePhoenix 2 роки тому

      @@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat I was once in a 2 year long distance online relationship. We would video chat for hours, so I knew that he was the same person as his pictures... but I didn't really know who he was. I never gave him any money, but I did send a few care packages. I was shipping from the US to the UK so the postage was very expensive.

  • @cmck2021
    @cmck2021 5 років тому +190

    Maybe she should have seeked grief support. Not romantic attention.

    • @blondecat666
      @blondecat666 4 роки тому +5

      'Seeked'??? As in what language? Definitely not in English. Past Simple and Past Participle are both: 'Sought
      ' - I wish people would speak their own mother tongues at least. English is my third language only and I speak it better than you do. What a shame.

    • @racheldoesacrylic4089
      @racheldoesacrylic4089 4 роки тому +4

      when my partner of 28yrs died in2012 was a loverly sweet soul i went to grief support to see if it would help ??? met a guy who started writing down evrything i said i asked why he was doing that he said for my notes later i picked up the paper put it in my bag walked out and never went back // all you need is the beleief that you will ge over it it will take time and if you got anyone to listen to you cry and all that it helps///// the internet is recording all our data mobiles etc we are in a sarvelliance ridden world now/// nwo

    • @MegaPsychodrama
      @MegaPsychodrama 4 роки тому +3

      @@blondecat666 u r soooooooooooooooo smart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @blondecat666
      @blondecat666 4 роки тому

      @@MegaPsychodrama Just basic grammar, no flattery needed. LOL

    • @FrancesShear
      @FrancesShear 4 роки тому

      The creepiest catfishes of all expect that an invasion of someone's privacy while a person is trying to learn online with another window open is going to draw that target into that pathetic game of theirs.

  • @daphnehinds5581
    @daphnehinds5581 3 роки тому +41

    Please ladies and gentlemen if someone asks you for money and you do not know them face to face, do NOT give them any money! The best thing you can do is not to speak to strangers online.

    • @christinecatt5391
      @christinecatt5391 3 роки тому +4

      While l really feel sorry for these victims, l notice that the immediate reaction is to totally place blame on the scammer. ?
      Well, in my opinion BOTH of them are equally to blame.
      After all, one cannot operate without the other.
      Remember that old adage. "It takes two to tango".

    • @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat
      @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 2 роки тому +3

      Agreed. I wouldn't even give anyone I know money, let alone someone I have never met. I never lend money. Although being poor makes that stance easier to do.. ..

    • @jennzifur
      @jennzifur 2 роки тому +3

      Hell, even if you know them “in-person,” don’t give any money!

  • @ouessa8706
    @ouessa8706 4 роки тому +226

    if a guy doesn’t have 45$ in his pocket why would any female date him? He’s not ready yet to be in a relationship

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 4 роки тому +33

      I know. It's ludicrous. Two grown professional men can't manage their own lives without asking a stranger on line for $45! That would have sent me running away fast!

    • @sweetsugar1014
      @sweetsugar1014 3 роки тому +20

      This guy recently texted me on FB saying he live in Texas just got out the hospital and his house has busted pipes, no electricity, and no water b/c of the snow and ice there. He said the hotel he's in is going to throw him out if he doesn't come up with $42.00. I figure, if he's going to need more than $42 to stay there until the snow storm subsides so this must be food money he's trying to get. Then unless he's in an old run down Motel, WHAT HOTEL CHARGES A RATE OF $42/ Night??? Then my final thought was, okaaay, when is he going to fix his mouth to ask ME for the money cuz I already know the answer will be a solid, bold-faced 'NO'. I told him if I had the money I would give it to him......riiiiggghhhht. But, wanted to see how he would respond. He thanked me and then began calling me Queen and 'Baby' I cringed every time I read it. As much as I LOOOVVVE AFFECTION, I'm beginning to hate when these men call me pet names b/c I already know there's a sneaky underline motive behind it. Now, I'll be NICE to a stray dog with rabies, BUT, I ain't nobody's fool and flat out REFUSE to give ANY MAN any money I DON'T CARE HOW HARD OF TIMES HE'S HAVING LET HIM GO ASK HIS MOM, DAD FRIEND, PASTOR, NEIGHBOR, CHARITY, SHELTER, OR BANK LOAN OFFICER FOR IT!!!!!!! NO MAAM, I'M A WOMAN I DON'T SUPPOSE TO TAKE CARE OF NOOOO MAN, HE SUPPOSE TO BE THE ONE WHO PROVIDES FOR "ME' WHEN I'M IN LACK. NOPE!!!!!

    • @peterkherisson5186
      @peterkherisson5186 3 роки тому +1

      What if he lost his job or something bad happened to him??
      Can't you be considerate sis🤨

    • @Juliet_Capulet
      @Juliet_Capulet 3 роки тому +14

      @@peterkherisson5186 This could happen. But asking a near-stranger for money? I'm sorry. I've been down and out. Never would I have considered such a thing. No integrity, to ask for money from someone you've been talking to for two weeks. That's begging. I would not date a person who did this. And it wasn't like he needed something essential. He told her it was so "his friend could make a dating profile." Really??? Oh God no. Maybe if we were dating...real dating...for a while and if we basically went more or less back and forth paying for various things, dinner and the like.

    • @FreeSpirit47
      @FreeSpirit47 3 роки тому +6

      The guys, most of the time lie about who they are, their job, what they look like, their marital status, their intentions. So, they lie about everything to get a woman to develop fondness for him.
      Once he can see that she cares about him?
      The lies unravel slowly, like the analogy of, "How to boil a frog."
      Women fall in love with what they hear, guys fall in love (though it's 99% lust) with what they see. So, guys lie & women wear makeup. It's sad, yet, true.

  • @Jussme-l3d
    @Jussme-l3d Рік тому +7

    Loneliness is no excuse for stupidity!

  • @ARABICO818
    @ARABICO818 6 місяців тому +1

    They merit everything that comes their way. What these con artists do to unsuspecting victims is despicable. Thank you so much for your service. It is evident that it has an effect on them, as they enjoy seeing it.
    You are doing the majority of the labor here!
    This occurred to my 97-year-old grandmother, but we caught it in time due to these treatments!!
    THANK YOU ON THE INTERNET, *Universal Dispute*

  • @layasaul28
    @layasaul28 4 роки тому +61

    I've been catfished on Facebook too many times. I found that if I use a photo of my husband and I together they stopped. I've had more than one message from a "military man". I hope a lot of women will stay safe because of this.

    • @abdurrahmanwakeel3923
      @abdurrahmanwakeel3923 4 роки тому +1

      But a lady with pic of her husband on Facebook catfished one of my friend for a thousand bucks

    • @beckiadcock5350
      @beckiadcock5350 3 роки тому +4

      Lol. The “military” must be loaded with “widowed” officers!

    • @layasaul28
      @layasaul28 3 роки тому +2

      @@abdurrahmanwakeel3923 Like Abraham Lincoln once said, "You can't believe everything you read online."
      Stay safe!

    • @abdurrahmanwakeel3923
      @abdurrahmanwakeel3923 3 роки тому

      @@layasaul28 hahaha, there was nothing like online in the days of Lincoln. Everything was offline

    • @layasaul28
      @layasaul28 3 роки тому +3

      @@abdurrahmanwakeel3923 Exactly!!! :-D

  • @da1stamericus
    @da1stamericus 4 роки тому +164

    Glad my husband didn't turn out to be a catfisher. Not all online people are this way. Thank God Almighty.

    • @elegantjewel6600
      @elegantjewel6600 4 роки тому +6

      Mine either....

    • @meradisiacal
      @meradisiacal 4 роки тому +16

      Congratulations!! I meet my current boyfriend through a dating app. 🙂 It has turned out better than I ever could have hoped for. 💖. We celebrated our first year anniversary last November and we are still going strong. 🙂

    • @ckmckay7636
      @ckmckay7636 4 роки тому +2

      Did he fall in love with you right away?

    • @jacquelinem2873
      @jacquelinem2873 4 роки тому +8

      I like to think he never asked for money

    • @dianem2697
      @dianem2697 4 роки тому +6

      How can this not be against the law?!? Need to create that law!!! Damn.

  • @mariapoulos767
    @mariapoulos767 3 роки тому +111

    I honestly feel catfishing should be an internet crime, until it is made a crime of identity theft, it will continue.

    • @jovitavillalpando9127
      @jovitavillalpando9127 3 роки тому +3

      And then what different

    • @shelocsher2396
      @shelocsher2396 3 роки тому +6

      Ummm ppl commit crimes……..

    • @Gurra88
      @Gurra88 3 роки тому +9

      Unfortunately being an idiot isn't illegal. It's pretty easy to figure out when an account is fake

    • @sugarwaterpurple5280
      @sugarwaterpurple5280 2 роки тому +12

      If thats the case they should also start prosecuting the "victims" for actively participating in the fraud, which often involves money laundering.

    • @amidst5962
      @amidst5962 2 роки тому +5

      There is also and issue of jurisdiction since most of the scammers are in countries where they won't be prosecuted.

  • @patriciapearl2529
    @patriciapearl2529 3 місяці тому +3

    The First Lady in red worked as an intelligent agent and even she got scammed! Unbelievable what some sweet words can do to someone.

  • @faridaismayilova3607
    @faridaismayilova3607 Рік тому +4

    I encountered a scammer back in 2018 on Linkedin. Fortunately, I didn’t send him any money. Later on it made sense why he had 15-30mins a day to talk. Because scammers text tens of women a day to increase the chance of getting (more) money. Sometimes I wonder if he used my pictures to scam someone else…

  • @Negthetarget
    @Negthetarget 4 роки тому +43

    Who else is reminded of Sally Jesse Rapielle with Mel....

    • @cmcordoYT
      @cmcordoYT 3 роки тому +2

      That was my first thought when I saw her. She is the younger version of Sally back when she was a show host. It freaks me out every time I look at this woman.

    • @tvs9978
      @tvs9978 3 роки тому +1

      Also my first thought when I first saw this show.

  • @jordanlever7857
    @jordanlever7857 3 роки тому +11

    Do not send money to ANYBODY on the internet. Period.

  • @maheshBasavaraju
    @maheshBasavaraju 4 роки тому +83

    Never fall in love without making a video call

    • @sweetsugar1014
      @sweetsugar1014 3 роки тому +9

      Don't even do it then. Just count that video call as ''info' that you can put into your "Data Collection" files. Now-a-days, the short video calls they do with you could be rehearsed and done by a friend rather than the person themselves b/c they both could be in on scamming you. Don't trust everything you hear nor see, trust what you KNOW and what you know is all in the "Data Collection" files. Once 6 months or a year is up and if you've collected nothing but 'suspicious data' and data about him asking for monetary favors, and being extra nice just before asking you for a favor, data of him NEVER sending you money nor taking you to dinner, and etc. then dump that loser.

    • @susankievman642
      @susankievman642 3 роки тому +13

      Don’t fall in love with a long distance relationship period. They rarely work out. Money should not be in play either

    • @bchgrl3885
      @bchgrl3885 3 роки тому +3

      And still beware!

    • @sirennem.6890
      @sirennem.6890 3 роки тому +1

      people seek for love, thats naturally but its meeting site not dating site,, you need to meet men, girl and if you want build a health fundation.and relatinship. All these conversations are not real, scamms, lies, whatever if someone is scammer from other continent or want money or if someone is pedophile or sicck, or married. Go on.face time, skype etc and meet person fast. This is like prince charming imagination, not romantic, thats bot healthy

    • @lvega5606
      @lvega5606 3 роки тому +3

      No...meet in person...they might have unbearable breath.

  • @PerrySkyePhoenix
    @PerrySkyePhoenix 2 роки тому +39

    Anyone could be scammed when they're feeling especially lonely and vulnerable. It's not just old people.

    • @aarde7036
      @aarde7036 Рік тому +9

      Not anyone, but at any age for sure.

    • @janicescott-pair97
      @janicescott-pair97 3 місяці тому

      Good point. 👍

    • @jmjm7012
      @jmjm7012 3 місяці тому

      Senile or not too smart are the ONLY REASONS people get scammed

  • @deekircher21
    @deekircher21 3 роки тому +12

    “I’m always one step ahead of the game” whilst getting catfished because she “has no time to FaceTime”. She is pretty dumb in my opinion. Sending intimate photos and videos although they have never met or FaceTimed

  • @Estiallina
    @Estiallina 4 роки тому +52

    Reverse image search is step 1. I’ve known that for at least 10 years.

  • @snookies1224
    @snookies1224 3 роки тому +88

    I was in a relationship with someone for 13 years in RL who wasn't who they said they were. They lied the entire time. It seems that these people are everywhere in some form and it's not a nice thing to go through, no matter the level or form. It's all deceit.

    • @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat
      @MrsSlocombesPuddyCat 2 роки тому +4

      Yes it is terrible to experience that. But at least your experience was real life. I don't understand how you can be in a relationship online with someone you have never met

    • @almohvn33
      @almohvn33 2 роки тому

      RL?

    • @snookies1224
      @snookies1224 2 роки тому +1

      @@almohvn33 real life

    • @juneyshu6197
      @juneyshu6197 2 роки тому

      I was engagd supposedly 3 times irl. Tore my life up. Wish theyd leave us be.

  • @annfeeney1662
    @annfeeney1662 3 роки тому +111

    When Mr. Scammer decided to come clean about the scam , Mr. Scammer recognized a lady of quality . People like this victim have pure hearts and don’t immediately see the evil in others . I truly hope God sends a good man into her life .

    • @cleodontina1
      @cleodontina1 3 роки тому +29

      I think he thought she was desperate enough that he could get even more from her. He thought she could bring him into the country and get him a visa.

    • @theeclecticcollector101
      @theeclecticcollector101 3 роки тому +9

      Yes, I agree: it is easy for others with hindsight to question why it happened, but good kind people do give others the benefit of the doubt. A good catfish will be so believable and so manipulative that you are put in a position that you cannot refuse.
      They find your weak point
      But remember, even if is not much comfort, you get into these problems because you are a kind decent trusting person. And that is worth more than any amount of money.

    • @Angie-jm8kp
      @Angie-jm8kp 2 роки тому +4

      Wth is with these women, over £1000,000 and naked pics and videos. Women have more respect for yourself!!

    • @JessBlake2
      @JessBlake2 2 роки тому +3

      @@Angie-jm8kp, has nothing to do with self respect.

    • @Angie-jm8kp
      @Angie-jm8kp 2 роки тому

      @@JessBlake2 well what has it got to do with then? Show naked pics and videos you have no respect for yourself.

  • @deniseyweesy
    @deniseyweesy 3 роки тому +6

    Many scammers do confess, and they do that to keep the scam going. The host said the man stole Travis' identity. He didn't steal his identity, he merely stole his photos.

    • @sethdanse8581
      @sethdanse8581 3 роки тому

      How are you and that was a wise judgement, I will only scam you to love me and and not to hurt you

  • @Living_Fabuless
    @Living_Fabuless 2 роки тому +8

    The best advice is to love your self FIRST. Each time I hear these crazy stories the victims always know they are being scammed but the do it anyways because they are lonely. Scammers know who they can prey on.

  • @mariasobey1107
    @mariasobey1107 3 роки тому +45

    I met my husband online. We are still together for 8yrs now. Women should be vigilant! If the guy send feelers about needing financial help, RUN! DO NOT BE BLINDED BY THESE MEN’s SWEET TONGUE.

    • @minoritymindset6464
      @minoritymindset6464 3 роки тому

      they prey on vulnerable women who are single or divorced lure them to sending money because of love actually this women are ignorant about it and they give them willingly as a bitcoin and forex analyst I’ve discovered they convert it to crypto in other to avoid suspicion from their local bank now calculate how much is being circulated to this scammer because following “Thelma lee Gaddis strategies a verified broker and financial advisor on forex trading and binary option, just 500$ could give you 2500$ in 2 days guaranteed which is a very nice way to make good money because I know of it and it works, but she had to waste it on a stupid scammer she could’ve have just invested in her children future actually it’s a pity

    • @Jenny010132
      @Jenny010132 2 роки тому

      Same here! Together 11 years, but he never asked for money!

    • @missolesoul
      @missolesoul 2 роки тому

      Me too! Together 20 years, two kids.

    • @Jenny-uv4dl
      @Jenny-uv4dl 4 місяці тому

      Me too met fiance 3yrs ago online but we met up in person in 2weeks ( he was local it took me getting it together 😊) he has NEVER ASKED FOR MONEY he gets seriously offended if I offer even today to pay for a meal out he and will somehow pay me back ( buy me something etc) REAL MEN DATE IN PERSON not a month a yr from now REAL MEN WILL GO HUNGRY BEFORE THEY ASK A FEMALE FOR MONEY these scammers have all day everyday to scam you THIS IS THEIR JOB you work hard at your job THEY WORK AT THEIRS FOR A VARIETY OF REASONS

  • @ALPHAROYCE
    @ALPHAROYCE 4 роки тому +78

    she sounds a bit codependent and obsessive. why are you screenshotting messages and making a book out of it? she was sooo infatuated. also, never send a man money. that's rule #1
    this is sad though. i hope she's gotten therapy.

    • @dianadundidit5343
      @dianadundidit5343 3 роки тому +3

      Yes that's just outright FOOLISH!

    • @dawneipeldauer-awanderingn825
      @dawneipeldauer-awanderingn825 3 роки тому +6

      She needs a therapist

    • @mariancounsellor
      @mariancounsellor 3 роки тому +1

      @@dawneipeldauer-awanderingn825 she definitely does. I would see her as a client to unpack everything that happened.

    • @irenemax3574
      @irenemax3574 3 роки тому +2

      I disagree that the saving of his messages was codependent and obsessive. Many lovers throughout history have saved their love letters. Texts are simply the modern equivalent.

    • @loribrooks5284
      @loribrooks5284 2 роки тому

      Where was God during all this? She’s rather arrogant.

  • @denisebomar9279
    @denisebomar9279 4 роки тому +30

    I was almost catfished until the guy started asking for money. I told him to send me that amount which was $ 3,000 then after , I learned not to let my loneliness get the best of me.

    • @ladyjade6446
      @ladyjade6446 2 роки тому +2

      Smart. Get a dog. Great company

  • @vesislavaofficial
    @vesislavaofficial 2 роки тому +14

    I'm glad she was brave enough to come on TV to put herself in possible ridicule from the society. It always seems impossible when you are dissattached from the situation, to do so many things. But it does make me a bit worried that she was an intelligence officer. I don't know the ins and outs of her job but.. agh I don't know. Stay safe out there surfers

  • @alliea9272
    @alliea9272 3 роки тому +37

    I won't even buy a guy a cup of coffee! 1 million dollars? Lady , you are A FOOL!

    • @sethdanse8581
      @sethdanse8581 3 роки тому +1

      Don’t be rude beautiful

    • @VWbeetleAndme
      @VWbeetleAndme 6 місяців тому +3

      ​@@sethdanse8581Facts aren't always pretty

    • @dqverify6797
      @dqverify6797 5 місяців тому

      My favorite part is how she squandered her Kidd’s inheritance without a second thought while rolling her eyes at their extremely valid and reasonable doubts and concerns.

  • @klattalexis
    @klattalexis 3 роки тому +22

    Who in their right mind would ever conceive of sending or even taking nude photos of themselves in the first place??? APPARENTLY THE YOUNGER GENERATION HAS NO PROBLEM WITH THIS. PARENTS PLEASE RAISE YOUR CHILD RIGHT WITH HIGH MORAL STANDARDS!!!

  • @nikkiq5124
    @nikkiq5124 4 роки тому +29

    I saw the title of this video but my mouth still dropped in shock to hear her verbally say how much she gave him 😯

  • @1989leaxy
    @1989leaxy 4 роки тому +35

    Blows my mind how no one said Video Chat to know if they are real or not...

    • @revekat2053
      @revekat2053 3 роки тому +2

      and to check their profiles to see if they have family listed and look for interactions with them.

    • @Lara-tm5nz
      @Lara-tm5nz 3 роки тому

      Exactly especially when sending nudes!

    • @SiriusGoddess555
      @SiriusGoddess555 3 роки тому +2

      These days, the tecnology allow fake video chats too. So be careful.

  • @victoriaj9123
    @victoriaj9123 6 місяців тому +1

    *UNIVERSAL DISPUTE* Team I want to thank you from the depths of my heart! So many are afflicted by severe living conditions, and you are assisting them by providing them with something they require to survive.
    Thank God for amazing individuals like you who are making the most significant differences. Blessed be *Universaldispute* !
    Regards from Greenville, North Carolina

  • @izabelbrooks8148
    @izabelbrooks8148 6 місяців тому +3

    I can’t believe people are willing to believe these scammers. Two years sending money and never meeting them. Hello!

  • @Estiallina
    @Estiallina 4 роки тому +132

    Another clue: Their English isn’t good, usually. I had an army General with terrible spelling, grammar and punctuation. Duh!

    • @daisigner
      @daisigner 4 роки тому +6

      And if they are from Nigeria they usually write "Am" rather than "I Am", that's just what they do.. maybe the smart catfish avoid it though, no idea... But anyway, always easy to tell by reading their terrible english, yeah.

    • @abdurrahmanwakeel3923
      @abdurrahmanwakeel3923 4 роки тому +6

      But in my case the Nigerian was exceptionally good in English and knowledge of geography of Afghanistan, well aware of the latest happenings. I think he underwent scamming course for years

    • @madameproblemes6548
      @madameproblemes6548 4 роки тому +1

      Real ones are honestly not the sharpest ones too 😂

    • @aminuawwal3760
      @aminuawwal3760 4 роки тому +2

      @@daisigner most scammers are well learnet, coz for someone to brainwashed his fellow Human with just convincing words, isn't common dear.That person most be a genius

    • @fozzybear8878
      @fozzybear8878 3 роки тому +5

      I don't know why you think an American army General might be good in grammar and spelling- most armed forces personnel are very poorly educated, even at the highest levels.

  • @corneliawissing7950
    @corneliawissing7950 4 роки тому +59

    I've been a widow for 20 years now. My dearly beloved husband died in 2000. I'm still grieving his death. We'd been married for 35 years, after going out for 5 years before (the way we did those things then). I was also a church member and the older ladies suddenly clustered around me with newspaper reports of 80-year old old-age homers being married. I've not remarried, nor been on any dating sites. Now I'm sincerely grateful!!!!

    • @sounds0fmeows
      @sounds0fmeows 2 роки тому +3

      if my partner passes before me. i don’t think i could ever date again. i feel like id be cheating.

    • @corneliawissing7950
      @corneliawissing7950 2 роки тому +2

      @@sounds0fmeows I simply don't think that I'll ever again meet a man so honest and kind and loving, of me and of our three children And over many years of teaching I've met a few thousand men). To me, he was a prince among men.

    • @PerrySkyePhoenix
      @PerrySkyePhoenix 2 роки тому +2

      Yeah, I've been out there and online dating is a sh**show. I've been single for nearly 15 years, and I'm okay with it. I like living alone.

    • @corneliawissing7950
      @corneliawissing7950 2 роки тому +1

      Perry Skye Phoenix I miss my prince, but why would I even try to replace him? Anyway, he was my bridge to the rest of the world. because I am, by nature, a hermit. (Tiny flat, many books, few clothes, no meetings, not even a cell 'phone ...)

  • @raniahwehbe4143
    @raniahwehbe4143 4 роки тому +35

    Yeah, i was chatting with this guy and he started so nice, then telling me that he loves me and I'm his soulmate, then he called me and he sounds African, he told me he's from texas deploy in Egypt. I knew he was a scammer, however i continued the game, he sent me pictures of a guy in the army, followed by pictures with his son at home, they did not look like the same person, things where on and on.... till he said he has to pay some bills and he couldn't make from where he's.... so he said that if i could help, he needs to send me money to my bank account and hold it for him. I did all what he asked for. Except i lied to him. I told him I was 65 years old. Real estate agent, widow with no children, i gave him all wrong information. So this was going on for about 7 months or more. At the end i told him that i was making fun of him... he then was offended crying and keep asking to be with me...
    You have to be really stupid to fall into this situation.

    • @aprilmoon7680
      @aprilmoon7680 4 роки тому +6

      Good for you, he deserved it. Scam the scammer !

    • @abdurrahmanwakeel3923
      @abdurrahmanwakeel3923 4 роки тому +3

      So you are good in playing games, you wasted his hard labour of 7 months. You fooled him round the clock, he might not have had time to chop. Nice befitting reply to these blood sucking leeches, hats of to you

    • @josephjohnson1057
      @josephjohnson1057 3 роки тому

      Yeah, the Air Force base in Cairo....I forgot about that one...

    • @carolgeorgeson9632
      @carolgeorgeson9632 3 роки тому +1

      Scammed a scammer lol love it!!!!

  • @sassiebrat
    @sassiebrat Рік тому +56

    She didn't lose the money. She GAVE IT AWAY!

    • @karinmassey7806
      @karinmassey7806 6 місяців тому

      She rewarded scammers ith mulah, and promoted MUCH MORE SCAMMING.
      5 YEAR AGO WERE NOT LIKE THIS... TODAY ITS NOW 80% ATTRACTIVE FRAUDULENT PROFILES. THEY DON'T WANT YOU TO KNOW THIS.
      DONT BELIEVE THIS IF YOU WANT BUT ITS A SICK FANTASY.
      * all alleged

    • @teriliebmann3491
      @teriliebmann3491 5 місяців тому

      💯

  • @susanfreeland6455
    @susanfreeland6455 6 місяців тому +4

    Should never ever talk to strangers about everything ! Real men never asked for money, no matter what!!!!

  • @browniebun
    @browniebun 4 роки тому +86

    Book smart ain't street smart.

    • @starquant5217
      @starquant5217 4 роки тому +2

      Paradoxically women seem incapable of being both and that's nothing to brag about. Perhaps the proceeding female generations need to elevate their daughters, instead of subjugating them.

    • @mirelairinapetre6503
      @mirelairinapetre6503 4 роки тому +2

      You ' re right! I m a psychologist and,there are nine types of " intelligence". She has just one. This means she is pretty low,regarding the scale of intelligence. You must have more than four,five types,to be considered really intelligent.🤣🤣🤣

    • @browniebun
      @browniebun 4 роки тому

      Mirela Irina Petre 😂

    • @maryizzo4966
      @maryizzo4966 4 роки тому +6

      We need to be Street Smart these days. I ain't very Book smart, though have become much more Street Smart as the years go by and better off for it Ama!

    • @connielanzaro2203
      @connielanzaro2203 4 роки тому

      obviously.

  • @marthas.4456
    @marthas.4456 3 роки тому +30

    She was an intelligence officer!!! And the fact he was asking money from her wasn't a red flag in her eyes!!! SMH

    • @jmjm7012
      @jmjm7012 3 місяці тому +1

      Guess she wasn't too good at her job if Intelligence mattered

  • @yvonnemorrow2251
    @yvonnemorrow2251 3 роки тому +18

    This lady is STILL in denial! Always offering an excuse!

  • @patriciawagstaff6302
    @patriciawagstaff6302 7 місяців тому +3

    Red Flag issues .
    As this lady said calling you dear, honey BUT asking for money or gift cards.
    I do not understand why a person would give money that as a young person or couple that you have save and invested for your retirement even when your spouses passes b4 you..
    It amazes me that a
    man/ woman would give their money away so willingly. This just boggles my mind .
    Soon they will be living in a friend's garage...

  • @GwenPidgeon
    @GwenPidgeon Рік тому +6

    This lady was paying for attention.
    Transaction complete ✅

  • @mindy-Jo
    @mindy-Jo 3 роки тому +21

    The fact that a stranger asks you for money is a red flag, the most obvious one but I can add as well the fact that a scammer very quickly starts saying "I Love You"; feeling genuine love takes a bit longer than that, real love does not feel rushed, forced or pressured . Also, pay attention to how all these victims fall in love with characters completely out of their leagues , I don't want to hurt any susceptibilities BUT, one has to know ones limits, a super gorgeous man/womam is not going to fall in love with an average joe/jane in 3 days, definitely not if you are not at the same level of "gorgeousness"

  • @Heather_T
    @Heather_T 4 роки тому +36

    Amazing that people are still getting catfished in 2020.

  • @kashawhyte9311
    @kashawhyte9311 3 роки тому +31

    It’s been discovered recently that it is actually a syndicate. A large group of criminals involved in the scam

  • @ARABICO818
    @ARABICO818 6 місяців тому +1

    They merit everything that comes their way. What these con artists do to unsuspecting victims is despicable. Thank you so much for your service. It is evident that it has an effect on them, as they enjoy seeing it.
    You are doing the majority of the labor here!
    This occurred to my 97-year-old grandmother, but we caught it in time due to these treatments!!
    THANK YOU ON THE INTERNET, *Universal Dispute*😊

  • @silviacapetillo4059
    @silviacapetillo4059 3 роки тому +7

    It is always the same: they are widowers, they are in the military, they want to get married... They tell you that you are their queen , etc. I am Mexican and this happened to me twice. I just laughed at the things they said and immediately blocked the liars.

  • @michaellondonxxx4860
    @michaellondonxxx4860 4 роки тому +30

    Online dating can be difficult for the uninitiated. Some basic rules to avoid time wasters and scammers:
    1. If there is any reason for a meeting in person to be some way off such as the person being in a far flung part of the world, walk away.
    2. If a meeting in person doesn’t happen soon after starting conversation, it probably never will. I think that two refusals/excuses is a good rule of thumb.
    3. When chatting online don’t get overly emotionally drawn in. Just talk about the kind of person you are and what you’re looking for - and then either meet in person or not.
    4. See “online dating” as a phrase, not a reality. Actual dating only happens in person - and if that isn’t happening, stop contact.

  • @lydiaheelu2681
    @lydiaheelu2681 3 роки тому +24

    What gets me is that so many of these women are older. One would think they’d be wiser? I’m embarrassed for her watching this 🤦🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️

  • @carolbell8008
    @carolbell8008 4 роки тому +43

    She got addicted to the adrenaline rush of it all!! The grammar on one page would do it for me.Grammar is a must! A fool and his money are soon parted. She got something out of it or she would have stopped sooner.Brave of her though to speak out, as this happens frequently.

  • @tensaijuusan4653
    @tensaijuusan4653 3 роки тому +15

    AirForce intelligence officer? Jeez! We need to review everything that passed through her hands - everything!

  • @liz3424
    @liz3424 3 роки тому +21

    That wasn't a "UK" British accent, it was a African Nigerian accent she was hearing.