How to be a Strong Woman in any Relationship (feat. Mari Pablo)
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- Опубліковано 8 лис 2021
- Have you ever been called "intimidating" as a woman? Do you worry about scaring off all the potential suitors in your life? Do you fear being misunderstood by your girlfriends as "pushy?"
Today Jackie and Mari Pablo discuss how to navigate the dating world and your friendships as a strong Catholic woman.
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As a bloke who's married to a strong woman ... Y'all are so beautiful (and fierce)!
Don’t enable their character defects! LOL. I recommend a meek spiritual director to vet the content on these topics. Can somebody say Jezebel spirit?
@@ppazautomation i think you’re taking it to an extreme. They are not advocating that strong woman are extroverted but they are using themselves as one of the many examples of what a strong woman can be.
🐟 25. THE ROLE OF FEMALES:
Women are fortunate because they are BORN with a job:
Daughter.
Wife.
Mother.
Females normally have no role in public life. Exceptions to this rule are relatively rare. For instance, women may work in the arts (singers, actors, and dancers, which often demand female players), or as maids or nurses, both of which are feminine duties, providing it has no detrimental effect on their PRIMARY function, as daughters, wives, and mothers.
So, a female’s fundamental role is to serve her MASTERS (any man in her family circle), even from a relatively young age, by performing domestic duties and raising her children. Barren women (heterosexual or otherwise) are extremely unfortunate, but can still devote their lives to serving their husband, father, grandfather, uncles, or in the event that none of those men are extant, adult male cousins.
Studies have shown that the more a woman deviates from this innate societal function, the less she is fulfilled. The phrase, “Cat Lady”, says it all.
As a general rule, women should be protected in the home, and never wander-out alone. They should FULLY cover their bodies in the presence of post-pubescent males outside the family circle. Even the prostitutes in some nations wear veils in public, even if out of fear of reprisal.
Having lived the eremitic life of a monastic priest for a few decades, I can attest to the importance of keeping one’s home clean and tidy. It is obvious to me that housekeeping is very much a full-time occupation, and that if I were to neglect my domestic chores, my health and comfort would greatly diminish. As would be expected of a person in my position, I follow a strict diet and am obsessive in regards to hygiene. Without a spouse, the onus is on me to maintain my residence in a prim and proper manner, even though it results in me spending less time teaching religion as a member of the Holy Priesthood (The World Teacher, in my particular case). Therefore, the role of a housewife is of PARAMOUNT importance, and must never be discounted by anybody, particularly feminist ideologues. The following chapter deals with feminism.
The ONLY reason I have resided alone for most of my adult life is due to the fact that there is a severe scarcity of decent women in my country, and indeed the entire world, what to speak of holy and righteous women. Unfortunately, few women, particularly in the more affluent nations, any longer receive adequate training in the connubial arts. In my former marriages, I was forced to perform most household chores.
In recent centuries, due to various factors (FEMINISM, in particular), women have become so degraded, that is it practically impossible to find an example of an ideal woman. Therefore, in order to reference examples of such a woman, one is forced to refer to figures from ancient myths.
Mariam, the mother of Lord Jesus Christ, and Devī Sītārānī, the wife of Śri Rāja Rāma, King of Ayodhya, are the epitome of womanhood, and ought to be the role models for each and every girl born on this planet. That is assuming, of course, that those two women were, in actual fact, the gentle, refined, humble and submissive goddesses they were portrayed to be in the archaic scriptures.
Obviously, this teaching receives an ENORMOUS amount of scorn, contempt and derision from a certain proportion of women (and also many "men"), but that is perfectly fine, because, such foolish feminists are destined to die lonely and alone, with no family surrounding them, and hopefully not transfer their adulterated genes to forthcoming generations.
In some locations in the world, STRAY COWS freely wander the urban streets, displaying their teats.
Similarly, in most locations, women wander the dangerous streets alone or in groups, displaying their bosoms and other bodily parts.
Such loose women are no better than STRAY COWS.
The TRUTH is very difficult to accept, right, Slave?
“Three things cannot be long hidden:
the sun, the moon, and the TRUTH.”
Siddhārtha Gautama (AKA The Buddha),
Aṅguttara Nikāya 3.131 (Paraphrased).
Paṭicchanna Sutta
“...encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be self-controlled, chaste, good managers of the household, kind, being submissive to their husbands, so that the word of God may not be discredited.”
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“Yet women will be saved through childbearing, provided they continue in faith and love and holiness, with modesty.”
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“Women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says.”
St. Paul of Tarsus,
Titus 2:4-5.
1 Timothy 2:15.
1 Corinthians 14:34.
For all the amazing women watching, a loud, intense, opinionated women does not equal a strong women, some of the strongest women have been humble, introverted and reserved.
The humble, introverted and reserved women surprises everyone everytime that they can not be walked-on. That's the moment I love the most in quiet strong women.
Amen! These girls are commiserating in their character defects. Repent from the Jezebel Spirit ladies! Thank you God for all the people who have called me out on it in my life. Sometimes humiliating but that’s the only way to get down to humility.
Completely agree.
@@ppazautomation What character defects are they commiserating in?
True
My Mom literally reminds me every once in a while that I scare off men and to chill with my obsession with my Faith when it comes to my expectations. As a Catholic, single Indian woman, I always think to myself "Good, 'cause I have such strong opinions and high standards and I ain't settling for a man who isn't intentional about his Catholic Faith." Lord, send me a guy who is in love with the Catholic Church as much as I am, as much as Your Son loves His bride.
Wow!! I’m also a single Catholic Indian woman on fire for our faith! I want to marry a man who is on fire if not more for his Catholic faith too! Praying for both of us!! 😊🙏🏽
Same here!!
Wowww that's beatiful!! I pray God and Mary to find somebody like that too!!
Hey me too:-) God Bless you
I think people in the comments are confusing the strength that comes from knowing who you are and basing that identity in Christ, and the conventional description of an extroverted, expressive personality that both Jackie and Mari happen to have. The latter is certainly often undervalued in women and it is important that they too hear they are beautiful, virtuous, truly feminine women and shouldn't care about hurtful perceptions of being intimidating. That's an important conversation that needs to be happening in Christian circles, it's not an echo chamber, it's just not directed at the more introverted gals in the audience, and that's fine. But Jackie and Mari are also talking about something even more important and universal, namely the insistence of the world that we pipe down about the whole Christ thing, that we make ourselves less annoying by blending in better, that we "compromise" - in fact: lose ourselves - to get love, acceptance, attention. We should all be strongly holding on to Christ and not giving in to those who tell us what we should or should not be in order to be acceptable in their eyes. That, again, can have a distinct shade of misogyny when it's about being "intimidating to men", and J&M address that as well - but it's certainly not the main point. The main point is basing your identity and security in God's love for us as specifically created people.
The way they described strong isn't a one size fits all kind of strong and I don't think they were advocating that their personality is what makes them strong although it might appear that way.
Headstrong Stubborn
Assertive Aggressive
Confident Arrogant
Self-Assured (secure) Attention-Seeking (insecure)
And that's also not to say that Strong can't be:
Vulnerable
Compassionate
Sensitive
Patient
Etc.
Rather, it seems to me, to be Strong, is to be rooted in oneself and that core comes from being rooted in Christ, and in the faith. To allow ourselves to be the best versions of ourselves that God created us to be
Very well Said
You have a good comment. Finally something good to read
Thank you for this!! 4:43 reminded me of Linda Rohnstad. She said that she was so impressed by Emilou Harris's singing that she was almost jealous but thought "i can be jealous or enjoy her voice and hope to sing with her one day. " She chose the latter and they became lifelong friends. Emilou says that Linda helped her in her darkest moment. Beautiful!!
We need better female friendships rooted in Christ and love!!
I can be an intimidating woman. Mostly because I am very direct with my words. I express my thoughts honestly and directly, which surprises a lot of people. Ex. If I was in a meeting with a bunch of people and no one is stepping up to lead the meeting and we're not getting what we need done, I may say: "Hey, we need someone to lead this meeting. We're getting off topic and not making any concrete decisions." Then, usually, the leader of the meeting brings up the points that need to be discussed/decided on. I'm sure other people were thinking it, too (especially when the meeting is running long and we're talking about food and movies when we're supposed to be planning an event), but, I am usually one of the people who will vocally call attention to the issue/question at hand.
I see a lot of comments of how Mother Mary is a strong woman by being meek and mild. Yes, I agree that Mama Mary is meek and mild and she has a quiet strength I find captivating (especially as she watched Jesus during His passion.) However, like me, Mother Mary is not afraid to be direct. Here are the two instances where Mama Mary was bold and direct in the Bible:
1. Finding of Jesus at the Temple. In the story, Mary and Joseph find Jesus teaching and asking questions to the temple priests/scholars/doctors. Which means that Mary went into the inner temple court or the men's temple court reserved for priests and men (the women's temple court is separate) to find her son. One can imagine the desperation and worry in her words, however, she was on a mission and was not meek and mild when she finally found Jesus. She acted as any worried mother would to find their son.
2. Wedding of Cana. Mary noticed that there was no wine which would embarrass the bride and groom so she tells Jesus about it. When Jesus tells her that it's not His time yet, she tells the servants to do whatever Jesus tells them to do. Without embarrassment, reservation, or even guile (anyone with a mother knows what really happened there) Mary instigates Jesus's first public miracle and the start of His Ministry.
Yes, meekness, mildness, and humility are good virtues to have. All women have them to varying degrees (I'm still working on all three!), however, there are times to be bold and direct. What Mari and Jackie says is true: once you know who you are in the eyes of God and who you are meant to be for God, other people's superficial opinion about you becomes secondary. If I am living as the person God calls me to be and someone tells me that guys would like me if I was less direct with my opinions, or that I should be a particular way to be more desirable, I would definitely take it to prayer and discern if it's something I need to address or if it's just an opinion/preference of the other person.
I have family and friends who love me and want my happiness and good, so I may care more about what they think, than someone I don't know well, or doesn't know.
I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses. I also know and want to be the woman God calls me to be, so I can just keep working on that. If I'm called to be single/religious, then that's what I'll be. If I'm called to be married, then I'll be that. But, at this the moment when there is no direct call to either vocations, I choose to keep living my life for God.
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I think I find direct women intimidating because I feel vulnerable when they call me out on my BS or shatter my illusions. Sometimes I am envious of women who are unafraid to speak their minds
🤣🤣 “insecurities from our childhood wounds, 😢😢”
I was just here for Mari Pablo’s smile, I felt the whole video speak to me…
Mari Pablo’s beautiful gift of joy!
What about introvert women? I'm frequently perceived as weak because I don't talk much and have a lower voice, besides I look younger than I really am. Sometimes I feel people underestimate me and don't respect my opinions and feelings.
Do people assume you are a pushover
@@IONov990 I think so....
@@olgamarinho there is something feminine about quiet women. They seem demure and reserved. I associate quietness with feminine beauty. You are probably very gentle which is seen as feminine.
It can be difficult knowing the proper way to act as a woman. We all have very different temperaments.
@@IONov990 thank you for your kind words ❤️
@@olgamarinho I am also an introvert, but, I can be loud and talkative depending on who I am with (usually with family, and a small group of friends with whom I'm comfortable.) I think that being quiet and reserved in a large group is normal for an introvert and there is nothing wrong with that. It depends on your comfort level.
However, feeling that you are being taken advantage of, or, feeling that you are not being heard is not good for you in the long term as it can build resentment towards others and create insecurities in yourself.
I suggest finding creative/other ways to express your unique thoughts and feelings. I find writing novels/short stories and and doing arts and crafts ways to express myself. I also keep a journal to write down my thoughts and feelings. When I write stories, I use scenes and dialogues to express my thoughts/opinions.
However, when in a public setting, I learned that if I want to be heard, I have to speak up. It is a life lesson that I had to work on for many, many years. I find that online meetings are a bit easier because I can type my thoughts/opinion down in the chat. I've also learned that having extraverted friends is pretty amazing because I can tell them what I think, and they can broadcast it to everyone else (with permission, of course) without me having to say it myself.
For feeling that you are getting taken advantage of, I suggest learning to say 'no' (even when it's super hard.) Saying no to doing things for others, especially when it was service related, is really hard and required a lot of practice. I used to practice what I was going to say in front of a mirror. These were some of my go-to phrases when I felt pressured to do something:
1. "Let me think/pray about it and I'll get back to you. May I send you an email when I've made a decision?"
2. "I would really like to help out with _____, but, I don't have the time right now. Can you ask me again another time?"
3. "Thank you for asking me, however, I don't think that this is my expertise. Maybe ask _____, he/she is great at _____."
4. "I don't feel comfortable doing this on such short notice, so I will have to say no today."
5. "Thank you for asking, I am flattered that you thought of me. But, I can't do that for you right now."
I hope these help. I couldn't have learned how to do these without the support of family and friends that seek my thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Since learning how to be more outspoken, I make a point to ask reserved, quiet people their advice, so they're also heard.
Good luck and God bless on your journey! Keep your eyes on Jesus.
All throughout grade and especially high school, guys and girls were so intimidated by me and I never understood why. Years later I look back and know why they felt that way and how someone could of felt insecure. Great reminder. Brought me to blast from the past. Thanks.
I needed this video. Thank you ladies and thank you Jesus 🤧🤍
Love you Mari! Great points and that’s one thing you feel around Mari … Safe! The most compassionate, secure and humble woman I know! And yes all of those can be combined! Very virtuous too!
Thanks for this video, a very new and refreshing point of view about this topic. I remember Psalms 17. Strong women rock 100% agree.
Thank you so much for that affirmation. I have honestly been struggling in my personal life in regards to this topic. I feel as though I am a strong woman, and (of course) there is a lot of insecurities, as well as things I have to work on in many areas of life. I took a break from dating because I have encountered a lot of men (I am not saying that all were bad), but some would tell me, "you're too good for me" or "why is your faith important to you?", "I feel like I am going to corrupt you if this goes any further", etc about the excuses. Also, I have had family members tell me, "you need to calm down with your faith", "stop posting about Jesus", "guys are going to get turned off by that" "don't set your standards high". I honestly felt (and still continue to feel sometimes) hurt by all of this. Therefore, I got discouraged by dating. Please pray for me! Thank you for this content! Keep it up! :-)
Thank you. It just gives us woman reason to be who God truly wants us to be. Not all of us woman can be the same, look the same. We all have to serve each other with purpose and strength. Some will like you and some may not?! Be the best version of you! Be the woman God created you to be. 🙏
This is so amazing!!! Thank you so much for this video
Please pray for me. Please.. Thank you very much.
Wow yes good topic because I have become very strong with age and time BUT so true my husband of 41yr is the strongest because GOD has blessed him to love me unconditionally.. hang in there single women because a strong man loves a strong women when they let them self get to know you’re heart 💙💖
Thank you for this and helping me be assured of myself. I really appreciate this video.
Good insight and encouragement. Thank you, Jackie and Mari! God bless you.
I usually like videos by Ascension, but I felt that the content for this video did not even answer the question "How to be a strong woman". It only conveyed "to accept your "strongness"", yet this msg still felt superficial and highly lacking.
Thanks for this! I was just smiling while watching your video! You're both fun to be around. 😇😆
This was so beautiful thank you Jackie you have helped me so much as a women in this generation!
Please do more of this together ❤❤❤
Wow I need to hear this thank you ladies! God bless
Gr8 collab👍, thx💯🙏
You two of you are wonderful! I want my daughters to be strong women. I am only 4.10 and been call strong woman. strong in Christ!
Wow I was JUST thinking about this !!
Thank you for this video 😍😍😍😍😍😍
Love listening you you ladies!!
You need to include an introvert’s point of view about this topic. This conversation is taking place in an echo chamber. Disappointing.
That's Jackie and Bobby for you. They need to reevaluate their approach. They really rub me the wrong way and they often get basic theology wrong.
Amen God bless you and your family’s 🙏❤️
Love👏🏻this🙌🏻🙏🏻
Thank you for this video! ✝️♥️
Hi Ladies, thank you so much for your thoughts on this! Do you have any suggestions for how to maintain a sense of strong womanhood and security in an unsupportive environment? I used to think I was a very strong and secure woman with a purpose, but now don't feel supported by those around me and feel that I have lost a lot of that.
Thank you ladies for such a strong and beautiful message. God bless you both.
When men tell women they are intimidating, that's just a polite way of saying "I don't find you attractive." Think of it like how a girl tells a guy "let's just be friends." I honestly can't say I've ever met a man who is actually intimidated by a woman. I agree with the women in the video in that such men wouldn't be worth marrying anyway.
Perfect timing on this video. Thank you
Absolutely needed this video today.❤ I love Mari!
National Geographic had once published a issue titled the "Most Powerful Women in The World " with Our Lady's image splash out in front cover looked awesome though they article was short of depth especially the spiritual aspect of still every bit of that front cover looks inspirational.
God bless you all love u all thanks you
You rock girls! I am bit older… a good bit than you and I have been a very strong women all my life. I can attest to the fact that there is a reason God made us this way! He had a special job for us to do and gave us the tools to do it. So to all the girls that are thinking that they need to tone down so men would not be scared of them: be a women of God but don’t play a false humbleness - a man who does not see beauty in the way you are and can’t handle your wit and intelligence, will not be a worthy partner. Both of you need to be secure in your identity as children of the Almighty before you build any relationship. Praying for all of the strong and beautiful women of God!
Nice video ladies...
Love your new hair, Jackie!
Love Sarah, too. 💖
Nice icon corner ❤️
I want people to feel safe around me too 💕
As Christians we are called to become what God calls us to be...not to defend our personality. Nowhere in the bible does it say women should be "strong", just strong in faith ( which is not what this is about). Women are called to be submissive, and respectful of men. As well as obedient to the Lord, sacrificial, humble, love others, practice self control, gentleness etc.
Mother Mary, the perfect example of womanhood was not brash and loud. She was the epitome of reserved yet firm, and fully submissive to the will of her Son, as we should all be.
Mother Mary, Queen of Good Will, pray for us.
I would not have guessed that Jackie and I are around the same height. I always rounded up to 5’10 in order to make myself even proportionally. You could make a crass joke about being 5’9 3/4” in the vein of Harry Potter, but it isn’t in the spirit of Christian witness. From my experience though, if a tall woman does stand up to a taller man or a man of similar stature to her, he gains a great deal of respect in the measure of her self worth. It has to do with squaring our shoulders, bracing for impact, and not getting overly emotional when they confront us.
Back in high school before I’d really found God when people told me I was intimidating it just inflated my pride because I thought “if people think I’m intimidating they must think I’m smarter and more talented than they are, which I am” BIG YIKES haha
Now if people tell me I am intimidating I’m like “girl I’m pretty sure that’s because I‘ve finally learned how to not mind what other people think and if that’s the case let me teach you how to be intimidating too!” haha
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No joke they would make a great couple!
A strong woman and a strongwoman / a strong man and a strongman. Same word, but different meanings!
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I'm glad when I was young guy times were normal.. There was nothing like holding a beautiful delicate woman who didn't mind be the weaker sex.. Very strange times we're living in today..
I just wanted to say, i had no idea you two were that tall I thought you ladies were around 5 4”
I’m actually 5 1” lol super small my problem is the opposite because no one takes me seriously
Mama Mary is a strong woman, and she doesnt talk this way. This is more like Cosmo magazine talk. Nothing new was added to the topic. There's more to being a strong woman than just not intimidating potential husbands. What about widows with young kids in 3rd world countries? What about nuns? What about abused women who overcame their lot? Widen your views, ladies
It seems you've conflate christian ideas and your general personality. And you seem to say anyone that doesn't like you is insecure and or doesn't have their identity in God. Since you presented this a pseudo-general. I generally find the people you describe is not open to different points of view or willing to listen to opinions that are not their own and anyone that disagrees with you is kicked out of your life.
I don't know if much thought was put into this, but I think your trying to do a good thing.
I have intimidated even men who refer to themselves as Alpha and its mainly because I can see right through them, power of holy spirit given me peace in my energy and Jesus beingy bestie has helped deter off toxic souls. One guy said I'm like God's "CIA agent" 😆 But honestly, they mistake my strength as my own when its Christ standing before me. In reality, I am quite the traditionalist.
St Olga of Kiev. That's a woman who doesn't play around when you mess with her tribe.
Humble Confidence in self and each other is a great combination but if you are intimidated you are with the wrong person. Too much confidence could create a lot of fights over who get their way. Intimidation may lead to feeling like you don't matter. Too introverted is the blind leading the blind they would do well with a confident partner they would welcome someone else making decisions. You will tire of someone who is just pushy .
So the opposite of a strong woman is a weak woman? Still waters run deep. Be careful what words you use.
The opposite of strong is weak, but just because the first thing some thinks of isn't strong doesn't mean you are weak. To say that would be to present a false dichotomy.
Some people are exceptionally outgoing, joyful, opinionated, confidant, firm, and decisive. Just because those aren't the first traits people think of when they think of you doesn't mean they think of the opposite: shy, sad, pessimistic, low self-esteem, an indecisive pushover.
Sometimes people are thinking gentle, reserved, quiet, sweet, strong, thoughtful, humble, open-minded. Usually, it is a mix. There are weak women and there are strong women, but most are in between with their own sets of strengths and gifts. Hope this helps!:)
Virtuous men do not like women who are immodest in their speech and dress, and prefer women who are also virtuous.
Sadly given the culture we're in the standards for both men and women are significantly lowered, men are effeminate and attached to pleasures and comforts, instead of putting aside comforts to pursue what is arduous such as prayer.
Likewise women lower their standards way too much, and go seek men who are selfish and pigs, and many of such women are also vulgar, gossipers, vain, immodest in their dress, and overly concerned with comparing themselves to other women and worldly garbage, such as entertainment that was created by means of mortal sin in music, movies not to mention other filthy vices.
No wonder many Catholic men and women who are trying to actually live their faith seriously are single, and yet they are not called to a religious vocation, which is a major problem.
Many people in parishes men and women are cafeteria Catholics, who pick and choose whichever teachings they want to follow or not, more so in sins contrary to chastity, which reduces the pool of potential partners even more, it's horrendous.
Hopefully after the Final Judgment, this is straightened up. I know there is no going to be "marriage" in the New Heaven and the New Earth (Different from pre-resurrection Heaven as it is now), but perhaps something different the Lord would have for those who live through this test as has been speculated by some of the Saints, such as Saint John Chrysostom in his letter to the young widow.
*"... that having speedily attained an equal standard of virtue with him [the late husband], you may inhabit the same abode and be united to him again through the everlasting ages, not in this union of marriage but another far better."*
I'm not saying you are judgmental. Please don't take it this way but are cafeteria Catholics that bad though? A lot of people are strongly against judgmental Catholics. Being strict is seen as a bad thing for some reason .
@@IONov990 A Catholic who is serious about the faith ought to learn as much about the faith as their state in life allows.
But specially so in areas of morality which are of grave matter, if a grave matter sin is committed with deliberate consent and knowledge of their sinful character it becomes a mortal sin.
A lot of sins against the sixth and ninth commandment are of grave matter.
The "Cafeteria Catholics" that I mentioned in concept, do not take the teachings of the Church and those of Jesus seriously enough and commit those sins with full consent even though they know that the Church considers them as serious sins.
However this concept of Cafeteria Catholic does not apply to everybody.
Many are simply ignorant. Though oftentimes culpably so, they could've looked up on the internet an examination of conscience or something and they did not, or even look up the Catechism in the 10 commandments, ask a priest or whatever.
Or other times it is not possible for a person to judge whether they are actually in full consent or not, for instance people with addictions or impaired mental faculties may not be in full consent.
Since neither I nor any normal Catholic who does not have the gift of reading souls, one should not generally "Judge" people as actually having committed Mortal sin or not, because one cannot normally know if a person has full knowledge or consent to the sinful deed.
However, even if one does not know the gravity of the sinful character of a person, one can recognize actions that are objectively of grave matter and if discovered one can admonish the sinner in charity if given the opportunity.
Specially if such person is under one's authority, such as a priest to the faithful or a parent to a child, and preferably correct the person in private unless the sin is public.
Admonishing sinners in charity is very different than a person who is filled by pride and self-righteousness and labels people without knowing their interior life.
Cafeteria Catholics are really bad, because they are either heretics who obstinately deny the teachings of the Church and it's authority, as the teachings have been protected by the Holy Spirit and such to knowingly deny these definitive teachings is a Mortal Sin.
Or on the other way around they know of the mortally sinful character of their actions and choose to do them anyways, such as the people who contracept or cohabitate.
However, it is very difficult to judge who is actually a Cafeteria Catholic, or who may be simply be ignorant, or may have an addiction or mental illness... etc.
As for myself I don't go around labeling individuals, but generally point out concepts to teach, I didn't judge any individual but rather an unspecified group of people in grave moral error.
Do not forget that Christ is very strict in many of His teachings and so is the Church, they expect a minimum and most Catholics are not able or willing to handle even that, which comes at the cost of their own salvation and sometimes that of others who may be seduced by their bad influence.
Therefore as children of God we ought to be strict as well, but no more so than Christ of His Church. And exercise prudence and charity when admonishing sinners recognizing in humility of our own individual limitations.
To be a devout Catholic you have to believe right and to do right. Developing the virtues as much as you can, it's the only way... You can read the admonitions that Christ says in the gospel, he's strict.
This catholic channel was one of my favorites and everyday it becomes more cringe. I would unsubscribe if it wasn't for father Mike.
There are two sides to this coin, and I feel as though you have neglected one. It is important that out of respect and love women cede to their husbands room for them to be men.
How exactly are women supposed to do that? I never understood what it means to be submissive to a man. In other cultures, it means the man is always right and the wife always agrees with their husband which seems unhealthy.
This is not about men. Or do you also comment on videos encouraging men and tell them to allow their wives to be women?
@@IONov990 (sorry this is long) woman are to submit to the righteousness of their husbands (assuming that their husband is righteous). In turn, husbands are to lay down their lives for their wives (and kids). Men are called to sacrifice for their wives and kids. That means I sacrifice my comfort, my wants and desires, and serve my family. My priorities are to God, to my wife and kids, then to myself. St. Paul says, "husbands love your wives as Christ loves the Church." Jesus said, "I came to serve, not be served." Christ is the model. Therefore, a husband should only ask of his wife to do things that are for the sanctification/holiness of the family. In that case then a wife should oblige. In turn, if a wife makes a request of her husband, he needs to serve the needs of his wife.
Oh, also the man is the head of the family. In cases where there is a disagreement between husband and wife in matters of the home, then the husband should take priority so long as that decision is one coming from a place of love, fidelity, and holiness. If a husband is lording his authority over his wife then that is disordered and a wife is under no obligation to follow him.
@@badmoon908 It's not a long lost. It is hard to imagine being submissive as healthy or even common in Christian marriages. Are you a man, woman, or non-binary?
@@IONov990 I don't know what non-binary is. I mean, I know what proponents claim it to be but it doesn't conform to reality or Christian faith. "God created the man and woman, in the beginning he created them."
I am a man, married to a beautiful and strong woman (real strength, not loud and obnoxious as Jackie is describing), with three amazing boys who will one day grow up to be men. And, if I do my job right as a father, they will be true men of faith.
Being submissive is both a healthy and important part of marriage, especially Christian marriage. Submissiveness is about understanding that the family needs a structure. It's about putting your faith in someone else and humbling yourself. A family is a lot like a business. A business has a boss and subordinates. Being anti-submissive is to be defiant. Imagine if the subordinates at work were defiant to that boss. Would that business succeed? The employees submit to their boss because they want to see their organization succeed so they can continue to earn a living. In a marriage, the wife submits to her husband because she wants him to lead the household and have success in the family.
This notion that submission is bad is a falicy of modernity.
'Strong women' or intimidating women as they put it are usually pretty abrasive to both males and females. I strongly disagree that such a trait makes it easy to find a mate. Most men are really turned off by loud bossy women.
So Sherry your saying strong women are loud and bossy smh
@@moonflower6171 sometimes
So this video is essentially the two of you boasting about strong you are and then in the same breath saying how hard it is be such a strong woman. 🤷🏻♂️
You're confusing "strong" with personality characteristics such as "opinionated" and "outgoing". What exactly was the point of this video, "we're so 'strong' and if you feel insecure around us that's your fault"? How is this helping people grow spiritually? You tried to talk about being secure in who you are before God, but instead you mostly talked about yourselves.
And you're not wrong in saying that having an outgoing personality as a woman is fine, and that any man or woman shouldn't look down on you for that, but in my experience, these "strong" people you're describing often cover up for their own insecurities by assuming that people around them are intimidated by them. Maybe there are other reasons that you're not as well liked as you think you ought to be.
Boasting, giggling and ultimately nothing of value imparted. strength of a woman(or a man) is in suffering & sacrifice. pls stop blabbering about insecurities/etc..as far as i can tell, you both are unequipped to talk on the psyche or offer any worthwhile spiritual direction..
This comment was pinned? Oh Ascension, how ridiculous.
Yeah, smoke some Holy Spirit.... When? Where? Daily! At Mass!
Men prefer women they can protect and provide for versus a woman who can protect and provide for herself. Call it millions of years of human evolution or how God ordered the roles of the genders which is evident in Scripture.
A man who feels they are not needed as the protector and provider of their family are insecure about themselves and are likely to suffer depression and are more likely to cheat trying to find what they don't have in the relationship. Do not forget that St. Joseph was the protector and provider for the Blessed Virgin Mary, and Jesus. And when he passed on Jesus became the protector and provider of the Blessed Virgin Mary. And when Jesus left St. John and the other Apostles all who were men protected and provided for the Blessed Virgin Mary.
I wish I could unsubscribe to Jackie and Bobby. I do not like them and think their interpretation of scripture and Catholic social teaching is inaccurate. I, of course, wish them all the best, but I subbed for Fr. Mike. Not them.
Same here. I don’t watch them often - this title piqued my curiosity and then I thought “Uh-oh!” I don’t want to be mean, but they can come across like high-schoolers.
@@njejlester1603 Amen to that. At least they're having fun I guess.