How to Know if You've Found "The One"
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- Опубліковано 12 лис 2018
- Staying on the straight and narrow path can be difficult when you’re discerning marriage and looking for “the one”.
Jackie says we live in a culture where people either say “Love is a choice. Marry whoever,” or they say that you should feel the romance all of the time when you’re with them.
There is a middle ground between these two extremes, and Jackie helps us find it in this video.
She says there are five things you should look for when deciding who to marry. These five things are good signs that he or she is “the one”, meaning the one who will help you and your children get to heaven:
1. You experience peace and joy in the relationship.
2. You have a common goal, which is heaven.
3. You can finally be yourself around them.
4. You can argue with him or her in a healthy way.
5. You’re confident he or she will help you and your children get to heaven.
In other words, don’t get caught up in the romantic, but don’t entirely ignore it either. If heaven is the ultimate goal, everything else will fall into place.
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things shall be yours as well” (Matthew 6:33).
Also, make sure you check out Ascension’s Joy-Filled Marriage program, which offers many great life skills for those discerning marriage and married couples.
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My boyfriend converted me. I am grateful he didn’t dismiss my potential because I wasn’t already Catholic. He brought God into my life.
That's great that you're walking with God!
Gentle correction: No human can convert you, only the Holy Spirit can.
God was always in your life, it's only a matter of whether you wanted to acknowledge Him and walk with Him.
I hope that you are building a connection with God and Catholicism that is **separate** of your boyfriend. Because regardless if you two get married or not, God will always be there. And God wants you to choose to love Him.
God, please, send me the man with whom I could have the kind of relationship Jackie speaks about in this video. Amen.
Come to Texas. :P
Copy, paste and amen.
Check your local Latin mass parish... there are more “conservative cathloic” young men there than in your typical novus ordo church...
Btw:I know what I’m talking about. Just do it
Say the 54 day rosary novena and ask Mary to intercede for you. I did this and have now been married 23.5 years and my wife is my best friend.
@@paulgman3531 What is the correct way to pray this 54 days novena? Every day all 3 rosaries or each day 1 (5 decades)... I found various sources who claim different ways.
Summary :
1. You feel peace and joy
2. You have friendship with romance
3. You can be yourself
4. You can argue in a healthy way (emotionally mature adult)
5. Are they helping you (and your children) to get to heaven? Are they helping you (and your children) to be holy?
also pray about it
Awesome 👍🏻
Thanks for the summary !!!💛
4:13 "Lord, I need someone who could be a priest, but not called to be one."
Perfect...
If he could be a priest then he is called. How else would you know you have a calling?
@@chrisobrien6254 I think her quote that I quoted above meant that he is a Godly man, but not a priest, who could help her get to Heaven... 🙏
@@eyesofamessenger I see. Still don’t like the way it’s phrased but I inderstand
1 thing i can appreciate here
This woman talks in Realistic terms Not Romantic ones.
Marriage isnt a Disney movie
Nor is it a dysfunctional soap opera, either.
Marriage should be worked on by both husband and wife.
😊
The anxiety thing can be misleading. Especially for people who struggle with anxiety, you might have that "pit in your stomach" feeling in a relationship that is right for you.
Exactly but how can you tell?
I'm currently in this place. The relationship is really good, great guy but I still have anxiety moments, I'm overthinking everything and exaggerating small issues. It's my first relationship and it's really hard for me to tell if these are valid concerns or it's just me. I also struggled with anxiety in some other circumstances like starting a new job. I guess counseling would be great idea in my case
I had the same struggle with my current boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship. It was also my first one so I was very concerned with doing things "right". I was initially overthinking everything and anxious on and off in the beginning. I eventually figured out that my anxiety was coming from the pressure and high expectations I was placing on myself and him. Sometimes I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to have it figured out that it creates unnecessary anxiety. Especially when you hear things like "the purpose of dating is for marriage". This is good and true but can be taken to the extreme when you are trying to see if this person is the one right from the beginning.
Allow yourself time to get to know this person and just enjoy the dating experience. If you enjoy their company and they make you a better person, just see where things lead.
Keep praying for God to reveal His will and see if that anxiety fades. For me it did as I got to know this person more and more and now I feel mainly peace.
I pray that you are able to find peace in whatever God's will may be for you! 💕
@@mariakurdziel7055 Hello! You are not alone. I would encourage you to research relationship anxiety/ROCD, and see if it might describe how you are feeling. Pray, and consider consulting spiritual directors or counselors if you believe you may be experiencing one of the two. I have had relationship anxiety for almost two years, and my relationship is exceedingly healthy. We fight and have differences like every couple, but our love is boundless. Anxiety does not always mean there's a problem. Remember that the enemy wishes to mislead and destroy us!
Consistently feel personally attacked by Ascension presents... videos are so on point.
LOL!
Same hahaha
😀..take it seriously. Yes this video are so on point, really on points. This is a good advice to take on and will make you happier when that someone is the right one for you. Discernment is necessary in such commitment for marriage. Talk anything freely as you can until it is more comfortable has openness in arguments too. It's a good fruit for such relationship and for a healthy marriage 😇❤👍🏾
Argue in a healthy way as mature adult 😊👍🏾The fruit of spirit of peace, joy and kindness , etc in relationship together. Blessings.❤
D.
Dang, I’m a guy, but when you talked about that anxiety pit in your stomach even though they’re perfect on paper hit home. I know what I have to do now but, wow this is gonna be hard. Lord help both of us.
Emotions are often reactionary. You feel fear when something threatens you. This pit in your stomach is there because something is wrong and you have to stop and figure out what it is. It could be her, but it could also be you. St. Joseph ran away from Mary because He felt this "pit" seeing Himself unworthy of participating in God's work of Salvation. Figure it out so you don't hurt people and end up rejecting God's Will.
Same situation as you Trevor I need the holy spirit so I am able to do the right thing!
Is it possible to even find anybody with even half the things on this list in the post-Vatican II period?
I was there a few years ago. I let go, and wow has God taken me on an adventure. I'm grateful God gave me the grace to get out of the relationship. I hope he's done the same for you and others in the same situation
How was the divorce?
I met my husband when I was 36. About 6 years after I planned in my mind that I would get married. He is absolutely the right person for me and has all of these qualities and more. Even though waiting to find the right guy can be painful at times, it is 💯 percent worth it. Trust God’s timing. He hears every single one of your prayers. 🙏🏻
That's amazing! I'm single and 32. Being single in one's thirties can be pretty distressing and anxiety inducing
@That's Funny definitely, but if it's meant to happen, it will!! Just keep praying for your future spouse. He might be away from the faith right now, and your prayers are helping him come back. Ya never know!;)
I just turned 36 and this beings me some hope. Just came back to Christ and really hoping every single person who reads your comment and feels the same ❤ God bless you 🙏
Turning 30 this year!! Im praying for my future husband almost every night but at the same time, i also pray for peace, contentment and happiness if im called for single blessedness. oof. still a tough pill to swallow cuz i wanna have a family but, praying!!
Peace and joy ☑️
Friendship with romance ☑️
You can be yourself.☑️
You can argue with them in a healthy way☑️
They help you go to heaven.☑️
Please Lord, let us have each other.💗
I'm Muslim and I can relate to that. Being on the same page spiritually is very important. All of your advice are great and realistic. Thank you.
I watched this video during its first broadcast and I promised myself that I will revisit once I found someone. Four years later, I'm watching again and engaged. Thank you, Jesus Christ. Thank you, Ascencion Presents.
This definitely describes mine and my boyfriend's relationship and honestly that makes me so incredibly happy.
I like this a lot. I'm 43 and I'm still praying a lot that I find the right person. I'm on disability though and don't own a vehicle so I get very self conscious because I'm afraid of rejection. I've been on only like 3 dates in my whole life. Everyone who knows me says I need to learn to take more risks. Please pray for me and thank you for this great video. God Bless.
“I could be a nun but I’m not called to be one I need a man who could be a priest but is not called to be one” yes
I married my best friend and I agree 100% with you Love and blessing from Sweden 💖🙏
I have been in bad relationships, even mentally abusive ones. Then I met my current boyfriend. I need some realistic advice and we meet everything she’s saying. He’s amazing in every way, has seen my ugly anxiety attacks, and loves me still. We argue in a healthy manner and just meet all this. I knew he was the right one, but after Friday anxiety attack, I knew he was the one because he helped me. This video just validates it more. It’s also the first relationship that he is same religion as me and we celebrate that together. It’s beautiful
1. Experience peace and joy. Feel’s like home.
2. This is friendship with romance. It’s so easy being with them.
3. You could be yourself. They love you for you. You love being with each other.
4. You can argue with them in a healthy way and talk about tough things. Not afraid of breaking up. They’re not physically/emotionally/sexually abusive.
5. Encouraging and helping each other.
Lord I'm not Catholic but I totally agree with all this! 💙
Catholic is the only way!
@@TkoBallerx Jesus is the only way!
Jesus Loves you ❤️
Sometimes we are so caught in trying to find the one that we forget to take care our selves and to really pray to God to have our hearts to be taken care of.
I was once in a group of friends and we were talking about love. I said love isn’t just an emotion it is a choice. And everyone looked at me like I had two heads lol (mind you I was the only Catholic in the group)
thank you for this i'm realizing how selfish my fantasies were about my crush haha i need to remember that finding a spouse is finding WHO GOD CALLS ME TO BE WITH
Finding a man who will be your friend as well as bf is soo difficult...
Don't give up, kid. Ask God and step out of His way, let Him do the work. There's one out there for you...
ciruwiru
I’d recommend just becoming really good friends with guys and THEN thinking about being a relationship with hem
@@kalligrace1077 This is on track, imo.
it's okay i'm a good place to start ;)
I think another great topic for a video is not only making a list of the things that you need but making an even larger list of the things you absolutely do not want in your life and strong enough to stick to your guns and not accepting these things like I haveunfortunately have done! outstanding advice, thanks for your channel!
I feel this way, but I just met him. So much peace & joy, friendship & romance...I finally met someone who is on the same page as me spiritually too...soooo prayers please because I feel this way “right away” that I found the one. I am exactly who I am called to be talking to this new man. It’s amazing! We are so joyful in each other’s qualities! He is exactly what I’ve been praying for, but I just met him! So is there any advice of how long you should date the man of your dreams before discerning marriage??
I am definitely going through this right now! Any update on the status of your relationship? I would really like to know 😊
There is no “The One”
Thank you for doing this! I feel exactly like you described “I could be a nun but I don’t think I’m called to” and now I guess it’s going to be a long waiting process. This really helped!
Well the part about needing a priest who wasn't called to be a priest rang very true. Being single has caused me to turn inwards to may faith more. But this, in turn, has made dating more difficult ha! 🙈
Thought about preisthood couldn't stand the idea of being alnoe the rest of my life and the celibacy certainly was not a good perk.
The fact that everything she is talking about I see in my best friend who is a guy......and he says he doesn’t see me that way completely 100% .....ooof it’s the worst feeling! But I pray maybe I can find someone like him or even better ;( Gods plan not mine.
Man, I didn't expect this to impact me as greatly as it did. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤
Thank you so much for this!!! I really needed this. I really think God was speaking through you. Thank you again!!
I feel this video was meant for me. I needed this so much. Thank you
Pris * same
God bless to your discernment Sis.
same here
This video was part of a calming process for me during a freak-out.
Thank you, and thanks and praise be to God for everything ❤
Exactly!!!! Thank you! Becoming like friends is great. Infatuation isn't supposed to last. It isn't the goal. Being a family is the goal.
Thank you for this video 💛
First of all, you have the coolest surname!
I agree with everything you said but I think I would add that a lot of these things are down to us becoming healthy, functioning, mature adults.
If you can't argue well it might be more down to your own inner dysfunction. So instead of searching for a better person to argue with, do a self check and make sure you are a safe and whole person with good self boundaries, a healed heart and good communication skills.
Otherwise its just rise & repeat. Its important to reflect and check what is our responsibility is and where do we need to grow and heal to become better partners ourselves.
Thank you for putting these videos out! ❤
I met someone who I know is the person I’m going to spend the rest of my life yet - but somehow, I always end up overthinking and if this is what God REALLY wants for me. So I offered up a rosary for it; and look where it brought me! All the boxes are being hit, as if He’s saying, “I want this for you, Emma. And I’ll make it as loud and as clear as you need me to.” God is good ❤️
Thank you so much for this video I've been in a abusive marriage and because my faith I was worried but I've been praying on it
Your husband is truly blessed to have found you. Your advice is invaluable and fundamentally correct. God bless.
Thank you for sharing this video, Jackie. I appreciate your perspective on this. I find it to be relatable, insightful, well-thought-out, and also at times funny.
I loved it! Thank you very much! I agreed with everything you shared. Common goal that unites both parts STRONGLY (common unchanging purpose!) is my favorite. I would add pray. Have a deep life of prayer asking for God´s intercession through this search.
Flirt to convert ???? I’ve been dating this guy for over 2 years and I’ve brought him into the Catholic Church. He has been very open and willing in converting ( he was a Lutheran not actively going to church ) we were going to go through RCIA no one is perfect . Its constant work . Ever changing and evolving and growing together and closer to God.
Thank you Jackie for this video. I'm sure it has helped so many to make sense of their current and budding relationships. Blessings to you and your family! 👨👩👧👦✝️
Thank you for making time to share your wisdom. God bless you and your family.
Absolutely beautiful! This video was very helpful for me with my discernment.
I know why in marriage we cannot get along, even thought I was born again in Christ and my heart was transformed 6 months ago.
It’s because we started our relationship from wrong doing, from having sex before marriage, our love wasn’t pure and delicate as should be and it’s all because of sex temptation.
God, please give my husband a new heart, new thinking and set a pure fire in our love and marriage, I pray in Jesus name. Amen 🙏
Whoever read my comments please pray briefly for my marriage to become pure 🙌 God bless ❤️
Amen .. I'll keep you in my prayers!!🙏❤️
@@gabbd.2795 thank you! My marriage is getting better and better now. God bless.
Thank you and please pray for me and my bf to get his life in order and please God ... Thank you!! ❤️🙏
How do you know you are born again?
@@freshliving4199 you know that you’ve been born again when everything in your life changes, your thoughts and actions are focus on pleasing God. You think of Him every day. You conscious about your wrong doings, you realise when you do something wrong straight away, even if you’ve been tempted, you apologise and work on it. You realise that without God you are nothing. You trust Him and let Him lead you every day.
In my case, during prayer when I asked God to clean my heart, I felt unbelievably huge amount of love being poured upon me and from this moment I became new.
Jesus said: “I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh.
Ezekiel 11:19
Let God to work in your heart and do beautiful things with it. Once you can’t stop thinking about about pleasing Him every day, this is when you’ve been born again. It may be a moment or process..
God bless you and wish you to find Jesus in your life and be born again in Him 🙌
Glad to watch this type of real-life practical videos!
Thank you Jesus for this channel.
I was at a spa today and saw fruits of the holy spirit on their wall, and I said that's nice and left. After Mass I had a lot of questions and found myself writing a list of what I think I need in a husband. Turns out my list is long, and I am thankful that I came across this topic. It makes sense now. A lot of sense.
I finally found hope in finding a relationship in church. Finally! Thank you.🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞
3:58 you know youre in a good relationship when you get excited for them to come home
This all sounds great! I’ve seen such relationships, but I think there rare, but possible.
All GLORY to GOD! I have only just found you Jackie. Absolutely love everything about you and your husband. Powerful testament to our Catholic Faith. God bless! In J+M+J ❤🙏🙏🙏
😍😍😍 Beautifully explained! Right on the spot! ❤❤❤
That's exactly what I felt when I married my husband. 😍❤🙏
Wow, so many old things said in such a new way to me, I’m a Pentecostal but God is opening Christianity to me beyond barriers of one congregation. This is amazing, thank you!
Maybe this is a sign to consider allowing a Catholic in ur life someday. Before that happens, He cud be molding you to be a better spouse till you meet that person.
Was soooo spot on ! Thanks Jackie 💕
Thank you so much for this video!! I loved this balanced and healthy view of marriage.
amen;) thanks for sharing and praying for us;) God bless you and your family, Jackie:)
I've only known this guy a week or less and I really feel like he's the one. ☺️❤ I finally feel a security I've never felt with someone.
How to Know if you've found "the one"? That's easy, you haven't. The one isn't found, the one is made, forged in the fires of life and tempered with sweat, blood and tears.
Very interesting point. I bet this is the case many times
Huge like here! Amin!
(Loved husband, father of three. I confirm everything you said.)
Great and practical video! Awesome job, Jackie.
Thank you for this video! My "perfect guy" on paper who I dated for nearly a year is close to engagement with one of my best friends. I'm so happy for them and not bitter... but sometimes I question my decision I made to break up with him back then. This video has helped me a lot to make peace with it.
Did you feel happiness for them right away or were you ever insecure and sad over it?
Thank you Jackie ! May God bless you !
this was the most amazing video, thank you so much for ti!
Thank you for this wonderful video!!... it really spoke to me!
I needed this. Thank you
Thank you for the clarity! God Bless u and your family! :)
You will know and FEEL that "PEACE & Joy," when it's the right person. You don't have to "pretend!" That's AWESOME. I believe it. Once I went on a youth camp RETREAT for young adults 20 + and I prayed before going that I would meet my future hubby on that trip. Ironically, I did meet a guy that my heart pounded LIKE crazy upon seeing HIM AND he too approached me to START a conversation as any guy who's interested in a pretty woman would do. Then AFTER the "investigating," done by my part, right? It turned out the feeling was just "lust!" He ACTUALLY had another woman he was ALREADY sleeping with.
WOMEN be careful ♡
Thank you souch for your advice! I love this video, this will always be on my mind. 💓
I am engaged to a wonderful man I can not wait to marry him in January!
so so helpful, thank you so much! love and prayers
She is so right! Particularly about the arguing part.
Sincerely thank you for all the fantastic advice
Thaaanks a lot Jackie you're doing such an amazing work here on UA-cam! be blessed from Bavaria ;)
God bless, peace be with you and your family.
I feel the same way about my lovely wife. 🙂
/Greetings from a Swede convert
Very solid advice, thank you
Such a beautiful video. Loved it
Gosh this video is so helpful! As a young Christian woman out on the dating scene, the last point in particular really highlighted how I shouldn’t be wasting my time with agnostics hoping I can convert them. My home life deserves and needs to be a safe, stable Christian environment.
If he can stop bullets with his mind, he’s definitely The One.
This was so helpful, thanks😘😘
Wow, I just discovered this channel and I'm hooked. Thank you!❤
Wonderful.. marriage is suppose to be sacred and not abused in any way. Right on point. Well, i am praying for my future spouse in a 14 day prayer journey. Wish me luck. Amen. 🥰
Though i am still single. But i really loved this video. Hope I'll get the right one soon
I agree. Don't try to change someone. It's one thing if you are already married, but things need to for the most part be easy during dating.
I am a christian man, and now I know how a virtuous woman feels for a christian man. Great revealing information. Amen.🌞🌞🌞
This is so awesome. Love this from Detroit Michigan.
" Thank you and GOD BLESS you"
God bless you Mrs Angel! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and wisdom! 😘😘😘😘😘😘
I'm glad I stumbled on this video. Thank you and God bless
Great advice thank you for this!!!
In my country and city, to find a person that follows all of this tips it is impossible.... Thanks God that he is the God of impossible!🙌
“You can argue with him or her in a healthy way” 🔥❤️
Absolutely this.
I love your hair
It's good, but unnecessary for her to dye it blonde. She should be happy with the natural hair color God gave her
Michelle S15 it’s just hair dye. Not that serious lol
Don't be afraid to wait. I had to trust in God. I wanted to be married but I didn't meet my fiancé until I turned 37!!! He's my best friend who I love to kiss :-D Wedding in two weeks and counting. Stay strong .
God bless you, Jackie!
Good stuff... that part about taking kids into consideration is so forgoten so thanks for speaking up.
I can identify with you and I thank God I have found my ONE. Praise God.
Wow! This was helpful thank you!
I love how you put your faith and the faith of your children at the highest priority. I am a muslim and I feel the same. And you're definitely right marriage should be decided upon true observations not emotional fantasies.
Thank you!! Very great points!!
This was such a good video. Sometimes it's difficult trying to find a Catholic girl nowadays, especially since I'm in college. I have a new found hope that she is out there for me.
it's not that hard to find a Catholic girl, what's hard is to find a good Catholic girl these days. And it's even harder for girls to find a good Catholic guy these days.
This is so good!