Aching to Find a Spouse?
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2024
- Are you aching to find a spouse who understands you and your Catholic faith? Being called to the married life when you don’t have a spouse makes you feel like you’re putting your life on hold, waiting for someone to come along so you can live out your vocation. Jackie offers five tips to remember if you’re having a hard time being single.
1. Everybody has an ache only God can satisfy.
2. Be healthy and holy now.
3. Remember your death. Remember life is short.
4. God doesn’t show you gold and give you silver.
5. Be patient and trust God.
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It's not the waiting. It's the not knowing if you're waiting for something that's even going to happen.
this
Indeed.
Exactly. Waiting is very possible. Remember the marshallow test? Those who were willing to wait and certain that they would receive a 2nd one did wait. But that was because they were promised that.
God did not promise to use that we are surely going to be married. That is the hard part, not the waiting one. Still, keeping the virtue of hope is what we can do, if that's the only thing we could manage.
Did they use the marshmallow test on blacks? It is said that they are less able to delay gratification. It may not be possible for them.
@@huskyfaninmass1042 According to who? That sounds kind of racist
Today I rejected a man who doesn’t believe in God and only wanted to use my body. It wasn't easy because I really liked him, but I decided not to settle for that. I trust that it’ll be worth it when I marry my future spouse. Would you please pray for us? I’ll be praying for all singles. May the Lord guide our steps and decisions.❤️
Yeah be lucky anyone is actually into you
@@scitris6474 Be nice. Men and women have different challenges when it comes to dating and relationships in today's world. If no one wants you, take a few minutes to consider why that might be.
You did the right thing. The superficial eventually gives way to paying bills, laundry, grocery shopping, work etc. and at that point we realize we need a partner in ALL things and most particularly in helping us make our way to heaven. A life lived in faith requires sacrifice and a deepening of belief. God wants us strong and trusting in Him so there definitely WILL be difficulties. So consider, will this person stay at my side if there are serious money problems? What if one or both of us are seriously ill? What if we need to care for an aging parent? What if one of the kids ends up in a bad situation? The measure of a partner is not how we look in photos at the party, but how do we work together when all the parties are over and we realize our mortality is facing us and eternity awaits! Will we stand hand in hand, smiling, trusting in the Lord, knowing we lived a life of faith?
@@neverquit9599 very well said
@@scitris6474 There was a girl in my college dorm (we had co-ed floors) who pretty much all the guys agreed was ugly (mean, I know). I however, thought she was kind of attractive. There was another girl that every dude was drooling over, whom I was never into her. Would've taken the "uglier" girl in a heartbeat.
What's my point? Work to improve yourself, don't be shy about floating some feelers out there if you're interested in someone, and just know that if you're called to marriage, God will bring you and that one diamond in the rough together, which is all that matters.
Rejection is God's protection is so real.
Wrong.
Albrecht von Stollen you need help, seriously. I know you’re down about being single, but you will be with NO ONE with an attitude like that. If you act like this because you’re single, how will you act when hard things come in married life?
@@elysep1579 Here's the thing:
Rejection is a curse from God.
@@AnimeArchaeologist God does not curse! God is FAITHFUL 🙏🏽
I don’t think God wants us to be rejected but it is not a protection from Him! sometimes people just don’t want us...hard but we need to accept it.
"God won't show you gold and give you silver"... just what I needed🙏🏼
Amen stay strong 💪
Hi Gabriela
Here's the thing; I was rejected because there were things about me that I needed to fix before even considering marriage. That's not always the devil talking. Sometimes you need to genuinely examine yourself.
This is true.
Ian Wilson
It's very misleading the way she tangles all this with the devil.
True, but there's a difference between the conviction of "I am not ready or prepared for marriage" and the doubting harmful insecurity of "I am not good enough and not worthy". One inspires growth and the second as she says, is from the devil to rob you of security and identity.
Yea God really has to really tear up your blueprints in order to build a much better and stronger house.
"That person isn't right for you; they're right for someone else." Oof. I needed that.
Yea, no kidding. That hit me harder then a bullet to the chest. :/
Me to ☺️
I highly doubt the veracity of that line.
I was in love with a women, non christian, but very kind tho, and she even loved me. We slowly got appart from each other, but now , my faith grew stronger, and she and I are great friends and she now is a happy relationship, which offers her what I do'nt think I could have. I sure hurts, but hey, loving someone is wanting to see them happy. So I'm happy she's has found "the one".
@@IceWolve67 Well said
Feeling the ache hard today. It’s not that I mind being single now, but I do want to be married and have a family someday. It’s a struggle to find hope right now. Thanks for this video.
Hope you find what you’re after
Hope is the only thing for which you do not need proof or data. It's that one thing that if desired, brick by brick every day, you'll achieve sooner than you think. Like any virtue it takes practicing and small daily dedication. I'm sure you already have more than you imagine....Btw, have you found anyone yet, Manda Panda? :)
You’re so beautiful! Hope you find the love of your life, if you haven’t already!
Stay strong & hope & pray he’s coming for you
Enjoy your life. Don't worry about marriage. Make God the center of your life. June 12, 2021, Saturday.
"Rejection is God's protection"... this is so true!
It feels more like God's curse than God's protection to me.
It's just rationalization.
Yes
No it's that person rejecting you because they don't like you
@Catholics Around The World The what now? No thanks
The struggle is real in our overly sexualized society. Not very fun having impurity shoved in your face every day with raging hormones. Having a helpmate would be nice. Sadly it's not easy to find good Catholic spouse nowadays. Keep praying y'all! 🙏
Mike K This is the straight truth. Im a senior in high school and I could not agree more.
The anti christ will assert himself as world ruler. The overly sexualized society is obviously part of his plan
we're praying!
Good to see a Man express these sentiments. ..
Finally someone said it.
I really wish I could marry a Catholic woman.
I'm from 🇧🇷 and have always been single.
I'm 29.
Please pray for me! Thank you, God bless 🙏😊
I'm praying for you man, God bless. Any luck yet? Haha.
Have you considered priesthood?
@@johnspinelli9396 that's a calling not a cop-out. Otherwise he'd be using the church. It's not genuine
@@Vargolis I know but you could always discern both
@@johnspinelli9396 true that. Courage to all in this journey!
Seeing this video and reading the comments makes me realize how we all experience the same ache, yet we tend to think “it’s only me.” It’s good to see that we’re not alone and that there are other young people out there who understand and share the same fight. God bless you all!
Thanks darlin. Nobody is perfect
Ugh sure is tuff waiting ! Stay strong 💪
We aren't all young people here.
Your life doesn’t start when you are married but it’s nice to have that special person!!
Being married and having children is my dream.
I mean.. I'm young and I hope it will become real in the future
Charlie
You are a kitten
Charlie you have 9 lives, don't waste them all married
Wait until you become a grownup cat, Charlie The Kitten 😂
Thank you Jackie for your encouragement. I am disabled single guy in young 50’s. It’s hard being single in today world with identity politics going bonkers and little or no encouragement from Protestant churches. Currently my denomination is in crisis dealing with Marxist attacks. Currently I am researching Catholicism.
Have you come to the real Church? God bless!
I remember getting rejected when I asked him for a cup of coffee. That was at Valentine's day and I was crushed. From that month on to almost a year, I lived through embracing being single and loved every moment of it. I discovered my love for my faith, starting a book club with my friend, baking, and learning dance moves by Taylor Swift while singing her songs in my room. I was really at joy. Then my boyfriend got the courage to ask me out (the one who did rejected me, but he only wanted to get to know me) and we turned our genuine acquainted friendship into almost a courtship. He is everything I wanted in my ideal partner and being single for all my life until 26, I could say God's timing is always worth the wait. Never ever settle and always aim to do better for yourself and of course everything through God's will alone. Thank you Jackie and God Bless!💛💛💛
Thank you for sharing your story..
Praise God 🙏🏼🙌🏼
@@Boxed4Y you are welcome! Thank you for reading and may God bless! (:
@@InhabitantOfOddworld yes!! Always praising and thankful to our Lord! God bless 💛
@robbie gareau after getting to know my boyfriend for about 3 years now, he is a definite yes for a husband! Eagerly waiting for a proposal if it's meant to be. God bless!
For a sec I wish my relatives would be able to understand these words because it seems that they never run out of words to say against us women who are still single in the family. And oftentimes I often find myself if there is anything wrong with me because I like being independent, i don't feel miserable, I feel blessed and happy and grateful. Truth is, society is cruel for us Single people.
Society is at it's cruelest on single men.
I hear you, LadyCraven. I think we need to leave family and relatives aside and follow God, even if He didn't send any man into our life. I guess this is the ache in our life. Here is where we must turn to God.
i know right? i feel you... ugh...
“You don’t need a boyfriend, you need a THERAPIST”
Ah ha I died 😂 (it’s true though!)
I have met a few single men who need one! Or they are even looking for a mommy. No thank you! You can be miserable if you are married to a man who doesn't love you as much as you love him...when he won't work at it to make it better. She's right. Don't settle for second best.
Lisa Cunningham I don’t need a mommy or financial advice, how are you doing?
Hi Mariah
I thank the Lord everyday for bringing my amazing, faithful husband (and best friend) and I together!
She was speaking to me today or Jesus speaking through her! Wow you touched a lot of points that I was feeling. Having had my encounter with God in April at a retreat I haven’t been the same. I changed for the better but lost my bf of 3 years along the way. He didn’t support my new life and change for Jesus. Thank you for the reassurance to know I am where I need to be.🙏
I did suffer the same thing
I wish I had someone talking to me the way you are talking here when I was a college girl over twenty- five years ago! It makes me sad inside. There aren't enough voices like yours in the world!
I am single and not going crazy. I love it. So comfortable. Faithful. I have a great group of friends who are chaste and faithful to the church. Happy and joyful and single here in Ohio.
Hello, fellow joyful and single Ohioan!
That's what I thought. ..good things (...and a compatible mate) take time ...effort. ...
@@roniquebreauxjordan1302 Oh really?
@@AnimeArchaeologist yes. It's not easy. .just worth it! Have a good week!
I figured this video would be at almost 30,000 views. ..keep it up Ascension Presents!
I know this ache, all to well, and have for many years. I'm 37 and have never had a boyfriend. So the ache for marriage is also now a strong ache that even if I do wed, I may never have my own biological children.
Yet, I see those around me who've rushed into marriage and relationships, without having a relationship with God, and their aches and pains are so much greater.
We have to see the end game, and that's eternity with God. So here's hoping our aches in this life could count towards some time off in Purgatory. :-D
God works miracles.. Age is just a number.. I was born when my mother was 36 when doctors chalked her pregnancy a miracle. My mother git greedy and asked for a sibling for me. My brother was born a year later. So.. Nothing is impossible for our God
God told me in a dream, "Donna my daughter be patient and I will give you everything you need in time"! When I heard this, it quieted my spirit! I have learned to love unconditionally. I have learned all things comes to you when he feels it is to teach you or serve you for the good. I have completely turned my life around. I walk away from people who are negative to me in all forms, I listen to Christian music when everyone tells me they hate it or to turn it down. I have learned to love myself first and accept what Jesus ' will is for me and not what others in the world want from me. I have let their jealousy go way side and moved on with my endeavors. God is Good! You can only give positive love, communication, honesty and caring to others once you feel this way about yourself. This brings me to a song that I sing on the top of my lungs; "Greater is the one living inside of me than he who lives in the world". I believe this is Casting Crowns. Also, Hannah Kerr, "Warrior"! Thank you for doing this video. Oh, did you know that God has or had more than one person in your life as a child in heaven and you do come to them in life. Sometimes at different times or all at the same time. However, one may radiate more than the other. Even in their own radiation of God's love they are still part of your divine connection. Have a Blessed Day!
a good marriage results from DAILY EFFORT TO COMMUNICATE, SHARE, GIVE, CARE, AND PRAY TOGETHER!!
Single and happy with Jesus than miserable in a relationship :(
Wow totally agree
Thanks :)
This is so encouraging! As a catholic it's hard to exist in the world especially when people question your faith.
Remember the exhortation to be ready to give a reason for your hope! You never know when you will have a chance to evangelize and win someone for Christ.
Thank you Lord for that ache-arrow towards you❤️
What I got out of this is to be joyful today and to trust even more in God's plan for me. Also that a spouse will not fulfill the ache for love, but only God. Thank you :)
I lost my wife to an accidental death about 3 years ago, we were married for almost 19 years at the time of her death. We were blessed with two sons together. Starting over is a challenge for me. By the way we met at the beginning of 1997 and were married at the end of the same year. My late wife's maid of honor her best friend met her husband at our wedding and were married 6 months later and they've been married for 21 years.
I absolutely loved this video! You said everything that I feel about being single and try to put into words for my friends better than I’ve ever been able to. In fact, I’ve got to share this with one of my friends right now because they need to hear this right now and thank you so much for the point towards Psalm 63. Thanks be to God and God bless!
The bane of my existence is being taught on the aches of singleness from a married person. Its like listening to a lecture on how money doesn't buy happiness from a man in a hammock at his beachside winter residence. We get that there is an ache that only God can remedy. Would you rather seek the remedy by yourself or with a supporting partner by your side? ...that is the real question isn't it. We all know money doesn't buy happiness but would you rather cry about your problems in your shack or on your yacht?
Lol I feel that but she seemed genuine
She also said "If you're not happy being single, you're not going to be happy being with someone". How uplifting...
@@christopherhunt6709 that’s not always true there’s people out there who actually become happy in a relationship
yacht
That's literally unbibically especially for men. Just modernist new age nonsense
5:06 Well, this is, finally and without any doubt, the most important, kind, affectionate, compassionate, empathic, and truly catholic advice given by this channel ever, or by any other Catholic UA-cam channel ever. This is exactly the kind of hope and encouragement we singles need.
Excellent job addressing subject that can be touchy for us single folk. I especially appreciated her most important insight, which is applicable for every person no matter what his/her vocational state, the real "ache" in us all and to whom it's pointing us.
Well said! It was really inspirational to hear you say, "God doesn't show you gold and give you silver. " It gives me hope and joy to think about that.
Jackie!! How did you know that JUST the other day I watched your “ache of singlehood” video from about 7-8 years ago?!! You truly are a blessing to the single woman. Still a pertinent message in my twenties looking for mr. right. Thank you so much.😊💛🧡
A thing you said was very helpful gave me peace thank you.... you stopped me from doing something stupid
Wowwww I was browsing for videos to present at my youth group Thursday night (tomorrow) and low and behold I see Jackie!! Thank you for that talk at NYCYD this past Saturday... I loved it!!!!! God bless
I loved this! So glad Jackie is back making videos!
I am inspired and blessed to watch and hear this. Thank you so much, Jackie! God bless you more. 🙏🏻♥️
That plant behind you looks like grim, from the grim adventures of Billy and mandy, with green hair.
Great video. That "God doesn't show you gold" line really hits me. I've met many awesome women and none of them are for me, one who I fell kinda hard for ghosted me but that was my own fault, and I believe it's strengthened the call I think already have to the priesthood, God's telling me he's the one for me and no one else can be what I need
Thank you for the pep talk Jackie. This was really needed right now! 😁
Thank you so much for this, Jackie! You and your husband are a wonderful addition to this channel and I'm so glad you're here. God bless you and your beautiful family 💖
Jackie,
Thank you for the beautiful words of encouragement. I know of people who are married who are not very happy. You are blessed. May those of us who are single learn to keep things in perspective and find much to be grateful for, no matter what happens.
This is so helpful. Starting to think I was going crazy. Looking for someone to fill the “ache.” 🤦🏻♀️ you’re so right. God. Duh. 🤦🏻♀️ I honestly am so happy I watched this.
Wonderful ! God bless you! Pray for me♥️
Thank you for this beautiful, honest and frank talk. I had been hoping someone would say this to me lately. Still running the race and keeping the Faith and Trust in God.
This video came at such the perfect time. I was feeling that ache deep in my heart to find a spouse and to start my own family...but what you said is so true. We all have our aches and if we don’t have it satisfied by Jesus it never will. Thank you for sharing❤️
This is beautiful and everything I needed to hear tonight. Thank you. Prayers for everyone looking for a spouse.
Thank you for this video, Jackie. So helpful because it is hard to be single and wait for your spouse. However, I see God working in my life to heal my wounds before marriage so that I can be healthy. I will keep praying for my vocation, for my future husband and for healthy, holy marriages.
Jackie you are so gorgeous and inspiring!! Thank you for being such a great example and for doing so with such joy and enthusiasm!!
No one could possibly be happy single, we’re not meant to be alone. God doesn’t fill the void of physical touch, having someone to converse with, having someone to share things with .....
These influencers don't seem to grasp the mystery of the "Incarnation." God came into His creation..."well, He didn't need to do that" but he did. Why is that so if "God is enough"?
Thank you Jackie and the team at Ascension Presents for this video, for the reminder that I needed to hear. May God continue to bless all of you in your ministry.
I instantly became very happy when I heard you, Jackie, mentioning the Psalm 63, my favorite! Thank you for making my day! 😀
Thank you Jackie. I’m still single at 43 and I’ve enjoyed doing things like going on trips and all the carefreeness that comes with it. But I get that feeling of isolation and loneliness from time to time and I need to fill a void by finding someone that I can share my life with and support. This video helps clarify things.
What a wonderful video ❤ So glad I tuned in, first time viewer here. I had someone offering me everything, even marriage. But actually it's your wants not mine. I'm very happy being single and yes it put me in a path towards a loving God. I'm a great friend ☺ Hey thanks ❤
What a great piece of advice! Thank you for sharing it! May God bless you & keep you in his righteous right hand!
Jackie, thank you for this! This is beautiful ♥️
5:47! note to self
Great and inspired advice, Jackie. Thank you and God bless you.
i was so blessed God gave me my husband when He did...
I love this so much! I sent the video to a couple of my friends and they loved it. Thank you! God Bless
I love you Jackie...The calmness and conviction with which you explain things is amazing. Thank you very much for your life 💞💞💞🥰🥰🥰
Listening to this for a second time because omg wow how God used this to speak to my heart today. Last night I was genuinely having a panic attack from fear of not having the qualities of a previous relationship in my next (silly, I know, but real). The moment you said "God won't show you gold and give you silver," I started crying (happy tears!!!). That was 100%, exactly what I knew in my heart but really needed to hear out loud.
I am so glad I listened to this video, the entire video. I almost turned it off for the first four minutes because it really didn't connect with me.. but wow those last six minutes were exactly what I needed to hear!!! Going write "God won't show you gold and give you silver" everywhere now. Sending love!!
You mentioning that you still ache even in marriage really helped me. Not because of your marriage but because of that need of God.
Jackie, you are awesome! I could really watch this video everyday. It gives me such peace to know that I can be just as happy now, not only when I find a husband. I know God is preparing my future husband and me before we meet each other.
Thank you, Jackie! God bless you and Bobby in your ministry 💗🌞
Very wise advice! One can tell you prayed about this a lot before doing the video. You covered everything! Thank you!!
This video was just what I needed at this time in my life! I wish I had a friend like you Jackie...thanks so much! 💕
Memento Mori is a great reflection for everything in life. Thanks!
Omggggg I LOVE THIS!!!! This changed my life high key!!!! Yesssss so true and honestly words to live by!!! Thank you so much
Jackie is literally my free virtual counsellor
At 61? This was quite a depressing subject. She knew a 45, a 50 year old who were glad they had waited... my Clocks about ready to ring my Alarm! Being an Anti- Vatican II, Catholic, that spells, Celibate... This Upbeat Message, from a young wife in her happy Marriage sounded, to me like trite platitudes. She means well, I'm certain.
But this reminded me of the Elephant described by the blind. One can't truly know what they themselves haven't known. Can you? May God Bless you for trying!
Thank you, Jackie! Lots of love to you and your family.
Thanks. If religious vocation's not for me, pray I find someone like ma'am Jackie- not perfect of course but holy, patient, kind, joyful, hardworking and beautiful.
God bless, Proverbs 31
Do such women still exist in our current age?
Albrecht von Stollen yes they do!! I see them all the time in my friendships at church, they are beautiful holy women and they help me grow to be a holier woman myself. We’re still out here fellas 😉 don’t give up!
@@AnimeArchaeologist big Yes!!! There are still people who shares the same virtues like her. Don't dishearten nor doubt about it. ☺️
I want you to know how much I needed to hear this. thank you so much! God Bless!!
Thanks Jackie. Great inspiration and insight :)
One of the most beautiful ❤️ messages I have ever heard
Thank you. I needed to hear this!
Ur video came out at such a right time thank you Jesus I'll pray n wait 🙏🏾
This is right on time. Thank you 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I needed to hear this, I appreciate your sharing
Thank you so much Jackie! Really needed this. God is so good. He lead me here today. More than just advice on how to be single. Advice on how to be.
Amen❣️
You are so right...keeping your focus on Him and trusting in Him - keeping God first is not easy but possible❣️I remember talking to my mom about this and she was right - God had a plan and the way my husband and I met - only in God’s timely fashion could this have been possible❣️
Thanks for these amazing advices, Jackie! God Bless :)
I’ve been praying for the right partner but I have no patience, Thanks for the tips you are awesome !!! God’s timing is the right timing
I needed this video, thank you ♥️ Happy to be finding my faith again.
Thank you for this encouragement and wise words! Feeling inspired
Needed this today❤
Excellent! Thanks for all the good advice
this is one of the best videos ever!! thank you for sharing ❤
That’s beautiful. Thank you🙏🏻💕.
She is beautiful and so right!!! Don't settle ever. I wish I would of know this long time ago.
I needed this 🙌🏻 thank you so much for this video.
I thank God for all the people behind this channel. I learned allot from this episode hopefully I could easily apply it to my life. I am married but man, the journey is tough and wanting to know if I am on the right path. Anyways, good stuffs! God bless this channel!
So needed to hear this
Great talk, thank you. God bless. So happy you are a proponent of therapy and spiritual direction. Essential for many.
Thank you Jackie! Sometimes I need to hear this over and over. The wait is hard and your words of encouragement are uplifting. Would you make a video about being a single parent and dating/waiting? God bless and keep the videos coming.
Jackie, this is something amazing... the best i ever heard about that topic. Thank you so much. God bless you ✝️❤️🌹😘😊
Thank you for this encouragement. Praise God for this blessed word.
I really needed to hear this today thank you so much!!! I must have wrote down every single word you said.