How To Discover and Heal Your True Self | Dr. Gabor Maté

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  • @yourinnerchildmatters
    @yourinnerchildmatters  2 роки тому +62

    This is a great, powerful clip from their complete talk. I like the idea that awareness is the first step toward being able to respond (in the sense that we are able to respond to the present rather than react to some past hurt). We can begin to detect our triggers and intercept them once we understand that our emotional response is about the past rather than the present. And once we start intercepting our triggers, being curious about them, and stopping the dysregulating cascade... well, that's incredibly empowering and exciting. And the idea that we don't respond to a stimulus; we respond to our interpretation, to the story we make up in our heads. That we may shape our own realities by selecting what we pay attention to and then deciding how to interpret it.
    And knowing that our emotions may be the result of an interpretation based on translating a previous hurt into a present scenario offers us tremendous power. And I absolutely love the idea of either covering the world in burlap or purchasing a pair of shoes. We can either anticipate and demand a pain-free environment, one that does not trigger us, or we can learn to control our triggers. We have no power if we do not comprehend; we blame others for our outbursts. There is no control. But once we have comprehension and response capability, we know we have power. We are capable of transformation. Very powerful!
    Thanks for watching please dont forget to LIKE, COMMENT, & SUBSCRIBE, it really means a lot to me! 🙏❤❤

    • @elizabethdean0187
      @elizabethdean0187 Рік тому +1

      Well said.

    • @MohitGarg-wc7nx
      @MohitGarg-wc7nx Рік тому

      Hi, Mr. Gobar.
      Please prepare one podcast on privacy fuckers and stalkers as well.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Рік тому

      I'd rather cover the world in a burlap than buy shoes. I'm old and tired, thus try to avoid triggers. The less stress the better.

  • @jamiewilliams8107
    @jamiewilliams8107 Рік тому +137

    Always be your authentic self and never try to fit in just to keep the peace.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +8

      Very well said thank you so much, bless you.❤️

    • @LoriLeeSurfCityTemptations
      @LoriLeeSurfCityTemptations Рік тому +5

      That's so hard when that's all you have ever done is keep the peace. At 58 I'm totally exhausted and have been through so much shit I started this healing process on my own . I still have the grieving, from all the death 6 kids and I'm the only one alive and it feel like I don't want to be here anymore. I would never take my life like my brother and sister did , but I want a break.

    • @SealoftheonetrueGod
      @SealoftheonetrueGod Рік тому +2

      No! What are you saying please stop you cant make me pay you set me up its wrong what yous did .. no peat isnt yanni and no none of us are related just stop please..

    • @Bat_Boy
      @Bat_Boy Рік тому +4

      Two no win choices: 1) wear a mask, hurt yourself, be accepted, or 2) not wear a mask, hurt others, NOT be accepted.
      What if I prefer to wear a mask, and I prefer that others do too.
      I’ve watched many Gabor videos on this subject, and his argument for being “authentic”, is weak and not fully rationalized. It’s just a mantra: “be real” with everyone. How? With losing connection with them? “Oh, do it politely, and roll the dice”. Yeah…not a real solution, and might create more problems just to hurt others feelings (including mine), causing more stress.

    • @britiroy9758
      @britiroy9758 Рік тому +2

      @@Bat_Boy 💯

  • @ishani2103
    @ishani2103 11 місяців тому +31

    Gabor Mate is the best. He mixes philosophy with psychology in a beautiful way ❤

  • @lesliemctavish4300
    @lesliemctavish4300 Рік тому +25

    It was impossible for me to get through my CPTSD until I started to write
    my fears on a page every day. I dumped them there. And then I release them. There is no analyzing in this process. I started that two months ago and from this process came more clarity and being able to see what is behind my behavior and thoughts. For the first time in my life I am beginning to heal.
    I am with the program, the Crappy Childhood Fairy. And if you were to do the program you'de see there is more learning than this. I believe it could heal your life.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому

      thank you for sharing🙏✨💖

    • @YOU-niter
      @YOU-niter 11 місяців тому

      I’m subscribed to that channel t👀👌🫶
      Healing is possible.. especially if we believe it is.
      Belief is powerful🫶

    • @sayusayme7729
      @sayusayme7729 11 місяців тому +1

      She’s great, hard journey but worth it

    • @Lesane007
      @Lesane007 9 місяців тому

      That's great! How did you release them?

  • @kenzabouzidi5686
    @kenzabouzidi5686 10 місяців тому +9

    I discovered you with the Palestine Israel conflict. I can't believe your name never came into my feed. You're a blessed soul and I can feel it. I loved every minute of this. So many uh huh moments. Thx a million

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

  • @literarystudies1861
    @literarystudies1861 11 місяців тому +6

    "I hope people will listen to this interview in a very personal sense, and that this discussion with you will help people look at themselves in maybe a new way. So rather than self-judgment about stuff that went wrong or they did to themselves or others, they get curious. What made me do that? They get curious compassionately because we're all born just wanting to be loving and loved. And then something happens. And then it's a hard road back. But I hope that this conversation helps people reconnect with that path or encourage them to continue that."

  • @Uche4Word
    @Uche4Word 11 місяців тому +15

    The journey to true empowerment begins with the holistic healing from the trauma of our inner child.
    Thanks Dr

    • @spiceynye813
      @spiceynye813 7 місяців тому +1

      And I believe that everyone needs this healing right now as the trauma we suffered from childhood is multigenerational. This conditioning throughout history is the reason we all have fragmented ego's which get replaced with an alter ego thus hiding an aspect of our true identity. Healing requires acknowledging, allowing the feelings to sit with us without judgement, accepting it's okay to feel and that every feeling is valid. Once we validate our emotions then we can release them and this is liberating and connecting to our true authentic ego self .

    • @Uche4Word
      @Uche4Word 7 місяців тому

      @spiceynye813 absolutely spot on. Every feeling is valid. The more we judge a feeling the harder it gets to be liberated from it.

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Рік тому +23

    "when i speak of healing, i'm referring to a natural movement toward wholeness...not an end state to being completely whole or enlightened. It's a direction, not a destination". Thank you for clarifying that. I've been on the healing path most of my adult life, and still at it in my senior years. It's meaningful work, but not fun.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +2

      Thank you for taking the time to share your experience! Healing is a lifelong journey with ups and downs. Your dedication to it is admirable. 🌿 Continue on your journey, and remember that it is the journey itself that provides you growth and wisdom. I wish you ongoing strength and insights on your healing journey🙏✨💖

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Рік тому

      @@yourinnerchildmatters thanks...means a lot to me!

  • @mulantisreunitingall888
    @mulantisreunitingall888 10 днів тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this very liberating, empowering, and helpful video message.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 днів тому

      I’m so glad you found the video empowering! It means a lot to hear that it resonated with you.bless you dear

  • @WorkingMan1177
    @WorkingMan1177 8 місяців тому +1

    Powerful truths!! 👊✌️❤️

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  8 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for watching and appreciating the truths shared in the video!

    • @WorkingMan1177
      @WorkingMan1177 8 місяців тому +1

      @@yourinnerchildmatters thank YOU for providing them! 😊

  • @awedub5540
    @awedub5540 Рік тому +7

    This man is teaching people how to be a sigma and how to be emotional intelligent

  • @vishaalbhatnagar3924
    @vishaalbhatnagar3924 Рік тому +13

    Simple. Brilliant. This man is amazing! Hats off to Dr. Mate.

  • @PatrickBiron-u2g
    @PatrickBiron-u2g 10 місяців тому +4

    Wow, iam 69yrs old. And just listened to this. Seriously I feel better now because I know what is wrong with me. But most of all i know it can be fixed. I will watch all your video teaching starting now. Thank you for my release from this. ❤

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖

  • @zovalentine7305
    @zovalentine7305 Рік тому +2

    Be yourself. Everyone else is taken 🤗

  • @emhooper7216
    @emhooper7216 Рік тому +15

    I love Dr Gabors work & it has arrived in perfect timing to help lift humanity, slowly but surely. We're ready now. I've no degree in the psychology world but a strong bond with the English language & I can hear the difference or feel the power btwn the use of compassionate and disempowering words/thoughts. Its way more than that of course & I have a lot of work to do on me. Thankyou ❤

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому

      Completely agree! Dr. Gabor's learning are truly transforming, and your connection between compassionate language and empowerment is profound. We're all on this path towards growth and enlightenment together. Your appreciation and commitment to personal improvement are inspirational. Continue to shine your light! ✨🌟 Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us! ❤️

  • @kylec1411
    @kylec1411 Рік тому +3

    Gabor is an amazing person and mind. Thank you good sir. This was helpful as a 10 year recovering cocaine addict now sober for 2 years your work has been a great help for me.

  • @allisonewens4036
    @allisonewens4036 11 місяців тому +1

    Healing is all about empowerment ❤

  • @EMGEE718
    @EMGEE718 10 місяців тому +1

    I love this man.. what a treasure to humanity.

  • @pentangle78
    @pentangle78 9 місяців тому +1

    I am deeply convinced that a person perceives my weaknesses, and for this reason they take advantage of it, by non respecting me

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It's never easy to feel taken advantage of, but remember that you deserve respect and kindness.

    • @pentangle78
      @pentangle78 9 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much@@yourinnerchildmatters 🙏

  • @cherxiong8064
    @cherxiong8064 11 місяців тому +1

    I hope and pray that the people who need this, will come across this video and be informed in all profound ways within them. Thank you.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖

  • @sayusayme7729
    @sayusayme7729 11 місяців тому +2

    Love this man and his teachings. A phenomenon he’s helped to create by redefining trauma, addiction & the brain. Whether neurodivergent or neurotypical, it’s possible to change abs implement true healing. Body mind & soul 🤍
    Introspection is beautiful non-perfection. 🧡

  • @3meandyou
    @3meandyou Рік тому +2

    What a teaching that I had the opportunity to hear understand and a personal growth

  • @NNLBC
    @NNLBC 11 місяців тому +2

    powerfull. my horses kinda forced me to reconnect to present moment and to react to it, it is healing

  • @ColargolPL
    @ColargolPL Рік тому +1

    A brilliant explanation of core Buddha's teachings :)

  • @jacendress7190
    @jacendress7190 Рік тому +2

    Aww Wow no words could ever express, so all I can say is, thank you ❤

  • @julietkeers2016
    @julietkeers2016 Рік тому +1

    Transformable - reconnect to ourselves. Thank you it’s really what the world needs now.

  • @leigh-anneobrien3299
    @leigh-anneobrien3299 Рік тому +1

    Brilliant. ... multi-generational, the function of society. YES. I thank you, Dr. Maté.

  • @CarrieAnnEckert-gs8ch
    @CarrieAnnEckert-gs8ch Рік тому +3

    This changed me and the way I think. I want to triple heart it. So many ah-ha moments. Thank you, Dr..Gabor Mate.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому

      Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts! It means everything to hear that this video made such a profound impact on you and helped you discover those 'ah-ha' moments. Dr. Gabor Mate's insight is truly transforming, and I'm happy that it resonated to you. Remember that growing as a person is a journey, and it's wonderful that you're open to change and self-reflection. Continue to welcome fresh perspectives and insights! 💖💖💖

    • @dianedugdale3126
      @dianedugdale3126 Рік тому

      ​@@yourinnerchildmatters9ihh

  • @larquinn1090
    @larquinn1090 Рік тому +3

    Very powerful talk🙏 wish everyone well who is struggling with what ever, like myself

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому

      Thank you so much for your positive comments. Remember that you are not alone in the challenges you face. On your journey, I wish you strength and positivity. We're all in it together. 💪❤️

  • @celestehogan5907
    @celestehogan5907 9 місяців тому +1

    I’m honored to see and hear all your views Dr GM on these urgent matters of the mind and heart …. I’ll keep listening. …..

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words! I appreciate your support, and I'm glad that you find value in my content. Keep listening, and I'll keep sharing content on these important topics! thanks again

  • @lets.7860
    @lets.7860 Рік тому +5

    I enjoyed listening as always! My take from this is , to ask what does it mean when something happened. That is my interpretation. It is painful to not blame but feel the pain. I rather feel the pain rather stay in the pain. Thank you for sharing his wisdom here with us.💕🕊

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much for your kind and heartfelt comments. It's wonderful to hear that you loved the video and got a meaningful message from it. Your perspective on "what does it mean when something happens" is profound, highlighting the necessity of seeking understanding and insight rather than assigning blame right away. Your willingness to embrace rather than avoid pain shows your strength and emotional intelligence. We grow and learn on a deeper level as a result of such moments of reflection and empathy.
      We feel grateful to have you as a member of our community, and we look forward to sharing more wisdom and insights with you in the future. 💕🕊️

  • @christinat56
    @christinat56 Рік тому +2

    Bingo❤❤❤I love your insight and the fact that we all have access to you through UA-cam as crazy as this world is…it makes me realize God really does work in mysterious ways.

  • @theophilusquaye7729
    @theophilusquaye7729 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you. Your word sounds practical. Keep on doing the good work.

  • @ianmack5068
    @ianmack5068 2 роки тому +6

    Great video ☺️ Thank you!

  • @JennyG.COW5
    @JennyG.COW5 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this message.
    There's definitely things we can learn from this as we learn to heal together! 😊❤️

  • @rickyperez1239
    @rickyperez1239 9 місяців тому +1

    Hi! I’ve watched a couple of these videos and they’re interesting. One of the issues and struggles that I have in my life and I’m going to therapy for is having walls. I have a hard time letting people get close to me and the moment someone starts to get close to me, I feel uncomfortable. I have a little bit of emotional detachment. As much as I push some people away deep down, I do desire a deep connection with someone

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому

      Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable and seek help. Keep working on yourself, and I'm sure you'll find that deep connection you're looking for. bless you and take care

  • @-quantumhealinghome31
    @-quantumhealinghome31 9 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for making these videos!

  • @semracalik3040
    @semracalik3040 Рік тому +2

    Many thanks and blessings

  • @cosmicmanifestation1111
    @cosmicmanifestation1111 11 місяців тому +4

    Soul medicine:
    1. meditation 2. deep belly breathing 3. authentic connections 4. sunrise 5. sunset 6. being present 7. hugs 8. nature 9. love 10. act of kindness 11. phone free time 12. gratitude 13. healing 14. laughter 15. deep inner soul nourishment 16. gratitude 17. creativity

  • @JSMN_DAILY
    @JSMN_DAILY 9 місяців тому +1

    Understanding your CORE wounds and working to reprogram your internal beliefs will alter your perception of reality greatly

  • @gunzrloaded
    @gunzrloaded 11 місяців тому +1

    I say one of the best things a person can do for mind,body and spirit is to do "Earthing" or some call it "Grounding"...!!!!
    Cheers....!!!!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  11 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

  • @PeaceIsWork
    @PeaceIsWork 9 місяців тому +2

    There’s no original self. We are made of different parts and we can choose which ones to identify with and which to heal and even develop and change

  • @mariaflynn4620
    @mariaflynn4620 9 місяців тому +1

    Wow!!! Powerful

  • @surindercheema5663
    @surindercheema5663 9 місяців тому +1

    Waheguru 🙏🙏 must hear

  • @bethanyvaughan334
    @bethanyvaughan334 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. This explains things for me. May God bless you 🙏

  • @pamwatkins4855
    @pamwatkins4855 11 місяців тому +1

    Right on, thankyou

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  11 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏

  • @anoniminpoezie8509
    @anoniminpoezie8509 Рік тому +1

    Life saving! Thank You!❤

  • @dannymeyer3256
    @dannymeyer3256 Рік тому +3

    Very good video really powerful insight.👍

  • @SimiManuja
    @SimiManuja Рік тому +2

    Beautifully explained 👏 ❤

  • @w.urlitzer1869
    @w.urlitzer1869 10 місяців тому +2

    7:59 actually that quote goes back much further in time: Shantideva 7-8th century.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      I appreciate you pointing that out! It's wonderful how wisdom can transcend time and continue to inspire us.thanks again, bless you

  • @aaronfaucett6442
    @aaronfaucett6442 Рік тому +1

    Perception is reality

  • @JennyG.COW5
    @JennyG.COW5 Рік тому +1

    Yesterday (Thanksgiving Day) morning, as I was imagining myself explaining to someone else about how I was able to get a feeding tube out of my own nose and that I was smiling and happy to be free from the GI food tubing device!
    I usually explain how after pulling out my GI tube for feeding my infant body, that my Parents had to take me to the doctors so they would put the tube back in my nose.
    When using a word to describe reinserting the GI tubing, the phrase, Put back in" is how my Mom would describe this experience whenever she shared me this story.
    (I also remember asking on occasion what happened about it, so I remember her using the word "Put", instead of a more forceful word. Though perhaps I don't remember.)
    Anyway, as I was sitting on my bed and imagining myself recounting this story about an experience I had as an infant, I remember a comment someone made about viewing themselves in a different light.
    Their husband encouraged them to view themselves as if they are seeing themselves as a child, and when they did, this different angle about themselves shifted their mindset from one of humor, to one of painful acknowledgement.
    So while pretending to have a discussion with someone, I thought I'd try to look at this scenario from my own words and viewpoint.
    As I was recounting this experience as my own words about myself, I imagined that I was talking about times when you are compliant for survival reasons, but that I chose to be a little rebellious in this situation when I pulled out the GI tubing!
    I then imagined myself telling this other person that the doctors needed to help reinsert the tubing.
    Next, I thought about telling them, slightly jokingly,
    "Well, they probably didn't just 'put' it in, because I was a baby at the time, I don't think I would have been as cooperative, since babies don't know how to cooperate and lie still.
    They (the medical staff) most likely had to hold me down and Shove it in!"
    While I really have had the experience with needing a tube down my nose to my stomach when I was older, I remember that I was more in control of swallowing and more aware of it happening (this was when I was in my 20's now.
    I think it was before an emergency operation for an intestinal blockage.
    Anyway, after imagining myself in the first person, as helpless infant, being re-forced into doing something that I most likely didn't want to have happen to me (Especially when I had gotten Victory over being Free from this tubing device!), it suddenly hit me....Hard!
    😶➡️💥
    And for the first time since hearing about this story, it became personal!
    This wasn't just a story about some poor kid who had to put up with this frustrating situation.
    This was Me!!! 😮
    After it suddenly dawned on me about this connection, I cried!
    😶➡️😮➡️💥➡️😭
    Learning about my Personal Experiences helped me realize that I most likely have more to discover/uncover before I can start healing and progressing.
    Thanks for sharing this message.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому

      Your comment touched me deeply, and I want to express my gratitude for your vulnerability in sharing such a personal journey. It takes incredible strength to reflect on our past experiences, especially those that involve moments of vulnerability and challenges. Your perspective on viewing oneself through the lens of a child is profound and brings a unique layer to the understanding of our own experiences. The realization that this story isn't just about someone else but about you, adds a powerful depth to it. I appreciate your willingness to share this part of your life and the emotional journey it stirred within you. It's incredible how revisiting our own past can bring new insights and opportunities for healing. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and your openness may resonate with others who are navigating their own paths of self-discovery and healing. If you ever feel like sharing more or seeking support, this community is here for you.
      I am sending you warm thoughts and encouragement on your ongoing journey of self-discovery and healing.

  • @yourinnerchildmatters
    @yourinnerchildmatters  Місяць тому

    Thank you for watching! 🌟 Healing is such a personal journey, and it’s amazing how shifting our mindset can open new doors to understanding ourselves better. I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences in the comments. What part of this video resonated with you the most? Let’s support each other on this journey. 💬 Don’t forget to share with anyone who might need this message! 🙏 #HealingJourney, #SelfDiscovery, #MindsetShift, #EmotionalHealing, #PersonalGrowth

  • @DayByeDayChristine
    @DayByeDayChristine Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this video ❤❤ ✨️

  • @Andy-yi2ot
    @Andy-yi2ot Рік тому +2

    Many thanks🙏and many blessings 🍀👍😊
    "Stopped by life"
    Conglomerated out of the mind of the Almighty and the heart of mother Earth
    From the energy that creates everything we can experience
    Tossed into the wastelands of this plane among other souls
    I forgot who I am because that was the condition of this existence
    I was stopped by this life too soon
    It painted me a false face of this world here
    I became a part of the masquerade without being aware of it
    I put on a mask and costume, blocking out the light
    I have gathered a lot of experiences because these were the guidelines
    Replace fear with love and do not let evil forces consume me
    I see it now, and I am glad that I remembered
    I thank the Almighty and mother Earth that they have not forgotten me

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      Your lovely words have a powerful impact! 🙏✨ Sending blessings and gratitude right back to you. 🍀💫 Continue to shine your light!😊👍

    • @Andy-yi2ot
      @Andy-yi2ot Рік тому

      @@yourinnerchildmatters
      Thank you🙏for your kind words👍😊🍀

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      @@Andy-yi2ot thank you too ❤🙏

  • @bryanjacob8059
    @bryanjacob8059 11 місяців тому

    Thank you

  • @nick8252
    @nick8252 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for sharing 🙏❤
    9:22

  • @dyingscreaming8728
    @dyingscreaming8728 Рік тому +6

    We don't respond to the present moment, we respond to the past 6:40

  • @patkelly4339
    @patkelly4339 Рік тому +3

    Even if the contractor did disrespect him, which could be the case from construction people I have met (hard men) it’s not the end of the world.
    I spent quite a bit of my life in sales and had to learn to move on when people were ‘not nice’.
    Fortunately most people if you treat them in a positive and friendly way will respond in a like manner.
    Someone being a jerk does not reflect on you….

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      You've absolutely got it! It is true that encounters with very difficult people are unavoidable, whether in the construction industry or any other field. What matters most is how we respond. Your sales expertise has taught you that treating people positively and politely typically results in a similar response.
      Remaining resilient in the face of difficulties demonstrates your character. As you noted, the actions of others do not define who you are. Your ability to rise above and keep professionalism defines you. Keep nurturing positive interactions, and allow the good feelings to spread through all aspects of your work. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!💫💕🙏

    • @patkelly4339
      @patkelly4339 Рік тому +1

      Cheers!!!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      @@patkelly4339 💖

  • @emmafinspirations6348
    @emmafinspirations6348 9 місяців тому +1

    All so v true

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому

      Thank you for your kind words! It means a lot to me that you found my video relatable and true.

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Рік тому +2

    I’d like to know his definition of “healing”. To me it means becoming or returning to a fully functional being. Idk how that could be possible for ppl with early and severe trauma ...your brain won’t let you forget. I think one can improve as I have done, but full recovery imo is not possible...at least not by my definition.

  • @anamariaalvimsouza6462
    @anamariaalvimsouza6462 11 місяців тому +1

    Option for Translation into Portuguese from Portugal, thank you

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  11 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏

  • @dekapwt5618
    @dekapwt5618 Рік тому

    Rasa Sakit Yg Terpendam Begitu Lama,Telah Membuahkan Rasa Sakit Yg Aku Sendiri Tidak Tau Mengapa & Mengapa...
    Selalu Dalam Keadaan ini Depresi, Trauma , Sulit Untuk Move'on ...😔
    Lemah Hanya Berenergi Saat Berbaring Saja....😔😔😔
    Tuhan Memberikan Kemudahan Atas Pekerjaanku Selama ini
    Running, Karena Dapat Aku Lakukan Dengan Berbaring....& Pekerjaan Tersebut Adalah Pekerjaan Yg Mudah Untukku....

  • @nuhaelkhatib1108
    @nuhaelkhatib1108 10 місяців тому +1

    I wonder what the reaction should be for ppl not respecting time in certain countries or cultures

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      Thank you for bringing up this thought-provoking question! It's important to discuss and understand different cultural perspectives on time. Let's open up a discussion and learn from each other's experiences.

  • @Themis33
    @Themis33 Рік тому +1

    Woah let's unbox that quote. It was too fast. Have to study it.

  • @zovalentine7305
    @zovalentine7305 Рік тому +1

    ❤ Gabor Mate MD PhD ❤

  • @deegirl6994
    @deegirl6994 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      Thank you! Cheers! have a wonderful day!💕🙏

    • @deegirl6994
      @deegirl6994 Рік тому

      @@yourinnerchildmatters thank you.

    • @deegirl6994
      @deegirl6994 Рік тому

      May i ask for a recommendation of one of Gabor Mate's books please? Something revolving around healing, trauma, changing subconsciously deeply ingrained beliefs, etc. Thank u.

    • @deegirl6994
      @deegirl6994 Рік тому

      @@yourinnerchildmatters hello, may i ask for a book recommendation of one of Gabor's books please? Thanls

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      @@deegirl6994 Get Gabor Maté’s books:
      📚The Myth of Normal: amzn.to/3UHiUeQ
      📚In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts:amzn.to/3YxFvO4
      ❤‍🩹Audible Gift Memberships: amzn.to/3WZp7Ey
      It goes deeply into healing, trauma, and the transformation of subconscious beliefs. Maté's thoughts are truly transforming; a must-read for everyone on a self-discovery path. "Enjoy your reading and healing!"💝💖

  • @thirdrockjul2224
    @thirdrockjul2224 Рік тому +1

  • @MissLori2010
    @MissLori2010 10 місяців тому +1

    Your “true self” does not need any “healing!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for your kind words! It's important to remember that we're all unique in our own ways and don't need any "fixing".

  • @Tammissa
    @Tammissa Рік тому

    I just want to heal from my trauma. I feel I need someone to tell me how. How do I get over the pain and fear? I want to but don’t know where to even start. A good therapist is way outta my financial range. So how do you do it? Where does one start?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +2

      Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts. It takes a lot of guts to reach out in a manner such as this. I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. While I am nurse but I am not a skilled counselor, I can provide some some suggestions to assist you begin the process of healing.
      🌿 Self-Compassion: Begin by being nice and understanding to yourself. Recognize that healing takes time and that it is normal to feel this way.
      🌿 Educate Yourself: Understanding trauma and its consequences can be liberating. There are plenty of internet tools, articles, and books available that can offer insights and techniques for coping.
      🌿 Mindfulness and Grounding: Mindfulness and grounding skills can help you stay present and deal with overwhelming emotions.
      🌿 Support Network: If possible, communicate in friends, family, or support groups. Connecting with individuals who have gone through similar experiences can be very comforting.
      🌿 Creative hobbies: Engaging in creative hobbies such as writing, sketching, or playing music can help you deal with your emotions.
      🌿 Routine and Structure: Creating a daily routine can provide you with a sense of stability and predictability in your life.
      🌿 Physical well-being can be improved through regular exercise, a well-balanced diet, and adequate sleep.
      🌿 Since you stated financial limits, look for online forums, free classes, or resources designed exclusively for trauma survivors.
      🌿 Journaling: Writing down your feelings and thoughts can help you process them over time.
      🌿 Professional Assistance: While counseling can be costly, some therapists provide sliding-scale prices, and other places have low-cost or free mental health clinics. You could look into neighborhood services or non-profit groups that offer mental health assistance.
      Remember that recovery is not a straight path, and it's fine to seek help along the way. Take small steps, be patient with yourself, and celebrate in your accomplishments. You're stronger than you realize, and your dedication to healing is an important beginning step. On your journey, I wish you strength and positivity💕🙏✨💖

    • @slated9
      @slated9 Рік тому

      I have a quote for you and it may sound weird at first. "Show, don't tell". Having the trauma still around, (I'm still healing from being gaslighted myself) in your head kind of traps you in a story or narrative. I suggest, and this will suck but it works, you relive the trauma BUT do not label your emotions that come up. FEEL them instead, note how your body feels. Don't just say your anxious, describe how your body feels anxious. focus on the sensations, and then forgive youself. Its fare to easy to beatyourself up with hindsight, you cannot blame youself for not having the wisdom you gained after the fact.

  • @margaretworthing8645
    @margaretworthing8645 10 місяців тому +1

    Your regret it when you come to life found what you lost even men in another department said your very good woman

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

  • @lubasamoluk8024
    @lubasamoluk8024 Рік тому +5

    Here is one crucial part missing in the picture of healing, and it's our Heavenly Father and Lord Jesus who died that we may become free and whole, and have peace, love and life eternal ❤😊

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Рік тому

      Not true for atheists.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +2

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's amazing how different beliefs may help us understand healing. 🙏✨

    • @dalmara17
      @dalmara17 Рік тому

      And who wass controlling the universe whilst he was died. If you say the father that means you have more than 1 God. Meaning you do not believe in 1 God.

    • @lubasamoluk8024
      @lubasamoluk8024 Рік тому +1

      @@dalmara17 Yes, the Father was:)
      There is one God in three divine persons, just like we are made with three components: spirit, soul and body.

  • @MB-sj1zd
    @MB-sj1zd 10 місяців тому

    Do it first!!! And i will rethink if i should give u a value 😂😂😂😂

  • @pp-1954
    @pp-1954 9 місяців тому +1

    I am still bleeding

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Рік тому +1

    I think what he means by healing is to process your trauma.

  • @RunaChakra-zf1id
    @RunaChakra-zf1id Рік тому +1

    No one should have to be apologetic about ones ethnicity. God chooses to incarnate in India multiple times. Racism really needs to addressed. People ignore because they don't value Indians. Only interested in what can be given to them.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      You are right! It's a beautiful thing to embrace our heritage and uniqueness. Let us unite against racism and appreciate India's rich heritage. 🙌🇮🇳✨

  • @dekapwt5618
    @dekapwt5618 Рік тому +1

    🙏🏻😔

  • @CM-uo5tq
    @CM-uo5tq 10 місяців тому +2

    He must have an amazing wife to be such a workalcoholic

  • @ItsSoarTime
    @ItsSoarTime Рік тому +1

    UNH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Рік тому

    On page 361 in the Myth, Gabor says "I do not define healing as an end state"...then on the following page he says "healing is best seen as an end in itself"...is this a misprint, or am I missing something...what?

    • @sonicheart8940
      @sonicheart8940 Рік тому +1

      What does it mean to be an end in itself?
      : something that one does because one wants to and not because it will help achieve or accomplish something else. (from dictionary).
      I believe Gabor is referring to healing as an ongoing process of aligning with a sense of wholeness.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Рік тому +1

      @@sonicheart8940 aligning with a sense of wholeness...sounds so new ageish.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Рік тому

      It sure does...

  • @jodisky25
    @jodisky25 Рік тому +1

    🌑✨🔥

  • @Anacuentacuentos
    @Anacuentacuentos 11 місяців тому +1

    School is disconnecting people. :(

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  11 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

  • @dhirendrasinghgehlot4565
    @dhirendrasinghgehlot4565 11 місяців тому

    They still didnt tell how to reconnect with oneself. How to reconnect???????

  • @ImranAli-tm3rq
    @ImranAli-tm3rq Рік тому

    Ok...what if you messed up, and now it's too late to go back and fix things...how about then? What self talk do you give then?

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Рік тому

    What do u mean "heal ur true self"? The self isn't true, or it wouldn't need healing...right?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      Good question! 'Heal your true self' refers to the psychological and personal growth process in which we attempt to connect our behaviors and ideas with our authentic views and goals. While the concept of'self' can be difficult to understand the goal is to treat emotional wounds and bad patterns, allowing us to live more genuinely and positively. 🌱🌟

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Рік тому

      This takes a lifetime...ik, bc I'm old and am still working on issues.

  • @gersonsimon4283
    @gersonsimon4283 Рік тому

    Dr. Mate, do you think you could reach me and help me? Im in a profund state of sadness and depressed...Im running out of steam.................I need help

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      Good day there, I'm truly sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time. Remember, you are not alone in this. Consider reaching out to a trustworthy friend or family member, as well as seeking professional assistance. There are people out there who are concerned about your well-being, and you are not alone on this journey. Take small steps toward healing, and remember that it is acceptable to seek help. Sending you warmth and strength during this tough time💖🌻🌹💕🤗

    • @gersonsimon4283
      @gersonsimon4283 Рік тому

      Yo
      you are a good man, I'm in Vancouver, west 21st 600 block, coud I invit you for a cup of coffee?...I would really appreciatte, if you prefer not to, I would understand, God Bless you!@@yourinnerchildmatters

  • @annastone5624
    @annastone5624 Рік тому +7

    I think the phrase ‘seeing oneself as a victim’ is so so over-used and often just plain incorrect, implying that that perception is wrong, but many people are terribly victimised..so they are correct they are victims.
    I think he would be better to use..the terms helpless or powerless ..
    People can’t see what they could possibly do to escaped their circumstances.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +3

      Certainly, your point is well taken. The terminology used to describe these challenging circumstances is important. While the phrase "seeing oneself as a victim" may be overused, it is important to recognize that many people are truly victims of their circumstances. In other circumstances, the labels "helpless" and "powerless" may be more realistic, emphasizing the lack of options and means to escape their situation. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Appreciated 💖💗

    • @annastone5624
      @annastone5624 Рік тому +4

      Yes I’d like to almost ban that phrase ‘thinking like a victim’.. who uses the phrase most? Narcissistic abusers..
      ..many victims have not only been profoundly victimized, but a major part of their abuse has also been, being told they are over-sensitive and ‘thinking like a victim’ when they try to stop the abuse or express their pain.
      I think Maté has an excellent understanding of general trauma, but he doesn’t really understand or talk about narcissistic abuse.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Рік тому

      Exactly, ppl over the yrs often told me to stop being a victim..it is a stupid and direspectful thing to say.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Рік тому +1

      @@annastone5624 ...nor does he speak about psychopaths...thats cuz he's not a shrink.

    • @Xtine72
      @Xtine72 11 місяців тому +1

      ⁠@@annastone5624I understand what you’re saying and agree that in this context, it’s not a good choice of words. But it’s a generalization and no matter what phrase is chosen, someone will feel hurt or offended. I’ve been a victim of a narcissist. But I chose not to be a victim of Dr. Maté’s choice of words here…. Knowing full well that that is NOT what he intended. I hope you are well and can see the nuance there ❤

  • @ultravioletpisces3666
    @ultravioletpisces3666 6 місяців тому +1

    I’m confused because I like Gabor but if I paid someone to fix things and I got back and they weren’t fixed I would be mad, NOT because I’m thinking I’m not worthy but because it’s not done. This is a very weird take imo.

  • @stoneem5387
    @stoneem5387 Рік тому

    I'm sure you only meant that atba figure of spea h

  • @dekapwt5618
    @dekapwt5618 Рік тому

    CCTV... Can't Exspress Myself
    😔😔😔😔

  • @jolhdj
    @jolhdj 10 місяців тому

    where is the how to in this video ? i guess you font get that ftom a 7 minute video . im sick of myself truly . i feel like i cant even go out because ive been so misjudged lately . im just a traumatised person like everyone else .

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Рік тому +1

    I think the word "heal" is thrown around too much. It gives ppl the wrong impression. One can improve, maybe improve a lot, but there will always be remnants of trauma. The body remembers.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      Healing is not about erasing the past, but rather embracing growth and progress despite the scars of our history. It's a journey of self-discovery and resilience.Thank you for sharing this insight. 🙏✨💖

    • @mb19873
      @mb19873 Рік тому

      ​@@yourinnerchildmattersI am 67, female, and my husband passed away 2 months ago. I thought I had healed from childhood, until now. Fear and rejection has been the theme, which were constant in all of my childhood.

  • @stoneem5387
    @stoneem5387 Рік тому

    You say going to hell of heaven really try stepping outta the separation you won't know matee

  • @joycegoes266
    @joycegoes266 Рік тому

    Jaante ho jab Mera baccha hoga tab muje mere bacche mein school daalna boring sa lagta Hai. Muje school life kya Hai nahi Pata.

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Рік тому

    He talks too fast...before I have a chance to decide if I agree, he is on to the next thing. Overall, I have the impression he simplified a very complex issue.

  • @stoneem5387
    @stoneem5387 Рік тому

    Truth the persiparion with ADHD examples are fair but your wrong about understanding where we are something you have forgotten too wake up too and all that is build on earth Carl Sagan would be watching you sitting in a blue dot

  • @tanij.3404
    @tanij.3404 Рік тому

    ♥🥹 That "higher part" of me loves me very much, even though I (or my ego) am terrible sometimes... ;-)

  • @instanta2693
    @instanta2693 Рік тому +9

    Tears are just rolling down. Gabor is a gift to humankind. We all are and he lives like a gift. Thank you Gabor. This was heart opening! ❤

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful thoughts! 😢💖 Gabor has a special knack of reaching people's hearts and motivating them. We are very glad to have him as a member of our community, and comments like yours remind us of the huge impact that he has. Let us keep spreading love and gratitude together. 🌟💕

    • @instanta2693
      @instanta2693 Рік тому +1

      @@yourinnerchildmatters♥️I’m having such profound realizations during these past couple of days I’ve listened to him. Almost like being broken up from within…and I’ve been in therapy off and on for a decade. Thank you for sharing his knowledge with the world.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time to share your meaningful experience with us. It's wonderful to hear that you've had such profound insights while listening to the contents on our channel. The right words at the right moment may have a significant effect on our lives at times, and it appears that you've discovered that. It's also encouraging to hear that you're still open to growth and self-discovery after many years of treatment. Remember that personal development and healing are continual journeys, and that each step you take takes you closer to your best self. We are grateful to have you as a member of this community and are overjoyed that this information is resonating with you. We can continue to encourage and inspire one another on this great pathway of self-discovery and progress if we work together.
      Best wishes on your journey to personal improvement! 💫

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому

      @@instanta2693 I'm very touched to hear how thes teachings have impacted you. profound understanding can be both challenging and transformative. It's wonderful to know that the advice provided here resonated with you. Thank you for your kind words and for being part of this adventure. 🙏💫❤‍🩹

  • @AryaArya-rc2bu
    @AryaArya-rc2bu 10 місяців тому +1