Imagine, instead of faceless quotes, that someone was actually saying these things to your face everyday. Instead of hearing things that boost your confidence, make you feel worthy and appreciated, you hear: 1. You're boring, travel more 2. Sure you might think your life is fun but what is really fun is drink, drugs and rock n roll. 3. You haven't lived until you've skydived. Or been on that swing in Bali. Or been on a yacht. Or impressed the world in some way. If a person was saying these things to you, you would deem them manipulative. These quotes are no different. They exist to manipulative you into thinking you're just not good enough, but maybe if you spend more money and disrespect your values, you might be.
I constantly feel like I’m not doing enough every day yet I don’t have the motivation to make the most out of each day, which then means I’m not able to live life to the fullest.
I feel this so hard omg. I’m the type to want to live every day as if it was my last but then I get tired so easily and I just end up giving myself a break for a couple hours. I think it’s important to have the desire to want to live life to the fullest but also reminding yourself that you don’t have to stress about fulfilling that 24/7.
I would suggest you read a book by Timothy Gallwey called the inner game of music. I think it will help you separate out the more critical part of yourself that sends you the often too loud and wrong message that too many people hear and too often listen to. I think meditation and/or sitting in quiet will also help you quiet your inner critic who is usually claiming we never do quite enough. When what most of us often need is more down-time.
I adore this video. I just started learning about working on decentering romantic relationships and romanticism and appreciating simple things like a morning breeze. I’m completely off social media and I am the most content I’ve been in years. Absolutely love this video, you talk about so many necessary ideas and concepts. Thank you
Well Lana, all the things you mentioned as being “epic” are temporary activities. So a person that needs those things feels like there is something lacking in their life until the next time they do something epic. Truly living to me is enjoying the present moment with gratitude, as it is, not looking at it as if the moment has something lacking.......because it doesn’t. Joy does not come from some activity external from yourself, it comes from within you. That’s why doing something that is considered mundane by most, is not mundane for a person that is joyful no matter what they are doing. Funny that you mentioned divorces because relationships are basically the same idea. People believe they are incomplete without being in a relationship with someone. But you are a complete person. You are looking for another complete person. You want to mutually extract joy from each other.........if you look to another person to fill a void you believe you have, no person will ever be found to fulfill everything you feel is lacking in yourself. You have to look inward first, at yourself first. If someone tells you that you “complete” them, run away. 😊
Your message is impressive. I would add that simply being alive is epic ! For as strange as it may seem, it is abnormal to be alive afterall. Death is normal. We should be more aware as to how exceptional life is !
I would agree with everything except the part that so thoughtlessly advised that we should run away from people who say we complete them. I get what you are trying to say, but I disagree. Firstly, what constitutes a complete person? What is a complete person? From my understanding, most people are absolutely incomplete, indeed foolishly seeking something external to satisfy great needs and turmoil, longings of their spirit. However that said, not *everything* we seek comes from the inside, and while it is dangerous and sad to put the totality of your happiness and existence in one person, a partner has a big role and they can "complete" a part of you that they are meant to, which is not to say you will be complete, in my eyes. Just that they are fullfiling their role as your significant other. Even Plato himself said opposites attract because lovers themselves are attracted to someone opposite of them, precisely attracted to qualities they themselves don't have, so that the company of the other may cause us to learn and attain said qualities we do not have, that they may "rub off" onto us. At the most basic level, this is masculine seeking the feminine and vice versa. Still, even if none of this is part of what someone means when they say "you complete me", it does not absolutely as a rule have to have negative connotations. It probably signals codependence and lack of internal insight, but may also simply express deep appreciation and gratitude. Or both. That is absolutely not something that should be a decisive factor in whether you "run" from someone or not. The emoji at the end of your post made it seem wholly insincere and snarky.
I think sometimes we are seeking “reasons” to feel content... We are indoctrinated to think we NEED a reason! One can simply decide to be content or happy or fully present and alive ✨ But then, there would not be as much consumption... ☺️🤗💕✨
The concepts of "achievement" and "success" and "epic" RUINED my mental health between 18 and 31 years old. It wasn't until a stress-induced epileptic fit and breaking my shoulder in the process caused me to STOP. No more stress. No jealousy. No more aspiring for the impossible and hating myself for not achieving it. A "normal" life is perfect. But to allow that is to be mentally well through acceptance. So so important for relationships and a fulfilling life.
A very long time ago I decided to not post anything about my life on social media. Who am I dating - who knows? Where am I going - who knows? What am I eating - that everyone knows! 🤣 makes life so personal and only mine!
I feel like sometimes the older we get the less wonder we feel at doing something "ordinary" which is a little sad. About a month or so back, I remember sitting in a train and it was one of those rare times that I didn't have my eyes glued to my phone since my phone battery had died. For a while, I was just zoning out and then a memory of train rides I used to take with my family suddenly just hit me- and it's funny because taking a train just seems like such a mundane everyday activity now but when I was little, it was pretty cool to me- getting to travel halfway across the island, getting to peer at interesting passengers. I wonder if maybe as we grow bigger, the world just feels smaller and things that were fun just end up seeming boring, so we end up chasing the bigger, better and brighter.
I wish I could like this video 2937168182 times😩 I just asked the universe for a sign about this topic specifically since it was on my mind for a while with many different questions then I got my answers through you, I'm beyond grateful, thank you🤍
Ordinary lives are fairy tales that we take for granted. The sun that rises and splashes gold rays across the sky, the stars that gleam at night so distant and bright, the ripples of ocean water, that reach beyond our sight and imagination. These things I have seen, experienced, and I am no more than an ordinary human...
The definition of ordinary may be different for different people...We know what is best for us so we should not spend time comparing our lives with others and think that our life is not ordinary or otherwise...I truly believe that being ordinary will make you live an extraordinary life 🙂
Living life to the fullest can be different for everyone. Remember that Instagram is someone's highlight reel, they are showing their best moments and not every single moment they live might be their best.
If you like Stoner, I’d be really curious to hear what you think of Ethan Frome by Edith Wharton. Have you read that novel? Ethan Frome lives an extremely ‘boring’ life, which becomes defined by his own inaction. His inability to take action and make decisions drive the entire plot. Although the story is very ‘sad’, even depressing, the story of Ethan Frome has stuck with me!
I'm so bored of life right now! I wish I could go to sleep and never wake up. I wouldn't KMS. I didn’t ask to be born and now I have to live until I die I think about this concept literally every single day of my life, the fact that I did not ask to be born and that I was born to two people who were definitely not meant to be parents. And now, because of their recklessness and poor decision making I must continue to live my meaningless life. This doesn’t sit well with me. Now, I can either suffer through life until I’m elderly and pass away or off myself which I also don’t feel like doing. I just feel very tired and that everything I am doing is pointless and unimportant and I wish I had just never been born because my birth was equally as pointless...
I think this video in some way related to a Disney film called "Soul". The movie basically telling us that the purpose of life is to enjoy little things around us but we end up with this twisted construct that we need to work hard, make a lot of money, and achieve higher in life. People always telling us to find our own purpose but really that is what makes us lose our own "spark" :) It such an amazing movie for people in their 20s and if you haven't watched it you should!
Exactly! I’m 22 and living with my parents and society and people around me make it seem like it’s such a loser thing to do. Instead, I am being grateful for a supportive family and trying to be content with all that I have
@@dentaladdict98 that feels so different to hear for me. Because that's what the western culture is. In the east it's pretty normal to live with your parents at that age. And people are oke with it. So it really depends on your enviroment and those believes are just subjective.
Society makes us think that the only way to “live your best life” is by skydiving, expensive vacations, or winning the lottery. It makes us feel like we never have enough, and we need those things to be happy. The real way to “live your best life” is by seeing the beauty in everyday moments. Only then do you see the magic of life.
I never NEVER comment on anything on the internet, but MY GOD, for the first time I feel normal !! I am Brazilian and I identify with this girl so much. The calm way of speaking, not shouting forcing spontaneity, the reflections ... I don't believe there were people like me, I wouldn't feel so strange if I met her before
Há muita gente como nós nesse mundo, tu só tens que olhar ao teu redor. Na verdade, introvertidos ( estou assumindo que tu sejas introvertida também ) sempre foram uma parte importante na sociedade : cientistas, filósofos, artistas, etc. O mundo atual é um desafio maior ainda para quem não se enquadra nesse perfil de sucesso a todo custo, fama e ostentação. Congrats on your English, it's very fluid!
“Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives. Such striving may seem admirable, but it is the way of foolishness. Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life. Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples and pears. Show them how to cry when pets and people die. Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand. And make the ordinary come alive for them. The extraordinary will take care of itself.” - William Martin
@@hannahh8119 How do you stop comparing? Turn your attention inward instead of outward. Get clear on what is important to you (i.e. values clarification) and get clear on what does not make you happy. Be mindful (all you have to do is notice the thought and redirect). Be intentional.
Not many thought that their life was "boring" before social media. That was just life. We have stopped giving value to the mundane and simple human experiences, and just continue to seek the so-called "awesome experiences". Watching Yes Theory is great. But thinking that they are living an amazing life and you're just living a boring one is wrong.
On the same token, allow that discomfort to be there. If people see their life as boring when compared to social media, they should ask themselves if they truly have a need that has been left unmet. Maybe they realize that they have not taken a vacation in a long time, so they see pretty pictures of a tropical destination and feel like their daily routine is dull. Perhaps, they are stressed and burnt out. Now, rather than resenting those who made the posts, they can either switch things up at home or save up for a (small) trip to add some variety. Give yourself permission to reflect on the nature of your thoughts and feelings and bring your attention inward. If you are perfectly content with everyday experiences, no one is shaming you for not having an adventure-packed trip every weekend. Use your reaction as a guide to what deeper beliefs or desires lurk beneath the surface of your conscious mind.
I was at the airport one day. Everyone, literally, including kids were immersed in their phones, I was the only one, alone sitting on a bench doing nothing, calmly waiting for my flight's boarding. They were all looking at me as if I was abnormal. What do they know about me? Nothing. Infact, they need to realise that I'm not addicted to my phone, it's under my control. I'm not boring, or feel bored so easily, I THINK a LOT of good thoughts!
I don't want success,,,,bcz I have no one to show my success or inspire...... I just want to have a decent career and travel the world. Is this all really holds any meaning ???
I just realized. Sometimes I watch movies and get a little sad because things start to change. I want to see how the character lives their normal life in their normal room. Sometimes I don’t even care about the climax. Maybe that’s why I enjoy your channel so much. It’s very calming. I don’t have to worry about extremes with you. The volume is low. You always have the same makeup and hair, the background stays the same and the topics are consistent. The way you talk is also calming. Thank you for encouraging me to think about this
@Lana Blakely : Happy New Year 🎉💐. Sorry to hear about your Insta account, try to visit the website. I hope it would be reactivated again!😊✌️🤞💜 help.instagram.com/contact/606967319425038
This is so important and a lot of people don't realize it. I alternate between a slow-paced life and a lot of travel/'epicness' and I can definitely say that neither brings more or less joy. You may get an adrenaline rush, but believe it or not, the novelty wears off after awhile. True happiness and contentment only comes when you are present, grateful, and fully immersed in an experience. Whether it's skydiving or playing with your dog.
We've also totally forgotten about the marvel of our lives right now! In a day, I woke up in the morning in a bed, with a roof over my head, came downstairs where I could enjoy a coffee with my parents and brothers and ate my breakfast in front of the TV. For some people these are not things they are able to experience. Equally, here we are enjoying this video from all corners of the planet at the same time. In years gone by, these things weren't even POSSIBLE! That's AMAZING! ✨
Yes!! All these things that go over our heads (no pun intended) are things we take for granted and sometimes we don’t realize others would kill to have what we have.
"I'm going to go put on that boring ass Harry Potter soundtrack now, water my boring ass plants, and have an ordinary ass cup of coffee" i love this so much
When I think of 'live life to the fullest' , I think about my dad. He passed away this year at 55, he had a severe blood disorder called haemophilia that caused joint pain, bruising, internal pain and bleeding and a lot of hardship from when he was a baby. When he died I got so many messages from people he knew telling me all of the kind things he had done for them (I had no idea). He would do favours for his elderly customers even when his business was not doing great. It is hard to even have and maintain a family or a business that includes physical labour with this kind of disease, and somehow he did all of this, I didn't even really understand the absolute severity of what he had to live with until it was too late. He never really complained. I had never seen him walk straight my whole life but I thought it was totally normal for him to be climbing roofs. He taught me to go for everything I wanted and he is the reason I don't get scared when I am challenged. There was no fear in his eyes when he died. I know he died young but I honestly feel like in his life, with his condition he achieved so much. His dream was to have an 'ordinary' life and I didn't even realise how much it took for him to achieve that until he was gone.
I'm so moved by this comment. I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your father was an incredible human being, and I'm so glad you get to keep that memory of him! I truly appreciate you sharing this.
It's funny because I just had this conversation with a friend the other day. I told her how I never feel bored. Like never. Even when I'm doing absolutely nothing at all. I'm happy with that. I never allow the pressures of society to make me feel as though I need to accomplish a million things, go a million places or possess a million things in order to fulfill myself or to feel complete. I show and teach my children to appreciate the littlest things. Gratitude. I am too an introvert. I am also an only child and I've found that social platforms do have a tendency to falsely influence your sense of contentment within yourself. So that is why for about 2+ years now, I only have a UA-cam account. I've never really cared what others think of me and would never allow myself to follow others since very young. So deleting my accounts have been the best thing that could happen to my inner peace. And I don't miss it. 😊
What do you do for work? I wondering because most jobs require tech or the use of social apps. Iid like to live like this but im looking for a job to match.
While I feel kind of called out as most of what I´m doing is "trying to live an epic life" I really love the thoughts and couldnt agree more. Everything is relative and a matter of perspective
There's that idea of "having a lot of things to impress people" that is generally criticized with "experiences are more valuable than things" or "creating exciting memories", but at the end they produce the same result, it seems. So now we may not worry about material stuff, but we can't stop thinking about how boring our lifes are and how we should be living more like X or Y person. That "exciting life", the traveling and "experiences" became the new "material things", now that is in some sense the product that we're constantly seeking to impress people.
I respect so much more the people who don’t post everything they do, who live life and enjoy the little things for them and no one else. I have big dreams but not to live a fast paced, swimming-with-sharks kind of life, I think there is something so magical in just going slowly and thoughtfully ❤️ Thank you Lana you are awesomeness
Yes, and I envy those who are rooted to a place and a community. Those who can claim a neighbourhood....and possibly know the name of the bus driver who drives them to work everyday because ---the town is small and its the same driver--same shift everyday....
I spent my single 20’s always having to be somewhere, doing something, going to every event. Now in my late 40’s I get more happiness from laughing at my husbands jokes or seeing my kids’ smiling faces when I wake up. No way would I trade the peace and happiness from a slower paced life to go back. As always love to hear your perspectives Lana.
Beautifully expressed!! Yes, that has been the experience of many around me as well... including myself!! Part of the journey i am guessing to start being real and true to ourselves 🤩🤗✨
Why would instagram deactivate her account. She is a person who is just trying and making other peoples life better with her golden content #bringlanablakelyback
@@thevaidik_ I think it's more likely some bitter trolls reported her account as porn since IG has been doing a clean up recently and you know, any woman taking pictures is for sure an IG nude model ...
@@lullatstars this incident is happening to many. There is a girl in germany speaking against refugee crises and her account were disabled for so called "hate speech". And there is a another account "Biden thinks". This account was labelled as a joke, satire account because it posted something against him. I am definitely not a trump supporter. But censorship at this level makes no sense
"Here I was, sitting in my small kitchen with my morning coffee, listening to Harry Potter soundtracks, feeling perfectly content." This sounds amazing to me. I think when we learn to value everydayness, the ordinary becomes extraordinary, a scaffolding around which to build a deeply satisfying life. Happy New Year!
Thank you for this Lana🙇🏻♂️ I often feel pressured from these "live your life to the fullest", which mostly imply I should travel or such, while I'm alive, because my life could end any time. I especially get a bed feeling from those when working - I spend a lot of time editing my videos (you know how long this takes) and often begin questioning my activities and goals when encountering these messages. You helped me feel less guilty about living my not so extraordinary life :)
To me living an “ordinary life” helps me find inner peace. Being appreciative of everything I have, and living in the right here, right now is so calming!
I was constantly chasing something, constantly chasing something I didn't had, rushing... But now, I am starting to be more content with a peaceful, calm lifestyle. No rush, working from home, traveling here and there to see my closest people when this situation calms down, reading, writing, journaling, playing video games... Having a peaceful, calm life feels much better than that constant rush I had couple of years back. I guess slowing down feels good, to breathe deeply, to slow down and see what's around me, just to be in tune with how I feel. As always Lana, thank you for what you are doing, really, and thank you for being you. :) As an INFJ, I understand you... I so so hope your IG account is back, I def miss seeing your content there... :(
Beautifully expressed Marco! We are trained early on to be chasing! Glad you have made your own choices! That is epic: choosing to be in tune with how you feel ✨
I can relate to this video 100%. I was told many times that what I view as challenges are sort-of "boring" as it would always involve my quiet activities rather than traveling the world, go for adventure sports etc. Initially I thought I'm not good enough, especially not enough to share my stories on Internet but after a while I realized this makes me who I am and I don't have to fit in for anything. So, thank you Lana, you're one of them who helped me to shift my perspective, to just be myself!
I don't know about others but my heart feels at home when watching You. I feel sometimes behind in life constantly trailing over things. But your channel feels like I can relax for a moment that I can actually breathe and stop and just perceive for a while
Jag kom till din kanal idag bara för att få reda på vad den boken som du jämt pratar om kallas för (kunde inte komma på titeln...) jag såg den nya videon, clickade på den, och fick informationen jag var ut efter ändå! Och bästa delen... boken har översatts till svenska! Jag köper den nu, tack Lana!
awesome video. thank you. be the observer & the observed. smell the flowers along the way. on need to compare when content. i feel like im getting a hug from you...thank you. dave in india, living the simple life in an extra ordinary sorta way.
The "epic" life was never for me. It makes you lost in the chase of the next big thing when the biggest thing in your life is simply: your life... It`s amazing how much there is to explore in our own hearts and soul, that we usually decide to look over.
I've found that when I'm traveling, the sites I see just don't compare to my beautiful home, (Oregon, USA), so instead of spending all my money on long distance trips, I have been content to explore the sites around me. It isn't as fancy as my friends trips, but I am happy.
I love this topic so so much. I made a promise to myself a few years ago on enjoying all ALL the little things. It has been very difficult(specially living in this chaotic world where nothing is enough) however I am grateful to always have that voice in my head (I call it my "inner child") that reminds me what its really life about.
Man, I have been thinking about the same topic for the last 3 days. The culturescape has certainly skewed our perspective on what we consider a 'happening' life!
The poem that you read in the middle of the video reminded me of my mother. She was very much the kind of woman who pointed out the extraordinary in the ordinary. She taught me how rich every day life is. I’ve always appreciated that.
Honestly, I realized, with this video, how socials can have an impact on how we feel in life. I thought that life was about exploring the world and making a big impact on society but in reality it’s not only that. It’s also about enjoying the small moments, those moments that might seem boring but that make our life complete!
This is how I choose an avocado: "Let's try sqeezing this avocado. Nah... this one's not right... But... I already sqeezed the avocado, so it's my fault if nobody takes it... Taking you home little guy!"
I think the day I find a girl/woman/wife like you, I could speak or listen to her all day, if she had your soothing voice, she could even help me sleep 😂
“Sometimes happiness looks like staying at home, minding your business, telling people NO, and doing you.” ✨
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exactly!!!
I love this! Thank you for sharing 😊
That's true.
Yup yup!
This is so true, 2020 really showed me how to love the ordinary. Suddenly a walk in the park and seeing the sun set became my most treasured memories
Imagine, instead of faceless quotes, that someone was actually saying these things to your face everyday.
Instead of hearing things that boost your confidence, make you feel worthy and appreciated, you hear:
1. You're boring, travel more
2. Sure you might think your life is fun but what is really fun is drink, drugs and rock n roll.
3. You haven't lived until you've skydived. Or been on that swing in Bali. Or been on a yacht. Or impressed the world in some way.
If a person was saying these things to you, you would deem them manipulative. These quotes are no different. They exist to manipulative you into thinking you're just not good enough, but maybe if you spend more money and disrespect your values, you might be.
exactly!
I constantly feel like I’m not doing enough every day yet I don’t have the motivation to make the most out of each day, which then means I’m not able to live life to the fullest.
i feel this comment a lot. although, everyday i try more and more to live in the present and not worry about other things i can be doing :)
This is totally me.
You're good enough 😉💕. You do enough 🤗. You should take a break and rest every so often to recharge, so you'll be able to continue 😊.
I feel this so hard omg. I’m the type to want to live every day as if it was my last but then I get tired so easily and I just end up giving myself a break for a couple hours. I think it’s important to have the desire to want to live life to the fullest but also reminding yourself that you don’t have to stress about fulfilling that 24/7.
I would suggest you read a book by Timothy Gallwey called the inner game of music. I think it will help you separate out the more critical part of yourself that sends you the often too loud and wrong message that too many people hear and too often listen to.
I think meditation and/or sitting in quiet will also help you quiet your inner critic who is usually claiming we never do quite enough.
When what most of us often need is more down-time.
I adore this video. I just started learning about working on decentering romantic relationships and romanticism and appreciating simple things like a morning breeze. I’m completely off social media and I am the most content I’ve been in years. Absolutely love this video, you talk about so many necessary ideas and concepts. Thank you
Pleasures are temporary.
“Let us come alive to the splendor that is all around us and see the beauty in ordinary things.” - Thomas Merton
Your videos are like ASMR, sooo calm and good to watch
Well Lana, all the things you mentioned as being “epic” are temporary activities. So a person that needs those things feels like there is something lacking in their life until the next time they do something epic.
Truly living to me is enjoying the present moment with gratitude, as it is, not looking at it as if the moment has something lacking.......because it doesn’t. Joy does not come from some activity external from yourself, it comes from within you. That’s why doing something that is considered mundane by most, is not mundane for a person that is joyful no matter what they are doing.
Funny that you mentioned divorces because relationships are basically the same idea.
People believe they are incomplete without being in a relationship with someone. But you are a complete person. You are looking for another complete person.
You want to mutually extract joy from each other.........if you look to another person to fill a void you believe you have, no person will ever be found to fulfill everything you feel is lacking in yourself. You have to look inward first, at yourself first.
If someone tells you that you “complete” them, run away. 😊
Thank you for this, very inspiring 💕
Well said
Such a wholesome comment
Your message is impressive. I would add that simply being alive is epic ! For as strange as it may seem, it is abnormal to be alive afterall. Death is normal. We should be more aware as to how exceptional life is !
I would agree with everything except the part that so thoughtlessly advised that we should run away from people who say we complete them. I get what you are trying to say, but I disagree. Firstly, what constitutes a complete person? What is a complete person? From my understanding, most people are absolutely incomplete, indeed foolishly seeking something external to satisfy great needs and turmoil, longings of their spirit. However that said, not *everything* we seek comes from the inside, and while it is dangerous and sad to put the totality of your happiness and existence in one person, a partner has a big role and they can "complete" a part of you that they are meant to, which is not to say you will be complete, in my eyes. Just that they are fullfiling their role as your significant other.
Even Plato himself said opposites attract because lovers themselves are attracted to someone opposite of them, precisely attracted to qualities they themselves don't have, so that the company of the other may cause us to learn and attain said qualities we do not have, that they may "rub off" onto us. At the most basic level, this is masculine seeking the feminine and vice versa.
Still, even if none of this is part of what someone means when they say "you complete me", it does not absolutely as a rule have to have negative connotations. It probably signals codependence and lack of internal insight, but may also simply express deep appreciation and gratitude. Or both. That is absolutely not something that should be a decisive factor in whether you "run" from someone or not. The emoji at the end of your post made it seem wholly insincere and snarky.
I think sometimes we are seeking “reasons” to feel content... We are indoctrinated to think we NEED a reason! One can simply decide to be content or happy or fully present and alive ✨
But then, there would not be as much consumption... ☺️🤗💕✨
The concepts of "achievement" and "success" and "epic" RUINED my mental health between 18 and 31 years old. It wasn't until a stress-induced epileptic fit and breaking my shoulder in the process caused me to STOP. No more stress. No jealousy. No more aspiring for the impossible and hating myself for not achieving it.
A "normal" life is perfect. But to allow that is to be mentally well through acceptance. So so important for relationships and a fulfilling life.
Thank you for sharing this. 🙏🏼
@@ssjgara You're welcome. In my plight I've acquired wisdom, at least.
A very long time ago I decided to not post anything about my life on social media. Who am I dating - who knows? Where am I going - who knows? What am I eating - that everyone knows! 🤣 makes life so personal and only mine!
I feel like sometimes the older we get the less wonder we feel at doing something "ordinary" which is a little sad. About a month or so back, I remember sitting in a train and it was one of those rare times that I didn't have my eyes glued to my phone since my phone battery had died. For a while, I was just zoning out and then a memory of train rides I used to take with my family suddenly just hit me- and it's funny because taking a train just seems like such a mundane everyday activity now but when I was little, it was pretty cool to me- getting to travel halfway across the island, getting to peer at interesting passengers. I wonder if maybe as we grow bigger, the world just feels smaller and things that were fun just end up seeming boring, so we end up chasing the bigger, better and brighter.
I wish I could like this video 2937168182 times😩
I just asked the universe for a sign about this topic specifically since it was on my mind for a while with many different questions then I got my answers through you, I'm beyond grateful, thank you🤍
Don't undersestimate fascination of the mundane....so true
Ordinary lives are fairy tales that we take for granted. The sun that rises and splashes gold rays across the sky, the stars that gleam at night so distant and bright, the ripples of ocean water, that reach beyond our sight and imagination. These things I have seen, experienced, and I am no more than an ordinary human...
It may be irrelevant but you are beautiful. And capable to lift yourself as well as us up. Thank you ❤️
Your Hair is soooooo Beautiful !!!
The definition of ordinary may be different for different people...We know what is best for us so we should not spend time comparing our lives with others and think that our life is not ordinary or otherwise...I truly believe that being ordinary will make you live an extraordinary life 🙂
Living life to the fullest can be different for everyone. Remember that Instagram is someone's highlight reel, they are showing their best moments and not every single moment they live might be their best.
@Romain Mercier wow that's a really interesting way to see it! thanks for sharing this analogy
I am glad that I find smart people on the Internet
It's actually really hard to have an ordinary lyfe
Picking an ugly tomato because you feel sorry about it? Totally me
It doesn't matter what you do in life. I hope that you're happy, whatever you decide to do :)
Yes. We all like our own taste and knowing ourselves is half the battle.
If you like Stoner, I’d be really curious to hear what you think of Ethan Frome by Edith Wharton. Have you read that novel?
Ethan Frome lives an extremely ‘boring’ life, which becomes defined by his own inaction. His inability to take action and make decisions drive the entire plot. Although the story is very ‘sad’, even depressing, the story of Ethan Frome has stuck with me!
Haha Love this, my boring life is screaming..
Love the ordinary~ its the only thing that is common among all of us =D
Love this
I'm so bored of life right now! I wish I could go to sleep and never wake up. I wouldn't KMS. I didn’t ask to be born and now I have to live until I die
I think about this concept literally every single day of my life, the fact that I did not ask to be born and that I was born to two people who were definitely not meant to be parents. And now, because of their recklessness and poor decision making I must continue to live my meaningless life. This doesn’t sit well with me. Now, I can either suffer through life until I’m elderly and pass away or off myself which I also don’t feel like doing. I just feel very tired and that everything I am doing is pointless and unimportant and I wish I had just never been born because my birth was equally as pointless...
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."*
Agreed
Facts
These words are so true in life.
Kind greetings.
@@111-c5c hey! Thank you!
@Katiuska Parra 🙏
“do you pick the ugly tomatoes because you feel bad for them?”
Yes, Lana. I actually do exercise this kind of decision making 😂
“Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside.”
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Preach king!
TELL EM 💯💯
@@_maxfreedom screenshotted! Wow thank you, will be taking this into my life! 🙏🏿
@@_maxfreedom exactly!! Love this, thank you!! Can only imagine it brings so much clarity
I think this video in some way related to a Disney film called "Soul".
The movie basically telling us that the purpose of life is to enjoy little things around us but we end up with this twisted construct that we need to work hard, make a lot of money, and achieve higher in life. People always telling us to find our own purpose but really that is what makes us lose our own "spark" :)
It such an amazing movie for people in their 20s and if you haven't watched it you should!
It was so good🥺😭
Exactly! I’m 22 and living with my parents and society and people around me make it seem like it’s such a loser thing to do. Instead, I am being grateful for a supportive family and trying to be content with all that I have
@@dentaladdict98 I get that.
@@imknownforstartingafire Do share more
@@dentaladdict98 that feels so different to hear for me. Because that's what the western culture is. In the east it's pretty normal to live with your parents at that age. And people are oke with it. So it really depends on your enviroment and those believes are just subjective.
Society makes us think that the only way to “live your best life” is by skydiving, expensive vacations, or winning the lottery. It makes us feel like we never have enough, and we need those things to be happy. The real way to “live your best life” is by seeing the beauty in everyday moments. Only then do you see the magic of life.
Yes, being able to think in your head and see things in many ways brings joy.
Love you
wonderful 🕊
yea no way I'm going skydiving, fuck that
Amen sistah 🙌🏻 well put✨
I never NEVER comment on anything on the internet, but MY GOD, for the first time I feel normal !! I am Brazilian and I identify with this girl so much. The calm way of speaking, not shouting forcing spontaneity, the reflections ... I don't believe there were people like me, I wouldn't feel so strange if I met her before
I just found this channel today, too. Very different from the typical UA-camr and so relatable. :)
Há muita gente como nós nesse mundo, tu só tens que olhar ao teu redor. Na verdade, introvertidos ( estou assumindo que tu sejas introvertida também ) sempre foram uma parte importante na sociedade : cientistas, filósofos, artistas, etc. O mundo atual é um desafio maior ainda para quem não se enquadra nesse perfil de sucesso a todo custo, fama e ostentação. Congrats on your English, it's very fluid!
"Boring"? I spend most of my spare time writing. I never get "bored."
Same :)
To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.
- Oscar Wilde
True!
Yes! And he who lives does not do so on Insta 😁😂
@@_maxfreedom I don't quite get it tbh, why shouldn't here be a g beacuse it is a verb? 😌🙈😂
Trueeeee
Accurate asf I can relate to a lotta ppl ik
“Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable,
but it is the way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting
tomatoes, apples and pears.
Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.”
- William Martin
If only parents were taught that! How much easier the lives of children would be.
"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Th Roosevelt
True!
Love that! Helpful to check our intentions behind the social media postings or scrolling 😁😅
How do I stop??
@@hannahh8119 How do you stop comparing?
Turn your attention inward instead of outward.
Get clear on what is important to you (i.e. values clarification) and get clear on what does not make you happy.
Be mindful (all you have to do is notice the thought and redirect).
Be intentional.
@@intentionalliving7326 this year I want to lose my virginity. I am 30 years old but still virgen
i just found your channel and I appreciate how much you trigger my train of thought. Lots of self reflecting during this video. Thank you for that.
Not many thought that their life was "boring" before social media. That was just life. We have stopped giving value to the mundane and simple human experiences, and just continue to seek the so-called "awesome experiences". Watching Yes Theory is great. But thinking that they are living an amazing life and you're just living a boring one is wrong.
That's funny because Lana and Thomas from Yes Theory dated in 2017-2018
I miss the 80 s
No 😮 internet phones
It was so great. !!
On the same token, allow that discomfort to be there. If people see their life as boring when compared to social media, they should ask themselves if they truly have a need that has been left unmet. Maybe they realize that they have not taken a vacation in a long time, so they see pretty pictures of a tropical destination and feel like their daily routine is dull. Perhaps, they are stressed and burnt out. Now, rather than resenting those who made the posts, they can either switch things up at home or save up for a (small) trip to add some variety. Give yourself permission to reflect on the nature of your thoughts and feelings and bring your attention inward. If you are perfectly content with everyday experiences, no one is shaming you for not having an adventure-packed trip every weekend. Use your reaction as a guide to what deeper beliefs or desires lurk beneath the surface of your conscious mind.
wow, "not many thought that their life was 'boring' before social media" really hit me.
Guess I was the only one bored before social media.
i feel like we all care a little too much about what others think just to find out everyone only cares about their life
Exactly
@@_maxfreedom i can see what u mean. I think taking risks in general are some people’s biggest fears
Yes!! Though 2020 is helping to change that✨
@@_maxfreedom that’s true i’ve been at dead end and didn’t realize how bad it was
@@estrellasjournal this year I want to lose my virginity. I am 30 years old but still virgen
I was at the airport one day. Everyone, literally, including kids were immersed in their phones, I was the only one, alone sitting on a bench doing nothing, calmly waiting for my flight's boarding. They were all looking at me as if I was abnormal. What do they know about me? Nothing. Infact, they need to realise that I'm not addicted to my phone, it's under my control. I'm not boring, or feel bored so easily, I THINK a LOT of good thoughts!
Not being on phone and especially without headphones gives you time and peace to listen to sounds of the world.
Yes!! Just being & creating awareness :)
It’s not the phones, it’s the use of the phones. People waste there time on tiktok and Instagram smh
That’s been me too. :)
Bravo! 😊🌞🐞🎵🍀
“Its not about living a SUCCESSFUL life, it’s about living a SATISFIED life”
True
I have been self-reflecting until I came to a conclusion that I want satisfaction and not success.
To me, I'm satisfied when I am successful. Does that make any sense at all?
Yes the small things
I don't want success,,,,bcz I have no one to show my success or inspire...... I just want to have a decent career and travel the world.
Is this all really holds any meaning ???
Beautifully crafted video, Living Ordinary life is also extraordinary in a fast-paced social media era.
True
I think the same sir/ma'am
"Every living organism is fulfilled when it follows the right path for its own nature."
~Marcus Aurelius ❤️🙏🏽
Gay people : oh shit
How to find the right path?
We are called to follow our Creator. There is only one path to Him - Jesus (John 14:6). Peace to you.
@@alicia-hd2cs😂😂😂
I just realized. Sometimes I watch movies and get a little sad because things start to change. I want to see how the character lives their normal life in their normal room. Sometimes I don’t even care about the climax. Maybe that’s why I enjoy your channel so much. It’s very calming. I don’t have to worry about extremes with you. The volume is low. You always have the same makeup and hair, the background stays the same and the topics are consistent. The way you talk is also calming. Thank you for encouraging me to think about this
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@Lana Blakely : Happy New Year 🎉💐. Sorry to hear about your Insta account, try to visit the website. I hope it would be reactivated again!😊✌️🤞💜
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This is so important and a lot of people don't realize it. I alternate between a slow-paced life and a lot of travel/'epicness' and I can definitely say that neither brings more or less joy. You may get an adrenaline rush, but believe it or not, the novelty wears off after awhile. True happiness and contentment only comes when you are present, grateful, and fully immersed in an experience. Whether it's skydiving or playing with your dog.
I just took a screenshot of this comment. Yes, I totally felt that! 🙏🏼🙏🏼
We've also totally forgotten about the marvel of our lives right now! In a day, I woke up in the morning in a bed, with a roof over my head, came downstairs where I could enjoy a coffee with my parents and brothers and ate my breakfast in front of the TV. For some people these are not things they are able to experience. Equally, here we are enjoying this video from all corners of the planet at the same time. In years gone by, these things weren't even POSSIBLE! That's AMAZING! ✨
Yes!! All these things that go over our heads (no pun intended) are things we take for granted and sometimes we don’t realize others would kill to have what we have.
Yes, well said...
Absolutely true Eleanor, we naturally take so much for granted. I try to practice gratitude on a daily basis.
Amen sistah 🙌🏻 we don’t call that epic 😂😁 yet... if today was our last day on the planet, it would one of the sweet memories from this experience
🤗
I love this comment. Thank you Eleanor :)
'I don't broadcast every high and I don't hide every low. I'm trying to live, not trying to convince the world I have a life.' -Rob Hill Sr
"I'm going to go put on that boring ass Harry Potter soundtrack now, water my boring ass plants, and have an ordinary ass cup of coffee" i love this so much
There is something absolutely iconic about this video. Let's normalise living an ordinary life
agree
When I think of 'live life to the fullest' , I think about my dad. He passed away this year at 55, he had a severe blood disorder called haemophilia that caused joint pain, bruising, internal pain and bleeding and a lot of hardship from when he was a baby. When he died I got so many messages from people he knew telling me all of the kind things he had done for them (I had no idea). He would do favours for his elderly customers even when his business was not doing great. It is hard to even have and maintain a family or a business that includes physical labour with this kind of disease, and somehow he did all of this, I didn't even really understand the absolute severity of what he had to live with until it was too late. He never really complained. I had never seen him walk straight my whole life but I thought it was totally normal for him to be climbing roofs. He taught me to go for everything I wanted and he is the reason I don't get scared when I am challenged.
There was no fear in his eyes when he died.
I know he died young but I honestly feel like in his life, with his condition he achieved so much. His dream was to have an 'ordinary' life and I didn't even realise how much it took for him to achieve that until he was gone.
Wow what a beautiful legacy he has left with his life! Thank you for sharing that!! A big hug your way sistah 🤗
I'm so moved by this comment. I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your father was an incredible human being, and I'm so glad you get to keep that memory of him! I truly appreciate you sharing this.
@@intentionalliving7326 thank you ❤️
@@LanaBlakely thank you ❤️
Sorry for your loss. Your story touched me. He did leave you a gift. To see the extraordinary in the ordinary.
It's funny because I just had this conversation with a friend the other day. I told her how I never feel bored. Like never. Even when I'm doing absolutely nothing at all. I'm happy with that. I never allow the pressures of society to make me feel as though I need to accomplish a million things, go a million places or possess a million things in order to fulfill myself or to feel complete. I show and teach my children to appreciate the littlest things. Gratitude. I am too an introvert. I am also an only child and I've found that social platforms do have a tendency to falsely influence your sense of contentment within yourself. So that is why for about 2+ years now, I only have a UA-cam account. I've never really cared what others think of me and would never allow myself to follow others since very young. So deleting my accounts have been the best thing that could happen to my inner peace. And I don't miss it. 😊
That is so frikin awesome Deriene! Thank you sistah for sharing your experience! 🤗✨
@@intentionalliving7326 this year I want to lose my virginity. I am 30 years old but still virgen
What do you do for work? I wondering because most jobs require tech or the use of social apps. Iid like to live like this but im looking for a job to match.
@@abigailthomas6076 Healthcare.
"The most difficult thing for a man to do is be himself in a world that is constantly trying to change him."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
I'm all for lving life to the fullest, but what are we filling? Everyone will have a different answer, and that's okay.
Yes. ❤
I think ordinary lives are underrated. There’s so much joy in the simple things.
"No matter how mundane your surroundings might be, you'll never see that again." -Sisyphus 55
Lana is always completely on point.
Sometimes we spend too much time wishing living someone else's life that we forget our own.
You're absolutely right..
While I feel kind of called out as most of what I´m doing is "trying to live an epic life" I really love the thoughts and couldnt agree more. Everything is relative and a matter of perspective
There's that idea of "having a lot of things to impress people" that is generally criticized with "experiences are more valuable than things" or "creating exciting memories", but at the end they produce the same result, it seems.
So now we may not worry about material stuff, but we can't stop thinking about how boring our lifes are and how we should be living more like X or Y person. That "exciting life", the traveling and "experiences" became the new "material things", now that is in some sense the product that we're constantly seeking to impress people.
facts..this is why you need to live for you, and learn what brings you joy not coz you can post it on social media
Yeeesss i screenshoted this
I respect so much more the people who don’t post everything they do, who live life and enjoy the little things for them and no one else. I have big dreams but not to live a fast paced, swimming-with-sharks kind of life, I think there is something so magical in just going slowly and thoughtfully ❤️ Thank you Lana you are awesomeness
Yes, and I envy those who are rooted to a place and a community. Those who can claim a neighbourhood....and possibly know the name of the bus driver who drives them to work everyday because ---the town is small and its the same driver--same shift everyday....
Hey Lana,
Currently I‘m working for Instagram. Maybe i can help you out :)
This is very true. There is nothing wrong about living an ordinary life. We don't have "Instagram" moments all the time. Its not normal.
Well said, bard
Funny how 2020 started new ‘normal life’ trends on insta 😁
@@_maxfreedom Let's do it. I'm down. I'd help. Hahah
No, but seriously
I spent my single 20’s always having to be somewhere, doing something, going to every event. Now in my late 40’s I get more happiness from laughing at my husbands jokes or seeing my kids’ smiling faces when I wake up. No way would I trade the peace and happiness from a slower paced life to go back. As always love to hear your perspectives Lana.
Beautifully expressed!! Yes, that has been the experience of many around me as well... including myself!! Part of the journey i am guessing to start being real and true to ourselves 🤩🤗✨
This is so wholesome. Thank you for sharing
Why would instagram deactivate her account. She is a person who is just trying and making other peoples life better with her golden content #bringlanablakelyback
❤️
@@LanaBlakely its because may be she follows jordan peterson and many other and has a good social influence.
Thanks beautiful soul! You rock! 💟
@@thevaidik_ I think it's more likely some bitter trolls reported her account as porn since IG has been doing a clean up recently and you know, any woman taking pictures is for sure an IG nude model ...
@@lullatstars this incident is happening to many. There is a girl in germany speaking against refugee crises and her account were disabled for so called "hate speech". And there is a another account "Biden thinks". This account was labelled as a joke, satire account because it posted something against him. I am definitely not a trump supporter. But censorship at this level makes no sense
"Here I was, sitting in my small kitchen with my morning coffee, listening to Harry Potter soundtracks, feeling perfectly content." This sounds amazing to me. I think when we learn to value everydayness, the ordinary becomes extraordinary, a scaffolding around which to build a deeply satisfying life. Happy New Year!
@@_maxfreedom This is fantastic. I think noticing these ordinary things is so important. And they're everywhere. It's an abundance of riches.
@@_maxfreedom much appreciated!
Cheers to that! Happy new year :)
Thank you for this Lana🙇🏻♂️
I often feel pressured from these "live your life to the fullest", which mostly imply I should travel or such, while I'm alive, because my life could end any time. I especially get a bed feeling from those when working - I spend a lot of time editing my videos (you know how long this takes) and often begin questioning my activities and goals when encountering these messages. You helped me feel less guilty about living my not so extraordinary life :)
To me living an “ordinary life” helps me find inner peace. Being appreciative of everything I have, and living in the right here, right now is so calming!
Now that is Epic!! Being true to you!! 👏🏻👏🏻🤗
I love how calm you are Lana. Far from boring... it's all perspective anyway. Peace & love, always.
"Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants." - Epictetus
This channel is gold.
So beautiful to think how our true passions lie in those things we do without expectation of sharing that with anyone. Thank you, Lana!
People expect so much. Boredom is a friggin luxury.
I was constantly chasing something, constantly chasing something I didn't had, rushing... But now, I am starting to be more content with a peaceful, calm lifestyle. No rush, working from home, traveling here and there to see my closest people when this situation calms down, reading, writing, journaling, playing video games... Having a peaceful, calm life feels much better than that constant rush I had couple of years back. I guess slowing down feels good, to breathe deeply, to slow down and see what's around me, just to be in tune with how I feel. As always Lana, thank you for what you are doing, really, and thank you for being you. :) As an INFJ, I understand you... I so so hope your IG account is back, I def miss seeing your content there... :(
Beautifully expressed Marco! We are trained early on to be chasing! Glad you have made your own choices! That is epic: choosing to be in tune with how you feel ✨
I can relate to this video 100%. I was told many times that what I view as challenges are sort-of "boring" as it would always involve my quiet activities rather than traveling the world, go for adventure sports etc. Initially I thought I'm not good enough, especially not enough to share my stories on Internet but after a while I realized this makes me who I am and I don't have to fit in for anything. So, thank you Lana, you're one of them who helped me to shift my perspective, to just be myself!
thank you!!
I don't know about others but my heart feels at home when watching You. I feel sometimes behind in life constantly trailing over things. But your channel feels like I can relax for a moment that I can actually breathe and stop and just perceive for a while
Beautifully expressed! Yes that ✨
same 🤍
Jag kom till din kanal idag bara för att få reda på vad den boken som du jämt pratar om kallas för (kunde inte komma på titeln...) jag såg den nya videon, clickade på den, och fick informationen jag var ut efter ändå! Och bästa delen... boken har översatts till svenska! Jag köper den nu, tack Lana!
awesome video. thank you. be the observer & the observed. smell the flowers along the way. on need to compare when content. i feel like im getting a hug from you...thank you. dave in india, living the simple life in an extra ordinary sorta way.
The "epic" life was never for me. It makes you lost in the chase of the next big thing when the biggest thing in your life is simply: your life... It`s amazing how much there is to explore in our own hearts and soul, that we usually decide to look over.
I relate to this. Thank you so much for sharing this! Hope your day's going well! :)
Lana's videos are literally the video version of a mindful person reflecting on his/her life in their daily journal.
I feel exactly the same as you 😳
Maybe it’s an INFJ thing haha
I've found that when I'm traveling, the sites I see just don't compare to my beautiful home, (Oregon, USA), so instead of spending all my money on long distance trips, I have been content to explore the sites around me. It isn't as fancy as my friends trips, but I am happy.
People complain about things that they have the power to change.
Not when you have Indian parents
@@lotuswolf1518 Or Pakistani parents. Even worse. I love them but they're suffocating.
@@Sam-oo1uo I hate my everyone including my parents they are toxic as f**k but I hate humans in general moving to Mexico in march
i always enjoy your content, but this one is whole another level 🤩
It’s ok to enjoy the simple things in life like the sound of my kettle when making my morning coffee, walks with my dog, and laughing with loved ones.
Always feel so calm after watching your videos, thank you💘💕💕💘
“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”
Morning coffee and Harry Potter soundtrack... YES!
My Humble Opinion: Listening to soundtracks > Listening to Pop
I agree!
Can't agree more
Can't agree more
I love this topic so so much. I made a promise to myself a few years ago on enjoying all ALL the little things. It has been very difficult(specially living in this chaotic world where nothing is enough) however I am grateful to always have that voice in my head (I call it my "inner child") that reminds me what its really life about.
Man, I have been thinking about the same topic for the last 3 days. The culturescape has certainly skewed our perspective on what we consider a 'happening' life!
Your videos really help me
The poem that you read in the middle of the video reminded me of my mother. She was very much the kind of woman who pointed out the extraordinary in the ordinary. She taught me how rich every day life is. I’ve always appreciated that.
Honestly, I realized, with this video, how socials can have an impact on how we feel in life. I thought that life was about exploring the world and making a big impact on society but in reality it’s not only that. It’s also about enjoying the small moments, those moments that might seem boring but that make our life complete!
This is how I choose an avocado:
"Let's try sqeezing this avocado.
Nah... this one's not right...
But... I already sqeezed the avocado, so it's my fault if nobody takes it...
Taking you home little guy!"
Saaaamee
Where are you from? Your name is unusual
@@alicia-hd2cs I'm from Czech Republic.
What about you? :)
when the student is ready the teacher appears, they say.
Well your videos always come into my life at the right moment, when I need them :)
I think the day I find a girl/woman/wife like you, I could speak or listen to her all day, if she had your soothing voice, she could even help me sleep 😂