So great to hear people addressing neurodiversity in respect of ethnicity. Abi you did so well sharing your experience with us and hopefully this will help employers consider their employees a lot more when it comes to creating more ideal work conditions and providing support
Thank you. I was recently diagnosed and I am 38. Now I understand and I give myself some grace. It was overlooked and now I am grateful I got the diagnoses.
The psychological approach complicates ADHD and people are constantly being dual diagnosed with ADHD and bipolarism or ADHD and imposter syndrome etc. ADHD is not mental illness. It is a neurological disorder and it took me 50 years of living to find this out. at age 48 my ADHD became so severe I thought there might be something else wrong. It was because my already affected chemistry was being affected by a new lack of testosterone due to age. I went to my family doctor and told him I needed referral to be diagnosed and treated for suspected ADHD. He sent me to a neurologist and told me he did not want me to see a psychologist for it as they would prescribe me medications before diagnosing me. The second reason my doctor told me was that I was not mentally ill. The neurologist I was sent to see told me I was the worst case he has had in his career. His specialty is ADHD and autism Spectrum Disorder. They are connected. ADHD is part of the spectrum. The education my neurologist gave me changed everything for me. autism is not a mental illness either, It is neurological also. One "fact" she mentions here is that people with ADHD are of all levels of inelegance and it simply is not true as far as I am concerned. My neurologist also agrees that those with ADHD tend to be in the higher category. An IQ test was part of my diagnosis. I have been told all my life that I was so smart but was just too lazy to apply myself or that I just didn't care enough. Don't believe the lies. If you have ADHD you likely have a very high IQ and if you have had your education and intellect oppressed then your self worth is oppressed. The number one problem all folks with ADHD and autism share is that we are misunderstood. It is t he root of most of our troubles as we also misunderstand ourselves based on the context of others. As a person with ADHD when the ADHD is not recognized is seen as having all the worst characteristics of a model citizen. Thanks for sharing and bringing awareness. Keep advocating and researching! Please know ADHD can cause us to develop mental illness but it is not a mental illness.
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. You have touched parts of my heart that I have been unable to see and express. The part of being misunderstood and conforming to others brought tears to my eyes and deep acceptance. Your message is making me reflecting in the changes I need to make with those around me. Thank you so much!!!
I finally feel seen and I needed this I should’ve advocated for myself more in the past but happy that I am doing so now. Thank you for shedding light on this!!
Thank you Abigail this ted talk is very much needed. Who knew Symone, Mel B and Solange have ADHD? Thanks 4 letting me know now I feel not so alone. 💯😊
Wow, this is amazing! You really opened a door for me, and after listening to one of your previous talks, I contacted my GP and am now on my journey to being clinically diagnosed. Being from a south Asian background, I also felt (and feel) shame around all of your opening words and more. I've done a lot of research and have found so many answers to my "why"'s - thank you! Thank you for being a positive role model and for sharing your experiences, more of this is needed to stimulate awareness and change in our society. I am proud of my ADHD and my new found awareness of it; our neurodiversity is our superpower.
Took 52 years to basically get to a point of shutdown. Menopause has impacted me greatly. 52 waiting for a diagnosis of EDS, ADHD and Autism. The trifecta. Finally, I now understand my life and forgive myself for past mistakes. Although I feel sad about the past, I now forgive myself fully. I now accept myself regardless and am proud I've got this far. Thank you such for this 💓
I felt like a proud cousin watching this. I enjoyed watching every minute of your TED Talk Abigail. I felt seen, heard, and represented. I am 27 years old and was officially diagnosed last week and five days on meds. I advocated for myself, got the support I needed and took the steps to help make my life a little easier.
One of my favorite Ted Talks ever. There should be waaay more likes! Thank you so much for sharing and breaking this down. I know for a fact I have undiagnosed ADHD and for all of the reasons you listed, I never wanted to go to a Dr. to get diagnosed. I'm pretty sure both of my parents do as well, but were never diagnosed. Representation truly matters, I thank you for your vulnerability.
❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much for this!! I am a neurospicy individual with AuDHD. I have a late diagnosis, but it was my 9yr daughter’s symptoms and diagnosis that led me to seek clarity and understanding of my own symptoms. We lead a fun and challenging neurospicy life. Our support needs are not the same!!! I thrive with isolation and few social interactions, she thrives with social interactions and few periods of isolation. I sent her the last statement you made. I feel it will help her bc it was something I would have loved to hear at her age. Thank you 🙏🏽
So awesome to see and hear you Abigail! You were so grate at explaining what I have. I am a middle school educator and I will carry your message and maybe even get a few young ladies who I think would be helped by seeing people who look like them watch this TED talk. Thank you!!
I'm 48 and going through the diagnosis process. I lean heavily to the attention deficient side vs hyperactive side, but it has been a lifelong struggle. I hope this journey helps me with giving myself grace and frees my future to more possibilities.
Really appreciative of that advice towards the end, and the love letter. Will present all the self advocacy I can to get my diagnosis. So far the NHS route has been tricky.
How about home support ? Many parents of color resort to physical punishment when children get poor grades in school or have behavioral struggles. They often feel thats the answer to all childhood issues. Currently experiencing the stages of acceptance of ADHD
Yes! I’m awaiting diagnosis and have been doing a lot of research and children with ADHD tend to have significantly more physical punishment than their peers. My teacher spoke to me after class about what was going on (late homework, tired, making mistakes). I explained I was overwhelmed. She rang me mum to discuss and as soon as she got off the phone I got shouted at because she was ashamed at the teacher having to call home. Message was basically to pull myself together. Very sad. 🙁
So great to hear people addressing neurodiversity in respect of ethnicity. Abi you did so well sharing your experience with us and hopefully this will help employers consider their employees a lot more when it comes to creating more ideal work conditions and providing support
Thank you. I was recently diagnosed and I am 38. Now I understand and I give myself some grace. It was overlooked and now I am grateful I got the diagnoses.
I'm 31 ❤ tried college back to back... didn't work out..got tested now I know the problem and I have a solution pray study never give up
"You are not broken, and you do not need to be fixed." Love that
Im just 23 and know that there's so much potential ahead and ways to make ADHD work for me, but this, that intro is the summary of my entire life for😢
I wish you steadiness in your adhd journey to explore and fulfillment in making it work
I needed to see this because i hold so much resentment to myself - wish i knew earlier.
The psychological approach complicates ADHD and people are constantly being dual diagnosed with ADHD and bipolarism or ADHD and imposter syndrome etc. ADHD is not mental illness. It is a neurological disorder and it took me 50 years of living to find this out. at age 48 my ADHD became so severe I thought there might be something else wrong. It was because my already affected chemistry was being affected by a new lack of testosterone due to age. I went to my family doctor and told him I needed referral to be diagnosed and treated for suspected ADHD. He sent me to a neurologist and told me he did not want me to see a psychologist for it as they would prescribe me medications before diagnosing me. The second reason my doctor told me was that I was not mentally ill. The neurologist I was sent to see told me I was the worst case he has had in his career. His specialty is ADHD and autism Spectrum Disorder. They are connected. ADHD is part of the spectrum. The education my neurologist gave me changed everything for me. autism is not a mental illness either, It is neurological also.
One "fact" she mentions here is that people with ADHD are of all levels of inelegance and it simply is not true as far as I am concerned. My neurologist also agrees that those with ADHD tend to be in the higher category. An IQ test was part of my diagnosis. I have been told all my life that I was so smart but was just too lazy to apply myself or that I just didn't care enough. Don't believe the lies. If you have ADHD you likely have a very high IQ and if you have had your education and intellect oppressed then your self worth is oppressed. The number one problem all folks with ADHD and autism share is that we are misunderstood. It is t he root of most of our troubles as we also misunderstand ourselves based on the context of others. As a person with ADHD when the ADHD is not recognized is seen as having all the worst characteristics of a model citizen. Thanks for sharing and bringing awareness. Keep advocating and researching! Please know ADHD can cause us to develop mental illness but it is not a mental illness.
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. You have touched parts of my heart that I have been unable to see and express. The part of being misunderstood and conforming to others brought tears to my eyes and deep acceptance. Your message is making me reflecting in the changes I need to make with those around me. Thank you so much!!!
@@ilsabueno4003 No worries. We are kindred spirits.
I finally feel seen and I needed this I should’ve advocated for myself more in the past but happy that I am doing so now. Thank you for shedding light on this!!
Thank you Abigail this ted talk is very much needed. Who knew Symone, Mel B and Solange have ADHD? Thanks 4 letting me know now I feel not so alone. 💯😊
Took me until age 50 to be diagnosed with combined ADHD.
Thank you I feel so isolated 35 years old army veteran just swinging
Shading tears... Thank you so much for this talk❤️
Wow, this is amazing! You really opened a door for me, and after listening to one of your previous talks, I contacted my GP and am now on my journey to being clinically diagnosed. Being from a south Asian background, I also felt (and feel) shame around all of your opening words and more. I've done a lot of research and have found so many answers to my "why"'s - thank you! Thank you for being a positive role model and for sharing your experiences, more of this is needed to stimulate awareness and change in our society. I am proud of my ADHD and my new found awareness of it; our neurodiversity is our superpower.
Took 52 years to basically get to a point of shutdown. Menopause has impacted me greatly. 52 waiting for a diagnosis of EDS, ADHD and Autism. The trifecta.
Finally, I now understand my life and forgive myself for past mistakes. Although I feel sad about the past, I now forgive myself fully.
I now accept myself regardless and am proud I've got this far.
Thank you such for this 💓
I felt like a proud cousin watching this. I enjoyed watching every minute of your TED Talk Abigail. I felt seen, heard, and represented. I am 27 years old and was officially diagnosed last week and five days on meds. I advocated for myself, got the support I needed and took the steps to help make my life a little easier.
One of my favorite Ted Talks ever. There should be waaay more likes! Thank you so much for sharing and breaking this down. I know for a fact I have undiagnosed ADHD and for all of the reasons you listed, I never wanted to go to a Dr. to get diagnosed. I'm pretty sure both of my parents do as well, but were never diagnosed. Representation truly matters, I thank you for your vulnerability.
This brought me to tears. Thank you for every word.
This was incredible and I feel seen and heard. Thank you for your vulnerability it’s means so much to me.
This walk was great!! Never realized that Ted talks needed to be memorized that’s so ableist
❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much for this!! I am a neurospicy individual with AuDHD. I have a late diagnosis, but it was my 9yr daughter’s symptoms and diagnosis that led me to seek clarity and understanding of my own symptoms. We lead a fun and challenging neurospicy life. Our support needs are not the same!!! I thrive with isolation and few social interactions, she thrives with social interactions and few periods of isolation. I sent her the last statement you made. I feel it will help her bc it was something I would have loved to hear at her age. Thank you 🙏🏽
So awesome to see and hear you Abigail! You were so grate at explaining what I have. I am a middle school educator and I will carry your message and maybe even get a few young ladies who I think would be helped by seeing people who look like them watch this TED talk. Thank you!!
I'm 48 and going through the diagnosis process. I lean heavily to the attention deficient side vs hyperactive side, but it has been a lifelong struggle. I hope this journey helps me with giving myself grace and frees my future to more possibilities.
I am so proud of her
Thank you for this video Abigail! I was officially diagnosed with ADHD combined type at age 43.
Really appreciative of that advice towards the end, and the love letter. Will present all the self advocacy I can to get my diagnosis. So far the NHS route has been tricky.
😭 Thank you so much. You helped me on a day I was struggling the most. God bless you!
Thank you for this brilliant speech, as someone recently diagnosed, I feel seen ❤
Very good presentation. I appreciate it. Thank you.
I’m so happy I’ve found this.
Great presentation! Thank you for the courage to present this !
Beautiful job. Related to so much of this. Feels so good to be seen ❤
Amazing talk and so needed. So needed.
so enlightening
Another thing of note is that ADHD is hereditary and 45% of women with ADHD also have PMDD.
This was an awesome presentation!
How about home support ? Many parents of color resort to physical punishment when children get poor grades in school or have behavioral struggles. They often feel thats the answer to all childhood issues. Currently experiencing the stages of acceptance of ADHD
Yes! I’m awaiting diagnosis and have been doing a lot of research and children with ADHD tend to have significantly more physical punishment than their peers.
My teacher spoke to me after class about what was going on (late homework, tired, making mistakes). I explained I was overwhelmed. She rang me mum to discuss and as soon as she got off the phone I got shouted at because she was ashamed at the teacher having to call home. Message was basically to pull myself together. Very sad. 🙁
@@justine9047 I can relate. Hugs to you.
@@justine9047 same
Well said, thanks for advocating for us all 💙
My doctor said its anxiety
...im like no its not ..do your job .i never went to that doctor ever again he was from a different country.
Thank you for this!!!! This was so affirming!!!
Thank you so much Abigail 🙏🏼
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I appreciate this! ❤ thank you
This is so necessary ❤❤❤
Thank you, God bless you 💖
Amazing talk
Thank you for this.
Love this so much!!! Masking is so real.
Great presentation!! Thank You!!
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How can I find this woman page or channel
I get the sentiment but. Who tf said they didn't
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This was really good and it helped me a lot 🫶🏾
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