When I was a teenager my relatives would dump their kids on me. When my mom would notice she would say give it back before someone think its yours. 😂I miss my moma
That's what I thought but their lack of appreciation for their neice watching the kids year after year without acknowledgment reveals part of the problem. The parents aren't respectful people.
Definitely NTA! You deserve to enjoy the day and have a peaceful holiday as well. Sure it’s great to have family around, but doesn’t mean people need to shove off the responsibilities to someone else. it will be different if someone ask you nicely and show their appreciation but to just be so entitled is really annoying. Like I said, everyone deserves to have a relaxing holiday and enjoy just sitting down and relaxing with everyone. I when she actually said that couldn’t you do it just once. You’ve done it multiple times as you have already said , so what is she talking about?. … as a parent she is correct that it is emotionally and physically draining and going to a holiday event or any event for that matter can be kind of hectic when you have kids to deal with. But that’s what being a parent is. I’ve had many times where I’ve been to events with my kids . Specifically, when they were an infant going into toddler age, it was definitely hard to sit down and eat or do anything. That’s when relatives would volunteer to hold the child or watch them. Or if my husband was at the event, we would take turns on who eats first and usually he would let me eat first and then he would take care of the baby and then we switch . I would never ask someone or expect someone to take care of my child. Even with me being parent of two kids I still don’t like people using a parent card. SMH.
Had I been her mom I would tell the aunt to get out and not come back until she can control her brats, now you have two minutes to pack up and leave or I will call the police and have them throw you out. Make your choice now, woman!
"It's your duty as a girl to babysit." Ah, say what?!? Op should pop back with, "No, it's your duty as their mother to make sure they behave, when in someone else's home."
My daughters ended up babysitting at the family reunions, however their uncles and aunts are so generous that they PAY them. So girls are fine with it. LOL ❤
I'd send out a family text that says, " if I'm going to be made into a babysitter once again, then I'm charging $200 per child; $20 for every time they throw food at me and $100 for every item they break." But I'm petty 😂
We were not allowed to just leave the table. And certainly no running around while others are eating. Thats basic education. Also my child and those from my siblings, manners matter.
@Sylvia-ps8tg manners isn't basic education just because you think being older means you can treat kids however you want without getting your face beat in
My childless adult son LOVES his nieces and nephews and always buys them snacks or gifts and usually takes on the responsibility of keeping them entertained....until they act like asshats. When that happens, he marches their little butts to their parents and says, this one is yours. Deal with him/her. That kid is denied uncle fun for the rest of the day. It's only happened a cpl times to even my most spoiled asshat grandkid. 😂 When he's done playing, he just leaves. If he doesn't want to play with them that day he doesn't. Nobody gets mad. I don't understand some family dynamics.
First of all, this girl has more patience than I do. When aunt called next day and started griping before even saying hello I would have just hung up and blocked her. Second, where was mom at during the conversation in the kitchen and at the table? Must not have been present since daughter had to go over the whole thing with her. I’m from a large extended family and parents are expected to watch their own children. If a child acts up and their parent isn’t around the child is taken to the parent or if the child runs off the parent is informed whet the child did and to get them under control.
When I was a kid at Thanksgiving, the younger kids were expected to act right, we were at someones home we better act correctly and not run around in the house, no one was designated to watch us
The second she cut you off hang up, when she calls back (and she will) say if I don't get to talk my side neither do you. Oh my goodness she got to feel and do what you had to do year after year, where the hell was the baby daddy?
Why did she need to tell her mother what had happened at the table? Surely her mother saw and heard everything! If not how big was the table to not hear or see anything?
I had to do the same thing. My moms partner is an Italian. HIS whole family is Italian. Standing up them was nerve wracking. But once they realized I wasnt going to do it anymore they started watching their own kids OR if they had older kids they became responsible. I SOOOO wanted to say. Not my monkey's not my circus.
I'll never understand why people always say how great having kids is, then they try and shove them off on someone else. It always seem to be a young female teen who gets stuck.
Wait, so the mother wasn't around in the kitchen when the aunt was taking care of her kids? And babysitting other's kids was already prepared for those who were bringing small kids. This household sucks.
Why didn't your parents speak up? This isn't your job its their kids. So sad... go parent lady. ❤ Give her an overdue invoice for babysitting. Lol You want to be petty and rude, okay, auntie.
When I was a teenager my relatives would dump their kids on me. When my mom would notice she would say give it back before someone think its yours. 😂I miss my moma
Kinda crappy! You're mum was so right, not your job, not your problem! Bless her.
Time those parents taught their kids how to behave in other people's homes and social occasions
That's what I thought but their lack of appreciation for their neice watching the kids year after year without acknowledgment reveals part of the problem. The parents aren't respectful people.
That is not the point. People should look after their own kids or arrange for a babysitter.
I was thinking - if they were taught how to behave no one would have to watch them
Definitely NTA! You deserve to enjoy the day and have a peaceful holiday as well. Sure it’s great to have family around, but doesn’t mean people need to shove off the responsibilities to someone else. it will be different if someone ask you nicely and show their appreciation but to just be so entitled is really annoying. Like I said, everyone deserves to have a relaxing holiday and enjoy just sitting down and relaxing with everyone. I when she actually said that couldn’t you do it just once. You’ve done it multiple times as you have already said , so what is she talking about?. … as a parent she is correct that it is emotionally and physically draining and going to a holiday event or any event for that matter can be kind of hectic when you have kids to deal with. But that’s what being a parent is. I’ve had many times where I’ve been to events with my kids . Specifically, when they were an infant going into toddler age, it was definitely hard to sit down and eat or do anything. That’s when relatives would volunteer to hold the child or watch them. Or if my husband was at the event, we would take turns on who eats first and usually he would let me eat first and then he would take care of the baby and then we switch . I would never ask someone or expect someone to take care of my child. Even with me being parent of two kids I still don’t like people using a parent card. SMH.
Had I been her mom I would tell the aunt to get out and not come back until she can control her brats, now you have two minutes to pack up and leave or I will call the police and have them throw you out. Make your choice now, woman!
"It's your duty as a girl to babysit." Ah, say what?!? Op should pop back with, "No, it's your duty as their mother to make sure they behave, when in someone else's home."
Next year offer to baby sit for a fee ,so much per child per hour and since it a holiday you expect double the going babysitting rate
My daughters ended up babysitting at the family reunions, however their uncles and aunts are so generous that they PAY them. So girls are fine with it. LOL ❤
I'd send out a family text that says, " if I'm going to be made into a babysitter once again, then I'm charging $200 per child; $20 for every time they throw food at me and $100 for every item they break." But I'm petty 😂
They’re her kids. End of subject. I would never speak to my daughter like that.
We were not allowed to just leave the table. And certainly no running around while others are eating. Thats basic education. Also my child and those from my siblings, manners matter.
You don't decide how other people's kids act
@ This used to be very basic education and with that, learning manners. But times change. Parents can of course leave that out.
@Sylvia-ps8tg manners isn't basic education just because you think being older means you can treat kids however you want without getting your face beat in
My childless adult son LOVES his nieces and nephews and always buys them snacks or gifts and usually takes on the responsibility of keeping them entertained....until they act like asshats. When that happens, he marches their little butts to their parents and says, this one is yours. Deal with him/her. That kid is denied uncle fun for the rest of the day. It's only happened a cpl times to even my most spoiled asshat grandkid. 😂 When he's done playing, he just leaves. If he doesn't want to play with them that day he doesn't. Nobody gets mad. I don't understand some family dynamics.
First of all, this girl has more patience than I do. When aunt called next day and started griping before even saying hello I would have just hung up and blocked her. Second, where was mom at during the conversation in the kitchen and at the table? Must not have been present since daughter had to go over the whole thing with her. I’m from a large extended family and parents are expected to watch their own children. If a child acts up and their parent isn’t around the child is taken to the parent or if the child runs off the parent is informed whet the child did and to get them under control.
They are the Aunts kids therefore it's the Aunts responsibility to discipline them.
When I was a kid at Thanksgiving, the younger kids were expected to act right, we were at someones home we better act correctly and not run around in the house, no one was designated to watch us
The second she cut you off hang up, when she calls back (and she will) say if I don't get to talk my side neither do you.
Oh my goodness she got to feel and do what you had to do year after year, where the hell was the baby daddy?
Love the way AI moved it from almost palpable to palpable as the story went on
Why did she need to tell her mother what had happened at the table? Surely her mother saw and heard everything! If not how big was the table to not hear or see anything?
I had to do the same thing. My moms partner is an Italian. HIS whole family is Italian. Standing up them was nerve wracking. But once they realized I wasnt going to do it anymore they started watching their own kids OR if they had older kids they became responsible. I SOOOO wanted to say. Not my monkey's not my circus.
I haven't liked thanksgiving since childhood. Too much work for little value.
I'll never understand why people always say how great having kids is, then they try and shove them off on someone else. It always seem to be a young female teen who gets stuck.
Wait, so the mother wasn't around in the kitchen when the aunt was taking care of her kids? And babysitting other's kids was already prepared for those who were bringing small kids. This household sucks.
An easy to solve the problem. Tell the parents that her babysitting rates is $50.00 per hour per child, payable in advance.😂
Does your mother have amnesia? She was physically present every year.
Where was her husband?
She shouldn't have had kids then
Why do the kids need babysat at a family event ?
Why didn't your parents speak up? This isn't your job its their kids. So sad... go parent lady. ❤
Give her an overdue invoice for babysitting. Lol
You want to be petty and rude, okay, auntie.
Cuando era adolescente, mis parientes solían dejarme a cargo de sus hijos.