you shouldn't have come if you couldn't afford it? lmao, what sister meant was you 'shouldn't have come if you couldn't afford to help us pay for our dinners as well'. don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm
OP is NTA but if the whole family relies on only the older child to be their social director, I've been there. It sucked. The reason I was doing it because otherwise they forgot things like everyones birthdays. Eventually when I complained that I was doing all of that by myself and had to follow up to get responses. My mom responded with, no one asked you to do that! And I never planned another family thing again. My birthday is now consistently forgotten ( often getting messages after Facebook reminds them) and I don't remind anyone about anything anymore. It still makes me a bit sad but they are all happier and I'm not stressed
... This is why before you accept you put your adult hat on and ask what the arrangements will be for handling the check? Will we go strictly Dutch and sharing the birthday persons meal? Or what is expected because this is how much I can pay but nothing more, no matter what the groups total is at the end. That's my availability. Simple. No fuss no drama and you just don't attend if it doesn't work.
No it’s not fair. Why do people want to eat like there’s no tomorrow then expect others to supplement their meal? You don’t know others financial situation, and this sister should understand her brother is a college student. You did offer to pay your fair share, and that is all anyone should pay. You are not the bad guy.
you shouldn't have come if you couldn't afford it? lmao, what sister meant was you 'shouldn't have come if you couldn't afford to help us pay for our dinners as well'. don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm
The greedy, selfish asinine, immature, sow embarrassed her self!
Sow? Cow or sil?
Tell her next time you get to pick the restaurant,somewhere you can afford not what she wanted just so she can show off!
OP is NTA but if the whole family relies on only the older child to be their social director, I've been there. It sucked. The reason I was doing it because otherwise they forgot things like everyones birthdays. Eventually when I complained that I was doing all of that by myself and had to follow up to get responses. My mom responded with, no one asked you to do that! And I never planned another family thing again. My birthday is now consistently forgotten ( often getting messages after Facebook reminds them) and I don't remind anyone about anything anymore. It still makes me a bit sad but they are all happier and I'm not stressed
If the money was no big deal then 5he sister should have just paid the whole bill.
... This is why before you accept you put your adult hat on and ask what the arrangements will be for handling the check? Will we go strictly Dutch and sharing the birthday persons meal? Or what is expected because this is how much I can pay but nothing more, no matter what the groups total is at the end. That's my availability. Simple. No fuss no drama and you just don't attend if it doesn't work.
No it’s not fair. Why do people want to eat like there’s no tomorrow then expect others to supplement their meal? You don’t know others financial situation, and this sister should understand her brother is a college student. You did offer to pay your fair share, and that is all anyone should pay. You are not the bad guy.