How Christians Deal with Mean People

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  • Опубліковано 15 жов 2024
  • We can expect people to be mean sometimes-especially on social media. But what we don’t always expect is for people who claim to be Christians to be those mean people. It’s always difficult for us to react in a charitable way when people are rude or mean to us, but what we must remember is that-as Christians-we are examples of Christ by bearing the name of his people.
    Today, Jackie gives some advice on dealing with mean people.
    For more discernment advice from Jackie (and Bobby) Angel, check out their book Pray, Decide, and Don't Worry (tinyurl.com/yz....
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 539

  • @massabielle2821
    @massabielle2821 3 роки тому +343

    The hardest part of dealing with mean people are those who keep hurting, and are never sorry, and will never apologize...........forgiving them, and praying for them, takes so much strength........

    • @jaca7584
      @jaca7584 3 роки тому +47

      ...and that shows how much of a state of Grace you are in... because it is that hard to do... 🌸

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 3 роки тому +8

      @@jaca7584 love that

    • @echa9446
      @echa9446 3 роки тому +19

      especially if it's ur dad whom u see everyday 🙄

    • @mousiebrown1747
      @mousiebrown1747 3 роки тому +28

      The “mean people” May have narcissistic personality disorder. If so, love their souls from as far away as you can get from them.

    • @mousiebrown1747
      @mousiebrown1747 3 роки тому +12

      @@echa9446 Listen to me - I’ve been there - talk with someone &/or learn about narcissistic personality disorder. You’re not Jesus; you don’t have to be a victim.

  • @joshuademiguel2254
    @joshuademiguel2254 3 роки тому +243

    It’s so crazy how accurate the uploads apply to my life currently.

  • @sme7385
    @sme7385 3 роки тому +130

    If someone abuses you, mentally emotionally, spiritually, physically, on a constant basis stay AWAY from them!
    Surround yourselves with like-minded christians who will treat you with respect, regards, and total charity, kindness, and knowledge.
    If you do encounter them it is best to ignore them, or tell them "God bless you" and pray for them privately.

    • @dianemarie8873
      @dianemarie8873 3 роки тому +21

      Yes, it's different when it comes to abusive, toxic people. We do not have to keep toxic people in our lives. But we do need to pray for them.

    • @loveworksnoevil
      @loveworksnoevil 3 роки тому +8

      What if everyone everywhere is doing this, not literally everyone, but I mean everywhere you go there's more than a handful of em if not a whole store. family, friends work, I ain't got a place where it's not a total warzone spiritually, sometimes physically

    • @tinag7506
      @tinag7506 3 роки тому +9

      @@loveworksnoevil it's annoying, but not everyone has the same level of sensitivity and empathy as you might have, just relax and avoid feeling so threatened. Because that's what they're trying to do...get you feeling defensive and confused. Even some of my ex-friends used to do this and made me feel a certain type of way, I quietly cut off those friendships without explaining and it feels liberating. When you build up your silence, they have nothing to attack.

    • @dalaicavalcanti8106
      @dalaicavalcanti8106 3 роки тому +14

      Forgiving someone does not mean becoming their friend or staying with said person
      You can stay away from them but you ought to pray for them and wish the best for them

    • @paxtonb3926
      @paxtonb3926 Рік тому +1

      Man this was the only comment I agreed with until I realized you thought the good people were in church whoops

  • @matthewcaprio5113
    @matthewcaprio5113 3 роки тому +74

    I recall this quote from Dear Mother Teresa:People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
    Forgive them anyway.
    If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
    Be kind anyway.
    If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
    Succeed anyway.
    If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
    Be honest and frank anyway.
    What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
    Build anyway.
    If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
    Be happy anyway.
    The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
    Do good anyway.
    Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
    Give the world the best you've got anyway.
    You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
    It was never between you and them anyway.

    • @irenec3906
      @irenec3906 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for posting this Matthew!

    • @spirals73
      @spirals73 10 місяців тому

      I need that in a frame on my wall. I love that poem.

    • @SDW3-6-9
      @SDW3-6-9 10 місяців тому

      Christopher Hitchins review of mother Teresa....

    • @hellothere1973
      @hellothere1973 6 місяців тому

      Wow

  • @lizabethmarquez3867
    @lizabethmarquez3867 Рік тому +9

    Loving harder should not be confused with enabling emotional abuse from others. Many times the most loving and compassionate action is to leave that “relationship”.

  • @ZeniaLarsen
    @ZeniaLarsen 3 роки тому +128

    The tricky part here is balancing kindness and honesty. If someone really hurts you and you don't let them know that they hurt you (like just smiling and saying 'thank you'), how are they supposed to learn not to hurt others? There's a real danger in becoming self righteous here, like "at least I did the right thing".
    Also, would we say the same thing to the one who is being not just called a bad thing on Facebook but being bullied or beaten up daily?
    I guess that what I'm saying is that I'm longing to learn how to be loving, kind AND honest at the same time. I think this difficult issue is only scratched on the surface, here, and I really hope that this doesn't come out as mean but to me this video proposes an attitude that very easily turns out as deceitful - pretending to love but not actually loving.

    • @deRose03
      @deRose03 3 роки тому +20

      To love means to wish only what's best for someone. If someone is mean to me, he instantly becomes disgusting and revolting to me and I will never pretend that I'm enjoying this broken person. I'll only wish the best for him and walk away in disgust. Never will I turn the other cheek and say "thank you" because it would be very perverted. God doesn't support perversion.

    • @Spectrometer
      @Spectrometer 3 роки тому +19

      I agree. Not to mention, thanking someone just to make him/her angrier seems like the opposite of Love.

    • @dakneeskat
      @dakneeskat 3 роки тому +26

      I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees the messages in this video problematic.. what about cases of abuse? There's the commandment about loving yourself as well. I think there's a balance of loving yourself and loving your neighbor. It's by God's grace that we can do both perfectly. I think the best way we can love others who hurt us to is pray for them. We don't necessarily have to engage.

    • @ZeniaLarsen
      @ZeniaLarsen 3 роки тому +7

      @@Spectrometer Agreed, and good point. It's actually just another way of hurting someone back + it's a dishonest reaction.

    • @GiaBlinks
      @GiaBlinks 3 роки тому +10

      I agree with everyone here. We aren't children on the playground. As adults, we can't always blow someone off, it's important to say the things we need to say. The "bullies" can learn from their mistakes

  • @marcym2259
    @marcym2259 3 роки тому +26

    Oh, if only I saw this video yesterday. My co-worker has been a bully to me for many years. Yesterday she pushed me too far and I lost it. I yelled at her and things got ugly. I could not sleep last night and it is still bothering me. I promised myself that I would pray for her because I do believe she is hurting. I should have just walked away, or treated her with kindness instead. I am not proud of myself for my behavior. I wish I could turn the clock back 24 hours and handled things differently. Going forward, I will handle difficult people with kindness rather than with anger. Thank you for this inspiring message. God bless you!!!

    • @LoverofJesusChrist8
      @LoverofJesusChrist8 6 місяців тому +4

      Forgive yourself! You are loved and I’m sorry you have had to put up with that for a while. That’s toxic and you shouldn’t have to put up with someone treating you that way. I pray that God would cover you with his love and protection 🙏🏻

    • @marcym2259
      @marcym2259 6 місяців тому +2

      @@LoverofJesusChrist8 Thank you, and God bless you my friend🙏

    • @denniswalker1977
      @denniswalker1977 Місяць тому

      One needs a clear definition of the word kindness.

  • @GardenMinistry.
    @GardenMinistry. 3 роки тому +92

    I feel like I'm a bully magnet. I used to get bullied in school, then as an adult by cruel coworkers, being kind is my nature, but it sure feels like I need therapy to deal with it on an emotional/psychological level. It doesn't always solve the bullying, but I know that's what we are called to do. Jesus suffered worse at the hands of his "bullies," i just need to learn how to be easy breezy and not let it bother me. 😬

    • @PauperPeccator
      @PauperPeccator 3 роки тому +19

      It takes effort, doesn’t it? To love the unlovable, like the Lord does. God bless you, keep going, I’m certain its the right path.

    • @JB-ou6fl
      @JB-ou6fl 3 роки тому +17

      It is difficult, but with God's grace and consistent effort on your part, you'll get there. 😇 Bullies who are not getting the reaction they want to see will eventually get tired and move on. Just remember that God loves you and so do your family and friends. I'll pray for you

    • @dollymomma710
      @dollymomma710 3 роки тому +11

      Me too. I completely understand where you're coming from. Jesus' Love conquers all 🙏🏼.

    • @dakneeskat
      @dakneeskat 3 роки тому +17

      Yes, therapy can help. I'm like you - I think it is because we are empaths and people-pleasers - due to our upbringing and individual personalities. I am learning how to set boundaries and take care of myself. Praying for you, too. 💕

    • @mousiebrown1747
      @mousiebrown1747 3 роки тому +14

      @@JB-ou6fl No. Bullies may move on, but will return until you learn psychological strategies to defend against their illnesses.

  • @igormatoss
    @igormatoss 3 роки тому +57

    It's exactly what's happening to me right now. And it's very tempting to see my neighbor as an enemy, but he IS NOT! So true, just a broken person who needs God, just like I do!
    Thank you so much, what a nice video!!!
    Greetings from Brazil!! 🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷

  • @chelledue1624
    @chelledue1624 3 роки тому +44

    Beautiful. Thank you, my mother who passed away 10 years ago this month, also often said “Kill them with kindness.” There is so much life in this. So good. Thank you. God bless you.

  • @jaca7584
    @jaca7584 3 роки тому +27

    Wise and true words! Have disarmed and confused many who have been rude to me. When I was a new nurse in a hospital , there was another nurse who was rather a big bully , and all the other nurses stayed out of her way... She began tsrgeting me... but rather than hide ... I did ALL of her workload and did a lot of her duties as well as my own for an entire shift. This threw her... and I became her one friend on that ward from then on.... 👍

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 3 роки тому +6

      That’s amazing! This reminds me of turning the other cheek. 😌🙏🏽

  • @LALady1
    @LALady1 2 роки тому +7

    You can’t always do that though in every situation. Sometimes you have to confront a bully. Sometimes you need to protect someone else who’s being bullied. It’s not always cut and dry. Each situation is different. We sometimes need to let go of toxic people or create some boundaries as well. Being kind can also mean telling them the truth.

  • @anaarmalah3759
    @anaarmalah3759 3 роки тому +12

    Don't let circumstances define you and just keep being you! That's what I was taught

  • @alexissashanicolle8675
    @alexissashanicolle8675 3 роки тому +23

    Romans 12 is my favorite chapter in the whole Bible! It’s sooo wise and on point! 💛✝️🛐😇🙌

  • @Richie016
    @Richie016 3 роки тому +19

    Overtaking any influence of mean attitude through kindness, is the way to deal with its impact to the heart.

  • @Mrs.dat4302
    @Mrs.dat4302 3 роки тому +30

    I'm a non Catholic at the moment. I'm in the process of learning and soaking up all I can. Amen to everything you said here in this video. This is exactly the reminder that I needed. Thank you, and God bless you, and the Saint that you spoke about. 🙏💜

    • @joannawolfe1100
      @joannawolfe1100 3 роки тому +1

      Bless you, Silverlocks!

    • @gabriellegal4496
      @gabriellegal4496 3 роки тому

      so who are you about now, protestant ? Just for curiosity

    • @matheustrbr
      @matheustrbr 3 роки тому

      same...

    • @Vargolis
      @Vargolis 10 місяців тому +1

      Any update on your progress? God bless you

    • @Mrs.dat4302
      @Mrs.dat4302 10 місяців тому +1

      @@Vargolis I became Catholic. Thanks be to God. God bless you too.

  • @kazfor3769
    @kazfor3769 3 роки тому +15

    If I can't do anything else, like a kind word or a kind act I pray for the people who have hurt me, a great way to exercise mercy is through prayer.🕊️🙏🕊️

  • @paddingtonlaw2491
    @paddingtonlaw2491 Рік тому +7

    Thank you so much for this. I am really struggling with a neighbor. She has been calling the sheriff on our dogs and telling lies. They actually believe her so my home is no longer my sanctuary. I'm on edge constantly, she stands outside and stares at my house for hours on end. I love my dogs very much and thank God for them every day. I go back and force between praying for my neighbor and plotting revenge. I need to watch this video daily and get my head right.

    • @gingerpickett6958
      @gingerpickett6958 Рік тому +2

      You could try recording evidence. Motion cameras in the house taking a picture every time there’s movement can collect a lot of evidence of when your dogs were in the house. If your neighbor tries to lie about your dogs, there’s a chance one of the lies will he proven wrong by evidence. And then the police will be left wondering how many other lies your neighbor told. I hope you are able to find peace

    • @Vargolis
      @Vargolis 10 місяців тому

      Hope the situation has improved. God bless you

  • @kathyalex778
    @kathyalex778 3 роки тому +53

    I understand saying, "Thank you" or simply ignoring someone who said one rude thing. However, if someone were to yell in my face and I couldn't back away, harass me constantly over a period of time, or even get physical, I could not "kill them with kindness". Self defence and standing up to protect yourself are sometimes necessary! Usually in these cases I would ask someone else to help me, but if I'm alone, I'm yelling back or fighting back.

    • @akiram6609
      @akiram6609 3 роки тому +18

      A person does not have to put up with abuse, Christian or not.

    • @ShooterSway
      @ShooterSway 3 роки тому +8

      I can agree. I believe Jackie would agree as well. However, the video focuses primarily on mean people with respect to what is said, rather than any physical responses to violence. I'd be willing to argue the Church upholds the preservation of life, and if an altercation elevates to the point where walking away or ignoring it doesn't work, then you absolutely have the basic human right to preserve your life through the proper self defense means.

    • @runtherace1201
      @runtherace1201 3 роки тому +14

      Yes. You sometimes have to end the relationship when it becomes toxic for you. You find no amount of loving action works, and the behavior you are responding to is actually abuse. It happens in families, work relationships and marriages....even "christian" ones. In that case you must preserve the person God created you to be.

    • @helens8977
      @helens8977 3 роки тому +9

      Sometimes we forget that when, the High Priest ordered someone to hit Jesus at his trial, Jesus challenged the High Priest. Turning the other cheek means not taking retribution but it doesn't mean letting abusers get away with bad behaviour.

    • @akiram6609
      @akiram6609 3 роки тому +7

      @@helens8977 Yes, and we also forget during the early part of his ministry, when the people picked up stones to stone him he evaded them and left. He didn’t stick around to try to be nice to them. He just left.

  • @marcuscoffey9535
    @marcuscoffey9535 Рік тому +4

    I appreciate this message. If you are the type of person who is not bothered by what others say, then this will help.
    I think one thing to consider though is how we manage our own emotions while absorbing the negativity thrown our way. It can definitely take a toll on your mental and emotional well being.

    • @spirals73
      @spirals73 10 місяців тому +1

      I live with a very insecure family member who doesn't follow Christ and can be condescending as a way of trying to convince them of their own false superiority. I know it's not about me but it feels like it is. It's demoralizing. But I am who I am in Christ and they cannot change that.

  • @maddiemcnugget1076
    @maddiemcnugget1076 3 роки тому +102

    Me: just finished a therapy session with my therapist on how people on the internet are crapping on me because of my religion
    This video, a few minutes later: *is uploaded*
    Me: 😱

    • @christophewakim3587
      @christophewakim3587 3 роки тому +6

      Oh i love your picture is this a pokemon?

    • @shushanthswinderballs1122
      @shushanthswinderballs1122 3 роки тому +6

      I hope you aren’t being serious about going to therapy because of mean comments. Just ignore them, doesn’t matter what they say anyway. You shouldn’t even really waste your time or mental space with them, that are pathetic.

    • @JohnWilkesBased
      @JohnWilkesBased 3 роки тому +10

      Come on Maddie, you're on the side of God. You care about what people like that say? They aren't even worthy of ridicule in their ignorant smugness.

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 3 роки тому +10

      @@shushanthswinderballs1122 my school provides free therapy/council sessions so tbh I’m just using my tuitions worth. I was just talking about general stressors in my life. I’m just putting up preventative measures so I don’t end up like many kids who can’t deal with stress. You and I both know those people are misguided but I’m just doing measures to develop a stronger/more effective defense against those people. Not doing therapy just because of mean people, but it’s a valid reason to go to therapy if needed!

    • @maddiemcnugget1076
      @maddiemcnugget1076 3 роки тому +2

      @@christophewakim3587 yup! Lol hard to explain but it’s a ditto that transformed into a clefairy

  • @eddiejuarez2427
    @eddiejuarez2427 3 роки тому +35

    Wow how I’ve been needing this cause sometimes I consider getting into fist fights with people 😂😂
    But then I think “what would Jesus do?”

    • @deRose03
      @deRose03 3 роки тому

      Jesus would even kill in some cases, I'm sure. Remember his rage when he was overturning those tables? God blesses soldiers who go and fight and kill to protect the innocent. Jesus wasn't a snowflake or a flower. Knowing perfectly well how dangerous life is, he lets us maintain a balance between turning the other cheek and taking severe measures.

    • @eddiejuarez2427
      @eddiejuarez2427 3 роки тому

      @@deRose03 well it depends cause I hardly doubt he would’ve just taken someone’s life just because
      I for example wouldn’t defend myself using violence
      But I would use it to defend others

    • @deRose03
      @deRose03 3 роки тому

      @@eddiejuarez2427 I said "in some cases", not "just because". He would never do it "just because". If Jesus, for example, saw a man murdering a child, he would rush to his rescue and if needed, would kill that man if there was no other choice.
      Also, it's perfectly normal to use violence in self-defense if someone is trying to take your life.

    • @gabriellegal4496
      @gabriellegal4496 3 роки тому

      @@deRose03 @Dinara Kiev No, actually, is on the 5° commandement that you shall not kill, so if you think like that, problably, you are assuming Jesus "would sin in some cases" and that's not right

    • @deRose03
      @deRose03 3 роки тому

      @@gabriellegal4496 You must be a pacifist. "You shall not murder". Killing is totally different than premeditated murder. Don't view it as sin. During World War 2, for example, lots of soldiers fought and protected innocent people from tyranny by killing the evil. It wasn't sinning. Jesus would never just stand there and watch an innocent child being murdered.

  • @vuhoang7109
    @vuhoang7109 3 роки тому +5

    Thanks for this, Jackie.
    I've been taught and learned from my earlier RCIA, all we can do is to try our best with our human capability/capacity possible, but it takes the Holy Spirit to be able to surpasses that to forgive them and to heal us. As sometimes you can forgive them, but may never be able to forget. The scars will be there and time will not heal it. Only the Grace and Mercy of God can actual heal it, as the Holy Spirit will guide us, comfort us, and strengthen us to be able to continue on with our lives starting through our forgiveness and to carry-on.

  • @movingforward30
    @movingforward30 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much! It really helped me realized to not be mean today because someone is trying to trigger me. Thank you Lord for saving me, and forgive me for almost letting myself be devoured by darkness. 🙏🙏

  • @Juliana65
    @Juliana65 Рік тому +2

    It's not just that we are all broken.... obviously we are. However, there ARE truly evil people. People who delight in evil and have no remorse or conscience about it.

  • @shannonmaria22
    @shannonmaria22 3 роки тому +2

    This is great advice. And I do agree that this advice should always be tried first. However, it is important to remember that after a certain point, you must walk away and let God handle it. If a relationship is abusive or toxic (either physically OR mentally), you need to protect yourself. Still pray for them, but from a distance.

  • @1woksape606
    @1woksape606 3 роки тому +3

    Very important subject- Many Christians have poor relationship, defenses and boundaries- when we are supposed to be the wisest, prospering, Godly, prayerful, moral people in the world.

  • @catcastillo4367
    @catcastillo4367 3 роки тому +9

    This was such a great reminder especially when applying it to people you work with. It can be tough navigating so many personalities and I need to REALLY love one of my co workers right now 😁💗

    • @jasonbryan9056
      @jasonbryan9056 3 роки тому

      How are you doing 😊😊😊😊

    • @tarryngeorge9285
      @tarryngeorge9285 3 роки тому

      I'm in the very same boat as you; Catherine :) I REALLY need to love one of my co- workers, and she's in the same team as l am. She's a real challenge but I can see God working to slowly soften her heart. God bless.

  • @JohnR.T.B.
    @JohnR.T.B. 3 роки тому +2

    There are always mean people, as they are always good people, but we tend to focus on the negative ones perhaps because of our inner selfishness and sense of entitlement to be always accepted and appreciated. I always remember this passage:
    "who, though he was in the form of God, did not regard equality with God as something to be exploited, but emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, being born in human likeness. And being found in human form, he humbled himself and became obedient to the point of death - even death on a cross."
    Philippians 2 : 6-8

  • @RighteousDay
    @RighteousDay 3 роки тому +6

    The one who is "mean" is not "bad". The one who is abusive is in SEVERE PAIN. They may well feel trapped or powerless due to past unhealed wounds and present stressors. There's much much more that can be said about this subject, yet I will wrap it up with this, as God taught me: Every unloving behaviour is a CALL FOR LOVE... and it is usually an unconscious call 🙏🏼💜🙏🏼

  • @commscompany1502
    @commscompany1502 3 роки тому +5

    Thanks for this. It is a huge issue in Carholic media and generally.

  • @vickybiagini8623
    @vickybiagini8623 3 роки тому +9

    It's hard being a human, and people are in pain.

  • @hksuperstar
    @hksuperstar 3 роки тому +5

    Thanks Jackie for the textbook answer. I think that is what you should teach your kids.

  • @vscards884
    @vscards884 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you. This advice can also be used when we are having an argument with those we love. Sometimes we may have a hard day and be super grumpy and it would be great if our family and friends offered us kindness in hope we can snap out of it.

    • @jasonbryan9056
      @jasonbryan9056 3 роки тому

      How are you doing 😊😊😊😊😊

  • @junebug052003
    @junebug052003 3 роки тому +8

    This was beautiful, thanks for sharing.

  • @jessicaroy7194
    @jessicaroy7194 3 роки тому +6

    Oh I have to say this video just hit me right in the heart! Romans 12 is my favorite part in The Bible and Sainte-Thérèse de Lisieux, I saw many docimentaries about her but i'm still searching in library her autobiography ...Kindness is what drew me to Christianity. :)

  • @corrinndavis1664
    @corrinndavis1664 3 роки тому +1

    How blessed your family is to have you.

  • @Ingaingaweloveanimals
    @Ingaingaweloveanimals 7 місяців тому +1

    We are called to be the salt and the light. I had to learn also. But ive been able to just be nice to toxic coworkers. Its actually had a great effect. ❤

  • @karenlacy257
    @karenlacy257 3 роки тому +6

    thank you- great video! ooohhhh but it's so hard to be good and kind especially to all the mean and horrible people! :)
    i will keep praying

  • @ginger4107
    @ginger4107 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you so much Jacky,I really need this today!!God bless you and your Family always❤

  • @mellohistar
    @mellohistar Рік тому +1

    My mother has been acting incredibly negative towards me. A thought that came to mind was that maybe it is hard watching me grow up, since I’ve just recently started driving and today I door-dashed myself food. She also has a lot on her shoulders and I think it’s just stressful being a mom in general. I must trust god and know I’m doing ok and her mood is not my fault. I know I do nothing to hurt her, and in fact I care for her very much.

  • @abigailfolk196
    @abigailfolk196 3 роки тому +5

    I needed to hear this tonight. Thank you so much Jackie and Ascension Press.

  • @MsNZgal
    @MsNZgal 2 роки тому +3

    I do think that if you are subject to abuse over many years, you need to keep your distance from them. Not in an unkind way. Pray for them, be courteous towards them. Surround yourself with people who are kind and empathetic towards others.

  • @ReneelovesGod
    @ReneelovesGod Рік тому +1

    Amen! This is good word! Applying Gods word .. and in order to not allow the constant negativity is to saturate your self in Gods word, so that you keep your mind of Christ!❤

  • @jakemcroyan7041
    @jakemcroyan7041 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for giving us a better world, video by video. We create our realities and we really can set aside alternatives to kindness as granted. I am always having a good day when I hear from Jackie and can't stand that our time was used to address people who couldn't keep up with the idea of generousity.

  • @itazenin
    @itazenin Рік тому +2

    saint therese please pray for me and all of my perceived enemies

  • @TheresaVu
    @TheresaVu 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and advice with us, Jackie. 💜

  • @mrericrossify
    @mrericrossify 3 місяці тому

    This is a very important video. I love the quote. This is really hard like some people here say some people won't stop hurting you. There is one really important lesson I learned though from someone who was in the death camps, she said she gave her food to her neighbors and when she couldn't stand anymore it was those people who carried her. Sometimes it doesn't seem to work that way but again I love that quote. It sometimes helps to think it's an opportunity to see the faults in myself more vividly and then I can have more compassion for others. It really is refreshing to see people care about being more kind though there aren't many I come across who do that.

  • @MarinaPier77
    @MarinaPier77 3 роки тому +5

    I had heard the phrase hurt people hurt people but I hadn't heard the phrase healed people heal people. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. It's so relevant to the world we live in.

  • @marmeryside
    @marmeryside 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you Jackie👍 always growing near the Holly Gost. Hope all is going well in your new city, bleesings for the family.

  • @acfatemi
    @acfatemi 3 роки тому +3

    Thank You 😊 very useful video❣️ May I add some thought about this subject: Sometimes it is necessary to protect oneself from mean people as they can be abusive to the point beyond annoying and actually destructive. When this is the case it is only possible to love from a distance and pray over the situation 🙏
    In my experience, to pray a Rosary novena to the lady undoer of knots have been very helpful!

  • @maryh7638
    @maryh7638 3 роки тому +1

    I need to listen to this everyday... thank you!

  • @annakelleher7932
    @annakelleher7932 9 місяців тому

    Thank you for this video. I’ve been hurt so badly lately by fellow Catholics. I can honestly say that my heart does not hate. Honestly I don’t like to be disliked so I do everything I can to show my love, and it seems to backfire on me. Then I cry because it hurts so much. Then I think of Christ and how much He went through.

  • @vik_0584
    @vik_0584 9 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful thoughts about this topic, because it seemed really hard for me lately! I will pray for you tonight aswell❤

  • @ElenaRoche
    @ElenaRoche 3 роки тому +8

    The problem is people define "mean" differently. The same action may be seen as mean by one and as not mean by another and perhaps even as a joke by yet another person. You may think you are doing kindness and someone sees it as meanness. I have an art tutorial book published in 1924. In the very beginning the author explains the reason for publishing this book and in today's art world this would be perceived as insulting or even an attack on artists who think differently. The author however ment to only help artists.

    • @loveworksnoevil
      @loveworksnoevil 3 роки тому +1

      Yeah, people are mean to me in a while different way, I mean aggresive(wanting to fight with me type of aggressive), false accusing, vile, torturous, I can deal with little things, but I'm in a continual war all day everywhere I go, am I alone in this war?

  • @mazikode
    @mazikode 3 роки тому +5

    Thanks so much Jackie..i really enjoyed this. And it even applies to family. Thanks for giving us the Bible reference ..am going to read it

    • @lisaclark7306
      @lisaclark7306 3 роки тому

      It ESPECIALLY applies toward family! 😉

  • @andiebrodie3936
    @andiebrodie3936 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you Jackie... that was soooo good. God bless xxx

  • @michelleagbim9598
    @michelleagbim9598 3 роки тому +2

    Amazing video. I've missed you Jackie!

  • @richardt.buryan832
    @richardt.buryan832 3 роки тому +5

    When dealing with a next-of-kin psychopath who has already lied to you and stolen from you, walk away before (s)he kills you.

  • @dianeackermann4526
    @dianeackermann4526 29 днів тому

    Thankyou for this message, it just helps one to think clearer. You amaizing

  • @davidcole333
    @davidcole333 Рік тому

    I reacted to some horribly mean comments exactly as you said and it works. It feels great to live Christs example.

  • @brendaurassa1813
    @brendaurassa1813 3 роки тому +4

    Woow ....God knew i needed this right at this moment...

  • @noreenstarck3644
    @noreenstarck3644 3 роки тому +3

    The hardest part is when it's your sister whom attacks you and is toxic while I am kind and I am wonderful and I am being a blessing . I pray for her 🙏. My sister is really mean to me and says untrue things to me whom I only see 1x a year . Pray for my family and pray 🙏for my ❤. My sister needs healing and I pray against the spirit she is listening to that is not of Jesus. It comes from her issues and her wounds of the past. Anyone who is rude and horrible is wounded. I choose blessings and peace.

    • @simple_naildesigns
      @simple_naildesigns 3 роки тому

      Will pray for your sister 😌🙏🏽

    • @mousiebrown1747
      @mousiebrown1747 3 роки тому

      Please look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder to see if it fits your situation. If so, she will victimize you as much as she can for as long as she can, unless she is healed. My brother is 67 years old; he ain’t healed yet!!! Please get counseling to learn how to avoid being her “prey” and her “victim.”

  • @tatedeschamps8578
    @tatedeschamps8578 3 роки тому +5

    My favourite scripture is Love for Enemies Luke 6:27-36 and Matthew 5:38-48 God Bless you all!

  • @benito8773
    @benito8773 3 роки тому +4

    this is crazy that this comes up right now when i’m dealing with this

  • @jonatikaWwe
    @jonatikaWwe 3 роки тому +2

    Great one Jackie, thank you! 💙

  • @tarryngeorge9285
    @tarryngeorge9285 3 роки тому +1

    Timing for this video is impeccable :)) And definitely the verse I often read as it is so fitting for every day life - it's my best known verse for me, too. God bless. From Cape Town, South Africa

  • @joelgiampaola5740
    @joelgiampaola5740 3 роки тому +6

    hard to do but i know its right.

  • @michaelpryor78
    @michaelpryor78 3 роки тому +1

    Anger/Wrath/Hatred is a true cross for me. I think I'm pretty good about being submissive towards God, but when it comes to some other person being patronizing or authoritarian towards me, then I'm vulnerable to letting Satan run my show. I sometimes try to pray for those I dislike, but it makes me want to vomit in the moment. These sins don't feel good, and they definitely push me away from God, but man, they can be hard not to indulge.
    Pray for me everyone

  • @ryangonzales6051
    @ryangonzales6051 3 роки тому +1

    Just what I needed to hear. Thank you for putting the effort to make this presentation. God bless you.

  • @isabelcasillas4856
    @isabelcasillas4856 3 роки тому

    Thx 4 sharing💯. Just played this scripture 4 my daughter. We have to turn the other cheek, be Saintly & forgive, forgive, forgive. Patience, love & kindness=change. But, if it doesn't wish them well & exclude them from ur life. Continued blessings🙏.✌

  • @agnieszkaa.8341
    @agnieszkaa.8341 3 роки тому +2

    What a fitting topic for today. Thank you for this beautiful reminder. 🤗

  • @IngridFelfly
    @IngridFelfly 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you, I love you guys and your channel ❤

  • @be.love.shine.
    @be.love.shine. Рік тому

    Thank you sister!!! Glory to good God ALMIGHTY may he bless you all!

  • @judymacharia2594
    @judymacharia2594 3 роки тому +12

    Thank you for reminding us what Jesus asks of us.👍

  • @jessicamcintosh9008
    @jessicamcintosh9008 3 роки тому +2

    So much goodness in this!!!!

  • @woofytwoshoes7711
    @woofytwoshoes7711 3 роки тому +3

    Idk I’ve “drawn closer” to my enemy for years, namely remaining friends with particular individuals. In turn I receive disrespect towards things most important to me, my faith and my cultural roots. I have forgiven time and time again, only to be slapped in the face again and again.
    This feels like self inflicted torture and has caused me a tremendous amount of stress and pain over the years. Seems like a complete waste of time dealing with these types of people and I would have rather used the stress and pain to help those in need who treat me better.
    Would love to get peoples thoughts on this.

  • @darwinrobison3156
    @darwinrobison3156 8 місяців тому

    I work with people that do it daily to me. They never stop. It’s constant when I do try to be kind and do what you’re saying to do another person behind them. That’s the same thing they’re doing to me until you snap.

  • @michaelirish1445
    @michaelirish1445 3 роки тому +1

    So desperately needed to hear this message, thank you.

  • @ceciliadaencarnacao1728
    @ceciliadaencarnacao1728 Рік тому

    Thank you for your video in reminding me of being a Christian. Im having alot of false accusations and rumors at work cause of jealous ladies. It is hard.

  • @sherrymelane8694
    @sherrymelane8694 3 роки тому +3

    This was so uplifting 💕🙏

  • @seans.131
    @seans.131 3 роки тому

    "Draw closer to your enemy...I'm going to love you even harder." You get it, Jackie.

  • @Monica4018
    @Monica4018 3 роки тому +1

    this one hit me hard wow. definitely could use this message.

  • @Monica-sr7mu
    @Monica-sr7mu 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks for this reminder.💕💞

  • @gheethumaria6946
    @gheethumaria6946 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much💞
    God bless you dear❤

  • @areacode3816
    @areacode3816 3 роки тому +1

    It is best to limit daily social media exposure. What we feed into our minds changes our daily walk.

  • @donnahalsted7718
    @donnahalsted7718 3 роки тому +1

    BOUNDARIES
    by Cloud and Townsend
    is a very helpful book by two deeply Christian psychologists that CAN BE HELPFUL to those being bullied, used, abused and accused.
    Chances are we have not drawn an appropriate line and the other tresspasses what they have no authority or right to enter. I have found this book valuable. I would like to use it for a group study because we can ALL LEARN SO MUCH FROM ONE ANOTHER!

  • @oonwing
    @oonwing 3 роки тому +1

    True that, please keep up the great work!!!!

  • @NewNoise1
    @NewNoise1 3 роки тому

    Loving is something that must stopped being preached. You can’t force love. Either you love someone or you don’t.

  • @rosieroberts6738
    @rosieroberts6738 3 роки тому +1

    I pray for you!!!
    ✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️

  • @johncooke2903
    @johncooke2903 3 роки тому +1

    Good to see you Jackie, good content 👍

  • @christiandpaul631
    @christiandpaul631 2 роки тому +1

    But Always Remember. Forgiveness is great and can be done at a distance. If someone is toxic, stay away. BUT keep them in your prayers because if they are that bad they are suffering too. God has seen what they did and can hold all of it in balance.

  • @kerwinfernandes9583
    @kerwinfernandes9583 3 роки тому +1

    Much needed. I like your funny. Thanks and God bless! :)

  • @dianemarie8873
    @dianemarie8873 3 роки тому +1

    Romans 12 (especially verses 14-21) Thank you.

  • @rosieroberts6738
    @rosieroberts6738 3 роки тому +1

    You are ABSOLUTELY...correct!!🥰
    I try...to be kind & loving to one another, as God wants us to be!!!✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️
    Thank you for sharing!!!
    Please do more of these loving inspirations!!!
    😀😁😊🥰👍

  • @johannakallias6173
    @johannakallias6173 2 роки тому

    I've always had indirect insults from people talking about my acne and wanting to see if I get insecure or defensive. I've learned to love my acne scars and how God made me and sad to see people's heart are troubled and covered with hate because they feel the need to put someone down. You're right with treat them with kindness and hurt people hurt other people. It's hard to hear it because I've done no wrong to them. It's just sad to see how people are and it show's on what they say and treat others. It's even more scary when these people's jobs are to care for other people.

  • @christan5598
    @christan5598 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing the Bible verse.

  • @AndrewKendall71
    @AndrewKendall71 3 роки тому

    There may be some good in this note, too. I had a friend in counseling tell me sensitive people don't have enemies, they have bullies. That changed the footing for me as I considered a lot of what was said in this video.

  • @onemore5952
    @onemore5952 3 роки тому +5

    I struggle to see how this apply in cases of domestic abused, sexual harassment at work or serious physical bullying in school. Generalising the idea of love and kindness as the answer doesn’t seem right to me.

    • @mousiebrown1747
      @mousiebrown1747 3 роки тому +2

      I agree that this interpretation from Scripture is lacking in sensitivity for the victim, and in sound psychology for abused persons.

    • @ich-nuta
      @ich-nuta 3 роки тому

      This doesn't 1:1 apply in those cases - at least serious bullying which I know from experience. I now (many years after) learned the balance. You know what's best, actually? If you can find some good role model Christian in your surroundings - loving, but knows their boundary.

    • @daena9641
      @daena9641 Рік тому

      👍👍👍

  • @anarojas6376
    @anarojas6376 2 роки тому

    Thanks for this joyita🥰. I really needed it these days. God bless!!