3 Signs God is Trying to Remove Someone from Your Life

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  • @Kris_Reece
    @Kris_Reece  Рік тому +168

    FREE Toxic People Survival Guide
    krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guide

    • @lorigranniss498
      @lorigranniss498 Рік тому +7

      Hey! I joined your sponsor and so far none of the counselors are Christian and the have some wise counsel but it’s not Biblically based. They promote Shaman and have some strange views.

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  Рік тому +9

      @@lorigranniss498 Oh no. I'm so sorry to hear that. I will definitely look into that. I've heard some great things from others. I do hope you find one that is biblically based. praying for you!

    • @fullofhope2222
      @fullofhope2222 Рік тому +2

      @@Kris_Reece Im everyones toxic person

    • @fullofhope2222
      @fullofhope2222 Рік тому +5

      @@tamsintarshish3905 oh good comment

    • @fullofhope2222
      @fullofhope2222 Рік тому +1

      @@tamsintarshish3905 I had one episode of this channel - that was enough - Im only here to reply to you. Hope you hanging in there ML

  • @janahoffman3895
    @janahoffman3895 Рік тому +1860

    SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO MAKE DECISIONS THAT WILL HURT YOUR HEART BUT WILL HEAL YOUR SOUL.

    • @catrinahartz944
      @catrinahartz944 Рік тому +16

      Yes!

    • @ScorpionMaiden75
      @ScorpionMaiden75 Рік тому +13

      Absolutely correct!

    • @janerobles534
      @janerobles534 Рік тому +22

      😢I wasn't even looking anywhere for anyting in this popped up. This was from God very good psychology on the matter

    • @thegoldthatglitters
      @thegoldthatglitters Рік тому +23

      ​@janerobles534 same for me 😢I've been praying about it and vacillating between breaking up and staying together. I love him so much, but I'm thinking that it's time I start obeying the Lord when it comes to my relationships. I'll pray for you if you pray for me about our situations 🙏🏽

    • @janahoffman3895
      @janahoffman3895 Рік тому +13

      Obedience can be so hard, but when I remember who I’m being obedient TO, it makes it much easier. I remind myself that God loves me, He has better plans for me than I do for myself, and as long as I’m in His hands, I know I’ll be okay. For me, it makes it easier to release the things I cling to in my heart that I know I need to let go of. I so appreciate Kris. Lysa TerKeurst is another woman worth checking out.

  • @joshuaanzalone2060
    @joshuaanzalone2060 Рік тому +2054

    God has removed them all from my life,including narc family. I cried and asked God if he wanted me to cut my family off, he responded to me with saying yes my child and forgive them and love them from a distance. It is absolutely one of the best decisions I've ever made in my entire life.

    • @stevesyncox9893
      @stevesyncox9893 Рік тому +90

      I’m feeling a similar need to be alone.

    • @handebarlas6248
      @handebarlas6248 Рік тому +11

      @@jodinarrowpath9998 Oh dear!! That must be very hard...Hope you can keep your relationship going on healthily at least with some of them. Which is more likely: chances of one sibling (you) being right, or chances of all of your siblings being right??? I would not ask the same question about people outside your family, but hey, these are your siblings...Probably you are the youngest and you feel that they do not understand you. Please seek some kind of help, like taking councelling preferably together with your siblings. Wish you all the best.🙏

    • @projectbirdfeederman5491
      @projectbirdfeederman5491 Рік тому +7

      was it an audible voice?

    • @jodinarrowpath9998
      @jodinarrowpath9998 Рік тому +6

      @@projectbirdfeederman5491 huh?

    • @elizabethsmith4655
      @elizabethsmith4655 Рік тому +29

      My family need to be out my life cause they don't benefit me

  • @mariaelenar9764
    @mariaelenar9764 Рік тому +1130

    My life has changed completely for the better after I humbly knelt and cried saying " I am sorry Almighty Father for being stubborn trying to fix a relationship that gives me grief and stress. Your will not mine" ❤

    • @freddiestranger9783
      @freddiestranger9783 Рік тому +10

      PLEASE QUOTE THE CHAPTER AND VERSE FOR ME ON THAT

    • @FaithfulandTrue777
      @FaithfulandTrue777 Рік тому +27

      ​@Freddie Stranger 1 Kings 13:8 -end.
      The man of God disobeyed the command not to go that way, nor to trust or eat or drink with anyone... the Man of God trusted the old prophet who lied in order to bring forth the MoGs demise.
      God knew, God warned, yet naively he trusted the lying old prophet over God's first command.
      We try to bring Lot with us but all it causes is strife 🙏

    • @ctowtf
      @ctowtf Рік тому +7

      ​@@freddiestranger9783 wanting everything from a Bible is a sickness. A lot of things in life, need only commonsense.
      If you don't have that, then don't ask why people dislike you.

    • @TxHoneyBee
      @TxHoneyBee Рік тому +24

      @@ctowtf If you don't understand, please be humble in this space. You people who think your opinion is superior to everyone else's are sick.

    • @ctowtf
      @ctowtf Рік тому

      @@TxHoneyBee My NM made my life difficult, and my sister - a devoted christian was making my life more difficult by doing all the useless things she learnt from church. I am the victim here and i have the right to say what actually hurting me ! If you do not know what i have been throught, just shut the f up and Mind your own business.

  • @byronkerby6897
    @byronkerby6897 Рік тому +89

    It is easy to see flaws in others, while ignoring our own, so self-examination is critical. Sin is what makes people toxic.

  • @laurierogge561
    @laurierogge561 Рік тому +256

    47 years in marriage, separated for 9 of those years, reconciled & now regret of doing so. I’m almost ready to leave again & praying for strength & wisdom that I can only receive from my Lord & Savior Jesus Christ🙏💕

    • @anthonybianco8690
      @anthonybianco8690 Рік тому +11

      Stay strong God is most definitely with YOU and is bringing you through….. believe me

    • @karenabbott5974
      @karenabbott5974 Рік тому +5

      ❤️

    • @andrewlilley3660
      @andrewlilley3660 Рік тому

      @@foresthiker6707 I don't see much abundance around, Sir, plenty of foodbanks though, this God of yours hasn't got his eye on the ball, thanks.

    • @JesusisLordgh8j
      @JesusisLordgh8j Рік тому +11

      IF YOU WANT PEACE LEAVE.

    • @randy_cbc8811
      @randy_cbc8811 Рік тому

      @@andrewlilley3660 "abundant life" for those who belong to Him. You are looking at life through the eyes of an unbeliever, so of course you are not going to 'see' God at work in the world, and especially not at work in the life of a believer, if you are an unbeliever.

  • @joshuaanzalone2060
    @joshuaanzalone2060 Рік тому +756

    Absolutely do not let anyone project their fears,worries,and insecurities onto you.

  • @mpacino1224
    @mpacino1224 Рік тому +686

    This is what happened to me. I set boundaries and suddenly I was the bad guy.

    • @Bucephale0077
      @Bucephale0077 Рік тому +26

      I feel you Mia. I feel you so bad. Same thing to me. Im off now. Totally drained out. Im healing slowly with God. ❤

    • @susannakotoff7095
      @susannakotoff7095 Рік тому +31

      yep removed the gaslighting narcs no contact . Wolves in sheeps clothing...

    • @TanyaBoyle-h6o
      @TanyaBoyle-h6o Рік тому +2

      I believe this will happen

    • @elizabethf9096
      @elizabethf9096 Рік тому +4

      Same here

    • @karlaandes8859
      @karlaandes8859 Рік тому +14

      @angelreed6182blame shifting at its finest. Narcs are master manipulators and this tactic is a big part of their game. But it sounds like you have your eye on the prize and that’s peace 😊

  • @sidjohnson1616
    @sidjohnson1616 Рік тому +266

    It's hard to break away a friendship if they are the only friend you have.but you know you have to break away from the friendship. We need to relize that Jesus is our friend

    • @sharynm79
      @sharynm79 Рік тому +19

      So true. But do you. Find your own joy. Walk. Talk to people when u order a coffee. Painting for me has become my therapy. But I’ve found being alone is so much more peaceful than the craziness of toxic people. Love to u

    • @marisamartin3664
      @marisamartin3664 Рік тому +7

      There are billions of people out there and at least one billion Christians, so God can easily find you friends.

    • @marystraniero1037
      @marystraniero1037 Рік тому +10

      New better friends may then enter
      Be your own best friend
      God is with you

    • @juliewarwick303
      @juliewarwick303 9 місяців тому +4

      When you create a space for new friends to enter your life and open yourself up to new relationships, you will find new friends with the right people. Give it over to God.

    • @DavidnBCNV
      @DavidnBCNV 8 місяців тому +4

      Sounds like my situation,thanks for sharing. It's better to walk alone than with bad company.

  • @ericabertagnoli5469
    @ericabertagnoli5469 6 місяців тому +28

    Yup the saying goes “when someone shows you who they are , believe them the first time.”

    • @pawsometales6507
      @pawsometales6507 5 місяців тому

      YES!! I should have rembered the previous abuse instead of rescuing her out of the bad situation she was in. Well that forgive ness and kindness certainly backfired on me. So I pray for God to remove this person, she needs to move far far far away,

  • @2edg
    @2edg Рік тому +116

    I'm so thankful God removed me from an awful situation Thank you JESUS AMEN ❤

    • @Heseesyou
      @Heseesyou 10 місяців тому +1

      Please pray for me and my 4 yr old safe exit.. ❤

    • @jackiepowell7513
      @jackiepowell7513 10 місяців тому

      " Jesus mysteriously disappeared untill He was ready to give Himself up" Don Hargrove pastor-teacher.

  • @lisazappala4381
    @lisazappala4381 Рік тому +322

    My last husband was physically abusive after going to Bible school to become a pastor. It took me a year to be able to leave and save myself after I ended up in the ER after back surgery he strangled me but I’m a handicap disabled person who has no way to take care of myself.
    I finally put God in charge of my life and trusted in God to make a way for me. God opened up doors everywhere for me to be able to find s as place to live, food to eat and finances to pay bills. I’m not in such a good place physically and emotionally. God did it all and I live for God and put every moment in my life in His hands. Faith and trust in God saved my life in more than one way

    • @byronkerby6897
      @byronkerby6897 Рік тому +20

      @lisazappala4381 You are not alone. God will take care of you. Trust Him.

    • @lisazappala4381
      @lisazappala4381 Рік тому +13

      @@byronkerby6897 Thank you for your kind words. I’m living for God every day. Bless you

    • @jernisharichard5032
      @jernisharichard5032 Рік тому +11

      ❤ you are amazing,and strength in him is Good 😊❤.

    • @lisazappala4381
      @lisazappala4381 Рік тому +8

      @@jernisharichard5032 All the glory to God. ❤️

    • @Jordanlorraine1995
      @Jordanlorraine1995 Рік тому +13

      Oh how unbelievably heart-wrenching. May God continue to provide for your every need!!!

  • @amyscott687
    @amyscott687 Рік тому +412

    4:47 They’re poisoning your garden.
    6:54 Shift in Feelings
    8:06 Decision-making out of emotion

    • @crystalgrose
      @crystalgrose Рік тому +14

      Thank You ♥️

    • @justinseyler
      @justinseyler Рік тому +1

      Well I know now about this girl… she isn’t interested

    • @donna0708mm
      @donna0708mm Рік тому +4

      Where was this confirmation three months ago and my name is Donna 😢. I

    • @helenavanderwesthuizen9688
      @helenavanderwesthuizen9688 Рік тому +8

      Do they literally destroy your plants? He poisoned my plant which my children gave to me. He was jealous of my children.

    • @amyscott687
      @amyscott687 Рік тому +6

      @@helenavanderwesthuizen9688 No, she is referring to the soul as a garden.

  • @womanoffaith1266
    @womanoffaith1266 Рік тому +225

    Please pay attention! I lived this! This is real. Anytime you stay with someone because you feel as though they can do MORE than God, that is a sign. When you feel as though you can survive without God but not without them, that is not good. Proverbs 3:5&6 became my theme when I had to WALK AWAY. I pray that for some of you, God will close every door keeping you attached to that person til you have NO choice but to break ties!!!!!!!

    • @0vercomer
      @0vercomer Рік тому +1

      👏

    • @deew7014
      @deew7014 Рік тому +13

      So perfectly stated ! God is a jealous God he wants us to trust him for our needs first , take our eyes off another human for our safety and needs !

    • @Jaxmusicgal23
      @Jaxmusicgal23 Рік тому +16

      I wish I had figured that out a decade sooner.
      But God is good, and he will walk me through this

    • @cabazoncabazon5952
      @cabazoncabazon5952 Рік тому +2

      Amen!!!!!!

    • @Mouse-fw8el
      @Mouse-fw8el Рік тому

      😊Thankyou for this!(1st Corinthians 15:33)Such powerful teaching!

  • @privatecaller1418
    @privatecaller1418 Рік тому +71

    Blame
    Shifts responsibilities
    Lies
    Deceives
    Betrays
    Roller coaster of emotions
    Uses secrets, vulnerable data to punish

    • @ColmHenry
      @ColmHenry 3 місяці тому +2

      Yes the last one - the vulnerable data is the killer. Look for an exit quickly !!

    • @CharlesBukowski-m1o
      @CharlesBukowski-m1o 2 місяці тому +2

      But it's oddly the best thing ever when they rip their mask off. (You and I weren't crazy! All those times of discomfort were not a coincidence.. MOVING ON!!)

  • @cassandra_h
    @cassandra_h Рік тому +78

    I'm in a destructive marriage where my feelings, thoughts, and needs have been neglected for far too long and my spouse has shown complete indifference toward me for almost 2 years now. I pray every day for deliverance and am just waiting for God to open the door.

    • @sed58
      @sed58 Рік тому +10

      I'm in a lonely marriage. My husband wants nothing to do with our marriage. He s neglected our marriage for way to long. April of 2017 is when I notic3d things started going down in my marriage. We was only married for 6 months. And ever since then he s showed me who he truly was the whole time. He fake it everything about who he really was. He shows no interest in our marriage at all. I'm injured now with my back. And have knee osteoarthritis. So I'm trusting God is working on a plan to bless me with a way out this fake marriage from the beginning

    • @sallycreitzman1953
      @sallycreitzman1953 Рік тому +10

      Aw I’m sorry you’re in this. Please be brave. I tried a method to get out and it worked a treat. Life is too short to be unhappy. So try this……I sat down n said to myself imagine my life without him….painful at first then bright and free. Imagine my life with him…more misery, more angst, more stress, more grief, more pain and the list went on so get out now. Don’t wait for God. He’s busy so it’s your life and you do have a choice. Good luck. Sending love and courage to you

    • @bethmichaels8410
      @bethmichaels8410 Рік тому

      @@sallycreitzman1953How awful to say God is busy. He knows the past, present, and future. He is always working for good for those who are His. Seeking His will & direction b4 relying on our limited human perspective is dangerous.

    • @bethmichaels8410
      @bethmichaels8410 Рік тому +9

      After 35 yrs, God set me free. It’s been almost 3 yrs, not easy, but better than the abuse & neglect.

    • @brendacarabba2752
      @brendacarabba2752 9 місяців тому +6

      You should leave Our Lord does not want you a relationship or marriage that is unhealthy. I had 3 children and a house and all the material things you would want. But I was married to a liar and a cheater I divorced him and never looked back. I lost my house and all the material things I had. But I have never been happier Gods love and Mercy saw me through all of it.I am now in a good place with a good man. My children are now adults and Thank me for what I did❤

  • @mayLibertyprevail1a
    @mayLibertyprevail1a Рік тому +330

    Yes, if you are genuinely trusting God with your relationships, He will make it clear what you need to do. I was married to a truly abusive man who, despite my commitment to honoring my marriage vows and loving him harder & harder, became worse instead of better. One day I was lamenting in prayer, "Lord, I can't trust him." God's response to my heart: "I know you don't trust HIM. Trust *ME*." I had been putting every humanly possible effort into my relationship, but I hadn't put it 100% into God's hands in surrender to His will and plan. When I did that, God clearly and immediately began orchestrating events which created a path to my (and my children's) future safety and freedom from abuse.

    • @lindsaymacklin8220
      @lindsaymacklin8220 Рік тому +10

      ​@@GodTurnItAround44me too but I have zero way out .. I'm so scared bc I cannot live my life like this anymore.

    • @XDhorsecrazyXD
      @XDhorsecrazyXD Рік тому +14

      @@lindsaymacklin8220 please seek a womens shelter or church they will help you

    • @XDhorsecrazyXD
      @XDhorsecrazyXD Рік тому +12

      @@GodTurnItAround44 please seek family, womens shelter or church

    • @heatherhamilton2010
      @heatherhamilton2010 Рік тому +19

      This was exactly me. Tried for over 46 years. God set me free just over 2 years ago. Now I am still going through a very difficult financial settlement process with him but I am so filled with peace, joy and thankfulness to the Lord.

    • @phethilezulu9874
      @phethilezulu9874 Рік тому +6

      May the good Lord help me to trust Him with all my heart with my relationship really I am confused

  • @neiclemons8297
    @neiclemons8297 Рік тому +58

    People do not like it when you set boundaries.

    • @missysmessage722
      @missysmessage722 6 місяців тому +6

      Right! And they even try to make you feel guilty for respecting yourself enough not to tolerate Their disrespect

  • @marciabradley7660
    @marciabradley7660 Рік тому +137

    God isn’t ever trying to remove someone from our lives, he’s asking us to do it

    • @saraholson8711
      @saraholson8711 Рік тому +12

      Amen

    • @lequitagarrett3584
      @lequitagarrett3584 5 місяців тому +8

      @marciabradley7660 yeah, but if you don't do it, he will force your hand by allowing them to hurt you until you cut ties. Facts!

    • @kellyroland6109
      @kellyroland6109 Місяць тому

      It will never "pass" when its your child.

  • @fainak5830
    @fainak5830 5 місяців тому +56

    Sometimes you have to delete people from your life so you can be at peace with your life ❤❤❤

  • @denise0777
    @denise0777 Рік тому +54

    Don't be driven by emotional distress...be driven by wisdom! I needed to be reminded of that. Thank you, Kris!

    • @talonsarise
      @talonsarise 8 місяців тому +1

      Me too. It's hard not to go down the rabbit hole of emotions and guilt. This was just what I needed to hear

  • @PScience
    @PScience Рік тому +123

    Oh, that was my case. I left narcissist 3,5 years ago. God tried to cut him out of my life, but I let him in over and over again. But breaking up was a great blessing for me. I’ve never been so happy!

    • @yomaddy
      @yomaddy Рік тому +3

      Trauma bond is the real villain. I've lost counting how many narcissists I had to deal with them and after long turmoils finally I could able to let them go. Dealing with one right now! 80% I've moved on...

    • @deew7014
      @deew7014 Рік тому +5

      Yes I prayed to God please reveal it all to me re my narc husband and he showed me everything , affairs , financial etc and he spoke to my spirit that to end this and focus on Him Thank you Lord God

    • @maryteresewallace695
      @maryteresewallace695 7 місяців тому

      @@yomaddy u may want to wonder 'how' you've attracted that many narcissists into your life and you keep doing it??? may want some counsel regarding this?

  • @NaebyWaeby
    @NaebyWaeby Рік тому +197

    I recently went through a breakup and it was one of the best things that's ever happened to me. I didn't realize it at the time but quickly understood that when it's time to let go, God will definitely help and heal you. ❤.

    • @Ashley-og9ti
      @Ashley-og9ti Рік тому +5

      How did u know to let it go?

    • @NaebyWaeby
      @NaebyWaeby Рік тому +17

      @@Ashley-og9ti when I thought about it, I realized the cons outweighed the pros of me going back to that person. It hurts being alone but it was hurting even more when I was with the wrong person. God forced me to leave after I asked Him for a sign and He gave it to me. And I trusted in Him and never looked back.

    • @Ashley-og9ti
      @Ashley-og9ti Рік тому +7

      @Chynae Barton omg I think u needed to tell me this your experience may be my sign. So familiar. I relate the being alone can be scary especially when there is so much history. It's a foreign feeling. Even if the person is great but may not be good for you. Wishing the best going forward 🙏🏾

    • @NaebyWaeby
      @NaebyWaeby Рік тому +8

      @@Ashley-og9ti yes exactly. My person was awesome as an individual but just wasn't right for me and what I needed. And that's okay. There is a blessing in every lesson. If it's time to go, be grateful for the time you had and what they offered you at the time and then step forward. You can't see your future if you're constantly looking behind you. ❤️ Peace and blessings to you honey.

    • @Ashley-og9ti
      @Ashley-og9ti Рік тому +5

      @Chynae Barton facts 💯 I saw a quote said "never be a prisoner of your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence." . Some people are in your life just for a season. My issue is recognizing the signs I'm like God show me the signs but give me the wisdom and discernment to see it! 😭 I love this for you 😚

  • @peggan471
    @peggan471 Рік тому +109

    Oh my goodness, this is so true, once I limited my time and interaction with this person My well being and joy returned. Love to all

  • @lorrainemcneal3623
    @lorrainemcneal3623 Рік тому +57

    I got injured recently and have been off work for the past few weeks. It has given me time to truly reflect on how much I deal with at work trying to "keep the peace" all the time with a specific coworker that I work closely with and has a narcistic personality. It has been an exhausting roller coaster for the past 7 years. So while I had time, I applied for a new job and I see the door being opened for new opportunities. I've prayed about it and I really feel that everything happens for a reason and this is meant to be.

    • @sbee985
      @sbee985 Рік тому +3

      Sounds like a good move. God opening a door …

    • @lindawilhelm486
      @lindawilhelm486 5 місяців тому

      Amen!

  • @ctgeorgia
    @ctgeorgia 5 місяців тому +16

    54 years old and facing uncertainty...
    Been with the love of my life for 4 years now. We both believed we were each other's soul mates. Sadly, about 1.5 yrs ago my oldest daughter had a mental breakdown while away at college. It took a serious toll on me, and our relationship. We've been going to couples therapy for the last year, and I believed we had made great progress. However, last night she left me. I've been in a complete and utter blur unable to sleep, eat or think. I refuse to beg anyone to love me. If it's in God's will then so be it. I just pray for strength and peace as I go through this heartache.

    • @caseylanier6312
      @caseylanier6312 3 місяці тому +1

      I had a very similar experience but it was ex wife who attempted suicide who wrote to me and told me that I was the best husband and partner anyone could ever have that within 2 months of this said she wanted a divorce. This almost killed me but I believe after being divorced for 3 years now that God did it for my good. Praise be to the Lord Jesus Christ

  • @patriciaflake815
    @patriciaflake815 Рік тому +124

    I have found out if you give people a little time they will show their true colors. A person can't pretend to be a truly loving kind person but for so long. What's buried deep in the heart and soul of a man or woman will eventually have to come spewing out. It's impossible to be good and bad. You are either one or the other.

    • @debrabrickus8467
      @debrabrickus8467 Рік тому +15

      You are soo right. I found this with my best friend. She showed her true colors.

    • @Lisa-lo1on
      @Lisa-lo1on Рік тому +1

      True

    • @kossy140
      @kossy140 9 місяців тому +1

      That's all

    • @libfuzzy4629
      @libfuzzy4629 8 місяців тому

      True

    • @sistersusie8569
      @sistersusie8569 4 місяці тому +2

      We all still have even unacknowledged bad in the yet unhealed parts of our souls. We simply have to grow discernment as to how to overcome our own tendency towards selfishness and trust God's promise to never forsake us😊

  • @LorraineCareyAuthor
    @LorraineCareyAuthor Рік тому +291

    Being a strong empath this is so true! I have two people now- both narcissists who I need to just let go. I needed to hear this today. Thank you. Blessings.

    • @JEBBY123IFY
      @JEBBY123IFY Рік тому +5

      Me too! Damage is bad!

    • @angellollar1083
      @angellollar1083 Рік тому +4

      2 here in this season.

    • @aalexnavas
      @aalexnavas Рік тому +2

      You better leave or you will regret it…

    • @joycepatton3692
      @joycepatton3692 Рік тому +2

      Me too

    • @Alice-en6bf
      @Alice-en6bf Рік тому

      It's too late for me. The damage is done. I believe I'm an idiot , just a naive little girl who needs to grow up , wake up and smell the coffee. Simply because right and wrong is a priority to me. As I said , it's too late.

  • @NadaAlawadhi
    @NadaAlawadhi 11 місяців тому +5

    I lost a friend when suddenly their toxic traits appeared right after they told me I am so perfect. So I told them I’m going to take my religion more seriously now and be mindful of the words that come out of my mouth, so no I’m not perfect.
    They flipped out on me even though they were so supportive of my while I was trying to find my faith. But when I embraced it they told me I was making a mistake, that I don’t know how bad this religion is and he knows better and that there are better religions out there, like Buddhism and Hinduism.
    That was the start, and I had to soothe them by telling them about the positive impact my religion had on me, then they got mad at me because I got busy and couldn’t finish the whole story of the positives. And then a bad cycle started with me questioning them and trying to pull away to sort myself out. And them telling me I’m a bad friend who ruined our friendship just because we weren’t talking on a regular basis.
    And then I started to question myself, because if I was feeling off by them, then I must be a bad person who holds grudges, so I started feeling shame, I curled up on myself and got more distant, and they got more aggressive with their confrontations.
    I felt like I was unworthy of my religion, I felt like I was a bad example of it and I wasn’t really saved. I also felt like all the growth and maturity progress I made was also a lie. I just went into a dark terrible state because of their confrontations and the things they said and also how much I actually cared about how they viewed me.
    This whole destructive cycle went on for 2 years before I finally put an end to it and stopped taking their BS. It took me more to heal from that.
    But all this to say is, when God removes someone from your life, embrace it, don’t resist it like I did.
    And you know what happens after that, I met another healthy friend who shared my faith who introduced me to even more healthy friends close to him.
    So God removes bad people from your life and let’s in better ones. We just need to trust our God.

  • @brandym.williams7314
    @brandym.williams7314 Рік тому +8

    When it's time to go it's time to Go.

  • @AndrianaGomes-l6k
    @AndrianaGomes-l6k 3 місяці тому +47

    It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r 3 місяці тому +1

      I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.

    • @AndrianaGomes-l6k
      @AndrianaGomes-l6k 3 місяці тому

      Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r 3 місяці тому

      I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
      I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.

    • @AndrianaGomes-l6k
      @AndrianaGomes-l6k 3 місяці тому +1

      I promise you will not regret it.

    • @Jessiesanders-f4r
      @Jessiesanders-f4r 3 місяці тому

      I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love

  • @25N77
    @25N77 Рік тому +76

    To make a professional video to get your important message to your audience is tough enough but to incorporate different versions of yourself edited into the original video is really hard work and is a genius move.
    It surely worked for me. The support you gave to yourself was just plain awesome.
    Thank you for your message and the video. Well done.

  • @rhondageanes7134
    @rhondageanes7134 Рік тому +164

    God is so good! 2021 was my year I finally decided to stop the madness and leave certain family members alone. This year it was time to cleanse my mind body and spirit and actually let go of guilt and seek out help. I’m so glad I found this channel! Gods word, this ministry, along with therapy is helping me gain strength and confidence that I made the right decision to let them go! Time for me to heal. ❤

    • @ChrisFerguson-zm4gt
      @ChrisFerguson-zm4gt Рік тому +2

      Read ur own comment, YOU decided, YOU did. Give urself credit for ur choices not some imaginary friend.

    • @rhondageanes7134
      @rhondageanes7134 Рік тому +5

      @@ChrisFerguson-zm4gt hello. 😊 God gives confirmation and because of that all glory goes to him. Kingdom Blessings to u and ur family!

    • @ChrisFerguson-zm4gt
      @ChrisFerguson-zm4gt Рік тому +1

      @Rhonda Geanes jesus is a myth and there is no god. Feel free to prove me wrong by providing some evidence. I mean surely u have evidence that convinced u not to mention surely theirs some evidence that the greatest most powerful being ever even exists....

    • @rhondageanes7134
      @rhondageanes7134 Рік тому +8

      @@ChrisFerguson-zm4gt
      Blessings to you. It’s becoming clear u wish to throw ur venom this way. I rebuke that in JESUS mighty name. I will not let u kill my joy. Love you and Kingdom Blessings to u and ur family. 😊

    • @bernadetteporter4202
      @bernadetteporter4202 Рік тому

      Are you lonely....if you put effort into this relationship...instead of the easy way of throwing in the towel....you would feel better about yourself and so would the people in your life who are sinners that make mistakes just like you..forgive...love...and pray together for God to heal...He is LOVE....I am praying for you❤

  • @erickriebel4366
    @erickriebel4366 Рік тому +80

    Happiness with another person means you are happy to see them and they are happy to see you you have a good time with them they have a good time with you you call them they call you you help them out they help you out. If any of that is not working for you and the relationship and find somebody or that works and it it fits your life in your schedule. Or you are much better off being by yourself.

    • @carolnolan9439
      @carolnolan9439 Рік тому +1

      Well Stated. Good Advice. Thanks for reconfirming what I thought but not so deeply

    • @erickriebel4366
      @erickriebel4366 Рік тому

      @@carolnolan9439 all I can tell you is this I am 70 years old I have been burned and I have been screwed over more times than I can count but you only have a couple of people that really will help you in my life it is one ex-wife add a sister and that is about it that's my advice to you

    • @erickriebel4366
      @erickriebel4366 Рік тому

      @@carolnolan9439 I forgot to mention my dog I had a chocolate Labrador Retriever for 12 years that's the greatest friend I ever had and there's absolutely no doubt about that including children that weren't even close to that dog at that level of love and attention

    • @teefrankenstein4340
      @teefrankenstein4340 8 місяців тому

      💯

  • @lilybuccigross6688
    @lilybuccigross6688 11 місяців тому +3

    Videos and messages have affected my perception toward my husband of five years. What a treasure to now feel confident based on God’s Word and principles. What the enemy meant for evil, I trust God will use for His glory. Thank you, Kris! 💜🙌☝️

  • @barbaramelville6940
    @barbaramelville6940 Рік тому +2

    I did it now he’s with a toxic person and I don’t want to deal with him anymore thank god❤❤❤❤

  • @carlafenwick709
    @carlafenwick709 Рік тому +12

    Needed to hear this today. 2 years on this emotional rollercoaster. Finally said that’s enough hope im strong enough to keep him out my life now

  • @keithjones7037
    @keithjones7037 Рік тому +41

    I can absolutely relate to this. I've learned to not push for people to stay in my life. If they leave for whatever reason, then God knew that either they were bad for me or they only needed to be in my life for a season or so that God can get something to me. Good video

  • @curiousone6435
    @curiousone6435 Рік тому +49

    Kris, your humorous skits are appreciated in such serious subjects where we can often feel alone, guilty, and bad. Rock on, sister. I love what you bring to the table!

  • @ms.peaches195
    @ms.peaches195 5 місяців тому +35

    I am in the process of a divorce. I've been married 23 years. Long story short. I've paid a lawyer who himself has dragged this divorce. Out of nowhere, this voice said loud and clear, " Your lawyer is a narcissist as well! I am so stuck and beyond drained! I have never felt so lost!!! Please pray for me😭

    • @ctgeorgia
      @ctgeorgia 4 місяці тому +3

      @@ms.peaches195God bless you. I can't imagine. I'm so sorry for what you were going through. I've only been with mine 4 years. She does not like my daughters from prior and threatens to leave every other week, but I try to hold the family together. It's making me physically ill and neither of my daughters want to be here any longer. Absolutely tearing me apart.

    • @loudberg4835
      @loudberg4835 4 місяці тому

      May The good God see you through dear

    • @AK47BLACKice
      @AK47BLACKice 4 місяці тому +3

      @@ctgeorgia , if she doesn’t love your daughters, why did you marry her? Just curious.

    • @ctgeorgia
      @ctgeorgia 4 місяці тому +1

      @@AK47BLACKice She wasn't like this until about a year and a half ago. I don't know why, but she eventually showed how extremely jealous she is of the relationship I have with them... especially my 22-year-old. I'm very close to my first born. When my 22 yr old sees me she throws her arms around me, hugs on me, kisses me and tells me how much she loves and misses me, etc. My oldest also suffers from emotional challenges and has been in a facility for the last 9 months getting therapy. She has severe PTSD/depression from her mom who is a drug addict and did nothing when her ex-convict drug addict husband sexually assaulted our daughter at 17. My 22-year-old is near discharge and wants to come back home to me so that she can get back into college and finish school and move on with her life. My wife absolutely refuses to allow my 22-year-old to move back home and threatens to leave if she does. It's been very hard for me.

    • @aggray1971
      @aggray1971 2 місяці тому

      😮 🙏🏽

  • @Nanasfsw
    @Nanasfsw 8 місяців тому +10

    I recently had to block my daughter from my life. After nearly 19 years of abuse and withholding the grandchildren from me for perceived “infractions” from me my heart is broken. I’m praying for her to remember her sweetness when she was younger.

  • @ladawnwarren8570
    @ladawnwarren8570 Рік тому +44

    Absolutely fantastic message!! God just reveal to me to let certain family members go from my space and a Friend..It was definitely a difficult decision but it was necessary I prayed about it and continued being around these people. And they continue to show there true colors. No more my peace is a requirement Thank you God for revealing this 🙏🏽❤

  • @aamponsaaa
    @aamponsaaa Рік тому +36

    Hmmmmm..... All 3 signs are so true! Especially the 3rd sign and I kept going back due to loneliness and guilt that I'm being too harsh and I'm not being nice but truth is, it was all because of how this person made me feel. God showed me in a dream and I still hanged on by a thread, and guess what? They came to me and blew up a little statement out of context and now it's no contact. My prayer is that God helps me to stay away for good this time. I deserve better and deserve the love I give out. Sometimes we break our own hearts or God has to allow us to really get hurt because we are not listening.

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  Рік тому +2

      So true my friend. thank you for sharing

    • @jamiet182
      @jamiet182 Рік тому

      OMG, me too

    • @aamponsaaa
      @aamponsaaa Рік тому +1

      @Jamie T keep praying and trust in God to heal you from all the words that makes you feel you aren't or weren't being nice to them. 🙏

    • @Ashley-og9ti
      @Ashley-og9ti Рік тому +3

      ​@aamponsaaa same I am a bit ashamed and embarrassed but I moved halfway across the country, alone, no family or friends, and still let them back in. In my life in a whole different state! I was going to change my phone service but the sim card got lost in the mail and we ended up back in touch. I took it as a sign maybe I made the wrong decision but now idk. I ask for guidance but I also need wisdom and discernment. He is not a bad guy I just don't think we are for each other. Please pray for me 🙏🏾

    • @aamponsaaa
      @aamponsaaa Рік тому +1

      @Ashley he's not a bad guy, yet you moved and left your friends and family to get away from him? He's not a bad guy, but he doesn't seem to be good or right for you. I'm not judging but prioritise your mental health first. And sure, I'll be praying for you. Stay blessed 🙏

  • @tinateka64
    @tinateka64 Рік тому +63

    Amen…TY❤️ God sent me to your channel ❤️
    2019 I was emotionally confused…disappointing and very sad…2020 God spoke to me to detach with love from my very toxic family and I am now healing with Jesus 🙏🏻✝️
    I’m blessed for my husband, and children! I thank God everyday for saving me ❤️

    • @0vercomer
      @0vercomer Рік тому

      Beautiful and inspiring. Thanks for sharing.

  • @Whereisyourvoice
    @Whereisyourvoice 23 дні тому +1

    My sister in Christ! I Love you so much 💓 God just granted me the courage and peace to cut off a friend of over 20 years. The Lord had been showing me for over 8 years to cut her off and the closer i got to God the more I started to see that it was time and her reaction made me rejoice even more becasuse I knew it was God and it feels so freeing

  • @brandyongwae6079
    @brandyongwae6079 Рік тому +4

    I just had an epiphany. God really was looking out for me.

  • @gabbypage6929
    @gabbypage6929 Рік тому +73

    I recently let go of a very close friend and her circle of friends. Hurt me deeply. She kept denying things that happened and continually do the same thing so had to let her go.

    • @Ashley-og9ti
      @Ashley-og9ti Рік тому +2

      Do you mind if I ask what type of things?

    • @lauracicero-miller3238
      @lauracicero-miller3238 Рік тому +5

      Same here, she has no self reflection , refused to take responsibly for her actions ,gaslighting me,reflecting responsibility on others after 53 years of friendship I'm done. God kept showing me how she was and is! I loved her and kept forgiving her,........ No more! I will miss her

  • @lanarussell9245
    @lanarussell9245 Рік тому +15

    Oh my goodness!! Thank you for this!! It could not have come at a better time in my life. Your last point of God removing someone before...and I let them back in is spot on. In fact, God finally had to yank them from my life 5 weeks ago for the 2nd time because He knew I was dragging my feet. At that moment I was at total peace, but now I'm struggling and missing the friendship. I'll keep trusting GOD and not my own feelings. Thank you again!

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  Рік тому +2

      Yes, Keep trusting God!

    • @JackAnthony-ud8ii
      @JackAnthony-ud8ii 10 місяців тому

      Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤

  • @liezebartsch-wx2wf
    @liezebartsch-wx2wf Рік тому +43

    You talk so much sense and at the same time so funny. Although I’m in such emotional pain you got me laughing! Thank you. Pray for me that God would guide me out of this trauma and pain and show me where to go and what to do

    • @jolynmcteigue8371
      @jolynmcteigue8371 Рік тому +4

      Surrender to the Lord.

    • @liezebartsch-wx2wf
      @liezebartsch-wx2wf Рік тому +1

      @@jolynmcteigue8371 yes I will, may He be my healing balm of Gilead and my Guide through life. Thankyou dear you encouraged me

    • @JillMousaviMousavi
      @JillMousaviMousavi Рік тому

      I'm right there with you girl!😢😢

    • @iw9338
      @iw9338 Рік тому

      Maybe journaling, reading the Bible & get in a recovery group May He guide and guard you.🙏🙏👍💜

  • @gwynnielsen5081
    @gwynnielsen5081 Рік тому +55

    Sometimes you can't remove the toxic people if they are family members, so setting boundaries are of utmost importance.

    • @KatieS-o3o
      @KatieS-o3o Рік тому +7

      true, but toxic person hardly follows boundaries, especially narcissitic personalities, psychopaths and sociopaths. They do it all their own way and you are not allowed to talk in through or make decisions. it is a one way relationship. it is about power and control, not about love for you. If you leave, you may be in danger. Lots of people do not understand that this period is the most frightening for you and children involved. It is not about letting them go, it is about not to be hurt, lost children, home and be killed if you confront them and say the truth to reach the justice for your well being. Those who do not have that experience -coercive control - will never understand the situation. Neither a therapist or people on the system who are supposed to help you . Some may have narcissism themselves and through their decision will make your life much worse.

    • @gwynnielsen5081
      @gwynnielsen5081 Рік тому +1

      @@KatieS-o3o What you are describing is not plain narcissism. You are describing a socio-path/psychopath, someone with no conscience. I was referring to basic narcissism. You can set limits with a basic narcissist.

    • @ktrain2008
      @ktrain2008 Рік тому +1

      I had to go no contact with several of my blood relatives. Setting boundaries were pointless as they were never honored. What turned out to be several ended up becoming both sides of the family tree. Sometimes, that is required as the toxic person that is put on no contact will go and say things to the entire family about them that are false in which they will take sides with the toxic person. The only boundary that could be laid is just to walk away. Look at it as a favor being done for you as if someone is going to believe lies about you, then they were never truly in your corner. The people who have your back will see through the lies and stick with you. I had to do this and it is worth it and would do it again if I had to!
      You can’t remove toxic family members and you can’t set boundaries with them. The only option is to walk away and avoid them, even if it requires avoiding those that take sides and are left with none. The peace of mind that comes with it makes it worthwhile!

    • @gwynnielsen5081
      @gwynnielsen5081 Рік тому +3

      @@ktrain2008 I have to agree with you. I am moving across the country to avoid my sister, a narcissist who feels everyone should be waiting on her in some sense of the word. I most likely won't give her my new address.

    • @GladysUgle
      @GladysUgle 10 місяців тому

      @@KatieS-o3othis is beautiful worded ❤❤thank you so much heaps, God definitely spoke through you 😢I feel the exact same situation right now in my life and it is hard 😟😔 I pay also ❤and I feel always better about my life after spending time with God

  • @rashmimathur5318
    @rashmimathur5318 9 місяців тому +8

    Recently deleted all my " friends" numbers. I realised i was spreading myself way too thin. Everytime they would text would cause me anxiety than happiness. Thats when i realised their numbers needed to be gone. Deleted social media as I was not vibing with those people on there as well. The most liberating feeling ever. Hope one dayI get the courage to leave "home" and find myself soon away from my narc family and my enabling father so that I can allow the right people in my life to enter and I can shower and receive love and acceptance ❤

  • @originfx1
    @originfx1 Рік тому +108

    Love your ministry Kris Reece! Youre like a breath of fresh air!❤

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  Рік тому +9

      Thank you :)

    • @hippyable
      @hippyable Рік тому +1

      ​@@Kris_Reece you sound so right! You don't overtalk religion. That's good.

    • @hippyable
      @hippyable Рік тому +1

      I had a beautiful weed kick me out during Christmas. That was her last chance. You're amazing

  • @tawnyasterling5875
    @tawnyasterling5875 Рік тому +18

    The clarity revealed. I am guilty, of allowing narcissist back in and "vascillate", in my feelings, then a shift in my feelings. I choose today, to fully trust, in God and lean not, in my own understanding, fir a better future and a new non-toxic relationship, in God's Tim's. Thank you, Minister Kris. I appreciate you and your channel very much. I needed to hear this.

    • @carolsummers8734
      @carolsummers8734 Рік тому +2

      I did not know my husband was a narcissist until years of therapy after he divorced me after 30 years of marriage. I loved him deeply but could not seem to please him. Faith got me through some very bad years.

  • @juditharsenault2131
    @juditharsenault2131 Рік тому +8

    I watched this video and had been procrastinating cutting my hair. It was dry with a lot of dead ends. I went upstairs after watching this and cut my hair! It looks soooo much better and feels better.

  • @mstanley97
    @mstanley97 8 місяців тому +17

    Yesterday I went no contact with my narc family. My only regret is not doing it sooner. Literally making me physically ill. God has been dealing with me to let them go. Jesus really is my 🪨. No human is my rock. I feel confident I'm doing the right thing cause I'm finally submitting to hiw will.

    • @ThrivenLife
      @ThrivenLife 8 місяців тому

      Good for you! I had to cut all contact with my narc family three years ago and I have a bad day about it every now and then, but overall I'm so glad I did it and I continue to get better with each passing day. Life is good ❤ Good luck to you 🙏🏼

  • @28105wsking
    @28105wsking Рік тому +7

    I have always found that whenever I lost something or someone, whenever I was slandered or lied about, whenever I was ganged up on and "let go", or decided to leave because of so many reasons, that I was always, always better off and freer, happier, and glad to be gone from it or them. It's just at the beginning that the idea of being without it is a shock, but just like at the beach when a hole in the sand is filled with the ocean, so a hole in your life is quickly filled with life! Be glad not sad!

    • @JackAnthony-ud8ii
      @JackAnthony-ud8ii 11 місяців тому

      Hello friend how are you doing.?

    • @GladysUgle
      @GladysUgle 10 місяців тому

      ❤❤❤ this is beautiful

  • @stephanielynn1266
    @stephanielynn1266 Рік тому +53

    Wow.
    This video is EXACTLY the clear message I asked God to send me. So grateful for you and your divine message! ❤️ Bless you!

  • @lorraineniblock1673
    @lorraineniblock1673 Рік тому +21

    I listen to your videos so true , my husband is a pastor, I have been married 57 years , 3 years he walked out no explanation, 10 years ago we were ministering in Bali and he patronised the homosexual brothel God is using me to witness to him the pain a d betrayal is so difficult how to move on . he is a narcissist, covert .

    • @ubuntuber1619
      @ubuntuber1619 Рік тому +2

      Jump into my arms and heal with cuddling and love.

    • @tiffnym
      @tiffnym Рік тому +2

      Fast and pray for him. No one is beyond hope. Read the Word of God and keep the scriptures as your focus.

  • @mrscindymargaret2736
    @mrscindymargaret2736 Рік тому +24

    Set boundaries for my mother ♥️

  • @milliganx2633
    @milliganx2633 9 місяців тому +15

    I want to trust you, Lord. Everything sure hurts right now for so long. Please clear things up for me.

  • @kimhaug1193
    @kimhaug1193 11 місяців тому +3

    I have struggled with toxic and abusive family members and ( so called ) friends for so long they all have put me in my grave but I thought I was suppose to tolerate them because they are my family but as time went on I have developed so many internal issues that was causing my health to deteriorate so I ( with the help of Kris ) I have decided to stay away from all them and take my life back AGAIN and free myself of any more pain !
    I will miss them but I have to take care of myself and my heart before die !
    Thank you Kris for helping me make that decision !

  • @ruthstolz7127
    @ruthstolz7127 Рік тому +6

    Our loving Father has gradually revealed this evil in some outside my family and then family members. Their toxic behavior was glaring. I did try to reason with them, but did all the things you described, over and over. I've blocked them and am ignoring their minions.

  • @GloryCarriers
    @GloryCarriers Рік тому +13

    😭😭😭😭🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 when I say that NO ONE CAN DO THIS BUT GOD! I hear you ABBA!!

  • @thomasmillercnb
    @thomasmillercnb 8 місяців тому +5

    My name is Suzanne. I just discovered this video. I believe God led me to this. I have been praying on this very subject for weeks!! God answered through Kris. ❤

  • @hollywood5703
    @hollywood5703 Рік тому +9

    A problem arises when we ASSUMED that families should be there for each other. Once the parents are gone a sibling only feels obligated to their new family while ignoring their original family, even when they’re widowed and alone.

  • @patrickrwhite8354
    @patrickrwhite8354 Рік тому +26

    Just Yesterday God helped me to realize that it's an uphill battle trying to stay intouch with family that doesn't give a damn. They blamed me enough for the truth that they called lies. So when I finally let them all go. I had such a relief of freedom like I had never felt before. Now I know why I was guided to see this video. Thank you!

  • @Tee-jay-365
    @Tee-jay-365 5 місяців тому +3

    Thanks for this video Kris! 1. They are poisoning your garden. 2. A shift in feelings. 3. God removed them before and you let them back in again.

  • @Zona-dw9rp
    @Zona-dw9rp Рік тому +15

    My former spouse. Finally got away from her, but significant damage was done. Thank you, Jesus.

    • @vive928
      @vive928 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Zona-dw9rp do u have kids ?

    • @Zona-dw9rp
      @Zona-dw9rp 5 місяців тому

      @@vive928 Two girls.

  • @karenmccroy8345
    @karenmccroy8345 Рік тому +6

    I needed this! My sister who is not a Christian took so much advantage of me and told everyone on Facebook how much enjoyment she got out of it. And I decided no more!!😊😊😊

  • @victorial8764
    @victorial8764 9 місяців тому +21

    Jeez is it scary. I am facing perhaps letting go of a 5 year we thought we were getting married, at least that what he said all this time. But addiction got in the way. And his daughter who I love will be gone too. I have to break my own heart. I am really making sure Jesus wants this because it makes sense but I just will lose so much. I’m scared I’ll lose my job and won’t function well. Please pray for me sisters and brothers. Tomorrow is my birthday and I am not doing well. Thanks. I am currently trying to find friends and support again. I’ve been secluded for a long time. ❤

    • @ThrivenLife
      @ThrivenLife 8 місяців тому +1

      Prayers going up for you and your situation.🙏🏼

    • @susanguzek766
      @susanguzek766 6 місяців тому

      You are doing the right thing, Sister. You are young and full of hope and trust. He is not a mature Christian man. He is not a responsible partner for you, and he is in addiction. God has a more perfect plan for you.

    • @trishamondal5711
      @trishamondal5711 6 місяців тому

      @@victorial8764 how are u feeling now ,

  • @hccarson7938
    @hccarson7938 8 місяців тому +1

    This was great! I'm a "recovering people pleaser". This gives me more confirmation that some people needed to be removed from my life. I don't miss them either.

  • @janetpugliesi3203
    @janetpugliesi3203 Рік тому +20

    God certainly is in charge!! I really needed to hear this today for oh so many reasons he lead me to you... and what a blessing that was..reminds me of what I needed to know!! Thank you!!!!

  • @creativechicaHaulsMore
    @creativechicaHaulsMore Рік тому +4

    This came right at the time I needed it!!! Cutting someone out right now!! Manipulated me for the last time!! I have had to cut a out a few in my life. This was a so called friend!!

  • @Vicky.Mo14
    @Vicky.Mo14 7 місяців тому +2

    I needed this. My bf and I would be doing good, going out, and having fun for a day or two then out of nowhere I would get irritated with his presence. He didn’t do anything at that moment, but I would just get a shift in my emotions. It made me feel bad, but then I thought maybe God is telling me it’s time to go. You will never be at peace with someone/something that’s not from God.

  • @johnjosiah8839
    @johnjosiah8839 Рік тому +2

    “GOD” good orderly direction ‼️

  • @mamame5519
    @mamame5519 Рік тому +29

    😮Oh my goodness!!! I needed to hear this so bad!!! 🔥Thank you!!!💜

  • @lyngruen8607
    @lyngruen8607 Рік тому +47

    "Take every thought captive".....said the Holy Spirit.
    I'm learning to walk in a constant state of repentance and forgiveness 🙏 💖☝️
    GOD IS SO GOOD ☝️
    Texas Nana 🤠
    Psalm 91

  • @suebs139
    @suebs139 5 місяців тому +3

    Amen! Make a way, Lord! Please, y'all, pray for God to remove anything blocking Jason and I so we can get back on track and back to loving each other!!! We need a miracle! Connect us and order our steps, Lord. No more fear! Protect us from the enemy trying to tear us apart, because it's working, and it needs to stop! Please God, do what only You can do!

  • @brendalentsch2335
    @brendalentsch2335 Рік тому +2

    No more walking on eggshells...thank you Kris. I felt like i couldn't even sneeze right in front of them. So many spoken, but just as many unspoken rules i had to abide by, as if i were a mind reader. Too much!

  • @jwi9381
    @jwi9381 19 днів тому

    The clutter in the mind is spot on ! God is good. Thanks for these tips. Jesus is the way ❤

  • @Deborah-uw5ip
    @Deborah-uw5ip 5 місяців тому +8

    "Nothing good comes from emotional distress."

  • @spitfire8539
    @spitfire8539 Рік тому +91

    If you drop social media you don't have to drop someone out of your life. It comes digital/natural when you get out of there.

  • @Sheryl777
    @Sheryl777 Рік тому +13

    Sometimes it might not even be that the other person is bad company....it could just be that you and the other person have different outlooks on life, and therefore won't be able to agree with each other.

  • @denisesenchantedforest2184
    @denisesenchantedforest2184 6 місяців тому +1

    Came across this video by accident and you have no idea how much I needed to hear this. ♥

  • @jeannienelson6538
    @jeannienelson6538 Рік тому +5

    I have recently removed toxic people from my life that I should have years ago. I'm still recovering from carrying the guilt of doing so but the stress in my life has decreased by huge amounts. I sleep better, I'm happier and my relationship with others is improving.

  • @astrozyle6515
    @astrozyle6515 8 місяців тому +19

    I have just enetered a clumsy marriage wherein there is no sense of boundaries, but obsessive clinginess, lies and deception disguised as 'care'.. I have already lost faith and trust and yet I am being made to feel guilty by both families for reporting a severe problem that has lead to physical and emotional harm to me - inclduing bruises and blood! There is no one on my side and I have been crying to speep every night. God please help me and all those who need such interventions, I have only love to give, where do I find someone who will graciously accept all that I have to offer without this non-sensical toxic and borderline pschotic behaviour that I have had to tolerate.. Please pray for me dear reader, I am just seeking normalcy and peace and healing.. whatever form it may take. Blessings to all reading this 😢❤❤❤

    • @missysmessage722
      @missysmessage722 6 місяців тому +1

      You are a very good writer I could really feel the hurt in this. I'm sorry for what you are going through

    • @gobigirl1
      @gobigirl1 5 місяців тому

      @@astrozyle6515 I'm sorry both families are normalizing and minimizing the abuse. Sadly, it's very common. But it can add to the feeling that you are imagining things, when you are not. I hope you can get good advice from people who are experienced in helping someone escape from domestic violence, it can be very tricky and dangerous. Lundy Bancroft's book "Why Does He Do that" was very helpful to me, pointed out all the strategies that my abuser had used to lure me in and keep me there. I got away, and it took time to heal, most likely it will take you some time to feel better. But it is so worth it. You deserve kind, honest, sweet people around you. Wishing you all good things.

    • @lindawilhelm486
      @lindawilhelm486 5 місяців тому

      You need to take tiny steps toward your goal of leaving. Do whatever you can to leave. Do a tiny step every day. Both families are flying monkeys, enablers. Ignore them and do what is best for you regardless. THEY are NOT looking out for you. It's a shocking realization that they family you thought cared for you, really doesn't. Been there. Done that. Look at the forest. Not the trees. You need to get out. Make that a priority. Once your mind is made up, you will feel better knowing you're working towards what YOU NEED: PEACE.

    • @nikkibenz7187
      @nikkibenz7187 4 місяці тому

      Your comment touched me, I had the same problem years ago,, No one who is physically abusive will stop only get worse I know it happened to me , never allow this, you are stronger than you think, cry out loudly to God for His help and wisdom He will bring you thru, it may sound corny to some but He will, He did it for me, and though I get lonely I control what happens to me and my decisions with God's help of course! You are in my prayers, take care of yourself focus on things you want to accomplish in your life. Get your sleep and rest your brain from. Caos, you are not alone God bless you!!

  • @stevekopcial129
    @stevekopcial129 Рік тому +4

    I just lost my wife and furbaby a month apart from Cancer, We worked hard to save both , now it all makes sense.

  • @sustainablelife1st
    @sustainablelife1st Рік тому +7

    You are the best teacher on this subject I have found. You know these people, and God's truth. Thank you SO much for all your hard work.

  • @karenkapasa3340
    @karenkapasa3340 Місяць тому +2

    Please pray for me to be strong at this moment my heart is heartbroken right now but I trust in God😢

  • @cindyreid6404
    @cindyreid6404 10 місяців тому +2

    My 45 yr old son is so stressful to be around I've decided to part ways and I don't care what anyone thinks of me. Judge me all you want, you haven't walked a mile in my moccasins. God wants me at peace and healthy.

    • @Paulohlsson7
      @Paulohlsson7 7 місяців тому

      Hi Cindy, how's your day going with you?

  • @robin2319
    @robin2319 Рік тому +10

    I was always 🙏 praying during my toxic relationship with a narcissist. He finally put on my heart ! Enough is enough let him go , go no contact once and for all so I listen to God

  • @tc7605
    @tc7605 Рік тому +40

    What a blessing to have found you!!! I was in a narcissistic relationship for 3 years ! My mother is a narcissistic mother my stepmother is a narcissistic person and my brother-in-law….. I have been surrounded by them my entire life!!! Your videos have brought a measure of healing to my heart🥰🥰 Both me and my father are empaths and I continually pray for my father.

    • @JackAnthony-ud8ii
      @JackAnthony-ud8ii 11 місяців тому

      Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤

  • @AlfredaJones-ei2bs
    @AlfredaJones-ei2bs 5 місяців тому +4

    God knows when to remove toxic individuals especially when they had used you up and you had blinders on your eyes I'm so glad God took off the blinders off my eyes because believe me I was blind it said in John 9 verse 25 was blind now I can see what god had shown me for six years of lying and stealing from me hallijjuah 🙏🙏🙏

  • @LazyMoneyMBA
    @LazyMoneyMBA 9 днів тому

    It’s clear this video was meticulously prepared, and the information is top-notch. Please make more of these!

  • @kalelalee53
    @kalelalee53 Рік тому +12

    I can't even try to explain the hurt, shaming, judgemental, put downs I've experienced by my father through my life. The hurtful things he's said and done and keeps doing. No matter how many times I've tried to show love, he will eventually cap it off with his negative words. It has affected my life hugely. In every way. I've never measured up, yet my brother can do no wrong. I'm 70 and my dad is now 94. He was a preacher as I grew up. All I remember is harsh discipline and shaming. I'm so damaged that often for months at a time I would have horrible dreams night after night of rejection and beatings. I pray to my dear Jesus for healing for this all the time. My father never forgets anything I may have done in the past. He holds onto these things like gold and weapons. After a recent trip to see him last month I walked up to him and held his hands and said " I hate this detachment but don't know how to fix it. I told him I lov😢😢ed him and his response was " when I was 15 I snuck out of the house causing him and mom ( who is now with Jesus) to worry. He said he can't forget things like this, they're in his head." I told him I'm done and walked away. All the positive things I have done in my life he can't remember. Only my mistakes. I've been judged all my life by him. Frankly I have no idea what I will say if anything at his funeral.😢

    • @jeffreyw9703
      @jeffreyw9703 Рік тому

      My girlfriend has very similar story due to pregnant at 16 and her father a preacher how he put her on front row and basically forced his idea of God and God's love on her. He shamed her and she has always been affected by him. She's beat cancer been through abusive relationship 10 years, her dad would say what did you do to make him hit you. Told her to go back and do right by her husband. She lost 1 of her sons a few years ago. Which she's told me almost lost herself and took over 1 year from life just to heal. She has since met me and I'm not sure if I am the best for her. I'm proud of her love her and respect her. I pray she can heal and we can both heal from our past and grow together in christ jesus. Bless you. I'm having problems with my father also. It's tuff but all we can do is keep faith In God and try our best. Bless

    • @jeffreyw9703
      @jeffreyw9703 Рік тому

      My girlfriend has very similar story due to pregnant at 16 and her father a preacher how he put her on front row and basically forced his idea of God and God's love on her. He shamed her and she has always been affected by him. She's beat cancer been through abusive relationship 10 years, her dad would say what did you do to make him hit you. Told her to go back and do right by her husband. She lost 1 of her sons a few years ago. Which she's told me almost lost herself and took over 1 year from life just to heal. She has since met me and I'm not sure if I am the best for her. I'm proud of her love her and respect her. I pray she can heal and we can both heal from our past and grow together in christ jesus. Bless you. I'm having problems with my father also. It's tuff but all we can do is keep faith In God and try our best. Bless

    • @libfuzzy4629
      @libfuzzy4629 8 місяців тому

      Pray for his deliverance if he doesn’t forgive God won’t forgive him and you can’t enter heaven if God doesn’t forgive you

  • @denise0777
    @denise0777 Рік тому +18

    I absolutely needed this message today, it is a confirmation. And I loved your "alternate self"...funny material!

  • @natalie73animals
    @natalie73animals Рік тому +21

    The timing of this is uncanny. Thank you!

  • @JenniferTrika
    @JenniferTrika Рік тому +7

    This is definitely enlightening. Thank you. I actually feel God through this message and gives me a sense of peace.

  • @BillSikes.
    @BillSikes. Рік тому +3

    I haven't seen her for a month, the pain and sleepless nights have gone but she's on my mind 24/7 and i miss her like crazy
    Our Father, please please please remove this obsession from my mind..
    Thy will be done 🙏OM

  • @marynjeri2826
    @marynjeri2826 Рік тому +4

    I was in a relationship with a man who was exactly everything I had been praying for but for some unknown reasons we parted.I prayed to God. I even for fasted for days and the response was soo positive and made me hold on to hope for months.we broke up a week ago and it's not easy.I really don't know what God wants me to do but truth is I'm so confused because our relationship was never toxic.I loved him and he loved me too. we were a perfect match.I believe and trust in God but now I'm just rumbling and confused.