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Ruining The Hopes Of The NARCISSIST (Psychology Of Covert Narcissism)
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Twenty-five years and my life is still
Trying to get up that great big hill of hope
For a destination
I realized quickly when I knew I should
That the world was made up of this brotherhood of man
For whatever that means
And so I cry sometimes
When I'm lying in bed just to get it all out
What's in my head
And I, I am feeling a little peculiar
And so I wake in the morning
And I step outside
And I take a deep breath and I get real high
And I scream from the top of my lungs
What's going on?
And I say, hey yeah yeah, hey yeah yeah
I said hey, what's going on?
And I say, hey yeah yeah, hey yeah yeah
I said hey, what's going on?
Oh, oh oh
Oh, oh oh
And I try, oh my god do I try
I try all the time, in this institution
And I pray, oh my god do I pray
I pray every single day
For a revolution
And so I cry sometimes
When I'm lying bed
Just to get it all out
What's in my head
And I, I am feeling a little peculiar
And so I wake in the morning
And I step outside
And I take a deep breath and I get real high
And I scream from the top of my lungs
What's going on?
And I say, hey hey hey hey
I said hey, what's going on?
And I say, hey hey hey hey
I said hey, what's going on?
And I say, hey hey hey hey
I said hey, what's going on?
And I say, hey hey hey hey
I said hey, what's going on?
Oh, oh oh oh
Twenty-five years and my life is still
Trying to get up that great big hill of hope
For a destination
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Songwriters: Linda Perry
What's Up? lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
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They mistake our kindness as weakness and our good deeds as “foolish” .. it’s just how they are
Soo true
Yes, they can't feel outside themselves. I bent backward to do things for my ex narc and that was her opinion afterward ... even when she benefited directly from it. This was an eye opener for me. I got the feeling she didn't understand empathy and thus envied & put down people with that trait. I'm wondering if that's why empaths appear to be their prime supply choice.
ThisTimeYouMetYourMatch so true! He didn’t deserve my love.
Warren Renaud they do .. they see good people as weak and laugh at us for it 😐
Irene A they don’t deserve any of us. The more I did for mine, the worse he treated me. I looked after him in hospital running around buying him things .. even dressing him putting on his shoes .. he discarded me coldly 2 days later so coldly.
I lost my soul with a narcissist. I found my voice after the narcissist. I hated myself while with the empty damaged soul called the narc. I’m learning to love myself after the storm. But I had to remove myself from the storm to encounter the quiet.
Each of us understands you come first now
It's been well no less than terrible for each of us. No one had any understanding before hand
No, not your soul, it was your identity they stole....so now you have been born again. Enjoy and good luck...
@Aduckapadaisy Just wanted to drop a line to you. When you figure out what your personal draw Is to the narcs please share. I'm the great empath and have worked in hospitality management my entire life. My thought is I'm easily spotted by the nsrc but never again will I be fooled again. I have a disabled brother no other family so I understand. At least you have become aware ar a young age. Take care
@Aduckapadaisy I dont see how you can begin to care and love yourself with any narcs around. Toxic is toxic skip the dates. Insanity is doing the same thing over again expecting different results as you know.
Leave them with the devil and you walk with God, 'cause God got us. They must stand accountable!
Totally agree well spoken
Yep, ex narc claimed to be a Christian. Discarded me and blocked him for life.
Yes I'm watching God's vegence working now for me after all the manipulation gaslighting devaling I know God's been watching over my life and he's in acting his justice. I am a Victor not a victim
Amen Nora!
People want carte blanche "forgiveness"
Plotting evil under guise of
Forgiveness .
Cloaked
By our forgiveness mantra
(Very misapplied)
They hide the dagger.
They
Urge you to get closer
Another chance
Hug
Walk
chat
And you drop into the booby trapped dungeon.
I found Jesus because of a narcissist.
Oh my.....
I don't even want to spy...I am gone!
Also
That's exactly why I came back to Jesus....because of him.Praise God! Still sifting through anger, every day is better and better.O how HE loves us!
I'm so glad you found JESUS@SoulshineSunflower
WHO LOVES DAVE?
ISN'T HE DARLING?
PRESSES ON- EVERY DAY.
LIKE A LIGHTHOUSE.
GOD BLESS DAVE.
I love Dave 🙏😊❤️, he saved my life
A LOVELY, HONEST, CARING GUY👍💕💪. THANKS DAVE...... YOU'VE HELPED ME, MOVE ON👍👍👍💕💕💕🤗💕
He looks like Peter Bergman from the Young & the Restless
DAVE IS THE REAL DEAL.
GOD'S MAN. HOLY SPIRIT TEACHINGS.
ALSO A WOUNDED HEALER. A TRUE BROTHER IN CHRIST.🙏🔥🙏🌴👑💥🌺From Maui, Hawaii. The Narc center of America.🌴Not Paradise anymore.!!! 30 yrs experience here, MRS.A. ALOHA NOI.
Yinz ever meet him in person? I did. Thank God for the resources he provided me to get it somewhat together. He's REAL. He's HONEST. He's LEGIT.
Narcs see your joy and then they want to steal your Joy.....
shaveer Love So true! I think some initially believe they will have joy by proxy through you, but when they realize it’s genuine for you and they just can’t feel it the same way as you, then they want to destroy your joy.
I didn't have any joy at the end. He stripped me as if he was gutting a fish. Only slowly...to cause more pain.
@@ellengrace4609 wow that's amazing...i never thought of it like that...It's almost like they really believe they can get all your good traits but then when they realize they can't they look at you as a defected or broken toy and discard you ...Just like a child does when a toy doesn't do what they want or if they break the toy they just throw it to the side...
Carolynne Gischel exactly !
They love our light and energy and at first it heals and fulfils them
Then they see that they can’t truely share in it nor are they the source
Then they MUST destroy us
Mine was jealous of my artistry. He had been drawing his whole life and was still pretty shitty. I had only been painting 2 years at the time I met him and now I see he was really jealous of my gift. I truly believe he was going to try and make me hate my art. I'm glad I didn't let him take that from me.
The Wizard of Narcs: Dorothy had to find a heart to love Herself, a Brain to discern cognitive
dissonance , and courage to walk away
Being in a realationship with a narc is very draining.. you have to learn to not care in order to give no supply!! If you feel a argument coming just calmly act like you don't care.. in order to beat the narc you have to act like one.. sad isn't it
I agree. It's their language. I scared myself I was doing it so good. That's what has made me start planning to leave. I got scared I was turning into him from talking his language for sooo long.
If its difficult to not care pretend not to until it becomes true that you stopped caring...worked fr me
That is so true. I had to just do it back and she finally left.
True!!
It was so satisfying ghosting the ex narcopath. He thought he had successfully hoovered me for good, but I had been educating myself with videos like yours after he discarded me. That was the most painful "relationshit" I have ever had to endure.
Thankfully, the trauma bond is weakening, and my resilience increases every time I watch these videos, and read people's comments.
Much love to everyone ❤❤❤
Same here!!!❤
Hi. I wrote a quick reference manual for all the terms with definitions of what they do. It's on Amazon. Cecelia Russo wrote: Interaction with the Narcissist- a Manual for the Terms of the Game.
Soooo hard! When will this trauma bond end!!!!! My stomach is in constant knots.. what a horrible human being. 14 years of bullshit and lies!!
Same here
When I cought him in his lies he would look me in the eyes and claim he wasn't lying to cover up his lies
Mine would always say, "I am innocent!!" In a very indignant tone.
Same
Some of the excuses were comical
It's crazy how they can look in your eyes, cry profusely, and still lie.
@@PrettyDope yup
When I confronted mine, he would go into a blank trance like state.
This has helped me the last two days from going insane
I'm very serious Dave once I realized how screwed up this whole last 14 yrs was I got sick to my stomach full of rage and anger and the immense sadness I cried for two days last sadness I knew I had to shit or get or get off the pot as granny use to say she's probably rolling in her grave right now because she would counseled me out of this damn shit Storm she lived through the same BS from my grandpa I think this a generational curse
These videos have kept my sanity since I left my narc since August . I wish I’d had this knowledge before . I’m left feeling like a fool for all the effort I put in to my supply . It would of saved me a lot of money too . Best wishes to you xx
@@lyn3339 I feel the same way
You are the sane one, you have been dealing with a monster, they are like devils. The only hope is to get free of their control over us.
He has hovered me this week and it’s hard cause I still have feelings. Please say a prayer 🙏🏻 for me to be strong .
Honey blocked him. The longer you stay in the relationship the harder is to get out. They don't change and the abuse will escalate.
You may have strong feelings for a long time. But try and remember that feeling is NOT returned. In fact, they hate you. Just think of yourself as a child being abused. Wouldn't you protect that child and keep them away from an abuser? Yes, you would. So stay away! Hugs...
We got you dawn stay away !!
U don’t have feelings for him now u have feelings for the mask and the tortured soul we see imprisoned within them
We got you 🙏
Valerie Parker exactly
They hate us
Remember this guys , they hate us
Big Tree Combat Academy thank you 🙏🏻
I established boundaries and I got discarded
Good for you!!!
That's what happened to me! I was so loving to her when I set the boundaries and she crushed me and make sure everyone knew I was scum of the earth.
Yup!! The moment I said enough drinking, drugs, lying and disappearing and he replaced me the next day. We lived together. I had to move out to make way for her. He then blamed my unreasonable expectations....
Narc Con same .., 4 my narc sister. yeh Jerry SPRINGER shit she had slept with his brother & his sister... putrid,jealousy is a curse
Narc Con same here!!!! Meaning.... when I said I could not attend a wedding with him, leaving town for a weekend... he ended our three year relationship.
I looked for "silent treatment" and i discovered about narcissism. Sick possesed people, indeed.
Yep - I knew something was wrong but ‘silent treatment’ set me on the path of working out what it all was.
Turned out to be a textbook covert in virtually every way.
I remember when the narc, at forty two mind you, learned what empathy was. They were literally blown away that there were people who put themselves into others places emotionally. They couldn’t get over it. They talked for a good two hours about how shocked they were that people actually cared for others that way. I remember standing there blinking and thinking to myself after months of research into narcissism that this was exhibit a) in my proof of them being a narc. They truly don’t care. At all. This I personally can’t wrap my mind around, because of I hurt someone accidentally even, I’ll remember it years later. To hurt people intentionally is beyond anything I can comprehend.
Dani Girl you sound just like me!!! I can’t wrap my head around it..... but I know it’s true.... it’s just so hard to fathom that they don’t even know what empathy is, much less have any!!!!! It makes us stupid to them....
I told my ex i can't watch all these sad or tragic movies i literally get overwhelmed by all the emotion putting myself in their shoes... comedies with super embarrassing moments... i have to turn away with anxiety and embarrassment... can't even finish scenes. I love and hate that i can put myself in their shoes so completely, even more so when it comes to people i know and care for. The end of our relationship was them projecting all their anger on me by literally saying are you going be mad all day? I wasn't even remotely mad today, i was excited until i stepped into the house. No one likes getting told how they are feeling.
It’s really hard being an empath for sure. I feel the same way about movies too. I just don’t understand how people can conscientiously be cruel to others and not feel it. 😣
Most serial killers are narcissists 😔 thats how they live with themselves knowing they have caused pain, because they cannot feel 😧 anything
@@danigirl4837 yes.
You saved my life Dave. My relationship lasted 12 years. It was a long distance relationship. I lived in Washington State. She lived in Vancouver British Columbia. We went on a two week cruise. I was criticized in public. When I confronted her. The rage was horrible! Two weeks later I was discarded in an instant. Your videos saved my life.
I always end up apologizing when I want an apology 🙄
Same for me she never apologized until she was hoovering
Yep
Same
I was totally Mrs. B!!!! Take it from me......DON'T BE HER!!! I took a major loss being Mrs. B almost lost everything I worked so hard for and that is exactly what the Narc wanted. He wanted to take me all the way down.
What did he do?
I had to move out of my own home to a motel, where I'm at right now! I'm getting sued. Shes taking advantage of me, what do I do?
Yes!
They are demons in disguise... they have no personalities they have No Souls ...they have no feelings....they are totally jealous of us empaths ..... Mrs A .. all the way 👍👍👍😀😀
I agree!!
Yes A allllllll the way
They do have souls. We all do. Their's are what we call free will. They can change or stay in thier mess.
Yeah, kinda figured out my ex narc was also a mysogonist. He absolutely hated Oprah, and Ellen. Said they had no talent for all the millions they make. He would tell everybody this.
Julie...I just never got the jealousy part.....I kept thinking no they love me....ugghhh🤢🥴
A Narc's purpose in life is to get their targets to ascend (overcome their own self esteem issues etc)
Empaths. Those who have your back even behind your back. My friend sent that to me on Facebook. I like that.
Yes.
Perfect
I like that saying
I’m curious about everybody I meet now. I had one guy asked me what do I like and what I don’t like. I just told him to be himself and he didn’t like that response . I felt that was a red flag 🚩
Carmen Thomas It will def make you extra paranoid & look at the whole world differently. Sad story.
Good job.
Smart
Go baby let that that dog loose and give it a push
Some people don't know who they are..even Empaths can struggle with this at times..but always listen to your gut..trust you got this!
My narcissist wife walked out on me while I was suffering the aftermath of a stroke. I was bedridden and felt helpless. After praying I came across this song that helped me tremendously. The name of the song is COMING BACK TO LIFE. By Pink Floyd. I encourage everyone suffering, to listen to this song. I hope it gives you encouragement as it did myself. God bless.
That is so awful! How can someone be so cruel. I can only imagine what you went through. You must be an extraordinary and very strong man to survive not only your physical illness but also that terrible injury to your heart and soul.
Or post malone I know
@@sabine1768 thank you! It was very hard we were married for 9 years. I am a law enforcement officer, and I had a stroke on duty in my patrol car. It was only after she walked out and left me while I was paralyzed, that I found out about all the affairs she had on me while I was sick. I was devastated and Dumbfoundead. But I am working on myself and getting better day by day. I don't know your situation, but whatever it is be strong and have faith in God and he will pull you through it. God bless.
So sorry you went through that it's sickening how evil and cold narcs are. I left narc husband myself after he serial cheated, joined a gang and constantly abused me in every way also my health deteriorated while with him and he didn't care a thing about my health even told me because I ran to die and yet he kept emailing me he was so sorry but knew I was happy now SMDH it's so disturbing oh and his oldest son who is a cop and detective won't have anything to do with him and he lied to me forever about his son. Sooo relentless and disturbing. I hope you heal and GOD blesses you.
Robert Grant God bless you Robert’! You sound like a wonderful man... I’m so sorry you encountered one of these evil souls.... walking out then was nothing less than evil.... the epitome of selfishness. I can’t imagine that heartache along with the physical , emotional and mental pain that came with a stroke and having to rebuild yourself... you are a very strong man to be able to do that!!!
God spared me from knowing all his shenanigans!!! I walked out of a thirteen year marriage , NC and moved three states away, in fear he was about to hurt me....he had lost control of me and the rages were getting worse and worse....
I listened to your song and loved it!! Thanks for posting it! It definitely helps add much needed perspective! I literally do feel like I am coming back to life , slowly but surely...,
I hope you are doing well now.... you deserve so much better !!! And I have no doubt, You will find it..... when God is your guide, you can expect the best!
Thanks for the post and the song, my friend! I will keep you in my prays. Please know that you are truly an inspiration!!’
I remember googling 'hes too good to be true' because something seemed so off about him.
my first google was FAKE LAUGH. I remembered how every time we talked and anything was funny, he would hesitate and then laugh this fake deep chest laugh that was so phony, like he didnt know how to laugh spontaneously, and he didnt because he didnt have feelings.
I googled "why is my boyfriend so nice and then so mean?
Today I would google why he only wants what he cant have.
@@narcissism-diaryofasurvivor1 Funny you say this because one day my very short term ex that I discarded and it felt so good because he never saw it coming....he told me that he loved the way I laughed because it was so deep and real. True they have no feelings so they don't laugh spontaneously!
@@Rita123xyz I found out recently just how little they value human feelings. My narc ex got married to his new supply, after a full 12 days of moving out with the recycled supply he discarded for me/discarded me to go back to. The new supply is all over social media singing the praises of her GOD sent man, all the while knowing he was living with this other woman up til 2 weeks before marrying her. She is in for a wild honeymoon, that I suspect is already almost over.
They are so good at luring you in, hook line and sinker. Thankfully the knowledge is helping see the hook shining like a beacon.
I, for one, am not playing their sick games anymore!
Amen....and good for you.....You might fall for a second but the knowledge will have you snap out of it real fast..
Hi. I wrote a quick reference manual for all the terms with definitions of what they do. It's on Amazon. Cecelia Russo wrote: Interaction with the Narcissist- a Manual for the Terms of the Game.
When ur not afraid of the narc hurting you but your afraid of you hurting the narc, thats when really got enough of the narc narcing the narc out of you 😂😂😂
Floodworld, Oh yes indeed. I had to live it . I bought mace and maced my husband twice.
I didn't' even know what a narcissist was until 3 weeks ago, nor did I know that I was an empath. I started looking for stuff on sex addiction concerning my husband, because he was saying very sexually inappropriate things to his nurses...and I had friends who had told me years ago that he had slept with my sister. I was trying to find answers about sex addiction and ran onto a plethora of good info on UA-cam concerning narcissists. It all fit him to a T and it gave me some ammo I didn't have before. If not for that, he would have rolled over me again, like he has done for 46 years. Armed with the information from here and other sites, I could see what he was doing and I discarded him. There was a heavy sense of evil in the house while he was here, I would go the the car to get away from it sometimes, as soon as he was gone, that sense of evil left too.
@@joshuafalade4754 So True, I literally have lost something, I have always had a child-like love for all people, and now I don't want to trust again, until I know where they are coming from.
Narcissists have a lot of addictions, glad those devils get exposed.
Weldone stay strong.
I know exactly what you are saying I have to go sit in the car when he is around me my body aches so bad I get relief from sitting in the car outside by myself its him and his demons I'm so tired
Now that we've all had experience with a narcissist(s) we all have the necessary tools to identify those types of people we may potentially come in contact with in the future. It's truly a blessing.
Thanks again Dave. This is by far the best channel on this demonic disorder. That narrow path sure is a lonely road though.
My ex gf was very attractive, a fantastic lover, educated and always ready for an immediate blame-shift. Causing that dissonance. After the discard and no contact for a year, she sent a mild, temperature-checking "hey" text. I answered grey-rock-style and she ghosted again. Typical :)
I know I am better off now and I'm meeting and dating many women platonically because I see so many similar traits popping up in today's dating culture. No empaths or even decent women who are genuinely happy, pleasant, sweet and have no strange motives. Hard to trust again.
Guys, don't even try to call her out on the cheating, the lies or the substance abuse. She is trained to outsmart anything you doubt about her.
If your partner cheated on his\her x they probably don’t care about others... be careful.
Tell this to dumb new supply lol
Yeah never take a cheater into ur life
100%
Yep. Something very wrong with cheaters....
My ex cheated on me multiple times and he cared less if I caught him..he didn’t care of me my feelings..I’m glad I’m out, but just the other day I had knock his front door my son open the door all happy to see me and I heard his conversation to his new supply having to give her explanation of why he didn’t answer her calls he explained to her his battery was dead this man is seriously a joke I swear..I walk out with something to laugh about I’m sure he didn’t wanted for me to hear that’s why he walk out, but I heard it all jajaja
The narc told me several times during our relationshit
that he used to meditate but doesn't now because one time when he was meditating and flying on the astral plane he felt something grab at his leg and was trying to pull him DOWN. He said this terrified him so much that he quit meditating. Eery, creepy scary stuff. I should've known then he was a soulless demon. Terrifying
Interesting because I saw the covert narcissist soul sitting in a chair in an upstairs room, while we were looking at family albums. Yes, demonic.
Damn
I was meditating.. but I let my mind go and see what shows me, I saw myself doing his hair, (he has dread locks).. and I was facing him and seen him sitting in front of me while I was twisting his hair.. he turned into a multi eyed demon.
I've always had dreams about him where demons would tell me hes not mine, that hes theirs..
They have souls but are trapped/influenced by demons and being tormented. They HATE the way they feel and want to jump out of their own skin, they have NO peace. Some have been subjected to depraved childhood abuses we can’t even wrap our heads around. You must go no contact with them - but pray for them. They are lost souls that God cares deeply for too. They are disconnected from God- pray that they overcome and find their way back to him. By the power of the Holy Spirit and in Jesus name, I pray for them. 🙏
I travelled down that wide, dusty path for a long time. Looking for love. Looking for meaningful, high-vibrating friendships. Never found anything worth hanging onto. But when I switched my focus to the narrow gate of personal salvation, I began to find just a few, deep, loving, relationships with people who are looking for the same. Loyalty. "Real" love. Empathic people I can depend on, and can depend on me. Thanks for this analogy. Cheers Dave ☕ to you and all the beautiful subscribers.☺🙏👍
Millions of times...
So grateful I took my power back and never answered that Hoover, no more mind games and abuse. Healing and moving forward is my goal and I'm sticking to it. Another awesome message for the soul. Thanks Dave
I've noticed that they can appear to be so so nice until you challenge them... Then see their reaction. They shut you down very quickly.
They try to play the good samaritan, but they don't really know what this is, it's an act.
My ex narcissist was always looking for the get rich deal. He would make me feel guilty for not calling in sick, so i could go to stupid seminars with him. I did call in and eventually o lost my jobs. Yes. That's plural. When I met him, i had a few thousand dollars and 3 jobs. In just a few weeks, i started losing jobs because of him wanting to be with me. After a short time, i was barely hanging on to a job at a popular restaurant. He insisted on my taking my birthday off, which is New Years Eve . i was fired. I started out so strong and capable. He took it all away. I'm no contact for 4 months. I've been hoovered and ignored him.
Janice Shelman I hope you found new job.
That’s weird bc I noticed that too. He used to be so frugal and conservative with his finances, dual business and economics major. Now he’s just reckless and appears to be drowning in debt.
Yes! My ex narc she made it an fight for me not to go to work every week. She would say I work to much 40hrs🙄. Almost lost my jobs too!
He would lie to cover his lies even with proof. He can't seem to find supply since the break up
Kerri Scoville HES just lazy!!! Give him some time he’ll leech into another woman!
@@runtznstuntzbullylife746 yea he probably will but none of the women want his drama. He is trying to sleep with every woman it's sick
Kerri Scoville most likely she will end up with another Narc like herself.
@@USNBLUE gosh I hope not.
Kerri Scoville it’s very sick!!! It must have been one of those situations where this isn’t his first go around?!?! Either it be a woman or a man to just talk to! Either way they have to have some sort of fuel! At first nobody would mess with the devilish little guy I was with either, embarrassing as it is to admit this he thought of getting an escort and actually telling people how he did this and that and laughed about it!!! THEY ARE DEMENTED INDIVIDUALS! They do anything and everything to hurt someone! Just keep no contact, don’t try to see his media, block him anyway you can! You have the back in your court now it’s up to you to keep it there! He’s mad right now bc you discarded him, good he deserves it! Either way, don’t worry what he’s doing! Go get your hair done, go tanning, go workout, spend time with family! Anything but don’t think about what he’s doing bc it no longer matters!!! You’ve done what you were meant to do! Leave and it’ll be a blessing before you know it! You be happy and he’ll be the thing you forgot all about!!! It’s not an easy journey but it’s one to remember!! God bless
The narc also used to tell me how he left his first wife and newly born baby, he'd say I went out for a pack of Marlboro s and never went back. All because she used to take long showers and shouted at him a few times and oh, she was crazy too.
I should've known then , what a heartless demon he was
I think of that scene in the movie, THE OMEN, when DAMIENS parents drive up to the church and Damien has an uncontrollable fearful lashing out fit.
Maybe that's why we were married at the county court
He’s the crazy one
What a total looser. Wow. They dont deserve to be free, walking around.
Dave, I'm so glad for your channel. I've been getting these sporadic hoovers and love bombs. He's been begging to come back, he said he made a mistake by leaving. Oh no you did me a huge favor. We were supposed to get married today and several months ago I started seeing the wicked behavior and started researching. I found your videos and knew this was a major disorder and of course called off the wedding. God and your videos saved me from a life of Hell. Thank you so much for helping all of us stay focused and not give in to all of the lies.
Jennifer Hann clever lady .! Love to you xx
I had to do that with my ex too
Well done it’s very hard to cancel the wedding only a few months out
I did it too and lost my home , my beloved cat and most of my life
Easily worth it
@@lyn3339 I'm so glad that there are others that understand what we've gone through.
@@bigtreecombatacademy2927 It was a heartbreaking decision I had to make. We had known each other for 30 years, we had previous marriages between us and reconnected after all those years and thought this was finally it, well until the horns came out that is. Thank you for your reply. You all are helping me get through a difficult time and so grateful for the knowledge that I now have.
Jennifer Hann it’s incredibly hard
I’m 42 and had come out of a bad relationship ending and thought I had this amazing connection
They just wanted to abuse someone they genuinely view as their better
You are better !! Love 🙏 and blessings ☄️
Think of yourself like a Gas Station during a hurricane. When he passes you, hold this sign high, “Closed! Out of Fuel!”.
Lol like a gas station
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I call him out anyway. God will expose them! And their lies are held accountable!
They are disappointed when we figure them out. Hahahahahaha the joke is on the narc now😝😜😛🤪🤪💃🕺💃💃
I crushed my narc before I discarded
Told her she would never have me back , she would always obsess over me and scuttle back to her losers
My love would always shine on her prison but she could never ever be with me again
I doubt I will get hoovered , I destroyed her
I destroyed mines to because I told his new supply who he really is...so I guess now he's love
Bombing the shit outta her to prove me wrong
lashonda Talbert well done
I outed mine to her family and they trust and respect me and thought she had problems and was a drama queen
Eye opening for everyone
The narc is hiding from me scared of the damage I can unleash on her
But I don’t want to cause more pain
When coming in and starting an argument with me trying to provoke me to fight with him it eventually ended physically fighting and I told him to his face I just don't love you anymore he was in shock his mouth dropped open to his knees and he did his little fake crying Act for about 20 30 seconds and then flip the switch 2 total insanity and I think his way of hurting my heart. He did what I call a palm punch in my chest my heart about 10 seconds apart times 3 I have a bruise on my left chest. This was his revenge to pay me back as I grabbed him threw him out the door with all of his crap. That happened on Monday today is Thursday. Tuesday I started a PFA. I now I know I don't even like him let alone love him! Maybe this wasn't good but a blessing in disguise that needed to be done for me to get him totally out of my life but good. My little four-year-old autistic great-granddaughter was here when it happened and it breaks my heart. She did not understand and thought it was a game of push and pull. I had to protect her as well as myself because I didn't know how far he would go. He has never hit me before but I guess this really got to him when I said I didn't love him anymore! He just said you know I love you and you love me and I said no actually I don't love you anymore. And then it all blew up! It only hurts me because it made me act out in a way I don't like to because I am not normally violent at all. he even had a lit cigarette in his hand and tried to poke me in the eye thank God I wear glasses. I can't believe the things they will do out of the blue and unaware to us what's happening? It is weird for me right now because I expect him to be sitting here in fact sometimes it feels like he's in my place watching me it's horrible to feel this way. when I called the police on him he lied of course and put all the blame on me said I started it and even tried to convince them that he lived here, something he was trying to get me to let him do and I told him no he could not. I only asked you to help me when I was sick to get my apartment ready for inspection he was only here eight days not residing but bringing stuff in and placing it around the apartment to look as though he lived here because he knew from the past he could say he lived here if he had his belongings or was getting mail. and the officer a woman tried to provoke anger in me I think by acting like I was the perpetrator and said the cut on my arm look like an old scab torn open. I said this just happened and the skin peeled backed bleeding and dried within the hour. He'd only been here about an hour and all this happened because I know from the text he sent me was sweet and an hour later he was yelling that I stole his quarters when I threw out on a voicemail. they did take pictures of a cut on my arm and I told them about him hitting me in the chest she acted like she was going to ask me to see but there wasn't anything until the next day then I had a bruise so I took pictures of all of it myself a cut and two bruises on me.I don't understand why the police do that other than he was lying and said I attacked him first like the last time he did this. I told the officer he does not live here he does not get mail here he had a few things because he stayed with me for a week and I through them all out in the hall but he had two bags of dirty clothes he was going to wash and then later accused me of taking his quarters when I put them in a sack for him with his miscellaneous items so I rechecked again to make sure and then found he had stolen a jar of nickels and dimes I had saved. what a underlying low disgusting lying and thieving person he really turned out to be!
Not good
I thought I destroyed mine and got a Hoover like nothing had ever happened and I never cut them off or blocked them. It was through a source I forgot to block off. So cocky.
They are cold dark and empty no souls Just no empathy no compassion no self love just void of feelings all they do is steal lie and destroy thank you for being here as guidance ❤️🔥🙏
If I pick up on jealousy. I’m done. Over and out. You cannot have anything deep and real with that. You’ll know in the back of your own mind. Trust is lost with jealousy.
Hey Dave! You have a wonderful gift as a story teller, and this is by far the best way to reach the masses on the truth about Narcissism.
Narcs do see us as bait and intentionally lure us in with their big shiny hook but once they know you’ve swallowed it, they will show no mercy. They’ll delight in watching you squirm and sweat on the end of their fishing line; repeatedly throwing you back into the water only to keep on reeling you back in again and again for more abuse. Jesus tells us to go and be fishers of men for His Father’s Kingdom; Narcissists are the fishermen for satan.
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niva inco thank you so much for your encouragement! God Bless you Niva 🙏🏾💕
The one I had was actually a fisherman for sport... Well
Good analogy.
The vietnamese have a saying "romance is like a dog, if you chase it it will run away, if you run away it will chase you" That is defining narcissism if you ask me.
Well said!
I keep repeating this. But when you throw trash in the dumpster, you don't go back looking for it.
They certainly are jealous. You don't dare do better at something that they consider themselves good at...that doesn't set well at all!!
To live in a world where we are fighting those who appear normal, while they plot and plan to destroy your soul, is the ultimate tragedy in life. I used to be afraid of aliens taking over, but aliens ain’t got nothing on a narcissist! You can‘t even walk or drive or go to a grocery store or church without bumping into one! Thank God for these videos. At least we’re learning to identify them and better navigate and heal on this journey.
Sending light and love to all who are going through...🙏🏽💫🦋💕
I was so niave to think others thought like me - trusting, empathetic, caring, not taking advantage etc. Thanks to your videos, I have woken up to the evil of Narcissism. I became Mrs A 3 weeks ago. I've ignored 3 of his calls and now he is panicking.
The worst thing about all this information you provide about narcissists is that I know exactly who she is now. I used to tell her "my worst fear is not loving you anymore." I loved her so much and went through Hell for 6 years, discards every few months AND according to her it was all my fault because I was "insane" then a month later, guess who's calling? Knowing her now, I know I can never go back to her and that's what is most painful. Your channel is keeping me strong. You're an angel in my life right now. God brought me to this channel and I appreciate you....thank you
So true! I was at the lowest part of my life, she came in to tell me that she wasn't in love with me anymore, which pushed me over the edge. This woman I was with for almost three years became somebody I didn't recognize anymore. When it got to the point of her devaluing me, she changed her entire look, she dyed her hair, she became someone I didn't know, her personally changed too. she even went as far as admitting she started to resent me, she was never into fixing the problem, she definitely was fake. I thank God He gave me a learning experience, to grow, so the next time around I'm more guarded, and know what I want. I'm still healing, Its hard to think of who she use to be, always by my side, to hating my guts, she went right into another relationship, I had her admit to me, what we had doesn't mean anything to her. I've messed up too many times, I'm going no contact.
Thank-you, and God bless you!
Hi, hope all is well. How you made it out with the relationship with ex narcissistic?
Hey buddy just be happy you didn't spend 15 years with her like I did with my wife. I told my wife the same thing it's crazy that the person I love more than anything in this world is now a person that I despise and an enemy
@@bcc7494 what's your story with your narc if you don't mind me asking?
Last year, and I wasnt sure why, but I redecorated my Christmas tree. I changed to a very sparkled Christmas tree filled with beautiful soft light. It helped bring back my sparkle. I needed some sparkle back that was drained and stolen from narc/s. The tree looks like a winter wonderland now. No memories are on my Christmas tree now but fresh new soft glowing light. Cant wait to put it up early! My new memories will be with all the new empaths I've met here and other channels while I put up my new sparkle tree. Prayers to all empaths🙏
AngelsAmongUs Believe
Have a wonderful sparkling Christmas, sending you lots of happiness for Christmas and forever!!!!
@@torianews3422 Aww..thank you Victoria!!🙏😊And the same with you. Stay intouch ok. I'll be looking for you here.😊
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God bless you and your family and work love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
@Feaponafi Ahmunrah Live light peace and Blessings to you too. 😊🙏
When I brought my dad home from the hospital to die in my home, he was already unconscious and on hospice, my ex narc lived with me at the time and caught an attitude with me while my dad lay dying on a hospice bed in my living room. My ex narc asked me to go outside on my patio so he could talk to me. He then told me that I was grieving in a weird way and accused me of having emotional incest with my father. He then said that he felt unappreciated because I wasn't paying him enough attention and focused too much on my dying father. I found myself apologizing to him just to keep the peace so that I could spend the last day holding my dad's hand as he took his last breaths. Inside of me there was nothing but rage and disdain and it was something I could never really forgive him for even to this day. This happened in August of 2017. He then said later on that evening that MAYBE he was being a little selfish. I didn't say anything back. I wanted to literally take his life in that moment. i hated him so much for ruining those last days with my dad. I don't think I'll ever forgive myself for keeping that piece of shit around. My dad never liked him and always warned me about him but I didn't listen. I'm so sorry dad :(
Wow 😑
I googled "no empathy"and my life changed Dave
Grass is always greener on the other side? NOPE!!! I saw the ex narc recently and he is imploding, looked terrible!! And found out that he is in debt upwards of over $40,000.00 in online porn and other bs! He is 73 yrs old and worse! Please run guys and no return!!!
🤣😂😂 Those genuine debts owed by the Narcissist and not forced and coerced and fictitious debt thrown at an Empath 😜💃💃
@@davidoaikhena4380 The awakened empaths know about their fabrications! HOWEVER, a lot of narcissists have lost thousands on their addictions! And so it is...
Money and physique does not impress me..what impresses me is a real human balanced being..kind giving always looking for random acts of kindness to do unto others..sharing their wisdom and guidance..my ex narc thought I would stay for financial stability..nope walked away never looking back😎..just keep swimming🐬🐠
@@mermaidlorelei1045 How did you know? I'm more at home in water than on land..to this day my land legs struggle..but in the water I feel so free like in some way it's my truest home in this realm! Cheers to all the deep divers🐋🐬🍾
@@mermaidlorelei1045 😂😂😉💪
@@mermaidlorelei1045 💖💙🌈🌊🎆🎉🎁
My ex narc was always willing to buy a little bicycle for a child in need at Christmastime. I mistook his altruistic deeds as a really nice kindhearted guy. But it was a part of his mask. He's selfish and meanspirited. I now see through his manipulation
Good for you
You are spot on. A narcissist does want you to run in circles around them.
Narcissists are only interested in you if they can hurt you!
or they only want people who they can hurt!
I noticed that I was constantly under attack after the honeymoon phase ended. During the mimic, or idealism phase, I was amazing to her... my music, my passion, my thoughts, my spiritual knowledge, my parenting abilities, my creativity, all praised. When the hooks were in, and we had a child... When I took the fall my music was stupid, I was a horrible father, I was a fake Christian, my ideas were stupid and "I am going to hang out with wives, who's husbands actually know how to love, admire and respect them." She filed for divorce almost destroying me 2 years ago. I moved hell on earth to put it back. 6 months ago she forced filing again, mediation this time... 6 years of a horrible daily relationship.... This time I was done. She changed her mind at the last minute and now again praises me. She thinks I am a wonderful father, she is terribly sorry, thankful when I fix anything, loves my ideas and my music she plays and claims to love... It is a journey into a life of daily punishment, rare moments of kindness. A horrible never ending trauma bond until you stand up and stop it. If you tend to be emphatic, it can be the end of you. Be careful folks, it can be the end of you.
I have a couple of real friends. And I'd rather just have a few real ones than dozens of fakes.
A lot of narcs will treat everyone thats outside the family so good. But they cringe when you need a favor,yet they constantly expect favors from you and from their mother whom they also use and abuse but also get enabled by.
So true!
It is sad to say but we LET them use us. It was a tough lesson but
we are wiser now.
Ask a narc “What’s it like living with a doormat?”
27 weeks into my pregnancy my narc discarded me for 3 weeks. He came back at around 31 and revealed he was married. Mind you we were together nearly a year before I got pregnant. At first I didn't want him to be at the birth, then I told him he could come because I didn't want to rob him of the experience of his first child's birth. He didn't show up (to save us from drama from "his wife" he says). As time passes he's gaslighting me into continuting to be with him, "we'll laugh at this in 5 years". No, we won't. The Devaluing slowly came or rather, I was just now seeing it.... Telling me I don't know what love is.... blah blah blah...During this whole time he's made a fit because I didn't give MY child HIS last name. Ultimately that's what led me to discarding him. He tried to hold marriage over my head. I told him I wasn't changing her name until we got married, he told me he wasn't going to marry me without it being changed. Not a problem. This led me to getting a second opinion and that's when I found out he was a narc. A month later, I discarded him. It's been almost 2 months NC and he's still hoovering. These people are absolute trash. I would love the pleasure of running him over with a MAC truck.
"Stop concerning yourself about who believes you"...Just....Thank You for that.
I grew up with a narcissistic mother. I don’t even know where to begin... at 38, I’m just learning to unravel the the story line of the past. It was one of the most horrific experiences, to think I was a bad child, I was always sick. I had to make sure everyone who knew me saw me as a good human being, just so I felt loved. Regardless of what I did or didn’t do, it was my fault. Now being a social worker, that is used against me. I’m just starting to tell my story and it’s leaving me feeling vulnerable. I’m glad to find this page.
OMG don't pray for a narc, take that goodness and turn it on yourself, you deserve it. The narc deserves nothing
Oh, they will change for a little while if you have money!!!
Yes they are often after things..
Because they have nothing usually.
Exactly....start hating on you when you stop giving...but then they try to mess with your identity,credit....be careful.
You are right about that money drano action🤑***New Years Eve, @ party silent treatment and I said, in between high $$ paychecks, "U liked me much more when I was bringing in all that money?" Amazing, denial oh NO, no kiss at midnight, couldn't find him.. Wish I had known what he was that night, 15 years ago 😱👽👹👾
PS 2020 I am free at last
@@5trau556 Glad you are , what a blessing, stay focused, stay free!!
Hi Dave!!! Eating icecream at my favorite restaurant while listening to you. I realize always more and more by your videos people who I tought were Empaths, were definitely not.... I don't dare to open up to anyone anymore on social media especially... Wish you a great weekend, Dave, I see pain in you today, don't let them get you down, you are a wonderful person who I look up to so much!!!!
I am an empath. I attract nothing but Narcs. 😡😭
Then go out with the ones you dont like try it break the chain✌️
M B yup I was born into one.
Flood World Wide I wised up after the divorce. Dated a few and didn't last at all. I just ghosted them quickly. I stopped dating at this stage. Tired of the dating scene all together.
44JesusIsLord44 exactly correct. However it's me that runs and it doesn't take long to sniff them out. So until I meat one who isn't a Narc then maybe something can happen. Im not attracted to Narc's. They are attracted to me. I personally think it's too late for me at this stage of my life.
@@USNBLUE I have been in the same situation for years. However, I may have turned the page, so to speak, by picking someone for a different reason. Usually I would choose something who played on my sympathies. This time, though, I chose someone out of sympathy for someone else (long story). We can't change our nature anymore than Narcs, etc., can seem to change theirs (without God at least); but we can learn to direct it I hope.
Hello Dave, It must really cause a massive narcissistic injury for the ex narc to know that even a blind person saw through his mask. NC is power. At first NC seemed too easy to be powerful. Hugs. 💕
Haha you go girl.love your positive attitude
So good
U see the soul 🙏
I'm having difficulty finding anyone in my family/social circle who doesn't have this disorder. My father passed away last January and have now inherited half his estate - much to my hostile, non communicating, long lost sister . I am now receiving 2 or 3 texts a day and she gets VERY agitated if I don't answer straight away. I'm going to tread very carefully here, I think
EXCELLENT analogies today, Dave. And why are we never taught to anticipate fake people in our lives, how to detect them, and how to deal with them?
Wow! He faked his vibration for years. I was truly duped! I appreciate these videos they're really helping. Yes he watched me gasping for air with no empathy. He's suffering with HIV right now because of his sexual addictions! So glad I dodged a bullet!
How long after discard did he get it?
Thank God
Amen.
Oh my gosh, I know a fellow empath almost instantly! What’s scary is how narcs seem to be able to sniff us out too!
Mermaid’sMysticMoon Tarot yes indeedy. I am an empath myself
Orphan
Thank you for another great video, Dave!! Before knowing NPD, I had always been positive in dealing with anybody. I noticed there were some weird expressions, but I didn't know why they did that. Thanks to you, Dave, and all the NPD exposure in You Tube and the fantastic community. I certainly learned a lot from all of you. Thanks so much and God bless!!
Thank you and everyone else for sharing and building and helping us all grow and learn and know that love is real.
Is it typical
For them to have “unusually” bad luck? Persecuted? Bad choice of partners? Is life usually unfair to them, in their opinions?
Wonderful, stoic Mrs. A, a new mantra 💕😊 Stoicmissusay....
My narc never ever acknowledged my opinion or let me express myself. We wouldn’t speak for a while, then somehow we were back together again. No discussion about my feelings or things that had happened. Everything was swept under the rug. He was the one who told me my best friend died in a lake. She’d had a brain aneurysm. He knew because his best friend was my best friend’s brother. That was the ultimate Hoover. We got back together. Weeks later when I’d had enough for good, he said I never would have found out about her death if it wasn’t for him. I’d been friends with her for for 45 years and was a pall bearer. He would also talk about “the blame game”. That was a thing our whole four years together. Thanks for your work on this channel. You really help a lot!!!
I just realized narcs are like those cartoons back in the day with the main character fighting his evil clone. And both would be telling their friends that they were the real one.
I truly had no idea that someone could be so diabolical to come into my life to make it worse. F.r. he wanted to squash my shine.
The narc must be dead to us!!!No contact!!!Keep on healing✌
I left my narcissist ex on 12/30/16 around 5 am. It was a life changing decision for me and our kids. Life is so different now. I’m happy and so free. With him, I didn’t think I’d survive.. he was destroying me, and didn’t care. Stay safe people!! And WHEN you do leave, stay strong and never return. Life is better on the other side. God bless ❤️❤️
Been in a distant relationship for 4 years. It’s good to know now that people like this actually exist. It’s been 4 years of loneliness depression, I am still trying to decide if I’m worth taking serious.
When I used to answer to his hoover and allowed him to get back into my life, my own home and privacy, as a result of me trying to break up with him so many times before, he used to come over and steal or hide things that belong to me, important papers, bank account informations, money, objects, etc. It was a way of punishing me for not giving him the supply that he needed. He was physically violent to the point where I was so afraid of him that I was not sleeping at all at night because he used to tell me how he would like to kill me and how I was the first on his list. It’s really scary and so sad. And what’s scarier is that he made me be so afraid of him that I couldn’t leave. Anything I was saying against him would make him be so angry and violent against me. I had to go to work all covered in bruises and broken bones. The moment I decided to talk about my abuse nobody believed me and everyone said that if I really wanted to leave I could have done it but I was too in love with him, which was not at all true. This is the sad reality. Guys, you should never ever answer to the hoover! It’s a call coming straight from hell... once they get back into your life they will use it as an opportunity to punish you for stopping giving them the supply they need.
My ex narc is spiriling out of control. He's been couch hoping and he got back into drugs. He's also been damaging people's things when he's mad and has not repaired it. He bike up a so called friends relationship by trying to sleep with his girl. That broke them up
Starts a fire, tells me to get out, then rescues me back in when he sees me crying or upset. He loves to see me in turmoil so he can be the hero. I have known this all along, but now it has a name.
My narcissist knew I was a nice person.
One day he told me you are too kind to be in a business world.
Today he is gone for good and I own a business.
9:50 "Stay on this narrow path. 10:20 Don't beat yourself up 10:24 We didn't know life had these individuals."10:36 Swim past the shiny lure..." Don't look back! Swim by, and don't entertain a narcissist." These are gems! "No one is ever good enough!" I appreciate this video very much because I had to learn to forgive myself.
Dave, when you said "End the games" I thought of The Hunger Games. Narcs pulled us into a fight to the death and we didn't even know it.
Guys, there IS healing. Every once in a while I see the light and every time it stays a little bit longer.
1. Stay no contact.
2. Eat healthy, exercise, meditate, pray, if you're religious.
3. Educate yourself.
4. Heal your inner child.
Get ready to thrive!
Lots of love.
Your videos keep getting better and better, we have to get the knowledge out there. Thanks for helping us Dave 😊😘
Your gut knows. It always knows. Listen to it.
Thanks Dave, I really needed this talk today! Had a massive hoover from my ex. I left him in tears but so what, Karma at it's finest again! The amount of tears I shed for that fool !!! Payback! Xxxx
Crocodile tears!
My mom, who is a self aware narcissist, said, 'don´t worry honey, you only wasted 15 years of your life!' (referring to my marriage to an extremely covert one (oh! well thanks mom)). She was the one who passed me the first article I was to read on the subject, which was very brave since she was also telling me in so many words who she is as well. It is never too late for us codependents to start putting up some boundaries. Without us, they cannot exercise their ways!
You are seriously so soothing to listen to...
Thank you for your contribution to the community. 💚
I can’t even remember my narcs mask. When I remember him or see him in pictures (he is now famous) I only see the demon. I think I always saw it and just wanted to help him feel better.
You went thru this for a reason. I went thru this for a reason. We, together, armed with the knowledge we have now are more than the devil can handle. Bring on the hoover.... we are ready #empaths #pushthrough
Dave, My first google was for ‘battered woman syndrome’ and it was like finding my hidden personal profile when I started reading. It’s crazy how these people can live like this without any self reflection. I feel fortunate and blessed that the Lord was allowing me to finally learn a hard lesson. I pray for everyone that has dealt with the Jezebel Spirit. God Bless.