When The Narcissist Realizes That You’re Never Coming Back

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  • When The Narcissist Realizes That You’re Never Coming Back
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  • @Narcologyunscripted
    @Narcologyunscripted  9 місяців тому +101

    Happy Friday Everyboby!!!! Love You!!!!

    • @themoontoonshines923
      @themoontoonshines923 9 місяців тому +8

      Happy Friday to you too! 🌺 🌸 🌺

    • @cathy_clarinet
      @cathy_clarinet 9 місяців тому +3

      TGIF Dave 🙂

    • @MonochromaticBlues
      @MonochromaticBlues 9 місяців тому +4

      The battle with Narcs only brought me closer to God, thank you! May God bless you, brother.

    • @burgudyficus
      @burgudyficus 9 місяців тому +4

      Likewise sweetheart ❤

    • @helenbardakas1321
      @helenbardakas1321 9 місяців тому +2

      I don't hate I don't trust.

  • @excripto1
    @excripto1 9 місяців тому +305

    What’s more important is that you realize that you’ll never go back to the narcissist.

  • @lundenmaxwell2530
    @lundenmaxwell2530 8 місяців тому +62

    The narcissist wants to know everything about your past relationships but doesn't want to tell you about there past

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 Місяць тому +1

      YOU KNOW THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG WHEN THEY TRY TO KEEP TOO MANY SECRETS.

    • @mikeyakb
      @mikeyakb 7 днів тому

      Knowing someone's past is important. You don't have to dive too deep .. but if they were promiscuous before you. That's something you need to know.

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 6 днів тому

      The narc is lying about their past. It's always told in a way to make you jealous or insecure.

  • @2225SRF
    @2225SRF 9 місяців тому +44

    I started studying Narcissism 7 years ago. It only took 2 weeks to figure out He was a narcissist. I quickly got away. I dated him 3 months and left him. I moved and made myself unavailable to him . He had no idea as to where i was. I deleted all social media and changed my phone number. I ran into him a year later and of course, he hoovered, but nothing worked. Best move i ever made!! I'm still educating myself today! A narcissistic relationship is the most horrific thing anybody can get involved in. Run! People and never look back. I never thought those kind of people existed in this world!!
    Get Away!!❤

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 Місяць тому +3

      AS YOU SLOWLY GET TO KNOW NEW PEOPLE,STEP BACK OBSERVE AND WRITE DOWN THEIR BEHAVIORS.

  • @lisamooney6297
    @lisamooney6297 9 місяців тому +93

    Happy Friday to everyone! God takes people out of your life because he's heard conversations that you haven't heard.

    • @PanelsWainio
      @PanelsWainio 9 місяців тому +2

      New one, thx 😊

    • @scovyaporsha
      @scovyaporsha 9 місяців тому +4

      Oh my Goodness i Love that❤❤

    • @lobsterbisque7567
      @lobsterbisque7567 6 місяців тому +1

      @lisamooney6297 That is so true! Thank You for bringing that fact to light, Lisa!

    • @doranvee5944
      @doranvee5944 5 місяців тому +1

      Yes, true. God knows the inner soul of everyone. He knows the evil plans ahead and helps us avoid them.

  • @mickcrovo5238
    @mickcrovo5238 9 місяців тому +138

    Just when I thought I was free of narcissists because I had gained discernment, my son's girlfriend dumped him by leaving a note on the door and texting ME to tell me to give it to him. I sat down with the two of them (they are teens) and during the course of a discussion, I asked her several questions to gauge her empathy. Her answers indicated that she doesn't have any. So now my poor boy has experienced his first narcissistic discard and devaluation. I hope it will be his last. Guys, they are everywhere.

    • @sloanmagnum5009
      @sloanmagnum5009 9 місяців тому +2

      How long were they dating

    • @DarkMetaOFFICIAL
      @DarkMetaOFFICIAL 9 місяців тому +10

      heck no it's just beginning. but he will be strong and resilient. it's such an advantage honestly. he's beyond lucky to have a good dad like you and this future advancement

    • @DarkMetaOFFICIAL
      @DarkMetaOFFICIAL 9 місяців тому +7

      they really are.

    • @mickcrovo5238
      @mickcrovo5238 9 місяців тому +14

      Thank you. I try to teach him what I have learned. They were together for 15 months.

    • @BorderlessBitcoinTravelShow
      @BorderlessBitcoinTravelShow 9 місяців тому

      @@mickcrovo5238lots of strength to both of you 🫶

  • @Pootietang67
    @Pootietang67 9 місяців тому +41

    Narcissists are disappointing, it's like going to your moms house to make a crispy buttery grilled cheese sandwich then opening the butter container to find old baked beans 😮

    • @kerstitekko2257
      @kerstitekko2257 5 місяців тому +1

      Great analog. They are users and abusers and they us to have nothing, last narc actually said that i have never had nothing.

    • @user-yd2mp7wp3k
      @user-yd2mp7wp3k 19 днів тому

      😂

  • @jesusisthelordsaviouralway8044
    @jesusisthelordsaviouralway8044 9 місяців тому +30

    I feel like a different person now my energy is back thank God

  • @shirlspark_stardust
    @shirlspark_stardust 9 місяців тому +39

    I thank God He made a way for me to get out ,I won't ever give that narcissist a chance to get close to me again ever.

  • @LA-re4rh
    @LA-re4rh 9 місяців тому +44

    God designed my Discard and holds my hand . 19 months No Contact. I am no longer a Carnal Christian. I have the knowledge at 56 years of age and know now I was brought up in a family of Narcissists. We thrivers need to give ourselves Grace with all the abuse and trauma we’ve been through. I am back in church and doing small group Bible study. My life has been difficult, but God sees me and has always been with me. I wait for His timing now. I submit to His Will. Thank you Dave. You and Paula from Narc Con are the best.

  • @lundenmaxwell2530
    @lundenmaxwell2530 8 місяців тому +15

    The narcissist pretends that there caring and loving during the LoveBomb after the LoveBomb they argue one second they love you the next and they try to get you to question your reality in every conversation

  • @amyt7378
    @amyt7378 9 місяців тому +53

    “You start to hate mankind… You start to hate people!”So true dave! I am a registered nurse and I absolutely love people and have always felt pretty jovial and enjoy conversation with my patients. 4 1/2 years in I begin feeling so impatient with my patients and my children, and really only felt good when things were going ”well”, with the narc. All I could do was desire to get out of my patient room and get back to my computer, which is completely 100% unlike myself. I am now 10 months exactly no contact and I am feeling myself enjoying my job again, although there are still days, I greive, I am feeling myself laughing again, and enjoying the personalities of my patients and my friends and family! Thank you so much for your videos… They have literally saved me! Praise God, he is so good!

    • @craigy691
      @craigy691 7 місяців тому +1

      We are in the end times and the elite that control this realm are creating or bringing out narcissists in there droves social media has a lot to do with it but people are being told they have one life ! Live your best life this creates greed and hate out of people believing there’s nothing else after death it’s disgraceful

    • @kerstitekko2257
      @kerstitekko2257 5 місяців тому

      Yes, it is true, i had same feeling. Yes, they turn us slowly to negativity, it is awful, so vile "people".

  • @veraslawnitsch1194
    @veraslawnitsch1194 9 місяців тому +17

    That's exactly what happened to me! For me, he's the most beautiful man in the world on the outside and demonic on the inside...

  • @debbier9555
    @debbier9555 4 місяці тому +10

    Recently, my son while working out at his local gym, was approached by 2 gym members who asked him, "Are you a Christian?"
    My son answered, "Yes", but was surprised by the two guys' question and asked them why they asked that.
    They said, they have noticed him over time at the gym and see how he treats others.
    My son is a bodybuilder and gym members are constantly asking him stuff how they can improve their workouts, etc. members appreciate his expertise and taking time to help them.
    The 2 guys told my son, they thought he's a Christian because it shows in his face.
    My son was surprised by their answer and appreciated it.
    I told my son, yes, true Christianity shines through a person, it can be felt. One doesn't need to proclaim they're one and they don't need to prominently display a cross.
    Being a Christian carries a responsibility in following Christ in how we live and love others.

  • @favicam
    @favicam 9 місяців тому +46

    I escaped, and I’ll never look back 🙏🏻 now I get to experience the good that truly is around me

  • @naenaehuggins1726
    @naenaehuggins1726 9 місяців тому +25

    Terrible stress/fear of being left in desperate situations without means. It happened repeatedly. Sleepless nights....days without food...walking on eggshells...chest pain...terrible abdominal pain...on and on it goes.

    • @Wild-Cat
      @Wild-Cat 6 місяців тому +3

      Go get a job…pray to GOD to take away your pain - because when you do - it actually happens immediately! And then you pray to GOD to give you the MAN you’re supposed to be with- and HE WILL. BLOCK THIS PERSON WHO’s destroying your soul. He’s joy is to see you this hurt- don’t give it to him. - NOW walk on top of him…FOREVER.

  • @sylviaamodeo7090
    @sylviaamodeo7090 9 місяців тому +20

    Phone number change = PEACE.

  • @angelacahill9083
    @angelacahill9083 9 місяців тому +16

    Looking back i was too trusting......he appeared to be so interested at the start but it was like you said......they were collecting inventory to be used at a future date......i was making excuses for poor behaviour all the time, hoping he would change. But he never did. When i finally figured him out, he threw me away and our family like we were trash. 30 + years of being married meant nothing to him. God removed me from this nightmare last year, hurt and broken but HE has filled the void with his love and I'm healing. Thank you Dave. You're right God gave me dreams about him and he was caught messaging other women and planning to meet up.

  • @shellyfilippi
    @shellyfilippi 9 місяців тому +63

    My energy is mine My soul is God's

  • @thaskew01
    @thaskew01 9 місяців тому +11

    They best is when they try to recreate you, the life you provided, and even cook the foods you used to but fail at it. They even have the new supply recreating the home you gave her, try to convince themselves he’s just like you, and even have the new suplly dress like you. My kids always come home and say how mom tried to cook something like you and it was gross. Thank God for this, and other channels, guiding us towards healing and we can chuckle at their attempts to recreate what they threw away.

    • @DarkMetaOFFICIAL
      @DarkMetaOFFICIAL 9 місяців тому +2

      she wanted to piece it together, have our attributes with individuals, but seems she can't find the undying love i gave her freely

  • @sdot6318
    @sdot6318 9 місяців тому +19

    The aging covert Narc pretended to be like he wasn't aging, never admitting to not being able to hear as well or even his vision getting bad. The ugly ones will waste way more of your time, sadly. thanks Dave!

    • @chiphan05
      @chiphan05 9 місяців тому +2

      Haha it’s true. My covert narc is fat, ugly 63 y.o guy. He was not happy whenever i told him he is old now

  • @mzsiss
    @mzsiss 7 місяців тому +4

    The night I met him I was due to be at choir rehearsal, but I ditched it, and that took me into 22 years of mayhem with this narcissist. I finally left one night while we both were supposed to be at work I moved out into my own placeand I haven’t looked back thank God

  • @treelover1050
    @treelover1050 9 місяців тому +22

    I told him I was never coming back. Who needs such rotten treatment. I knew he could find another. Don't care..

  • @jodiburnett6211
    @jodiburnett6211 8 місяців тому +14

    After wrenching free, I have Zero empathy for these weasels. They cannot get any more of my energy. They stole enough time, money, and genuine love.
    Thank you for your healing clarity!

  • @druidvw2088
    @druidvw2088 9 місяців тому +8

    There's burned bridges and then there's bridges nuked from orbit.
    It's the only way to be sure.

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 9 місяців тому

      THEY STILL WILL TRY TO HOOVER

  • @bridgettebianca2318
    @bridgettebianca2318 9 місяців тому +24

    These comments are disturbing; I’m so glad I decided to stay single… Dealt with the Malignant one time and 4 Covert, I’m sticking with God. He has been the only one who has ever added value to my life!!

  • @cecilycornishphdleadership9658
    @cecilycornishphdleadership9658 9 місяців тому +9

    The Blood of Jesus! It was the Blood of Jesus that keeps me from the evil narcissists.

  • @seizuregirlllll
    @seizuregirlllll 8 місяців тому +7

    Scary how easily disposable people are to them.

    • @35Zeuss
      @35Zeuss 6 місяців тому +2

      They come into your life like a steam roller, with too many secrets . Eventually, some come to light

  • @GaryPotocki82
    @GaryPotocki82 9 місяців тому +17

    The more I accept my mistakes accept my past shame and mistakes and sins I've come to really find out that I'm much more stronger then everyone who failed at Tearing Me Down my whole life. Life's a journey I intend I'm not wasting the remainder of my journey God bless you cheers

  • @lenilay1267
    @lenilay1267 9 місяців тому +11

    Your voice is very soothing and heavenly.

  • @jennyferguson5583
    @jennyferguson5583 9 місяців тому +7

    They Withhold Affection/ They Are All the Same!
    Same Playbook!
    Thanks Dave! Keep it up

    • @P4Eight
      @P4Eight Місяць тому

      They withhold everything that's near and dear to your heart. The list is made during the love bomb, they're working hard at that time. It's only during the discard phase that you'll see any more energy/effort from them , at that point it's demonic and it's directed at you. The account of pain they attempt to cause you, is commensurate to the amount of love bomb intensity that they provided.

  • @lizzyworld007
    @lizzyworld007 9 місяців тому +16

    I took my narcissist ex back not knowing what narcissism was when he came back he got so petty he must have been throwing out my clothes hair ties 😒 you are so confused you think you misplaced something all along they just didn't want you to have anything you enjoyed when you really are gone they regret the things they didn't get to hurt you by.. ty🌹

    • @PanelsWainio
      @PanelsWainio 9 місяців тому +4

      My goodness, he recruited help to mess with the house and my stuff specifically. I feel you ❤

    • @lizzyworld007
      @lizzyworld007 9 місяців тому +4

      @@PanelsWainio I gave up my apartment moved with him. First argument he an his friend threw my things all over the driveway I got another apartment now . Glad I'm free

    • @lizzyworld007
      @lizzyworld007 9 місяців тому +4

      @@PanelsWainio they are so cruel. Hope your doing ok

    • @mybelle6665
      @mybelle6665 9 місяців тому +5

      An ex-narc called me over to him at a party we were both attending and when I approached him, he threw a drink in my face in front of everyone. I punched him in his jaw so hard in front of everyone, and then poised myself and walked away with my head held high. The look on his face due to the stares and whispers he received was Epic! He wanted to put on a show and I gave him one😏

  • @kellieantoinette4183
    @kellieantoinette4183 8 місяців тому +10

    Dave, your videos are SO reassuring to victims of narcissistic abuse because of your godly perspective on narcissism and because your knowledge and understanding of this spirit is so exacting! I certainly appreciate you and may God bless you in Jesus name!

  • @cecilycornishphdleadership9658
    @cecilycornishphdleadership9658 9 місяців тому +8

    They are Master Liars!

  • @Imnotyourdoormat
    @Imnotyourdoormat 9 місяців тому +6

    "Sell You Down the River".......classic

  • @chriscole5990
    @chriscole5990 9 місяців тому +11

    I have not gotten a hoover phone call yet to my understanding maybe I did but I did not pick up the phone for numbers I don't know. But in January 2024 the 4th yes I don't forget the discard date one of the days the transformed my life will mark 2 year's since being discarded. Ok to business. I believe that how you were discarded the level of damage done is the longer the narcissist waits to try to come back to you. The narcissist is not stupid they know what they done. If minimal damage has been done the narc will try to return to you quicker. If they just dropped a warhead missile on a person it may take about 5 to 10 years for the dust to settle and that's when you may hear from them. The trick is they want you to believe they changed. They have not! They only changed supply! Let's not be deceived any longer, the pain they have caused too me and you do you really want to go through that again? Let's move on God removed these people for a reason out our lives he's got something better for us! Let's do our part and stay strong and believe in his promises. 🙏🏾💪🏾❤️

  • @Songbird4bk
    @Songbird4bk 9 місяців тому +21

    Never doubt Dave You make a difference!!!!! My mother and one of my sisters are malignant narcissists.... Of course I didn't know it at the time...but I knew something wasn't right with both of them. Knowledge is power Dave. I thank you every day for making me aware of this nasty mental illness. I am an ampath and they can't stand it. I went no contact with my sister and I feel 100 percent better and happy. They effect your physical and mental health. Now I am free. My Mom passed 20 years ago......without a word of apology about the emotional...psychological abuse she inflicted on me as a child growing up.....and until her death. Thanks again Dave. I am so happy you found a truly good woman and that you are happy. You deserve it man!!!!

    • @Narcologyunscripted
      @Narcologyunscripted  9 місяців тому +3

      Thanks! God Bless You!

    • @Songbird4bk
      @Songbird4bk 9 місяців тому +2

      Thank you.....God bless you also Dave......I know there is a special place in heaven for you.

    • @claudiacanales2662
      @claudiacanales2662 9 місяців тому +3

      I totally agree with you! Dave has helped so many and speaks a timely, God centered message!!!!’

  • @Whymeahhh
    @Whymeahhh 9 місяців тому +11

    I promise you Dave - if my ex sat down and watched your video today he’d burst 💥 into flames 🔥. Dead on interpretation 😮

    • @fairpoet81
      @fairpoet81 9 місяців тому +2

      Spontaneous Narcissistic Combustion! 💥💥 Al-a-kablam! 🔥🔥

  • @claudiacanales2662
    @claudiacanales2662 9 місяців тому +19

    The devil goes after the creme of the crop..those that have a purpose and a mission for God, the devil wants to destroy that person but the victory belongs to Jesus!!! Dave thank you for your amazing, Holy Spirit filled videos!

  • @emmamonroe3311
    @emmamonroe3311 9 місяців тому +7

    They say their childhood was fine. Once again lying

  • @RiversRun
    @RiversRun 8 місяців тому +4

    For the first time I changed my number, closed all social media, and am moving. YESS IM FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

  • @111mmgg
    @111mmgg 9 місяців тому +10

    How is it that they all operate from the same playbook? How is that even possible?

  • @kidrosskidrossproductions2906
    @kidrosskidrossproductions2906 9 місяців тому +11

    That was a super good pour dave … Fantastic !!!

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 9 місяців тому +2

      YES. I CAN ACTUALLY SMELL THE COFFEE. NICE SOUND TOO..

  • @goforit321
    @goforit321 8 місяців тому +2

    In the 5 years we were together he had opened up 3 times. The first time he told me he was bullied as a child. The other 2 times he was crying but I couldn’t make sense of what he was saying but we were hugging. He stopped opening up- there were no more heart to heart conversations.

  • @pioneeringpeppers
    @pioneeringpeppers 9 місяців тому +25

    You said it best, Dave!
    They are cowards.
    They have no honor.

    • @debralondon2402
      @debralondon2402 9 місяців тому +1

      True. All their feelings are for them and their needs only and plan to use you to get that for them only.

  • @wealthymo2857
    @wealthymo2857 9 місяців тому +23

    Happy Friday to you too.
    He was controlling and behaved like a child at times.
    I gave him a few months to prove himself, but when the name calling happened I knew something wasn't adding up with this guy.
    I began to feel unhappy and felt insecurity around him.
    Then I found your channel and then I began to change towards him. He realised the change and avoided to see him.
    I had to tell him I met someone to get rid of him.
    Thankyou Dave, I am free from that loser.😅😅😅😅

    • @melindasmith3713
      @melindasmith3713 8 місяців тому +1

      He acts as child around you , others he's fake

  • @NewCreationInGod
    @NewCreationInGod 9 місяців тому +6

    You are making a difference. Don’t stop. I think you for all you do. God bless.

  • @AruzLuz89
    @AruzLuz89 9 місяців тому +6

    I watch your videos several times a day. It’s been 4months since I kicked him out. I packed all his belongings and placed them outside the apartment. I had no clue why his behavior had shift. I got in contact with his ex and asked her questions and she had all the answers. She said he’s a narcissist and send me a link to your video now I am Mrs. A. Thank you for your service

  • @sonyasspot355
    @sonyasspot355 9 місяців тому +4

    This narcissist I know act like they can’t do no wrong. I had to block this guy. You listed them right on point, and I need peace ✌🏾

  • @waleedmascorro
    @waleedmascorro 9 місяців тому +4

    the flowing sound gets me every video

  • @DarkMetaOFFICIAL
    @DarkMetaOFFICIAL 9 місяців тому +6

    good lookin, and a college degree?!
    MARRY ME IMMEDIATELY LADY 🤣

  • @InHisService772
    @InHisService772 7 місяців тому +2

    At the discard I was CONSTANTLY referred to as a “stupid beoth”. I kept thinking of all the things to call me? Why? Stupid?!? I am highly educated with many accomplishments but stupid is not how anyone would describe me. Now I realize why he kept saying that- because I had the veil on my eyes and didn’t use discernment to SEE who he was because I loved him. All the while he was getting away with all kinds of debauchery, theft, cheating you name it. The joke was on me. So grateful to be out of that.

  • @LaurenBV
    @LaurenBV 9 місяців тому +6

    I was young living in the flesh because I had such low low self esteem. I got married due to guilt of well I was already with this one and I didn’t want a “high body count” i felt sick to get married but I felt bad for his immigration status. My God is freeing me now. Lord help me.

  • @PanelsWainio
    @PanelsWainio 9 місяців тому +7

    Incredibly accurate; I recently found out that my ex narc did know of me before I knew about him; I was lucky, received epiphany and it's been 8 months of healing ❤ great video, thank you!

  • @makenziepolston1220
    @makenziepolston1220 9 місяців тому +6

    This message is all true great message praise the lord Jesus blessed by this message praying 🙏

  • @deannamartinez7233
    @deannamartinez7233 9 місяців тому +11

    AMEN!!! All The Glory to GOD!!!!!🙌❤️🤗
    Speaking Truth, Dave
    Ty🩵

    • @deannamartinez7233
      @deannamartinez7233 9 місяців тому +1

      @@JavManTube Just Remember the devil wanted to be god and he and 1/3 of the angels got thrown out of heaven.
      Get Saved my friend before you end up where the devil will be in eternity.
      GOD IS LOVE!!! 🙌❤️
      Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV

  • @kittensugars
    @kittensugars 4 місяці тому +3

    "trying to please this person, who actually hates you."
    That one hit pretty hard.
    My Narcissistic husband, while obviously hating me, would stand around mostly naked, and still try to touch me. It was absolutely degrading. I asked him..."are you in the habit of sleeping with people you hate?"
    Apparently they are.

    • @coffeegirl6854
      @coffeegirl6854 Місяць тому

      “Trying to please this person who actually hates you” Yep. That is it.

  • @ophelia777_
    @ophelia777_ 9 місяців тому +6

    i thought a decent person was easy to come by. i was a great person and the narcs had a mask on to seem great. i was duped. it’s not my fault. i was 16 when i met my first narc. then another one right after that. 7 years of constant torment. i’m so glad to be safe now and healing still.

  • @anda.91
    @anda.91 9 місяців тому +8

    I don't usually write comments, but here's to hoping this will feel a bit therapeutic or enlighten someone else... In the beginning, I didn't want to listen to my gut because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt (word of advice, don't do that. Allow people to prove themselves through their actions and behavior. Look at how they treated their previous serious relationships). Three traumatic years later, here I am feeling so foolish for not listening to my gut instinct and for not applying what I knew about covert narcissists and narcissists in general. Man guys.. I really, really loved him.. but even that starts to feel confusing after some time because you find yourself seeing another side to this person that you don't even recognize and you start to feel alone because you only sometimes get to see those glimpses of who he "pretends" to be and maybe that's who I fell in love with. That's the "person" I stuck around for. Then I'd get berated for pointing out the discrepancies in his behavior/personality and my love would get questioned because he'd imply that I must not "love "all" of him then but only the "good parts" of him. That pushed me into wanting to prove my love more and more; even during the ugly times which slowly and gradually led me to become subservient. Before I knew it, I was constantly apologizing for the smallest of things because I just got so burnt out from arguing with him all the time. He was so nit-picky about everything; especially the things from my past- even though I'm pretty much an open book- to a fault, Doesn't matter though. If you overlook ONE detail from 5 or maybe even 10 years ago, he'll question eeeeeverything about you; even though you've remained pretty consistent in your present relationship otherwise. These people have extreme trust issues, so one oversight or mistake and you're not their lover anymore, you're a suspect. Also, pay attention to the patterns. They're there. I don't even know if HE realized it to be honest. I wasn't even LOOKING for them, but eventually something started to eat at me. I subconsciously felt something was off or maybe even felt.. familiar. As if I've seen this before. I don't think narcissists consciously do that. I tried to point it out to him because I loved him and I wanted us to become better people together, but of course that just pissed him off even more because he'd deflect and get defensive and say I was "invalidating his feelings." Watch out for that; especially the ones already familiar with psychology. They'll use it against you. I got to the point at the end of our relationship where I just couldn't un-see the patterns. I could literally predict when he would be in a mood (sometimes when I was sick or if things didn't go his way, or if I was happy in the company of other people. Hell, if they find out you're having a better day than they are, they'll strike with something from either 5 years ago or maybe even the way your tone was last week when you were talking about such and such. It never fails. They'll always find something to be bothered about and I honestly just couldn't be bothered anymore. I was so burnt out that I became indifferent. He used my indifference against me saying I was acting suspicious and acting like a "b****" or that I reminded him of his ex. That was enough for me to walk away. Trust me, the understanding and empathetic part of me could have kept fighting for the relationship, but once my boundaries were constantly being crossed and the name calling continued any time I was becoming frustrated and assertive, I'm out.

    • @ninath13
      @ninath13 8 місяців тому

      They also very disrespectful and I don't do that bye

    • @StefanieDonnelly
      @StefanieDonnelly 8 днів тому

      Brutal , soul murderers I was a widow , and he appeared ! I feel your pain I’ve experienced a second death mainly my own . Everything you just wrote I went through . But I’m gonna make it ! Molly Ringwald (they didn’t Brake me) ! Physician heal thyself.❤

  • @narcslayerg2631
    @narcslayerg2631 9 місяців тому +4

    He studied me For years and watched me do all the nice things for his friend! 😅

  • @cherissebeshears8893
    @cherissebeshears8893 5 місяців тому +2

    My narcissist always talked about himself, his childhood, his many relationships.

  • @marcthearcspark
    @marcthearcspark 9 місяців тому +7

    It feel like order #66 has been activated...Narcs seem to be lossin it, it is time to abandon these empty vessels...Thank you so much, Dave...Love u too =-)

  • @jakstorm3180
    @jakstorm3180 9 місяців тому +6

    Current gf dealing with that right now. Never even dated him but he thinks they need to have children and marry. Dude was gonna leave his wife for her until I stepped in. Now his wife knows and he's without a spouse or a woman. Wasn't what I wanted to do but he was relentless I had no choice.

  • @annehorton2623
    @annehorton2623 8 місяців тому +4

    I just left my boyfriend after 4 years. He was the most calculated discrete narcissist I have ever met. It took me 4 years to see his true colors. I lost friends, pushed family away and began to make excuses for his behavior. I lost myself and it took me finding out that he was talking to someone else behind my back to leave. I ignored the plethora of red flags for the sake of “love”. I truly pray for anyone who is bound to a person with this disorder. I also pray for anyone who has NPD and that they find God. Thanks for your help!

  • @micheledenardo2497
    @micheledenardo2497 9 місяців тому +6

    Love this video because every single thing you are saying here is right on Dave!! So relatable to me in my situation with my X. Just so grateful to have found this channel which helped me right out of my deepest depression during and after my divorce from a Narc. Thank you Dave for all your knowledge on this and God and you do make a difference.

  • @iako...
    @iako... 9 місяців тому +2

    *Like the cowards that we are*- the perfect, complete description of Narcissists.

  • @liaabati3120
    @liaabati3120 9 місяців тому +2

    After 4 years my Narc came back around. I am healed and have been since 6 months after the escape as I had been doing the work for 2 years prior to leaving. However, I found myself feeling sorry for him and I’ve come back to these videos to remind me who he is. I have changed so much Praise God. He has not changed a lick except gotten older. I have been single, working on my life and the happiest I have been ever! Thank you Dave. Keep doing what you’re doing. God Bless you 🤗

  • @michaelmorgan7893
    @michaelmorgan7893 9 місяців тому +13

    Great episode, Dave. I thought of you and our group the other night. I heard a Barbara Mandrell song from 1983 called "One of a Kind, Pair of Fools" where the lyrics show she as the wife who had been cheated on, confronts and collaborates with the "new supply" about her husband who had been cheating on both of them.
    I've heard that song for 40 years, and that was the first time I understood the lyrics! (Thanks to the education from this group and your knowledgeable tutelage in the subject)
    Thanks for some good moments in our walk down memory lane. God bless you Dave and your ministry.

    • @Whymeahhh
      @Whymeahhh 9 місяців тому +2

      I love Barbra Mandrell 😅 I Was Country When Country Wasn’t Cool 😎😂 I’m still country 🙏 still not cool though 😂🔥💯

    • @Whymeahhh
      @Whymeahhh 9 місяців тому +2

      Ohio isn’t so country but I try 🥺🙌🏻🩵

  • @ABBYLANE-ow6rm
    @ABBYLANE-ow6rm 9 місяців тому +3

    You are helping me and many more🙏🏻

  • @user-ho6rr9bz8k
    @user-ho6rr9bz8k 8 місяців тому +2

    I was in the marriage for 33 years 25 was Hell. I thank God for getting me out. So much I could tell so much . Jeff

  • @dwddavidsway4701
    @dwddavidsway4701 9 місяців тому +6

    Dearest brother in Christ Jesus, thank you for your stewardship unto the Father, His children~ His kingdom . . .
    You are a blessing and inspiration to mankind, truly! . . .
    I am truly honored to have been led by the Holy Spirit to your knowledge understanding truth discernment and wisdom, as I have learned the intricacies of this end times plague upon this dying world, that we must endure to the end in faith and righteousness in overcoming all things, as we gain the promise of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, to know the truth in all things, as we live in the Atonement of His love for us in DOing His Fathers will upon all of His precious children . . .
    Thank you Dave, may His love and peace continually strengthen your beautiful heart, 😊 this day and forever I pray in the holy name of Jehovah . . . Amen.

  • @Whymeahhh
    @Whymeahhh 9 місяців тому +6

    Thanks! Cheers 🥂 God bless your heart 💜

  • @margaretkyle7568
    @margaretkyle7568 9 місяців тому +3

    I'm Catholic Dave, but when you speak it's so spiritual and eloquent more than what I hear in Mass on Sunday

  • @margaretkyle7568
    @margaretkyle7568 9 місяців тому +6

    A whole Alice in Wonderland life

  • @Scorpio200
    @Scorpio200 9 місяців тому +2

    Oh my gosh I freaking love your sarcasm it's next level😅😅😅😅❤❤❤ I actually watch you just for the sarcasm in the metaphors No actually they're just a treat I love your teaching you are a true blessing❤❤❤

  • @ironfist859
    @ironfist859 8 місяців тому +2

    Exactly what happened to me. God woke me up at 2 am and told me to check her phone. All the sick and sordid evidence was there. I was able to get rid of her before she was able to discard me. All the glory to God!

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 9 місяців тому +3

    After a 5 year engagement to a narcissist, i really never knew him, let alone his Childhood. When I left him, he went bar-hopping and met a RICH woman who he married 2 weeks later. He married her Bank Acct. I have no idea where he is today. I changed my phone #, i got off fb, and i moved. He never found me.

  • @BellaDama456
    @BellaDama456 5 місяців тому +1

    I hope he does let it sink in I'M NOT COMING BACK EVER.

  • @lorithomason8404
    @lorithomason8404 9 місяців тому +3

    wow this is SO accurate ❤

  • @margiematlock3035
    @margiematlock3035 3 місяці тому +1

    Dave you have made all the difference in the world for me getting rid of my narc!!! Ty and praise Jesus for you ❤❤

  •  3 місяці тому +1

    This message is very clear. I know these things myself. Hold Fast. Its going to be okay.

  • @frankisebree8767
    @frankisebree8767 9 місяців тому +3

    Your ministry is unique helping me today confirming so much that God has been speaking..Strengthening my soul today. All of this is truth.

  • @user-cf6gw8zg4r
    @user-cf6gw8zg4r 8 місяців тому +2

    I confronted the cheating...that was the end..rage ensued. I am now a free bird. In retrospect this was all spiritual. God saved me from a nightmare.

  • @immilovesJesus
    @immilovesJesus 3 місяці тому +1

    The things you mentioned about familiar spirits! ugh, so true.

  • @lundenmaxwell2530
    @lundenmaxwell2530 8 місяців тому +1

    The devaluation stage is horrible everything is a argument and a debate there against everything you do and say and there indifferent to everything

  • @nj5023
    @nj5023 4 місяці тому +1

    I’m glad you are talking about this. As a Christian I totally get this, but thank God for discernment.

  • @shirlspark_stardust
    @shirlspark_stardust 9 місяців тому +4

    Good afternoon Dave and everyone happy Friday I didn't get peach tea got my water cheers 😊

  • @rosatrula
    @rosatrula 9 місяців тому +3

    You explain it so well Dave!

  • @MissionForward3
    @MissionForward3 9 місяців тому +11

    As soon as I figured her out, I informed her I was going to take over the finances. I was finally going to set a boundary I should have set decades earlier......
    Then she filed for divorce. She rushed to the end of the discard....
    I was actually relieved.

  • @motowngirl5891
    @motowngirl5891 9 місяців тому +3

    Most parents rush you down the aisle
    They start on you as soon as girls start their period

    • @melindasmith3713
      @melindasmith3713 8 місяців тому +1

      My narc dad shamed us girls for a period . Always on the rag

  • @SuperReasonabledoubt
    @SuperReasonabledoubt 2 місяці тому +2

    Yep..glad to be over the whole nightmare...am a better person from the experience.. everything else is easy now

  • @cathy_clarinet
    @cathy_clarinet 9 місяців тому +2

    Powerful stuff Dave. Your reminders help me so much.

  • @barbarah9375
    @barbarah9375 5 місяців тому +1

    Dave you ARE a big time preacher, maybe better. Dont understate the sane healing value you bring to this precious recovering community, especially with your anointed Christian perspective…which is rare. Thank you 🙌🏻

  • @Thegamehhh449
    @Thegamehhh449 9 місяців тому +3

    Wow “ the devil receives them on themselves” incredible

  • @ellencaroline2065
    @ellencaroline2065 8 місяців тому +1

    "the devil scrapes off purposes" gold

  • @bernicewhittle3926
    @bernicewhittle3926 3 місяці тому +1

    Wow, you really spoke to me tonight, thank you

  • @jennifermarconi3884
    @jennifermarconi3884 5 місяців тому +1

    I love how you talk about the Lord! When you talked about the blood of Jesus I felt the Holy Spirit so strong. Thank you brother!

  • @Thegamehhh449
    @Thegamehhh449 9 місяців тому +2

    “How do you know? Son…”she said so!” Lol😂

  • @reubenvalles917
    @reubenvalles917 6 місяців тому

    Thank you Dave! You are helping people heal and making sure that we understand what we are up against so we dont fall prey to the hoovers if and when they come!

  • @nicolelouiselucas3996
    @nicolelouiselucas3996 9 місяців тому +5

    Your a 1000% right with everything you said, I wished I could "HEART❤" you a million trillions 😍 you've described my ex narcissist down to a "T" thank you for your wisdom and knowledge and experience because you help us so much thank you 🤗🙏💖