Oooh, I set my boundaries with someone exactly as you described yourself. He did NOT like it. Now I've been free and single for a year. Thank you Lord God!
Who has time to wait around for him/her to change? Most times it's temporary and back to the old narcissistic behaviors. Just leave and don't look back.
I’m not giving anyone instructions. I’m not his mother. Plus, he’ll eventually resent me once he realizes that they aren’t in line with his character. Then, down the line, I’ll be more attached and his true character will manifest and I’ll be stuck. I got out quick. He damaged me in such a short amount of time. If I stayed longer, I would have been a walking corpse eventually.
When I started setting boundaries with him he got very angry. He would say things like... u r so dominating... u r selfish... u want things to go ur way. He started getting more and more abusive. Finally he discarded me.
Yeah setting boundaries with the new people I’ve been meeting and trying to date has weeded out the manipulative toxic ones! I’ve become so picky since I left my Leon alone over a month ago. I’m in therapy and I don’t like being alone but it gets easier everyday. I’m laughing more now and I definitely feel more at peace!
And then came back saying he loved and missed me. I was like “yo, you cheated.” I told him, that’s where I draw the line in the sand. I swear it were as if no one ever called him out or caught him. I was like, this fool really thought I’d stay after cheating? Hell nah. HELL NO.
I tried holding them accountable. All they do is either verbally attack in response, go silent, or ghost me. It's a no-win situation. All that works is no-contact. I tried everything I could, but, didn't work. And, I've had plenty of narcs that I tried to change.
Boundaries! Boundaries!BOUNDARIES! Including with the ones who enable their ways. Once you keep in contact with their enablers, they will feel like they have a brighter green light to walk in and out of your life. You deserve better.
You can have high standard but some circumstances can’t put boundaries up too strong because you maybe in a position where you need the narcissist so you have to allow yourself to be misuse, I was homeless and the narcissist took me in so I had to take crop from him, I had to have sex when ever he want but whenever I was in the mood tge nar withheld sex from, he place in in the position of a child, I couldn’t talk if ge didn’t feel like, and I he criticize me for talking to our on the fone
@@Misschinchin_bird I get it you're grateful, You've probably been put through hell in life, Had many traumas and I understand being homeless was also traumatizing. Listen Precious, You're gonna have to work hard to figure out a plan to get out of that situation of living w/ this narc, It's gonna mean being uncomfortable and doing the hard work yourself & hiding your money. Is there some sort of school or classes or something you can take on, Can you get your CDL and be a truck driver? You could live in the truck, Look on youtube - other women have done it like mother trucker, was homeless after the pandemic. Now she's already bought property. I don't know how you're gonna do it, but you've got to do it. Don't get comfortable in it, Thinking all shucks, it would be too hard & might as well just stay here and deal with it. And don't tell the narc you have a plan, narc will start kicking you out if you tell him u are trying to leave and trust me your days staying there Are numbered. You might as well get ready for the day he tries to get rid of you and he will. He'll get bored with you (not being mean, i'm saying this bc they get bored with everybody even themselves) and narc WILL find somebody else to move in with him. You are definitely not his first, However which way it happened,... and you won't be his last. Three months since you left this comment, are you even still there?
Yes, and they melt down like the Wicked Witch of the West. Name-calling, flying monkey activation. They need to see if you are for real about what you are saying. I set boundaries and didn't know that I was setting them and watched the fireworks explode. Thank you for your insights, Leon.
I realized early with him that I had to set boundaries. He hated it but it was what was needed. This video was spot on!! I appreciate your vulnerability and the fact that you tell on yourself. Thanks Leon
My ex told me I can not have boundaries, but she can in a joking manner. I was grateful for her showing me that she didn't care about my well-being. I was grateful for her exposing herself. Please listen to them, they will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know.
I do now and i took down my violent narc and his satanic coven with the help of the lord most high. Thank you your videos opened my eyes 💯🙏🏾🇬🇧 i am VICTORIOUS no longer a victim
I told my ex narc: enroll in therapy for a whole year (proof in hand) and I will have a decent conversation with you, as strangers. in the meantime, dont talk to me, dont call me, dont send flowers, dont email, DONT BREATH in my presence if we are in the same event. I said I buried him 6 feet under. These are unreachable boundaries and I will keep them in mind since he has a broken family (where I know he did something awful too), I have a list of things for him to accomplish if he dares to speak to me in a year. That of course I know he wont met. When they discard you is a blessing in disguise, you will feel it in your soul after 2 months no contact. It worths it!!!!
So proud of myself I didn’t 5 of these and now I’m the devil lmao! The meltdown came hahaha! Love love love this. He said I was critical and never saw the good in him 😂😂😂😂. I feeling great because I thought I forgot or was outta shape. It came easy for me. I guess I’ve had enough in my life. God is good
After 30 years of marriage I started setting boundaries. Hell he had already crossed them all. But I was done. The first thing I had to tell him was “don’t speak to me that way.” He said something..I repeated, do Not use that tone with me, you heard what I said.” That was the quietest I’ve heard him in 30 years. Things changed for him in that moment. I took my power back before I left. He couldn’t function
I can see how far l've come. Yep cant be bothered educating and putting boundaries on him... Im out ❤ Oh and the first."Thumbs up you see. Its from me 💛💛
Set Boundaries 1.suggest they Enroll in Therapy 2. Don’t call after 5pm 3. Recommend they Attend Church 4. Don’t let them always talk about sex 5 suggests that they spend time with family 6. Work on addiction 7. Give me feedback 8. hold them accountable regarding addiction ie how are you doing , must continue giving them instructions
Bro wowww you really helping me with that said check this - I'm married 22 yrs now to my wife who I love dearly she will set boundaries, warnings & control the narrative without fail ! Well I simply agree 💯 and really respect hers 💯 BUT LOLL when it comes to HER MY GOD MY GOD WHY HAVE YOU NOT SPEEDILY HEAR ME???? Now about 9 months ago & about 2 yrs before she left WE BOTH we're fed up with one another etc..marrige is a lot of long-suffering so 9 months ago she left me I did not ask her we're she will be staying at nor call her ! After a week past with no communication she called checking in on my welfare etc..then said divorce I said hold up I THOUGHT IT was space you & I needed etc..it broke me to tears a heart ache that dropped me to the floor for 2 weeks lost weight etc..so she decided to not file for divorce and I was cool! Left her alone did not ask questions when she called witch was all the time and most of the time I did NOT answer them she would randomly show up out of know we're etc..this went on for 2 months finally I said enough I'm blocking you and told her we need to stop speaking & seeing each outher it was confusing me etc..i spoke with her for 40 min respectfully told her I need to get me right mentaly & spiritually etc..said I love you but im letting go be happy it's time I got to love me work on me etc...she was back in the house the next day!! It's been 9 months since then when she was gone those 2 months I started seeing the Narcissist traits BIG TIME!! we both are doing 90% percent better than ever YYYYEEETTT YET LOL really not funny it hurts she is starting or been doing what she has been since I meet her!! She sees the change in me admits it 💯 I don't go there no more with her and now I'm quite etc..seems to me she can't take the new me ????? I'm soooo tired I just say to her in a nice tone YOUR SO FULL OF IT!!!! I have a feeling I'm about say ENOUGH!!! HELP ME OUT PLEASE???
@@leonrwalkerjr yup just like u said he came in wearing new hat new shirt that his brother's girl let him borrow the car because they were gone for the weekend. To rub it in my face because I wasn't answering him and I was talking to someone and he didn't like that then asked me to say the night I did but he left at 5 didn't come till mindnight... I I told him Leon said u would do this and he said make me feel how I made him feel when I wouldn't come over or answer him and just laughed 👏👏👏👏 and grins your good Leon 😘😘😘😘😘
OMG MAAANN I dated a 30 yr old girl that loved coke. All she did the first two weeks was tell me stories of sex with her exes!!! FOR REAL !! It was Akward, Dirty , Disgusting, un Lady like !!!! Damn she was a trip and we never Smashed all we did was cuddle everyday and night . Of course I always reminded here i lay pipe well. WTF?? talk about a turn off tho . I just learned a valuable lesson from one of these kinds of people! She re- iterated " Shes not a shoulder to cry on" She wasnt nurturing, But, when i was with her spoiled me all day everyday, Lovebombing. SHe also tried super hard to make me Jealous and Trigger me. I didnt once take the bait. The end was she made up an arguement to get rid of me and said " get out" havent talked to her in months. Not to mention she was broke and some how always had money and for sure had a 55 year old Mexican guy around her all the time!!
Signed the divorce papers! Done ditty done done done!❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Congratulations on the start of your brand new wonderful life!
I can FEEL the happiness in this message 😊
@@leonrwalkerjrFR FR ❤
Congratulations on your new beginning. 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Oooh, I set my boundaries with someone exactly as you described yourself. He did NOT like it. Now I've been free and single for a year. Thank you Lord God!
Yep, that’s how it happens. You did right!!!!💯💯🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️
Stay positive. You have done yourself a great deed.😊
Who has time to wait around for him/her to change? Most times it's temporary and back to the old narcissistic behaviors. Just leave and don't look back.
@@caligirl9403 it's a horrible feeling looking back on the waste of time spent.
Narcissists hate boundaries point blank period!! They push push and push right over your boundaries!
How about 1 boundary - I’m leaving to never return.. Because they still got a way to manipulate all 7 of them..
I’m not giving anyone instructions. I’m not his mother. Plus, he’ll eventually resent me once he realizes that they aren’t in line with his character. Then, down the line, I’ll be more attached and his true character will manifest and I’ll be stuck. I got out quick. He damaged me in such a short amount of time. If I stayed longer, I would have been a walking corpse eventually.
And There It Is!! #Boundaries
Narcissist Hate Boundaries. And when we set them is how we will know what kinda demons we are dealing with💯
When I started setting boundaries with him he got very angry. He would say things like... u r so dominating... u r selfish... u want things to go ur way. He started getting more and more abusive. Finally he discarded me.
Yeah setting boundaries with the new people I’ve been meeting and trying to date has weeded out the manipulative toxic ones! I’ve become so picky since I left my Leon alone over a month ago. I’m in therapy and I don’t like being alone but it gets easier everyday. I’m laughing more now and I definitely feel more at peace!
More peace, clarity and the funny times-yep!! All much needed! You did good💯💯
And then came back saying he loved and missed me. I was like “yo, you cheated.” I told him, that’s where I draw the line in the sand.
I swear it were as if no one ever called him out or caught him. I was like, this fool really thought I’d stay after cheating? Hell nah.
HELL NO.
Yeah thats how my ex narc assumed, I dealt with sooooo much
I tried holding them accountable. All they do is either verbally attack in response, go silent, or ghost me. It's a no-win situation. All that works is no-contact. I tried everything I could, but, didn't work. And, I've had plenty of narcs that I tried to change.
Lose n a narc is a win-win situation
Therapy! Leon didn't get better till he went to therapy
Boundaries! Boundaries!BOUNDARIES! Including with the ones who enable their ways. Once you keep in contact with their enablers, they will feel like they have a brighter green light to walk in and out of your life. You deserve better.
Very true!!!! That’s on point!!!
You can have high standard but some circumstances can’t put boundaries up too strong because you maybe in a position where you need the narcissist so you have to allow yourself to be misuse, I was homeless and the narcissist took me in so I had to take crop from him, I had to have sex when ever he want but whenever I was in the mood tge nar withheld sex from, he place in in the position of a child, I couldn’t talk if ge didn’t feel like, and I he criticize me for talking to our on the fone
@@Misschinchin_bird strategize a way out from depending on people.
@@Misschinchin_bird I get it you're grateful, You've probably been put through hell in life, Had many traumas and I understand being homeless was also traumatizing.
Listen Precious, You're gonna have to work hard to figure out a plan to get out of that situation of living w/ this narc, It's gonna mean being uncomfortable and doing the hard work yourself & hiding your money.
Is there some sort of school or classes or something you can take on, Can you get your CDL and be a truck driver? You could live in the truck, Look on youtube - other women have done it like mother trucker, was homeless after the pandemic.
Now she's already bought property.
I don't know how you're gonna do it, but you've got to do it. Don't get comfortable in it, Thinking all shucks, it would be too hard & might as well just stay here and deal with it.
And don't tell the narc you have a plan, narc will start kicking you out if you tell him u are trying to leave and trust me your days staying there Are numbered. You might as well get ready for the day he tries to get rid of you and he will. He'll get bored with you
(not being mean, i'm saying this bc they get bored with everybody even themselves) and narc WILL find somebody else to move in with him. You are definitely not his first, However which way it happened,... and you won't be his last.
Three months since you left this comment, are you even still there?
Yes, and they melt down like the Wicked Witch of the West. Name-calling, flying monkey activation. They need to see if you are for real about what you are saying. I set boundaries and didn't know that I was setting them and watched the fireworks explode. Thank you for your insights, Leon.
Oh my boundary is to never call me again.
I realized early with him that I had to set boundaries. He hated it but it was what was needed. This video was spot on!! I appreciate your vulnerability and the fact that you tell on yourself. Thanks Leon
I was thinking the same : he’s really ‘telling on himself’ and I’m here for it!
Good job Leon
Boundaries aren’t for the other person.
They have to be as well.
My ex told me I can not have boundaries, but she can in a joking manner.
I was grateful for her showing me that she didn't care about my well-being.
I was grateful for her exposing herself.
Please listen to them, they will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know.
I do now and i took down my violent narc and his satanic coven with the help of the lord most high. Thank you your videos opened my eyes 💯🙏🏾🇬🇧 i am VICTORIOUS no longer a victim
You’re welcome
What exactly did you do? I'm trying this with the Lord also! 🙏🏽
Super.fantastic. #You Rock❤😊🎉
Just ridiculous and time exhausting beast😢
I told my ex narc: enroll in therapy for a whole year (proof in hand) and I will have a decent conversation with you, as strangers. in the meantime, dont talk to me, dont call me, dont send flowers, dont email, DONT BREATH in my presence if we are in the same event. I said I buried him 6 feet under. These are unreachable boundaries and I will keep them in mind since he has a broken family (where I know he did something awful too), I have a list of things for him to accomplish if he dares to speak to me in a year. That of course I know he wont met. When they discard you is a blessing in disguise, you will feel it in your soul after 2 months no contact. It worths it!!!!
So proud of myself I didn’t 5 of these and now I’m the devil lmao! The meltdown came hahaha! Love love love this. He said I was critical and never saw the good in him 😂😂😂😂. I feeling great because I thought I forgot or was outta shape. It came easy for me. I guess I’ve had enough in my life. God is good
Nooooooo, late night phone calls!!! This will disturb your sleep pattern, and you will start to have higher levels of cortisol and confusion.
Thank you for the transparency.
I'm setting them now!
💯💯
Excellent video. Leon what was said to you in therapy that got your attention and what facilitated you to change?
After 30 years of marriage I started setting boundaries. Hell he had already crossed them all. But I was done. The first thing I had to tell him was “don’t speak to me that way.” He said something..I repeated, do Not use that tone with me, you heard what I said.” That was the quietest I’ve heard him in 30 years. Things changed for him in that moment. I took my power back before I left. He couldn’t function
I can see how far l've come. Yep cant be bothered educating and putting boundaries on him... Im out ❤
Oh and the first."Thumbs up you see.
Its from me 💛💛
Thank you Leon!! ❤❤❤❤ God bless you for being brave enough to share your story. You've got balll$$!!! I appreciate your wisdom.
Wish I would have known this long ago
Ugh no matter how done we are, they never are. Keep it 💯 💪 🎯
That’s true for sure!!!
Set Boundaries 1.suggest they Enroll in Therapy 2. Don’t call after 5pm 3. Recommend they Attend Church 4. Don’t let them always talk about sex 5 suggests that they spend time with family 6. Work on addiction 7. Give me feedback 8. hold them accountable regarding addiction ie how are you doing , must continue giving them instructions
Love your honesty. thank you❤️
Great advice!
Thank you Leon 😊
Thank You for the insight. I can see now.
Bro wowww you really helping me with that said check this - I'm married 22 yrs now to my wife who I love dearly she will set boundaries, warnings & control the narrative without fail ! Well I simply agree 💯 and really respect hers 💯 BUT LOLL when it comes to HER MY GOD MY GOD WHY HAVE YOU NOT SPEEDILY HEAR ME???? Now about 9 months ago & about 2 yrs before she left WE BOTH we're fed up with one another etc..marrige is a lot of long-suffering so 9 months ago she left me I did not ask her we're she will be staying at nor call her ! After a week past with no communication she called checking in on my welfare etc..then said divorce I said hold up I THOUGHT IT was space you & I needed etc..it broke me to tears a heart ache that dropped me to the floor for 2 weeks lost weight etc..so she decided to not file for divorce and I was cool! Left her alone did not ask questions when she called witch was all the time and most of the time I did NOT answer them she would randomly show up out of know we're etc..this went on for 2 months finally I said enough I'm blocking you and told her we need to stop speaking & seeing each outher it was confusing me etc..i spoke with her for 40 min respectfully told her I need to get me right mentaly & spiritually etc..said I love you but im letting go be happy it's time I got to love me work on me etc...she was back in the house the next day!! It's been 9 months since then when she was gone those 2 months I started seeing the Narcissist traits BIG TIME!! we both are doing 90% percent better than ever YYYYEEETTT YET LOL really not funny it hurts she is starting or been doing what she has been since I meet her!! She sees the change in me admits it 💯 I don't go there no more with her and now I'm quite etc..seems to me she can't take the new me ????? I'm soooo tired I just say to her in a nice tone YOUR SO FULL OF IT!!!! I have a feeling I'm about say ENOUGH!!! HELP ME OUT PLEASE???
On point!
Excellent boundaries...
Best narc video EVER! Thanks!
👏👏👏👏 thank you so much for theses videos my ex just laughed because I said Leon is on point with what your doing and he just laughed it off SMH
When they laugh, they know it’s true
@@leonrwalkerjr yup just like u said he came in wearing new hat new shirt that his brother's girl let him borrow the car because they were gone for the weekend. To rub it in my face because I wasn't answering him and I was talking to someone and he didn't like that then asked me to say the night I did but he left at 5 didn't come till mindnight... I I told him Leon said u would do this and he said make me feel how I made him feel when I wouldn't come over or answer him and just laughed 👏👏👏👏 and grins your good Leon 😘😘😘😘😘
@@valeriepatron5433 wow!! Yep, I’m not surprised at all.
@@leonrwalkerjr it's just so crazy exactly how you say it is going to be or happen or what's said on point 🫡🤣🤣
@@valeriepatron5433 thank you. This was who I was for a very long time.
Talk to your Leon or Leona lol lol lol lol lol lol lol…………
😂💯🙌🏾🙌🏾. Gotta keep it fair
Saved my life
OMG MAAANN I dated a 30 yr old girl that loved coke. All she did the first two weeks was tell me stories of sex with her exes!!! FOR REAL !! It was Akward, Dirty , Disgusting, un Lady like !!!! Damn she was a trip and we never Smashed all we did was cuddle everyday and night . Of course I always reminded here i lay pipe well. WTF?? talk about a turn off tho . I just learned a valuable lesson from one of these kinds of people! She re- iterated " Shes not a shoulder to cry on" She wasnt nurturing, But, when i was with her spoiled me all day everyday, Lovebombing. SHe also tried super hard to make me Jealous and Trigger me. I didnt once take the bait. The end was she made up an arguement to get rid of me and said " get out" havent talked to her in months. Not to mention she was broke and some how always had money and for sure had a 55 year old Mexican guy around her all the time!!
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