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2:54 you may want to edit that photo out. They ill take this video down BETTERMAN
So excited that my husband will be getting our copy of your book delivered in the next couple of days
I can't express my personal gratitude enough for speaking about something that's so personal to me as a disabled Army veteran who has seen plenty of people go out that way. My first experience with this was my friend and trumpet teacher going out like that. He had three little girls he left behind and he was one of my first adult friends when I was still in middle school. Now the list of people I know grows bigger every single day.
@@anthonymerchant2597 I only have empty words...I'm sorry for you losses...in and out of uniform. However, as an ex-serviceman in the South African National Defence Force, I GENUINELY thank you for your service. More needs to be done for medically retired servicemen...i.e free counselling, free medical...I.E keep your enlisted benefits for life, as you and thousands of others were prepared to give yours.
Here in the United States it’s worse because of abuse of freedom left and right. It comes from the combination of social abuse and if one’s home life is at an unreasonable level of dysfunction. Education outside of the house is overwhelming and a live action Facebook for kids. Kids spend too much time in school as parents spend too much time at work not getting enough money and time to spend with their kids and to take care of themselves. And no one knows how to be as reasonable to eachother as possible. The government doesn’t care. Only better smarter people do
This is what happens when you close mental institutions and let them out on the street due to get-out-of-jail-free bail laws.
Yep. I literally saw a homeless guy walking down the street talking to invisible people one after another when I was on my way home.
ever thought that maybe it was psychiatry itself that did this to him. It’s well known and highly documented even in their own literature that psychiatry and psychiatric “meds” have as side effects homicidal and suicidal ideation. it’s a complete tragedy for the victims and the police officer took the correct course of action. However psychiatry uses zero scientific evidence in their labelling of people with illnesses and treating those supposed illnesses with toxic brain changing drugs.
To fair(ish) mental institutions don't typically _help_ anyone. *They basically exist as a rug to sweep problematic people under after they're medicated into submission.*
@@ShockerTopper doesn't mean he insane
"This is what happens when you close mental institutions and let them out on the street"
Add to that liberal drug laws and welfare dependence.
Why do instances like these always result in saying men need to do better, not mentally ill people need to do better?
Or be put and Stay in Mental Hospitals until they're Better.
Because if you blame mentally ill people then there is actionable solutions which imply these issues are a result of the governments poor mental health management, a solution would also mean we'd be less divided.. There are no downsides for the government to blame an intangible ethereal presence because then it's unsolvable and they can continue blaming that forever, dividing us further, and pandering to the left
If they're allowed in at all and can afford it @@martinderabbie3429
*I refuse to feel guilty for being a man and I refuse to blame all men over the actions of one disturbed individual. At the end of the day, there's only one person to blame and that's the disturbed individual that did these things. The real question is, what would cause someone to do something as disturbing as this?* 🤔
I agree about this brother
People need help and didn’t get help
Psychosis caused it. Neglecting to take his meds caused it. Nothing to do with his sex or gender. Nothing to do with other men.
@@sleepytee-AWRThere’s only one kind of mercy for monsters. As men, we know this, sometimes there is only one price.
There was a incident yesterday in East London where multiple People were stabbed with a sword. Unfortunately a 14 year old boy on the way to school was killed
It's not a gender or race thing. it's a people are an asshole thing.
yup
Culture also influences you a lot
That is why so many African Americans are in prison
Its not because they are black, but its because of their culture they have that promotes violence and substance abuse
Truth
Right on 👍
Truth
This incident sickened me to the stomach but if a woman went on a rampage like this, would we blame all women or would we find another excuse to blame all men? 😮
She went crazy and slashed people up because men made her do it…
We already know that answer. The media would scream that she was a victim of abuse or that a man across the street drove her to it, or that a man didnt stop her. One way or another it will be a mans fault.
Yet "women most affected"
I know of a truly violent & sickening crime committed by a woman right here in Australia that will absolutely churn your stomach & even Mr Ballen did a video on it. Look up the name & videos on the crime committed by Katherine Knight, who was referred to as the “female Hannibal Lecter”. That alone should give you an idea of what you’re in for but all I can say is… Prepare yourself as it’s beyond shocking 😲🫢🤮
@@wolvenar What's sad about that one, is that even if she suffered at the hand of abusive mother, men would STILL somehow get the blame
It would be - 'oh, she only mass murdered 5 people with her car because her toxic White Male Boss passed her over for promotion' They always have a Man angle to fallback on. Feckin', hate the media.
Government’s answers to everything, tax the middle class and pour money at a bunch of activists.
And censor the internet even more
Lol
BREAK OFF ALL GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE FOR SINGLE MOTHERS
taxation is theft
@@erickwidman3735 lol why
They turn to the men who aren't doing these horrific things, and make them feel like, or in some cases straight up tell them they're abusers. Cos that's gonna help their mental stability apparently...
Remember in America how that guy got shamed in Chicago for not interfering in a mugging at gunpoint over a phone?
At worst if he did he'd been killed, at best thrown in jail
You don't dare type the names of people who have been the victims of what happens if you are a good men, YT will delete the post and comment ban you
@@alanmike6883just let go of the phone, I would not risk my life either over a fcuking phone wether it’s mine or not
I don't know if People remember but there is a American show called the talk.
Has anyone heard about it?
And once Sharon Osbourne was in fits of laughter when a guy had his tackle removed by his wife and was in total glee over the the guys pain and torture.
This was many years ago
@@alanmike6883 Lorena Bobbitt?
I'm a woman. There are a lot of videos where women are saying ALL women have been assaulted, abused, followed, feared for their lives etc, I have not experienced any of those things, the man vs bear thing? I would choose man. I've been lucky enough to be surrounded by good men, I don't go out to pubs and clubs so I avoid the bulk of drunken idiots, I also have short hair so I don't exactly look like a girl. When I walk alone at night, I'm alert and I will square my shoulders up to look bigger and stronger because nighttime can be dangerous for anyone. Having said that, I will drive my friends home at night rather than let them walk/catch public transport but I do it with both my female friends and my male friends. I'm more concerned for my female friends because after all, the blokes that do this stuff are cowards they're going to go after "easy" prey. Men are more likely to be killed by people they don't know, women are more likely to be killed by people they do know. Women are more likely to be raped or sexually assaulted, men are more likely to be murdered. I also don't feel that statistics surrounding domestic violence and crime with men as the victims are accurate because we're reliant on it being reported and men are less likely to report it. I don't know what the solution is abuse is so hard to prosecute because it needs to be proven beyond reasonable doubt and it's so easy to hide it, sentences are far too lenient and there's not enough mental health support. The whole thing is a mess and needs to change.
I think isolating men as a whole makes the situation worse, because we then become resentful and worsen the tension that already exists
This. I truly think the first step is to stop demonizing men as a species. There is no healing when one side thinks men are the worst thing in existence
My husband's cousin was murdered by her ex boyfriend in California. He made threat after threat that was ignored by the authorities because he hadn't acted on the threats...until he did. It was considered "domestic violence," not murder. He was given the maximum penalty in the state of California. Twenty- five years to life in a mental hospital with the possibility for parole in 13 yrs. So, in about 5 years, a murderer will probably be walking the streets to commit another crime. I hope not, but I'm not confident. This man stalked her relentlessly until he finally made good on his threat that "if he can't have you, no one can." I think that one thing we as a society can do is to stop looking at the bad guys as the victim. That's why his sentence is so low for murder. The rational in California is that domestic violence is a crime of passion and the perpetuator cannot be punished for something they cannot control. IMO, that's absolute bulls...!
Men having nothing left to lose. And a man with nothing to lose is the most dangerous person on the planet.
could'nt of said that better
Shouldn't have passed all those laws against men, destroyed their spaces, removed the fathers from their homes, etc etc. Actions have consequences, girls. If you don't know that, maybe you're too stupid to vote. Just saying.
And these feminists create us daily. I'm so glad my mom isn't insane leftist and I grew to be quite all right, if I can say so.
@@JoakimOtamaa lucky for you indeed, my mom has some sense but sometimes i argue with her on topics ... even like the gender paygap .... it's crazy how mainstream media can brainwash people so easy to believe nonsense.
You sound like youre planning something..
I'm A Man.
Been Married to my deer wife For 30 Years this year August.
No issues in our relationship, we are gen X our children are Gen Z and even they know how life works
So Glad we Brought them up To respect others and not the Crap that is all over the internet
Great Topic Isaac
You're married to a deer?
Just yesterday here in the UK a young 14-year-old boy lost his life due to a Sword Attack .W"F is wrong in this world RIP young man
Right, and 4 others were injured, two of which were police officers
U.K. def a big problem ... Drillrap ... Drillrap gangs ... i never would asume music is a cause of stabbings or violence ... but Drillrap is another thing entirely ... it's not music ...
it's a gang language, they openly admit what they did and do in these raps.
and you got young impressionable children hooking into it and wanna be this stabbing wannabe gangster wannabe's
imo i think it's a BIG problem, and ONE of the reason maybe not the main reason but def. is causing more harm then good this Drillrap scene
The attatcker was a white middle aged man.@Genesizs
The attacker was not the drill rap listening sort.@Genesizs
Humanity is violent and will always be like that
Sure most people wont murder others but there will always be those that do because they are evil.
Doesn't matter how safe your neighbourhood is things like this can happen
God will bring justice, and these people will pay for their crimes
I pray for the repentance too
'Almost 24% of all relationships had some violence, and half (49.7%) of those were reciprocally violent. In nonreciprocally violent relationships, women were the perpetrators in more than 70% of the cases.' - NCBI
How has this turned into a gender debate? The man harmed a baby ffs. He was looking for easy targets that were weaker than him, that's all. That way, he could inflict as much damage as possible before being stopped.
Its a gender debatw because if you watched the project like last night they literally went from this incident (mental health) to DV against women. This grandmother or mother was being interviewed to get some cash because her daughter was killed during the bondi incident. She legit said "women need to raise men better" like bruh havw you seen the stats on fatherless households? Also she got a tattoo aswell because her daughter was one of the victims
Women freeze and stand still. Hence they got harmed. The men either ran away or prepared to fight the attacker ( fight or flight)
@@astra6712 I mean naturally, women are more weaker so even if they did fight, they'd probably still die
We're tired of being blamed for everything bad because some individual did shit. Nobody hates all women thanks to Arleen or whatever that serial killer sexist, played perfectly by Charlene Theron in the movie "Monster." I'm more than just what I have in me pants.
Thought the police even investigated if he targeted women and couldn't find any links besides that's who he happened to stab
In the wake of all this violence against women, one of the guys I work with was in jail for the last 4 months and now under house arrest until August because his girlfriend said he beat her. The problem is, the time she gave for the incident, he was at work.
The good this is, this'll come out in the court case in August, but his life is pretty stuffed now. And you can bet she won't suffer any consequences either.
She will walk scot free of any consequences and even Cleared, he is fucked for life.
Is he prepared to counter sue for all the grief he's been put through if her case is proven to be false; she might think twice before pulling the same stunt again. Or is it just a typo on the police report re the time given. I hope yr friend is innocent, the case gets resolved & he's compensated accordingly.
We need stricter laws and sentencing around false accusations, and actually not letting them off Scott free after ruining someone
You think it’ll come out clean in court? I wouldn’t be surprised if she was told to say the time of the incident got mixed up because she was scared and hurt. I have no faith in the system.
I'm in a similar situation
"One woman a week is unacceptable". They never talk about way more men getting murdered being unacceptable.
Yeah but its men that are murdering other men, and men have a much better chance of protecting themselves.
Yup. That is why I don't have any Fs left to give anymore.
because we men are told suffer in silence
Women don’t give a shit when they hear or see women and mothers in their milieu abusing, neglecting, shaming men in their lives, especially their sons.
They want to have all the power, but none of the responsibility for the difficult parts.
Nature WILL correct this dysfunction if we don’t.
3000 sewer sides a year in Australia
Females being the victims of DV are far more common in lesbian relationships
Hey! I’m curious about this now that you mentioned it. Can you provide some sources for me? I would like to check them out :D I appreciate it if you do:)
@@gabijoanna1110 ua-cam.com/video/m4hrHUo70nY/v-deo.html a very old video but the description has all the links. Though keep in mind that the information provided by the citations might be outdated given it was over 10 years ago.
🤣🤣😂😂 that's just so bad
I looked at it and there are conflicting studies that make it hard to compare properly when it comes to who is doing the violence but it seems that at the very least lesbians have the same incidence of violence. Which means that all other estimates are above that.
So I disagree with the DV registry thing....I've been to numerous DV scenes in which the woman was the primary aggressor. Also I had a member of my family who was married to a woman that made it look like he had struck her, and wound up in jail for a while until at his trial proved that he had been set up. I can only think of the nightmare scenario where a guy is unjustly put on the list, and is now essentially removed altogether from society. If it worked 100% with no failure I would be all for it, but sadly it does not. It is better that 100 guilty people go free than for one innocent person to suffer under the law.
You just make the list for "no doubt" cases.
@@futatsushiri Dont allow for any ambiguity when having an idea about laws. It just screws up late down the line.
@@NeSeeger Yeah, that's why I think it should be a 100% no doubt list. If there is video evidence for example. I also think there needs to be a false alligation list too, for people who are proven to be liars. Having both lists would add more risk to lying.
I'm glad some people get it. Because that's exactly what I'm facing right now.
Thank you.
And a lot women lie and manipulate people to get attention and avoid responsibility. My mother was a vicious drunk who would get in fights or fall off bar stools, then tell her girlfriends my dad hit her for their sympathy. That man never laid a hand on that miserable cnt, but she was beautiful and charming, so people believed her bold-faced lies.
I live in Australia I can confirm I don't hear much about self ending
Because the main people who do that are men that's why we don't hear about it unless it happens to a female
The media purposely keeps it quiet.
Years ago when I did a training induction to be allowed to work on the Perth train lines they told us they were averaging one person a week jumping in front of fast moving trains to end themselves.
@@Sparky_D and if people were allowed to get medical attention from veterinarians, then the "green dream" would be an acceptable choice/option.
That doesn't sell the clicks, mate.
3000 sewer sides can’t come close to 26 DV endings
As a man, it isn't my responsibility to protect everyone, everywhere all the time. I can only save women or other men, on an individual basis, it's human nature to stereotype things. It's honestly a really basic way of thinking, women can be extremely manipulative but we don't fault them all for it.
“Bollard Man”… AN ABSOLUTE LEGEND & HERO in my opinion!!! Imagine how much worse it could’ve been had he & so many other brave individuals NOT intervened??? Also, what about the incredibly brave & courageous policewoman who brought the incident to an end… Albeit, a tragic one??? ✊😔🕊️
But talking about them doesn't further the narrative. They need everyone afraid so they react with their animal brain and not their human one in order to make reactionary decisions and not well thought out ones.
Completely agree, also people seem to forget that Joel Cauchi (someone needs to humanise him, since no-one has in any comments I have read so far) was schizophrenic, off his meds for months and had changed states before all this happened, backpacking/homeless, stopping in places on the way down to Sydney. There was no-one there to monitor his state of mind. People keep saying he was a lunatic and evil and all these other things, yes he killed people and stabbed a baby, it is terribly sad and horrifying but he was not evil or a lunatic he was a very sick human being who happened to be male.
Per Capita it does not happen more often in the US. The US just has a much larger population. It happens more often in the UK, Finland, France, Norway. For only shooting, not other ways of dying in the US is only like 48th. Far from first, but our stabbing and kicking deaths are nearly 0.
I don't know what the solution could be but blaming an entire group for the acts of a small subset is wrong. My dad taught me to be respectful to women (actually be respectful to everyone but especially women). I can cuss like a drunken sailor but if I'm around women, my language cleans up and I'm not continously doing that, it's just built in.
Many years ago, my buddy and I saw a guy smacking a woman around at a music venue. He got there ahead of me, he pulled the guy off and decked him when the guy took a swing at him. The woman he was rescuing jumped on my friend's back and started scratching, biting, and screaming at him. I gently removed her from his back (as gently as I could) and we moved away. She helped her boyfriend up and he hit her again. People are weird!
It isn't SOME men....its a very very TINY MINORITY of Men. Lets do the math. normally 50 a year so (50 x 100)/12.5 million = 0.0004% of men.
@@johncrow5552 That is a statistic misandrists do not know or do not mention.
Abuse is very complicated. There’s also trauma bonding (abuser and abused feeling connected from the emotional up and down of abuse). It can be very difficult for someone who is used to the drama and trauma and strain to go into a healthy “boring” relationship, especially if that’s what they saw relationships as growing up. I’ve heard of it as “addicted to chaos.”
I had a discussion with my teenage daughter today. Basically said that the crap guys who do it, they won’t care about these protests. We need a different approach, include everyone in the convo. Violence should not be tolerated in any form to any person and mandatory minimum sentences should be in place across the board.
Don't blame men blame that man
I can't believe how much race and sex means to people, people are people no matter the shell.
You will see tons of women making false claims to get even when they are not happy.
It’s been documented over and over.
Lawyers even tell women here to LIE about about domestic violence to get full custody.
As a former police officer I lost count how many women wanted to go back to the man because they loved him and just wanted the police to fix him and make him stop being abusive.
You also have a lot of men who thought they married their best friend and as soon as they say I DO she changes and he is stuck since they have kids.
You are blaming men and not looking at how women have changed.
One reason more I'm glad to be single and always thought that marriage isn't a good thing.
People, men and women, have changed. Common sense, integrity, honor, and accountability are all four-letter words in today's culture. If you encompass some or all of those qualities you are the bad guy or gal. It's being pushed for a reason.
@@nekk-ra7080 I know a certain 4 letter word for the left and it starts with C.
@@JoakimOtamaa Commie has six letters.😋 Just teasing. I know what you meant and it's pretty accurate.
My parents split because of domestic violence, and unfortunately i grew up to look veryy similar to him too and thats heavily effected my relationship with my family.
But i refuse to be the same man he was.
You cannot legislate psychos out of existence
Only psychos would think you could.
I'm one of those people who had a violent father who would call us names and attack us over anything he didn't like and it didn't help that my mom's an alcoholic and she would blame my sister and I for her drinking. As a teenager I ran away, started drinking and took any pills that were given to me. I didn't want to live anymore but I'm so glad that I did
Mental health issues, not weapons issue. I had a.mate years ago that said he was going to build a spaceship and fly to another planet. He bred, then went into a mental institution. Sometimes life ain't for everyone...😂
When I see all the women marching on the weekend I stop to think about how they want the bad boys and reject the good guya when dating. Accountability is a pain to live with
As a young female who has watched way too many made-for-tv thriller movies (50% of which have a “bad boy”…the other 50% are psychotic women) I never understood the appeal of bad boys: a) they look like trouble incarnate b) they always have an attitude
(Again this is what I saw on Lifetime and LMN movies…I’m not trying to come across as stereotyping or saying anything inherently judgmental, I just don’t understand the bad boy appeal🤷♀️)
No rational logical person goes around hurting people especially those who are more vunerable, it's not all men nor all woman.
Lets do the math. normally 50 a year so (50 x 100)/12.5 million = 0.0004% of men.
If any of you want to make significant change in the world it all starts with yourself.
1. Stop focusing on other people problems and start focusing on your own problems
2. Once your problems are done with and life is fairly smooth then go help out someone else struggling.
Done.
That's it. Nothing else. Blaming people for shit they had no part of is not the answer. Like Jordan Peterson said: People who can't even keep their own shit together should be very careful about trying to change the world.
It has to work both ways, as a man thats never struck a woman including in self defence. I’ve had an avo issued against a woman (mandatory in the case of dv) after she physically assaulted me and not for the first time. There is little to no support for men experiencing dv. Misandry exists and it’s hardly ever talked about. I quote what a police officer said to me that night. “I don’t know how you managed not to hit her back tonight. If I was in your situation I’d have hit her.” I have no doubt that the lack of support for men going through dv would exacerbate the violence women experience as some men may not restrain themselves during or after a situation like that. It’s not as easy as you think to leave an abusive relationship regardless of gender. The same supports should be offered to men as well not just women.
Agreed
I saw a great video on dom voil and it showed that whilst conviction rates for men were far higher the instances of dom viol were actually 50/50. Men don't report it and women don't get convicted of it. A man would be laughed at for being beaten by his wife and that is a real problem. Men get beaten by wives because men refuse to fight back and stop them, restrain women from doing viol to them.
As it happens the most dom viol in any relationships are lesbian relationships. Don't get the idea that men are violent. Women are equally so if not more so. They just get away with it whereas men don't.
This didn't get much coverage in the U.S. at all. Thanks for sharing.
A big part of who we are as adults comes from not only our young family life, but also our experiences at school. Yes, sure we grow and change after that, but the basics of how we socialise and protect ourselves emotionally doesn't change much, we just build on top of that foundation. For example, I had a loving family life, was athletic, academic and friendly. However, due to being a redhead I was bullied constantly either verbally, by exclusion or occasionally violence. I experienced this from guys, girls, acquaintances, friends, random adults and teachers. This experience has made it difficult for me to make true friends as I find it hard to trust anybody to get to know the real me. I am not a violent man and can't understand why a human would ever want to hurt another human, but I do understand how deeply social isolation can impact a person's emotional state. I don't know how to fix this, just know it sucks.
There's a quote that I really like that I think really explains this video it's from Red Dead redemption 2 I think it's chapter 6 where once you take out the Murphy gang in the hills to hide in the camp when you are taking the one girl home there's a quote that Arthur says and it quotes some folks are just evil ain't no point of trying to explain it and I think in my opinion it really depends of what you see growing up as a man some men grow up in happy homes where they turn into better men and some men go through things that just turn them evil and they turn away from God in a way and when that happens the devil kind of tells them hey it doesn't matter anymore do what you want and I think what really sucks is nowadays people have turned away from God so much that there's so much evil and corruption in the world to the point where I don't even think there is saving for some people some people are just here to do the devil's work and some people are here to do God's work and I feel like we really need to get back to God and we can try we can all try to save as many as we can but there are some people who just cannot be saved or do not want to be saved but they will face judgment in the end That's the hardest part for me
2:09 We don't need to do anything about men attacking women, aren't they strong and independent and don't need no man.
Domestic violence rates in lesbians is the highest, for gay men it is the lowest. What i am trying to say with this is that men that go crazy, probably didnt expect all of it to happen. When the wonen of your Dreams leaves because, you work to much, or dont pay enough attention. Without talking to you about it and then leaving. Then something bad is going to happen. Men shouldnt flip, but neither should women. Fight for eachother, live for eachother and die for eachother.
"wonen", sounds like Dutch autocorrect
*checks name*
hello fellow Dutchman. nice too see common sense from a compatriot
@@wilfreddv thank you, and yes it is. Normally i check if everything is spelled correctly but sometimes i overlook it.
Notice one video said "gender based violence". You know why people say "gender based violence" instead of just violence? because man-woman is higher than woman-man, BUT domestic violence statistics are highest in women-women relationships, most violent crimes are man-man.
"gender disparity: in 2022-23, 87% of homicide offenders were male, while 69% of homicide victims were male" (Australia)
This is a problem for everyone, not just women, especially as men are the majority of victims of violence. The reason men do it more is because there are more violent men than there are violent women, that's just a fact. There needs to be more safety for everyone. The videos you clipped showed how little people know what really happens. There needs to be ways for everyone to protect themselves more without giving people guns etc as that makes things a lot worse.
To add to your point, leftists have so many self-created genders, it's a diluted term, too.
I agree and disagree. While i agree with everything else imo i believe people should have the right AND encouraged sometimes to buy a firearm, ill use a woman for this example, say a woman were to be threatened by a much larger man, ofc she could maybe pepper spray him but what if any non-lethal couldnt work because your either trapped, or in a situation where your life is in absolute risk, then a firearm can even the playing field for a much smaller woman who is up against a much bigger or taller man, ofc this can also go both ways where a smaller man or woman can have a better advantage over a bigger man or woman. Now the part that would maybe concern you is the "gun violence", while i dont have much time to get every source i could definetly tell you that "gun violence" isnt really a thing, while it does exist and it absolutely is an issue its not all everyday that it happens like some say, using america as an example they make it seem like "GuNs ArE bAd AnD wE nEeD tO bAn ThEm", it never is actually an issue, theres been cases far more of self-defense shootings where the person saves him or herself and/or saving another person from a criminal, but you dont see that a lot in the news since most governments (particularly california and other states like that) want to disarm citizens so they highlight crime more than actual people using guns for good. So to sumarize: while gun violence is actually somewhat real it isnt as bad as its portrayed, its just that they highlight crime more than actual heroes using a gun for good rather than bad since most politics want to disarm the citizens and so they resort to doing propaganda levels of ways to try and make guns look bad and evil.
Violence is a symptom of people who have given up hope in everyone for a decent happy life. Some people are born this way, others learn it over time. For me I grew up with it, but for me I learned a lot from the mistreatment of others.......I learned what NOT TO DO first hand.
it's part of a certain culture's religion. their book says it's ok for them to "off" infidels and if they get taken out in the process they go to heaven as a martyr. never forget that.
Thank you for making this video. As a woman, I really appreciate the care you took in this video to not continue the gender wars(OG one not this new transactivist one). You presented good ideas and asked important questions. Thank you. I think people really need to start thinking about the core reasons men(some) seem to hate all woman for existing after they face any type of rejection or even perceived rejection. I witnessed domestic assault as a child and experienced it as an adult. I hope we can start identifying commonalities among these men. Is it bad parenting teaching them no consequences? It is witnessing domestic assault? Is it genes? Maybe we need to give men more emotional education. I dont know the answer, and I really appreciate you choosing to tackle this subject and get a conversation going. Thank you again!
From personal observations, the reason why men do this is because we are constantly since birth being told to "not show emotions" and whatnot, and that's good to a degree but if it continues for far too long then the rage bottle will overflow and you "snap", you've probably heard that expression before and its for good reason. But why are women targeted? Because biology, women are physically weaker and therefore easier targets. Could of course be other factors but that's what i've found out throughout the years.
Why should a police officer receive an medal, 1mil dollars or anything of the sort for doing her job?
Of course she deserves recognition and also the males with the bollard that fended him off and the deceased security guard. This police woman went into the shopping centre on her own. I remember the school shooting in the USA where the police were heavily criticised because they waited outside in considerable numbers whilst the offender was inside with the children. This police officers did not hesitate or wait for reinforcements. Good grief give credit where it is deserved.
Most people in that line of work wouldn't have stepped up like she did. Plus people deserve to be rewarded if they actually put their life on the line. Otherwise why give medals to soldiers killed in action since they're also just doing their job?
Exactly, she was doing her job. She doesn't deserve anything from it.
@@jaywinters6010the only thing here is, you're wrong, most police would never walk into a building if there's someone weilding a knife or any weapon, jesus, it's an almost hourly occurance in England
@0vers1ght13 Uhh exactly? You're stating the same thing as I am and you say I'm wrong? lmao. Yes, the fact is most wouldn't step into those dangerous situations, even if it is "their job". That's why people should be rewarded for taking that risk to help others. Again, why award soldiers medals for fighting wars and dying if that's their job?
I think it is coming more from men of certain cultures/religion that are being imported into Western countries that are suddenly increasing the danger to Western women.
Suddenly you are noticing it, the importation has been going on for almost 15 years.
Hi I just wanted to share that when I was in jail, there were alot of people who had, killed people, stabbings, shootings, variety of violent crimes. But most of them were never heard of or reported on Tv or Newspaper. So since then, when I see crimes like this or really anything being reported on the News, I question why? Why this Crime? Why Now? What is there real motive for reporting this topic at this particular time? Is this reaction from the public their motive? They choose to report on something one day but won't report on the same kind of thing the next day.
100% Agreed!
Especially the DV register 🙌
The biggest problem is that people try to attribute behavior to a certain group of people instead of the individual. Obviously there are certain behavioral traits that one group is more likely to do than the other.
But! Having group identity outweigh individuality is just plain wrong. Thinking in groups, tribes and such is just wrong.
People seem to be joining cults nowadays all the time without even noticing it.
That being said. I just can't believe that someone is trying to blame that on men in general
Lets do the math. normally 50 a year so (50 x 100)/12.5 million = 0.0004% of men.
@@johncrow5552 does that count as "not all men"? :)
@@andreas_aus_d When I hear "not all men", to me, it seems to imply "most...but not all men" Surely, a "a very small minority of men" would be a better way to phrase it.
Mental health. I feel thats the biggest problem with men. I get so frustrated sometimes because something gets to me and i don't know how to express my feelings or even work through them constructively. All because our whole lives we're taught that as men we're not allowed to have feelings and we should bottle them up or just "get over it." I go to therapy because i want to understand myself and my feelings because i dont like being stressed out even more over being stressed out by something else that i don't comprehend. It is absolutely vital that we, as men, take mental health seriously. We're so proud to be able to figure something out and solve a problem but yet we completely ignore our feelings and when what we feel causes us to lash out and become a problem. We're human just like women whether we like it or not. Actually i would say we probably feel more or at least more deeply in some cases than women. I say that because it's so hard for us to admit our feelings that when we do we really mean it. When a guy i know or myself says that we love someone we mean it completely. That's why we give so much to our significant others. I have held more guy friends crying over break ups than i have seen women friends cry over and my guy friends sulk for weeks, sometimes months and the women i know move on immediately. So, yeah, i think a big part of it is mental health.
Luckily, in the U.S., women (and smaller men) have many options for self-defense. If a women doesn't want to be messed with here, she won't be because the perpetrator will be face down riddled with bullets, or at the least blinded by concentrated capsaicin. The answer for Australians (big and small), is to have the right to defend yourself. Sounds like a legislative issue to me. Get that Australian constitution ammended!
This is an ignorant statement. Women get "messed with" daily. Get out of here with that.
Good points, very good. My issue is that back when I had a much more malleable brain, I've become too jaded to rid myself of something within me that is repulsed (those tiktoks you showed are a prime example), just barely tolerant, it still kicks up inside me. I will forever hate the scum on the bottom of my heel who use violence unnecessarily but my body doesn't allow me to be accused of being a piece of shit, I will scream and shout. The disturbed and the cruel belong underneath the heel of the law.
I hate this "all men" thing. It is kinda starting to feel mean 😂. I am a man and can't understand why anybody does the horrible shit they do.
I'm from Dundee in Scotland, and everyone... mostly gets along really well.
Yeah fare enough
Mean is huuuuuuuge understatement.
It is like saying a terrorist attack is done by ALL Muslims... NO, the terrorist uses mostly use Islam to hide behind...
I get sick of hearing ALL this, ALL that 🤮
@sindelscat9336 Yeah, I know. I just didn't want to act all offended when I am not directly affected like some other folk. It does really grind my gears though!
its a very very TINY MINORITY of Men. Lets do the math. normally 50 a year so (50 x 100)/12.5 million = 0.0004% of men.
Glad we have good people like you talking about this stuff
So many people are doing and saying shit that doesn't help the issue instead of trying to come up with practical solutions that part of me is wondering if it's deliberate and they don't want to fix it.
It comes down to research, awareness, and Community taking responsibility for all the members of our communities
They never blame all Muslims, or all black Americans, or all Indigenous, but “Men”.
From personal experience, they do blame Muslim men 😅 it's a common thing, 'these middle eastern or Muslim men are violent abusers...' etc.... etc...
I had fun last night because one bint was so enthustiatic about islam. Of course she had million nose pearcings and was white.
They also hate Christianity, too white religion? I'm against every organised religion, but the left only hate christianity while islam is far worse.
Never mind that the people who did these recent attacks were NOT australian men. They were ETHNICS.
@@DixonsCider Something that the media really tries to hide whenever they talk about it, and will accidentally slip it out a few days later, or you have to find the information online.
You hit the nail on the head. Thank you for being a voice of reason. It unfortunately seems to be a perpetual generational cycle which must be broken.
What do we do about women attacking men?
Until the answer is consistently constructive, the current answer is my answer to the reverse.
People act out. Some do it in some better ways and others in worst ways. Some men go out and build things, work on cars, working out. And some others commit horrible crimes
I’m a DV survivor and it’s taken me years to get over the incident. I’m thankful that I was able to get help because I was in a very dark place mentally for a time…. I’m relieved to say I’m not bitter towards “all” men, but I’d be a fool to willingly trust.
All of this is happening because most people grew up with out role models in their daily lives and it’s heartbreaking.
Please, Daddy government, save me from myself.
-an Australian
Basically, yeah.
There is a massive mental health epidemic in the world and I believe that's one large part of the puzzle. Obviously sane people don't do horrid things. Another factor is the justice system like you said Isaac. I'm not sure about Australia, but here in the U.S. the amount of people who commit a crime and get arrested, then released on bond, or not even charged at all is astonishing. And the rate of those to reoffend is crazy, a significant portion of our crime would be cut if we just kept them off the streets. But then you get into how we do that and prisons already being overcrowded, and that becomes an entire other discussion. The fact that you can not even carry pepper spray in Australia is insane, there is always going to be someone bigger, stronger, and there are always going to be situations that put you at a disadvantage, and we need something, anything, to level the playing field in those situations.
We always watch you in the morning before my son gets on the bus. Thank you for this morning. Wasn't a laugh but it did open up the chance to discuss it with my son. I'm not raising him to swallow consequences of other people's shitty choices in their life. It also helped that his mother doesn't view him as all men committing this atrocity.
one controversial answer is to have women collectively fix there problems. I see what happening as men lashing out now normally the violence from the frustrations is not aimed outwards at people but inwards look at the rates of self deletion in men, the main reason is male suffering is actively overlooked, downplayed, denied, and in some cases people even say its deserved In the face of that reality for some men the only answer they have left is to violently remove them self's but for a few the answer isn't violent self-removal but to remove the very thing that makes them feel as if the only answer they have left is self removal.
The environment is no longer suitable with it leaning to far into the female sphere of influences to the detriment of the male population. Theirs an old proverb that these events are bringing to mind, " The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth. "
These events are forcing people to finally start to look at instead of out right ignore the issues men are going through because demonizing men not working men have been demonized for a while and the problems are only getting worse. whats happening is a symptom, a reaction to the environment men live in.
Men don't live in a bubble and the worlds problems don't revolve around us
Because if you're a woman who pushes back against other women's nonsense you are attacked as "traitor" or "mean", verbally castrated, and ostracized. Women can be absolutely awful to other women for no reason at all; call their grift and there is hell to pay. I've dealt with it most of my life, and I am able to weather the storm and accept the isolation, but a lot of women can't, at least not individually.
This goes for youth crime too
I love being a man. I'm a father, husband, son, brother and uncle. I can't be anything else. I don't want to be anything else.
As a man, I can say with complete confidence that we are also humans.
Get off the bandwagon. The media is SHIT.
Alloŵ us all to carry meaningful defensive tools. The law abiding should be able to defend themselves from the lawless,
I bought my daughter a Ruger pcMax in January and she took a concealed carry class, but I guess that isn't an option down there.
This is one of the best videos you have made mate and it defiantly didn't make me laugh. Thanks for addressing this topic
A well rounded debate as always mate. And like you I'd go like a bull to a red rag at seeing any bloke attacking or abusing a women even if I get yelled at after for assuming she needed my help! It's a tough time for decent men at the moment
Keep fathers around and help grow the family unit instead of breaking it apart. Its a lack of family and quality fathering as well as help for people with serious mental health issues. Also, people and women need to learn to deconflict rather than pushing a man until he explodes, coz a man that's been destroyed emotionally and that has nothing to lose can be problematic. Alcohol is also an issue. But good family life is where it starts. And end relationships before it becomes so toxic that it devolves into hell. People, including women, need to take responsibility and see where they can do better.
As a person that got stuck in a semi violent household watching my mother start fights all the time over jealousy and other bullshit I know it's not just men doing the violence. My real dad would walk away from this and I have never seen them fight and he would protect women if he saw them in danger. This from a man that came back from the war so screwed up that he did drugs and alcohol so bad that his parents were forced to help him. Women need to read the room when they are going to do things in that room, do not hit men, do not yell at men, and most of all don't expect a man to save you if you make a bad choose. Men need do the same thing, but realize people will expect you to refrain from your own basic instincts that will unfortunately scar you and make you hate the very people your instinctly attracted to. Incels or mgtow are created this way, they see men get fucked over all the time and though there instincts are there the trust is not. Complain about them all you like but in the end it's society that's the problem, no government will correct this issue. It's up to people stopping the divisions created by the clashing of cultures in a world where forced diversity is the norm. Religion has a part to play in this as well, due to each one trying to carve a place in society, this brings a different cultures religion that has differing views in a direct confrontation. In the end if you don't want it to happen to you then you shouldn't probably not be doing it at all, just walk away if you can and if you have to defend yourself then that should be allowed.
Great video. I ordered your book. Looking forward to reading it and suggesting it to other men. And women
Butterfield for President
So.. Main reason for people being in this spot I'd say is depression in the sense that something is pressing them down, in one way or another.
It's a sense of powerlessness, health: mental, physical or otherwise without the tools to fight that.
How do we give these people tools to fight this? Depends, but
as far as both physical and mental health which reaches far beyond that, it can all be started with nutrition.
The amount of mental health disorders that is currently due to poor nutrition is astounding.
I came over debilitating depression and bipolar as well as chronic physical disorders (arthritis, hypothyroid and pre diabetes) going carnivore.
I don't have any of these anymore as long as I stay rigid with the way I eat. This has given me immense control and power over my life where I before had days I was catatonic, angry and frustrated because there was little to no help in the system we have to overcome these without putting massive amounts of side effects with drugs and what not.
If you wanna have a convo about this, I'd be up for it. Maybe we can hash some things out and find some understanding together.
Best wishes, good videos man. Been a watcher for a good couple years.
We love you ladies, yes you reading this. There's alot of good, good blokes out there. Chins up boys & girls.
Port Arthur massacre had multiple discrepancies in regards to the known evidence also.
Just thought id share that piece of info 👍
I agree that violent men need to change. How we help them is a complex solution in which I don't have viable ideas. Each person is different. Period. The choices they make will not be what we expect or anticipate. I think a good first step is getting more studies done on men's mental health. Dr. K here on UA-cam does a fantastic job in mental health education.
It never occurred to me to blame all men, nor did I even see that rampage as gender related. Yes, I've had problems with being harassed, followed & assaulted in the past, but I know how to defend myself. I've actually had MORE issues with women than men 🤷♀️ Some people are just mentally unstable & others are not. Regardless of gender. And I agree with you, Isaac - it takes a village. We'll never completely stop the violence, but we can certainly impact it, as both individuals & as a society 👍
Part of the problem is the politicians who do not build more jails. Over crowding means the judges are inclined to give soft sentences because they have been told there is no room for the prisoner. Also it cost so much to keep someone in jail, again shorter sentences are the answer. Bail is a joke . When the cops say no bail but the judge allows it anyway because of overcrowding. The politicians have to work to a budget and they only like to talk about law and order rather than pouring money in to it. For the younger men who know that they can keep committing crimes because the court house is a revolving door. If you are violent to a woman a spell inside would be a start to rehab.
It took a long time for me to accept I didn’t deserve to be beaten, yelled at, joked on, manipulated, controlled, and financially isolated from even my own income.
Shit partners come in all genders. No one gives a shit when it’s the man experiencing it, though, you’re just told to “man up” and “suck it up”/“deal with it”.
Well, I “manned up” and left, taking my daughter with me. It’s hard on us both, it’s not the life I wanted for her, but we are stronger today for it.
I do feel bad for women, there's a lot of assholes, phycho's, and creeps out there, but the truth is that only good men can stop bad men.
but what happens when the good man gets punished worse then the offender
You think only guys can be those things. How cute
@@eibbor171 Then that's a sign we're in a sick society and we need good men to fight back.
@@bleachdiet559 Oh you think men and women are equal? How cute...don't be so stupid! Women are totally different, they are not out there prowling around looking for people to assault/kidnap/rape/murder, instead they'll do something like poison their husband or kill him in his sleep. Even if women were out there doing those things, its still different because women aren't gonna overpower men, and if its towards another woman then she has a much better chance of fighting back.
I live in Ballarat that has national media focus on DV. and I feel the judgement, shame and guilt. I need my kind loving actions to speak against this.
Isaac Butterfeild I love hearing your perspective and you have very wise words thoughts and feelings and ideas of how to change and what needs to change
it just breaks my heart that when you go to explain what you're or feelings on how to start solving this problem you also have to make sure they understand exactly what you mean and you're not trying to imply something different it's sad this is where we're at in our world today that you kind of have to defend your own words and
I think your book is wonderful every young man in America should have to read that for school you are absolutely right I really truly feel that yoir book better man should be read in all high School classes!!!!
in my opinion I don't think our government will ever try to change that or try to fix the problem because we are easier to handle and control divided
Can united we stand divided we fall
My father locked the fridge and as punishment he made me kneel on pencils with my hands up for hours. Still, I wouldn't hurt a fly. (sadly I'm traumatised af, and lonely af because of it)
I know that feel. Mother dearest used to bounce cast iron pots off my head from the other side of the hoise if I annoyed her by asking for a glass of water. Or a peice of fruit. So yea man. I get you.
A DV register would have saved me. I didn’t know an ex of mine had multiple DVOs against him until it all happened to me.
There should be more support for men. I think most of these cases are hurt individuals and have no support, no where to turn to and they just snap. Ive had a partner abuse me for years, until i got up and finally got myself and my young daughters out.
And today, i have an amazing partner who is there for me, supports me and i know he is a good one. For having had both sides, it is not all men nor is it all woman..
It comes down from their minds and i agree with Isaac, comes down from their upbringing and sometimes, its just someone who loves to be overpowering someome weaker so they feel powerfuk...
Alright boys it's time people are blaming men. Be yourself thier isnt anything wrong being men stay strong.
the various government's over many years has progressively reduced funding for mental health supports, courts don't deal with DV very well at all and the cops are the meat in the sandwich, maybe accountability in decisions the courts/judges/magistrates make will change the way it works - like other workplaces if you make terrible mistakes you lose your job, the judiciary can make terrible mistakes and keep their jobs - ridiculous.
From this disabled Army veteran who has lost many people throughout my life due to self deletions, I really appreciate that you are using this platform to keep shining a light on this problem that grows bigger every day. The biggest thing that keeps me going is the love of my life who is disabled and was the victim of abuse. I have literally been told on social media why I should end myself just for being a vet. The fact that I'm white and have a truly diversified group of friends and family is what I see daily is what makes me such a horrible person from people who don't know anything about me. This keeps me isolated from the world as I can't take anymore of the hatred towards everything about me that proves these people all wrong.
Thanks for your service mate family is what grounds every man keep on keeping on
@@nunyaconsern5590 I do appreciate that.
Problem is we ban everything with knee jerk reactions rather than addressing core issues.. the gun control debate is fairly negligible if you read studies from Griffith Uni
It starts with the fathers. Fathers, teach your sons right from wrong.
Sorry, whilst I do believe you’re genuine in your intentions , for me, this vid lost it’s value when you plugged your book!
I have not and never would lay a hand on my partner of 27+ years (or anyone for that matter, unless defending myself), but I hate the fact that I, as a man, am being made to feel guilty for the actions of others of my gender.
After 9/11, there was (rightly or wrongly) an increase of fear towards Muslims - Islamaphobia. Yet people call this out all the time, you're a piece of shit if you exhibit any Islamaphobia.
So why is society ok with acting the same towards men? Treating us all to blame for the actions of a few scumbags?