5 signs you're not in love 1) no talking for a few weeks 2) consistently venting about them 3) being together no longer enjoyable 4) "i love you" feels fake 5) honesty feels conditional
@@Alex-bl8uh Platonic is self explanatory in nature. Romantic / sexual love is a continual choice made each day by showing up and wanting to love somone
I've actually never really been in love , I've had a few relationships but thinking back, i don't really know why I agreed on it. Sometimes i think I'm unable to love. And i am afraid of getting emotionally attached to someone
Yeah!! Sometimes I also feel incapable of loving someone, it's like you think you feel something for that person, sometimes some reactions happen, palpitations and nervousness, but when that reaction becomes official, you just don't feel anything anymore, or in another situation, you feel comfortable with the other person, you think you like them, but you think it's weird not feeling anything, i want to but i can't, it seems fake and superficial
Same here. I guess it's true that can't love you unables you to love someone. I once thought I loved me, but I confused it with narcisism, what was the end? I ruined my relationship with my best friend in the world... Even so, we keep talking, we are best being friends, but I feel like I still love him, but I don't want him with me in that way at the same time, he doesn't deserve that.
I actually thought that I was in love with this person and even confessed to them not long ago but after I did I actually felt nothing. Everything's in this video is really on point with me (except the venting about them part). I always wanted a stable relationship and they were my first choice because I thought they were the safest option, now I realize that I was just in love of the thought of being in a relationship and not actually being in one
and how do you just tell someone u fell out of love after giving them hope- I am planning on just running away , disappearing....cause i cant take the look on their face and i am not in love at all
I've had that before with someone who seemed too fastly attracted to me - broke up and now I'm talking to a very nice girl from Canada (not YET in a relationship)
My gf confessed to me a couple months ago (I'm pretty sure) and I'm not fully in love with her because I'm still recovering from my trauma. We love cuddling and we text each other every and I show her a lot of affection - it's so cute seeing her happy :) Every once in a while, I'll get excited and nervous sometimes, meaning I'm getting closer to full recovery. I'm glad I'm happy, and I hope everyone here is happy too💕💕
i was in the same situation and i caused him so much pain, but i knew he was the right person for me and now we're dating for almost 6 months now ◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧ i hope y'all have a lovely future like us :3
@@ajohncarino my bf also have this feeling now doubting but not bcs not feel same anym. It's cos of ldr he doubt if it work or not bcs the feeling kill him so much thatbhe miss me alot. So tbh I kinda need this kind of answer too😇
@@Psych2go I'm concerned about the future and when I do or don't do things in the present FoR the future to be like what I plan to be ,I'm being told that I look too far in the future and I should be focusing on the present...I don't feel like I ignore or let the present go without paying attention to it but at the same time I don't like doing things now that I believe won't help me going where I plan in the future.....Its a bit confusing in my head and it actually stresses me out so maybe a video about something like that?
If you don't have time: 1. No talking? No problem! 2.Consistently venting 3.Being together no longer enjoyable 4."I love you" feels fake 5.Honesty feels conditional
Just ended a relationship where all of these things were true about me... seeing it summed up in a video has helped me to feel valid for the choice I made. I wasn't invested in my partner anymore and they deserve someone who will be. I'm going to hurt for a while, especially when they find someone else, but it was the right thing to do. I don't really think I'm the kind of person who is capable of loving so I don't think I'll be pursuing anything myself, and I wouldn't ask anyone to love me if I'm seemingly incapable of giving them the same in return.
@@uddhavgalande5202 They've fallen into a depression lately, and I'm almost positive it was from our break-up. However, they have made new friends and are being social, which I'm happy for. But they've been taking it pretty hard otherwise.
5 Signs You're Not Actually In Love 0:34 No talking? No problem! 1:10 Consistently venting. 2:05 Being together no longer enjoyable. 3:00 “I love you” feels fake. 3:30 Honesty feels conditional.
Beautiful person reading this, go after what it is that you want in life! Learn the skills, do whatever it takes! You are capable of anything! I believe in you! ✨ Love - Nat ❤️
In our mental minds class our teacher plays your videos! (Love them btw) you make me feel more sure about myself along with other things. Also I’m obsessed with the art to accompany the video. Love you and stay safe!! 💗🫣
Hmm. I miss them a lot. I always want to hang out with them, whereas I don’t usually with others. I am honest with them all the time. I genuinely enjoy their company. But here’s the question. Am I talking about my best friend, or the person I like?
Okay so I found this comment and I wanted to answer because I've seen with my own eyes my moms ex bf be emotionally dependent on her. Younger child me knew it wasn't love no matter how lovey dovey he was and he reeked with insecurity. Always cried about being nothing without my mother. Actually worried about a friend becoming like him because her habits mimic what my memories are just very mildly compared to what ex bf was like (not the crying about being nothing just alot of clingyness and insecurity while going through something). From a quick search and paste Other key signs of emotional dependence include: an idealized view of your partner or the relationship. the belief your life lacks meaning without them. the belief you can't find happiness or security alone. a persistent fear of rejection. a constant need for reassurance. I didn't see it as love because he didn't see himself as a whole person and basically "used" my mother to feel complete. In my eyes that's not love. But who knows. That's just my interpretation. Maybe look up secure attachment styles. I feel like this didn't answer anything with love but maybe it did :]
@@CrepuscularQueen for some reason your response feels complete and resonates with me for this is where i feel. Reality hits as i have been the kind of a receptor for such a relationship
There isn't. Love, as most people would define it, is just an emotional addiction that your brain is experiencing in order to procreate. After a while, it vanishes and that's just natural. Then you have people who call long-term bonding with someone after this phase the "real love", but I think they are just deluding themselves since they don't want to admit that all their initial feelings were just petty biological reactions and everything that's left is more or less just a friendship they got used to over time. People are serial monogamists usually, so that means every love has a built-in expiration date.
i do love him. but im just too shy to be my complete self around him. we still have alot to go through so i know this will change and in time, i'll be comfortable with him like he is with me:)).
This video actually really helped me figuring out I am not in love anymore Things like that sometimes seems so easy but at the samd time they are hard to accept, so thank you! I really needed some advice
I'm asexual and aromantic so I'm not interested. People don't believe me and they think I can change. I've been like this since I can remember.. I just don't feel anything. Also the fact that I'm treated differently because I'm Goth and a metalhead makes me even more uninterested for anyone. There's plenty of others who like me, but I get sick..
asexual means you are unattracted to having sex related activites with anyone aromantic means you don't want to have a romantic experience with anyone However it is a spectrum and it's not black and white. People who are both asexual and aromantic are ones who don't care to have any of a relationship beyond platonic ones and don't enjoy sexual stuff.
@@olivemeraki schizoid personality disorder is when you don't want any close relationships at all, including with family or friends. You like isolation and prefer it. It is not to be confused with being asexual.
I have always thought that my love with my partner is Love in it's purest form.... I didn't need any assurance from anyone, because I felt it. But after seeing this video, I am surer than before that our thing is real. Because we behave totally opposite of this with one another . A little reassuring like this feels nice.
The part about honesty gets me… because I rarely ever feel safe telling my (sort of) partner the truth, but with my ex it came so easily when he turned up the other day - even though telling him about my ‘sort of’ partner could make things harder… being the best version of myself comes naturally with him!
Umm.. why are you talking to your ex while you’re seeing someone else? How would you feel if your partner, or even ex was talking to one of their ex’s while dating you. Sounds to me like you need to be single for awhile anyways
I dont even know what is love and what is that feeling I mean i know what is love but i dont know what is this feeling i had girlfriends but I know it wasn't i never really have that feeling well if you ask "what about family" idk if love for family is the same as are you in love with someone. I would apricciate if you made a video telling people what is love. You don't have to do it. I don't want to sound pushing
Thank you!!! I came her for confirmation. In my heart I think I already knew. I feel sad because we are great together. We are at the very beginning of our relationship, and it is actually my first one, even though I'm 29. He loves me and is the perfect boyfriend, but maaaan replying to his texts feels like a chore! I can get bored while kissing or being intimate, even though I enjoy other activities with him. He is always the one who initiates physical contact, not me. It really took me a while to realize this is platonic love. Now, how to tell him this?
I kinda have the same Problem but i've been with him for about 8 months now. Even tho we talk very openly about everything, I think about breaking up quite often. He is also kinda my only friend rn... sometimes I just wanna turn back time and leave things in the friendzone. Figuring out if it's love or friendship is hard...
Just an update. I recently had a very honest conversation with him, and it went better than I expected. We both decided we still love each other as friends, and agreed on keeping that part of our relationship, but not having a romantic relationship. Still trying to figure out if we keep the sexual part or not tho (we are both very liberal on that part), as it risks getting our feelings confused.
I am curious, what does it mean when you don't talk to someone for weeks, you enjoy every moment with them and you love them more each time you talk or meet?
I'm thankful for this video, it helps me to finally understand what I've been feeling and it's a relief for me to know. It's sad that I finally realized that I don't love him anymore, that's why I'm acting that way and broke up with him. We can close off the chapter in our life to make another but now without each other. I hope he's doing well and I wish him goodluck.
my ex and i had nothing in common we are two different persom but when we first met we had so much in common but rn i cant remember of any. i felt like he would judge my interests (he did actually) so i never really talked freely to him and he would always pick out my flaws and whne i defended myself he manipulated myself into thinking that im egoistic and never see my own fault. he was controllimg too and he never supported me when i needed it. we broke up few days ago and few moments ago i was missing him but now when i think abt it, it was never love and what has happened its good for me only
Came out of a 6 years long relationship. Everything was fine. Just that our communication was less..but I think we can work out of things like this too..until and unless the other person has very deep trauma, loneliness , codependency nature always wants attention. Prioritizing their goal but never yours. I gave him chances to so that he could fix himself. I asked him to get therapy but he didn't. I have been with him when nobody believed he could even achieve anything. Today when he achieved everything, he left me in cold.. saying he doesn't love me and choose to dump me. I sit here and realise .what was everything for 6 years. Have you never loved me? I am so tired .mentally exhausted now.😔
You will find someone else- you deserve better. Learn to love yourself and love only those persons who love you back. Don't try to save anyone. You are worth it - love yourself.
Hi!!! I'm not first but I'm early at least! Btw love all ur vids I just watched the full video, and I realized that these happened to me and my ex..so I just broke up with them:/
Not like I was looking for answers, but this helped me see that my relationship with my ex was long gone dead and took the right decision when calling quits.
You can literally hallucinate objects and beings into existence because what's happening is you're tapping into that pure abstract creative potential of mind. That's exactly what you want. Of course it can be kind of freaky but a psychedelic is that times a thousand. See so again the point is not to achieve some blissful state or to see some cool colors or to travel to some new dimension you can do all those things. That's nice, that's fun. The point is the lessons the insights you get and the meta understanding of how this entire process works because as you're exploring all your different domains you're learning about your own mind. How the mind of God is generating reality and why it's generating it.
The "I Love U" quote is so cliché, even I felt my "I Love U's" getting fake, cuz they say it first, but I realise now, I hv t say it when I really feel it, ys it may hurt my significant other, but it's better to hear the truth than happy with lies
I just watched the “7 Signs You Have A Fear of Intimacy” episode and I think I have a fear of intimacy but I don’t know how to get out of the cycle and was hoping either Phyc2go or you guys in the comments could give me some inside and tips.
I wasn't really in love with my first wife. I was in love with the idea of being married. I didn't realize this until I started coming home at the end of the day, seeing her car in the driveway and saying "ugh" out loud to myself in the car. That's a rough feeling.
Now I know that I never loved anybody I actually noticed doing all these signs after 6 months talking to my previous crush when I thought I loved him. Tbh thats probobly why none of my crushes ever lasted longer than 6 months 🥴
Im confused.. what if when I’m not with them I feel irritated about them.. I don’t mind not speaking with them for some longer periods of time.. it kinda feels like a “work” to spend time with them.. but when I’m actually with them I feel safe, comfortable and loved? I guess.. I don’t know..
Im curious what can video like this do with someone who is strugling with ROCD .. i think it can be really dangerous for them. And i think thats the majority of people who searching for this
I’ve been having a crush on a girl since the end of the school year. I already hung out with her in a group setting but my friend and I have talked about me going on an actual date with her at some point. Anyways, for some reason, I was thinking about her this whole video, and I’m smiling over her and feeling the butterflies too. 😊
I was in love with my best friend. And she said she was too. But then (and also before that) she always ignored me for several days and sometimes weeks. I was blind of love and i always forgave her. But now she isnt even interested in talking to me in school and avoids me. When i tried to solve the problem, she didnt even answer to the text. It still hurts me so much only thinking about the first letter of her name. I feel guilty for things i didnt even do. And I still dont know why she lost interest in me and not only didnt tell me but activley ignored me. I cry every morning because i not only lost her as a crush but also as a friend. While she doesnt even seem to care of my existence. This video helped me cope a bit tho thank you
It feels good to see that I am not the only one questioning ones feelings in my current relationship... I don't know, it feels so nice and comfortable to be with him, we are so good to each other, but on the other side I just cannot say I love you to him, because I don't feel it... I was single most of my life and it is so rare that I find someone who is giving, with whom I can have intelligent conversations with and who I find attractive... so in this sense, he is a gem... but I am still not sure if I am in love...
The girl I love is not sending me texts anymore, we used to hear each other every day (we have never actually met) but we talked a lot and we get to know each other really well. Suddenly she confessed to me she's not feeling good because of her insecurities, past toxic relationships and traumas. I promised I won't give up on her because I love her. She has told me since, she doesn't want a relationship, she doesn't want to hear me anymore, she is tired. So i stop texting her often, every 4,5 days I send her a message that I'm thinking of her and hoping she is feeling better. She used to send me messages when everything was great but not anymore. She replies back though. I hope she still loves me and she will eventually realise I am not like others. I would never hurt her. I just want her back, I'm lost without her 😭
Its videos like this that makes me want to have talks with my mom since I struggled with feeling love or expressing it because of that difficulty, thanks for the simple words of wisdom and encouragement
Going straight forward, lying to them for a longer time might only make it worse. It will always end up in pain at first. There's nothing we can do about it
I think the only way to do it is to tell them. I know it’s very harsh but how they respond depends on themselves in general. And who knows, maybe they feel the same way too, and you can make things better?
I feel like I've took the "don't bombard them with texts" too seriously. I constantly end up ignoring their texts for days on end even when I feel intensely for them. I think it is because of the fear of disappointment that they would take me for granted and ignore me instead. I just want them to feel my worth. But in the process, I just ended up distancing ourselves from each other. Am I being selfish by keeping expectations? Edit: It is about a crush.
1. No talking for a few weeks no problem 2. Consistently venting to others about them 3. You don’t enjoy being around them all 4. Telling them you love them feels fake 5. Honesty feels conditional
Is it bad if I always want to be and feel like the "honeymoon phase" ? I think that the love has evolved but I miss feeling like in the honeymoon phase, help.
It's going to save you a lot of wasted time and energy if you just wait for the right one. Never settle for a relationship because you don't want to be alone or because you don't believe that you can find better. What is meant for you, will find its way to you. 💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
So, i'm not in love, then. I want to be alone, but still be with someone who understand me. I only want a friend who understands me. Friends and people who listen to what i say and who understands me is all i ask for, it's all i want. I honestly only want genuine friends and genuine people who understands me more than even my parents. I'm not looking for love, not now, not ever, not until i have found genuine people i can be with, and finding genuine people and friendshas and still is harder than i thought it would be, and still it isn't a challenge. Why it isn't challenging enough is beyond me. I've turned to hard liqour and started isolating myself, mostly because i don't enjoy life, and because i dislike my job, and because i have a sore shoulder. I've told people about my declining mental and physical health, and still i don't get any help. I'm not looking for love until i get the help i need and find genuine people i can surround myself with
Oh, I have felt the honesty part really well. I can't comfortably speak about everything with her just because of her sometimes insulting jokes and "others have it worse" kind of answers. And I can't really blame her for that since she has grown up in the same conditions, for every of her troubles she had same answers from relatives and some "friends". She thinks it builds the character, just because she was raised up like this, but I know her fairly well and her heart is closed in a similar way like mine, not really tightly though. She is very nervous about herself and very critical of herself and others, she kinda tries to tight herself up, but through enormous emotional strain. I always listen to her and I try to soothe her mind through calm and soft speaking and listening thoroughly. I always want her to just be better. Isn't it love?
My ex and I were absolutely happy (as I saw it) and got involved in a community musical. I as the set designer, he as the lead. He ended up getting emotionally involved with the female lead and dumping me before the show started (last week). And has gotten together with her simultaneously. He told me all the right things and showed me all the passion over our 7 months together. I am still in shock at the abrupt ending. What he told me on breaking up was "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". Hard to believe he was that good of a liar for this long. He claimed that he was saying all the right things to deepen his feelings that weren't there yet. Seems he's chasing the all elusive feeling of infatuation that he thinks is love, and hurting everyone along the way in his selfishness. I'm devastated. He was so convincing and I feel so betrayed. Is his judgement clouded by his new feelings, or did he truly never love me?
I am so sorry you have to go through this! Sounds really confusing and heart breaking. Reminds me of how important it is to be honest and not say the right things just to fit in. Hope you find strength and clarity.
I hope you are doing better! I am going through something very similar, and currently I also feel absolutely betrayed, idk if he is still with the other girl but I feel absolutely betrayed and heartbroken. He told me he cares a lot about me but that his feelings aren't enough for a relationship with me, and this video absolutely seems to explain what happened to him. I just wonder how my feelings grew while his diminished, and I'm also sad that he didn't tell me about this sooner instead of leading me on. Like before talking to this other girl and before spending about 2 months pretending as if everything was fine when it was all over for him :(
Not count as love maybe but my friend doesnt like me anymore and I feel like she struggle about being honest about it. I really really love her but I believe she deserve respect too... But I can't understand her because she doesnt communucate with me. I don't know what to do but feeling like a total asshole while we talking... cuz like if she didnt met me... she might be happier rn... Idk... I guess she scares because Im her only friend and she is too shy for socilise... and I wish her to best but she refuse talking... and I don't want to make them sad but feeling used at the same time..
Well I thought I wasn't in love with someone and this has left me quite confused. Sometimes I'm not sure of what I feel (in any area) because I may be lying to myself without realizing it, or I'm just not sure. Like I don't feel what many say they feel. In this case, what I think is that I may not be very much in love with that person.
Story of how anxiety fucked things up: I was in a rs where I did love em. But as time goes on, my anxiety skyrockets when forming a strong (especially) romantic rs bond with em. I broke it off due to numbness from depressiveness & anxiety. It hurts so much when I did and I regretted it but forced myself to move on. But move to the present and I got back together with em :'> as an anniversary is coming up, the honeymoon phrase is definitely over as I feel "bored". Not bored-bored but peace - let me explain. Having grown up being used to everything being unstable and chaotic, instability & chaos makes me feel as peaceful as it gets going through those chaotic times. Whereas peaceful and stable moments brings me dread, uneasiness and anxiety. Basically the "bored" feeling I have was more of uneasiness and anxiety when things are not wild and exciting (we have many fun and exciting times but rs isn't 100% wild all the time lmao). Aka things are fine but I was often thrown off by anxiety Through experience I realized that that happens whenever I do form potentially strong romantic bonds (which sucks). Also I feel uneasy and anxious when things are calm and peaceful so that's a whole other shit I gotta adjust myself to . U . *Conclusion* : If you're feeling a certain way, try not to panic and take your time to analyze your feelings. Attempt to avoid overthinking irrationally as you do. Maybe you still love em a lot and have never stopped loving em and it's something that you carry having a negative influence towards a happy and healthy love you're feeling for someone. I'm lucky to have em back in my life rn and I hope to go through this lifetime with him ^w^ I hope that you who reached here would be able to find someone you desire in the future and live a gd life along with em. Partners, Friends, Family- you get the point!
I had problem like that where I got so anxious when I talked to him and the 2nd embarrassment that goes in for month when I felt I said something wrong or off putting it just makes me feel very bad😣
maaaan, Fearing I'm aromantic because I'm nearing my 30'ies and I've yet to feel any sort of love or Lust towards anyone. Would be GREAT to experience this emotion at least once but alas, stil haven't found "the one"
Guess I'm in love then..? Well, there's this guy I'm actually falling for deeply. We're such great friends and enjoy each other's company so much. We have many similar interests and can be ourselves with each other. We even share our darkest secrets. But.. he's a bisexual and is more attracted to guys.. so he'll never feel that way towards me but maybe other girls.. it just kinda hurts and I'm trying to get over it.. yea..
I'm not in love, so don't forget it It's just a silly phase I'm going through And just because I call you up Don't get me wrong, don't think you've got it made I like to see you, but then again That doesn't mean you mean that much to me So if I call you, don't make a fuss Don't tell your friends about the two of us I'm not in love, no, no (It's because) I keep your picture upon the wall It hides a nasty stain that's lying there So don't you ask me to give it back I know you know it doesn't mean that much to me [Chorus] I'm not in love, no, no (It's because)
5 signs you're not in love
1) no talking for a few weeks
2) consistently venting about them
3) being together no longer enjoyable
4) "i love you" feels fake
5) honesty feels conditional
Thank you-!
thanks sm!
Thanks
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You can understand it wrong by just reading these points, so I recommend you watch the full video
Love is a choice. Once the honeymoon hormones wear off, we all have a choice to continue to love someone as long as you feel it or we don't
What fo you mean? How do you chose this and how does this love feel? Like a platonic one?
@@Alex-bl8uh Platonic is self explanatory in nature.
Romantic / sexual love is a continual choice made each day by showing up and wanting to love somone
@@Martyn_Wolf so you have to force yourself to love once the honeymoon is over?
@@Alex-bl8uh Choosing and forcing are different things.
Love can indeed be a choice and commitment, but wouldn't that be a bit of betraying yourself if you no longer feel the same way down the road?
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I've actually never really been in love , I've had a few relationships but thinking back, i don't really know why I agreed on it. Sometimes i think I'm unable to love. And i am afraid of getting emotionally attached to someone
i used to think im unable to love, and also afraid of caring too much and getting too attached as well, so i feel your struggle too
i have finally found someone who has it the same way
I relate to this. Maybe loving ourselves could enable us to love others.
Yeah!! Sometimes I also feel incapable of loving someone, it's like you think you feel something for that person, sometimes some reactions happen, palpitations and nervousness, but when that reaction becomes official, you just don't feel anything anymore, or in another situation, you feel comfortable with the other person, you think you like them, but you think it's weird not feeling anything, i want to but i can't, it seems fake and superficial
Same here. I guess it's true that can't love you unables you to love someone. I once thought I loved me, but I confused it with narcisism, what was the end? I ruined my relationship with my best friend in the world... Even so, we keep talking, we are best being friends, but I feel like I still love him, but I don't want him with me in that way at the same time, he doesn't deserve that.
I actually thought that I was in love with this person and even confessed to them not long ago but after I did I actually felt nothing. Everything's in this video is really on point with me (except the venting about them part). I always wanted a stable relationship and they were my first choice because I thought they were the safest option, now I realize that I was just in love of the thought of being in a relationship and not actually being in one
Same
So interesting
and how do you just tell someone u fell out of love after giving them hope-
I am planning on just running away , disappearing....cause i cant take the look on their face and i am not in love at all
@@irctinr4evr919 I was rejected after I did so I think it still worked out fine for me but I dunno what to say to your situation sorry
I've had that before with someone who seemed too fastly attracted to me - broke up and now I'm talking to a very nice girl from Canada (not YET in a relationship)
much luck to you both ✨
Amazing that you are comfortable enough to comment about this👏👏
But good luck to you❤
Me too,
Good luck for us bro😁😁😁😁
@@luhuttuhul3411 GL man 🤝
Good luck!
My gf confessed to me a couple months ago (I'm pretty sure) and I'm not fully in love with her because I'm still recovering from my trauma. We love cuddling and we text each other every and I show her a lot of affection - it's so cute seeing her happy :)
Every once in a while, I'll get excited and nervous sometimes, meaning I'm getting closer to full recovery.
I'm glad I'm happy, and I hope everyone here is happy too💕💕
I'm so happy for your happiness, online stranger
i was in the same situation and i caused him so much pain, but i knew he was the right person for me and now we're dating for almost 6 months now ◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧ i hope y'all have a lovely future like us :3
Sociopath vibes
@@Titbitist no. shut up.
Yo!! Your content helps me a lot when I'm questioning things and when i need answers. Tysm for all that you do for us!!
Glad that it could be helpful! Are there any other topics you would like us to cover?
@@ajohncarino my bf also have this feeling now doubting but not bcs not feel same anym. It's cos of ldr he doubt if it work or not bcs the feeling kill him so much thatbhe miss me alot. So tbh I kinda need this kind of answer too😇
@@Psych2go I'm concerned about the future and when I do or don't do things in the present FoR the future to be like what I plan to be ,I'm being told that I look too far in the future and I should be focusing on the present...I don't feel like I ignore or let the present go without paying attention to it but at the same time I don't like doing things now that I believe won't help me going where I plan in the future.....Its a bit confusing in my head and it actually stresses me out so maybe a video about something like that?
If you don't have time:
1. No talking? No problem!
2.Consistently venting
3.Being together no longer enjoyable
4."I love you" feels fake
5.Honesty feels conditional
Thanks
Noo, just watch the video xd.
Well, I know I'm in love, but this definitely confirmed it more 🥰
Happy to hear that you found someone special! What was the clear sign for you?
@@Psych2go he treats me better than anyone ever has. I really don't know what I did to deserve this kind of love but I am SO happy!
Me too 😁💝
Just ended a relationship where all of these things were true about me... seeing it summed up in a video has helped me to feel valid for the choice I made. I wasn't invested in my partner anymore and they deserve someone who will be. I'm going to hurt for a while, especially when they find someone else, but it was the right thing to do. I don't really think I'm the kind of person who is capable of loving so I don't think I'll be pursuing anything myself, and I wouldn't ask anyone to love me if I'm seemingly incapable of giving them the same in return.
How did your partner took your confession?
@@uddhavgalande5202 They've fallen into a depression lately, and I'm almost positive it was from our break-up. However, they have made new friends and are being social, which I'm happy for. But they've been taking it pretty hard otherwise.
@@gothsinn23 thanks a lot for sharing, i hope your partner get's better overtime.
Well I am proud of you for realizing that you may not be capable and owning it. It's not easy.
Try loving yourself for a change maybe
i know that feeling, it's hard for me to open my heart and feel love, but when someone abuses that, it's even more difficult
5 Signs You're Not Actually In Love
0:34 No talking? No problem!
1:10 Consistently venting.
2:05 Being together no longer enjoyable.
3:00 “I love you” feels fake.
3:30 Honesty feels conditional.
Beautiful person reading this, go after what it is that you want in life! Learn the skills, do whatever it takes! You are capable of anything! I believe in you! ✨
Love - Nat ❤️
Thankyou beautiful person!
why do I somehow relate to all of these videos 😭
sadly me too
In our mental minds class our teacher plays your videos! (Love them btw) you make me feel more sure about myself along with other things. Also I’m obsessed with the art to accompany the video. Love you and stay safe!! 💗🫣
Aww. That's so lovely to hear! Thank you to your teacher for doing that! Hopefully, we can keep making nice artsy vids for you!
Hmm. I miss them a lot. I always want to hang out with them, whereas I don’t usually with others. I am honest with them all the time. I genuinely enjoy their company. But here’s the question. Am I talking about my best friend, or the person I like?
What's the difference between being in love and being emotionally dependant to your partner?
Just planted my comment cuz i wanna know the answer too.
That is… a really good question.
Okay so I found this comment and I wanted to answer because I've seen with my own eyes my moms ex bf be emotionally dependent on her. Younger child me knew it wasn't love no matter how lovey dovey he was and he reeked with insecurity. Always cried about being nothing without my mother. Actually worried about a friend becoming like him because her habits mimic what my memories are just very mildly compared to what ex bf was like (not the crying about being nothing just alot of clingyness and insecurity while going through something).
From a quick search and paste
Other key signs of emotional dependence include:
an idealized view of your partner or the relationship.
the belief your life lacks meaning without them.
the belief you can't find happiness or security alone.
a persistent fear of rejection.
a constant need for reassurance.
I didn't see it as love because he didn't see himself as a whole person and basically "used" my mother to feel complete. In my eyes that's not love. But who knows. That's just my interpretation.
Maybe look up secure attachment styles. I feel like this didn't answer anything with love but maybe it did :]
@@CrepuscularQueen for some reason your response feels complete and resonates with me for this is where i feel. Reality hits as i have been the kind of a receptor for such a relationship
There isn't. Love, as most people would define it, is just an emotional addiction that your brain is experiencing in order to procreate. After a while, it vanishes and that's just natural.
Then you have people who call long-term bonding with someone after this phase the "real love", but I think they are just deluding themselves since they don't want to admit that all their initial feelings were just petty biological reactions and everything that's left is more or less just a friendship they got used to over time. People are serial monogamists usually, so that means every love has a built-in expiration date.
i do love him. but im just too shy to be my complete self around him. we still have alot to go through so i know this will change and in time, i'll be comfortable with him like he is with me:)).
This video actually really helped me figuring out I am not in love anymore
Things like that sometimes seems so easy but at the samd time they are hard to accept, so thank you!
I really needed some advice
I'm asexual and aromantic so I'm not interested. People don't believe me and they think I can change. I've been like this since I can remember.. I just don't feel anything. Also the fact that I'm treated differently because I'm Goth and a metalhead makes me even more uninterested for anyone. There's plenty of others who like me, but I get sick..
Um what is, asexual and aromantic?
asexual means you are unattracted to having sex related activites with anyone
aromantic means you don't want to have a romantic experience with anyone
However it is a spectrum and it's not black and white. People who are both asexual and aromantic are ones who don't care to have any of a relationship beyond platonic ones and don't enjoy sexual stuff.
@@bowlorice Asexual means no feelings of sexual attraction and aromantic means no feelings of romantic attraction
You familiar with Schizoid Disorder?
@@olivemeraki schizoid personality disorder is when you don't want any close relationships at all, including with family or friends. You like isolation and prefer it. It is not to be confused with being asexual.
I have always thought that my love with my partner is Love in it's purest form.... I didn't need any assurance from anyone, because I felt it. But after seeing this video, I am surer than before that our thing is real. Because we behave totally opposite of this with one another . A little reassuring like this feels nice.
Loved how this one explained each sign well and compared what the opposite might look like. Really helps the understanding.
I've been thinking a lot about my past relationships and the possibility of being Aro, and this video helped!!!
Same...
The part about honesty gets me… because I rarely ever feel safe telling my (sort of) partner the truth, but with my ex it came so easily when he turned up the other day - even though telling him about my ‘sort of’ partner could make things harder… being the best version of myself comes naturally with him!
seems you don't love either your ex or your current partner
That's kinda fvcked up relationship
The replies 💀
Umm.. why are you talking to your ex while you’re seeing someone else? How would you feel if your partner, or even ex was talking to one of their ex’s while dating you. Sounds to me like you need to be single for awhile anyways
you act like being friends with your ex's isn't normal
Psych2Go pls help I want a gf but I'm too shy
Its OK you'll find the prefect one for u
*why do I somehow relate to all of these videos 😭*
I dont even know what is love and what is that feeling I mean i know what is love but i dont know what is this feeling i had girlfriends but I know it wasn't i never really have that feeling well if you ask "what about family" idk if love for family is the same as are you in love with someone. I would apricciate if you made a video telling people what is love. You don't have to do it. I don't want to sound pushing
Thank you!!! I came her for confirmation. In my heart I think I already knew.
I feel sad because we are great together. We are at the very beginning of our relationship, and it is actually my first one, even though I'm 29. He loves me and is the perfect boyfriend, but maaaan replying to his texts feels like a chore! I can get bored while kissing or being intimate, even though I enjoy other activities with him. He is always the one who initiates physical contact, not me. It really took me a while to realize this is platonic love. Now, how to tell him this?
I kinda have the same Problem but i've been with him for about 8 months now. Even tho we talk very openly about everything, I think about breaking up quite often. He is also kinda my only friend rn... sometimes I just wanna turn back time and leave things in the friendzone. Figuring out if it's love or friendship is hard...
Just an update. I recently had a very honest conversation with him, and it went better than I expected. We both decided we still love each other as friends, and agreed on keeping that part of our relationship, but not having a romantic relationship. Still trying to figure out if we keep the sexual part or not tho (we are both very liberal on that part), as it risks getting our feelings confused.
@@justyouknow2856 I wish you have (or already had) the best luck solving your situation! Feelings are so complicated...
Hehehehaw
I think im first
Yep you are.
why it says 1 month ago...
cg!!
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA funny...
@@kizaeqx UA-cam is having a stroke
This account is my favorite, always heals me, I play these videos in the background to feel calm and tbh they are really therapeutic, thank you💓
That's so nice to hear! How do you feel about the more recent vids?
So... I was in love and he made me stop feeling this way.
How
Your voice always makes me so emotional especially when you're talking for love 😭❤
Happy to hear!
I am curious, what does it mean when you don't talk to someone for weeks, you enjoy every moment with them and you love them more each time you talk or meet?
I'm thankful for this video, it helps me to finally understand what I've been feeling and it's a relief for me to know. It's sad that I finally realized that I don't love him anymore, that's why I'm acting that way and broke up with him. We can close off the chapter in our life to make another but now without each other. I hope he's doing well and I wish him goodluck.
Sounds like you were able to make a brave decision. How are you doing these days?
my ex and i had nothing in common we are two different persom but when we first met we had so much in common but rn i cant remember of any. i felt like he would judge my interests (he did actually) so i never really talked freely to him and he would always pick out my flaws and whne i defended myself he manipulated myself into thinking that im egoistic and never see my own fault. he was controllimg too and he never supported me when i needed it. we broke up few days ago and few moments ago i was missing him but now when i think abt it, it was never love and what has happened its good for me only
Yes. Good decision 👏.
Came out of a 6 years long relationship. Everything was fine. Just that our communication was less..but I think we can work out of things like this too..until and unless the other person has very deep trauma, loneliness , codependency nature always wants attention. Prioritizing their goal but never yours. I gave him chances to so that he could fix himself. I asked him to get therapy but he didn't. I have been with him when nobody believed he could even achieve anything. Today when he achieved everything, he left me in cold.. saying he doesn't love me and choose to dump me.
I sit here and realise .what was everything for 6 years. Have you never loved me? I am so tired .mentally exhausted now.😔
Hope your doing better
You will find someone else- you deserve better. Learn to love yourself and love only those persons who love you back. Don't try to save anyone. You are worth it - love yourself.
Hi!!! I'm not first but I'm early at least! Btw love all ur vids
I just watched the full video, and I realized that these happened to me and my ex..so I just broke up with them:/
I really needed this video, thank you so much!
Glad it could be helpful! Are there any other videos you would like to see?
@@Psych2go I don't know if you have done this, but can you make a video about the differences between panic attacks and anxiety attacks?
Not like I was looking for answers, but this helped me see that my relationship with my ex was long gone dead and took the right decision when calling quits.
You can literally hallucinate objects and beings into existence because what's happening is you're tapping into that pure abstract creative potential of mind. That's exactly what you want. Of course it can be kind of freaky but a psychedelic is that times a thousand. See so again the point is not to achieve some blissful state or to see some cool colors or to travel to some new dimension you can do all those things. That's nice, that's fun. The point is the lessons the insights you get and the meta understanding of how this entire process works because as you're exploring all your different domains you're learning about your own mind. How the mind of God is generating reality and why it's generating it.
i feel like i’m having the same problem right now but i’ve been with them for 7 months and i don’t know how to deal with it 😭
video idea: how to gain self confidence when you have adhd or some other disorder that makes it practically impossible to gain a habit of anything
I'm just thinking here at bed before going to sleep if I'm in love or what just now. Good timing Thanksss
The "I Love U" quote is so cliché, even I felt my "I Love U's" getting fake, cuz they say it first, but I realise now, I hv t say it when I really feel it, ys it may hurt my significant other, but it's better to hear the truth than happy with lies
I just watched the “7 Signs You Have A Fear of Intimacy” episode and I think I have a fear of intimacy but I don’t know how to get out of the cycle and was hoping either Phyc2go or you guys in the comments could give me some inside and tips.
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Abandonment Issues, Signs, Causes & How to overcome
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Get a therapist.
Do you know why it scares you? Try and identify that and I think a therapist would help you.
Thank you for the tip actually helped a lot
Can you make a video about if you think you have done something bad but are not sure but if you have done something and can’t get over it?
You only want what's best for the person when it doesn't affect you negatively.
I wasn't really in love with my first wife. I was in love with the idea of being married. I didn't realize this until I started coming home at the end of the day, seeing her car in the driveway and saying "ugh" out loud to myself in the car. That's a rough feeling.
Second
Now I know that I never loved anybody I actually noticed doing all these signs after 6 months talking to my previous crush when I thought I loved him. Tbh thats probobly why none of my crushes ever lasted longer than 6 months 🥴
Damn I guess I was never in love with my computer 😢
Can you make a video about second-hand trauma?
Im confused.. what if when I’m not with them I feel irritated about them.. I don’t mind not speaking with them for some longer periods of time.. it kinda feels like a “work” to spend time with them.. but when I’m actually with them I feel safe, comfortable and loved? I guess.. I don’t know..
I watched this cause I have been dealing with somthing reacently
Im curious what can video like this do with someone who is strugling with ROCD .. i think it can be really dangerous for them. And i think thats the majority of people who searching for this
I’ve been having a crush on a girl since the end of the school year. I already hung out with her in a group setting but my friend and I have talked about me going on an actual date with her at some point. Anyways, for some reason, I was thinking about her this whole video, and I’m smiling over her and feeling the butterflies too. 😊
I was in love with my best friend. And she said she was too. But then (and also before that) she always ignored me for several days and sometimes weeks. I was blind of love and i always forgave her. But now she isnt even interested in talking to me in school and avoids me. When i tried to solve the problem, she didnt even answer to the text. It still hurts me so much only thinking about the first letter of her name. I feel guilty for things i didnt even do. And I still dont know why she lost interest in me and not only didnt tell me but activley ignored me. I cry every morning because i not only lost her as a crush but also as a friend. While she doesnt even seem to care of my existence.
This video helped me cope a bit tho thank you
Amanda, I'm IN LOVE with your voice!!! I'm swooning as I write this....🥰😘
No, I really do love you guys. You're one of my absolute favorite channels on this platform.
So, I’ve never fallen in love…
How old are you?
how do i know if i have a crush or if i just like them as a good friend (i'm a girl and she's a girl and i'm bisexual... ) i'm just confused
It feels good to see that I am not the only one questioning ones feelings in my current relationship... I don't know, it feels so nice and comfortable to be with him, we are so good to each other, but on the other side I just cannot say I love you to him, because I don't feel it...
I was single most of my life and it is so rare that I find someone who is giving, with whom I can have intelligent conversations with and who I find attractive... so in this sense, he is a gem... but I am still not sure if I am in love...
The girl I love is not sending me texts anymore, we used to hear each other every day (we have never actually met) but we talked a lot and we get to know each other really well. Suddenly she confessed to me she's not feeling good because of her insecurities, past toxic relationships and traumas. I promised I won't give up on her because I love her. She has told me since, she doesn't want a relationship, she doesn't want to hear me anymore, she is tired. So i stop texting her often, every 4,5 days I send her a message that I'm thinking of her and hoping she is feeling better. She used to send me messages when everything was great but not anymore. She replies back though. I hope she still loves me and she will eventually realise I am not like others. I would never hurt her.
I just want her back, I'm lost without her 😭
Its videos like this that makes me want to have talks with my mom since I struggled with feeling love or expressing it because of that difficulty, thanks for the simple words of wisdom and encouragement
Love is nuanced. I hope people don't see these videos and go "I knew it".
Great video but I'm dying over the wee Psych2go Kanthony! So cute! ✨💙
Laughing because this was my last relationship.
LOVE IS A LIE! There lying to u kids don't believe them 👀
Damn dude who hurt you?
@@SlimThief THE WORLD
How do your break up with them without completely destroying her? I don't want to break her heart but I'm no longer in love with her
Going straight forward, lying to them for a longer time might only make it worse. It will always end up in pain at first. There's nothing we can do about it
I think the only way to do it is to tell them. I know it’s very harsh but how they respond depends on themselves in general. And who knows, maybe they feel the same way too, and you can make things better?
Oh no i was hoping im not in love but i guess i am... with my friend who is also straight, shit, i hate being gay sometimes😵💫
I’m not in love with my partner anymore but I don’t know how to tell her :(
I feel like I've took the "don't bombard them with texts" too seriously. I constantly end up ignoring their texts for days on end even when I feel intensely for them. I think it is because of the fear of disappointment that they would take me for granted and ignore me instead. I just want them to feel my worth. But in the process, I just ended up distancing ourselves from each other. Am I being selfish by keeping expectations?
Edit: It is about a crush.
1. No talking for a few weeks no problem
2. Consistently venting to others about them
3. You don’t enjoy being around them all
4. Telling them you love them feels fake
5. Honesty feels conditional
I just broke up with a wonderful man because I love him only as a friend and he loves me as a s.o.
Love is like a curse
I was falling in love and she broke my heart But no matter what girls do to me, I will still believe in love
💘💘💘💘💘💘
I needed this so baad!!😩
"You feel relief when they cancel dates."
Uhhhhh I feel relief any time I can sleep. 😂 jk
Is it bad if I always want to be and feel like the "honeymoon phase" ? I think that the love has evolved but I miss feeling like in the honeymoon phase, help.
Same here, let’s discuss this
Thought I was in love, turns out I just had no friends so was really attached to a once good friend.
And I'm now ace 0-0
What if you no longer love someone and you are trying to leave the relationship but they are in denial, what do you do then?
That dosen' t matter you are still leaving.
Throw them out the window
It's going to save you a lot of wasted time and energy if you just wait for the right one. Never settle for a relationship because you don't want to be alone or because you don't believe that you can find better. What is meant for you, will find its way to you.
💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Thanks a lot really need this since I'm confused with myself 😃
This is super helpful as usual! Thanks so so much!
Glad it could be! Do you have any requests for new topics?
might as well make the face a little smaller, wouldn't want it to interfere with the radio transmision
I’m really in love with him he just doesn’t want me 💔
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO😭 IT HELPS ME A LOT😭 CUZ I'M SO CONFUSED OF HOW I FEEL RIGHT NOW😭
So, i'm not in love, then. I want to be alone, but still be with someone who understand me. I only want a friend who understands me. Friends and people who listen to what i say and who understands me is all i ask for, it's all i want. I honestly only want genuine friends and genuine people who understands me more than even my parents. I'm not looking for love, not now, not ever, not until i have found genuine people i can be with, and finding genuine people and friendshas and still is harder than i thought it would be, and still it isn't a challenge. Why it isn't challenging enough is beyond me. I've turned to hard liqour and started isolating myself, mostly because i don't enjoy life, and because i dislike my job, and because i have a sore shoulder. I've told people about my declining mental and physical health, and still i don't get any help. I'm not looking for love until i get the help i need and find genuine people i can surround myself with
Oh, I have felt the honesty part really well. I can't comfortably speak about everything with her just because of her sometimes insulting jokes and "others have it worse" kind of answers. And I can't really blame her for that since she has grown up in the same conditions, for every of her troubles she had same answers from relatives and some "friends". She thinks it builds the character, just because she was raised up like this, but I know her fairly well and her heart is closed in a similar way like mine, not really tightly though. She is very nervous about herself and very critical of herself and others, she kinda tries to tight herself up, but through enormous emotional strain. I always listen to her and I try to soothe her mind through calm and soft speaking and listening thoroughly. I always want her to just be better. Isn't it love?
Why am I in love with the voice of the voice over actress of Psych2go?
My ex and I were absolutely happy (as I saw it) and got involved in a community musical. I as the set designer, he as the lead. He ended up getting emotionally involved with the female lead and dumping me before the show started (last week). And has gotten together with her simultaneously.
He told me all the right things and showed me all the passion over our 7 months together. I am still in shock at the abrupt ending. What he told me on breaking up was "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". Hard to believe he was that good of a liar for this long. He claimed that he was saying all the right things to deepen his feelings that weren't there yet.
Seems he's chasing the all elusive feeling of infatuation that he thinks is love, and hurting everyone along the way in his selfishness. I'm devastated. He was so convincing and I feel so betrayed. Is his judgement clouded by his new feelings, or did he truly never love me?
I am so sorry you have to go through this! Sounds really confusing and heart breaking. Reminds me of how important it is to be honest and not say the right things just to fit in. Hope you find strength and clarity.
I hope you are doing better! I am going through something very similar, and currently I also feel absolutely betrayed, idk if he is still with the other girl but I feel absolutely betrayed and heartbroken. He told me he cares a lot about me but that his feelings aren't enough for a relationship with me, and this video absolutely seems to explain what happened to him. I just wonder how my feelings grew while his diminished, and I'm also sad that he didn't tell me about this sooner instead of leading me on. Like before talking to this other girl and before spending about 2 months pretending as if everything was fine when it was all over for him :(
Not count as love maybe but my friend doesnt like me anymore and I feel like she struggle about being honest about it. I really really love her but I believe she deserve respect too... But I can't understand her because she doesnt communucate with me. I don't know what to do but feeling like a total asshole while we talking... cuz like if she didnt met me... she might be happier rn... Idk... I guess she scares because Im her only friend and she is too shy for socilise... and I wish her to best but she refuse talking... and I don't want to make them sad but feeling used at the same time..
Thx your videos rly helped it helped me find out I have depression and anxiety
Well I thought I wasn't in love with someone and this has left me quite confused.
Sometimes I'm not sure of what I feel (in any area) because I may be lying to myself without realizing it, or I'm just not sure. Like I don't feel what many say they feel. In this case, what I think is that I may not be very much in love with that person.
Story of how anxiety fucked things up:
I was in a rs where I did love em. But as time goes on, my anxiety skyrockets when forming a strong (especially) romantic rs bond with em. I broke it off due to numbness from depressiveness & anxiety. It hurts so much when I did and I regretted it but forced myself to move on.
But move to the present and I got back together with em :'> as an anniversary is coming up, the honeymoon phrase is definitely over as I feel "bored". Not bored-bored but peace - let me explain.
Having grown up being used to everything being unstable and chaotic, instability & chaos makes me feel as peaceful as it gets going through those chaotic times. Whereas peaceful and stable moments brings me dread, uneasiness and anxiety. Basically the "bored" feeling I have was more of uneasiness and anxiety when things are not wild and exciting (we have many fun and exciting times but rs isn't 100% wild all the time lmao). Aka things are fine but I was often thrown off by anxiety
Through experience I realized that that happens whenever I do form potentially strong romantic bonds (which sucks). Also I feel uneasy and anxious when things are calm and peaceful so that's a whole other shit I gotta adjust myself to . U .
*Conclusion* : If you're feeling a certain way, try not to panic and take your time to analyze your feelings. Attempt to avoid overthinking irrationally as you do. Maybe you still love em a lot and have never stopped loving em and it's something that you carry having a negative influence towards a happy and healthy love you're feeling for someone.
I'm lucky to have em back in my life rn and I hope to go through this lifetime with him ^w^ I hope that you who reached here would be able to find someone you desire in the future and live a gd life along with em. Partners, Friends, Family- you get the point!
I had problem like that where I got so anxious when I talked to him and the 2nd embarrassment that goes in for month when I felt I said something wrong or off putting it just makes me feel very bad😣
maaaan, Fearing I'm aromantic because I'm nearing my 30'ies and I've yet to feel any sort of love or Lust towards anyone.
Would be GREAT to experience this emotion at least once but alas, stil haven't found "the one"
i'm not the only one who saw chimmy and tata right?? (at 2:18)
Oh god why’d i get this notification now
Here before psi comments!
Nice to see that I am in Love and not not in Love ^_^
Guess I'm in love then..? Well, there's this guy I'm actually falling for deeply. We're such great friends and enjoy each other's company so much. We have many similar interests and can be ourselves with each other. We even share our darkest secrets. But.. he's a bisexual and is more attracted to guys.. so he'll never feel that way towards me but maybe other girls.. it just kinda hurts and I'm trying to get over it.. yea..
I'm not in love, so don't forget it
It's just a silly phase I'm going through
And just because I call you up
Don't get me wrong, don't think you've got it made
I like to see you, but then again
That doesn't mean you mean that much to me
So if I call you, don't make a fuss
Don't tell your friends about the two of us
I'm not in love, no, no
(It's because)
I keep your picture upon the wall
It hides a nasty stain that's lying there
So don't you ask me to give it back
I know you know it doesn't mean that much to me
[Chorus]
I'm not in love, no, no
(It's because)