@@aarkdel good conversation relies on a certain amount of mutual acceptance between those who are involved in the conversation, if someone can both know you and still accept you then it makes for better conversation
It's surprising how much depression and anxiety leaves you when you stop caring what other people think of you. There is over 7 billion people in the world but there's only one of you. Always be yourself.
Yes, by being true to yourself your giving yourself the ultimate Freedom of expression....and be kind, it costs nothing and others in turn will pay it forward too.
*Your opinion of yourself matters more than other people's opinions of you. Focus on being nothing less than the best version of yourself and you are on the right path.*
I always give my true self away to suit other people's opinions to please them, not anymore I wish i had done this sooner, but it's never to late to change, and do you what it feels wonderful 😊
@@frankbutnotiero4727 Yes it does, tremendously! Not so much as with them thinking anything about you, but to jump you and your children. Scream at you in public, no matter how hard you try to ignore and walk away...even to the point of ruining you and your family's name and even vehicles. That's just pathetic and sad, really.
I HAD ANXIETY BACK IN THE DAY ..BUT I GOT MORE CONFIDENT AND IT WENT AWAY !! NO MEDS AT ALL . I JUST THOUGH TO MYSELF THAT IM BETTER THEN ANYONE ELSE !!AS AN EXERCISE LOL .IT WORKED THEN I STOPPED THINKING THAT AND NOW ALL IS GOOD..
I learned years ago to not care about what people thought about me. People will say crap about you just to bring you down to their level of low self esteem. My parents, especially my mom, were toxic. Nothing I did was right or good enough for them. Getting them out of my life was the best thing I did.
I suffer the same encounter. My mom often play down my role of importance. Sometimes, I find it very difficult to please her, especially when I am tremendous stress and have difficult social relationships.
This is true. Most people are absorbed in themselves and don't think about you. Doesn't hurt to listen to loved ones and family but evaluate what they say before just accepting it. If you're honest with yourself, you'll know.
"The greatest fear in the world is the opinion of others and the moment you become unafraid of the crowd, you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion.A great roar arises in your heart. The roar of freedom." I used to care what others thought of me. I changed and compromised my authentic self.. wasn't true to my soul.. just to fit in. I pretended I had a big network of friends when I didn't have any. I did things which made me unhappy and uncomfortable. I wanted desperately to be accepted. To be "normal." I just wanted to be loved. I spent years chasing after the wrong people. Screw "normalcy." I would rather follow the music of my soul. Do things that make me happy than live by other people's standards and expectations. I realized that some people won't like you no matter what you do. When you are true to who you are.. the right people will come into your life. If people like me then that's great. If they don't, then so what? I like me. That's what matters in the end. What I think of myself and it took me years to get to this stage in my life where I love and approve of myself.
@@SensiblyTina Thank you, sweetheart! 😘 We are all unique individuals and we must celebrate our individuality. 😊. We are all more than good enough. Since I stopped caring of what people thought of me, I began working on self-love and getting to know myself better and I believe staying true to who you are, is the road to happiness. I went from being severely depressed to content.
@@SensiblyTina Absolutely! I wholeheartedly agree. 😊 *gives you a cyber hug - sending you loving vibes ♡ * For my 16th bday, the popular kids at my school whom I desperately wanted to be a part of their clique, invited me to one of the most lavish and expensive restaurants. I was psyched to finally be "accepted " by them. To stop being such an outcast. They ordered nearly everything on the menu. ( They came from rich families.) Then by the end of the dinner, they made ME pay for their meals.They left without a second thought as to how I'll pay for it. I had to call my dad. Next day, they ignored me and for the rest of the school year they mocked and bullied me. If I could go back in time and talk to my 16 year old self, I would tell her what you just told me. But I don't regret my past. Our past made us who we are today and we should always look at our younger selves with compassion. They did what they thought was best, with what knowledge they had of the world. Live , love and forgive everyone and yourself for not knowing any better. ♡ 😊
I think it comes with age. I’m in my 40s I do my best I can. I’m a good person. If people don’t like me I truly don’t care.I have my children and my family to worry about.
I’m the black sheep of my family because I’m not traditional, religious or even think twice about what they have to say about me. I don’t follow the crowd because I don’t like crowds.
Same here. Trying to be happy around “those people” is like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. No thanks! They finally got the point that I’m NOT going to live my life according to their cult like religious blueprint and stopped inviting me to gatherings. I now thank God even MORE because I no longer have to make up excuses or work OT to avoid them!🤣😂🤣
Don't worry about what people think. Make sure that what you do is well thought and don't be hasty. People are never satisfied no matter how good or bad you do whatever it is that you do.
Not from where I'm from. They are busy bodies and will go to extra lengths to destroy your name, your family and little friends that stick by you. They will even attack your children and jump you at any given moment; anywhere at all. I go out of town to go grocery shopping and all just to not have a confrontation left and right. Never once, you can go anywhere without someone trying anything they can do to you or even your vehicles. Gets quite old, really. (And no matter how much you mind your own business, they'll always interfere in one way another).
Just know that there are people in this world who will love you just the way you are. And there are people in this world who will dislike you just the way you are and you aren't going to change their minds. Most people are ambivalent. Just so accept this fact and move on real freedom.
Ive had the same problem for many years, my family has been so critical of what i do, what i say, what i dress and more, i always hear their past critical statements in my head in social situations and the constant fear of doing something wrong in their eyes and the scolding afterwards made me feel like nothing but a mistake, i wanna end this harming cycle and by doing so, listening to this video is the first step.
I' m sorry doesn' t mean anything without changed behaviour, especially if someone keeps apologizing for the same thing over and over, apologies aren' t enough sometimes.
I care ALOT about people's feelings but I learn from those actions every day! Learning from people has made me who I am! THANK YOU for your amazing content!
Total bliss and total freedom when I stopped caring about what others thought. I react to my thoughts about me. I speak positivities to myself. I hug myself. I question myself. We think more about ourselves than anyone else. Why not love myself? Why not laugh at myself and infinite quirkinesses? I will and I do. Life is so much better now. holding my head up high and conquering myself.
I struggled with caring too much and learned I needed to work on my inner world every day and "awaken the giant within" (Thanks Tony Robbins). Build self esteem and confidence aligned to a well crafted vision for yourself is the backbone to stop caring or allowing other opinions
Or you are an empath. Go ahead and watch the channel: 3 key elements. There is no such thing as care to much. Having a lot of love for people is a gift. You can help others! ✨
Being unique and original is a good personality trait. We weren't brought into the world to be a puppet or doormat for other people. If you are this, it's because you have allowed yourself to be. The more successful you become in life, the more insecure and under confident people will want to see you fail, if only to make themselves feel good. That's just the way the mechanisms of living your life works. You will rarely succeed in persuing your ambitions if concerning your self with what others think of you is a major feature of your thinking. Be confident, your birth alone has rendered you unique.We only have life to live once. You will be successful if you believe in yourself and disregard the worthless company of dour negative people. It's always what you think and not what others do. If you change the way you think, you'll change the way you act and have a more rewarding life. Remember it's not what people think about you that counts, it's how it affects you. To all those who feel life is a constant struggle, may good fortune soon come and assist you. Enjoy life, it's only temporary.
So on point. Stop internalizing things that don't have a relevance in your life. Right you have a limited space in your brain that you can access right now (with know and patience your mind can be unlimited but that's another topic) do you really want to fill it with things that don't have meaning in your life. Daily I have to remind myself of this. Don't dwell on unimportant matters that others have long forgotten. Not caring what others think is a world away from not giving a damn about anything.
I honestly appreciate this advice.. because this was written all over me. I'm not observant of other people and not "exposed" to the world per say. And even if, I forget people's problems and didn't "believe" or "connect" to what they were saying. I have this chronic feeling of caring about what others think of me.. and it's crippling me to the core. Fortunately, there's UA-cam with a bunch of strangers to relate to one another-to make it more realistic.
Haters are your Motivators. People who judge you are incapable of Judging themselves. Yiu cant plesee everyone. So just please yourself and let them know you walk alone in the opposite direction to them. They cant think for themselves so they just follow the Sheep. Be Proud you are not in their Flock.
I'm sick of people putting me down behind my back. I found out (accidentally) about that they are wrong about me (lies). I would never do that to them😡
Stay away from them & if you work with them avoid them as much as possible don't even acknowledge them until you have to & make it short if you have to. Don't let them take you joy.🤗
Cherylann I of course don't know what ur dealing with but I feel just my thoughts just hold the truth the things they are saying behind ur back but don't put fuel on that better take the high road and try to smile and wave through... Let them know that no matter what they say ur still standing unphased and now ur better off cause u don't need to put energy into nonsense
PEOPLE TALK SHIT BEHIND YOUR BACK BECAUSE OF JEALOUSY OR ENVY !! THAT MEANS THEY SEE SOMETHING GOOD IN YOU THAT THEY DONT HAVE. SO THEY TRY TO TEAR YOU DOWN .. ITS THEM NOT YOU !1
I use to be this way in my youth to worry and be self conscious of other people’s opinions and comparisons and it only brought me misery and even my race which I cannot change. Decades later, it is very liberating to be yourself regardless of what your parents, acquaintances, and co-workers, think about you.
The best lesson I learned in life was when I stopped caring about what other people thought about me. Unfortunately, I have had to learn this lesson more than once in my life. I appreciate the great content this channel offers. 😎👍👍
Not caring what people think of you comes with age. In their youth people are so concerned with what others think. The older you get, the less you care. It’s the great thing about getting older.
I'm not happy and content with my social skills. That's why i feel very self conscious and stressed in social events because i think they can feel my flaws too.
One of my favorite things about myself is my ability to accept others as they are. I’m ok with someone not liking me... even the ones that hate me. What causes me grief is some of those that hate or dislike me seem to have a need to prove just how much they don’t like me, rather than moving on with their lives. It’s the vindictiveness thing that has at times worn me down. ☀️
I like number 2 it’s a freeing thought. I have also been thinking that when a person dies a lot of people won’t be effected by that passing which is maybe also a freeing perspective to live your life the way you want to because aside from a few close friends and family once your life is over all the efforts, achievements, troubles and triumphs will go unnoticed by everybody else that wasn’t in it. Enjoy your day.
Funstuff13613 I have a lot of emotional baggage. A lot of it derives from child hood induced traumas and anxieties. Because of specific experiences such as being neglected by a parent, and then again by society because of being homosexual has been one hell of a mental load. I spent a lot of my life wanting to be loved and accepted instead of judged and tolerated until one day I was a prisoner to what others thought of me, although I was fully aware that they only wanted to change me into someone that I could never become. Sometimes I wanted to die because I could not figure out how to change who I was to satisfy the people I loved, or stop feeling as though something was wrong with me. Now I’m in a space where I just want to be left the hell alone, and even that’s set up to be the ultimate mind fuck.
I have always been a people pleaser.. still continue to be .. life has only been miserable..thank u for the valuable pointers .. I have always been running away and hiding myself ..not gonna do that anymore
Great video. Too many parents want to live unfulfilled dreams through their children, vicariously. If kids succumb and the dream is not theirs, then real emotional and mental problems begin for these kids, and the resulting depression and anxiety can follow them throughout adult life. People oftentimes never figure out "what is wrong with them." Nothing is wrong with you! Follow your passion. Get unyolked from all the crap that society dumps on you and really LIVE. It will then be much easier to love and find love and ultimate joy.
people are mostly interested in saying their opinion when they judge you, so don't think they genuinely care; only those who says something positive about you, or give you an advice cares
I use to really care what others "think" not any more ,All of us have a right to live your life as you see fit,The older I get I don't care who likes me,I treat everyone decent and polite if a person does not get who I am move on....
It's very important to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. If you just tell yourself stop thinking that way and and don't give yourself a positive thought to replace the negative, you'll slip right back into a negative thought process.
There was a period of time in my life where i let others' thoughts and ideas shape my personality and actions Whenever i say/do something it was like another person saying/doing his ideas using my own mouth That completely changed when i read an article that contained the following quote:- "I'd rather look at my past and say "i can't believe i did that" than saying " i wish i'd done that"" I was afraid to do things cuz i'm very different from the society i live in and from my so-called friends I said to myself "that's enough!" Imagine how horrible would it be to look at your past and be sorry for the lost opportunities you were given and not taken And the worst thing about that is... You can't change that. since it's already in the past, there's nothing to do about it. You'll just have to keep feeling sorry about it and do nothing. Just ask yourself. If someone who has a different opinion than yours tells you who you should be... Will you enjoy the life that they chose for you? So for anybody reading this who had a similar problem, i hope it helps you with your life "This world hates those who are different. Do not let anyone tell you who you should be and what should you do."
I cried my heart out in public yesterday, and because it was me I really don't care what they thought. If anything I'd like to think they thought I was only being 'human'. 🍒
This is so true. I let others make me feel like crap and like horrible person, because I think they don't like me, or they make it obvious that they do not care about me at all. And that makes me feel sad and rejected even though I don't need those people and their approval at all. I am bullied at the office but instead of just ignoring it, or trying to solve it in creative ways, I let it get to me, a lot (sometimes, I cry). Sometimes I suffer because a stranger on social network called me stupid or irrelevant, that is ridiculous what we let others do to us. We don't have to.
That's true. Most People don't think about you that much not even family. So what does it matter. lol. I need to be my authentic Self. That's true to people don't judge you like you think. You are your own Universe You invent what you want in your life. I am one of those who doesn't want to go outside to exercise cause I think people would be watching. In reality they could care less. lol. Most the time it's you who are thinking bad about yourself. You think others are. But it's you. You Create what you think. Your Critical of yourself. Make the Choices you want to make. Do what you want to do. Take full responsibility for who you are and what you do with your life. Love that....
I don’t care what people think of me I care what I think of people Watch how people treat others to see what type of person they are If you are eating or drinking with people - observe how they treat bar/wait staff That is a good indicator
I have been told many times that I just don't seem to care about alot of things. The thing is I care about certain things. But, if it has no lasting affect on my life. Then I honestly don't stress about it. I just enjoy the little things in life and try to enjoy every moment cause tomorrow isn't promised.
@@flatearth9140 no, I'm not saying that at all, sometimes you can't change how someone feels about you, no matter how you try or how you improve yourself. You just have to accept it & move on.
@@timelessmusicfamilymusic9175 I KNOW I WAS JUST BEING A FOOL.. BUT YOU DONT EVEN HAVE TO ACCEPT IT .. JUST THINK OF THEM AS FOOLS AND MOVE ON . I MEAN WHY DOES THE OPINION OF SOMEONE ELSE MAKE SO MUCH DRAMA IN SOMEONES LIFE ? ANYWAY TAKE CARE .
@@flatearth9140 I get along with all my siblings, however, I have brothers & sisters who can't be in the same room without World War Three to began. I try to keep the peace between them without success. They both had said horrible things about each other. Saying sorry is not even a consideration, they rather stay angry at each other, than ever spend anytime together before one of them past away.😥
Iv found out that some people I thought were my friends are actually enemies ,jealouse and full of deep hate ,IV watched a female try to switch personalities with me. This female would get angry and tell others I caused problems. Iv had stalkers that would do whatever they could to destroy me Im so afraid to go anywhere or met any one. Within a month of becoming friends she flilp out. This was straight up truth thank you
I totally understand the purpose of the video and it was done really well, but it bothers me when people say don’t care what people think. You absolutely should care what people think, you just shouldn’t care what certain people think about certain things. I just wish people would clarify this more often
Acceptance is the key! If you accept yourself for who you are then people's opinions about you are irrelevant. When you prioritize yourself then you will gain enormous happiness. When you know your worth then you start accepting the fact that everything happens for a reason not to harm you but to uplift by all the lessons from challenges. To conclude, accepting yourself will set you free.❤️
My expectations are too high for others, so I changed expecting people to be as open and natural as me. Now, I’m never disappointed because the only person that I expect anything from is me.
The only thing can toxicating your mindset is your own mindset. Some people will force to spread toxic thought in to your brain by puroose, some just leave toxic and see if you bite the bait, some (good people) by accident/not on purpose make toxic and spill it. Just ignore and keep swimming. Survive from all those toxic !
@VENGEANCE IS A MUST well, i just don't easyly give up. You always have two choice, the one you take and the one you don't. Make sure you choose the one that make you live your own life. i think that is how far i can ignore someone. (Sorry bad english)
People will talk about me to my face right beside me or behind my back I’ve gotten used to it it’s happening to me all my life I’ve been bullied I’m a grown woman now and it still happens when I have something good going on my life that’s when they tend to get worse because they’re unhappy with themselves and jealousy is a very dangerous demon but I’ve learned to walk by them because most of it where I live is from my neighbors so I walk with my head held high and I don’t let it bother me anymore they do it to me at work people just generally do not like me they don’t even talk to me and they assume They know exactly how I am or who I am but they don’t and I would give the shirt off my back to anyone if I had money and they needed it I would give it to them yet nobody wants seem to get to know me as a person they listen to other people instead of finding out for themselves and it’s their loss not mine
GOOD FOR YOU !! I USED TO WORRY WHY NOBODY LIKED ME !! IT TURNED OUT THAT MANY PEOPLE LIKED ME ! THEONES WHO DIDNT WE JEALOUS OR HAD ENVY FOR ME BECAUSE I WAS A KIND PERSON AND THEY WERNT.. IT TOOK A WHILE TO REALIZE THAT
FLAT EARTH 😊 I'm really glad you're no longer worried about what others think of you, that's absolutely wonderful 😊😊😊 It's a process I am slowly going through, but I'm getting there😊😊 Thank you for your message, I truly appreciate it ✌️😊
Theoretically, everything you said is true. We should not care what others think about us. I don't, but that disturbs others. So, they try to destroy you by creating gossip or giving you looks. It hurts of course, because you can not understand why this is happening . Rationally you don't care, but emotionally you do. You become a loner and that is not good either. But yes, there is still a lot to learn in life.
Be yourself, and careless about what other people think about you. That's the key to be happy in a world where most of the people are unhappy with themselves.
You just have to stop thinking about people. When you go outside of your house, do what you need to do, enjoy it and be reasonably kind. Others opinion towards you doesnt really matter, they don't live yhe life you living. People will always gonna have an opinion of you no matter what good things you've done. Once you have focused on yourself, you will know yourself much better which gives you self respect and kindness and peoples opininon will not matter at all.
it really affects my life and make me fake my personality, I wanma change and I'm trying because I know that this will change my mental health for the better
My colleagues exclude me in conversations. I'm always the last to know. I am working on no longer interacting with them too much and distancing myself to avoid disappointment
Realtalk & F-what they think. I often think what if I never even knew them to begin with and also if you knew how little people actually did think about you, you wouldn't care anyhow.
I am afraid of rejection. It is not pleasant. But I keep trying to approach people in a positive way. Hopefully I meet the right kind of people at a certain point
It's all about the present moment mindset. The opinions of others don't matter but they are there to help us with perspective, while we set our own goals . We ignore the ego and all those who want and need attention to themselves go away.
I've mastered the art of self dependantcy and let go of social dependance many years ago. You may want to be aware that you may become a highly introverted individual. That has proven to be a resolution to daily life stressful situations that can be inhibiting you to focus on the problems that your peers are experiencing and you can still be an active part in their daily lives without daily interaction that some of us feel we need like water or air. It's a delicate balance but if you master it you will truly be free in your own mind. May your life be fruitful and helpful.
Never was I attracted to social dependency. The weakest has the biggest circles while the ones that are self-dependent/even really small group of friends are the strongest.
Good advice, but whatever the cause, the solution is the same. How we think impacts how we feel. Epictetus said, "man is not disturbed by things but rather the views he takes of them." This is the basis of cognitive-behavior therapy. We all engage in cognitive distortion such as catastrophizing, labeling, mind-reading and minimizing good things and maximizing the bad. These are all irrational,unrealistic and distorted thoughts that need to be challenged. The behavior part does include being more assertive and having a good, close group of friends and associates as well as developing social skills.
I started caring soooo much because I was bullied for YEARS and somehow got soooo insecure about EVERY LITTLE THING I do!! I even find my voice weird and I think everyone is better than me and I think everyone hates me 🙄 before I was bullied I was so free, but now I'm just stuck in a black hole
SOMETIMES I WILL STAND ON ONE LEG AND PUT MY ARMS HIGH IN THE AIR AND LOOK AT A STRANGER AND SCREAM AT THEM AT THE TOP OF MY LUNGS !!! IM GLAD I FOUND THIS VIDEO !!
Only thing I can add is it’s not about caring what people think. I really don’t. But especially when it comes to religion and force. I’m not trying to be rude to anyone. It’s about respecting that person and not knowing how to tell them sorry but this is not for me when they’ve been nothing but nice. That’s my weakness. Caring no I really don’t it’s my life everyone has one of their own this one belongs to me. I always said you’re not going to like everyone you meet and not everyone will like you. That’s life. At least let me know where we stand and I’ll respect that you were able to tell me, say listen I don’t jive with you I don’t think I can talk to you again. I’ll feel relief more than anything.
When you care about what others thinks of you it alters who you are and who you become. Work on yourself because all your positivity will flow to others. This will make a better world.💝🌎👍
Thank you for the Video - I still am stuck in the vicious cycle and trying to get out of it - Now I might have a chance to be myself. Keep up the good work.
*2. Stop Apologizing* BOOM 💣 💣 💣 💥💥💥💥💥 That hit me hard💖😅😅😓😓 Edit: That fact that I always apologize is because I thought: - I've being misfortune - Not smart enough - Not good enough - Anti-social - Forgetful - Weird But most importantly is: *MY EXISTANCE*
"People spend the majority of their time worrying about their own lives." Yeah, one would think that, but a lot of people spend most of the time gossiping and making up lies about other people.
Believe it or not! I got rid of 4 very close friends and 0ne youngest Son! I hate the losing of my son. But he waits until I'm over 60 and he is 35 to decide that I am a "No good " Mother and Grandmother! This is so far from the truth! I am fed up with apologizing to him or anybody else! I have decided to live my life in as "Positive" way as possible! I'm a kind and loving person. But if you don't accept me as I am, " Oh Well! Life goes on.I'm far from perfect but I don't know any (Perfect People). I like me and it would be nice to love everybody but its just not realistic. So lets just be happy! Thank you very much for the information. Very helpful.
This video reminds me of my first marriage. Been there, done that. Since then I love life on my terms. And I feel so much better. I am becoming the man God created me to be.
I no longer give a shit what people think about me and this comes with age and experience of life. By default I am very selfless and giving but this is changing and I think I will be more successful if I put myself first rather than last.
my fear of others judging me comes from how much i tend to judge others in my mind. i wouldnt ever say these things, i dont want to hurt anyone, but naturally if someone slights me, i think of all of their faults. then later, i obsess over my own faults. also in the past when i have blown up and chewed someone out, i always hate myself the next day for being a psycho seems like its going to be like this forever i really dont care or notice total strangers and if they do or dont like me. what trips me up is how the people i live with and work with, see me and what they think of me. i need to be myself, but of course not an asshole or untrustworthy in any way
Better to be rejected for who you are than to be accepted for who you are not
@@aarkdel good conversation relies on a certain amount of mutual acceptance between those who are involved in the conversation, if someone can both know you and still accept you then it makes for better conversation
@@aarkdel fair enough, I don't take that approach myself but if you're happy with it, why not?
@@aarkdel someone will always accept you !!
Anyday👍
yes u are right
It's surprising how much depression and anxiety leaves you when you stop caring what other people think of you. There is over 7 billion people in the world but there's only one of you. Always be yourself.
So true.
How true thy wont too look,at them self's has notting too me thy could,stand in my shoes,for verey long so,bug me,
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I ment could not stand in,my shoes for verey long,so dont bug me,
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Yes, by being true to yourself your giving yourself the ultimate Freedom of expression....and be kind, it costs nothing and others in turn will pay it forward too.
*Your opinion of yourself matters more than other people's opinions of you. Focus on being nothing less than the best version of yourself and you are on the right path.*
Very well said, hard to feel bad about ones self or "fail" when that stays at heart. Thanks!!!
I strongly agree👍
Esabelle thank you.
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I always give my true self away to suit other people's opinions to please them, not anymore I wish i had done this sooner, but it's never to late to change, and do you what it feels wonderful 😊
Caring what people think seriously affects your mental health😩
Yeah I see where I get my source of anxiety
Thats true!
This is only a problem if you are used to using the word . . . - MY -
Try replacing the word -MY- with the word - WE - and notice the difference ? ! ?
It does but seriously I don’t think we can do anything about it I gave up on my brain
Very true
The older I get, the less I care about what other people think
Cant wait til thats me. May i ask what your age is?
@@properdoe3414 60 on Sept 24.....
mepalker have a happy birthday🎂😁
Of course, when you get older and we change and many life experiences. I will be - on Sept. 14.
@@properdoe3414 I will be 65. You do not have to wait. Just set your boundaries. You might lose some in the process. You will be fine.
The easiest way to not care about what people think of you is to understand they don’t know anything about you 🔥
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UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS. Very well said. They know absolutely nothing about you. Have a great day.
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Yes.true
Right on 👏
Anxiety is what brought me here... anyone else? Cuz it hurts, and I feel alone. No one talks about it
Btw does the word “anxiety” trigger anyone else with it?
@@frankbutnotiero4727 Yes it does, tremendously! Not so much as with them thinking anything about you, but to jump you and your children. Scream at you in public, no matter how hard you try to ignore and walk away...even to the point of ruining you and your family's name and even vehicles. That's just pathetic and sad, really.
I HAD ANXIETY BACK IN THE DAY ..BUT I GOT MORE CONFIDENT AND IT WENT AWAY !! NO MEDS AT ALL . I JUST THOUGH TO MYSELF THAT IM BETTER THEN ANYONE ELSE !!AS AN EXERCISE LOL .IT WORKED THEN I STOPPED THINKING THAT AND NOW ALL IS GOOD..
Yes, my anxiety brought me here.
Same here
I learned years ago to not care about what people thought about me. People will say crap about you just to bring you down to their level of low self esteem. My parents, especially my mom, were toxic. Nothing I did was right or good enough for them. Getting them out of my life was the best thing I did.
I suffer the same encounter. My mom often play down my role of importance. Sometimes, I find it very difficult to please her, especially when I am tremendous stress and have difficult social relationships.
I have the same but only with my brother :(
This is true. Most people are absorbed in themselves and don't think about you. Doesn't hurt to listen to loved ones and family but evaluate what they say before just accepting it. If you're honest with yourself, you'll know.
"The greatest fear in the world is the opinion of others and the moment you become unafraid of the crowd, you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion.A great roar arises in your heart. The roar of freedom."
I used to care what others thought of me. I changed and compromised my authentic self.. wasn't true to my soul.. just to fit in. I pretended I had a big network of friends when I didn't have any. I did things which made me unhappy and uncomfortable. I wanted desperately to be accepted. To be "normal." I just wanted to be loved. I spent years chasing after the wrong people.
Screw "normalcy." I would rather follow the music of my soul. Do things that make me happy than live by other people's standards and expectations. I realized that some people won't like you no matter what you do. When you are true to who you are.. the right people will come into your life.
If people like me then that's great. If they don't, then so what? I like me. That's what matters in the end. What I think of myself and it took me years to get to this stage in my life where I love and approve of myself.
You have nothing to fear except fear itself . . .
- FDR -
The Child is always looking for greater fears ! ! !
@@SensiblyTina
Thank you, sweetheart! 😘 We are all unique individuals and we must celebrate our individuality. 😊. We are all more than good enough.
Since I stopped caring of what people thought of me, I began working on self-love and getting to know myself better and I believe staying true to who you are, is the road to happiness. I went from being severely depressed to content.
@@SensiblyTina
Absolutely! I wholeheartedly agree. 😊 *gives you a cyber hug - sending you loving vibes ♡ *
For my 16th bday, the popular kids at my school whom I desperately wanted to be a part of their clique, invited me to one of the most lavish and expensive restaurants. I was psyched to finally be "accepted " by them. To stop being such an outcast. They ordered nearly everything on the menu. ( They came from rich families.) Then by the end of the dinner, they made ME pay for their meals.They left without a second thought as to how I'll pay for it. I had to call my dad. Next day, they ignored me and for the rest of the school year they mocked and bullied me.
If I could go back in time and talk to my 16 year old self, I would tell her what you just told me.
But I don't regret my past. Our past made us who we are today and we should always look at our younger selves with compassion. They did what they thought was best, with what knowledge they had of the world. Live , love and forgive everyone and yourself for not knowing any better. ♡ 😊
i agree
@@SensiblyTina im geat, love your work
I think it comes with age. I’m in my 40s I do my best I can. I’m a good person. If people don’t like me I truly don’t care.I have my children and my family to worry about.
" I don't need the approval, of those who don't approve of me. - George Michael quote. 👏👍😎
And yet he didn't come out as gay, I can't blame him coz of his 'image', and have no doubt he said that. He was a truly good man
@@gracie3827 He did come out as gay. Hes a fine singer.
I say " who are you and why do I need to prove myself to you?"
I’m the black sheep of my family because I’m not traditional, religious or even think twice about what they have to say about me. I don’t follow the crowd because I don’t like crowds.
~ I hear you, been there , be true to you~
And that is who you are. That's good. Well done.
I wish I had guts like you..
Same here. Trying to be happy around “those people” is like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. No thanks! They finally got the point that I’m NOT going to live my life according to their cult like religious blueprint and stopped inviting me to gatherings. I now thank God even MORE because I no longer have to make up excuses or work OT to avoid them!🤣😂🤣
I'm also the black sheep of the family cause I don't conform to their "norms"
Don't worry about what people think. Make sure that what you do is well thought and don't be hasty. People are never satisfied no matter how good or bad you do whatever it is that you do.
Remember: People don't care about what you do... for the most times
Not from where I'm from. They are busy bodies and will go to extra lengths to destroy your name, your family and little friends that stick by you. They will even attack your children and jump you at any given moment; anywhere at all. I go out of town to go grocery shopping and all just to not have a confrontation left and right. Never once, you can go anywhere without someone trying anything they can do to you or even your vehicles. Gets quite old, really. (And no matter how much you mind your own business, they'll always interfere in one way another).
@Pancake Batter A really small town, sadly.
C-A-C-H I would move as fast as I could! ☹️
Yea most people but definitely not all people
But some people do..
Just know that there are people in this world who will love you just the way you are. And there are people in this world who will dislike you just the way you are and you aren't going to change their minds. Most people are ambivalent. Just so accept this fact and move on real freedom.
Ive had the same problem for many years, my family has been so critical of what i do, what i say, what i dress and more, i always hear their past critical statements in my head in social situations and the constant fear of doing something wrong in their eyes and the scolding afterwards made me feel like nothing but a mistake, i wanna end this harming cycle and by doing so, listening to this video is the first step.
‘What others think of me is none of my business’ 👌🏻
Stop blaming people who say Im sorry. Their hearts are in a good place
Too good people are regarded as idiots im this world 😣
I' m sorry doesn' t mean anything without changed behaviour, especially if someone keeps apologizing for the same thing over and over, apologies aren' t enough sometimes.
'Do you' always, it's your life after all.
I care ALOT about people's feelings but I learn from those actions every day! Learning from people has made me who I am! THANK YOU for your amazing content!
Total bliss and total freedom when I stopped caring about what others thought. I react to my thoughts about me. I speak positivities to myself. I hug myself. I question myself. We think more about ourselves than anyone else. Why not love myself? Why not laugh at myself and infinite quirkinesses? I will and I do. Life is so much better now. holding my head up high and conquering myself.
I used to but this year I’ve finally adopted this attitude only took 43 years!
I struggled with caring too much and learned I needed to work on my inner world every day and "awaken the giant within" (Thanks Tony Robbins). Build self esteem and confidence aligned to a well crafted vision for yourself is the backbone to stop caring or allowing other opinions
Or you are an empath. Go ahead and watch the channel: 3 key elements. There is no such thing as care to much. Having a lot of love for people is a gift. You can help others! ✨
Being unique and original is a good personality trait. We weren't brought into the world to be a puppet or doormat for other people. If you are this, it's because you have allowed yourself to be. The more successful you become in life, the more insecure and under confident people will want to see you fail, if only to make themselves feel good. That's just the way the mechanisms of living your life works. You will rarely succeed in persuing your ambitions if concerning your self with what others think of you is a major feature of your thinking. Be confident, your birth alone has rendered you unique.We only have life to live once. You will be successful if you believe in yourself and disregard the worthless company of dour negative people. It's always what you think and not what others do. If you change the way you think, you'll change the way you act and have a more rewarding life. Remember it's not what people think about you that counts, it's how it affects you. To all those who feel life is a constant struggle, may good fortune soon come and assist you. Enjoy life, it's only temporary.
Jeremiah 1:18
Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you," declares the LORD.
So on point. Stop internalizing things that don't have a relevance in your life. Right you have a limited space in your brain that you can access right now (with know and patience your mind can be unlimited but that's another topic) do you really want to fill it with things that don't have meaning in your life. Daily I have to remind myself of this. Don't dwell on unimportant matters that others have long forgotten. Not caring what others think is a world away from not giving a damn about anything.
This needs to be, *"How to be Self Aware, With a Stable Personality"*
yes.
Wow, I see no dislikes for the first time. Positivity flows❤ (478 views so far)
I honestly appreciate this advice.. because this was written all over me. I'm not observant of other people and not "exposed" to the world per say. And even if, I forget people's problems and didn't "believe" or "connect" to what they were saying. I have this chronic feeling of caring about what others think of me.. and it's crippling me to the core. Fortunately, there's UA-cam with a bunch of strangers to relate to one another-to make it more realistic.
Haters are your Motivators. People who judge you are incapable of Judging themselves. Yiu cant plesee everyone. So just please yourself and let them know you walk alone in the opposite direction to them. They cant think for themselves so they just follow the Sheep. Be Proud you are not in their Flock.
I'm sick of people putting me down behind my back. I found out (accidentally) about that they are wrong about me (lies). I would never do that to them😡
Stay away from them & if you work with them avoid them as much as possible don't even acknowledge them until you have to & make it short if you have to. Don't let them take you joy.🤗
fuck them fools 👍
Cherylann I of course don't know what ur dealing with but I feel just my thoughts just hold the truth the things they are saying behind ur back but don't put fuel on that better take the high road and try to smile and wave through... Let them know that no matter what they say ur still standing unphased and now ur better off cause u don't need to put energy into nonsense
People often believe their own bull**its.
PEOPLE TALK SHIT BEHIND YOUR BACK BECAUSE OF JEALOUSY OR ENVY !! THAT MEANS THEY SEE SOMETHING GOOD IN YOU THAT THEY DONT HAVE. SO THEY TRY TO TEAR YOU DOWN .. ITS THEM NOT YOU !1
I use to be this way in my youth to worry and be self conscious of other people’s opinions and comparisons and it only brought me misery and even my race which I cannot change. Decades later, it is very liberating to be yourself regardless of what your parents, acquaintances, and co-workers, think about you.
The best lesson I learned in life was when I stopped caring about what other people thought about me. Unfortunately, I have had to learn this lesson more than once in my life. I appreciate the great content this channel offers. 😎👍👍
Not caring what people think of you comes with age. In their youth people are so concerned with what others think. The older you get, the less you care. It’s the great thing about getting older.
I'm not happy and content with my social skills. That's why i feel very self conscious and stressed in social events because i think they can feel my flaws too.
AND YOU START TO NOT CARE IF THEY FEEL YOUR FLAWS ITS GOING TO BE GREAT !!!
One of my favorite things about myself is my ability to accept others as they are.
I’m ok with someone not liking me... even the ones that hate me.
What causes me grief is some of those that hate or dislike me seem to have a need to prove just how much they don’t like me, rather than moving on with their lives.
It’s the vindictiveness thing that has at times worn me down.
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I like number 2 it’s a freeing thought.
I have also been thinking that when a person dies a lot of people won’t be effected by that passing which is maybe also a freeing perspective to live your life the way you want to because aside from a few close friends and family once your life is over all the efforts, achievements, troubles and triumphs will go unnoticed by everybody else that wasn’t in it. Enjoy your day.
Funstuff13613 I have a lot of emotional baggage. A lot of it derives from child hood induced traumas and anxieties. Because of specific experiences such as being neglected by a parent, and then again by society because of being homosexual has been one hell of a mental load. I spent a lot of my life wanting to be loved and accepted instead of judged and tolerated until one day I was a prisoner to what others thought of me, although I was fully aware that they only wanted to change me into someone that I could never become. Sometimes I wanted to die because I could not figure out how to change who I was to satisfy the people I loved, or stop feeling as though something was wrong with me. Now I’m in a space where I just want to be left the hell alone, and even that’s set up to be the ultimate mind fuck.
I have always been a people pleaser.. still continue to be .. life has only been miserable..thank u for the valuable pointers .. I have always been running away and hiding myself ..not gonna do that anymore
The more people put you down raises them up , it makes them feel good to have you as a good foundation .They are weak you are strong .
Great video. Too many parents want to live unfulfilled dreams through their children, vicariously. If kids succumb and the dream is not theirs, then real emotional and mental problems begin for these kids, and the resulting depression and anxiety can follow them throughout adult life. People oftentimes never figure out "what is wrong with them." Nothing is wrong with you! Follow your passion. Get unyolked from all the crap that society dumps on you and really LIVE. It will then be much easier to love and find love and ultimate joy.
I don't care what others think of me but it's hard to be myself with my family who I live with.
people are mostly interested in saying their opinion when they judge you, so don't think they genuinely care; only those who says something positive about you, or give you an advice cares
The expectations u are waiting to receive from others act as bars used to build your own cage, don't care what everybody think about u ....
I use to really care what others "think" not any more ,All of us have a right to live your life as you see fit,The older I get I don't care who likes me,I treat everyone decent and polite if a person does not get who I am move on....
For me, only be concerned about how God sees you,people do not know your Spirit, the one who made you most certainly does. 😎
Yes, all that is truly important.
I really agree :)
Thanks for this Williams.
Never be cruel, never be cowardly. Remember, hate is always foolish & love is always wise. Always try to be nice, never fail to be kind.
Five Finger Death Punch says it pretty well "I'd rather you hate me for everything that I am than have you love me for something that I am not"
It's very important to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. If you just tell yourself stop thinking that way and and don't give yourself a positive thought to replace the negative, you'll slip right back into a negative thought process.
There was a period of time in my life where i let others' thoughts and ideas shape my personality and actions
Whenever i say/do something it was like another person saying/doing his ideas using my own mouth
That completely changed when i read an article that contained the following quote:-
"I'd rather look at my past and say "i can't believe i did that" than saying " i wish i'd done that""
I was afraid to do things cuz i'm very different from the society i live in and from my so-called friends
I said to myself "that's enough!"
Imagine how horrible would it be to look at your past and be sorry for the lost opportunities you were given and not taken
And the worst thing about that is...
You can't change that.
since it's already in the past, there's nothing to do about it.
You'll just have to keep feeling sorry about it and do nothing.
Just ask yourself.
If someone who has a different opinion than yours tells you who you should be...
Will you enjoy the life that they chose for you?
So for anybody reading this who had a similar problem, i hope it helps you with your life
"This world hates those who are different.
Do not let anyone tell you who you should be and what should you do."
I cried my heart out in public yesterday, and because it was me I really don't care what they thought. If anything I'd like to think they thought I was only being 'human'. 🍒
All I care about is staying true to myself.
" Do not judge others , unless you your self have been judged".
Jesus.
Just wanted to say this.
This is so true. I let others make me feel like crap and like horrible person, because I think they don't like me, or they make it obvious that they do not care about me at all. And that makes me feel sad and rejected even though I don't need those people and their approval at all. I am bullied at the office but instead of just ignoring it, or trying to solve it in creative ways, I let it get to me, a lot (sometimes, I cry). Sometimes I suffer because a stranger on social network called me stupid or irrelevant, that is ridiculous what we let others do to us. We don't have to.
That's true. Most People don't think about you that much not even family. So what does it matter. lol. I need to be my authentic Self. That's true to people don't judge you like you think. You are your own Universe You invent what you want in your life. I am one of those who doesn't want to go outside to exercise cause I think people would be watching. In reality they could care less. lol. Most the time it's you who are thinking bad about yourself. You think others are. But it's you. You Create what you think. Your Critical of yourself. Make the Choices you want to make. Do what you want to do. Take full responsibility for who you are and what you do with your life. Love that....
Yes, it makes a lot of sense to ignore other people’s opinion of you. What matters most is what you think of you.
I don’t care what people think of me
I care what I think of people
Watch how people treat others to see what type of person they are
If you are eating or drinking with people - observe how they treat bar/wait staff
That is a good indicator
I have been told many times that I just don't seem to care about alot of things. The thing is I care about certain things. But, if it has no lasting affect on my life. Then I honestly don't stress about it. I just enjoy the little things in life and try to enjoy every moment cause tomorrow isn't promised.
I really care about wat people think of what I do,wear and walk in public....And this makes me really uncomfortable in public
Mildred if you stop doing these things you will find a form of freedom.
When you value a negative person's opinion about you, it will never end until one of you past away.
ARE YOU SAYING WE MUST KILL ANYONE WHO WE VALUE THEIR NEGATIVE OPINION ? HMMM . THATS AN IDEA !! .. THANKS !! ILL BE RIGHT BACK !!
@@flatearth9140 no, I'm not saying that at all, sometimes you can't change how someone feels about you, no matter how you try or how you improve yourself. You just have to accept it & move on.
@@timelessmusicfamilymusic9175 I KNOW I WAS JUST BEING A FOOL.. BUT YOU DONT EVEN HAVE TO ACCEPT IT .. JUST THINK OF THEM AS FOOLS AND MOVE ON . I MEAN WHY DOES THE OPINION OF SOMEONE ELSE MAKE SO MUCH DRAMA IN SOMEONES LIFE ? ANYWAY TAKE CARE .
@@flatearth9140 I get along with all my siblings, however, I have brothers & sisters who can't be in the same room without World War Three to began. I try to keep the peace between them without success. They both had said horrible things about each other. Saying sorry is not even a consideration, they rather stay angry at each other, than ever spend anytime together before one of them past away.😥
@@timelessmusicfamilymusic9175 send them to the wilderness together for a few weeks !
Iv found out that some people I thought were my friends are actually enemies ,jealouse and full of deep hate ,IV watched a female try to switch personalities with me. This female would get angry and tell others I caused problems. Iv had stalkers that would do whatever they could to destroy me Im so afraid to go anywhere or met any one. Within a month of becoming friends she flilp out. This was straight up truth thank you
I totally understand the purpose of the video and it was done really well, but it bothers me when people say don’t care what people think. You absolutely should care what people think, you just shouldn’t care what certain people think about certain things. I just wish people would clarify this more often
Acceptance is the key! If you accept yourself for who you are then people's opinions about you are irrelevant. When you prioritize yourself then you will gain enormous happiness. When you know your worth then you start accepting the fact that everything happens for a reason not to harm you but to uplift by all the lessons from challenges. To conclude, accepting yourself will set you free.❤️
I find that other people are a disappointment
me too.
Same.
My expectations are too high for others, so I changed expecting people to be as open and natural as me. Now, I’m never disappointed because the only person that I expect anything from is me.
@@leahmoonbeamflower333 I agree. Walking through life with out stepping on some toes is impossible. If you can, it means you're already in heaven...
John Douglas well put and almost poetic. 🎼 I hope you’re doing okay in this life.
I've been told that the best response to someone's opinion of me is "I've been called worse by someone better than you!"
Negative people take energies from positive people. Its when you become neutral, you block the energy flow, that saves your positive energy.
The only thing can toxicating your mindset is your own mindset.
Some people will force to spread toxic thought in to your brain by puroose, some just leave toxic and see if you bite the bait, some (good people) by accident/not on purpose make toxic and spill it.
Just ignore and keep swimming. Survive from all those toxic !
Work for a cause. Not for applause
@VENGEANCE IS A MUST well, i just don't easyly give up. You always have two choice, the one you take and the one you don't. Make sure you choose the one that make you live your own life. i think that is how far i can ignore someone. (Sorry bad english)
People will talk about me to my face right beside me or behind my back I’ve gotten used to it it’s happening to me all my life I’ve been bullied I’m a grown woman now and it still happens when I have something good going on my life that’s when they tend to get worse because they’re unhappy with themselves and jealousy is a very dangerous demon but I’ve learned to walk by them because most of it where I live is from my neighbors so I walk with my head held high and I don’t let it bother me anymore they do it to me at work people just generally do not like me they don’t even talk to me and they assume They know exactly how I am or who I am but they don’t and I would give the shirt off my back to anyone if I had money and they needed it I would give it to them yet nobody wants seem to get to know me as a person they listen to other people instead of finding out for themselves and it’s their loss not mine
Omg
You have just described my life. Just keep walking and love your self. Make your self happy.
So true, recently turned 23 and in college and it still goes on, is a pain in the ass. I can't handle it, it has been going on all my life
I was totally meant to hear that 😊 Thanks for the fantastic upload 👌
GOOD FOR YOU !! I USED TO WORRY WHY NOBODY LIKED ME !! IT TURNED OUT THAT MANY PEOPLE LIKED ME ! THEONES WHO DIDNT WE JEALOUS OR HAD ENVY FOR ME BECAUSE I WAS A KIND PERSON AND THEY WERNT.. IT TOOK A WHILE TO REALIZE THAT
FLAT EARTH 😊 I'm really glad you're no longer worried about what others think of you, that's absolutely wonderful 😊😊😊
It's a process I am slowly going through, but I'm getting there😊😊
Thank you for your message, I truly appreciate it ✌️😊
Awesome and very important topic. Great perspective! 👏👏👏👏✨
yes.
Theoretically, everything you said is true. We should not care what others think about us. I don't, but that disturbs others. So, they try to destroy you by creating gossip or giving you looks. It hurts of course, because you can not understand why this is happening . Rationally you don't care, but emotionally you do. You become a loner and that is not good either. But yes, there is still a lot to learn in life.
Just be yourself... Take the jump and if someone doesn't like it? You've got it right 💥
Be yourself, and careless about what other people think about you. That's the key to be happy in a world where most of the people are unhappy with themselves.
"Everyones going to die anyway"
IS THAT A THREAT ?
rem- chan
That is the best part of life!!😅😅
Mood😂😂
@@stayawayfromaa9989 yes, and then you will be judged by the big man himself.
We gotta do what we want before we die
You just have to stop thinking about people. When you go outside of your house, do what you need to do, enjoy it and be reasonably kind. Others opinion towards you doesnt really matter, they don't live yhe life you living. People will always gonna have an opinion of you no matter what good things you've done. Once you have focused on yourself, you will know yourself much better which gives you self respect and kindness and peoples opininon will not matter at all.
Love your background music, it's so different, especially in the chord changes. Awesome video, too, so helpful for me♥️Keep up the amazing work!!!🥳🎉💖✨
it really affects my life and make me fake my personality, I wanma change and I'm trying because I know that this will change my mental health for the better
Back in the Day I use to care almost too much what people thought about me. But the older I get the easier it gets. That I really don't care.
My colleagues exclude me in conversations. I'm always the last to know. I am working on no longer interacting with them too much and distancing myself to avoid disappointment
I could've used this decades ago. My life would have been different.
my life too.
Now lets use it for decades to go
I know, right? I was a wreck in my 20s but now in my 30s I'm much better =)
Bilal Muzzammil beautiful. Let’s be in the NOW.
Realtalk & F-what they think. I often think what if I never even knew them to begin with and also if you knew how little people actually did think about you, you wouldn't care anyhow.
Take 100% responsibility!!!!
I am afraid of rejection. It is not pleasant. But I keep trying to approach people in a positive way. Hopefully I meet the right kind of people at a certain point
I used to. I am a empath so I am now learning to establish my boundaries and I am ok with this.
It's all about the present moment mindset. The opinions of others don't matter but they are there to help us with perspective, while we set our own goals . We ignore the ego and all those who want and need attention to themselves go away.
I've mastered the art of self dependantcy and let go of social dependance many years ago.
You may want to be aware that you may become a highly introverted individual.
That has proven to be a resolution to daily life stressful situations that can be inhibiting you to focus on the problems that your peers are experiencing and you can still be an active part in their daily lives without daily interaction that some of us feel we need like water or air. It's a delicate balance but if you master it you will truly be free in your own mind.
May your life be fruitful and helpful.
Never was I attracted to social dependency. The weakest has the biggest circles while the ones that are self-dependent/even really small group of friends are the strongest.
@@quebie77 💘 it! 🙏
Nice, I will consider that further...
Good advice, but whatever the cause, the solution is the same. How we think impacts how we feel. Epictetus said, "man is not disturbed by things but rather the views he takes of them." This is the basis of cognitive-behavior therapy. We all engage in cognitive distortion such as catastrophizing, labeling, mind-reading and minimizing good things and maximizing the bad. These are all irrational,unrealistic and distorted thoughts that need to be challenged. The behavior part does include being more assertive and having a good, close group of friends and associates as well as developing social skills.
Real Life Counseling - Michael Zone, LCSW, MEd, JD Howwwwwwwwwwwww
I started caring soooo much because I was bullied for YEARS and somehow got soooo insecure about EVERY LITTLE THING I do!! I even find my voice weird and I think everyone is better than me and I think everyone hates me 🙄 before I was bullied I was so free, but now I'm just stuck in a black hole
SOMETIMES I WILL STAND ON ONE LEG AND PUT MY ARMS HIGH IN THE AIR AND LOOK AT A STRANGER AND SCREAM AT THEM AT THE TOP OF MY LUNGS !!! IM GLAD I FOUND THIS VIDEO !!
Only thing I can add is it’s not about caring what people think. I really don’t. But especially when it comes to religion and force. I’m not trying to be rude to anyone. It’s about respecting that person and not knowing how to tell them sorry but this is not for me when they’ve been nothing but nice. That’s my weakness. Caring no I really don’t it’s my life everyone has one of their own this one belongs to me. I always said you’re not going to like everyone you meet and not everyone will like you. That’s life. At least let me know where we stand and I’ll respect that you were able to tell me, say listen I don’t jive with you I don’t think I can talk to you again. I’ll feel relief more than anything.
When you care about what others thinks of you it alters who you are and who you become. Work on yourself because all your positivity will flow to others. This will make a better world.💝🌎👍
Thank you for the Video - I still am stuck in the vicious cycle and trying to get out of it - Now I might have a chance to be myself. Keep up the good work.
I really needed this. Thank you Brainy Dose. This is so helpful 👏👏👏💗💗💗
*2. Stop Apologizing*
BOOM 💣 💣 💣 💥💥💥💥💥
That hit me hard💖😅😅😓😓
Edit:
That fact that I always apologize is because I thought:
- I've being misfortune
- Not smart enough
- Not good enough
- Anti-social
- Forgetful
- Weird
But most importantly is:
*MY EXISTANCE*
Thank you. I needed this. Not going to feel sorry for being myself!
There's nobody who is that much greater than you for them to even afford to form an opinion or judge you negatively!
"People spend the majority of their time worrying about their own lives." Yeah, one would think that, but a lot of people spend most of the time gossiping and making up lies about other people.
Best video I could find on this topic. Thank you. 😊❤️
Believe it or not! I got rid of 4 very close friends and 0ne youngest Son! I hate the losing of my son. But he waits until I'm over 60 and he is 35 to decide that I am a "No good " Mother and Grandmother! This is so far from the truth! I am fed up with apologizing to him or anybody else! I have decided to live my life in as "Positive" way as possible! I'm a kind and loving person. But if you don't accept me as I am, " Oh Well! Life goes on.I'm far from perfect but I don't know any (Perfect People). I like me and it would be nice to love everybody but its just not realistic. So lets just be happy! Thank you very much for the information. Very helpful.
Be balanced. Be REASONABLE. BE NEUTRAL.
This video reminds me of my first marriage. Been there, done that. Since then I love life on my terms. And I feel so much better. I am becoming the man God created me to be.
I no longer give a shit what people think about me and this comes with age and experience of life. By default I am very selfless and giving but this is changing and I think I will be more successful if I put myself first rather than last.
my fear of others judging me comes from how much i tend to judge others in my mind. i wouldnt ever say these things, i dont want to hurt anyone, but naturally if someone slights me, i think of all of their faults. then later, i obsess over my own faults. also in the past when i have blown up and chewed someone out, i always hate myself the next day for being a psycho
seems like its going to be like this forever
i really dont care or notice total strangers and if they do or dont like me. what trips me up is how the people i live with and work with, see me and what they think of me. i need to be myself, but of course not an asshole or untrustworthy in any way