"I don't worry about the things I have no control over because if I have no control over them, why worry about them? I don't worry about the things I have control over, because if I have control over them, why worry?" - Mickey Rivers
Though not always applicable, something that kind of helps me is knowing there is nothing I can do at that moment about it. I'm terrible at explaining, but an example would be like when you're sitting in history class, worrying about your English paper, and realizing that at that very moment, you cannot do anything about your English paper, because you're in history class. Don't fret about something you have no control over.
Wow, I am experiencing this right now. Your first tip is helping me a lot. Everytime I have bad anticipation anxiety about a presentation , my anxiety goes away the second I start my presentation. I think anticipation anxiety is so much more different than the anxiety in the situation. Thank you!
This helpful; I've done a similar thing where I tell myself, "This is not a today problem, this is a tomorrow problem, so I don't have to worry about it today. Today is my day off from thinking about this problem". It's basically the same message. Us anxiety prone people are likely to stress or dream about the event regardless, so it doesn't always help 100%, but it helps somewhat.
I will be taking a trip soon and am worried about the flight. Ive been torturing myself about how I can get though this. This video is so helpful. Thank you.
i always think in the time in the past present and the future so i tell you myself this is okay you are getting better but i dont fell like that i fell bad
Great video. Thank you for the thoughts. How do you live in the moment? I guess it's about the only thing I can control. That's what I need to remember.
@@sorrynotsorry9056 I’m doing a lot better than I was. I just randomly started having pretty bad anxiety about 2 and a half years ago, but I’ve really improved and I’m coping with it and improving everyday. I’m honestly glad I went through what I went through because I feel like it made me a stronger, more humble version of myself. Sometimes life tests you and you just have to push through. There’s always a way out. You can get through it without pills or therapy, it just takes time.
@@sorrynotsorry9056 I felt the same way. I randomly had a panic attack freshman year and it messed me up pretty bad. For a while I was always super anxious for no reason because I feared that my fear would only grow bigger and i was afraid of being stuck like that forever. You will get better I promise man, trust me I felt the same way as you did. If you’re religious, just pray and try to be a good person, look on the bright side of things. You’re gonna be alright man, but as far as how long it takes, it just depends. I still get anxious now and again, and I have small anxiety everyday but it doesn’t affect me that much anymore. The time it takes just depends on how fast you can accept that you’ll be ok in the future.
This is helpful but what if you know you can't do something?. My problem it's a fear of going back to work because I can't even get out of the front door on my own without panicking. I'm in the situation wherein the department for work and pensions are trying to force me to go back to work. I know I can't do it but I don't have a choice. I'm under so much pressure it's making my anxiety far worse. I just don't know what to do. Hope this makes sense.
hey, i hope you see this. i was hoping for maybe a little advice or just, maybe some pointers. I dont want to ask too much but ive been having this issue that ive only recently recognized as a real problem and real anxiety rather than just normal worry. over the last 5 years, i have had alot of issues, i lost my dad, dealt with a horrible man that my mom called her boyfriend, lost a dear friend, though i regained him, i still dealt with loosing him as a friend for his own reasons. Now, I struggle with a constant worry and anxiety that not all my friends will have the attention or time they want with me. Maybe im scared ill loose them, but for so long i just didnt care about what it did to me, i lived to please my friends and if that didnt work out or if they got upset, i was upset, i have panic attacks and freak out whenever i think anything might be wrong, and i live in fear that something might happen so i try to take precautionary measures all day to make sure theyre okay and im pleased in my head and end up never having time for myself. im homeschooled so i dont get my work done sometimes because of this. the one friend in particular that left me and came back, i think i might worry me and stress me out the most. i care deeply about him, and over time, ive forgiven him for leaving me and he's shown me that he's really sorry and wants dearly to make up for it, even to this day. he knows about this problem and he's offered his advice, im working on it but i just need a good headstart. I cant keep living like this and i refuse to give into it. more than anything i want to do something selfish for a change and help myself
i have anxiety but i joined a speaking club to make a fool of myself with a group of people and get over it. i still have it, only been to one lesson, i have a meeting tomorrow where we have to do stuff ad tbh i dont care.
Ok lets say you are anticipating presentation that you need to handle perfectly and you have anxiety kicking in because of the fear of embarrassing yourself infront of you collegues and bosses that may affect you evaluation (shaky voice, palms sweaty and feeling like crap) How to switch off this feeling and finaly feel free?
"I don't worry about the things I have no control over because if I have no control over them, why worry about them? I don't worry about the things I have control over, because if I have control over them, why worry?" - Mickey Rivers
Worrying about the past creates depression. Worrying about the future creates anxiety. Focus on the present to banish both.
Though not always applicable, something that kind of helps me is knowing there is nothing I can do at that moment about it. I'm terrible at explaining, but an example would be like when you're sitting in history class, worrying about your English paper, and realizing that at that very moment, you cannot do anything about your English paper, because you're in history class. Don't fret about something you have no control over.
EXACTLY :-)
Wow, I am experiencing this right now. Your first tip is helping me a lot. Everytime I have bad anticipation anxiety about a presentation , my anxiety goes away the second I start my presentation. I think anticipation anxiety is so much more different than the anxiety in the situation.
Thank you!
Thank you for this. Us anxiety prone people have quite some imaginations don't we?
I'll mindfully use these tips in the future, thanks again.
lol, yes we do... and you're very welcome.
The background is so calming
This helpful; I've done a similar thing where I tell myself, "This is not a today problem, this is a tomorrow problem, so I don't have to worry about it today. Today is my day off from thinking about this problem". It's basically the same message. Us anxiety prone people are likely to stress or dream about the event regardless, so it doesn't always help 100%, but it helps somewhat.
Thank you. I can not relax for the few days before an event and its so annoying and its over the stupidest thing, like for soccer tryouts.
I will be taking a trip soon and am worried about the flight. Ive been torturing myself about how I can get though this. This video is so helpful. Thank you.
Me too. How was your flight if you remember? Lol
thank you, honestly was feeling like the only one who obsess about things this really helps me :)
Cheers mate, i needed to hear this before my upcoming exam👍
Thank you so much for this! I will be practicing these tips for sure!
Hello Steve. I am glad I saw this video. I used it over the last few days and it has help me.
i always think in the time in the past present and the future so i tell you myself this is okay you are getting better but i dont fell like that i fell bad
wow great video i will use these tips in the future! thanks man i also have a youtube channel too!!
This really helped me, thank you!😊
Great video. Thank you for the thoughts. How do you live in the moment? I guess it's about the only thing I can control. That's what I need to remember.
You are always worth listening to.... Thank you
Thanks!
What if u aren't thinking about the situation and u still feel bad anticipatory anxiety?.
That’s me
Thanks so much for the reminders!!
You're welcome David!
I’ve never been anxious to go to camp, but right now I’ve just got bad anxiety over it.
How are you doing ?
@@sorrynotsorry9056 I’m doing a lot better than I was. I just randomly started having pretty bad anxiety about 2 and a half years ago, but I’ve really improved and I’m coping with it and improving everyday. I’m honestly glad I went through what I went through because I feel like it made me a stronger, more humble version of myself. Sometimes life tests you and you just have to push through. There’s always a way out.
You can get through it without pills or therapy, it just takes time.
@@lukester102d6 how long does it take I hope it doesn’t take forever for me. I’m only 14 suffering from this🥺
@@sorrynotsorry9056 I felt the same way. I randomly had a panic attack freshman year and it messed me up pretty bad. For a while I was always super anxious for no reason because I feared that my fear would only grow bigger and i was afraid of being stuck like that forever. You will get better I promise man, trust me I felt the same way as you did. If you’re religious, just pray and try to be a good person, look on the bright side of things. You’re gonna be alright man, but as far as how long it takes, it just depends. I still get anxious now and again, and I have small anxiety everyday but it doesn’t affect me that much anymore. The time it takes just depends on how fast you can accept that you’ll be ok in the future.
@@lukester102d6 yeahhh I think I’ll be like this forever. I’m from London and I’m starting school in 1 week im kinda scared for school
This is helpful but what if you know you can't do something?. My problem it's a fear of going back to work because I can't even get out of the front door on my own without panicking. I'm in the situation wherein the department for work and pensions are trying to force me to go back to work. I know I can't do it but I don't have a choice. I'm under so much pressure it's making my anxiety far worse. I just don't know what to do. Hope this makes sense.
hey, i hope you see this. i was hoping for maybe a little advice or just, maybe some pointers. I dont want to ask too much but ive been having this issue that ive only recently recognized as a real problem and real anxiety rather than just normal worry. over the last 5 years, i have had alot of issues, i lost my dad, dealt with a horrible man that my mom called her boyfriend, lost a dear friend, though i regained him, i still dealt with loosing him as a friend for his own reasons. Now, I struggle with a constant worry and anxiety that not all my friends will have the attention or time they want with me. Maybe im scared ill loose them, but for so long i just didnt care about what it did to me, i lived to please my friends and if that didnt work out or if they got upset, i was upset, i have panic attacks and freak out whenever i think anything might be wrong, and i live in fear that something might happen so i try to take precautionary measures all day to make sure theyre okay and im pleased in my head and end up never having time for myself. im homeschooled so i dont get my work done sometimes because of this. the one friend in particular that left me and came back, i think i might worry me and stress me out the most. i care deeply about him, and over time, ive forgiven him for leaving me and he's shown me that he's really sorry and wants dearly to make up for it, even to this day. he knows about this problem and he's offered his advice, im working on it but i just need a good headstart. I cant keep living like this and i refuse to give into it. more than anything i want to do something selfish for a change and help myself
TheMr. Dime If you are worried about pleasing your friends or you feel like they will leave you, they ain’t your friends.
thank you for this
does listing down writing down what you have to do in the future and reading it over and over help? seems to help me
How are you my friend 💪🏾💪🏾
i have anxiety but i joined a speaking club to make a fool of myself with a group of people and get over it.
i still have it, only been to one lesson, i have a meeting tomorrow where we have to do stuff ad tbh i dont care.
Good for you - keep going, your confidence AND courage will grow! "It's not what we do that controls us, it's what we don't do." - Wayne Dyer
ALifeLessAnxious Thanks Bro.
Thank you. 🤗
You're welcome!
Ok lets say you are anticipating presentation that you need to handle perfectly and you have anxiety kicking in because of the fear of embarrassing yourself infront of you collegues and bosses that may affect you evaluation (shaky voice, palms sweaty and feeling like crap)
How to switch off this feeling and finaly feel free?
helps thanks
Im graduating in 24 days and i was stressed about the ceremony
This makes a lot of sense this helped me
Glad to hear it!
makes me realize the thoughts are way worse then when the situation or event comes
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