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  • Опубліковано 2 лип 2024
  • WHAT IS YOUR TYPE?
    WHY DO WE LIKE BAD BOYS?
    HOW DOES OUR FATHERS AFFECT OUR TYPE?
    HOW TO RAISE OUR STANDARDS?
    HOW TO ATTRACT THE MAN YOU WANT
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  • @Avalon1316
    @Avalon1316 5 років тому +3654

    You’re the older sister I’ve always wanted

  • @beigelover95
    @beigelover95 5 років тому +1228

    shes the older sister we all wish we had.

    • @4220E
      @4220E 5 років тому +6

      Younger sister in my case I'm 34 yes were out here looking 2 find the right one as well

    • @beigelover95
      @beigelover95 5 років тому +1

      Elita Johnson I hope you do sweetheart ❤️

    • @LeeC375
      @LeeC375 5 років тому +2

      Look, she actually complicating this.
      Men, they're simple... and that's what so wonderful about them!

    • @wowso4
      @wowso4 4 роки тому

      Iqra Qaali she sure is love all her advice!

    • @Anisha..Alayna
      @Anisha..Alayna 4 роки тому

      💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @sabrinanicoara4797
    @sabrinanicoara4797 4 роки тому +754

    You can tell a person’s true character during hard times (i.e., arguments, major disappointments in his life, and in strenuous conditions) Everyone shows who they really are when under pressure

    • @fizahaque
      @fizahaque 4 роки тому +24

      i am honestly so glad i saw your comment rn cuz wtf. he said it is his bad side and how he would prove he is better.
      so fucking glad i dropped his ass sis cuz damnnnnnn!

    • @klddere3734
      @klddere3734 3 роки тому +19

      @Jennifer G the problem with this is that people usually don’t show you who they are the first time. An abuser will not punch you in the face the first time they meet you.

    • @jaotv939
      @jaotv939 2 роки тому +1

      Very true

    • @Mia-ei4mh
      @Mia-ei4mh Рік тому

      And that's the time they left

    • @seekwisdom7254
      @seekwisdom7254 Рік тому +1

      Right that’s why we gotta wait….about 2 years a lot happens within

  • @Yaajennifer_
    @Yaajennifer_ 5 років тому +510

    It’s so hard to find a good guy these days. Cause there a some men they pretend to be this “good guy” in the beginning until he gets what he wants than he turn out to be the bad guy ...

    • @sasjaparsons5400
      @sasjaparsons5400 5 років тому +7

      Yes

    • @thanamesny7807
      @thanamesny7807 5 років тому +70

      Don't give him what he wants if what he wants is sex. But yeah I feel you. I say pray about it. Don't get into a relationship unless you get an Ok from God

    • @Mother_Earth777
      @Mother_Earth777 5 років тому +1

      Jennifer true

    • @shakur2567
      @shakur2567 5 років тому +2

      We are not good guys no more. Shut your goofy as up... you like bad boys go for dam. There is no good guys no more

    • @IAmAwesomeSoAreYou
      @IAmAwesomeSoAreYou 4 роки тому +33

      Jennifer always look out for the red flags they give out lowkey. They always do.

  • @3coeli
    @3coeli 5 років тому +2365

    YOU 👏🏼NEED👏🏼A👏🏼PODCAST

  • @mrsropaxo
    @mrsropaxo 5 років тому +568

    It's not a coincidence that her videos are always in sync with the season we are in... because Breeny only moves when God tells her to move.. and it so clearly shows in everything she does! and it also just goes to show that God is never late, he is just in time every time, gives her a new message and she delivers so effortlessly...
    Stay blessed

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  5 років тому +29

      Thank you girll for recognising

  • @sailormoon6240
    @sailormoon6240 5 років тому +513

    I attract toxic and lost men . I’ve been thinking Why I attract these men so I’m glad I found you and your channel

    • @m.w.5411
      @m.w.5411 4 роки тому +103

      That happens when you have a healing nurturing energy

    • @blossom6235
      @blossom6235 4 роки тому +50

      SAMR HERE, IM FED UP WITH THE SAME PEOPLE IN DIFFERENT BODIES, THAT IS WHY I HAVE DECIDED TO STAY SINGLE FOR EVER AND JUST WORK ON MYSELF TO BE THE BEST ME.

    • @naledi0017
      @naledi0017 4 роки тому +2

      yeah i use to do the same until...

    • @TokyoBlue587
      @TokyoBlue587 4 роки тому +5

      @Sta Sea you still did the right thing, getting toxic people out of your life.

    • @Sariine436
      @Sariine436 4 роки тому +14

      I keep attracting Indian guys 💀

  • @0Demiyah0
    @0Demiyah0 4 роки тому +353

    Ladies, lean back, be present, let him come to you, let him show up for you, and keep it light and positive. Until he's said he wants commitment, keep dating other guys, or you might get too invested with all your eggs in one basket. Create a bit of mystery and tension. You're the prize!

    • @robertolsen2236
      @robertolsen2236 2 роки тому +10

      uhh no you are not the prize a working relationship is other than that its a kid who has the best aspects pf both the parents

    • @VegasD702
      @VegasD702 2 роки тому +3

      @@robertolsen2236 thank you... What prize? 🤣

    • @dior6390
      @dior6390 Рік тому

      @@robertolsen2236 we’re talking about dating tho, not exclusive relationships

  • @dianasj
    @dianasj 5 років тому +666

    I feel attacked 😩😩😂😂 you described me! Its a never ending cycle of feeling like i won when he comes back, and when he leaves, feeling desperate and broken, until hen returns.

    • @cherrytung
      @cherrytung 5 років тому +41

      the exact same thing happened to me. you need to cut your losses soon, fast, quick! your youth doesn't last forever. something so valuable should not be wasted so easily!

    • @saranox7319
      @saranox7319 5 років тому

      Same. I can‘t live like this, I kick him to the curb. But let him feel he won. :P

    • @iamtheonlyaura
      @iamtheonlyaura 5 років тому +1

      Girl! Ok! 😩😂😂😂😂
      This was a WORD! If I wasn’t in my office, I probably would have done a church shout!!

    • @audreym.f9077
      @audreym.f9077 5 років тому +5

      you're high value! never forget that!

    • @electricred91
      @electricred91 5 років тому +1

      @@audreym.f9077 amen !

  • @876tisha
    @876tisha 5 років тому +516

    I don’t think what you attract is the point but what you entertain. When your a good looking person you will good and bad people. Also if you have great energy you will attract everyone as well. If you don’t know yourself you will push healthy people away and entertain people who are toxic.

    • @lalasings21
      @lalasings21 5 років тому +3

      Latisha Williams yesss !!! Preach

    • @876tisha
      @876tisha 5 років тому +59

      leiafoote If we keep telling people that you attract what you are. People will start believe they are no good. Also what about people who their whole life been rape did they attract the rape to them. Sometimes people get unwanted attention. I met an awful guy once and someone had the nerve to ask me what I was wearing that night I met him. I was sis if you don’t get the hell out of here. 🤦‍♀️

    • @Sav.Age.
      @Sav.Age. 5 років тому +1

      Right

    • @dfromtheblock1537
      @dfromtheblock1537 5 років тому +5

      What a great point!

    • @HabitualLover
      @HabitualLover 5 років тому +1

      Good point!

  • @227Love
    @227Love 5 років тому +46

    “Will you raise your standards to make sure you get what you deserve” WOW sis 🤭🙏🏻

  • @zamaqueinspired
    @zamaqueinspired 5 років тому +145

    you are so spot on girl. I'm in that boat where I've been on a cycle of being with f*boys and I decided to give that up, I stayed single for a while to find myself and redirect my life. Just when I wasn't prepared to date I met this great guy who is so good to me its insane, he makes me feel valued to a point where I literary doubt everything he says in my head because I see now that I've been used to being the perfect one in all those relationships....and now that I've found someone better my eyes have been open to all my flaws and I'm lucky that we both teach each other how to live with one another.
    I'm just hoping that I won't self-sabotage

    • @lsjt8924
      @lsjt8924 Рік тому +2

      That story really gives me hope, thank you

  • @Sheldon1411
    @Sheldon1411 5 років тому +911

    I'm just proud of the content that you're creating, it's not mediocre stuff, it's real and hardhitting and so glad that you're getting more recognition because it's about time and God knows you have a lot to offer!!!

    • @Officialbolanle
      @Officialbolanle 5 років тому +8

      It's so refreshing honestly!

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  5 років тому +19

      thank you sweetheart xx

    • @Nadiahope7
      @Nadiahope7 5 років тому +3

      Yes to this.

    • @joannewatson8063
      @joannewatson8063 5 років тому +3

      @@BreenyLee you are so beautiful! I love the message you send that is honest and positive.
      Breeny could you please consider getting Stephan Labossiere on your show.
      You both would make a dynamic duo! I can see it already! Your viewing and rating would skyrocket.
      He is a Relationship Coach, Author etc. The best part is that he is Black and is in demand So, please consider contacting him and then bring him on your show.
      You won't regret it.

  • @minimalassembly7893
    @minimalassembly7893 5 років тому +569

    I’m immediately turned off by guys that have that fake “machismo.” When they have to raise their chin or not smile at the camera or try to give off a bedroom eyes glare, lol. That is when I know they are guarded and want a woman to dig to discover who they really are. That is the opposite of the way a man should be pursuing a woman. Basically, those types of men like to be pursued like they are the woman in the relationship, adored, yet respected like a man, with no reciprocation to the woman. Nope. As I’ve matured, I am starting to be more attracted to guys that give off a big, genuine, confident smile because I know they are secure, OPEN, enjoying their life, not depressed and also want a happy and secure woman without drama. With men who are open, they know exactly what they want and we as women don’t have to dig to find out. They also want a woman who knows what she wants.

  • @sonia8577
    @sonia8577 5 років тому +63

    I love how cool and intimate it feels when you record in a car; actually makes me feel like a kiki with a friend, not like an 'inspired wisdom' some ytubers make, like if they're superior to you

  • @kittymac9804
    @kittymac9804 5 років тому +58

    Oh my gosh, had me laughing when you said ‘looking for marriage, then you go with bozo the clown’! Theme park great analogy! Wish my younger self had seen this :) I’m so glad women have more resources these days to keep them strong for a high value relationship and maintain standards. Thank you xx

  • @BeatzByMK
    @BeatzByMK 5 років тому +266

    I don’t even want a relationship right now lol, but I still watch all your videos 😂😂😂 speak the truth, sis!!!
    Also, I feel like in order to be in a healthy relationship, we need to be healthy ourselves and be the partner we want to ourselves.

    • @colleen192
      @colleen192 4 роки тому +8

      Yasss girl same.. although I'm 19 .I really don't see it necessary at my age😊.

  • @NYCBJP
    @NYCBJP 5 років тому +201

    Yep I only attract quality men since I’ve raised my standards

  • @raishawty6281
    @raishawty6281 5 років тому +76

    Omggg you explained “your type” so well! When you said “I’m attractive to aura ... idk” I felt that!!! I was thinking that for min now. That shits real and I’m just lit cause I’m not crazyyyy. Thank you!!!
    -Rai

  • @LaGalletaLibrosyModa
    @LaGalletaLibrosyModa 4 роки тому +63

    "The right boy will make u a better person, but not in a romantic kindda way we assume" Totally True.
    Te admiro.
    Eres sabia Breeny🌸

  • @mariannimoh9514
    @mariannimoh9514 5 років тому +249

    Only been with one guy my entire life and unfortunately lost my virginity to him. But being with him has showed me what I don't want in a man. I want a very God fearing man. A man of honesty and integrity. A man of good character. I love the best:-) quality stuff

    • @Claudee911
      @Claudee911 4 роки тому +3

      Marian Nimoh same here, dated my one guy since 2013 unfortunately i left him today. He is no longer interested and I could tell he has no way to tell me, so i made it easier fr him today. Sad but it shall pass💔

    • @mariannimoh9514
      @mariannimoh9514 4 роки тому +1

      Clau. dee stay strong. You will get past it.

    • @Claudee911
      @Claudee911 4 роки тому

      Marian Nimoh
      thank you 🤎

  • @francesca4192
    @francesca4192 5 років тому +147

    You're officially my UA-cam pastor. Love ya, Breeny!

  • @XYZ-ln2qk
    @XYZ-ln2qk 4 роки тому +78

    I see men always try target women much above them on all levels: looks+money. But, women never DARE target men way above her financial level.

    • @shykellawilliams6528
      @shykellawilliams6528 4 роки тому +6

      I noticed that.... Crazy

    • @karamm1054
      @karamm1054 3 роки тому +3

      Have you heard og the term gold diggers ? 😂

    • @XYZ-ln2qk
      @XYZ-ln2qk 3 роки тому

      @@karamm1054 I guess it depends how piggy the human is.

    • @SiegfriedLextr
      @SiegfriedLextr 3 роки тому +7

      @@XYZ-ln2qk What? wtf are you talking about? Women ALWAYS go for men who have more money than them; is this your first day on this world or something?

    • @illybdlkdr4200
      @illybdlkdr4200 3 роки тому +3

      @Eliza B. A lot of women do sis it’s called hypergamy. In some cultures that’s the normal standard.

  • @octavia5265
    @octavia5265 5 років тому +30

    Tired of bad boys ready for a Good Man 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️

    • @shakur2567
      @shakur2567 5 років тому +1

      Good guys need virgin

  • @realvesselgem6527
    @realvesselgem6527 5 років тому +251

    Guys act like I’m wrong for having standards. Bye boo! 😘

    • @youyadiary
      @youyadiary 3 роки тому +17

      True, i started thinking maybe my standards are high so i dropped most of them & dated this dude and it was hell he was so controlling and abusive,now im so afraid of dating lol

    • @macaroons5360
      @macaroons5360 3 роки тому +8

      @@youyadiary raise your standards again sis, but make the standards higher. you’ll find the right man.

    • @youyadiary
      @youyadiary 3 роки тому +4

      @@macaroons5360 i hope so thank you 💛💛

    • @macaroons5360
      @macaroons5360 3 роки тому +4

      @@youyadiary don’t hope so, KNOW SO! 💕 i love you!

    • @lavenderflowers1075
      @lavenderflowers1075 3 роки тому

      @@youyadiary I'm really sorry

  • @janellek7960
    @janellek7960 5 років тому +179

    I realized something that's key the other day when one of my friends asked me what I look for in a guy and I named a few things and realized the guys I go for aren't even anything that I mentioned. And alot of the guys didn't even make up for the qualities they lacked. The only things they had was looks and they were "nice" but "nice" didn't make up for the lack of communication, lack of effort, and lack of honesty. From then on, I realized my standards really needed to be raised cause I look for certain things then put up with stuff that I really should have walled away from. This video was like another confirmation that I need to fix uppppp.

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  5 років тому +14

      !!!!

    • @Vibesbypeach
      @Vibesbypeach 5 років тому +14

      Sissss! “Nice” has been my weakness lately. When you’re used to bad boys that “nice” attitude may trick you.

    • @janellek7960
      @janellek7960 5 років тому +2

      @@Vibesbypeach yessssss!! It really does!!

    • @michelledavison2533
      @michelledavison2533 4 роки тому +8

      Nice guy = Porn addiction 🙄

    • @phugh3878
      @phugh3878 3 роки тому

      @@michelledavison2533 that’s all guys though ..

  • @JesusFreak141110
    @JesusFreak141110 5 років тому +112

    "God is the author of relationships. God is the author of marriage. And in the beginning He brought 1 man and 1 woman together. NOT 3, NOT 4!!!!" 🙌

  • @jas2beinspired146
    @jas2beinspired146 3 роки тому +10

    After dating a narcissist, a genuine loving character is what I would love to put a commitment into. 🥰

  • @Tiffrain
    @Tiffrain 5 років тому +635

    Tinder is NOT a great idea lol!🤣 I don’t know what it’s offering in the UK but in the states it’s filled with dudes that just want to have sex.

    • @Tan-ns2hr
      @Tan-ns2hr 5 років тому +93

      It's offering the same in the UK girl 🙄 Can't even get through to the first date stage. Men on there seem to think women are commodities smh

    • @mya4947
      @mya4947 5 років тому +4

      Samd story sis x

    • @Tan-ns2hr
      @Tan-ns2hr 5 років тому +20

      @Gina Schnickschnack Nah breeny definately doesn't mean that, she's a practising Christian so she wouldn't recommend that is kind of behaviour. It's destructive to our soul

    • @BreenyLee
      @BreenyLee  5 років тому +105

      Both my friends have met their boyfriends and potential future husband's on there. And I've heard many more stories like this. There's a way to use it and also a way to present yourself that wards off those type of people. (One tip: put the age metre up lol)

    • @Tiffrain
      @Tiffrain 5 років тому +47

      Breeny Lee That’s great to hear and I hope those relationships do lead to marriage. My girl, My pics were rated G and my conversations were never about anything sexual. Some men are just disgusting. One guy asked if I was a Christian I said yes. We talked about Jesus for a little and then he started to tell me all the sexual things he wanted to do to me. I did up the age before I deleted it tho but quickly learned the older men were just as dutty lol. Not my ting, but congrats to your friends tho 🤗

  • @kimberlyjefferson882
    @kimberlyjefferson882 5 років тому +73

    The way you broke that down was phenomenal. You are just GIFTED! Ive never heard this talk from another woman, folks give no details. You just have to figure it all out and suffer. Good God is answering and helping some folks tuh-day!

  • @duchthegoddess
    @duchthegoddess 4 роки тому +18

    Breeny I can so relate to this video!!!! My husband is literally “bae correcting me all the time showing me where I’m wrong” it’s like I hate it and love it all at the same time because I know it’s ultimately helping me to grow!!!! Keep making video beautiful!!! ❤️🙌🏽❤️

  • @womanonamission8677
    @womanonamission8677 5 років тому +29

    Your analogies are everythinggggg! 🙌🏾

  • @enadine6405
    @enadine6405 5 років тому +53

    There are a lot of guys that are confident and not bad. Confident doesn't have to mean cocky.

    • @silver_0447
      @silver_0447 5 років тому +12

      E Nadine yeah that’s what she’s saying.. quiet confidence is good

    • @enadine6405
      @enadine6405 5 років тому

      @@silver_0447 Yeah I know :) I meant like I feel like a lot go girls (not all) get it confused and think its just Assholes that have confidence.

  • @D33caying
    @D33caying 5 років тому +282

    I attract straight bums and it’s not okay😭

    • @munomuftaax3730
      @munomuftaax3730 5 років тому +58

      Keep rejecting them, and it will pass.

    • @bratzzii7474
      @bratzzii7474 5 років тому +60

      Lmaooooo girl same😭❗️❗️ this nigga ask me to take him out like excuse me😭

    • @arandaholley1719
      @arandaholley1719 5 років тому +23

      I am texting this reply as the same thing is happening to me ans he showes me a pic of his 7 kids.

    • @ashleymarie5500
      @ashleymarie5500 5 років тому +3

      @@bratzzii7474 IM DEAADD girl thats meee

    • @daphneepaul3737
      @daphneepaul3737 5 років тому +11

      Sometimes where you live only have bums. Do you live in the hood? Downtown? Don’t worry I live close to the university so I meet and date a lot of university students and they’re all bums too. sheraseven say if it’s the location we should move. But I’m not gonna move for a guy. The good guy will find y wherever you are if it’s meant to be.

  • @insideoutwithjaz4741
    @insideoutwithjaz4741 5 років тому +11

    Your videos are literally helping me get through a really rough time & break up. You recharge my soul girl! Your videos remind me of my worth and that Im going to be just fine. Thank you

  • @GenuinelyMorgan
    @GenuinelyMorgan 5 років тому +1

    I love your sit down chat videos! Dropping straight GEMS! I'm sharing this EVERYWHERE! Some people REALLY can't take it when you tell them about themselves & people really need to break thru their mindset & limiting beliefs that keep bringing these trash people in their life!

  • @CforChiTwo
    @CforChiTwo 5 років тому +184

    You are brain and Beauty ❤😍
    Spot on Sis!

    • @lovegrace3719
      @lovegrace3719 5 років тому

      Your Answer is found here, ladies:
      My wife is blessed because she follows blessed instructions, by GOD'S grace and to HIS glory. AMEN.
      "Your Husband: A Woman's Guide to Marrying the Best Possible Man." By Thaddeus Joseph Beaulieu
      Every man and woman get this book and follow the instructions. You will be spared much heartache/headache.
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  • @eugeniyah8078
    @eugeniyah8078 5 років тому +75

    I ain’t got the time to be “letting visitors in my amusement park for free” 💁🏾‍♀️ The guy that pays to get in will be a man “whose words make my spirit sizzle” 😁 Yes girl, thanks for the pep talk 😘

  • @amina-janine7447
    @amina-janine7447 5 років тому +5

    Every time I watch your videos I feel so motivated and confident thank you

  • @dfromtheblock1537
    @dfromtheblock1537 5 років тому +3

    You are heaven sent! It’s so therapeutic just listening to you.

  • @sunvavachi
    @sunvavachi 5 років тому +165

    Topic idea: how to move forward after multiple failures and heartbreak. I'm very independent and self acheiving but in both aspects of love and career it's been a failure and it's slowly getting to me now after a decade of suffering.

    • @jenflores34
      @jenflores34 5 років тому +24

      Sunethra you move on by forgiving them and yourself. Remembering who you are as a woman. Set expectations for yourself and your potential mate. STOP IGNORING THE RED FLAG SIS (we all do it). Recognize and change your own toxic behaviors (we all have them nothing personal). I recommend this app called SelfishBabe you’ll thank me later ✌🏽and blessings

    • @Metaphysicalmindspace777
      @Metaphysicalmindspace777 5 років тому +16

      Elevate your way of thinking about relationships. Yourself. Determine who you are at your core. Value yourself. I’m speaking from experience. Finally at 47! I get it. You are not your achievements. You are young. Beautiful. Get in touch with your feminine side and energy. We teach people how to treat us. Blessings.

    • @sunvavachi
      @sunvavachi 5 років тому +5

      Thanks for the love ladies. I'm working towards my dream of becoming an emergency pediatric doctor. It's been so stagnant past 4 years especially. I guess love wise yes I need to level up and cut as soon as I see red flags too. I am sad with way things are going but I do value myself. I just need to believe more. 🥰...thank you.

    • @sunvavachi
      @sunvavachi 5 років тому +1

      @@jenflores34 I'll check the app :)

    • @clubgel
      @clubgel 5 років тому +2

      you don't need emotional enablement or victim blaming. Need to soak yourself in objective rationality and look your ego in the mirror for all its flaws that is the only way out. But if it always a case of someone else messed me over etc. then you're in a victim mindset. Need to do Carl Jung shadow work.

  • @sammyjames1234
    @sammyjames1234 5 років тому +188

    I’m meeting the man God has for me in February 2019! In Jesus Name

  • @desiraeking4047
    @desiraeking4047 2 роки тому

    your analogies are GOLD

  • @TA51SHA
    @TA51SHA 5 років тому +1

    You're metaphors are on point! This message was so necessary right now. Bless you Sis

  • @ForeverShavante
    @ForeverShavante 5 років тому +142

    I just love to hear you talk💕

  • @cherrytung
    @cherrytung 5 років тому +25

    the feels!! exactly what i needed to hear. my standards were sooo low with all the f-boys in my life, who expect everything and offers nothing.. time to stop!!!

  • @victorygardenz6009
    @victorygardenz6009 5 років тому

    your vids are liberating sis , you’re the therapist i didn’t know i needed 😩💕

  • @kolaundriagee2057.
    @kolaundriagee2057. 5 років тому +1

    Girl keep speaking the truth. I truly needed to hear this. Thank you!

  • @teodoravujicic7956
    @teodoravujicic7956 5 років тому +130

    I don't want a relationship now at all thank you

    • @LeeC375
      @LeeC375 5 років тому

      See you just scared the bleep outta Mad Hatter. Nevermind her, she complicating stuff
      boys are fun :)

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 5 років тому +5

      @@LeeC375 maybe she's fed up not scared.

    • @LeeC375
      @LeeC375 5 років тому

      Yes, let's says is "fed up" what can she do. JUS GIVE UP ON MEN and look for love in a another women's arms. Surely, that's not what you're implying Krystina, is it!
      What I'm saying is your " your Overlord Breeny is complicating it!
      Men are simply and that's what makes us Wonderful.☺️

    • @teodoravujicic7956
      @teodoravujicic7956 5 років тому +5

      @Lee Cortez tf is wrong with u ¿

    • @LeeC375
      @LeeC375 5 років тому

      @@teodoravujicic7956"tf wrong with me?" I'm not happy Mad Hatter! Women have it so easy. All they have to do is show up ...in something pretty ( and look confident ).
      Good luck Mad Hatter maybe you'll definitely see thing differently when you get outta high school .. cheers!

  • @oftenunsaid2175
    @oftenunsaid2175 5 років тому +106

    Just watched your video about being desperate and I promise you that video popped up in my feed and It's a sign from God himself and the universe. My mother died when I was 12 so I didn't really have a connection of a mother besides my grandmother or my aunt but they weren't MY mother. I've been dating around no sex I'm still a virgin at 24 and I can say that It's a blessing. I do get insecure and beat myself up a lot about it. I'm virgin because I haven't found a man that I'm 100% comfortable around and that I trust. I've dated guys I almost had sex with but felt horrible that I dated them. You're truly an inspiration and I'm subscribing! Faith over fear and thank you for being empowering!

    • @HabitualLover
      @HabitualLover 5 років тому +9

      Keep your standards. Wait for the one who values who you really are at your worst and takes your best as icing on the cake. He's out there, I promise. I found mine. Sadly, he passed away after 8 years of seriously grateful heaven.

    • @Mother_Earth777
      @Mother_Earth777 5 років тому +1

      Often Unsaid i wish i was matured as you coz i lost my virginity to someone i was not comfortable with... u very mature❤❤

  • @JewelsRoyale
    @JewelsRoyale 4 роки тому +1

    I love your analogies! Even when you’re staying stuff I already know it’s good to hear it from you because you present it in a way that sticks. I love your confidence and maturity. I’m a few years older than you I think but I’ve spent all day watching your videos because you are so mature and sensible. Love your point about women going for wants vs needs so true! You are so right about needing to prioritise what we need over what we want. I am going to write that list thank you!!!

  • @TheGrizelda2
    @TheGrizelda2 5 років тому

    The way you present is dope. Everything you talk about feels like it is coming from a real experience, it doesn't feel like you read a chapter of some next relationship book and share with us what the deal is. Such energy is what I need at the minute and I love it. Thank you.

  • @metrini
    @metrini 5 років тому +191

    I dont think you can stop attracting losers to be honest. Most losers have inflated egos and dont fear rejection so they go after the chick way out of their level. And Ive never been attracted to the bad boy ( My Dad is still very present in my life) That might be why

    • @BarbieDawl.__
      @BarbieDawl.__ 3 роки тому +9

      Right I just ignore them , I say I’m beautiful I say thank you and keep it moving I don’t need a man to validate my beauty because I know I’m beautiful 2020 has been an eye-opener I really wish most women will see how beautiful they are and not fall for these men stupid tricks because men will really try to gaslight women into them thinking they’re not beautiful

    • @DianaGarcia-lb9dl
      @DianaGarcia-lb9dl 3 роки тому +11

      You will always attract the loser but as long as you put boundaries and dont allow or entertain them, little by little you will see them because you can see them coming from a mile away.

    • @trippylong8580
      @trippylong8580 2 роки тому +5

      Well it does depend on a persons location, demographics, economic situation,educational background etc,as to whom you will be able to meet in life..well at least that's what Ive discovered..not only just attraction with men,but everyone that comes into your circle will be toxic if the majority of your environment is toxic.

    • @yasmines.k.n9058
      @yasmines.k.n9058 2 роки тому

      @@trippylong8580 Couldn't agree more

  • @lizgonzalez2665
    @lizgonzalez2665 5 років тому +17

    its true you can have the right person but you will self sabotage if you are not ready either.

  • @mansiduqbwbhrkciduq
    @mansiduqbwbhrkciduq 2 роки тому +2

    2:30 i felt so much better after breeny said that she was anxious attachment because that is mine as well, and it makes me feel better that it isn't too late for me to fix my attachment just like breeny has or at the very least made a lot of improvement

  • @monstacat242
    @monstacat242 5 років тому

    I have BPD and its so hard to find youtubers content that hits the right note and my confused head understands, but trust me you are it! I love you so much, you have helped me so much!!

  • @vivi3522
    @vivi3522 5 років тому +26

    I'm liiiving for these car talks.

  • @Saywhatchaknow
    @Saywhatchaknow 5 років тому +65

    You should discuss what women should be doing to be ready for the right relationship. Love your content!

    • @Ptah1130
      @Ptah1130 5 років тому +5

      That would be a good topic

    • @x0kida
      @x0kida 5 років тому +2

      Living to please God. He will take care of all your needs and wants. ❤️

    • @thanamesny7807
      @thanamesny7807 5 років тому

      @@x0kida Amen!

  • @alexag7686
    @alexag7686 3 роки тому

    You are beautiful inside and out! Thank you for reminding me of who I am. I’ll be here bossing up, working on my goals, and working on becoming my best myself for myself, and I know that will attract the one meant for me. Know your yourself and know your value!! 🔑🔑🔑

  • @gummbootoothbrush9060
    @gummbootoothbrush9060 5 років тому

    your abbreviations are on point sis

  • @dianasj
    @dianasj 5 років тому +78

    Never thought of it like that, need, wants. Making my list tonight 🙏🏾🙏🏾 this video came at the right time

  • @AboveRubiesTV
    @AboveRubiesTV 5 років тому +16

    Dawggg! Don’t ever call me out like that again! This is so me! (But we have the same birthday lol ) Like, I have a lot of internal work to do, that’s why I cannot be in a relationship right now. Admittedly, they’re too much work for me and I got other stuff that NEEDS to be taken care of immediately. Thanks, Breeny ✨

  • @Thessaloniaworsley
    @Thessaloniaworsley 3 роки тому

    Girl you’re preaching !

  • @AllDolldUp69
    @AllDolldUp69 5 років тому

    I came across your page and been watching your pepp talk videos and I can not thank you enough for your wisdom . Sometimes you know these things but when someone else verbalizes it it wakes you up in ways your thoughts don’t because your emotions hinder it! You are blessed sis!

  • @quietecstasy8054
    @quietecstasy8054 5 років тому +21

    It's okay not to be ready... It's not forever. Agree so much about standards. "Hotness" is nothing without those important inside ingredients.

  • @nkycrystal
    @nkycrystal 5 років тому +108

    This video is just making me check myself 😩....

    • @ten7192
      @ten7192 3 роки тому

      You’re gorgeous

    • @nkycrystal
      @nkycrystal 3 роки тому

      Tenacity In Full thanks 😊

  • @DOTTIE25
    @DOTTIE25 3 роки тому +1

    This was so incredible. You’re so entertaining and wise. Thanks for raising my vibration. ❤️

  • @Rebekaaah
    @Rebekaaah 2 роки тому

    I found one video and now I’m hooked. I listen to you while I’m working, driving, working out, eating… Thank you.♥️

  • @gracewaithera7683
    @gracewaithera7683 5 років тому +18

    Honestly Breeny I just feel like God brought you to my life at a very crucial point in my life. I am all the way in Kenya but for the last two months I have to say God has really changed my life through your videos. I love you and thank you.

  • @vickyv3908
    @vickyv3908 5 років тому +30

    I felt convicted ! That message was so real. I actually have to re-evaluate myself because you are so right. If the right guy comes along right now all my insecurities will come to surface 😟

    • @hellonurseash1276
      @hellonurseash1276 3 роки тому

      I had a great guy! he was supportive, a great communicator, but when he started to focus on his business i felt that "anxious attachment" feeling and self-sabotaged the entire relationship. I learned that damn! I have ALOT to improve about myself which was never the conversation I had with myself until i was in that relationship. Great learning experience but it crushed my heart like no other bc i had that GOOD GUY...just wasnt ready for all of that

    • @zhulqarnayn1634
      @zhulqarnayn1634 Рік тому

      @@hellonurseash1276now I am pretty that you haven't found another great guy because your standards are high and that you stick to compare the guys that you've dating with this great guy

  • @RachCreates
    @RachCreates 5 років тому +1

    On point. Thanks for posting.. Your Daddy issues video had me bawling and giving myself with God a peptalk. I'm so grateful i found your channel.. It's like having your best friend in your pocket.. Much love.. ❤

  • @snjavister
    @snjavister 5 років тому

    Killed it!! I needed this 5 years ago, but I didn’t have it and had to experience everything first hand and I can say you 100% nailed it

  • @kaliapatrice
    @kaliapatrice 5 років тому +112

    I clicked so fast.

  • @citrises
    @citrises 5 років тому +15

    That theme park analogy is so good. So concrete > really put things in perspective.

  • @giulianavargas6669
    @giulianavargas6669 5 років тому

    ur hair looks so great!

  • @niaismyname2076
    @niaismyname2076 5 років тому

    actually crying when you brought up the Dad stuff. this hit so deep in me and makes sense. Thank God this can be healed.

  • @rainbowblack4463
    @rainbowblack4463 5 років тому +34

    You're so inspiring sist, this video is just about me

  • @jasminelockhart2111
    @jasminelockhart2111 5 років тому +33

    Preaching mama!! Coming here is like getting my word of wisdom for the day. I hope you're happy and healthy mama ❤

    • @lucy-bf6sw
      @lucy-bf6sw 5 років тому

      Laganja gurl is this you mama??

  • @roziestubbz
    @roziestubbz 5 років тому +2

    you just confirmed a major thing for me, I literally said out of my mouth and yesterday I found a guy who is everything I want but nothing I need. Thank you sis I'm just listening to all your videos while I do my hw to let your words resonate with me.

  • @brinechelle
    @brinechelle 4 роки тому +1

    Girl you preaching!!

  • @lorrainezingwena
    @lorrainezingwena 5 років тому +7

    Brenny so glad I found you yu’re literally speaking into my life

  • @snsl28500
    @snsl28500 4 роки тому

    Bruuh I'm just 3 minutes in and I'm sitting here with my mouth wide open absolutely mind blown. What you said about how our father forms our attachment style blew my mind. It all makes so much sense now.

  • @lilmonstahh23
    @lilmonstahh23 5 років тому +1

    I needed to hear this. A guy who I really don't level up to really has shown me that I haven't been living right. That I need to focus on my goals and getting what I want.

  • @marijkatilton3054
    @marijkatilton3054 5 років тому +6

    These videos are gold and precious gems, I don't see many ladies out here spitting facts and truth like you are and not only is it refreshing, it's VITAL. Keep it up breeny, love youuu ❤

  • @xjgd967
    @xjgd967 5 років тому +21

    This is what I needed right now

  • @kristinaleonardo9222
    @kristinaleonardo9222 3 роки тому

    You are totally amazing Breeny!

  • @anniehull9281
    @anniehull9281 4 роки тому

    I love you girl. You speak the raw truth and you got me hooked. All your videos have been so helpful. I am so glad I found your channel. I’m glad you feel the same way I do. DO NOT SETTLE LADIES!

  • @Midnightstar567
    @Midnightstar567 5 років тому +68

    I gave the nice guy a chance and I thought cuz I didn't think about how he looked and focused on his character that it would be amazing and It was in the beginning but turns out he was just good at covering up his cold heart he was just like my ex but worse lol no one is getting a chance till I have your kind of confidence Brenny 🙂

  • @usherofsoulsxx212
    @usherofsoulsxx212 5 років тому +19

    You are a real one ☝🏽 glad I found you...thank you eternally for empowering self love, accountability& growth!!!

  • @becomingdr.b
    @becomingdr.b 5 років тому

    Wow 🙌🏾😩 The way I’m reevaluating my life. whew! Much needed! I’m ready to come along the journey to rising my standards!

  • @TheScorp1000
    @TheScorp1000 3 роки тому +3

    I’m a social worker and the attachment styles - Girl preach!!🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @KimiJoy
    @KimiJoy 5 років тому +25

    Yes!! Been waiting for another Breeny video!! 😍🙏🏻

    • @michelesacks2168
      @michelesacks2168 5 років тому +1

      Kimi Joy same here . I just got so excited when I saw this 🤗..

  • @aidamanuel10
    @aidamanuel10 5 років тому +17

    "Level up this year".... You gat me!!!! Thank you for this amazing video😘😘😘

  • @maymay-gw4vz
    @maymay-gw4vz 5 років тому +1

    This is so inspirational! You can’t tolerate just about anything. RAISE 👏🏾 YOUR 👏🏾 STANDARDS 👏🏾. Once you become the boss you are, then you will attract like minded people.

  • @leahmaric
    @leahmaric 5 років тому

    The analogies are EVERYTHING 😂🙏🏼🤩 Really needed to hear this. Ty Breeny🧡

  • @shawnakash8344
    @shawnakash8344 5 років тому +11

    When is the show coming Ms.Breeny👀
    Really appreciate this useful advice 💯

  • @MaxxsMom
    @MaxxsMom 5 років тому +17

    I love that theme park analogy!

  • @romonabrowne4615
    @romonabrowne4615 4 роки тому

    I love this type of message, keep it up breeny. I have recently started to watch and listen to your pepp talk and i am absolutely leveling up. Feels like God has literally sent you like a messenger to me.

  • @dominiquedominiquepresents3291
    @dominiquedominiquepresents3291 3 роки тому

    I really love these prep talks queen 👸🏾

  • @JennieB_
    @JennieB_ 5 років тому +6

    Oh my gosh!! You’re so amazing. Everyday, I grow. 🌹🌹
    Thank you Breeny❤️