THIS Keeps ALL MEN Insecure Over Hair Loss (& How to STOP)
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In this video I explain how all men (myself included) who feel insecure over their hair loss get stuck feeling insecure. I also explain the only true way to not feel any fear or anxiety over hair loss. It's not easy, but it can be done. Thank you so much Matt for helping me pu this video together. Forever grateful.
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Only someone who has experienced hair loss (especially starting in their early 20s) knows what it feels like and how hard it is to deal with it. It sounds silly but it feels like a part of you is dying and if you had in sort of confidence in yourself, it starts to deteriorate the more the you lose hair. It really sucks. People who are not losing their hair just don't get it. They will tell you "Just shave your hair", "It's just hair" blah blah blah. In my opinion, those would be the folks who would take it the hardest if they lost their hair.
"Part of me is dying". "I'm losing confidence". blah blah blah In my opinion, you needed a better father figure in your life. This is what this channel is all about. Helping those like you who are lost.
Nuh. Started receeding when I was like 18. Was insecure about it when I was 20, 21.
Now I'm 32, and f**king love being bald.
Actually wish I was balder so I'd have to spend less time shaving it.
@@KrisVic91 You're the exception, not the rule. But I'm glad it wasn't too difficult for you and you were able to get over it fairly quickly.
@@shyman99 That's fair. But you shouldn't discount how people respond to something like this in such a smug way. And father figures and wise men are hard to come by since so many have been castrated metaphorically. I don't disagree with you though.
@@andrewvincent7299 - You do know that I took words from your post and copied them into my comment to demonstrate your initial post might be considered a bit smug. Wasn't sure if you caught that. In any case, sometimes tough love is what men need. If they have followed this channel for any amount of time and still believe hair is a valuable commodity, then they do deserve a bit of tough love, no?
I finally shaved my head yesterday after 5 years of worrying about my hair loss. Thanks Harry for building my courage up and to all the other guys to do it. Anyone who sees this message who has doubts about shaving there head JUST DO IT!! It's an amazing feeling. Be free and real
I have hair but i have shave it 10 years ago. Grove up and start to shave it again every day 4 years ago. Love the smooth feeling . Btw one girl love my bald look . Hair vs no hair she prefer bald look. So my dear friends don't be afraid of the bald look 😉💪🏻
Dude, I don't know if you know, but you are a hero! This problem is so widespread and is making life harder for so many men around the world. And it's still a taboo of sorts. There had to be someone to come around and create a space where men can get encouraged, inspired or just share their worries. Well done mate :)
Another great video, hope you're keeping well Harry 👍
Began losing my hair in my early 20’s due to medication (Accutane) I took in high school. Going from acne to hair loss really sucked… I’m in my early 30’s and still trying to get rid of my “safety behaviors”. Appreciate this chat and guidance mate! Much needed for me.
Im short and now getting bald, my insecurities are over the board now, one think that nobody would love you i know its stupid but that's how i feel.
Wow this video hit home and literally the same behavioural patterns as me. Very important video! Receding but still have a good amount of hair but the anxiety....
Thank you so much for the videos!
Thanks for your Channel.
I went ahead after watching all the videos and its been almost 1 month since just cutting everything off. first 2 weeks was weird but now i love it.
Great job!
Ye I've slowly been losing my hair over the years and I used minoxidil too for a bit just gave up with it in the end. It's the fringe thing that did it for me too, blowing all over the place and would genuinely make me ignore the situation I was in and who I was with and just focus directly on what people are thinking and trying to get out of the wing or rain.. goin in the pool etc was a no go. Last week I gave myself a bit of a buzzcut, not super short but got rid of my fringe and that alone has been a big relief and certainly made me more confident when I eventually shave it all off. I was so worried I'd get loads of people mentioning it but literally nobody mentioned it or looked at me funny. It's mad how it effects you mentally. Tbh I feel masculine af with shorter hair lol
Your last line says it all. I bet you look amazing.
i have been off and on trying to grow hair but buzzing it when that hair would look thin and horrible in the wind. today i actually buzzed off again and it feels different. feels like i own the buzzed bald look. feels like i am embracing it better and adjusting well. i went to church and was confident. i also am growing a heard to compliment the look. good luck all.
It is an identity issue and a belief that bald = no more s*xual market value.
But it is a false belief. When I was younger I had a full head of hair and was meant to do modelling etc but was insecure as f**k.
Now I'm bald I'm confident af, not because I'm bald, but because I just don't care. Women are attracted to internal emotional strength.
You can be the best looking bloke in the world, full head of hair but if you're insecure she will get turned off by you.
Also, I actually probably get more looks from women now weirdly. Or on dating apps, even younger women like 18-21.
I'm sorry to be blunt but balding isn't the issue, it's the beliefs you have around it and the insecurity you're projecting.
I fully agree. I also used to look really good in my 20s and early 30s, but still wasn't lucky with women due to being shy and lacking confidence. Now at 41 I begin to look old and scruffy, but my confidence has never been higher.
@@lordwiadro83 I'm familar with the bdsm world. And the guys that mostly do the best in it are 40 +.
A friend of mine is 43 Bald, built similar to bane from batman. At one point he had 3, 19 year old women living with him.
His current is 24 and stunning.
Women like masculinity and strength. Not vainity and insecurity.
@@KrisVic91ok well that was your fault, hair is the epitome of masculinity. Only you were insecure when you were younger
@@lordraw9909For someone with a full head of hair, why do you obsess so much about hair loss and contradicting what people think? 😂 It's actually crazy. You need to get off UA-cam honestly.
Great comment
I've been watching you over 4-5 years now
I'm glad we both ended up with the same conclusion, that using safety nets is "bad" because it makes you insecure
Over those 4-5 years, I've slowly been balding and it's really showing now and I don't care
My hairline is pretty receded and I have diffused thinning
I'm not using any treatments or products or hiding behind a hat
I'm not shaving my head either, actually I'm growing it out since I shaved it off 5 weeks ago because I was bored of my long hair and I wanted to see how far my hairloss has gone
it's just about confidence
Im 25 years old and have quite severe balding , already try so many thing including finasteride but the side effect is so bad (gyno, erectile disfunction) so i stop and the balding continues. As asian, balding is always something that people give bad perception in everything work, relationship etc. unlike in the west and since being bald doesn’t fit me at all i will try to hair transplant . Bless you guys who doesn’t need to go through this being asian can be sucks.
I remember my hair starting to fall out in my 20s and for me you either try and mask the fact or just shave it all off ! 😊
He has more hairs then me!! Honnestly, every time i come back from the hairdresser.... I am angry! I am saying what an incompetent haidresser. Then I change hairdresser ... get angry and think: what an incompetent hairdresser again. I shaved it all off and for once in 20 years, went to the grocery without a hat. Love It. I even noticed the girls kind of look at me again.
Thank you for your channel and all the stories. It is really helpful.
I m losing my hair . Now i got two options 1. Be a cry baby and get depressed. 2. Accept it as it is
Ofc choose option 2 cause u crying about it aint bringing that hair back 😂. So why not be happy and grateful still.
Best thing I have ever done, I had crown thining which in my view is the worst way to go bald because you don't see it but you know it's happening, I used to hate going into Next changing rooms as they have mirrors all round and I could see the ever growing patch, so decided to start buzzing it
I went from a 2 to a 1 then to a 0 within a few months finally took the plunge and bought Remington skull shaver which cut very short but wasn't short enough as i loved being bald I then got headblade and absolutely love a shaved head and now proper shave every 2 days, why was I so worried.
For those in doubt shave it off and if you really hate it grow it back .
Same here remember trying clothes on with mirrors all the way around and that was the first time I noticed my balding crown and felt like shit, I now never felt more free when I buzzed it all off , i agree a balding crown looks worse than a receded hairline
@@richardevans7035 I used to think ok I'm going bald but why can't I recced from the front lol
@@r12004rewy same here 😂
I started having problems with my hair when i was 16 im 18 now mine was different from evreyones story like mine didn’t start with the thinning it started with my hair not acting right when i
Went to shower and dry it thats when i noticed problems with my hair like it not growing right little hairs i was so confused
9:50 😞😭
I love being bald. If i had hair I'd shave it off anyway. Glad I have a heavy beard too. Does compensate
How old are you? Ava what is your line of work?
The thing is, I'm not mind-reading... Just stumbled over a video of a girl complaining about her boyfriend getting a buzzcut out of nowhere, and the comment section was really brutal, girls saying they straight up dumped their partner, saying they'd cry if they did that, that they lost interest in a crush after they went bald, etc. How am I supposed to tell myself it's all in my head when I see stuff like this in the regular?
They lost interest over their crush it's not you. Be someone worth being with. Get to know what attraction and masculinity is really about. read books about it. How to be a 3% man, Mode one, Models. Watch UA-cam videos about it like on PsyHacks and Mynonleatherlife. Get out of DM's and go talk to women, Don't fear rejection, use rejection as a form of rejection therapy. You have to have a level of self awareness to the point that you know your worth, tot he tent that no comment or rejection is the marker for how you ultimately feel about yourself. Rejection will always sting and have you asking questions but it is just a normal part of life hair or no hair. If having less hair makes it more difficult then so be it in my opinion. Overcome that difficulty and you'll be miles ahead of many others in so many ways.
Ive always had low self steem. My father left, i was bulliyed at school, i was part of the "worthless and ugly group", never had a GF and i dont have a lot of hair. Twenty-eight years old. Economy in my country is like shit and the salaries are even worst, so i cant afford a treatment.
I'M 100% Fuck3d
No your not, hair loss is natural. People really don't care as much as you think. We are self centered people.. we think about our self more than we think about others.
i used to look yung until i started losing my hair
Bro getting older is a privilege that not everyone gets
Gotta be honest I watch these videos, and I still have my hair, but I have even less hair than a lot of these guys that post these videos. It looks ok from the front, but when I catch my head in videos its terrible
I was never insecure about my looks while I was younger. Women had interest in me, talked to me first, gave the same energy back, etc.
Then in university I started balding and women lost all interest in me. It was the gateway to me getting blackpilled about looks. Men treated me the same (with respect) due to my physique, but women never liked me. Maybe it is good that it filters shallow women, but in my case, that was literally every single one in my life. Finding someone that is not shallow like that is nearly impossible in this modern fucked up lookist world.
Then I started taking finasteride, dutasteride and minoxidil, started growing out my hair and got a french crop haircut. People started to stare at me while walking down the street and uni. My Tinder matches improved literally 20x (from 2 a month to 40+). It changed everything and ruined my view of people in general. I changed NOTHING else about myself. Just the shitty hair on my head. From being treated like a human to being treated like shit to human again.
I saw how most of my balding friends broke up with their girlfriends and that was even more brutal. A few are still together, but they met while the guy already had hair and they actually built a connection over time that transcends looks. Everybody else is still single and going mostly for short term slays tho. It completely ruins your dating life unless you get lucky and find someone that is not so shallow AND you find attractive yourself.
At the end of the day, It does not matter if you are not insecure about it. It does not matter if balding does not bother you. You have to compete with other men and you just lose, women have no interest in you, your dating life is a joke, etc. You can live just fine like that, but MGTOW is not for everybody. And not everybody wants to be in a relationship where the women has 0 physical attraction and just uses you for money or fame.
I highly doubt that all women lost complete interest in you simply because you lost your hair, I think your own insecurity probably had a lot more to do with it. You can be attractive without hair, do you think women would reject a bald Chris Hemsowrth for Steve Buscemi with a full head of hair?
You can have hair and still be unattractive to women due to other failos. Women would just reject both for some other third guy in this case.
Chris Hemsworth with hair will always be more attractive than Chris Hemsworth without hair though.
And yes, they lost interest because of the hair. Once I got regrowth I also got interest from them back. Seen it happen to everyone else in my situation.
Dunno why people still cannot admit this. Bald men are universally regarded as ugly by women and unattractive. There is no such thing as an "attractive" bald guy. Maybe one in a billion exceptions like Jeremy Meeks (who was not even fully bald).
@@user-qg9in8ji7w You're living a very sad life, and it seems like you're the only bald person you know because the bald guys I know are all out there finding partners and living normal lives. Women are not as shallow as you seem to think they are, and not having hair does not turn you into a hideous monster. I hope you can overcome this.
@@OpinionatedChicken59 Already did by saving my hair and getting attention back, but thank you.
Regarding the other bald guys. Most will break up/ divorce with their partners anyways and are probably miserable but just coping and hiding it (why would you not hide it?).
@@user-qg9in8ji7w Get a therapist immediately.
I still can’t understand why guys get stressed about it. I just chopped it off! Thoughts?
Mate when I had hair I would chat girls up now I'm balding I don't cause most think you are unattractive fact .it does suit some but I've got a 🥚 head and it's not nice I'd pay a million pounds to have hair
@@wolves1980Nonsense mate. I was meant to do modeling in my youth. But was very insecure. Now I'm bald and confident af.
Women pick up on confidence.
@KrisVic91 not everyone feels like that but glad you do
@@wolves1980 If you need hair to be confident, I don't know what to tell you mate.
You even saying you'd pay 1 million to have your hair back repluses me.
You could do so much with that worth while. Yet you'd want hair? Why?
@KrisVic91 makes me depressed and low confidence wear hats I don't like it been depressed for years now I had a fut hairtransplant 10 years ago it was a failure and now have a scar I'd pay any amount of money 💰 don't like bald but that the way it is for me. Glad your happy tho god bless ya
I mean, i get it but most men go on meds and get transplants to have that hair.
"most men". No. most men are not insecure lemons. 🤣🤣🤣
Would be interesting to know the real figures. Getting in meds and surgery is for sure more prevalent in certain countries. I’d expect much higher in the US vs Europe for example.
Nothing against the video, but wtf, why did you put so many advertisements in your video? This is ridiculous
I just set it to automatic man and UA-cam puts them in there. I’ll change it.
Changed it. It said there were 3 ads which in the grand scheme of things isn’t that much 😂
@@Baldcafe I counted at least 4, but probably because I watched half of the video and then I opened again LOL
nothing against baldcafe and youtubers but you gotta use an adblock man
Its really simple. You need a therapist. Thats it.
Even if you didnt lose your hair you'd still have insecurity issues.
Who are you speaking to? The man sorted it.
@@Baldcafedo you mean sorted it by him shaving his head cause I dont think that will sort anything this come from inside not outside
Started finasteride at nw2 and will keep hair for next 10 years at least. In many ways i feel like i owe my life to this cope
Yeah if you feel so strongly that its a matter of life and death for you and if you are still looking at hair loss content even after taking daily medication then I'm glad things like fin exist for you. It can help people cope and come to terms with their balding over a longer period of time.
@@Baldcafe says the guy with the hair loss channel
@Baldcafe what im saying is it sounds like ur "coping" pretty strongly with the path you chose for yourself. I as someone with pretty agressive hair loss genetics am ofc empathetic towards others hair loss experiences, but i didnt make a youtube channel in support and dedication of my choices around balding. So i feel like i can say im doing a better job than you at least
@Baldcafe not to be a hater sorry i do love you baldcafe. I shaved my head when i first noticed balding and i felt ugly and like it didnt suit me. Im proud of my descision to take fin, i feel attractive amd confident again.
Any side effects? And did you got bloodwork done before taking fin?
The what community?
What are you referring to? Give more context
I've been watching the channel for years. I've been losing hair since 1988. I was at the point where I was about to shave it all off. But randomly decided to try a well known brand of 5% minoxidil foam instead last June. Only once a day, not twice as it recommends. I didn't have much hope it would work, else why would this channel even exist ?
My hair is now thicker than it's been since 1997. I now have my first hipster quiff in 25 years ! Sure, I have to use it F O R E V E R. If you can afford it, i'd say try it for 3 months, see if it works for you. If not, just shave it all off, and look as awesome as the guys in these videos do.
So you want us to believe you had been losing hair for 35 years and now magically it has reappeared? 🤣🤣🤣 Well that's a shame then because you looked awesome without hair and not you have a chemical rug on your head that makes you look like you have the estrogen of a chick. I'll enjoy the manly, male hormone look of baldness, thank you.
If it started for you in 1988 (36 years ago), by now, you should not have a single hair on your head.
@@lordwiadro83 - It's easy to pick out the salesmen nowadays. They have no shame.
@@shyman99Maybe the comment is from a bot, not sure is a good idea to keep training their algo responding to it.
@@alfacharliesheen6476 - BOT or not, it's a good idea to call it out because some men will fall for it if not pointed out.
Oh come on he hardly has any hair loss.
The degree of hair loss doesn’t correlate to the distress felt.once it’s going it’s going. Once you feel anxious about it the only thing that reduces that initially is your confidence in how well you can hide the fact.
But he still has time to fix it and can avoid all those paranoid thoughts.
I'm bald but if I could go back and fix it when I could. Bring bald does effect dating it just does some woman don't like bald men and won't be with because of it. You are suddenly in a group of things woman dont like lol. That said some woman like it some..
He def has hair loss going on what are you talking about he awiolsly for you he needs to be fully bald so you can be happy