What Gets Us to Do Stuff in Life? | Dr.K Explains
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- Опубліковано 18 гру 2019
- What gets us to do stuff? Where does motivation come from?
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People have said value discipline over motivation, but how can you use motivation to it's fullest? What actually gets us to do stuff in life? How can you capitalize on that? Motivation can be finicky, but there is a way to manipulate it.
In this video, Dr. K explains the psychology of motivation. Or in other words, what gets us to do stuff?
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What gets you out of bed?
my mom
My dog or a friend in need
Responsibilities
Ambitions
alarm or pee
I feel like i'm getting closer and closer to understand what makes me fail so much in life. Almost there, almost...
Are you there yet?
@@tristan2884 sadly life took me on a new path that doesn't allow me to care for my mental health as much, so it's on hold for now
@@valizougon Best of luck man
@@Frederik-rs3mq thanks, and good luck to you too
@@valizougon I'm curious. What's the new path that you are on?
7:06 "If you're feeling bored, feeling apathetic in life chances are you are living a life of satisfaction of desires".
Yk that feeling you get when you hear someone say something and it sounds like something you knew intuitively but you couldn’t put your finger on it before? Yeah I just had that feeling.
I’ve watched countless videos about purpose and motivation and this is by far the best explanation and breakdown to really help me reflect. Thank you Dr. K.
Aren’t we lucky. There’s an entire sub culture of the internet dedicated to motivation and self improvement, yet its lead by people with ideas, not professionals with solutions
For all that are asking about the difference between internal reasons and external desires, I think the best example is showing up for his appointments for his patients (internal) and not waking up for exercise (external). I understand it may sound opposite because his patients are external and his health/exercise is more about him, but the most important takeaway is that while he hasn't found the strength to wake up for exercise, he has found strength in believing and caring in his patients. While he cannot wake up to get himself to exercise, he can get up when it comes to other people.
So what has Dr. K found to be an internal reason for him to do stuff in life? For him, it's other people.
this video gave a lot of insight on what to do to better myself, thanks a lot :]
This was realllly helpful.
I remember a GDC talk which was on motivation where there was this picture of two triangles where the first triangle was the influence that get people to do something. The two triangles were a graph, where the first triangle was tallest at the start and then gradually reduced as you went right until it disappeared. The second triangle was the opposite, starting with nothing and then growing taller as you went right. The second triangle was about the things that kept you doing that particular thing.
The three motivations for the second triangle (which is once you are doing something, continuing it) are autonomy, mastery, and purpose.
GDC do have great talks, tho I don't play many videogames anymore. I replaced with internet addiction instead.
Hey Mr. HealthyGamerGG :) I think it's really awesome and admirable how much information and insight you provide for free. You're really helping people! I've been spinning some ideas on how to bring overall health and well-being into games, one of which being a silly and challenging series of running outside while playing through a video game AT THE SAME TIME. We put an NES on the back of a bike while I ran behind my friend, who had the tv strapped to his pack along with the power, computer, and cords in his front and back packs lol. We are definitely going to bring other things into the equation soon enough, but I hope you can see where I'm coming from with that idea and it has seemed to resonate with some viewers too. It'd be like a dream to get involved with your channel one day, I majored in Psychology and Science of Coaching... really enjoy helping empower and inform people. Keep up the great work! You're giving great tools for a positive and strong mindset!
I tried, but I can't moderate gaming, r/stopgaming
Once you satisfy a desire, it goes away for a while and then it returns. It’s not sustainable motivation. Most desires are not enough to garner sacrifice.
Yea, this point was my key take away from this vid. hard truth and soo true...
You suggest that motivation from the external world could lead to becoming lazy and bored and is not going to be sustainable, but when you work at a job most of that is likely external motivation because you are helping someone else's dream. If you agree with that statement, how can people develop internal motivation that enables success in situations like that, where it may not be someone's original internal motivation or dharma.
drewnixx i think the external motivators he is referring to are more like momentary/instant pleasure that require no effort. Things like porn, videogames, browsing the internet, drugs, sugar etc.
But how do i go inward? How do i know what drives me from inside? How do i know what is my internal motivation?
where can i learn more about this topic? any book recommendations?
Search up intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation
@@navirac9844 Seems like an interesting title. Thanks for the recommendation.
DEEP STUFF
Ok, here is a question. Does need for respect and recognition from the society by doing things that you like is an internal or external desire?
If you do it for the society's approval I would say its external. If you enjoy it and feel a passion for it, and would do it no matter what, it would be internal (my take at least)
does sound like in the end its externally driven
Care about yourself more! We are all invested in you now
7:04 but what is the solution if there is one. If I don't have an internal desire something to drive for or want then what ?
a good internal desire would be trying to become a better you
whether it be moving on with a problem that's been a burden on you for awhile or just tryna to be more honest person to yourself
i think you're still wanting things that are external or materialistic in nature, you may still be looking to acquire some kind of physical manifestation to supply you with whatever your needs are, when in actual fact an internal desire most likely doesn't really have too much to do with materialistic and or physical stuff. An example of an internal drive is wanting to raise your kids really well, or wanting to do your job brilliantly so you can be of maximal service to others, but an external drive is not like this, it's more about what you can get rather than what you can give, which is kind of how they differ. External drives usually revolve around taking, internal desires usually revolve around giving, the reason you may not have an internal drive to do something is because you are basing it off yourself rather than one what value you have to offer others.
We all in life reach a stage especially around 20ish, where we feel satiated in our sense of self or being, not that we are egotistical necessarily but we are just ready to achieve something or do something, you most likely are here now, and may not have a good direction to take those various steps. In general i think your own internal drives will be more towards helping or aiding others in some kind of way, you just have to figure out how you want to accomplish that, and to be quite frank, is that not *everyone's* internal drives, HealthyGamer mentioned relationships in this, he mentioned that what keeps his relationship with his partner together is that someone's got his back, but that experience in nature of an experience of service, he would contribute to the relationship to maintain the experience of having someone to be there for you, it may not seem self-evident but that is a selfless internal drive and would motivate him to contribute to the relationship by leaps and bounds.
If you want to understand your internal drives, you have to understand what you want to do and what you want to offer to the world, how do you wish to contribute, because in contribution comes self-actualization, because it brings a transcendent feel to life that self is amounting to the degree of greatness that self was destined for, as depicted in super hero movies and even the bible and many other religions that revolve around a the hero kind of archetype, you are the hero of this particular story, your internal drives will revolve around that unless you are materialistic which you don't seem to be based off your profile picture.
Start lifting I mean seriously "force" yourself to go the gym and fix your diet. If you don't see results in 3 weeks than come back to me, Don't question "why", just do it mate.
Update got myself a gym card been there 2 times and yesterday I decided to take a one week break from the computer and I'm sticking to it so far :) hopefully this is the point in my life when I turn it all around
@@simkont6793 Do it and don't stop, even if sometimes you don't feel like it just push yourself more harder. No excuses.
OK I really am looking for the answer. I have a therapist in Louisiana but she's not helping. I started a company but the government took it away. I started again with a local partner but he ran away with my money and laptop, 1.2mil. Then I decided to just work and save up money and invest passively, I would have been free to go live on the beach quite soon. But then suddenly I met someone and started working on his publishing thing, made a database, and thinking I have a digital nomad gig, I moved to live on a tropical island. He kicked me off the team and I couldn't renew my visa. I lost all my investment savings and I live in pretty much a prison now, a shitty suburban apartment, having to repay loans to the bank. No more good life. The bank won't even let me log in online anymore, some kind of new security authentication problem and it doesn't work on my phone, so I can't check my balance. I can't be bothered to do anything because everything is a disappointment, I hate everything. The whole world is broken. I just lay on the sofa drinking beer and smoking. Now there's opportunities to make money online again, but I can't be bothered to get off the couch. What gets me out of bed is two cups of coffee and a cigarette, maybe a wank. No matter what you do it gets taken away from you. I need to get back to living life but it just doesn't feel like 1997 or 2005 or 2013 anymore, it's not vivid, it's not exciting, it's just a weird techno dystopia and everything is pointless. We have famine coming, so I'm stocking up on smoked meat and noodles, and setting up a hydroponic system on the balcony, for basic survival, but if anything happens, I'm not fighting for survival. But how to get back to being motivated about being a young man starting life, making big money, exciting life, things are happening, the world is full of flavour, color, used to feel visceral, connected to decades of history, culture, meaning, now nothing has meaning
Where and how do I post a question?
Great video sir.
I don't understand the difference here between in internal and external. They look the same to me.
external is anything that interacts with you senses
someone got the link of the interview with derek ?
"Psychology behind Laziness and Lying to Yourself [interview]" is the interview w derek
@@HealthyGamerGG Thx :)
@@HealthyGamerGG Was this interview taken down? I can't find it.
@@benn1778 same
It is more effective to be motivated to DO. Not the desire to HAVE DONE. I’m a weight lifter. I am motivated by the lifting. I want to DO the lifting. I don’t want to simply HAVE done it.
Ok, this video hurts my brain a bit
...Oh.
Hey, what do you think of Jordan Peterson? Loving ur videos btw.
He is alot like Jordan Peterson
@@noodlery7034 Except for the constantly hating on the left from dr P.
@@corpusalienum2665 pOsT mOdErN nEo mArXiStS
@@corpusalienum2665 Jordan doesn’t hate on the left he hates on the radicals. Peterson is a kind and empathetic person he has never once said he hates the left
@@Ella-le4lk He does not need to say it, it is obvious from most of his videoes.
Idk if you read these comments but I would like to hear your opinion on trans people and video games. It seems anecdotally that a lot of trans people are in video game communities. Is this due to emotional suppression during child hood etc. I love your work and would love to hear you explore these ideas. Thanks keep up the good work!
Not talking for anyone when saying this: I think he talked about this in one of his interviews (Might've been with Devin). He said something about it being amazing that there is a community that is for rejects and that there is a place like twitch where those people can gather and have a place to belong. Same reason why this place is special by giving him a place to stream and do his dharma.
Same logic would apply to a lot of trans people, since they have an above average rate of being rejected from certain parts of society and thus seeking refuge in Games or Platforms like Twitch
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