Could not have said better myself! If you want someone with high quality, be prepared to step up your game by being challenged to be better each day. It's a team effort, not a place of complacency
I do respect her willingness to step up her game and improve herself while being with a man she views as high value. Some women will want a guy of high value, yet won't be willing to step outsude of their comfort zone and make changes to their lies for the better. Any man worth a damn will always be looking to better himself 1% each day, and will expect his lady to do the same.
Honestly this has nothing to do with whether you are high value or not, this just boils down to genuine burning desire. Women will still behave this way for a broke luuzer if they have genuine burning desire for him.
But many have a checklist. He must be at least 6ft 2, must own his own house & car outright, must earn at least $100K per year, must have a degree etc.
It's moreso when these women want to have a long term relationship and/or marriage that this becomes an issue. They want to have burning desire for their future partner but also want him to have status/wealth.
That broke loser who she may go after has game compare to most guys that why he can pick up women being broke but it never works out long term because most of the time he never levels up which most women don't like so he will just move on to the next woman when it over
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu maybe in the big cities, because I only see that online. I don't see that in person. I'm not 6 ft tall and I don't struggle getting women and I don't have to intentionally do anything to impress them, it just happens naturally. I'm sure if I lived in Florida or Vegas or Los Angeles it would be a different story, but for most of the country, it's not like that. Women just want a masculine man that's confident that's funny that looks good and that isn't going to leave her stranded somewhere
When it comes to long term relationships, almost all women want a high value man. Women value a man that can provide for them financially and physically protect them. That’s why most women chase after 6 foot guys with 6 figure careers and 80% of the women are either single, have a placeholder boyfriend, or are sharing 20% of those hv men.
All women want high value men but there are only so many truly 'high value' men out there. A high percentage of women fighting for a small percentage men could be problematic.
Depends on WHAT is defined as "high value man"!!! It's NOT always about MONEY or HEIGHT. (I'm a woman & NEITHER of those things are "standards" for me). I certanily want a man who's financially responsible for himself (Wasted by 20s on 2 men who were free-loaders). I want a man who's intelligent, kind with a sense of humor. Also: we need to share SOME common interests (NOt all!) That doesn't seem to be delusional
I can vouch for this. Women who pursue a "high-value" man are usually looking only at the superficial. So "high quality" and "high value" do not appear to be the same things. In fact, the people that I have come to admire and respect in my life are NOT the ones who had a lot of nice material things, went on a lot of expensive vacations, etc.
If I recall correctly, in the previous TikTok you mentioned, the woman was saying how much of an effort she would have to put in to keep up / be worthy of a high value man - it sounded like she wasn't sure she wanted to work that hard. This woman has decided she does want to put in that much effort. Both women are right - if you can't keep up, then don't think you can play at that level. The same thing applies to men - so many think they want to date a supermodel, but don't think about how difficult it would be to keep up and be worthy. Pick your lane and stay in it.
I don't know where you get your information, but the vast majority of men want a friendly woman who respects her man. So many young men can't get a date or a girlfriend. Statistics show men grade women on a bell curve. Only the absolute worst women will have trouble getting male attention. The average man is NOT looking to date a supermodel! That statement is a cope to make a woman feel better. He's just looking for a woman who won't branch away and take half his stuff. Women grade men on a very steep curve. This woman in the TikTok is just fortunate enough to have gotten one of the top men now.
I would hardly call it "effort" though. Making your Instagram private, and be willing to use different clothes, it's pretty basic. There are women willing to ditch a decade long relationship just for a 1 night stand with a celebrity, others will happily be pissed on (literaly) to chase de bag. True effort is something that is supposed to last as long as the relationship, and it's something that goes much deeper than making the Insta private and stuff like that. If we switch genders here, that level of "effort" would be considered pathetic.
But he most likely isn't, she likely just found a situationship. High quality guys who are still willing to approach in the West are rarely serious about relationships.
I’m proud of this comment section for accurately calling out how wholly *useless* this video is. “People want better stuff and people” Gosh Courtney, I never knew that! What a good point! 😵💫
"High quality guys that actually like you" would be the caveat. It's not like women don't continually chase after high quality guys, but at least this girl is willing to put in the work so props to her.
Some key components to being a high-quality individual are expressing confidence and being personable. Present your best and strive to become better! Plus, having an appropriate sense of humor is an excellent charm!
I've been married for 20 years and we are a team that loves each other and our child. As a long time Teddy B watcher/fan it does my heart good to see the success of you two. The world is in good hands. May god bless your family and your future. Keep striving for the best in this crazy world.
She described all these things about her that she wants to improve now, but a man with that much they'd need to improve on they wouldn't even get a chance.
Issue is , they want a high value man while they themselves aren't high value women. She said she wants to dress more modestly & not post on Instagram because of him. Great, but if she was a high quality woman she would've done that to begin with not wait for a man to come & change her. Cuz if these high quality traits do not come to her by nature, then she can easily revert back to her old ways. Moral of the story is : Be a high value woman for yourself. Not for a man.
Exactly! The man has to come pre assembled to match her perfect wishlist of traits but that “perfect” man is supposed to be happy that this average or just slightly above average woman is willing to quit all her horrible habits now that she has run into him 😂 Ladies if you want the perfect man you better be perfect before finding him. You can not expect him to come pre assembled just the way you dream of and he has to wait for you to get it together. Get out of here with that ridiculous double standard.
Nice Catch 22 for women you're presenting. EVEN if she changes frm what you see as negative (skin-tight clothes, posting on Instagram in the pas)--that's NOT good enough for you--since she should ne3ver have dne those things to begin with. I have little doubt you'd howl with outrage if women judged YOUR past (living in mom's basement, playing video games endlessly, working some part time shit job)--until you hit 10 0r 20 & "found yourself" & better goals.
@user-cz5lj2vx1f Wow mad much girl ? Looks like i reached my target audience. Read my comment again & try to use your comprehension skills this time rather than your blind man-hating skills. And p.s, as a high value man I've always carried myself well. For myself. Its not about not having a past. It's about always carrying yourself well according to your values & what you desire in life. Not wait for the possibility of changing when the right person comes.And all those mommas basement jokes.. you're probably projecting your father. Have a great day.
@@LisaFenton-h7f 1. You never focused in English Class, right? 2. If you want a high-value man, you must be a high-value woman (to most men). No excuses, gold digger.
This is why decentering dating is a sign of becoming an adult. Your own happiness is enough, and you build a life to keep yourself happy. You only date those who fit into it, and add something to it.
@AlexanderSkinnerVids taking my statement out of context just to sound smart you logic is quite concerning to assume I am not happy with myself I am complete and whole but relationship nowadays to not reflect a partnership where both are helping each other grow instead women are demanding a high quality performance from a man what I mean is women do not know how to be likable for them to even get a high value man. All you see is the entitlement complaining about money where is the pursuit of love it's all transactional
1:27 I remember that video too! That woman was almost sorry for getting what she wanted, but this lady is a breath of fresh air. Hope she sticks to him and they are both happy.
Courtney, I think you have a good idea on a high quality man. I think many women would agree to that WITH THE ADDITIONS of looks, height, wealth and/or business owner, or possibly some sort of minor or major celebrity status. That means that us high quality men who lack some of those 'additional traits' don't appear to be high value at all because women won't bother to get to know us.
I am 59 years old, single, no kids, never married, & haven't dated or been in a relationship with a woman in 29 years, but I'm not gay, and lastly after finding out what I have about women, I choose to be alone.
Hi Courtney, your analysis is spot on. For me it's about accountability, integrity and honesty. Three traits that transcend physical appearance and economic status.
Sometimes you're so far off, it's scary. That first lady wasn't going the extra mile, gym-wise and all, for "a good man who has integrity, a man who is hard working, etc,," but simply because she was highly physically attracted to him. Integrity, honesty, yada, yada, all goes out the window when the guy is short and bald. None of the lofty things you mentioned were on her mind, trust me. And that's fine. At least be honest about it.
I’m a fit guy. Any woman I would be interested in shouldn’t *need* me to motivate her to go to the gym. I would want to be with a woman who’s going to the gym on her own, regardless of if I am or not. And the reality is we both enjoy it enough that we’re naturally going to go together a lot.
Absolute truth. They’re so called “high quality” or “high value” man. Is basically just a dude they are really attracted to with money. “Rules for thee but not for he”. This is how you can tell if she is “settling” for you. Always remember that the guy she truly wants will always have access to her. She will do whatever that guy wants. Standards and boundaries go out the window for that guy. She will lie and gaslight herself for that man just to convince herself to continue being with him no matter how he treats her. Rule number 1. Never listen to a woman. Simply watch how she moves, her behaviors and actions. Over half the time women have no idea why they do what they do. They simply function off of or are dictated by their emotions. If you want a successful relationship the woman has to be way more invested/interested in you than you in her. You can say I’m wrong all you want doesn’t change the fact that I’m right.
I recently stumbled on your channel and love it. It has been helpful and your feedback is wholesome and accurate. As a 42 year old, divorced, single dad of a 4 year old girl, I’ve never found anything more difficult than dating lately. I make good money, am attractive, fit, and know what I want. In my opinion, no one wants to put in any effort to make a relationship work beyond the first few dates. I’m here, ready to commit, but seem to be on an island of one.
A woman has to be attracted to a man to begin with, before the other qualities, personality, values, morals, standards, communication skills, and attitude that he has is taken into consideration
It's not really about being a high quality man or woman. It's about being a high quality human. This quality is good for everyone but it's nice to have a partner that enjoys these same activities and mirrors yourself.
Nope that’s a feminist lie, your indoctrinated, woman at the end of the day will always look for the next big thing. Hook up and relationship material are two different things. It’s not something you can change it’s in their biology.
Hey Courtney, I’ve been listening to you for a while and think you have some great insight! I would like to encourage you to keep telling women about your experiences with your husband. They need to keep hearing the message about making wise decisions. Not that they can find the perfect husband, but that they can find the right one who, at his very core, helps her to grow in every way on the path that she has chosen. If she has chosen wisely, he will, of-course, be in full agreement with that path. Keep up the good work! You’re awesome! God bless!!
High Quality Men from my experience, means fit and rich and maybe popular. Normally, I don't begrudge women's tastes, but when it comes to this topic I can't help but say this. Women often times swear they KNOW what high quality is and instead its just a man she finds sexually attractive. That's it. To me, its never going to be about anything else for them because honestly, until they realize how superficial and unfulfilling it can be to ONLY be attracted to them physically, they're not going to understand why they need men that don't just MAKE them want to do more, but also need men that help them connect and grow as a person. High Quality isn't just rich, fit and social. None of those things make up who a person really is, and what a person really wants out of life.
Spoken like a kid with no experience, common sense, or knowledge of women. Grow up, be a man, and you'll find that this isn't remotely true except what social media portrays. It's a small % of women who are like this.
There are a lot of high quality men out there, but because they lack wealth, height, or some sort of status such as owning your own business, women won't even notice you or bother to get to know you and find out you are High Quality.
Rich fit and social are the bases of what woman look for in that order.😂 what your referring to is either moving to the next best man more money better looking or more charismatic or she is getting ran through by multiple men because she is a feminist. The ladder is their natural path but feminism tells them to find the guy they like without considering the monetary value they provide.
behind the scenes all they're talking about it wealth or the potential for wealth. Courtney even slips up and shows this when the first item in her list at 6:30 is her husband's business ambition. Then his "health and wellbeing." Fitness and looks are, of course, a signal for wealth or potential for wealth. Notice how she doesn't say "watching him show kindness to strangers" or "watching the way he navigates complex ethical questions" or "watching his spirit and passion for living." The Tik Tok woman says she wants to dress like Sofia Richie. That means wealthy, guys. All high quality means to the TikTok woman and Courtney is a bank account and the downstreams of that (status, fitness, etc.).
BANG. Great comment. It might be overstatement to say that that is "all" it means, but for many that is true, and for many more it is close to true, so no big deal. Money is big driver, but throw in height/looks. Quality of character scores low, whether anyone admits it or not.
Such great points - supporting each other and helping to lift each other up are signs of a strong, positive relationship. Happy for you that you are so happy in your relationship :)
We're all indigenous to earth. Strive to be your best as a complete person. Don't be selfish and always help others, and set examples of a quality person, whenever the opportunity presents itself. Do this while being kind and understanding. Never expect anything in return.
Ideally, he and she "make each other better and higher quality people." Much like there are athletes who make teammates better players (think certain NBA stars). It has to be teamwork, with both sides carrying their weight, and picking up and lifting up each other.
Forget the sourdough starters. Learn how to make buttermilk biscuits with White Lily flour. Unfortunately, unless you live in the south, White Lily flour is hard to get, so you can substitute 2 parts self rising flour with one part cake flour.
High value to women equals money and power. Not decency. Being a good man that has values, and morals and to do right thing is considered weak by 99% of modern women
I think there’s a misconception in dating where “finding a high-value partner (male or female)” is some sort of eureka moment, when in reality its just sort of a subtle flow of events that leave you at a constant state of satisfaction. I’ve dated women and had explosive passion thinking wow she’s so great, and then got hard stopped with red flags. I’ve also dated women who felt comfortable and smooth, but constantly wondered to myself “where are we going?” I also dated women that realized I had some growing up to do, and rightfully took their search elsewhere. I’m dating someone right now, and the only way I can describe it in words, though not even close to accurate, is easy and simple. The dynamic is such in that at some point I just kind of subconsciously became aware that I was in a constant state of appreciation in regard to our team dynamic from date to date. Our ideas flow back in forth with synergy and spontaneity. It wasn’t some singular event, but a culmination of growth through interaction. I’m looking forward to seeing where it goes from here. Just my two cents on the topic. Try not to spend them all in one place.
I love this video. The girl is gurgling and bubbling with positive lovey stuff and I applaud it. Good for her. Same experience for me now. Falling head over heels for a girl is super dangerous and super necessary. It's such a rush and such a high that people avoid it because the letdown is so traumatizing. Fight For Love??
Everyone has their own values and may describe a "High Quality Man" differently based on their values and life experience. Between two people, certain characteristics may attract when they seem opposite to one another, and some will attract as they become similar. You worded it nicely in your video. It will interesting to see how the dating market evolves with time.
Never underestimate the power of personality and behavior. These two things build attraction much more than people realize. However, this concept flies over the heads of so many people. Just read this comment section for example.
Excellent advice, Courtney. Y'know, I turned 50 last month....and I feel good about it. I've followed your channel for a while, and I'm pleased that you've kept it fairly "ageless." Or so it feels to me. It feels mature.
I was with a woman for 2 half years. She just recently broke it off coz she wanted to have a home together in the future and wanted me to visit more. I hate long distance driving so always refused as I knew I couldn't keep it up. She lives 2 hours away and has a daughter. She would come down cook clean She was great. I was video calling once or twice per day after 4 months being together. She broke it off by saying I love you so much but I'm tired about the driving and want more. I just couldn't see a future with her living together giving up my flat as I enjoy my alone time. She was pulling away at the end coz I didn't want it to progress. I'm not sure if it was the video calls that did it as we both loved seeing eachother and it lasted 2 years. Great girl just heartbroken that she demanded more after she stated in the beginning she enjoyed the drive and the cooking. I just enjoyed going abroad making memories together and having space away from eachother. Feel so lost now.
my husband is a high value man - no, he's not insanely rich and successful, but he's a hard worker, he's funny, he treats me so well, and he's easy on the eyes 😅 "high value" should not automatically mean wealthy or what have you.
I don't always agree with Courtney, but she's right on this one. Be a high quality person, and surround yourself with high quality people, whether they are just friends, co-workers, or a dating interest. Those people can only make you better than you currently are. As a single guy (long term single at that), if I was given a choice between a low quality woman who was a 10 in looks department, or a 5-6 in the looks department but she aligns with my values and has her life together (i.e. high quality), I'd take the 5-6 in a heartbeat. Because, the high quality woman is going to want to build an US. She'll be as interested in the WE as I am. It wouldn't be about MEMEMEME. My personal opinion, I'd rather spend a lifetime alone than spend 1 day with a low quality woman.
I love this... I love when a partner inspires you to be better. Unfortunately, I see too many people (especially women), who hook up with a 'boy" just because she doesn't want to be single. I say: work on yourself and be happy until you meet someone who wants a happy and great person.
I agree Courtney, I'm going to clip this to all my friends. I would say on the Sofia Richie point, I like a more timeless classy look like Grace Kelly and Audrey Hepburn
You can also not get married and self motivate. I’m not sure why people feel the need to find someone else to feel complete. That’s one hell of a Disney story taken for real life.
Girl! Not sure if you're ever watched Man Talks by Connor Beaton, but his newest episode would be an amazing conversation point for a video for you. It revolves around the "angry male" podcast/UA-cam guru. Connor does incredible work (my partner loves his book and podcast) and it's so incredibly worth watching and talking about. I think your audience could get a lot out of hearing your perspective on this topic.
I think the best compliment you can pay to your partner is to let them know how much they inspire you to be a better person. The ultimate question in the "high-quality/high-value" conversation is the definition of quality or value. We live in a very superficial culture, so I expect most responses would correlate with superficial traits. To a lot of women, high-quality means a fat wallet and panty-wetting handsomeness. To a lot of men, it means a 10/10 arm trophy that's virginal but a corn star in the bedroom. Their standards are way too high and emphasize the wrong things.
While I understand the concept, I think it may be dangerous to be with someone who has you on your toes because otherwise you fail. When you're with someone that you feel is great, you want to be great yourself because that's what you want to give to them, because they see and bring out the good in you, because the love you feel for another has to stem from your self love. I really recommend the book The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm. An oldie but a goodie.
I know I’m not ready for a relationship, I just want to make sure that I’m in a place where I can support myself and a woman. Because that’s what she deserves. I hope that means I have quality 😥 Thank you By the way Courtney!
Yall humans need to leave social media and stop listen to creatures that don’t what THEY want actually..so be happy with yourself first ! Vagina is overrated 😊
I like what u said in the beginning of the video everyone what they look for in a high quality person is different and I like that part bout team work i think people get in relationships and forget that there's someone else is there and they don't know how to act like a team.
weather women are willing to admit it or not, most often times not so they can sound genuine. high quality or high value today primarily means money, lets a call a spade a spade here. finance, trust fund, 6'5, blue eyes
Well, we don't know what she means by "high quality men". As far as we know, she means a multimilionaire, that she finds worthy of putting in some effort. Normal people behave the same exact way when they actually fall in love with someone, it doesn't need to be someone "high value". The video could literally be titled "I found someone I like, so I'm putting in the effort for that person", as it is basic relationship 101
High Quality Man = Having: Integrity Kindness Is Hardworking Respect Honesty Self-Discipline Good Listening skills As a single guy, when you listed these qualities down, it just put a smile on my face 🙂 as I thought to myself, "Hey, I HAVE all these! 😃"
Good video. I'm just wondering. 1.What is the definition of high quality man. 2. Why a high quality man wants to marry the woman that made the video we show. 3. What is the definition of high quality woman. Ideas for future video. Thanks.
Usually the escorts or prostitutes look older, not as pretty, and pics are fake. The real high quality girls can get rich without prostitution cu everything is handed to them already :/
One thing that is never mentioned, but honestly, maybe should be, is that it seems everyone is looking to find the partner that they WANT; when maybe we should also be looking for someone that we NEED. Perhaps our "perfect" or ideal/dream/fantasy partner wouldn't exactly be the best person to bring out the best in us, or be the best influence on us, or even be the best person to have in out life if we have some issues, and they are actually contributing to them rather than helping improve them. Which is once again where the having to be physically attracted to the person has to be the number one factor by default is such B.S.!
90% women go after the top 10% (or even top 5% ) of men. You can be well off, stable (emotionally, mentally, and financially). However, if you don't meet their minimum height standards (5'11" or taller in nearly all cases on the apps), tough loss. If you use weight as a standard, they get pissy.
I can't speak for other women but I had the revelation this year that what I want is a high quality man and not a high value man. The problem is I'm struggling to get matches on these shitty dating apps. Literally been asking all of my friends to set me up on blind dates if they can think of any suitable men. I don't know what happened to everyone post-pandemic but the dating scene has been very weird. And it's not just me. Guys and gals are struggling. Young and old are struggling. And there are so many fake accounts now too. WTF. Maybe we really are in that "Her" era - sorry ScarJo. Lol.
Its funny to me that the girl in the video stated all the things she is willing to do now, due to the " high value man " signifying she wasn't willing to do these things prior to the introduction so i'll ask this question why is it that its fine for the woman to become " high value" while the man needs to be ready made as a " high value " man. The unwillingness of women to work towards a successful relationship by realizing that men are capable of change and growth shines a strong light on the double standard that women push as normal. All i can say to the ladies is good luck with your cats and to the men stay focused brothers and get a passport they aren't worth your energy.
As a mental health professional, don't the terms "High quality Man/Woman" sound incredibly toxic and judgemental ? Whilst we should learn to recognise red flags in prospective partners, I thought classifying entire human beings in this way was the wrong way to go ?
And let’s be honest with ourselves, if men started to vocally and ruthlessly classify “high quality women” and “low quality,” that would cause all hell to break loose.
I forgot two years ago you made a GREAT VIDEO of the guy who to my understanding best explain FEMALE NATURE, Mr Casey Zander. You are even the same age and evenly smart.
First off you sound like a person that is not toxic. Which is relieving! These type of people look for good qualities. We often times choose low value women and expect high quality. If you don’t seek high quality for yourself then how can you expect to attract high.
I'm traditional/conservative, Christian, I hold myself(only) to high standards: strict values and noble virtues, never slept around, don't smoke or drink, I've done and still do mental health work; and I know these are characteristics that would qualify me for being "high quality" however, I'm too poor to date or be in a relationship. I know I can "bring more to the table" than money but I want to be able to do and buy things for a woman and I also want a family; it doesn't feel right not being able to support one so I've just been keeping to myself until I feel that I can.
I wish I could just go on a date. I seem to get so much advice from these videos and others, but it’s difficult just to even go on a date or find somebody to go on a date with.
Two things I know a real high quality men do that is very attractive to women is... Number one no matter how busy he's scheduled is he always make time to see her or take her out make her feel special like she someone important in he's life. Number two not a people pleaser pleasing others so for them to like you has no values. It's a manipulative way how I view it. Be a straight forward guy yes means yes no means no but in humble respectful way like a gentleman.
Thanks for the video. I don't have experiences, so I can't really share them. I generally agree with the original creator's content and with your commentary. I like the idea of one making oneself better in a relationship or outside a relationship. I'm not entirely sure what a "crop top" is. I don't think that a woman needs to burn all of her sexy clothes to be in a healthy relationship. There can still be a time and place for those clothes. At the same time, there's a time and place for most things, and many things should be kept in their proper time and place. A woman who dresses in a way that shows that she doesn't feel the need to be the constant center of attention for all men anywhere she goes is projecting a maturity that is valuable.
_Actual_ definition of a "high quality man", as confirmed by observations out in the wild: Option a - filthy rich, option b - supermodel, option c - combo of a and b. Nothing else matters. Sadly.
I'm a poor, blue collar, hard working, handsome man with poorly done arm tattoos. My boots and jeans are broke down but still functional. I live in a run down motel. I'm considered homeless, and drive to my factory job in a 20 year old SUV. And I still get attractive women. Couple of things that set me apart, I am in decent shape from my labor job, I don't drink beer, smoke weed and I try to eat somewhat healthy. I guess younger women find rough, poor masculine men attractive. Because they throw themselves at me. I get my coffee from the gas station, I use a thermos to keep it warm. I pack my lunch and throw everything in a duffle when I head out to my job at 6am. I come back covered in dust and dirt all over my face. And yet still I get attention from attractive women looking like that. It's the core of a man that attracts women.
Want is the key word. People accept why they can't get the best car or the best living space. But when it comes to a flesh and blood human anything less than perfection is unacceptable. I don't get it.
Well who you choose to marry is very important to say the least, but i believe the most important decision in life is, where will you spend eternity? I know it's a quick turn, but 70,80, 90,100 or more years is NOTHING compared to......forever. 🤔
Like that saying, "Team work makes the dream work". Still that video was very positive and congrats to that young lady dating that high quality man and that man is also lucky, too. Thanks Courtney for this.
Hey Courtney! I've been following your stuff for the past year and some change and I must say that you've been an unintended little sister in schooling me how to navigate as a man! I'm happy say that I've learned about myself a lot and grew up a bit from the stuff the content you put out! Thank you for always sharing insight and speaking your truth in how I plus many of us want to be great out in the world. We appreciate your contribution and keep doing your best at dropping some knowledge nevertheless! -Iz the Whiz 🖖🏾
High quality - “Rich , 6,2 or higher in height 180-215 pounds shredded , will make her feel like you chose her when you have options and she wants to know other girls like you but you choose her only and can be masculine and submissive at same time whatever that means”
Nothing wrong with wanting high quality, but i think you need to work with someone who has potential, and help make them better than what they are. Rather than looking at their current level and passing quick judgment on future potential.
And men want to date high quality women.
Good luck finding them. More rare than hen's teeth these days.
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I have one in my life....She's amazing! 🙏🏼❤️
@kaisuperfreak2 with a name like that no wonder yours is looking at me lol
But a high quality woman is darn near impossible to find these days.
Could not have said better myself! If you want someone with high quality, be prepared to step up your game by being challenged to be better each day. It's a team effort, not a place of complacency
Naw....Ol girl didn't step up her game if she's still using that shaming language of mama's boys.
I do respect her willingness to step up her game and improve herself while being with a man she views as high value. Some women will want a guy of high value, yet won't be willing to step outsude of their comfort zone and make changes to their lies for the better. Any man worth a damn will always be looking to better himself 1% each day, and will expect his lady to do the same.
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@@JJsProductionx Thank you for the detailed analysis.
What you said. I can't add anything to it so i'll just comment for the algorithm.
@@CourtneyRyan You know it's about looks and chemistry. You have to give Wheat Waffles some credit Ms. Courtney
It’s kinda crazy how nobody’s talking about the book womens magic truths on borlest
We want high quality women too, but it's seldom we meet in the same bridge.
Very true in Pittsburgh--sometimes called "The City of Bridges".
women are typically the very delusional ones. They literally ALL (even solid 3s) go for the same guy (the Chad).
And high value women aren't nearly in as demand as high value men. Men will lower their qualities for a quick fuck so men.
Totally agree. They play games and sometimes mistake kindness for weakness ( not being a wimp however).
Honestly this has nothing to do with whether you are high value or not, this just boils down to genuine burning desire. Women will still behave this way for a broke luuzer if they have genuine burning desire for him.
But many have a checklist. He must be at least 6ft 2, must own his own house & car outright, must earn at least $100K per year, must have a degree etc.
It's moreso when these women want to have a long term relationship and/or marriage that this becomes an issue. They want to have burning desire for their future partner but also want him to have status/wealth.
That broke loser who she may go after has game compare to most guys that why he can pick up women being broke but it never works out long term because most of the time he never levels up which most women don't like so he will just move on to the next woman when it over
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu maybe in the big cities, because I only see that online. I don't see that in person. I'm not 6 ft tall and I don't struggle getting women and I don't have to intentionally do anything to impress them, it just happens naturally. I'm sure if I lived in Florida or Vegas or Los Angeles it would be a different story, but for most of the country, it's not like that. Women just want a masculine man that's confident that's funny that looks good and that isn't going to leave her stranded somewhere
When it comes to long term relationships, almost all women want a high value man. Women value a man that can provide for them financially and physically protect them. That’s why most women chase after 6 foot guys with 6 figure careers and 80% of the women are either single, have a placeholder boyfriend, or are sharing 20% of those hv men.
All women want high value men but there are only so many truly 'high value' men out there. A high percentage of women fighting for a small percentage men could be problematic.
A high percentage of women fighting for a small percentage of men could be a perfect description of 2024.
Depends on WHAT is defined as "high value man"!!! It's NOT always about MONEY or HEIGHT. (I'm a woman & NEITHER of those things are "standards" for me). I certanily want a man who's financially responsible for himself (Wasted by 20s on 2 men who were free-loaders). I want a man who's intelligent, kind with a sense of humor. Also: we need to share SOME common interests (NOt all!) That doesn't seem to be delusional
😎problematic only for the low value women.
It’s in fact true and has been going on since the inception of dating apps and social media.
I can vouch for this. Women who pursue a "high-value" man are usually looking only at the superficial. So "high quality" and "high value" do not appear to be the same things. In fact, the people that I have come to admire and respect in my life are NOT the ones who had a lot of nice material things, went on a lot of expensive vacations, etc.
Unfortunately “high value” to a lot of women means rich
If I recall correctly, in the previous TikTok you mentioned, the woman was saying how much of an effort she would have to put in to keep up / be worthy of a high value man - it sounded like she wasn't sure she wanted to work that hard. This woman has decided she does want to put in that much effort. Both women are right - if you can't keep up, then don't think you can play at that level. The same thing applies to men - so many think they want to date a supermodel, but don't think about how difficult it would be to keep up and be worthy.
Pick your lane and stay in it.
I don't know where you get your information, but the vast majority of men want a friendly woman who respects her man. So many young men can't get a date or a girlfriend. Statistics show men grade women on a bell curve. Only the absolute worst women will have trouble getting male attention. The average man is NOT looking to date a supermodel! That statement is a cope to make a woman feel better. He's just looking for a woman who won't branch away and take half his stuff.
Women grade men on a very steep curve. This woman in the TikTok is just fortunate enough to have gotten one of the top men now.
I've known a couple of models - both male - they were dopes! I know that's not relevant to your comment, but just thought I'd share. 🙂
This reminds me of an old Taylor Tomlinson bit where she says she doesn’t date 9s or 10s: “Don’t apply for jobs you’re not qualified for.”
I would hardly call it "effort" though. Making your Instagram private, and be willing to use different clothes, it's pretty basic. There are women willing to ditch a decade long relationship just for a 1 night stand with a celebrity, others will happily be pissed on (literaly) to chase de bag.
True effort is something that is supposed to last as long as the relationship, and it's something that goes much deeper than making the Insta private and stuff like that.
If we switch genders here, that level of "effort" would be considered pathetic.
@@dcarvalho6144Thanks for your comment. ROFLcopters at the "turn off my insta" efforts...
If this girl is being truthful, there might be hope for us all.
She is a AI🤖government agent. Do your research.
Of course she is. When you’re that guy getting girls to act like this is easy they do it on their own
But he most likely isn't, she likely just found a situationship. High quality guys who are still willing to approach in the West are rarely serious about relationships.
She's simply star-struck with Chad. Same story over and over again with these modern chicks.
I’m proud of this comment section for accurately calling out how wholly *useless* this video is.
“People want better stuff and people”
Gosh Courtney, I never knew that! What a good point! 😵💫
It may be common sense, but common sense isn't so common these days. Especially on TikTok.
"High quality guys that actually like you" would be the caveat. It's not like women don't continually chase after high quality guys, but at least this girl is willing to put in the work so props to her.
Some key components to being a high-quality individual are expressing confidence and being personable. Present your best and strive to become better!
Plus, having an appropriate sense of humor is an excellent charm!
Don't forget tall, rich, and jacked.
Rule of 6's.
I've been married for 20 years and we are a team that loves each other and our child. As a long time Teddy B watcher/fan it does my heart good to see the success of you two. The world is in good hands. May god bless your family and your future. Keep striving for the best in this crazy world.
You are so kind, thank you 🥹 hugs to you and your family!
She described all these things about her that she wants to improve now, but a man with that much they'd need to improve on they wouldn't even get a chance.
Too bad she can't improve that chin.
Issue is , they want a high value man while they themselves aren't high value women. She said she wants to dress more modestly & not post on Instagram because of him. Great, but if she was a high quality woman she would've done that to begin with not wait for a man to come & change her. Cuz if these high quality traits do not come to her by nature, then she can easily revert back to her old ways. Moral of the story is : Be a high value woman for yourself. Not for a man.
Exactly!
The man has to come pre assembled to match her perfect wishlist of traits but that “perfect” man is supposed to be happy that this average or just slightly above average woman is willing to quit all her horrible habits now that she has run into him 😂
Ladies if you want the perfect man you better be perfect before finding him. You can not expect him to come pre assembled just the way you dream of and he has to wait for you to get it together. Get out of here with that ridiculous double standard.
Nice Catch 22 for women you're presenting. EVEN if she changes frm what you see as negative (skin-tight clothes, posting on Instagram in the pas)--that's NOT good enough for you--since she should ne3ver have dne those things to begin with. I have little doubt you'd howl with outrage if women judged YOUR past (living in mom's basement, playing video games endlessly, working some part time shit job)--until you hit 10 0r 20 & "found yourself" & better goals.
@user-cz5lj2vx1f Wow mad much girl ? Looks like i reached my target audience. Read my comment again & try to use your comprehension skills this time rather than your blind man-hating skills. And p.s, as a high value man I've always carried myself well. For myself. Its not about not having a past. It's about always carrying yourself well according to your values & what you desire in life. Not wait for the possibility of changing when the right person comes.And all those mommas basement jokes.. you're probably projecting your father. Have a great day.
Nailed it. As soon as she isn’t happy with something. She will be straight back on social media attention whoring.
@@LisaFenton-h7f
1. You never focused in English Class, right?
2. If you want a high-value man, you must be a high-value woman (to most men). No excuses, gold digger.
Honestly it hard to find a woman that makes you happy let alone high quality. This just validates that men are the prize tbh
This is why decentering dating is a sign of becoming an adult. Your own happiness is enough, and you build a life to keep yourself happy.
You only date those who fit into it, and add something to it.
@AlexanderSkinnerVids taking my statement out of context just to sound smart you logic is quite concerning to assume I am not happy with myself I am complete and whole but relationship nowadays to not reflect a partnership where both are helping each other grow instead women are demanding a high quality performance from a man what I mean is women do not know how to be likable for them to even get a high value man. All you see is the entitlement complaining about money where is the pursuit of love it's all transactional
@@AlexanderSkinnerVids I know people who were never dating centered, even going as far back as high school
@@cw0101 if you're complete and whole, then why are making bitter sounding comments on these videos?
1:27 I remember that video too! That woman was almost sorry for getting what she wanted, but this lady is a breath of fresh air. Hope she sticks to him and they are both happy.
Courtney, I think you have a good idea on a high quality man. I think many women would agree to that WITH THE ADDITIONS of looks, height, wealth and/or business owner, or possibly some sort of minor or major celebrity status.
That means that us high quality men who lack some of those 'additional traits' don't appear to be high value at all because women won't bother to get to know us.
She’s being a bit vague, isn’t she? “I really like nice things. Nice things make me feel good.”
she wants to get paid.
women are on code
I am 59 years old, single, no kids, never married, & haven't dated or been in a relationship with a woman in 29 years, but I'm not gay, and lastly after finding out what I have about women, I choose to be alone.
Ok😂😂
don't worry it's okay to be gay 😋
Hi Courtney, your analysis is spot on. For me it's about accountability, integrity and honesty. Three traits that transcend physical appearance and economic status.
Women on social media - RED REDDER THAN RED FLAG!!!
Spot-on..
Sometimes you're so far off, it's scary. That first lady wasn't going the extra mile, gym-wise and all, for "a good man who has integrity, a man who is hard working, etc,," but simply because she was highly physically attracted to him. Integrity, honesty, yada, yada, all goes out the window when the guy is short and bald. None of the lofty things you mentioned were on her mind, trust me. And that's fine. At least be honest about it.
True.
I’m a fit guy. Any woman I would be interested in shouldn’t *need* me to motivate her to go to the gym. I would want to be with a woman who’s going to the gym on her own, regardless of if I am or not. And the reality is we both enjoy it enough that we’re naturally going to go together a lot.
facts
Is it fine? Women should be pressured and shamed in to evolving.
Absolute truth. They’re so called “high quality” or “high value” man. Is basically just a dude they are really attracted to with money.
“Rules for thee but not for he”. This is how you can tell if she is “settling” for you. Always remember that the guy she truly wants will always have access to her. She will do whatever that guy wants. Standards and boundaries go out the window for that guy. She will lie and gaslight herself for that man just to convince herself to continue being with him no matter how he treats her.
Rule number 1. Never listen to a woman. Simply watch how she moves, her behaviors and actions. Over half the time women have no idea why they do what they do. They simply function off of or are dictated by their emotions.
If you want a successful relationship the woman has to be way more invested/interested in you than you in her. You can say I’m wrong all you want doesn’t change the fact that I’m right.
Beware the paradox: the more “high quality” a man is, the more work he must put into being so, and the less time he has for you.
I recently stumbled on your channel and love it. It has been helpful and your feedback is wholesome and accurate. As a 42 year old, divorced, single dad of a 4 year old girl, I’ve never found anything more difficult than dating lately. I make good money, am attractive, fit, and know what I want.
In my opinion, no one wants to put in any effort to make a relationship work beyond the first few dates. I’m here, ready to commit, but seem to be on an island of one.
They aren't for you if they don't make you want to be better.
A woman has to be attracted to a man to begin with, before the other qualities, personality, values, morals, standards, communication skills, and attitude that he has is taken into consideration
Correct, even in this case the blackpill is still paramount. If she doesn’t find you physically attractive all your other good traits do not matter
@@Trynottoblinkthe same goes for men
No. A man needs to be attracted to a woman before she even get a chance to get to know him.
It's not really about being a high quality man or woman. It's about being a high quality human. This quality is good for everyone but it's nice to have a partner that enjoys these same activities and mirrors yourself.
Nope that’s a feminist lie, your indoctrinated, woman at the end of the day will always look for the next big thing. Hook up and relationship material are two different things. It’s not something you can change it’s in their biology.
Hey Courtney, I’ve been listening to you for a while and think you have some great insight! I would like to encourage you to keep telling women about your experiences with your husband. They need to keep hearing the message about making wise decisions. Not that they can find the perfect husband, but that they can find the right one who, at his very core, helps her to grow in every way on the path that she has chosen. If she has chosen wisely, he will, of-course, be in full agreement with that path. Keep up the good work! You’re awesome! God bless!!
A high-quality man? Well. I feel like a commodity. A pair of shoes or a laptop.
Then commodify the women in kind.
Lol. Remember it's just dumb Internet words😂😂
That’s how single women over 30 see men, yeah
@@AlexanderSkinnerVids Men have been commodifying women for CENTURIES.
Welcome to the club. Men have been doing that for centuries.
High Quality Men from my experience, means fit and rich and maybe popular. Normally, I don't begrudge women's tastes, but when it comes to this topic I can't help but say this. Women often times swear they KNOW what high quality is and instead its just a man she finds sexually attractive. That's it. To me, its never going to be about anything else for them because honestly, until they realize how superficial and unfulfilling it can be to ONLY be attracted to them physically, they're not going to understand why they need men that don't just MAKE them want to do more, but also need men that help them connect and grow as a person. High Quality isn't just rich, fit and social. None of those things make up who a person really is, and what a person really wants out of life.
Spoken like a kid with no experience, common sense, or knowledge of women. Grow up, be a man, and you'll find that this isn't remotely true except what social media portrays. It's a small % of women who are like this.
There are a lot of high quality men out there, but because they lack wealth, height, or some sort of status such as owning your own business, women won't even notice you or bother to get to know you and find out you are High Quality.
Rich=high quality?
Never seen it.
High quality people share, noticed the "economy" lately? It isn't high quality, so...
Rich fit and social are the bases of what woman look for in that order.😂 what your referring to is either moving to the next best man more money better looking or more charismatic or she is getting ran through by multiple men because she is a feminist. The ladder is their natural path but feminism tells them to find the guy they like without considering the monetary value they provide.
Sexjal attraction is always HIGH on MEN'S list of "standards"---so, it's NOT OK for women to want that too?
behind the scenes all they're talking about it wealth or the potential for wealth. Courtney even slips up and shows this when the first item in her list at 6:30 is her husband's business ambition. Then his "health and wellbeing." Fitness and looks are, of course, a signal for wealth or potential for wealth. Notice how she doesn't say "watching him show kindness to strangers" or "watching the way he navigates complex ethical questions" or "watching his spirit and passion for living." The Tik Tok woman says she wants to dress like Sofia Richie. That means wealthy, guys. All high quality means to the TikTok woman and Courtney is a bank account and the downstreams of that (status, fitness, etc.).
BANG. Great comment. It might be overstatement to say that that is "all" it means, but for many that is true, and for many more it is close to true, so no big deal. Money is big driver, but throw in height/looks. Quality of character scores low, whether anyone admits it or not.
No. Doesn’t apply to Courtney. You are twisting her words. Sounds like you hate women. Period.
Such great points - supporting each other and helping to lift each other up are signs of a strong, positive relationship. Happy for you that you are so happy in your relationship :)
Thank you Courtney for all that you do and have done. You are truly making a difference with your work.
Courtney video idea now that summer time is upon us. You should do a tier list for Summertime dates
We're all indigenous to earth. Strive to be your best as a complete person.
Don't be selfish and always help others, and set examples of a quality person, whenever the opportunity presents itself. Do this while being kind and understanding.
Never expect anything in return.
This video is a game-changer! So much helpful information packed into one clip. I personally don't like promoting anything in comments,
Ideally, he and she "make each other better and higher quality people." Much like there are athletes who make teammates better players (think certain NBA stars). It has to be teamwork, with both sides carrying their weight, and picking up and lifting up each other.
Well said--and inspiring of what women & men should both be aspiring to.
I didn't know what sourdough starters are or who Sophia Richie is before this video.
😂
I still don't know
Forget the sourdough starters. Learn how to make buttermilk biscuits with White Lily flour. Unfortunately, unless you live in the south, White Lily flour is hard to get, so you can substitute 2 parts self rising flour with one part cake flour.
Haha same 😂
@@SmallEngineersame
High quality just means he makes a ton of money and dresses well. Many people don't care if he treats people well.
High value to women equals money and power. Not decency. Being a good man that has values, and morals and to do right thing is considered weak by 99% of modern women
Truth 🎉
I think there’s a misconception in dating where “finding a high-value partner (male or female)” is some sort of eureka moment, when in reality its just sort of a subtle flow of events that leave you at a constant state of satisfaction.
I’ve dated women and had explosive passion thinking wow she’s so great, and then got hard stopped with red flags.
I’ve also dated women who felt comfortable and smooth, but constantly wondered to myself “where are we going?”
I also dated women that realized I had some growing up to do, and rightfully took their search elsewhere.
I’m dating someone right now, and the only way I can describe it in words, though not even close to accurate, is easy and simple.
The dynamic is such in that at some point I just kind of subconsciously became aware that I was in a constant state of appreciation in regard to our team dynamic from date to date.
Our ideas flow back in forth with synergy and spontaneity. It wasn’t some singular event, but a culmination of growth through interaction. I’m looking forward to seeing where it goes from here.
Just my two cents on the topic.
Try not to spend them all in one place.
I love this video. The girl is gurgling and bubbling with positive lovey stuff and I applaud it. Good for her. Same experience for me now. Falling head over heels for a girl is super dangerous and super necessary. It's such a rush and such a high that people avoid it because the letdown is so traumatizing. Fight For Love??
Everyone has their own values and may describe a "High Quality Man" differently based on their values and life experience. Between two people, certain characteristics may attract when they seem opposite to one another, and some will attract as they become similar. You worded it nicely in your video. It will interesting to see how the dating market evolves with time.
Never underestimate the power of personality and behavior. These two things build attraction much more than people realize. However, this concept flies over the heads of so many people. Just read this comment section for example.
Excellent advice, Courtney. Y'know, I turned 50 last month....and I feel good about it. I've followed your channel for a while, and I'm pleased that you've kept it fairly "ageless." Or so it feels to me. It feels mature.
I was with a woman for 2 half years.
She just recently broke it off coz she wanted to have a home together in the future and wanted me to visit more.
I hate long distance driving so always refused as I knew I couldn't keep it up.
She lives 2 hours away and has a daughter.
She would come down cook clean She was great.
I was video calling once or twice per day after 4 months being together.
She broke it off by saying I love you so much but I'm tired about the driving and want more.
I just couldn't see a future with her living together giving up my flat as I enjoy my alone time.
She was pulling away at the end coz I didn't want it to progress.
I'm not sure if it was the video calls that did it as we both loved seeing eachother and it lasted 2 years.
Great girl just heartbroken that she demanded more after she stated in the beginning she enjoyed the drive and the cooking.
I just enjoyed going abroad making memories together and having space away from eachother.
Feel so lost now.
my husband is a high value man - no, he's not insanely rich and successful, but he's a hard worker, he's funny, he treats me so well, and he's easy on the eyes 😅 "high value" should not automatically mean wealthy or what have you.
Couldn't agree more with this outlook. In a good relationship, we are each others "enablers" in the best, most positive sense of that term.
I don't always agree with Courtney, but she's right on this one. Be a high quality person, and surround yourself with high quality people, whether they are just friends, co-workers, or a dating interest. Those people can only make you better than you currently are.
As a single guy (long term single at that), if I was given a choice between a low quality woman who was a 10 in looks department, or a 5-6 in the looks department but she aligns with my values and has her life together (i.e. high quality), I'd take the 5-6 in a heartbeat. Because, the high quality woman is going to want to build an US. She'll be as interested in the WE as I am. It wouldn't be about MEMEMEME.
My personal opinion, I'd rather spend a lifetime alone than spend 1 day with a low quality woman.
It's hard not to feel hopeless when you know you're not at your best right now
I love this... I love when a partner inspires you to be better. Unfortunately, I see too many people (especially women), who hook up with a 'boy" just because she doesn't want to be single. I say: work on yourself and be happy until you meet someone who wants a happy and great person.
I agree Courtney, I'm going to clip this to all my friends. I would say on the Sofia Richie point, I like a more timeless classy look like Grace Kelly and Audrey Hepburn
You can also not get married and self motivate. I’m not sure why people feel the need to find someone else to feel complete. That’s one hell of a Disney story taken for real life.
Absolutely you can!
I'm not self motivated
Girl! Not sure if you're ever watched Man Talks by Connor Beaton, but his newest episode would be an amazing conversation point for a video for you. It revolves around the "angry male" podcast/UA-cam guru. Connor does incredible work (my partner loves his book and podcast) and it's so incredibly worth watching and talking about. I think your audience could get a lot out of hearing your perspective on this topic.
High Quality Men = Good looking, tall, high paying job, the list goes on.
Women fighting over 1% of men: "OMG, where are the high-quality men?"
For females in the west today, "provider" or "high quality man" = "servant" or "slave".
I think the best compliment you can pay to your partner is to let them know how much they inspire you to be a better person.
The ultimate question in the "high-quality/high-value" conversation is the definition of quality or value. We live in a very superficial culture, so I expect most responses would correlate with superficial traits. To a lot of women, high-quality means a fat wallet and panty-wetting handsomeness. To a lot of men, it means a 10/10 arm trophy that's virginal but a corn star in the bedroom. Their standards are way too high and emphasize the wrong things.
While I understand the concept, I think it may be dangerous to be with someone who has you on your toes because otherwise you fail. When you're with someone that you feel is great, you want to be great yourself because that's what you want to give to them, because they see and bring out the good in you, because the love you feel for another has to stem from your self love.
I really recommend the book The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm. An oldie but a goodie.
I know I’m not ready for a relationship, I just want to make sure that I’m in a place where I can support myself and a woman. Because that’s what she deserves. I hope that means I have quality 😥 Thank you By the way Courtney!
Yall humans need to leave social media and stop listen to creatures that don’t what THEY want actually..so be happy with yourself first ! Vagina is overrated 😊
Courtney you can come to the cookout any time cause all the videos post nothing but facts 🔥🔥🔥🔥
When a woman tells you her body count, multiply it by two. When a man tells you his body count, divide it by two.😂
I look for ways to inspire my son to be a person he is proud of. I want him to be happy with himself.
That's great but hes going to resent you when he realizes society doesnt like him and it's too late to go back in time.
I like what u said in the beginning of the video everyone what they look for in a high quality person is different and I like that part bout team work i think people get in relationships and forget that there's someone else is there and they don't know how to act like a team.
I'm choosing wisely and that's why I've never had a girlfriend to this day, age 35 🥳
weather women are willing to admit it or not, most often times not so they can sound genuine.
high quality or high value today primarily means money, lets a call a spade a spade here.
finance, trust fund, 6'5, blue eyes
Well, we don't know what she means by "high quality men". As far as we know, she means a multimilionaire, that she finds worthy of putting in some effort.
Normal people behave the same exact way when they actually fall in love with someone, it doesn't need to be someone "high value".
The video could literally be titled "I found someone I like, so I'm putting in the effort for that person", as it is basic relationship 101
High Quality Man = Having:
Integrity
Kindness
Is Hardworking
Respect
Honesty
Self-Discipline
Good Listening skills
As a single guy, when you listed these qualities down, it just put a smile on my face 🙂 as I thought to myself, "Hey, I HAVE all these! 😃"
Good video.
I'm just wondering.
1.What is the definition of high quality man.
2. Why a high quality man wants to marry the woman that made the video we show.
3. What is the definition of high quality woman.
Ideas for future video.
Thanks.
Guys, it's cheaper to be alone and pay for bedroom fun instead...
Usually the escorts or prostitutes look older, not as pretty, and pics are fake. The real high quality girls can get rich without prostitution cu everything is handed to them already :/
High quality man = Wealthy period.
If you had the courage to add good looking to that list, I would've gave you mad respect. No one wants to admit it.
Who you marry is no doubt the most important decision one can make.
One thing that is never mentioned, but honestly, maybe should be, is that it seems everyone is looking to find the partner that they WANT; when maybe we should also be looking for someone that we NEED. Perhaps our "perfect" or ideal/dream/fantasy partner wouldn't exactly be the best person to bring out the best in us, or be the best influence on us, or even be the best person to have in out life if we have some issues, and they are actually contributing to them rather than helping improve them. Which is once again where the having to be physically attracted to the person has to be the number one factor by default is such B.S.!
more high value you get more I enjoy your videos I wish you more and more success in your life , I am always happy to see a really more good women .❤
90% women go after the top 10% (or even top 5% ) of men. You can be well off, stable (emotionally, mentally, and financially). However, if you don't meet their minimum height standards (5'11" or taller in nearly all cases on the apps), tough loss. If you use weight as a standard, they get pissy.
I can't speak for other women but I had the revelation this year that what I want is a high quality man and not a high value man. The problem is I'm struggling to get matches on these shitty dating apps. Literally been asking all of my friends to set me up on blind dates if they can think of any suitable men. I don't know what happened to everyone post-pandemic but the dating scene has been very weird. And it's not just me. Guys and gals are struggling. Young and old are struggling. And there are so many fake accounts now too. WTF. Maybe we really are in that "Her" era - sorry ScarJo. Lol.
5:37 "if you're open to it"
Its funny to me that the girl in the video stated all the things she is willing to do now, due to the " high value man " signifying she wasn't willing to do these things prior to the introduction so i'll ask this question why is it that its fine for the woman to become " high value" while the man needs to be ready made as a " high value " man. The unwillingness of women to work towards a successful relationship by realizing that men are capable of change and growth shines a strong light on the double standard that women push as normal. All i can say to the ladies is good luck with your cats and to the men stay focused brothers and get a passport they aren't worth your energy.
Fair point
Not everyone is self motivated. This goes vice versa for me and a good woman
YES!!! Non-high quality people DO NOT deserve a relationship!
As a mental health professional, don't the terms "High quality Man/Woman" sound incredibly toxic and judgemental ? Whilst we should learn to recognise red flags in prospective partners, I thought classifying entire human beings in this way was the wrong way to go ?
And let’s be honest with ourselves, if men started to vocally and ruthlessly classify “high quality women” and “low quality,” that would cause all hell to break loose.
Clearly, the comment section disagrees with this statement, why is that?
I forgot two years ago you made a GREAT VIDEO of the guy who to my understanding best explain FEMALE NATURE, Mr Casey Zander. You are even the same age and evenly smart.
First off you sound like a person that is not toxic. Which is relieving! These type of people look for good qualities. We often times choose low value women and expect high quality. If you don’t seek high quality for yourself then how can you expect to attract high.
I'm traditional/conservative, Christian, I hold myself(only) to high standards: strict values and noble virtues, never slept around, don't smoke or drink, I've done and still do mental health work; and I know these are characteristics that would qualify me for being "high quality" however, I'm too poor to date or be in a relationship. I know I can "bring more to the table" than money but I want to be able to do and buy things for a woman and I also want a family; it doesn't feel right not being able to support one so I've just been keeping to myself until I feel that I can.
Having met various “traditional, conservative” women in church, their dating standards were… all the same superficial drivel. 🙄
You take life too seriously. Relax and live a little. Oh and remember!!! Christ is king 👑
@@dang75790 this is disgustingly ignorant to say
@@AlexanderSkinnerVids not really. Don't be a prude
i think you're overvaluing yourself i do all of that except believing in imaginary guy in the sky and i am just average joe across the street
I wish I could just go on a date. I seem to get so much advice from these videos and others, but it’s difficult just to even go on a date or find somebody to go on a date with.
Two things I know a real high quality men do that is very attractive to women is... Number one no matter how busy he's scheduled is he always make time to see her or take her out make her feel special like she someone important in he's life. Number two not a people pleaser pleasing others so for them to like you has no values. It's a manipulative way how I view it. Be a straight forward guy yes means yes no means no but in humble respectful way like a gentleman.
Totally agree. I just wish there weren't so many people who think high quality = high income, and vice versa.
We have expectations, many women can NOT handle us.
Thanks for the video.
I don't have experiences, so I can't really share them.
I generally agree with the original creator's content and with your commentary. I like the idea of one making oneself better in a relationship or outside a relationship.
I'm not entirely sure what a "crop top" is. I don't think that a woman needs to burn all of her sexy clothes to be in a healthy relationship. There can still be a time and place for those clothes. At the same time, there's a time and place for most things, and many things should be kept in their proper time and place. A woman who dresses in a way that shows that she doesn't feel the need to be the constant center of attention for all men anywhere she goes is projecting a maturity that is valuable.
_Actual_ definition of a "high quality man", as confirmed by observations out in the wild: Option a - filthy rich, option b - supermodel, option c - combo of a and b. Nothing else matters. Sadly.
I'm a poor, blue collar, hard working, handsome man with poorly done arm tattoos. My boots and jeans are broke down but still functional.
I live in a run down motel. I'm considered homeless, and drive to my factory job in a 20 year old SUV.
And I still get attractive women.
Couple of things that set me apart,
I am in decent shape from my labor job, I don't drink beer, smoke weed and I try to eat somewhat healthy.
I guess younger women find rough, poor masculine men attractive. Because they throw themselves at me.
I get my coffee from the gas station, I use a thermos to keep it warm. I pack my lunch and throw everything in a duffle when I head out to my job at 6am. I come back covered in dust and dirt all over my face. And yet still I get attention from attractive women looking like that. It's the core of a man that attracts women.
Want is the key word. People accept why they can't get the best car or the best living space. But when it comes to a flesh and blood human anything less than perfection is unacceptable. I don't get it.
it's so funny how Courtney throws the sneaky shade at things
for me a HQM, is someone who has goals, doesn't have to be told to brush his teeth, a goal, goals, smart, supportive.
Well who you choose to marry is very important to say the least, but i believe the most important decision in life is, where will you spend eternity? I know it's a quick turn, but 70,80, 90,100 or more years is NOTHING compared to......forever. 🤔
Like that saying, "Team work makes the dream work". Still that video was very positive and congrats to that young lady dating that high quality man and that man is also lucky, too. Thanks Courtney for this.
I like your that motto: "Teamwork makes the dream work"!!!
@@LisaFenton-h7f Honestly, I've heard this motto before, but I don't know where it originally came, so I've remembered it.
it's famous saying but rather than teamwork what girl in the video wants is competition to self motivate
Hey Courtney! I've been following your stuff for the past year and some change and I must say that you've been an unintended little sister in schooling me how to navigate as a man! I'm happy say that I've learned about myself a lot and grew up a bit from the stuff the content you put out! Thank you for always sharing insight and speaking your truth in how I plus many of us want to be great out in the world. We appreciate your contribution and keep doing your best at dropping some knowledge nevertheless!
-Iz the Whiz 🖖🏾
Sorry to disappoint but shes not gonna sleep with you
@@rwar531 that's not what I was aiming at, but okay, touch some grass and get some air
@@izthewhiz652 I'm using my smartphone outdoors at the park with my gf.
I'm a 28 year old autistic man who can't seem to find love no matter what. I sometimes wonder if it's just because I'm broke and don't got no money.
High quality - “Rich , 6,2 or higher in height 180-215 pounds shredded , will make her feel like you chose her when you have options and she wants to know other girls like you but you choose her only and can be masculine and submissive at same time whatever that means”
I came here just for the whiny, beta comments like these.
@@Swearengen1980lol
Nothing wrong with wanting high quality, but i think you need to work with someone who has potential, and help make them better than what they are. Rather than looking at their current level and passing quick judgment on future potential.