@@CourtneyRyan can u pls make a video on your thoughts or reactions to Twitch and how women are basically selling them selves on camera and making these "Hot Tub streams" and addressing the problem. Thanks👍
well if you are married the girl owes you sex for feeding her... if not there is a good chance she might not be married, and what kind of woman marries a guy just for money unless she intends to raise kids.... i know western banker feminists manipulate women but i am talking normal traditional girls.
People need support systems as well. A mate can be a support system as long as it's not toxic but rather living and nurturing. People need people. But The right people.
@@carvedtreeful yeah but that is creating art and expressing an idea, feeling, or something else. Where as a pic is for the attention, and validation. Nothing wrong with that, but it really is just for the attention and validation of others.
I like how you move away from the whole “high value” craze. It’s about finding someone who you’re attracted to, can communicate well with and have similar values.
besides here and from Kevin Samuels i've never heard it before, where else is it trending? ...though i dont even think the idea of a high value woman applies to men's thinking. it's more a woman's thing about men.
@@robi6317 It's not a new craze. It's something that has been talked for years among higher value men. Only recently due to Kevins popularity and other people trying to leech of his success, has the term high value become more mainstream and better explained to the avg person.
in other words, winning the lottery. I seem to find someone who encompasses one of those three fairly easily, occasionally find someone who encompasses two of those three, and once about every 5 to 10 years find someone who encompasses all three. BUT, when all three are met, there is still a major value or two that is missing (usually their desire to have children and my not wanting kids) that eventually ends things for us
"No one owes each other anything. You have to earn it and show that you deserve it." This is why my ex and I broke up. I make good money and she just wanted a huge part of it without giving much in return. Well now she's married to some other rich guy. Poor guy, or shall I say, poor guy's bank account.
I am not sure if I agree with that. If you do not owe each other anything why bother have a relationship at all? I am sorry about your ex, you deserve near equal if not equal. And that equality cannot be quantified, only qualified that is you both feel satisfied and not feel being taken advantage of, it's a two way street.
I happen to believe that I owe you respect until you lie, steal or cheat on me in some way. I also happen to think that it's only making this concession that humanity can continue to remain civil with each other.
The energy when you say “it’s okay! The worlds not gonna end!” Is so comforting it can be applied for any time you’re feeling a bit... anything! I played it a few times. Helped with what I’m going through now even!
High value woman is not someone who is high maintenance, rather she has the values you are looking for. With all the important things mentioned in your video. Supportive, emotional intelligence, takes care of themselves, does not depend on someone else to complete them. However, still wants a special man in their life with similar values. Once you have a bond, it is nice to feel connected and loved.
Yes I miss exactly THIS. I am a matur woman. I spent my entire 20s hitting the books learning and became a professional I didnt date I never partied I have zero experience going to hars, parties, drinking etc. Sounds like a boring woman BUT it got me where I am in lIfe. I got married had a child and stayed wit nthe same wonderul man 41 years, until he passed away recently, my daughter is a career military pilot. I had a terrific relationship with my partner. We together made all our dreams come true. Now I live abroad and it is seems impossible to meet a hugh value man. Money had zero to eith it. It is his character, his mind, whether he is well read, a thinker like me a man of ideas who can discuss many things. The man has to excite my MIND first. Onñy then can my body follow. But I know I am different...a career clinical psychology professor I know what makes people tick like a watchmaker understands clocks. My problem is I can see a persons perspnañity very quickñy are they conscientious...if tye guynis a slob in his apperance well then NO he is not conscientious. Is the man somwehee arou d the middñe in extroverdion interversion...if he is standing onna chair regaling people.at a party or bar then no thanks..if he never leaves his house ditto. Is he at ease eith other humans. Is he open to travel and other cultures well where I live abroad the answer is almost always yes. But now come the really important ones how ageeeablemor disagreeable is he? Too agreeable and he is a pushover for everyone no thanks not manly, if he is a disagreeable then no, because he is a jerk. Right around the average is best. Neuroticism is also very important ...if he has very odd personaluty quircks that I can spot a mile off then no...is he obsessive or compulsive, dogmatic, Machiavellian ie manipulative, is he grandiose and full of himself too much or so shy and with such low self esteem he cant talk and banter a little. All this and more go into making a man high value has zero to do with his bank account.
What I love most about your channel, Courtney, is that you encourage everyone to be the best possible version of themselves. The unhappier you are with your life, the more likely you are to be a shitty person. Thus, by encouraging people to be the best possible version of themselves, the more likely they are to be happier and attract others. Very simply idea, yet I find that most self-help UA-cam channels lack this. And that's sad, because I think that if people were happier with themselves, the better the world would be. Keep doing you, girl 👍
Women used to think I am always this nonchalant person who don’t care about them, but that’s not it. I just don’t look to women to “complete” or be the only source of my joy and happiness. Well said, Courtney!
No-her family is out of her control, rather look at her friends. I always say, "a girl is her friends." Just look at her friends, they'll tell you everything there is to know. Not necessarily her family, because she cannot control her family, but she can control who she chooses as her friends.
Courtney is the perfect example of a classy high value woman, the heavenly sent gift that will keep on giving in your marriage and your life. Friends choose wisely and multiply your blessings with the right partner for life.
While one should not "need" validation from any other person to feel secure, I think it is really important to validate your partner's feelings and try to relate to them. Empathy is a huge positive from any human being (man or woman).
This is what I love about the martial art of Ai-ki-do where the person you would practice with is not called an opponent, but a partner for whom you should have fellow feeling given that you are both fragile human beings and subject to injury, and injury is not the purpose of practicing a new skill.
you're talking about being supportive and empathetic, she mentioned it. She was talking about those girls who literally crave validation, for example counting the likes on their last ass shot on instagram, it's quite common nowadays
Big, big point, others don’t complete us and others are not responsible to make us happy. Be complete and be happy, then consider a relationship. It is totally impossible to MAKE someone else happy, totally impossible. If you try, they will suck the life out of you then throw you in the garbage and then they seek their new source of energy. You are absolutely correct, be whole. Our life, our happiness, our dreams must be our own. This makes you high value. Know your value but don’t try to be anyone’s savior.
I first subscribed to your channel when you had around 2k subscribers and now you are few subscribers away from 100k..u have been so consistent with the videos and also has awesome content. Really proud of you ♥️
A high value woman, will pull her own weight, has integrity, stands up for herself, has good self esteem, doesn't draw unnecessary attention to herself, never bad mouths you, your friends, and your family behind your back. She won't cheat on you, or use you. She won't dress slutty, and constantly go against you, having an attitude and or ego. She will support you and your goals.
Damn, this video really puts into perspective why my relationship failed with my ex. Always needed validation, wanted me to treat her like a princess. Ty these videos are def helping me build up my confidence.
You claimed previously that you are an introvert; I applaud you for being a vlogger. I used to be shy but life and work taught me to be expressive and outspoken
Her last point on emotional intelligence truly touched my heart, bc I'd been on the receiving end of it by my ex. Thank you Courtney for using apt keywords like "underlying characteristics", etc. I simply had to nod my head in agreement.
If I am dating, and hanging out with her and she’s not willing to reciprocate or demonstrates that she cares to keep getting to know you, don’t force her to do so. Don’t talk or text where you believe she is failing at. Let her noticed by herself and keep moving on despite how hard it may be. If she does not, someone else will.
Many people fails to understand or accept: The value of a woman/man is determined by a consensus of the opposite sex. It always amazes me when a woman tells : i'm educated, have a good job, independant and give 3-4 other "qualities"and the man replies "there is nothing i care in your list"
Wow Courtney thank you so much great video !! Me and my little brother are watching and he’s learning so he can avoid the mistakes I made dating women and I’m also still learning thank you 🙌🏽
I totally agree with the qualities you shared in this video. What is huge for me is that a woman who has a growth mindset and supportive. My ex-GF just broke up with me last year right when the pandemic started and you hit it right on the money when you mentioned listening as one of the most overlooked qualities in a high-value woman. I'm not going to say that I don't have flaws myself. I believe I have learned a lot from the failed relationship, I just don't have the right opportunity right now but I'm slowly working on it. Back to the listening part, I understand that we usually want our thoughts and opinions to matter however we often neglect the part of listening to others whether it is someone really important or not. I believe a person who truly listens is a must-have in a relationship. Being able to work things out with your partner crucial if you want the relationship to succeed. Sometimes it's better to keep the relationship rather than being right.
Speaking in the context of a healthy vibrant relationship- A high value woman will be confident, but she will still rightly need some validation from her man. Still independent but clearly 'better' by being in this healthy relationship. She understands that 'submission' to her man's leadership is actually the secret to empowering and energizing her relationship. She is supportive as her man also supports her. She is mature, emotionally strong possessing sound character: loyal, virtuous, honorable, kind, generous, etc...a woman like this will automatically be 'intelligent' witty and wise.
What a wonderful speech, again! Courtney, the important points that you listed and elaborated on in this presentation, really resonate with many high-value traits across various different traditional cultures, they express them in different ways though. I guess it's really a human thing. Thank you! You are very inspiring through enlightening the good knowledge in people's minds and hearts! A great teacher! 🌻☺
Courtney, I feel lucky the algorithm put you into my feed. I spent a lot of time doing a lot of work on myself and reading and youtube certainly helped in that process. It almost is eerie to me how this algorithm popped your channel into my feed at almost the exact time that these videos hit the stage where I am currently at. You are in my main group of go to channels to reflect on my personal journey...keep it up. It is really cool when you are able to do something for a living that is so positive for so many people. thank you!
Another great video, Courtney! You bring a lot a clarity to the complicated world of women psychology and in a positive way. In most cases people especially men, don’t have a clarity on what they want and more importantly what they should be looking for in a women from a long term happy and healthy relationship standpoint. Your videos are presumably for single people but what about married people? If there are any red flags then how can those issues be addressed? Some content on that will be very helpful. Thanks!
Really enjoying your insight and no nonsense approach to relationships. I think everyone could benefit from high value friends as well. People you allow into your life impact it in 3 basic and simple ways. 1) Improves your life, making you feel good about yourself. 2) Mostly neutral, like a casual friend. 3) Have a negative impact, causing uneccessary stress and frustration.
I love that you talk about the other side as well! ☺️ Of course it’s key that I have high value traits myself, but considering whether the other person does also is crucial
Courtney, you're factual and straight to the point. Some guys complain that it doesn't make sense having a female give us guys advice but they're wrong. You're the best coach out there. Cheers from Canada
Life use to be like What you're bringing to the table? women: I'm humble, passionate, good listener, well rounded, supportive... Nowadays What are you bringing to the table? Most women be like: I'm a Alpha female,I smoke, I cheat, I talk back and I don't need a man to tell me what to do. Thank you for this content 🙏
I am 44 years old and I have noticed the same thing about women these days I am not rich and but I have never cheated done anything like that I feel like social media has made a lot of younger women narcissistic not all but a lot and it is pretty sad.
Courtney I found you through Teddie. Your channel has eclipsed his in terms of content IMO. It's so rare to find a woman of your age that understands how things are and how they should be. Thank you for all the positive vibes. My girlfriend and I love your topics of choice and views.
Every human being has the same value for me. We are all equal. In the end it is what both partners in a relation offer to each other, versus what they want. The key factors of a relationship are respect, mental health and personal growth. It requires both to work on it. It is not granted from the beginning, it is built. The problem of showing "high value" is that you risk buying cheap mirrors that shine, instead of diamonds that look like coal. My wife did not shine when I met her. But I knew the traits I wanted and did not want, and I saw her undeveloped potential. Notice I was not intending to change her. It was that people always have things in a state of disrepair that are the result of hardships. Think of a nice car. You see the engine is in great condition, but its painting looks like the Millenium Falcon piece of junk. She was not going to impress anyone by her looks. She was not confident, she would not impress anyone. But she has a heart of gold, and I was able to see that. And she wanted a serious relationship, not playing games. Best decision ever. Getting rid of her insecurities and fears was a pleasant process. She could see what I was made of. Mature love has no drama, we communicate, like adults. Drama is for teenagers. I knew marriage was like a gun with only one bullet. Failing marriage is too sad and complicated. I could not afford to fail. I never saw her like a high value person. What I could see was her heart of gold, and her integrity, surrounded by disrepair that I knew that would not be a big deal to repair. The good thing about looking for diamonds that look like coal is that nobody is looking, so I would have better chances and the final result would be better. Other guys are sold shiny high value, but they buy a mirror that breaks and cuts. She did not self love, hardships made her be demoralized. She did not seek validation. She just embraced her apparent lack of worth. But I knew that if she could see her worth, she would have self love, and she did. I did not complete her. She was already complete and I was too. I just opened a door she did not see and she walked inside the room of self love. I loved that she wanted to be a better human.
"A guy doesn't owe a girl flowers and a girl doesn't owe you sex" Don't know why but that line got me laughing... I like how you say simple things just straigh
Solid consistent content as usual also I saw real men real style reacting to your video they had a couple of haters in the comments so you know I had to ride for the homegirl courtney.
I have all of these traits except i need to work on the self respect a bit more! I never thought of myself as a high value woman before, thank you Courtney!
I think the best way to tell if she's high value is her relationship with her father. Fatherless house holds are on the rise and changing the culture in a negative way.
Courtney can I just say I think you are such a lovely person with such a big heart. You are making a huge difference to guys lives with your work and it honestly means the world to me. Thank you so much my friend!
I think I know which episode you’re talking about Fresh and Fit 😂. You’re right they’re hilarious and you should definitely go to one of their episodes
Another thing to consider in an emotionally intelligent woman is if she is quick and thoughtlessly to apologize to manipulate you. If she does, to me, she is using you and therefore you need to keep on looking for a better girl. She maybe irked at you but no one likes to be called out.
4:47 - My girlfriend Makayla 21, of almost 3 years left me in June of 2024. Completely destroyed my heart, worst pain ever. Courtney is absolutely right. I tried to fix and heal her. I couldn’t. My girl had a traumatic childhood, emotional and mental trauma, and disliked herself physically. When her plate got too full, threw me away thinking it was best for her so she could “find herself, heal and grow” Absolutely destroyed me. Wouldn’t let me stand by her through the hard times.
@@sincman Hafeez was there but Kevin was doing most of the talking remotely. "@Kevin Samuels and @The Roommates DECIMATE OnlyFans Models on the @FreshandFit Podcast"
Well if she isn't similar to you Courtney; she's not high value to me lol 😆 jk jk. Seriously, i appreciate your excellent take on this very broad topic. I was watching a video the other day where the guy from teaching mens fashion channel was being interviewed and he said a Man who is high value is someone who provides high value. What we can do for others (society) is high value. For example, what you do for us here is high value. Anyways lol, thanks for helping me figure out what woman is right for me my friend 🌻
Thank you Courtney. Some women are hypocrites. They post selfies of themselves and ask for validation yet they accuse you of posting pics of getting attention from women
Courtney I give you a suggestion please please start your own newsletter because you are so high value women and you helps me alot and even all mens who wants to upgrade 😊
@@johngonzalez4298 No worries at all. I thought I'd share something else with you which is "Bad boys aren't in it for the long haul when it comes to relationships. Nice guys and I'm assuming you are know how to treat ladies and are likely to be in a long term relationship".
You are such an intelligent woman. Thank you for all you give in your videos. To those who have a narrow or pecimistic view of women - you are a massive relief. Thank you for being just you. It's a wonderful thing! And just what the world needs.
I have yet to hear the advantage of having a relationship from the point of a man. Women want relationships because they need men to make their lives interesting. Outside of sex, why do men need women. What value do they really bring?
I hear ya (and I liked your comment), but I'm happy to say that in all of my serious to somewhat serious relationships at this point in my life (with the exception of my horrible and short-live marriage, ironically), my girlfriends have brought a lot of value to my life beyond just our sex in terms of fun times, companionship, and emotional support during some rough times. Most of my serious exes truly felt like my best friend for at least a good portion of the relationship----a best friend with "benefits"
Come on... Go to a women dating coach channel and read comments. Lot of women are winning about how all men just want sex. Yada yada. Men AND women can be asshole.
13:25 onward. Spot on. I think 99.99 % of women from Long Island (the cesspool I’m originally from) need to hear this, especially avoiding the “princess mentality.” Your videos are awesome!
GREAT VIDEO COURTNEY!!!! I AGREE WITH YOU 100%!!!! THIS IS YOUR BEST VIDEO!!!! THAT IS WHY I LISTEN TO IT A LOT I AM WORTHY TO HAVE A HIGH-VALUE WOMAN IN MY LIFE.
NO ONE!! is everything. We really do need someone to help balance (complete) ourselves. Nothing drives me away from someone faster than the "I don't need someone to complete me" line. That is the same as telling me you are NEVER going to be open to a relationship or be open to being an equal partner. It means you are always going to be want to be all about yourself never about working together and supporting your partner.
Really enjoying these videos. After my ex fiancé broke up with me a week after Valentine’s Day made me reevaluate my life and what I want in a woman. Was never one for cologne or anything like till I watched your videos and realized I need to be confident and comfortable in myself to have a healthy relationship and even working on mental health with a therapist to help better under myself. I gave up things I cared about for her and was making me hurt and would open up and she would shut down. Wouldn’t work on herself and work on things together.
Thank you been great help. She even said to me I got comfortable to you wearing jeans and t-shirts. I should’ve seen that as a sign before making custom engagement ring. But I’m big into concerts so always dress in band shirts or racing shirts and blue jeans but after watching your video on clothes I’m looking at getting darker denim. And find some cologne scents I enjoy. I learned through therapy I need to make sure I don’t change who I am for someone and find woman who likes affection, cuddling, and spending time together. So thank you for all these videos and helping me get better understanding of woman’s perspective always nervous talking to a woman and your videos are helping me be more confident.
hi Courtney thank you for the reminder there is a girl who works with me I told her how I felt. she was dating at the time now she was suspiously giddy around me last week she was at her desk checking cameras right where I was at few moments before calling me about her phone adapter which she never took home . thinking about sending her flowers today but you gave me my answer. thank you again ❤❤❤
I’m interested in seeing the type of video where she analyzes what’s in the middle about the traits a man or woman is likely to have. An interesting angle, because it’s pretty open/shut to say what most people objectively like and dislike. It’s another to open about what’s more likely to be out there, or at least if you present desirable qualities, being able to bring up the possible negatives that go hand in hand with having those qualities.
Would love to hear more about the positive changes you noticed in men who got married. Just got out of a six month relationship and I feel like I grew so much because of it
I think this is the most accurate for what values really is. I wish fresh and fit would have you on because clearly they pick the girls they do for views but what a breath of fresh air it would be to have you on their podcast
I appreciate the way Courtney describes a synergistic relationship. Someone that encourages and motivates, but also can challenge and be constructive. It takes two independent people to achieve interdependence (Steven R Covey) and that comes from knowing yourself and the value you posses. Thanks for sharing and helping to build more healthy relationships, God bless :-)
Haha, in this video (or the one I was watching before) you talk wistfully of reaching 100k subscribers. Today you have 138k! Way to go, Courtney! Thank you for all this work you're doing for us guys and keep going!
1. Self love and self respect
2. Always learning and growing
3. She's supportive
4. Emotional intelligence
Excellent Summary!
Ty
Seems rare
@@jamesg1974a Not at all
and the money?
“You should not complete someone”. One of the best quotes I’ve heard all year.
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@@CourtneyRyan Yes, it's about being happy on your own and then, if you want to, find someone you love.
Always awesome advice from this amazing young lady. Thanks Courtney for showing men the path to happiness.
Agreed. Courtney is terrific.
@@CourtneyRyan can u pls make a video on your thoughts or reactions to Twitch and how women are basically selling them selves on camera and making these "Hot Tub streams" and addressing the problem. Thanks👍
'A guy doesn't owe a girl flowers' 'A girl doesn't owe a guy sex'
Smartest thing I've heard in ages.
a girl doesnt owe sex. but she does need to provide it or he's going elsewhere. and vice versa.
Amen! Too bad many women think we owe them dinners, even when they don't like us and have no desire for a future date when the bill arrives
If she willingly chose to marry, then yes, she does owe him sex. And vice versa. That's a huge part of what being mates is about.
well if you are married the girl owes you sex for feeding her... if not there is a good chance she might not be married, and what kind of woman marries a guy just for money unless she intends to raise kids.... i know western banker feminists manipulate women but i am talking normal traditional girls.
It’s not just sex a woman owes her husband but intimacy/physical touch which sex is a part of. But yes sex in a marriage is important.
"You can't fix someone - they have to it themselves." Totally right.
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People need support systems as well. A mate can be a support system as long as it's not toxic but rather living and nurturing. People need people. But The right people.
Run till' that! I've learned that lesson...
BUT it’s very satisfying and uplifting to fix someone.
@@hastensavoir7782 but seriously, how often does that work out?
“If you wanted to do it just for you then you would be able to just look at the picture and be happy without posting it” that’s real.
RIGHT?!
Same goes for when they say ‘’I dress sexy for myself not for other people ‘’.
@@carvedtreeful yeah but that is creating art and expressing an idea, feeling, or something else. Where as a pic is for the attention, and validation. Nothing wrong with that, but it really is just for the attention and validation of others.
I like how you move away from the whole “high value” craze. It’s about finding someone who you’re attracted to, can communicate well with and have similar values.
besides here and from Kevin Samuels i've never heard it before, where else is it trending?
...though i dont even think the idea of a high value woman applies to men's thinking. it's more a woman's thing about men.
@@robi6317 It's not a new craze. It's something that has been talked for years among higher value men. Only recently due to Kevins popularity and other people trying to leech of his success, has the term high value become more mainstream and better explained to the avg person.
in other words, winning the lottery. I seem to find someone who encompasses one of those three fairly easily, occasionally find someone who encompasses two of those three, and once about every 5 to 10 years find someone who encompasses all three. BUT, when all three are met, there is still a major value or two that is missing (usually their desire to have children and my not wanting kids) that eventually ends things for us
🤩 it is so refreshing to hear ✨✨
@@Lonstermash couldn’t agree more. Same experience here
Thanks for the support!
Oh so it’s you guys eh? How are the girls doing even?
You guys should do a crossover with Courtney!
We need her on the podcast 😍
Yes sir boys Best dating podcast in the world
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"Humble and doesn't have a princess mentality", sums up all the other qualities.
I think a person can be humble without having emotional intelligence.
Do women get credit for not thinking they are a princess? How low is this bar we’re using?
@@sloebone7399 absolutely ,99% of women who have this princess mentality are narcissists
"No one owes each other anything. You have to earn it and show that you deserve it." This is why my ex and I broke up. I make good money and she just wanted a huge part of it without giving much in return. Well now she's married to some other rich guy. Poor guy, or shall I say, poor guy's bank account.
I am not sure if I agree with that. If you do not owe each other anything why bother have a relationship at all? I am sorry about your ex, you deserve near equal if not equal. And that equality cannot be quantified, only qualified that is you both feel satisfied and not feel being taken advantage of, it's a two way street.
I happen to believe that I owe you respect until you lie, steal or cheat on me in some way.
I also happen to think that it's only making this concession that humanity can continue to remain civil with each other.
Did she have a habit of saying “I/she deserves the best!” ?
The energy when you say “it’s okay! The worlds not gonna end!” Is so comforting it can be applied for any time you’re feeling a bit... anything! I played it a few times. Helped with what I’m going through now even!
High value woman is not someone who is high maintenance, rather she has the values you are looking for. With all the important things mentioned in your video. Supportive, emotional intelligence, takes care of themselves, does not depend on someone else to complete them.
However, still wants a special man in their life with similar values. Once you have a bond, it is nice to feel connected and loved.
Yes I miss exactly THIS. I am a matur woman. I spent my entire 20s hitting the books learning and became a professional I didnt date I never partied I have zero experience going to hars, parties, drinking etc. Sounds like a boring woman BUT it got me where I am in lIfe.
I got married had a child and stayed wit nthe same wonderul man 41 years, until he passed away recently, my daughter is a career military pilot.
I had a terrific relationship with my partner. We together made all our dreams come true. Now I live abroad and it is seems impossible to meet a hugh value man. Money had zero to eith it. It is his character, his mind, whether he is well read, a thinker like me a man of ideas who can discuss many things. The man has to excite my MIND first. Onñy then can my body follow. But I know I am different...a career clinical psychology professor I know what makes people tick like a watchmaker understands clocks. My problem is I can see a persons perspnañity very quickñy are they conscientious...if tye guynis a slob in his apperance well then NO he is not conscientious. Is the man somwehee arou d the middñe in extroverdion interversion...if he is standing onna chair regaling people.at a party or bar then no thanks..if he never leaves his house ditto. Is he at ease eith other humans. Is he open to travel and other cultures well where I live abroad the answer is almost always yes. But now come the really important ones how ageeeablemor disagreeable is he? Too agreeable and he is a pushover for everyone no thanks not manly, if he is a disagreeable then no, because he is a jerk. Right around the average is best. Neuroticism is also very important ...if he has very odd personaluty quircks that I can spot a mile off then no...is he obsessive or compulsive, dogmatic, Machiavellian ie manipulative, is he grandiose and full of himself too much or so shy and with such low self esteem he cant talk and banter a little. All this and more go into making a man high value has zero to do with his bank account.
What I love most about your channel, Courtney, is that you encourage everyone to be the best possible version of themselves.
The unhappier you are with your life, the more likely you are to be a shitty person. Thus, by encouraging people to be the best possible version of themselves, the more likely they are to be happier and attract others.
Very simply idea, yet I find that most self-help UA-cam channels lack this. And that's sad, because I think that if people were happier with themselves, the better the world would be.
Keep doing you, girl 👍
Deep analysis, you simplified the 15 minutes video.
Women used to think I am always this nonchalant person who don’t care about them, but that’s not it. I just don’t look to women to “complete” or be the only source of my joy and happiness. Well said, Courtney!
Her relationship with her family is a huge sign
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If only it was that simple... being able to walk away from toxic relationship is powerful and sometimes those include family.
@@janpauledwarddedios5366 100%
@@janpauledwarddedios5366 I definitely agree
No-her family is out of her control, rather look at her friends. I always say, "a girl is her friends." Just look at her friends, they'll tell you everything there is to know. Not necessarily her family, because she cannot control her family, but she can control who she chooses as her friends.
It's clear Teddy understood the "high value woman" - concept early on. Tell him to do more watch stuff with you, I miss that.
🥰 thank you. I’ll pass along the message 😂
Hey Truman how's life in the real world treating you? :)
The moment Courtney wakes up and sees that Antonio (RMRS) has uploaded a react video about her: 😎
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@@CourtneyRyan Please do a reaction video to RMRS's reaction video to your video
@@sohammookherjee9405 yes, this!!
She is a high value women herself for sure!🙏
Courtney is the perfect example of a classy high value woman, the heavenly sent gift that will keep on giving in your marriage and your life. Friends choose wisely and multiply your blessings with the right partner for life.
She's also the perfect example of a unicorn that rarely exists in real life, I have found
She’s also a person that you don’t actually know
She is not high quality at all...she is taking the piss
While one should not "need" validation from any other person to feel secure, I think it is really important to validate your partner's feelings and try to relate to them. Empathy is a huge positive from any human being (man or woman).
This is what I love about the martial art of Ai-ki-do where the person you would practice with is not called an opponent, but a partner for whom you should have fellow feeling given that you are both fragile human beings and subject to injury, and injury is not the purpose of practicing a new skill.
you're talking about being supportive and empathetic, she mentioned it. She was talking about those girls who literally crave validation, for example counting the likes on their last ass shot on instagram, it's quite common nowadays
You’re honest and straight forward. Most importantly you’re aware of what’s right or what’s wrong regardless of gender
Big, big point, others don’t complete us and others are not responsible to make us happy. Be complete and be happy, then consider a relationship. It is totally impossible to MAKE someone else happy, totally impossible. If you try, they will suck the life out of you then throw you in the garbage and then they seek their new source of energy.
You are absolutely correct, be whole.
Our life, our happiness, our dreams must be our own. This makes you high value. Know your value but don’t try to be anyone’s savior.
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I first subscribed to your channel when you had around 2k subscribers and now you are few subscribers away from 100k..u have been so consistent with the videos and also has awesome content. Really proud of you ♥️
You are awesome! Thank you for being here from the beginning 🥺 it does not go unnoticed!
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A high value woman, will pull her own weight, has integrity, stands up for herself, has good self esteem, doesn't draw unnecessary attention to herself, never bad mouths you, your friends, and your family behind your back. She won't cheat on you, or use you. She won't dress slutty, and constantly go against you, having an attitude and or ego. She will support you and your goals.
Literally the dream woman!
Mother Nature has a way of correcting herself when things are going bad.
COURTNEY IS THAT CORRECTION.
Setting such a great example for young ladies.
I love Courtney's honesty and understanding ;) but shes solid on her good values thank you Courtney
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Damn, this video really puts into perspective why my relationship failed with my ex. Always needed validation, wanted me to treat her like a princess. Ty these videos are def helping me build up my confidence.
You claimed previously that you are an introvert; I applaud you for being a vlogger. I used to be shy but life and work taught me to be expressive and outspoken
I think we should compliment one another not complete one another. 💖💥
Nor compete with one another
7:20 truly loved the Fresh and Fit reference. 💯
I am firstime seeing a women talking facts and logical things that much easily she is brilliant and i am impressed! 😳❤️
Its sad that people (I know) don't value their partners. I feel sad for them
6 videos in a week! I hope the grind pays off for you Courtney!
Her last point on emotional intelligence truly touched my heart, bc I'd been on the receiving end of it by my ex.
Thank you Courtney for using apt keywords like "underlying characteristics", etc. I simply had to nod my head in agreement.
If I am dating, and hanging out with her and she’s not willing to reciprocate or demonstrates that she cares to keep getting to know you, don’t force her to do so. Don’t talk or text where you believe she is failing at. Let her noticed by herself and keep moving on despite how hard it may be. If she does not, someone else will.
It's so nice to see a woman who puts herself together each day during a Global Pandemic.
Many people fails to understand or accept:
The value of a woman/man is determined by a consensus of the opposite sex.
It always amazes me when a woman tells : i'm educated, have a good job, independant and give 3-4 other "qualities"and the man replies "there is nothing i care in your list"
Wow Courtney thank you so much great video !! Me and my little brother are watching and he’s learning so he can avoid the mistakes I made dating women and I’m also still learning thank you 🙌🏽
Haha yay, I love it! Avoid learning the hard way 😂
Always live the life being a student you will grow faster than you think!👍✌️
I totally agree with the qualities you shared in this video. What is huge for me is that a woman who has a growth mindset and supportive. My ex-GF just broke up with me last year right when the pandemic started and you hit it right on the money when you mentioned listening as one of the most overlooked qualities in a high-value woman. I'm not going to say that I don't have flaws myself. I believe I have learned a lot from the failed relationship, I just don't have the right opportunity right now but I'm slowly working on it. Back to the listening part, I understand that we usually want our thoughts and opinions to matter however we often neglect the part of listening to others whether it is someone really important or not. I believe a person who truly listens is a must-have in a relationship. Being able to work things out with your partner crucial if you want the relationship to succeed. Sometimes it's better to keep the relationship rather than being right.
Speaking in the context of a healthy vibrant relationship- A high value woman will be confident, but she will still rightly need some validation from her man. Still independent but clearly 'better' by being in this healthy relationship. She understands that 'submission' to her man's leadership is actually the secret to empowering and energizing her relationship. She is supportive as her man also supports her. She is mature, emotionally strong possessing sound character: loyal, virtuous, honorable, kind, generous, etc...a woman like this will automatically be 'intelligent' witty and wise.
What a wonderful speech, again! Courtney, the important points that you listed and elaborated on in this presentation, really resonate with many high-value traits across various different traditional cultures, they express them in different ways though. I guess it's really a human thing.
Thank you! You are very inspiring through enlightening the good knowledge in people's minds and hearts! A great teacher!
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Courtney, I feel lucky the algorithm put you into my feed. I spent a lot of time doing a lot of work on myself and reading and youtube certainly helped in that process. It almost is eerie to me how this algorithm popped your channel into my feed at almost the exact time that these videos hit the stage where I am currently at. You are in my main group of go to channels to reflect on my personal journey...keep it up. It is really cool when you are able to do something for a living that is so positive for so many people. thank you!
You’re so kind! I’m glad I can help. Hugs 🥰
Another great video, Courtney! You bring a lot a clarity to the complicated world of women psychology and in a positive way. In most cases people especially men, don’t have a clarity on what they want and more importantly what they should be looking for in a women from a long term happy and healthy relationship standpoint.
Your videos are presumably for single people but what about married people? If there are any red flags then how can those issues be addressed? Some content on that will be very helpful. Thanks!
Striving to be the best version of yourself and add value to people and the world. A life with a purpose that is lived well.
Love the sports analogy! Spot on in the case of Lebron and Davis. Well done Courtney.
Really enjoying your insight and no nonsense approach to relationships.
I think everyone could benefit from high value friends as well.
People you allow into your life impact it in 3 basic and simple ways.
1) Improves your life, making you feel good about yourself.
2) Mostly neutral, like a casual friend.
3) Have a negative impact, causing uneccessary stress and frustration.
I love that you talk about the other side as well! ☺️ Of course it’s key that I have high value traits myself, but considering whether the other person does also is crucial
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How soon after the video was uploaded did you rush to comment on the video and kiss Courtney's feet?
Courtney, you're factual and straight to the point. Some guys complain that it doesn't make sense having a female give us guys advice but they're wrong. You're the best coach out there. Cheers from Canada
The fresh&fit podcast? Didn’t think you’d be watching. Very interesting 🔥
Respectful and kind, hard working, supportive, likes to talk to her man, and give him her love.
Life use to be like
What you're bringing to the table?
women: I'm humble, passionate, good listener, well rounded, supportive...
Nowadays
What are you bringing to the table?
Most women be like: I'm a Alpha female,I smoke, I cheat, I talk back and I don't need a man to tell me what to do.
Thank you for this content 🙏
Courtney actually comes across as a decent girl, it’s a shame there’s a lot of manipulative and cheating ones out there
I am 44 years old and I have noticed the same thing about women these days I am not rich and but I have never cheated done anything like that I feel like social media has made a lot of younger women narcissistic not all but a lot and it is pretty sad.
Damn, where are you? Montana? 🤣
Courtney I found you through Teddie. Your channel has eclipsed his in terms of content IMO. It's so rare to find a woman of your age that understands how things are and how they should be. Thank you for all the positive vibes. My girlfriend and I love your topics of choice and views.
Every human being has the same value for me. We are all equal.
In the end it is what both partners in a relation offer to each other, versus what they want.
The key factors of a relationship are respect, mental health and personal growth. It requires both to work on it. It is not granted from the beginning, it is built.
The problem of showing "high value" is that you risk buying cheap mirrors that shine, instead of diamonds that look like coal.
My wife did not shine when I met her. But I knew the traits I wanted and did not want, and I saw her undeveloped potential. Notice I was not intending to change her. It was that people always have things in a state of disrepair that are the result of hardships. Think of a nice car. You see the engine is in great condition, but its painting looks like the Millenium Falcon piece of junk. She was not going to impress anyone by her looks. She was not confident, she would not impress anyone. But she has a heart of gold, and I was able to see that. And she wanted a serious relationship, not playing games. Best decision ever.
Getting rid of her insecurities and fears was a pleasant process. She could see what I was made of.
Mature love has no drama, we communicate, like adults. Drama is for teenagers.
I knew marriage was like a gun with only one bullet. Failing marriage is too sad and complicated. I could not afford to fail.
I never saw her like a high value person. What I could see was her heart of gold, and her integrity, surrounded by disrepair that I knew that would not be a big deal to repair.
The good thing about looking for diamonds that look like coal is that nobody is looking, so I would have better chances and the final result would be better. Other guys are sold shiny high value, but they buy a mirror that breaks and cuts.
She did not self love, hardships made her be demoralized. She did not seek validation. She just embraced her apparent lack of worth. But I knew that if she could see her worth, she would have self love, and she did. I did not complete her. She was already complete and I was too. I just opened a door she did not see and she walked inside the room of self love. I loved that she wanted to be a better human.
Developing social skills and reading a room is a must.
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"A guy doesn't owe a girl flowers and a girl doesn't owe you sex"
Don't know why but that line got me laughing... I like how you say simple things just straigh
I love this young smart, composed, calm girl. Husband, dont never let her go! I’m an old dude that would be proud to have a daughter like her.
Solid consistent content as usual also I saw real men real style reacting to your video they had a couple of haters in the comments so you know I had to ride for the homegirl courtney.
You rock 😎
A relationship is companionship and partnership not codependency
🙌🏻 amen sistah ✨
You're wise. You know what you're talking about and you talk from within. That's what I call wisdom.
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Both men and women get jaded by looks and overlook problems that come from the inside.
I have all of these traits except i need to work on the self respect a bit more! I never thought of myself as a high value woman before, thank you Courtney!
I think the best way to tell if she's high value is her relationship with her father. Fatherless house holds are on the rise and changing the culture in a negative way.
Courtney can I just say I think you are such a lovely person with such a big heart. You are making a huge difference to guys lives with your work and it honestly means the world to me. Thank you so much my friend!
I think I know which episode you’re talking about Fresh and Fit 😂. You’re right they’re hilarious and you should definitely go to one of their episodes
Would love to see her on F&F podcast.
That would be legendary
Another thing to consider in an emotionally intelligent woman is if she is quick and thoughtlessly to apologize to manipulate you. If she does, to me, she is using you and therefore you need to keep on looking for a better girl. She maybe irked at you but no one likes to be called out.
4:47 - My girlfriend Makayla 21, of almost 3 years left me in June of 2024. Completely destroyed my heart, worst pain ever. Courtney is absolutely right. I tried to fix and heal her. I couldn’t. My girl had a traumatic childhood, emotional and mental trauma, and disliked herself physically. When her plate got too full, threw me away thinking it was best for her so she could “find herself, heal and grow” Absolutely destroyed me. Wouldn’t let me stand by her through the hard times.
You mentioned FreshandFit and now I wanna see a crossover hahaha
Courtney against those Instagram girls? It’d be a day and night difference lol
@@D3ADLYTHRUST52 the audience will be blown away by her class!
Man we need her on the podcast
Wow !.....Date a high value woman !!.....I never would have thought of that !
7:10 Ah yes, the OnlyFans girls who wouldn't listen to the guys trying to convince them that the money they're making now won't last forever.
At least one of them was willing to listen and she was the only one not on OnlyFans 😄
They better learn to invest
I think they were arguing with Kevin Samuels and they had no clue who he was.
@@stevec3526 it was Hafeez from roommates.
@@sincman Hafeez was there but Kevin was doing most of the talking remotely.
"@Kevin Samuels and @The Roommates DECIMATE OnlyFans Models on the @FreshandFit Podcast"
Well if she isn't similar to you Courtney; she's not high value to me lol 😆 jk jk. Seriously, i appreciate your excellent take on this very broad topic. I was watching a video the other day where the guy from teaching mens fashion channel was being interviewed and he said a Man who is high value is someone who provides high value. What we can do for others (society) is high value. For example, what you do for us here is high value. Anyways lol, thanks for helping me figure out what woman is right for me my friend 🌻
Haha you’re the best Georgio 😂👏🏼 I think I watched that interview as well with the roommates and TMF! I strongly agree.
Thank you Courtney. Some women are hypocrites. They post selfies of themselves and ask for validation yet they accuse you of posting pics of getting attention from women
Courtney I give you a suggestion please please start your own newsletter because you are so high value women and you helps me alot and even all mens who wants to upgrade 😊
I'm a low maintenance guy with an awesome personality 🙏🏻
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The right lady will appreciate this buddy 😊
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Jayme, thank you for the comment 😊👍🏻
@@johngonzalez4298 No worries at all. I thought I'd share something else with you which is "Bad boys aren't in it for the long haul when it comes to relationships. Nice guys and I'm assuming you are know how to treat ladies and are likely to be in a long term relationship".
GREAT VIDEO COURTNEY!!!1 PLEASE CONTINUE TO SHARE YOUR TRUTH. I VALUE WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. BECAUSE IT COMES FROM THE HEART.
Ah, Courtney. You're amazing. Two days ago I was going to suggest this video/topic.
👏🏼 enjoy!
You can't read people's minds!! It's a character thing!! Priceless!!
I NEED TO CONTINUE TO LEARN ABOUT A HIGH-VALUE WOMAN.
You are such an intelligent woman. Thank you for all you give in your videos. To those who have a narrow or pecimistic view of women - you are a massive relief. Thank you for being just you. It's a wonderful thing! And just what the world needs.
RSD has been teaching most of this for decades. If it was bad info, it wouldn't keep spreading. Keep it up.
I have yet to hear the advantage of having a relationship from the point of a man. Women want relationships because they need men to make their lives interesting. Outside of sex, why do men need women. What value do they really bring?
Children. Nothing more.
I hear ya (and I liked your comment), but I'm happy to say that in all of my serious to somewhat serious relationships at this point in my life (with the exception of my horrible and short-live marriage, ironically), my girlfriends have brought a lot of value to my life beyond just our sex in terms of fun times, companionship, and emotional support during some rough times. Most of my serious exes truly felt like my best friend for at least a good portion of the relationship----a best friend with "benefits"
Come on... Go to a women dating coach channel and read comments.
Lot of women are winning about how all men just want sex.
Yada yada.
Men AND women can be asshole.
Women bring no value but their greed..
13:25 onward. Spot on. I think 99.99 % of women from Long Island (the cesspool I’m originally from) need to hear this, especially avoiding the “princess mentality.” Your videos are awesome!
Q: Where can you find a 'high value' woman??
A: Easy pickings...they all hang out together with the unicorns!
Hearing you break down the sports analogy was so attractive 😮💨🤣
GREAT VIDEO COURTNEY!!!! I AGREE WITH YOU 100%!!!! THIS IS YOUR BEST VIDEO!!!! THAT IS WHY I LISTEN TO IT A LOT I AM WORTHY TO HAVE A HIGH-VALUE WOMAN IN MY LIFE.
NO ONE!! is everything. We really do need someone to help balance (complete) ourselves. Nothing drives me away from someone faster than the "I don't need someone to complete me" line. That is the same as telling me you are NEVER going to be open to a relationship or be open to being an equal partner. It means you are always going to be want to be all about yourself never about working together and supporting your partner.
Really enjoying these videos. After my ex fiancé broke up with me a week after Valentine’s Day made me reevaluate my life and what I want in a woman. Was never one for cologne or anything like till I watched your videos and realized I need to be confident and comfortable in myself to have a healthy relationship and even working on mental health with a therapist to help better under myself. I gave up things I cared about for her and was making me hurt and would open up and she would shut down. Wouldn’t work on herself and work on things together.
Oh my gosh, I’m sorry that happened to you! Good for you for working on yourself and striving to reach the best. I’m rooting for you 🥰
Thank you been great help. She even said to me I got comfortable to you wearing jeans and t-shirts. I should’ve seen that as a sign before making custom engagement ring. But I’m big into concerts so always dress in band shirts or racing shirts and blue jeans but after watching your video on clothes I’m looking at getting darker denim. And find some cologne scents I enjoy. I learned through therapy I need to make sure I don’t change who I am for someone and find woman who likes affection, cuddling, and spending time together. So thank you for all these videos and helping me get better understanding of woman’s perspective always nervous talking to a woman and your videos are helping me be more confident.
I appreciate how humble you are Courtney.
Great video Courtney. I need high value friends in my life.
A high value woman is someone who doesn't need you, but wants you.
They make good companions and mom's as well.
TOTALLY AWSOME VIDEO COURTNEY!!!! I AGREE WITH 100% ON EVERYTHING!!! A GREAT VIDEO, PLEASE CONTINUE TO SHARE YOUR TRUTH.
You are perfectly right, girls have to uplift themselves not relying on a man to do it for her, that is developing herself and her status.
hi Courtney thank you for the reminder
there is a girl who works with me I told her how I felt.
she was dating at the time now she was suspiously giddy around me last week she was at her desk checking cameras right where I was at few moments before
calling me about her phone adapter which she never took home .
thinking about sending her flowers today but you gave me my answer.
thank you again ❤❤❤
You have the voice of an angel !, I can't thank you enough Courtney you've been a great help to me and many other guys out there
I’m interested in seeing the type of video where she analyzes what’s in the middle about the traits a man or woman is likely to have.
An interesting angle, because it’s pretty open/shut to say what most people objectively like and dislike. It’s another to open about what’s more likely to be out there, or at least if you present desirable qualities, being able to bring up the possible negatives that go hand in hand with having those qualities.
Would love to hear more about the positive changes you noticed in men who got married. Just got out of a six month relationship and I feel like I grew so much because of it
I think this is the most accurate for what values really is. I wish fresh and fit would have you on because clearly they pick the girls they do for views but what a breath of fresh air it would be to have you on their podcast
You’re so sweet. Thank you Leah! ❤️
I appreciate the way Courtney describes a synergistic relationship. Someone that encourages and motivates, but also can challenge and be constructive. It takes two independent people to achieve interdependence (Steven R Covey) and that comes from knowing yourself and the value you posses. Thanks for sharing and helping to build more healthy relationships, God bless :-)
Courtney Ryan is a queen and must be protected
High Value Woman = Intelligent, empathetic, funny, honest, fit, high self-esteem, level-headed.
Yes, work as a team together and help each other out to be the best version of themself. That's what I expect of a good relationship.
Haha, in this video (or the one I was watching before) you talk wistfully of reaching 100k subscribers. Today you have 138k!
Way to go, Courtney! Thank you for all this work you're doing for us guys and keep going!