Singlehood, LGBTQIA+ and How to Cure Loneliness
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- Опубліковано 15 жов 2024
- If you're a single person or someone wrestling with same-sex attraction, are you carrying a heavier burden than Christians who are married? It's a common misconception that marriage is the quick fix for loneliness. But our friend, Christopher Yuan, is here to put things into perspective by showcasing Jesus as the ultimate example of fulfillment, regardless of your relationship status.
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To be alone with my Lord is a time I spend with a great friend. Never alone.
Amen
Hi 👋 As a 30 year old Christian who's never had a girlfriend, this video has been really encouraging 😊 Marriage will not bring me happiness nor completion, so I'd rather seek the Lord's face and enjoy Him on this side of eternity and let Him guide my path 🙂
Right. It, iike Todd Friel explains, is really about sanctification and not about happiness for "me".
Curiosity can lead to some bad things I’ve learned. Seek wisdom, not knowledge. Seek contentment rather than money and fame. I didn’t put God first and lost everything. But now I’m 49 with a foundation that I am telling younger people about. Especially when it comes to marriage.
I lived in India for 10 years, and it's common there for men to wait to marry until they're about 35. You're doing fine. God might match you up with the right woman when the time is right.
Get a girlfriend, dude. You don't need to be married to be in a relationship, and not every relationship is gonna translate to marriage anyway. If there is some woman you fancy, ask her out.
Sex does not cure loneliness! 💯
Two separate issues are being conflated in this video. Friendship is a cure for loneliness, but a relationship of full intimacy does much more.
Not even in marriage?
Lot of people in marriages struggeling with intimacy like people outside marriage perhaps it sometimes a bigger burden for people married
Maybee allways a sacrifice to live in faithfullness and maybee this sacrifice is worth everything
Explain sexual abuse in the church.
@@MrGuzmanra Everyone is a sinner welcome. Anyone is capable of the most haynes acts welcome.
I have two kids. My ex wife left us when the kids were young. I have been by myself for 10 years raising kids by myself. Jesus is my everything. Although I’m always super tired, God comes through all the time.
I hope you do well God bless you!
You're a Man of God.
I know people mean well when they say “we should be content with God alone”, and I absolutely agree, however many times people downplay the heartache that’s being lonely and always comes off as disingenuous, when we know the people who say that don’t fully like it either. Even the Lord acknowledges that it’s not good for man to be alone, we’re not made for that. Is it a beautiful thing? Yes, but only if you can handle it, and Paul says it isn’t for everyone, it’s just his recommendation.
Being single for too long can be unhealthy sometimes. A lot of people worship Paul and don't want to admit that.
@@SimonRiley752 Do not mistake Lilith for Eve.
@@mattr.1887you don’t have to worship someone to be convinced that they were correct
Loneliness itself isn’t solved by romantic attachment. Romance itself wasn’t always assumed to go together with marriage. Talk to married people today and ask some of them whether their loneliness was fixed forever when they got married. They’ll generally say they still need friends, and some of them will say that with friends and a life partner they still experience loneliness. That’s because communing with Christ through the Spirit and through the presence of God in other people is the sole solution to real loneliness. We in the West have a horrible deficit of understanding of how to have genuine intimacies with others in order to genuinely connect with God. Simply getting married won’t cut it.
I'm alone, and I'm fine. God makes all thing possible
63-year-old man no wife no kids and I'm never alone. God's always with me keeps me occupied with a love that's beyond comprehension. Never lonely & have more than enough to do Thank you.
I'm single happy and saved. It's possible. Do I get lonely? Not really. Would it be nice to have someone? Of course. But if it's between being single or being dragged back to hell... I'll take the cat/dog and my relationship with Jesus.
House Cats and dogs are great blessings from God. They are truly friends of ours till the end.
@@TheLateOreo My cats are heathens, they really hate watching religious stuff on YT.
That said, I had a weird experience, after much contemplation a few years ago, I prayed that the Lord would teach me more about what love means. Two days later a cat arrived, very hungry. I fed her a few times, and then discovered that she had given me a litter in the barn. Watching cats nursing and bringing up kittens is a very good lesson. Cats won't teach scripture but if you watch them, they will teach you much about how we should relate with God.
@@sterlingfallsproductions3930 God or not, it's disgusting what some people do in the bedroom. People with the mind to do that sort of stuff shouldn't be allowed around our children, or even the rest of us.
If it takes the bedroom to fill your void of loneliness, then you have a serious problem that needs repair.
@@sterlingfallsproductions3930 Your comment promotes disgusting behavior.
No, I don't want to hate but people like you with your behavior promotes hate.
Yes you care about my feelings. That's why you responded. You want normal people to endorse your sick views.
There's clean and normal meaningful ways to fill the loneliness void. You might consider the question that when you can't do that activity anymore, what are you going to do then, end your life in loneliness?
@@sterlingfallsproductions3930
--- *"You just want to hate on stuff."* --
*ROLLING OVER LAUGHING*
Hypocrite much, Sterling?
By myself but not alone. God is with me, and singleness is a gift. If God wants me married im fine with that too. We must bear our cross ✝️ of battling lust.
You just quoted Metallica.
33 yo male. Single while 'normal' people married around 28-30. As he said, I feel like I am less than a person because of that. Everytime I go to the church, all I see is a happy family with kids. No matter how I tried to view the singleness positively, as a human I always tried to compare myself to the happy married people around me..
How do you know they are happy?
Same age, never even dated in my entire life. I remember being super depressed about it in my 20s and watching people in their 30s saying it only gets worse. Well, I guess everyone's different cause it got a lot better for me. We know at this age it's not black and white and I know very well that people w/ families might have it worse than you or me. I'd encourage you to get a pet if you don't. My dog is my best friend. Coming back to faith was detrimental for me. knowing that I am never trully alone and filled with the holy spirit completely turned my life around. I trully, genuinely believe that Jesus saved me, I feel it every moment of every day. God bless.
@@tiboute3827 Thanks for the comment and sharing your experience! Yes I also noticed that some families also had issues. I once went to a counselling service to deal with this stress. And the psychologist asked me this: "Do you know how many families got divorced?". The psychologist told me that not to discourage marriage, but rather to think that there are always two sides of a coin.
I do agree that getting closer to Jesus makes my soul feel accompanied. I started the bible study around 1 year ago and it helps a lot with my loneliness and depression.
I don't have a pet, but yeah I heard that getting a dog is another step for mental health! So thanks for the suggestion!
I'm praying for your happiness
Ask the Lord what he wants your to do in order to prepare for a wife and I guarantee that he will show you who she is Long before you two are married. He did this for me 10 years ago and then opened up the door for me to begin preparing 6 years after that. It was simply for me to go to school and now i am only TWO CLASSES away from graduation!
You are in a loving family with God. His army of heavenly servants watching over you and your brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus. But in the world, you may be alone, you shouldn't be lonely in the spirit.
Thank you for sharing this👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
All that love stuff is in the movies. Finding someone who really cares is very rare.
Amen. thank you for this Lord. I needed to be reminded...
People should get married to save the family system.
Of course being single does not make one miserable but we should prioritise marriage
According to Paul, getting married is not the best way, the best way is to be single and chaste so you can dedicate yourself to Christ. Marriage is when you are not strong enough to follow this path, not for saving the family system. Jesus advises to quit family to follow him. OT advises to "multiply" (polygamy was normal then) but it is OT, replaced by NT.
lol. No
That's not true. Paul gave his opinion of if you can be like him. And when yousteady history, the Christianswere in persecution. So it makes sense to have stayed single due to the challengesthe Christianswas facing. Even Adam had Eve. Is Paul better than them? Paul was not born by only a man or a woman. Marriage saves our civilization and also makes unique and exclusive. He never made being single the best way.
As a single myself who has never been married or even dated it’s hard though finding your “people” when they are busy with their own families. So yes we get lonely because there is no one to hang out with (besides singles who are not Christian) and the church does not do a good job at helping their singles within the church. We are called to bear each other’s burdens.
It is always the heart of the matter with our Father. ❤️
That was insightful
As a Christian over 55, I was betrayed in a marriage, betrayed in four other romantic relationships and I failed three women in my leadership. Now, three years later it is BETTER to be single. I assess my life more, I focus on Christ more, I seek where I will be used for the Lord and because we are all broken, it makes sense to let the Lord repair my imperfections, sins and heart instead of delaying those hard decisions. I know my God is there with me, I know my Savior is interceding for me, I am prompted by the Holy Spirit to watch my tongue more, to watch my actions. My scripture says "My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge" Hosea 4:6. When I live according to the scripture, there is MUCH more fulfillment than spreading my focus on other things. Not that romance is bad, but there is a ton of benefit to hearing the call of God, striving towards that and it is fulfilling and wonderful. That is not coping either, it works.
That is at least partially consistent with Paul’s talking about how single people think about how to please the Lord while the married thing about how to please their spouses
Thank you
So very true! I'm happily married for 23 years. I became a stay at home mom and began to feel very lonely.
Once I began to spend more and more time with Jesus, He truly truly filled that void. I may be alone at times but I'm never ever lonely! I'm so fulfilled in Him, His joy, His presence and His peace! Praise God❤
Thanks for this!
WISE WORDS FOR US ALL
I'm almost 30, have no friends, never had a GF. I feel very lonely. 😢
My best advice is to be super honest with yourself about what you enjoy doing in your free time and then find a way to meet people with that sane interest.
As for dating, somewhere between 1:2 to 1:5 couples meet through online dating apps. If you really want to start dating but don't meet enough women in your daily life join 1 or more online dating apps. Be brutally honest about what you enjoy, what you look like, and what you are looking for.
Good luck.
If you genuinely have no friends and are feeling really lonely, you’ve got to try therapy. I can’t help but recommend specifically a Christian professional psychologist or therapist. You’ve got to work on your self concept to come to have a better relationship with yourself so you can have the confidence to speak to strangers and begin to make friends
I am FIFTY and have never had a GF. I went though the "too nice" issue. Ask the Lord what he wants your to do in order to prepare for a wife and I guarantee that he will show you who she is Long before you two are married. He did this for me 10 years ago and then opened up the door for me to begin preparing 6 years after that. It was simply for me to go to school and now i am only TWO CLASSES away from graduation!
I really appreciate this video, sir. Needed tochear this
Thanks.
So true! Be with christ and you will never be alone! I always have a dad above me, a friend within me and a lord beside me!
People with imaginary characters are never alone
He lived, died and rose from the dead. Its history! I would not dream to make this up.
samesex for 20+ years, even married her after 6 years. 7 years later I got out of it and now live for Christ. I am so happy these days to be living for the King or creation, give back to Him for dying for me! I have zero regrets for picking up my cross to follow Him. All day long baby!
Throughout my entire life, I've walked the path of singleness, my faith anchored since my school days. At times, an ache of profound loneliness grips me, a longing for earthly companionship. Despite seeking solace in God and surrendering completely, I find myself without the physical warmth of a wife. I cannot embrace God as I can a woman or wipe away His tears, whispering, "I'm here, for you and we are in this together." His face, unseen, does not light up at a gift of flowers, nor do His eyes reflect desire as we dance. All I have is my voice echoing His words to myself. I know I am not alone with God, yet my yearning for a tangible, emotional bond in a God-centered relationship with the opposite sex is irreplaceable. I weep myself to sleep wishing for calamity to drown the constant heartache of a heart that has nowhere to rest. I'm not expecting marriage to solve this heartache but rather seeking companionship and commitment that I can journey this life with. Being single has affected my social life. People see me as the old guy that is not capable of love. To the married people, they see me as a potential home wrecker. Weeks go by and I find myself saying only a couple sentences a day. I've tried getting out of my comfort zone. I've tried inviting friends to go out. All are busy or not interested. My only friend God and weeping. They always show up when I call.
Indeed, God said that it's not good for the man to be alone. Who are we to argue with God? I'm praying for you, friend. If you haven't, perhaps pray that, if there's anything preventing you from finding a wife or being a suitable husband, that the Lord will reveal it to you.
I have had girlfriends and before I was with them, I truly thought life would be better with them. That has never been the case. Life still has it's struggles and with relationships comes other struggles
The right one will come along, never rush it
It is not good for man to be alone.... Genesis 2:18.
It's a good job for single people there is a church, then
One body...many parts many diffrent actions many important roles that we all must follow the truth together as one ...love thy neighbor as thy self...
It is proven no one can make you happy as you make yourself happy. And knowing God personally gives you purpose and right perspective in life. That's it. Don't go after people. Work on yourself.
Ive seen some same sex couples that stick together for years and supporting each other. Ive also seen them as my Patients supporting each other just as much as heterosexual couples.
Marriage is not the ultimate cure for happiness. If it were, you wouldn’t have so many divorces happening.
Marriage is the single greatest cause of divorce!
I think what you are saying is that it often IS a cure for happiness. 😂😂
Gay men have the Lowest divorce rate, no women to drive them mental
Divorces primarily happen because people get together in a way that God did not design, or authorize. That mist be examined first on what the pulpit is.
@@oscargr_ maybe temporarily, sure. But every marriage goes through arguments. You won’t be happy all the time
I don’t know. I’d absolutely hate to be single for the rest of my life.
I’m married. (For 5 years.)
But I really, really feel sorry for those that are single
Ask the Lord what he wants your to do in order to prepare for a wife and I guarantee that he will show you who she is Long before you two are married. He did this for me 10 years ago and then opened up the door for me to begin preparing 6 years after that. It was simply for me to go to school and now i am only TWO CLASSES away from graduation!
@@saxmanjpr5092 - congrats on going back to school!!
@@JustMe-px9qy Thanks. I dont know how God will do it. I am fifty years old who is still trine to become a retail manager. That is a n industry that really only employees those who are in their 20s. I HAVE already encountered age discrimination, ( I had an employee in an interview ask me who old I was, and the corporate office refused to hold that boss accountable) but Jesus has very clearly show me to go to school, so he's got something up his sleeve to cause a miracle to happen! :)
@@saxmanjpr5092 - just don’t be too hypersensitive. Asking your age shouldn’t be that offensive to you.
Anyway…good luck and all the best.
@@JustMe-px9qy Dude, its again the LAW for a perspective employee to ask your age. You need to educate yourself! My GAWD! Your reaapewnce is just another reason why I have renounced your "Jesus."
For a lot of people being single is not a choice but something that just happens. God helps us to make the most of whatever and wherever our life takes us. As a lifelong single (I'm in my mid 50s) there are times when I feel lonely but I am never alone because God is always with me.
You must be rich
@@Moist._Robot Everyone who knows God is rich.
@@harryfaber
None so lost as those who think they’re found.
I’m not happy being single. I like women and want to be married and have kids. It’s hard to find a good woman nowadays.
Trust me, you'll be even more unhappy being with the wrong woman. Unfortunately, 99.9% aren't marriage material, even the ones in church. I wasn't happy being single either, going through terrible marriage, divorce and other terrible relationships will really teach you how to be happy by yourself.
Right there with you. I have been praying about it every single day. I am blessed and thankful for all that God provides but I can’t seem to get the only thing I really want, a loving wife
Yes, Jesus role on earth was different. Paul didn't desire marriage. Paul or Corinthians says "better to marry then to burn with passion", but many young men are refusing to eat the rotten Western fruit (modern wom3n). This doesn't even account for the wicked marriage laws that crush men. Going overseas seems to be the best choice
@@noname-oe9jy I’m will be 33 next month, and I have never dated, kissed, or had sex with a woman. I’ve been waiting as best as I possibly could, and now I’m getting fed up. Time just keeps passing me by! I believe you, even church women nowadays aren’t worth a darn. I feel so hopeless. I’m at the point to where I will just screw anything that comes my way. Honestly I shouldn’t feel this way but, I hate having the status of a virgin. Feeling like it’s all in vain.
@@EyeBelieveSowhen you really want Jesus more than anything, He will send the right woman for you.
You can be in a room full of people and feel alone.
Wow, I am so very impressed with this video. It is so interesting to see that for me I have now been alone for so long that it no longer bothers me at all. I am divorce with 2 boys. Happy to say that they are doing good for themselves with their mother. Now, for several years I don't hear from anyone in my family, except my mother and one auntie. I have no visitors who come to my house. If I am to meet with someone. GOD brings them me or me to them. I will tell you that I am never lonely, GOD showed me that. Thank you, and GOD bless you all. In JESUS name, Amen.
I lost my gf of three years because she believed she’s part of the lgbt community. Now she is depressed and miserable. I love her still with all my heart but idk what I should do, she doesn’t seem to want to accept Jesus but I know it’s in her
If you've told her the gospel of Jesus Christ truthfully then you've done your part: just distance yourself and pray. Maybe the LORD will bring her to Christ, maybe he won't. Whatever happens, keep trusting and praising God. "Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised." (Job 1:21).
Don't be unequally yoked with a non-believer. Seek Jesus first in everything.
Dont give up praying for her salvation. BE a good example to her, love her and GENTLY show her that she is in sin. I prayed for my Grandma to be saved for 27 YEARS! She finally accepted the Lord 6 months before she died at age ONE HUNDRED!
I think God is telling me to stay on her and not give up. It’s a feeling that I’ve had since she left like our story is t over. I feel connected to her every single day. I WILL continue to pray for her and that she finds Jesus again.
@@EyeBelieveSo you’re not giving up if you decide to move on. You’re doing what’s right
If you open the door for one thing, the other type of depravities will come.
But what about my 11 year old daughter??
@@nicholasclarke8182 she has to deny herself like everybody else. Have you watched the video?
@@nicholasclarke8182what about her? in what way? She is but a child. Children dont know one way or the other about all this stuff.
@@black-cross Why would a God create people and then turn around and demand that they deny themselves? It makes no sense.
@@itsJPhere why would God put the tree of the knowledge of good and evil in the garden? To test our hearts, to teach obedience, to understand there's evil out there and we cannot submit to it. I have a lot of desires that I have to deny myself every second or I would be in jail. These people are not a special case but they like to act like it.
It just hit me today, and I wanted to know your opinion, Frank, if you would. Do you think it's a coincidence that we call it the far left and the far right and in Matthew 25:33 NLT
[33] He will place the sheep at his right hand and the goats at his left.
What do you think ?
Celibacy not on the Bible? Huh, what about the Nazarite pledge?, what about the Essenes, what about when Jesus says "it is better for some not to be married, but not everyone can do this" I'm just paraphrasing, the Catholic church did not invent Christian celibacy.
Well for one thing the thing you quoted was Paul, and mentioned in the video, not Jesus.
And Paul said it not to say that celibacy is any better or worse than marriage, just that it is ok to be celibate. Which is the point in the video.
But no I think the catholic church did invent celibacy in terms of it being a requirement for life.
Yes, there are concepts of celibacy mentioned in the Bible, and some celibate people. However, the Catholic Church imposing mandatory celibacy on ALL clergy is unbiblical; for example, even the Apostle Peter, we know from Scripture, was married (see Luke 4:38-40 & 1 Corinthians 9:5)
I'm curious. Where does God command the Nazarites to not marry?
Also, it doesn't look like Jesus was commanding celebasy either. He talked about it but I don't see it commanded.
Thoughts?
Also, that quote was the conclusion of the disciples and Jesus clarified their conclusion.
@@Yipper64 sorry your right about the quote.
Why are they specifically referring to the LGBTQ community? I'm a single heterosexual female & would love to have a husband, but at my age it isn't likely to happen unless God has someone out there who doesn't care that I'm in a wheelchair . Not another disabled man (that feels like the blind leading the blind to me).
Who am I to say this to you, but you brought it up, so: why couldn't a man in a wheelchair love you and marry you? Can't two blind people marry? Or two deaf people?
Just pray to God and ask him to bring you a husband and write down specifically what you want in a husband and pray and ask God specifically ❤
Because LGBTQ live rent free in their heads.
The only thing thing I struggle with about being single is masturbation….Cause then I feel so guilty but then I fall again and again…hard to beat that imo.
Same here. The Lord has shown me that this is the main issue on why I am still single and I dont know how to stop it, but God is telling me very clearly that it MUST come to an end. I try to keep myself busy to avoid Rosie, so fat it is working.
I am married. Yes, you can still feel loneliness even if you are married, have a partner or you are surrounded by family and friends. A Relationship with Christ/God is the only answer to loneliness.
1 Corinthians 7:7-9 (NASB 95): Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that.
8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. 9 But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Most people are married and unhappy. And ended up in adultery. There is no right answer for every person. Some are better off being single and some are better off being married.
I am a hetero man. I try to imagine if roles were reversed, and that religion concluded that me practising my orientation was a sin and all the rest of it. If society told me that loving a woman was an abomination or even a crime. I would truly feel horrible. It was this kind of thinking that resulted to the death of the man who cracked the enigmacodes during ww2.
The word celibacy is not in the Bible but Paul talks about "Eunuchs " who are by definition celibate. Paul talks about Eunuchs being man-made, self made or born that way. Since sex outside marriage falls under sexual immorality not being married is celibacy. Paul said that marriage is good but dedication to God is better.
Early "church fathers" wrote about how enforced celibacy is a very bad idea because it leads to immorality.
Eunuchs can still have sex, they just cannot impregnate. Big difference between eunuchs and celibacy.
but sometimes God chooses to use seal immorality token tally bless someone. He is doing so with me ALL BECAUSE my step mom sexually abused me (who CLAIMED to be a Christian, BTW) Had it not been for that woman using the belt between my legs, I never would have become as promisocuse as I was. Jesus just decided to put a stop to one escapade that I was in...THREE TIMES and then reveled to me in a dream that ONE DAY this particular girl will be my WIFE, as soon as I get thrpojugh school, as a late bloomer!
I have been struggling with this issue for a few years. Being a Christian and single. I have been single for almost 20 years. And the longer its gone, the more frustrated and lonely i become. Its confusing because on one hand, paul seems to suggest that if he could have it his way, he would prefer all Christians to be single like he is. So that of course, we could have more time to serve God while we're single. But yet, God created adam and saw that he needed companionship. Then said it is not good for man to be alone. I have wondered if he meant that it wasnt good for Adam specifically to be alone? In order that he and eve would be able to be fruitful and multiply? Or did he mean it wasnt good for every man to be alone?
If Christianity is causing you to feel so lonely, have you considered another way to live that would be more fulfilling?
Ronnie, do you have an idea of what "more fulfilling" would be? I come respecting tloc's bravery in confessing to the confusion he is fighting.@@CrinkledPankerSociety
@@CrinkledPankerSociety He didn't say that, now did he. Away with you, deceiver.
Hey friend! In this life we should be thankful for our struggles because maybe that’s where God wants to use you for His Glory - I can encourage you to have fellowship with other members of your church- this life is not about us but to glorify and get back to Jesus - continue to take care of your mind and body !! Don’t lose your fight in life because of loneliness/ volunteer for others - build for others / mentor the youth - I too am single and the world wants us to focus on desires of the flesh - focus on fulfilling the Holy Spirit - seek my friend! Seek after the kingdom of God then all things will be added to you ❤ re read this is you still have doubts then pray to God to help you with your faith in his vision for your life
@@blahblah49000 He literally wrote, "And the longer its gone, the more frustrated and lonely i become."
I married an alcoholic. That us loneliness for real.
Happiness is not determined by another (sinful) person. In heaven there will be no marriages nor relationships, so earthly realationships aren't that vital. If it helps you glorify God, good. If you don't have it, that's ok too.Our focus should always be on Jesus.
Given how corrupted modern women are by all the Godlessness in all spheres, many God-fearing men are going to be walking the path of Saint Paul, unmarried bachelors that are champions of Christ.
If a man feels lonely in his own marriage then there's a problem in the marriage basic knowledge
It's unbelievable to me that this would be an example
If it was true then adam would never have needed eve
No one is hated more than one who speaks the truth.- John MacArthur
Because Truth is hate speech to those who are perishing.🙏🏼
Yeah! Id like to speak the truth to him about how I almost committed suicide because of how this dispels treated me when I pleaded for help because I never knew my mom....and HE as the preacher that did her funeral!
They can just suck it up because we straight people (even us that have been married for decades) mostly men like myself are lonely, feel abandoned, desperate and dying for love and attention. They are NO more special or important then we straight people. So they can cry me river and paddle thru it, no sympathy here ! I have almost killed myself so many times because of my wife and her abandonment.
Stay strong, man. Divorce takes a while for good men to get over.
When Bible says it's not good for a man to be alone, it doesn't mean what we mean by loneliness today. The loneliness a guy in a video is addressing is actually a loneliness inside a person who has unresolved attachment problems, which is what most people nowadays unfortunately have. And that kind of loneliness cannot be cured by romantic relationships, because it's rooted in lack of self-acceptance. And until the person accepts themself fully, they will forever feel lonely, because when you don't accept yourself, others follow suit, and you won't accept God as your Father, instead believing he is a harsh judge that condems you for your mistakes.
When Bible says that it's not good for a man to be alone, it really means that it's difficult to walk in life without someone who looks deeply into you and sees you as you are and accepts and loves you no matter the mistakes you make as you two move through life. There's nothing like that, and the reason Bible says that is because connection and closeness are basic human needs. And it is not good when basic needs aren't met.
If you want to get married, have personal relationship with the Holy Spirit, and ask him to prepare you for marriage. Base the prayer on God's promise about marriage in Genesis or Paul's verses on marriage. If you're an LGBTQ+ person, you should know that God prepares the tools for all the promises he makes. If he says that homosexual lifestyle is sinful, it means he has prepared the way for a person to live in God-ordained relationships (heterosexual relationships). Lay hold of that promise, bind and destroy the works of the enemy, and proclaim God's will written in his Word regarding your sexuality, and ask Holy Spirit to prepare you for the family life, if you want it.
What did God mean it is not good for man to be alone? Was that only for Adam?
Think about it. That would mean that Adam and Eve would have had a few kids, and then the next generation would have had none, and then what about God's instruction to be fruitful and multiply and subdue the earth? Obviously that's not what it meant, and thousands of years of interpretation also testify to that. Jesus himself said that men and women are to be married.
I know like we are to be with God all the time and he's with us Jesus is with us all the time when we are following him, but I also think it's kind of weird though that sometimes you can feel physically alone and I think that's what Adam's problem was cuz he knew God, he might've even seen some form of Jesus walking through the garden, and yet he still felt alone. I feel like this. As much as I love Jesus, he's literally the only person that makes sense in all of my circumstances, as much as I try to keep him center as much as possible, I still can't fight this urge/feeling to want kids, and find a wife! I'll try for a moment just to focus on Jesus, but then those feelings come up!
I believe he knows my desires better than I do. Cuz I've tried to move those thoughts of having a relationship with someone out of the way, but I can't! I believe he installed those desires in me.
Well celibacy might not be explicitly stated but clearly mentioned in Matthew 19:13 "and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it". Plus Jesus Himself was celibate, so clearly its something God encourages, and if priests (along with other religious people) are going to be alter Christ makes sense requiring celibacy just as their master did.
They are given they forgive sins, celebrate Eucharist, attend the sick and serve their community, just like Jesus did being a servant of others, they are therefore alter Christ.
Priesthood and being part of religious orders are also not for everyone, but for those that have the call of God, they must remain celibate just as Christ Himself was also, otherwise it would be a contradiction.
It is also common sense, a married person has additional responsibilities that a single person does not. They can better serve their community.
Marriage is the foundation of community.
@@mattr.1887 Agreed, however its not one or the other but rather both are needed, marriage given it is needed for society to survive and flourish, and celibate single people fully devoted to their ministry serving others just as Jesus Christ Himself did. Given no one gave us the most perfect example of serving others than Christ and He never married it is easy to see why it is a good thing to do for those who are called by God to His service.
@@gamefan8552 In Christ all are one. The priesthood is of all believers, and all are to serve. The apostles and disciples were not celibate, and it is they who built the church that Christ founded. It is later traditions that corrupted it and injected these false ideas about celibacy, which have led to suffering and sin. Reject these heresies and read your Bible.
@@blahblah49000 in a sense yes, but there are also priests (which come directly from Apostles) who do unique functions that no other believer does, so clearly some are called for service of God that no other can do unless called by God.
There is no biblical or historical evidence to support the claim that Apostles were married, except that Peter was probably a widower. Both Jesus and St. Paul extol celibacy and both lived what they preached by being celibate.
Even if some Apostles were married (highly skeptical) celibacy was also highly regarded within the early Christian community.
Joseph, son of David,
do not be afraid to take Mary your wife into your home.
For it is through the Holy Spirit
that this child has been conceived in her.
She will bear a son and you are to name him Jesus
Amen
If it’s God’s will for me to be single so be it that’s what will be. Don’t like it but there must be something better.
Something better?
Marriage cures loneliness they say !!
“Following Jesus should cost us everything”. Funny to hear from a guy who has a lot to lose.
So ... When Frank and his guestsay "no" and mortify the deeds of the body, why is it they are still allowed to be married? If your argument is that queer folk need to take up their cross, why is it that they have more to lose?
I don't think you can live a full life if you don't experience everything so you'll never experience everything so therefore you're still missing some parts to your life you will have a form of your life you'll have experiences but I don't think you can live a fulfilled life if you don't have every experience and nobody will ever have a fulfilled life because you're missing some experiences and if you never have children or if you're a woman that bears children you'll never know love at that version level creating a human being or in fact been given a human being by God and a responsibility of that human again you can take care of your grandma but it's not the same as giving birth to your grandma or as a man making a child with a woman and bonding yourself to her because that's what marriage and having children is all about I feel bad for people that never get fulfillment with the child rearing process
Starting at 2:45 ... it is so frustrating watching Christopher, a Christian leader, fail to understand what the other side is saying. His suggestion that anyone that is single is lonely is his takeaway from the statement made from the Supreme Court opinion and his alone. If he would take the time to listen to how the other side would describe what that section of the opinion is really getting at, we could have more productive conversations between the two sides. Not only that, but he would be acting as a Christian leader who is actually interested in hearing the other side's rationale and description of what this topic of "loneliness" is getting at in the context of that Supreme Court decision and this conversation. Kennedy is not saying that a single person can't live a fulfilled life. Christopher is the one suggesting that he said that. Kennedy is not saying that it is marriage that makes someone whole. Christopher is the one suggesting that he said that. Therefore, Christopher is not interested in having a fair conversation, and that is a shame. A damn shame. As Christians, we have GOT to be more curious. We MUST listen to those that disagree with us more intently. Otherwise, you come off as smug and unfair in your treatment towards others.
Repent the Kingdom is near.
Romans 10:9
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
I'm gay, and I no longer want relationships with men. My priority is God far and above any of my fleshly desires. I don't expect that gay or lesbian people who haven't been saved can easily restrain their desires or make any drastic changes to their lives, but though God's grace we can have the strength needed to change.
When I was reborn, my feelings and my understanding of what it means to be gay totally changed overnight. Now my understanding of the sin involved in it is visceral, immediate. I am repelled by any sin because the wrongness involved is obvious to me through the power of the Holy Spirit. I wouldn't want to do anything to disturb my relationship with God, nor would I want to do anything to disappoint Him. I'm writing this for those needing encouragement, whatever problem you're working through, if you cry out to God, and don't give up on him, he will respond. Sometimes it takes hitting bottom to be able to place your whole life in his hands, and that's what it takes, giving him all of you and all of your life. God is looking for us to sincerely want to know him and to change.
This reminded me of that scene in The Chosen when a guest compliments Nicodemus saying something like "You make us whole" and he replied in a reprehensive manner: "Only God can do that". Paraphrase, btw
Sorry but I still want to be married. I am still looking for a wife first. Also why is the church not helping out people find a spouse?
It's inappropriate for the church to find you a spouse. Also,I can see it turning it into a crazy mess.
@@TheGuy.. I meant in the sense of introducing you to other people and seeing where it goes.
@@nicholas1569 Well, people in the church do that. That's just what people do. If they like you and think you and someone they know might work out, they'll introduce you.
But they also know that their reputation is at stake if they set you up with someone.
Personally, I steer away from being matchmaker.
Cause that’s not what church is for. It’s church, not a dating club
Marriage is a part of Gods plan. God said to multiply but it needs to be in the confines of marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 puts it perfectly. Unfortunately the current corrupt divorce laws and given that 60-70% of marriages end and 80% of those filled by the women, plus 1 out of 3 marriages are sexless as it is, makes it extremely dangerous for men to marry anymore. So what is a person to do when they have that burning passion as God said in 1 Corinthians 7:9? I will never trust getting married to another women again & Being in a sexless marriage is pure hell.
The idol of romance has taken over our culture. People are told they can find fulfilment in love when only Christ can bring fulfilment. Therefore I propose two suggestions:
- People must be whole before marriage, mentally and physically. No one should be allowed to marry before the age of 25, when people are fully developed and have already learned to live alone
- People must be whole emotionally before marriage. We must implement mandatory psychological evaluations to judge this, or else we are allowing people to fall into the lies of the world around romance instead of what the bible says.
With these implemented, we will certainly see a reversal of the modern day’s high divorce rates and true godly marriage thrive.
Nonsense. None of those were required in times past, when we didn't have these problems. People used to marry at younger ages, and they stayed married. The idea that one must be perfect alone before joining in marriage is absurd. Marriage causes one to grow and mature. Remaining single allows childishness to endure, and this is what society promotes now, to seek career and worldly pleasures alone instead of family and spiritual ones together, to raise cats and dogs instead of children. This is why we have a generation of adult children. Get these foolish ideas out of your head. The Lord wrote that it is not good for man to be alone. Jesus said that a man is to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. That is the Lord's design for us, and who are we to argue with that.
@@blahblah49000 I didn't say 'perfect' (just 'whole') before marriage, but just curious, would you say a similar thing to Yuan? Like he said
"We need to realise: you can live a fulfilled life as a single person. If you find yourself single, you don't have to view yourself as half, or not whole. What makes you whole is not marriage. When I taught for 12 years I told my students- before you become one, be whole. Before you become one in marriage, be whole in Christ." --> Therefore it's not a problem to restrict gay people from marriage
Unless you do agree with the idea that forcing singlehood is good? It sounds like you don't.
Or put in another way, if I were to use your points on allowing gay marriage:
The idea that gay people shouldn't be allowed to experience marriage with those they love is absurd. Marriage causes one to grow and mature. Remaining single allows childishness to endure. The Lord wrote that it is not good for man to be alone. etc etc.
Thoughts?
@@mamusipipalisajelo5419 Don't bring the idea of homosexual "marriage" into this. It's completely off-topic. The Lord wrote that it's not good for man to be alone--and then what did he do? He created woman, not another man. You know this, so stop playing games.
The matter of wholeness is not clearly defined. People can opine about it all they want. I'll rest on the words of the Lord: "It's not good for man to be alone." "Be fruitful and multiply." "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife."
Paul added that some have the gift of being content unmarried, meaning that most don't; and that in his personal opinion, it was a good thing to be unmarried. Yet do the words of the Lord throughout Scripture change because of Paul's personal opinion?
Was Adam whole before God created Eve? Yet God created Eve. Who are we to argue with God? Why is this hard to understand?
I think God is not pleased with this false doctrine about being "content" or "whole" or "complete" before being eligible to marry. It is found nowhere in Scripture. Paul wrote to not be unevenly yoked; not to be "complete" or "content" before getting married. I think it has done severe harm to Christians, leading them to put off marriage until they have some vaguely specified FEELING, a feeling which will inevitably wax and wane during the trials of life. In the meantime, they are missing out on years of spiritual growth with a spouse, and often, sadly, on having a family at all. God did not teach this, so why do we? It is a modern heresy, one which we must cast off.
Choose a godly spouse, with God's guidance--but, by all means, choose one! It's right there in the Bible!
@@blahblah49000 To be clear, my original comment on Turek's video was the one playing games. I'm not a Christian, I just took an idea espoused by Yuan in a silly direction to see what people would say. His argument is around the idea that restricting gay marriage is fine because being alone is fine actually, at least here.
Jesus Christ is the Son of God 🙏
There aren't any godly women left. It's a disgrace.
There are no strong men anymore either
And all men are rising to the occasion? Nope
OK! Here is the bottom line for the type of Christans who are mocking and knocking marriage. First is that how you feel about your own mothers relationship with you Dad? Second, please stop and use critical tonic king that dating is NOT in the bible, and does not give scriptural commands for it. Ten ask yourself how JESUS is currently preparing for his own marriage! AND YES! HE IS doing that and WILL be married on the future, and then"imitate everything he dose" and I guarantee that you will find a marriage partner that will be PERFECT for you with having a marriage that is filled with having civilized disagreements not arguments and fighting! I have SEEN it happen!
Adam did not need Eve, ok.
@@SimonRiley752 Eventually someone would have eaten it.
Thanks CrossExamined
In the video we follow him down the escalators, onto a train and then back up into the daylight as a born again Christian.
All in one take by the looks of it.
@@Moist._Robot
Yes, I asked him.
@@gi169
Great. It’s a good video.
I had watched it a long time ago.
But when in the video did god take away his atheism?
@@Moist._Robot
I don't really know, I just thought he did a good job making the video.
@@gi169
Well you’ll notice that I recognised that myself. But I can’t see how god took away his atheism. The title of the video.
INSUFFICIENT
Let's say 1% to 10% of the population of Earth is homosexual roughly. Let's say 10% for arguments sake. That means the biggest pool of people you can lust after is one out of every 10 people if you're homosexual. If you are straight the rest of the people of the opposite sex is about 50%. That means that you can lust after one out of every two people roughly. So, it's more difficult being straight and controlling your lust than it is being gay and controlling your lust. Like you said in the video, we ALL have a cross.
My brother in Christ, thats not how it works, Gay people can also be attracted to straight people, for example a gay man can be attracted to a straight man, and straight men can be attracted to lesbians.
@@sterlingfallsproductions3930 the problem with the gays is that people are teaching them that they're "born that way" instead of just treating it like bad behavior. So they confuse and exaggerate femininity for attention, and they tend to be more agreeable out of a fear of rejection. Misery loves company.
@@SimonRiley752 exactly.
not once have i seen God use the alphabet people in the bible, not once
Way to be a bigot.
@Gek1177 you are the bigot.
Balaam? God used him.
@@harryfaber he wasn't part of the alphabet community. What?
@@black-cross His preferences may have even shocked the 'alphabet community'. Rabbinical teaching about Balaam is interesting.
The weird and wonderful Christian religion, they should bring up Bible verses related to stone throwing, but cherry picking verses of choice are easier to defend
1 Corinthians 7:7-9 (NASB 95): Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that.
8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. 9 But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.