As the ex-wife of serial cheater, thank you for calling it what it is - abuse. I dealt with niggling doubts about my husband and my marriage for 32 years before I found out the truth, and it was incredibly hurtful to me and to our children. I still don’t believe my ex is a narcissist, but I do believe he had the mentality of entitlement and “as long as nobody knows, it’s okay.” I appreciate you drawing attention to this issue, calling a spade, a spade and demonstrating all the reasons why it is so destructive.
I didnt believe my ex was that malicious deep down like hg explains narcissists, I believed he was a bit stupid but didn’t have evil intentions and wasn’t THAT bad. So then I did the opposite to what hg says to do to see if he had furry. And OH BOY did I see it first hand! First thing was drawing boundaries and not telling him everything he asked, I explained I’d rather not go into detail about aspects of my life that don’t involve our children, the devil was unleashed! Then I began to put headphones in and said if you don’t respect my wishes to not enquire about other aspects of my life I’ll just obviously not hear it, I put my headphones in and the devil was unleashed once again, from that point I just started saying the word no to basically anything he asked and that was probably the worst reaction I go. I never saw it before and after these tests I can never Un-see it. For a year after found hgs Work I listened but just didn’t and couldn’t believe it to that extent, some things i agreed with but others I thought no he’s not that bad/evil. My ex shows fake empathy and always tries to make out he’s EXTRA caring. The bad boy turned good with a heart of gold type thing, a family man etc. his facade was convincing but completely dropped and his reactions completely out of proportion. I recommend just saying the word no and seeing the reaction you get because you might be very surprised as I was
Thank you, HG, as always. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. I'm sure if his wife were doing the same, his reaction would be quite different.
@@Em-im1yz unfortunately I thought I was never the type to cheat especially once married (grew up religiously) then it occurred but did I stop no it truly was an ego boost but I found out later after beating myself up for destroying my marriage he was seen with other women and I always suspected but since I was living my well thought best life why question then I left eventually I even thought his punch was what I deserved since I bought up at his brothers affair marriage about the lap dance he got from his younger brothers girlfriend at the time hmm 🤔 how stupid did I feel. Plus I NEVER THOUGHT I’d be someone to cheat I just couldn’t understand until later but it’s wrong and not the way I was brought up. So cheaters never win & Winners never cheat
Be honest and tell your wife, then she can decide if it works for her or not, then she can decide whether to stay in this kind of marriage or not. Fair is fair.
His wife doesn't know? Does he know if she, in turn, is cheating? And he will never be found out because he is so clever? In my personal experience mistresses (or their girlfriends) frequently feel compelled to "confess" to the wife. He seems terribly naive.
He literally cheated on me the entire relationship. Came in cosplaying as a single man. My birthday is on the 23rd of February. He cheated on me that day as well.
So much work to cheat instead of actually investing and fixing the root of the problem. You can’t be a better husband or dad if you are LYING to your family.
My ex husband was a serial adulterer during most of our 18 years iof marriage, with definite selfish and narcissistic traits, though I'd never quite worked out if he is a true narcissist or not. His parents, esp. his dad, (a classic grandiose narc), definitely are, as is his sister. They are so wrapped up with themselves its almost funny. His young brother, the empathic saint of the family, tragically died this year, and I was gutted, such a lovely, caring man. His dad made the tragedy all about himself, of course. My ex was a cheat and a compulsive liar, but he is actually a better person than his awful parents or his sister... which perhaps isn't very difficult, lol! However, from what you've said here, he probably is a narcissist.
It's wrong because your wife is dedicating her life and energy to a lie. You're robbing her of her opportunity to be with a man that ACTUALLY deserves her dedication.
There is no such man and no such relationship which deserves a woman´s full dedication. She should only focus on herself and what benefits her the most.
This is how my ex met me. He seemed single, he had gfs before me and once I was with him for a few months I found out he had a long term fiancé of about 7/10 years or so. She was also pregnant, then I found out I was pregnant. He got a house for us and stayed with me. But then would try and bounce back to the ex till she said no more. Then he was cheating on me every weekend and during the week! He’d say he was working but everyone who knew him thought he was single as I did back when I met him. If I ever tried to leave he said he’d make me homeless as it was his house and I was much much younger than him, no income and unable to work with a small baby
This could’ve been written by my nearly ex husband. Caused huge ongoing financial instability, horrific effect on my confidence bc I knew something was up but was always blamed if I voiced concerns. I’m glad u called a spade a spade in this video and called him out on his behaviour.
This posted blog piece in the newspaper is odd without any diagnosis or explanation that this is narcissism, agreed. As a stand-alone piece, it reads like lifestyle advice, cheating as therapy. As the latest thing.. Even if his wife didn't know, he was sure spending a ton of time away from his family. With all the sports *and* the affairs.
If he cheats he opened the relationship 🤷♀️ take his money and find a new bf yourself that’s what shera seven says to do . Or leave and get half his resources like legal law says is fair. A man helping other man cheat and destroy other women and CHILDREN lives is gross. He has no respect or empathy for his own family . Selfish selfish selfish!!!
Marriage is a commitment and I vowed to be faithful and loving no matter what happens till death do us part. Call me old school but one woman in my life is all I can handle and want. Now I’m single and will remain single as all the woman are dating this douche instead
What's good for one , is good for the other - unless one is very "forgiving " , then it's actually quite a violent act(s) . The most damage is done to the children , by the cheat(er) - the children learn from adults - " monkey see , monkey do " .
@@חנהכהן-ד9ר it’s kept secret from the wife because if she did the same the narcissist would have an absolute meltdown down. Flirting with a guy is enough for them to fully understand what commitment and loyalty is. Imagine she said it makes her a better wife 😂
@@NoBusinessOfYours old fashioned maybe but i was brought up as CofE to believe in sanctity of marriage when i was married i kept that vow but abused because i wash "nice"! Later as a divorcee i cheated once on a man i luved after
I told .my love i did this and split from him! Why you may ask? Cos of my grt RESPECT for HIM ! He didnt deserve a woman who would cheat he deserves a nice woman!
Better to be a serial cheater than a serial murderer? Neither are ideal, but serial cheating is the lesser of two evils. There's no correlation between the two. I appreciate how HG posted this after the 'dirty empath: infidelity' video.
As the ex-wife of serial cheater, thank you for calling it what it is - abuse. I dealt with niggling doubts about my husband and my marriage for 32 years before I found out the truth, and it was incredibly hurtful to me and to our children. I still don’t believe my ex is a narcissist, but I do believe he had the mentality of entitlement and “as long as nobody knows, it’s okay.” I appreciate you drawing attention to this issue, calling a spade, a spade and demonstrating all the reasons why it is so destructive.
I didnt believe my ex was that malicious deep down like hg explains narcissists, I believed he was a bit stupid but didn’t have evil intentions and wasn’t THAT bad. So then I did the opposite to what hg says to do to see if he had furry. And OH BOY did I see it first hand! First thing was drawing boundaries and not telling him everything he asked, I explained I’d rather not go into detail about aspects of my life that don’t involve our children, the devil was unleashed! Then I began to put headphones in and said if you don’t respect my wishes to not enquire about other aspects of my life I’ll just obviously not hear it, I put my headphones in and the devil was unleashed once again, from that point I just started saying the word no to basically anything he asked and that was probably the worst reaction I go. I never saw it before and after these tests I can never Un-see it. For a year after found hgs Work I listened but just didn’t and couldn’t believe it to that extent, some things i agreed with but others I thought no he’s not that bad/evil. My ex shows fake empathy and always tries to make out he’s EXTRA caring. The bad boy turned good with a heart of gold type thing, a family man etc. his facade was convincing but completely dropped and his reactions completely out of proportion. I recommend just saying the word no and seeing the reaction you get because you might be very surprised as I was
@@Babee56 interesting!!
I, I, I... (Me,Me,My) So delusional. What a Gump.
Thank you, HG, as always.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander. I'm sure if his wife were doing the same, his reaction would be quite different.
It's a very shallow and selfish behaviour.
Right so cheating is one big ego boost
@@Em-im1yz unfortunately I thought I was never the type to cheat especially once married (grew up religiously) then it occurred but did I stop no it truly was an ego boost but I found out later after beating myself up for destroying my marriage he was seen with other women and I always suspected but since I was living my well thought best life why question then I left eventually I even thought his punch was what I deserved since I bought up at his brothers affair marriage about the lap dance he got from his younger brothers girlfriend at the time hmm 🤔 how stupid did I feel. Plus I NEVER THOUGHT I’d be someone to cheat I just couldn’t understand until later but it’s wrong and not the way I was brought up. So cheaters never win & Winners never cheat
Be honest and tell your wife, then she can decide if it works for her or not, then she can decide whether to stay in this kind of marriage or not. Fair is fair.
He's definitely a narcissist. I hope his wife gets wise to his behavior, lies and abuse, if she hasn't already.
I hope the wife and kids leave. He’s endangering her health! Literally
His wife doesn't know? Does he know if she, in turn, is cheating? And he will never be found out because he is so clever? In my personal experience mistresses (or their girlfriends) frequently feel compelled to "confess" to the wife. He seems terribly naive.
Appreciate your ability to provide information, explain and clarify. Thanks HG ❤
I love how you break everything down and call out what he is actually doing. I have learned so much from your videos!! Thank you HG!!
Even his definition of "love" is selfish.
Due to the Education I am receiving from your work. I believe he is a full on Narcissist. Douche Bag. Thankyou HG.❤️🌻
He literally cheated on me the entire relationship. Came in cosplaying as a single man. My birthday is on the 23rd of February. He cheated on me that day as well.
For all the wise information your putting out how about adding a apology to souls you’ve destroyed !!! I hate narssists !!! Praise god 🙏
So much work to cheat instead of actually investing and fixing the root of the problem. You can’t be a better husband or dad if you are LYING to your family.
I wander what Will happen to this delusional “thing”when Karma hits…we can not consider “it” as a human being.
How tragic.
Thank you HG
My ex husband was a serial adulterer during most of our 18 years iof marriage, with definite selfish and narcissistic traits, though I'd never quite worked out if he is a true narcissist or not. His parents, esp. his dad, (a classic grandiose narc), definitely are, as is his sister. They are so wrapped up with themselves its almost funny. His young brother, the empathic saint of the family, tragically died this year, and I was gutted, such a lovely, caring man. His dad made the tragedy all about himself, of course. My ex was a cheat and a compulsive liar, but he is actually a better person than his awful parents or his sister... which perhaps isn't very difficult, lol! However, from what you've said here, he probably is a narcissist.
When I finally caught on, he told me it made him a better husband. Well, I went ahead and let him be a better boyfriend. Bye!
It's wrong because your wife is dedicating her life and energy to a lie. You're robbing her of her opportunity to be with a man that ACTUALLY deserves her dedication.
There is no such man and no such relationship which deserves a woman´s full dedication. She should only focus on herself and what benefits her the most.
They are so wicked! Bottom line: they don't have love.
Lol…infidenty is not a mistake…it a choice…. This remind me. If a
This is how my ex met me. He seemed single, he had gfs before me and once I was with him for a few months I found out he had a long term fiancé of about 7/10 years or so. She was also pregnant, then I found out I was pregnant. He got a house for us and stayed with me. But then would try and bounce back to the ex till she said no more. Then he was cheating on me every weekend and during the week! He’d say he was working but everyone who knew him thought he was single as I did back when I met him. If I ever tried to leave he said he’d make me homeless as it was his house and I was much much younger than him, no income and unable to work with a small baby
Love you❤❤
This could’ve been written by my nearly ex husband.
Caused huge ongoing financial instability, horrific effect on my confidence bc I knew something was up but was always blamed if I voiced concerns.
I’m glad u called a spade a spade in this video and called him out on his behaviour.
This posted blog piece in the newspaper is odd without any diagnosis or explanation that this is narcissism, agreed.
As a stand-alone piece, it reads like lifestyle advice, cheating as therapy. As the latest thing..
Even if his wife didn't know, he was sure spending a ton of time away from his family. With all the sports *and* the affairs.
What causes the narcissist? Lack of love and and delirium.. so is it conscious behaviour??
Many are aware of their bad behavior they don’t care
If he cheats he opened the relationship 🤷♀️ take his money and find a new bf yourself that’s what shera seven says to do . Or leave and get half his resources like legal law says is fair. A man helping other man cheat and destroy other women and CHILDREN lives is gross. He has no respect or empathy for his own family . Selfish selfish selfish!!!
Marriage is a commitment and I vowed to be faithful and loving no matter what happens till death do us part. Call me old school but one woman in my life is all I can handle and want. Now I’m single and will remain single as all the woman are dating this douche instead
Does his wife get a chance to have fun on the side? Or is she with the kids?
What's good for one , is good for the other - unless one is very "forgiving " , then it's actually quite a violent act(s) .
The most damage is done to the children , by the cheat(er) - the children learn from adults - " monkey see , monkey do " .
@@חנהכהן-ד9ר it’s kept secret from the wife because if she did the same the narcissist would have an absolute meltdown down. Flirting with a guy is enough for them to fully understand what commitment and loyalty is. Imagine she said it makes her a better wife 😂
@@NoBusinessOfYours old fashioned maybe but i was brought up as CofE to believe in sanctity of marriage when i was married i kept that vow but abused because i wash "nice"! Later as a divorcee i cheated once on a man i luved after
I told .my love i did this and split from him! Why you may ask? Cos of my grt RESPECT for HIM ! He didnt deserve a woman who would cheat he deserves a nice woman!
She’s home otherwise he would open the relationship to be fair 🥴
Better to be a serial cheater than a serial murderer? Neither are ideal, but serial cheating is the lesser of two evils. There's no correlation between the two.
I appreciate how HG posted this after the 'dirty empath: infidelity' video.
Gross you even compare the two! One is emotional death of women and children or men if the partner is homosexual. Both are DEATH to a person.
SMH😤
My ex a serial cheater and sexual predator.
I bet his wife knows but is there for the money😂