This Is Paris #1 - Therapist Reacts
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to The Real Story of Paris Hilton - This Is Paris. Includes clips from This Is Paris (UA-cam).
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#ParisHilton #ThisIsParis
The documentary was so much darker than expected...
Yes dark But this is coming in Like many many waves 🌊 as the revealing of dark shadow issues Like family scapegoating needed to bring light
Who will be the next hugely famous family scapegoat child to speak out, talk trust feel, the tipping point of this.., Perhaps Prince Harry Or James Murdoch
@@umchinagirard1800 .
I thought the same thing but it was an amazing growth experience for her and I never was a fan of her like that but I have so much respect for her now.
Yeah just watched it
I'm so glad to hear about the dangers of sleep deprivation. It's so overlooked.
Thank you so much for reacting to this!! I wanted you to do this so badly! Dr. Honda, you're the best. XOXO
Wow! I was waiting for this to happen! Seriously! 🙃🙂 Cant’t wait for #2
Dr Kirk is a beautiful human being--inside and out.
Please, please, please do this series!!!
She is in the circle where alot of child sexual abuse took place. Maybe she is suppressing something. I'm not a therapist just observing the world
just watch the full documentary
I feel like Paris' 'go go go' mentality is a form of anxiety.
I know when I'm anxious I busy my self with nothing and everything at the same time
Yes. My anxiety manifests itself into being constantly busy so I don’t think about things and so I feel like I have some type of worth.
She has adhd
Sam B. It’s called trauma blocking
I have an anxiety disorder and this is 100% true. My own "go go go" lifestyle is very much induced by anxiety.
yeah for her, and a lot of people with trauma, it's go go go or something bad will happen (like getting kidnapped in your house while your parents watch)
I think her sister confused the word “drama” with the word “chaos.”
So true
Tina Bean her sister also confuses Paris as the person with the issues between them, when in reality it is “dear, sweet, and oh-so-very-together” Nicky, herself. What a shit sister. Hope Paris catches on soon.
Her having ADHD is pretty known, you'd think her sister would connect the dots
Has Good I think they both have issues tbh
Mfw I'm paris
Her sister's response that she was a bad kid and that she should apologize is so ridiculous and upsetting
That one bothered me so much especially after the sister told her she was the one who told on her most of the time and that she was never worried about going to a school like that. It just didn’t sit right with me.
@ExposingMiLabs idk about that. Then technically almost every teenager who had a rebellious phase should apologize to their parents? Strict parents create rebellious teenagers, had they been a bit more flexible with her upbringing, maybe she wouldn't have gone so wild? Instead they tried to suppress her more and shove her into a box to force her to act a certain way by going to these "schools" in the middle of nowhere. That's.... A lil bit whack to me
Adri totally agree with you
Well she was. If anyone remembers her from about 15 yrs ago before ppl got utterly tired of her, she was bad alwaulys in scandals taking drugs and even went to jail.
She was never a bad child. She was smart and perceptive and probably an INFJ who had normal behavioral responses to parents who lied and kept secrets!!
the scene where she is in the pool with the balls and the manager tells her she has to go to bed and the way she looks at him gave me chills. she really is a grown up child its such a telling key scene
I felt that too.
Same. It felt so.. Unnerving.
She never grew up! In her head she’s still 15 lol
@@brasrica when u get abused or go thru trauma ur mind mentally stays at the age u got abused at , so tht explains why paris is still like tht :///
Aena Mustafa really do you have a source for that?
The mother was so concerned about her reputation. This documentary will probably ruin it now, but I think she deserves to be exposed
Yes mom and Nikki have empathy deficiency’s are scary 🥶 cold beings like aliens 👽...
Danielle Frank So does the sister it appeared. Very sad for her.
She didn't have any reaction when Paris told her about the school. She has no remorse, it seems like she knew exactly what she was doing to Paris as a kid and didn't care what it did to her.
👏🏻 the mom definitely has what's coming to her.
The parents and sister should be ashamed.
"Some people, due to their upbringing and their experience with humans actually don't like humans very much."
That's me
I felt this
And me...
I get that
Yep
Me too
That wasn’t “dramatic” or drama like. That is a sign of trauma. Having triggers such as not being able to go out without everything being perfect sounds like anxiety to me.
Her sister is talking like she does this on purpose and you can literally hear the toxicity in her sisters tone. Her sister honestly sounds COMPLETELY jealous of Paris’s life.
Flying monkey 🐒
That's actually very true..I am exactly the same, I need everything I need before leaving the house, its a trigger if I don't, I can go into meltdown or shut down if something is missing.
I disagree. Not every disagreement is jealousy. I hate when females throw that card around. Sometimes, believe it or not, people have opinions.
@@veronicachristopher9321 yeah jealousy isn't the reason for everything jesus. Especially since it's used all the time when it comes to women. Like: woman 1: I like art woman 2: I disagree andI see it a different way than you *nosy onlookers busy consoling the first woman*: don't you worry she's just jealous
@@veronicachristopher9321 im one year late but i totally i agree, like they’re related n all and paris Isn’t the only one raised in the environs she was in, let alone the only one affected by it (not saying this to belittle). there’s more to relationships like that than plain jealousy. like no one ever thinks two women sharing a last name and dna can feel any way about each other beyond anything driven by vanity or envy.
She was definitely the first influencer. The first time i saw someone wearing a Juicy sweat suit and using a sidekick it was her!
Something rebellious about her... it was predicted would take a very famous family scapegoat to push a tipping point in knowledge about the human flaw to family scapegoat... I thought was going to be perhaps prince Harry or James Murdoch etc ... but Paris might be the one ☝️
Oh God YES! I wanted that stuff and was too young and too broke 😅 Paris was queen 👑
The REAL first influencers were royals but in terms of the beginnings of social media, I see what you mean.
She Aquarius, this is normal for any Aquarian, they are free thinking and commitment phobic and have terrible self confidence, its just Aquarius 💜
@@nicoleashleyknox me too! I definitely had a knock off velour sweatsuit and the zipper never quite worked lol! Those were the days :)
I just finished watching the documentary. I'm so sorry Paris has to go through the betrayal of her parents and others in her life. Her parents certainly had no parenting skills and their daughter paid the price. It was so cruel to have her kidnapped from her own room and taken away, screaming for help, and they just stood there, crying. That family is toxic. Her mother doesn't even tell her she's sorry. 😪🤬
Exactly
Her mother is a narcissist. All she cares about is her image. She is not capable of loving her children the way a mother is supposed to. She removed Paris from her home because she was ruining their family name. Pathetic! I feel for Paris. She seemed very sincere and has a good soul.
Yea as a kid your first port of call in terms of trust is usually the parental unit. No wonder this girl never really lets anyone in.
Significant empathy deficiency in mom and sister 🧊 ice cold women like that are scary
Because she’s not sorry
Do BRITNEY SPEARS next.
Yes! I was going to comment this
I would be interested to see her documentary. She has been a lot.
That!
Yesss
It would be so fucking tragic. I wish she could just do what she wants.
Wow, there's a lot of Judgy Judys in the comments. If you don't want to see it then don't watch this series of videos but some of us are actually interested in the human experiences of other people, especially those who may be perceived to "have it all" and still be damaged like the rest of us. There's plenty in Paris's behavior that could be a trauma response. Y'all don't even think about how what you're saying could affect someone who has similar characteristics from trauma. We all adapt and cope differently. Move along if it isn't for you. Not everything is.
Agreed!!!🙌
Well said!
Have I managed to miss all of the “Judgy Judy” comments?
Ha! Indeed. Just move along if it isn't for you. Totes.
Besides how the public sees her she’d done a lot of charitable work.
It’s so sad to think about the fact that she’ll never get therapy because she doesn’t trust anyone. I hope one day she can find peace with herself and the experiences she’s gone through because they’ve truly made her a genuine kind woman.
@xobunny xo She actually did say that in an interview: www.insider.com/paris-hilton-cant-see-a-therapist-does-not-trust-anyone-2020-2
Maybe fact check next time before being rude, have a nice day
I wasn't a fan. Wanted to see what " trama" she had.. I grew up with quite a few of my friends going to these "charter hospitals" which is who owned the school that she went to in Utah most of them committed suicide within two to four years of leaving there. She needed help just not that kind. Children should't be treated this way. Unfortunately most children's state run mental health units aren't much better these days. After seeing her documentary, prayed that she will see that she needs some serious help to be her authentic self, which is the Paris I enjoyed seeing in the documentary.
@xobunny xo I believe she said something to that effect that's why she doesn't want to go see a therapist. Because she doesn't trust. Was one of the things I could have sworn I heard along with I like dogs better than people. She meant it. I've met a few people like this and as I've gotten older I'm definitely becoming one of these people as well. We tend to be people who've been traumatized and used by other individuals and so you don't trust people. I don't blame her she's got people who want to be friends with her because she's famous or rich they don't really care about her as a person. That sucks.
I watched another video which mentioned she was working with a sleep therapist .. so thats definitely a step in the right direction
@@pjt3887 I truly wish you the best too, I have no idea how your situation is but I'm currently going though the same struggle of not being able to trust or even relate to anyone. I have hope for people like us and I truly believe one day we can finally be free of our trauma and pain, until then i wish you the best and I'm truly rooting for you.
Maybe shes a bit forgetful at times because she hasn't had a good night of sleep
Apryll Exactly.
Yes.
Sleep deprivation can be hard.
just because shes a rich white girl doesnt mean that her story is invalid.
Who said her story wasn’t valid
Agreed, I said the same thing just now. This whole anti white thing that’s going on right now is daft, it’s used as a cuss
C wdym by anti white- white oppression doesnt exist
@@maddie7086 youd be suprised at how many people are trying to kill or harm white people because of history and their ancestors and im not even white
@@Ja_cky7039.. we deserve it tbh lol
I think she has high functioning anxiety based on trauma and perfectionism from her controlling, emotionally distant, superficial valuing upbringing (parents).
The mom and sisters empathy deficiency and scapegoating her
LOVE this video, watched one by Dr. Todd Grande and it was terrible. The man clearly already has some negative view of Paris and women like her and minimizes everything we see in the documentary, calls her “the goddess of narcissism” and basically says she brought it on herself. Awful. So it’s refreshing to see a real mental health professional talking about this with empathy and seeing her as a real person who has had many challenges in life, as well as speaking to what all women struggle with. So thank you.
I've watched a few Todd Grande videos and *every time* I come away thinking he's just pretending to use psychology to justify his already preexisting views on a subject.
Sara Staniszewski I agree. I usually agree with him, but that was terrible. As someone that has Complex PTSD from childhood trauma, i can clearly understand where she is coming from. The idea that you are never truly happy.
I unsubscribed from him along time ago. He’s a quack.
100% I would be into this series.
Agreed!
I just watched Paris’ entire documentary here on UA-cam. I’m glad I watched it before watching Dr. Kirks reaction. I can see the whole picture that way.
I just won't give the actual video /watch or click on any of her videos... she has WAY enough money and in general an awful person.
itsMYTRNX3 only an awful person would say that.
@@itsMYTRNX3 do you know her personally? How can you judge someone's character when you've never even met them? Did you pay attention to what he said at 7:10? The way you judge others is actually a reflection of your own character.
I have friends who went to Provo canyon school, and everything she said in her doc is spot on what my friend's have said
Interesting . . I went there, too & NONE of this happened while I was there. I didn't like it there, but I wasn't supposed to. . I don't believe her at all.
@@imangiomo just because something didn’t happen you, doesn’t mean it wouldn’t happen to anyone else
@@nathaliel716 True enough..however, had you gone there or seen how things worked there (at least abt 25-ish yrs ago, when I was there), you would understand that not much goes on at PCS without everyone else knowing.. especially the type of stuff Paris was talking about. Its not a very big place, there's a limit on the number of girls who can be there at any given time,& veing there for 6+months, knowing all the girls & staff, I am confident when I say it's a bunch of exaggerated BS. Again, it's no vacation honey, ok? Believe THAT! But it was what it was supposed to be.. & parents are REQUIRED to participate in their students care, in addition to video surveillance, so there's not a lot that can go on under the radar, I guarantee it. ♡♡♡
@@imangiomo What year did you attend?
Monique Hicks what you say is interesting... If this abuse did not happen to everyone that implies the Paris's parents may have been in on it and relied on the school to be harsh with Paris to teach her a lesson. Honestly I would not put it past them
Now go and compare this to dr Todd grandes “assessment” of the documentary, whose conclusion is that Paris is the goddess of narcissism. Makes me appreciate dr kirks knowledge and empathy a lot more. we need more therapists like him
I find dr grande unbiased
His video was trash and he's clearly not a psychologist. I've read astrology charts more accurate than his "assessment." Dr. Kirk is an actual psychotherapist and his analysis is pretty fair so far.
Dr. Kirk goes into these videos unbiased and open mind.
Yes I saw the title and I felt uncomfortable. Then I thought maybe it was click bait.. Anyways Im glad I didnt click.
The reason I stopped watching Dr Grande (and I mean this as no slander) was because during his analysis of Dalia Dippolito, he made a sly joke insinuating Dalia didn't understand basic mathematics because she was a sex worker.
She actually seems very relatable and inspirational after watching her documentary.
Yeap. But to me i wasn't surprised. I knew ever since shes more than a dumb blonde.. I personally put on a character sometimes on my social mood (dont we all??) Thats why I related to her too
I dont think so, her life is so empty that her only goal is make more money, and think she will be finally happy. I find her docu really sad.
@@glorybloggerm1147 interesting point
I don't know about relatable. I certainly can not relate to her life. But I can have empathy for her challenges and her humanity.
my heart absolutely broke for her when I saw this the first time. No child deserves to feel like that. How could her parents think it was okay to let strangers seemingly kidnap her in the middle of the night to drag her off to some boarding school. I can imagine the betrayal she must have felt towards her own mother and father and maybe still does? I hope she knows that she is a strong person with an incredibly courageous soul for reaching out and speaking up.
Her comment about being so rich her parents couldn’t control broke my heart. From day 1 I knew it was a ploy; she took notes from Hollywood actresses and built her brand. #foxyloxy
This was a common practice with a lot of troubled youth because you couldn't locate them until it was night time and they finally came home and got back in their bed at 3:00 AM. If you gave them an opportunity to find out that you were going to be sending them to an addiction treatment unit, they would have ran. Had friends who did exactly that and they never went home.
I sobbed for 30 mins straight about all of this. 😞
The genius is in she out riched, out famed, out lived, out smarted, out survived her abusive, scapegoating, narcissist family lol 😆🙌
Me too 😭
I Adore the fact that after her parents stripped her of her of everything trying to control her, she still came out of this as a total boss! Not a another self soothing drug addict! And instead of playing the victim she’s taking her power back!!
Wow 🤩☝️🙌 just what the world been screaming out for a very public Totally survived Famous family scapegoat hero 🦸♀️
Umchina Girard What does that mean?
@@mjrussell414 she's trying to be sarcastic but it's so uncalled for. Paris is a human being just like the rest of us.
😃
Paris is awesome and a great rollmodel for other women that have survived abuse.
What surprised me most was how introspective she is...
NGL I cried when she reunited with her fellow classmates/survivors...how validated she looked when they corroborated her accounts of what happened at that “boarding school”.
That was very upsetting. I feel really bad for Paris . I hope she is getting the help she needs . Thank you Dr. Honda for explaining the fascination with celebrities.
She actually isn’t blue-eyed. She wears contacts, which I think is really telling about what she thought she needed to be to be accepted, and maybe to shapeshift and disassociate from her trauma. I think she’s very interesting and I always feel sad when I see stories about her. I totally get liking animals more than humans, have you seen us!? 😩😩😩
Interesting. Didn't know that.
Her eyes are grey though.
@@sltorras They are brown.
Love Brenda I have blue eyes that change to green often ( very rare ) and have felt like a freak because of it, especially when people say “ your eyes, omg they change “ and after years of rarely looking others in the eye to avoid comments and answering questions as to why, I happily embrace my uniqueness now ❤️ Hoping the same for Paris, that she can embrace who she is at her core & let her light shine, regardless of eye color.
LOVE that you mentioned that. It's even shown in the cartoon/dramatization. her eyes appear gray in some shots and green in others. I have the same blue/grey eyes. They can look green when youre crying, kind of weird but also beautiful. And I know what you mean about animals- you felt that when she said it lol
The entire time I was watching this documentary a few nights ago I was thinking to myself “I wonder what Dr. Honda would say about this” and “I really hope we can convince Dr. Honda to react to this doc.” So happy he did! I’m here for it.
Ask and ye shall receive. :)
I love animals, I tolerate people.
Are you vegan?
@@ALBUMOF2008 How did you know? lol
Same.
😭🤣😅
As a vegan, I agree ;)
She’s not dramatic, she just likes what she likes. If I want a sunglasses or something, I want to go back up and get it! No drama, it is called, what I like and I need it. Stop labeling people for being themselves!
Her sister seems to have toxic behaviours I've seen in my own family members.
I agree!
It seems like her sister and mother treat her like she's a child
@@gr33n3min3mz agreed, and may be that is partly why she adopted her high pitched tone of voice? What a condescending way to treat a grown woman.
@@Lara-xu3yc If I had to guess, her family seems to exhibit this pattern where they treat one child as the "incompetent one," and through acting out their beliefs (from both sides), it continually reinforced her role as a child. Actually, Dr. Honda talks a lot about this when he reacted to Nicole from 90 day fiance.
In my own family, I've had little bits of this (I was called the troublemaker, the liar, the bad one, etc), but it was never super bad. But whenever I see it in other places (Like when I see my friends being treated that way by their family), I immediately recognize it and I feel so bad for the person being treated like a child, even though we're full grown adults.
I believe Paris was to the school as a result of these beliefs. As a socialite family, her parents probably had way more strict expectations of her, and no duh, she's going to rebel. But instead of seeing that as normal teenage rebellion, albeit facilitated by money and connections , they see her as a "troubled teen" and forced really extreme measures on her, without understanding the consequences. Makes me think of how rosemary kennedy was treated a little bit.
On top of that, the internet wasn't as accessible in those days and there was probably no way for her parents to really research provo canyon. they prob just picked up a brochure that it made sound like fun camp times and they took it on its word.
Not getting enough sleep, for me, makes the buffer between myself and the anxious thoughts thinner, and thinner, and then I have even more problem sleeping ! 🙃 I really need a big night of sleep to reset that cycle. It's so important.
Me too! It’s a sick cycle
Same! EVERYTHING gets worse when I don't sleep. When my therapist told me I was still tired after 8 hours, because brains like mine need 10, was floored.
I just got a 10 hour night after 3 weeks of 3-6 hour nights and the difference is amazing
I also noticed how I need 10 hours! If I get 8 I’m still entirely exhausted whereas other people can rely on 6 etc
Marie K. I know exactly what you mean! I have had a really tough childhood and adult life. My mother was an alcoholic and her and my father faught often. I raised 3 younger sisters. I always protected them from my parents fights. I was around five years old when the nightmare started and now at 60 years old, I can’t say that I have slept a full night. I have given up sleeping, have accepted that I can’t sleep. My bed is my enemy, I often goes to bed at 4am and up again 6.30 am. Yoga has helped me find some peace, but I still can’t sleep.
Yes! Your comment made me realize the same goes for me.
Someone once said I’m the dumbest smart person they know, referring to how I lose bank cards, keys, phones and yet run my own company. I’m diagnosed ADHD, I’d bet money she’s not enjoying the chaos of being disorganized.
She's diagnosed ADHD
Victoria Mae Thanks, makes a lot of sense. 😄
@@aoefeable I googled it after I watched the doco because I saw so much of myself in a lot of her traits and I'm ADHD too 😂
Victoria Mae there are definite upsides! We can hyper-focus like nobody’s business. Lol.
I think there's evidence that suggests that she's very introverted, stressed out in an environment where she's expected to be outgoing and energetic. She has described herself as shy and reserved before.
I like the comment you made about sleep. I feel like some people say oh I only need 5 hrs of sleep a night and I’m great, almost like it’s a flex to be exhausted or run yourself to the ground. It’s important to work hard but rest is also extremely important so you don’t burn out. You have to take of yourself. Appreciate your channel so much Dr. Honda 💕💕☺️
I was happy he talked about this too
Yes. I also feel Paris has trouble sleeping because she is always scared someone is going to creep up on her and kidnap her again. That bitch mother of hers should spend time in prison for that abuse.
Dr Honda, do you think there is a grooming or some sort of pattern in the industry where talented people who feel a sense of worthlessness as a result of past trauma, are easily exploited by managers and other industry figures? I can’t help but notice nearly every celeb is a product of abuse or adversity.
There is for sure
Damaged insecure people are easier to control
Especially if the celebrity was thrown into the limelight from an early age
There’s also heavy pedophilia in the industry.
Yes narcissistic parenting and many are family scapegoat children like Paris, Britney, Kurt Cobain, Amy Winehouse, River Phoenix, Jim Morrison
Her acting out is a reaction to the controlling behavior of her parents and sister. They want her to be like them and she is more a free spirit. Although, she is reacting to them and is still being controlled in a different way. She needs to develop an indifference to her critics and figure out what she wants, other than attention and adoration from strangers. Then, you are free.
Her family are insanely narcissistic empathy deficient control freaks, theY the problem, not her 🤗
I have complex PTSD and it's terrible. I'm glad Paris is bring awareness to it because victims feel like they are suffering alone.
God bless you. You are loved.
Adult child of alcoholic or dysfunctional family must come here I found a Scapegoat who survived most famous family scapegoat properly around besides Prince Harry.
Queen Cheetah Have you watched videos by The Crappy Childhood Fairy? I found them helpful.
I hear this. Sexual abuse survivor with CPTSD.
I completely understand as I have the same condition, but I have found that healing does actually exist. I would highly suggest that you check out Steve Hoskinson from Organic Intelligence. He has a truly remarkable online program for healing trauma abnd it’s been absolutely life changing for me. I also love Irene Lyon’s work (trauma therapist) and you can check out tons of her UA-cam videos on healing trauma - I highly recommend! This is the kind of information that I needed years ago but never had access to. Now, thanks to the internet, we can learn how to actually be our own medicine instead of just recycling so many of our familiar programs that cause us agony, thus the cycle continuing. Sending you love! ❤️
Is anyone else warmed by the thought of Paris Hilton clicking this video and quietly going "omg he's awesome"?
Would she watch him? He’s quite nice 👍
To me it seemed like Serena vanderwoodson s character was based on Paris Hilton , from being the it girl , a favourite girl of gossip column
I had an extremely traumatizing childhood and I’ve had nightmares every night since I was 13. I didn’t know that was part of my cptsd.
Same. I'm learning all of this within the last few months about myself..
I hope you are having a happy life now and you are being loved 💕💕
I am a survivor of these schools. I was in a sister program to where Paris was. I have been a member of #breakingcodesilence for 7 years. Im glad she is brining more awareness. But there are so many of us out here.
I've always liked Paris. It always seemed like there was so much more to her than what was shown to us by the media.
I really related to her way of dealing with the trauma and how she views people. Being a workaholic and "addicted to drama" is her way of just not dealing with the thoughts and anxiety. When you work, you are too busy to feel. Sadly, it all catches up to you at night and that's when sleep problems occur.
Ohmygod poor Paris. She's obviously a beautiful soul
Wow. I never would had thought Paris had recurring nightmares. I’m glad she was willing to share that. Many people as you said do suffer with PTSD and trauma. I felt like Paris normalizes it for others who live with trauma.
@Lou Sunny: on her Paris channel there is a „Paris, not France“ documentary from 2008. Nicole is a completely different Person (similar to Paris, trying to emulate her etc.). And Paris....well she does speak about her nightmares. Only at the time she says it’s about her teeth falling out and similar.
I didn’t think humans that don’t have recurrent nightmares existed..., btw....
The documentary is...very 2008.
The age or retro feeling becoming more and more like the me too movement... some take 20 years to talk or speak about truth ...
I'm glad you pulled sexist expectations of famous women and the double standards into your theorizing. Her story reminds me a lot of Victorian asylum narratives.
What Dr. Honda says at 4:40 is why I always retain therapists of color. It’s so frustrating when you get told that your race doesn’t have anything to do with the way you are perceived. I always ask people this. Native American women are way more likely to go missing or be killed than any other race. But how many high profile missing/murder cases can you think of that involves a woman/girl who is not white? America simply reacts with more passion and emotion when it’s a lovely white girl like JonBenet Ramsey or Madeline McCann. But if a girl named Aisha Johnson or Christina Whitefeather comes up on the news (if they even bother to do so), people generally shrug it off.
Very sad indeed 😢
Think we love to be ignorant to the issues women living in reservations face constantly. Easier to feel distant from that. I know stories not from living in reservations but same vibe. We can do better
Or how about in my experience wasting so much time trying to explain the culture of blackness or my West Indian background. Always get a therapist who treatment methods include “cultural sensitivity” and knowledge. Some therapist seem to not put in any extra work to learn more about various types of people besides white.. and my therapist was in NYC 🙄🙄
@@LizNeptune I totally understand Liz. I've had similar experiences in the UK, as I'm of African Caribbean descent. In fact, the lack of cultural sensitivity that I've experienced during therapy in the past, is making me question whether or not I should even contact my doctor about my current depression.!!!🙋🏾♀️🇬🇩🇬🇧❤💛💚
Thank you, thank you, thank you for saying this! Indigenous women get overlooked sooo much.
The whole time I was watching This is Paris I kept wondering "Hm, I wonder what Dr. Kirk would say about this?" Well, I don't have to wonder anymore! Please continue! :)
Same! 🎉
same! i even thought about leaving a message somewhere, so interesting to hear his insight
Random fact: She actually isn’t blue eyed. She’s brown eyed and wears colored contacts.
Oh! I didnt suspect a thing and I’d watched her old show and read star magazine back in the day lol. I think she’d look so nice showing her brown eyes more. Both are cool if you’re not uncomfortable
I never understood why people wear contacts or colour their hair, or fake tan/bleach their skin for that matter. It's like you're literally trying to be a genetically different human and that seems so odd to me
@@annefrank7005 I bleach my hair because it makes my skin look less sickly.
Anne Frank you will be surprise. for examples, sometimes people’s own hair color doesnt suit them or doesnt bring out the best of them. when they change their hair color from lighter or darker, it suits them more because it bring out their complexation. it’s just preferences!! :))
@@annefrank7005 I dye my hair for the same reason why I don't just wear a plain white T-shirt and blue jeans everyday - because it's fun to do something a little different sometimes. Also for the same reason why I'd cut my hair from a long style to a short style, because I got bored of having my hair long. Not trying to be genetically different, just having fun with my appearance when I'm bored of my old look.
I watched it. It was very real and she’s really smart actually. I wish she would just be more herself but she’s created a persona she’s even admitted she doesn’t know who she is at this point. I’m an Aquarius with CPTSD aswell and I used to run around a lot and learned how to slow down. We do put things off and then it catches up and creates drama so it’s more organization related.
I agree with what you said 😂 but I don’t think you should use horoscopes as a real defining aspect of personality
I have cptsd also
Claire I’m a professional astrologer. You can’t take one sign as your chart has many different facets.
I had this same thought while watching and having a huge aqua influence in my chart. She seems to have struggled intensely with the core battles of the energy :(
Brie O'Flyng it’s honestly not easy lol my chart is like 50% Aqua but it’s surprisingly a very intense dynamic others don’t see on the outside lol
this is great and would also love to see another sMothered episode :)
Who is smothered please?
Interesting you mentioned Amy Winehouse, there was an incident mentioned on a documentary about her where her handlers literally plucked her out of bed and rolled her on stage. She looked so disoriented 😢😢
It really just shows you that everyone has tramas- even the rich and famous. Also loving all these new shows you are doing!
Even rich and famous? How’s that preventing from traumatic experience?
I'm not saying it is - because it doesn't. I'm saying that people assume or think that rich/famous people are happier or have less traumatic experiences because they are able to buy things like security/protection, the best schooling, etc. They are always just portrayed as being perfect when they are just like everyone else. 🙂
She invented the ‘selfie’.
Interesting considering she was never validated by her narcissistic mom ...
Dang I didn't know Rufus from Gossip Girl became a therapist, good for him!
your videos could be 5 hours long, I'd still binge watch them
Some get pretty long ha .. one podcast I listened to I think was three hours if I’m remembering correctly
I think Paris has ADHD and her trauma has just intensified her symptoms. I looked at this documentary and I see so much of my self in her.
She is a smart girl, pretending to be clueless...all the way to the bank!
Lloyd Collins you ought to watch the doc, dork. She was raped. She’s been very deeply wounded in her life. How do you miss this? Do all men gloss over everything to make it about the pursuit of money? People only pursue money, beyond the need for shelter, clothes, and food, as a substitute for human connection, feeling less alone in the world. I believe most people would trade all earthly possessions for genuine human connection if they had the choice. Wake up.
Not sure why ppl think she is so smart
Has Good Why all the man-hate and name calling? I love Paris and think she’s awesome! And I was actually complimenting her savvy as a business-person. Sexual Assault is almost worse then murder...i get that. But SHE decided to become famous, SHE created the ‘Paris’ image we all know. So people will respond to this creation she invented. Marilyn Monroe, Goldie Hawn, Pamela Anderson all did this too! I’d bet Paris would agree with my assessment...it’s a character!
Emily! Mar maybe because she built a multi million dollar global enterprise based on a personna she created
Gal0123 hmmm i have a feeling already being rich and in the right circles helped
Paris seems to be a lot like her aunt, Kim Richards. Looks like her a lot too
Was she a family scapegoat too? The empathetic problem or black sheep or bullied belittled mocked shamed humiliated etc etc ?
Umchina Girard Maybe. Just like the therapist observed“She behaves like a child because she is treated like one”.
Dude! I was wondering what would come out of Dr Honda’s face the entire time watching Paris! Whoop!
I’ve been wanting this!!! I am half way through and want to tell dr Honda to pace himself! He is commenting on small things, but little does he know how much heavier stuff there will be to comment on throughout this documentary!
Kayla Johnstone damn, you’re going to make me watch this now. 🤣
This episode was fascinating. I'd love for you to keep reacting to it.
I wouldn't be surprised if she is on the adhd spectrum. After watching the documentary I saw so many similarities to me and my adhd. i could be wrong I was in the same situation as her with being forcefully put into one of those places as a kid and it was very traumatic and still effects me. So maybe thats why i see some of the same characteristics.
Wait, did Dr. Honda react to the film “Amy”?? If not, that would be incredible
Yeeeeeesssss
That’s a great suggestion! It took me years to be able to watch the Amy & Whitney films without breaking down. I’d love to hear Dr Honda discuss addiction & family relationships
Amy Winehouse a family scapegoat child too, the Narcissistic parenting basically murdered her soul
Ahh please do more of this series!
🌈❤️🌈Abuse is going on right now at these “schools” we need to shut them down. We need help to do that. The experiences Paris has at these places is not an abnormality it was the truth. We all have the same experiences. We all have cptsd from our experiences. We all struggle to keep from being in abusive relationships. All kids need to be saved from these places which started out as a cult. She is not alone. I’m glad she is talking about it. I’m glad that finally we can tell our stories. They are so unbelievable no one wanted to believe when we got out. I went to Elan School in Poland Springs Maine. It was run by a mobster who had no training on working with kids and shouldn’t have been allowed to open a school like that. He paid off the Maine department of children and families he paid off anyone who raised an eyebrow. The current governor of Maine and one of the Senators of Maine was complicit in the corruption. The state looked the other way because that 1 school provided the state with 1.5 million in taxes every year since the 70s. The state had to call Joe Ricci to do an inspection and also warned him through the newspaper about a week before it happened. Just enough time to cover everything up that was going on there. We were abused. All of us!! Help us to get these terrible places shut down so no other child has to suffer these abuses!!
#breakingcodesilence
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When her sister asked if the ever apologized to her parents I just left my mouth agape ...uhhh excuse you
Same
EXACTLY when she said that to paris I wanted to slap her ignorant ass bitch!
time stamp? cant find that
@@avocado184nhs82 he hasn't covered it yet its further into the documentary
I was shook.. and then to see Paris’ reaction
I also know almost nothing about Paris Hilton, but I found this video very interesting and informative. Hope to see you cover it more soon!
Her whole family is toxic and delusional. I think Nikki is jealous of Paris and it manifests as a "the tough sister act."
Perhaps Nikki flying monkey to keep the family scapegoating going for narcissist parent
I am a sleep person. I can skip a meal, but if I don't get at least6-8 hours I will be cranky and nonproductive. Some of my family don't sleep as much and call me lazy. 🤗 I'm not, but they don't understand because they don't sleep as much.
@@pvdm4684 I know that. they are just misinformed and I just inwardly laugh because I am over here fully rested and ready to tackle the day and they need a nap by mid day.
I need about 9 hours a night, been like it since I was little and I'm now 25.. still exhausted most of the time
I have super active dreams and so I feel like my sleep gets disturbed because my brain is constantly thinking.
I think sleep deprivation is the major cause of post partum depression. My ex-husband would never get up at night when our children were little. Plus I was holding down a really demanding job, supporting the family. Total. Nightmare. I just can’t do sleep deprivation.
MaryAnne Brown I’m glad he’s your ex now. You deserve better.
I had nightmares constantly growing up and really bad paranoia and I thought it was normal until a saw a therapist telling me it was from my abuse going on in the house
alice stewert that is the biggest problem. I knew I felt horrible but I thought it’s my fault.
Please please please do all the healing and unlearning you need, for yourself and your future children so you can be happy and not repeat the cycle
Pls react and post the whole thing! It’s very interesting watching her mum and sisters response later on to what she went through and would love to hear your thoughts
You know.. Paris could just get a regular 9-5 day job like the rest of us. She doesn't have to travel around the world, go to a hundred events, jump from A to B all the time. She can just back away from that lifestyle..
If she did that she’d be getting harassed and stalked all day by crazy people lol
She’s not complaining about her work. 🙄 She is talking about her childhood trauma and how that has affected her life.
The trauma of the troubled teen industry is so life changing.
Honestly the way her sister talked about her and talked to her made me really really sad. But both of these girls seem traumatized and cope in different ways.
Wow this was intense . I hope this helps her heal and helps others too .
Love how many shows Dr Kirk is trialing! Thanks.
It may mean the hernoverbearing narcissistic mother failed her. Ignored her interests and tried forcing her into a square peg that denied the child her creative outlet. ITS THE MOTHER.
I can’t believe you didn’t explore her early upbringing by her parents.....the underlying causes of trauma being there. Obviously not interested in fitting the mold her mother tried breaking her spirit. When the control failed, she had her kidnapped and taken away. What bullshit. That was Kathys job.
Sociopathic mom 🕳
Nicky seems like a problematic personality to me. You nag your sister after she apologised because she needed to get her sunglasses. What's done is done, people make mistakes all the time ...stop trying to appear perfect to people and prioritise your sisters well being for once.
I'd love to see you analyze Britney Spears about her conservatorship
Dr. Honda, what do you make of Paris Hilton's baby voice?
Hard to say. Lots of possible conceptualizations: 1) approval from society, 2) abuse can sometimes be mitigated by acting young, 3) her image became her own monster, 4) lowering of expectations to avoid disappointment and disapproval, 5) as a child, rewarded by family to be like a baby, 6) etc. All of the above?
Psychology In Seattle as one of the women in the film and with her- this is speculation. My thoughts are that when you are traumatized, told you are worthless, a « piece of sh*y » etc over and over as adolescent while your personality is being integrated- put a façade together and present that. It is safer than you true self. When/if your façade is judged rejected.. *you* are safe. You can protect yourself. Additionally, you can see her voice change when she is nervous.
I was really looking forward for you to do this video. Can't wait for the next part.
She played a character and got stuck in it after the media decided when she was.
She said in the film it’s an act and that she has always done that. I couldn’t help to make the comparison to Marilyn Monroe who voice was also “an act”.
Omg I’m so excited you’re doing this
I LOVE Paris!! I felt this documentary was really eye opening, I never would’ve guessed about the abuse she suffered. Thank you for breaking this down. 🥰
So much more respect for Paris after watching the documentary! She’s really been through some serious trauma as a child. I totally see where her trust issues/not wanting to grow up and dissociate behaviour (high pitch voice) is coming from.
Just watched this!! I'm so happy you are doing a vid on this!
Her sister is super buttoned up. Paris is trying to be perfect all the time. Her family is a narcissistic family and functions as that with Nicky favoured whereas Paris tends to buck against them hiding their imperfections/injustices. And their family of structural dysfunction with emphasis on reputation vs authenticity, feels growing up her identity is lost and her reality misrepresented. There's so much generational trauma, it spills over. She's incredibly brilliant but misunderstood.
Yes she’s the family scapegoat child for sure in the whole family system sickness sociopathic narcissistic scapegoating sadists ...
,,Everyone says im the original influencer..But sometimes I feel like I helped create a monster”👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you. When Nicki said running back to get the laptop was endless drama...... I was like no its called ADD
6:13 "She was the first influencer"
- which is pretty accurate, b'coz in the middle of the documentary, her manager or whatnot said the same thing, he said something like "everything you see now, she did it first." sort of words.
As someone who’s been abused throughout my life and finally overcome years of dysfunction due to trauma. Paris’ documentary inspired me so much you can accomplish anything and not let the shame people threw on you define you. You can face anything and reconnect with who you truly are under all the layers of trauma defences.
❤
Sending you love!❤
Mistiquely Stealth and you know what? You overcame the trauma after it stopped, what you seem to have learned is how to live with and manage the concept of the acceptance that it happened, that it happens, that It shouldn’t, that it was in no way your fault, that knowing this is also a scary reality, because it teaches us that there are very palpably, things out of our control. But, you don’t have to control any of that, you’d not even need to control you, just managing the impulses that specific thoughts give you. Because we all have to learn to manage which thoughts to give attention to, and which thoughts can exist, pass through, and move on the new thoughts. It really is a matter of editing, in a way, what we choose to give attention to. It’s not at you ever repress, or ignore or pretend these thoughts don’t exist, no, not at all. Let the thoughts exercise their right to exist like any other thought. We just have to make sure we give power to thoughts that make us feel good about ourselves. The other thoughts have a perfect right to exist, and honestly, should, but they can sit in the backyard, and be used as a planter, or for something else, or can just be. They can’t hurt us. We have to fill the tank of the car before it can be driven. We don’t walk around filling the gas tank of every car we see, but we also don’t deny it’s right to exist. Good for you. You don’t have to be a perfect person, you only need to manage the thoughts. But this is truly the challenge of every human being, through your trauma, you were forced into understanding this ina very profound way, which means, without even trying, you will affect people, touch people, change their perceptions. You are a force of good in the world, because of how you responded to the bad that was inflicted against you. There are no perfect people. And there would be no point to this “human experience” there were. You are an inspiration.
I can relate girl keep your head up 💯👍🏾
Yes!! She definitely appears to be on the ADHD spectrum! As someone on the spectrum and with siblings diagnosed with ADHD that was my first thought when watching.
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My mother says, "When you gonna live your life right?"
Oh mother dear we're not the fortunate ones
And girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just want to have fun
The phone rings in the middle of the night
My father yells, "What you gonna do with your life?"
Oh daddy dear, you know you're still number one
But girls, they wanna have fun
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As an insomniac mom of 2 young boys, I can tell you right now that sleep is precious. When I have to exist on just 3/4 hours, I function poorly. I need at least 3 cups of coffee to just make it through the day, but can’t drink it past 3pm if I expect to get to sleep that night. You feel like a runaway train. I already have ADHD, and I can feel the effects that lack of sleep have on my level of function. Also, you have much less patience. You will forget things, lose things, and you’ll feel like you overdid it when you’ve hardly been productive. It isn’t surprising that Paris seems to be surrounded by unorganized chaos if she isn’t sleeping.
I've never had a lot of interest in Paris and I just started watching this video..but all of a sudden I can relate because I suffer from complex PTSD.. and I prefer the company of animals... I find I am absolutely unable to relax with humans.........
I wonder if her sister might also be misinterpreting catastrophizing. Throughout the documentary, Paris expresses discomfort with feeling a lack of control (over others, over her situation, etc) and while running the risk of reading too much into it, I think it's possible that what Nicole is perceiving as simply being a drama queen and making a big deal out of nothing is Paris catastrophizing when something (even relatively minor) goes wrong. It's a form of cognitive dysfunction strongly associated with trauma, anxiety, and depression that can make an individual inflate the severity of a situation so that their response to the stressor seems over-the-top from an outside perspective. If you mix that into a lifestyle that is severely overbooked and chronically underslept, it would only exacerbate things.