How do guys really feel during no contact and why do they always come back? 
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Unless he found a replacement which happened to me twice in a row😂😂😂 men are smart enough to break up with you only by having someone on the side
Not all men of course. ;-)
Isaiah 4:1
In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, "We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!"
That’s cause you dating Chad.
Nobody wants the guy until the hot girl wants him. Don't date below your league. They all do this.
@Leontemplar-yt6ff yeah guess I dated Chad for 7 long years then 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
@Poodle_Gun I think he was same league as me. If he's above my league he'd run after all these supermodels and that's not what I want. I want a kind, honest, respectful and loving partner the rest really don't matter to me.
They always have backup plan & jump.into another relationship r8 after breakup...
backup plan? that’s a female thing. Real men see freedom to do their own thing as the backup plan, not other women. Don’t confuse us with the needy and insecure.
@@AB-vc7ox if that so...then why men do that after breakup(get into another relationship)?
Sounds like sour grapes.
That’s cause you dating Chad. As the video just mention men often don’t have outside support / backups nd that, you’re projecting.
U choose guys who are chad, who has more options because in ur head his value is more than u or equal to u. Such chads will always explore. Its like infinite money. Such men are 10%
Video is about 90% of Nice men who dont have anyone or once they have woman leave
I am a woman who doesn't have any emotional support... people always shamed me for seeking it, including my own parents and friends, i let my boyfriend abuse me because i know that my life will be extremely empty and feels like void without him.
thats fckd up
Im not very social and my family laughed to me the times i expressed about how i feel, so i understand you. I was lonely and pissed about how everyone said that women always have support and love and the could express themselves. I wasnt.
I repaired about myself and value after two men in my early teenage that betrayed me and make me feel like a full piece of garbage without value and love. You need to understand and SEE your value. First see your cualities, why you are good and deserve people with those cualities or others could complement your shadow.
This is one of the things that seriously helped me. Look inside you. And you dont deserve a abusivw boyfriend by your side that could ruin worst your life
@@highvenus I feel you girl, i was born in a country where men's feelings and tears are valued and women aren't, we are expected to serve and love and obey our fathers, brothers and husbands no matter how they treat us, i have lived my life feeling like my life is way less valued than a man's life because this is what they taught me since birth, i just discovered that men are treated badly in other the western world and I can't believe it, i wonder why the world just can't be fair and balanced, why it has to oppress and torture a group of people? Stay strong, when you love and value yourself you won't need any emotional support or anyone to make you feel better, loneliness is painful at the beginning before you get addicted and comfortable with it.
damn! just leave him! or are you just into bad boys thing, because I think that's the case for you. you gotta stand up for yourself, young lady! just leave him or find another man that cares about you.
@@highvenus and thats why i think that girls should not get into relationship until they are at college, because it just broke them! i have seen it from many people's experience, whether it'be my sisters, female friends or my school classmates . at that age you are young and everybody just want to have fun to your body or woman body because of boys unexpected hormonal changes and you cant deny this fact. well, I have never been in a relationship but that what I have seen from other people life experiences. what I mean is everybody makes mistake, so you did without being aware of this but now you have to heal your self and move on, because remember there will be your dream man waiting for you in the future!
Thank you so much for your closing comment about the need to generate more support for men.
They deserve no less !! 👏🙏🏽
I think it has much 🎉to do with self worth. The only time I ever went back was when my self esteem was out of order post TBI, but the moment she pissed me off it was over like a flip of a switch and has been how I deal with breakups ever since. There is no point wasting time or energy. We get together with our buddies and laugh it off, go fishing, there are many ways to blow off steam and get on with life. Yes, some women make it that easy for us, good riddance. Sad to say sometimes we don’t realize we were in a toxic relationship until after we get out.
in love with your videos❤
AM I the only women with few emotional support , that's my mom & my god😊 .
U're not alone. I have no emotional support, so when people leave, I shatter & repair alone, sometimes with help of therapist.
You are definitely not alone. The most common response people give when asked how many close friends they have is zero. We are facing a loneliness epidemic.
@@francescapsychology, she is not alone in her loneliness. What a sad paradox!!!
No u are not alone I believe many women experience that but in essence ur mom and God are the best supports
God the ultimate invisible sky daddy
I’m a girl and I have no emotional support
The problem is not that men are afraid of expressing themselves. It's that they have no support. Like you said Francesca. We have to pay to talk to someone in most cases. The main reason therapy works is because it is one of the only, and many times the only safe relationship a person has. Not because of deep diving or deep insight. Which many psychologists lack. They try to get you to take out your own internal guidance system to be replaced by a drug. Some therapists are actually very knowledgeable. But like I said, the whole reason therapy works in most cases is because it is a safe relationship which is uncommon in societies. To heal a trauma it is typical to need to experience the opposite of. The therapist, serving as the opposite of a malicious, or invalidating relationship. Therefore, experiencing the opposite. It is a need unmet, the core of every trauma.
And women... in the United States seem to move on almost instantaneously from breakups because it is typical for them to move straight into another one, whether serious or not. Having more options, just like you said Francesca. Thanks for caring though, it's common for a person of power now to actually enjoy others' misery more than their own fulfillment.
Andrew Huberman has a video about certain traumas and the difference between male and female when it comes to it.
Also, mans life is harder in another way that most woman doesnt comprehend.
ALSO, no human being should rely on only one "source of dopamine and serotonine"
Yeah 1 gf plus 2 female besties will do the job perfectly
Yeah I tried to drown it out by focusing on my job and working out but I couldnt suppress it, bonus points that I just felt so ashamed it took me over 2 weeks to even bring it up to anyone because I got ghosted and I had no idea if she genuinely was going to come back after near 4 months of being close together. I just felt so extremely on guard from this happening again so felt so conflicted in risking any sort of rejection from anyone despite needing someone to lean on.
Last time I had a hug was 3 years ago. Needless to say the thought of calling my ex crossed my mind a few months ago
Best video ever
😢 ‼️WOW‼️ 😇✨ 🙏 ✊
There’s channels out there advocating men go no contact, for the same reasons. 😂
If men don't start getting the help that they need on a large scale then our society will continue to crumble and decay like it is, but if we want a strong society we need to make sure we have strong men that help each other up, especially in difficult times.
Well, in my case when any woman applies "no contact" to me, I just carry on with my life as usual, in fact, it makes everything easier.
I do terrible when that happens,it's been happening three times and I just get wasted
In conclusion, Men only come to you for their emotional support.
Thats a generalization. Sorry for whoever hurt you. Not all men are “xyz.”
@@ewill312 even I'm also talking about in general. Not labelling all of them.
That doesn't describe any men I know.
That sounds like a broken man who is codependent or something and carries deep emotional wounds inside.
Edit: stay away from that type of man.
this type of videos makes people crazy. lol
So if a bloke contacts you after you go quiet, it's only for his own ends, if he doesn't he just didn't care, I suppose. I can't help thinking this sounds less like psychology than self justification.
Some of them do really love and respect a women.
Do you have any suggestions for mens to overcome those feelings : )
I want that too, that would be cool.
She just said it in the video. Listen to her again 😛 :)
@@raghvimishra3932 Like what ? suppressing emotions ? working harder ? going to the gym ? asking society to "do someting about men's mental health" ? seeking support ? where ?
@@raghvimishra3932 she was talking to you girls, and she clearly mentioned that we don’t have emotional supports.. :(
She said how she handled her break up and how girls talk to their friends etc. You should start talking to your friends. Hatt bey chal na ro mat bolne k jagah.. listen to each other if you are sad or talk about what you are feeling.
Reading these comments, you can see how the negative characterisation of men by women is exactly the same as the negative characterisation of women by men. It's no wonder there's a loneliness epidemic.
Can u make a video on people obsessed with nostalgia. Its a common problem with millennials especially
Oh they ALWAYS come back
The real Men never distracts with this tiny thought, memories of someone.
Real Men focused on Meditation, Gym, Self development. ⚡
Well ,Im trying to date only for emotional support and to have fun with sb,
I dont even care about sex
Move away 😅
And if they dont come back women get in touch again …
in love with you
not when they’re INTJ or ENTJ