Co-Dependency for Beginners
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- Опубліковано 8 січ 2016
- Codependency for Beginners challenges standard ideas on the nature of codependency.
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This video is severely under rated. There is a lot here and it showcases the faulty logic that co-dependents (like myself) have.
This video doesn't really clarify anything... It's messy. It starts with a good idea but then devolops into total caos. We shouldn't blame anyone for the trauma that we have experienced, but we must get aware of it in order to heal, then after that we must start being very aware of our behavior so that we won't get into codipendent relationships anymore. For example, sometimes we get asked to do something, the first impulse might be answering "yes, ofcourse I'll do it" becuse we think that we will be seen as good persons and be accepted, but then we feel frustrated and angry becuse we actually wanted to say "no, I don't, I'm tired and I want to do something else". When this happens we start to dissociate ourselves and put a mask on in order to get people to like us, we start losing our true identity. But if you sacrifice acceptance of other people and start saying NO, listen to your own voice, than you will heal. I hope that this can be helpful to someone. Peace!
I agree with the counselor. sometimes you need to look at yourself and think "has all this resentment and anger towards your parents made you any better?". It reminds me of this quote by Sun Tzu “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.”
When he said at the end “who would want to learn about your feelings then you will lose everyone.” That hit home I’m trying not to talk about my feelings to the person I love most in my life cuz I really don’t want to lose them or annoy them and they have helped me I was depressed and they made me find something to love in life so I’m working on not getting carried away cuz my biggest fear is to lose them.
he becomes emotionally cruel and cold-hearted at the end. i think compassion is a better answer.
Wong! The purpose in going back to examine our childhood is not to blame the parents but to find the source of my trauma which led to my injuries and my compensatory behaviour which included an enduring belief that I was not valuable. This knowledge then allows for me to address life-long compensatory behavioiur and to change it and to forgive those who injured me. It's not a self-pity party or a blaming exercise. It is also not a denial that serious injuries occurred to me. But the solution is Love. Love is the answer and it starts with knowing that the Creator values me and loves me for who I am, not for any actions I might do. This fact then allows me to value myself and to set boundaries in place to protect myself. Then I have the capacity to give love to others.
For those who say this video is terrible and that it's way too convoluted, this is a philosophical debate on what codependency actually is.
Exactly. The whole point is to get to the truth using logic, that's why he's poking holes in her rebuttals because her answers are giving vague, overly simplistic, and therefore unhelpful solutions to a complex issue.
Wait what is with the comedic innocent type music? It doesn't make any sense.
I had hoped this video would offer some sort of constructive advice or suggestions for dealing with and overcoming codependency, it just left me confused at what the hell any of it meant and what "help" any of it could possibly offer... was expecting more from a channel w Dr in the name....
This video seems to be aimed at 7 year olds, yet I don’t understand it. 😭
This is as confusing as Interstellar. Basically be honest.
That's it? Wow they end it just like that with no closure consensus or conclusion?
He’s saying unprocessed trauma is at the root of it and therapy such as EMDR enable people to process the trauma and move on.
I'm not quite sure if this is supposed to be philosophical or comedic 🤔 it doesn't seem to be educational in a psychological way but somehow I still find it interesting haha
i really like his one about AA but this one is completely ignorant
Harsh but kind of true for some people. This is probably a good video for people who respond well to tough love
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I'm confused.
As addiction is caused by many things - I fail to see why they link codependency and addiction and exclude all the other aspects of the disorder. Most misleading indeed
Love addiction
I hate both sides. They're not even opposites, just different varieties of the same shit. Codependency is bullshit and the whole take responsibility for everything that happened to you is unrealistic. You can't just start thinking differently. It's how your brain developed or didn't develop at certain stages of your life. You need a lot of support and understanding to get to a point where you can live like a person who has never experienced abuse, not someone to shove it back down your throat. Those fucks sitting there making money by telling a kid who was raped by a closed one they can't hold grudges because they need to start making progress? Who the fuck are you people to judge that? It's not a circle either, some of these people are doing much worse things to their kids than what was ever done to them by their parents. Why should accountability not start with them? Justice and empowerment are great harbingers of peace and recovery. But we would need the guts to pick sides, make a statement and take action. And don't common people just love their cowardic... errm excuse moi, I meant to say neutrality.
Uhhhhh this just feels like a narcissist’s word salad to me 😅😅😅😅😅 confusing af!!
The is woman living in her head unfortunately
The people who need to understand this the most will find it offensive..
Worst beguinners guide ever funny cartoon