Being With A Trans Guy : Partner's Perspective
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- Опубліковано 20 бер 2018
- Partner's perspective on being in a relationship with someone who is trans
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He came out in a much better way then I did, I had a bag or doritos and pointed to the TransFat and said "lol, me" to my friend and he didnt get it and called me fat
That's kinda sad..
Uhmm do they know now 👀
Omg I love this comment so much, I wish I came out like that lol
Absolutely genius.
This is sad and extremely funny 😂
I can’t stop laughing 😆
My sister came out as lesbian when we were teens. Everyone kept asking if I now feel weird dressing in from of her now. It's like "dude she's my twin sister. Neither of us are interested in each other so who cares. "
@Lily Renz I Know nasty!
Ugh... creepy 😬 Do they think sisters and brothers "check out" eachother like that?
@@Pippis78 they watched too much Game of Thrones
I thought that it just my dad's fucked up mind. When I came out he started telling my little sister the same thing that in front of me she wasn't supposed to change her clothes and I gave him the most WTF look EVER and I told him to PLEASE rethink of what he just said and how fucked up that sounded.
@@shad0wx0x0 OMFG I---- JAMIE...
"His Transliness" makes him sound like trans royalty
I’m cackling! 🤣🤣🤣
Lol
Lol it does. XD
OF COURSE HE IS!
Ikr such a disrespectful sad choice of words.....
"I didn't know that my best friend who I thought was a girl was actually male" sounds like the plot to one of those weirdly insensitive 80s movies, but in the best way possible
Joe Auerbach it’s the plot of a kind of adorable anime called love stage 😂
Only they were not friends, just costars lol
@@bentomai5071 Love stage started my love of wholesome same sex stories. I will never go back.
Thanks for clarifying. I was confused what he was. Thought he was born a woman?
@@JC-jb1mn he assigned female at birth but doesnt identify ae female
@@JC-jb1mn he is a trans guy
"I am Jamie's girlfriend.
No I'm not.
I am Jamie's fiance."
Yep that is what was said
Fiancée
Like that's more better.😅😅😅😅😂😂😁😁
@@Wickedthtz ????
@@flopilla2012 being a fiance to another woman.
When she said T as in ‘testosterone’, I thought she was referring to ‘tea’ and I was thinking ‘Damn these Brits take their tea time seriousness to a whole new level’.
lol you thought it was T as in Tea... it's true we Brits do take our Tea seriously :) but it is T as in Trans :/ (jus so u know)
@@carolinesmyth127 clarissa was right in this instance hun the T was testosterone
I stand corrected :)
❤️🤣
@@nata4088 In the context of what she was saying in the video at that particular moment, she meant T as in "taking T" which is of course testosterone, not T as in the T in LGBT which would of course be trans.
"Hi I am NOT Jamie!"
Biggest plot twist I've ever seen.
Top 5 anime betrayals
A real M. Night twist
I was shocked
"Jojo music plays"
*Insert halo announcer here
Betrayal!
"sometimes I forget Jamie is trans" I really felt that! My best friend is trans and I've forgotten that fact multiple times 😂
@Jonathan Roberts this comment doesn't even bring that up at all, dumbass. you're not even checking what you're copypasting anymore!
@Zara Gupta do you feel good? do you feel happy after saying this? did you feel excited typing it out knowing you were going to get attention?
My husband is trans, and mostly, I'm only reminded of that if someone considers that as something special and consequently asks stupid questions.
I know someone who is non-binary and people close to them always use the wrong pronouns by accident.
Lol, I'm trans and I forget I'm trans sometimes... My brain just like autopilots and assumes I'm AMAB when I'm AFAB, I'm a trans guy. It's uncomfortable to be forced to remember I'm trans/AFAB, but like, that's life for me I guess.
I am a Muslim, as well as a transguy.I have only came out to my girlfriend,who was my closest friend before.She supports me fully,which makes me feel needed as before i was very disappointed with life thinking none will accept me.But after seeing her reaction, i was literally so......i cant explain i happy i was.I aint out to my parents yet,cause they are very religious and strict. The moment they will know,they will disown me at the second. After all its Bangladesh.I could have moved out,but still i am with them cause i need educational support to fly all the way to USA for my transition. Money is also needed. So yeap,if i have education, i can be the real me and me a and gf can officially be together. Please guys pray for my success. I really need gods mercy
You can do this! There is so much great ahead of you! You are in the beginning of a great journey to self realization.
Thank you very much friend.Your motivation means a lot
Wow. Congrats on coming out to her. That’s a start. How does your religion view being trans?! I have Muslim friends, and I’m trans, but we have never had that conversation!
I believe in you, God may help u my friend ❤️
I just recently realized that I’m a transgender. And I have the same conditions as yours, Muslim, conservative country (Indonesia), thinking a lot about money so I can just move out and transition. Can we be friends somewhere maybe? :(
Her parents: NO FRIEND BOIS
Her friend “girl”: *transitions*
Her parents: STILL NO FRIEND BOIS
Her friend: _stays as friend boi_
Her and her friend: _are engaged_
69 likes :))
@Zara Gupta no he is a transman
@Zara Gupta no they're bi, and they see it as a heterossexual relationship since Jamie identifies as a man
@Zara Gupta one question: why tf are you on a trans man's channel if you don't believe in trans people?
Something happened here and I wanna know what
I'd like to take a moment to appreciate Shaaba's eyeliner and how well it goes with her eye shape
But one eyebrow is darker than the other
@@vito2167 so?
@@vito2167 bro it legit doesn't matter
I thought the same thing. Keep on slaying, Shaaba. 💅
@@vito2167 area commenter finds out about shadows
What a wonderful couple! So adorable! I’m an old cis lady and enjoy learning and understanding this more open society that the next generation is establishing. It’s hard work and can be discouraging. Spent a lot of my life fighting being called “girl” and “miss” and to be able to wear slacks. And go into hotel dining rooms without a male escort when traveling on business. All that fun stuff. Hang in there, you’re making progress!
You are so precious! Keep on being awesome.
@@phroggish Thanks for the encouragement! Keep pushing forward. You got this!
Wow this is so cool! I think it’s awesome that you can take your perspective and see how others are going through the same things.
You seem like such a sweet person. I wish you all the best!
Awe that’s so wholesome
The only thing that made me uncomfortable about this video was hearing how she said "urinals." Absolutely wild.
I was only half listening, so it took me a moment to figure out no one was talking about "your rhino".
Ohhhhh damn that's what she was saying
Jammi said it like that in his video too and I was like 🤔
It’s the British pronunciation.
Yes... that is how the brits and irish say it. You should hear the way they say vitamin, helicopter, and estrogen as well.
Jamie: "Well, i'm the T"
Shaaba: "Jamie,what the fuck are you doing in that mug?"
ROFL
I shouldn't be chuckling at this as much as I am.
CACKLING
Someone spill him!
,,,sis?
"Well I'm the tea" That is literally the most British coming out ever lmao
Eytox they weren’t saying tea
@@whatshouldinamemyself809 Woosh
Eytox its r/woooosh and i understood the joke
@@whatshouldinamemyself809 You understood? Doesn't look like it
Eytox the joke is british people are associated with tea. Jamie said “Well im the T” Jamie is british. I understood perfectly well, thank you.
my parents are so transphobic, they say so much shit like "she is still a girl" about a transgender guy, and it drives me insane and I'm cis!
@Jonathan Roberts so you're going around Jamie's videos and saying transphobic stuff... grow up.
dude sameee, my family is racist, homophobic, transphobic.
it’s literally so embarrassing.
Talk to them with compassion! Kindly educate them and they may see a different perspective over time. Lots of love!
The truth can hurt.
@@juanitagartley937 go fuck yourself :)
She protecc
She attacc
But most importantly.
She got Jamie’s bacc
ડꫀꪀꪮritᥲ no u
Hi I’m going to delete this channel soon. -> This is the type of relationship I want
@@lillianturner6820 why are you deleting this channel. It's an awesome channel. 😊
Champy2012 I never wrote I’m “going to delete yadada” I only said this is the type of relationship I want
It says HI I'm going to delete this ch...
"You know LGBT? Well I'm the T" sounds like such a good way to come out
😍
Thats actually how i came out to a bunch of my friends😂😂
I don’t think that saying that I’m the B would go the best... double meanings are annoying
@@idkwhattoputhere4695 You mean like, bee?
"You know LGBT? Well I'm the N and the B"
"The *what* ?"
You and Shaaba are so adorable together. I am extremely grateful to have found your channel. My son is transgender male. He will be 16 later this month and in October will have his first consultation for T therapy. Your videos plus his knowledge are helping educate me. All I want to do is "get it right" for him. I want him to be comfortable in his own body. I want him to enjoy his life as who he truly is, not who he is perceived to be by appearance. I love my baby boy. Meanwhile this video with Shaaba directs us over to being in a biracial relationship, which is something I also experience. I am mixed. And then I'm in a biracial relationship as well. My kids are from my previous biracial marriage. Just alot going on. I digress. Anyways thank you both for being who you are, and for helping so many others in the world with your content. Love and hugs.
You are a lovely parent!!! Even if you get things "wrong" sometimes, I bet your son will always be grateful to have you on his side
Having a parent like you could save lives, you are truly perfect! Thank you for your acceptance and love towards your child. Will never effect me directly but knowing parents like this exist fuels me to be the great dad I know I will be
Hi
My best friend is trans, I'm so glad your son has an amazing parent like this, I wish his mom was like this, his dad is slowly being alright.
You're what a parent should be
Thank you. People like you are what every parent should at least try to be like.
Update: we're dating!!
"I am Jammi's girlfriend" 🙂
"No I'm not" 🙁
"I am Jammi's fiance" 😃
“ *He invited me over to his shed one day* “
British brand of Masculinity intensifies
I was like, wait, is Jamie a carpenter? Or is housing REALLY freaking expensive in the UK?
@@bonniea8189 it is, but he could be a carpenter as well
Oh. So I did hear that correctly.
That's either the opening line of a serial killer thriller, or some kind of sci-fi plot involving zombie pigeons.
I love that I'm finally finding a video about this. I'm a cis woman and I stayed married to my wife after she transitioned. We live in a small town with old fashioned parents. We've been together for 13 years, and I've heard nothing but negative things about when a trans woman transitions in the middle of a marriage and everyone expects divorce and custody battles. None of that happened. But people still like to push the envelope and tell us it will. I don't see why. Literally nothing has changed aside from her physical appearance and her self esteem from taking estrogen and finally feeling good about herself.
Why would anyone say you have to get divorced? It's no one else's business but yours. I understand that for some couples suddenly transitioning can be too much, but if for you it isn't and you both are happy with each other, that's wonderful!
Congratulations on your successful marriage
OJay Rumilus You don’t fall in love with the gender, you fall in love with the person
If you're happy, people should respect that. But I read an article on a magazine years ago. A transgerder woman shared her story. Her cis wife divorced her because she missed having sex with a man. Her cis wife did try to have sex with her many times, but she never liked it. She missed men sexually. Why do you think this happened? Lack of communication? Like for example when a couple get divorced because one of them wants to have children and the other doesn't, but they never talked about it.
Well that's what pansexuality is all about. You're love is not depended on the exterior but on the interior of a human being. Maybe you aren't as heterosexual as you thought you were?
@@FatiFleur-jn7ky Could be an issue if you're exclusively straight or gay, and your partner needs to transition.
They need to do what they need to do.
But you can't magically choose to be Bi or Pan if you're not.
You spoke about a normal couple...as an old woman..I always thought that a couple was two people who loved each other...gender plays no part in love or being a couple..my love to you and Jamie.
As a trans guy who's really unsure anyone will ever see him for who he is, it's incredible how lovely Shaaba and Jamie's relationship is, and how incredibly right on she is in recognising him as a guy first and foremost.
@@Notacalvinist_24 oh my god leave people alone please
@@user-sr6dr7nn1f Why? These 2 people obviously seek attention. I'm just giving them want they want. If they did not want public attention and public response then keep it to yourself, otherwise you are open to the opinions of others.
@@Notacalvinist_24 they don't seek attention, they are sharing their experiences. Your addition is very unnecessary.
Having a different opinion isn’t an excuse for discrimination
@@Zack-eq3ou No, it's not.
Your parents "allowed" you to go to college on the condition that you didn't make friends with boys? Out of all the information in this video, this is the part which throws me the most... I genuinely couldn't imagine being in a situation where that was a thing.
It happens sometimes, my parents weren't even religious just very conservative and if I even mentioned a male classmate as a child they would freak out, my older sister would beat me and call me a whore as young as 10-11ish for even being caught talking to a boy for more than a few moments and they wonder why I have trouble dating or even talking to men as an adult 🙄🤦♂️ I'm so glad most people like herself do not have the problem I have where it leads to arrested development in interpersonal relationships but it does happen occasionally, that and the need of professional intervention.
Unfortunately not all cultures value education for women and being that her family was described as traditional, that might be their view. She was likely still a dependent when she started college as well so they did have a lot of control. Hopefully they realize now how lucky they are to be gaining a son in law as good and kind and intelligent and hard working as Jaime. He’s getting (got?) a PhD.
it's easily explained with one fact: she's Indian
@@snehajjoseph6709 is she actually Indian? There are so many other places that have brown people...
But if she is Indian... 😂😭 That explains it all * cries in Indian *
@@supreethadevarakonda7480 she did say she has Indian parents in one video
Name a better girlfriend. I’ll wait
@Emily Smilek lol I can't believe you were the only one to comment!! But newsflash hun, I'm best better gf haha ;)
I unfortunately can't participate in this competition bc I was such a good girlfriend that now I'm a wife 😎
@@fifi7801 my poor hearttt 😭😭😭
Your mom :)
Luh, joey mead king (wife of male to female trans angie king)..
Gawd. I had a trans boyfriend for a bit and was asked the same question by a cis friend. I was like "Yah he has 5, how many does your boyfriend have?". I was so mad.
great response lmao
Whew that part made me cringe so hard, so uncomfortable!!
I'm going to start using this
I don't understand what that question means but I have a feeling that it's incredibly rude.
@@lostkey7301 I believe the question they're referring to is "Does he have a penis?" as you might imagine, it's pretty offensive when somebody asks what's in your pants! Like, privates are private lol.
My best friend is Muslim and I remember when I came out as non-binary, she, her sister and I were all trying to figure out weather she should start covering her hair around me because I’m not a girl, or a family member. Eventually, she asked her mom, who was mostly confused, but eventually said “I don’t care, they spend more time here then their house, they’re basically family.”
Women only have to cover their hair in front of men. So you wouldn't have to worry about it anyway.
as a muslim, this is so wholesome omg. i'm so happy for u that it all worked out :)
"You know what LGBT means?"
"Yes."
*"Well I'm the 'T'"*
ME
@@Maykay1312 good one.
That’s how I came out as trans
Have you heard of LGBTQ+? Well I am the ~B~ T
Have you heard of LGBT+?
I'm the T* and the +
@@cartoonminty560 therees no plus
This video was just suggested to me and I'm shook. My fiancé is also a trans guy, also named Jamie, and I call him Jammi?? We always feel so awkward and excluded because we're both technically lgbt and in an interracial relationship (I'm a brown girl, he's white). This video makes me feel so validated lmao.
Alex Haze your profile pic doesn’t look like you’re brown at all lmao
you’re brown ?
Im brown, youre white? Unless its a filter?
You’re white as fuck
Cool I don't mind trans man that's really good yeah I can see the likeness to your relationship to the video you must be spun out good on you keep it up hope you celebrate many happy years together
I'm a trans woman and I have to say waiting for surgery is one of the most stressful and nerve-racking things I've been waiting for 3 years now from when they first told me I'd be able to get bottom surgery but because my mental health has been so bad they've put it off so many times 😑😔😬😫 everyday I wake up and feel so trapped in a recurring cycle of waiting on the positive side I've recently had my last opinion last month and soon I've got an appointment with the gender team which hopefully I'll finally get a date for my surgery
I’m very happy for you! Stay safe!
I hope your surgery goes well!
Good luck with your surgery!
Everyone here is rooting for you, hope it goes well.
Good luck Rosie, hope things are moving in the right direction 😊
I worry, as a trans guy, that no one will find me (or my genitals, however they end up being) attractive. It seems, from the comments, that plenty of trans people don’t have this problem. Thankfully.
Lots of people genuinely don't care. I'm Bi, have had trans partners, am Intersex myself and genderqueer. It's all a lot better than when I was a teenager in the 90's for sure!
Doesn’t matter if they genuinely love you, it won’t matter. My girlfriend doesn’t care about my growth at all. She’s not bothered by it and she knew me pre T. She’s very open and supportive of me being who I want to be and that’s someone you need to have in your life.
I'm a cishet female and I would date a transman if given the opportunity. I don't think what's down there should make or break the decision to date someone. Everyone has their own preference I suppose, but I feel like people who make genitals a big deal and ask intruding questions are rude and weird. Sex ain't everything there is to a relationship. I can understand wanting a biological child, but thankfully technology exists.
I don't personally date trans people but let me tell you something...
If I meet a guy and I like him and he has a small dick or something, idrc. I don't care if he's circumcised, not circumcised, deformed, what tf ever. We can figure the shit out if I like him.
I'm sure you will meet someone who feels the same way about you.
It's only forever, so no big deal.
"For those of you who don't know I am Jamie's girlfriend - no I'm not.... I'm his fiancé....."
Identity crisis be like 😂😂😂
So she's going to be another woman's wife?
Wickedthtz no she’s not
@@Wickedthtz She'll be a man's wife (or now is).
@@finn1560 ummmm no-no She'll be a TRANSGENDER wife. Or a lesbian marriage.
Wickedthtz no she'll have a husband and it will be a straight couple
And your description of Jamie's personality blossoming on T is making me really look forward to when my son is legally able to access that too. Less than four years to wait now!
I was a bit confused when you said "legally able" and then I remembered that in some countries you have to be like 16 or so to start
I live in Germany and here you can start with 8 years or so
Emilio Animate 18 without having to get court orders here. And my son understands why I can't do that for him. It's not like it changes his long-term prospects - if a trans girl wanted hormones, getting them at 16 instead of 18 would make a difference to her ultimate body form. But ftm, it's really not going to change anything. He's already the tallest person in the family, too!
aww you sound like a good mom
Y æü f so far my son seems to be small enough in that area that he's thinking he won't really need to - just go on binding indefinitely. It's nice - he's had a couple of surgeries under general anaesthetic already for unrelated reasons, and if he doesn't have to go through that to feel comfortable in his own body that'll be good.
If he'd been built like my sisters and me it would be an urgent necessity. Thankfully I didn't pass that gene on to him!
@@tealrose3248 oh im glad he can feel comfortable :D i wish him good luck in his transition.
hearing about him collapsing while riding a bike was heart breaking
Almost like she did something unnatural on a hot day that is dangerous...?
Geovenox *she
@@FinnCh979 fuck you Jamie says himself he is a guy fucking get used to it
i wanna like but it’s at 420 likes :(
@@FinnCh979 sorry but jamie is a boy that goes by he/him pronouns so
He
My best friend was Trans but 35 years ago it wasn't talked about and as a result she coped with drugs and has since passed. I'm so glad that it's open and talked about now and there are ways to get help now. I love your openness and your love of helping others. Keep up the good work
This helped me a lot, my friend came out as trans and now we’re dating after a very awkward conversation of two introverts trying to confess their feelings.
Congrats!
stxrs n pxintbrushes ❤️❤️❤️
aww dude thats so wholesome 🥺
which is as adorable as it is awkward, congrats!
❤️❤️‼️
I just came out as trans and my girlfriend fully supports me, we talk openly about what I wanna do and when I was concerned that she may not like me wanting to take T, she just said "These changes would just make you more you, and that's the person I fell in love with."
Needless to say, she's the best and I love her.
Oh, this video was awesome.^^
I actually have tears in my eyes because of your comment. that's so great and I am so happy for you!
i audibly "awed" at this. so precious.
A straight guy said he fell in love with me before I knew I was trans, because he thought I had this feminine energy to me. Maybe this was why I felt gender dysphoria? Probably not, since it's not socially influenced. All I know is I started to become interested in him, and soon I found Elizabeth fit me well enough to be more comfortable in his company, the only one who knew for four months. Eventually, doing nothing about this made my life miserable, and it upset him being the only one I was out to. He broke up with me once I was out to my family.
@@lenafromjemseg
Take some peace in knowing that this has happened for a reason. As painful as things are, you will be thankful one day. ♥️
Hope you feel better about yourself
Okay I know I’m like 3 years late to this video but every time she said “my Jamie” I just melted 😍🥺❤️ that’s love right there
There’s a place in hell for parents who ban their kids from having friends of specific genders
Yes.....I believe that people might be bad people might be Disrespectful people may do many things
But you should never cut off contact with them no matter what
@@morgana2O No, I disagree. Sometimes cutting off contact is actually healthy
@@brnk2 But not because of their gender.
@@morgana2O nah mate, if they're toxic with you get them out of your life. Just do yourself a favor.
Welcome to India
Love this, my fiance is a trans man as well. We have known each other for 15 years now, and I had secretly loved him after a year of knowing him. That was all far before his transition, and i stayed his close friend through all that.
We were still close through our former relationships and he has always been a part of my kids lives. This past February i finally had the courage to tell him how I've felt.
We just moved into our own house.
@gloomygirl666 can I ask what you identify as? are you a cis straight woman and fell in love with your fiance or were you bi?
awwww i relate to this
What a love story 😍❤️
I know I’m late but I’m so happy for you guys !!
@@ss5187 sorry I hadn't looked at my notifications, I identify as genderfluid pansexual.
It's funny how Jamie told you last about being trans and now six years on you're engaged and going to be married!
could be he had feelings for her and feared losing her. i think he told her last b/c she mattered most....
Bianca Lizardo that’s a good idea/point
Yeah usually the people you love most are the ones you are most scared to lose, and thus end up being the last ones you tell. It's like you need to tell other people first to gain confidence to tell your loved ones.
Matthew Arangatta Q probably she mattered the most to him. That's why she was told last 😊
shanell williams yes
*how i picture it in my head*
Shaaba: i love jamie... but i only date men
Jamie: "oh hey btw i'm a man"
Shaaba: "oh cool let's date :)"
Jamie: "ok that sounds nice :)"
While they said that wasnt what happened, I could totally imagine that in your voices
Jonathan Roberts shut the fuck up you absolute weirdo
Jonathan Roberts hello Jennifer you’re such a beautiful girl and we love your fking transphobia get out
She is not only dating men, she identifies as bisexual.
Funnily enough, they're both bi.
Still a good comment though.
You guys are adorable
Also, having a S.O. who understands period pain is a HUGE plus
I love you guys' relationship and how supportive you are of him! You guys seem like such a lovely couple.
love you guys! :D
Yep. She is pretty, he is hot, perfect match :)
it'sMe TheHerpes that's really messed up
+Jeremy Lee why do you feel the need to make people's day worse. your not benefiting anyone. stop spreading hate
+Jeremy Lee you are not welcome in our community. I don't know what you wish to gain from being here. please leave.
About Period, that's so true. I'm FTM myself and whenever my GF is telling me she's having it, I can feel her pain. That's a big Plus for us FTM's :P
That’s rad dude way to be a good boyfriend
You also now have bigger pockets in your clothes! 🤣
High five FTM buddy!
although I'm FTM but dating another guy, but when my girl friends are having periods man am I gonna yeet my love at them
PogoDarnexx it doesn’t feel like much of a plus to me, I hate having periods. :(
Now you are one of the few guys who really understands the number one rule of dealing with girls on periods: If she wants chocolate, get her chocolate!!
This is such a sweet video! Very happy for you both :) Came out to my partner as trans a year and a half ago, and while it comes with its challenges, they are very loving and supportive, and yes: it is not an all-consuming, universe-changing event. Especially when you very much love and support one another.
That is great to hear!
When she said, "No I'm not (context of her being his girlfriend)". I was confused but then she said, "I'm his fiancé"
I died of happiness.
Asking a trans person about their genitals is like asking a cis guy if he’s circumcised or a woman about her labia. I understand the curiosity but it’s not OK to ask.
Since hetero sex is ‘insert tab a into slot b,’ I can see where some hetero folks don’t get it. Bottom surgery is painful (like all surgery) and, IIRC, it doesn’t work the same way a cis penis works. But this isn’t exclusive to trans men; just one of the more commonly known.
An advice column had a letter from a hetero couple where the husband had a disfiguring accident involving his junk. They used toys and strap-ons and found a way to maintain a sexually fulfilling relationship. I imagine all trans + cis partnerings just mean you find what works for you.
I think it’s great you’re sharing whatever you’re comfortable with.
To be fair it depends how well you know someone and what sort of things are considered normal among your friends and such. My friends group, asking about whether someone's circumcised wouldn't be even slightly out of the ordinary.
Asking about a stranger though, or someone who you don't know would be comfortable with such topics, is a definitely a no-go.
im fine with people asking if im circumcised, the genital thing is probably worse bc my dick skin has never really been a sore spot LMAO
Wait so you're not supposed to ask men if they're circumcised?
i wish it was ok to ask if a guy had been circumcised though :p dont come for me! its just my preference :O
I'd never ask such questions but I wouldn't be offended by such questions in certain contexts
Shaaba, thank you so much! I’m a mum of a transgender son and it’s so good to hear your perspective. Just to be able to change his perspective if the issue of relationships arises. He’s now transitioning and because of insecurity a relationship is far far away, but just hearing your perspective helps me help him becoming who he wants to be. Love you both.
Jeannet van der Deijl All I can say is that you sound like an angel for a mother, so glad that you’re actively supporting your son. I can promise it means the world to him
@Truth seeker stfu lmao being trans is not just something "fixable", let them be
I must say he is so lucky to get a supporting mom like you. 😄
A L You realize transgender people have brains that differ from their bodies right?(if you don’t get it I mean transwomen have female brains but their bodies developed as male and viceversa for trans men)
A L Nobody is asking you to bow down to their demands?? And yes, even after transition a male is still a male and a female is still biologically female. I never said otherwise, literally all I’m asking is that you stop calling them delusional over something they can’t control. Do you go up to autistic or mentally disabled people and call them delusional over something they can’t control? No, why do the same for transgender. Literally all they want is to live their lives like everybody else dude-
Shaaba so you can say that Jaimie is your cup of T?
I wonder what my best friend would think of me.
She's quite physically affectionate to me as for now (kisses on cheeks, hugs, leaning on me) and I don't want that to change. I'm so afraid she will see me differently, either as I come out or as I transition. Like, what if she starts treating me like some guy friend she occasionally hangs out with. I don't want to lose what we have or her.
it may change a little bit but if she is a true friend she will understand your feelings. good luck coming out my dude :D
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I don’t think you will lose her ❤️ I have had a few close friends come out as trans over the years and it’s never changed our friendships at all
I’m old comparatively to you guys. I’m 45 with an 18 year old theybe. I wouldn’t change a thing. My best friend in the whole wide world is a lesbian. I remember meeting her partner for the first time. I told her she was family from the first. I know my bff didn’t come out to me first because she was scared it would change our friendship. It hasn’t. Not a little bit. I still never close the door when I pee. I don’t care what I’m wearing around the house. (We’ve lived together for 11years) my bunny now has 3 moms. I couldn’t be more thrilled. I will say that not everyone you love is going to shift gears without grinding. I went after my dad because he was purposefully being an ass to my bunny’s face and it hurt her. The people that refuse to see you and your heart are not worth keeping. You are so very important!!!!
any updates? It's been 2 years, I want to know how you guys are doing.
Where do I get a relationship like this? Do I have to leave my house? -_-
I didn't need to leave my house! I met my partner online and it's so great for me to see representation of an interracial couple with a trans person in it. This video is so relatable to me and I'm just so happy to see Shaaba and Jamie happy, knowing I can have that.
I didn't need go leave my house haha met my husband online. He told me he was transgender almost right away but I didnt give a shit. There is hope for you yet
koutashinji big mood
koutashinji sadly, maybe you do. It's okay, not everyone bites.
I relate so hard rn 😂
Unrelated: your hair is SO BEAUTIFUL Shaaba.
"OK cool what do I do now?"
Apparently you marry him. Which is a pretty good option
I've recently begun to get involved in a relationship with a trans woman as a cis male. I'm in a similar position to Shaba from the other side of the relationship, but my partner has not yet had gender reassignment surgery and our relationship is not as far along as theirs is yet. Not to worry, I will marry this woman in a year or two.
I've known my partner for nearly three years, I've been attracted to her for about a year and a half (I told her immediately), and we've only really been able to call ourselves a couple for about a month due to circumstances that I won't divulge here. With three years of familiarity, our bond is very, very strong.
We've had discussions about having children. Our current option that she would like best is to have an egg donated to us from one of her female first cousins from her father's side (that way she's related to the baby), artificially fertilize it with my sperm, and then have that embryo carried by a surrogate mother. In a way, we've grappled with a similar desire to what Shaba mentioned, and this is the answer we're most comfortable with.
Jammie's binding before top surgery and Shaba's resistance to it sounds familiar to me. My partner enthusiastically used makeup to help her with dysphoria and sometimes get an extremely validating compliment from his women from time to time. For similar reasons, her photos get edited with a snap chat filter that feminizes her facial features to simulate facial feminization surgery. I don't mind if her photos for public use are edited, and it doesn't matter to me that she wears makeup, but our relationship has been long distance all along and I wanted to see her real face. She has bravely begun to send her selfies and photos with no filter, and sometimes I get photos of her without makeup. Because she feels less compelled to impress people, she's wearing it less now than I'm in her life, too. I know it's completely normal for women to wear makeup or edit their selfies, but to me, it always felt like she was hiding from me. She knows my love for her is without regard for her appearance or presentation.
In response to Shaba's final summary, whether or not my partner is transgender ultimately has a lot less effect on us than anyone expects it to. I've been vague talking about her here because she's stealth. There are people in my life and my family who might be less than welcoming to a transgender person, and to those people, her gender identity does not need to be disclosed. She's been on HRT for long enough now that she passes as a woman, she sounds like a woman, and very little about her expressly betrays that she's trans. If we know they'll be toxic, they don't gotta know she's trans.
every time she says 'my jamie' i get so soft omg i love them they're so cute and perfect for each other
i'm the T in LGBT. My best friend if the B in LGBT and together we are BT, bringing you great internet service lol
that does sound pretty tasty lol
You called for a lesbian? 👀
awesome now we can be BLT. tasty
So you are Bluetooth together? :)
ha that's pretty clever but i think i would rather be the sandwich lol
I love hearing how much more confident Jamie was the more he transitioned ❤️ I love that his transition made him happy, that’s the thing that bigots don’t understand is the most important thing, not technicalities. Be happeeeeeee!
My wife had the exact same feelings about me binding, especially because I have lung problems, it took so long for her to understand that I am happier struggling to breathe than breathing easily and feeling suicidal
Lycus, why don't you go see a therapist about it? Not a gender affirmation one but one that will actually probe to find out what the root of the problem is. A lot of times trauma causes this feeling, so a trauma therapist might help you get relief. Just do not go to a gender affirmation one, they will not dig they will just say everything is due to being trans. You need some deeper therapy to get to the root if it, and then you might be able to breathe better
@@annablueheaven1497 shut up bro this was two years ago
I love that you and Jamie have developed similar mannerisms/expressions
Alfie OH YES, they did!
Alfie similar chromosomes too
i noticed!
Lord Freeza why did i laugh that's terrible lmao
That happens when you are in a long term relationship 😆 it's fun because you end up being a little bit of both 😊
my husband is a trans man, and hes more of a man than anyone ive ever dated! hes perfectionnnn 💚
quinni raechel ponte go y'all!!!!! I'm happy for you guyssss.
quinni raechel ponte that happens when the 2 becomes 1☺.
Awwww ❤️
@@thatguy0515 And you will never know what it's like to NOT be a moron. :-/
@@thatguy0515 👈👍
The way she says ‘My Jamie’ 😭🥺🥺
Falling in love with your best friend is the kind of thing you see in romance movies 😍 you two are such a wholesome couple
Compleatly unrelated to the topic but YOUR HAIR IS BEAUTIFUL
I heard "he invited me over to his shed" and immediately thought, so Jamie really came out of the shed... (I need to go to bed)
hey that rhymes!
Can I have Shaba’s perfect teeth
Mom said it's my turn on the perfect teeth
@@RoxOn413 If you guys get the perfect teeth can I have the energy?
@Zara Gupta troll. Go troll somewhere else.
As the female partner of a man (we are both cis) with a severe physical disability (ugh I cringe phrasing it like that but it really is the best way to describe it) so many of the things you say about Jamie being trans, are exactly how I feel about my partner’s disability.
Love you guys so much. Coming from a 50+ person, seeing your relationship flourish gives me hope for the future, not only in the way you advocate and educate in the realm of LGBTQ+, either, but hope in terms of the state of the world right now. Knowing that intelligent, articulate, compassionate, and passionate people such as you exist gives me hope that maybe, just maybe, the planet is being left in the right hands after all. Happy holidays to you!
It's kind of the same as how being gay doesn't affect the relationship "as much as people think." Like, every romantic relationship is just two people who love hanging around each other and doing life together and smooching and stuff lol. All bodies find a way of fitting together. People are IKEA furniture basically.
haha erin supersin
These will be my wedding vows
This is Why straight People always lost themselves in this store 😂
Wow that is a pretty uneducated statement you've made there mate! Romantic relationships 1. Aren't just between two people (polyamory), 2. Don't need to involve physical or sexual interaction (asexual spectrum). Please be mindful of your heteronormative ideologies and educate yourself! Thanks :)
@@missjul8 Clearly you're very young. Nobody out in the real world is going to know what you're talking about. Moreover, nobody is going to shape their attitudes to fit into your safe space in adult reality.
You will need to hear "heteronormative" language by your employers, superiors, people on the street and everybody in between, for the duration of your entire life.
You will just need to get used to it. Because the bottom line is that 99.9% of people have never heard of these things, which exist only in a niche on UA-cam and Tumblr, etc. And 100% of those people are simply not going to care.
This is the best advice you could possibly get.
Thank you so much for making these videos! My son is trans and as a mom I worried so much in the beginning about his future relationships and the effects that hormones can possibly have on him. These videos and your answers have brought me so much comfort and hope for his future. As well as answered many questions I had about all of this. No matter what I will always love and support and advocate for him. This just brought me so much comfort and joy, so thank you.
@JP7346 - I love your comment, and I hope more trans kids, teens and adults have parents like you and Jamie’s… You will give so much hope and optimism to those who fear their parents’ response. I watched Jamie’s mom & dad’s videos and nearly cried at how open, honest and caring they were. They didn’t whitewash how they felt initially, but just showed that even very liberal parents can have concerns or obstacles. But also showed that their love for their child eclipsed everything else. You are that same kind of mom. Thank you for that… x
This channel has been so helpful my youngest daughter has just came out as trans. I want to understand as much as I can to support as much as I can. Still my child I love him regardless all I want is my children to be happy.
Poppy Cox Parenting done right!! I wish you and your doughter all love and luck in the world!!!
Thank you. That means a lot. It never was in any doubt I'd be supportive. I know I love all my children for who they are and not for their gender😊
@@poppycox2019 It's so great you can accept his gender and still love him for who he is - you really are an amazing mother for this!
Thank you 😁 The thing I'm so pleased about is his school friends have accepted it and has had very little negativity. Still the same person underneath, just a different body.
Bless you 💜💜💜 you give me hope
Yesss Fiance Shaaba! I've always wondered about partner's views when they're dating someone who's trans. I hope someday I'll find someone like you though who's so supportive and loving.
Matthew Arangatta
I hope you do! 💖
*Everyone deserves to find love and happiness!!*
Xoxo
Never settle!!!! You deserve all the happiness and joy you could ever desire if not more.
Matthew Arangatta its gotta be interesting realising they are bi n not a "dreaded cis straight"
You will!!! Everyone deserves true love!
Sam Collins has a video on it too 💖
Thank you for your channel, I have always had trouble with just.. wrapping my head around what being transgender is like and you guys are making it so much easier for me to understand it. So thank you again. :)
It’s awesome that you’re trying to learn instead of discriminating like a lot of other people do 👍🏻
My best friend is trans, and I didn’t know him well before he transitioned either, but I just remember how confident he’s become in his skin now that he is on T. His parents are really supportive, and when he got put on an NHS waiting list, his parents weren’t happy at all since his mental health and dysphoria was rlly bad and he was even suicidal, so they took him to a private clinic and drove like over 8 hours to get there. He’s been on T for about 3 years now and honestly it hasn’t changed him much at all, he’s still the same person, but can be more open about it and comfortable in his own gender :3
Every time you say "my Jamie" i melt from how cute that is!
IKR! SO LOVELY!
as soon as I saw ur profile pic I knew u were also into su aahh
Can he get you pregnant???
@@julianwelsh3600 No. They answer that in other videos.
Are you a lesbian, the Indian male/female? Is the one talking in the beginning a lesbian woman or wait I'm confused as fuck
I’m intrigued by all this because my partner is nonbinary - we dated before they came out but I mean, I’m pan and I was into THEM not their gender, lmao. But they do have some dysphoria. They do have some physical stuff that they would like to change. And that’s awesome, I want them to... well, I hope that anything they do will have as positive an effect on them as Jamie’s transition had on him, because that would be just lovely. Having a happier, more confident partner who feels that how they appear and who they are match up? Great! Perfect! I’m so here for it.
But the issues surrounding that are a lot more to do with how the US medical system... is. Like, it’s trash, we know this. I just want them to be able to wake up tomorrow and go to the doctor and say, “here’s what I need to feel happy in my body,” and be able to get started on that path. But with their low income, with my low income, with people not being as aware that “nonbinary” is a valid identity -and, even if they are aware of it, not realizing that an enby person might feel dysphoria... it feels like an uphill battle sometimes. A lot of the time. And I can only support as much as a non-medical-professional person... can, you know? I can be their biggest cheerleader, but I can’t solve everything. And THAT is what’s the worst. I’d give them the world if I could, but it’s more of... voting for change here, helping them argue with insurance companies there, and hoping that things get better. I want my significant other to be happy, is that so much to ask?
Apparently so. LGBTQ+ folks really get put through some crap, huh? It’s not a NEW battle to fight, no... it’s just one that sucks to HAVE to fight. Can’t we just all be who we’re meant to be in peace? Love who we wanna love? Look on the outside how we feel within? You’d think... that’d be obvious, but no. No. Never really is, is it?
"He was a baby trans" That is so cute!
Seriously, any one who is anything other than absolutely supportive and empathetic about their partner when they're on their period, doesn't deserve to be in a relationship with that person.
When (I’m sorry I’m gonna just say home girl this is my first video of you guys) homegirl said that it’s so nice having Jamie understand periods I was like I’m so jealous that sounds so nice then I realized,
I’m gay. I have a girlfriend. We both have periods. Anyways Ily you guys I’m subscribed now❤️❤️
Wth! LMAO!
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Lmao that's really interesting... Seriously.. Wondering if its because of the way the story was told or the constant retractor beam of mainstream social norms that sucked you in whilst watching 🤔
Big mood
I have never seen any of Jamie's content. This is the very first time I have visited his channel. Let me just say, you are amazing! Jamie is very lucky to have you in his life. I loved this video, even though I am on the flip side of the trans equation, as a trans woman, all the stories that you told resonated with me too. Thanks for sharing!
I had no clue people pronounced “urinals” that way
As a brit. That sounds normal to me
How do Brits pronounce Uranus?
@@jennifer9047 yer-ay-nuhs
@@jennifer9047 I've noticed on telly here in the UK,eg on quiz shows, they say it the American way,basically to avoid people tittering as the regular way does sound funny!
yur-RINE-als
Can I just say how heartwarming this comment section is? I love this.
Having never been exposed to any transgender person or even situation, I am so thankful I stumbled upon this video and channel overall. It is so educational!
You have probably met someone who is trans :) you just didnt know it. I'm so glad you found this video!
Same
@BP not always
BP I’ve met people who told me they were trans and i was shook??
@BP What does that even mean?
My boyfriend is a trans man but we are both still in high school and his parents are very very religious and do not support it which means he cant transition fully. It took forever to even convince his mom to let him cut his hair the way he wanted to. Like his father openly talks about everything wrong with gay and trans people in front of him. It hurts him and it hurts me to see how much it affects him. He only has a year until hes going to move and be with me which is amazing. I cant wait to see how much happier he becomes when he can transition. Hes the best guy I've ever known and I love him so much 😊💕
I feel that. My cus is trans and lives in a very openly transphobic community where he can't get help and I'm just waiting until i can get him out of there and get him on T
@@barbrastanwick3278 i wish you luck ❤
@@USFISTER omg imagine being this ignorant 😂
@@USFISTER there actually have been records of trans people for thousands of years they just didnt have a name for it. They didnt know what they were feeling so they tried to disregard it for the rest of their lives. Same with homosexuality.
That would be true if the concept of gender never existed but because it does, being trans is real. The reason people tell people publicly is so it doesnt hurt when they are called the wrong thing because the concept of gender does exist
Gosh, she’s a cutie patootie. She and Jamie are such a lovely pair!
Aren't you the most precious thing? I must admit I was emotional from the very start. I wish I had this kind of support at the start of my transition, but then I met my fiance that reminds me so much of you. Thank you ❤
11:14 I love how you were talking about him pre-transtion your brain just rejected the idea of him as female, lol. I think you and Jamie are equally adorable so I happy regardless of who is staring in the video.
lynnzerben she’s probably doing it because it’s still incredibly disrespectful to refer to someone pre transition as female because it’s how they identify. Just cause they may have been born with a different body then they wish for doesn’t change that they were always a man/woman/no Gender (Depending on their transition) deep down
My boyfriend and I are the same way
He’s trans and I’m straight, but I knew him for three years before he came out, but once he was out he was much more comfortable and it brought out a new him
We started dating a year later, but it feels really like he was two completely different people before and after
SAPTO the COOL yea, I didn’t mean to infer he wasn’t straight, just highlighting that I was straight because lots of people think straight girls cant date a trans guy
SAPTO the COOL he’s my bestfriend and he’s extremely loyal to me. He’s super cuddly and I just feel for his chivalrous geeky self
SAPTO the COOL he’s the best! We hit eleven months yesterday.
SAPTO the COOL I was 12 and he was 13
Jay Preis also trans is the prefix meaning change, google( or an eighth grade education) will key you in on that one
ITS THE BISEXUAL AWKWARD THUMBS I LOVE IT SO MUCH 😂😂😂
The moment you talked about the positive impact on your relationship of Jammi taking T made me literally tear up because I'm hella afraid of what might happen to my relationship even though I know my partner is super gay and already said he can only imagine that it would turn me into an even hotter version of myself (his words), but still...
So thanks for your words!!!
This may sounds weird but they have the same eyes. Not really shape or color but the soul in their eyes and the emotion is the same, i never fully realized that until now but its very neat and shows how connected they are
Sparrow Peregrine oml i totally agree
Sparrow Peregrine > I love this. 🖤 Beautifully and poetically said.
I was just thinking that
Oh, I've noticed that in other couples too! So strange and interesting! :D Eyes are really mirrors of the soul...
Maybe they're twin flames
Please consider adopting a baby! There are babies in this world without parents and one of them would be so lucky to have you both as parents!
They’ve said they plan on having kids so I imagine they’re planning to adopt.
@@coena9377 There are other ways. Not everyone wants to adopt.
They have the same „right“ to biological children as every other couple 🙏🏻 Gay or Transgender People are far more often told to adopt than straight/cis couples. And adoption is not easy at all.
@@ronjakristina3616 personally i tell everyone who says they're thinking about kids they should consider adoption lol
@@leaf111 adoption is an amazing thing, but it's very expensive compared to having a kid so I'm wary about recommending it to people. Just feels.... Almost condescending? Idk if that's the right word.
I hate these ''miss Jamie'' comments. They are so transfhobic and weird, like cant you aceept they are a boy? Or is the past in your brain?
ooh, you're referring to jonathan roberts' comments, right? yea, he's just a stupid dipstick that refuses to listen to reason and instead spouts the same copypasted crap over and over again as if repeating himself will magically make him right.
Dude let’s just imagine they missed seeing Jamie because he is an amazing person (so is Shabaa but maybe they need Jamie’s tips on how to pass etc) I haven’t seen the comments tho.
@@bilinmeyensahs2945 As for logica I'm assuming (so I don't know if this is actually true) that they mean people who say they "miss the Jamie they knew before transitioning" while every trans person is still the same person but happier.
@@yunagamerz7336 i think they mean miss as in woman. I guess transphobic people have to call him that bc they don't know what he was called before he transitioned
@@sopapopp That's what I ment with before transitioning, so yeah. I just- how can you 'miss' the same person? They're saying this just for the point to be transphobic it seems
I really love it when you chime in. I respect the way you’ve expressed your boundaries (“that’s between me and Jamie.“), and your awkwardness is very endearing. You are one of my favorite couples on this planet, and in terms of your impact on society and society’s feelings about the trans experience and trans community, you are heroes.
"Your Transliness" sounds like a really great title for a benevolent dictator!
I consent to being ruled by
✨HIS TRANSLINESS ✨
You can tell how close you two are here, your mannerisms are so similar! This was a great, positive video. 😁
As a trans man in a newish relationship I really liked hearing this prospective
I just came out as FTM in October 2019 so my trans friends sent me this video to reassure me and make me happy. I'm quite emotional, thank you
Hey ! How are you doing now? I hope you are well.
@@aishwaryam6244 I am doing great thank you for asking that is so sweet of you 🙂
@@sloankooshan7494 Thats good to hear. 👍
It took me several minutes to realize she was saying "urinal" and not "in a rhino"... I was very confused lol
Anthony Belotti When I first heard it pronounced that way, I heard "your inal," and I was like, "what the heck is an inal?"
Right? "U-rhine-al"
”Urine-al” is how it’s said
Anthony Belotti lol I was like wait rhino what?
phonetically speaking (it would be spelled out the way it sounds): "Your-RHINE-all" . IN ENGLAND. (possibly also Australia & New Zealand, and all of the UK) In America, it is just "Urine-all". England has the emphasis on the "RHINE" (rine) part.