The 'alpha male' guy has been on several manosphere podcasts. He's the prime example of doing all the math wrong and still getting the right answer anyway. But he's also the guy who actually can and is doing the work making conservative and misogynistic people see trans women as women, because he looks like them and exists in their world.
I'm genuinely surprised "Alpha males" don't just use their screwy logic to promote being with gorgeous trans women over "basic" cis women overall... after all there's plastic surgery, breast implants, and "designer" vaginas involved, which is everything they already routinely squawk about women needing to have in order to be "worthy" of them in the first place... regardless, any woman cis OR trans needs to take a good hard luck inward at their own need for validation and self-worth if they find themselves in a relationship with any self-proclaimed *Alpha* dbag
There was this one cis straight guy at my high school who went out of his way to treat me like one of the guys. It meant the world to me. I don't think he ever knew just how much that meant to me, but it was incredible. He was the only cis straight guy my age I'd met at that point who really treated me like a regular guy. I just found out that that kind, thoughtful guy who made my high school experience so much more tolerable was murdered. Idk but I feel like Jamie uploading this video right after that about the straights being trans inclusive is either Papa Dino looking out for us or my old friend sending me a hug via my UA-cam algorithm. Either way, I'm so glad Jamie made this video.
Yeah, that was kind of my read on it. While all the pieces did add up to "a date", he was respectful and careful to ask if each part of it was a thing she wanted to do. I can understand people finding that very slightly "Ehhh", but it's hard to find major fault with how it played out. Does feel like the sort of thing that could've gone wrong, but seems nice how it did go.
That's exactly what I saw too. Going on a date can put a lot of pressure especially on socially awkward people. This way he just kept it casual. No dress-up, no make-up, no formalities. And he gave her the choice to say 'no' whenever she felt like it.
I've been in one of those dates and I'm not so sure I agree. I was asked if I was "also hungry" and that means he is hungry so if I say I'm not hungry and want him to drive me back home I would be the reason he was hungry. I don't drive, we were out of town closest train station was 2 hours away, I needed him to drive me back so I felt pressured to say yes and he took me to an expensive trendy restaurant that made me feel very uncomfortable, I hate those places and I don't like having someone pay for my meal... He also tried to get me drunk there even tho I didn't want to drink. He asked but it didn't feel like I was offered a way out. So I'm guessing that asking is not always enough. On our way back he asked if we could stop at his place first to "freshen up" I really needed to use the bathroom so I agreed. "Freshening up" turned into me being in his bedroom with no place to sit other than his bed next to him, him trying to get handsy and coming up with excuses to wait a bit longer until he admitted he wanted me to stay the night. Luckily the train station was just 40 minutes away from his house, I didn't know the way and had to go through some dangerous neighborhood but I managed to get to the station and then walk all the way back home from there. He did ask every step of the way, I don't think I was really offered a chance out. Lucky for me he's so used to driving he didn't know the distance from his house to the train station and from the other station to my house was walkable so he didn't account for that but he had all intentions on keeping me against my will making it seem he asked and I consented
@@Ares_V This sort of scenario was definitely on my mind when I was saying I could see this sort of thing going wrong. This only works as a respectful thing if the person is actually respectful and prepared to take no for an answer without additional social coercion or w/e, just wants to hang out as much as they can without trying to put too much pressure on declaring it a date. But I don't know the original poster or the guy well enough to be able to cast that sort of judgement. There's so much space between "Okay, I guess" and "completely awful" that's completely up to the like, how the pair interact, motives/headspace of the person doing it, etc. In a way, this is ultimately part of what makes really manipulative people so awful. Not just that they treat other people like things to exploit (and I'm very sorry you had to go through that), but also that they poison a lot of things that could be innocuous, but could also be being used as leverage, and once you've *felt* it being used as leverage it becomes very untrustworthy.
It doesn’t count if they aren’t aware of what you’re doing, he gave her outs but never gave her any ins. It’s obvious he wasn’t being malicious, but it’s crossing boundaries that shouldn’t have been crossed.
As a enby who spent most of my teenage years being suicidal, every time I find a grey hair or a new wrinkle, it makes me so happy that I’m still here, that I’m old enough to see these changes. Every birthday is another year I didn’t think I’d see when I was younger
My instinct is to say all that “it gets better” bs, but I promise you that if you find something to live for, it can help combat the urges (for me, it was not wanting my little sisters to have to go to junior high being those kids whose sibling killed themself) Best of luck to you, my friend. I promise there are always people around you (even if only online) who are supporting you, and want you to make it
I feel this. Sometimes I feel bad because I never planned to be alive past 13, so I never planned out what I wanted to do with my life. I'm 25 now and still figuring that out. But I'm still here... and I got to watch myself grow into a man. Now I've got white beard hairs growing and I can't help but feel thankful that I survived my adolescence and grew into a pretty handsome guy imo! I used to think it wouldn't get better... and here I am today over a decade later and I find that I'm OK. I find that very hopeful.
I did that not-date thing with my now 18+ months girlfriend, when we first met. Non of us was comfortable with a date-date. She was even more anxious than me and I mostly wanted to meet a new person who could mainly be a friend and possible grow into something more. So I asked her if she wants to hang out and see cool stuff. We visited 2 museums, one of them focused on historic medicine. Then we had lunch, then we walked through the inner city and I showed her the nearly ancient buildings and some sweet storefronts. And when it got late and dark and our feet hurt, we went to our cars, and met up at my apartment to rest for a little and pet my bunny and after a few more times of hanging out, and sharing a first kiss and calling each other girlfriend she told me that this first hang-out was a definite date for her by the time of lunch. Haaa I love her so much!
My husband and I kind of fell into a relationship. Our "first date" was staying up all night wandering our university campus, exploring to see if any buildings were unlocked and just generally enjoying each other's company. We decided retroactively about a week later that that was our first date, as in that was the night when we both decided we wanted to pursue a deeper relationship. One week from today will mark our 1 year wedding anniversary and three weeks from today will mark exactly 10 years from that "first date". We are planning on celebrating by taking a trip back to our alma mater and recreating that night.
I like the "nice girl bike" gender affirming teasing. My equivalent is recently I was going for an evening walk, and at one point I saw a young guy jogging toward me. I instinctively put out the "strange man radar" that us women tend to do when we're alone and approached by a strange man, where we get hyper aware of him and our surroundings. As the guy approached and began to pass me, he said "Hey!" and that was when I actually looked straight at him and realized it was MY BEST FRIEND. I somehow didn't recognize him out of context. Later I texted him to let him know that his FTM transition has officially reached the "passing" stage so successfully that he now has to be aware of how he approaches strange women that are alone. Gender affirmed, dude.
I love these kinds of gender affirmations because it's funny. For example, I worked with a trans man in a dog grooming salon and the dogs that didn't like men didn't like him. It's punch to the ego as well as an uplifting thing
I love straight allies so much, they don't experience what queer folks experience but still try their best to understand and are willing to be educated. Most people would just be indifferent but straight allies care for queer folks! Plus, queer folks need allies. A minority simply cannot win against the majority unless there are allies. Men have fought for women's rights, white people have fought against racism. If a group of queerphobic people don't interact with queer folks, the only way to re-educate them (if possible) is by allies! ALLIES ARE IMPORTANT! 💙
This is very true, I often felt this in my bones as a woman and a feminist while talking to misogynist men : I just couldn't reach them. I think allies are important in every fight for minorities ! Also rant but I am bi in an heterosexual relationship so I am a "straight ally" to many of my collegues lol
We in the LGBT+ community also can and must be allies to our brethren who are a different part of the rainbow. I've had to go no-contact with a transphobic lesbian couple in my family. (Worth it!) I'm bi and have one kid who is transmasc, non-binary, and demisexual. Another is transfemme and very lesbian. 🙏❤🏳🌈🏳⚧🟦
I'm cis het white male, so the main thing that keeps me from advocating more is the worry that even as an ally it's entirely possible that my voice gets listened to AT THE EXPENSE of people who are actually affected by whatever I'm advocating. Whether that's LGBT+, racism, feminism, immigrant families... even if my intentions are to help, I'm NOT someone who can talk from lived experience on these issues, so I'm only able to advocate for the things I've learned second-hand, and people will pay attention to my voice more BECAUSE of the issues that I'd be advocating against, which can push out the voices of the people others should actually be listening to. Obviously there's ways to mitigate this. Instead of giving my understanding, I can redirect attention to the people who are marginalized. But in certain types of conversations, that really doesn't work. Ignorant and/or bigoted people won't suddenly pay attention to voices they want to ignore because I say they should, and sometimes I really have to use my voice instead. It's a weird balancing act that I haven't 100% gotten the hang of even after 15 years. There's also the worry, though this one is more personal and internal, of that "white male savior" caricature being something other people see. I don't feel like that's what I do when I try to be an ally, but again, no lived experience of the other side so I don't actually know how that feels to marginalized people and have very little to truly understand where the line is for that. It's work. Like it's a lot of effort to be an ally to people who are marginalized when you are part of the group that is privileged. It's not too much work to make it worth it, and "it's hard" isn't a good excuse for those who don't do the right thing. It's more that sometimes I just wish the people that I can be an ally to would give me more clear and concrete advice on how I can help without being a problem. I feel like I could leverage my position to do more sometimes that way, and simply asking someone for that information feels so patronizing. "You poor thing. How can I save you today?" Very much the vibe it feels like asking would have sometimes, no matter how I phrased it.
5:31 he did technically ask before every step still though, like he still asked if she wanted to check out the theatre and if she was hungry. He didn’t just say they were going to the shop and then drag her to dinner instead.
It's exactly what I was thinking. It seems that he would had accepted no as an answer but like that he made it easier for her to enjoy time together without the pressure of "this is a date"
@@sonicpsycho13 ...as a European I just now realized that that could possibly be a problem, like I've never been in a public place with shops and movie theatres and restaurants where I felt like I couldn't just leave. Car centric city planning really is something else.
@@Kath2378Exactly! That didn’t even cross my mind, I was thinking the whole time “Not only did he ask her before moving on to the next thing, but she could just have gone and left (and more easily as there wasn’t anything planned beforehand)” I don’t know if I would ever be actually comfortable going somewhere with anyone on a first date if I didn’t have the possibility to just leave at any time and get home safely. Also, I don’t understand how this isn’t standard dating procedure. When I go out with someone, 50% of the time if we don’t really know each other, we’ll just meet up and walk around. And there’s always somewhere we can just sit and grab a coffee or a drink etc
Oh, i know the people in the first image. They're a youtube couple called "Evan and Katelyn" they work on different crafts that often involve supplies like resin, wood, 3d printing, and LED lights. I love their robot dog furby video, it's so damn funny
If you still live with your parents, absolutely do not tell them until you have moved out and are no longer financially reliant on them. Make sure you protect yourself, even if it’s from your family
The crockery story almost got me. I used to have a set of glass bowls. Nothing fancy... but they've been with me my whole life. I can still remember eating strawberries with sugar out of them, or mint-flavoured chocolade pudding, back when I was a toddler. They've stayed with my side when my parents divorced... 50 years ago now. They stayed with us during all the following moves. There were losses. They are glass, after all. The colour had faded over the decades, and when I lost the rest of my family eight years ago, only two of the original set of six had survived. Yesterday I broke one of them. It's just a cheap stupid faded glass bowl. And I almost cried. Life is loss. ;) (Oh, and the hair is looking great, Jamie. Suits you very much!)
When my dad died I took one of the vases from the funeral. It was…okay, not fancy or anything. When it broke a few years after his death I broke down and wept. Sometimes it’s not the thing that has value, but what it represents.
My tip, Fiestaware. My aunt and uncle were antique dealers specializing in ceramics. They had tons dining sets but their daily use dinnerware were fiesta. Fiesta has been in almost continuous production since the 1950 in mostly the same styles (some colors going in and out). So matching replacements or additions are usually easy to get. I followed their example and it was a really good call.
My spouse's mom used to do something artistic whenever something like that broke. When she broke a fancy mirror she used the shards to make a painting. Though she was artistic so it's easier said than done, but the point was that if something broke she turned it into something new. A simpler, for us less artistically inclined, method is to simply photograph fragile memorabilia like that glass bowl. Maybe even set up a table all fancy like for a party and then photograph it until you get a nice picture. That way you can have it printed and framed as an artistic piece, even if the final bowl breaks. Oh, and you could maybe sand the edges down on the shards and put them in a clear vase to hold flowers. Depends on how it broke/etc.
I've heard when some people brake plates that are valuable to them they put them back together with gold or cement and therefore it is stronger and also has awesome lines through it, maybe if this accidentally happens to the last survivor bowl you could repair it like that?
8:40 this comic speaks to my soul, I was told that i talked to much and was annoying when i was younger so i just stopped talking to people in general. Its not until recently that ive had people that have told me its ok to talk about what i love
This is a message to all of you who feel like they shouldn't talk or be passionate about something they love. Don't let others tell you that you can't talk about something you love, find people who share that love, and if someone cares about you they will listen even if they don't share the interest (my girlfriends for example tell me that im adorable when i go on long winded explanations on something im interested in)
Same. I because so quiet after I was told that I talked too much but now I have a great support system so when I talk, stumbled over my words, take a moment to collect my thoughts because my ADHD they just patiently wait for me or if I really can't think of the word try to help me figure it out. I don't hear the "just spit it out, get to the point or you talk too much" anymore which is so nice & what everyone deserves
Same. My partner will let me talk her ear off, and it doesn't even matter if she understands what I'm talking about, she's just happy I'm happy. I barely talked as a kid.
1:07 Evan and Katelyn!!! Very ok straights They have a UA-cam channel where they do crafting stuff, this ghost hunt was a 1-off and as soon as the ghost told them to go on and git, they LEFT
@@emisthem6562 You miss the point. My husband isn't Icelandic, nor speaks Icelandic. Neither am I, but we went to Iceland for our 30th anniversary. And before we went, being the language-geek I am, I tried to learn as much Icelandic as I could [he tried to learn some basics]. I managed to get the pronunciation down so well that I got offered the Icelandic menu instead of the English one at least once! 😆 Yeah, I'm that much of a language-nerd. And that amuses my husband, and is something he finds endearing about me. And I'm still learning bits and bobs about Iceland, even though it was almost exactly a year ago that we were there. I discovered, by accident, that the Icelandic word for "news" is just one missing accent different from the word for "ferrets." So now I jokingly ask him about "the ferrets" instead of the news. 😆
@John_Weiss I did understand the situation, I was just saying that for those of us who aren't as well versed or interested in linguistics as you, we could use someone who likes the reverse also, when we have no idea what we're doing - sorry if it seemed like a slight at all
I live in a house where we get a ton of spiders during the first month of spring every year, as a result I’m no longer afraid of spiders unless one suddenly darts across my computer screen when the lights are off. Centipedes, though, are still an eldritch horror
I once saw a centipede sitting on my butter tray. It was as long as the stick of butter with antennae that were as tall as it was long. I fled the room immediately and told my family I had seen Satan eating our butter.
A centipede crawled out from under my bed in college, and I never felt completely comfortable in my dorm room after that. (And I was on the 4th floor... it didn't just wander in from outside.)
5:57 I disagree with you. At every stage he asked her if she wanted to do the next thing. He always gave her the option of saying no. The only thing he did is taking off the pressure by not calling it a date and giving her as much control over what happens as he could.
I also think a movie and dinner isn't only allowed on dates. He asked if she wanted to hang out with a series of activities and she said yes every step of the way. She just realized looking back they were traditionally date activities. Unless he kissed her unwanted or said "ha! I made you date me!" I see no problem with it. Looking back she realized she was ok with considering it a date. That is different than manipulating her into one.
Yeah, that's the way the dude "gameified life"! Game theory IS the logic behind all human interaction! Just because love is awesome and selling stuff is icky doesn't mean they're not both human interaction governed by positive sum logic! We just have to keep the one separate from the other!
I’ve seen some interviews with the Alpha Male guy, they are actually very wholesome as a couple (in the way that seems to work for them lol). And yeah there is where the world “should” be but people like them are the ones who can help us get there. The transphobic/homophobic guys who call themselves Alpha will never come to a channel like Jammidoger to learn, but if they see this couple on a podcast where he is talking about how he will always “love and protect his woman” then maybe some watching will begin to realize that trans people aren’t so scary after all. Fear comes from the unknown and familiarity leads to acceptance.
Growing old with the person you love is the most delightful thing I have ever done. We've been together for 38 years and I wouldn't trade a minute of it
Yes! Things like that can be super fun! I haven't been on an errand date, but one of my friends and I got close similarly. We met in a psychosomatic clinic - we were out in the same room, but we are both rather introvert and the first few days we spent silently reading in our beds, haha. But since she had already been in that clinic before, one evening I asked her where the nearest supermarket is and we got to talking that evening. The next day we went on a walk so she could show me the supermarket (the clinic was a bit further away from the actual city so it was maybe a 20 minute walk). When we got there, we just walked through the aisles and talked and joked around. Though neither of us actually wanted to buy anything that day... so in the end we just went back to the clinic. That was ~17 years ago and we still know each other. We aren't as close, since we live a bit further apart from each other, but taking that walk through the supermarket has always been a core memory for both of us. Never be afraid to do silly things if you feel like it!
I like your haircut! It does take a moment to get used to when you do a bit more of a drastic chop- but its not like it won't grow. ^ ^ Also: I've been on T for 3 and a half months now, and people on the phone are starting to question me when I tell them my legal name for appointments and such- my voice is definitely starting to drop hard. :D Just thought I'd share that tid-bit of trans euphoria!
Congrats! Make sure you take voice recordings every now and again, the timeline is so cool back to look back on from before/starting to a couple years later!
Imagine having gay friend who tells you that you don't exist because you can't be bi and ace at the same time. I'm biromantic, he would costantly say that both bisexual and asexual people don't exist, Worst thing he is one of rare people that know that I'm bisexual,most people that I'm close with know only that I'm asexual, because of that I'm even more scared to come out to other friends
@@magdalenahrgif someone is that way to you, they are not your friend. Coming out shows who is real and who is not. 13 years ago I told my friends and the real ones stuck till today
Even though I'm a cis straight woman, it's sooooo hard for me to hear others being homophobic and transphobic. It is absolutely frustrating and makes my blood boil to hear the crap that comes out of my parents' mouths about LGBTQ+ people. Because I don't want to start an argument, I usually just sit there until they are done with their ranting and move on to another subject. My heart goes out to everyone who are faced with such bigotry and hateful attitude from others, especially since it's so much harder for those in the LGBTQ+ community.
are you inclusive to what the 4 billion woman want????? They want to be able to use public bathrooms, changing rooms, locker rooms, and public showers without men in there. Those women do not care if those men are in dresses or THINK they are woman........... SO, are you inclusive to them kid??????????
@@berrysnowyboy5251 Cis is not a med term used to talk about genetics kid. I'd ask if you took any science or medical classes, but i know the answer.....
The Ps4 one kind of reminds me of my sister and her husband. When they got engaged, they felt it was unfair that he had to buy her a fancy expensive ring and she didn't have to do anything, so he got her a ring for the engagement, and she got him a nice guitar (he's a musician). 🥰
My hubs and I have conflicting sleep patterns. I’m a morning person and he’s a night own. It worked beautifully when we had babies. He did the evening shift from 8-1am and I did the morning shift from 1. Made raising children that little bit easier.
My husband and I are on opposite sleep schedules and the big key is remembering to set time aside to frequently date your partner. We try to have at least 1 day a week set aside for us. We usually go grab a nice meal, go to the grocery store and then either spend the rest of the day gaming together or watching something nerdy. He may wake up an hour after I go to sleep but after 11 years together I couldn't ask for a better Husband.
It really perturbs me sometimes how alien just about all garden wildlife is to a lot of Europeans, especially in the UK - and increasingly, even here (Zambia) a lot of smaller wildlife is getting so scarce that urbanites have lost most of the local names for a lot of it (Guligufe, which is Chichewa for butterfly, survives only as a slang for a disoriented fool in most urban vocabularies). But in the UK, if you want to see more centipedes (none of the UK ones are dangerous, be nice to them) just turn your compost heap every month or two, and you'll see the really lovely Geophilomorph centipedes, which are very long and skinny and fragile, and zoom about in the soil munching on smaller invertebrates and generally keeping things healthy. They ARE friends. And in older houses you will still sometimes find house centipedes, which are marvellous, alien looking creatures whose legs get progressively longer towards the back, and make them look like abstract art. And they are also harmless.
8:55 Society. We spend two and half years to get kids to talk and then spend 18 years yelling at them to shut up over something. Another standard thing. I used to be a bubbly kid when I was younger, but now, I can barely get words out as an adult bec
Yep. I had a 20 word vocabulary at 3 and my spawn points were concerned I'd never talk...then I spent the rest of the time since being told to shut up.
I used to always dress for the male gaze. I hated being looked at, I hated being objectified, and I hated wearing "feminine" clothes, but I was so brainwashed by society. Yet, if you stopped by my house at 10PM, I'd be wearing jeans: just in case a guy came by and saw me. The trans community gave me, a cis woman, the courage to just start wearing what I want: usually more masc but with a flair of obnoxiousness like little kid shoes or bright pink shorts. That also helped me come to turns with my bisexuality, so the trans community will always have my support, and I will always have their back. They taught me to stop being such as stickler about gender norms when it comes to clothing style and just accept I'm still that tomboy I was going up and that's okay. I don't have to be Kim Kardashian. I'm looking forward to the day when I can finally feel comfortable uploading a photo of me in my normal style instead of only using photos when I do get dressed up and put on makeup (like once a year.)
The trans community gave you that, lmao? Radical feminism will tell you the same thing, only without resorting to restrictive sex stereotypes and without the part where women and teenage girls chop off their breasts, taking cross-sex hormones that are very harmful for their health and mutilate their female body, and males invade women's spaces and violate women's rights. Radical feminism tells you that you can dress however you like and put on a makeup or not put on makeup, remove your body hair or not remove your body hair, have any hobbies, behave in any way, get pregnant and be a mother or not, date men or women or no one at all, just do whatever you like and feel, nothing is "fem" or "masc", cloths are just cloths, hobbies are just hobbies, etc. The only thing that makes you a woman is being female, that's the only criterion and condition. You don't have to do anything to be a woman, not dress in certain way, not put on makeup, nothing. You are not bound to any restrictive sex stereotype. Just the fact that you divide things to "fem" and "masc" is alarming. So what, if you like more "masc" things you are not a woman but a "non-binary transmasc"? Are you "non-binary genderfluid" because you like "fem" things and "masc" things? And now that you have "discovered" you are "not a woman" but "non-binary", are you going to remove your breasts next, to feel like your "authentic self" in your body? That's insane. This is all insane. There is no "fem" and "masc", there are just different things, hobbies, styles, norms, consumes, behaviors, etc. Wake up. This trans movement is extremely harmful for women.
about receeding harlines: i'm also a trans guy and i take 1mg finasteride per day (prescribed, you can just ask your doctor), and use minoxidil spray almost every evening and it completely stopped my hairline from receding. all of my uncles are bald lol
I actually like my receding hairline, because it’s masculine. I don’t want to go bald, but I might. My maternal grandfather was bald and half of my male cousins are balding.
When my husband and I moved into our first apartment we bought the bare essentials for our kitchen. I scoured Amazon and other sites for deals on decent brands. That was in March of 2021 and we still have all the original stuff. I actually cherish my cheapy stuff because it holds so many memories! Over the years we've added to it and now that we've bought a house I'm enjoying the organization process.
Hnnnng the story about the person's parents being adorably affectionate around the Father's bald spot makes my heart melt My mom is so ADHD she's forgotten she wad cooking and has started 3 fires I know about. My father is Autistic and Requires Strict Plans And Timelyness. In personality they are polar opposites, and neither Words Well-- which means I grew up observing a lot of non verbal affection between them. Ma likes rough housing and works the land any day she's not working, and cares for the animals every day work or not. When you have a cow, you learn to do a half squat to lower your center of gravity to push against the side of a cow to get them to move. Ma would take this posture with dad like a dog play-bows, and dad will drop into the same posture and they'll bump shoulders until someone cracks up or is knocked off balance, leading to a rescuing hug
5:46 I assume that since she'd said she had horrible previous dates he couldn't tell whether it was genuine disinterest in him or just trepidation, and it was his way of taking her out on a date in a way that she could *choose* to interpret as romantic or platonic
As a straight I love and respect all trans people, my cousin is transgender and your content has really helped me to understand her better. Thank you so much for making content like this
I was so afraid of spiders for most of my life that my son from the age of three and every dog we ever owned were expert spider killers. I would screech and an army led by my kid with the dogs following would come to my rescue! I got over it since lockdown, but didn't we all change?
I have centipedes living in some of my planters on my balcony. So I see them occasionally when I move things around/repot some plants. I always make sure to put them back into the planters if I accidentally got some of them in the removed soil. Also got a lot of spiders living on my balcony (mostly orb weavers and jumping spiders) and some house spiders inside of the apartment too. I leave them alone though. They don't bother me and I don't bother them. We are friends. I'm not the biggest fan of touching spiders (mostly, because I'm afraid to squish them) but I think they - and other crawly and flying insects - are neat to look at. Last year I saw leafcutter bees build a nest in one of my planters. That was fascinating, since I didn't even know those exist. Nature is really fun!
oh, yeah, same! i don't touch spiders, mostly just not to disturb them, unless i'm trying to save them from a situation. there was one particularly stubborn little guy that had decided to take up residence in my shower who i had to rescue from a watery death not once, but twice. it was fine both times, though, or at least i assume so since it came back for more the first time and vanished from the sink counter the second, lol
Oh, my parents and grandparents(r.i.p. grandma) are very supportive allies, and they're all straight. I'm still questioning my gender identity, but i know that i'm biromantic and asexual
In some parts of the United States there's a common household pest called a house centipede, they are pretty much harmless other than being too large and terrifying, and they get everywhere. I can only assume this is what the people are calling lovers
@@jaelyngwinner471I get what you’re saying, I think. Is it referencing all the toxic “ally” stuff that goes down online so it’s nice to see when allies are actually allying?
About the first-date thing: Normalize just hanging out with someone that you like, to get to know them! I think a low-pressure hang out is a really cute idea. But my friend was on a "trick date" once, and she was furious at the end. For her it had been 100% platonic, so when he tried to recategorize it as something more she was understandably very frustrated! Like saying that you're down for Applebee's is not the same as agreeing to date someone, you know??
6:35 i think he mean it as a joke that he is this big tattooed guy, who looks like the most hateful person and he's in need lovenig and super accepting human being. Cuz when those "alfa" broes see this dude they might change their mind
Funniest bit is that Evan and Katelyn from 1:00 ARE a DIY channel AND it's a DIY thing. I think it's from their 'I Melted Every Yankee Candle Together Into A Giant Candle' collab with Safiya Ngyaad? Anyway, they're super cute and wholesome and make lots of things for their cute cat
An update on my transition! My doctor and I have agreed to start with endometrial ablation and a progesterone only IUD in order to hopefully completely stop my time of the month. When the "shelf life" of the ablation expires, we'll then talk about a possible hysterectomy if I'm still wanting to get one.
You go boy! Good luck which ever path you choose for your transition to work Hope all your friends and family and doctors are understanding and sympathetic and give you the support you need
My 5th grade teacher one told the class about the time when him and his very pregnant wife were out shopping, when suddenly he twirled her around, got on one knee and started proposing to her. Even though they were already married. It was around a bunch of people too so they all started chiming in. It was actually quite sweet.
12:10 Anyone struggling with their dishes breaking, chipping, etc. should look into the brand called Corelle. They're a little pricey, but well worth it. My mother has had the same set since I was a tiny child and as far as I know, only one has chipped ever so slightly. If you drop them and they break, there's a lifetime warranty on them for a free replacement. And they come in all sorts of colors and prints and styles, so you can find something that matches your decor or appeals to your taste. Not getting paid for this, but so glad that I sprung for some Corelle ware right after buying my own place that I figured I'd share.
My parents have had the same dishes for 30 years and the only way you can tell are the skid marks from forks, lol. Not sure of the brand but my point is they were bought when my parents were still dating and living in a tiny apartment.
Ahaha I was coming here to mention Corelle too. I bought my cheap old set of WELL used corelle for my first apartment almost 20 years ago. I've only broken one. The fancy set we got for our weding shower like, 13 years ago is still PERFECT. Nothing damaged even slightly. And they're not expensive! My parent's set that are like, 40 years old+, are still in great shape. Missing a few from breaking, but not that many.
My husband is more scared of the little poisonous spiders, I hate the huge ones (we’re both scared of both though) and we used to have an agreement that he did the big ones and I did the dangerous ones and now his mobility isn’t very good so I’ve had to get the big scary ones now. I will scream the whole time, but I’ll get there eventually 😅🦸🏻♀️
Nathan W. Pyle's comics ("I stole this smile from my wife") are all delightful, whether you're looking at his series, Strange Planet, or his many, many one offs. Seems to be just a wonderful human being all around.
The comic at 15:08 the boy is not actually being supportive and is actually teasing/bullying her. But it also has 2 additional panels. One in high school where he teases her about her hormone supplements then one at a bar where all he can think about is how ‘nice’ she looks. There is also an alternative dialogue to that last panel where she thanks him for being supportive all the years they’ve known each other. Giving it a more wholesome vibe. I also think there’s a fan made 5th panel where they get married but couldn’t find it again.
*I love it when we find okay straights! *About ageing... I'm 52. Many of my friends, I've had since college, over 30 years ago. We're all grayer, fluffier, wrinklier, and/or creakier than we were. It is weird sometimes, but it's kinda cool, too. I don't currently have a partner to share the process with, but it's not bad. *You, reading this. Yes, you. You are valid and loved. Pass it on. 🙏❤🏳🌈🏳⚧🟦
Usually the people saying 'Your love is wrong' have never experienced love. I feel more pity for them than any hatred. They grow up in an abusive system so it is all they know.
as the night owl with a morning bird spouse, it's difficult sometimes. However, we distract each other too much to get things done when we're both awake so having the morning/evening hours to ourselves means we can actually focus for a bit hahah
@mrwhosetheboss's engagement and wedding reception speech videos are. The sweetest purest things. Watching them made me feel happy and that the straights are mostly actually okay. He loves his wife so so much and she clearly adores him, it just was a delight to watch.
I've lived in a house for 7.5 years with one set of crockery. Bought some set aimed at students from IKEA for £20. Broke 1 bowl but at that time you could buy replacements. The rest however are fine. Most of my mugs were free gifts with purchase at a doughnut shop. One is chipped but that's it.
Only seeing 2 centipedes in your life must be nice. Here in Ontario, Canada it feels like I see one in my bedroom like once every couple months at least, and I’m sure in other places it’s much more common than that. Normally I try to save and move bugs outside but I can’t bring myself to do that with them.
Me and my bf are bffs but not married yet Probably will get married because it makes things like immigration easier but I've never liked marriage All the best relationships are built off the foundation of a really good friendship I think
It's nice my generation and the one after mine are totally like 'Fuck yeah I love my wife/husband!' instead of previous gens going 'Ugh,my husband/wife suck...'
Thankfully my husband is a night owl like me, I work nights and he’s a stay at home dad. Our kids are also night owls (for now) and it’s so great! Our routine is I come to bed around 9am, he gets up at 10, and he puts fresh socks on me every morning 😘
1:40 I believe that’s from Nathan Pyle who does the Strange Planet alien comic series, I know I’ve seen this comic before and the profile pic and little bit of username we see line up. The strange planet comics are really good! I will note that they are Christian if that’s something people do not want to interact even indirectly with but have spoken publicly about how they keep their personal beliefs private and separate. In the years I’ve been following his work I’ve never personally seen an overt Christian influence in it but I know that can make people uncomfortable so I wanted to mention it.
My boyfriend is a night owl, and I’m a morning “worm.” Honestly, we make it work. He still has to get up early for work (around the same times as me), so I use my morning positivity to try and make waking up easier. We say goodnight to each other at 8pm or so and he heads down to game while I get sleepy on the couch. It’s a toss up if he wakes me up to go join him in bed at 10:30pm or so, but him starting his alone/guy time earlier means he can still get 6+ hours of sleep and not miss out. And I still get my 8+ hours. We just fill the 4 hours before bedtime with solid together time.
Every year older I get. Comes with a little more respect, calm, contentment, satisfaction and wisdom. Things that as a younger person I did not get nearly enough of. As an adult I curate my life to allow for peace and improvement. And I reject disruption of that. The older I get the better I am at controlling what I give and how I react to what I get. My best today is better than my best years ago. And after 15 years of marriage, 19 years together, getting one child to adulthood and making two more, my husband is still my favorite person most days. Don't stress about getting older. Share the journey. Enjoy the path. Appreciate the results. Older is the best thing that ever happened to me, and it just keeps happening.
I think your hair looks great Jammie. In fact when I met my bf 17 years ago he had a more pronounced reseeding hairline then you and it was one of the thing that attracted me to him. And now he is totally bald by choice, because the hair thinned and the bald spot(aka the kissing spot) got to big, and he is still the sexiest man in the world to me.😍
Thank you for being a spider-friendly (spider-inclusive?) household😊Always choose kindness!❤ Your haircut looks really good - I liked it better after you messed with it around 3:00 And thanks for the uplifting, or dare I say, wholesome video - my blood pressure didn't increase even once.
I solved the chinaware a bit different. Since I had no money, I went to flea markets and thrift stores and bought the bluest plates, mugs, glasses, and so on that I could find (kobold blue is my very favourite colour). And I still do, after thirty years as an adult. This way, is one breaks, no big deal. Well I have also favourite mugs etc in other colours now, and my cupboards are full. But my kids grew into their independent-phase, so from time to time I need a new thrift bowl or whatever 💙
it makes me feel so seen that I'm not the only one who takes the time to put the spiders outside! I'm not afraid of them but I also feel happy that others, like Jamie, take the time to put them outside and don't kill them. 🥰
I think it's so sweet when couples spend all day together and miss each other whenever they're apart, like you know that's a good relationship if they're always together and yet on the few occasions they're not they wish they were.
I’ve read you can get metal marks (the silvery scratches from cutlery etc) out of your crockery using those polishing compund things like pink stuff or nanas secret.
When I worked in a fancy café we used dilute Milton (sodium hypochlorite essentially) and let the ceramics sit in it for a minute or so before washing up properly. Kept everything looking shiny!
i love that you catch and release the spiders that get inside! As someone who adores spiders, this warms my heart. obviously, i'm the critter relocator in my home as well. i've had to pick up quite a few snakes from the yard over the years to move them to to woods and countless spiders gotten the gentle hand ride to the outdoors.
Your hair is lovely and you have no reason to be self conscious, plus my boyfriend calls you "the [youtuber] with the beard" when we talk about you, haha.
16:03 As a teenager, I was so afraid of growing old, I would say that I want to die before I get the chance to grow old (didn't help that I also had depression and was suicidal at the time) Turns out, I just didn't realise I was trans yet but was struggling with the feeling of not being able to imagine my future as all of the options I had in my head at that time involved me being a woman (which I am not and also I am a terrible actor) 6 years into transitioning, 5 years in a happy relationship, witnessing the beginning of the war and fleeing abroad together made me so excited to get all grey and wrinkly with my partner like no romcom ever could Yes, life is imperfect and messy but I am so grateful I got to experience what I did as now I am moving through life with a completely different mindset Something about getting through that point of being suicidal and now being excited to grow old changed me forever in a good way
I love hearing about couples who genuinely enjoy spending time together. My spouse and I have been together 8 years, lived together after 2 weeks together, and have been married 6 years and I just can’t get enough time with him. We work together too albeit in different buildings but it allows us to be together on our commute to and from work and we can text the whole shift. I love it so much!
The 'alpha male' guy has been on several manosphere podcasts. He's the prime example of doing all the math wrong and still getting the right answer anyway. But he's also the guy who actually can and is doing the work making conservative and misogynistic people see trans women as women, because he looks like them and exists in their world.
He’s got the spirit I guess?
@@DylanTheDuck18 Basically.
I'm genuinely surprised "Alpha males" don't just use their screwy logic to promote being with gorgeous trans women over "basic" cis women overall... after all there's plastic surgery, breast implants, and "designer" vaginas involved, which is everything they already routinely squawk about women needing to have in order to be "worthy" of them in the first place... regardless, any woman cis OR trans needs to take a good hard luck inward at their own need for validation and self-worth if they find themselves in a relationship with any self-proclaimed *Alpha* dbag
Honestly, as long as noones getting hurt/disrespected he can call himself whatever he wants. Isn't my place to judge. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Him and Blaire both have done a lot to make conservatives a little less transphobic, though they’re far from the ideal reps.
When I was a kid, I watched Mom fish a spider out of the bath and say: Lets take Belinda outside. Now? All spiders are called Belinda.
My grandad calls spiders boris. I have no clue why but I eventually started doing that too
@owlmity because Boris is an excellent spider name (I’m gonna start doing that too)
Dunno why but any house spiders we see in my house are always named Fizz-
@@glamfishy there's a song called Boris The Spider by The Who.
My sister and I also have names for different types of insects, arachnids and whatnot
Seems to make them less scary overtime
There was this one cis straight guy at my high school who went out of his way to treat me like one of the guys. It meant the world to me. I don't think he ever knew just how much that meant to me, but it was incredible. He was the only cis straight guy my age I'd met at that point who really treated me like a regular guy. I just found out that that kind, thoughtful guy who made my high school experience so much more tolerable was murdered. Idk but I feel like Jamie uploading this video right after that about the straights being trans inclusive is either Papa Dino looking out for us or my old friend sending me a hug via my UA-cam algorithm. Either way, I'm so glad Jamie made this video.
I'm sorry you lost this influential person. I am so glad you received that support and got to share such healthy things with your community. 🥹
I'm so sorry for your loss; sending you all the love & light.
im sorry for your loss
That's just cruel. Such a nice guy deserved a long and happy life. I'm so sorry.
My deepest condolences for your loss.
The trick into a date: at every step, he gave her a chance to go home. So he kinda eased her into it and gave her easy outs.
Yeah, that was kind of my read on it. While all the pieces did add up to "a date", he was respectful and careful to ask if each part of it was a thing she wanted to do. I can understand people finding that very slightly "Ehhh", but it's hard to find major fault with how it played out. Does feel like the sort of thing that could've gone wrong, but seems nice how it did go.
That's exactly what I saw too.
Going on a date can put a lot of pressure especially on socially awkward people.
This way he just kept it casual. No dress-up, no make-up, no formalities. And he gave her the choice to say 'no' whenever she felt like it.
I've been in one of those dates and I'm not so sure I agree. I was asked if I was "also hungry" and that means he is hungry so if I say I'm not hungry and want him to drive me back home I would be the reason he was hungry. I don't drive, we were out of town closest train station was 2 hours away, I needed him to drive me back so I felt pressured to say yes and he took me to an expensive trendy restaurant that made me feel very uncomfortable, I hate those places and I don't like having someone pay for my meal... He also tried to get me drunk there even tho I didn't want to drink. He asked but it didn't feel like I was offered a way out. So I'm guessing that asking is not always enough.
On our way back he asked if we could stop at his place first to "freshen up" I really needed to use the bathroom so I agreed. "Freshening up" turned into me being in his bedroom with no place to sit other than his bed next to him, him trying to get handsy and coming up with excuses to wait a bit longer until he admitted he wanted me to stay the night. Luckily the train station was just 40 minutes away from his house, I didn't know the way and had to go through some dangerous neighborhood but I managed to get to the station and then walk all the way back home from there. He did ask every step of the way, I don't think I was really offered a chance out. Lucky for me he's so used to driving he didn't know the distance from his house to the train station and from the other station to my house was walkable so he didn't account for that but he had all intentions on keeping me against my will making it seem he asked and I consented
@@Ares_V This sort of scenario was definitely on my mind when I was saying I could see this sort of thing going wrong. This only works as a respectful thing if the person is actually respectful and prepared to take no for an answer without additional social coercion or w/e, just wants to hang out as much as they can without trying to put too much pressure on declaring it a date.
But I don't know the original poster or the guy well enough to be able to cast that sort of judgement. There's so much space between "Okay, I guess" and "completely awful" that's completely up to the like, how the pair interact, motives/headspace of the person doing it, etc.
In a way, this is ultimately part of what makes really manipulative people so awful. Not just that they treat other people like things to exploit (and I'm very sorry you had to go through that), but also that they poison a lot of things that could be innocuous, but could also be being used as leverage, and once you've *felt* it being used as leverage it becomes very untrustworthy.
It doesn’t count if they aren’t aware of what you’re doing, he gave her outs but never gave her any ins.
It’s obvious he wasn’t being malicious, but it’s crossing boundaries that shouldn’t have been crossed.
As a enby who spent most of my teenage years being suicidal, every time I find a grey hair or a new wrinkle, it makes me so happy that I’m still here, that I’m old enough to see these changes. Every birthday is another year I didn’t think I’d see when I was younger
100% with you on that. So far, I have 37 years of bonus life.
Glad you're still around stranger! I feel the same way about seeing the crows feet if I catch my reflection while I'm laughing. 💛
I’m not a adult yet but as a suicidal teen enby you still being here gives me hope I might survive
My instinct is to say all that “it gets better” bs, but I promise you that if you find something to live for, it can help combat the urges (for me, it was not wanting my little sisters to have to go to junior high being those kids whose sibling killed themself)
Best of luck to you, my friend. I promise there are always people around you (even if only online) who are supporting you, and want you to make it
I feel this. Sometimes I feel bad because I never planned to be alive past 13, so I never planned out what I wanted to do with my life. I'm 25 now and still figuring that out. But I'm still here... and I got to watch myself grow into a man. Now I've got white beard hairs growing and I can't help but feel thankful that I survived my adolescence and grew into a pretty handsome guy imo! I used to think it wouldn't get better... and here I am today over a decade later and I find that I'm OK. I find that very hopeful.
Fun fact hermit crabs change their gender when they molt
@underwailer Lucky little bastards 😂
i have two crabs... uh oh
Same
Gender? Don't you mean sex? At least be consistent
@@saoirse2963 yeah the terms are being used interchangeably by lots of people. As though 'sex' was somehow offensive.
I did that not-date thing with my now 18+ months girlfriend, when we first met. Non of us was comfortable with a date-date. She was even more anxious than me and I mostly wanted to meet a new person who could mainly be a friend and possible grow into something more. So I asked her if she wants to hang out and see cool stuff. We visited 2 museums, one of them focused on historic medicine. Then we had lunch, then we walked through the inner city and I showed her the nearly ancient buildings and some sweet storefronts. And when it got late and dark and our feet hurt, we went to our cars, and met up at my apartment to rest for a little and pet my bunny and after a few more times of hanging out, and sharing a first kiss and calling each other girlfriend she told me that this first hang-out was a definite date for her by the time of lunch. Haaa I love her so much!
absolutely adorable
So cute 🥺
Bun dad! What’s your critter’s name?
My husband and I kind of fell into a relationship. Our "first date" was staying up all night wandering our university campus, exploring to see if any buildings were unlocked and just generally enjoying each other's company. We decided retroactively about a week later that that was our first date, as in that was the night when we both decided we wanted to pursue a deeper relationship.
One week from today will mark our 1 year wedding anniversary and three weeks from today will mark exactly 10 years from that "first date". We are planning on celebrating by taking a trip back to our alma mater and recreating that night.
@@OffSheGos Cookies :D She is a lop-eared dwarf bunny that I adopted from the shelter. Although, I'm her mom. GF and I are lebsiams. :3
I like the "nice girl bike" gender affirming teasing. My equivalent is recently I was going for an evening walk, and at one point I saw a young guy jogging toward me. I instinctively put out the "strange man radar" that us women tend to do when we're alone and approached by a strange man, where we get hyper aware of him and our surroundings. As the guy approached and began to pass me, he said "Hey!" and that was when I actually looked straight at him and realized it was MY BEST FRIEND. I somehow didn't recognize him out of context. Later I texted him to let him know that his FTM transition has officially reached the "passing" stage so successfully that he now has to be aware of how he approaches strange women that are alone. Gender affirmed, dude.
I love these kinds of gender affirmations because it's funny. For example, I worked with a trans man in a dog grooming salon and the dogs that didn't like men didn't like him. It's punch to the ego as well as an uplifting thing
I love straight allies so much, they don't experience what queer folks experience but still try their best to understand and are willing to be educated. Most people would just be indifferent but straight allies care for queer folks!
Plus, queer folks need allies. A minority simply cannot win against the majority unless there are allies. Men have fought for women's rights, white people have fought against racism. If a group of queerphobic people don't interact with queer folks, the only way to re-educate them (if possible) is by allies!
ALLIES ARE IMPORTANT! 💙
This is very true, I often felt this in my bones as a woman and a feminist while talking to misogynist men : I just couldn't reach them. I think allies are important in every fight for minorities !
Also rant but I am bi in an heterosexual relationship so I am a "straight ally" to many of my collegues lol
We in the LGBT+ community also can and must be allies to our brethren who are a different part of the rainbow. I've had to go no-contact with a transphobic lesbian couple in my family. (Worth it!) I'm bi and have one kid who is transmasc, non-binary, and demisexual. Another is transfemme and very lesbian.
🙏❤🏳🌈🏳⚧🟦
Mhm I love the allies
@@missnaomi613Lmao I'm dead. Why are you talking about your kid sexuality like collecting infinity stones 🤣🤣
I'm cis het white male, so the main thing that keeps me from advocating more is the worry that even as an ally it's entirely possible that my voice gets listened to AT THE EXPENSE of people who are actually affected by whatever I'm advocating. Whether that's LGBT+, racism, feminism, immigrant families... even if my intentions are to help, I'm NOT someone who can talk from lived experience on these issues, so I'm only able to advocate for the things I've learned second-hand, and people will pay attention to my voice more BECAUSE of the issues that I'd be advocating against, which can push out the voices of the people others should actually be listening to.
Obviously there's ways to mitigate this. Instead of giving my understanding, I can redirect attention to the people who are marginalized. But in certain types of conversations, that really doesn't work. Ignorant and/or bigoted people won't suddenly pay attention to voices they want to ignore because I say they should, and sometimes I really have to use my voice instead. It's a weird balancing act that I haven't 100% gotten the hang of even after 15 years.
There's also the worry, though this one is more personal and internal, of that "white male savior" caricature being something other people see. I don't feel like that's what I do when I try to be an ally, but again, no lived experience of the other side so I don't actually know how that feels to marginalized people and have very little to truly understand where the line is for that.
It's work. Like it's a lot of effort to be an ally to people who are marginalized when you are part of the group that is privileged. It's not too much work to make it worth it, and "it's hard" isn't a good excuse for those who don't do the right thing. It's more that sometimes I just wish the people that I can be an ally to would give me more clear and concrete advice on how I can help without being a problem. I feel like I could leverage my position to do more sometimes that way, and simply asking someone for that information feels so patronizing. "You poor thing. How can I save you today?" Very much the vibe it feels like asking would have sometimes, no matter how I phrased it.
5:31 he did technically ask before every step still though, like he still asked if she wanted to check out the theatre and if she was hungry. He didn’t just say they were going to the shop and then drag her to dinner instead.
If he was just asking and would've been okay with whatever answer, that makes it okay.
It's exactly what I was thinking. It seems that he would had accepted no as an answer but like that he made it easier for her to enjoy time together without the pressure of "this is a date"
I'm guessing that they're in a walkable place that she could have left at any time - mall, downtown, etc.
@@sonicpsycho13 ...as a European I just now realized that that could possibly be a problem, like I've never been in a public place with shops and movie theatres and restaurants where I felt like I couldn't just leave. Car centric city planning really is something else.
@@Kath2378Exactly! That didn’t even cross my mind, I was thinking the whole time “Not only did he ask her before moving on to the next thing, but she could just have gone and left (and more easily as there wasn’t anything planned beforehand)”
I don’t know if I would ever be actually comfortable going somewhere with anyone on a first date if I didn’t have the possibility to just leave at any time and get home safely.
Also, I don’t understand how this isn’t standard dating procedure. When I go out with someone, 50% of the time if we don’t really know each other, we’ll just meet up and walk around. And there’s always somewhere we can just sit and grab a coffee or a drink etc
Oh, i know the people in the first image.
They're a youtube couple called "Evan and Katelyn" they work on different crafts that often involve supplies like resin, wood, 3d printing, and LED lights.
I love their robot dog furby video, it's so damn funny
I love their channel!!!
Do you know what video it is?
@A_greek_mythology_fan it's the ghost hunting video
I love their channel! I originally started watching them for the resin stuff and have just been enjoying them since
WHEN I SAW THE NAME EVAN I WAS LIKE "WAIT IS THAT..." AAA i love evan and katelyn theyre so fun
I’m a trans person.. but my parents are transphobic and I’m scared to tell them
If you still live with your parents, absolutely do not tell them until you have moved out and are no longer financially reliant on them. Make sure you protect yourself, even if it’s from your family
@@BrownBlue2Eyess alright
Same ☹️
No need to tell them if you know they won't like it
I had to move out because I knew my family is transphobic as hell, still haven't told them, just in case.
The crockery story almost got me.
I used to have a set of glass bowls. Nothing fancy... but they've been with me my whole life. I can still remember eating strawberries with sugar out of them, or mint-flavoured chocolade pudding, back when I was a toddler. They've stayed with my side when my parents divorced... 50 years ago now. They stayed with us during all the following moves.
There were losses. They are glass, after all. The colour had faded over the decades, and when I lost the rest of my family eight years ago, only two of the original set of six had survived.
Yesterday I broke one of them.
It's just a cheap stupid faded glass bowl. And I almost cried. Life is loss. ;)
(Oh, and the hair is looking great, Jamie. Suits you very much!)
When my dad died I took one of the vases from the funeral. It was…okay, not fancy or anything. When it broke a few years after his death I broke down and wept. Sometimes it’s not the thing that has value, but what it represents.
My tip, Fiestaware. My aunt and uncle were antique dealers specializing in ceramics. They had tons dining sets but their daily use dinnerware were fiesta. Fiesta has been in almost continuous production since the 1950 in mostly the same styles (some colors going in and out). So matching replacements or additions are usually easy to get.
I followed their example and it was a really good call.
if you still have the pieces (and funds), you might wanna look into kintsugi to fix the one you broke yesterday
My spouse's mom used to do something artistic whenever something like that broke. When she broke a fancy mirror she used the shards to make a painting. Though she was artistic so it's easier said than done, but the point was that if something broke she turned it into something new.
A simpler, for us less artistically inclined, method is to simply photograph fragile memorabilia like that glass bowl. Maybe even set up a table all fancy like for a party and then photograph it until you get a nice picture. That way you can have it printed and framed as an artistic piece, even if the final bowl breaks.
Oh, and you could maybe sand the edges down on the shards and put them in a clear vase to hold flowers. Depends on how it broke/etc.
I've heard when some people brake plates that are valuable to them they put them back together with gold or cement and therefore it is stronger and also has awesome lines through it, maybe if this accidentally happens to the last survivor bowl you could repair it like that?
8:40 this comic speaks to my soul, I was told that i talked to much and was annoying when i was younger so i just stopped talking to people in general. Its not until recently that ive had people that have told me its ok to talk about what i love
This is a message to all of you who feel like they shouldn't talk or be passionate about something they love. Don't let others tell you that you can't talk about something you love, find people who share that love, and if someone cares about you they will listen even if they don't share the interest (my girlfriends for example tell me that im adorable when i go on long winded explanations on something im interested in)
Same
Same. I because so quiet after I was told that I talked too much but now I have a great support system so when I talk, stumbled over my words, take a moment to collect my thoughts because my ADHD they just patiently wait for me or if I really can't think of the word try to help me figure it out. I don't hear the "just spit it out, get to the point or you talk too much" anymore which is so nice & what everyone deserves
Same. My partner will let me talk her ear off, and it doesn't even matter if she understands what I'm talking about, she's just happy I'm happy. I barely talked as a kid.
Fellow neurospicy person?:)
1:07 Evan and Katelyn!!!
Very ok straights
They have a UA-cam channel where they do crafting stuff, this ghost hunt was a 1-off and as soon as the ghost told them to go on and git, they LEFT
Thought I was going crazy lol, love them! Definitely some of the okayest straights
I WAS SO HAPPY TO SEE THEM HERE I LOVE THEM SO MUCH
Evan and Kaitlin are a very cute couple!
8:55 Find your partner who laughs with glee when you correctly pronounce Icelandic words, because you're a language-nerd and they stan that. 😁
Gotta find me a girlfriend like that, I love languages.
Or a partner that's okay with a mispronunciation if it's goofy enough
@@emisthem6562 You miss the point.
My husband isn't Icelandic, nor speaks Icelandic. Neither am I, but we went to Iceland for our 30th anniversary. And before we went, being the language-geek I am, I tried to learn as much Icelandic as I could [he tried to learn some basics]. I managed to get the pronunciation down so well that I got offered the Icelandic menu instead of the English one at least once! 😆
Yeah, I'm that much of a language-nerd. And that amuses my husband, and is something he finds endearing about me.
And I'm still learning bits and bobs about Iceland, even though it was almost exactly a year ago that we were there. I discovered, by accident, that the Icelandic word for "news" is just one missing accent different from the word for "ferrets." So now I jokingly ask him about "the ferrets" instead of the news. 😆
@John_Weiss I did understand the situation, I was just saying that for those of us who aren't as well versed or interested in linguistics as you, we could use someone who likes the reverse also, when we have no idea what we're doing - sorry if it seemed like a slight at all
@@emisthem6562 No, it just seemed like you missed my point due to the brevity of your comment.
I live in a house where we get a ton of spiders during the first month of spring every year, as a result I’m no longer afraid of spiders unless one suddenly darts across my computer screen when the lights are off. Centipedes, though, are still an eldritch horror
I once saw a centipede sitting on my butter tray. It was as long as the stick of butter with antennae that were as tall as it was long. I fled the room immediately and told my family I had seen Satan eating our butter.
I was terrified of spiders. …then I went to Australia.
I am no longer afraid of spiders. At least the ones in America. 😂😂😂
Good pfp
A centipede crawled out from under my bed in college, and I never felt completely comfortable in my dorm room after that. (And I was on the 4th floor... it didn't just wander in from outside.)
I have literally screeched from seeing a house centipede skitter across a wall before. Horrible, horrifying creatures.
5:57 I disagree with you. At every stage he asked her if she wanted to do the next thing. He always gave her the option of saying no. The only thing he did is taking off the pressure by not calling it a date and giving her as much control over what happens as he could.
I also think a movie and dinner isn't only allowed on dates. He asked if she wanted to hang out with a series of activities and she said yes every step of the way. She just realized looking back they were traditionally date activities. Unless he kissed her unwanted or said "ha! I made you date me!" I see no problem with it. Looking back she realized she was ok with considering it a date. That is different than manipulating her into one.
Yeah, that's the way the dude "gameified life"! Game theory IS the logic behind all human interaction! Just because love is awesome and selling stuff is icky doesn't mean they're not both human interaction governed by positive sum logic! We just have to keep the one separate from the other!
My dad was the spider catcher and releaser when I was growing up and he didn't let it slip until I was 30 that he was scared of them the whole time.
You can’t be brave if you‘re not afraid.
Glad I‘m not the only arachnophobe that’s into catch&release. We’re a special breed. ^^;
I’ve seen some interviews with the Alpha Male guy, they are actually very wholesome as a couple (in the way that seems to work for them lol). And yeah there is where the world “should” be but people like them are the ones who can help us get there. The transphobic/homophobic guys who call themselves Alpha will never come to a channel like Jammidoger to learn, but if they see this couple on a podcast where he is talking about how he will always “love and protect his woman” then maybe some watching will begin to realize that trans people aren’t so scary after all. Fear comes from the unknown and familiarity leads to acceptance.
Growing old with the person you love is the most delightful thing I have ever done. We've been together for 38 years and I wouldn't trade a minute of it
Love the errand first date idea, it’s probably a better way getting to know someone by watching them go about their daily life. Cute 🥰
Yes! Things like that can be super fun!
I haven't been on an errand date, but one of my friends and I got close similarly. We met in a psychosomatic clinic - we were out in the same room, but we are both rather introvert and the first few days we spent silently reading in our beds, haha. But since she had already been in that clinic before, one evening I asked her where the nearest supermarket is and we got to talking that evening. The next day we went on a walk so she could show me the supermarket (the clinic was a bit further away from the actual city so it was maybe a 20 minute walk). When we got there, we just walked through the aisles and talked and joked around. Though neither of us actually wanted to buy anything that day... so in the end we just went back to the clinic.
That was ~17 years ago and we still know each other. We aren't as close, since we live a bit further apart from each other, but taking that walk through the supermarket has always been a core memory for both of us. Never be afraid to do silly things if you feel like it!
I like your haircut! It does take a moment to get used to when you do a bit more of a drastic chop- but its not like it won't grow. ^ ^
Also: I've been on T for 3 and a half months now, and people on the phone are starting to question me when I tell them my legal name for appointments and such- my voice is definitely starting to drop hard. :D Just thought I'd share that tid-bit of trans euphoria!
Congrats!!! We’re all so proud of you 🫶
Congrats! Make sure you take voice recordings every now and again, the timeline is so cool back to look back on from before/starting to a couple years later!
“The bi erasure is real” my thought exactly
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baby steps. And besides, if the father had that kind of realization, the others aren't all that far behind.
Imagine having gay friend who tells you that you don't exist because you can't be bi and ace at the same time. I'm biromantic, he would costantly say that both bisexual and asexual people don't exist, Worst thing he is one of rare people that know that I'm bisexual,most people that I'm close with know only that I'm asexual, because of that I'm even more scared to come out to other friends
@@magdalenahrgI don’t need to imagine it lol, such if life. Too straight to be gay, too gay to be straight. Bi till I di baybeeeeee
@@magdalenahrgif someone is that way to you, they are not your friend. Coming out shows who is real and who is not. 13 years ago I told my friends and the real ones stuck till today
I love straights that are inclusive 🩷
Same.
Straights whom are inclusive are a good example many straight/cishet people need to learn from.
Even though I'm a cis straight woman, it's sooooo hard for me to hear others being homophobic and transphobic. It is absolutely frustrating and makes my blood boil to hear the crap that comes out of my parents' mouths about LGBTQ+ people. Because I don't want to start an argument, I usually just sit there until they are done with their ranting and move on to another subject. My heart goes out to everyone who are faced with such bigotry and hateful attitude from others, especially since it's so much harder for those in the LGBTQ+ community.
are you inclusive to what the 4 billion woman want????? They want to be able to use public bathrooms, changing rooms, locker rooms, and public showers without men in there. Those women do not care if those men are in dresses or THINK they are woman...........
SO, are you inclusive to them kid??????????
@@berrysnowyboy5251 Cis is not a med term used to talk about genetics kid. I'd ask if you took any science or medical classes, but i know the answer.....
@mroselli Tf are you on about?
13:15 equivalent of beef for girlfriend = goof
Gif!
@@kirstenwyatt9675 another good one thank you
Gif was my first thought but goof is cute too hehe
The Ps4 one kind of reminds me of my sister and her husband. When they got engaged, they felt it was unfair that he had to buy her a fancy expensive ring and she didn't have to do anything, so he got her a ring for the engagement, and she got him a nice guitar (he's a musician). 🥰
My hubs and I have conflicting sleep patterns. I’m a morning person and he’s a night own. It worked beautifully when we had babies. He did the evening shift from 8-1am and I did the morning shift from 1. Made raising children that little bit easier.
Did you both work from home?
My husband and I are on opposite sleep schedules and the big key is remembering to set time aside to frequently date your partner. We try to have at least 1 day a week set aside for us. We usually go grab a nice meal, go to the grocery store and then either spend the rest of the day gaming together or watching something nerdy. He may wake up an hour after I go to sleep but after 11 years together I couldn't ask for a better Husband.
It really perturbs me sometimes how alien just about all garden wildlife is to a lot of Europeans, especially in the UK - and increasingly, even here (Zambia) a lot of smaller wildlife is getting so scarce that urbanites have lost most of the local names for a lot of it (Guligufe, which is Chichewa for butterfly, survives only as a slang for a disoriented fool in most urban vocabularies). But in the UK, if you want to see more centipedes (none of the UK ones are dangerous, be nice to them) just turn your compost heap every month or two, and you'll see the really lovely Geophilomorph centipedes, which are very long and skinny and fragile, and zoom about in the soil munching on smaller invertebrates and generally keeping things healthy. They ARE friends. And in older houses you will still sometimes find house centipedes, which are marvellous, alien looking creatures whose legs get progressively longer towards the back, and make them look like abstract art. And they are also harmless.
A friend ... Perhaps .... _a lover_
8:55 Society. We spend two and half years to get kids to talk and then spend 18 years yelling at them to shut up over something. Another standard thing. I used to be a bubbly kid when I was younger, but now, I can barely get words out as an adult bec
Yep. I had a 20 word vocabulary at 3 and my spawn points were concerned I'd never talk...then I spent the rest of the time since being told to shut up.
@waffles3629 lol, I call my mom "spawn point". Fun to see I'm not the only one
@@OdinsSage yep, I love it. That's all they were anyway.
Jesus Christ, does ur family know u say stuff like this?
@@Luke-zv6bb who cares. If someone's family treats them bad for 18 years talking about it is just telling the truth.
9:10 the girlfriend, making the party
"you know what's funnier than (being) 24 (years old)?"
YES!!! My thoughts exactly!
this joke made me want a spongebob party for my 25th lmao
1:30 It is Evan and Kaitlyn so the chances of it being some sort of extreme DIYing are very high😅
What video?
I used to always dress for the male gaze. I hated being looked at, I hated being objectified, and I hated wearing "feminine" clothes, but I was so brainwashed by society. Yet, if you stopped by my house at 10PM, I'd be wearing jeans: just in case a guy came by and saw me. The trans community gave me, a cis woman, the courage to just start wearing what I want: usually more masc but with a flair of obnoxiousness like little kid shoes or bright pink shorts. That also helped me come to turns with my bisexuality, so the trans community will always have my support, and I will always have their back. They taught me to stop being such as stickler about gender norms when it comes to clothing style and just accept I'm still that tomboy I was going up and that's okay. I don't have to be Kim Kardashian. I'm looking forward to the day when I can finally feel comfortable uploading a photo of me in my normal style instead of only using photos when I do get dressed up and put on makeup (like once a year.)
The trans community gave you that, lmao? Radical feminism will tell you the same thing, only without resorting to restrictive sex stereotypes and without the part where women and teenage girls chop off their breasts, taking cross-sex hormones that are very harmful for their health and mutilate their female body, and males invade women's spaces and violate women's rights.
Radical feminism tells you that you can dress however you like and put on a makeup or not put on makeup, remove your body hair or not remove your body hair, have any hobbies, behave in any way, get pregnant and be a mother or not, date men or women or no one at all, just do whatever you like and feel, nothing is "fem" or "masc", cloths are just cloths, hobbies are just hobbies, etc. The only thing that makes you a woman is being female, that's the only criterion and condition. You don't have to do anything to be a woman, not dress in certain way, not put on makeup, nothing. You are not bound to any restrictive sex stereotype.
Just the fact that you divide things to "fem" and "masc" is alarming. So what, if you like more "masc" things you are not a woman but a "non-binary transmasc"? Are you "non-binary genderfluid" because you like "fem" things and "masc" things? And now that you have "discovered" you are "not a woman" but "non-binary", are you going to remove your breasts next, to feel like your "authentic self" in your body? That's insane. This is all insane. There is no "fem" and "masc", there are just different things, hobbies, styles, norms, consumes, behaviors, etc.
Wake up. This trans movement is extremely harmful for women.
@@saoirse2963except, you know, they don't. Look at how blatantly misogynistic JKR is to cis women that are masculine.
about receeding harlines: i'm also a trans guy and i take 1mg finasteride per day (prescribed, you can just ask your doctor), and use minoxidil spray almost every evening and it completely stopped my hairline from receding. all of my uncles are bald lol
Yup, do not be afraid of hair loss, it is easily treated :)
Just be aware that it can be Lethal to cats if they lick you and ingest it!
Zeph sanders has an amazing hairline recovery journey. Bro might have some helpful content for you!!
I actually like my receding hairline, because it’s masculine. I don’t want to go bald, but I might. My maternal grandfather was bald and half of my male cousins are balding.
When my husband and I moved into our first apartment we bought the bare essentials for our kitchen. I scoured Amazon and other sites for deals on decent brands. That was in March of 2021 and we still have all the original stuff. I actually cherish my cheapy stuff because it holds so many memories! Over the years we've added to it and now that we've bought a house I'm enjoying the organization process.
Hnnnng the story about the person's parents being adorably affectionate around the Father's bald spot makes my heart melt
My mom is so ADHD she's forgotten she wad cooking and has started 3 fires I know about. My father is Autistic and Requires Strict Plans And Timelyness. In personality they are polar opposites, and neither Words Well-- which means I grew up observing a lot of non verbal affection between them.
Ma likes rough housing and works the land any day she's not working, and cares for the animals every day work or not. When you have a cow, you learn to do a half squat to lower your center of gravity to push against the side of a cow to get them to move.
Ma would take this posture with dad like a dog play-bows, and dad will drop into the same posture and they'll bump shoulders until someone cracks up or is knocked off balance, leading to a rescuing hug
:D omg that's so sweet! aaaaaaa!
AHHH IM SO EXCITED NEW VIDEO GUYS 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
SAME :D
6:25 I think he just knows that because of how buff he is, people would call him that, so that's what he called himself.
5:46 I assume that since she'd said she had horrible previous dates he couldn't tell whether it was genuine disinterest in him or just trepidation, and it was his way of taking her out on a date in a way that she could *choose* to interpret as romantic or platonic
If you're jumping off of cliffs/ledges the lifejacket probably isn't going to save you.
As long as it's worn correctly it can't hurt though, plus it will act as ablative armour should the person hit the cliff face on the way down. XD
Doesn't hurt to wear it though 🤷
I love cliff jumping- it usually refers to jumping into water, hence the life jacket
As a straight I love and respect all trans people, my cousin is transgender and your content has really helped me to understand her better. Thank you so much for making content like this
Thank you for putting in the effort! Makes such a difference to the queer people in your life.
I almost cried twice watching this it’s so cute and wholesome when Jamie talks about his wife 😭
Almost?! i already got few tears down to my face, for some reason these wholesomeness just make me want to cry.
I was so afraid of spiders for most of my life that my son from the age of three and every dog we ever owned were expert spider killers. I would screech and an army led by my kid with the dogs following would come to my rescue!
I got over it since lockdown, but didn't we all change?
That is a really cute mental image 😂
I have centipedes living in some of my planters on my balcony. So I see them occasionally when I move things around/repot some plants. I always make sure to put them back into the planters if I accidentally got some of them in the removed soil.
Also got a lot of spiders living on my balcony (mostly orb weavers and jumping spiders) and some house spiders inside of the apartment too. I leave them alone though. They don't bother me and I don't bother them. We are friends.
I'm not the biggest fan of touching spiders (mostly, because I'm afraid to squish them) but I think they - and other crawly and flying insects - are neat to look at.
Last year I saw leafcutter bees build a nest in one of my planters. That was fascinating, since I didn't even know those exist. Nature is really fun!
oh, yeah, same! i don't touch spiders, mostly just not to disturb them, unless i'm trying to save them from a situation. there was one particularly stubborn little guy that had decided to take up residence in my shower who i had to rescue from a watery death not once, but twice. it was fine both times, though, or at least i assume so since it came back for more the first time and vanished from the sink counter the second, lol
Oh, my parents and grandparents(r.i.p. grandma) are very supportive allies, and they're all straight.
I'm still questioning my gender identity, but i know that i'm biromantic and asexual
16:41 I just thought it was a plague joke… yk because fleas started the black plague.
Aaaw beat me to it. Thats what I was thinking too
I'm just old and confused 😅
I was also very confident that it was a plague joke
0:40 EVAN AND KATELYN MENTIONED!!!
Ohmigosh yaaaaas xd
In some parts of the United States there's a common household pest called a house centipede, they are pretty much harmless other than being too large and terrifying, and they get everywhere. I can only assume this is what the people are calling lovers
I think a video called "allies being okay" would be a really cool video
Huh?
@pjaypender1009 kinda like this video, but he would be reacting to positive ally experiences that people have posted about online.
Hope this helped 🙂
@@jaelyngwinner471thanks, it did not.
@@jaelyngwinner471I get what you’re saying, I think. Is it referencing all the toxic “ally” stuff that goes down online so it’s nice to see when allies are actually allying?
@@Lari-lc3zq yes. Thank you
About the first-date thing: Normalize just hanging out with someone that you like, to get to know them! I think a low-pressure hang out is a really cute idea.
But my friend was on a "trick date" once, and she was furious at the end. For her it had been 100% platonic, so when he tried to recategorize it as something more she was understandably very frustrated! Like saying that you're down for Applebee's is not the same as agreeing to date someone, you know??
19:00 😂 New disney princess power unlocked: kissing things to restore them back to how they were
steven universe be like
@@ronan-outoftime omg ur right
2:04 it’s Nathan Pyle, of Strange Planet fame! He draws the Beings! And also loves his wife, hooray
6:35 i think he mean it as a joke that he is this big tattooed guy, who looks like the most hateful person and he's in need lovenig and super accepting human being. Cuz when those "alfa" broes see this dude they might change their mind
I love that one of Nathan Pyle's comics was in this episode!! He's a gem, so wholesome. Check out Strange Planet if you haven't already!
I love those comics, so cute.
Funniest bit is that Evan and Katelyn from 1:00 ARE a DIY channel AND it's a DIY thing.
I think it's from their 'I Melted Every Yankee Candle Together Into A Giant Candle' collab with Safiya Ngyaad?
Anyway, they're super cute and wholesome and make lots of things for their cute cat
An update on my transition! My doctor and I have agreed to start with endometrial ablation and a progesterone only IUD in order to hopefully completely stop my time of the month. When the "shelf life" of the ablation expires, we'll then talk about a possible hysterectomy if I'm still wanting to get one.
You go boy!
Good luck which ever path you choose for your transition to work
Hope all your friends and family and doctors are understanding and sympathetic and give you the support you need
“She is objectively warmer than the surrounding environment” 1:14😂
Beef for boyfriend
Goof for girlfriend
Peep for partner
My 5th grade teacher one told the class about the time when him and his very pregnant wife were out shopping, when suddenly he twirled her around, got on one knee and started proposing to her. Even though they were already married. It was around a bunch of people too so they all started chiming in. It was actually quite sweet.
12:10 Anyone struggling with their dishes breaking, chipping, etc. should look into the brand called Corelle. They're a little pricey, but well worth it. My mother has had the same set since I was a tiny child and as far as I know, only one has chipped ever so slightly. If you drop them and they break, there's a lifetime warranty on them for a free replacement. And they come in all sorts of colors and prints and styles, so you can find something that matches your decor or appeals to your taste. Not getting paid for this, but so glad that I sprung for some Corelle ware right after buying my own place that I figured I'd share.
My parents have had the same dishes for 30 years and the only way you can tell are the skid marks from forks, lol. Not sure of the brand but my point is they were bought when my parents were still dating and living in a tiny apartment.
If they're from before 2005 it's possible they contain lead.
Ahaha I was coming here to mention Corelle too. I bought my cheap old set of WELL used corelle for my first apartment almost 20 years ago. I've only broken one. The fancy set we got for our weding shower like, 13 years ago is still PERFECT. Nothing damaged even slightly. And they're not expensive! My parent's set that are like, 40 years old+, are still in great shape. Missing a few from breaking, but not that many.
My husband is more scared of the little poisonous spiders, I hate the huge ones (we’re both scared of both though) and we used to have an agreement that he did the big ones and I did the dangerous ones and now his mobility isn’t very good so I’ve had to get the big scary ones now. I will scream the whole time, but I’ll get there eventually 😅🦸🏻♀️
I love going grocery shopping with my friends, I'd love going shopping with my love too
0:45 Evan and Katelyn are awesome! I think your and their channel have similar safe and cozy vibes!
Centipedes. I'm in the US & there are millipedes that like to live in musty old houses. They are terrifying, fast, & do no harm to humans.
Nathan W. Pyle's comics ("I stole this smile from my wife") are all delightful, whether you're looking at his series, Strange Planet, or his many, many one offs. Seems to be just a wonderful human being all around.
0:48 exactly! I don't quite believe in ghosts, but I *DO* believe in "let's not fuck around and find out"
The old guy making the heart with his arms made me squeal and squeal with happiness. I just love that guy.
The comic at 15:08 the boy is not actually being supportive and is actually teasing/bullying her. But it also has 2 additional panels. One in high school where he teases her about her hormone supplements then one at a bar where all he can think about is how ‘nice’ she looks.
There is also an alternative dialogue to that last panel where she thanks him for being supportive all the years they’ve known each other. Giving it a more wholesome vibe. I also think there’s a fan made 5th panel where they get married but couldn’t find it again.
These panels are from the edited version with the positive dialogue at the end, because the girl is smiling instead of being annoyed.
*I love it when we find okay straights!
*About ageing... I'm 52. Many of my friends, I've had since college, over 30 years ago. We're all grayer, fluffier, wrinklier, and/or creakier than we were. It is weird sometimes, but it's kinda cool, too. I don't currently have a partner to share the process with, but it's not bad.
*You, reading this. Yes, you. You are valid and loved. Pass it on.
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I really needed a wholesome video today, thanks for this
I hope your day gets better :3
Usually the people saying 'Your love is wrong' have never experienced love. I feel more pity for them than any hatred. They grow up in an abusive system so it is all they know.
You taught me a new word today because I have never heard of crockery
as the night owl with a morning bird spouse, it's difficult sometimes. However, we distract each other too much to get things done when we're both awake so having the morning/evening hours to ourselves means we can actually focus for a bit hahah
@mrwhosetheboss's engagement and wedding reception speech videos are. The sweetest purest things. Watching them made me feel happy and that the straights are mostly actually okay. He loves his wife so so much and she clearly adores him, it just was a delight to watch.
I've lived in a house for 7.5 years with one set of crockery. Bought some set aimed at students from IKEA for £20. Broke 1 bowl but at that time you could buy replacements. The rest however are fine. Most of my mugs were free gifts with purchase at a doughnut shop. One is chipped but that's it.
14:54 Ooh, so nice to hear that you also just take spiders out instead of killing them 😊
Only seeing 2 centipedes in your life must be nice. Here in Ontario, Canada it feels like I see one in my bedroom like once every couple months at least, and I’m sure in other places it’s much more common than that. Normally I try to save and move bugs outside but I can’t bring myself to do that with them.
If I ever get married all I want is a friend, I honestly feel for those who see marriage as a necessary pain for life.
Me and my bf are bffs but not married yet
Probably will get married because it makes things like immigration easier but I've never liked marriage
All the best relationships are built off the foundation of a really good friendship I think
It's nice my generation and the one after mine are totally like 'Fuck yeah I love my wife/husband!' instead of previous gens going 'Ugh,my husband/wife suck...'
Thankfully my husband is a night owl like me, I work nights and he’s a stay at home dad. Our kids are also night owls (for now) and it’s so great!
Our routine is I come to bed around 9am, he gets up at 10, and he puts fresh socks on me every morning 😘
1:40 I believe that’s from Nathan Pyle who does the Strange Planet alien comic series, I know I’ve seen this comic before and the profile pic and little bit of username we see line up. The strange planet comics are really good!
I will note that they are Christian if that’s something people do not want to interact even indirectly with but have spoken publicly about how they keep their personal beliefs private and separate. In the years I’ve been following his work I’ve never personally seen an overt Christian influence in it but I know that can make people uncomfortable so I wanted to mention it.
My boyfriend is a night owl, and I’m a morning “worm.” Honestly, we make it work. He still has to get up early for work (around the same times as me), so I use my morning positivity to try and make waking up easier. We say goodnight to each other at 8pm or so and he heads down to game while I get sleepy on the couch. It’s a toss up if he wakes me up to go join him in bed at 10:30pm or so, but him starting his alone/guy time earlier means he can still get 6+ hours of sleep and not miss out. And I still get my 8+ hours. We just fill the 4 hours before bedtime with solid together time.
Every year older I get. Comes with a little more respect, calm, contentment, satisfaction and wisdom. Things that as a younger person I did not get nearly enough of. As an adult I curate my life to allow for peace and improvement. And I reject disruption of that. The older I get the better I am at controlling what I give and how I react to what I get. My best today is better than my best years ago. And after 15 years of marriage, 19 years together, getting one child to adulthood and making two more, my husband is still my favorite person most days. Don't stress about getting older. Share the journey. Enjoy the path. Appreciate the results. Older is the best thing that ever happened to me, and it just keeps happening.
I think your hair looks great Jammie. In fact when I met my bf 17 years ago he had a more pronounced reseeding hairline then you and it was one of the thing that attracted me to him. And now he is totally bald by choice, because the hair thinned and the bald spot(aka the kissing spot) got to big, and he is still the sexiest man in the world to me.😍
Thank you for being a spider-friendly (spider-inclusive?) household😊Always choose kindness!❤
Your haircut looks really good - I liked it better after you messed with it around 3:00
And thanks for the uplifting, or dare I say, wholesome video - my blood pressure didn't increase even once.
I think you might mean EMF. That’s supposedly able to detect ghost by electrical interference. (Just watched supernatural)
YES! Evan Katelyn! I love their UA-cam channel!
Yeah, literally extreme DIY-ing haha 😂
lol
Same here!
I solved the chinaware a bit different. Since I had no money, I went to flea markets and thrift stores and bought the bluest plates, mugs, glasses, and so on that I could find (kobold blue is my very favourite colour). And I still do, after thirty years as an adult. This way, is one breaks, no big deal.
Well I have also favourite mugs etc in other colours now, and my cupboards are full. But my kids grew into their independent-phase, so from time to time I need a new thrift bowl or whatever 💙
Recognized the E&K video immediately!! They are the pure definition of straights being ok theyre so cute 😭
That 'alpha male' guy looks so happy too! So cute 🥰
it makes me feel so seen that I'm not the only one who takes the time to put the spiders outside! I'm not afraid of them but I also feel happy that others, like Jamie, take the time to put them outside and don't kill them. 🥰
I think it's so sweet when couples spend all day together and miss each other whenever they're apart, like you know that's a good relationship if they're always together and yet on the few occasions they're not they wish they were.
I’ve read you can get metal marks (the silvery scratches from cutlery etc) out of your crockery using those polishing compund things like pink stuff or nanas secret.
I guess a magic eraser would work as well.
Barkeeper's friend works great for this
When I worked in a fancy café we used dilute Milton (sodium hypochlorite essentially) and let the ceramics sit in it for a minute or so before washing up properly. Kept everything looking shiny!
i love that you catch and release the spiders that get inside! As someone who adores spiders, this warms my heart. obviously, i'm the critter relocator in my home as well. i've had to pick up quite a few snakes from the yard over the years to move them to to woods and countless spiders gotten the gentle hand ride to the outdoors.
Your hair is lovely and you have no reason to be self conscious, plus my boyfriend calls you "the [youtuber] with the beard" when we talk about you, haha.
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As a teenager, I was so afraid of growing old, I would say that I want to die before I get the chance to grow old (didn't help that I also had depression and was suicidal at the time)
Turns out, I just didn't realise I was trans yet but was struggling with the feeling of not being able to imagine my future as all of the options I had in my head at that time involved me being a woman (which I am not and also I am a terrible actor)
6 years into transitioning, 5 years in a happy relationship, witnessing the beginning of the war and fleeing abroad together made me so excited to get all grey and wrinkly with my partner like no romcom ever could
Yes, life is imperfect and messy but I am so grateful I got to experience what I did as now I am moving through life with a completely different mindset
Something about getting through that point of being suicidal and now being excited to grow old changed me forever in a good way
Your hair looks amazing. I love the length and the hairline looks perfectly fine to me
I love hearing about couples who genuinely enjoy spending time together. My spouse and I have been together 8 years, lived together after 2 weeks together, and have been married 6 years and I just can’t get enough time with him. We work together too albeit in different buildings but it allows us to be together on our commute to and from work and we can text the whole shift. I love it so much!