As a woman once you’ve learned to embody your authentic self you become extremely powerful and even intimidating. It’s a shame that many women’s minds get falsely programmed by society instead of tapping into our God-given gifts like intuition, empathy, and magnetism. Many women forget that we don’t need to chase, things come to us naturally.
Totally. We've become so angry that we think being rational will save us. The truth is logic never was above emotion. Even men who avoid emotions are miserable. It's not something that comes naturally with womenhood but its a core part of being *human*. Understanding them and using them without involving any ego is healthy and the highest form.
I also think an important thing I've learned as a young woman is that the world loves young women who always say yes, who never set their boundaries, and who never voice their discomfort. You are not doing anyone a disservice by putting your foot down because if you don't advocate for yourself, NOBODY will look out for you.
@@mtngrl5859But women with strong boundaries aren’t always liked or viewed as “good” and can even be criticized. I think that’s what this comment means. We often push women to be agreeable and cater to others rather than encouraging them to honour their boundaries but i do agree that living that way does provide the best life!
@@Grace-em6gh Frankly being "liked" can be linked to being easily manipulated. Many men are predatory & often issue veiled threats or are "testing" women. When a man chooses a life partner, he appreciates a woman with high boundaries. When he wants to "play the field" or have sex with multiple women, choose the term you prefer, he prefers women who put no moral restrictions on this behavior. When I was growing up, I chose to be chaste until marriage. Compared to many friends, who experienced heart ache with varied relationships, I was able to concentrate on devoting myself to college and personal goals. I did have boyfriends & some did leave me because I didn't have sex with them. However, I did have a number of marriage proposals. There were a number of guys who did appreciate my outlook on life, and I did marry once I graduated from college. When one considers that in the US that around 15% of the population are now Narcissistic, one has to guard against certain personality types. One of the key character traits of a Narcissist is having inappropriate boundaries, the classic love bombing, wanting to move in or have sex right away. These are all warning signs. So, the more time one has to vet someone, the better off they will be.
Do you think anybody actually looked out for you if the condition of their support was you being silent about your needs? Well... I don't think nobody will look out for you. It's just a beginning if you happened to be in the toxic environment and grew enough to respect yourself. You don't do it only to feel good but to show in your life. It draws other kind of people who will have your back as this creates stronger, more sincere and genuine bonds, builds trust. If it doesn't, something's wrong, either you should learn to communicate more kindly, still lack compassion for others as well (although it's rare if you came a long way to find compassion for yourself), or the people around you still aren't mature / emotionally intelligent enough to respect you as a full human being with own perspective, wants, needs, feelings. Healthy relationships are so healing and comforting... Knowing yourself and a healthy amount of assertiveness is the only way to actually start getting the right people around you. You change for the world for you to change. It's irrational to expect change from yourself and staying in the same environment, with the same people who shaped you to be less, who never encouraged you, who surpressed your self-esteem and worst, got some real benefits from it. It's like you finally felt worthy to buy and wear a princess dress but the ball was still in the dumpster.
I am a 22 year old woman and one of the key values I've established for myself is self cultivation. When I was younger I was afraid of forming solid opinions in fear that people would disagree with me and therefore, not like me. I've seen the power and the respect I'm able to illicit in others from being able to communicate my own opinions and ideas. I still believe I have a lot to learn and practice in order to be better, but being aware of it sure helps.
The timing of me finding this video is so insane to me. I, 22 yr old black woman, stopped talking to a guy I just met last week bc he made a joke about my appearance. He asks me to send a picture of myself, unwarranted after I told I took a nap. Didn’t question it but I sent a cute pic of myself, hair up in a cute bun, true, natural and authentic. And he responds with “damn you couldn’t try harder for me?” I knew then this isn’t someone I wanted nor needed to keep talking to. He claims it was a joke, but it wasn’t a joke to me. I think more men should give more beautiful advice like this to young woman like me. I think this is one of the things that can make the world a better place ❤ and bring everyone closer in love on this planet. Edit: I also want to clarify: he asked me for a pic but me just being oblivious, didn’t know what he meant by that. I just sent a selfie of myself when in actuality he wanted a nude. I didn’t realize this after the fact. But all the more reason why didn’t need to talk to him. A bit naive on my end.
Yeah no . They love to call things jokes when they see you don’t accept their condescending comments. Thats one of his methods of gaining power over women but sounds like a man that would make women miserable in a relationship, glad you got away from that!
I'm a 35-year-old single mother from Germany. The image that society has foisted on me is that of a woman of failure. Basically disqualified on the dating market because of having a child (seed from another man). In addition to that, a woman approaching her 40’s (fading beauty, sinking fertility). If I focused on my limitations, depend on the validation of men and let other people define my worth, I would despair. "Mastery" has tremendously strengthened my sense of purpose in life. I know exactly what my life's task is. My strong sense of purpose is so uplifting. Thank you Robert for guiding me through my lowest moments
I feel you! Lots of Courage and strength for your journey! Unfortunately, the innate feeling of worth of being woman/womanhood has been lost. Our mothers and grandmothers didn’t know their worth either and couldn’t pass it on to their daughters.
All us women are failures according to society. Even the ones who have the image of supposed success. Ie marriage, family blah blah...will end up failure... We can NEVER do or be the right thing. Think about it. Even most marriages the wives are doing most of the work and putting on the he really loves me and I'm valued face whilst at best the husband doesn't even REALLY know his own wife. Yes there are some good marriages but they are tge rare exception (I always know when I'm in presence of an exception, I feel so "comfortable ". Hard to explain. 🇦🇺
It’s like listening a father giving loving advice towards her daughter about how they suppose to see themselves and their value as a woman without ignoring the reality that women do get judged by their look. But we are so much more than that. Thank you Robert. I bet one in a million chance women ever have this kind of conversation with their Dad.
What I meant to say is that you need to free yourself from thinking that this person is going to do this for you and that will make you happy. Nobody does anything and even if they do, don't let it create any further emotions in you. So have huge expectations from yourself but literally not a lot from others.
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month. Everyone can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices), network with people, live to be happy!
I'm 50 yo, I have a degree, a career, and still I'm judged by my weight and by not so feminine looks. So, ladies, it will always be a struggle. Just focus on your self worth and love yourself more than anyone that will try to bring you down. 💪
I'm inherently not that traditional feminine either. I'm highly intellectual, logical, and have my own opinions of world and achieving quite more than most people out there. BUT I do dress up and show last s feminine and soft woman because it gets people to leave me alone because my outward appearance doesn't trigger anxiety in them anymore. So we women need to understand how to use superficial things to benefit ourselves so we can keep our depth and authenticity in this world.
@@dream1430 i see where your coming from.... but look at it this way. now, wit this style of thinking, your both talking about exploring fantasies! thats GOT to be good lol ya dont have to nessesarly submit.... to learn about someones internal workings
hearing you affirm that women view life more holistically than men really touched and healed parts of me. I have been shamed by men for seeing things as "too general", or "too gray". I see life in all its shades of gray; nothing is really black and white for me. This can be my strength, not my weakness. It isn't better. Its just different.
So true.... it is especially very difficult to be with partners who only think in binary - right or wrong. Such attributes of seeing white and black with every issue could be extremely deteriorating for women's mental health. I feel that partners like these lack two most important things - empathy and open-mindedness!
As a young woman, who randomly became “beautiful” after puberty, i needed to hear that I have much more value than my looks. The pressure to keep up with an appearance that looks “hot” or”beautiful” is so dehumanizing. Has damaged my self esteem, I don’t even like looking at mirrors sometimes.
Wonderful video! I grew up with 4 other female siblings and dad instilled in us that our brain is our biggest power. I am often told by men that I intimidate them, or that they admire my thinking. I am eternally grateful for the values instilled in me as a child. Thanks, Dad!
Hi robert. As older women, we are judged so severely for our looks and our aging. It takes a very stoic woman to feel confident in who she is, not what we look like, whether we are young or old....
@@rosalitalyn definitely definitely definitely. Stoicism has immensely helped me with such that we women deal with every day. I'm a firm believer in this as a basis foundation in our human behavior, and having a healthy life
im 18 years old and even with this much experience from life(compared to older women in the comments), has been enough for me to figure out that men wont understand the way our minds work. though they will respect it if i defend my thought mechanisms confidently. we live in a male-dominant society and if youre a woman, most of the time your thoughts arent taken seriously, they make jokes about your conclusions and sexualize you instead. these are not all men, they are just less functioning members of society who need to work on themselves and their perception of women. i dont hate men. there are men that i admire. but i no longer take those people's comments into consideration. instead i put them in their place and show what my mind holds. you gotta respect me if you want to be respected.
You know there is not enough content for women when Robert Greene is making us content! But thanks Robert for your perspective. I am a self made millionaire - from poverty and I am overweight too (which society does look down upon). I was able to navigate myself as a woman by investing in my looks (always looked good - hair , nails outfit on a budget) even through I was bigger. I then went to college, became really educated, and paired that with looks. As a woman we have to control our emotions - that is the key and stay away from men who will drag us down and put those efforts in to our career and money earning abilities. We can use our looks to get ahead, it works every time! Just have to be very smart and intelligent and not overly emotional.
I needed to hear this from a man; today I was harassed by a stranger, and hearing a man talk about feminine qualities beyond our physique really encouraged me. We need more men who value us for who we are and not what we look like. Thank you.❤❤
Very true. It's like Mary Wollstonecraft wrote: "Taught from their infancy that beauty is woman's sceptre, the mind shapes itself to the body, and roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn its prison."
I recently heard from a very beautiful woman, former miss universe who is also beautiful on the outside and wise and has got brains. "Better to be a smart woman, cause a smart woman will always find a way to be beautiful." Bingo. That has got to me instantly.
Honestly, this is not mansplaining. Over here, he is really a wise sage whose words, advice and knowledge are so much needed for a young in her early twenties like me. I love his books a lot and no wonder, he is my favourite authour. I just couldn't help but nod heavily to agreement to whatever he said over here.
As a woman I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years. With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I really appreciate this video. I am 28 and always felt incredibly ugly as a woman. One day, not too long ago, I decided to read The Art of Seduction, out of morbid curiosity. I was really surprised to find almost immediately, that Robert Greene specifically said being beautiful was NOT necessary and in fact, being too beautiful could be a hindrance to seduction. I decided to put some of the advice in the book to the test. Of course I changed my appearance somewhat (clothes, hair, makeup), but my face and body didn't change. Well, it was like magic. Men became another species to what I had known. They started showering me with gifts and compliments. They projected all sorts of ideas onto me, thought I was the ideal woman, obsessed over me. I had to stop, eventually. It felt immoral and honestly, I don't like playing a role. But I'm very glad to have had the experience, and it changed how I dealt with men and my view of myself forever. Thank you, Robert Greene :)
What exactly did you practice to make yourself appealing. I am a 29 year old woman and has a very small physique. I am only 5 ft and has a child like face. In my teenage days I thought I am a pretty girl but slowly I understood I did not appear the same way to the opposite sex. No one has ever asked me out and no one has ever taken real interest in me. This made me conclude that appearances plays a major role in making people interested (especially sexually) in you. No matter how friendly you appear, guys would never have that passionate urge to have you in their life.
@@annav2692I think that she has got great face details. I see a lot of people with advice about style. They say that it's main thing, but their genetics just incredible, lol.😅
@@annav2692 Hey Anna, The first thing I would say is don't freak out. The idea that all men find you unattractive is absurd. It IS true that the first and therefore most fundamental criteria for attracting a man will always be looks. A man's desire always starts with physical attraction. Not fair, but that's the reality. What I did may not be right for you, but I would say a few things: 1. The Seduction Types are all different and you need to find the ones that feel most natural to you. I chose the Siren because of its power but it wasn't my type. Most people have a combination of two or three types. 2. If I were you, I'd figure out my Kibbe Type (you're some kind of gamine) - Aly Art on UA-cam has fantastic resources for style, haircuts, makeup etc... for the types. Also, personally, I like being tall, but if I were 5', I'd be even more keen to wear heels. 3. NEVER reveal your insecurities to men. That is unhelpful and an immediate turn off 4. Act as though you are attractive. - I would literally tell myself before ANY social interaction: "Everyone here is going to love me, they're going to find me interesting, attractive, fun and nice." Obviously what I told myself vaired based on who I was meeting (a date vs. a party vs. friends etc.) - Walk, talk and move slowly as if you have all the time in the world - don't let others stressing or rushing MAKE you change. - Walk with your head held high and your back always straight - Smile freely and often - Look people in the eye (not creepy staring, but don't avoid eye contact) 5. Meditate, pray and talk to God, even if you don't believe. It can help you clarify your thoughts, see more clearly, lower stress, understand yourself better and get rid of negative ideas and beliefs. 6. When in doubt, overdress - it will intimidate the low effort, jealous people and it will show others 'I am someone of high worth'. Stupid I know - your worth didn't change, but people care about the packaging more than the content a lot of the time. See yourself as a beautiful gem, hidden under a coat of dust and grime. You just need some TLC, polishing and time and you'll shine. This is not actually that much about looks, it's much more to do with mentality. Hope that helps. I wish you luck
@@ashasha451 I DO NOT. I have a big, masculine jaw, asymmetrical face, small lips and eyes, I'm very tall and naturally wide even when I'm at a low weight (broad shoulders, big hips, broad torso). I have very frizzy hair and deathly pale skin. I'm not a natural beauty AT ALL.
Thank you, Robert. The first thing you point out is exactly what I thought when I got into the journey of becoming an author. One of the first things I declared essential was to delete all my photos on social media and start building exclusively from the value I can provide from my creativity and artwork. Unsurprisingly, engagement rates hit rock bottom. Oh well, once the purge is done, I can focus on what really matters.
Engagement rate went down because the people who followed you, did so for your pretty picture. You will have to persevere in building an audience that wants to see content regarding your art. How will you do this? Relate art with trending events. It might take time but People will follow when they see how your content connects to things they care about and can understand like five year olds.
Being mindful of your physical appearance matters but its not the only thing that matters to a person. Our sense of worth is not limited to looks only. Unfortunately today, social media feeds on the insecurity of young minds all for money and they are unaware of it.
I was so entranced in what Robert was saying here that I didn't even notice I had started crying one minute into the video. It's so liberating to hear that we shouldn't be so obsessed with our looks, but God it's hard when you get told twenty times a day how good/bad you look, your clothes and body and hair and face and skin are always remarked upon, you're picked apart body part by body part, men give you constant attention which you know is fleeting... but we're so much more than that. Thank you, Robert, for understanding. I will keep your words in mind.
Well in order to be more than that you need to have more than average ability at something, goes for both men and woman most of us are average at particular fields and then fill our head with unnecessary thoughts because accept it we don't got some specific talents to work for or be excellent .. that's the thing i see so many woman who don't look like movie stars , models , or cute girl next door but they are so talented that it doesn't bother them.
One of the best thing I’ve done to myself in my life was approaching a mirror when I was 12-13 years old and telling myself “You’re not beautiful, but you’re smart. Get even smarter.” That was hard but I’m so happy I spent years learning and honing my knowledge and expertise than on chasing the beauty standards
@@rohenry9962 to be in shape you just need to have dedication and discipline to work out and pay attention you your diet. But I have really bad skin which I can’t do anything about, my face is not symmetrical, I have a pretty big nose , my hair isn’t thick etc So naturally Im not a pretty girl. If I look ok in my thirties that’s only because I know how to take care of myself, but not because I was born pretty
This is the first time I ever heard someone say that women have a more holistic approach to problem solving, I have thought about it myself, because in nowadays "men's world" people never approach it like that, which is so unfortunate... But it is such an interesting and necessary topic!! Especially now that women are so lost between what it means to be a woman in this predominantly masculine structured society. Please do write a book about this topic Robert! You will be doing the world and all women a massive favour 🙏✨
As a woman in my 20s, I have learned pretty privileges also comes with pretty burdens. Its important to filter your inner circle and surround yourself with capable driven peers, otherwise unjustified accommodations and societal conditioning may shrink you. I'm learning and more aware of my environment, to avoid intellectual atrophy I am intentionally shifting my perspective into the "meritocracy" policy rather than relying on the talent or potential.
Robert and his work/interviews have helped me through a very hard time in my life. I’ve been dealing w/ some heavy depression for the last 2 years & it’s taken me away from what I love the most - singing and writing music. I know you come from a man’s perspective, but know that it resonates completely. You’ve given me so much to look forward to & have helped me gain confidence when I had none. Thank you for sharing your wisdom to us all & there is no need for you to apologize while speaking the truth. I can’t wait to read more of your work! Next up is Mastery. Just finished your interview w/ Huberman & it was one of your BEST ❤
Only God knows how long I waited for this video❤. When the advice for men came out I was really looking forward to hearing one for women too because I knew it would be nothing short of golden nuggets. Thank you Robert❤😊😊😊❤
No seriously! There are NO videos for girls anywhere except from femininsts propaganda. Jordan Peterson? He talks to young men only. The only female-related thing he gave was that women were lied to about a career.
I wondered what you and Ryan Holiday thought about this subject. It’s taken me 60+ years to embrace my feminine sexuality and power rather than “power through” in my masculine side. It’s been liberating.
@eliwilliamson7849 there is no such thing as "masculine" or "feminine" side or characteristics. These are all human attributes and women would'nt have so many problems if y'all stopped being so stupid with that black and white thinking
Both the roles of men and women are equally important...and I'm greatful that your encouraging us women to take up our role unapologetically and be in our authenticity...thank you so much❤
Great author of the modern times. I don't know why he kept apologizing for MANSPLAINING while all he was doing was giving a brotherly-friendly advice. At least this woman knows the difference.
This is so true . As female we are subjected to extra pressure to prove ourselves so if we won’t stand up for ourselves and be firm in what we believe it becomes so much easy for others to make us feel bad about ourselves. I am 50 years old . When I started my journey as an eye surgeon some 22 years bck , ophthalmology was mainly dominated by males and we had to prove twice as much that we are efficient surgeons. But my generation stood our ground and now when I see so many lady ophthalmologists doing so great and the trust my patients put on me without blinking their eyes .. the very fact that we believed in ourselves makes me feel so proud of all of us
I want to joke about your patients blinking their eyes but another post says a guy made a joke on her appearance and she ended him, so im not sure i can joke now.... anyways, its a good comment you made.
As a young women, I resonate with this so much! I got rid of social media for a short period of time to focus on myself without comparing myself to unrealistic beauty standards, even though I know I am considered attractive… I am so grateful for you and your books, they’ve helped me grow and gotten me out of a really bad mindset, your words are so powerful so thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
As a woman, I know now that how much I make and how successful I am is what adds value to my self esteem. How I look is still a priority but that can be changed if you have self esteem.
When your identity is dependent on your job or income, that means it’s very fragile. You could lose your job tomorrow, then you’re identity will be shattered. That’s not what he’s talking about here. What is your contribution to society, what is your spiritual purpose? Something no one or nothing can take from you? Anyone can work and make money
I used to feel that way. Loved my job, money I made so I could live and do things I wanted to do, , loved my life. I even made more money than some of my guy friends at the time and my ex. Then I got too sick to work, quit my job, left my boyfriend, so he could have kids with someone else and slowly lost touch with one friend after another. All I can hear still in my head is my ex saying, "What do you bring to the table?" Funny, cause that person had some part in making me that ill in the first place and would use my car cause he didn't have his own. (saved his pennies instead(). It's actually not a great feeling to know your worth and even self esteem is based on what you make, what you do, what you have and people forget about the other attributes you might have on the inside that might actually be worth something. Those material things can only exist as long as you're still healthy and functioning, but that can change, too.
This is so refreshing to hear :) I think all the noise from social platforms, there is so much emphasis on youth, beauty and our reproductive value, it can be very draining listening to as a young woman.
I took a fit The other night & i was i was awake through this!! I then realised Why am i worrying about what others think!! I follow God! So just keep going!!
I am 26F and I feel I've only started to scratch the surface. I am in a corporate job where I made alot of mistakes due to people pleasing. It's only now I'm moving away from it and I'm feeling abut intimidated by the path ahead. I'll probably need to job hop since I gotten good offers elsewhere. It's daunting when you start to fight for your worth. It's like suddenly tmthose who used to be with you turn against you and there's so much resistance. I only console myself by saying that life has a way of working out towards and I can only continue to walk the talk towards the women I want to be and hope it brings me to where I want.
Just listen to the tone of your own words " fighting for your worth", that puts people in opposition to you versus knowing your own worth. It's important to have boundaries & if your objectives are not being valued, move on to a better situation.
This was lovely to hear, I appreciated this message. As someone who has been made to feel that I am only here to entertain, delight and satisfy others because of the way I look, it's helpful to be reminded that I am more than just the skin I wear. I constantly get messages such as, you're so beautiful, let's go out. I don't understand why my beauty equals someone's entitlement to my company and attention? Besides this, people don't take the time to get to know me as a human. They like what they see and therefore, that's all they focus on. I wish people had the ability to be interesting, introspective and mindful of the depth I possess rather than just my appearance.
great advice but really easier said than done. i once didnt pay much attention to my appearance and was faced with far more resistance than today. now, with investing more into my skin/hair clothes, etc, people receive me more positively and i get access to amazing opportunities and things based on my appearance. with that being said, beauty should NOT be the only thing i have to offer, because i know it fades away. but its truly a shallow world we live in
I am so grateful for this video! I just made a decision to quit a job that i really love because my colleagues and the general atmosphere was bringing me down and making me feel worst for who i was becoming. I still love the job and hope to do it in a better enviroment. A decision you made may feel bad at first but always follow your intuition and never let go of trying to be better no matter how hard it may seem ❤
intuition, empathy, and magnetism 00:02 Embrace your natural genius 00:42 Don't let society's focus on looks define your value as a young woman. 01:21 Focus on your inner qualities rather than your appearance 01:59 Women have a different way of thinking than men 02:40 Women tend to have a holistic approach towards problem-solving. 03:18 Embrace Your Natural Genius 03:59 Women face higher standards and judgment on their actions. 04:35 Value your mind and develop it to avoid getting lost in the world of appearances and image example : queen Elizabeth Zora Neale Hurston yoky matsouka - robotic engineer holistic approach book the law of nature
Powerful message. It took for me to get 30 to even consider such a concept. It was almost as if my brain became developed enough to desire more depth and a drive to embrace and develop my true self
Yes I feel like in a way, this is just a confirmation that we are enough as we are. Throughout life we learn and adapt and refine our minds, Robert Greene's books have been a friend throughout those moments.
Robert, your material changed my life. I just want you to know that. I am so incredibly grateful for the good work you have done here. I would not have realized I was getting hazed out of my jobs and why if I didn't read the 48 Laws. Regardless of gender, what you have to say and what you do has been invaluble. Thank you so much for providing the turningpoint I needed to see.
The part about needing to “divorce yourself “ from your appearance is so spot on. I have cultivated a very rich mental life; I frequently experience a complete sense of detachment from my physical appearance, despite being very much into fitness, beauty, etc. Keeping up with those things feels more like checking off items on a grocery list than anything else, and I know my world would not end if those things went away. It’s taken 36 years to get to this point.
I really appreciate that he acknowledges how painful it is to be judged in this way as well as mentioning it is something he really is not able to understand.
There are a lot of life advice "gurus" that lean towards pretty sexist views towards women. It's good to see a message empowering women in this space. Robert Greene never disappoints.
i feel like robert greene has so much more to offer than what he's technically famous for, all people want to hear about is seduction and "how to manipulate" but if you really listen to him and hear his story he has so much wonderful advice, everytime i watch an interview with him he says the most profound things, or gives me a whole new perspective on life. he's the reason i started doing zen meditation. and then the interviewer seems to only ask questions about seduction and shit like that
This is why I've thrown away every other author and only follow Robert Greene's advice. The man gets you out of social facade and gives real and raw advice.
Te quiero mucho Sr. Robert Greene :) y tambien admiro la forma en que procesas todo lo que ocurre a tu alrededor. El mejor consejo de un hombre, gracias!
Mastery is underrated among his books. He interviews a lot of contemporary thinkers and it bridges the gap with some of the older, more classical anecdotes he typically uses. Nowadays people misinterpret Robert Greene a lot. His politics are actually decent, but the podcast bros got ahold of his books and here we are.
SAMEEEE....I think the same that I will teach alot to my daughter that my mom never taught me....She always thought you learn by yourself....which costed me 5 yrs of my life proving myselffff for no reason, diminishing my true self just to be liked and fit in
I love and appreciate how you acknowledged the fact that it may sound different coming from a man. Cause unfortunately a lot of women would dismiss you if you didn’t. I appreciate that thank you
I think caring less is our super power to untangle some of the socialized internal systems that put pressure on women. Don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about being harmful to people when I say care-less I literally mean care LESS > CARRY LESS > not saying stop caring all together. We've been conditioned to make it part of our burden to carry other people's burdens and go the mile with them. We can be empathetic, help when and where it makes sense OR feels appropriate but we shouldn't pull that energy inside of us and hold onto it like it is our own. Discernment is a gift and a tool to help us carry less. Be well!
What a relief hearing Robert saying this. For a long time I thought that this things are just in my head. It is not easy. What we need, is not a book not about us but how to holistically coexist in a men’s world, compliment each other. This what today’s society needs. Not enraged lost men or overreacting feminists.
I became free once I stopped straightening my hair, putting on makeup everyday and wearing uncomfortable clothing. I found my wonderful husband and if a day comes when I don’t have him anymore - I would never change myself physically to attract attention. Makeup is particularly a weird thing, some people will have spent years of their life applying makeup by the time they die and for what… a bit of mascara now and then can be fun. But covering yourself in makeup is a literal waste of your short life and yes I am judging people who do that.
I was born a woman but it's like my soul is a man. Even though I cannot find myself in any category (feminine or masculine), I really appreciate your output and empathy. The world expects from me something I don't understand, it feels as if I'm a completely random crature, a glitch. So I came to the conclusion that I must learn how to play my cards in order to live a good life. I believe your content could be useful to understand how the world thinks/works. Again, thank you being empathetic.
finally women-focused content, thank you so much!!! been waiting for this one :) I understand your focus is men, no need to change that, but it is so nice to see this too
One thing I've surely noticed when having a holistic approach is it's quite easy to become disillusioned with the whole project or the whole meaning and purposes of life. However, this holistic mindset lends itself well to patience, a highly praiseworthy virtue I've noticed most modern women have lost. When it comes to raising children, to cooking, to writing, singing, making art, there's a shift in progression that has been due in most part to hustle culture. When you're always trying to catch up to men, instead of men giving women a leg up, we loose that precious patience. Good things come to those who wait. Right now, I'm making spiced apple fruit leather. Low and slow. And although it's been taking hours to reduce, I know my patience will be well worth it. It's not to command monumental change in a quarter that will lead to a state thriving. True feminine power comes from the patience and the fortitude to provoke longevity of a state. And that is why I call the late Queen Elizabeth II, Elizabeth The Resilient. Patience is as proactive as it is meekness. It is as radical as it is humbling. It is as enlightening as it is attentive. It is a feminine trait I urge everyone to foster. Steer clear of nihlism, and holistic patience will serve you well.
Thanks for the advice Robert, we appreciate you. If you want to write a book for women, that's great. However, you already use female examples in your books, thus I consider it to be books that anyone can gravitate to. Not just men. It is what I love about your books: The mention of powerful men AND women.
I love this video, thank you for highlighting the unique spiritual and psychological strengths women have that most of us aren't even aware of. And how much value it can bring to society if we balance these strengths with those of men.
Thankyou so much Robert. After told by so many people, that beauty is the most important thing about being a women, i was expecting same from you. Thanks for looking at the hearts and souls and remind everyone that there is something more. 😊
As a highly intelligent woman in her 50s, I absolutely agree with your advice for young women. When I was younger, it really annoyed me how men (and other women) were far more focused on my looks than on my intelligence or other skills and abilities. As an older woman, I can honestly say that, for me, the greatest challenge in being a woman is being constantly taken for granted. This occurs in all aspects of my life - jobs, family, personal relationships. As a woman I am expected to give, contribute, care, and work out of the goodness of my heart, and receive no thanks, no gratitude, and no pay. It's as though I'm the cosmic mother who nurtures others and gives to others, but, because I'm cosmic, the reality of my needs as a human being are non-existent. I can be struggling financially, emotionally, physically (any which way) but, as long as I keep giving to other people, that's all that matters to them.
boundaries! do not allow others to take and take and take from you, especially with absolutely no thanks. have boundaries and take care of yourself! much love
He uses a lot of female examples in his books though when it comes to power, human nature, mastery, etc. I consider his books to be for men, women, anyone who is interested in reading what he has to say.
You’re all missing the point. Someone as neutral and highly skilled as Robert, looking and researching into women at both extremes within the private and public sphere could help a lot of women. He comes across as the elder and wise individual that we can all learn and take advice from. Currently there aren’t any books like that. I don’t believe his books deficient in anyway just because they aren’t dedicated to women, but I believe young women are also as lost as young men in this age, and we don’t have the wise, neutral elderly mentor like Robert. A book dedicated to women would be priceless simply because his tone, outlook, style of seeing and telling is rare and unmatched
As a woman once you’ve learned to embody your authentic self you become extremely powerful and even intimidating. It’s a shame that many women’s minds get falsely programmed by society instead of tapping into our God-given gifts like intuition, empathy, and magnetism. Many women forget that we don’t need to chase, things come to us naturally.
Totally. We've become so angry that we think being rational will save us. The truth is logic never was above emotion. Even men who avoid emotions are miserable. It's not something that comes naturally with womenhood but its a core part of being *human*. Understanding them and using them without involving any ego is healthy and the highest form.
Thanks huhu
Exactly, thank you for this👏👏
Agreed Going through this now!
@@vxvnwbalance....
I also think an important thing I've learned as a young woman is that the world loves young women who always say yes, who never set their boundaries, and who never voice their discomfort. You are not doing anyone a disservice by putting your foot down because if you don't advocate for yourself, NOBODY will look out for you.
Actually a world does not love a young woman who says yes, they victimize one who does. Women who have strong boundaries have the best lives.
@@mtngrl5859But women with strong boundaries aren’t always liked or viewed as “good” and can even be criticized. I think that’s what this comment means. We often push women to be agreeable and cater to others rather than encouraging them to honour their boundaries but i do agree that living that way does provide the best life!
@@Grace-em6gh Frankly being "liked" can be linked to being easily manipulated. Many men are predatory & often issue veiled threats or are "testing" women. When a man chooses a life partner, he appreciates a woman with high boundaries. When he wants to "play the field" or have sex with multiple women, choose the term you prefer, he prefers women who put no moral restrictions on this behavior.
When I was growing up, I chose to be chaste until marriage. Compared to many friends, who experienced heart ache with varied relationships, I was able to concentrate on devoting myself to college and personal goals. I did have boyfriends & some did leave me because I didn't have sex with them. However, I did have a number of marriage proposals. There were a number of guys who did appreciate my outlook on life, and I did marry once I graduated from college.
When one considers that in the US that around 15% of the population are now Narcissistic, one has to guard against certain personality types. One of the key character traits of a Narcissist is having inappropriate boundaries, the classic love bombing, wanting to move in or have sex right away. These are all warning signs. So, the more time one has to vet someone, the better off they will be.
That's true, you're very right, I really like your point of view
Do you think anybody actually looked out for you if the condition of their support was you being silent about your needs? Well...
I don't think nobody will look out for you. It's just a beginning if you happened to be in the toxic environment and grew enough to respect yourself. You don't do it only to feel good but to show in your life. It draws other kind of people who will have your back as this creates stronger, more sincere and genuine bonds, builds trust. If it doesn't, something's wrong, either you should learn to communicate more kindly, still lack compassion for others as well (although it's rare if you came a long way to find compassion for yourself), or the people around you still aren't mature / emotionally intelligent enough to respect you as a full human being with own perspective, wants, needs, feelings.
Healthy relationships are so healing and comforting...
Knowing yourself and a healthy amount of assertiveness is the only way to actually start getting the right people around you.
You change for the world for you to change. It's irrational to expect change from yourself and staying in the same environment, with the same people who shaped you to be less, who never encouraged you, who surpressed your self-esteem and worst, got some real benefits from it. It's like you finally felt worthy to buy and wear a princess dress but the ball was still in the dumpster.
I am a 22 year old woman and one of the key values I've established for myself is self cultivation. When I was younger I was afraid of forming solid opinions in fear that people would disagree with me and therefore, not like me. I've seen the power and the respect I'm able to illicit in others from being able to communicate my own opinions and ideas. I still believe I have a lot to learn and practice in order to be better, but being aware of it sure helps.
❤I can relate
Yes! Love this
You did the right thing.
elicit*
who would listen to this cretin? LOOK at him, follow his advice and you will be as ugly outside and inside DO NOT FOLLOW THIS CRETIN
The timing of me finding this video is so insane to me. I, 22 yr old black woman, stopped talking to a guy I just met last week bc he made a joke about my appearance. He asks me to send a picture of myself, unwarranted after I told I took a nap. Didn’t question it but I sent a cute pic of myself, hair up in a cute bun, true, natural and authentic. And he responds with “damn you couldn’t try harder for me?” I knew then this isn’t someone I wanted nor needed to keep talking to. He claims it was a joke, but it wasn’t a joke to me. I think more men should give more beautiful advice like this to young woman like me. I think this is one of the things that can make the world a better place ❤ and bring everyone closer in love on this planet.
Edit: I also want to clarify: he asked me for a pic but me just being oblivious, didn’t know what he meant by that. I just sent a selfie of myself when in actuality he wanted a nude. I didn’t realize this after the fact. But all the more reason why didn’t need to talk to him. A bit naive on my end.
Yeah no . They love to call things jokes when they see you don’t accept their condescending comments. Thats one of his methods of gaining power over women but sounds like a man that would make women miserable in a relationship, glad you got away from that!
Be grateful you dodged a bullet and that he showed you who he was early on.
He wasn't joking, bestie. I'm glad you dropped him
Good. It would have only gotten worse and you are greater than that.
That’s definitely negging, he wanted you to be insecure so you could ask for more attention. Glad you dropped him.
I cried when he said, so much pressure being put on females on the looks, especially with social media. As a young woman, I totally agree with it.
me too I’m glad I wasn’t the only one haha 🥲
I also diddddd
That's right, women often feel disadvantaged and feel sorry for themselves, I sympathize with that
Tbh if that’s u in the pfp. Ur absolutely beautiful. Greeting from Canada :)
oh yes@@Weyesfool
I'm a 35-year-old single mother from Germany. The image that society has foisted on me is that of a woman of failure. Basically disqualified on the dating market because of having a child (seed from another man). In addition to that, a woman approaching her 40’s (fading beauty, sinking fertility). If I focused on my limitations, depend on the validation of men and let other people define my worth, I would despair. "Mastery" has tremendously strengthened my sense of purpose in life. I know exactly what my life's task is. My strong sense of purpose is so uplifting. Thank you Robert for guiding me through my lowest moments
Even germany faces that problem. Being woman sucks.
I feel you!
Lots of Courage and strength for your journey!
Unfortunately, the innate feeling of worth of being woman/womanhood has been lost. Our mothers and grandmothers didn’t know their worth either and couldn’t pass it on to their daughters.
Respect and love from a German sister to you!
All us women are failures according to society. Even the ones who have the image of supposed success. Ie marriage, family blah blah...will end up failure...
We can NEVER do or be the right thing. Think about it. Even most marriages the wives are doing most of the work and putting on the he really loves me and I'm valued face whilst at best the husband doesn't even REALLY know his own wife. Yes there are some good marriages but they are tge rare exception (I always know when I'm in presence of an exception, I feel so "comfortable ". Hard to explain. 🇦🇺
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Someone once said something like, "Beauty is simply a state of harmony between the inner self, the outer self, and the collective at large."
Brilliant remark!
It’s like listening a father giving loving advice towards her daughter about how they suppose to see themselves and their value as a woman without ignoring the reality that women do get judged by their look. But we are so much more than that. Thank you Robert. I bet one in a million chance women ever have this kind of conversation with their Dad.
It's essential to have, as a woman, largely as a human, to have zero expectations from everyone except yourself.
For everyone or from? I am confused
What I meant to say is that you need to free yourself from thinking that this person is going to do this for you and that will make you happy. Nobody does anything and even if they do, don't let it create any further emotions in you.
So have huge expectations from yourself but literally not a lot from others.
💯💯💯 What I’ve learned too. Other people are never to be relied on. Only do things for YOURSELF. ❤
Very much this! Yes!
Took me 33 years to get it!
This is surprisingly wholesome and wise. It is dangerous territory when men talk about women issues, but this felt warm and wholesome.
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month. Everyone can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
What did you do for work?
Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices), network with people, live to be happy!
Yess
Frugal living, saving, investing
The psychology of money is a good book 📚
I'm 50 yo, I have a degree, a career, and still I'm judged by my weight and by not so feminine looks. So, ladies, it will always be a struggle. Just focus on your self worth and love yourself more than anyone that will try to bring you down. 💪
I'm inherently not that traditional feminine either. I'm highly intellectual, logical, and have my own opinions of world and achieving quite more than most people out there.
BUT
I do dress up and show last s feminine and soft woman because it gets people to leave me alone because my outward appearance doesn't trigger anxiety in them anymore.
So we women need to understand how to use superficial things to benefit ourselves so we can keep our depth and authenticity in this world.
But really doesn't care about a woman's degree or career.
There’s nothing more greater than being in a women’s world, learning how she think and who she is as a person and willing to explore her fantasies.
Yes 🥰👏🏼👩❤️👨
Sounds submissive
Have you got bondage and domination fantasies as well?
@@dream1430 I think you're catching on ❤
@@dream1430 i see where your coming from.... but look at it this way. now, wit this style of thinking, your both talking about exploring fantasies! thats GOT to be good lol ya dont have to nessesarly submit.... to learn about someones internal workings
hearing you affirm that women view life more holistically than men really touched and healed parts of me. I have been shamed by men for seeing things as "too general", or "too gray". I see life in all its shades of gray; nothing is really black and white for me.
This can be my strength, not my weakness. It isn't better. Its just different.
Indeed sister
So true.... it is especially very difficult to be with partners who only think in binary - right or wrong. Such attributes of seeing white and black with every issue could be extremely deteriorating for women's mental health. I feel that partners like these lack two most important things - empathy and open-mindedness!
Tbh i agree with men here as a woman. Things are black & white. Intact I dislike the men who believe in gray areas
@@nishthagupta1357That is an incredibly dangerous way of thinking. This universe is far too complex to put things in absolute categories.
@@nishthagupta1357 I think its perfectly okay to think in this way. it is simply a different way of thinking. just dont force it on others.
As a young woman, who randomly became “beautiful” after puberty, i needed to hear that I have much more value than my looks. The pressure to keep up with an appearance that looks “hot” or”beautiful” is so dehumanizing. Has damaged my self esteem, I don’t even like looking at mirrors sometimes.
Yes. I relate. But now I think my values, education and morality makes me beautiful, not jus my appearance or outfits
Humans can never be happy.
Wonderful video! I grew up with 4 other female siblings and dad instilled in us that our brain is our biggest power. I am often told by men that I intimidate them, or that they admire my thinking. I am eternally grateful for the values instilled in me as a child. Thanks, Dad!
Hail to the dad 🙏
Hi robert. As older women, we are judged so severely for our looks and our aging. It takes a very stoic woman to feel confident in who she is, not what we look like, whether we are young or old....
Exactly! That is what a lot of women fear tbh
Stop caring what other think
Old or young we all judged by OTHER WOMEN
Would you say that learning more about stoicism has helped you with this then?
@@rosalitalyn definitely definitely definitely. Stoicism has immensely helped me with such that we women deal with every day.
I'm a firm believer in this as a basis foundation in our human behavior, and having a healthy life
im 18 years old and even with this much experience from life(compared to older women in the comments), has been enough for me to figure out that men wont understand the way our minds work. though they will respect it if i defend my thought mechanisms confidently. we live in a male-dominant society and if youre a woman, most of the time your thoughts arent taken seriously, they make jokes about your conclusions and sexualize you instead. these are not all men, they are just less functioning members of society who need to work on themselves and their perception of women. i dont hate men. there are men that i admire. but i no longer take those people's comments into consideration. instead i put them in their place and show what my mind holds. you gotta respect me if you want to be respected.
You know there is not enough content for women when Robert Greene is making us content! But thanks Robert for your perspective. I am a self made millionaire - from poverty and I am overweight too (which society does look down upon). I was able to navigate myself as a woman by investing in my looks (always looked good - hair , nails outfit on a budget) even through I was bigger. I then went to college, became really educated, and paired that with looks. As a woman we have to control our emotions - that is the key and stay away from men who will drag us down and put those efforts in to our career and money earning abilities. We can use our looks to get ahead, it works every time! Just have to be very smart and intelligent and not overly emotional.
Totally agree and I admire you!!! It's my goal to be financially independent so your story is really inspiring!
Yes
All the female influencers are taking the herd down the invisible realm of the devil
What are you talking about about there is plenty of content for women? Men get crushed in that area.
Totally agree about emotional self control otherwise men will take advantage.
I needed to hear this from a man; today I was harassed by a stranger, and hearing a man talk about feminine qualities beyond our physique really encouraged me. We need more men who value us for who we are and not what we look like. Thank you.❤❤
Very true. It's like Mary Wollstonecraft wrote: "Taught from their infancy that beauty is woman's sceptre, the mind shapes itself to the body, and roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn its prison."
I recently heard from a very beautiful woman, former miss universe who is also beautiful on the outside and wise and has got brains. "Better to be a smart woman, cause a smart woman will always find a way to be beautiful." Bingo. That has got to me instantly.
Honestly, this is not mansplaining. Over here, he is really a wise sage whose words, advice and knowledge are so much needed for a young in her early twenties like me. I love his books a lot and no wonder, he is my favourite authour. I just couldn't help but nod heavily to agreement to whatever he said over here.
As a woman I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years.
With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean.
Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.
He’s on insta?
I really appreciate this video. I am 28 and always felt incredibly ugly as a woman. One day, not too long ago, I decided to read The Art of Seduction, out of morbid curiosity. I was really surprised to find almost immediately, that Robert Greene specifically said being beautiful was NOT necessary and in fact, being too beautiful could be a hindrance to seduction.
I decided to put some of the advice in the book to the test. Of course I changed my appearance somewhat (clothes, hair, makeup), but my face and body didn't change.
Well, it was like magic. Men became another species to what I had known. They started showering me with gifts and compliments. They projected all sorts of ideas onto me, thought I was the ideal woman, obsessed over me. I had to stop, eventually. It felt immoral and honestly, I don't like playing a role. But I'm very glad to have had the experience, and it changed how I dealt with men and my view of myself forever.
Thank you, Robert Greene :)
What exactly did you practice to make yourself appealing. I am a 29 year old woman and has a very small physique. I am only 5 ft and has a child like face. In my teenage days I thought I am a pretty girl but slowly I understood I did not appear the same way to the opposite sex. No one has ever asked me out and no one has ever taken real interest in me. This made me conclude that appearances plays a major role in making people interested (especially sexually) in you. No matter how friendly you appear, guys would never have that passionate urge to have you in their life.
@@annav2692I think that she has got great face details. I see a lot of people with advice about style. They say that it's main thing, but their genetics just incredible, lol.😅
@@annav2692 Hey Anna,
The first thing I would say is don't freak out. The idea that all men find you unattractive is absurd. It IS true that the first and therefore most fundamental criteria for attracting a man will always be looks. A man's desire always starts with physical attraction. Not fair, but that's the reality.
What I did may not be right for you, but I would say a few things:
1. The Seduction Types are all different and you need to find the ones that feel most natural to you. I chose the Siren because of its power but it wasn't my type. Most people have a combination of two or three types.
2. If I were you, I'd figure out my Kibbe Type (you're some kind of gamine) - Aly Art on UA-cam has fantastic resources for style, haircuts, makeup etc... for the types. Also, personally, I like being tall, but if I were 5', I'd be even more keen to wear heels.
3. NEVER reveal your insecurities to men. That is unhelpful and an immediate turn off
4. Act as though you are attractive.
- I would literally tell myself before ANY social interaction: "Everyone here is going to love me, they're going to find me interesting, attractive, fun and nice." Obviously what I told myself vaired based on who I was meeting (a date vs. a party vs. friends etc.)
- Walk, talk and move slowly as if you have all the time in the world - don't let others stressing or rushing MAKE you change.
- Walk with your head held high and your back always straight
- Smile freely and often
- Look people in the eye (not creepy staring, but don't avoid eye contact)
5. Meditate, pray and talk to God, even if you don't believe. It can help you clarify your thoughts, see more clearly, lower stress, understand yourself better and get rid of negative ideas and beliefs.
6. When in doubt, overdress - it will intimidate the low effort, jealous people and it will show others 'I am someone of high worth'. Stupid I know - your worth didn't change, but people care about the packaging more than the content a lot of the time.
See yourself as a beautiful gem, hidden under a coat of dust and grime. You just need some TLC, polishing and time and you'll shine. This is not actually that much about looks, it's much more to do with mentality.
Hope that helps. I wish you luck
@Naughton1234 no but he should pay me ;)
@@ashasha451 I DO NOT. I have a big, masculine jaw, asymmetrical face, small lips and eyes, I'm very tall and naturally wide even when I'm at a low weight (broad shoulders, big hips, broad torso). I have very frizzy hair and deathly pale skin. I'm not a natural beauty AT ALL.
Thank you, Robert. The first thing you point out is exactly what I thought when I got into the journey of becoming an author. One of the first things I declared essential was to delete all my photos on social media and start building exclusively from the value I can provide from my creativity and artwork. Unsurprisingly, engagement rates hit rock bottom. Oh well, once the purge is done, I can focus on what really matters.
Engagement rate went down because the people who followed you, did so for your pretty picture. You will have to persevere in building an audience that wants to see content regarding your art. How will you do this? Relate art with trending events. It might take time but People will follow when they see how your content connects to things they care about and can understand like five year olds.
Being mindful of your physical appearance matters but its not the only thing that matters to a person. Our sense of worth is not limited to looks only. Unfortunately today, social media feeds on the insecurity of young minds all for money and they are unaware of it.
thank you. we see many "red-pilled" authors and public figures giving advice to young men alone. I appreciate it
I was so entranced in what Robert was saying here that I didn't even notice I had started crying one minute into the video. It's so liberating to hear that we shouldn't be so obsessed with our looks, but God it's hard when you get told twenty times a day how good/bad you look, your clothes and body and hair and face and skin are always remarked upon, you're picked apart body part by body part, men give you constant attention which you know is fleeting... but we're so much more than that. Thank you, Robert, for understanding. I will keep your words in mind.
Well in order to be more than that you need to have more than average ability at something, goes for both men and woman most of us are average at particular fields and then fill our head with unnecessary thoughts because accept it we don't got some specific talents to work for or be excellent .. that's the thing i see so many woman who don't look like movie stars , models , or cute girl next door but they are so talented that it doesn't bother them.
i’m going to cry when he’s gone. literally treasure this man, his genius and his decision on share his knowledge w the world. ♥️
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Thank you, as a woman, forever grateful to learn from you. It’s a privilege.
I like that there are so many positive comments from women because I so often hear and read that only women can advise women.
I am from Uganda reading your book "Mastery". I can't put it down. I think you are the wisest man alive! Thank you for writing this book.
One of the best thing I’ve done to myself in my life was approaching a mirror when I was 12-13 years old and telling myself “You’re not beautiful, but you’re smart. Get even smarter.” That was hard but I’m so happy I spent years learning and honing my knowledge and expertise than on chasing the beauty standards
Just checked out your channel, you are an attractive, in shape woman. So what are you talking about?
@@rohenry9962 to be in shape you just need to have dedication and discipline to work out and pay attention you your diet. But I have really bad skin which I can’t do anything about, my face is not symmetrical, I have a pretty big nose , my hair isn’t thick etc
So naturally Im not a pretty girl. If I look ok in my thirties that’s only because I know how to take care of myself, but not because I was born pretty
This is the first time I ever heard someone say that women have a more holistic approach to problem solving, I have thought about it myself, because in nowadays "men's world" people never approach it like that, which is so unfortunate... But it is such an interesting and necessary topic!! Especially now that women are so lost between what it means to be a woman in this predominantly masculine structured society. Please do write a book about this topic Robert! You will be doing the world and all women a massive favour 🙏✨
As a woman in my 20s, I have learned pretty privileges also comes with pretty burdens. Its important to filter your inner circle and surround yourself with capable driven peers, otherwise unjustified accommodations and societal conditioning may shrink you. I'm learning and more aware of my environment, to avoid intellectual atrophy I am intentionally shifting my perspective into the "meritocracy" policy rather than relying on the talent or potential.
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the book womens magic truths on borlest
Robert and his work/interviews have helped me through a very hard time in my life. I’ve been dealing w/ some heavy depression for the last 2 years & it’s taken me away from what I love the most - singing and writing music. I know you come from a man’s perspective, but know that it resonates completely. You’ve given me so much to look forward to & have helped me gain confidence when I had none. Thank you for sharing your wisdom to us all & there is no need for you to apologize while speaking the truth. I can’t wait to read more of your work! Next up is Mastery. Just finished your interview w/ Huberman & it was one of your BEST ❤
Only God knows how long I waited for this video❤. When the advice for men came out I was really looking forward to hearing one for women too because I knew it would be nothing short of golden nuggets. Thank you Robert❤😊😊😊❤
Spoke my mind
No seriously! There are NO videos for girls anywhere except from femininsts propaganda. Jordan Peterson? He talks to young men only. The only female-related thing he gave was that women were lied to about a career.
I wondered what you and Ryan Holiday thought about this subject. It’s taken me 60+ years to embrace my feminine sexuality and power rather than “power through” in my masculine side. It’s been liberating.
@eliwilliamson7849 there is no such thing as "masculine" or "feminine" side or characteristics. These are all human attributes and women would'nt have so many problems if y'all stopped being so stupid with that black and white thinking
Both the roles of men and women are equally important...and I'm greatful that your encouraging us women to take up our role unapologetically and be in our authenticity...thank you so much❤
Great author of the modern times. I don't know why he kept apologizing for MANSPLAINING while all he was doing was giving a brotherly-friendly advice. At least this woman knows the difference.
beacuse feminists call men with derogatory names. Hence, sensible men add disclaimer to avoid their wrath.
@@sm24572*call awful men derogatory names
@@sm24572 because mansplaining exists and he knows it but apparently you are a sexist and you are afraid of our justified wrath.
@@sm24572 What do you think a feminist is?
What's cool about Robert here (and unlike some other notable men who talk about gender and women, etc.) is his humilty.
This is so true . As female we are subjected to extra pressure to prove ourselves so if we won’t stand up for ourselves and be firm in what we believe it becomes so much easy for others to make us feel bad about ourselves. I am 50 years old . When I started my journey as an eye surgeon some 22 years bck , ophthalmology was mainly dominated by males and we had to prove twice as much that we are efficient surgeons. But my generation stood our ground and now when I see so many lady ophthalmologists doing so great and the trust my patients put on me without blinking their eyes .. the very fact that we believed in ourselves makes me feel so proud of all of us
I want to joke about your patients blinking their eyes but another post says a guy made a joke on her appearance and she ended him, so im not sure i can joke now.... anyways, its a good comment you made.
Thank you
As a young women, I resonate with this so much! I got rid of social media for a short period of time to focus on myself without comparing myself to unrealistic beauty standards, even though I know I am considered attractive…
I am so grateful for you and your books, they’ve helped me grow and gotten me out of a really bad mindset, your words are so powerful so thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
I read two degrees, but until I enhanced my looks, I got nowhere. So enhance both your mind and your appearance to achieve goals.
As a woman, I know now that how much I make and how successful I am is what adds value to my self esteem. How I look is still a priority but that can be changed if you have self esteem.
we shouldn’t base our self esteem on external factors. It’s very shallow and fragile
When your identity is dependent on your job or income, that means it’s very fragile. You could lose your job tomorrow, then you’re identity will be shattered. That’s not what he’s talking about here. What is your contribution to society, what is your spiritual purpose? Something no one or nothing can take from you? Anyone can work and make money
Your self esteem should never be derived from how much you make, otherwise its not if but when everything crumbles down
@@CCMay_22 she does contribute to society through her income
I used to feel that way. Loved my job, money I made so I could live and do things I wanted to do, , loved my life. I even made more money than some of my guy friends at the time and my ex. Then I got too sick to work, quit my job, left my boyfriend, so he could have kids with someone else and slowly lost touch with one friend after another. All I can hear still in my head is my ex saying, "What do you bring to the table?" Funny, cause that person had some part in making me that ill in the first place and would use my car cause he didn't have his own. (saved his pennies instead(). It's actually not a great feeling to know your worth and even self esteem is based on what you make, what you do, what you have and people forget about the other attributes you might have on the inside that might actually be worth something. Those material things can only exist as long as you're still healthy and functioning, but that can change, too.
This is so refreshing to hear :) I think all the noise from social platforms, there is so much emphasis on youth, beauty and our reproductive value, it can be very draining listening to as a young woman.
I took a fit
The other night & i was i was awake through this!!
I then realised
Why am i worrying about what others think!!
I follow God!
So just keep going!!
I am 26F and I feel I've only started to scratch the surface. I am in a corporate job where I made alot of mistakes due to people pleasing. It's only now I'm moving away from it and I'm feeling abut intimidated by the path ahead. I'll probably need to job hop since I gotten good offers elsewhere. It's daunting when you start to fight for your worth. It's like suddenly tmthose who used to be with you turn against you and there's so much resistance. I only console myself by saying that life has a way of working out towards and I can only continue to walk the talk towards the women I want to be and hope it brings me to where I want.
Good luck Mam!
Just listen to the tone of your own words " fighting for your worth", that puts people in opposition to you versus knowing your own worth. It's important to have boundaries & if your objectives are not being valued, move on to a better situation.
Robert I could listen to you all day. The wisdom is REAL.
This was lovely to hear, I appreciated this message.
As someone who has been made to feel that I am only here to entertain, delight and satisfy others because of the way I look, it's helpful to be reminded that I am more than just the skin I wear.
I constantly get messages such as, you're so beautiful, let's go out. I don't understand why my beauty equals someone's entitlement to my company and attention?
Besides this, people don't take the time to get to know me as a human. They like what they see and therefore, that's all they focus on. I wish people had the ability to be interesting, introspective and mindful of the depth I possess rather than just my appearance.
Because we need to reproduce, your appearance is for attracting mates for that purpose.
As a woman who is about to turn to her 35th year on this earth, I can say that this was incredibly inspiring. Thanks so much for sharing your opinion.
great advice but really easier said than done. i once didnt pay much attention to my appearance and was faced with far more resistance than today. now, with investing more into my skin/hair clothes, etc, people receive me more positively and i get access to amazing opportunities and things based on my appearance. with that being said, beauty should NOT be the only thing i have to offer, because i know it fades away. but its truly a shallow world we live in
Yes, a shallow world 😢
I am so grateful for this video! I just made a decision to quit a job that i really love because my colleagues and the general atmosphere was bringing me down and making me feel worst for who i was becoming. I still love the job and hope to do it in a better enviroment. A decision you made may feel bad at first but always follow your intuition and never let go of trying to be better no matter how hard it may seem ❤
intuition, empathy, and magnetism
00:02 Embrace your natural genius
00:42 Don't let society's focus on looks define your value as a young woman.
01:21 Focus on your inner qualities rather than your appearance
01:59 Women have a different way of thinking than men
02:40 Women tend to have a holistic approach towards problem-solving.
03:18 Embrace Your Natural Genius
03:59 Women face higher standards and judgment on their actions.
04:35 Value your mind and develop it to avoid getting lost in the world of appearances and image
example : queen Elizabeth
Zora Neale Hurston
yoky matsouka - robotic engineer holistic approach
book the law of nature
I have no words to express my gratitude for this 5 minute video. Thank you, so much.
Powerful message. It took for me to get 30 to even consider such a concept. It was almost as if my brain became developed enough to desire more depth and a drive to embrace and develop my true self
18 year old here and this message was so beautifully said I wish every women can understand this ❤
Yes I feel like in a way, this is just a confirmation that we are enough as we are. Throughout life we learn and adapt and refine our minds, Robert Greene's books have been a friend throughout those moments.
Robert, your material changed my life. I just want you to know that. I am so incredibly grateful for the good work you have done here. I would not have realized I was getting hazed out of my jobs and why if I didn't read the 48 Laws. Regardless of gender, what you have to say and what you do has been invaluble. Thank you so much for providing the turningpoint I needed to see.
I’m 24 and went through many hardships this year. This video was great!
He has such a beautiful gentleness about him, that is fatherly, thank you for your wise words Robert. Your contribution to society is immense ❤
Wish this messaging was around when I was in my teens. Just forwarded this to my 4 nieces. ❤
The part about needing to “divorce yourself “ from your appearance is so spot on. I have cultivated a very rich mental life; I frequently experience a complete sense of detachment from my physical appearance, despite being very much into fitness, beauty, etc. Keeping up with those things feels more like checking off items on a grocery list than anything else, and I know my world would not end if those things went away. It’s taken 36 years to get to this point.
As a woman I needed this 😢
I really appreciate that he acknowledges how painful it is to be judged in this way as well as mentioning it is something he really is not able to understand.
There are a lot of life advice "gurus" that lean towards pretty sexist views towards women.
It's good to see a message empowering women in this space.
Robert Greene never disappoints.
This is so so important!!! Robert Greene you’re one of the greatest!!!! Thank you for this!!!
Well said! Not sure if you read comments but we need more content like this for women. ❤
i feel like robert greene has so much more to offer than what he's technically famous for, all people want to hear about is seduction and "how to manipulate" but if you really listen to him and hear his story he has so much wonderful advice, everytime i watch an interview with him he says the most profound things, or gives me a whole new perspective on life. he's the reason i started doing zen meditation. and then the interviewer seems to only ask questions about seduction and shit like that
My favorite author hands down! I learned so much from all of his books! Thank you Mr. Greene we appreciate you ❤👏🏽🎉
This is why I've thrown away every other author and only follow Robert Greene's advice. The man gets you out of social facade and gives real and raw advice.
Te quiero mucho Sr. Robert Greene :) y tambien admiro la forma en que procesas todo lo que ocurre a tu alrededor. El mejor consejo de un hombre, gracias!
Mastery is underrated among his books. He interviews a lot of contemporary thinkers and it bridges the gap with some of the older, more classical anecdotes he typically uses. Nowadays people misinterpret Robert Greene a lot. His politics are actually decent, but the podcast bros got ahold of his books and here we are.
Every time I come across your books or videos I thank God that you exist.
Robert you're so sweet and we are all very grateful for your mind and insight
I burst into tears right in the beginning. I needed to hear this
I wish I could give my mother this advice. I had to learn this on my own, but I agree 100 percent! 👏🏼
SAMEEEE....I think the same that I will teach alot to my daughter that my mom never taught me....She always thought you learn by yourself....which costed me 5 yrs of my life proving myselffff for no reason, diminishing my true self just to be liked and fit in
@@getitdone0010 I’m so sorry. I’m in the same boat and often times I wonder how many things did my mom have to learn on her own?
I love and appreciate how you acknowledged the fact that it may sound different coming from a man. Cause unfortunately a lot of women would dismiss you if you didn’t. I appreciate that thank you
I think caring less is our super power to untangle some of the socialized internal systems that put pressure on women. Don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about being harmful to people when I say care-less I literally mean care LESS > CARRY LESS > not saying stop caring all together. We've been conditioned to make it part of our burden to carry other people's burdens and go the mile with them. We can be empathetic, help when and where it makes sense OR feels appropriate but we shouldn't pull that energy inside of us and hold onto it like it is our own.
Discernment is a gift and a tool to help us carry less.
Be well!
What a relief hearing Robert saying this. For a long time I thought that this things are just in my head. It is not easy. What we need, is not a book not about us but how to holistically coexist in a men’s world, compliment each other. This what today’s society needs. Not enraged lost men or overreacting feminists.
Currently trying to escape the 'hall of mirrors'. Your words have made me feel better at a time where it feels beauty is everything.
Thanks Robert. Am struggling a little today and this is great.
I became free once I stopped straightening my hair, putting on makeup everyday and wearing uncomfortable clothing. I found my wonderful husband and if a day comes when I don’t have him anymore - I would never change myself physically to attract attention. Makeup is particularly a weird thing, some people will have spent years of their life applying makeup by the time they die and for what… a bit of mascara now and then can be fun. But covering yourself in makeup is a literal waste of your short life and yes I am judging people who do that.
Every woman needs to here this and be reminded of it.
I was born a woman but it's like my soul is a man. Even though I cannot find myself in any category (feminine or masculine), I really appreciate your output and empathy.
The world expects from me something I don't understand, it feels as if I'm a completely random crature, a glitch. So I came to the conclusion that I must learn how to play my cards in order to live a good life. I believe your content could be useful to understand how the world thinks/works.
Again, thank you being empathetic.
Same here😂
@@asnathnyabagala9292 How are you coping?
@@Econares by working on myself, being kindly to me and knowing that at any time t the world may challenge me
finally women-focused content, thank you so much!!! been waiting for this one :) I understand your focus is men, no need to change that, but it is so nice to see this too
It is my greatest luck to find your book. Thank you always for the good advice👍🏻
You are so sweet, sir, and you aren't "mansplaining". I find the contents of this video very valuable and I'm grateful for your input.
One thing I've surely noticed when having a holistic approach is it's quite easy to become disillusioned with the whole project or the whole meaning and purposes of life. However, this holistic mindset lends itself well to patience, a highly praiseworthy virtue I've noticed most modern women have lost. When it comes to raising children, to cooking, to writing, singing, making art, there's a shift in progression that has been due in most part to hustle culture. When you're always trying to catch up to men, instead of men giving women a leg up, we loose that precious patience.
Good things come to those who wait.
Right now, I'm making spiced apple fruit leather. Low and slow. And although it's been taking hours to reduce, I know my patience will be well worth it.
It's not to command monumental change in a quarter that will lead to a state thriving. True feminine power comes from the patience and the fortitude to provoke longevity of a state. And that is why I call the late Queen Elizabeth II, Elizabeth The Resilient.
Patience is as proactive as it is meekness. It is as radical as it is humbling. It is as enlightening as it is attentive. It is a feminine trait I urge everyone to foster.
Steer clear of nihlism, and holistic patience will serve you well.
I'm 34, but I'm still young at heart haha. I just started reading your book, The 48 Laws of Power. I'm very excited to finish this book. Thank you!
Thanks for the advice Robert, we appreciate you. If you want to write a book for women, that's great. However, you already use female examples in your books, thus I consider it to be books that anyone can gravitate to. Not just men. It is what I love about your books: The mention of powerful men AND women.
This man is so sweet. Already won my heart
I love this video, thank you for highlighting the unique spiritual and psychological strengths women have that most of us aren't even aware of. And how much value it can bring to society if we balance these strengths with those of men.
I adore this mans perspective of almost everything I have heard him speak on, thank you sir.
Thank you for this video. I’m tired of the pop stereotypes of women and redpill, and very little genuine appreciation of who women really are.
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I like that you speak in a way that is easy for women to digest and kind of caters to our bias in order to get your message across well
Thankyou so much Robert. After told by so many people, that beauty is the most important thing about being a women, i was expecting same from you. Thanks for looking at the hearts and souls and remind everyone that there is something more. 😊
As a highly intelligent woman in her 50s, I absolutely agree with your advice for young women. When I was younger, it really annoyed me how men (and other women) were far more focused on my looks than on my intelligence or other skills and abilities.
As an older woman, I can honestly say that, for me, the greatest challenge in being a woman is being constantly taken for granted. This occurs in all aspects of my life - jobs, family, personal relationships. As a woman I am expected to give, contribute, care, and work out of the goodness of my heart, and receive no thanks, no gratitude, and no pay. It's as though I'm the cosmic mother who nurtures others and gives to others, but, because I'm cosmic, the reality of my needs as a human being are non-existent. I can be struggling financially, emotionally, physically (any which way) but, as long as I keep giving to other people, that's all that matters to them.
boundaries! do not allow others to take and take and take from you, especially with absolutely no thanks. have boundaries and take care of yourself! much love
Well done Robert! Loving this! Whilst reading Laws of Human Nature I thought, ‘wished he’d write a book about women’. I think you could smash it ..
Don't women count as human..?
He uses a lot of female examples in his books though when it comes to power, human nature, mastery, etc. I consider his books to be for men, women, anyone who is interested in reading what he has to say.
You’re all missing the point. Someone as neutral and highly skilled as Robert, looking and researching into women at both extremes within the private and public sphere could help a lot of women. He comes across as the elder and wise individual that we can all learn and take advice from. Currently there aren’t any books like that. I don’t believe his books deficient in anyway just because they aren’t dedicated to women, but I believe young women are also as lost as young men in this age, and we don’t have the wise, neutral elderly mentor like Robert. A book dedicated to women would be priceless simply because his tone, outlook, style of seeing and telling is rare and unmatched
@@Thinking0-u9s Not only would a book to dedicated to the powers of women, be helpful to women. But it also help men to understand women more.