His journey from an athlete who wrestled with fear and doubt to someone who embraces failure as part of the learning process is such a cool example of personal growth!
I didn’t realize how much fear of failure can actually hold you back from progress. The way he describes reframing failure really opens up opportunities for growth
He made some really solid points about managing stress by focusing on effort and attitude. Sometimes we overcomplicate things when the solution can be this simple.
The emphasis on building relationships and trust as a coach and doctor is crucial. Relationships are the foundation of so much in life, you really want to make sure you've got good ones
I never realized how much we focus on things _outside_ our control. This talk was a great reminder to bring the focus back to what we can actually change, thank you
the part about the more focused he was on winning the less he enjoyed the process was really good... I wonder how much joy I'm taking out of things by only caring about the result
I really liked the part about focusing on 'effort, attitude, and gratitude.' It's such a simple attitude for approaching life and I think that can be way more helpful than all the over-complicated advice that's out there
From athelete to psychiatrist... Wow, that's a new one! Thoroughly appreciated the parallels he drew between the skills learned in wrestling and those needed in medicine... How unique and comparable! What passion!
I think we all aspire to meet our family's expectations, even when we may not have the skills or talents to do so. We want that approval more than anything else.
Aww I thought it was so sweet that where he ended up actually did align with what his parents wanted for him. There's something so wholesome about that
Simplifying life rather than complicating it... That's something we all need to hear more often. It's easy to get caught up in trying to do everything perfectly.
his insight about how negative thoughts are stronger than positive ones is eye-opening... I like to think mine is pretty balanced but if those negative thoughts are stronger then you really need to have way more positive ones to balance out the impact of your thoughts
I thought the way he acknowledges the challenges of meeting expectations, managing pressure, and prioritizing mental health was particularly well thought out. It's a reminder that we're all human and it's okay to struggle sometimes.
Love how his whole story speaks to being able to find unexpecting and fulfilling paths if you just follow your passion. It so idealistic but it really does happen!
I liked the part about how mental effort plays a larger role than we think. I think something really shifts for both sports and life when you realize that
As someone who struggles with perfectionism, his message about letting go of control and focusing on effort is really helpful. Might be a bit tricky for me to put into practice though!
It's refreshing to hear a professional talk about the mental aspect of effort. I always thought of effort as just physical, but it's so much more. This video is a great reminder of that.
As someone who has faced my own mental health challenges, I love how he normalizes seeking support and prioritizing mental well-being. I don't think it's spoken about enough but maybe if it was there would be less stigma around people who struggle with their mental health
Really interesting! As a former student athlete, Dr. T has helped me in my journey with my mindset about how to look at failure as one step closer to success. So happy he got to share this with everyone !
his point about embracing failure and using it as a learning opportunity is so important. We need to normalize failure as a necessary part of growth and success.
I wish I had heard this talk when I was a student athlete. The pressure to succeed can be so overwhelming, and it's easy to lose sight of what really matters.
His honesty about his own struggles with failure and anxiety is refreshing. It's a good reminder that even successful people face challenges and doubts.
the best and most succinct advice on finding your way in life to happiness and success. thank you for the reminder that failures are not only ok, but necessary in order to achieve your best self.
This makes perfect sense and managing stress by focusing on controllables is such valuable advice. It's our attitude towards stress and failure that can change our success rate.
I've never thought about the psychological power of negative thoughts before.... kinda amazed to hear they can be 4 to 7 times stronger than positive ones.
I've always struggled with the idea of failure, but reframing it as a "First Attempt In Learning" as he suggested makes so much sense. It’s all about how we view our challenges.
This talk is a must-watch for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's uncontrollables. His personal anecdotes make the advice so relatable and actionable.
Aww I love that he and his wife have a nightly gratitude ritual and has to laugh when he said the athlete in him means he want his to be better lol that's a true competitive spirit
I think I missed the moment that connected his love of wrestling, teaching and coaching with applying for med school but so cool that it all lined up like that for him!
F.A.I.L -- First Attempt In Learning -- The acronym is a powerful technique to frame your setbacks in the overall scheme of a successful life. This profound statement resonates with me. I refer back to this Talk to remind myself that we are all learners in this grand experiment.
I think it's really cool that he took the discipline from wrestling and applied it to his medical career. There are all kinds of transferable skills and strengths that we might not know about until we make the swap.
His whole emphasis on maintaining a balanced mindset and finding joy in the journey reminded me to stay grounded and grateful... Yep. needed that today.
Effort. Attitude. Gratitude. Never thought of those 3 words together. Especially the gratitude. Definitely going to be a slogan for my upcoming season with my team. Along with embracing the failures. Every failure is an opportunity to learn. This video summed up the key pieces I like to bring to my team each season, but did it in a much simpler way.
I think it's really cool how we can look back at our lives and pinpoint what each of our experiences has taught us, and I love hearing other people do it too, sounds like this guy got the perfect mix of qualities from each of his endeavours.
Oh how I relate! I felt the pressure to pursue a prestigious career to make my parents proud. But deep down, I've always had a passion for sports and coaching, just like he did. Badminton and Basketball were my everything! Although I'm feeling a touch of envy, it's refreshing to see someone who did it
Can relate to what he says about the more he focused on winning the less enjoyment he got from wrestling. It's tough lesson but yeah, once you're doing something only for the out come and not the joy of doing it, the joy just goes away
Dr. T is the man! I wish I had these tools when I was an athlete myself, but I will certainly be applying them to my everyday life. Thank you for this!
Truly inspirational. A lot of things are made a bigger deal in your mind than they end up actually being in reality. Really shows how strong your mentality can be.
Love this so much, I drew so many parallels to my life being a mom! You have to fall down a few times in order to eventually learn to walk! Will definitely be sharing this with others!!
Fantastic video! As a Manager I use the FAIL acronym often. Always train my team that not to focus on what did not go right. Focus on what went right and find things to change to work on next time for the areas that didn’t go as planned. Always need to keep your mind thinking positive.
Fantastic! As a late arrival to competitive sports, I can deeply appreciate this important message. Tennis is the love of my life (well, yeah, my husband and kids too). Truthfully, it has been the first window into my psyche, or at least the clearest. The immediate feedback acquired from thoughts, and feelings to outcomes is a thing of beauty. I had a history of snubbing sports as primal, egocentric and wasteful. Now, I see the immense value and all of the important psychological lessons that sports have to offer us and our children. FAILing each time I’m on the court is a gift, so powerful and joyful that I hope all of my patients, family and friends will find it too. Thanks Arman for this poignant talk.
There's nothing quite like mastery of the mind. Everyday counts I tell myself, thanks for sharing what you've uncovered. Apparently we're all in the game!
I loved the way he broke down "control the controllables." It's such a simple yet powerful way to look at things, especially when life feels chaotic.
His journey from an athlete who wrestled with fear and doubt to someone who embraces failure as part of the learning process is such a cool example of personal growth!
The way he talked about building trust and relationships as a coach and doctor was spot on. It’s such a crucial part of any successful interaction.
I didn’t realize how much fear of failure can actually hold you back from progress. The way he describes reframing failure really opens up opportunities for growth
Effort, attitude, and gratitude, these three words have so much power
I wasn't expecting to hear about wrestling in a TEDx talk, but it was such a unique way to illustrate his point about dedication and mindset
He made some really solid points about managing stress by focusing on effort and attitude. Sometimes we overcomplicate things when the solution can be this simple.
The emphasis on building relationships and trust as a coach and doctor is crucial. Relationships are the foundation of so much in life, you really want to make sure you've got good ones
The focus on gratitude was a nice touch. It’s such a simple thing but it really does have an amazing affect on us when we practice it regularly
It's refreshing to hear someone talk about simplifying life instead of just pushing harder and harder. Sometimes we need that reminder.
Agreed... positive mindset over the whole "grindset" mentality
I never realized how much we focus on things _outside_ our control. This talk was a great reminder to bring the focus back to what we can actually change, thank you
the part about the more focused he was on winning the less he enjoyed the process was really good... I wonder how much joy I'm taking out of things by only caring about the result
I liked how he mentioned that attitude can directly influence our outcomes. It’s not just about what happens to us but how we react to it
I love how much this shows how different passions can come together in a way that has more value than the sum of it's parts
I really liked the part about focusing on 'effort, attitude, and gratitude.' It's such a simple attitude for approaching life and I think that can be way more helpful than all the over-complicated advice that's out there
his story about his college teammates wishing they had known this stuff earlier is a good reminder that it's never too late to learn and grow.
From athelete to psychiatrist... Wow, that's a new one! Thoroughly appreciated the parallels he drew between the skills learned in wrestling and those needed in medicine... How unique and comparable! What passion!
It's really special when you choose to closely link your passion to your profession.
I think we all aspire to meet our family's expectations, even when we may not have the skills or talents to do so. We want that approval more than anything else.
It's definitely important but so is choosing the mindset needed to get that approval from within.
I love "first attempt in learning" as an acronym for fail! Very clever and has the power to change your whole perspective on setbacks.
Aww I thought it was so sweet that where he ended up actually did align with what his parents wanted for him. There's something so wholesome about that
Simplifying life rather than complicating it... That's something we all need to hear more often. It's easy to get caught up in trying to do everything perfectly.
Finding comfort that even a psychiatrist admits failure sucks? It’s reassuring to know even professionals deal with setbacks.
his insight about how negative thoughts are stronger than positive ones is eye-opening... I like to think mine is pretty balanced but if those negative thoughts are stronger then you really need to have way more positive ones to balance out the impact of your thoughts
I thought the way he acknowledges the challenges of meeting expectations, managing pressure, and prioritizing mental health was particularly well thought out. It's a reminder that we're all human and it's okay to struggle sometimes.
The growth is in the struggle. More losses leads to more wins!
It's so true that we often overlook the importance of mental effort. It's not just about pushing our bodies but training our minds too
I love how he ties gratitude into daily life. Finding things to appreciate each day can really boost your mood and mindset.
The concept of focusing on what we can control rather than what's out of our hands is a game-changer.
We have the power to simplify and take control of our effort, attitude and gratitude!
The mention of 'chunking' to improve memory made me think about how I approach learning. I’m going to give that strategy a try for sure!
Love how his whole story speaks to being able to find unexpecting and fulfilling paths if you just follow your passion. It so idealistic but it really does happen!
When we control the controllables and come back to our square ONE, great things can happen!
From wrestler to medical school, that's quite a journey. Good talk Arman
ha, you beat me here. Love that we always find these TED gems...
Thank you! The journey is all about learning.
I liked the part about how mental effort plays a larger role than we think. I think something really shifts for both sports and life when you realize that
As someone who struggles with perfectionism, his message about letting go of control and focusing on effort is really helpful. Might be a bit tricky for me to put into practice though!
It's refreshing to hear a professional talk about the mental aspect of effort. I always thought of effort as just physical, but it's so much more. This video is a great reminder of that.
I like the way he breaks it down, in terms of what we can achieve in a day and how it all adds up.
Interesting how he mentioned the impact of stress on students and athletes. Mental health is so crucial!
It's somewhat comforting to think that the controllables never change, and even more so to think of them AS controllables. It's a nice perspective.
for sure but what do you mean they don't change? like... what kind of isolation are you running that nothing in your circumstances are changing lmao
As someone who has faced my own mental health challenges, I love how he normalizes seeking support and prioritizing mental well-being. I don't think it's spoken about enough but maybe if it was there would be less stigma around people who struggle with their mental health
Really appreciate this insight. We also have the power to be happy and successful when we chose to simplify and focus on what we can control.
I appreciate the focus on mental health, I think that's becoming more and more important especially for students and athletes
Really interesting! As a former student athlete, Dr. T has helped me in my journey with my mindset about how to look at failure as one step closer to success. So happy he got to share this with everyone !
Thank you! More failures will lead to more successes!
My one thing for today is finding this talk! Great advice delivered with that perfect combination of humility and confidence he was talking about!
Really appreciate that! Always find that ONE thing!
his point about embracing failure and using it as a learning opportunity is so important. We need to normalize failure as a necessary part of growth and success.
More failures and more losses will lead to more wins
Carol Dweck’s growth mindset research was a nice touch. It’s true that how you frame challenges really impacts your performance and overall success
I've thought that too about how you approach a challenge but I didn't realize that could be part of an overall growth mindset
“First Attempt In Learning” - that's a keeper. Changes everything!
F.A.I.L. more failures means more successes!
I wish I had heard this talk when I was a student athlete. The pressure to succeed can be so overwhelming, and it's easy to lose sight of what really matters.
Thank you! I wish I heard this talk back then as well.
I love how he emphasizes the importance of focusing on the things we can control, like effort, attitude, and gratitude. It's a powerful mindset shift.
the wrestling analogy to life's struggles is so apt.
"effort, attitude and gratitude, every single day." this is perfect advice.
His honesty about his own struggles with failure and anxiety is refreshing. It's a good reminder that even successful people face challenges and doubts.
Love how the speaker connects his sports background with psychiatry, shows how diverse experiences shape us into whole and complex people
We are often training to do something else when we don't even realize it.
Pretty glad to have seen this, I have a lot of anxiety and the whole idea of just focusing on what is on my control was good to hear.
the best and most succinct advice on finding your way in life to happiness and success. thank you for the reminder that failures are not only ok, but necessary in order to achieve your best self.
This makes perfect sense and managing stress by focusing on controllables is such valuable advice. It's our attitude towards stress and failure that can change our success rate.
I've never thought about the psychological power of negative thoughts before.... kinda amazed to hear they can be 4 to 7 times stronger than positive ones.
I was surprised by that too!
good reminder to think more positively though
I've always struggled with the idea of failure, but reframing it as a "First Attempt In Learning" as he suggested makes so much sense. It’s all about how we view our challenges.
It truly is about a mindset. More failures will lead to more successes if you choose to reframe the concept of FAIL.
It's interesting how he talked about the brain as the most important muscle. We spend so much time working on our bodies but often neglect our minds.
I love how he gives props to the role of family and community in shaping our values and goals. We don't achieve success in a vacuum!
It’s so true that focusing on winning can take the joy out of the process. We need to appreciate the journey more.
I really like this message. No point worrying or spending up all our time and energy obsessing over things we can't do anything about
We can choose to focus on what we CAN control each day: Effort, Attitude, Gratitude
Oh I love this so much. Hearing people talk about how they blended several passions into one career path is like magic.
Thank you. We often dont realize that our life experiences are preparing us for what lies ahead!
Reframing failure as a learning opportunity is an attitude everyone should learn when growing up. Definitely a "controllable" in your toolkit.
Reframing is so important, so valuable and so controllable!
His insights on effort being largely mental are eye-opening and I agree a growth mindset and resilience are key. He's made some great points.
It's easy to get caught up in the academic grind and lose sight of why we chose this path in the first place.
It definitely can be. Simplifying to intentional areas of focus can really help.
Great talk! Feel like I learn something new every time I listen to Dr T.
This talk really puts into perspective how to navigate anxiety and improve our chances for success.
We define anxiety as a feeling but it often stems from our thought process. If we choose to reframe our thoughts, we can change our feelings.
This talk is a must-watch for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's uncontrollables. His personal anecdotes make the advice so relatable and actionable.
I think this is a really great reminder that success isn't just about luck - it's about taking control of our own destiny.
I am asking what is the problem with Khartoom Bank is so crowdy every day with customers ?
Always focus on controlling the controllables and you can increase the likelihood of success!
Aww I love that he and his wife have a nightly gratitude ritual and has to laugh when he said the athlete in him means he want his to be better lol that's a true competitive spirit
I think I missed the moment that connected his love of wrestling, teaching and coaching with applying for med school but so cool that it all lined up like that for him!
"Maybe I was training to be a doctor all along so let me at least apply..."
F.A.I.L -- First Attempt In Learning -- The acronym is a powerful technique to frame your setbacks in the overall scheme of a successful life. This profound statement resonates with me. I refer back to this Talk to remind myself that we are all learners in this grand experiment.
Thank you. So much value in failure.
I think it's really cool that he took the discipline from wrestling and applied it to his medical career. There are all kinds of transferable skills and strengths that we might not know about until we make the swap.
My life trajectory changed when I heard, "the world needs more wrestlers, the field of medicine needs more wrestlers!"
Awesome insights Dr. T, I really loved hearing about the translation of the attitude of an athlete into a professional setting. Very inspiring!
The world needs more people like Dr. T! What a fantastic job!
Thank you. We can all make the choice to control our controllables and we would all be happier and more successful.
So cool that he could take his experience from wrestling and apply them to medicine, talk about transferable skills!
Reframing failure as a learning opportunity! Yes! More of this please!
Always remember: First/Further Attempts In Learning!
I love the idea of setting three areas of focus each day. It's a simple but effective way to stay organized and avoid getting overwhelmed.
It will really compound over time, 21/week, 90/month...
His whole emphasis on maintaining a balanced mindset and finding joy in the journey reminded me to stay grounded and grateful... Yep. needed that today.
Thank you. When we simplify and focus on the process, we are more likely to improve outcomes.
Effort. Attitude. Gratitude. Never thought of those 3 words together. Especially the gratitude. Definitely going to be a slogan for my upcoming season with my team. Along with embracing the failures. Every failure is an opportunity to learn. This video summed up the key pieces I like to bring to my team each season, but did it in a much simpler way.
Gratitude is the hardest one but the most important one!
I agree it's important to reframe failure in a way that lets us keep trying... he makes it sound a lot easier than it feels though
This is very inspiring! The fear of failure is a huge driving force of anxiety. Reframing failure itself is a great idea.
Thank you. We get to choose what we control and how we think of our circumstances.
One of the smartest people I know. Thank you Dr. T
Thank you. The intelligence is knowing when to simplify!
smart talk - after today at work, needed to see this. Thank you Arman
Amazing message, his advice and practices have had indelible effect on my life! Someone everyone can learn from!!
This really helped shift my focus to such a more positive light!
How and what you focus is a choice!
I think it's really cool how we can look back at our lives and pinpoint what each of our experiences has taught us, and I love hearing other people do it too, sounds like this guy got the perfect mix of qualities from each of his endeavours.
Thank you. It took a while but I realized that all my previous experiences were training me to be a doctor all along!
Oh how I relate! I felt the pressure to pursue a prestigious career to make my parents proud. But deep down, I've always had a passion for sports and coaching, just like he did. Badminton and Basketball were my everything! Although I'm feeling a touch of envy, it's refreshing to see someone who did it
Appreciate you. Hoping others can be inspired to turn their passions into a profession.
teamwork and mindset is something I try to instill in myself every day.
So important and so valuable.
Can relate to what he says about the more he focused on winning the less enjoyment he got from wrestling. It's tough lesson but yeah, once you're doing something only for the out come and not the joy of doing it, the joy just goes away
Really important to focus on the process to make it more enjoyable
Excellent talk. I sometimes forget how important mindset it in your daily life. Great tips and reminder! Good job Dr. T!
Mindset is Everything!
Dr. T is the man! I wish I had these tools when I was an athlete myself, but I will certainly be applying them to my everyday life. Thank you for this!
I wish I had these tools when I competed as well!
Focus on the things that you can control! Love that!
So important to Control the Controllables!
Truly inspirational. A lot of things are made a bigger deal in your mind than they end up actually being in reality. Really shows how strong your mentality can be.
Mindset. Is. Everything!
WISDOM! Success is as much about mindset as it is about skill.
Thank you. I would even say mindset>skill
Chunking information to remember better is a neat trick. Makes sense why we remember phone numbers and credit card numbers that way!
Love this so much, I drew so many parallels to my life being a mom! You have to fall down a few times in order to eventually learn to walk! Will definitely be sharing this with others!!
Thank you. As athletes, professional and parents, the "controllables" always remain the same!
What an amazing journey he has had following his passions and also being able to live up to his parents' expectations.
Once I simplified my areas of focus and controlled what I could control, my passions lined up with their dreams!
I admire this man! I really enjoy the F.A.I.L, and watching him sing to us!!
We all remember that song right?!!! All about chunking in 3-5 pieces of info.
I've always felt control is overrated, we chase it while we look outside ourselves. The great sages believe surrender is the gateway to nirvana
Fantastic video! As a Manager I use the FAIL acronym often. Always train my team that not to focus on what did not go right. Focus on what went right and find things to change to work on next time for the areas that didn’t go as planned. Always need to keep your mind thinking positive.
The reframe applies to so much more than just sports!
Great words Dr. T!
Fantastic! As a late arrival to competitive sports, I can deeply appreciate this important message. Tennis is the love of my life (well, yeah, my husband and kids too). Truthfully, it has been the first window into my psyche, or at least the clearest. The immediate feedback acquired from thoughts, and feelings to outcomes is a thing of beauty. I had a history of snubbing sports as primal, egocentric and wasteful. Now, I see the immense value and all of the important psychological lessons that sports have to offer us and our children. FAILing each time I’m on the court is a gift, so powerful and joyful that I hope all of my patients, family and friends will find it too. Thanks Arman for this poignant talk.
There's nothing quite like mastery of the mind. Everyday counts I tell myself, thanks for sharing what you've uncovered. Apparently we're all in the game!
Appreciate the feedback and personal parallels