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Hi Emma, I’m about to be a first time dad any day now. Penelope’s (don’t tell anyone!) due date is tomorrow and I’ve been watching your videos over and over the past 9 months, just wanted to say thanks so much for your help! Wish me luck!
My baby is two now and I'm wondering if I should attend her when she wakes at night. Most of the time, I set a timer for 10 minutes and go to her if she's still crying when it goes off. But usually, she falls back asleep. I feel she is securely attached but want to make sure I'm not creating anxiety for her
Pregnant with baby #4 here and I'm preparing to remind myself to pause! To all moms of one child: these things get easier as you have more children because you stop doubting yourself. I can't say that every child is going to be as good of a sleeper as another, but don't let sleep stop you from growing your family. You're learning, too!
@@alexandrastr8878 you'll be amazed how much you learned the first time around and you won't doubt yourself nearly as much! It's great and just gets better! I hope the transition to two treats you well!
My first born never would have let us lay her down awake! My second baby is 4 months old now and a much better sleeper I think this could possibly work with her. I really think temperament has a lot to do with if this is successful
Emma, you’re a godsend to first-time parents. We have been putting all your tips into practice. Setting a bedtime routine, leaving her be when she sleeps noisily, teaching her to put herself to sleep, improving her sleep environment. It took time but my little one has been sleeping through the night at 3.5 months, waking up at 6 am now. Thank you so much!!
Was thrilled to find your vlog. My granddaughter is expecting our first great granddaughter . I wanted to find out what are the parenting trends today. To my greatest joy you were passing on the same messages I did! I was a Plunket Nurse, this is a wonderful organisation we have in NZ . We are Registered Nurses with another years training in woman and child wellness and development and parenting practice. I worked in the district then on Plunketline, for over 30 years , so learnt a lot about other parenting practice but over time, what you are saying and what I was say are the same thing.! I have shared your videos with my granddaughter as she lives in England without her family support, but a wonderful husband by her side and I know your recommendations and the excellent reason given for them is going to help her through this exciting but at times exhausting and stressful times. Thank you so much, keep up the great work
Thank you so much for your lovely message! I’m thrilled that you’ve shared my videos with your granddaughter. It can be challenging to navigate parenting without close family nearby, but it sounds like she’s got a wonderful support system in you and her husband. Wishing you all the best with your soon-to-arrive great-granddaughter!
You just described everything I'm doing wrong exactly (and the two things I'm doing right). Anika is doing well and I envy her ability to nap during the day!
I started to implement independent sleep at 3.5 months with my son. We went from still waking every 2 hrs to him sleeping till 4am, feeding him at that time, then up for the day at 7am. We actually have gotten a couple days where he has slept fully through the night. I always rocked him to sleep so we put him to sleep by rocking his bassinet, then we moved to putting him down without rocking but still there in rhe room shushing him, now we put him down give him a kiss and leave the room. A good nap schedule and capping sleep really helped us. Also having a set nap/bedtime routine plus set bedtime has helped soooo much.
My daughter skipped the 4 month sleep regression and started sleeping through the night at 4.5 months and has slept through ever since. Before that she woke up to feed had a bottle and would go back to sleep right away in her bassinet. I was very lucky that way. Napping on the other hand was a nightmare until i figured it out when she was a year old that she needed a modified night time routine to go to sleep
4:30 This is what I had to learn in the first month with my baby. My husband was the one who taught me even... As a mom we tend to be overprotective and want to soothe our babies right away but we should give them the space to grow so they can rely on themselves also. I've developed a night time routine for my baby so he's familiar with sleep time and begins to make a difference between night and day. It goes like so: At around 11pm (sometimes 10pm) • Breastfeed • Change diaper • Body massage (simple) • Change into pj's and prepare sleep sack on his bed already • Breastfeed again • Burp • Put in bed in sleep sack Sometimes it goes smoothly and he falls asleep but sometimes he needs extra help (lately he's been getting some gas). Give him the pacifier and make sure it stays bc when he drops it he wakes up. It definitely depends on your baby's temperament. But you can work around that and see what works for you and what doesn't. Keep trying until eventually something sticks. Trial and error. Just don't do too much. Babies like stability. Routine. As adults do too. At least I do. You got this!!
Thank you - this came at the perfect time. My daughter will be three months tomorrow and just started waking in the night when she used to sleep all the way through. I appreciate all the knowledge and advice you’ve shared!
Please make a video about teaching to fall asleep in the crib! I'm going to attempt to teach my little one but lots of informations on the internet seem vague to me and I'm scared i will fail because of lack of the right information (how to start, how to do it, how long each night, do I do it until he falls asleep or is there some sort of time limit on how much time you spend on trying to get your little one to sleep)
Yes, this! It all seems to be behind a paywall, the only free stuff is "Do a routine and put them in the crib awake" but nothing for after that when they immediately start crying for you. I made a mistake with my son which was I read "drowsy but awake" and thought that meant eyes still open but starting to drift like adults do. Apparently that's too far, "drowsy" means tired but very much awake, so I just taught him to rock to sleep by accident.
This is really insightful. My two month old daughter is only starting to sleep 2-3 hours at a stretch during the night. Mostly she wakes up to nurse and is right back to sleep for another two hours. I will try some of the tricks you mentioned. Thanks you very much for insights. ❤
Everything you say makes sense in theory, but reality seems to work a bit differently... Our baby has always fussed every 2-3 hours during his night sleep, especially in those colic days. At 5 months he suddenly started "practicing" his new skills in the middle of the night: first it was roll-overs, now it's crawling alla over the bed. These wake windows always last for over an hour...we never turn the lights on (not even a night light). If we pick him up immediately as he wakes up - he falls asleep right away. Tbh we don't want to train him to be rocked to sleep everytime, but also just listening to him rustle around for 1,5 hour at 4am is exhausting. What a dilemma!
what you lived is EXACTLY what I am currently living with my baby ❤😂, is all things my midwife told me but I feel more confident now that YOU said it 😂❤ Thank you for being here for us
At 6.5 mths, my daughter (who slept so well all night) started waking up in the middle of the night..I eventually realized that she was waking up from hunger!! So, we started baby cereal before bed with formula also and that solved that issue!
My 4 month old is in this understood knowledge that as soon as he starts to stir, you can either go in and calm him and he might go back to sleep immediately. Or, i can ignore it and get an angry screaming baby for the next 2 hours. I feel there's no win.
The first six months can be incredibly challenging, especially when it comes to sleep. I do have a newborn to 6 month sleep course, called Peaceful Dreams, which might help you and your little one get more sleep. If you're interested this is the link to the course:brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
@@EmmaHubbard Thank you, I'll check it out! In this video you mentioned not to rush whenever the baby starts to kick around or make crying sounds. But how long should we let them cry or get unhappy? I can understand that if he's not making any sounds that he's fine and I don't need to go in there, but once he starts crying, how long should I stay away from him?
@@RicardoReyes I don't know what her answer will be, but I figured out eventually to let myself go to the bathroom, wash my hands, pray for a moment, and then go in if the baby is still very upset. About 5 mins.
It all depends on the sounds he’s making. If his noises start getting louder and more intense, that’s usually a sign he needs you. However, if the sounds stay at the same volume, stop and start, or gradually get quieter, it’s best to just wait and watch.
Emma, your timing is impeccable, mother is showing fatigue pumping milk & feeding baby. I tend to baby feeding but she still has to pump. Keep up the good work.
We use baby sleep music every night for us and baby, he did recently start waking up more but it’s because he stills falls asleep in my arms while feeding. Now I’ll work on putting him in the crib once he’s full feeding so he knows where he is!
My baby is almost 4 months old and I co sleep with him because every time I put him down to crib, he wakes up and cries . I am so tired of doing this for many times and he still awakes. And when I put him by my side on my bed, he sleeps well. Any suggestions how to switch him successfully to bed? He wakes up every 2-3 hours for feeding at night. And he is fussy at night and he is fighting to sleep even though he feels so sleepy . I am a first time Mom and gets exhausted
My daughter is about to turn 2. She was a terrible sleeper as a new born. Super colicky and nothing seemed to help. Around 10 months, did some sleep training and she has slept through the night ever since. Here I am with our second (he’s 2 days old) in the middle of the night, watching videos, trying to get ahead of it this time lol.
Hi Emma! When should you start allowing a baby to fall asleep in their crib/bassinet without rocking or holding them to sleep? My daughter is 5 weeks now and we haven't been doing this yet. Thanks!!! :)
You can start this process now, but it’s important to be there and respond to your baby’s cues in the moment so that you’re supporting her as she learns to fall asleep on her own. This will help her feel secure while gradually getting used to falling asleep without being held or rocked. This is something I teach and demonstrate with our daughter in my course Peaceful Dreams. If you’re interested, here’s the link to the course: course:brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
Too young! Try baby wearing if you need your hands free. Look up the 4th trimester. After 3 months would be more appropriate to try Putting her down independently.
I think I ruined my almost 6 month old by holding her for every nap and co-sleeping at night. It was never my intention to do this but she was just so difficult and now I’m not sure I can undo it. I’m afraid I’m going to ruin my marriage though because baby and I sleep in the guest room so as to not wake up my husband.
I don't think you can ruin your baby by giving too much love... Every baby is different. Some are good sleepers and others difficult. There are cases of twins and one is a very easy sleeper and the other needs to be with a parent all the time. It shows that how your baby sleeps is not your shortcoming or merit. It's how the baby is wired, temperament and genetics. Our daughter of 6 months is also a difficult sleeper, but we see it as an opportunity to create such a strong bond. At night she sleeps with me and my husband. During the day, she's often in the carrier or sling. I feel this is how it's supposed to be (this is what my instinct tells me). We expect babies to sleep like adults... Every baby will learn to sleep independently at a point. Our daughter is starting to sleep independent naps during the day at the moment(6 months 3 weeks). I always rocked or fed her to sleep. But I felt her change and suddenly it was there, the independent nap! Not all the time and sometimes she still cries or wants to sleep on me (don't have to rock anymore though). It takes time, patience and watching your baby closely. And it's not my place to say something about your marriage, but you should talk to your husband if you feel this way. Probably he does not feel like the marriage is ruined at all and if he does... why should it be that he's entitled to his night sleep and you are not? You have a baby together, right? Sorry for the long response... I felt the insecurity in your reply that I feel too at times. But started to read alternative approaches and research. Learned there are different ways and that you will not ruin your baby by tending to their needs!
Same here! Except for husband sleeps on air mattress and for the first 7 months he was sleeping on the couch but now he has back problems. It’s been 8 months and I have yet to be able to get a full nights rest . It’s exhausting. She just wants to use my boob as her comfort binky all night and cries if I don’t give it to her.
@@ingriddeboer2517Thank you for the wonderful response! I still haven’t gotten to a point where my baby can be away from me for naps or sleep, but I also haven’t really tried since I’m so sure that it won’t work. As far as my husband goes- I’m a stay at home mom and he works a highly stressful job for long hours (and is responsible for taking the dog out in the early morning) so it’s only fair that I’m the one up with baby at night. It’s what works for us!
@@Talania12This is exactly what my daughter does and she just turned 9 months. I was hopeful that solids would make her less dependent on the boob but it hasn’t. Don’t get me wrong, I love the bond, but I also would like to sleep by myself and with my husband occasionally!
Thank you for providing the most accurate content to a baby owner's manual… mother has been pumping steadily for 3 months now, brand new garage freezer is full of milk pouches, my point is she’s experiencing fatigue from constantly pumping and tending to baby. She didn’t let me help me much before but now she asks I take baby ( 2 month early preemie) from 4 am to noon. She has fallen asleep with while pumping, Pumping is draining her, literally. Shes on vitamins now to supplement her. Shes not bionic woman but trying to be!
This might be a dumb question, but how do you know if/when a baby is going to wake up but go back to sleep in the night? I have a good sense of active sleep vs awake, but when he wakes up in the night I go feed him to try to get ahead of him crying. Do I wait till he’s actively crying?
Mine is an active sleeper. But when she is hungry, she is getting super fuzzy, throwing her head from side to side. Then I know I have to feed her quick, otherwise I have a wake and crying baby
I'm a little confused. Do we not feed them in the middle of the night at 5 months if they're hungry? He wakes every 3 hours just to feed and goes right back to bed after.
Many babies at this age still need nighttime feeds, so it’s important to respond to their hunger cues. If your baby is waking up hungry, definitely go ahead and feed them. As your baby gets older, you should start to notice longer stretches of sleep at the beginning of the night before he wakes for that first feed. This is a natural progression as they grow and their sleep patterns develop. However, if this doesn’t happen and your baby continues to wake every 3 hours, it’s possible that he may be waking this often because he needs your help to link his sleep cycles.
Hi Emma, we are quite desperate after 18 months of terrible sleep our toddler now only want his mum to put him to bed etc but won’t actually sleep and just messes around which is causing us to reach our limit…. Do you have any advice please? FYI - we’ve had a routine since about 6 months old
On the same boat here... My little fella (14 months) only wants mun to put him to bed, and up until he was 12 months (pre walking) was able to sleep in his own crib after some soothing and patting/light massage/belly rub. (Waking 2-3 times a night) Now he only wants to hop around , and mess.. and wants his mum to get him to sleep... (Big mistake) On OUR bed. The room is pitch black, we are both head down on pillow and not saying a word except.. shhhhh, sleepy time. Tried putting his head down, he turns and stands up. Probably thinking it's a game of "I get knocked down, I get up again, ya never Gona keep me down" (FML) Move him to the crib, he wakes up. And goes mental. There still is a night feed of toddler milk 🍼 (200ml) at about 3am every night. Previously it was dry skin/eczema problems. We've gone past it and skin is mostly fine Different problem, different day. We've Aged 10 years within 1 year is what I tell my children less friends 😅 My family tells me they made that mistake with their first born where he slept on their bed until 3 or 4...
My first slept so great right from the start. Now I'm on my second and dealing with just this .... Have to have my husband keep reminding me, She's okay let her settle... 😂... I'm slowly getting there
I breastfeed my 7 months old Baby and I do co-sleeping. He used to wake up by 3 times from 7pm yo 5 pm but since one week it is a lot more. But I think it ist just a fase. I read aboout they are getting more clingy at night when they are about 8 months because they are more aware of all that surrounds them and so they tend to be overstimulated and so they need more comfort. I think it is important to listen to helpful advices like that as well as listen to your instincts. Even if I admit that this is so hard as a first time mom with a lot of insecurities and worries.
I was hoping this would help but I’m kind of trying all these tactics already. My baby used to sleep through the night, at 5 months now she’s not sleeping well at all. I nurse her to sleep but unlatch her and move her away a bit so she falls asleep on her own. During naps I rock her in my arms until drowsy and then pat her to sleep in her crib. I don’t turn on the tv or rush in too fast. What else could I be missing?! 😅 🫠
I tried this just now for a nap with my 3 month old… his wakings have been getting a bit worse the last few weeks. It took 20 minutes, but shushing over him and the automatic bounce of our Cradlewise got him to sleep. (We plan to put him in a regular crib once he’s 4 months old). I suppose I shouldn’t necessarily expect this to work to extend naps due to his age? Will try this at bedtime too. The picking up and putting down trial and error of rocking and nursing to sleep is so much! Thanks!
That's great it worked for your little one. Unfortunately, at this age it is normal to to have short naps (AKA catnaps) during the day. Generally, they can start to link sleep cycles and extend their naps around 5 - 6 months of age. But it helps if they know how to fall asleep in their crib or sleep space.
@EmmaHubbard Congratulations that it went better with your second and third child! But how did you continue with your first child? You already had a "bad" rhythm, how did you change it? My daughter is 2 years now and still wakes up like every 3 hours. If she doesn't feel or see me rightaway she starts shaking and crying. Has been like that for a long time. Sometimes she falls back asleep by herself, but she still needs me a lot of times. So I would agree, that some babies/toddlers simply need more help in the night than others!
Hi Emma, thank you for sharing .. I was wondering if you had any advice on how to help baby sleep through the night or what you did with your first. My LO is almost one and still wakes multiple times. Im guilty of always rocking and singing or nursing her to sleep and I am at a loss with how to teach her that she can fall asleep without all of that. She wont even fall asleep in the car seat when we are out for too long no matter how tired she is she will just cry and cry and cry
My 1 st child slept all the way through the night at 2weeks it was a dream. Then my 2nd child came and didn't sleep through the night until around 2 years. So with my 3 -7 i did the CIO and had a lot of sucess. The number 1 thing moms need to know is that you dont have to run it is ok if they cry i promise.
I also did cluster feeding the 3 hour block before sleep so they were full. I stopped night feedings around 3 mths . I pumped every 3 hours through the night. It might not work for every but it did for me. I also did skin to skin contact naps often until they were 6-9 mths.
So my little one is about to hit the 4 month mark, and he's starting to go through that type of regression. We are blessed that we can place him down in the crib and put a pacifier, and tap him to sleep. But he's beginning to wake up anytime he drops it. How can we transition him from needing the pacifier and teach him to sleep by only gently tapping him while he's lying in the crib?
Is it possible to put my 7 month old baby to sleep without rocking, me and my girlfriend had always rocked him to sleep since he was newborn. I’m not sure what to do now because he’s so used to us putting him to sleep.
Does this work on a 8 week old colicky baby??? That’s what I’m dealing with now. My son can’t seem to sleep on his own. He will cry and cry if I don’t carry him and put him to sleep. Please help
Hi! I have a 1 year and 1 month old baby. He is still waking up very often at night, but the most concerning thing is that he is putting everything in his mouth and chewing them. It seems rather compulsive than because of teething or something. Are we doing something wrong? Our pediatrician said he is frustrated or stressed because we are overstimulating him. Any advice on this? Thanks!
My baby was amazing at falling asleep by himself in his crib a few weeks ago, however, as we approach 3 moths age, he started going crazy when we put him down in his bed and starts to kick and squirm.. We can only sooth him by holding him 😕
What do I do if I have a baby with reflux and have to hold her upright for 30 min after each feed? She falls asleep at bedtime/in the night in my arms because we have to sit up for so long. She only has one nighttime waking right now. But I feel like she's used to be held to go to sleep because we can't put her down immediately.
Our baby would sleep through the night as well from 6 weeks onward and then at 3,5 months she changed to waking up some times a night. We didn't change anything. She falls asleep by herself many nights, I never rock her to sleep. Sometimes she wakes up and the pacifyer makes her sleep again immediately and sometimes she doesn't stop crying and I give he some milk (breast) and she drink 2 to 3 minutes and goes back to sleep immediately. She is a great sleeper, just crying out 3 to 4 times in her night sleep, but she doesn't really wake up. She sleeps from 8pm to 6 or 7 am.
I wish I knew this earlier, my 22 month old (almost 2 years) cant fall asleep on his own, only went feeding or rocking or when extremely tired. Please, how do I fix this? How do I teach a toddler to fall asleep when he needs to and stop resisting sleep.
Having a consistent bedtime routine helps. Basically doing the same thing with them every night to prepare them to shift into bedtime mode. So our kid has a bath, then we get him dressed in his pjs, he gets his teeth brushed, then we read a few stories to him, sing him a lullaby and then say good night. You will have to do some sleep-training, which means letting him cry a bit, but you can approach that in a way that you feel comfortable with as a parent. So we let our son cry for five minutes, go in to reassure, then 10 minutes and then sometimes fifteen. But I also trusted my gut and if his cry sounds really distressed I would go in sooner. There’s different methods for sleep training, not just the one I talked about, so do some reading and also trust your gut and do what feels right.
To add to the responded comment,I noticed that sometimes they are clingy before bed because they really need some parental connection. I went through a long faze during that age of playing hide and seek before bed with my son. My husband or I would be a sort of monster that sought him and mom or dad out in the dark lol. He loved it. We would turn all the lights off, I would hide, and him and his dad would seek me out with a flash light. I always made time for that or a tickle fight. They really want connection before bed, and they are more willing to go to sleep when they have it.
@@Emily_Ursuliak we try to maintain a routine, but he resists because he knows its time for sleep and he wants to stay awake, we press through every time but i just wish it was easier 🤦♀️
@@essypach6409 it gets easier with that first baby once that nap goes away. I hope you find a way to make it easier before then!! One random thing I did with my daughter when she was a toddler was that she and I worked together to make a pillow that was special for her in her bed. Then I could say, "first we brush teeth, then you can lay on the pillow you made."
Usually I stay quiet and hope he’ll go back to sleep when my baby wakes up at night. But if after making some noises and little whines he starts bawling and screaming I know I have to drag myself out of bed. 😂
My baby has never slept through and is now 4 months. When he wakes up he always wants a short feed. I cannot really let him complain on his own otherwise he rolls on his tummy in a dramatic desperate fashion eating his hands or scratches all of his face. Can it be because he’s hungry for real or just comfort? If I tend to him immediately he doesn’t fully wake and falls asleep straight after the short feed Can it be I have supply issues? (i need to supplement with formula in the evening, but I always give him as much as he wants)
Try getting him back asleep in the crib would be my advice. Using least intervention first. Like increase sound machine. Then touch. Then soother, then rock or vibrate them and pick them up and cuddle in need be. And feeding them last. This is from an expensive sleep program I got from someone. “Taking Cara babies”. The idea is to stretch there feed window 5-10 minutes every night. So that every week you are gaining around an hour more of sleep in there feed window. I also suffer from supply issues and supplemented in the evening. I gave a large bottle and breast feed before bed and I had a baby that slept the night. I am struggling with the one cycle naps and putting baby down awake
Trying everything can also be a problem though. Because that means no consistency, you didn't push through either method. Consistency is KEY. Everytime baby gets different and new reactions. Of course that can possibly effect them badly.
@@Nana_niko that’s an assumption because yes we pushed through with stretches of one thing at a time. I’m a scientist I understand controls and hypotheses. Like I said, some babies are just not good sleepers but kudos if any of these work for you. Just encouragement for others who may be in the same boat as me.
Same here. There was time I wish my baby was waking every 2h at night. He was waking up 8 times every night and slept for maximum 30 min at a time during the day. There was no chance he would fall back to sleep on his own or would fall asleep in his crib. So yeah I think some babies are just bad sleepers and none of the common tips work.
Same here. I'm currently in a "please sleep more than 20 minutes" phase right now. I tried everything (trialed for 2 weeks each time). So far, the only things that are working are acceptance, time, and lots of coffee
Emma please can you also make some videos about older babies? Like 12 months and above... It would be very helpful... I'm kind of desperate with my daughter. Round 7 months she stopped breastfeeding to sleep and was almost sleeping through the night. Then at 12 months she started needing the breast again... Now she's 14 months and still wakes up continuously... I wonder what I'm doing wrong... She still has a long nap in the morning and in the afternoon, could that be the reason?
By 14 months, my oldest went down to one nap a day. He slept like the dead when I made the change. You could try going to one nap. It could be that she just doesn't need two anymore.
How many hours wake windows did u leave for baby ? As my 14months baby gets 2naps n still wakes up in the night for breast milk . The most I leave my son to be awake after nap is 3hrs mostly if not 4or 5hrs when we r outside
@@kanxiale1526 it's usually max 4 hours, but now she's started stay more awake during the afternoon and it's difficult to make her sleep on the afternoon. I'm wondering if she's about to skip this nap...
@kanxiale1526 14 month olds do not need to eat at night anymore. In fact my they don't need to eat at night anymore by 6 months. I commend anyone for voluntarily feeding a one year old in the middle of the night because by 6 months, I'm over that. My son was sleeping 7pm-7am straight through at 14 months with a 2-3 hour nap at noon
This just happened to us last night. Our 21 month old got up at 4 and went back to sleep at 6. And when he woke up, we went to his room to soothe him and hoping we would get back to sleep. But that wasn't the case. Should we have waited 5-10 mins and see if he went back to sleep? Is that time good enough?
My little is 9.5m and I've tried and tried again. He also climbs up and I can be in there for hours laying his back down trying to pat him to sleep :( Even after a 10-20m feed
My baby went from sleeping through the night at 6 weeks to waking up every 30 minutes to 2 hours by 4 months. I recently got her back to sleeping on average 3.5 hours at a time. We’re still working on it.
Dang, how I wish this video was made a year ago, when I had a newborn 😢 I made all of these mistakes and eventually resorted to cosleeping , now at 14 months my daughter still wakes up several times a night and needs my boob to fall back asleep 😭 I’m dreaming of a full night sleep but afraid we won’t get there until we drop the boob 😢
Nun, ich habe mein Baby nicht auf dem Arm einschlafen lassen, sondern für den Nacht- und Mittagsschlaf ins Bett gelegt. Ich habe es wie Emma gemacht. Nicht anfassen, wenn es leicht unruhig wird, das würde auch mich stören, wenn ich im Schlaf unruhig werde. Das Schlafhormon Melatonin wird erst ab dem 6. Monat gebildet. Vorher schlafen die Babies aus Überlebensgründen ganz oberflächlich, das ist normal. ALSO: Eltern stören den Schlaf ihres Kindes durch zu viel Manipulationen und zusätzliche Unruhe. Homemade Troubles
Hi Emma, my baby is 9 months old and has been waking twice (ish) a night which has been just fine for my family. Now however we are traveling and staying at my parents for a couple weeks and she has been waking up so often, even standing at the crib and crying. Any advice for me?
9 month olds don't need to eat at night at all and can get all of their calories during the day. I recommend weaning night feeds and making sure they are getting enough nourishment during the day. I would sleep train too, but that's just me. My 5 month old only eats once at night, and by 6 months, I will wean him of his night feed.
Hi all, my little boy 2y6m still go to bed only with an adult laying with him.. it takes almost 1h everyday.. he was Always a Bad sleeper and UP to 2y old learned to sleep only by moms breast..but right now we have a little girl and it becomes really too hard too keep up even if we love hugs 😂 Any Idea or just wait he gets older ? Thanks for your vidéos !
sorry but from all vids I see around it seems like babies would sleep in a separate room even at 3 months age... not only from this one, there's plenty on utube... isn't that dangerous?
Hi! Just to clarify, I'm not recommending babies sleep in a separate room at 3 months of age in this video. I don't recommend that at all. My baby slept in the same room as us until she was 11 months old. She slept in that room for naps and overnight. She went to bed earlier than us though so I would use to monitor to check on her at night and during daytime naps. The recommendation from the American Academy of Pediatrics and Red Nose Australia is to room share for at least the first 6 months (up to 12 months).
Usually you only wake them at that point if they haven’t reached back to their birth weight We were told to stop waking him for feeds at 2 weeks because he had reached his weight at birth
If the bub is gaining weight, weeing often and their poops are not like pellets, then it’s okay to follow their lead and feed them when they wake up overnight. So if they start sleeping through then that’s okay. Also the other thing to consider is if you’re breastfeeding. If sleeping through affects your milk supply then you might need to pump overnight or wake your little one up to feed them.
My 6 month old cries herself to sleep EVERY NIGHT because Ive just started putting her in her bed to sleep at night. I know I waited too long to begin. She wakes up at 4am for a diaper change & the process starts over. Any suggestions?
Instead of a dedicated white noise machine, I reccomend a yoto player, lots of volume controls, free white noise and amazing for language development when they are a bit older, my 5yo falls asleep listening to a nonfiction book every night and lives it!!
But in Asian countries especially in India it's completely different, we co-sleep with our kids well into 5 + years. No wonder mental illness/ gun violence is more in USA than Asian countries. The child needs touch and cuddles from their mother. This is completely denied at the infant stage itself. Even my pediatrician advised the same cr@! to me but I didn't follow it. This creates insecurity, fear at an early stage and in the US children are not as close to their parents as you can see in Asian countries. Think for a few seconds how will you feel locked up in a room with lights turned off, strapped in a bed and doors closed not knowing if someone will to their resuce when in need. Overall I feel just because women need to go to work (to encourage the work culture) the next morning they devise such techniques and proudly say the child is sleep trained but in the end the baby is tortured.
I want to be very clear here. There is absolutely no evidence to support a link between co-sleeping and mental health and/or gun violence. Or violence of any kind. To suggest that mental illness and gun violence are higher in any given country due to a smaller percentage of the population choosing to co-sleep with their baby is absolutely unfounded, and based on no evidence at all. Likewise - not co-sleeping "creating insecurity and fear at an early stage". There is no evidence to support this statement. I believe we should all respect cultural differences. That respect should be universal. Making broad, unfounded claims like these is not helpful to anyone. Being judgemental of how a particular country/culture does something that is different to yours isn't welcome on this channel.
@@EmmaHubbard just for your fyi , Indian population is 4 times the US and not a small %,. The US has a very small % of the population compared to India. China is the most populated country in the world. It's very easy to say in one line there's no evidence but there's evidence right in front of us when we see things happen everyday when a large % of the population are doing it in a different way. I feel if you do more research on this there's definitely connection on our childhood and how we grow up into an adult. That's what every research says. I definitely respect other cultures and ethnicity. There's always good and bad in every culture, maybe this is an opportunity to expand and learn the science behind how people in different cultures and countries make their babies sleep.
I stand by exactly what I said. Your comment was disrespectful, and the claims you've made are completely false. Linking mental illness and gun violence to co-sleeping rates has absolutely no scientific basis. If you believe it does, please share the research and studies to prove otherwise.
@@EmmaHubbard ok, I have nothing more to say, I have seen both sides of the world and have wider exposure than you of different countries. It's not my responsibility to provide the research papers to someone who is first and foremost not open minded to other cultural ways. If you would like to grow professionally please search for it yourself. I was only trying to say there are other ways followed in other countries. That was my point. There is nothing to be disrespectful about. Best of luck in your career. Thank you.
Hi! The recommendation from the American Academy of Pediatrics and Red Nose Australia is to room share for at least the first 6 months (up to 12 months). Room sharing until they are 1.5 years old isn’t something I have heard of. Are you able to share the source of where you read or heard this from? Also just to clarify she did sleep in the same room as us until she was 11 months old. She slept in that room for naps and overnight. She went to bed earlier than us though so I would use to monitor to check on her at night and during daytime naps.
Thanks for watching! Did you make any of these mistakes (or other ones) with your baby? Don't forget to get your free New Parent's Guide to Naps here: brightestbeginning.com/nap-guide/?lead_source=youtube_195
Helping with great grandbaby. I am learning so much from you !!!! He is 2 months old now
Hi Emma, I’m about to be a first time dad any day now. Penelope’s (don’t tell anyone!) due date is tomorrow and I’ve been watching your videos over and over the past 9 months, just wanted to say thanks so much for your help!
Wish me luck!
My baby is two now and I'm wondering if I should attend her when she wakes at night. Most of the time, I set a timer for 10 minutes and go to her if she's still crying when it goes off. But usually, she falls back asleep. I feel she is securely attached but want to make sure I'm not creating anxiety for her
Pregnant with baby #4 here and I'm preparing to remind myself to pause! To all moms of one child: these things get easier as you have more children because you stop doubting yourself. I can't say that every child is going to be as good of a sleeper as another, but don't let sleep stop you from growing your family. You're learning, too!
Love this - parenting does get a lot easier with each kid that you have because you know what you're doing.
@@EmmaHubbard Amen! It's a relief!
@@elizabetho7654 thank you ❤️
Needed to hear that - pregnant with No. 2 and sometimes anxious.
@@alexandrastr8878 you'll be amazed how much you learned the first time around and you won't doubt yourself nearly as much! It's great and just gets better! I hope the transition to two treats you well!
My first born never would have let us lay her down awake! My second baby is 4 months old now and a much better sleeper I think this could possibly work with her. I really think temperament has a lot to do with if this is successful
It's incredibly important for a baby to know someone is there for them, also in the night.
Totally agree (as I mentioned in the video- not sure if you watched it)
Emma, you’re a godsend to first-time parents. We have been putting all your tips into practice. Setting a bedtime routine, leaving her be when she sleeps noisily, teaching her to put herself to sleep, improving her sleep environment. It took time but my little one has been sleeping through the night at 3.5 months, waking up at 6 am now. Thank you so much!!
Not only for 1st time parents also 2nd time parents like me.
Thank you so much! It’s so nice to hear that the tips are making your life as parents a little easier and everyone is getting lots of sleep!
Was thrilled to find your vlog. My granddaughter is expecting our first great granddaughter . I wanted to find out what are the parenting trends today. To my greatest joy you were passing on the same messages I did! I was a Plunket Nurse, this is a wonderful organisation we have in NZ . We are Registered Nurses with another years training in woman and child wellness and development and parenting practice. I worked in the district then on Plunketline, for over 30 years , so learnt a lot about other parenting practice but over time, what you are saying and what I was say are the same thing.! I have shared your videos with my granddaughter as she lives in England without her family support, but a wonderful husband by her side and I know your recommendations and the excellent reason given for them is going to help her through this exciting but at times exhausting and stressful times. Thank you so much, keep up the great work
Thank you so much for your lovely message!
I’m thrilled that you’ve shared my videos with your granddaughter. It can be challenging to navigate parenting without close family nearby, but it sounds like she’s got a wonderful support system in you and her husband.
Wishing you all the best with your soon-to-arrive great-granddaughter!
You just described everything I'm doing wrong exactly (and the two things I'm doing right). Anika is doing well and I envy her ability to nap during the day!
It's so good she is catching up on her sleep in the day. Hopefully, you get some time to rest too!
I started to implement independent sleep at 3.5 months with my son. We went from still waking every 2 hrs to him sleeping till 4am, feeding him at that time, then up for the day at 7am. We actually have gotten a couple days where he has slept fully through the night. I always rocked him to sleep so we put him to sleep by rocking his bassinet, then we moved to putting him down without rocking but still there in rhe room shushing him, now we put him down give him a kiss and leave the room. A good nap schedule and capping sleep really helped us. Also having a set nap/bedtime routine plus set bedtime has helped soooo much.
Sounds similar to the Mom on Call schedule. Loving this for you and baby!
Thanks for making the nap guide free! 🙏🏽
You're so welcome!
My daughter skipped the 4 month sleep regression and started sleeping through the night at 4.5 months and has slept through ever since. Before that she woke up to feed had a bottle and would go back to sleep right away in her bassinet. I was very lucky that way. Napping on the other hand was a nightmare until i figured it out when she was a year old that she needed a modified night time routine to go to sleep
4:30 This is what I had to learn in the first month with my baby. My husband was the one who taught me even... As a mom we tend to be overprotective and want to soothe our babies right away but we should give them the space to grow so they can rely on themselves also.
I've developed a night time routine for my baby so he's familiar with sleep time and begins to make a difference between night and day.
It goes like so:
At around 11pm (sometimes 10pm)
• Breastfeed
• Change diaper
• Body massage (simple)
• Change into pj's and prepare sleep sack on his bed already
• Breastfeed again
• Burp
• Put in bed in sleep sack
Sometimes it goes smoothly and he falls asleep but sometimes he needs extra help (lately he's been getting some gas). Give him the pacifier and make sure it stays bc when he drops it he wakes up.
It definitely depends on your baby's temperament. But you can work around that and see what works for you and what doesn't. Keep trying until eventually something sticks. Trial and error. Just don't do too much. Babies like stability. Routine. As adults do too. At least I do.
You got this!!
Thank you - this came at the perfect time. My daughter will be three months tomorrow and just started waking in the night when she used to sleep all the way through. I appreciate all the knowledge and advice you’ve shared!
No worries at all! I hope it helps!
This is what my 5 month old just started doing
Please make a video about teaching to fall asleep in the crib! I'm going to attempt to teach my little one but lots of informations on the internet seem vague to me and I'm scared i will fail because of lack of the right information (how to start, how to do it, how long each night, do I do it until he falls asleep or is there some sort of time limit on how much time you spend on trying to get your little one to sleep)
Yes, this! It all seems to be behind a paywall, the only free stuff is "Do a routine and put them in the crib awake" but nothing for after that when they immediately start crying for you.
I made a mistake with my son which was I read "drowsy but awake" and thought that meant eyes still open but starting to drift like adults do. Apparently that's too far, "drowsy" means tired but very much awake, so I just taught him to rock to sleep by accident.
Answer is here I think 2:44
How long should you pause, watch and listen? And how do you know when is the right time to wake them up?
This is really insightful. My two month old daughter is only starting to sleep 2-3 hours at a stretch during the night. Mostly she wakes up to nurse and is right back to sleep for another two hours. I will try some of the tricks you mentioned. Thanks you very much for insights. ❤
No worries. I hope they help!
Everything you say makes sense in theory, but reality seems to work a bit differently... Our baby has always fussed every 2-3 hours during his night sleep, especially in those colic days. At 5 months he suddenly started "practicing" his new skills in the middle of the night: first it was roll-overs, now it's crawling alla over the bed. These wake windows always last for over an hour...we never turn the lights on (not even a night light). If we pick him up immediately as he wakes up - he falls asleep right away. Tbh we don't want to train him to be rocked to sleep everytime, but also just listening to him rustle around for 1,5 hour at 4am is exhausting. What a dilemma!
We rocked him to sleep for the rest of his baby life. That is a dangerous road.
what you lived is EXACTLY what I am currently living with my baby ❤😂, is all things my midwife told me but I feel more confident now that YOU said it 😂❤ Thank you for being here for us
At 6.5 mths, my daughter (who slept so well all night) started waking up in the middle of the night..I eventually realized that she was waking up from hunger!! So, we started baby cereal before bed with formula also and that solved that issue!
I'm pregnant with my 2nd now and will need to try these. My daughter had a hard time sleeping...
Genius Emma!! Earphones and my phone. Thank you!!!
Hi Emma can you please make a video on TOG - what to where in what temperature..
Yes please! This topic has been so confusing and stressful for me.
My 4 month old is in this understood knowledge that as soon as he starts to stir, you can either go in and calm him and he might go back to sleep immediately. Or, i can ignore it and get an angry screaming baby for the next 2 hours.
I feel there's no win.
The first six months can be incredibly challenging, especially when it comes to sleep.
I do have a newborn to 6 month sleep course, called Peaceful Dreams, which might help you and your little one get more sleep. If you're interested this is the link to the course:brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
@@EmmaHubbard Thank you, I'll check it out!
In this video you mentioned not to rush whenever the baby starts to kick around or make crying sounds. But how long should we let them cry or get unhappy? I can understand that if he's not making any sounds that he's fine and I don't need to go in there, but once he starts crying, how long should I stay away from him?
@@RicardoReyes I don't know what her answer will be, but I figured out eventually to let myself go to the bathroom, wash my hands, pray for a moment, and then go in if the baby is still very upset. About 5 mins.
It all depends on the sounds he’s making. If his noises start getting louder and more intense, that’s usually a sign he needs you. However, if the sounds stay at the same volume, stop and start, or gradually get quieter, it’s best to just wait and watch.
Emma, your timing is impeccable, mother is showing fatigue pumping milk & feeding baby. I tend to baby feeding but she still has to pump. Keep up the good work.
Thanks so much for sharing!
Amazing video, thank you very much!
Glad you liked it!
So my baby is 7 months, he does fine napping in the day for the most part but wakes several times a night and this momma is tired
Thank you
You're welcome
This was a very informative video. Unique and helpful info. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you!!!
We use baby sleep music every night for us and baby, he did recently start waking up more but it’s because he stills falls asleep in my arms while feeding. Now I’ll work on putting him in the crib once he’s full feeding so he knows where he is!
My baby is almost 4 months old and I co sleep with him because every time I put him down to crib, he wakes up and cries .
I am so tired of doing this for many times and he still awakes. And when I put him by my side on my bed, he sleeps well.
Any suggestions how to switch him successfully to bed?
He wakes up every 2-3 hours for feeding at night.
And he is fussy at night and he is fighting to sleep even though he feels so sleepy .
I am a first time Mom and gets exhausted
Does all this apply if your baby was preemie or do I need to adjust the months based on how early she was?
My daughter is about to turn 2. She was a terrible sleeper as a new born. Super colicky and nothing seemed to help. Around 10 months, did some sleep training and she has slept through the night ever since. Here I am with our second (he’s 2 days old) in the middle of the night, watching videos, trying to get ahead of it this time lol.
My son at 3m went from waking up every hour to sleeping every 2.5-3 hours at 4m so I’m thankful where I’m at now
You would be feeling a lot better now that you're getting more blocks of consistent sleep.
Hi Emma! When should you start allowing a baby to fall asleep in their crib/bassinet without rocking or holding them to sleep? My daughter is 5 weeks now and we haven't been doing this yet. Thanks!!! :)
You can start this process now, but it’s important to be there and respond to your baby’s cues in the moment so that you’re supporting her as she learns to fall asleep on her own. This will help her feel secure while gradually getting used to falling asleep without being held or rocked.
This is something I teach and demonstrate with our daughter in my course Peaceful Dreams. If you’re interested, here’s the link to the course: course:brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
Too young! Try baby wearing if you need your hands free.
Look up the 4th trimester.
After 3 months would be more appropriate to try
Putting her down independently.
I think I ruined my almost 6 month old by holding her for every nap and co-sleeping at night. It was never my intention to do this but she was just so difficult and now I’m not sure I can undo it. I’m afraid I’m going to ruin my marriage though because baby and I sleep in the guest room so as to not wake up my husband.
I don't think you can ruin your baby by giving too much love... Every baby is different. Some are good sleepers and others difficult. There are cases of twins and one is a very easy sleeper and the other needs to be with a parent all the time. It shows that how your baby sleeps is not your shortcoming or merit. It's how the baby is wired, temperament and genetics. Our daughter of 6 months is also a difficult sleeper, but we see it as an opportunity to create such a strong bond. At night she sleeps with me and my husband. During the day, she's often in the carrier or sling. I feel this is how it's supposed to be (this is what my instinct tells me). We expect babies to sleep like adults... Every baby will learn to sleep independently at a point. Our daughter is starting to sleep independent naps during the day at the moment(6 months 3 weeks). I always rocked or fed her to sleep. But I felt her change and suddenly it was there, the independent nap! Not all the time and sometimes she still cries or wants to sleep on me (don't have to rock anymore though). It takes time, patience and watching your baby closely.
And it's not my place to say something about your marriage, but you should talk to your husband if you feel this way. Probably he does not feel like the marriage is ruined at all and if he does... why should it be that he's entitled to his night sleep and you are not? You have a baby together, right?
Sorry for the long response... I felt the insecurity in your reply that I feel too at times. But started to read alternative approaches and research. Learned there are different ways and that you will not ruin your baby by tending to their needs!
Same here! Except for husband sleeps on air mattress and for the first 7 months he was sleeping on the couch but now he has back problems. It’s been 8 months and I have yet to be able to get a full nights rest . It’s exhausting. She just wants to use my boob as her comfort binky all night and cries if I don’t give it to her.
@@ingriddeboer2517Thank you for the wonderful response! I still haven’t gotten to a point where my baby can be away from me for naps or sleep, but I also haven’t really tried since I’m so sure that it won’t work.
As far as my husband goes- I’m a stay at home mom and he works a highly stressful job for long hours (and is responsible for taking the dog out in the early morning) so it’s only fair that I’m the one up with baby at night. It’s what works for us!
@@Talania12This is exactly what my daughter does and she just turned 9 months. I was hopeful that solids would make her less dependent on the boob but it hasn’t.
Don’t get me wrong, I love the bond, but I also would like to sleep by myself and with my husband occasionally!
I don't think sleeping in seperate rooms should be enough to ruin an entire marriage.
Thank you for providing the most accurate content to a baby owner's manual… mother has been pumping steadily for 3 months now, brand new garage freezer is full of milk pouches, my point is she’s experiencing fatigue from constantly pumping and tending to baby. She didn’t let me help me much before but now she asks I take baby ( 2 month early preemie) from 4 am to noon. She has fallen asleep with while pumping, Pumping is draining her, literally. Shes on vitamins now to supplement her. Shes not bionic woman but trying to be!
This might be a dumb question, but how do you know if/when a baby is going to wake up but go back to sleep in the night? I have a good sense of active sleep vs awake, but when he wakes up in the night I go feed him to try to get ahead of him crying. Do I wait till he’s actively crying?
Mine is an active sleeper. But when she is hungry, she is getting super fuzzy, throwing her head from side to side. Then I know I have to feed her quick, otherwise I have a wake and crying baby
I'm a little confused. Do we not feed them in the middle of the night at 5 months if they're hungry? He wakes every 3 hours just to feed and goes right back to bed after.
Many babies at this age still need nighttime feeds, so it’s important to respond to their hunger cues. If your baby is waking up hungry, definitely go ahead and feed them.
As your baby gets older, you should start to notice longer stretches of sleep at the beginning of the night before he wakes for that first feed. This is a natural progression as they grow and their sleep patterns develop. However, if this doesn’t happen and your baby continues to wake every 3 hours, it’s possible that he may be waking this often because he needs your help to link his sleep cycles.
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Being a first time mom is hard. I really love the book Precious Little Sleep.
Hi Emma, we are quite desperate after 18 months of terrible sleep our toddler now only want his mum to put him to bed etc but won’t actually sleep and just messes around which is causing us to reach our limit…. Do you have any advice please?
FYI - we’ve had a routine since about 6 months old
On the same boat here... My little fella (14 months) only wants mun to put him to bed, and up until he was 12 months (pre walking) was able to sleep in his own crib after some soothing and patting/light massage/belly rub. (Waking 2-3 times a night)
Now he only wants to hop around , and mess.. and wants his mum to get him to sleep... (Big mistake) On OUR bed. The room is pitch black, we are both head down on pillow and not saying a word except.. shhhhh, sleepy time. Tried putting his head down, he turns and stands up. Probably thinking it's a game of "I get knocked down, I get up again, ya never Gona keep me down" (FML)
Move him to the crib, he wakes up. And goes mental. There still is a night feed of toddler milk 🍼 (200ml) at about 3am every night. Previously it was dry skin/eczema problems. We've gone past it and skin is mostly fine
Different problem, different day. We've Aged 10 years within 1 year is what I tell my children less friends 😅
My family tells me they made that mistake with their first born where he slept on their bed until 3 or 4...
My first slept so great right from the start. Now I'm on my second and dealing with just this .... Have to have my husband keep reminding me, She's okay let her settle... 😂... I'm slowly getting there
I breastfeed my 7 months old Baby and I do co-sleeping. He used to wake up by 3 times from 7pm yo 5 pm but since one week it is a lot more. But I think it ist just a fase. I read aboout they are getting more clingy at night when they are about 8 months because they are more aware of all that surrounds them and so they tend to be overstimulated and so they need more comfort. I think it is important to listen to helpful advices like that as well as listen to your instincts. Even if I admit that this is so hard as a first time mom with a lot of insecurities and worries.
I do that phone hack already for night feeds 😊
I wish I knew how to apply this with twins…😅
I was hoping this would help but I’m kind of trying all these tactics already. My baby used to sleep through the night, at 5 months now she’s not sleeping well at all. I nurse her to sleep but unlatch her and move her away a bit so she falls asleep on her own. During naps I rock her in my arms until drowsy and then pat her to sleep in her crib. I don’t turn on the tv or rush in too fast. What else could I be missing?! 😅 🫠
What about the baby projector lights? I have a red light that shines stars on the walls and ceilings. Does this need to be turned off at night?
My 4months baby, spits up when she wakes and I don't lift her quickly..I am wondering when the spit ups will stop. And how do I help her.
I tried this just now for a nap with my 3 month old… his wakings have been getting a bit worse the last few weeks. It took 20 minutes, but shushing over him and the automatic bounce of our Cradlewise got him to sleep. (We plan to put him in a regular crib once he’s 4 months old).
I suppose I shouldn’t necessarily expect this to work to extend naps due to his age? Will try this at bedtime too. The picking up and putting down trial and error of rocking and nursing to sleep is so much! Thanks!
That's great it worked for your little one.
Unfortunately, at this age it is normal to to have short naps (AKA catnaps) during the day. Generally, they can start to link sleep cycles and extend their naps around 5 - 6 months of age. But it helps if they know how to fall asleep in their crib or sleep space.
@EmmaHubbard
Congratulations that it went better with your second and third child!
But how did you continue with your first child? You already had a "bad" rhythm, how did you change it?
My daughter is 2 years now and still wakes up like every 3 hours. If she doesn't feel or see me rightaway she starts shaking and crying. Has been like that for a long time. Sometimes she falls back asleep by herself, but she still needs me a lot of times.
So I would agree, that some babies/toddlers simply need more help in the night than others!
Hi Emma, thank you for sharing .. I was wondering if you had any advice on how to help baby sleep through the night or what you did with your first. My LO is almost one and still wakes multiple times. Im guilty of always rocking and singing or nursing her to sleep and I am at a loss with how to teach her that she can fall asleep without all of that. She wont even fall asleep in the car seat when we are out for too long no matter how tired she is she will just cry and cry and cry
My baby sleeps next to me and likes skin contact. One month old and hates being away while sleeping.
Should I practice him sleeping separately?
I feel like I've just gotten into a bad habit my son is 13 month and I've been far too attentive, and now I'm struggling to sleep train him
My 1 st child slept all the way through the night at 2weeks it was a dream. Then my 2nd child came and didn't sleep through the night until around 2 years. So with my 3 -7 i did the CIO and had a lot of sucess. The number 1 thing moms need to know is that you dont have to run it is ok if they cry i promise.
I also did cluster feeding the 3 hour block before sleep so they were full. I stopped night feedings around 3 mths . I pumped every 3 hours through the night. It might not work for every but it did for me. I also did skin to skin contact naps often until they were 6-9 mths.
What age is good to start this?
So my little one is about to hit the 4 month mark, and he's starting to go through that type of regression. We are blessed that we can place him down in the crib and put a pacifier, and tap him to sleep. But he's beginning to wake up anytime he drops it. How can we transition him from needing the pacifier and teach him to sleep by only gently tapping him while he's lying in the crib?
Is it possible to put my 7 month old baby to sleep without rocking, me and my girlfriend had always rocked him to sleep since he was newborn. I’m not sure what to do now because he’s so used to us putting him to sleep.
Does this work on a 8 week old colicky baby??? That’s what I’m dealing with now. My son can’t seem to sleep on his own. He will cry and cry if I don’t carry him and put him to sleep. Please help
Hi! I have a 1 year and 1 month old baby. He is still waking up very often at night, but the most concerning thing is that he is putting everything in his mouth and chewing them. It seems rather compulsive than because of teething or something. Are we doing something wrong? Our pediatrician said he is frustrated or stressed because we are overstimulating him. Any advice on this? Thanks!
hello Emma, my LO 8 months now, started circling with her feets around 7 months. is this normal behavior? Also she keeps closing and opening her palms
How do you see if you need to feed your baby or doing a diaper change when you keep the room dark?
White noise machine with a light
at what age do you try to get them to sleep through the night?
My baby was amazing at falling asleep by himself in his crib a few weeks ago, however, as we approach 3 moths age, he started going crazy when we put him down in his bed and starts to kick and squirm.. We can only sooth him by holding him 😕
What do I do if I have a baby with reflux and have to hold her upright for 30 min after each feed? She falls asleep at bedtime/in the night in my arms because we have to sit up for so long. She only has one nighttime waking right now. But I feel like she's used to be held to go to sleep because we can't put her down immediately.
Hi is it okay for my 3months old baby to sleep on the side . He feels comfortable sleeping on the side.
Our baby would sleep through the night as well from 6 weeks onward and then at 3,5 months she changed to waking up some times a night. We didn't change anything. She falls asleep by herself many nights, I never rock her to sleep. Sometimes she wakes up and the pacifyer makes her sleep again immediately and sometimes she doesn't stop crying and I give he some milk (breast) and she drink 2 to 3 minutes and goes back to sleep immediately. She is a great sleeper, just crying out 3 to 4 times in her night sleep, but she doesn't really wake up. She sleeps from 8pm to 6 or 7 am.
How long to pause and watch for?
I wish I knew this earlier, my 22 month old (almost 2 years) cant fall asleep on his own, only went feeding or rocking or when extremely tired. Please, how do I fix this? How do I teach a toddler to fall asleep when he needs to and stop resisting sleep.
Having a consistent bedtime routine helps. Basically doing the same thing with them every night to prepare them to shift into bedtime mode. So our kid has a bath, then we get him dressed in his pjs, he gets his teeth brushed, then we read a few stories to him, sing him a lullaby and then say good night. You will have to do some sleep-training, which means letting him cry a bit, but you can approach that in a way that you feel comfortable with as a parent. So we let our son cry for five minutes, go in to reassure, then 10 minutes and then sometimes fifteen. But I also trusted my gut and if his cry sounds really distressed I would go in sooner. There’s different methods for sleep training, not just the one I talked about, so do some reading and also trust your gut and do what feels right.
To add to the responded comment,I noticed that sometimes they are clingy before bed because they really need some parental connection. I went through a long faze during that age of playing hide and seek before bed with my son. My husband or I would be a sort of monster that sought him and mom or dad out in the dark lol. He loved it. We would turn all the lights off, I would hide, and him and his dad would seek me out with a flash light. I always made time for that or a tickle fight. They really want connection before bed, and they are more willing to go to sleep when they have it.
@@Emily_Ursuliak we try to maintain a routine, but he resists because he knows its time for sleep and he wants to stay awake, we press through every time but i just wish it was easier 🤦♀️
@@essypach6409 it gets easier with that first baby once that nap goes away. I hope you find a way to make it easier before then!! One random thing I did with my daughter when she was a toddler was that she and I worked together to make a pillow that was special for her in her bed. Then I could say, "first we brush teeth, then you can lay on the pillow you made."
Usually I stay quiet and hope he’ll go back to sleep when my baby wakes up at night. But if after making some noises and little whines he starts bawling and screaming I know I have to drag myself out of bed. 😂
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My baby has never slept through and is now 4 months. When he wakes up he always wants a short feed. I cannot really let him complain on his own otherwise he rolls on his tummy in a dramatic desperate fashion eating his hands or scratches all of his face. Can it be because he’s hungry for real or just comfort?
If I tend to him immediately he doesn’t fully wake and falls asleep straight after the short feed
Can it be I have supply issues? (i need to supplement with formula in the evening, but I always give him as much as he wants)
Try getting him back asleep in the crib would be my advice. Using least intervention first. Like increase sound machine. Then touch. Then soother, then rock or vibrate them and pick them up and cuddle in need be. And feeding them last. This is from an expensive sleep program I got from someone. “Taking Cara babies”. The idea is to stretch there feed window 5-10 minutes every night. So that every week you are gaining around an hour more of sleep in there feed window.
I also suffer from supply issues and supplemented in the evening. I gave a large bottle and breast feed before bed and I had a baby that slept the night.
I am struggling with the one cycle naps and putting baby down awake
Yeah that’s all well and good but some babies are just not good sleepers. We tried everything. And I mean everything.
Trying everything can also be a problem though. Because that means no consistency, you didn't push through either method. Consistency is KEY. Everytime baby gets different and new reactions. Of course that can possibly effect them badly.
@@Nana_niko that’s an assumption because yes we pushed through with stretches of one thing at a time. I’m a scientist I understand controls and hypotheses. Like I said, some babies are just not good sleepers but kudos if any of these work for you. Just encouragement for others who may be in the same boat as me.
Same here. There was time I wish my baby was waking every 2h at night. He was waking up 8 times every night and slept for maximum 30 min at a time during the day. There was no chance he would fall back to sleep on his own or would fall asleep in his crib. So yeah I think some babies are just bad sleepers and none of the common tips work.
Same here. I'm currently in a "please sleep more than 20 minutes" phase right now. I tried everything (trialed for 2 weeks each time). So far, the only things that are working are acceptance, time, and lots of coffee
@@rachelrak4502 hang in there mama ❤️
Aaw, that baby looks like a mini you! :D
Thanks!
first sentence of the video confuses me so much, 6 weeks old sleeping for 9 hours straight with no feeds?? am i hearing this right?
Emma please can you also make some videos about older babies? Like 12 months and above... It would be very helpful... I'm kind of desperate with my daughter. Round 7 months she stopped breastfeeding to sleep and was almost sleeping through the night. Then at 12 months she started needing the breast again... Now she's 14 months and still wakes up continuously... I wonder what I'm doing wrong... She still has a long nap in the morning and in the afternoon, could that be the reason?
By 14 months, my oldest went down to one nap a day. He slept like the dead when I made the change. You could try going to one nap. It could be that she just doesn't need two anymore.
@@abigailloar956 yeah I was thinking the same... I'll try... Thank you!!
How many hours wake windows did u leave for baby ? As my 14months baby gets 2naps n still wakes up in the night for breast milk . The most I leave my son to be awake after nap is 3hrs mostly if not 4or 5hrs when we r outside
@@kanxiale1526 it's usually max 4 hours, but now she's started stay more awake during the afternoon and it's difficult to make her sleep on the afternoon. I'm wondering if she's about to skip this nap...
@kanxiale1526 14 month olds do not need to eat at night anymore. In fact my they don't need to eat at night anymore by 6 months. I commend anyone for voluntarily feeding a one year old in the middle of the night because by 6 months, I'm over that. My son was sleeping 7pm-7am straight through at 14 months with a 2-3 hour nap at noon
This just happened to us last night. Our 21 month old got up at 4 and went back to sleep at 6. And when he woke up, we went to his room to soothe him and hoping we would get back to sleep. But that wasn't the case. Should we have waited 5-10 mins and see if he went back to sleep? Is that time good enough?
2-year-olds are waaaay different than a 3 month old.
My baby 7months wakes up every 1 / 2 hours every night !
My little is 9.5m and I've tried and tried again. He also climbs up and I can be in there for hours laying his back down trying to pat him to sleep :( Even after a 10-20m feed
My baby went from sleeping through the night at 6 weeks to waking up every 30 minutes to 2 hours by 4 months. I recently got her back to sleeping on average 3.5 hours at a time. We’re still working on it.
at what baby age does melatonin come into play?
lol I found this video while feeding my baby at night
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Dang, how I wish this video was made a year ago, when I had a newborn 😢 I made all of these mistakes and eventually resorted to cosleeping , now at 14 months my daughter still wakes up several times a night and needs my boob to fall back asleep 😭 I’m dreaming of a full night sleep but afraid we won’t get there until we drop the boob 😢
we feed to make him sleep. of we change that how could we no his in ton hungry?
Nun, ich habe mein Baby nicht auf dem Arm einschlafen lassen, sondern für den Nacht- und Mittagsschlaf ins Bett gelegt. Ich habe es wie Emma gemacht.
Nicht anfassen, wenn es leicht unruhig wird, das würde auch mich stören, wenn ich im Schlaf unruhig werde.
Das Schlafhormon Melatonin wird erst ab dem 6. Monat gebildet. Vorher schlafen die Babies aus Überlebensgründen ganz oberflächlich, das ist normal.
ALSO: Eltern stören den Schlaf ihres Kindes durch zu viel Manipulationen und zusätzliche Unruhe.
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Not sleeping right next to your child at this age is completely unnatural. We would have never of left them alone historically.
Hi Emma, my baby is 9 months old and has been waking twice (ish) a night which has been just fine for my family. Now however we are traveling and staying at my parents for a couple weeks and she has been waking up so often, even standing at the crib and crying. Any advice for me?
I wonder if the change in environment is throwing her off. Maybe try a routine while you are away and that could help get her to sleep longer.
9 month olds don't need to eat at night at all and can get all of their calories during the day. I recommend weaning night feeds and making sure they are getting enough nourishment during the day. I would sleep train too, but that's just me. My 5 month old only eats once at night, and by 6 months, I will wean him of his night feed.
Hi all, my little boy 2y6m still go to bed only with an adult laying with him.. it takes almost 1h everyday.. he was Always a Bad sleeper and UP to 2y old learned to sleep only by moms breast..but right now we have a little girl and it becomes really too hard too keep up even if we love hugs 😂
Any Idea or just wait he gets older ?
Thanks for your vidéos !
sorry but from all vids I see around it seems like babies would sleep in a separate room even at 3 months age... not only from this one, there's plenty on utube... isn't that dangerous?
Hi! Just to clarify, I'm not recommending babies sleep in a separate room at 3 months of age in this video. I don't recommend that at all. My baby slept in the same room as us until she was 11 months old. She slept in that room for naps and overnight. She went to bed earlier than us though so I would use to monitor to check on her at night and during daytime naps.
The recommendation from the American Academy of Pediatrics and Red Nose Australia is to room share for at least the first 6 months (up to 12 months).
@EmmaHubbard thank you for clarifying that!
What if you missed this and now you are 19 months along and still rocking her to sleep 😅😂❤
You teach them or help them learn how to fall asleep by themselves... There is no other way... I mean or wait until they are 5 year old.
@@sakkki87 ❤️
My baby wont sleep in crib, we all sleep in same bed
6 weeks old baby sleeping through the night is wild. Aren't you supposed to wake them up to feed every 2 to 3 hrs?
Usually you only wake them at that point if they haven’t reached back to their birth weight
We were told to stop waking him for feeds at 2 weeks because he had reached his weight at birth
If the bub is gaining weight, weeing often and their poops are not like pellets, then it’s okay to follow their lead and feed them when they wake up overnight. So if they start sleeping through then that’s okay. Also the other thing to consider is if you’re breastfeeding. If sleeping through affects your milk supply then you might need to pump overnight or wake your little one up to feed them.
My issue is that I can't get his burps out and he wakes up because of a burp 😢
Does it work for breastfeeding? There's association between sleep and feeding
I made the mistake of waking my daughter when it was bath time. Bad decision, cranky baby.
I may not bear my baby's crying
My 6 month old cries herself to sleep EVERY NIGHT because Ive just started putting her in her bed to sleep at night. I know I waited too long to begin. She wakes up at 4am for a diaper change & the process starts over. Any suggestions?
My silly MIL would wake her baby to change him when he was asleep!
"My baby wakes up every 2hrs at night"
Other pediatricians: "she'll be okay."
Yeah, but I won't...😢
Thank you did this advice!! ❤
It can be utterly exhausting. Hopefully this video helps just a little. ❤️
Instead of a dedicated white noise machine, I reccomend a yoto player, lots of volume controls, free white noise and amazing for language development when they are a bit older, my 5yo falls asleep listening to a nonfiction book every night and lives it!!
But in Asian countries especially in India it's completely different, we co-sleep with our kids well into 5 + years. No wonder mental illness/ gun violence is more in USA than Asian countries. The child needs touch and cuddles from their mother. This is completely denied at the infant stage itself. Even my pediatrician advised the same cr@! to me but I didn't follow it. This creates insecurity, fear at an early stage and in the US children are not as close to their parents as you can see in Asian countries. Think for a few seconds how will you feel locked up in a room with lights turned off, strapped in a bed and doors closed not knowing if someone will to their resuce when in need. Overall I feel just because women need to go to work (to encourage the work culture) the next morning they devise such techniques and proudly say the child is sleep trained but in the end the baby is tortured.
I want to be very clear here. There is absolutely no evidence to support a link between co-sleeping and mental health and/or gun violence. Or violence of any kind. To suggest that mental illness and gun violence are higher in any given country due to a smaller percentage of the population choosing to co-sleep with their baby is absolutely unfounded, and based on no evidence at all.
Likewise - not co-sleeping "creating insecurity and fear at an early stage". There is no evidence to support this statement.
I believe we should all respect cultural differences. That respect should be universal. Making broad, unfounded claims like these is not helpful to anyone. Being judgemental of how a particular country/culture does something that is different to yours isn't welcome on this channel.
@@EmmaHubbard just for your fyi , Indian population is 4 times the US and not a small %,. The US has a very small % of the population compared to India. China is the most populated country in the world. It's very easy to say in one line there's no evidence but there's evidence right in front of us when we see things happen everyday when a large % of the population are doing it in a different way. I feel if you do more research on this there's definitely connection on our childhood and how we grow up into an adult. That's what every research says. I definitely respect other cultures and ethnicity. There's always good and bad in every culture, maybe this is an opportunity to expand and learn the science behind how people in different cultures and countries make their babies sleep.
I stand by exactly what I said. Your comment was disrespectful, and the claims you've made are completely false. Linking mental illness and gun violence to co-sleeping rates has absolutely no scientific basis. If you believe it does, please share the research and studies to prove otherwise.
@@EmmaHubbard ok, I have nothing more to say, I have seen both sides of the world and have wider exposure than you of different countries. It's not my responsibility to provide the research papers to someone who is first and foremost not open minded to other cultural ways. If you would like to grow professionally please search for it yourself. I was only trying to say there are other ways followed in other countries. That was my point. There is nothing to be disrespectful about. Best of luck in your career. Thank you.
omg what did i just read 😮so uneducated and biased
Her room..? But babies are not supposed to sleep alone in the room before they are at least 1.5 years old 😮
Hi!
The recommendation from the American Academy of Pediatrics and Red Nose Australia is to room share for at least the first 6 months (up to 12 months). Room sharing until they are 1.5 years old isn’t something I have heard of. Are you able to share the source of where you read or heard this from?
Also just to clarify she did sleep in the same room as us until she was 11 months old. She slept in that room for naps and overnight. She went to bed earlier than us though so I would use to monitor to check on her at night and during daytime naps.