Thanks everybody for watching! This is a slightly different podcast from me this week, its more personal and raw than usual. Please let me know your thoughts and lets see if we can get to 400 likes on this one! Don't forget to subscribe All topics I discuss below: 0:00 Intro 02:01 Means to an end syndrome / why I lose my gym motivation. 11:31 Journey back to human 23:13 Humans have no idea what they actually want... 39:51 Hardest thing to do in life: Avoiding good opportunities so you have time to devote to great opportunities. 43:16 Marriage, monogamy and me. 49:15 Fitting in is a curse
Thanks for sharing, just getting a chance to watch more and this is awesome and love the rawness absolutely vital in a social media world. We all need truth and rawness to help us feel less shit about ourselves. Love it
i haven't seen a successful person this kind and openly offering tips without withholding. he talks so fast meaning he isnt faking or making up stories.
We have gotten so far away from being human that man had forgotten who is and who he is not I miss being human and connected. I hate AI and I hate what it is doing to life itself
You'll see mate it's not really your choice if you want to marry or not when the girl you love starts hinting at and crying on for months on end (because her friends around her are getting married and shes not, the domino affect) then you'll eventually buckle one day like 80% of all men do then it's on!..... Fast forward 5 years Da fuck did I do that for! 😳 we were happy before the marriage 🤔
I resonate with this. I always felt like I NEVER fit in and I can be a loner at times because of it. I’m about to turn 34 and I get questioned why I’m not married yet, why I haven’t “settled” with a steady career or a homeowner like others expected for my age. After a couple of years, I get bored. I’m like an electron that bounces and cannot be pinned down. I’ve gotten shamed by family, (former) friends, even a therapist for not living up to society’s standards for my age. I hate to admit that I’ve developed some social anxiety because of it and only have 1 friend. During this pandemic, I’ve finally realized I was never meant to fit in and it’s what keeps me breathing and alive - I will continue to be that “outcast”. Your words made me feel validated and valuable.
Wow EA. You are right. I haven't looked at this vid yet but yoru few words of "I finally realized I was never meant to fit in...." has just landed like a tonne of bricks on me; but has released me at the same time. I have a smile pun ma face - smile. What a relief. I was never meant to fit in. HOw glorious are those words. Really. Thanks again.
You could save up some £ and spend some time abroad. Living abroad or even just visiting for a while helps you to re-evaluate and find yourself and bonus: you're exposed to a new environment so you won't have to bump into anyone you know. Things will get better for you keep your head up, enjoy life in the present moment and put God first place. You are valued 🌟
@@michaelsilverfoote6272 can relate to a lot of what you’ve said brother. I’m 34 and more or less in the same boat with regards to career, finance, friendships, depression/anxiety. Go from caring a great deal one day to being completely numb the next. One day I’m at peace with who and where I am, the next, far from it. Don’t know if I’m mentally stronger than I’ve ever been or if I’m completely numb. One thing that comforts me sometimes, I remind myself this is everyone’s first time here (Earth). Nobody has done this sh*t before. Whatever happens, we must go easy on ourselves. By all means be self-critical, but it has to be healthy, too. All the best to you brother, we’ve got today, and for that we are blessed 🤞🏻
Steve, I can’t stress enough how you opened my eyes today… I literally understood why I was going hard at work every single day for the last almost 4 years, without knowing why I do this to myself. Why? Well, now I understood why, I was preparing for a moment that I am going to trigger very soon! I’m so excited about and I promise that I will share what happened in this thread! Thank you so so much!
I agree. AND...Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
One of the best podcasts I've heard on the current state humanity and why depression and anxiety are increasing at alarming rates. This year was a big wake up call for a lot of people to live authentically as themselves. Not chase other people's goals and hopefully assessing or reassessing their lives.
I’m an employee, not an entrepreneur and I love these conversations. But I really paid attention today when you expressed the identical feelings I have toward marriage. Almost verbatim. I always say that nothing says I love you like a legally binding contract. So glad someone else shares my view. Thank you!
Really good podcast Steven! The biggest problem we have as you touched on is people are doing stuff to impress other people all the time rather than doing stuff to please themselves and makes themselves happy! A major example of this is when people buy stupid shit with money they haven’t got (big debt for cars/houses etc) to impress people they don’t really care about. It’s all rather insane when you think about it. People are more focused on giving off a portrayal of happiness rather than actually being happy in reality.
Steven iS A GREAT salesman. End of. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
Imagine for a moment there is this ravenous thirst inside of you. A thirst that gradually originated from realizing that a lot of what we are taught through systems such as schools, universities, religion, and society is flawed. A thirst that grows on a daily basis as we are flooded with messages that are loaded with stigmas and agendas. The irony of being thirsty in a flood... Watching your podcasts feels like I'm dipping my cup into a well of truth and drinking water that is slowly but surely quenching this burning thirst. Thank you Steven.
Thank you! Last point definitely struck a chord, one of the biggest challenges I've faced as an adult has been forgetting what I was taught growing up to be 'right' or 'normal'. It's no wonder so many of us struggle with identity. Unlearning is the new learning!
I stumbled across this video, never watched you before or heard of you, however every single point you made is exactly what's going on in my head. I'm struggling at the moment, actually I have been for a long time, but you have helped me to compartmentalise my feelings and given clarity. I'm now a follower, thank you 😊
So glad I went back to watch these older uploads. So many good points in this. And you’re not confirming you know all the answers, you’re opening a dialogue and asking for critical thinking. I completely agree with the marriage thoughts, it’s rooted in patriarchy as religion…
Last weeks podcast was hands down the most informative and life changing podcast I’ve listened to. Scary how much this podcast is beginning to mean to me, feel like I know you so well at this point. Thanks for being you !
I'm quite glad I found this. I actually have been thinking along the same lines for a number of these topics that you covered. A lot of my thoughts are guided by questioning the "normality" around us, and this year, in particular, has really given me a better perspective of my own privileges and the amount of good luck I've had in life so far. I'm currently questioning everything from marriage to the concept of owning a house, and I didn't realise how radical these thoughts were until I mentioned it to my family - all of which are into traditional goals and starting a family. It's good to know where there are more people that keep questioning deeper. Thanks, Steven!
I agree! I agree. AND Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
Jesus!!! This is so good! Thank you! The way you speak about things are raw, clear and has a tone of no bullshit! Love it, looking forward to listening to the rest!
I don't comment on videos often, but I felt I have to. I've been following you for a couple of years now and seen your growth, and you seem to have reached new levels of self-awareness, which is something that I think you should be super excited about. You seem to definitely be on the right path, so even though you don't know me, I am honestly damn proud of you man. Don't stop.
Absolutely loved this Steven, thank you. The way you articulate everything really unlocks things for me and gives a lot of clarity when I apply it to myself.
This applies to 80% of the population that are extroverts. Introverts, like me, absolutely loved NOT working with coworkers and going into the office; however, I am more depressed and anxious because the job is absolutely purposeless and I’m 4 years away from retiring. It’s a paradox really.
I think, and this is besides the content of the podcasts, which is insightful and gives so much every time, that there is a lot of courage for moving to a UA-cam format: you have to be delivering every second not only with your voice like you did before, but also keeping people watching and using good body language to express.
Thank you Steve for another great show. The point that stood out for me from this week's episode is the part that spoke to trying to fit in. I can speak with certainty that trying to fit or conforming to society is like slavery because you don't have the freedom to be just who you are meant to be . You're constantly worrying about what others think , you're constantly trying to please everyone except yourself. This breeds more mental health issues, sadness, lowered self-esteem... Etc One of the reasons I like your podcast so much is the simple fact that you are as real as they come. No pretense or putting on . You are just raw, vulnerable, open and unapologetically you. That my friend resonate with me. Authenticity
The purpose problem. Christ, life changing stuff that! I had this realisation recently that everything I am doing in business is extrinsic and that’s why I’ve felt burnt out and detached from the meaning behind my work. Shifting focus towards purpose first is a game changer 🙏 Thanks Steve, best podcast I’ve ever listened to.
Wow, I can't believe the view count is so low for this episode. This guy is super easy to listen to and is clearly very clever. We can all learn something from him. 👍🏼
How smart and conscious such a young man can be! It is a gift to him and everyone around him 🎉 That is very pleasant to listen him and enjoy his calmness and the same time also motivation ❤
In engineering, we use the '5 why' method to find out why something isn't working, etc. It is something that also works in real life, which sounds like what you have done here. Love the podcasts. They're always so real and interesting 😃
Amazing thoughts as always, Steven! As for the marriage and monogamy issue, I completely agree with you. Even before you started to talk about it, I paused the video for a while and thought about it to analyze my own point of view on this topic, and after listening, my opinion was the same as yours. Keep going on these open and honest podcast series, it's wonderful and helpful to think about our own lives from a little bit different perspective than everybody is telling us! :))
I agree! AND Steven is a GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell his stuff.
Honestly the most raw and authentic podcast I’ve listened to. The marriage point is definitely something I agree with but do I agree only because my parents marriage was a nightmare... who knows. Loving it Steve!
I have to be honest this is the first comment ive ever left on a youtube video but this episode really stood out to me & has challenged my thoughts in a really positive way. There's a lot I could relate too but almost wasn't aware of it, its encouraged me to go & purposely spend some time connecting with some people this month to have a no end goal conversation
Steve I hear you about the marriage thing. I've been thinking this for a long time but I didn't even know how to navigate those thoughts let alone put it into words. So thank you!
Quite a few thought provoking points.. I elected to be unemployed from my role this year and am getting back slowly to doing what makes me intrinsically happy. I don't want to work alone, but I can't work with a team that doesn't have the same purpose as me.. well done Sir on voicing this issue 💕
I found out about your podcast almost 2 weeks ago via LinkedIn and I love it. Even though I don’t agree with every point you or your guests make, it’s so interesting to hear them. When I listened to you the first time I thought to myself ‘I love how he asks all this questions and puts in some of his own content, but still let’s his guest narrate most of the interview and find their own way!’ So I decided I want to listen to one episode a day until I caught up, but what I realised pretty fast was that I couldn’t. Your podcasts have so much content, that I personally take at least 2 days to process and to adjust the things you said to my life, that I sometimes have to listen to it again because I forgot what you were talking about in the second half of it. It’s fantastic! Keep on sharing your thoughts with us 👏🏼
Another thought provoking episode. Very particular with what podcasts I find interesting enough to sustain my intention, and this definitely meets the cut. Very reassuring to hear these messages about being the best version of you, especially from someone so successful
In small groups, everyone helps to fix problems together, which makes people feel useful and connected. But in today’s world, many solutions are already made for us, and that can make us feel less involved and less satisfied.. Problem-Solving Instincts... is gone , ( more phycologies problems) but we continue make our life more complicated , kids, pets, more difficult job , more and more ..more business more complicated.. never ends because that is how we are facing survival challenges that required complex thinking and innovative solutions. This natural inclination to address problems can lead us to create new challenges when old ones are resolved or absent.
Thanks Steve for all your podcasts, they make my life so much better. I grew up with a schizophrenic mother and a very anxious father( they still locked up patients in asylums in the 60s + 70s) .I was my mums carer, when at school I worried about her, when I was at home I worried about school. At 15 I started drinking . I knew that alcohol gave me relief
I agree! Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
Hiya! I'm only 18 and getting ready to go to uni and the topics you touch on are crazy especially the one about exercise and always being yourself and how hard it can be. I actually didn't think I could listen to all of it and I did which is pretty cool.
I agree! AND Steven is a GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell his stuff.
Such a powerful eyeopening podcast, you are a very wise, self educated person Steven. Truly admire your openness and genuineness on sharing this valuable, helpful information. 🙏👏👏
I agree. AND...Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
I am loving how you are going deeper into the rabbit hole on your self-awareness journey. Absolutely love the real and raw truths. Exactly the conversations I love having. Loving the way you are so open to talking about it now. Absolutely, being ourselves is the journey of life. Rediscovering and being who we are, not who others want us to be.👏
Loved this and have an actual love for you! You are the best I have seen at interviewing! And your words resonate with me on so many levels. Can’t believe I have only just found you! But I believe that’s because I was meant to find you now. Super excited for 2023 you have helped me towards feeling that way as my thoughts now make so much more sense to me. Thank you for being you. x
I agree! AND Steven is a GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell his stuff.
Really enjoyed listening to this Steve 🤠 I've personally just come out of a cycle of negative behaviour, valium, that started in early 2020 and this was just what I needed to hear.
I found your comparison between buying a TV with the knowledge that 50% don’t work, and monogamous relationships/marriage really interesting… According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS)… “Data from the BLS shows that approximately 20% of new businesses fail during the first two years of being open, 45% during the first five years, and 65% during the first 10 years. Only 25% of new businesses make it to 15 years or more.” We also know that most businesses fail. But I’d imagine your opinions on starting a business (let alone starting a business without contracts) are very different than starting monogamous relationships, and also committing to marriage. Both have high fail rates-does that mean neither businesses nor marriage/monogamous relationships are worth trying? I’d say the risk/reward is down to what you find valuable in terms of your own happiness. If you find that XYZ is your goal and it leads to your personal fulfilment, you’ll happily take the risk no matter how high.
What a fantastic episode! I usually listen to the podcast on the Google podcasts app but since you asked for a like on UA-cam I came here. I really enjoyed the explanation of burnout due to extrinsic motivation. I feel like this was the best thing to talk about during the second lockdown. I'll look more into it and hopefully write about it in my company's newsletter. I think everyone should hear about this. Great job
Those last ten minutes... 🙌🏼 Can spend SO much time unpacking that. I think it comes down to people not being true to themselves and what they really want. I hope it provokes more people to think in the same way you have and start to really question themselves and stop lying... Looking forward to next week.
steve just got to say these episodes are genuinely really insightful, and your honesty and openness makes them compelling I am personally getting alot out of them - (whether I choose to act on what I am learning is another question!) Please keep them coming. Big love from Plymstock x
The part about the body to look good, is the same problem I have had for 4 years now. And I noticed this after the second year. The problem for me was, that in the summer I have always been a bit chubby. Like 5 kg overweight. By the end of summer i feel so bad that I start working out. For February or March I have always been in the best shape I have ever been. Managed to do 22 pull ups in a row last time(correct ones not crossfit). But once I reach February or March I am so satisfied with the result that I quit gym and start eating junkfood. When Summer starts I am fat again :D And this has happened for 4 years now.
I am so so so so glad i found you. Diary of a ceo is the only podcast i keep coming back to. I love the insights and even some of the controversial stuff. And i love ur voice. This is my 1st time watching you talk (always listened on an app) and it feels so different. I was expecting millions of subscribers on youtube though Note to self: 1 hour of my time is worth $1000 Remember to always be myself "Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." ~Lao Tsu
Thought provoking as ever. In terms of being yourself I agree that this is crucial and as a person with Autism/ADHD my experience of life is the opposite of yours in that I absolutely need time on my own in quite large helpings. The other day I got asked to go to a social gathering of ex work colleagues and was pleased to have been able to say thatI would really like to come, but it makes me feel really uncomfortable because I can’t handle a lot of loud noise and I don’t have the ability/capacity to filter out surrounding sounds and consequently can’t hear what’s being said and felt relieved to be honest instead of making an excuse, (although at the same time exceptionally frustrated and undeniably wishing I could be more like others, but that”s another story😊
Another excellent podcast, I'd even go as far as saying this was my favourite! I really felt this one, I found myself finishing your sentences, it was like for that brief moment in time we were in sync. I was asking questions of myself that I've never asked before, and in another pararell universe, it was like I was talking to myself, reminding myself to take stock and reevaluate the the important things in life. Cheers Steven.
Great video. I agree with a lot of things you said except for marriage. I have been happily married to my wife for 16+ years and hope to be for many more. The signing of the contract and church is just showing the world we love each other so much we are willing to sign this document. You mentioned 50% of marriages fail, which is absolutely true, but it’s the people that failed not the institution of marriage. Marriage is a commitment and a lot of people who divorce do it for selfish reasons. I really liked the $10k an hour comment, I want to achieve that level of success as well. Keep doing the great job you are doing. I’m a fan.
Hmmm... that’s all I can say after hearing the last part of the podcast. I love hearing different views than my own because it makes me question myself and my deepest values and core beliefs which then help me be more confident with myself and what I stand for. I love it.
On the monogamy subject, in my personal experience the person you are meant to spend your early adulthood and have children with probably isn’t the best person to spend the latter stages of life with. You change so much as a person between 25 and 45 and unless you and your partner change in the same way you stop being the right person for each other. So you life life in 3 phases, childhood/adolescence then your first meaningful relationship during have children and finally your rest of life with a new partner who shares your dreams and goals particularly for your retirement.
Yes, I agree, and this isnt a new idea. Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
Amazing mind blowing way of thinking Steven. Really inspired a lot back when you first started Social Chain, it drives me to start my own agency too in 2017, until we handled 100 brands till today.
Hi Steven, just wanted to "add" my opinion about marriage :). I'm not against marriage however i don't see it like a contract and all that stuff regarding contracts i really see it like a symbolic thing between two people, because you actually can divorce whenever you consider necessary but i agree that you can definitely find other ways to celebrate the commitment between two people. Also as you said definitely you are attracted to other people but when you find a person that is how you've dreamed you can control that but this comes with let's say experience. Great video and keep up with sharing all your knowledge and opinions!
To be honest I've not watched the entire episode, but I'm the ironic secondary school teacher who quit uni but then went back. Conformity has likely stopped some meaningful connections that I want to make through growing a fitness business. I've always known that but thanks for the inspiration xx
Simplicity before understanding complexity is stupid, but simplicity after understanding complexity is genius. Totally agree going back to our core mission of creating meaningful human relationships and not base our lives on external validations. True-love doesn't necessarily need to be confirmed by marriage. On the other hand, I consider that being committed to your partner can bring several benefits throughout your life. I've never fit within the society, no matter how much I tried when I was younger. For some moments I felt good but deep down I knew that fitting in doesn't represent me. I never liked school, and because of that, I left my home country to make my dream possible. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on such important topics. It was great to see that someone with a prosperous status can claim that working for money was wrong.
My hubby struggled with weight anxiety binge eating lack of motivation etc but goes all out for a holiday etc like you say to look good. Then comes September and he lets it all go out the window & by January is really depressed. I try get through to him that it needs to be a consistent journey so try at he feels good all year. And looks good if that’s his goal. Enjoyed this.
Steve a big fan of your work and journey, been out here since Everyday Steve and that. Another brilliant episode, in regards to the monogamy of marriage and the actual worth, I am going to take a different angle outside of the view that marriage is a gift. When you enter into a business partnership or buy a piece of property or lend money to someone, why do you have the terms written down and even notarised? One reason is that a commitment has been made by both parties, and it is to the advantage of both to have the terms in writing. For instance, if one party dies, disappears, or simply loses their memory, the terms are still legally binding. The same is true in a marriage. In the event of the death of one mate or of both, the law in most countries makes provision for the surviving members of the family. This is usually lacking in the live-in arrangement. It is this commitment that makes the difference between living together and marriage. And the marriage certificate is a 'reminder' to the couple of that commitment to love, honour, and cherish each other and of the legal implications of the marriage vows. Lastly Steve, I always think could this apply to everyone in the world? If so, it makes sense, if not we need to reconsider. In this instance: Could everyone in the world be in a healthy, happy functional marriage without harming others? - Yes... Could everyone in the world be in very causal, loose relationships with multiple people? - No, it wouldn't work. Why not? We would have too many broken homes, unwanted pregnancies, STDs, abandoned children etc and society as a whole would crumble socially. The homes are the nucleus of society. Happy healthy homes = a healthy happier society. There are more reasons, but this was just a few. Amazing episode! Thanks :)
Marriage: why we need contract bond although both of them in love? Love itself sometime in peak or at low stage so marriage contract is something in return remind us about our promise. Example: 1: in Business partnership, multiple persons trust each other that's why they want to be a business partner but they also prefer to write down, so they have something tangible about that bond. 2: we wrote meeting minutes or todos list to remind ourselves what we have done on an occasion or what we have to do. It does not mean we don't have strong memories.
Ok Marriage ;my take : reality is, the longer you are with your partner , the layers you unpeel , you literally lay yourself bare to that person, they see you at your weakest , you share the absolute worst and the best …that level of vulnerability can only take place in a secure relationship. I guess the formality of a wedding ceremony is simply recognising this commitment . The reality is, as a couple you have to work together, to support your partner and obviously they do it back for you…..the best relationships seem to be when the individuals stop thinking Me Me Me ……it’s too easy to walk away, but you lose a depth in relationships if you do . Thirty plus years on, its work in progress Every Day, but the depth of understanding is incomparable….no one will know you like this and that is amazing, deep, rewarding , comforting …… Good podcast 👍👍👍
My half, is my better half, she is my friend, wife, lover and so much more, I am sure if life puts you in front of that unconditional love, you might change idea about monogamy :) sure it’s not easy, we are humans, I also did many mistakes, but I learned from them.
Marriage is a man made thing created many moons ago to protect children from starvation - to make men responsible for making children. I blame Walt Disney for making us all believe you're supposed to meet your prince charming and live happily ever after! You should look up TED talk by Esther Perel as she believes our relationships need to evolve too. Great episode of your podcast. Still working out my purpose in this life.
Listening 1 year on, this is still, if not possibly more relevant today. We all can very easily become part of the machine again without realising - myself included. I’ve only just started watching this series, what I find gripping and refreshing about these Steve Exclusives is, they aim more towards asking questions for yourself than giving you the answers. Thank you for helping people remove their masks 🙏
Thank you Steven. This is your perspective. We live in a money driven society. To earn enough money to buy a house and raise a family is one of humans highest priorities. To maintain this humans forfeit human nature's needs. Have we got the motives and the balance wrong ??
This is amazing . I take the time out this morining to watch this. This sure a game changer for me. It's like deep down we know this however listen to out loud allows me to say yeah I need to change . Thank you Steven. I can't wait to listen to more pod cast .
Im alone. My own boss. No work/ life balance. It's interesting, for sure. Im an herbalist. I talk to my clients all day. The only thing that keeps me doing this is bc i do it for my own health and wellness. I'd be making herbal remedies for myself daily anyway. I healed my lupus and cancer. Now I heal myself and over 1,000 clients. So even if i stop providing herbal products for my clients, I'll still be making them for myself anyway. But i do need more balance. I feel weird at times. I still get burnout bc its just me doing allll the work. I will to hire employees and get a warehouse in time.
Great help I’ve watched 10 of your videos over the last few days. I’m very fortunate not having to work for the last couple of years at 24. Going through some of these struggles atm whilst travelling the world. I really don’t feel like I can complain but we all have our own struggles.
I love your podcasts Steve. Been following you for a few years now. Your content Is always so inspiring to me. Really love the episodes where it is just you speaking the truth.
Man I really enjoy these types of episodes! I love how it you make me laugh about „simple“ issues like being attractive to the LADIES, and then transition to an heartfelt epiphany :D The thing that hit me most in this episode was the perspective that „ The moment I accomplished the goal wasn’t when I GOT the Range Rover, but the moment I SOLD it, because I realized I didn’t need it in the first place to fix my insecurities! 🙏✨ Perfect start in the week thank you Steve! I started to integrate a new sports routine in my daily life, by running along the river in my hometown while listening to audio books and playing some Basketball on my own afterwards. I think and hope it will give me a sense of clarity every morning to focus trough the day 😁🏋️♀️⛹🏽♂️✨ Keep rocking Steve! Looking forward to next week 😁
Hi Steven, your are so right and realistic about everything. That's why I love your podcasts and videos . Sometimes I think something is wrong with me, because I am overthinking everything. Every time I listen to your podcast I am glad to hear, that you are thinking the same and to see that they are a lot of other mind like people. You say what you think, a lot of people are afraid to share their opinions and don't live their true life's. The part about I am good, I agree "💯! I also dislike it, that people use this all the time. It's OK to not be OK. Be real and stay real! I also have a hard time with saying no to opportunities, I always try to follow my heart and live by faith. It's true what you say about monogamy, a lot of people, think the same and don't want to talk about it and/or admit it. It's really good that you speak your thoughts about this. And lastly, the more you are being yourself, the happier you become! That's so true! This is the key to life and living your purpose. I am already looking forward to the next podcast! 🎉🔥 💕
I think the last part about marriage needs another episode, try maybe to go back in time as to why marriage started with a certificate and what led to the system creating something like the marriage contract. If you start with that, then you will understand better why.
Thanks everybody for watching! This is a slightly different podcast from me this week, its more personal and raw than usual. Please let me know your thoughts and lets see if we can get to 400 likes on this one! Don't forget to subscribe
All topics I discuss below:
0:00 Intro
02:01 Means to an end syndrome / why I lose my gym motivation.
11:31 Journey back to human
23:13 Humans have no idea what they actually want...
39:51 Hardest thing to do in life: Avoiding good opportunities so you have time to devote to great opportunities.
43:16 Marriage, monogamy and me.
49:15 Fitting in is a curse
Thanks for sharing, just getting a chance to watch more and this is awesome and love the rawness absolutely vital in a social media world. We all need truth and rawness to help us feel less shit about ourselves. Love it
i haven't seen a successful person this kind and openly offering tips without withholding. he talks so fast meaning he isnt faking or making up stories.
We have gotten so far away from being human that man had forgotten who is and who he is not I miss being human and connected. I hate AI and I hate what it is doing to life itself
You'll see mate it's not really your choice if you want to marry or not when the girl you love starts hinting at and crying on for months on end (because her friends around her are getting married and shes not, the domino affect) then you'll eventually buckle one day like 80% of all men do then it's on!.....
Fast forward 5 years
Da fuck did I do that for! 😳 we were happy before the marriage 🤔
I resonate with this. I always felt like I NEVER fit in and I can be a loner at times because of it. I’m about to turn 34 and I get questioned why I’m not married yet, why I haven’t “settled” with a steady career or a homeowner like others expected for my age. After a couple of years, I get bored. I’m like an electron that bounces and cannot be pinned down. I’ve gotten shamed by family, (former) friends, even a therapist for not living up to society’s standards for my age. I hate to admit that I’ve developed some social anxiety because of it and only have 1 friend. During this pandemic, I’ve finally realized I was never meant to fit in and it’s what keeps me breathing and alive - I will continue to be that “outcast”. Your words made me feel validated and valuable.
Thanks for sharing your story, it’s dope you’re happy within yourself now 🙌🙌
Wow EA. You are right. I haven't looked at this vid yet but yoru few words of "I finally realized I was never meant to fit in...." has just landed like a tonne of bricks on me; but has released me at the same time. I have a smile pun ma face - smile. What a relief. I was never meant to fit in. HOw glorious are those words. Really. Thanks again.
You could save up some £ and spend some time abroad. Living abroad or even just visiting for a while helps you to re-evaluate and find yourself and bonus: you're exposed to a new environment so you won't have to bump into anyone you know. Things will get better for you keep your head up, enjoy life in the present moment and put God first place. You are valued 🌟
34 damn... u need to listen to the people around you and get your life together
@@michaelsilverfoote6272 can relate to a lot of what you’ve said brother. I’m 34 and more or less in the same boat with regards to career, finance, friendships, depression/anxiety. Go from caring a great deal one day to being completely numb the next. One day I’m at peace with who and where I am, the next, far from it. Don’t know if I’m mentally stronger than I’ve ever been or if I’m completely numb. One thing that comforts me sometimes, I remind myself this is everyone’s first time here (Earth). Nobody has done this sh*t before. Whatever happens, we must go easy on ourselves. By all means be self-critical, but it has to be healthy, too. All the best to you brother, we’ve got today, and for that we are blessed 🤞🏻
Steve, I can’t stress enough how you opened my eyes today… I literally understood why I was going hard at work every single day for the last almost 4 years, without knowing why I do this to myself. Why? Well, now I understood why, I was preparing for a moment that I am going to trigger very soon! I’m so excited about and I promise that I will share what happened in this thread! Thank you so so much!
You go for it💪
Incredible Steve, even your ability to speak for 50 + minutes and not even mutter an "erm" or "ehh" is inspiring
You're right, he doesn't. He sure knows how to sell.
I agree. AND...Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
One of the best podcasts I've heard on the current state humanity and why depression and anxiety are increasing at alarming rates. This year was a big wake up call for a lot of people to live authentically as themselves. Not chase other people's goals and hopefully assessing or reassessing their lives.
I’m an employee, not an entrepreneur and I love these conversations. But I really paid attention today when you expressed the identical feelings I have toward marriage. Almost verbatim. I always say that nothing says I love you like a legally binding contract. So glad someone else shares my view. Thank you!
Really good podcast Steven! The biggest problem we have as you touched on is people are doing stuff to impress other people all the time rather than doing stuff to please themselves and makes themselves happy!
A major example of this is when people buy stupid shit with money they haven’t got (big debt for cars/houses etc) to impress people they don’t really care about.
It’s all rather insane when you think about it. People are more focused on giving off a portrayal of happiness rather than actually being happy in reality.
Steven iS A GREAT salesman. End of. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
It's tough being an individual and not conforming - but so worth it - well done you - I'm on my way !
The more desire you want to fit in, the more depressed you become. Live your life.
Imagine for a moment there is this ravenous thirst inside of you. A thirst that gradually originated from realizing that a lot of what we are taught through systems such as schools, universities, religion, and society is flawed. A thirst that grows on a daily basis as we are flooded with messages that are loaded with stigmas and agendas. The irony of being thirsty in a flood...
Watching your podcasts feels like I'm dipping my cup into a well of truth and drinking water that is slowly but surely quenching this burning thirst.
Thank you Steven.
Thank you! Last point definitely struck a chord, one of the biggest challenges I've faced as an adult has been forgetting what I was taught growing up to be 'right' or 'normal'. It's no wonder so many of us struggle with identity. Unlearning is the new learning!
Thanks for watching Rosha 🙌🏽🙌🏽
I stumbled across this video, never watched you before or heard of you, however every single point you made is exactly what's going on in my head. I'm struggling at the moment, actually I have been for a long time, but you have helped me to compartmentalise my feelings and given clarity. I'm now a follower, thank you 😊
So glad I went back to watch these older uploads. So many good points in this. And you’re not confirming you know all the answers, you’re opening a dialogue and asking for critical thinking. I completely agree with the marriage thoughts, it’s rooted in patriarchy as religion…
Last weeks podcast was hands down the most informative and life changing podcast I’ve listened to. Scary how much this podcast is beginning to mean to me, feel like I know you so well at this point. Thanks for being you !
Thanks Harry that’s so good to hear 🙌🏽🙌🏽
I'm quite glad I found this. I actually have been thinking along the same lines for a number of these topics that you covered. A lot of my thoughts are guided by questioning the "normality" around us, and this year, in particular, has really given me a better perspective of my own privileges and the amount of good luck I've had in life so far. I'm currently questioning everything from marriage to the concept of owning a house, and I didn't realise how radical these thoughts were until I mentioned it to my family - all of which are into traditional goals and starting a family. It's good to know where there are more people that keep questioning deeper.
Thanks, Steven!
I agree! I agree. AND Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
Jesus!!! This is so good! Thank you! The way you speak about things are raw, clear and has a tone of no bullshit! Love it, looking forward to listening to the rest!
I don't comment on videos often, but I felt I have to. I've been following you for a couple of years now and seen your growth, and you seem to have reached new levels of self-awareness, which is something that I think you should be super excited about. You seem to definitely be on the right path, so even though you don't know me, I am honestly damn proud of you man. Don't stop.
That means a lot Jonas! Thanks for following my journey and watching the podcast, we’re only just getting started 👊🏽👊🏽
Absolutely loved this Steven, thank you. The way you articulate everything really unlocks things for me and gives a lot of clarity when I apply it to myself.
That’s dope Paul! Thanks for watching
This applies to 80% of the population that are extroverts. Introverts, like me, absolutely loved NOT working with coworkers and going into the office; however, I am more depressed and anxious because the job is absolutely purposeless and I’m 4 years away from retiring. It’s a paradox really.
I think, and this is besides the content of the podcasts, which is insightful and gives so much every time, that there is a lot of courage for moving to a UA-cam format: you have to be delivering every second not only with your voice like you did before, but also keeping people watching and using good body language to express.
Thank you Steve for another great show. The point that stood out for me from this week's episode is the part that spoke to trying to fit in. I can speak with certainty that trying to fit or conforming to society is like slavery because you don't have the freedom to be just who you are meant to be . You're constantly worrying about what others think , you're constantly trying to please everyone except yourself. This breeds more mental health issues, sadness, lowered self-esteem... Etc
One of the reasons I like your podcast so much is the simple fact that you are as real as they come. No pretense or putting on . You are just raw, vulnerable, open and unapologetically you. That my friend resonate with me. Authenticity
The purpose problem. Christ, life changing stuff that! I had this realisation recently that everything I am doing in business is extrinsic and that’s why I’ve felt burnt out and detached from the meaning behind my work. Shifting focus towards purpose first is a game changer 🙏 Thanks Steve, best podcast I’ve ever listened to.
Wow, I can't believe the view count is so low for this episode. This guy is super easy to listen to and is clearly very clever. We can all learn something from him. 👍🏼
Steven your podcasts are changing my life.
How smart and conscious such a young man can be! It is a gift to him and everyone around him 🎉 That is very pleasant to listen him and enjoy his calmness and the same time also motivation ❤
In engineering, we use the '5 why' method to find out why something isn't working, etc. It is something that also works in real life, which sounds like what you have done here.
Love the podcasts. They're always so real and interesting 😃
Amazing thoughts as always, Steven! As for the marriage and monogamy issue, I completely agree with you. Even before you started to talk about it, I paused the video for a while and thought about it to analyze my own point of view on this topic, and after listening, my opinion was the same as yours. Keep going on these open and honest podcast series, it's wonderful and helpful to think about our own lives from a little bit different perspective than everybody is telling us! :))
Thanks Nikola! Love that you analysed your own thoughts! Glad you’re enjoying the podcast
I agree! AND Steven is a GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell his stuff.
Honestly the most raw and authentic podcast I’ve listened to.
The marriage point is definitely something I agree with but do I agree only because my parents marriage was a nightmare... who knows.
Loving it Steve!
I have to be honest this is the first comment ive ever left on a youtube video but this episode really stood out to me & has challenged my thoughts in a really positive way. There's a lot I could relate too but almost wasn't aware of it, its encouraged me to go & purposely spend some time connecting with some people this month to have a no end goal conversation
Steve I hear you about the marriage thing. I've been thinking this for a long time but I didn't even know how to navigate those thoughts let alone put it into words. So thank you!
Quite a few thought provoking points.. I elected to be unemployed from my role this year and am getting back slowly to doing what makes me intrinsically happy. I don't want to work alone, but I can't work with a team that doesn't have the same purpose as me.. well done Sir on voicing this issue 💕
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I found out about your podcast almost 2 weeks ago via LinkedIn and I love it. Even though I don’t agree with every point you or your guests make, it’s so interesting to hear them. When I listened to you the first time I thought to myself ‘I love how he asks all this questions and puts in some of his own content, but still let’s his guest narrate most of the interview and find their own way!’ So I decided I want to listen to one episode a day until I caught up, but what I realised pretty fast was that I couldn’t. Your podcasts have so much content, that I personally take at least 2 days to process and to adjust the things you said to my life, that I sometimes have to listen to it again because I forgot what you were talking about in the second half of it. It’s fantastic! Keep on sharing your thoughts with us 👏🏼
Your talks are like being in a bar with a clase friend, just philophizing about everything and nothing at the same time.. love it
Another thought provoking episode. Very particular with what podcasts I find interesting enough to sustain my intention, and this definitely meets the cut.
Very reassuring to hear these messages about being the best version of you, especially from someone so successful
That’s dope happy to be on the lucky few! 🙌🏽Thanks for watching manie
This podcast has definitely helped me understand myself more and others as well 🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽❣️
In small groups, everyone helps to fix problems together, which makes people feel useful and connected. But in today’s world, many solutions are already made for us, and that can make us feel less involved and less satisfied.. Problem-Solving Instincts... is gone , ( more phycologies problems) but we continue make our life more complicated , kids, pets, more difficult job , more and more ..more business more complicated.. never ends because that is how we are facing survival challenges that required complex thinking and innovative solutions. This natural inclination to address problems can lead us to create new challenges when old ones are resolved or absent.
Thanks Steve for all your podcasts, they make my life so much better. I grew up with a schizophrenic mother and a very anxious father( they still locked up patients in asylums in the 60s + 70s) .I was my mums carer, when at school I worried about her, when I was at home I worried about school. At 15 I started drinking . I knew that alcohol gave me relief
I agree! Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
Hiya!
I'm only 18 and getting ready to go to uni and the topics you touch on are crazy especially the one about exercise and always being yourself and how hard it can be.
I actually didn't think I could listen to all of it and I did which is pretty cool.
Another mega video. I never usually have the attention span to watch full videos but I manage to keep these on every time!
That’s dope!
I never had my thoughts put into words so well!
This channel is one of the best for mental health✨
I agree! AND Steven is a GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell his stuff.
Such a powerful eyeopening podcast, you are a very wise, self educated person Steven. Truly admire your openness and genuineness on sharing this valuable, helpful information. 🙏👏👏
I agree. AND...Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
I am loving how you are going deeper into the rabbit hole on your self-awareness journey. Absolutely love the real and raw truths. Exactly the conversations I love having. Loving the way you are so open to talking about it now. Absolutely, being ourselves is the journey of life. Rediscovering and being who we are, not who others want us to be.👏
Thanks to the whole team and yourself for providing the UA-cam format - great episode
Hope you’re enjoying them rohan 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Loved this and have an actual love for you! You are the best I have seen at interviewing! And your words resonate with me on so many levels.
Can’t believe I have only just found you! But I believe that’s because I was meant to find you now. Super excited for 2023 you have helped me towards feeling that way as my thoughts now make so much more sense to me. Thank you for being you. x
I agree! AND Steven is a GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell his stuff.
Really enjoyed listening to this Steve 🤠 I've personally just come out of a cycle of negative behaviour, valium, that started in early 2020 and this was just what I needed to hear.
I found your comparison between buying a TV with the knowledge that 50% don’t work, and monogamous relationships/marriage really interesting…
According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS)… “Data from the BLS shows that approximately 20% of new businesses fail during the first two years of being open, 45% during the first five years, and 65% during the first 10 years. Only 25% of new businesses make it to 15 years or more.”
We also know that most businesses fail.
But I’d imagine your opinions on starting a business (let alone starting a business without contracts) are very different than starting monogamous relationships, and also committing to marriage.
Both have high fail rates-does that mean neither businesses nor marriage/monogamous relationships are worth trying?
I’d say the risk/reward is down to what you find valuable in terms of your own happiness.
If you find that XYZ is your goal and it leads to your personal fulfilment, you’ll happily take the risk no matter how high.
What a fantastic episode! I usually listen to the podcast on the Google podcasts app but since you asked for a like on UA-cam I came here. I really enjoyed the explanation of burnout due to extrinsic motivation. I feel like this was the best thing to talk about during the second lockdown. I'll look more into it and hopefully write about it in my company's newsletter. I think everyone should hear about this. Great job
You have literally blown my mind and saved so much time of me discovering these ideas!
Those last ten minutes... 🙌🏼
Can spend SO much time unpacking that. I think it comes down to people not being true to themselves and what they really want. I hope it provokes more people to think in the same way you have and start to really question themselves and stop lying... Looking forward to next week.
Yes Carla! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Great episode. Really resonated with me, keep up the great work Steve. The world needs more of this content!
The marriage part is something I have grown up and always thought about and it’s so good to hear someone else feels exactly the same!
steve just got to say these episodes are genuinely really insightful, and your honesty and openness makes them compelling
I am personally getting alot out of them - (whether I choose to act on what I am learning is another question!)
Please keep them coming. Big love from Plymstock x
I like the concept of putting a monetary value on your time to narrow down opportunities that arise. Nice work!
Very well spoken and captivating podcaster. Highly relatable and inspiring. I actually leave the pod feeling energised.
18:59 oooooofffffttttt. that penny drop there!
i literally spent the last hour of my life going "mmm hmmmm" this was fire
Great episode! Thank youu
The part about the body to look good, is the same problem I have had for 4 years now. And I noticed this after the second year. The problem for me was, that in the summer I have always been a bit chubby. Like 5 kg overweight. By the end of summer i feel so bad that I start working out. For February or March I have always been in the best shape I have ever been. Managed to do 22 pull ups in a row last time(correct ones not crossfit). But once I reach February or March I am so satisfied with the result that I quit gym and start eating junkfood. When Summer starts I am fat again :D And this has happened for 4 years now.
What a g. My favourite dragon in history and love how you're giving back with the podcast.
I am so so so so glad i found you. Diary of a ceo is the only podcast i keep coming back to. I love the insights and even some of the controversial stuff. And i love ur voice. This is my 1st time watching you talk (always listened on an app) and it feels so different. I was expecting millions of subscribers on youtube though
Note to self:
1 hour of my time is worth $1000
Remember to always be myself
"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." ~Lao Tsu
Thought provoking as ever. In terms of being yourself I agree that this is crucial and as a person with Autism/ADHD my experience of life is the opposite of yours in that I absolutely need time on my own in quite large helpings.
The other day I got asked to go to a social gathering of ex work colleagues and was pleased to have been able to say thatI would really like to come, but it makes me feel really uncomfortable because I can’t handle a lot of loud noise and I don’t have the ability/capacity to filter out surrounding sounds and consequently can’t hear what’s being said and felt relieved to be honest instead of making an excuse, (although at the same time exceptionally frustrated and undeniably wishing I could be more like others, but that”s another story😊
Another excellent podcast, I'd even go as far as saying this was my favourite! I really felt this one, I found myself finishing your sentences, it was like for that brief moment in time we were in sync. I was asking questions of myself that I've never asked before, and in another pararell universe, it was like I was talking to myself, reminding myself to take stock and reevaluate the the important things in life. Cheers Steven.
Amazing Steven, you talk so much sense for such a young mind. So many points resonate with me and I really appreciate hearing your insights.
Great video. I agree with a lot of things you said except for marriage. I have been happily married to my wife for 16+ years and hope to be for many more. The signing of the contract and church is just showing the world we love each other so much we are willing to sign this document. You mentioned 50% of marriages fail, which is absolutely true, but it’s the people that failed not the institution of marriage. Marriage is a commitment and a lot of people who divorce do it for selfish reasons. I really liked the $10k an hour comment, I want to achieve that level of success as well. Keep doing the great job you are doing. I’m a fan.
I love this personal type of content! Very introspective and inspiring, thank you
Hmmm... that’s all I can say after hearing the last part of the podcast. I love hearing different views than my own because it makes me question myself and my deepest values and core beliefs which then help me be more confident with myself and what I stand for. I love it.
On the monogamy subject, in my personal experience the person you are meant to spend your early adulthood and have children with probably isn’t the best person to spend the latter stages of life with. You change so much as a person between 25 and 45 and unless you and your partner change in the same way you stop being the right person for each other. So you life life in 3 phases, childhood/adolescence then your first meaningful relationship during have children and finally your rest of life with a new partner who shares your dreams and goals particularly for your retirement.
Yes, I agree, and this isnt a new idea. Steven iS A GREAT salesman. Steven is intelligent, thoughtful, kind even, but ultimately his main focus is being a salesman. The tribes idea is an old one and is over simplification. Primitive tribes also suffered short lives, disease, famine, violent death lack of books, lack of world perspective. The philosophical stuff isn't new either, he is taking old/current ideas and presenting them to sell himself.
Amazing mind blowing way of thinking Steven. Really inspired a lot back when you first started Social Chain, it drives me to start my own agency too in 2017, until we handled 100 brands till today.
Another great episode Steven, really insightful as always!
thanks Richard! Glad you liked it
Thank you, Steve. I resonate so much what you have said here. Keep doing what you are doing.
Love to know the last awesome podcast that u've bigged up..?
Loving your interviews Steven, awesome 💫
Hi Steven, just wanted to "add" my opinion about marriage :). I'm not against marriage however i don't see it like a contract and all that stuff regarding contracts i really see it like a symbolic thing between two people, because you actually can divorce whenever you consider necessary but i agree that you can definitely find other ways to celebrate the commitment between two people. Also as you said definitely you are attracted to other people but when you find a person that is how you've dreamed you can control that but this comes with let's say experience. Great video and keep up with sharing all your knowledge and opinions!
To be honest I've not watched the entire episode, but I'm the ironic secondary school teacher who quit uni but then went back. Conformity has likely stopped some meaningful connections that I want to make through growing a fitness business. I've always known that but thanks for the inspiration xx
Simplicity before understanding complexity is stupid, but simplicity after understanding complexity is genius. Totally agree going back to our core mission of creating meaningful human relationships and not base our lives on external validations. True-love doesn't necessarily need to be confirmed by marriage. On the other hand, I consider that being committed to your partner can bring several benefits throughout your life.
I've never fit within the society, no matter how much I tried when I was younger. For some moments I felt good but deep down I knew that fitting in doesn't represent me. I never liked school, and because of that, I left my home country to make my dream possible. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on such important topics. It was great to see that someone with a prosperous status can claim that working for money was wrong.
My hubby struggled with weight anxiety binge eating lack of motivation etc but goes all out for a holiday etc like you say to look good. Then comes September and he lets it all go out the window & by January is really depressed. I try get through to him that it needs to be a consistent journey so try at he feels good all year. And looks good if that’s his goal. Enjoyed this.
Steve a big fan of your work and journey, been out here since Everyday Steve and that. Another brilliant episode, in regards to the monogamy of marriage and the actual worth, I am going to take a different angle outside of the view that marriage is a gift.
When you enter into a business partnership or buy a piece of property or lend money to someone, why do you have the terms written down and even notarised? One reason is that a commitment has been made by both parties, and it is to the advantage of both to have the terms in writing.
For instance, if one party dies, disappears, or simply loses their memory, the terms are still legally binding. The same is true in a marriage. In the event of the death of one mate or of both, the law in most countries makes provision for the surviving members of the family.
This is usually lacking in the live-in arrangement. It is this commitment that makes the difference between living together and marriage. And the marriage certificate is a 'reminder' to the couple of that commitment to love, honour, and cherish each other and of the legal implications of the marriage vows.
Lastly Steve, I always think could this apply to everyone in the world? If so, it makes sense, if not we need to reconsider. In this instance: Could everyone in the world be in a healthy, happy functional marriage without harming others? - Yes... Could everyone in the world be in very causal, loose relationships with multiple people? - No, it wouldn't work.
Why not? We would have too many broken homes, unwanted pregnancies, STDs, abandoned children etc and society as a whole would crumble socially.
The homes are the nucleus of society. Happy healthy homes = a healthy happier society.
There are more reasons, but this was just a few. Amazing episode! Thanks :)
This was a great listen man, thank you!
Thank you for listening Gary!
Marriage: why we need contract bond although both of them in love? Love itself sometime in peak or at low stage so marriage contract is something in return remind us about our promise. Example: 1: in Business partnership, multiple persons trust each other that's why they want to be a business partner but they also prefer to write down, so they have something tangible about that bond. 2: we wrote meeting minutes or todos list to remind ourselves what we have done on an occasion or what we have to do. It does not mean we don't have strong memories.
Ok Marriage ;my take : reality is, the longer you are with your partner , the layers you unpeel , you literally lay yourself bare to that person, they see you at your weakest , you share the absolute worst and the best …that level of vulnerability can only take place in a secure relationship. I guess the formality of a wedding ceremony is simply recognising this commitment . The reality is, as a couple you have to work together, to support your partner and obviously they do it back for you…..the best relationships seem to be when the individuals stop thinking Me Me Me ……it’s too easy to walk away, but you lose a depth in relationships if you do . Thirty plus years on, its work in progress Every Day, but the depth of understanding is incomparable….no one will know you like this and that is amazing, deep, rewarding , comforting ……
Good podcast 👍👍👍
This new series is where it's at Steven great work!
My half, is my better half, she is my friend, wife, lover and so much more, I am sure if life puts you in front of that unconditional love, you might change idea about monogamy :) sure it’s not easy, we are humans, I also did many mistakes, but I learned from them.
Liked, commented & shared everywhere on every platform I can, love it 👌
Marriage is a man made thing created many moons ago to protect children from starvation - to make men responsible for making children. I blame Walt Disney for making us all believe you're supposed to meet your prince charming and live happily ever after! You should look up TED talk by Esther Perel as she believes our relationships need to evolve too. Great episode of your podcast. Still working out my purpose in this life.
I'm late to the party. Thank you for being. You give me faith in humanity (and men.)
Listening 1 year on, this is still, if not possibly more relevant today. We all can very easily become part of the machine again without realising - myself included.
I’ve only just started watching this series, what I find gripping and refreshing about these Steve Exclusives is, they aim more towards asking questions for yourself than giving you the answers.
Thank you for helping people remove their masks 🙏
This has changed my life.
Thank you Steven. This is your perspective. We live in a money driven society. To earn enough money to buy a house and raise a family is one of humans highest priorities. To maintain this humans forfeit human nature's needs. Have we got the motives and the balance wrong ??
Thanks for your honesty , hit home for me at the right time. To be honest, day at a time. Thank you 😊
So I'm listening to a bunch of difference buisness/self development podcasts but this one just hits different. Thank you so much for sharing!
This is amazing . I take the time out this morining to watch this. This sure a game changer for me. It's like deep down we know this however listen to out loud allows me to say yeah I need to change . Thank you Steven. I can't wait to listen to more pod cast .
Thank you for this video! 3 years later. However, I do find this helpful today.
Beyond brilliant ! Thank u Steve
Im alone. My own boss. No work/ life balance. It's interesting, for sure. Im an herbalist. I talk to my clients all day. The only thing that keeps me doing this is bc i do it for my own health and wellness. I'd be making herbal remedies for myself daily anyway. I healed my lupus and cancer. Now I heal myself and over 1,000 clients. So even if i stop providing herbal products for my clients, I'll still be making them for myself anyway. But i do need more balance. I feel weird at times. I still get burnout bc its just me doing allll the work. I will to hire employees and get a warehouse in time.
Great help I’ve watched 10 of your videos over the last few days. I’m very fortunate not having to work for the last couple of years at 24. Going through some of these struggles atm whilst travelling the world. I really don’t feel like I can complain but we all have our own struggles.
Been watching since the daily vlogs, speak nothing but facts and hard truths.
I love your podcasts Steve. Been following you for a few years now. Your content Is always so inspiring to me. Really love the episodes where it is just you speaking the truth.
Thanks Jake that means a lot
Man I really enjoy these types of episodes! I love how it you make me laugh about „simple“ issues like being attractive to the LADIES, and then transition to an heartfelt epiphany :D
The thing that hit me most in this episode was the perspective that „ The moment I accomplished the goal wasn’t when I GOT the Range Rover, but the moment I SOLD it, because I realized I didn’t need it in the first place to fix my insecurities! 🙏✨
Perfect start in the week thank you Steve!
I started to integrate a new sports routine in my daily life, by running along the river in my hometown while listening to audio books and playing some Basketball on my own afterwards. I think and hope it will give me a sense of clarity every morning to focus trough the day 😁🏋️♀️⛹🏽♂️✨
Keep rocking Steve! Looking forward to next week 😁
Thanks Tobias, glad you’re getting a lot from the episodes 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Thank you I always feel like I benefit from these, another great episode
Keep doing what you're doing 🌟
Hi Steven, your are so right and realistic about everything. That's why I love your podcasts and videos . Sometimes I think something is wrong with me, because I am overthinking everything. Every time I listen to your podcast I am glad to hear, that you are thinking the same and to see that they are a lot of other mind like people. You say what you think, a lot of people are afraid to share their opinions and don't live their true life's. The part about I am good, I agree "💯! I also dislike it, that people use this all the time. It's OK to not be OK. Be real and stay real! I also have a hard time with saying no to opportunities, I always try to follow my heart and live by faith. It's true what you say about monogamy, a lot of people, think the same and don't want to talk about it and/or admit it. It's really good that you speak your thoughts about this. And lastly, the more you are being yourself, the happier you become! That's so true! This is the key to life and living your purpose. I am already looking forward to the next podcast! 🎉🔥 💕
I think the last part about marriage needs another episode, try maybe to go back in time as to why marriage started with a certificate and what led to the system creating something like the marriage contract. If you start with that, then you will understand better why.
Thanks for the “good in bed” compliment Steve, us bodybuilders and fitness enthusiasts appreciate it