I’m not gonna pretend to know what it’s like to have a Muslim parent but Sarah I’m not sure if hiding the truth is a such a good idea. After all Justin did keep it honest with his parents and accept the backlash
muslim women can not marry non-muslim and converting for benefits (like for marriage) is not acceptable (God is not blind!) this is not gonna work love is not everything good luck for all of u singles out there
Oh God... the rabbit hole just keeps getting deeper! Ugh! Now my feelings are caught up. Lol. I love Sarah but It's messed up she's lying to her dad about Justin. Especially after everything Justin is going through with his parents defending her... trying to get them to accept her.
Lana So you would cut your parents out just bc of disapproval? That's messed up. Parents raised you, fed you, basically they sacrificed their life so that you can be happy..God knows how much i owe my parents especially my mum a lot and i can't disobey her. I love her too much. No offence tho. Sarah knows that and that's the reason why she keeps lying about Justin. They'll come around. Parents want what's best for child. Her father will accept Justin in the end.
I love you Sarah but it's unfair and selfish to Justin not to be truthful with your father about everything. Justin has sacrificed his relationship with his parents and everything for you. It is also not right to force someone into a religion just to be married to you.. Isn't this what your mom went through?? I hope y'all can figure out everything because yes having your parents approval is nice, but at the end of the day you're both grown and should be getting married to yourselves, not your parents. Best wishes!
A word of advice from someone who had a similar experience, stop making excuses and be brutally honest and upfront about everything . In the end, everyone will appreciate your honesty and adjust accordingly. Good luck!
But I dont get it, your mam converted Muslim? Because if your dad didnt even married a Muslim thats soo hypocrital.. And.. sad for Justin. I mean you say Hey I didnt want to break our realtionship.. but Justin ruined his with their parents for you.. I think you are being a bit immature Sarah, you say its tough to choose but Justin.. I mean his family wont even speak to him again what do you think that makes him feel? Do the job, the love of your life deserves it .. Anyways love you guys
because in islam a muslim man can marry a christian or jewish woman not hindu or other religions. but a muslim woman can't marry any man who isn't a muslim.and if you do go ahead and marry a man who isn't muslim marriage is not valid in islam it would be as if you are commiting aldulterly
banana aya playa Im not going to lie when i was first told this, my eye was tp the side. The reasoning was that it would be easier for a woman to convert or the children would be raised muslim even if the mother is not, but if youre marrying a non muslim man it would mean you would have to convert to his religion. With this my family has several non muslim men/muslim women relationships however they have never really worked out like the non muslim woman/muslim man relationships. Id say just get into a relationship without expectations of converting because that can cause problems from the get go
I can understand What you Say!. Indeed her Father did the wrong thing by not Giving the right example!. And Yes this Will happend. My Father Married My mom a non Muslim!. Iam the only one who married a Muslim My other 3 siblings left the Religion. I cannot blame her that she wana live with a non Muslim Because she isnt raised with Religion!.
I understand the turmoil for Sarah, but Justin will not and should not ever convert to a religion he doesn't believe. I hope only the best for you both in this difficult situation.
mindfreedom1 Calm the fuck down you overly reactive person. My father is a muslim. Had you read my message correctly, you would have seen I was talking about ISIS, not Islam, so chill out.
Sarah you're wrong! Justin did his part and then some BUT you're not doing your part. I was once mad at Justin but it's so good that I know the whole story/the other side. Justin is awesome how he handles this all. You can't marry him if you want "peace" You can't please everyone. Justin comes first if he's to become your husband
I agree with you Diva0810703 I think that way mean we can't please everyone in this world and of course live in lie so I think Justin did the right thing and I am glad to see he stand his ground! Thank you for sharing your story Sarah and Justin and just remember that at the end of day it's you guys!
Hello, I just wanted to say that a lot of thing you have said about Islam isn’t right, a lot of people mix culture with religion which is what you and your dad are doing such as your dad not letting you go to the supermarket by yourself has nothing to do with Islam I think that is his preference and also marrying someone that you’re met for the first time isn’t what Islam says, and the fact that you have to follow whatever your dads says. Islam isn’t a religion that tells you to be quite and have not opinions.
Often times children of strict parents (me included) overthink and stress excessively about how their parents would react to certain things. This can be extremely counter productive and negatively affect your decision making as a lot is based on assumption. As the eldest in the family keeping the peace tends to fall on your shoulders but there's a difference between saying something you think people want to hear even if it's not entirely true and delivering what you need to say in a respectful and considerate manner. I'm confident that you will reach a point in your relationship with your dad that you will feel comfortable enough to tell him your true feelings. From what I can see you have a wonderful support system in Justin, your sister and your mum. On a lighter note, my parents are seeing the benefits of me marrying outside my culture, one being that they don't have to share me on Vietnamese cultural days like the Lunar New Year!
Please just tell your dad the truth, it’s best go into a marriage without lies or secrets. Creates so much risk. I think that would hurt your dad too much to keep lying to him. Are you ready for marriage if honest communication scares you? You can’t put your dad before Justin - especially since He is standing up for you.
Prince White Charming oh wow, is there any kind of proof that ppl do that these days? Sounds like a hoax to me, if you can't show the evidence of what you state before. Maybe you forget to read the time stamp on that, i.e. maybe that happened on ancient time
Thanks Soulance, couldn't have said it better. I was disappointed as I continued to watch the video, and at one point Justin states to Sarah "..You are lying...". This needs to be addressed and corrected, as her character is being questioned, not the reasons behind her half-truths and omissions. While I do understand her reasons, she's setting a pattern of behavior that Justin is observing. How will she respond to challenges in their marriage? They both need to be able to trust and depend on each other in marriage, and ideally, the parents and family should take on a supportive role. There's nothing like being married to another parent/family's CHILD instead of being married to a fully developed and respectful ADULT that that family has produced. In the former scenario the person will have childish actions, reasons and excuses and always defer to the preferences of the parent(s). While she is saying that she values her relationship with her dad, she's putting Justin in a difficult position to defend, since he clearly has no intention of converting to Islam. So which relationship does she value more? Again, they both need to be able to trust and depend on each other in marriage, and honesty should be a part of its foundation.
HI CAN WE GET A COMPILATION OF SARAH’S LAUGH BECAUSE OH MY GOSH IT’S THE CUTEST THING EVER AND SERIOUSLY SO CONTAGIOUS. i wouldn’t mind listening to it all day omg i bet justin enjoys it!
I have read some of the comments on here and I don't think that everyone is being realistic and understanding of what you guys are going through. Religion and Culture are everything in most families that's why weddings are religious and cultural. I think that what you guys are undertaking is a lot more difficult than you imagined and your love must be genuine and strong in order to survive it. Once your parents see your love for each other both sides will eventually relent with time. You must be committed to each other first and foremost and make sure that each other is protected. The respect you are giving your parents should be commended. We live in a day when children don't respect their elders any longer. I congratulate you two for trying to do your best to respect both of your parents wishes and cultures but knowing that it is impossible when you were touched by a love that was so transforming it changed you forever! Sarah you will break your father's heart, but he will love you even more when he sees the lengths you went through to protect him! Justin is worth the struggle and you are the jewel of your father's heart!
I totally agree with u cuz most of people don’t understand how difficult to marry a non Muslim guy .if she didn’t say that to her dad she will go back home without her men and without her education and stay home until her dad find a husband for her. I feel her and i really respect what they did to be together .stay strong cuz people are just judging they don’t know anything ❤️
sarah I am kind of disappointed in you because Justin loves you and he shouldn't be forced into anything because it seems like deja vu with your mum and dad as your mum did the same thing for your dad which was converting for love...... I understand you don't want to disappoint your dad and you're a daddy's girl but you just need to be honest with your dad regarding with Justin and speak your truth and whatever your dad chooses to do with that truth. it's up to him. Don't be a pleaser because you're hating them both by playing the fence. Stand in your truth
Maybe knows how it is when a person marries a non-muslim so he is giving her the best advice his experience tells him that it's hard to work. A problem here is that Justin is an honest man and Sarah is possibly immature cause she lies to Justin. Bad way to start a marriage. She has to stop lying! And maybe Korean dad knows or has a feeling about this so does not approve marriage too. Good luck Justin and Sarah.
At least one parent on both sides is nuts. Good luck with that. You might have to protect her from both your mom and her dad. I'm not sure this is going to work out.
You owe your parents respect. However, you don't owe them your life. The more I listen to Sarah talk, the more I feel like Justin should give this marriage some more thought. Can she truly stand by your side in the face of opposition? She's not ready. He chose Sarah, over everyone. She clearly has some maturing to do.
She stood by his side while his mum practically treated like a non human being, as if she was dirt cos her colour. So yeah Id say she was ready for opposition
she was ready for opposition from his side, the side she doesnt know and cant say she would be too hurt if they didnt accept her. but she isnt ready for opposition from her side. justin on the other hand was ready and honest with his side even though he knew they would nt accept. soooooooo i think you are right she may not be ready. she definitely loves him and her parents but if she cant stand her ground then they will have problems. he dealt with his end and so should she. its not gonna be easy though so i do understand her fear, but still.
Jewel Vilela Yes, as long as the opposition isn't coming from HER family. Not saying she's a bad person, but marriage is "forsaking ALL others." She's been dishonest with both Justin and her Father. She may have to make a choice. I don't think she's ready to do that. Until she is, they should wait.
Justin please check the laws before traveling to Dubai as a couple, i think it is against the law, and you may end up in jail. There is a video on UA-cam. Also, don't be tricked into saying the shahada, Islam is not to be by compulsion!!! Sarah should know better! I am a Muslim revert, by my own free will and not due to marriage or compulsion, because I am single. Be careful Justin, do your own research and don't be fooled by Sarah's giddyness because jail time is not cute!
NR C actually you can wear anything you want in dubai, it's not saudi arabia. But they can't kiss in public, but definately they can visit dubai and live there even though they are not married, no one would chase them to know if they are married or not lol
Dubai is not strict at all. The biggest underground club is in Dubai. All the celebrities go there to party. It’s Chris Brown’s favorite place to party. So sad.
My dad is also Muslim. I turned 30 and he doesn't want me to date and he's not setting me up with anyone. The topic of marriage is a super uncomfortable subject to discuss with him. I think i might just get married and tell him after the fact.
Yeah i do, but even if i lived out the house id still be afraid to bring up the subject to him. He's my dad, he should bring that topic up to me, even when i was younger he never discussed the topic of marriage of dating or marriage with me. Ive been dropping hints like crazy as Im interested in seeing if he expects me never to get married. Eventually im going to do what I gotta do, but i dont want to lie to him.
Ashley Often times, strict/controlling parents create a very negative sense of self for their daughters. They keep you so close and want to control every aspect of your life that you have to take the steps of claiming your life. You are now 30. You should start dating and allowing someone to court you. I am not saying premarital sex, but just starting get to know people, go out see if you can be friends etc before anything. Then after you when you've met someone who is worthy of your time and heart you can bring it up. You don't ask for permission at 30, you just tell them you've met someone and you want him to meet this person.
Red Hot lol but what about there being no compulsion in the acceptance Islam?? Have you ever read the Quran or talked to Muslims? Forced conversions are emotionally abusive and invalid in Islam
Na'ilah El-Amin in another video she and her mum said that her mum converted to Islam because the mum was in love with the dad... regardless of genuine conversion or not, I'm sure it happens all the time, not just in Islam but also other religions.
Na'ilah El-Amin if this is the case, then why are there some laws in Muslim countries where Muslims have to marry Muslims? Meaning non Muslims HAVE TO convert if they marry a Muslim.
I’m sorry but I don’t agree with this like your dad is giving you false info about he doesn’t have to be Muslim before you guys get married. It’s basically haram. And the one sentence thing ur dad was talking about that ur husband had to say is him converting into Islam you can’t just trick people into converting, and about what u said how under Muslim law until a daughter is married she’s under her dads rules that’s false, so plz don’t Spread fake information about Islam if your not educated Enough and clearly ur dad is giving you false info by saying it’s ok to get married blah blah blah, tbh at the end of the day it’s your choice but I don’t appreciate you spreading fake info about Islam or speaking in something ur not educated about
actually in islam it's not a hi bye thing it's more of you meet people in the intention of marriage as the end goal not boyfriend girlfriend relationship and when you meet you meet not alone with one or more people and in the meeting you have you talk about anything really. the main thing is that your not touching feely in these meeting or when you are getting to know each other. You might meet someone from university or your work or a friends friend or have your friends or family introduce someone to you
This is all before a wedding?! Have you had the conversation about what religion your children will be raised under? Be responsible adult and lay down the facts to your father. Not being fair to Justin or to your father because your lack of courage.
They both need to more assertive (without disrespecting the parents) now. Lay down the law so to speak, so not have to run into problems later. Controlling parents have hard time understanding adult children can & will decide on how to live their own lives. But it needs to be verbally expressed. You obviously never dealt with a controlling parent.
Justin is such a sweet husband.how I wish to have a husband like him.and Sarah you are so beautiful,brave ,courageous,everything. I look upon you.you guys are meant to be each other. my relationship goal “Sarah And Justin”aww I feel like no people exits like you guys ..love you guys.best wishes🥰
Hmmm, this is too much! Don’t let your parents control your lives. It’s okay to choose your future. Your life, your rules. This whole situation makes me grateful for my family. Good luck to you all.
Thanks for sharing your story... however honesty no matter what is best! In order for your future husband to have trust in you and vice versa honesty must be in the relationship. Remember respect your parents not fear them and by showing your dad respect is being honest. This will not fare good once you guys marry because your dad will expect Justin to convert. Once you marry your headship is your husband, Justin. So if you love him for who he is then be proud of that!
She’s being so hypocritical, she need to man up for him. Fight for the love you claim you want. He’s not even speaking to his mom. Disappointed how you handle that
Zedii bullshite!! I’m an ex Muslim... an apostate. Family will disown me just because somebody leaves Islam they’re shamed. That’s cult mentality. NOTHING ABOUT ISLAM IS PEACEFUL. The Quran is full of “kill the unbeliever!” My father won’t talk to me because I married a white guy atheist who left his baptist cult because I’m not white.
Hi Sarah. I would love to hear about the years you spent in the Philippines. Did you stay with your aunts and uncles? how would you describe your relationship with your mom's side of the family? Did you form long-lasting friendships there?
Excuses, excuses... Justin, run! Listening to Sarah talk you will not be validated by Sarah or her dad (family) unless you change religion and if you are not comfortable doing and feel pressured, you will be miserable. Sarah needs to do some more maturing before this wedding happens. The way she's behaving/lying now gives the impression her dad will always influence her decision/life and even in marriage you will not be a team or her priority.
well for those ppl complaining and coming at sarah, she already told her father and he disowned her. she never lied with ill intention, all she wanted to do was make everyone happy and lieing is no good of course but so many judgemental comments making her sound like shes evil like please stop. she loves justin and her father, she just didnt want to lose either of them. regardless of if she told the truth up front or how it played out, her father's stubborniss would still have resulted the same. i hope sarah and justin live a long and happy marriage and their baby is safely delivered. god bless you two, and i hope your parents stop being closed minded and ignorant and learn to accept your love.
I have already crossed this bridge. My husband is Canadian/Filipino and I am Canadian/Somali and we both have immigrant parents. My father was against us abviously, but I persevered. To me, marriage should be mutual agreements between spouses but not relatives. My hubby grew up like strict Catholic and myself in strict Islamic household. Way before I met him, I was in another interracial relationship, and preprepared my parents about my choices in partners. They like to be old school and do arranged marriages, whereas growing up all my life in Canada, I have adopted more western approach. Neither way is right or wrong, you just do what is in your heart. Hubby did not convert to Islam, nor I into Catholicism. We are both paving our own roads, building our own family ( we have a 2 year old 😊) living our own love and truth. Many relatives chose not to be part of our lives, including my father, and that is their path. No one should be obligated to live a certain way because that is always how it SHOULD be. No. Live from your heart, and everyone's way is different. It is in our differences that we are complete. Hope you two have a successful marriage and family. Live your own truth ✌❤ ps. we live in Calgary too!! That's awesome, hope everything works out, all the best!
I don't understand how a person could remain a Muslim in Canada given such an easy uncensored access to the internet. Just google ex-Muslim websites to learn the truth about Muhammad - the most evil criminal that ever lived.
@Antione Griezmann: Not so good, but like I said, I've been in a inter-cultural relationships before. I wasn't in anyway surprised. I always have had the support of our mother (hooyo) and all our family from her side. It's been a challenge for me when I was younger, but eventually I had to learn to live with my decisions without trying to comprise my own happiness. It's just a balance. That's just the reality of life, you can never make anyone happy.
@banana aya playa: Thank you. I have so many friends and cousins that grew up here in Canada, who are still single and broke off engagements because of these ultimatums. Why should people be forced into something, solely to marry into a family? It baffles the mind. However, these lovely couples I knew broke up in the end, because they were not prepared to step up into their own power and say "No thank you, we will go ahead and get married with or without your approval". It's very intimidating to have your whole tribe of family against your decision, and if you refuse, they will walk out of your life. That's something that really hits you hard, and if you are not mentally, emotionally prepared to make that leap, along with your partner, then was it really Love?
Don't be saying no shahada dude. Either she accepts you as you are or she is looking for somebody else who can please her dad. Who are you marrying? Her or her dad?
There's no death penalty if you leave Islam. In the quraan it clearly states that there is no compulsory in religion. If you hate the religion so much just stop spreading rumours, forget it ever existed and move on with your life.
It’s sad that you had to hide it from your dad. When you did tell him I think as a Muslim father he probably felt it was his duty to ask him to convert to Islam. As a Muslim myself I understand his reasoning. It’s sad that you felt you had to lie to him about your partner converting. If he doesn’t believe in Islam there’s no point in him saying the shahada, because Allah swt knows he doesn’t believe. And if he said the shahadah he’d be saying it for you not for Allah. Insha’Allah one day he will believe in Allah swt. I pray for your happiness and Insha’Allah everything works out with both your families.
I am from a muslim family but I`m not religious. Do you think it`s fair that if you`re marrying a non-muslim man that the man has to convert but a muslim man can marry a non-muslim (holy) women without converting them? I know the reasons why.... but I know other couples who believe in different religions and are still together because they married for love, nothing else.
Zra J What do you mean "I am from a Muslim family but I'm not religious"? are you trying to say you're not a Muslim or what? Then you can't give your opinion (on the subject) in the name of other Muslims, but it's from your own mind. Today you see more Muslim women marrying to non-Muslims than Muslim men. It's rare for Muslim men to marry non-Muslims. If Muslim women marry non-Muslims, her kids will not be Muslims, and you will be the reason your kids will enter the hellfire. This is being selfish. Also Allah says in the Quran: [al-Baqarah 2:221] “And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikoon till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember”
JMTTrapMusic but keep in mind that when a Muslim man marries a non muslim woman, it's HIGHLY UNLIKELY their children will be Muslim, Children tend to follow the mother's teaching.
African and Asian parents are usually strict, but for good reason. Your turned out well, and so did Justin. We don't see the benefits when we are young, but when we get older, we appreciate it.
@monaco I would like to add that that the name ' Monaco' is a street name where I use to stay near by my old house where me and my mom use to stay in Jacksonville, Florida! I do believe that this kind of interracial couple (blasian) are really interesting and they seem to connect and blend African and Asian cultures in a way where may have similar ways in how they can relate psychologically as well as socially! It's so nice to witness this in a Marital Relationship or as a couple!❤😊
With all due respect, I would appreciate it if you wouldn't mix culture and religion. Islam is not as you are saying in regards to soul mates. In fact, a girl IS allowed to meet, talk, go out, and decide who she marries in Islam. Some cultures deny these given rights and that is where forced marriages are introduced. I myself am a practicing Muslim. I got to choose my husband myself. I met him from a group of mutual friends. We talked and fell in love. He did come to my house and meet my parents to ask for my hand..out of respect..but I had made my choice. We have been married happily for 13 years and have 4 beautiful kids. I appreciate your candid approach. But please make sure others do understand the truth. Islam is already being trashed enough in the media. By the way Justin, saying Shahada means you convert to Islam. That's the phrase one says when they want to become Muslim. I thank you for your time.
+ Daniel Kidd...... Why should any of them conform, his parents don't like her, they're not asking her to be Buddhist, neither should he have to conform to being Muslim. Religion shouldn't play a part in their love. They (Justin, Sarah) should make that decision, not their parents..
Daniel Kidd he’s not trying to, he is in his own country with his own rules besides her dad wants the best for her and thats all. She just doesn’t want to create more hurt and drama just because she fell in love.
I don't know their personal issues or hers for a fact but I don't think it's his ethnicity that's a problem. If anything it's because in Islam if a Muslim woman wants to get married to a guy he has to be Muslim. If he's not then their marriage is just void and equates to it being null. He shouldn't revert to a religion he doesn't agree to. Her father being the guy in the middle....he needs to understand despite knowing that this is his daughter and he loves her that she is a grown ass woman who can make her own decision. As long as she has a clear vision of knowing what she wants she has to face the truth and stand her ground and he needs to let her go in order for her to do that. At the end of the day he is her father so he needs to be there for her if things go left and she wants to go back to him.
Oh oh oh Sarah stop being a chicken and stand up for your love Your father all ready live his life. Be the best woman and man to each other. There are some religions that like to convert people Islam is one of them
Sjasja Pau no, actually it is forbidden in islam to pressure someone to convert, the person becomes muslim ONLY if they are truly believe in islam, there is a verse in quran that says" no compulsion in religion". But if she is muslim she would have known that it is forbidden for her to marry a non muslim, let alone dating him in the first place and then causing all this trouble that's happening with them.
banana aya playa how it's hypocritic? What does marrying the one you love have to do with the verse? True muslims (who studied their religion and know it well) would never engage in a relationship with a non muslim in the first place, so all this fuss would never happen. The girl in the video seems to be a non practicing muslim and doesn't seem to even care about her religion as she let her self be in this relationship.
I don't deal with none of my family (they are crazy and wicked) so when I remarry I pray the guy I marry has a loving family. After all I've been thru I hope he can accept never meeting my family.
It sounds like your dad loves you a lot Sara and just wants the best for you, if you could understand that and stand your grounds on your relationship I think it would be better than throwing him under the bus like he’s a crazy extremist. In reality it seems like you just have a lot of fears about disappointing your father probably because you also love him a lot. But the way you present it has made him look like a crazy muslim this is unfortunate because there are already so many misconceptions about Muslims. Just let your dad be part of your life I know many Sudanese people who are open minded and your dad did marry your mom who is NOT Sudanese or Muslim so don’t you think you could use that as an advantage to have him understand?
gnadenlos so everywhere you go you leave behind who you are? You leave behind what you believe in? Just to please people? Just to fit in? We all left that system in school. Plus how many individuals have you seen that are from every race including Caucasians that are Muslim? It clearly shows that it's not the country that shapes you. 🤔
Have some knowledge about Islam, or about what you're talking about. That's incorrect you do not get married in one day, and dowry isn't old fashioned or a culture it's in Islam. Before talking and misleading non- Muslims try to research what you're talking about.
Justin, do NOT recite the shihadeh. It's not just saying some sentence to please Sarah's dad. Reciting the shihadeh is saying you believe in Muhammad as Allah's prophet. Do not compromise your beliefs, because if you say the shihadeh and don't fully convert later, you could be asking for big trouble. Listen Sarah, I'm Arab (Christian) so I get the whole strict household thing. I lived it. But you have to stand your ground and be honest, otherwise your dad will always have a hold over you. Tell your dad you respect him and his beliefs but Justin will not convert to Islam. If he loves you, he will accept it even if he doesn't agree.
In fact, I’m not down with any of this web of lies. I was going to stick it out to see if Justin would move past his mother being prejudiced and choose you, but now you’ve come up with these childish shenanigans...this is ridiculous (smh). I ain’t got time for this mess. Unsubscribed!
So basically you are not a Muslim but, your dad was given the assumption, when infact your mum was teaching you her religious? Atleast be more honest than your mum
Justin please, your mother was right about her. You can do better than that lying woman. If she can lie to the first man in her life which is her father.Justin I need you to ask yourself can I trust Sarah?every thing comes out of her mouth is a lie.Look if you give up your family and everything for her, and she is not willing to stand up for you, then undermine your pain, that you are going through, plainly this girl don't love you, stop fooling yourself. Brakeup with her, and pack her up and give her back to her father. She needs more training to become a wife, a mother, a partner, and friend, they missed that part of her training. her parents did not train her properly, so give her back to them engagement leading to marriage shows Sarah's true colors .
Awe Sarah, I feel what you're going through, you're afraid of losing your dad in the process. I hope you have the courage in you to tell him the truth one day and he's accepts your relationship for what it is.
I’m so happy my Muslim parent aren’t like that ( dad) the say I can marry who ever I want because god made him for me and I was made for him as partners 😅 I hope you’re gonna tell your dad if he is the one ☝️ than it gonna be all right ( I hope so ) 😅💜
sarah i am muslimah from bosnia Herzegovina but i never marry non muslim..in my high school one Christian boy liked me but i rejected him becoz my love is my religion 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Sarah you are not ready to get married, your choices are and will always be based on your dad's feeling and what he will think. It seems you are very scared of what your dad might do to you if you visit him before the wedding. You think he will stop you from returning back to Canada and make you end your relationship. You feel secure going as a married woman, because you know he can't do anything.
I think that you need to be honest to your father, the lie is growing and it could be a problem. Just tell him the truth and fight for your love, the time changed, no one can force no one and you live very fast from him. He needs to respect you decision, so Justin's parents. If you keep lying to him, when he finds out is gonna be much worse.
I think you guys are focusing on to many other people in YOUR lives. I understand Sarah's Dad is Muslim, but Sarah does not have the same relationship convictions as her Dad. I found my Mom and Dad loved me regardless of my decisions, so I was transparent. So your relationship could work if you do not allow someone else's perspective to negate you love for one another. My Mom said to me once, "I'm your Mother." I said, "But she is my wife. I have vowed to love her and to forsake all others, which includes family." The bond between husband and wife no one should come between. When that happens the relationship is over. Because you are sharing your emotional and spiritual bond with a third party. I've seen a lot of relationships where the daughter feared their fathers. It always causes dysfunctional behaviors between the two and in other relationships. When Sarah was young and hiding relationships or other aspects of your life, its not this was part of your nature which he planted the seed. Unless your Dad has issues with being truthful about his own life. Sarah, your father will always love you and he will have to deal with the relationships he has with his siblings or friends in his own way. I would try not giving it a second thought. Justin will prove himself overtime. Love is not just for yesterday or a fantasy, it is a moment to moment practice you give one another. Sarah, because you are Muslim, practice the love you are supposed to have for your husband. Justin, you may be agnostic (this had not been discussed), but as Sarah has already stated you find new ways to display your love for her already moment to moment. Always believe in your love for one another.
Sema Hekima wonderfully said, and yes her father married another woman in his hometown secretly while still married to Sarah's mother. I don't understand why his opinions matter so much when he's not physically in their life. Sigh
Absolutely. It is true what you said about it creating dyfunctional behaviours,her fear of her dad is causing her to lie to her fiancé and give her dad a false sense of security. I was miserable for years because I always wanted to get approval from my dad that I would never get. But with therapy I understood that it wasnt only because of religion because he is dysfunctional himself and projected that dysfunction through the guise of religion and authoritarianism. Sarah also needs to find out if she has a Oedipus Complex, or "Complex of Electra" in her case, but that seem to have forged her behavior with men
Sema Hekima unless you personally know Sarah and Justin and their families, you can't begin talk about her and her mental health. Just because you have something doesn't mean someone else has it. Don't force your opinion on someone else. You don't the whole story.
I disagree. I can look at 'shared history' and form an opinion. Force! I don't believe anyone is 'forcing' anything. Apparently I've touched a nerve. My experience in life have shown me, the experiences they shared, about their parents behaved towards one another, how they sometimes keep information from one another and how this type of behavior creates a riff between couples and family is not healthy in any relationship personal or business. Children will bring the family of origin imprint into future relationships, this is a fact which is one of the leading causes of breakups. They should have all the facts. They should see a couple of marriage counselors before getting married. But as we are only human most of us will ignore professionals and proceed on anyway because it is difficult to go against the physical and psychological imprint of our lives, because we cannot see it
Sema Hekima I understand what you're saying but again you don't know them personally. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors. You're only hear what they are willing to tell us. So you can't know for certain if they have exactly what you say. I understand that you have similar experiences and I feel so sorry that that happened to you, but you guys are not the same exact people and might not have the same thing. That all I said. I didn't mean any disrespect and I apologize if i offend you with my comment. That absolutely not my intention.
Sarah, i totally understand what you are going through because I'm going through the exact same thing like you but it involves both of my parents. People who are telling you to just be truthful and shame you for your decisions really don't understand why you make the decisions that you do because they have never lived your experience. it's very easy for people to just say "be truthful" " don't let your dad control you" because they don't understand what you went through. I totally understand the amount of emotional turmoil that you're going through between your fiance and dad, so i don't want you to feel annoyed about strangers who only get to see 30mins of your relationship giving you advice that you didn't even ask for. Do what you believe is good for you because you're the only one who understands and knows what you're going through.
TheDorkyDorcas Seriously. I’m so sad to see so many negative comments and unsolicited “advice.” I’m sure they’re going through enough with all the family drama. I hope that with time, the parents are able to accept their son/daughter in law and see how much these two love and respect each other.
TheDorkyDorcas If it were the other way around and the man refused to tell his family about his black fiance would you be singing the same tune? There comes a point in life when a parent should allow his children to grow up. Especially when marriage windows are so slim for women in these patriarchal & chauvinistic societies. When her father goes on to heaven she will be the one left in this world without the man she loves.
Kayer713 well yes I would because I’d understand why it would be hard to do so.and I don’t think she’s refusing to tell her family she’s just having a hard time trying to tell her father since they have a strong relationship but he is strict to her and expects her to live a certain life. I understand what you’re talking about how the parents should allow the child to grow up however not all people have western values. People live with different cultural understanding about how life should be it’s not easy to just force someone to change their worldview when they’re not willing to listen or understand so I understand why it’s hard for her to not tell her father. I’m just not into people shaming her for her decisions and telling her to just tell her dad when hey don’t understand their relationship or don’t understand why it’s hard for her. I hope she finds the time to do it and hopefully her father and fiancé and grow a relationship between each other that would be blessed.
You are an adult and you are your own person with your own beliefs. You should have the freedom to live your life and your husband has the freedom to live his. Good luck to you and hope you have the courage to tell him that your husband doesn't want to convert and that he won't, he isn't a robot just to follow your dad. Just be Honest and good luck ❤️
I’m with Sara 💔 as a Muslim woman having a Muslim husband is a big deal. It’s hard because I LOVE and respect my religion but I also love and respect my relationship 💔 it’s hard.
Sarah you are not being realistic. Your father is never going to accept your fiancé so you should be truthful at all times. Islam is very strict and Justin could be hurt physically. He was honest with his parents and you too should be. If you truly love him then be honest about him in all things. You are creating a bigger problem when unrealistic expectations are being given. If you love someone be honest to everyone This is the only way you two will survive this
Therunta Runale Therunta, unless you have lived this you are not able to speak to this. I didn’t send this to you but to Sarah. I am not here to discuss religion. Thank you
Therunta Runale Honestly, not everyone is going to accept your religion. To some they don't want to agree with it. You have to understand that. If you can't, I suggest you shut the computer.
Those are Muslims who interpret the scriptures for their own malicious reasons to justify their actions, but true Muslims are able to interpret the Quran properly through historical context. And I'm a Christian whose dad is a pastor. There are Christians who believe that black people are cursed that's why their skin is black but that's because they interpret a verse to their own liking but there are Christians who actually understand metaphors and historical context. try to practice your critical thinking skills before asking ignorant questions or actually try to educate yourself about things you don't understand that asking a complex question via text where you won't understand what someone is trying to explain to you 100% because they're not in front of you to have a normal conversation.
This is definitely REAL GOOD ADVICE to Sarah!!! I Could NOT HAVE said it Better! Their marriage or Marital Relationship is their OWN! The Parent Does Not Have that Control On them! Justin her husband DOES NOT HAVE TO CONVERT TO MUSLIM! They are such an Interesting Couple! Justin is nice and considerate. Sarah is a fun and a lovely personality! She's an absolute Doll! They are real smart and kind couple! There is a REAL important saying (verse from the bible)on married couple! ' Two become One Flesh!' And ' What God has put together no one can put Asunder!' ❤ 😊 I hope they will come to know the truth behind muslim religious belief vs. Christianity! Best wishes to the couple!
Salam! Take care in how you address the situation, but you must arm yourself with your rights (Islamic and secular). Know that there are differing scholarly opinions about the permissibility of marrying a non Muslim man. Read credible discussions on the topic. Know you can change your wali if your father is unreasonably harsh or threatens your safety. Also, be careful not to force Islam onto your fiancé. Allah has already written his path and yours so continue to be loving, respectful, and aware of his feelings. I don’t know how religious you are but know that God wants the best for you both even if others don’t ❤️ continue to grow as an individual and a couple
You two do not act like adults. You both walk around needing acceptance and approval from others(parents). Both of y'all need to sit down talk about what you want for the future and live your life. You only have 1 life to live. Make decisions that are best for y'all. It is the only way to be truly happy. If not this relationship will not last.
This is a lot. I saw the vid of yours when Justin attempted to introduce you to his parents. Sarah, you are going to have to make a clear decision. Unlike what you said in this video, you cannot make your father happy and make Justin happy, too. I am not being critical, but you two definitely should not marry until Sarah clarifies all the ambiguous points with her dad. I suspect that the relationship with all the parents will change and the two of you might only have each other. Think about it and make sure that if it comes down to that you are both willing to be ok under those circumstances and never, ever complain about your choice. Complaining about your parents to one another about anything at all, even stuff not related to the two of you being together, will only further drive a wedge of disconnection between your spouse and your parent(s). If there is no relationship with your spouse and your parent then your spouse will have a challenging time being objective about any complaints you have about your parent because they have no first hand experience and only know about your parent what you tell them and what they assume. That will make it more complicated for the spouse to bridge the gap if the parents ever come around and make an attempt to accept your mate.
You are such a sweet couple and he shouldn't be pressured to be a Muslim. What if he was raised Christian? You fell in love with the man and Dad would just have to accept that.
Sigh... Such a poor guy. His would-be wife gives zero respect to him. She treats him like shit (The way she treats, loves him is more like treating, loving her lovable cute pet, rather than treating, loving her life-time human partner as equal with due respect). Otherwise, she would have told him beforehand what she was going to say (lie) about him to her dad in her second conversation with her dad. And he just lets her manipulate and treat him like her cute pet, instead of telling her that she crossed the line she was supposed not to do.
I am Muslim and I was raised and taught about Islam. My mom is Ukrainian and was Christian but eventually she converted into a Muslim. I am sometimes confused on what I believe in, but I certainly believe in God. Tbh i am not that religious like my parents neither my sister is. I was taught to respect all religions and I believe that love has no barriers because it's your life, not theirs, not anyone else's.
Cute! What about your sister's relationship with you girls dad? Sarah!!! Girl you have confused and mislead and lied to your dad throughout your life concerning boys, dating, and Justin. My goodness you just need to come CLEAN with dad!!! Sarah! SARAH!!! You are old enough to Brave up and be truthful to dad! Stop telling tales to your dad it makes matter much worse. 😘 I support you and Justin but honesty is the best policy regardless. Justin told his parents how it is and how it's going to be. Period!!!
Justine.....she is immature.....i think you better rethink about marrying her. She talks childish....too giglish...I see you both heading for lots of difficulties....
I thought you would make it as a couple until I saw this video. If you cannot be honest about your love and your relationship with your family, how will you be able to defend it? To me it seems like Justin wants his family to accept Sarah and will marry her anyway. Sarah, if you cannot be equally honest with your family, how will your marriage work? What if your dad doesn’t give his blessing? What will Sarah do? I hope you both had a very long discussion after you finished this video. Your marriage will be difficult, especially when children are in the marriage so you must agree in advance on how you will deal with religion, family, money, school, etc...in my opinion. You just have to be honest otherwise what’s the point?
I can’t even begin to know anything about a Muslim parent, however I think it’s important to not mislead them. In the end, there could be even more resentment as a result. Don’t make false promises at your fiancé’s expense. It may make the acceptance even more critical, allowing your dad to disprove because of a falsehood. Whatever your religion pray for guidance and be upfront and honest because you already knew going into this relationship that there would be some hurdles and obstacles to get over. I only wish the best for you two. Enjoy The Holidays and God Bless!!!
Justin shouldn't be pressured into converting to any religion other then the religion he identifies with or believes in. You're an adult, stand up for Justin and yourself. He is standing up to his family for you and if you truly love Justin you'll do the same for him.
I am dating a Chinese guy, I haven’t told anyone from my dads side cause I would probably get killed but for sure exiled from the family. I am not telling anyone unless I’m 100% sure I will spend the rest of my life with him. It’s difficult and I want to show how in love I am but I don’t wish to cause pain or hurt to my family. My family is muslim btw, and they’re very hardheaded. I wish I could talk to someone who has been through it but I don’t know anyone in my social circle so it helps when you guys make these videos so I have someone to share the experience with. Thank you.
BTW, Saying the Shahadah IS CONVERTING. If Justin has to say it just cause to make your dad happy doesn't make any sense cause you and your dad both know the meaning of the Shahadah and you are stating that you bear witness that there is not God but Allah and Muhamed PBUH Is his messenger. Justin, if you are ready to convert and to learn about Islam got for it but don't just say it just to say it to make her dad happy.
No offense, your dad did your mom really dirty. I don't understand his standard of respect a husband should have for a wife. Also just curious, does your dad have rules for how you should dress? and I'm super shocked about that Islamic rule where he can come and take you out of Canada at any time. Is that legal in Canada?
Im sad seeing how you talk. Especially when justin ask you if you also think of that way to him just like ur boyfriend that you had for 5 years. And your not 101% commited to him as he is to you. This saddened me so much bec i watch your video when he brought you to his parents. And many times tried hard to convince them and still go against them just to be with you. And you cannot upfront your parents??? I also live in philippines, i know how strict muslim parents to their children are. I also have muslim classmates going up who has an arrange marriage to someone she dont like. But how could you agree into an ENGAGEMENT without even clarifying first the situation to ur parents, bec it more scarier to have a muslim parents than korean one. Especially religion is involved. If you are not sure to marrying this man or having a relationship to a man for 5 years (just for the sake of having a relationship, be ''in'') then why are you even trying to reason out yourself. Wake up girl. Stop pretending to be in love. Dont be a hypocrite. If ur serious about this why keep it secret to ur dad and ur family seeing him not keeping it secret to his own family????? Felt disgusted now, i dont think i should finish watching thos video.
It's easier said than done. Commenters are saying ohh just tell the truth and how it's going to end badly. IT'S NOT THAT EASY. My friend married a non Muslim man who is the same race as she is and it was just as difficult. The truth should come out eventually. Even if the dad disowns her who cares. Happiness should always prevail.
Hi Sarah. Good to see you’ve left Islam. The day you decided to love Justin is the day you’re no longer a Muslim. I’m not kidding. Unbelievers are described by Muhammad (in the Quran) as "the vilest of animals" and "losers." Christians and Jews are hated by Allah to the extent that they are destined for eternal doom as a result of their beliefs. It would make no sense for Muhammad to then recommend that they be taken as friends by Muslims. In fact, the Quran plainly dictates that they not be.
I'm not sure Sarah is mature enough to marry, even at age 30. No offense, but she appears to be more concerned with her Father's feelings, than she is about Justin's. How can a marriage survive under circumstances where dishonesty exists? Until she can be honest with both of them, maybe they should wait.
detphemale As someone who has been in her shoes with a Muslim Father, I can say this has nothing to do with maturity. Until this happens to you, and your lucky it wont, you'll never understand being in that place caught between your Father and partner. She's obviously choosing her partner in the end, but it takes time, and babysteps, and it's very difficult to reach a place of bslance with everyone involved. She's going through the same thing that Justin is going through with his mother. Different cultures also have different relationship with their parents, making the situation seem unusal to some outside those cultures.
detphemale Also, there is irony in you and saying she doesn't seem mature enough when true maturity comes from learning how to be empathetic and trying to understand other's lives and situations and choices. That's true maturity.
Sarah you probably should get some counseling. You never are going to be able to make everyone happy. You need to decide what is more important to you. Loving Justin and being his wife or making your dad happy.
TBH I'm forcing myself to finish this video because I want to watch their journey, but the way she's talking about her dad being a devoured Muslim and him "forcing" her to pray 5 times a day and not get a boyfriend kinda annoys me. I mean he's Muslim and your dad what do you expect! They way she keeps talking about Muslims is like saying that their strict horrible religion. Not all Muslim are like that, some parents actually let their kids date and stuff.
no matter what you don't make your parents look bad !! he did his best as what I've seen ... I'm in kind of the same similar situation but I would never out him like that in public
Hmm.... Sarah is lying to Justin a lot more than she’s lying to her dad by making Justin believe that the “shahada” is just “a sentence”. It’s not. It’s a testimony of faith. To convert to Islam, all that someone has to do is to pronounce that specific sentence (the shahada). There is no other step nor requirement. Sarah and her dad obviously know that, just like all Muslims. I’m surprised Justin did not google what is the shahada, he would have easily learned that he would be converting to Islam by saying that sentence in front of witnesses. This whole situation is so bizarre, or maybe they’re playing dumb to minimize their decision. Thousands of men every year convert to Islam for love, since a muslim woman is not allowed to marry a non-muslim man in her religion, so there’s no way around it for the marriage to be valid and accepted by the family. Their story is not uncommon as per say, what is uncommon is for the husband not to be aware that he’s converting before marrying.
My husband was not a Muslim, but I told him that Islam was a part of me and if I had to choose, I will always choose Islam. It was very hard for me to make that decision. I thought my boyfriend would run and leave, but he said he's willing to learn it for me. We're married, he's learning, and he wants to try because it's important to me, so it's important to him too. I'm very blessed, I would say.
Sarah I love you but woman to woman you are being super hypocritical. Especially when you tired comparing Justin’s relationship to his parents to your relationship with your father. It might be different ways but both parent to child relationships are toxic Justin in a racial way and yours in a religious way. If you love this man put your foot down and be proud of him.
Yall accusing her have no idea what having Muslim parents feels like. You can't confront them about the truth of dating a non Muslim and expect them to hug it out and be happy for you... so stop accusing her or calling her selfish. Yall just have it good of having freedom to choose your own partner. I have it hard with my mother, even though I was honest with her from the beginning and I knew I will live in hell after that. I am still living in hell because she is not accepting the man i want to marry. She asked him to convert and show her proves to do that and he did it and she still lied to us and rejected him. So please stop you dont know how hard we have it and how we wish we have the right to choose without parents obstacles.
i just discovered your channel and I love it. My husband is Chinese and I'm Spanish, we live in China. We've been married for 5 years and never had a family issue until recently, it seems like for us all the issues come with our baby news. I'm 33 weeks pregnant thanks to IVF and we are super excited about it. My husband was put in a very ugly situation in which he had to ask his mom to go back to her home and leave ours. She came for a "visit" but when she arrived the amount of luggage she brought was paranormal, I Immediately raise the red flag to my hubby that I believed she said she was visiting but she was moving in. And guess what, indeed, when she said visit she meant "i move in with you". And when she said "to support you", she meant "for you to take care of me". The 1.5 months she spent here were a nightmare. She would cook for herself and never clean after herself, she never cooked for anyone else besides herself, she lots two pairs of keys, she ate my breakfast which i always prepare in advance and finished all ingredients and didn't clean after it, she was just spending long hours watching tv and eating ice cream, to the point that when my husband was arriving from work and would ring the bell she simply didn't move to the sofa and twice my husband had to call my mobile and wake me up. She invited people over and basically added more work to our life. Work that we don't need, especially if you consider we both work full time and I am pregnant. My husband had to sit down with her and ask her to move back to her home and told her she is welcome to come to visit once the baby is here, for some days. She was shocked and said "but you don't want to take care of me? im old". my husband had to explain: " you are 60 years old, you are healthy, and we are 30. We are adding a new member to the family that will need our care. We can't also add you, because then we add two members that need our support, one of them who doesn't even need it. What we need is support from you." She packed and left. It was hard, but she doesn't have any reason to need anyone to take care of her. My dad gave us advise and told us that we need to be clear with her and him, and put boundaries when needed and if they cross a line, tell them. Now we are in this situation...
It wasn’t a matter of Justin not being able to pronounce the words, he didn’t believe in the words. You can’t please everyone. I’m glad Justin found out in time. It would have been worst had Justin found out about a promise to convert after the wedding.
tbh I never minded having parents like what you're saying and I never thought of it as restricting even though I don't leave in a Muslim country. I never got influenced by others
This might be harsh, but to be real - both sets of your parents may be dead in 15 years. Both of you will hopefully live decades beyond them. You are at an age now where you need to make decisions (career, marriage etc) that will affect you in the decades you live after your parents are gone. So the reality is you need to do what makes you happy now because those big decisions now will affect you later in life, when your parents are dead and not around to care.
I relate to so much of this because my father is Muslim and my upbringing was a lot like yours. He came from Egypt. My mother is Christian. We were taught both religions. I couldn't have boyfriends either, haha. My dad said the words boyfriend and girlfriend didn't exist in our home. But my dad has grown and changed a lot. He's still Muslim but he has grown very open to all beliefs and isn't strict like he once was.
KSH2006 I dont have any set beliefs. My beliefs evolve as i grow as a person and learn more. Im essentially agnostic with spirtual tendencies. One thing I've learned coming from a family of different faiths is that too many think they know the answers to life and that they know the truth through their beliefs, but in reality, we all really don't know anything. We either follow what we grew up on and have always known, or we follow what speaks to our hearts and personalities. I'd rather remain open to everything, learn about all beliefs, respect them all and keep learning.
@@Piecesoftheshadow thank you for sharing. You mentioned that your father became more “open minded”, how did he come to that? In most cases the child has to rebel against the conservative parent and cause a hell of a scandal and fights in order to open their minds a bit. What helped your father to become more accepting?
how can she not tell him that he is expected to eventually convert to islam? what if this is something he doesn't want to do no matter how in love he is with her? it's very clear how surprised and hurt he was upon hearing this while filming this video. would you, sarah, be ok if justin is lying to you? and it seems like sarah has a habit of lying growing up in a strict household. this is not healthy.
I’m not gonna pretend to know what it’s like to have a Muslim parent but Sarah I’m not sure if hiding the truth is a such a good idea. After all Justin did keep it honest with his parents and accept the backlash
Message Comment I’m not of the same faith so no comment on that.
Message Comment lol who cares. obviously isn’t religious and doesn’t care about how valid her marriage is
You seem to care a whole lot 🤷🏽♀️
muslim women can not marry non-muslim and converting for benefits (like for marriage) is not acceptable (God is not blind!) this is not gonna work love is not everything good luck for all of u singles out there
banana aya playa u r a young person I guess this is y u think love is everything ....
Oh God... the rabbit hole just keeps getting deeper! Ugh! Now my feelings are caught up. Lol. I love Sarah but It's messed up she's lying to her dad about Justin. Especially after everything Justin is going through with his parents defending her... trying to get them to accept her.
Yeah if her & her father had such a great relationship she should have told her father. Grow a pair & tell him!
Typical sudanese father😂
Lana So you would cut your parents out just bc of disapproval? That's messed up. Parents raised you, fed you, basically they sacrificed their life so that you can be happy..God knows how much i owe my parents especially my mum a lot and i can't disobey her. I love her too much. No offence tho. Sarah knows that and that's the reason why she keeps lying about Justin. They'll come around. Parents want what's best for child. Her father will accept Justin in the end.
Lana Thank you so much and i'm sorry that things with your parents didn't work out well. But i'm sure you'll be great mum. God blessings :)
@@antoinegriezmann2738 my parents didn't do shit for me. i don't give a fuck about what they think of my marriage.
I love you Sarah but it's unfair and selfish to Justin not to be truthful with your father about everything. Justin has sacrificed his relationship with his parents and everything for you. It is also not right to force someone into a religion just to be married to you.. Isn't this what your mom went through?? I hope y'all can figure out everything because yes having your parents approval is nice, but at the end of the day you're both grown and should be getting married to yourselves, not your parents. Best wishes!
Exactly...🤩
A word of advice from someone who had a similar experience, stop making excuses and be brutally honest and upfront about everything . In the end, everyone will appreciate your honesty and adjust accordingly. Good luck!
Jezebell 8 Yes sometimes you just gotta put it out there. Once people get over the shock, life goes on.
Absolutely
I'm looking at the expression on Justin's face.
But I dont get it, your mam converted Muslim? Because if your dad didnt even married a Muslim thats soo hypocrital..
And.. sad for Justin. I mean you say Hey I didnt want to break our realtionship.. but Justin ruined his with their parents for you.. I think you are being a bit immature Sarah, you say its tough to choose but Justin.. I mean his family wont even speak to him again what do you think that makes him feel?
Do the job, the love of your life deserves it ..
Anyways love you guys
because in islam a muslim man can marry a christian or jewish woman not hindu or other religions. but a muslim woman can't marry any man who isn't a muslim.and if you do go ahead and marry a man who isn't muslim marriage is not valid in islam it would be as if you are commiting aldulterly
Jade Fo man, I wished so bad she read these many comments like yours.
Her dad is a hypocrite, so he marries a Non-Muslim woman (her mom) and then doesn't allow his daughter to do the same thing?
evolusaw PE. Because Islamic speaking the man allowed to married a Christian or Jew
banana aya playa Im not going to lie when i was first told this, my eye was tp the side. The reasoning was that it would be easier for a woman to convert or the children would be raised muslim even if the mother is not, but if youre marrying a non muslim man it would mean you would have to convert to his religion. With this my family has several non muslim men/muslim women relationships however they have never really worked out like the non muslim woman/muslim man relationships. Id say just get into a relationship without expectations of converting because that can cause problems from the get go
layla nazzal. Yeah that true but Islamic speaking a Muslim women can't get married to Non- Muslim man
I can understand What you Say!. Indeed her Father did the wrong thing by not Giving the right example!. And Yes this Will happend. My Father Married My mom a non Muslim!. Iam the only one who married a Muslim My other 3 siblings left the Religion. I cannot blame her that she wana live with a non Muslim Because she isnt raised with Religion!.
evolusaw PE men are allowed to marry a non muslim but women aren't if that makes sense and plz we should respect each others believes.
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I understand the turmoil for Sarah, but Justin will not and should not ever convert to a religion he doesn't believe. I hope only the best for you both in this difficult situation.
u dont actually convert it more like a ceremony
There are some Muslim countries where by law, the non Muslim has to convert.
banana aya playa woah there, believing in after life does not make someone part of terrorist group. Chill out
mindfreedom1 If your values and self respect mean killing innocent people, as ISIS does, than you are already an animal.
mindfreedom1 Calm the fuck down you overly reactive person. My father is a muslim. Had you read my message correctly, you would have seen I was talking about ISIS, not Islam, so chill out.
Your dad isn't practising Islam properly and seems like a hypocrite from how you've described him.
Islam says " a muslim should marry a muslim" this is islam
Oh he is.... he’s practicing it like true Muslim. Hateful and hypocrisy just like my father.
@@christinaheuer7169 you have issues...but good music taste xtina.
Sarah you're wrong! Justin did his part and then some BUT you're not doing your part. I was once mad at Justin but it's so good that I know the whole story/the other side. Justin is awesome how he handles this all. You can't marry him if you want "peace" You can't please everyone. Justin comes first if he's to become your husband
Diva08180703 No parents come first!
ᅳᅳ문마야 no they don't. When you're married, your marriage comes first.
I agree with you Diva0810703 I think that way mean we can't please everyone in this world and of course live in lie so I think Justin did the right thing and I am glad to see he stand his ground! Thank you for sharing your story Sarah and Justin and just remember that at the end of day it's you guys!
I have strict parents too so I can understand, but I think you should gather up the courage to tell your dad the truth 💪💗
Hello, I just wanted to say that a lot of thing you have said about Islam isn’t right, a lot of people mix culture with religion which is what you and your dad are doing such as your dad not letting you go to the supermarket by yourself has nothing to do with Islam I think that is his preference and also marrying someone that you’re met for the first time isn’t what Islam says, and the fact that you have to follow whatever your dads says. Islam isn’t a religion that tells you to be quite and have not opinions.
You both are cute. That lady is madly in love.
Often times children of strict parents (me included) overthink and stress excessively about how their parents would react to certain things. This can be extremely counter productive and negatively affect your decision making as a lot is based on assumption. As the eldest in the family keeping the peace tends to fall on your shoulders but there's a difference between saying something you think people want to hear even if it's not entirely true and delivering what you need to say in a respectful and considerate manner. I'm confident that you will reach a point in your relationship with your dad that you will feel comfortable enough to tell him your true feelings. From what I can see you have a wonderful support system in Justin, your sister and your mum. On a lighter note, my parents are seeing the benefits of me marrying outside my culture, one being that they don't have to share me on Vietnamese cultural days like the Lunar New Year!
Please just tell your dad the truth, it’s best go into a marriage without lies or secrets. Creates so much risk. I think that would hurt your dad too much to keep lying to him. Are you ready for marriage if honest communication scares you? You can’t put your dad before Justin - especially since He is standing up for you.
Soulance Life By Gina i
Religion always separates.
Prince White Charming
You are so pathetic and uneducated 😂😂
Prince White Charming oh wow, is there any kind of proof that ppl do that these days? Sounds like a hoax to me, if you can't show the evidence of what you state before.
Maybe you forget to read the time stamp on that, i.e. maybe that happened on ancient time
Thanks Soulance, couldn't have said it better. I was disappointed as I continued to watch the video, and at one point Justin states to Sarah "..You are lying...". This needs to be addressed and corrected, as her character is being questioned, not the reasons behind her half-truths and omissions. While I do understand her reasons, she's setting a pattern of behavior that Justin is observing. How will she respond to challenges in their marriage?
They both need to be able to trust and depend on each other in marriage, and ideally, the parents and family should take on a supportive role. There's nothing like being married to another parent/family's CHILD instead of being married to a fully developed and respectful ADULT that that family has produced. In the former scenario the person will have childish actions, reasons and excuses and always defer to the preferences of the parent(s). While she is saying that she values her relationship with her dad, she's putting Justin in a difficult position to defend, since he clearly has no intention of converting to Islam. So which relationship does she value more? Again, they both need to be able to trust and depend on each other in marriage, and honesty should be a part of its foundation.
She is not a Muslim. She has never said she is a Muslim. Her dad is a Muslim.
Foresake all others in your relationship. Love, respect and trust each other. Honesty is the best way to go!!!!!
HI CAN WE GET A COMPILATION OF SARAH’S LAUGH BECAUSE OH MY GOSH IT’S THE CUTEST THING EVER AND SERIOUSLY SO CONTAGIOUS. i wouldn’t mind listening to it all day omg i bet justin enjoys it!
I have read some of the comments on here and I don't think that everyone is being realistic and understanding of what you guys are going through. Religion and Culture are everything in most families that's why weddings are religious and cultural. I think that what you guys are undertaking is a lot more difficult than you imagined and your love must be genuine and strong in order to survive it. Once your parents see your love for each other both sides will eventually relent with time. You must be committed to each other first and foremost and make sure that each other is protected. The respect you are giving your parents should be commended. We live in a day when children don't respect their elders any longer. I congratulate you two for trying to do your best to respect both of your parents wishes and cultures but knowing that it is impossible when you were touched by a love that was so transforming it changed you forever! Sarah you will break your father's heart, but he will love you even more when he sees the lengths you went through to protect him! Justin is worth the struggle and you are the jewel of your father's heart!
Mickey1863 I agree. Religion and culture is absolutely huge.
I totally agree with u cuz most of people don’t understand how difficult to marry a non Muslim guy .if she didn’t say that to her dad she will go back home without her men and without her education and stay home until her dad find a husband for her. I feel her and i really respect what they did to be together .stay strong cuz people are just judging they don’t know anything ❤️
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sarah I am kind of disappointed in you because Justin loves you and he shouldn't be forced into anything because it seems like deja vu with your mum and dad as your mum did the same thing for your dad which was converting for love...... I understand you don't want to disappoint your dad and you're a daddy's girl but you just need to be honest with your dad regarding with Justin and speak your truth and whatever your dad chooses to do with that truth. it's up to him. Don't be a pleaser because you're hating them both by playing the fence. Stand in your truth
Maybe knows how it is when a person marries a non-muslim so he is giving her the best advice his experience tells him that it's hard to work. A problem here is that Justin is an honest man and Sarah is possibly immature cause she lies to Justin. Bad way to start a marriage. She has to stop lying! And maybe Korean dad knows or has a feeling about this so does not approve marriage too. Good luck Justin and Sarah.
At least one parent on both sides is nuts. Good luck with that. You might have to protect her from both your mom and her dad. I'm not sure this is going to work out.
Phoenixspin Lmao
You owe your parents respect. However, you don't owe them your life. The more I listen to Sarah talk, the more I feel like Justin should give this marriage some more thought. Can she truly stand by your side in the face of opposition? She's not ready. He chose Sarah, over everyone. She clearly has some maturing to do.
detphemale yessssss
Period.
She stood by his side while his mum practically treated like a non human being, as if she was dirt cos her colour. So yeah Id say she was ready for opposition
she was ready for opposition from his side, the side she doesnt know and cant say she would be too hurt if they didnt accept her. but she isnt ready for opposition from her side. justin on the other hand was ready and honest with his side even though he knew they would nt accept. soooooooo i think you are right she may not be ready. she definitely loves him and her parents but if she cant stand her ground then they will have problems. he dealt with his end and so should she. its not gonna be easy though so i do understand her fear, but still.
Jewel Vilela Yes, as long as the opposition isn't coming from HER family. Not saying she's a bad person, but marriage is "forsaking ALL others." She's been dishonest with both Justin and her Father. She may have to make a choice. I don't think she's ready to do that. Until she is, they should wait.
Muslim= religion..korean= Nationality. Two entirely different things..
Yes... they are different it's how racism works.
religion is not important, love/tolerance is more important.
Her father disapprove for religious reason while his mother disapprove because his mother dislike her.
Justin please check the laws before traveling to Dubai as a couple, i think it is against the law, and you may end up in jail. There is a video on UA-cam. Also, don't be tricked into saying the shahada, Islam is not to be by compulsion!!! Sarah should know better! I am a Muslim revert, by my own free will and not due to marriage or compulsion, because I am single. Be careful Justin, do your own research and don't be fooled by Sarah's giddyness because jail time is not cute!
NR C actually you can wear anything you want in dubai, it's not saudi arabia. But they can't kiss in public, but definately they can visit dubai and live there even though they are not married, no one would chase them to know if they are married or not lol
Dubai is not strict at all. The biggest underground club is in Dubai. All the celebrities go there to party. It’s Chris Brown’s favorite place to party.
So sad.
My dad is also Muslim. I turned 30 and he doesn't want me to date and he's not setting me up with anyone. The topic of marriage is a super uncomfortable subject to discuss with him. I think i might just get married and tell him after the fact.
Do you boo... you can`t be single forever. I met someone online so that was easier for me.
Do you still live at home? If not why be scared? They're not the one who have to live with the love of your life.. They won't even be here in 50 years
My mom is Buddhist , but wouldnt say she is really religious.
Yeah i do, but even if i lived out the house id still be afraid to bring up the subject to him. He's my dad, he should bring that topic up to me, even when i was younger he never discussed the topic of marriage of dating or marriage with me. Ive been dropping hints like crazy as Im interested in seeing if he expects me never to get married. Eventually im going to do what I gotta do, but i dont want to lie to him.
Ashley Often times, strict/controlling parents create a very negative sense of self for their daughters. They keep you so close and want to control every aspect of your life that you have to take the steps of claiming your life. You are now 30. You should start dating and allowing someone to court you. I am not saying premarital sex, but just starting get to know people, go out see if you can be friends etc before anything. Then after you when you've met someone who is worthy of your time and heart you can bring it up. You don't ask for permission at 30, you just tell them you've met someone and you want him to meet this person.
I hope you don't eventually trick him into converting to Islam using love as an excuse... anyways good luck you two...
Red Hot lol but what about there being no compulsion in the acceptance Islam?? Have you ever read the Quran or talked to Muslims? Forced conversions are emotionally abusive and invalid in Islam
Red Hot I know several cases of the same conversion...then they always go back once the relationship is over.
Na'ilah El-Amin in another video she and her mum said that her mum converted to Islam because the mum was in love with the dad... regardless of genuine conversion or not, I'm sure it happens all the time, not just in Islam but also other religions.
Na'ilah El-Amin if this is the case, then why are there some laws in Muslim countries where Muslims have to marry Muslims? Meaning non Muslims HAVE TO convert if they marry a Muslim.
Marry him and move on. Don' let what people say about your relationship keep each other apart.
Marquez
I’m sorry but I don’t agree with this like your dad is giving you false info about he doesn’t have to be Muslim before you guys get married. It’s basically haram. And the one sentence thing ur dad was talking about that ur husband had to say is him converting into Islam you can’t just trick people into converting, and about what u said how under Muslim law until a daughter is married she’s under her dads rules that’s false, so plz don’t Spread fake information about Islam if your not educated Enough and clearly ur dad is giving you false info by saying it’s ok to get married blah blah blah, tbh at the end of the day it’s your choice but I don’t appreciate you spreading fake info about Islam or speaking in something ur not educated about
Well, clearly there are challenges on both sides regarding parents. It's difficult to navigate and I hope you get through it together and intact.
actually in islam it's not a hi bye thing it's more of you meet people in the intention of marriage as the end goal not boyfriend girlfriend relationship and when you meet you meet not alone with one or more people and in the meeting you have you talk about anything really. the main thing is that your not touching feely in these meeting or when you are getting to know each other. You might meet someone from university or your work or a friends friend or have your friends or family introduce someone to you
This is all before a wedding?! Have you had the conversation about what religion your children will be raised under? Be responsible adult and lay down the facts to your father. Not being fair to Justin or to your father because your lack of courage.
They both need to more assertive (without disrespecting the parents) now. Lay down the law so to speak, so not have to run into problems later. Controlling parents have hard time understanding adult children can & will decide on how to live their own lives. But it needs to be verbally expressed. You obviously never dealt with a controlling parent.
Justin is such a sweet husband.how I wish to have a husband like him.and Sarah you are so beautiful,brave ,courageous,everything. I look upon you.you guys are meant to be each other. my relationship goal “Sarah And Justin”aww I feel like no people exits like you guys ..love you guys.best wishes🥰
Hmmm, this is too much! Don’t let your parents control your lives. It’s okay to choose your future. Your life, your rules. This whole situation makes me grateful for my family. Good luck to you all.
Thanks for sharing your story... however honesty no matter what is best! In order for your future husband to have trust in you and vice versa honesty must be in the relationship. Remember respect your parents not fear them and by showing your dad respect is being honest. This will not fare good once you guys marry because your dad will expect Justin to convert. Once you marry your headship is your husband, Justin. So if you love him for who he is then be proud of that!
She’s being so hypocritical, she need to man up for him. Fight for the love you claim you want. He’s not even speaking to his mom. Disappointed how you handle that
Sadly true
You are not in her shoes.
OP 1000 no I’m not, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that she handle that poorly.
Karl Scher sorry to say bud but islam is a very peaceful religion. No where in the quran does it tell us to be violent
Zedii bullshite!! I’m an ex Muslim... an apostate. Family will disown me just because somebody leaves Islam they’re shamed. That’s cult mentality. NOTHING ABOUT ISLAM IS PEACEFUL. The Quran is full of “kill the unbeliever!”
My father won’t talk to me because I married a white guy atheist who left his baptist cult because I’m not white.
Hi Sarah. I would love to hear about the years you spent in the Philippines. Did you stay with your aunts and uncles? how would you describe your relationship with your mom's side of the family? Did you form long-lasting friendships there?
Excuses, excuses... Justin, run! Listening to Sarah talk you will not be validated by Sarah or her dad (family) unless you change religion and if you are not comfortable doing and feel pressured, you will be miserable. Sarah needs to do some more maturing before this wedding happens. The way she's behaving/lying now gives the impression her dad will always influence her decision/life and even in marriage you will not be a team or her priority.
well for those ppl complaining and coming at sarah, she already told her father and he disowned her. she never lied with ill intention, all she wanted to do was make everyone happy and lieing is no good of course but so many judgemental comments making her sound like shes evil like please stop. she loves justin and her father, she just didnt want to lose either of them. regardless of if she told the truth up front or how it played out, her father's stubborniss would still have resulted the same. i hope sarah and justin live a long and happy marriage and their baby is safely delivered. god bless you two, and i hope your parents stop being closed minded and ignorant and learn to accept your love.
I have already crossed this bridge. My husband is Canadian/Filipino and I am Canadian/Somali and we both have immigrant parents. My father was against us abviously, but I persevered. To me, marriage should be mutual agreements between spouses but not relatives. My hubby grew up like strict Catholic and myself in strict Islamic household. Way before I met him, I was in another interracial relationship, and preprepared my parents about my choices in partners. They like to be old school and do arranged marriages, whereas growing up all my life in Canada, I have adopted more western approach. Neither way is right or wrong, you just do what is in your heart. Hubby did not convert to Islam, nor I into Catholicism. We are both paving our own roads, building our own family ( we have a 2 year old 😊) living our own love and truth. Many relatives chose not to be part of our lives, including my father, and that is their path. No one should be obligated to live a certain way because that is always how it SHOULD be. No. Live from your heart, and everyone's way is different. It is in our differences that we are complete. Hope you two have a successful marriage and family. Live your own truth ✌❤ ps. we live in Calgary too!! That's awesome, hope everything works out, all the best!
LemuriMuneChild How did your aabo react?
I don't understand how a person could remain a Muslim in Canada given such an easy uncensored access to the internet. Just google ex-Muslim websites to learn the truth about Muhammad - the most evil criminal that ever lived.
@Antione Griezmann: Not so good, but like I said, I've been in a inter-cultural relationships before. I wasn't in anyway surprised. I always have had the support of our mother (hooyo) and all our family from her side. It's been a challenge for me when I was younger, but eventually I had to learn to live with my decisions without trying to comprise my own happiness. It's just a balance. That's just the reality of life, you can never make anyone happy.
@banana aya playa: Thank you. I have so many friends and cousins that grew up here in Canada, who are still single and broke off engagements because of these ultimatums. Why should people be forced into something, solely to marry into a family? It baffles the mind. However, these lovely couples I knew broke up in the end, because they were not prepared to step up into their own power and say "No thank you, we will go ahead and get married with or without your approval". It's very intimidating to have your whole tribe of family against your decision, and if you refuse, they will walk out of your life. That's something that really hits you hard, and if you are not mentally, emotionally prepared to make that leap, along with your partner, then was it really Love?
LemuriMuneChild
Omg you guys are the cutest couple ❤️❤️
Hmmm...this whole thing is shady😒
coolingwinds how so?
Don't be saying no shahada dude. Either she accepts you as you are or she is looking for somebody else who can please her dad. Who are you marrying? Her or her dad?
Sh Al her marriage will be invalid in Islam if his not a Muslim.
There's no death penalty if you leave Islam. In the quraan it clearly states that there is no compulsory in religion. If you hate the religion so much just stop spreading rumours, forget it ever existed and move on with your life.
It’s sad that you had to hide it from your dad. When you did tell him I think as a Muslim father he probably felt it was his duty to ask him to convert to Islam. As a Muslim myself I understand his reasoning. It’s sad that you felt you had to lie to him about your partner converting. If he doesn’t believe in Islam there’s no point in him saying the shahada, because Allah swt knows he doesn’t believe. And if he said the shahadah he’d be saying it for you not for Allah. Insha’Allah one day he will believe in Allah swt. I pray for your happiness and Insha’Allah everything works out with both your families.
Red Hot May Allah guide you to the right path and take away what is hurting you, amen!
I am from a muslim family but I`m not religious. Do you think it`s fair that if you`re marrying a non-muslim man that the man has to convert but a muslim man can marry a non-muslim (holy) women without converting them? I know the reasons why.... but I know other couples who believe in different religions and are still together because they married for love, nothing else.
Zra J
What do you mean "I am from a Muslim family but I'm not religious"? are you trying to say you're not a Muslim or what? Then you can't give your opinion (on the subject) in the name of other Muslims, but it's from your own mind.
Today you see more Muslim women marrying to non-Muslims than Muslim men. It's rare for Muslim men to marry non-Muslims. If Muslim women marry non-Muslims, her kids will not be Muslims, and you will be the reason your kids will enter the hellfire. This is being selfish.
Also Allah says in the Quran: [al-Baqarah 2:221]
“And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikoon till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember”
JMTTrapMusic but keep in mind that when a Muslim man marries a non muslim woman, it's HIGHLY UNLIKELY their children will be Muslim, Children tend to follow the mother's teaching.
+banana aya playa
If you're not a Muslim then you should not even talk about it. We have our own religion.
She doesn't seem to be ready for marriage. She seems to be playing too many games.
Dee-Dee Perry yeesssssss!! I agree
African and Asian parents are usually strict, but for good reason. Your turned out well, and so did Justin. We don't see the benefits when we are young, but when we get older, we appreciate it.
yeah.. I'm only 18 but I already wish my parents were stricter in some areas
E Laila so true!
Yes its true,i for one am very grateful for the sctrictness.lol
@monaco I would like to add that that the name ' Monaco' is a street name where I use to stay near by my old house where me and my mom use to stay in Jacksonville, Florida! I do believe that this kind of interracial couple (blasian) are really interesting and they seem to connect and blend African and Asian cultures in a way where may have similar ways in how they can relate psychologically as well as socially! It's so nice to witness this in a Marital Relationship or as a couple!❤😊
With all due respect, I would appreciate it if you wouldn't mix culture and religion. Islam is not as you are saying in regards to soul mates. In fact, a girl IS allowed to meet, talk, go out, and decide who she marries in Islam. Some cultures deny these given rights and that is where forced marriages are introduced. I myself am a practicing Muslim. I got to choose my husband myself. I met him from a group of mutual friends. We talked and fell in love. He did come to my house and meet my parents to ask for my hand..out of respect..but I had made my choice. We have been married happily for 13 years and have 4 beautiful kids. I appreciate your candid approach. But please make sure others do understand the truth. Islam is already being trashed enough in the media. By the way Justin, saying Shahada means you convert to Islam. That's the phrase one says when they want to become Muslim. I thank you for your time.
If you're not ready to tell your dad about your future husband with transparency, then you're not ready to marry.... just my 2 cents
her dad wouldnt accept any non-muslim so maybe he's the one not ready to live in a western country
+ Daniel Kidd......
Why should any of them conform, his parents don't like her, they're not asking her to be Buddhist, neither should he have to conform to being Muslim. Religion shouldn't play a part in their love. They (Justin, Sarah) should make that decision, not their parents..
Gary Garner yesssss exactly
Daniel Kidd he’s not trying to, he is in his own country with his own rules besides her dad wants the best for her and thats all. She just doesn’t want to create more hurt and drama just because she fell in love.
I don't know their personal issues or hers for a fact but I don't think it's his ethnicity that's a problem. If anything it's because in Islam if a Muslim woman wants to get married to a guy he has to be Muslim. If he's not then their marriage is just void and equates to it being null. He shouldn't revert to a religion he doesn't agree to. Her father being the guy in the middle....he needs to understand despite knowing that this is his daughter and he loves her that she is a grown ass woman who can make her own decision.
As long as she has a clear vision of knowing what she wants she has to face the truth and stand her ground and he needs to let her go in order for her to do that.
At the end of the day he is her father so he needs to be there for her if things go left and she wants to go back to him.
Oh oh oh Sarah stop being a chicken and stand up for your love
Your father all ready live his life. Be the best woman and man to each other. There are some religions that like to convert people Islam is one of them
Sjasja Pau no, actually it is forbidden in islam to pressure someone to convert, the person becomes muslim ONLY if they are truly believe in islam, there is a verse in quran that says" no compulsion in religion". But if she is muslim she would have known that it is forbidden for her to marry a non muslim, let alone dating him in the first place and then causing all this trouble that's happening with them.
banana aya playa how it's hypocritic? What does marrying the one you love have to do with the verse? True muslims (who studied their religion and know it well) would never engage in a relationship with a non muslim in the first place, so all this fuss would never happen. The girl in the video seems to be a non practicing muslim and doesn't seem to even care about her religion as she let her self be in this relationship.
Cute couple but wayyyyy to much high drama for me
Archangelcleo hi black queen
Relax Bro John hello
I don't deal with none of my family (they are crazy and wicked) so when I remarry I pray the guy I marry has a loving family. After all I've been thru I hope he can accept never meeting my family.
Archangelcleo yes
It sounds like your dad loves you a lot Sara and just wants the best for you, if you could understand that and stand your grounds on your relationship I think it would be better than throwing him under the bus like he’s a crazy extremist. In reality it seems like you just have a lot of fears about disappointing your father probably because you also love him a lot. But the way you present it has made him look like a crazy muslim this is unfortunate because there are already so many misconceptions about Muslims. Just let your dad be part of your life I know many Sudanese people who are open minded and your dad did marry your mom who is NOT Sudanese or Muslim so don’t you think you could use that as an advantage to have him understand?
In Islam is forbidden to marry non Muslim man I feel sad for her dad she leaves her Islam for man
Are you Muslim if you Muslim. You must know marry non Muslim man is haram
Exactly 👌
That's why you should stay in your countries until you've developed and left your religion behind.
gnadenlos so everywhere you go you leave behind who you are? You leave behind what you believe in? Just to please people? Just to fit in? We all left that system in school. Plus how many individuals have you seen that are from every race including Caucasians that are Muslim? It clearly shows that it's not the country that shapes you. 🤔
Have some knowledge about Islam, or about what you're talking about. That's incorrect you do not get married in one day, and dowry isn't old fashioned or a culture it's in Islam. Before talking and misleading non- Muslims try to research what you're talking about.
She said "her fathers mind is conditioned in that way of thinking!" Hence his way of thinking SO PLEASE LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAID!! Jheeezze
Justin, do NOT recite the shihadeh. It's not just saying some sentence to please Sarah's dad. Reciting the shihadeh is saying you believe in Muhammad as Allah's prophet. Do not compromise your beliefs, because if you say the shihadeh and don't fully convert later, you could be asking for big trouble. Listen Sarah, I'm Arab (Christian) so I get the whole strict household thing. I lived it. But you have to stand your ground and be honest, otherwise your dad will always have a hold over you. Tell your dad you respect him and his beliefs but Justin will not convert to Islam. If he loves you, he will accept it even if he doesn't agree.
In fact, I’m not down with any of this web of lies. I was going to stick it out to see if Justin would move past his mother being prejudiced and choose you, but now you’ve come up with these childish shenanigans...this is ridiculous (smh). I ain’t got time for this mess. Unsubscribed!
So basically you are not a Muslim but, your dad was given the assumption, when infact your mum was teaching you her religious? Atleast be more honest than your mum
Justin please, your mother was right about her. You can do better than that lying woman. If she can lie to the first man in her life
which is her father.Justin I need you to ask yourself can I trust Sarah?every thing comes out of her mouth is a lie.Look if you give up your family and everything for her, and she is not willing to stand up for you, then undermine your pain, that you are going through, plainly this girl don't love you, stop fooling yourself. Brakeup with her, and pack her up and give her back to her father.
She needs more training to become a wife, a mother, a partner, and friend, they missed that part of her training. her parents did not train her properly, so give her back to them engagement leading to marriage shows Sarah's true colors .
Awe Sarah, I feel what you're going through, you're afraid of losing your dad in the process. I hope you have the courage in you to tell him the truth one day and he's accepts your relationship for what it is.
I’m so happy my Muslim parent aren’t like that ( dad) the say I can marry who ever I want because god made him for me and I was made for him as partners 😅 I hope you’re gonna tell your dad if he is the one ☝️ than it gonna be all right ( I hope so ) 😅💜
sarah i am muslimah from bosnia Herzegovina but i never marry non muslim..in my high school one Christian boy liked me but i rejected him becoz my love is my religion 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Maryam Isa
One day you will realize how Islam strangled you.
Stupid girl on a search for some identity.
Oh man, Thats's a very tough situation to be in.
Sarah you are not ready to get married, your choices are and will always be based on your dad's feeling and what he will think. It seems you are very scared of what your dad might do to you if you visit him before the wedding. You think he will stop you from returning back to Canada and make you end your relationship. You feel secure going as a married woman, because you know he can't do anything.
santacruz474 first she is muslim and so am I your is always first by cultur too because your men can leave you any time but not your familie!
I think that you need to be honest to your father, the lie is growing and it could be a problem. Just tell him the truth and fight for your love, the time changed, no one can force no one and you live very fast from him. He needs to respect you decision, so Justin's parents. If you keep lying to him, when he finds out is gonna be much worse.
I think you guys are focusing on to many other people in YOUR lives. I understand Sarah's Dad is Muslim, but Sarah does not have the same relationship convictions as her Dad. I found my Mom and Dad loved me regardless of my decisions, so I was transparent. So your relationship could work if you do not allow someone else's perspective to negate you love for one another. My Mom said to me once, "I'm your Mother." I said, "But she is my wife. I have vowed to love her and to forsake all others, which includes family." The bond between husband and wife no one should come between. When that happens the relationship is over. Because you are sharing your emotional and spiritual bond with a third party.
I've seen a lot of relationships where the daughter feared their fathers. It always causes dysfunctional behaviors between the two and in other relationships. When Sarah was young and hiding relationships or other aspects of your life, its not this was part of your nature which he planted the seed. Unless your Dad has issues with being truthful about his own life.
Sarah, your father will always love you and he will have to deal with the relationships he has with his siblings or friends in his own way. I would try not giving it a second thought. Justin will prove himself overtime. Love is not just for yesterday or a fantasy, it is a moment to moment practice you give one another.
Sarah, because you are Muslim, practice the love you are supposed to have for your husband. Justin, you may be agnostic (this had not been discussed), but as Sarah has already stated you find new ways to display your love for her already moment to moment.
Always believe in your love for one another.
Sema Hekima wonderfully said, and yes her father married another woman in his hometown secretly while still married to Sarah's mother. I don't understand why his opinions matter so much when he's not physically in their life. Sigh
Absolutely. It is true what you said about it creating dyfunctional behaviours,her fear of her dad is causing her to lie to her fiancé and give her dad a false sense of security. I was miserable for years because I always wanted to get approval from my dad that I would never get. But with therapy I understood that it wasnt only because of religion because he is dysfunctional himself and projected that dysfunction through the guise of religion and authoritarianism. Sarah also needs to find out if she has a Oedipus Complex, or "Complex of Electra" in her case, but that seem to have forged her behavior with men
Sema Hekima unless you personally know Sarah and Justin and their families, you can't begin talk about her and her mental health. Just because you have something doesn't mean someone else has it. Don't force your opinion on someone else. You don't the whole story.
I disagree. I can look at 'shared history' and form an opinion. Force! I don't believe anyone is 'forcing' anything. Apparently I've touched a nerve. My experience in life have shown me, the experiences they shared, about their parents behaved towards one another, how they sometimes keep information from one another and how this type of behavior creates a riff between couples and family is not healthy in any relationship personal or business. Children will bring the family of origin imprint into future relationships, this is a fact which is one of the leading causes of breakups. They should have all the facts. They should see a couple of marriage counselors before getting married. But as we are only human most of us will ignore professionals and proceed on anyway because it is difficult to go against the physical and psychological imprint of our lives, because we cannot see it
Sema Hekima I understand what you're saying but again you don't know them personally. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors. You're only hear what they are willing to tell us. So you can't know for certain if they have exactly what you say. I understand that you have similar experiences and I feel so sorry that that happened to you, but you guys are not the same exact people and might not have the same thing. That all I said. I didn't mean any disrespect and I apologize if i offend you with my comment. That absolutely not my intention.
Sarah, i totally understand what you are going through because I'm going through the exact same thing like you but it involves both of my parents. People who are telling you to just be truthful and shame you for your decisions really don't understand why you make the decisions that you do because they have never lived your experience. it's very easy for people to just say "be truthful" " don't let your dad control you" because they don't understand what you went through. I totally understand the amount of emotional turmoil that you're going through between your fiance and dad, so i don't want you to feel annoyed about strangers who only get to see 30mins of your relationship giving you advice that you didn't even ask for. Do what you believe is good for you because you're the only one who understands and knows what you're going through.
TheDorkyDorcas Seriously. I’m so sad to see so many negative comments and unsolicited “advice.” I’m sure they’re going through enough with all the family drama. I hope that with time, the parents are able to accept their son/daughter in law and see how much these two love and respect each other.
TheDorkyDorcas So perfectly said!
TheDorkyDorcas If it were the other way around and the man refused to tell his family about his black fiance would you be singing the same tune? There comes a point in life when a parent should allow his children to grow up. Especially when marriage windows are so slim for women in these patriarchal & chauvinistic societies.
When her father goes on to heaven she will be the one left in this world without the man she loves.
Kayer713 well yes I would because I’d understand why it would be hard to do so.and I don’t think she’s refusing to tell her family she’s just having a hard time trying to tell her father since they have a strong relationship but he is strict to her and expects her to live a certain life. I understand what you’re talking about how the parents should allow the child to grow up however not all people have western values. People live with different cultural understanding about how life should be it’s not easy to just force someone to change their worldview when they’re not willing to listen or understand so I understand why it’s hard for her to not tell her father. I’m just not into people shaming her for her decisions and telling her to just tell her dad when hey don’t understand their relationship or don’t understand why it’s hard for her. I hope she finds the time to do it and hopefully her father and fiancé and grow a relationship between each other that would be blessed.
TheDorkyDorcas best 👏🏾response 👏🏾ever! Thank you for redeeming all the shit people have written to this couple.
I couldn't tell you where 29
You are an adult and you are your own person with your own beliefs. You should have the freedom to live your life and your husband has the freedom to live his. Good luck to you and hope you have the courage to tell him that your husband doesn't want to convert and that he won't, he isn't a robot just to follow your dad. Just be Honest and good luck ❤️
I’m with Sara 💔 as a Muslim woman having a Muslim husband is a big deal. It’s hard because I LOVE and respect my religion but I also love and respect my relationship 💔 it’s hard.
Sarah you are not being realistic. Your father is never going to accept your fiancé so you should be truthful at all times. Islam is very strict and Justin could be hurt physically. He was honest with his parents and you too should be. If you truly love him then be honest about him in all things. You are creating a bigger problem when unrealistic expectations are being given. If you love someone be honest to everyone
This is the only way you two will survive this
Therunta Runale Therunta, unless you have lived this you are not able to speak to this. I didn’t send this to you but to Sarah. I am not here to discuss religion. Thank you
Therunta Runale Just let it go..
Therunta Runale Honestly, not everyone is going to accept your religion. To some they don't want to agree with it. You have to understand that. If you can't, I suggest you shut the computer.
Therunta Runale Okay that's fine. But what about the muslims who say the coran says to terrorize the non-believers?
Those are Muslims who interpret the scriptures for their own malicious reasons to justify their actions, but true Muslims are able to interpret the Quran properly through historical context. And I'm a Christian whose dad is a pastor. There are Christians who believe that black people are cursed that's why their skin is black but that's because they interpret a verse to their own liking but there are Christians who actually understand metaphors and historical context.
try to practice your critical thinking skills before asking ignorant questions or actually try to educate yourself about things you don't understand that asking a complex question via text where you won't understand what someone is trying to explain to you 100% because they're not in front of you to have a normal conversation.
Sarah youre a strong woman. Dont listen to your fathers hypocrisy about converting your husband. Dont let him control you.
This is definitely REAL GOOD ADVICE to Sarah!!! I Could NOT HAVE said it Better! Their marriage or Marital Relationship is their OWN! The Parent Does Not Have that Control On them! Justin her husband DOES NOT HAVE TO CONVERT TO MUSLIM! They are such an Interesting Couple! Justin is nice and considerate. Sarah is a fun and a lovely personality! She's an absolute Doll! They are real smart and kind couple! There is a REAL important saying (verse from the bible)on married couple! ' Two become One Flesh!' And ' What God has put together no one can put Asunder!' ❤ 😊 I hope they will come to know the truth behind muslim religious belief vs. Christianity! Best wishes to the couple!
Salam! Take care in how you address the situation, but you must arm yourself with your rights (Islamic and secular). Know that there are differing scholarly opinions about the permissibility of marrying a non Muslim man. Read credible discussions on the topic. Know you can change your wali if your father is unreasonably harsh or threatens your safety. Also, be careful not to force Islam onto your fiancé. Allah has already written his path and yours so continue to be loving, respectful, and aware of his feelings. I don’t know how religious you are but know that God wants the best for you both even if others don’t ❤️ continue to grow as an individual and a couple
You two do not act like adults. You both walk around needing acceptance and approval from others(parents). Both of y'all need to sit down talk about what you want for the future and live your life. You only have 1 life to live. Make decisions that are best for y'all. It is the only way to be truly happy. If not this relationship will not last.
Sarah, I don't think you are ready to get married. I don't even think that you really want to get married to Justin. Just listen to yourself...
This is a lot. I saw the vid of yours when Justin attempted to introduce you to his parents. Sarah, you are going to have to make a clear decision. Unlike what you said in this video, you cannot make your father happy and make Justin happy, too. I am not being critical, but you two definitely should not marry until Sarah clarifies all the ambiguous points with her dad. I suspect that the relationship with all the parents will change and the two of you might only have each other. Think about it and make sure that if it comes down to that you are both willing to be ok under those circumstances and never, ever complain about your choice. Complaining about your parents to one another about anything at all, even stuff not related to the two of you being together, will only further drive a wedge of disconnection between your spouse and your parent(s). If there is no relationship with your spouse and your parent then your spouse will have a challenging time being objective about any complaints you have about your parent because they have no first hand experience and only know about your parent what you tell them and what they assume. That will make it more complicated for the spouse to bridge the gap if the parents ever come around and make an attempt to accept your mate.
You are such a sweet couple and he shouldn't be pressured to be a Muslim. What if he was raised Christian? You fell in love with the man and Dad would just have to accept that.
Sigh... Such a poor guy. His would-be wife gives zero respect to him. She treats him like shit (The way she treats, loves him is more like treating, loving her lovable cute pet, rather than treating, loving her life-time human partner as equal with due respect). Otherwise, she would have told him beforehand what she was going to say (lie) about him to her dad in her second conversation with her dad. And he just lets her manipulate and treat him like her cute pet, instead of telling her that she crossed the line she was supposed not to do.
I am Muslim and I was raised and taught about Islam. My mom is Ukrainian and was Christian but eventually she converted into a Muslim. I am sometimes confused on what I believe in, but I certainly believe in God. Tbh i am not that religious like my parents neither my sister is. I was taught to respect all religions and I believe that love has no barriers because it's your life, not theirs, not anyone else's.
Cute! What about your sister's relationship with you girls dad? Sarah!!! Girl you have confused and mislead and lied to your dad throughout your life concerning boys, dating, and Justin. My goodness you just need to come CLEAN with dad!!! Sarah! SARAH!!! You are old enough to Brave up and be truthful to dad! Stop telling tales to your dad it makes matter much worse. 😘 I support you and Justin but honesty is the best policy regardless. Justin told his parents how it is and how it's going to be. Period!!!
Justine.....she is immature.....i think you better rethink about marrying her. She talks childish....too giglish...I see you both heading for lots of difficulties....
I thought you would make it as a couple until I saw this video. If you cannot be honest about your love and your relationship with your family, how will you be able to defend it? To me it seems like Justin wants his family to accept Sarah and will marry her anyway. Sarah, if you cannot be equally honest with your family, how will your marriage work? What if your dad doesn’t give his blessing? What will Sarah do? I hope you both had a very long discussion after you finished this video. Your marriage will be difficult, especially when children are in the marriage so you must agree in advance on how you will deal with religion, family, money, school, etc...in my opinion. You just have to be honest otherwise what’s the point?
I can’t even begin to know anything about a Muslim parent, however I think it’s important to not mislead them. In the end, there could be even more resentment as a result. Don’t make false promises at your fiancé’s expense. It may make the acceptance even more critical, allowing your dad to disprove because of a falsehood. Whatever your religion pray for guidance and be upfront and honest because you already knew going into this relationship that there would be some hurdles and obstacles to get over. I only wish the best for you two. Enjoy The Holidays and God Bless!!!
Justin shouldn't be pressured into converting to any religion other then the religion he identifies with or believes in. You're an adult, stand up for Justin and yourself. He is standing up to his family for you and if you truly love Justin you'll do the same for him.
I am dating a Chinese guy, I haven’t told anyone from my dads side cause I would probably get killed but for sure exiled from the family. I am not telling anyone unless I’m 100% sure I will spend the rest of my life with him. It’s difficult and I want to show how in love I am but I don’t wish to cause pain or hurt to my family. My family is muslim btw, and they’re very hardheaded. I wish I could talk to someone who has been through it but I don’t know anyone in my social circle so it helps when you guys make these videos so I have someone to share the experience with. Thank you.
BTW, Saying the Shahadah IS CONVERTING. If Justin has to say it just cause to make your dad happy doesn't make any sense cause you and your dad both know the meaning of the Shahadah and you are stating that you bear witness that there is not God but Allah and Muhamed PBUH Is his messenger. Justin, if you are ready to convert and to learn about Islam got for it but don't just say it just to say it to make her dad happy.
No offense, your dad did your mom really dirty. I don't understand his standard of respect a husband should have for a wife. Also just curious, does your dad have rules for how you should dress? and I'm super shocked about that Islamic rule where he can come and take you out of Canada at any time. Is that legal in Canada?
Jay Kay oh my goodness yessss she dresses so scantly
I don't think that's an Islamic rule .
Im sad seeing how you talk. Especially when justin ask you if you also think of that way to him just like ur boyfriend that you had for 5 years. And your not 101% commited to him as he is to you. This saddened me so much bec i watch your video when he brought you to his parents. And many times tried hard to convince them and still go against them just to be with you. And you cannot upfront your parents??? I also live in philippines, i know how strict muslim parents to their children are. I also have muslim classmates going up who has an arrange marriage to someone she dont like. But how could you agree into an ENGAGEMENT without even clarifying first the situation to ur parents, bec it more scarier to have a muslim parents than korean one. Especially religion is involved. If you are not sure to marrying this man or having a relationship to a man for 5 years (just for the sake of having a relationship, be ''in'') then why are you even trying to reason out yourself. Wake up girl. Stop pretending to be in love. Dont be a hypocrite. If ur serious about this why keep it secret to ur dad and ur family seeing him not keeping it secret to his own family????? Felt disgusted now, i dont think i should finish watching thos video.
It's easier said than done. Commenters are saying ohh just tell the truth and how it's going to end badly. IT'S NOT THAT EASY. My friend married a non Muslim man who is the same race as she is and it was just as difficult. The truth should come out eventually. Even if the dad disowns her who cares. Happiness should always prevail.
bink bee does the daughter even practice Islam??? If not who cares
Hi Sarah. Good to see you’ve left Islam. The day you decided to love Justin is the day you’re no longer a Muslim. I’m not kidding.
Unbelievers are described by Muhammad (in the Quran) as "the vilest of animals" and "losers." Christians and Jews are hated by Allah to the extent that they are destined for eternal doom as a result of their beliefs. It would make no sense for Muhammad to then recommend that they be taken as friends by Muslims. In fact, the Quran plainly dictates that they not be.
I'm not sure Sarah is mature enough to marry, even at age 30. No offense, but she appears to be more concerned with her Father's feelings, than she is about Justin's. How can a marriage survive under circumstances where dishonesty exists? Until she can be honest with both of them, maybe they should wait.
detphemale True, its obviously going to end soooo bad
detphemale As someone who has been in her shoes with a Muslim Father, I can say this has nothing to do with maturity. Until this happens to you, and your lucky it wont, you'll never understand being in that place caught between your Father and partner. She's obviously choosing her partner in the end, but it takes time, and babysteps, and it's very difficult to reach a place of bslance with everyone involved. She's going through the same thing that Justin is going through with his mother. Different cultures also have different relationship with their parents, making the situation seem unusal to some outside those cultures.
detphemale Also, there is irony in you and saying she doesn't seem mature enough when true maturity comes from learning how to be empathetic and trying to understand other's lives and situations and choices. That's true maturity.
Sarah you probably should get some counseling. You never are going to be able to make everyone happy. You need to decide what is more important to you. Loving Justin and being his wife or making your dad happy.
11 11 I was married to a Muslim man, myself. It has happened to me. I stand by my original statement.
TBH I'm forcing myself to finish this video because I want to watch their journey, but the way she's talking about her dad being a devoured Muslim and him "forcing" her to pray 5 times a day and not get a boyfriend kinda annoys me. I mean he's Muslim and your dad what do you expect! They way she keeps talking about Muslims is like saying that their strict horrible religion. Not all Muslim are like that, some parents actually let their kids date and stuff.
no matter what you don't make your parents look bad !! he did his best as what I've seen ... I'm in kind of the same similar situation but I would never out him like that in public
You guys are a very cute couple. My respects but Justin has been very honest. Please be honest You have a wonderful husband God bless you
Omg me and Sara practically have similar life stories !
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Hmm.... Sarah is lying to Justin a lot more than she’s lying to her dad by making Justin believe that the “shahada” is just “a sentence”. It’s not. It’s a testimony of faith. To convert to Islam, all that someone has to do is to pronounce that specific sentence (the shahada). There is no other step nor requirement. Sarah and her dad obviously know that, just like all Muslims. I’m surprised Justin did not google what is the shahada, he would have easily learned that he would be converting to Islam by saying that sentence in front of witnesses. This whole situation is so bizarre, or maybe they’re playing dumb to minimize their decision. Thousands of men every year convert to Islam for love, since a muslim woman is not allowed to marry a non-muslim man in her religion, so there’s no way around it for the marriage to be valid and accepted by the family. Their story is not uncommon as per say, what is uncommon is for the husband not to be aware that he’s converting before marrying.
My husband was not a Muslim, but I told him that Islam was a part of me and if I had to choose, I will always choose Islam. It was very hard for me to make that decision. I thought my boyfriend would run and leave, but he said he's willing to learn it for me. We're married, he's learning, and he wants to try because it's important to me, so it's important to him too. I'm very blessed, I would say.
Sarah I love you but woman to woman you are being super hypocritical. Especially when you tired comparing Justin’s relationship to his parents to your relationship with your father. It might be different ways but both parent to child relationships are toxic Justin in a racial way and yours in a religious way. If you love this man put your foot down and be proud of him.
Wow are you really 29 I thought you were 19 or 20 or something hahaha
she's 30
Yall accusing her have no idea what having Muslim parents feels like. You can't confront them about the truth of dating a non Muslim and expect them to hug it out and be happy for you... so stop accusing her or calling her selfish. Yall just have it good of having freedom to choose your own partner. I have it hard with my mother, even though I was honest with her from the beginning and I knew I will live in hell after that. I am still living in hell because she is not accepting the man i want to marry. She asked him to convert and show her proves to do that and he did it and she still lied to us and rejected him. So please stop you dont know how hard we have it and how we wish we have the right to choose without parents obstacles.
i just discovered your channel and I love it. My husband is Chinese and I'm Spanish, we live in China. We've been married for 5 years and never had a family issue until recently, it seems like for us all the issues come with our baby news. I'm 33 weeks pregnant thanks to IVF and we are super excited about it. My husband was put in a very ugly situation in which he had to ask his mom to go back to her home and leave ours. She came for a "visit" but when she arrived the amount of luggage she brought was paranormal, I Immediately raise the red flag to my hubby that I believed she said she was visiting but she was moving in. And guess what, indeed, when she said visit she meant "i move in with you". And when she said "to support you", she meant "for you to take care of me". The 1.5 months she spent here were a nightmare. She would cook for herself and never clean after herself, she never cooked for anyone else besides herself, she lots two pairs of keys, she ate my breakfast which i always prepare in advance and finished all ingredients and didn't clean after it, she was just spending long hours watching tv and eating ice cream, to the point that when my husband was arriving from work and would ring the bell she simply didn't move to the sofa and twice my husband had to call my mobile and wake me up. She invited people over and basically added more work to our life. Work that we don't need, especially if you consider we both work full time and I am pregnant. My husband had to sit down with her and ask her to move back to her home and told her she is welcome to come to visit once the baby is here, for some days. She was shocked and said "but you don't want to take care of me? im old". my husband had to explain: " you are 60 years old, you are healthy, and we are 30. We are adding a new member to the family that will need our care. We can't also add you, because then we add two members that need our support, one of them who doesn't even need it. What we need is support from you." She packed and left. It was hard, but she doesn't have any reason to need anyone to take care of her. My dad gave us advise and told us that we need to be clear with her and him, and put boundaries when needed and if they cross a line, tell them. Now we are in this situation...
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It wasn’t a matter of Justin not being able to pronounce the words, he didn’t believe in the words. You can’t please everyone. I’m glad Justin found out in time. It would have been worst had Justin found out about a promise to convert after the wedding.
tbh I never minded having parents like what you're saying and I never thought of it as restricting even though I don't leave in a Muslim country. I never got influenced by others
This might be harsh, but to be real - both sets of your parents may be dead in 15 years. Both of you will hopefully live decades beyond them. You are at an age now where you need to make decisions (career, marriage etc) that will affect you in the decades you live after your parents are gone. So the reality is you need to do what makes you happy now because those big decisions now will affect you later in life, when your parents are dead and not around to care.
I relate to so much of this because my father is Muslim and my upbringing was a lot like yours. He came from Egypt. My mother is Christian. We were taught both religions. I couldn't have boyfriends either, haha. My dad said the words boyfriend and girlfriend didn't exist in our home. But my dad has grown and changed a lot. He's still Muslim but he has grown very open to all beliefs and isn't strict like he once was.
11 11 I'm curious. What are your beliefs?
KSH2006 I dont have any set beliefs. My beliefs evolve as i grow as a person and learn more. Im essentially agnostic with spirtual tendencies. One thing I've learned coming from a family of different faiths is that too many think they know the answers to life and that they know the truth through their beliefs, but in reality, we all really don't know anything. We either follow what we grew up on and have always known, or we follow what speaks to our hearts and personalities. I'd rather remain open to everything, learn about all beliefs, respect them all and keep learning.
11 11 well said. :)
KSH2006 Well, thank you ;) :)
@@Piecesoftheshadow thank you for sharing. You mentioned that your father became more “open minded”, how did he come to that? In most cases the child has to rebel against the conservative parent and cause a hell of a scandal and fights in order to open their minds a bit. What helped your father to become more accepting?
how can she not tell him that he is expected to eventually convert to islam? what if this is something he doesn't want to do no matter how in love he is with her? it's very clear how surprised and hurt he was upon hearing this while filming this video. would you, sarah, be ok if justin is lying to you? and it seems like sarah has a habit of lying growing up in a strict household. this is not healthy.