LIFE UPDATE! How to move through tragedy & loss

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  • LIFE UPDATE! How to move through tragedy & loss
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  • @meagenb4968
    @meagenb4968 Рік тому +18

    Age is a priviledge and a blessing. My Dad used to say, as he was dying from cancer, andeven before, "every day I am pushing the grass down and not up is a good day." You are doing it, not trying, you are doing it, Elle. Big hug.

  • @rebeccazeman9309
    @rebeccazeman9309 Рік тому +3

    My son was born Feb 2nd 2022 after a battle with infertility and IVF. Within days I knew something wasn't right. Still trying to determine the cause but it's looking like cerebral palsy. We know he has tethered spinal cord at least but it doesn't explain the weakness in the left arm and shoulder and core. I'm still trying to get through this whole supporting my son but I'm hopeful. He's doing amazing.

  • @trisharogers4342
    @trisharogers4342 Рік тому +22

    Thank you so much for being so candid Elle. I was born blind in my left eye and was bullied as a young child and felt so unattractive. I worked hard on myself and refused to let that define me. I decided at a young age that people were going to see me and not just my blind eye. Now I am so very grateful that I was blessed in the womb, before I was even born, with sight! I have a very outgoing personality and am a very optimistic person. You’ve heard about the glass being half empty or half full? I am so happy and grateful to even have a glass! BTW, I have been using NuFace for about 3 years and something happened that I did not expect……..my blind eye was always droopy and my eyebrow was lower on the blind eye than my other eye, now because of NuFace my eyelid is much, much, more open and my eyebrow is also raised. Fantastic! Thanks again Elle!

    • @justinelouise5534
      @justinelouise5534 Рік тому

      I was just catching up on Elle videos and saw your comment. I too am blind in one eye and went through similar struggles ❤

  • @thelaruefamilyhomestead
    @thelaruefamilyhomestead Рік тому +5

    I have found that after losing my brother in a car accident, then my Dad was murdered, coupled with 3 miscarriages, I have honestly lost or forgotten who I was before. Trauma changes you to the core, and honestly I have had to come to terms with it. I also did PTSD counseling, which was a game changer!

  • @bobbiierullo2673
    @bobbiierullo2673 Рік тому +46

    Thank you Elle, I needed this. I’m miserable in my marriage of 24 years. I let my teenage daughters down by staying and showing them what an unhealthy relationship looks like. I’m not in a position of financial strength to leave. Not having money is awful. I tell my daughters to make sure they have a “run fund” so they are never in a situation like me. 💔🙏🏼

    • @YadiBeauty
      @YadiBeauty Рік тому +7

      Praying for you Bobbi!! I grew up in a home like that. But keep talking and praying for your girls. They will be ok!!

    • @bobbiierullo2673
      @bobbiierullo2673 Рік тому +4

      @@YadiBeauty Thank you. Yes, I talk to my daughters a lot about relationships and to trust their instincts, not to ignore red flags. Sorry you experienced a similar situation. 🙏🏼

    • @christinas4
      @christinas4 Рік тому +5

      I’m so sorry, Bobbi. I have always been an independent woman because I’m scared to death of being “stuck”. I didn’t like what I saw growing up and decided I will never be dependent on a man. I know too many women in your situation and I hate it for you. It’s never too late to do what you have to do. Please don’t give up. Big hugs!

    • @bobbiierullo2673
      @bobbiierullo2673 Рік тому +1

      @@christinas4 Thank you Christina. ❤️🙏🏼

    • @dianemclean9906
      @dianemclean9906 Рік тому +4

      I am praying for you to find happiness and peace. Freedom is such a powerful thing! I gives you power! Sometimes it’s easy to stay in your comfort zone, & like my sister-in-law told me 30 years ago …if you’re going to go, then just go. I was afraid of what would be on the other side but I left and had a life. It’s had some hardships (I just lost my 2nd husband to cancer and am extremely lost right now) but sometimes you have to make a move. It’s like Nike …just do it!

  • @michelleross4278
    @michelleross4278 Рік тому +5

    Thank you Elle, this talk was so very brave of you to share. I lost my brother 4 years ago, and I am a 52 year old woman who has metatizied leiomyoma sarcoma, and for the last 2 years, I have gone through the heaviest chemo treatment, a 20cm tumor removed along with my left kidney, 2 liver resections in the past 7 months, multiple round of radiation, and just last month 2 heavy rounds of radiation on my lungs for 2 tumors. I am the person who is the “leader” of my family, the strength, the positive one…simply bc that is who I am, and I have to be. It’s difficult being “the one” who is directly having this happen “to me”, physically and psychologically. I never knew my strength, but I struggle with my mother. She is living in that space of “why is this happening to me”, and cannot look at me without her face in complete despair. I understand that this is not a way to live. And my mother’s “beliefs” will never change out of the negativity and utter despair of watching me go through all of these treatments and knowing that my time is limited. I hear you beyond, and you are right. A person HAS TO WANT TO change their beliefs to do so. And you as a mother, have exhibited great strength in pulling yourself out of that deep yet easy souls of “bad things always happen to me”. Your daughter is lucky to have a mother with so much strength and who can see beyond “the tragedy”. It is infectious. And I pray for your family as I do for myself and mine. Life can throw some pretty horrific things your way, and there are 2 choices. Get sucked in frozen in horror, or move past the horror and move forward, wherever “forward” might bring you. I live here in the east bay, and know that you used to live here too. Something that helped me at the very beginning of “my story of strength”, is watching AGT, and a singer known as Nightbitde, auditioned. She sang beautifully, and after her performance, she said that it was so important for her to show the world that “she was not all the bad things that happened to her.” And she said she had a 2% chance to live, but to her 2% wasn’t 0% percent. Her smile and strength was so beautiful. I urge you to watch that. There are few who are able to lift themselves out of tragedy,because it so encompassing. You have that strength, and I understood every word you shared with us. It’s hard to REALLY understand unless you are actually amidst a continuing horror. My heart understands your heart. You have chosen a better way to live, although very difficult to, it’s very easy to get weighed down by the horror.❤❤❤❤

  • @annagresta3840
    @annagresta3840 Рік тому +8

    All of this is so true. I lost my sister, brother and mother all from 2018 to 2020. People ask me how I stay so positive because I was so close to all of them and I have no family left. I do a gratitude journal every morning. I walk my dog at 5am and workout. It sets my day up for success. And of course I get sad but I don't stay in the sadness. I talk to my family in heaven on my morning walks and I know they wouldn't want me to be miserable every day. And i have been in therapy for 10 years, it helps so much to just let everything out to a professional. Love you Elle. I have been here since the beginning and think you are amazing. And I absolutely love Peter Monn. I watch all of his channels and honestly, his vlogs got me through the rough days after my mom passed away.

  • @CathyVaughn-ph3lr
    @CathyVaughn-ph3lr Рік тому +6

    Thank you Elle, I will keep your daughter, you and your family in my prayers. I lost my oldest son 14 years ago this year, the most challenging loss I have ever experienced! I would not of made it through that time until this very day without the love of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. The verse Phillipians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything. instead, in every situation with prayer and petition with thanksgiving, tell your requests to God. And the peace that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and mind in Jesus Christ. That and my go to verse Jeremiah 29:11. Gods blessings to you.

    • @lisabafundo4355
      @lisabafundo4355 Рік тому +3

      Amen and AMEN🙌 i don't know how I could have made it through my life traumas without the comfort and strength of our Lord Jesus.

  • @betsybabf748
    @betsybabf748 Рік тому +1

    Tomorrow, Valentine's Day, is the anniversary of my husband's death. This day kills me and it feels advertised and in my face for the 6 weeks before it with Valentine's Day everywhere so but the time it's here, I am physically and mentally wiped out. It never gets easier. He was my rock since we were teenagers. The last time we saw him alive he was helping me and our sons do Valentine's for their class the next day, then he kissed us and went up to bed. I woke that Valentine's Day morning at age 41 and found him. He is now in heaven with our infant son, his namesake. I then lost my mom, my cousin (my children's godfather) and my best friend all within 18 months of his death. Some losses you never get over. My life has been getting our 5 living children through grief, while all 5 grieve 5 different ways. Widowhood, grieving children and PTSD for Valentine's Day...worst gift ever.

    • @CherylBerryl
      @CherylBerryl Рік тому

      Oh, Betsy...my heart hurts for all the unimaginable loss you have gone through, & are still grieving through. There are no words! A broken heart is difficult to mend. May God help you through, one day at a time, dear one. 🙏🙌🫂💞🕊️

  • @ednamoya8488
    @ednamoya8488 Рік тому

    It really didn’t make sense but I ramble on a lot when I’m in a crisis. I wish u well 😊

  • @donnadeuvall4462
    @donnadeuvall4462 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing! I would also Mel Robbins. She’s on UA-cam. She addresses negative self talk. Praying for good things for you & your family.

  • @janiceduerr620
    @janiceduerr620 Рік тому +5

    Thank you. My situation is different. I lost my husband, but the lessons we learn about ourselves and how we heal is quite the same. So true that we cannot control what goes on around us, but we can control how we react.

    • @Starnote16
      @Starnote16 Рік тому

      I am so sorry. I can’t even wrap my mind around how painful losing my husband would be. I am so sorry for your loss.

    • @janiceduerr620
      @janiceduerr620 Рік тому +1

      @@Starnote16 thank you very much. It is a day by day lesson in healing.

  • @marynall7280
    @marynall7280 Рік тому +2

    Healing words for sure.

  • @nicolepullenart
    @nicolepullenart Рік тому +18

    Thank-you Elle for this video. An inspiration for all to watch. I lost my 5 yr old daughter 3-1/2 yrs. ago after a long battle with kidney and liver disease. We lived in and out of hospital her entire life. We tried our hardest to give her the best life despite the incredible challenges. Her loss has been devastating. Learning to live through the grief and trauma is a whole other dimension to try to wrap your head around and stay sane and figure out my own path. I live now day by day for my daughter. She gave me the most beautiful 5 yrs. My heart goes out to you and healing for your amazing daughter. ❤

    • @godsgirl0019
      @godsgirl0019 Рік тому +3

      Prayers for you and your family. Have you read Through Tge Eyes Of A Lion??? It’s by Levi Lusko. He lost his daughter of 5 years old and his faith in Jesus Christ gets him through. I apply it to different kinds of loss.

    • @alexandriamallios932
      @alexandriamallios932 Рік тому

      🙏🏼☀️💕

    • @rob870
      @rob870 Рік тому

      I’m so very sorry for your loss, i lift you up in prayer.🙏🏻

    • @crystalguerra6639
      @crystalguerra6639 Рік тому

      My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and prayers.

    • @CherylBerryl
      @CherylBerryl Рік тому

      My heart is with you, as well as my prayer's. God speed, dear one!
      🙏🙌🫂💞🕊️

  • @susanchristopher9660
    @susanchristopher9660 Рік тому +4

    Life is always a journey and we never know what will be thrown at us. You just can never give up

    • @dianemclean9906
      @dianemclean9906 Рік тому +2

      It’s like the Bible says, “ the same thing that is happening to us, had happened to people throughout time immemorial, there is nothing new under the sun. 🙏

  • @crf2003kbc
    @crf2003kbc Рік тому +7

    I can’t explain how much I needed this. I’m starting to get bitter and I hate it. Thank you🥰🥰

  • @meganryan9945
    @meganryan9945 Рік тому +18

    Such a great talk Elle! Thanks for opening up and sharing such important info. So glad Grey is doing well❤️

  • @SuperB719
    @SuperB719 Рік тому +6

    What an incredibly generous thing for you to do. This will, no doubt, help so many people. I am a 2 time cancer survivor so I understand those dark places. Walking is a wonderful remedy! Bless you and your entire family. 🙏

  • @SWIdaho2
    @SWIdaho2 Рік тому +6

    Elle, this was eloquent. It is very generous of you to share your struggles, victories, & wisdom gained. I am so glad to know Graye is in maintenance now & that your marriage is intact. These are enormous blessings, but you are doing well to be alert to the daily smaller things for which to be grateful. Though I am the generation before you & have different challenges, your thoughts are applicable to anyone of any age. Thank you for taking time for us. God be with you.🤗

  • @trinichandy3049
    @trinichandy3049 Рік тому +8

    Thank you Elle, for sharing this video. I have been praying for your daughter to be heal from her cancer. Stay strong in the Lord. God bless.

  • @BarbB_in_TN
    @BarbB_in_TN Рік тому

    Diastasis recti it’s your muscles separating. They tighten the muscles and bring them forward to allow them to support your abdominal structures.

  • @kellyjenkins7478
    @kellyjenkins7478 Рік тому +11

    Awh Elle you are an inspiration to us all.....this life is a journey with its twist and turns highs and lows but God promised us he will be with us...as long as we know, love and serve him he will never abandoned us and in the end there will be a love and joy which surpasses all understanding...we must keep our eyes on him the world is dark but we are is light which you have just shared!!!! My prayers always for your family...... God bless you!! God bless us all!!! Prayers.....

  • @tadstbijourney8727
    @tadstbijourney8727 Рік тому +4

    Wow this is so personal to me I am my son who has special needs (17) and my husband’s full time caregiver he fell off a ladder onto his head and suffered a tbi!!! I thank you for this!!

  • @jessicamckenzie2261
    @jessicamckenzie2261 Рік тому +5

    Fantastic video! I recognized a lot of myself in your descriptions of feelings. “Dark places”…resonated. Hello, darkness my old friend…you know the rest.
    You made me think. Thank you for sharing 💛

  • @whitefeather572
    @whitefeather572 Рік тому +1

    I heard an affirmation yesterday “ I am asserting the mastery of my real self” and it struck a cord. I am 54, a wife and mom of 4 adult children and help run our small business. Over the years “myself “ has not been a priority.. we always find a reason right? I have begun to put myself first.. I will wash my face and do skincare before I get lost in the morning hustle.. I will go sit and watch my chickens when I feel overwhelmed.. I might not answer a call if I think I need a moment… just little things that put me first. That’s not easy for this Capricorn 🤣 but I feel so much more alive by simply doing these things.. I have to work on being me and my true self.. not just what the hustle of life pushes me towards. Thanks Elle for sharing!!💕

  • @AnneLindsey1
    @AnneLindsey1 Рік тому +3

    I’m so happy to hear you have gotten help for yourself. You have obviously been through very difficult times. I pray that you and your family will thrive through this healing process. I lost an adult child almost 9 years ago and it was a very difficult time for me. I fought my way out of the despair by trying to be thankful for everything including the years I had with my son. Hang in there and don’t give up the battle. Prayers for you and your family!

  • @Beautybybeth
    @Beautybybeth Рік тому +1

    Thank you so very much for sharing. This helped me so much. I was also sexually abused as a child and that fear and shame stays with you. My husband away 2 years ago and now I am a single mom (at almost 57 years old) to a wonderful 12 year old son who is dealing with mental health issues. You are an inspiration to me and I am going to use some of your tools!

  • @ahoke13
    @ahoke13 Рік тому

    Elle, not kidding, you're an AMAZING person!!! I am so grateful for this channel. I have also gone through some of the things mentioned and I try hard to keep positive. Sometimes it's harder then others will know and it can keep you down. Not going to lie down is easy but I just tell myself I love me and a start the climb again.

  • @sherielight5569
    @sherielight5569 Рік тому +8

    As soon as I saw this I stopped what I was doing & watched, you are such an inspiration ❤️ May God bless you & your beautiful family!

    • @dianemclean9906
      @dianemclean9906 Рік тому

      Me too, I went straight to her video too. I am suffering grief (loss of my husband) and wanted to check on her. 🙏

  • @norcal0076
    @norcal0076 Рік тому +6

    So happy to hear you are feeling well❤️

  • @susanloncar5863
    @susanloncar5863 Рік тому

    This was very helpful. Thank you for sharing and the reminder that life is lessons and we need to be grateful. ❤

  • @kimfromarkansas2084
    @kimfromarkansas2084 Рік тому

    Elle, I will continue to pray for you, your sweet daughter, and your husband..I’m so thankful that your daughter is doing so well💕🙏

  • @CherylBerryl
    @CherylBerryl Рік тому +4

    Thank you Elle for opening your heart & allowing yourself to be vulnerable with us. I FEEL your heart, & it's a Beautiful one!
    Going through sexual abuse trauma, especially at a young age is DEVASTATING, & life altering. I know, as I am a Survivor too. And then to be abused again in early adulthood (me too), just reignites the trauma, pain & suffering. There are no words to explain to the "average person" what that does to one's soul.
    I am glad you are getting the therapy to heal from that.
    And it is just unimaginable to have a beloved child go through So Much!!! There is nothing that will bring you to your knees more than that! I'm so happy that Grey's health has turned around, & for her continued healing. Thank God your husband is your rock! Sending much love & prayer's!🙏🙌🫂💕🕊️
    I saw this saying in a meme online, & it so resonated with me, so I made it my screen saver.
    "Be kind, for everyone you meet is going through something unimaginable that you know nothing about."

  • @nelsonquinney2316
    @nelsonquinney2316 Рік тому +1

    Happy Thursday Everyone And Good Luck

  • @judyscoble5666
    @judyscoble5666 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for explaining your situation, I am so sorry for you and your family, will you still be doing your videos.
    Judy in New Zealand.

  • @kikbox2003
    @kikbox2003 Рік тому

    God bless you and your family

  • @zehraashraf85
    @zehraashraf85 Рік тому

    i love Peter monn too hes so funny, so emotionally intelligent, so smart, and entertaining!

  • @nelsonquinney2316
    @nelsonquinney2316 Рік тому +2

    Great Video Elle Leary Artistry

  • @lexiepsy
    @lexiepsy Рік тому +5

    God Bless you Elle! You are such a strong, beautiful woman! I really applaud you I feel unlucky also thank you for the pep talk and advice! Prayers for you and your family 💙🙏🏼💙

  • @ariannefowler455
    @ariannefowler455 Рік тому +5

    The universe is at play today! I needed to hear this today more than ever. I'm a parent of a child with a disability and my main role is caregiver. I am going to share this video with my group of mom caregivers. Thank you so much for making this video! I cannot express enough how important this is for people to hear.

  • @BelindaShanle
    @BelindaShanle Рік тому +2

    Thank you, Elle, for sharing. What a beautiful message I took from this, DO NOT let your trials become your identity! Crucify those attitudes and beliefs. What you focus on will expand. It becomes your truth. In reality, it's all lies we have the ability to make new truths, mine is now through God's word, the great I am. I was my Moms care giver through her cancer. There were lots of why her and why me going through this? I will be praying for Grey to stay in health, she is God's child and you are her steward to do exactly what you are doing. I pray for you to continue bringing us insight and know God has brought you through this to be able to bring us this content and more! God bless you!! You are such a insperation.

  • @heidireeder8985
    @heidireeder8985 Рік тому +1

    Elle, that couldn’t have been easy for you to divulge all of that. Thank you for doing so and for feeling that this is a safe space for you. Know that you have made a difference in someone’s life who is going through trauma with this video. Hugs to you and your family! ❤

  • @latherandlace
    @latherandlace Рік тому +2

    Elle - so much of our lives parallel each other. I never knew that about you. Thank you for opening up and sharing. I raised 4 kids who are 31 - 43, and I'm now retired but working 2 days a week as a companion to a 98 year old woman. She fell the other day and is struggling now. This could be the end. I was with her when she fell so at first I felt responsible but her family has assured me that she has been falling and would have done it whether I was there or not. I'm just praying she doesn't die. I want her to get back up. Thank you for bringing this up today.

  • @evoletdenise
    @evoletdenise Рік тому +4

    Thank you for opening up to us!!! You are a beautiful and strong woman! ❤️ Yes things keep happening (when you were talking about the uncomfortable and miserable place to be) but they happen as a test so we can become stronger and overcome. I personally have become incredibly stronger through the storms in my life. Love what you said about changing your beliefs about your situation. Praying for your daughter and for healing. ❤️

  • @YadiBeauty
    @YadiBeauty Рік тому +4

    You message is so powerful. I identify with you. I used to wonder why I was the one experiencing all this hardship. However, after all these years (I’m 42), I see such growth in me - and have also learned what real joy is - regardless of what’s happening all around me.
    These days, I practice being happy, on my way to happy! Keep sharing Elle - it’s important work!

  • @cfsfibromom
    @cfsfibromom Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing all of that Elle. I am 53 yrs old and have lived with several debilitating chronic illnesses for most of my life. I am also a typical Type A perfectionist. I'm also an RN and have two adult children and two small grandchildren. I was always busy and caring for others and putting myself last. Then I got so sick that I couldn't do much of anything except lay in bed for many years. It has been very difficult to deal with and I have had several bad depressive/suicidal episodes over the years. It's hard not to feel like a burden to my family. Thanks again Elle

    • @angieparton6434
      @angieparton6434 Рік тому +2

      Stay strong ❤

    • @crystalguerra6639
      @crystalguerra6639 Рік тому +2

      Sending you a big hug. I know how hard it is be strong when everything seems so bad but YOU CAN DO IT! You are still here for a reason.

  • @DanielaBoard72
    @DanielaBoard72 Рік тому +2

    Hugs right back at ya. ❤sending you lots of love.

  • @CherylBerryl
    @CherylBerryl Рік тому

    ***ELLE***
    I already commented, but when I listened to your INCREDIBLE video, I was Very Lack of Sleep....& "Something" told me that I NEEDED to go bk & listen Again!
    And then, when I heard you utter the Acronym "S.A "....my heart, just SANK!!! ...and I TOTALLY understood!!!
    I Sadly, & Tragically KNOW EXACTLY what "S.A." MEANS!!!! And my 💗 BLEEDS for you, Dearest one!!! I have personally gone through SO MUCH sexual abuse... UNSPEAKABLE HEINOUS ABUSE! BUT...."S.A."..... THAT is on a whole 'nother level!!!!
    ELLE...I CANNOT even Express how this is affecting my 💗. I just LOVE & Appreciate you SO MUCH! I CANNOT even FATHOM what this EXTREME TRAUMA has done to your mind, body & soul! I KNOW that you ARE a "Light Worker", as I am, too! I CANNOT understand why SO MANY "Light Worker's" have had to experience SO MUCH PAIN, SUFFERING & HEARTACHE!?!!!😞
    This Vulnerable video of your's HAS Touched SO MANY people!!!!! Way more than you could EVER IMAGINE!!!!! GOD led you to share your most vulnerable experiences, & I Truly Feel that this WILL CHANGE ppl's lives for the better!!!
    I KNOW that one day, I WILL meet you in person, & be able to personally thank you for having the COURAGE , & the VULNERABILITY to Say, to State, what you did! I SEE YOU! I HEAR YOU! And I ACKNOWLEDGE YOU! And I LOVE You!!!
    Thank You, My Fellow Woman WARRIOR!!!! YOU GOT THIS!!! And "WE" ARE here to support you... Thick, or thin!!!! Keep on keepin' on...The AMAZING "LIGHT WORKER" that YOU ARE!!!!!

  • @colleenwinters8515
    @colleenwinters8515 Рік тому

    We r alllll praying for your beautiful daughters 100% recovery 🙏 ❤
    You r a blessing to all that know you and follow your channel....⚘

  • @susanbarnard4098
    @susanbarnard4098 Рік тому +1

    I know how hard it is to move thru. I lost my youngest son 11 months ago. We could not find him for a week and then I found him in the morgue. I wish no one to ever have that happen. I have good days and terrible nights. I pray for your family to give you healing and peace❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Gardenhappy-k2x
    @Gardenhappy-k2x Рік тому

    Thank you Elle, thank you.

  • @heathermowery4141
    @heathermowery4141 Рік тому +3

    I needed to hear this today! Thank you!

  • @kellyhenwood7494
    @kellyhenwood7494 Рік тому +2

    What an amazing video Elle. Despite all the bad things you are clearly a strong person. It takes a lot of bravery to get through all of that and find a way to be grateful. I love your videos and thanks to your skin care advice I get a lot of compliments on my 62 year old skin. ❤️😍

  • @rimavanhill-seal7557
    @rimavanhill-seal7557 Рік тому +1

    I’m so deeply sorry for all you’ve been through. I love how positive you are. You have my prayers ❤ and admiration

  • @helenwilde697
    @helenwilde697 Рік тому +1

    Hi Elle, thank you so much for your very brave talk. It has helped me so much! I have a son who has a rare disease. He has epilepsy and learning disabilities. He is 15 now. I’m also a nurse- so LOTS of caregiving. I identified so much with your story. I will take so much from what you shared- it was so positive! It’s hard, but there is always hope. Sending lots of love xxx

  • @marisacooper5364
    @marisacooper5364 Рік тому

    🤟🏻establishing a daily self care routine exploring the virtual tool kit is transforming. I see it in you and myself too. The last five years following a particularly life changing year when due to cancers, death, and empty nest. I felt so lost, sad, and alone, feeling that I couldn’t talk about it because I was overreacting. I gave myself permission to fully feel my emotions and made it a priority to care for my well being FIRST every day. I began to have lighter moods, sense of relief, and less negative emotional overwhelm. I’ve learned so much about myself and what grounds me; and I now look forward to this personal time of mindful practice in my safe place each day. Be well all❤

  • @sandrajones5349
    @sandrajones5349 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for this!

  • @Ashbyee
    @Ashbyee Рік тому +2

    You now have a lifetime subscriber. I feel honestly led to this video. It popped up while I was looking for a setting powder, in the midst of a health crisis- makeup makes me happy. Wonderful video and prayers for you and your family. ❤️

  • @francescareese7118
    @francescareese7118 Рік тому +2

    I've followed you since you lived in another state and then for a little time after you got to Colorado. The family was going through working on Gray's seizures at that time. I've been absent from this platform since early 2022. I'm sorry to hear about Gray's diagnosis, but thank you so much to for sharing she is moving along like a trooper and how you got to be a trooper. You mentioned your husband was really so supportive to you even in his time of worry/sadness/wonder. It's so very IMPORTANT and not everybody gets that. In February of 2021 I became a caregiver for the person that is the most important to me in the WORLD and later I suffered a terrible loss. I became the caregiver for quite some time and then the hospice nurse (yes, I'm a nurse) then, "poof".
    I've experienced so many identical emotions/feelings. To this day I can't lose the weight from 135 to 170 and I am a vegan and always have been. My doctor calls it, "stress induced". It was really nice to come upon your video today with what you have been experiencing to date and how you are coping and learning to deal with all the emotions and all that goes along with this journey we travel. I have no doubt she's a fighter... I always looked at your little necklace with the, "G," and loved it back when I followed you prior. YOU are so strong to pull yourself up and talk to yourself and or others to help/guide you when you fall and give yourself a talking to. I really envy that. I am not as strong..... Prayers for Gray's recovery and your continued fight with all the emotions, ups and downs mentally that may come to your mind. I do envy your strength Elle and keep it going.....

    • @jeanetteh.9240
      @jeanetteh.9240 Рік тому +1

      Consider researching "adrenal fatigue." Perhaps too much cortisol (and for too long) has contributed to your weight gain. I send you a virtual hug. 🤗

    • @francescareese7118
      @francescareese7118 Рік тому

      @@jeanetteh.9240 Thank you, my physician claims the cause is cortisol and says, "it's all related to grief/sadness." I appreciate you reaching out.

    • @queens6583
      @queens6583 Рік тому +2

      Fellow nurse here. You are so much stronger than you know. Don't give up. Small steps will lead to bigger ones.

  • @katmarano2347
    @katmarano2347 Рік тому +3

    You are more blessed than you know 💕. Thank you for this, I needed it.

  • @katieharris7219
    @katieharris7219 Рік тому +6

    Thank you, Elle. This is just what I needed to hear today. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @theschweitzerfamily
    @theschweitzerfamily Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing. When we share our stories & ways of overcoming it makes us all feel connected

  • @tarasz6288
    @tarasz6288 Рік тому

    Elle. How do u just know that i needed this today? U r one of the first people lately i have “talked” to about some hard stuff im going through. Lack of motivation. Negative self talk. Caught in a bad place. Etc etc. who hasnt sounded all preachy w ur advice. If i hear 1 more person condescendingly say “just” workout. “Just” keep a gratitude journal. “Just” pick urself up it could b worse. I swear i will scream. But somehow the way u spoke in this video just hits differently. Thank u for sharing and not making it seem like its so easy to “just” pick urself (and everyone else) up sometimes. Thank u.

  • @anitawaclawik4286
    @anitawaclawik4286 Рік тому +2

    Good to see you back on UA-cam. Interesting video. I think women are often (not always) are the caregivers in society in Australia so this resonates with me. I would like to hear more about your life journey if you are willing to share especially further explanation of your healing.

  • @OklahomaSenior
    @OklahomaSenior Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey of health and hope out of tragedy. Life is hard in the every day ordinary normal life when you aren't dealing with SA and childhood cancer. ❤ to you and yours.

  • @eijaananda9698
    @eijaananda9698 Рік тому +1

    ❤ sending you a lot of love, you are beautiful ❤

  • @natashastricklin2358
    @natashastricklin2358 Рік тому

    Thank you Elle. So many of us out here feel this way. Thank you for sharing your story

  • @victoriasykes5570
    @victoriasykes5570 Рік тому

    Oh Elle. U had my crying at points for you and ur family. So happy there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thank u for sharing. Big hugs. Lots of love xxxx

  • @betsycornell5676
    @betsycornell5676 Рік тому

    Just wanted to say thank you and preach it! There are so many awful things that happen to everyone, and you are right... All we can change is ourselves and our response. Blessings for the next few years... It's your turn to shine. 💕💕

  • @LorryHill
    @LorryHill Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this video l; you are amazing and prayers for your daughter ❤

  • @jennifercoleman6450
    @jennifercoleman6450 Рік тому

    This is amazing, we need to work together, to give ourselves permission to take care of ourselves, take time for ourselves, to give ourselves positive self talk! To allow ourselves to explore who we are, what we love, what makes us feel joy and happiness. Praying for you, thank you again. This is beautiful ❤

  • @TrippingOverParadise
    @TrippingOverParadise Рік тому +4

    Thank you for this. I needed to hear this today. Been such a rough week. 😫

  • @livinglifewithJenniferinTNUSA

    Thanks so much for this!! I totally understand!! I'm going to be 56 this year, this past decade has been extremely difficult, life has hit hard! I lost my husband, was caregiver for both parents, now they are gone...I've known you mainly thru Merle Norman Cosmetics as I have been a Studio owner for 22 years... so glad I've found your YT channel!! xoxo Jennifer 💋

  • @kimberlyhughes7281
    @kimberlyhughes7281 Рік тому +4

    As far as I am concerened this is a much watch video! Great advice and common sense! Much love to you for everything you have been through and still going through. Huggs to you, your sweet hubby and precious baby girl Grey! This video needs to be shared by everyone!

  • @zt7911
    @zt7911 Рік тому +3

    Thank you this was so needed. You are strong, great job on turning things around and sharing. You and your family can fight the fight. Xo

  • @belindaklar9569
    @belindaklar9569 Рік тому

    😊🙏 we all have things that are negative and bad in our life, it’s the fight to overcome them with whatever it takes🙏👏 gratitude is the best way 🎉so happy for you and your family🙏

  • @PamperedWife
    @PamperedWife Рік тому +1

    You are amazing. ❤

  • @michy2630
    @michy2630 Рік тому +1

    Such important thoughts you mentioned here Elle. It is such a challenge to change our mindset to a more positive, motivating place. I love how you found (or are still finding) a way to do this. It is always a journey because we always have bumps & obstacles in the way. Thanks for sharing. Terrific video

  • @susanfaynor3709
    @susanfaynor3709 Рік тому +1

    Sending love to you and your family!!!

  • @-nellie-m3711
    @-nellie-m3711 Рік тому +5

    Oh Elle, This video came to me at the perfect time in my life and I could totally relate to everything you said both my husband and myself, we actually Both listened to You, we’re going through such a difficult time right now with his health, plus I’m the only caregiver to my Mum, plus my dear elderly neighbour is going through Cancer and I’m helping her with whatever I can, actually I’m running out of time here to comment because I have to get her to the hospital for tests before her surgery next week, But I honestly have to say that This was Your Best Ever video, I might come back when I have time to comment more. Sending Big Hugs 🫂 right back at You and your family. Much Love from Nellie from Queensland Australia 🇦🇺🙏🏻🙏🏻💙💖💖

  • @maryraggio9130
    @maryraggio9130 Рік тому

    I applaud you for doing this video, I am sure it was hard but hopefully cathartic at the same time. I wish you nothing but the best and pray your daughter makes a full recovery

    • @maryraggio9130
      @maryraggio9130 Рік тому

      @Elle_Leary_Artistry Ok how do I claim my prize or is this a scam

  • @rob870
    @rob870 Рік тому

    Love and prayers to you and your family and the Squad. Life is hard, it’s good to have safe spaces and support. Love to all❤️

  • @caritab4278
    @caritab4278 Рік тому +1

    THANK YOU, Elle for this beautiful video. Your point about finding the “little” things that bring us joy is so important. Not every change needs to be huge in order to have a major impact on our state of mind. ✨💚

  • @lakershaolivarez1034
    @lakershaolivarez1034 Рік тому +1

    💗💗💗💗 love you Elle!

  • @mistygabourel2421
    @mistygabourel2421 Рік тому

    Thank you for reminding myself and others to live with a grateful mind and ❤️

  • @survivingwithshelly5250
    @survivingwithshelly5250 Рік тому

    Thank you! I get my nails done to care for myself. Full-time caregiver is not for the faint of heart. Headup, face forward and gratfuleness matters. Love and prayers to you and yours

  • @nancylyon-gray3499
    @nancylyon-gray3499 Рік тому

    Elle - you are an outstanding individual. You and your family are in my prayers. I appreciate you. xxx

  • @dmarkey4360
    @dmarkey4360 Рік тому

    You are so awesome Elle, mothers are the care givers, teachers, running the home etc. when I was younger as a mom of three and a husband that traveled. I was so hard on myself and expectations. I learned self talk, yoga and meditation. I found a calm voice. With age I found peace and acceptance and love who I am. Things will always happen and we don’t get to choose. Things we would never choose for ourselves. I focus on the positive. I am with you that I also limit news and negative content it is so toxic. I love walking too. I am so grateful for your platform it’s kind and like this you talk to us about topics as women we deal with and feel. Big hug Elle thank you so much. 🙏❤️

  • @debbicardwell3082
    @debbicardwell3082 Рік тому

    Thank you! I needed to hear this.

  • @debranaumczik6286
    @debranaumczik6286 Рік тому

    Elle,
    Over the years most usually go through a lot . They just each handle differently. I love that you reach out and share . Give Love , gratitude 💕🙏🏽. We are all wired differently. I love fact you share experiences ...and for You what is important. So much Loving Support your way ..I have seen many people transition tragedy's into success in ways they can help others. Plus yes ! Agree...self care best we can.
    Priceless life is and wisdom we can share 💗😘, amazing challenges and changes .... sometimes.
    Just for me , is keep it simple .

  • @christinas4
    @christinas4 Рік тому

    Omgosh Elle, it’s been too long. I didn’t know your daughter had cancer! I got a facial from you about 2 years ago and have been wanting to get back to you. I had no idea this was going on. I’m so sorry and big huge hugs!! ❤❤

  • @katep3781
    @katep3781 Рік тому

    Thank you Elle. This was so brave and beautiful. Checking out those podcasts. Sending my love.

  • @racheli2598
    @racheli2598 Рік тому

    You are the most beautiful soul Elle! I’m so glad Gray is doing better and you are so wise. I love what you said about wisdom. It’s amazing how you have moved through such difficulties. We live in a very fear and drama based society, we have to proactively choose to block it out to protect ourselves. I used to dance too, I love barre and Pilates classes too. You might like that in addition to orange theory. Also just dance in your house or find local classes. You are on the right path, pray you continue to blossom as you are doing so well🌸

  • @Journeyofthewildflower555
    @Journeyofthewildflower555 Рік тому

    So much respect for you. 🩷

  • @sundaysommers1476
    @sundaysommers1476 Рік тому

    Elle=chingona/ badass. Love you.

  • @sharilevy1217
    @sharilevy1217 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Elle, your such an inspiration! You have definitely been through a lot and I see and know that you are doing the best to push through and forward. We always forget how incredibly important it is to just wake up in the morning and have another day of life. We tend to forget how lucky we are just by being grateful! Everyone has something or someone that's going through something or just dealing with the struggles of daily life. You have had your share and keep going ❤. It was a great talk to share and still you share full heartily. Your a wonderful person and everything you said has helped each and everyone with their trials and tribulations. Lots of love sent to you and your family and know that we are so lucky to have you in our life! My prayers are always with you and your family 😊

  • @Cthao345
    @Cthao345 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing and always keeping us up lifted.

  • @zoeberry33
    @zoeberry33 Рік тому +1

    I needed this❤

  • @lauravterrazas
    @lauravterrazas Рік тому

    For anyone reading this... better moments are to come. Hang in there!
    Also, something that has personally helped me a lot is doing something that's just for me. Me time. No interruptions. + Incorporating a saffron supplement.
    Not a miracle healer but it certainly helps. ♥️

  • @tinasilvers9
    @tinasilvers9 Рік тому +3

    Thank you Elle ! Needed this today ❤!