A quick way to tell if you’re with a narcissist
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2024
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Let's not forget the ones who say that's ok but start getting quiet, silent treatment, subtle passive aggressive digs. That's how covert narcs operate.
Yes this !!!!!
Some of them are more cunning. They will say ok I understand etc but then get their revenge in different ways. Sometimes by backstabbing the victim in a way that victim will never even know it was done by the narcissist. Sometimes they will hurt you over nothing which is a revenge for the “no” you said for something else.
Sometimes they will go ahead and befriend the person who hurt you or person you dislike or such things .
Precisely! In the end, actions/attotudes are what really matters, not merely words.
Spot on. Tell them NO and watch what happens.
Easier way to spot a narc
Unfortunately some narcissists are able to keep the mask on for a very long time. Some cultures make the behavior seem so normal that no one ever questions things. These poor empaths when told about the signs act like this is normal and acceptable day to day behavior.
Absolutely true. Say no and see the reaction. A healthy human being will understand. Any negative reaction to hearing no, people is toxic. Save yourself from pain and time, leave the person
Sure could have used this advice back in 2007. You described me and my Ex-wife's dating path absolutely to a "T". Now what I refer to as the "living nightmare."
narcissists HATE to hear words such as "no", later, or "goodbye", for sure.
being age 50, i don't have patience for parasitic opportunitists.
assuming you are treating people fair, this an aggressive approach i take to analyze people, who might be giving me reason to believe they may be toxic.
1-what value does this person add to my life?
2-would this person do the same if not comparable for me, as i would do or have done for them, if i was in a jam?
3-if this person left my life, what would i miss about them?
4-how does this person make me feel when i am around them, and after they leave?
if you end up having to ask any or all of these questions aloud to the other person, that's a big red flag.
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Or whatever lol
@@irenehamilton2981"whatever" works best for you. 🤷♀️
Lol, I’m familiar with the meeting the family trick.😂It’s a trap, trying to make it harder for you to get out of the relationship.
These people are like robots, they all act like following a playbook. My ex narc also pulled this trick early on.
Saying no to a narcissist is their kryptonite. I said no and she went into total freakout and then I refused to allow her in my home. She threatened me with calling authorities on me. When that didn't work she started knocking on neighbor's doors (all total strangers to her) trying to recruit them as her flying monkeys get them to get me out of my home. She was a piece of work.
Been there, done that. Love bombing, wanting me to move in with him quickly (I said no.) Getting angry when I switched my phone off for the day and didn't contact him until the evening.
Telling me that my friends weren't good for me, all the things. I learnt a lot at that time about narcissistic behaviour.
I can only imagine what happens if you do something wrong to a narcissist like break a promise. They will hold you to that mistake for the rest of your life! Do narcissists forgive? No because “ ammunition”is key for their survival. If they can’t hold you as a gaslight victim then that takes away a very powerful and easy manipulation tactic.
So true!!
It would depend on how often your break promises, and the severity of breaking that promise.
Because it may be YOU, who is the narcissist and manipulator - if you are so casual about promise breaking.
Your statement is very dependent on the circumstance.
@@BB-fo5mr good point! Im not a usual promise breaker. I have been around narcissists long enough to have a few tendencies that identify but i do have a genuine self respect and feel empathy. But i have to say I don’t feel empathy for bullies and those who mean to do harm to me or my loved ones!
Understood. Yep, the whole narcissist dynamic is a bit more complicated than it seems. Consistency and circumstantial behaviors etc. but to your point - if you are the type who rarely breaks promises (rather, you are quite reliable), the one time you are unable to come through on a promise will be exploited and held against you for the rest of your life by a narcissist or sociopath. No doubt. They won’t say “you are an extremely reliable and trustworthy person, and I understand you are human, and you were unable to come through in this one”... no, they will say “you break promises all the time” and brand you that way, and then act like you are in debt to them forever - over a small infraction (all while they are lying and breaking promises to you, on end. They will justify their endless tumultuous behavior, on the one small infraction you had.) Its always a ploy with a narcissist or sociopath. Always
Yep. I was working in Japan. Wanted to pick me up and then have dinner with their parents.
No, I'm tired, jet-lagged, been on a 14 hour flight, smell bad i just wanna shower and go to sleep.
Blow up.
Ok, I'm not a narcissist hopefully, I felt like one because I blamed myself for ghosting and then for my reaction... and then for hoovering for months. I felt like I can't accept "no". And for thoughts like "I've done so much for you... why do you want to end this??", and for being not ok that she, supposedly, is happy without me.
But I remember that when we were still friends (that wasn't a relationship, but I had feelings for her, was ok with friendship though) she said "no" to me many times. "I don't want to talk right now", "I don't want to meet right now." I always accepted that. Couldn't accept that she lied though: she said "I will never ghost you", "never forget that you have at least me, you matter to me" and "it will never happen that I won't want to know you".
In our very short but very intensive friendship I never said no to her. I think she's a narcissist but... I will never know.
You are spot on with love bomb rush job intimidation Expiration Dating! That’s their trick. Act Now Or You’ll Miss This Game!
Nope. No thanks.
Sets my senses reeling...
A tune from Oliver Twist
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several solid points
So true
i met a psychiatrist that asserted denying one is a narcissist is a crucial symptom of narcissism... which is kind of weird, since it is so unspecific. a lot of people who aren't narcs would also deny being a narcissist... i wonder if that psychiatrist - if called a narcissist - would accept or deny the label :D and if his denial would - in his estimation, by his own rules - make him a narc
You should put your book on audible. I'd like it but due to medical reasons I can't read very well.
Thanks Danielle
can they fake the first "no" response to appear nice and accommodating or it supersedes their ability to withhold their inner anger for the refusal?
Facts
Interesting, thkx
No matter what
Life is not defined by AH Corrupt CIA /CBI.
These org get the...... U smile... That matters. ... smile..
Although those reactions are indicative of a narcissist... deliberately saying no - just to see their reaction?.. time to look in the mirror.
Does a narcissist person knows that he/she is lovebombing ( on purpose) ??
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