A narcissist is ENVIOUS of you

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  • They are envious of your success #narcissism #narcissistic #narcissist
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  • @user-qv9nw1dq2f
    @user-qv9nw1dq2f 8 місяців тому +226

    So true. Jealousy is a strong indicator of narcissism. When you feel confused and uneasy about sharing any good news with someone, you are probably dealing with a narcissist. Once you discern someone as one, get out and do not look back because they will sabotage everything that you do.

    • @davidm4566
      @davidm4566 8 місяців тому +14

      I remember having a conversation with my ex-wife. We were talking about cooking and I said that I was pretty good at it-I said you're better, but I'm pretty good.
      She got pissed. Why?! I gave her a greater complement. I mean, I understand why now, but at the time it made no sense.

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому +26

      Their jealousy is like nothing I've ever witnessed in my lifetime. It's a horrible personality to tote around. Envy,strife,chaos, gossip,slandering...all out of that perpetual envy/jealousy. Doesn't even matter if they're materially wealthy...the jealousy of someone else's light pisses them off!! 😮

    • @fatimab5145
      @fatimab5145 8 місяців тому +5

      True

    • @nayeresfandiari520
      @nayeresfandiari520 7 місяців тому

      ​@@user-pq1bf4ng9bAmen, you hit the nail on the head. Dark people are repelled and repulsed by the light in someone else.

    • @HK00088
      @HK00088 7 місяців тому +5

      I pray for those people. Stop being jealous stop being a narcissist

  • @carparthero
    @carparthero 8 місяців тому +193

    if the narcissist is talking behind your back, it means you're ahead of them. if they are trying to bring you down, they were already below you to begin with.
    their trash talk and pathological envy of YOU is an indictment of who they truly are.
    mentally destroy the narcissist with your continued success, and bury their memory with a smile.
    cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

    • @gdcskates
      @gdcskates 8 місяців тому +5

      thanks

    • @carparthero
      @carparthero 8 місяців тому +4

      @gdcskates glad to have been a bit of help.
      all the best in 2024.
      -cheers, steven 🇨🇦

    • @sayusayme7729
      @sayusayme7729 8 місяців тому +3

      Me too 💚🇨🇦yahoo

    • @dornie_donko
      @dornie_donko 8 місяців тому +4

      Well said!

    • @gregkeller80
      @gregkeller80 8 місяців тому +3

      Right on!

  • @serenasmith26
    @serenasmith26 8 місяців тому +108

    Or they go around destroying every friendship you had until you have no one.

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому +12

      I'm telling you they're broken ppl no matter of that fake veneer they put on.

    • @michaelgarrow3239
      @michaelgarrow3239 8 місяців тому +8

      Friends suddenly won’t return your calls.

    • @saradigota7201
      @saradigota7201 7 місяців тому +4

      Exactly this is what i had. They involve in my every friendship, even told my than best friend what to wear othed wise the person wasnt allowed to come over anymore. I wasnt aloud to talk with boys. And all themselves brought all kinds and sorts of people over and befriended them. It felt like a jail. Seeing them do all, and me myself got denied to do or have anything. Awfull people to have especially as relatives

    • @socalautisticman1975
      @socalautisticman1975 7 місяців тому +1

      A neighbor I used to help because she began to lose mobility, reason she needed me over often to help around her house (became dependent on a scooter 🛵for people who lose mobility) and ever since (oh too much coincidence)my reputation in the neighborhood went down, people started turning against me changing their positive opinion about me ...even when I cut her off she approached a neighbor oblivious of the year long struggle of giving her chance after chance to change and I have her warned, well they don't like for us to have them walking on eggshells but they will be crafty and I still cut her off after one of her karen type nitpicky non-stop censoring sessions (although this time she wasn't yelling all entitled...)
      It's funny she probably thought she would have me easily as an autistic person, and being a person constantly disciplining myself to be an empath (I'm christian),she must have been really ego hurt during the trajectory and at the end.
      JESUS did say ," if you're persecuted in one city flee to another" and she did persecute me and wanting to correct me irrelevant things or things I already practice,given I'm an autistic person , narcissist must really take pleasure in "correcting us"

    • @Terence-pg4pu
      @Terence-pg4pu 7 місяців тому +5

      It is sad, but only proves they weren't really your friends anyway. One way or another, they are usually yours or the partners friends, so they have to take a side. I think it is worse when they use Flying Monkeys with family IMO. God's willing, they will expose themselves or those concerned will see what the truth is, as it always comes out eventually.

  • @Kadir_1990
    @Kadir_1990 8 місяців тому +33

    And narcissists say that they are not jealous but actually they are very jealous.

    • @BingoNamo-gb8pz
      @BingoNamo-gb8pz 7 місяців тому

      Are you jealous?

    • @Kadir_1990
      @Kadir_1990 7 місяців тому

      @@BingoNamo-gb8pz nope.

    • @Kadir_1990
      @Kadir_1990 7 місяців тому

      @@BingoNamo-gb8pz you want to reflect and blame it on me so that you can say that im narcissistic.

    • @NehaSharma-777
      @NehaSharma-777 7 місяців тому

      True

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому +1

      Of course but everything they do shows that they are

  • @pixelnazgul
    @pixelnazgul 8 місяців тому +25

    The school bully is the actual LOOSER.

  • @tonyconnor5691
    @tonyconnor5691 8 місяців тому +75

    This is spot on, infact everthing they acuse of is what they are themselves, that's a tell tale sign tbh

    • @barbells.dumbbells.thatsit8914
      @barbells.dumbbells.thatsit8914 7 місяців тому +9

      A reflection of themselves. Pretty surreal once you connect those dots isn’t it?

    • @tonyconnor5691
      @tonyconnor5691 7 місяців тому

      @@barbells.dumbbells.thatsit8914 yes it is, it's projection they literally accuse you of everything that they are themselves, she accused me of always being ill, at the time I was working 7 days a week no days off, she was always ill literally everyday something was wrong

    • @LoriPARK1111-u1b
      @LoriPARK1111-u1b 7 місяців тому +2

      They give intel

    • @cradleofalex
      @cradleofalex Місяць тому

      They project their own feelings on others. E.g. They might say you're ashamed of their presence, when in fact this proves how THEY feel.

  • @corporaterobotslave400
    @corporaterobotslave400 8 місяців тому +55

    This took me decades to discover b/c I'm an INFJ [I Never Feel Jealous] and it took several betrayals both private and professional before I could even see this as a motivation.

    • @邪眼の男
      @邪眼の男 8 місяців тому +16

      They're hard to glance at first time but their patterns and inconsistencies are all the same.

    • @gdcskates
      @gdcskates 8 місяців тому +18

      because it's childish behavior and you didn't expect that from an adult.

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому

      Hah I like that

    • @meganjenkins7093
      @meganjenkins7093 6 місяців тому +1

      Same for me. INFJ are very concerned about what's good for everyone around them.. But especially those who we care for on an intimate level! Because we dont let many people in. It hurts too deep to be an INFJ sometimes.

  • @wonkygustav4457
    @wonkygustav4457 8 місяців тому +8

    The covert narcissist is so much more subtle, unless you can see through people you’ll be running around doing errands for them before you know it.

  • @yissel_emperatriz-81
    @yissel_emperatriz-81 7 місяців тому +6

    Took me 17 years of marriage to know this. So sadly for me, but finally walking away 😢😢😢

    • @Ivanhoe52
      @Ivanhoe52 6 місяців тому

      Better late, than never. Breathe the air of freedom... You probably will feel relief, that not many people do.

  • @holyrustedmetalbatman
    @holyrustedmetalbatman 7 місяців тому +3

    My ex moved out recently, and I took a short staycation for a weekend so she could move out. My ring camera picked up some conversations with her friends, and it made me realize how much this person lies and throws me under the bus.

  • @vijityadav13
    @vijityadav13 8 місяців тому +18

    A narcissist has everything negative about you, narcissist only wants your time , money or your peace.

  • @邪眼の男
    @邪眼の男 8 місяців тому +23

    They are jealous because they know deep inside it's hard to change their ways and also see all their past mistakes or crimes.
    Narcissists wish they were somebody else but failed to see that others is not self centered or possessed empathy unlike them.

  • @goddesslv1
    @goddesslv1 8 місяців тому +45

    I recently realized that my narcissist, boyfriend unsubscribed on this channel on my television, and I was wondering why it wasn’t popping up on my cell phone. Go figure I just subscribed again this is the best channel out there for this topic.

    • @SundayCookingRemix
      @SundayCookingRemix 8 місяців тому

      Go figure? That's why women stay in fd up relationships. They make excuses

    • @CinzaChumbo
      @CinzaChumbo 8 місяців тому +22

      Not my place at all to tell you what to do about your life. But, if you allow a suggestion... if your boyfriend treats you that way, he is trying to set you up for continued suffering, and that makes him very dumpable. You deserve better.

    • @AndrewFosterSheff69
      @AndrewFosterSheff69 7 місяців тому +4

      So your BF removed a channel you were subscribed to that exposes him for what he REALLY is?
      YOU can do better. ❤

    • @rejoiceregion1524
      @rejoiceregion1524 7 місяців тому

      narcs need love too :)

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому +1

      Hates the truth I see

  • @vantom9836
    @vantom9836 8 місяців тому +51

    Yes, this one definitely resonates with me! One important revelation for me was starting to understand 'malicious envy' as described by Prof Sam Vaknin as when somebody who feels resentment and negative feelings towards people who have more than them. This is as opposed to benign envy, where you can feel envious of people more successful or with better traits but you also admire them and want to learn from and be more like them. Because this is an internal insecurity for them I'd say best not to trigger them and flaunt your good qualities around them. Seek validation elsewhere.

    • @rejoiceregion1524
      @rejoiceregion1524 7 місяців тому

      how do you become secure in yourself how are you guys so secure in yourselves how did you become so secure in your selves?

    • @vantom9836
      @vantom9836 7 місяців тому +1

      @@rejoiceregion1524 you got me thinking. I'm not sure but sometimes it comes from the inside sometimes it comes from outside help. Don't give up. If this person is really a jealous type it is the worst kind of narcissist and you need to get the hell away from them. Reduce contact time if you can and you will start to see the difference.

  • @jodyayers4592
    @jodyayers4592 7 місяців тому +4

    - Don't EVER put yourself in a position of dependency - it will be exploited mercilessly.

  • @theyrekrnations8990
    @theyrekrnations8990 7 місяців тому +7

    Yeah, that's a good sign of a narcissist, that they are jealous people. They always have a hierarchy and need to be on the top. These type will back stab you and talk smack about you behind your back so that everyone looks poorly upon you.

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому +3

      Be extremely jealous, Copy the hell out of you and still wanna be jealous lmao

  • @Healing70x7
    @Healing70x7 8 місяців тому +29

    My narc wakes me up daily but makes it seem like it wasn't on purpose. But just waking someone up every day proves it was on purpose. And he does things that will mean more work for me, he's sabotaging me all the time. I'll be out of here in 3 months at most.

    • @ericb8413
      @ericb8413 8 місяців тому +12

      I wish you the best in getting out. There is a life that can be narcissist free. It’s awesome.🎉🎉

    • @kdphotos4691
      @kdphotos4691 8 місяців тому +9

      Good to hear you're getting out. Stay focused because they can usually tell when you're pulling away and that's when they amp up the abuse. Stay cool and make your plans quietly to get away.

    • @cyndigooch1162
      @cyndigooch1162 8 місяців тому +7

      Good on you for breaking free from the toxic situation and you'll be one of the many thousands of survivors who are doing so! ❤

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому +1

      Run & never look back!! Hate to tell you this truth, but the narcissist will stalk you forever. They will NEVER let you leave their life. Sleeping with the Enemy...nobody leaves them unfortunately.😮 I see the narcissist I knew as a punishment from God to me.

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому +6

      ​@@kdphotos4691That's how I did it. A quiet escape. A true runaway slave.

  • @dave23024
    @dave23024 8 місяців тому +16

    That's my narc parents in a nutshell. My mother had a guitar that she never learned to play, and I got an electric guitar and taught myself to play, and that put her into such a passive-aggressive state that she finally turned my father against me and now he's basically her clone.

    • @thevoight-kampfftest4779
      @thevoight-kampfftest4779 8 місяців тому +4

      I am very sorry to hear about that!I wish you the best💪👍

    • @dave23024
      @dave23024 8 місяців тому +4

      @@thevoight-kampfftest4779 I appreciate it. Have a good one.

    • @Ivanhoe52
      @Ivanhoe52 6 місяців тому +1

      A real horror story to make a movie about. I was luckyer, then... Just hang in there.

    • @dave23024
      @dave23024 6 місяців тому +1

      @@Ivanhoe52 I appreciate it. Yeah, I'm talking some V.C. Andrews level of evil.

  • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
    @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому +13

    They don't even like when your happy & laughing when they're not in the mix. They will work precisely & calculated to sabatoge. They're awful. Guy I knew even sabatoged his own son's graduation trip. The jealousy & disdain is that of a madman.

    • @aryan_5271
      @aryan_5271 7 місяців тому

      I wonder what kind of person would do that

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому

      Ain’t that true lol and that’s just wrong , suppose to be a good day for him

  • @taze317
    @taze317 7 місяців тому +4

    I had a foreman who was a narcissist, I just didn't know it at the time. Extremely jealous of me because I had lots of friends, including other foremen. I was very good at my job and I was at work every day. He still gave me hell. He and I had a big argument one day, and he gave me 3 days off without pay. When I came back to work, I had been transferred to a different department. That was actually a good thing. I never saw him again.

    • @Ivanhoe52
      @Ivanhoe52 6 місяців тому +2

      Familiar... 'I feel for ya. Transfer is sometimes better. Happened to me too.

  • @damianlopez7630
    @damianlopez7630 7 місяців тому +9

    They are constantly jealous and envious also and the insane part is it never stops

    • @las9582
      @las9582 7 місяців тому +2

      The insane part is they will try and stick to you like glue.

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому

      Yeah they’ll be like this till the day they die and cause problem everywhere. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with being a narcissist or any cluster b, seems awful living with a disease

    • @Ivanhoe52
      @Ivanhoe52 6 місяців тому +1

      Indeed. Don't I know it, uffff...😒

    • @Ivanhoe52
      @Ivanhoe52 6 місяців тому

      ​@@las9582It's one of the worst parts of that whole nightmare...😬

  • @tomclancy8281
    @tomclancy8281 8 місяців тому +8

    I was married to a BIPOLAR COVERT NARCISSIST. Her jealousy destroyed my career, the business I had when we got married, my hobbies, my family relationships and most of my other friends. When we got married, the church was packed with my friends, family, co-workers and business associates. It only took her 2 years to destroy it all. I would have left her but by then we had 2 kids and I only stayed to raise them.

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому

      Omg...I'm really sorry. They are insane & extremely jealous. Mine literally became me if that makes any sense. They watch,study,& copy you to the point of replacing you. Sick a.f.
      The Talented Mr. Ripley & the only one's who know what's really going on is the narc & his victim.Hell mine even for over 13yrs tries to compete & become my husband. Nobody is even concerned with their ass but in their sick heads it's a competition & an extreme identity crisis. They haven't a true self so they imitate the object of their envy. Batshit crazy ppl. Abusive & so wicked ...they get off on being a demon. Dark,fake,& destroyed beings.

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому

      Wow….

    • @Ivanhoe52
      @Ivanhoe52 6 місяців тому

      Sounds familiar...

  • @kittyblue8310
    @kittyblue8310 8 місяців тому +11

    This is so true my sister sabotaged any boy who liked me ….. I thought it was odd when she told me so & so likes you, but then the very next day she’d say they don’t like you anymore…. I now realized she must’ve said something to them that really hurt them and I feel bad about that….. I was so very shy. I had no idea what she was doing…..

    • @chrisantoniou4366
      @chrisantoniou4366 8 місяців тому +3

      That's sad. I hope you have found someone who loves you now.

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому

      Sad

  • @snjezanakristo6048
    @snjezanakristo6048 8 місяців тому +17

    My narcissistic ex was a covert narcissist, so he would constantly ignore me and give me the silent treatment to make me feel insignificant.

    • @SFBay69
      @SFBay69 8 місяців тому +4

      Ignore him back

    • @stonefox9124
      @stonefox9124 7 місяців тому +4

      🤨 maybe he has things to do and u just require to much attention... I'm really sick of girls claim ex narcissist boyfriends but in reality it's u...

    • @snjezanakristo6048
      @snjezanakristo6048 7 місяців тому

      @@stonefox9124 Nobody is that busy that they can't take three seconds to respond to a text message within 24 hours. It's all about his priorities. Sending a text message is even less than a bare minimum, but men like you have been brainwashing women into believing that they require too much so that they lower their standards and accept breadcrumbs, so men won't have to take too much effort.

    • @ThimbleFox350
      @ThimbleFox350 7 місяців тому +1

      Give him the whole silent treatment forever by blocking him

    • @ThimbleFox350
      @ThimbleFox350 7 місяців тому +2

      @@stonefox9124If she required more attention than he was able to provide then he should have broken up with her rather than play mind games and use coercive control. If she was really so needy then it is his responsibility to leave. Anything else is abuse.

  • @douglash.1268
    @douglash.1268 8 місяців тому +14

    She nailed it.

  • @sirphil13
    @sirphil13 8 місяців тому +8

    Narcissists are stifling.

  • @focusedonfuture3255
    @focusedonfuture3255 7 місяців тому +3

    They are incapable of envy.
    All they see is a resource to be exploited that is all.

  • @l.barnes1703
    @l.barnes1703 8 місяців тому +26

    Was friends with someone all through childhood and into my 30s. Somewhere along the line I learned not to tell her anything going on in my life, good or bad. I’d go out on dates with people she knew, go to concerts and fun events, got promoted on my job...never talked about it with her. It was so bad I started house hunting, made an offer, settled on the house and moved...and never told her. When she found out I bought a house and moved she was pissed that I hadn’t told her. That was my out from the toxic friendship.

    • @HK00088
      @HK00088 7 місяців тому

      Just forgive her, move on and hope she changed or changes. Peace

    • @l.barnes1703
      @l.barnes1703 7 місяців тому +3

      The friendship ended 20 years ago. Around 15 years ago someone asked me why I didn't see her anymore. When I tried to explain they brushed me off and said, "Life's too short to hold grudges." Life is also too short to spend around toxic people. I don't hate her and I haven't held a grudge. I'm friendly to her when I occasionally run into her. After twenty years I'm starting to see the other relationships she destroyed. It makes me sad. It has also made me realize I did the right thing moving on.

    • @HK00088
      @HK00088 7 місяців тому

      @@l.barnes1703 yeah move on buts it’s good to forgive even if you don’t forget you’ll be at ease. I’m a very forgiving person just saying .. I think I was a jealous person in college and high school myself but not a narcissist. People hurt me too I forgave them

    • @l.barnes1703
      @l.barnes1703 7 місяців тому

      I wasn't trying to be spiteful when I didn't tell her I was moving. It was extremely stressful, buying my first house, on my own. I didn't want to deal with any negativity she'd throw my way because I was buying a house. I grappled for weeks with calling her to let her know I was moving. I didn't care if she knew, but I didn't want to talk to her about it. I finally decided I wasn't going to call her and tell her and I actually felt relieved. Much later it occurred to me that it wasn't much of a friendship to begin with if I didn't feel safe telling her about that life change.
      Also notable, she didn’t try to talk to me about why I didn’t tell her, or make any effort to find out what was wrong.

    • @ba8501
      @ba8501 7 місяців тому

      Smart move!

  • @desertweasel6965
    @desertweasel6965 8 місяців тому +24

    I remember my narcissist telling me that if I did this or that then I would be good enough for them to stay. One requirement is that I go back to school, because I'm stupid. So, I enrolled into a technical college for electrical. When I told her this she didn't say anything about it. No congratulations or anything. In fact, she seemed kind of offended. So, one day she tells me that she went to Georgia Southern University and that was an actual University and I was going to Tech college which is a school, and I quote " For stupid people".

    • @GospelOfThomasMcSwain
      @GospelOfThomasMcSwain 8 місяців тому +15

      Yeah, right. That's a bold gaslighting attempt or outright ignorance. Let me guess, she has thousands of dollars in student loan debt for her "actual university" that she'll keep paying on for the next decade or longer. You'll be far better off than she will with that electrical tech degree, unless she's a doctor or lawyer, or such. She sounds like a cerebral narcissist, which I believe to be the most dangerous type.

    • @desertweasel6965
      @desertweasel6965 8 місяців тому +10

      @@GospelOfThomasMcSwain no debt, her family was very wealthy and the conversation started with her talking about private school versus public school. She, and her two kids went to private school, because her parents are rich and could send them all to private school. I went to public school and she kept on and on about how public school is so beneath private school and her kids and herself are therefore smarter than anyone. She then made the comparison of a University versus a Technical college. University is for smart people and stupid people go to Tech school, because they are not smart enough for a University.
      In all my 48 years I have never raised my hands to a woman, but the things she did to me had me so close to taking out her front teeth I had to leave before I went to prison.

    • @ericb8413
      @ericb8413 8 місяців тому

      Dump her! And by the way, people who take on thousands of dollars of student debt are idiots. They drank the kool aid.

    • @kdphotos4691
      @kdphotos4691 8 місяців тому +1

      @@desertweasel6965 - How did you meet her?

    • @SundayCookingRemix
      @SundayCookingRemix 8 місяців тому +4

      🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♂️ run

  • @malcolmwaddilove1822
    @malcolmwaddilove1822 8 місяців тому +23

    Excellent Danielle,I'm pushing through little by little,gaining a little more ground,but it still all saddens me.

  • @adenbuford7396
    @adenbuford7396 8 місяців тому +17

    Who else journaled Danielle's message? It is not just demeaning, or dissmissivness but is distracting tactics as well. Eliminate distractions.

  • @darrynreid4500
    @darrynreid4500 6 місяців тому +2

    Something I came to realise many years ago was that they're not so much envious of something you have or something you've done as they are envious of you, as property they want to own. I think all the envy amounts to the expression of anger at you just for having a separate you.

  • @GT47179
    @GT47179 8 місяців тому +5

    What a nutty world 😢

  • @Anadrol88
    @Anadrol88 7 місяців тому +2

    The core of narcissism is extreme selfishness.
    Love is the contrary of selfishness, it's putting the needs of the loved one before yours.

  • @flamingocupproductions5329
    @flamingocupproductions5329 6 місяців тому +1

    You describe this perfectly. Mother’s are often like this. It’s why the world is crumbling.

  • @i_nvade8098
    @i_nvade8098 7 місяців тому +1

    When you get nervous about not just sharing good news but for example starting a business partnership with them. Thats also a good sign that you probably shouldn't.

  • @Name-zo3fm
    @Name-zo3fm 7 місяців тому +5

    A narcissist films themselves thinking they are important enough to be listened to.

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому +1

      What are they saying again? Lol

  • @JacobCarlson-uq1my
    @JacobCarlson-uq1my 8 місяців тому +18

    On a serious note though, really it is quite sad & scary.
    Sickness to extremes. And fascinating that it can't be cured in many cases.

    • @trying2survive602
      @trying2survive602 8 місяців тому +4

      Mine went to therapy. To find out what was wrong with me. SMH 🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @kdphotos4691
      @kdphotos4691 8 місяців тому +9

      It can be cured. The issue is that they don't see anything wrong with their behaviour so why seek help?

    • @JacobCarlson-uq1my
      @JacobCarlson-uq1my 8 місяців тому +2

      @@kdphotos4691 Oh , interesting
      that's a trip, bummer. That certain behavior definitely seems quite obvious to I.

    • @leisure057blank3
      @leisure057blank3 8 місяців тому +2

      @@trying2survive602 you made me snort laugh, lol.

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому +1

      They remind me of that old classic from Oscar Wilde
      " The Picture of Dorian Gray "
      Anyone who's ever dealt with one that old movie is a must see. I promise.

  • @Luton-Mick
    @Luton-Mick 7 місяців тому +3

    Anyone who makes you feels bad for any happiness or success in your life even if it's your own family treat them like they have Ebola.

  • @lt827
    @lt827 8 місяців тому +8

    I would be starving and homeless if I relied on the narcissist financially!

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому +1

      Lol!! How bout that money 💰 and control. Evil and petty. It is a must for them to feel needed. I put myself in the worst financial state relying on such a lying devil. All that talk & they're weak as hell. They will bring you down cuz God forbid if you're lifted while in the company of such an insecure child.

    • @BugzandOzz
      @BugzandOzz 8 місяців тому +1

      Omg wtf I’m goin thru rite now nd it’s undamnbelievable it’s crazy

  • @rupinderrandhawa5485
    @rupinderrandhawa5485 8 місяців тому +8

    Word for word true. 100% accurate

  • @MHLivestreams
    @MHLivestreams 7 місяців тому +3

    They have no authenticity, they have no life of their own creation. Everything exists externally, they can't do introspection, it's too painful.

  • @amyj.4992
    @amyj.4992 8 місяців тому +5

    Omg I feel that so hard, I've withheld certain successes and valuable information about me from certain people for this exact reason but in my mind I was liy"I don't want them to jinx it, so I'll hold off on this particular person"

  • @YouilAushana
    @YouilAushana 8 місяців тому +2

    90% of women in my opinion. Thank goodness for amazing girls like you. Sorry, for all the toxicity.

  • @BlueRayStarseed777
    @BlueRayStarseed777 8 місяців тому +2

    So true! I know a few my Life right now. Even though I got upset once and made the mistake to show one weakness. Am back Up now. Karma Will hit hard all Who do harm to others. I have no empathy for the narcs if the psycopath! Thanks for the video

  • @persiamotorman
    @persiamotorman 8 місяців тому +9

    I think it's cruel when they do something emotionally cruel to you, and you keep emailing them, and there's no response, and you try and try to call them but it all goes to voicemail. My own twin brother does this to me. The bad thing is he does this unprovoked. In fact, I would be thinking that everything is fine, and BOOM SURPRISE!

    • @MiteshDamania
      @MiteshDamania 8 місяців тому +8

      Just because they are family, doesn't mean you should be around there. It's best to have no contact

    • @Murgatroydian
      @Murgatroydian 8 місяців тому +5

      This is a scary time of year when there are narcs in the family.

    • @chrisantoniou4366
      @chrisantoniou4366 8 місяців тому +3

      When it comes to Narcissists, you have every right to be disappointed in their behaviour, but you have no right to be surprised...

    • @MiteshDamania
      @MiteshDamania 8 місяців тому

      @@chrisantoniou4366 that assume the person is aware of what the narcissist is.

  • @Sp-zn8kh
    @Sp-zn8kh 8 місяців тому +3

    Absolutely true narcissistic people are good at what they do my best advice for anyone trying to help a narcissistic person just let them go it’s not good enough for them no matter what you’re doing for them

  • @djudahp
    @djudahp 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for the confirmation. My coworker, who's jealous of me but needs me is about to be cut off.

  • @belmont4511
    @belmont4511 8 місяців тому +1

    My mom is like that. I changed jobs over 5 years ago. She knows nothing of it. She doesn't need to know anything about what I do.

  • @federicamatii
    @federicamatii 7 місяців тому +2

    all this stuff should be revisited. i noticed that in each "abuser"-"victim" couple i know (yes " ") the "victim" possesses all the qualities of the "abuser", including envy, but only suppresses them to the point of not realizing and thus, acts in a passive-aggressive way, which is certainly an abuse too.

  • @kingtitan2051
    @kingtitan2051 7 місяців тому +4

    Yep.. lived it for years

  • @martinmajewski27
    @martinmajewski27 8 місяців тому +2

    It's true, and what's worse, it might even be a parent. I never used to understand my mother's words to my father, saying that he envied everything about me since my childhood. It was almost illogical and strange. My mother was aware that my father wasn't normal, but she allowed such behavior because it was convenient for her. I suffered since childhood because I had a narcissistic father who didn't support me in my upbringing; instead, I ended up becoming a parent figure for him.

  • @markbowman5515
    @markbowman5515 7 місяців тому +1

    It's so interesting that wether it's a male or female narc being told from a male or female perspective that the abuse and behavior is the same

  • @alienautopsy9326
    @alienautopsy9326 8 місяців тому +5

    So annoying when your efforts get downplayed. They’ll compliment you and honey pot only when it benefits them in some way. Stay away from those people.

  • @chefbenardee1408
    @chefbenardee1408 7 місяців тому +1

    God bless this unbelievably beautiful lady for sharing this amazing message with all us... I sincerely hope that this lady and everyone reading this will recieve only the most beautiful things in heaven and the afterlife... each person reading this is an incredible miracle from the highest quality... God bless everyone in this comment section

  • @peppermintgirl572
    @peppermintgirl572 8 місяців тому +4

    Thank you so much for sharing ❤❤❤

  • @JacobCarlson-uq1my
    @JacobCarlson-uq1my 8 місяців тому +17

    This seems like a horror movie

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому +4

      Cause they are. I always say mine is the boogeyman. They are straight outta an Alfred Hitchcock film. Real talk.

    • @JacobCarlson-uq1my
      @JacobCarlson-uq1my 8 місяців тому

      @@user-pq1bf4ng9b True

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino 6 місяців тому +1

      Cause it is, with any one of those clowns it will be

  • @eternallyinternal
    @eternallyinternal 8 місяців тому +7

    I needed to hear this 😢❤

  • @TheSteveTheDragon
    @TheSteveTheDragon 7 місяців тому +1

    Very true. The person I knew was so full of himself but I didn't see it at the time because I was so desperate to find someone, but hindsight shows me it was all about them, how many popular people they knew, how 'inside' they were, pure clout chasing and I realized in hindsight I was yet another step to rub their tyrannical little boots on in their never ending quest for clout chasing. When I ran away, they started a decades long campaign of gangstalking and smearing/harassment.

  • @mdshroom
    @mdshroom 7 місяців тому +2

    Spot on. You nailed this one. Good job. 👍

  • @chrisantoniou4366
    @chrisantoniou4366 8 місяців тому +2

    So true! I hadn't noticed it in a family member before until it was pointed out by my ex wife. I poo poohed the idea because I thought it was absurd that this family member would be jealous of what I had, but my ex also predicted what he would do next and was 100% correct. With hindsight I could see it throughout my life but at the time I never really noticed.

  • @JamesMacmuiris-ik2dl
    @JamesMacmuiris-ik2dl 8 місяців тому +1

    Cherish poem. Parting is such sweet sorrow,like a bitter pill you sometimes have to swallow,like mulder and scully,it's out there ,yee both have shun the torch upon each other so you can be so much better tomorrow,they prefer the word discard,you prefer the word cherish,they will miss your forever effervesense

  • @martinfitzpatrick8533
    @martinfitzpatrick8533 8 місяців тому +2

    You're right on the money on everything. And varey stunning to. Thanks for your help. Whooooooow. Martin

    • @user-pq1bf4ng9b
      @user-pq1bf4ng9b 8 місяців тому

      That's why she was a victim too!! Look at her...the narcissist's type unbeknownst to her. They're scary ppl.😮

  • @tekiwi
    @tekiwi 8 місяців тому +3

    Ive watched sooooo many video's about Narcissism and these videos just nail the subject so quickly and to the point its mimd blowing!!!
    Thank you 🙏

  • @sayusayme7729
    @sayusayme7729 8 місяців тому +3

    Thank you much 🧡🇨🇦🪶🦉

  • @michaelgarrow3239
    @michaelgarrow3239 8 місяців тому +2

    Destruct mode activated!

  • @johnmaurer2035
    @johnmaurer2035 8 місяців тому +2

    "Truth is not something outside to be discovered, it is something inside to be realized."
    Osho, The Buddha Said...: Meeting the Challenge of Life's Difficulties

  • @jdf3434
    @jdf3434 15 днів тому

    About themselves yes! Strong inclination to always top whatever I've accomplished with a comment about...........THEMSELVES.

  • @westerlywinds5684
    @westerlywinds5684 7 місяців тому +3

    Ultimately, they are evil people with evil intentions.

  • @joannaprofita8404
    @joannaprofita8404 5 місяців тому

    You have the absolute and best to the point videos on narcissism. Not to take away from other really great individuals on UA-cam. Your videos have really helped in my healing and education as to narcissists. Thank you for all you share with us.

  • @austinnevels7447
    @austinnevels7447 8 місяців тому +3

    My father tried everything to get me to be a teen father- my mother wouldn’t stop hitting me up for bud… no contact is the only way

    • @rdred8693
      @rdred8693 8 місяців тому +1

      WHAT?! Omg I'm so sorry. Do you have a support system?

  • @srsagun
    @srsagun 8 місяців тому +2

    Thank you

  • @andreltsz
    @andreltsz 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for the words 🙏

  • @billbunch6762
    @billbunch6762 7 місяців тому

    2 different narcissist in my life ate being eradicated as we speak and it feels really good also horrible to have endured so much for so long. And the ever looping question, "where would my life be if they weren't ever in my life or done so much damage " !?

  • @miwdiva
    @miwdiva 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much for this Danielle, I wish this video would have existed in the past, when I dealt with such situations (esp the 90s and 2000s, pre social-media).

  • @djmandyland
    @djmandyland 7 місяців тому +1

    Not saying everyone is a narcissist of course but dang... listening to this and thinking of only like the 5% out of 100% of people in my life I'd feel safe in actually sharing my ideas or accomplishments with... is actually a really sad thought. When you realize a major of people you have in your life would want to see you fail in order to serve them is some way is... wow

  • @MrAtomicBulldog
    @MrAtomicBulldog 8 місяців тому +3

    Very well stated, Danielle. Thank you.

  • @AnotherPilot1
    @AnotherPilot1 8 місяців тому +26

    Also remember: You can't kill a Narcissist without becoming one yourself.

    • @akanksha7028
      @akanksha7028 8 місяців тому

      Really

    • @Smellslikenarcspirit
      @Smellslikenarcspirit 8 місяців тому +1

      ​@@akanksha7028yes . Try morals against imoral people and find out yourself .

    • @chilledchad
      @chilledchad 8 місяців тому +3

      Yeah. Knowing all their tricks and how they are used makes you think like them.

    • @Msrobot3948
      @Msrobot3948 8 місяців тому +8

      I'm afraid I have become a narcissist. My parents were very controlling of me and my dad emotionally abusive. They didn't let me socialize and they made me anxious of every little thing. All my life I felt alone. Now at 19 I feel depressed and lost. But at the same time I'm so negative.
      And it makes me feel conflicted.

    • @AnotherPilot1
      @AnotherPilot1 8 місяців тому +6

      @@Msrobot3948 it's easy to feel conflicted because you are being influenced (if not attacked) by forces outside of you that do not settle well with your true, authentic self. You are young and have had a rough road. So many of these emotional injuries you have sustained have you wanting to protect yourself...and that is absolutely normal. You need safety and a quiet place to heal and have time to further define who you want to be.

  • @DeliciouslyTwistedHumanAnomaly
    @DeliciouslyTwistedHumanAnomaly 8 місяців тому +1

    That jealous can appear is such small things.. I went to Warsaw for a few days and during that time, I went to visit the museum of Warsaw Uprising and broth from there small sticker with a logo. As I was back, I stuck it in the corner of the information board in the hall of my building... guess what? After one day, the label was gone...

  • @LatestHour
    @LatestHour 7 місяців тому

    Thank you for this… I've needed to hear this for 3 years now because my coworkers slander, etc. me to the max and won't let me be happy. THANK YOU BEAUTIFUL LADY!

  • @luisalphahernandezomega1704
    @luisalphahernandezomega1704 7 місяців тому

    *SINCERELY THANK YOU!*

  • @indridcold8433
    @indridcold8433 8 місяців тому

    Nobody is envious of me. However, as soon as I detect a narcissist, I leave their presence. Even if the narcissist is in mid sentence of I am, I leave and never communicate, nor speak of thd person, ever again.

  • @kristinamcintosh8035
    @kristinamcintosh8035 7 місяців тому

    Nailed It Sister 🙏

  • @kilpel2
    @kilpel2 6 місяців тому

    Another beautiful video. You just described my ex!

  • @jdoyle7768
    @jdoyle7768 7 місяців тому

    She got jealous quick of me. Unfortunately, a lot of the relationships I did have with people became less social, and turned into virtual. Unfortunately my mistake, I introduced her to some of those friends and then she had to get friendly with them. And then she wanted to choose my friends

  • @HK00088
    @HK00088 7 місяців тому

    Forgive them, move on from them, hope they stop being a narrcicist .

  • @thevoight-kampfftest4779
    @thevoight-kampfftest4779 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you fore posting this video and fore your outstanding insight, this was really helpfull, thank you💪👍

  • @traderelementar
    @traderelementar 8 місяців тому

    You are so clever Radin

  • @randybyers4885
    @randybyers4885 7 місяців тому

    I have dealt with such, the Scripture says from such turn away

  • @lovepeace8918
    @lovepeace8918 7 місяців тому

    Honestly this applies in some people with narcissism yes, I agree, however not every all the time. It really depends, for example, I have the diagnosis and I definitely do build others up, or have done so in significant ways and truly loved them, My brother I suspect has it too, but he is different, he is like this video describes, always poking fun making jokes, ruining holidays, jealous extremely condescending and arrogant, so yea this fits some Narcissists I think Narcissism may have a spectrum also, or categories, I've heard but not super sure, like Vulnerable, and other types. So there are range of types of narcissist's, and not all will try to destroy someone they loved but are hurt or angry with, but some narcissists yes absolutely always watch your back 100%. It's complicated, but yea even if the impulse of hurt and anger is there to lash out or revenge on someone, it does not mean the narcissist will always act on it, maybe it crossed their mind, and they can choose to not act on those ideas. Each one has their traits to a degree or behavior patterns, I mean it is complicated, and I say observe the person, note down what happened, and then if it fits, then ok you confirmed their traits, but not all are exactly the same is what I'm trying to share.

  • @mikepanchuk2456
    @mikepanchuk2456 8 місяців тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤🥰 Amen Beautiful Sister. Be happy and keep smiling 🙂 and tourture these Narc but don't let them anywhere close. Seeing us happy with out them plays on their nerves pretty good 🙂 That's why they made us hide our smiles on our driver's license. Because government hates to see us happy smiles when they check our ID all the time. 😂🤣😂😉🔥🙌☝️🌞🤗

  • @AlexanderTheGreatMan
    @AlexanderTheGreatMan 7 місяців тому

    You described me perfectly a year ago

  • @markcameroon6613
    @markcameroon6613 8 місяців тому +1

    deborah did this yes debby did this exactly what she did :o

  • @consciouschirag
    @consciouschirag 7 місяців тому

    Very well said ✅

  • @beingpallavi3272
    @beingpallavi3272 7 місяців тому

    🙏 Thankyou Danielle.

  • @Doodlefisher
    @Doodlefisher 7 місяців тому

    Makes perfect sense!

  • @queenoftemplar
    @queenoftemplar 7 місяців тому

    Sharing you to my story on Facebook rock on 🎉

  • @DRUMofTRUTH
    @DRUMofTRUTH 3 місяці тому

    Best look on you 💯 my dear lord 👀

  • @equatelong9758
    @equatelong9758 7 місяців тому

    Preach it sister

  • @glennerd3125
    @glennerd3125 5 місяців тому

    My sister Michell did this to me my entire childhood until I figured out how to deal with her at age 8 or 9