I'm starting to get into kinks more. I've found that I really love the idea of being a soft dominant and taking care of my boyfriend. I like pet play, too, the thought of calling him puppy and petting his hair while he lays his head in my lap is amazing. Just having him vulnerable, completely relaxed, and getting to tell him that he's my good boy. Ah, I love it so much.
I think that soft dominance is so so sexy, personally it is the type of dominance that best suits me because I am a very soft little sub and I also have depression
I've always been a soft domme but called a brat.... And was forced to be submissive most my life, repressing all dominance. I'm trying to let my true self out but feels like I'm not supposed to.
Ughh I felt this. As a masochist AND a dominant woman people always try to tell me I’m just submissive but repressing it. I’ve tried so hard to be okay with being submissive but it’s just not who I am, at least in this current moment in time.
This is exactly the type of Dominant I am. My submissive was in an abusive D/s before and our relationship is therapy for her and I get to be my natural self . Communication is key in knowing what your D/s needs to grow.
I empathize with your sub and I am very glad that they found you. It’s very easy to fall into a traumatic abusive relationship that hides itself under the guise of a dynamic. I have been where you sub is and it’s nice to hear that there are doms out there who will use the dynamic for healing. Much love to both of you.
I like how my mistress handles things. She can be very harsh with punishments and humiliates me but she is also very caring and patient. I need both and she gives it to me
I LOVE this. My Dom is a soft Dom and sort of does it naturally. I am a woman who is about being independent and strong but there are so many times (we work together) that I will say something over the radio at work and he will send me a text or email asking me if everything is ok. Having someone that knows and can hear those slight changes that most people probably don’t is a whole different level. The thing that gets me the most though is if I am having a bad day and I am powering through it, with one look or word or touch he can just make me relax to the point where it’s ok for me to cry and it’s safe.
I swear that you’re reading my mind for what I’m curious about. I personally enjoy more soft dominance with hard traits. I had a rough childhood so in a way I’m looking for parental traits. It’s almost not even sexual for me In a weird way BDSM is like therapy for people who don’t want therapy
Soft dommes are so beautiful, because they show caring and compassion. Soft dommes would be my preference for sure, especially being able to feel acceptance. Femininity is priceless and so powerful.
Thanks a lot for this! I've been really interested in learning how to dom but being violent and aggressive really isn't for me. I want to care for my partner and make them feel loved and make them submit out of their own volition. I think them choosing to follow me is what gets me going. Thank you!
In general, in the world, this is my personality. I don’t demand, I ask - can you, I need. I have always enjoyed being supportive, getting people to reach their goals. This naturally just flows into my dominance over my sub.
THANK YOU SO MUCH! I have a hard time expressing myself and finding the words for things. Just the other day my fiancé was asking me what dominance was for me and I couldn’t tell him but you said it perfectly.
This is great this describes what I am doing with my sub very well I'm not an aggressive man by nature and I don't believe I need to be to earn my subs respect or admiration through force of power i want her to grow in who she is and I'm a very sensual person
I always knew that this is the kind of domme that i want. Ive always loved the emotional and loving part of BDSM, but its really hard to find a mommy you know?
Love this! It explains so much to me. I have been doing this naturally with partners for years and did not know it was a form of dominance but it makes total sense now. And tells my why I was turned off when ever I thought about being an aggressive dom but am excited about taking care of and protecting my person while at the same time guiding them through their desires and feeling safe enough to experience them with me. I noticed you talk about being a series and mention upcoming videos at the end but I am not sure which video follows this one or what came before it. @Ms. Elle can you tell me the list of videos related to this one. You are so informative! Thank you.
Thank you for this video! I'm at a loss at how to explain soft dominance to others and how that power exchange is still happening, but from a different place (bottom to top versus top to bottom) and I loved the personalized example and experience you shared! (Also can I just say that you guys are absolutely amazing and cute together!)
I feel I am this way sometimes with my physical presence. I am glad I found your channel. Now I can cultivate being a soft dominant in a very authentic way.🙂
Thank-you for the video and I look forward to the rest of this series. My very Good Girl and I are just starting to set-up our dynamic. This is precisely the way I intend to approach it as a Dom but, as others have said, I had no proper words to describe it. Thankfully she sent me the link for this video this morning, asking if this is what I was talking about, and I'm already Subscribed. I look forward to more of your insights moving forward.
I’m actually quite intrigued by this, mainly in part because I grew up in an environment that fostered the growth of my soft dom side early on. I dealt with plenty of abuse growing up that lead to my PTSD diagnosis, and so the harder dom style is a bit tricky for me to dive into on my own. I would definitely need to see a video like this one, with how in depth it is but in reverse as far as hard dom instead of soft. Even still, this video is very helpful and insightful!! Wonderful content!
Fred Rogers .... is my version of a Good Man. He was my only Safe spot in my dark tumultuous childhood. His voice was gentle and firm. He made me appreciate silence/quietness. He made me feel of worth. If any Gentle/Soft Dominate shows those traits, I’d melt like ice in the Sun’s ray. It’s hard to find someone with patience like that...the patience of a Saint. 😔
this is quite interesting. i am discovering who i am through you. i am soft dom, and my girlfriend likes really rough degrading sex, we find that the connection created through the softness in the beginning turns her on immensely and me too and we both get to a point when our feelings go nuts and i have go get rough with her and she explodes during sex due to the immense intense foreplay lasting a long time. thank you for this vid👌💯. there's so much more to learn we see😊.
I always love your content and the way you teach! As a healer and educator of all kinds of energy exchange you always help me teach a little bit better. Thank you! Love and light 🖤🙏🏼🔥
Nice to see a video promoting/explaining this style of dominance. I've practiced this style for years now but it always seems to be on the periphery of the lifestyle.
personally i like the idea of having a dominant woman who has it all together and tells me what to do and takes care of my life. none of the bdsm stuff, more like lovingly intervening in my life
I've had the opportunity to play a dominate role once in my life. My Dom was trying weed for the first time and while deep in his first high, he wanted me to dominate him. I naturally fell into this soft dom role, and I incredibly enjoyed holding him and giving him pleasure in a way that wasn't him demanding pleasure, but rather giving pleasure from a place of intense love and care. It was incredibly powerful to lay my Dom down and have him trust me to let go of control because I was going to take care of him. I would love to do it again soon!
I’m so glad I found your page on sub Reddit. I have been involved in B & D off and on and to find this page on soft dominance really describes the way I feel as a sub. But also, I am a switch and a soft Dom when I top. Thank you so much again and I will be exploring your videos.
Bruh this woman just sold me out. She know all of my secrets. Man no wonder I'm so nice as a Dom with my boyfriend. And he actually loves it but now I actually feel so much more comfortable now that everything is on the table. But sometimes when I'm in the mood to push a little more I will and he loves the shocking surprises. Cause I'm not always sugar coded. My sugar cote will soon enough go down to the mysterious flavor of the sweet, sugary, cute piece of candy, with a kitty cat as the wrapper. I'm not basically putting out who I am cause this is really who I am. And Im currently training my "puppy" to obey me and be patient cause it's also all so new to me but if it weren't for him I wouldn't have more confidence than I did before I met him. I love you my cute puppy Love, Wolfie 🖤❤️
My Master seems to fit much of your soft Dom criteria. He doesn't yell or shout at me, is kind, gives wonderful aftercare and has absolute control of himself. OTH he is most definitely a sadist 😊 who expects (and gets) total submission and instant obedience. I wear his lock-collar, kneel at his feet and eat from his hand
As a person when I first started exploring my submissive nature things fell into place when I discovered it's not all about clamps whips chains and pain. This softer approach opened up a whole new world. Ps awesome channel
I’m a Daddy, soft pleasure and hard Dom.. there can be free flow of sub space between all of them, however the soft dominate is soo much better when the sub is led into submission. Some people are all about collars, yet often there is no need one when you can melt them with a look and a few calm words. It also cuts down on toping from the bottom and is a really pleasurable deep connection that can be practiced anywhere, even in public. The power exchange can be quite exquisite when your sub just turns into an emotionally held aroused puddle. I see it as a subtle art form that we also get so much out of. ❤
I’m new to the BDSM world but this literally just describe my character to the T. I look forward to expanding this natural character I have although I know I won’t get to the far reaches of the heavy Dominance maybe I can take some points from like a medium perspective
I'm a combination of soft and hard. I want to nurture and give her praise and love, but she is also a little and enjoys flogging and other forms of pain such as blade play in our scenes. I had a really tough time at first with this, but as she assured me that was what she wanted from me, I was able to compartmentalize these things, use them as we have agreed upon and it has been very beneficial for us. Unfortunately, we are long distance and have not seen each other since covid, and our dynamic has changed but we are still very much in love and are working through the issue as our situations are VERY complicated. . I hope to see her soon and renew our relationship. Thanks for your videos. They are helping me be a better DaddyDom.
For me you fully exude soft dominance in this video. Somebody who looks sexy and dominant, speaks rather directly and bossy/or in charge but then also very aware, and heartwarming, which I really like too. For me personally with being too mean or bitchy or even a little bit when you mentioned another man, some walls run up - but i mean thats just my personal issue and trauma. But thank you again for sharing and educating!!
@@ElleX now I see why one of my partners told me once “you’re very Dominant” and I was like I don’t know about that I thought being dominant was being Demanding, Violent and Aggressive. You’re definitely amazing at what you do it helps a lot to newbies and/or people that want to learn
I am forever searching for a Daddy Dom. And Secretary was mesmerizing. One of my favorite films! saw it many times! I am a soft Domme with my clients. ( usually!!)
This is super interesting and will be potentially useful to me, to help potential dommes I'll meet. I struggled with meeting people in my 2 early years of online play that are ending by now, because of how it's not easy on both side to be on the same lenght online so you end up resorting to barking and "yes Goddess"^^ it's fun as well but it undoubtedly can't compare to real life fun of self sensual matter. I think on the sub side, if you are not on the proactive side, soft-domming is a whole lot of mental charge for the top, if that's your menu to a pro than that's her job to have the skills and offer the performance, but in most cases I feel that soft-domming works from equal involvement of both parties.
Hey lady, I wanted to start this comment off by saying that you have amazing information and I love it. Secondly, I have some questions. First, could you do a video about one of the most important things, aftercare? And second question, how do you help your submissive through sub drop while you are away such as at work or out of town?
I love soft being a Dominant, however, my sub is a brat and being able to switch from soft to hard Dominance is very important for us as she needs certain aspects from both.
One thing I have to remember here is you aren't required to stick one exact role. I know I'm soft dominant but there's also this brewing storm in me at times where I want to demand for things. Demand pictures and videos and words in a long distance relationship. Where I want to say "you WILL do this when I say so" got to somehow find a proper mix there.
From this video alone soft dominance really calls to me as a switch sub who likes the idea of being dominant primarily with other women but also feminine presenting people. I wouldn’t mind being with a dom who’s cold to an extent and degrades me in the bedroom but it’s definitely not the type of dom I could or ever want to be.
OMG!🤯 Today i learned there was a name for my entire mood 😱🔥 thank you for making this! If you need to resort to yelling or violence, the effect is only topical and temporary 😋
My girlfriend is a super sub, and has a CNC kink, but I am also a submissive male. Do you think this method would work for me to effectively act as a dom by commanding her to do what I wish she would do to me? Maybe that doesn't make too much sense, but I'm just trying to make it work. We are a fantastic match outside of the bedroom, but during sex things have been too vanilla. She can't be dominant, but I've been easing into the idea of being the dom. I just need certain things to turn me on that involve her doing things to me. I don't really get turned on by "going on the attack" if you know what I mean. I just need help and I'm not sure how to move forward
Yes! I was just telling my husband about non verbal cues... he was asking how far I would enjoy going as a submissive and I tried explaining that if HE likes it and WANTS me to do it...that in itself is what turns me on, and I'll do it. BUT he is very VERY good (been together 14 yrs. ) at reading my body and my "cues" and therefore, I trust that he will know my limit or boundaries...so he can just relax and do what he wants. This explained it perfectly! ( Christian, stay at home mom of 3 here...just wanna attest to the rumor that religious girls are the freakiest 😂)
My favorite movie is Escape to Eden. I think Sensual/Soft Domme is the best for me. I'm super patient and I don't like being mean and aggressive all the time.
I have a few questions if you don't mind answering. Can you be a soft dom with hard dom traits? Can a soft dom dom a brat. And if so, do they still use punishment? Any help would be amazing
1:30 was all I needed to know that this is EXACTLY what I want from my sweet Pisces partner. 💕🥺 the beating, slapping, hurting, humiliation and spitting and disrespect NEVERRRRR resonated with me. Not EVERRR. I have a major praise kink too and I just 😩 this is so perfect.
I'm starting to get into kinks more. I've found that I really love the idea of being a soft dominant and taking care of my boyfriend. I like pet play, too, the thought of calling him puppy and petting his hair while he lays his head in my lap is amazing. Just having him vulnerable, completely relaxed, and getting to tell him that he's my good boy. Ah, I love it so much.
I think that soft dominance is so so sexy, personally it is the type of dominance that best suits me because I am a very soft little sub and I also have depression
Exactly.
Same
I think this is always the style of domanice I've wanted to play with when I dom, I just didn't know the name for it. This is super helpful!
Baylee So glad to hear it! 🙏🏼❤️💋
I'm naturally a soft dom, I dip into harder traits because that's what my sub likes. My objective is always the same, mutual fulfillment and ecstasy.
I've always been a soft domme but called a brat.... And was forced to be submissive most my life, repressing all dominance. I'm trying to let my true self out but feels like I'm not supposed to.
It's 2 years after you made your comment about being a repressed Soft Dom and being a forced Sub. Did you ever figure it out?
Ughh I felt this. As a masochist AND a dominant woman people always try to tell me I’m just submissive but repressing it. I’ve tried so hard to be okay with being submissive but it’s just not who I am, at least in this current moment in time.
It's refreshing to see someone talk about soft dominance without treating it a lesser form. 🙏🙏
This is exactly the type of Dominant I am. My submissive was in an abusive D/s before and our relationship is therapy for her and I get to be my natural self . Communication is key in knowing what your D/s needs to grow.
I am so glad you found one another! 🙏🏼❤️💋
I empathize with your sub and I am very glad that they found you. It’s very easy to fall into a traumatic abusive relationship that hides itself under the guise of a dynamic. I have been where you sub is and it’s nice to hear that there are doms out there who will use the dynamic for healing. Much love to both of you.
I like how my mistress handles things. She can be very harsh with punishments and humiliates me but she is also very caring and patient. I need both and she gives it to me
That’s wonderful. So glad you have each other. ❤️
I LOVE this. My Dom is a soft Dom and sort of does it naturally. I am a woman who is about being independent and strong but there are so many times (we work together) that I will say something over the radio at work and he will send me a text or email asking me if everything is ok. Having someone that knows and can hear those slight changes that most people probably don’t is a whole different level. The thing that gets me the most though is if I am having a bad day and I am powering through it, with one look or word or touch he can just make me relax to the point where it’s ok for me to cry and it’s safe.
Thank you for sharing.
I swear that you’re reading my mind for what I’m curious about. I personally enjoy more soft dominance with hard traits. I had a rough childhood so in a way I’m looking for parental traits. It’s almost not even sexual for me
In a weird way BDSM is like therapy for people who don’t want therapy
YESSSS!!!
Yes you took the words right out of my mouth
Soft dommes are so beautiful, because they show caring and compassion. Soft dommes would be my preference for sure, especially being able to feel acceptance. Femininity is priceless and so powerful.
Thanks a lot for this! I've been really interested in learning how to dom but being violent and aggressive really isn't for me. I want to care for my partner and make them feel loved and make them submit out of their own volition. I think them choosing to follow me is what gets me going. Thank you!
It's my pleasure! Soft Dominance is just as valid! XOXO
In general, in the world, this is my personality. I don’t demand, I ask - can you, I need. I have always enjoyed being supportive, getting people to reach their goals. This naturally just flows into my dominance over my sub.
That’s good leadership! Glad you’re here! ❤️
I agree man.
this is so clarifying, this is such a cool dynamic. feels loving, sustainable, healthy
I loved when you put an example to make us understand what you were saying!
Switch sub mainly I think I like this style of dom.
THANK YOU SO MUCH! I have a hard time expressing myself and finding the words for things. Just the other day my fiancé was asking me what dominance was for me and I couldn’t tell him but you said it perfectly.
I'm so glad I could assist you in communicating! XOXO
This is great this describes what I am doing with my sub very well I'm not an aggressive man by nature and I don't believe I need to be to earn my subs respect or admiration through force of power i want her to grow in who she is and I'm a very sensual person
James Ohmart Beautifully said. Much love to you both! 💋
I always knew that this is the kind of domme that i want. Ive always loved the emotional and loving part of BDSM, but its really hard to find a mommy you know?
Love this! It explains so much to me. I have been doing this naturally with partners for years and did not know it was a form of dominance but it makes total sense now. And tells my why I was turned off when ever I thought about being an aggressive dom but am excited about taking care of and protecting my person while at the same time guiding them through their desires and feeling safe enough to experience them with me. I noticed you talk about being a series and mention upcoming videos at the end but I am not sure which video follows this one or what came before it. @Ms. Elle can you tell me the list of videos related to this one. You are so informative! Thank you.
Thank you for this video! I'm at a loss at how to explain soft dominance to others and how that power exchange is still happening, but from a different place (bottom to top versus top to bottom) and I loved the personalized example and experience you shared! (Also can I just say that you guys are absolutely amazing and cute together!)
Kayla Rundle It’s my pleasure; so glad I could aid you in communicating this! And thank you for the kind words! 💋
Yep. This would hit the spot for me. Weaves together well with femininity.
I feel I am this way sometimes with my physical presence. I am glad I found your channel. Now I can cultivate being a soft dominant in a very authentic way.🙂
Thank-you for the video and I look forward to the rest of this series. My very Good Girl and I are just starting to set-up our dynamic. This is precisely the way I intend to approach it as a Dom but, as others have said, I had no proper words to describe it. Thankfully she sent me the link for this video this morning, asking if this is what I was talking about, and I'm already Subscribed. I look forward to more of your insights moving forward.
How wonderful; I'm so pleased to hear it! Much love to you both! XOXO
Man I’m glad I found these videos! I want to be a dom. But I just can’t humiliate anyone! Thank you 😊
I’m actually quite intrigued by this, mainly in part because I grew up in an environment that fostered the growth of my soft dom side early on. I dealt with plenty of abuse growing up that lead to my PTSD diagnosis, and so the harder dom style is a bit tricky for me to dive into on my own. I would definitely need to see a video like this one, with how in depth it is but in reverse as far as hard dom instead of soft. Even still, this video is very helpful and insightful!! Wonderful content!
Fred Rogers .... is my version of a Good Man. He was my only Safe spot in my dark tumultuous childhood. His voice was gentle and firm. He made me appreciate silence/quietness. He made me feel of worth. If any Gentle/Soft Dominate shows those traits, I’d melt like ice in the Sun’s ray. It’s hard to find someone with patience like that...the patience of a Saint. 😔
I can totally relate; he was such a calming, sweet soul.
I am new to this as a sub. the soft dominance is what's interesting me the most. thank you 😍❤️
this is quite interesting. i am discovering who i am through you. i am soft dom, and my girlfriend likes really rough degrading sex, we find that the connection created through the softness in the beginning turns her on immensely and me too and we both get to a point when our feelings go nuts and i have go get rough with her and she explodes during sex due to the immense intense foreplay lasting a long time. thank you for this vid👌💯. there's so much more to learn we see😊.
I always love your content and the way you teach! As a healer and educator of all kinds of energy exchange you always help me teach a little bit better. Thank you! Love and light 🖤🙏🏼🔥
Nice to see a video promoting/explaining this style of dominance. I've practiced this style for years now but it always seems to be on the periphery of the lifestyle.
personally i like the idea of having a dominant woman who has it all together and tells me what to do and takes care of my life. none of the bdsm stuff, more like lovingly intervening in my life
Yes; you’re definitely speaking about Soft FemDom-be sure to watch today’s new video all about it! 🙌🏼👑💋
I've had the opportunity to play a dominate role once in my life. My Dom was trying weed for the first time and while deep in his first high, he wanted me to dominate him. I naturally fell into this soft dom role, and I incredibly enjoyed holding him and giving him pleasure in a way that wasn't him demanding pleasure, but rather giving pleasure from a place of intense love and care. It was incredibly powerful to lay my Dom down and have him trust me to let go of control because I was going to take care of him. I would love to do it again soon!
I’m so glad I found your page on sub Reddit. I have been involved in B & D off and on and to find this page on soft dominance really describes the way I feel as a sub. But also, I am a switch and a soft Dom when I top. Thank you so much again and I will be exploring your videos.
I've been this way for a long time...just recently learned the title. Your video helped broaden the ideas for me too
Bruh this woman just sold me out. She know all of my secrets.
Man no wonder I'm so nice as a Dom with my boyfriend. And he actually loves it but now I actually feel so much more comfortable now that everything is on the table.
But sometimes when I'm in the mood to push a little more I will and he loves the shocking surprises.
Cause I'm not always sugar coded.
My sugar cote will soon enough go down to the mysterious flavor of the sweet, sugary, cute piece of candy, with a kitty cat as the wrapper.
I'm not basically putting out who I am cause this is really who I am.
And Im currently training my "puppy" to obey me and be patient cause it's also all so new to me but if it weren't for him I wouldn't have more confidence than I did before I met him.
I love you my cute puppy
Love, Wolfie 🖤❤️
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@@ElleX Glad you liked the story ☺✨
Ah Perfect timing! Been struggling finding my style between dominance and vanilla sex. Thanks for making it clear!
I really appreciate how informative you are. Thank you Mistress.
I really appreciate you talking about this...its helping me alot..with my Dom part and I can feel that of me more...thank you...
Loving your personal experience in this overall great video, thank you for sharing!
My Master seems to fit much of your soft Dom criteria. He doesn't yell or shout at me, is kind, gives wonderful aftercare and has absolute control of himself. OTH he is most definitely a sadist 😊 who expects (and gets) total submission and instant obedience. I wear his lock-collar, kneel at his feet and eat from his hand
As a person when I first started exploring my submissive nature things fell into place when I discovered it's not all about clamps whips chains and pain. This softer approach opened up a whole new world. Ps awesome channel
I believe I have found my niche. Thank you!
I’m a Daddy, soft pleasure and hard Dom.. there can be free flow of sub space between all of them, however the soft dominate is soo much better when the sub is led into submission.
Some people are all about collars, yet often there is no need one when you can melt them with a look and a few calm words. It also cuts down on toping from the bottom and is a really pleasurable deep connection that can be practiced anywhere, even in public.
The power exchange can be quite exquisite when your sub just turns into an emotionally held aroused puddle.
I see it as a subtle art form that we also get so much out of. ❤
Yes now I have a name for what I have been feeling!
I’m new to the BDSM world but this literally just describe my character to the T. I look forward to expanding this natural character I have although I know I won’t get to the far reaches of the heavy Dominance maybe I can take some points from like a medium perspective
I am glad you brought this into the conversation, I can't wait for next week's post already
Spice Ama 🙏🏼❤️💋
I'm a combination of soft and hard. I want to nurture and give her praise and love, but she is also a little and enjoys flogging and other forms of pain such as blade play in our scenes. I had a really tough time at first with this, but as she assured me that was what she wanted from me, I was able to compartmentalize these things, use them as we have agreed upon and it has been very beneficial for us.
Unfortunately, we are long distance and have not seen each other since covid, and our dynamic has changed but we are still very much in love and are working through the issue as our situations are VERY complicated. .
I hope to see her soon and renew our relationship. Thanks for your videos. They are helping me be a better DaddyDom.
For me you fully exude soft dominance in this video. Somebody who looks sexy and dominant, speaks rather directly and bossy/or in charge but then also very aware, and heartwarming, which I really like too. For me personally with being too mean or bitchy or even a little bit when you mentioned another man, some walls run up - but i mean thats just my personal issue and trauma.
But thank you again for sharing and educating!!
This is definitely the style of dominance I can see myself in.
My girlfriend is a sub, Im just so glad I found this video.. This is how I do it..
Same bro, this video is a lifesaver
This made me wayyy too happy so many reasons, thank you!
Roxxy MR No such thing. 💋💋💋
These are sooo informative! Thank youuu
CuriousRabbit Media My pleasure! 🙏🏼❤️💋
I swear, your videos always make me feel more confident. Another fantastic vid!! 😍😍
Yes! That is the goal--no fear or shame! XOXO
Love all your videos! They have helped me so much in my submissive relationship! Thanks again!
Soft Dominance is so sensual.. thankYou for making this video MsElle.
🙏🏼❤️💋
Good evening, Ms. Elle. Once again another great and informative video.
Misty Duncan Good evening, my dear. Hugs! 💋💋💋
@@ElleX Hugs. I do hope I'm not bugging you.
Anyone else loves to fuck with their subs brain by rapidly switching between soft and harsh style dominance? 😊❤😊
Dang You just described me in a whole video, didn’t wven know about this term but here I am mind blown 🤯
I’m good like that… 😈
@@ElleX now I see why one of my partners told me once “you’re very Dominant” and I was like I don’t know about that I thought being dominant was being Demanding, Violent and Aggressive. You’re definitely amazing at what you do it helps a lot to newbies and/or people that want to learn
Every night after a long exhausting day at work i end my day by listening to soft mommy dom audios. 😂
A quiet storm, a controlled chaos. Yess!
I never knew there was name for centering your partner (submissive’s) care & pleasure.
I am forever searching for a Daddy Dom. And Secretary was mesmerizing. One of my favorite films! saw it many times! I am a soft Domme with my clients. ( usually!!)
This is super interesting and will be potentially useful to me, to help potential dommes I'll meet. I struggled with meeting people in my 2 early years of online play that are ending by now, because of how it's not easy on both side to be on the same lenght online so you end up resorting to barking and "yes Goddess"^^ it's fun as well but it undoubtedly can't compare to real life fun of self sensual matter. I think on the sub side, if you are not on the proactive side, soft-domming is a whole lot of mental charge for the top, if that's your menu to a pro than that's her job to have the skills and offer the performance, but in most cases I feel that soft-domming works from equal involvement of both parties.
I Love Your Style, I'm More into Looking Towards Learning About into the Lifestyle. Your Very Insightful.
Hey lady, I wanted to start this comment off by saying that you have amazing information and I love it. Secondly, I have some questions. First, could you do a video about one of the most important things, aftercare? And second question, how do you help your submissive through sub drop while you are away such as at work or out of town?
Great questions; will add to my list of UA-cam topics! (My Patrons vote on the videos every month.) XOXO
I love soft being a Dominant, however, my sub is a brat and being able to switch from soft to hard Dominance is very important for us as she needs certain aspects from both.
Omg. what a personality. Your every molecule must be a dominant.
I miss all such Dom's here in India
One thing I have to remember here is you aren't required to stick one exact role. I know I'm soft dominant but there's also this brewing storm in me at times where I want to demand for things. Demand pictures and videos and words in a long distance relationship. Where I want to say "you WILL do this when I say so" got to somehow find a proper mix there.
From this video alone soft dominance really calls to me as a switch sub who likes the idea of being dominant primarily with other women but also feminine presenting people. I wouldn’t mind being with a dom who’s cold to an extent and degrades me in the bedroom but it’s definitely not the type of dom I could or ever want to be.
I don't think I like this style myself but its good information
I would absolutely buy a book or video series expounding on this. There’s not enough about it.
Agreed! I definitely plan on discussing this subject more!
Thank you so much for the video! You form your thoughts so beautifully, I'm very intrigued by you.
Very enlightening, thank you for this video.
OMG!🤯 Today i learned there was a name for my entire mood 😱🔥 thank you for making this! If you need to resort to yelling or violence, the effect is only topical and temporary 😋
This is what I’ve been trying to learn the past few days
I really like what you described. Lots to explore with this topic.
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Thanks a lot. You make me feel better about myself as a dom.
Can I have the link for the necklace please? Thanks! This was an amazing video! I loved, loved, loved it!
My girlfriend is a super sub, and has a CNC kink, but I am also a submissive male. Do you think this method would work for me to effectively act as a dom by commanding her to do what I wish she would do to me? Maybe that doesn't make too much sense, but I'm just trying to make it work. We are a fantastic match outside of the bedroom, but during sex things have been too vanilla. She can't be dominant, but I've been easing into the idea of being the dom. I just need certain things to turn me on that involve her doing things to me. I don't really get turned on by "going on the attack" if you know what I mean. I just need help and I'm not sure how to move forward
Yes! I was just telling my husband about non verbal cues... he was asking how far I would enjoy going as a submissive and I tried explaining that if HE likes it and WANTS me to do it...that in itself is what turns me on, and I'll do it. BUT he is very VERY good (been together 14 yrs. ) at reading my body and my "cues" and therefore, I trust that he will know my limit or boundaries...so he can just relax and do what he wants.
This explained it perfectly!
( Christian, stay at home mom of 3 here...just wanna attest to the rumor that religious girls are the freakiest 😂)
I never ever knew this was a thing but wow do I relate, I thought this was just how seduction works in general not a kink thing 😅
Great video. I started crying at the end.
I have always introduced myself as a”gentle Dom” which felt more appropriate to my mature gentleman personality. Thank you for this video.
You explained so well the type of relationship I want. Thank you for this 🌺❤️
I'm a soft daddy Dom and I always prefer my soft side but I can be strict when needed but as a little as well I really do prefer a soft mommy Domme
Very informative. Thank you.
My favorite movie is Escape to Eden. I think Sensual/Soft Domme is the best for me. I'm super patient and I don't like being mean and aggressive all the time.
Love your UA-cam clips amazing knowledge and information
I think the name of the game is vulnerability, you alway your partner to be vulnerable in that moment.
Thank you Miss Elle X for this video
I`ve been searching about Soft Doms and i realise my style is the Soft Dom one
Question...Could soft dominance be mistaken for passive-aggressive behavior?
I feel so happy by coming in your channel
I'm so glad you're here! XOXO
I have found what im looking for thank you for making this.
Wonderful! Glad you found this helpful!
I have a few questions if you don't mind answering. Can you be a soft dom with hard dom traits? Can a soft dom dom a brat. And if so, do they still use punishment? Any help would be amazing
1:30 was all I needed to know that this is EXACTLY what I want from my sweet Pisces partner. 💕🥺 the beating, slapping, hurting, humiliation and spitting and disrespect NEVERRRRR resonated with me. Not EVERRR. I have a major praise kink too and I just 😩 this is so perfect.
Exactly. And that is a perfectly valid form of BDSM. Hugs! ❤️❤️❤️
Yes yes yes! Soft dominance!
Love this! Thank you for the info
Carmen Reese Thank you for being here! 💋
Makes sense I feel like I can be alittle aggressive and soft innocent type .
Exactly ! You nailed it !
Thank you for this video. I don’t feel so alone