Since you asked - Story time works great for me with my littles - They melt when you give them a bottle with their favorite drink while you read to them. Ironically, my brat recommended I watch your videos, as did a clinical therapist specializing in Kink dynamics. Gotta love it when your submissive wants to help you grow into the person they need.
My previous relationship ended recently. It was a poly D/s type with multiple s types (me being the only 1 who lived at home with her and serviced her 24/7) long story short i did pretty much all of the tasks and received very little reward as when I would have a day off Ma'am would be spending the day with one of the other subs T_T i miss her but i always felt underappreciated and now i'm here feeling sad still....
Life is all experience and perhaps you are in a position now to be available for one who will appreciate you as your past Ma'am taught you what to avoid.
This video makes me all subby puddly...so many wonderful rewards that just make my little sub heart bubble. Thank You for this amazing list, so much focus on punishment and sexual gratification- often times the simple little nuances get forgotten
My guy & I took the LL test when we first started dating & I've recently been thinking of having us revisit the test. Still working on my confidence to Dom, and this looks like a perfect tool with the test to help myself out ❤
I just went to UA-cam to look up your 30 Rewards and it’s at the top of my suggested. Your video on 30 Punishments was fantastic and really helped me. Watched it a second time with my wife just so she knew what I could do to her and I need to make sure I punish with Love not anger. I think it might even be better to hold off on the punishment until the possible frustration subsides. Anyways Thank You.
For what I experienced this is so important and a lot or people forget it. Personally I love seeing the emotional reactions and that includes the reaction to the reward. When she is doing a sexual act, that I like and I say: "good girl" and I see how she reacts to that, it arouses me.
Excellent! Thank you very much. I love that you incorporate the five love languages and have separated physical touch from erotic interaction. People often get those confused. I’m a switch and I would literally pay to have someone pet my head!
I always write for my little but I show her when she’s been good in a few days we are going to write a list of rules together what she wants but we both agree on
I find that I perform a lot of these in relationships without the BDSM context. Feels like I'm more in tune with the care side over the punishment side.
Here’s a question Is aftercare a reward? Because when you look at it technically, it kinda seems like it. Aftercare is given after a scene as a way to show affection and care. So when you really break it down, it seems like aftercare is a reward, albeit a very important one.
huh, informative. I recently met a Gal, she is a Sub and said I had given her Dom vibes.. Honestly, I always figured I was one but I only seemed to use the Dominate side, all commands and figured that if I showed my natural loving state, I'd lose her interest as a Sub. But this has helped me realize, I can still be a Loving Person and a Dom. ^^ I even learned the things that attracted her to me was due to the Affirming Words.. but I stopped using them because I just assumed I could just be a Dom, it's my first time but even I noticed something was wrong and I just had to learn how to be a better Dom for her!
Miss I love your content you’re spreading the so much needed knowledge in such a beautiful way! I was wondering if you could make a video explaining how to know if someone is a material for a submissive and in time could become one. I know you Miss have already made a video on how to spot a fake submissive. I’m a real newbie and I’m just stepping into a BDSM community and I’m still confused if I’m a material for a submissive or if I would like it. I’m in general a very dominating person but I love having some kind of superior power over me and someone who can guide and teach me, it was strange at the beginning to like to give up the power over me to someone else, but I can’t really stop thinking about it. Is my general character a obstacle that I can’t be face? I just don’t want to commit to someone who knows what she/he wants and then disappointing them or making them angry. Thank you so much.
#1 YOU Are Breathtaking In Beauty. I Am Blown Away By Your Present Dress/Attire/Makeup/Hair Style/Earrings/Black Gloves. #2 YOUR Knowledge is Over The Top. NEVER Tire of hearing your knowledge/wisdom spoken. THANKS AGAIN for sharing
Massages, affection and pet names or verbal praise means more to me than orgasm sometimes I intentionally get on my doms nerves playfully just a little bit but I know my limits and respect her boundaries I have really bad back problems so my Dom uses that as a reward and it's so affective
My first thought is dinner for two, not at an expensive restaurant, at the seaside, in the park, at a bar, at home. I'm not interested in any women for her money, but her personality and if their is mutual attraction. Sorry, it's pretty basic.
As someone with some fetishes, but not into this 100% I wonder after reading the slides - what makes a sub/dom relationship different from a normal one ?
Awesome video! So much BDSM content focuses on punishment alone and it's so important to remember to show tenderness and love. Side note- do you have or know of any tutorials for that hair style? One thing I like to do for my partner is help with styling her hair and make her feel beautiful. Would love to surprise her with this!
Lol Most of what you see on camera has been gifted to Me by clients and subs. But generally, shop for your body, not to look trendy. Understand how outfits affect you energetically so you can feel like the most confident version of yourself possible! Hugs! ❤️
Don’t know you made this type of video idea you should make a video about submissive like how to be a good submissive how to be happy etc bc i recently meet with a dom online 2 days ago we love each other and we are long term and we talked about not sexually things we talk about things and give me chores and such everyday and I love that but yeah can you make those type of videos
@Ms.Elle, if my gorgeous boyfriend misbehaves, I put on my long black leather thigh high boots with 4 inch stiletto heels teamed with my white tournament karate gi top and black belt, and punish him using my techniques learnt at our dojo, as a karate black belt 2nd dan in shotokan karate he does not stand a chance against my skills ! but he seems to enjoy being dominated by a karate lady ! must say I do to,I feel really sexy knowing I can defend myself against a unsuspecting male attacker, all women should take up karate, don’t you agree ?
I think you should vet for a different dominant, as your Dom doesn’t sound like a Dom/Domme to me ... Best of luck in finding someone you can have a great dynamic with ...please vet whoever you find ....I been a sub for over 10 years and I switch .....kind wishes x
Since you asked - Story time works great for me with my littles - They melt when you give them a bottle with their favorite drink while you read to them. Ironically, my brat recommended I watch your videos, as did a clinical therapist specializing in Kink dynamics. Gotta love it when your submissive wants to help you grow into the person they need.
That’s so beautiful
My previous relationship ended recently. It was a poly D/s type with multiple s types (me being the only 1 who lived at home with her and serviced her 24/7) long story short i did pretty much all of the tasks and received very little reward as when I would have a day off Ma'am would be spending the day with one of the other subs T_T i miss her but i always felt underappreciated and now i'm here feeling sad still....
Life is all experience and perhaps you are in a position now to be available for one who will appreciate you as your past Ma'am taught you what to avoid.
This video makes me all subby puddly...so many wonderful rewards that just make my little sub heart bubble. Thank You for this amazing list, so much focus on punishment and sexual gratification- often times the simple little nuances get forgotten
Lol You’re adorable in liquid form. 😘❤️
Being rewarded is one of the best things for me
My guy & I took the LL test when we first started dating & I've recently been thinking of having us revisit the test. Still working on my confidence to Dom, and this looks like a perfect tool with the test to help myself out ❤
I just went to UA-cam to look up your 30 Rewards and it’s at the top of my suggested. Your video on 30 Punishments was fantastic and really helped me. Watched it a second time with my wife just so she knew what I could do to her and I need to make sure I punish with Love not anger. I think it might even be better to hold off on the punishment until the possible frustration subsides. Anyways Thank You.
You're the only one who talks about it thank u mistress 🙇
For what I experienced this is so important and a lot or people forget it. Personally I love seeing the emotional reactions and that includes the reaction to the reward. When she is doing a sexual act, that I like and I say: "good girl" and I see how she reacts to that, it arouses me.
Looking very vampiric/goth today. Love it! Good point about not doing these all the time or every day.
Once you're in that corset dress, you create as much content as possible before spending two hours getting out and back into it. 😂
You're explanations of the dynamics within these videos are wonderful 😊
Thank you Miss Elle X ^_^
Excellent! Thank you very much. I love that you incorporate the five love languages and have separated physical touch from erotic interaction. People often get those confused. I’m a switch and I would literally pay to have someone pet my head!
I always write for my little but I show her when she’s been good in a few days we are going to write a list of rules together what she wants but we both agree on
I find that I perform a lot of these in relationships without the BDSM context. Feels like I'm more in tune with the care side over the punishment side.
Here’s a question
Is aftercare a reward?
Because when you look at it technically, it kinda seems like it. Aftercare is given after a scene as a way to show affection and care. So when you really break it down, it seems like aftercare is a reward, albeit a very important one.
No. Aftercare is never earned as a reward; that’s abusive. Aftercare should always be the resolution to the scene.
@@ElleX thanks
as a submissive guy this was very informative...... now if i just trust people again.
huh, informative. I recently met a Gal, she is a Sub and said I had given her Dom vibes.. Honestly, I always figured I was one but I only seemed to use the Dominate side, all commands and figured that if I showed my natural loving state, I'd lose her interest as a Sub. But this has helped me realize, I can still be a Loving Person and a Dom. ^^ I even learned the things that attracted her to me was due to the Affirming Words.. but I stopped using them because I just assumed I could just be a Dom, it's my first time but even I noticed something was wrong and I just had to learn how to be a better Dom for her!
Your videos are a great service to the community, thank you! Could you please do a video on how to reward your ONLINE sub?
Me and my sub use your videos as our guide. I guess I would consider you our coach.
I’m honored! 🙏🏼❤️💋
I'm very delighted by this list and also by the fact that i am already lucky I've got a lot of these 💜💜💜 thank you
So happy to hear it!
Miss I love your content you’re spreading the so much needed knowledge in such a beautiful way! I was wondering if you could make a video explaining how to know if someone is a material for a submissive and in time could become one. I know you Miss have already made a video on how to spot a fake submissive. I’m a real newbie and I’m just stepping into a BDSM community and I’m still confused if I’m a material for a submissive or if I would like it. I’m in general a very dominating person but I love having some kind of superior power over me and someone who can guide and teach me, it was strange at the beginning to like to give up the power over me to someone else, but I can’t really stop thinking about it. Is my general character a obstacle that I can’t be face? I just don’t want to commit to someone who knows what she/he wants and then disappointing them or making them angry. Thank you so much.
You might be a switch
Whoooa I am loving the hair up 🔥 🔥 🔥
Haha Love you, sweets! ❤
#1 YOU Are Breathtaking In Beauty. I Am Blown Away By Your Present Dress/Attire/Makeup/Hair Style/Earrings/Black Gloves. #2 YOUR Knowledge is Over The Top. NEVER Tire of hearing your knowledge/wisdom spoken. THANKS AGAIN for sharing
My pleasure! Hugs! ❤
Well done, and thought provoking!
Thank you for watching! ❤️
I’m learning so much from you!
Great video as always! Love the hair btw
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed! ❤
Massages, affection and pet names or verbal praise means more to me than orgasm sometimes I intentionally get on my doms nerves playfully just a little bit but I know my limits and respect her boundaries I have really bad back problems so my Dom uses that as a reward and it's so affective
Found this channel, trying to learn to be Sub best i can be
Your video is excellent! Thank you!
My first thought is dinner for two, not at an expensive restaurant, at the seaside, in the park, at a bar, at home. I'm not interested in any women for her money, but her personality and if their is mutual attraction. Sorry, it's pretty basic.
I can’t seem to find the 5 love language test link.. where is it please?
What a wonderful video ❤
Outstanding recommendations.
I read a french website about crossdresser and siissies stuffs , its like things to do or like stories
As someone with some fetishes, but not into this 100% I wonder after reading the slides - what makes a sub/dom relationship different from a normal one ?
Thank You, it was wonderful to listen to You ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️💋🙏
Thank you for watching! ❤
YOU Definitely looked like a TRUE GODDESS in this Video-----" GODDESS Ms ELLE X"
Very kind of you! Hugs! ❤
Awesome video! So much BDSM content focuses on punishment alone and it's so important to remember to show tenderness and love.
Side note- do you have or know of any tutorials for that hair style? One thing I like to do for my partner is help with styling her hair and make her feel beautiful. Would love to surprise her with this!
My sub is coming to visit in about a month and she is trained on up-do's. Planning some content around that for you all! XOXO
@@ElleX can't wait!
Well. This helped alot
Can you do a video on public play? Love the outfit!!
this is some good stuff, thank you.
i have a question can you list rewards for submissive for a ldr bc its really hard :(
U mentioned a test for love language I think. Whetr do I find that to take?
One of the things that might be an interesting reward is a deep muscle massage, hitting both the pleasure and pain spots of a tense sub's back.
Your subs are so lucky. I want a Dom like you.
I have a wonderful community and the best submissive a Domme could ask for. I feel very blessed. ❤
I don’t live this life but I assumed the submissive didn’t need reward ? Being submissive is the reward ?
Thank you ma'am.
giiiirl I want to know where you shop cause you always look fabulous
Lol Most of what you see on camera has been gifted to Me by clients and subs. But generally, shop for your body, not to look trendy. Understand how outfits affect you energetically so you can feel like the most confident version of yourself possible! Hugs! ❤️
Don’t know you made this type of video idea you should make a video about submissive like how to be a good submissive how to be happy etc bc i recently meet with a dom online 2 days ago we love each other and we are long term and we talked about not sexually things we talk about things and give me chores and such everyday and I love that but yeah can you make those type of videos
omg non-sexual physical touch 🥺
where's the test?
On My Patreon! patreon.com/ellexerotica 💋
@Ms.Elle, if my gorgeous boyfriend misbehaves, I put on my long black leather thigh high boots with 4 inch stiletto heels teamed with my white tournament karate gi top and black belt, and punish him using my techniques learnt at our dojo, as a karate black belt 2nd dan in shotokan karate he does not stand a chance against my skills ! but he seems to enjoy being dominated by a karate lady ! must say I do to,I feel really sexy knowing I can defend myself against a unsuspecting male attacker, all women should take up karate, don’t you agree ?
Thank You, Mistress :-)
Wonderful
IM A GG SO I DONT GET "punishments" OFTEN 😁 I'ma show my Dom this 😁
Tread carefully. 😆
My Dom would never do anything like this
Your "Dom" would never properly train, incentivize, and earn devotion? Doesn't sound like much of a Dom to Me...
I think you should vet for a different dominant, as your Dom doesn’t sound like a Dom/Domme to me ... Best of luck in finding someone you can have a great dynamic with ...please vet whoever you find ....I been a sub for over 10 years and I switch .....kind wishes x
to get reward, need to stand punishment as a male sub~
Your beautiful looks in that video drives me crazy. Look great.
🙏🏼❤️💋
a pleased Mistress is my reward
What a charme! Beautiful Goddess
🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
🙏🏼❤️💋
Nice stylish earrings
Thank you! ❤️
i love it when the Goddess rubs her foot on my heaf. this was a great video. thanYou.
I like your hair cut, so much that I'll recommend my ss to get it 😏
Updo’s are fabulous for hot summer days! ☀️❤️
damn....looking so gorgeous in this video....super hot!!! Total inspiration!!!!
My reward is her pleasure
Very delicious!