Episode 30: Pet Loss
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- Опубліковано 11 лют 2014
- On This show Dr. Gloria Horsley; and Dr. Heidi Horsley discuss the death of a pet with pet loss experts Bonnie Goodman and Dr. Betty J. Carmack, R.N., Ed.D. Betty is a researcher and author of "Grieving the Death of a Pet". Bonnie is a certified Thanatologist and grief Counselor. The show closes with music by Peter Anderson and Randy Cookson.
I just lost my baby boy almost a month ago and it is gut wrenching. The worst part about is there’s nothing you can do to bring him back. And I can see him everywhere he’s been in the house the car and outside. The pain just comes in waves and feels like it’ll never stop...I feel like he deserves my grief and pain. Even though I’m tired of hurting I feel like he deserves my hurt if that makes sense. There’s no way I could ever love another dog as much as I loved him. He was the absolute best dog I’ve ever had.
I understand exactly how you feel. My sweet baby girl Rocky died Sunday. I can't stop crying.
I lost my constant companion Bailey a week ago ...I have been heartbroken ...but I can tell you that I have forced myself to keep busy with other things...and slowly ... it IS getting better. Grief is different for everyone ... I wish you eventual happiness 😊
Very sorry
@@esrilakshmi thank you ....all animals are wonderful. Some Pets develop such as special bond with us, it is so hard to be without them .
Just lost my best mate. It really is gut wrenching! I do believe that they have just left their furry bodies and have transitioned to the other side.
My dog Blue died in Jan. It has been so hard. I can'T stop crying. I miss him sooo much!!! That aching feeling will not leave me. 17 years of love and devotion.
Im sorry Cassandra, i lost my boy 2wks ago and the aching feeling is so difficult to deal with, my minipin was 7yrs old and i cant imagine how much more difficult it would have been had we made ten more years of memories. I hope the pain has lessened and please let me know how you are holding up.
my beautiful dog died as i watched and even administered cpr...i cant describe the pain of seeing her gasp and fight for her(my) life..2 days later and still crying..she was my daughter and this was real love...when your friends tell you about losing their pets please show the same sympathy as if they had lost a human family member.
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My Babygirl just passed away while I watched and was helpless to do anything. I loved her so much, I keep thinking it's a nightmare and I'm going to wake up. She was always by my side, I cuddled her when I slept,worried about her anytime I left and she was there for me at a time when I had no one else. I have to know does the heartache ever go away. Its been 5 days and I have barely eaten, haven't had any sleep and cant stop crying for more than 20 minutes.
@Antea Stassi yes...I believe the bond with our pets lives on
I feel your pain. That's what happened to my sweet baby girl Rocky. It's gut wrenching!! I'm beyond devastated.
And now..a year later...i still shed a tear every single day..i could be in a shop..on public transport..in a pub..in fact anywhere..i feel the grief pile up and i have to find somewhere quiet to compose myself..oh how i loved that dog
My German Shepherd Duchess was hit and killed by a car in front of my home 3 months ago..still wake up every morning feeling like I have to cry. The guilt and sadness is unbearable. She was the center of my world and my spirit animal. Hard to put into words how much I miss her. 💔
I cry every day since losing my boy Ozzie. I find feathers whenever I am out walking- I know he is letting me know he is with me in spirit- but I miss his white hair and smile every minute
@@kcloveonaleash I'm so sorry for your loss. Your sweet boy is chasing butterflies now.
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Bless you my brother. Just lost the sweetest chihuahua on the planet and buried her today. The grief is unimaginable
@@mikeA2010 Sorry for your loss. When the time comes, your sweet girl will be waiting for you at the Rainbow bridge 🌈💕
😭😭 i miss my baby. She was my soulmate and my best friend. She was 11 1:2 years old. She saved my life. I miss her so much. She crossed the rainbow bridge on October 22nd 😭. But I just want to be with her.
I feel the same. Idk how to heal😪
This video has helped me. I am having a really hard time and I put myself in the devastated category. My 14 year old border collie died 2 days ago, even typing those words that he’s dead has unleashed another flood of tears. I had to euthanise him and I can’t get the imagery out of my head, holding and kissing him as he slipped away. I don’t remember pain like this even when I lost my father.
It will be two weeks tomorrow that I held my Goldie in my arms whilst he euthanized. Id adopted him and only had him for 3 years. He had kidney disease. This lovely little dog was my companion and my best friend. I fought hard to keep him but alas the kidneys stopped doung their Job. Im lost and miss him so very much. I see this video is 3 years old. I hope you have all healed. When im ready , I will adopt again, in Goldie's Honor and memory. Bless you all from the UK
So sorry Greg. How are you doing now? It's 2022. I had to go through the same thing you did with my lover boy Schipperke 2 days ago and I am totally devastated. The imagery is so vivid and so heartbreaking.
My cat, Gretel, died July 14, 5 days ago. I had her for 10 years. A light in my lonely life has gone out. I loved her so much. She was more than just a cat. She was my joy in times of loneliness and sadness. Toronto.
My support dog, Kippy, passed away 11 days ago. He was a 13 year old yellow lab and was my world! Like a child to me and I was never away from him. Im so devastated. I can't function and feel very lonely and lost. Will I ever stop crying?
He passed away at home with his head in my hand and I was holding him telling him I'd be ok.. but I'm not.
I'm so sorry about your dog Kippy. How are you feeling? I just lost my dog today. She was really sick and her condition was not getting better. I was hoping and praying for a miracle every single night. We found out she was very sick about a month ago and vet said there wasn't much he could do...he said surgery wouldn't probably have helped her much. And the other option was radiation. So we didn't do either and just gave her a lot of love. Starting giving her Life Gold drops which supposedly helps stop the growth of tumors. But I guess it was too late since the last few days she started getting a little worse. 😞 so today we had to say goodbye this morning. It was so painful I couldn't stop crying. I've been crying all day. I miss her so much. All my family misses her so much. It's been a really, really hard day. I didn't know I would feel this much pain and heartbroken over my dog Lady. She was a Golden Retriever and was 13 1/2 years old. I'm feeling so sad I can't even eat. How do you cope with the loss of a pet that made you so so happy? I miss you so much Lady! 😢😢😢😞💔💔💔🙏
It took a year for me to prepare to put my dog of 14 to sleep. He was a part of our family. He was with us day and night . Dusty was a kind and loyal being and we will remember him well. We miss him and cry sometimes still after 2 weeks now. Thank you for your video.
Thank you for this video. We lost our 14 year old golden retriever on Saturday and are having a very hard time with it. Knowing that our feelings are normal and others are going through the same feelings helps a lot.
I lost my baby Pugly yesterday, not the first animal I’ve lost, but he was my son. We adopted him from a shelter which he had been in about 9 months. He had a horrible bladder infection that had started to damage his kidneys. We got him better and started his journey to learning to walk again as he was kept in a cage for so long. We found out he was deaf, blind in one eye, and had seizures. All things the shelter did not know. We healed him as best we could but after six months and being diagnosed with Cushings disease he had cluster seizures while we were gone one day the seizures caused a stroke. After three days and waiting on him hand and foot day and night we finally had to make the decision to put him down. I literally want to go back to that moment and climb onto the table with him and hold him forever. It’s been devastating and I feel like I’ve lost my son.
SO VERY SORRY🙏🙏🙏
So sorry my grandog ran away don't know wether he is dead or alive I'm devastated loved him so much
My beautiful dog Bell was laid to rest a few days ago on November 30th a day I will never forget. I love her more than words could ever explain. She's been gone for almost a week and I am still breaking down and don't know how to get through this.
How are you feeling now 6 months on? I lost my beautiful border collie of 14 years 2 days ago and I’m completely crushed. I cannot function and have barely eaten. My heart ache is so bad, I can’t bear it.
@@gregmorris5010 how are you doing? I feel your pain. My family and I had to make the decision of putting our dog Lady down today. She was 13 1/2 years old. A beautiful Golden Retriever. One of the hardest most heartbreaking moment of my life was saying goodbye to her this morning. I will never forget this day and the pain I felt and still feel right now. The sadness of not having her around is beginning to hit me hard. I feel so heartbroken. She got really sick in the last 4 weeks. Her vet said they couldn't do much for except give her radiation. It's so painful having to say goodbye to your best friend 😢😢😢💔
Hi C Sand, I’m really really sad to hear that because I know exactly how you feel, it’s so very acute in the first few days. I still miss my dog so much and still it’s getting me down. I lost a lot of weight over it all. They are such wonderful creatures who bless our lives for too short a time. We can only take away the fact that we gave them wonderful happy lives that most dogs don’t get, and that they are not suffering. May I suggest you try the petloss forum on Reddit, that place and the people there gave me so much support. Also if you would like to chat through email or WhatsApp let me know, I will try to help you. Take care.
Thank you for sharing. My dog died on Saturday and I am having a very difficult time with dealing with the loss.
Just los my little love. Sweetist chihuahua named Honey. Just buried her today. I am in "the devasted uniquely category". Cannot stop crying.
I got my very first pet/cat Nikki, a beautiful tuxedo girl in March of 2000, then brought or adopted my second , a beautiful tabby girl with thumbs in 2007 named Maudies. I lost my Maudies in 2012 Dec 26th at 13 years old , i had her for 6 and my Nikki this month on Friday Dec4th at 15 and half year sold, had her for 14 and half years. So trust me I can tell you it is a devastating crippling blow to ones being. I have never had such a unconditional loving nonjudgmental positive connection then have with my two girls. Never have i felt the same level of connection with any person i know. People sadly have a tendency to bring some sort of hurt and negativity to others not matter what. They always seem to have a string attached to their own well being and never consider yours truly and deeply. Never had that from my two girls.They were my protection and strength from this harsh world. It is because of this that losing our pets is so very very hard and takes so much to get through.
Thank you. This is very helpful. I recently lost my best friend, Spike the Pug. I love you Spike. Enjoy your heavenly rest. I'll see you again my friend. Love daddy Chuck.
Thank you for posting this. My cat passed away three days ago and it really helps to hear the subject of pet loss being so sensitively handled.
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yeah my cat died on 25th nov,2020 . These guys do understand the pain .
@@tanujsharma7995 I am so sorry for your loss
@@samanthahulass8197 thank you for your response. ˃̣̣̥⌓˂̣̣
How are you doing now?
Thank you for the video , I just lost my boy who I called ( my son ) 3 days ago , I am absolutely Gutted , I have this carousel of emotions and I’m not crazy when I say this , my boy came to me the next morning during the time he passed away and showed me what he died of …. He showed me the area where he was sick at on his body and he looked absolutely exhausted from his transition over but he looked like he was heading towards the light , since then he has been back home I heard his tail hit the glass door and the stand I knew immediately it was him yesterday in the car 3 songs came on back to back messages from him I knew it was him …… I miss him so much I’m gonna buy a tree and keep it as a memorial for him to honor him because I always had a feeling he was here to teach Me something and it wasn’t until his death I learned what I needed to learn , my dog came and said goodbye to me 4 times then went to the hallway and came back 4 times and stopped and looked around the corner like he was questioning himself as to did he want to leave me , and then went under my bed to die … he wouldn’t look at me or let me touch him … later that next morning I went in there and he wagged his tail like he was happy I came to see him before he died … one thing I can honestly say I’m grateful for is when he was going through this I could feel the Angels around him and compared to how bad this could have gotten I really had that feeling come over me like God was doing him a favor by taking him … I love him so much and miss him
My dog died last Saturday he wasn't put into sleep but just died in his sleep peacefully. I was crying until now and I think I'm still in the "denial" stage like he was just in the VET recovering and he will go home this holiday I decided to have him cremated but when it was already brought to me the pain is getting deeper and deeper my mom can't understand why I'm always crying every night. I don't know when will this last and I know he is already in heaven watching us.
Ummmm, you never live without them. Open your mind here. What do you feel? Feel don't think. Just feel. They're just not here in physical form. That's all. I mean, where do you think we all come from when we're born? There's some sort of spiritual weirdness going on or we wouldn't feel love, right? So, as awful as their passing may be, take some comfort knowing your pet has merely transformed into spiritual form, okay? Seems completely likely, right? I mean, why would we even be here? Why would we be conscious, or aware? Why would we ever form these bonds? Why would they hurt so much? Take some comfort in my words here. I think it's highly plausible. Also, take comfort that your pet had a good home for life. So many animals don't get that luxury. Take your grief and cherish it. That grief is good pain because it means something. Your bond was ideal pure love at heart. It's what drove you to take good care of them. Go help other animals. Just make some donations. That's such a wonderful feeling. It's like spreading canine good karma from the love you have for your animals to other animals. We surely need more good karma.
Believe me others want to hear about your pets that have passed over the rainbow bridge. They've had the good life.
Thank you for this .. I just lost my little dog after 19 years and I am devastated but your comment has helped me
Thank you
Lost my babe 3 weeks ago
O cry every day
I miss her so much
I agree that alot of people don't understand the grief
The tragic loss of our pet has brought my family closer together. My oldest daughter wasn't speaking to me because of political disagreements but I told her family comes first and to leave our differences outside the door. My fur baby made a huge impact in his short life and I'm grateful that God blessed us with this little creature with a huge impact.
A lot of very valid and helpful points here...and this was from 9 yrs ago. I am still grieving my dog's passing from March 2023. I think I'm in that last category of devastated. My dog was like my daughter as I have no kids. So many people are going through this, and yes, it's 4 times harder than a human death, in my experience. I wish everyone the strenghth and wisdom to deal with this.🐾💖🌺
i really hate the term pet OWNER.
It should be pet guardian.
What should people say instead?
@@wellwellmymichelle pet slave
I don’t even like the word “pet’ , Bear was like a son to me..
Just lost my pet and best friend of 15yr and even with the pain and loss, I trust the Lord fully with the process, as He did every time up to this dog, who was my 9th doggie. God Himself was there with wisdom and strength, every time.
My beautiful dog passed 5/12/19..nothing that i hear..nothing that i say..nothing i do..will EVER release me from my grief..i cry every day..ppl say..it will pass.ure grief will get easier..but i KNOW it wont..i will never be the same guy..i was always known as the joker in the pack..but now i have lost that spark..i hope there is reconsiliation upstairs..coz if there is..ime ready now
OMG, don't tell me that. I'm devastated and don't know what to do. My dog died 3days ago and was with me everyday for 13 yrs. I'm lost. He went to doctor's and everywhere with me, being disabled. We were never apart. God help me
@@sharonconner4091 sharon..all i can say is..i KNOW excatly how you feel..my dog passed 5th dec..and i still cry every single day..thing is..sometimes or i should say most of the time..a human-dog relationship is far stronger than a human-human relationship..example being..i used to tell my dog things that i would NEVER tell another human being..she was my mentor..ime shedding tears as i write this..and i believe i will grieve til the day i pass..but having said that..look after yourself..your dog would really want that..talk to him/her every day..i still call her when i get home..it makes me feel as if she is still around me..in the mean time..god bless you
@@chriscoleman6411 Thanks so much for sharing your fur babies experience with me and the encouraging words my friend. I will pray for you as well.
@@sharonconner4091 thank you very much sharon..you take care👍
Hi, this is Bonnie Goodman, I was one of the therapists on this podcast. I have a private practice, if anyone still needs help. Sending all of you healing thoughts. GoodmanCounseling.com
I miss her my dog died august 1st she was euthanized her cancer was so terrible i still waiting for her to be okay I’m having hard time accepting she is gone
I just lost my little sunshine, J girl on the 21 June night. She was 10 years old. Cannot believe she is no more. She was always with me..she was my joy, my strength, and my child. losing her is heartbreaking. she died in my arms when she suffered a sudden heart-attack. it is still a shock. my eyes keep looking for her in every corner of the house and the garden...my ears are waiting to hear her voice, her footsteps... we used to spend our days, our nights, our mornings together...she was always by my side. her sudden death, made my entire world collapse. i was a very active person, but all of a sudden, I have become nothing. since Thursday night, I haven't done anything..i didn't eat properly. i cry always...think of her. i have no strength and mind's focus to do anything. i canceled all my meetings, classes, and work...it seems as if my world has come to an end.... i cannot imagine moving on without her...the past ten years was my best years of life, with such a wonderful friend all by my side. this program and reading the comments below, made me realize that I am not alone in this.... thank u so much
I cried for weeks when my cat and dog were put to sleep. They were my life, both were rescues but they rescued me. It is the worst pain. Never having anymore, can't take anymore heartbreak
RIP my baby Minou. He will be put down in a couple days. Liver cancer sucks. I wish it wasn’t in his blood and beyond. I watched him come out of his mom! At least I gave him a good home for his 13 years of life. I do kinda wish I could go with him or just be with him. It sucks this is the end for him. My Precious Furbaby. 🤍😿🖤
Lost my dog Cerberus, who was 5 years old to a sarcoma on the skull and brain, the cancer had also spread through his lymphs and to his lungs just over a week ago :(
It happened suddenly and grew rapidly over two months. Didn't get to say goodbye properly, as the vet said it was best to do the euthanasia whilst he under anaesthetic. Had to go to the crematorium to see him one last time before they cremated him to say goodbye that way.
Have been angry as I believe it was vaccine induced by the kennel cough vaccine - which was given to him by a vet whilst he was in recovery for kennel cough which he had mysteriously caught somehow, so not only did he not need the vaccine, it was given to him whilst he was still very unwell :(
Also angry we didn't wake him up from the anaesthetic and say goodbye properly and spend a couple of days with him.
Also have so much regret, as I feel I could have prevented that from happening if I hadn't took him back to get the vaccine the vet recommended :/
Am looking into adopting another dog, maybe two who need homes. But have been so sad and miss my Cerbie so much. He was the best.
CynosureDalliance I'm sorry for your loss I lost my loved Rottweiler a week ago and was cremated today :(
You did what you believed was best for him. He was a lucky dog to have somebody so caring as an owner. I'm so sorry for your loss, my dog is on her way out and it's helpful to hear what things I might regret.
I just lost my dog 3 months ago and it has completely wrecked me to the point where I feel like I'm going crazy and no one understands my grave because they think it's just a dog please hang in there the grief got so bad that after we buried him in the backyard the thought occurred to me to dig him up out of the yard just to see him onelast time maybe the reality of him being dead has not said in he was with me for 8-years protected me like no other he was a cocker Spaniel and he was fierce as a German Shepherd or pitbull bit anyone that would come even near me. Everyone was a threatto him unfortunately I don't know where it came from I found him on the street and it's possible he endured some abuse himself I will never know what really happened tohim or where he came from what I do know is that he protected me and my daughter from harm for so many
he protected my family night for so many years even during this very difficult time when we experience homelessness this was a time when he really responded quickly when we were living out of our car he became more fierce and more protective he had tumors that came and went and some had to be removed with surgery. The last to Murray had was oral melanoma inside it was a very aggressive form of cancerI know what you're going through and I have so many regrets about not doing what I should have for him perhaps I thought that I should have done more for him but I didn't because I was constructed financially had so many financial constraints and I couldn't help him this last time I just couldn't help him financially to take that tumor out and I don't think it would have helped him anyway because he
I don't think it would have helped him much anyway because his cancer had advanced so farit was time to schedule euthanasia but I begged and begged him to please go on his own I prayed to God that he would take his life so I wouldn't have to make that difficult decision and on September 5th of 2019 he did he looked at me one last Time long and hard with so much pain in his eyes I'll never forget and then he circled around the floor few times I thought he was sleeping for a minute but he had passed away and his Spirit had left him I realized realized he had passed away after he released his bowels and urineno one will ever understand how much this hurts I have never hurt this much for a human Los how sad is that but animals love us unconditionally and their love is so pure they don't judge us it's no wonder people can have such a strong attachmentwhy was your dog anesthetize to begin with and yes sarcomas can be caused by vaccines they are rare though but I used to be a veterinary technician for many years I have personally not seeing a sarcoma that wasn't just buy a vaccine but I know the and I'm aware that theydo happen I feel it was wrong for the vet to force you to say goodbye when you weren't ready they should have woken the dog considering that your dog was still able to ambulate and was himself and still herself then you could have taken her for home for a few days but that wasn't your fault. Forgive yourself I know easier said than done. And take each day one day at a time. I am so sorry for your loss I'm still grieving the loss of my dog, the loss is Paramount and I will never forget my best friend I miss him everyday
I lost my wonderful Yorky Pooh sister on January 16, 2023 a day after 10th birthday. I had to put her down. She was diagnosed the Friday before with diabetes and she wasn’t eating good and I took her to the vet again on Monday and he said a kidney function was 25 they couldn’t even read her sugar level. It was so high Even with the insulin it wasn’t helping and she was getting infection so they said I should put her down which was one of the hardest things I had to do. I got sister on my birthday May 3, 2013 a week after my mom‘ died I named her sister because my mom was the youngest sister and they nicknamed her sister did it in her memory and losing sister made me feel like I lost my mom all over again And my cousin tells me I got to get over it it’s March 22 and he says I got to get over it. I got a stop I cry every day I miss her so much she was my world am I wrong to still be emotionally upset thank you.
24:40 That song...😭
It's me. I'm glad it's over and I don't have to nurse my dieing baby any more, and yet I miss my Crystal so much it's hard to breath.
It’s Friday February 1st 2019. 2 days ago my 13 Year old pet Leo passed away. The reason why I had Leo for one of my Dogs was Because he came out of my Other Dog Lexie’s belly. Lexie passed away a few years ago in November and There is this really nice lady I met she is a dog groomer who works 2 days a week on Wednesday and Thursday’s. This lady’s name is Denise she lives near Baltimore MD. Denise has a landline # and a cell # I called on her landline # first to check to see that she was home so she and I could have an important talk and sure enough Denise was home when I called because in MD Denise said it was too bitter cold to go out anywhere. Denise was glad I called.
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I lost my German shepherd max a month ago and I'm still can't get over nothing can heal my pain sometimes I just want to run to him I see him running to me he was very healthy dog only three years old but I had to taking to the shelter cau'se he was getting too agresive it's been very hard for me just like the doctor said I just want to go with him I feel very lonely without him
When I lost my beloved chance he was 9 years old I rescued him from a abusive family when I lost him it was my first pet he taught me a lot of things and he changed my life I was devastated by his death and what I did was purchase a curio cabinet I placed his ashes their his last harness and Leash little miniature doggies put it in there photos a candle his certificate of cremation and it has a light there I have his dog tags on my keyring an 4A year every night I touched his box and told him I loved him I still do it occasionally now if I think about it hard enough I will share some tears I also have a tribute outside on my patio area remembrance of my beloved chance
My baby puppy Hank ran out in front of a car he was only 6 months old. I held his lifeless body in my arms I pulled him out of the snow. And he had only died a few minutes before that, while I was looking for him . He died just yesterday. I'm so heartbroken I wish I could have saved him. I dont know how to heal from this
My female cat mythili died 4days back,iam in depression,i love you soo much mythili, come back
Half of me wishes it had my Past dogs personality & half of me doesnt.
Just lost my pet and best friend of 15yr and even with the pain and loss, I trust the Lord fully with the process, as He did every time up to this dog, who was my 9th doggie. God Himself was there with wisdom and strength, every time.