I have a friend who is doing that and she’s only been married for two years.... no kids and can afford to move out on her own. But decided to stay... why do we do this each other I have no clue :/
I find it very ironic that this popped up on my news feed a year later.. This morning I woke up feeling my intuition telling me to leave my narcissist husband
Cara Pilar, good for you. We have intuition for a reason. There is a man made just for you. He will find you. There won’t be any doubt in your mind either.
@@MrsDavis-vm8tq I pray for comfort and strength as you start a new chapter of your life. I know it isn't easy. Take time to grieve because even though you filed for divorce and will be glad to be away from the disrespect, there will be moments where you feel like someone died. And that's okay. You love yourself enough to leave so let that love carry you through the darkest times, too. 🤗🥰
@@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460 Thanks for your kind words❤️. Lately I have felt those same exact thoughts wondering why it didn't work out and grieving the breakup of our family especially with 3 children in the middle of it. I know that if I stayed It will get worse so Im learning to not have regret and understand that I did all I could to save our marriage but any type of abuse should not be accepted and it takes 2 people to make a marriage work.
met my husband 31yrs ago.......we were 14yrs old. He told me within 6months I was his wife 🤣🤣 his discernment has always been there and he dead ass serious when be said it. Best decision I ever made!!
Babayyyyyy I ain’t waiting no 10 years. I was in a relationship for three years and I kept giving that person the benefit of the doubt. I will never do that in another relationship. If somebody shows you who they are please believe them and keep it moving
Girl I noticed red flags during the first day but kept trying to convince myself that I was overreacting. Dragged that mess out for 9 months. NEVER AGAIN. Weeks ago I had to threaten him with legal action for constantly calling me from random numbers.
It seems to me that people love to bring up Tamar. Especially when the conversation has nothing to do with her. This is about Jeannie not Tamar. Her fans can’t seem to get over the fact that she is no longer on the show. Tamar has moved on and so have the rest of the ladies.
I think it's cruel that people were and still are calling Jeannie selfish for not wanting children. There's a lot of people right now who resent their kids because they did not want them and didn't realize how deep that responsiblity runs. So they take it out on the kids, mistreat them because they don't want them. One of my sister's is an example of that. She didn't mistreat her kids, but she admitted to my mom she didn't want anymore kids. She just wanted it to be her oldest son who is 20 years old. She now has a 7 year old and a 5 year old to raise. If Jeannie knows she can't handle the responsibility of shaping/molding a life and sending it into society, then she's right for not having kids. It's not selfish it's smart.
That and also the fact that there were red flags within the first year of marriage. Why would she have a child with him if she wasn't sure it would work out.
Exactly! I’m quite young as right now I am 18, but as of now, I am quite sure I don’t want children and people around me find it so ridiculous as I am children’s youth leader and I absolutely love young children and I’m naturally a very nurturing and caring person. I pretty much play the mother role in my close friendship group. So when I say, I really don’t want kids people think I’m being selfish or ridiculous, saying I will come around and why would I ‘waste’ my talents. I don’t think I’m wasting anything at all and indeed, I am not contributing the already growing masses of neglected and uncared for children, who grow up with having psychological issues because they were poorly cared for. I love young children but that’s the problem, I detest when they grow older because I’m just not up for it. Especially when their teenagers, I would favour jumping out a window more than to have a teenager, and essentially all children grow up. So it’s a no for me. I think a lot of people love to romantice the struggles of motherhood, but i understand it’s because there is a lot of love involved with those sacrifices and hence it’s hard for people not to make it seem as though it’s lovely and simple because it’s for the ‘greater good’. But it’s ain’t for me and that ain’t nobody’s business. I’m an very independent girl, and I have so much to do, and personally, a baby ain’t gonna benefit my plans, nor benefit from it 🤷🏽♀️
Tiffany Rayne Is it an infertility issue or did she really didn't want to have children?She should have discussed this with her partner before they got married because he probably wants children.
Exactly and they leave out the part where she and Freddie agreed they didnt want kids and then he changed his mind the only difference is that Jeannie didn't. So maybe he was only saying that because he knew she didnt. Maybe he really did just have a change of heart later. They're the only ones who know. But it's really annoying ppl keep shaming her cuz she didnt want kids, shoot it's better to know b4 you accidentally get preggo or just have them anyway.
No she lived her life and then came to the conclusion that what she truly felt wasn't love but commitment. Like she said she was committed to him and the hopes he gave to her. Unfortunately those feelings got mislabeled as those of true love. It's really simple to understand where she is coming from and what she learned.
The Cute Shuttle Transportation Service or hindsight 20/20. I’m sure after the divorce she’s had self reflection and realized warning signs that she was too blind to see happened way earlier than she willingly acknowledged.
I was with someone for 6 years I knew the first year he wasn’t meant for me... it’s so hard to explain Jeannie is so strong for openly admitting this..
Dalayna Wallace I have been with someone for 2 years and I knew the first week it will not work out. Still with him because in love some parts of him. But the parts that will make it not successful in marriage are all still there.
Same here..sometimes we look at the red flags and ignore them or look past them because we’re so blinded. Years later, all the time and effort spent..I felt like I had to stay and make it work.
I’ve been with someone for 4 years, there are red flags such as him not being emotionally available, not romantic at all and never wanting to do anything fun. I broke up with him and now he’s telling me he’s willing to change but i don’t know, I’ve been asking him to do so since the first year. I don’t know if I should go back to him, I’m only 20, i shouldn’t have to worry about this things
@@belupiazza2598 I feel like if you have to ask, then you already know. I'm not saying "you" directly but "you" in general. I did that same thing. I kept asking ppl if I should stay with my ex, knowing that he wouldn't change his horrible ways. You're young. Focus on becoming the best you that you can be. Love will come when you're ready and you'll never have to question it.
I knew my wedding day it was a mistake! Thirty years later, twenty years of being separated, him having multiple affairs, he divorces me! I’m just glad to be free! Thank you Jesus!
Omg. This reminds me of my best friend. Went to marriage counseling with her husband every damn week for a year to save her marriage, until one day he walks in and says he doesn't want to be married anymore and moved out the next day. Smh. I hate to see her in so much pain.
As much as I hate what Jeannie is going through, I'm happy she is. Many things are beginning to unfold for Jeannie, both in her career and her private life. She's blossoming, provides more insight and helps encourage other women. Good on you Jeannie
She ALWAYS talked about how she wasn’t ready when he proposed. I’m shocked still that she went ahead and married him. At least she learned something from it but I personally would feel that it was a enormous waste of my time 🤷🏾♀️
That's exactly what I'm saying! In the early days of the show when she mentioned that-that raised a big red flag for me. You both have to be on the same page if you're going to get married because it's a life long commitment. It's better to reject his proposal and say "babe I really love you but I'm just not ready and I need time to think about this" and who knows maybe in the time she would've taken to consider she could have realized this wasn't going to work and they both could have moved on. I remember her also talking about when she knew he was "the one" but honestly God does not want us to be unequally yoked with our partners and he wouldn't send you someone where you both wanted two completely different things out of life. That also was a red flag that I'm surprised even after they did pre martial counseling they thought it was one they could overlook. I think an important lesson to learn is that just because someone is great and loves God does not mean they are the person God sent for you sometimes they are someone else's blessing. I will continue to pray for Jeannie, wish her the best and continue to send positivity her way though.
@@petrinegordon hi petrine, if we look at what she shared about her parents relationship/divorce and her relationship with each of her parents, it might be the case that she had no one to teach her that. you can find that wisdom in yourself maybe, but i think anyone will agree is totally hard if no one's there to show you an example or to tell it to you when you're younger.
That's what happens when you cater to others before yourself. I'm sure he was a great guy to her and she to him but you cant sacrifice yourself. Life is too long lol
Red flags always show up early and often... but they are so easy to dismiss and keep moving forward until you just have a big ol' disaster on your hands that could have been avoided.
Girl, so many red flags on the first date and I brushed them off and that feeling of being uncomfortable. Worst relationship ever. Worst 9 months of my life.
@@Bee-lieve623 I have been seeing a guy for about a month.... he is amazing but I got hit by red flags on day one... the amazing part of him is so amazing is walking away the right thing to do?
As for what Adrienne said... everyone says the same thing when things don't work out for them. Just let JESUS be the Center of your life and everything you do. GOD Bless you 🙏
Before the haters start coming at Jeannie let's remember she never said she didnt love him after one year in. If i understand her correctly, she's saying she knew despite their love that she knew it wouldnt work out.
@@javiruiz4405 Well that's the thing right? Shes didnt know until one year into her marriage. The real question is, why did she stay? which is what they're discussing.
@@ReplayAzpect didn't she take couple's therapy? Why go through all of that if she knew it wasn't going to last. I think after a year she may have come to some enlightenment but whatever indication she saw and did nothing about it is no reason for her to think it applies to others.
Humans are not rational no matter how much we try to think we are. She stayed because she loved him and she made the commitment. and to be honest you can know something but still hope for another outcome. It's life
Agree with you so much! People must follow their gut! No matter how painful it will be at that time for your partner! Follow that voice! We all love each other.
This is an absolute fact! I knew within that first year. Got divorced 5 years later. Everyone goes into marriage thinking it's forever with the best of intentions. People hide their true selves very well. When that mask falls off...look out! I just pray to God he blocks anyone who is not for my good.
Bianca Lord Bianca Lord Aquarian here. Change is nice but people tend to think we’re fickle and that’s not what I want represented. Balance is key and evolution only works if it’s in a positive direction
Very few people stay in a marriage because of what they think society will say or think (this only applies to power or famous couples or people in really traditional/religious societies). most ordinary folk stay in a marriage because it's familiar and safe, they don't want to let the other partner or kids down, they don't want to deal with the upheaval of going through court proceedings, moving, separating finances, facing life alone again, losing friends, and administering to the challenging emotional needs of any kids as they go through the divorce etc. Sometimes even a toxic or dying relationship seems safer than the unknown because it's familiar
I knew within five months and though I was ashamed and embarrassed, I still packed my things and left. Three years later and I am so proud of myself for not waiting around for it to get worse. I am so glad I didn't waste my time or his. That five months felt like five years so I cannot even fathom us being married for ten.
🗣OPPOSITES DO NOT ATTRACT . marry someone who values the same things as you. someone who you want your children to be like. someone that you trust with your life.
I’m learning that lesson the hard way right now. We’ve been married only 4 months and when we started trying to get pregnant it hit me that I’m praying our kids don’t take after him. That’s a BIG FLAPPING RED FLAG that I’m trying to figure out now. I asked us to put a hold on trying to get pregnant and work on these issues now first if we can.
nnadaddy girl no it’s not! That’s why I’m trying to figure this out ASAP so if we really aren’t right we need to give ourselves the chance to find the right ones for us.
Exactly, I and my husband, in terms of characteristics, we are completely the opposite. He is confident, I am not. He is social and good with people, I am not. He is a not a tidy person, I am. I am good at money m, he is not. But we have the same look at the world, same beliefs, same goals and it is what matters
That is why we need to have relationship with the Father, becuase He knows what you don't. He recently told me that my relationship was over because my husband didn't do his part. He said "See it as a blessing in disguise". That of course was after prayer with people that know His voice.
I agree! I’ve prayed on my last relationship and heard “You know this is not the one. Move on.” But I wanted it to work so I continued and prayed for signs because at the time he was great all around. I saw sooo many red flags after that prayer which ultimately caused me to leave. Having a relationship with God is so amazing.
EXACTLY people here don't notice that those who say i knew right then it won't work and now we're divorced are just justifying things to make it feel right and that they have no regrets on divorcing. I tell you this 100% true - that relationships have different colors and different approaches. She done that Doesn't mean it will work for you or for me. She thinks that - does not mean it will go better with you. Spread love everyone!
Yes they say opposites attract sometimes. However, Jeannie and Freddy were just too different with their marriage goals which caused them to be incompatible. I'm glad now they both are finding their own happiness in life after divorcing.
As I’ve gotten older I don’t believe in that saying anymore. Maybe attract physically but mentally there’s just too many differences that the relationship is doom for failure. However, I’m speaking from my own personal experiences with this.
Honesty ? She lied about her marriage being great for years now all of a sudden she knew it wasn’t right the first year in ? Bunch of bs. She’s a phony.
I was with my ex for 11 years and I knew it wasn’t going to work from the beginning. I even told my friends and family. But sometimes you just don’t want to feel like you gave up
👏👏👏a round of applause from Kim Kardashian atleast she got out of it after 72 days and not years later and live a fake life. & Everyone was laughing at her. You can only get it when you are in these women's shoes.
Im not questioning her loyalty, but sometimes we confuse being loyal with being scared of doing the right thing because we fear what others may say. In this case may be she was afraid of breaking her vows or she just wanted her marriage to work so bad she might have settle. Before anyone judges me, I have been in her shoes and yes we often ignore or over look the red flags. Once a relationship is over we can speak and have a sense of freedom.
That's exactly what I was thinking when she was talking about her being loyal. A lot of people do get judge for not trying to fix their marriage for giving up to quickly. I'd hate to be that person who gives up but at the same time I rather "give up" more like follow my intuition be judged by it then to stay.... but that's just me. Jeannie should of followed hers when he had proposed. Because even then she wasn't ready.
I thought it was a mistake...but being the loyal person that I am I stuck it out. Turns out...my husband is way more mature than I am. I'm more in love with him today, than we we first got married. I had to grow a little and allow him to lead. I thank God for my husband.
This is so true. I thought I fell in love when I was 18. He proposed to me a year after being together. But things when south. He lied. He cheated. He had a drinking problem. We had a kid. I stayed with him for 9 years. And I left him.
I think most people know BEFOREHAND but are so DESPERATE to get married that they go through with it or they already bought a dress and a venue and sent out invitations so they can’t go back.
Book Bag I think people should take their time with relationships but I don't think engagements should be slow. I think you shouldn't ask someone to marry you until you are truly 100 percent ready.
I knew the moment they got this show... you could tellll from a mile away they werent gonna last... Jeannie was too different, wanted a different life.
I was married 15 years, at 13 years I knew it was over, but kept trying to work it out cause like Jeannie I was loyal as hell! Thank God it's finally over.
It’s not wasted time, it’s life lessons that have shaped both of them. You could say they could’ve been with someone else but they’d be living completely different lives. Different not necessarily better
LadyChaos101 true but maybe they could have parted amicably. If you know in your gut that it won’t work out why wait? 🤷🏾♀️ We can never know the path we didn’t take but why ignore your intuition?
@@chamab.6800 It's a little thing called denial, plus you have a hope that things will start to change and both partners recognize their rhythm so to speak. Sure she can't get those 10 years back, but she can make things a lot better now for herself.
I think a lot of times women know it during the courting stages as well but they want to keep going forward with someone who is completely wrong for them.
This hit home. I remember in my past relationship if I can tell the story. He had an ex that he was always catering to. One night he even left me in the house to go help her came back around midnight. I was boiling inside. I'm not the confrontational type. I didn't say anything. I could nt slp that night. I remembered the good and bad list from Tyler's movie. Woke up to write down. The good was more than the bad so I continued with the relationship. 5 years later we've graduated we are working. I become the last activity on his list of to do things. I barely see him we barely talk. Now I know he wasn't cheating and he loved me but I think being in love with me was what was missing. I'm thinking we are at a stage where we should be talking kids and marriage. I bring up the conversation and he start listing so many things why he can't. And it finally dawns on me he is not really that into me. We break up and how he behaved around the time before and after made me realize I never even knew him. I fell in love with the idea of what I thought he was. He is not a bad guy but he is not behaving like the guy I knew. I remember Jeannie said it best . He said Freddie said people will only show you their truly colors when they no longer need or want you.
Am I the only one who think that sometimes she's just too...real!?!LoL I know it's the real but I sometimes think that she should keep some things private!!! That's real and shady!! 10 years and saying that now???
missydomtom I think it’s courageous. There are many women who may be feeling the same way in their current marriages and they feel alone and confused. But if people speak out about it, then suffering women can feel like... you know, I’m not the only person who’s gone through this!
It does feel weird listening to her say this because I also remember when she was married and how happy she was but also I have to remember how easy it is to fake being happy as I've done that myself. I think for her shes using this as her platform to open up, she might not have anywhere else to speak like this
i must agree, when it comes to my failed 12 and a half relationship, i saw so many red flags , i knew that we're not meant to last in just 1 year, and i always knew that he's not a marriage material, i just kept myself busy with work and family responsibilities, looking back, i wish that i should have listened to my gut feeling then, i shouldn't have wasted good decade of my life, caring for someone who's selfish
Steve Pickford I have to tell the truth. The person I was with changed my strong character to a weak one. I wasn’t myself when with him. I am stronger now and learned so much. It has made a better woman. I now know what I want. Lesson learned.
@@stevepickford3004 I don't think it is fair to judge her like that. We've all been in situations where we knew something might not work, but we kept going hoping for the best. In her case (though I don't know her story) maybe she was hoping things would change for the better.
The same can apply to the "dating period" of your relationship, you can see the red flags during that time but many fail to see or are in denial and assume oh that person will (Magically) change after the I Do's. That's the point of Dating to learn each other habits, wants, needs and true character so you'll know if they are the right one for you in the long term..
Sometimes you know, but are in denial and don't want to face that it was the wrong person and the wrong reasons for a marriage. I'm proud of Jeannie tho, just for investing in herself now. No she Can't get that time back, but you live and learn and Jeannie is starting to live now. And things will be better in the next relationship.
Thank you. I completely agree. Sometimes we feel and know that it's not right but end up doing it anyway for various reasons. Even when writing a test abd we dont go with our intuition and end up choosing the Wrong answer. Then we are like I knew it. Same thing
I love how raw and real Jeanie is. She is the realest that’s why I love her. I learn so much from her. She speaks with real wisdom ♥️ She’s one of my inspirations I love how strong and brave she is ♥️
After I had my daughter I knew it wasn't going to work out. I refused to have more kids. We divorced 15 yrs later. He was a covert narc living a double life. Had a mistress with 2 kids. It's been 10 yrs since the divorce and I'm happier than ever. Met a great man, going on 2 yrs dating, it's wonderful.
I can actually relate to Jeannie because I knew that our marriage wasn’t gonna work the day we got married. I saw another side of him I was totally shocked 😳 and I’m still trying to work it out. And in public I just pretend as if we’re doing great. Relationships are complicated
Yes I agree. So much. I resonate! When I tell my gfs that I was married, I was embarrassed to tell people I'm with an alcoholic, he only cares about is car, doesn't work to pay the bills, and freeloading mf. I was unhappy for a long time. We didn't have the same financial goals and I'm like not down for that. Bye.
When it's not right, you can feel within you and once you have that unsure feeling of the relationship it's best to move on despite what others think; cause other people don't have to live your life. While you're being "fake happy " you're only hurting yourself. Sadly many people are unhappy in relationships and marriages and it's disrupting their inner peace. It's not worth it, pay attention to the signs. I'm glad she spoke about it cause many people needed to hear that. We must learn to protect ourselves first.
I’m sure couples who died together felt it wasn’t going to work many times... my grandparents are the “happily married for 50 years” we think awhhh... but found out later all the hell they went through to get there. Marriage is work and a lot of forgiving and accepting
A lot of forgiving and accepting that is so true. I got divorced after three years of marriage and my ex was not forgiving always bringing up past arguments making it impossible to move forward.
People aren’t willing to do the work, that’s what. Some marriages have genuine abuse and neglect. That’s different. Nowadays they wanna divorce because it doesn’t feel good to them anymore. Just break their covenant, like it’s nothing.
@@chichizamba2112 yes cause I was sure my guy bestfriend was the one for me. He felt the same way too but I broke it off after a few months of dating because I just wasn't happy with the "relationship him" I realized It was much better when we were just best friends.
I've never been married so I appreciate Jeannie sharing her experience. Atleast for women like myself I'll know to trust my intuition in the very beginning 👌🏾 thanks Jeannie ♥️
@@Claudia-yc8xk yeah. It’s no good. I pray to teach my daughter better. My ex waited for me to change my mind and I knew I was never going to. That’s no good for either end
I've been married 15 years to someone I absolutely adore and I would take caution in considering these comments conclusive. I have heard of many people who felt this way at the outset but turned out beautiful successful marriages. One must remember that the first year may be a trying time to decide whether it will last or not as the first year's r the years of adjustment and adaptation to each other... They have never been framed or regarded as easy years in marriage... Just thinking.
If you see red flags in the beginning you should run, you shouldn’t stay just to give the relationship time to blossom. Warning signs are there for a reason.
Iz4 yes i agree red flags like abuse, unfaithfulness, disrespect or a lack of commitment should not be tolerated in a marriage! Marriage is supposed to b a safe place.
I’m dying of laughter because every person has doubts somewhere along the line, and many don’t get divorced. Looking back they feel like they knew it, but they couldn’t have unless they are Raven from that’s so Raven.
It's true Jeanie, I knew after the first month and my marriage lasted 2yrs. It's hard to believe what your heart is telling you sometimes. Thanks for being real!!
I'm not surprised at all. If you listen to jeannies stories about her ex when they were together and how she wasn't ready to marry, and how she was ok living in different cities from him for years, it was only a matter of time. I think she was too proud to admit it and thats why the marriage dragged on for so long.
Honestly every relationship is work. Every person has flaws that someone might be considered a red flag for some. This is why rushing into marriage is not a good idea.
Being in the same situation as Jeannie is comforting because you realise you’re not alone in the pain and confusion you’re going through. What she said is absolutely right. Within the first 6months after getting married he showed his true colours but I continued to forgive him and Like Jeannie, I was loyal to a fault. I’m now fresh out of a divorce he instigated, and trying to figure out who I am now and what I want because I didn’t realise how much of myself I’d lost In him. I wish I had her confidence because I’m am struggling. I appreciate Jeannie’s openness so much.
Not necessarily. I think she was more or less referring to the fact that sometimes there is something fundamentally wrong in the relationship. Not so much the little petty things that annoy you about your partner the first year.
I know exactly what she is talking about.... I was with my x partner for 10 years, I knew before we got together we weren’t going to last because I saw the signs early. He had no job and I’ve had to support him for 5 years while he was home smoking up my money. Towards the end once I was fed up and voiced my concern, this fool put his hands on me. It’s not as easy to just say “leave” especially if you’ve invested so much financially towards the home.
Were you married?? Being with someone is not the same as being married. If he did not want to work and you had to support him, you already knew he was not the right person.
Marriage is a commitment to keep choosing to love that person each and every day especially on days it’s hard to like them. It’s not going to be easy and yes you will be tested to the core but if two people truly love each other, they will do whatever they can to get through it. There’s no happily ever after, at the end of the day, it’s 2 imperfect being choosing love again and again…. I have been married for 28 years now and there were very hard days. Divorce was not going to be an option, murder many times yes!!! Lol
This is very true. I knew 3 days after I got married that I didn’t want to be married anymore to him. I left at year 4.5. And got divorced exactly a year later. Never again will I settle for less than what I deserve.
You are SO RIGHT!!! I knew I made a mistake the first frigging week! I got out 5 yrs later after separating and reconnecting,so at least I can say I gave it all I had.
I feel jeanie... I knew within the first 1-2 months me and my ex would not work out but I stayed for over a year and a half. Thankfully we weren’t married so it wasn’t that serious. But still. Now I will listen to my intuition. That relationship completely destroyed my mental health and I had to deal with anxiety and depression which is something I have never dealt with in my life.
I think he told her that he wanted to have children knowing that she didn't and he reiterated that a year into their marriage; that's probably what she's talking about without saying.
Totally feel her on this!! I think we do know early on- on some level. I know I did also... but I ignored what my gut was telling me and wrote it off as just anxiety attacks😔. I was also too young and inexperienced in life and love. I too am loyal to a fault and try to see the good in the situation. I tried to be grateful for the positive aspects and what we DID have for so long. If your marriage was a healthy romantic connection to start, then do your best to save it. I will tell anyone that. But if something is truly wrong/missing on a fundamental level, it’s best to move on. For the sake of your happiness. And the happiness of your partner.
Jeannie and Freddie got divorce, Freddie moved on first even have 2 babies.. his gf is still just a baby mama. Jeannie moved on later got married to a man who’s more affluent within a year and is now freezing her eggs and in therapy. She won. AND Jeannie is pregnant with the man she thinks is right and feel safe, Freddy calling her trash shows the kind of person he is. Yaiks
EVERYONE I know, not just divorced couples, think in their first year of marriage that they made a mistake. This is because after the honey moon stage, you get to really know the person and sometimes it is not what you expected. So you guys should chill a little with intuition story. 🙄
Lol agree. I think she probably means like values and morals cld have been the signs. But my mom wanted to ship my dad back to his family after the first yr 😂😂😂😂😂 is common. The manners are different, the cleanliness..... many things
Adaeze's Space so true! Through thick and thin, sickness and health and bla bla ... marriage isn’t easy. It’s not glitter and confetti all the time. Before I married my husband I knew what I was getting into. And how I and we can both help one another, grow, laugh, mature ... commit. Fortunately, these were correctable things and we were always open about everything. Been married 10 years and I love that man so much!! We have our days but most of the time it’s been great! I’ve never lived with him before getting married so when we finally did it felt like we were dating again lol. Because of certain habits or styles we are figuring out and we work that out. If the red flags are there before marriage ... yes definitely follow that. But also be wise before you do say I do. Marriage is a commitment, and divorce for certain circumstances... certain (I.e. adultery, abuse, .... a lil few more)
A. Banana Intuition isn’t just a feeling! It’s usually based on observations you’ve made subconsciously but your conscious mind hasn’t pieced together yet...for example, you walk into a coffee shop and immediately think ‘something’s off here’, it’s because out of the corner of your eye your brain/subconscious mind noticed that there is something shady happening in the corner but your conscious mind hasn’t put it all together yet. That’s why people say to always trust your gut/intuition, it picks up things that your conscious mind hasn’t yet...like you’re walking home late at night and there’s a shadow in front of you, your subconscious mind recognizes the shadow isn’t yours so your intuition warns you that something is off but your conscious mind hasn’t recognized you’re being followed yet. True intuition is a warning you should listen too. You can search up Carl Jung and the Myers-Briggs explanations of intuition.
It’s not like a moment where you have doubts, it is a constant, consistent feeling that something find wrong that won’t go away. Most ppl honestly have that BEFORE they get married but hope that over time it changes.
@@LadyK007 can you explain this more im young but i want to understand cus everytime i hear this type of stuff about marriage it makes it sound really scary. i have never dated anyone so i have no experience. im 22
Intuition is everything and I swear by it I know when a person playing me or really just not right for me but I have a habit of trying to not go so fast but hell nah I ALWAYS am right never fails.
Lord please give me discernment and not allow me to marry the wrong man at ALL! 😩😩
Amen sister
just dont get married
etf42 word!
@Ever Gorgeous yep, especially if they are raised by their mothers. women cant raise boys to be men.
Me too Lord
The red flags are there while you're dating, marriage just amplifies them.
Right no matter how big a red flag is a red flag
BOOM
Fay Bury 100%!!!
Fay Bury yuppp 💯 FACTS ! I’ll even add! Marriage just REVEALS what you ignored or kept hidden while dating ..
@@noonelikeyou13 hello somebody!! #truth
This is my worst fear. To be married to the wrong person AND to stay regardless.
You’re ahead of it so you’re good. Most don’t know till after the time is wasted.
Right
I have a friend who is doing that and she’s only been married for two years.... no kids and can afford to move out on her own. But decided to stay... why do we do this each other I have no clue :/
@@Mel__21 I felt that.
I feel like a lot of couples do that...
“you don’t have to wait so long when you know what’s right for you”
Yup.
I find it very ironic that this popped up on my news feed a year later.. This morning I woke up feeling my intuition telling me to leave my narcissist husband
😅😅😅 it just popped up in mine too..
Don’t wait much longer, it will only get worse if you do...start preparing and making moves, God will guide you through this....♥️
Cara Pilar, good for you. We have intuition for a reason. There is a man made just for you. He will find you. There won’t be any doubt in your mind either.
Let God guide you to the right direction. God doesn't like divorces... Only exceptional will be commit adultery or physical abuse
Sis its God!!!
Remember, the problems you ignore in the beginning end up being the reasons you leave later
This stays in my mind alot
Yesss 🤦🏾♀️ 🤦🏾♀️
And all the disrespect I allowed over the years is the same reason I filed for divorce last month...You live and you learn though, never again😔
@@MrsDavis-vm8tq I pray for comfort and strength as you start a new chapter of your life. I know it isn't easy. Take time to grieve because even though you filed for divorce and will be glad to be away from the disrespect, there will be moments where you feel like someone died. And that's okay. You love yourself enough to leave so let that love carry you through the darkest times, too. 🤗🥰
@@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460 Thanks for your kind words❤️. Lately I have felt those same exact thoughts wondering why it didn't work out and grieving the breakup of our family especially with 3 children in the middle of it. I know that if I stayed It will get worse so Im learning to not have regret and understand that I did all I could to save our marriage but any type of abuse should not be accepted and it takes 2 people to make a marriage work.
I'm married almost 3 years and I can happily say I feel I have not made a mistake. Amen
Nice to see a comment like this!
Amen & may God continue to bless your union! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😇😇❤️❤️💍💍
met my husband 31yrs ago.......we were 14yrs old. He told me within 6months I was his wife 🤣🤣
his discernment has always been there and he dead ass serious when be said it. Best decision I ever made!!
One of the lucky ones. God bless your marriage.
God bless your union
Babayyyyyy I ain’t waiting no 10 years. I was in a relationship for three years and I kept giving that person the benefit of the doubt. I will never do that in another relationship. If somebody shows you who they are please believe them and keep it moving
LISTENNNNNN ⚡⚡⚡
Thisssssss 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Listen, I did it for 6 months and like naw. I will never ignore red flags again. More power to you sis.
Girl I noticed red flags during the first day but kept trying to convince myself that I was overreacting. Dragged that mess out for 9 months. NEVER AGAIN. Weeks ago I had to threaten him with legal action for constantly calling me from random numbers.
Songbyrd Kay BOOM
damn, a year in. she really spilled the tea
Tamar is no longer the scapegoat now, huh?... " Tamar is jealous of Jeannie's marriage", said haters.
It seems to me that people love to bring up Tamar. Especially when the conversation has nothing to do with her. This is about Jeannie not Tamar. Her fans can’t seem to get over the fact that she is no longer on the show. Tamar has moved on and so have the rest of the ladies.
@@thembamsibi64 lol who the hell made up that crap??
No one, people just love to create drama.
Chantholli89 say it louder for the people in the back 👏
I think it's cruel that people were and still are calling Jeannie selfish for not wanting children. There's a lot of people right now who resent their kids because they did not want them and didn't realize how deep that responsiblity runs. So they take it out on the kids, mistreat them because they don't want them. One of my sister's is an example of that. She didn't mistreat her kids, but she admitted to my mom she didn't want anymore kids. She just wanted it to be her oldest son who is 20 years old. She now has a 7 year old and a 5 year old to raise. If Jeannie knows she can't handle the responsibility of shaping/molding a life and sending it into society, then she's right for not having kids. It's not selfish it's smart.
That and also the fact that there were red flags within the first year of marriage. Why would she have a child with him if she wasn't sure it would work out.
Exactly! I’m quite young as right now I am 18, but as of now, I am quite sure I don’t want children and people around me find it so ridiculous as I am children’s youth leader and I absolutely love young children and I’m naturally a very nurturing and caring person. I pretty much play the mother role in my close friendship group. So when I say, I really don’t want kids people think I’m being selfish or ridiculous, saying I will come around and why would I ‘waste’ my talents. I don’t think I’m wasting anything at all and indeed, I am not contributing the already growing masses of neglected and uncared for children, who grow up with having psychological issues because they were poorly cared for. I love young children but that’s the problem, I detest when they grow older because I’m just not up for it. Especially when their teenagers, I would favour jumping out a window more than to have a teenager, and essentially all children grow up. So it’s a no for me. I think a lot of people love to romantice the struggles of motherhood, but i understand it’s because there is a lot of love involved with those sacrifices and hence it’s hard for people not to make it seem as though it’s lovely and simple because it’s for the ‘greater good’. But it’s ain’t for me and that ain’t nobody’s business. I’m an very independent girl, and I have so much to do, and personally, a baby ain’t gonna benefit my plans, nor benefit from it 🤷🏽♀️
Tiffany Rayne Is it an infertility issue or did she really didn't want to have children?She should have discussed this with her partner before they got married because he probably wants children.
@@bubujooestes1499 He knew. He changed his mind.
Exactly and they leave out the part where she and Freddie agreed they didnt want kids and then he changed his mind the only difference is that Jeannie didn't. So maybe he was only saying that because he knew she didnt. Maybe he really did just have a change of heart later. They're the only ones who know. But it's really annoying ppl keep shaming her cuz she didnt want kids, shoot it's better to know b4 you accidentally get preggo or just have them anyway.
So Jeannie lived a lie... she swore they were meant for each other. This is why you don't look to other relationships as "goals"
No she lived her life and then came to the conclusion that what she truly felt wasn't love but commitment. Like she said she was committed to him and the hopes he gave to her. Unfortunately those feelings got mislabeled as those of true love. It's really simple to understand where she is coming from and what she learned.
True. You never know whats behind closed doors
@@kokosworldofficial ah. This is good. Love vs. Commitment. Sometimes we commit to the outcome and it's hard to break away from that.
The Cute Shuttle Transportation Service or hindsight 20/20. I’m sure after the divorce she’s had self reflection and realized warning signs that she was too blind to see happened way earlier than she willingly acknowledged.
At the time maybe she felt that way. But it's been a year since her divorce, and she was still processing it. She's sharing what she learned.
I was with someone for 6 years I knew the first year he wasn’t meant for me... it’s so hard to explain Jeannie is so strong for openly admitting this..
Dalayna Wallace I have been with someone for 2 years and I knew the first week it will not work out. Still with him because in love some parts of him. But the parts that will make it not successful in marriage are all still there.
Same here..sometimes we look at the red flags and ignore them or look past them because we’re so blinded. Years later, all the time and effort spent..I felt like I had to stay and make it work.
I’ve been with someone for 4 years, there are red flags such as him not being emotionally available, not romantic at all and never wanting to do anything fun. I broke up with him and now he’s telling me he’s willing to change but i don’t know, I’ve been asking him to do so since the first year. I don’t know if I should go back to him, I’m only 20, i shouldn’t have to worry about this things
@@belupiazza2598 I feel like if you have to ask, then you already know. I'm not saying "you" directly but "you" in general. I did that same thing. I kept asking ppl if I should stay with my ex, knowing that he wouldn't change his horrible ways. You're young. Focus on becoming the best you that you can be. Love will come when you're ready and you'll never have to question it.
Bee Dotz thank you for the encouragement, I broke up with him and it’s been really hard but I know it was for the better 🙏🏻🖤
Ladies, God will ALWAYS give you signs on whether someone is the one.
You’re SO right. If only....
I hope so 😭
I’m a little slow when it comes to signs. Imma need a one on one conversation to understand 😂
It's just that some of us refuse to see then and end up in hell.
What about for us atheists?
That’s the problem, we keep looking at a failed relationship as a mistake. Sometimes things just don’t work out and it’s ok to stop it and move on.
I knew my wedding day it was a mistake! Thirty years later, twenty years of being separated, him having multiple affairs, he divorces me! I’m just glad to be free! Thank you Jesus!
You deserve so much better. Clearly something wasn’t right and it’s best to start over with lessons learned and find a healthy loving relationship.
What did you see on your wedding day that you didn't see before?
Why didn't you divorce him
You’re gorgeous. 💜
Omg. This reminds me of my best friend. Went to marriage counseling with her husband every damn week for a year to save her marriage, until one day he walks in and says he doesn't want to be married anymore and moved out the next day. Smh. I hate to see her in so much pain.
“You don’t have to wait so long when you know whats right for you.”
As much as I hate what Jeannie is going through, I'm happy she is. Many things are beginning to unfold for Jeannie, both in her career and her private life. She's blossoming, provides more insight and helps encourage other women. Good on you Jeannie
well said. I love how unconventional Jeannie is. She's a good example for women to learn from.
and its crazy that is all happening for her now so late in her 40's she waited too long and wasted so many years
Joseline Orellana she’s almost 40
This is such a beautiful comment, especially taking into account where she is today🙌🙌🙌 She really was blossoming, here we are today!
correct. her current situation couldn't grow her. she knew it was wrong. the universe knew.
She ALWAYS talked about how she wasn’t ready when he proposed. I’m shocked still that she went ahead and married him. At least she learned something from it but I personally would feel that it was a enormous waste of my time 🤷🏾♀️
Delayva part of me believes that but the other part of me thinks that it a nice lesson so she can thrive for the rest of her life
That's exactly what I'm saying! In the early days of the show when she mentioned that-that raised a big red flag for me. You both have to be on the same page if you're going to get married because it's a life long commitment. It's better to reject his proposal and say "babe I really love you but I'm just not ready and I need time to think about this" and who knows maybe in the time she would've taken to consider she could have realized this wasn't going to work and they both could have moved on. I remember her also talking about when she knew he was "the one" but honestly God does not want us to be unequally yoked with our partners and he wouldn't send you someone where you both wanted two completely different things out of life. That also was a red flag that I'm surprised even after they did pre martial counseling they thought it was one they could overlook. I think an important lesson to learn is that just because someone is great and loves God does not mean they are the person God sent for you sometimes they are someone else's blessing. I will continue to pray for Jeannie, wish her the best and continue to send positivity her way though.
@@petrinegordon hi petrine, if we look at what she shared about her parents relationship/divorce and her relationship with each of her parents, it might be the case that she had no one to teach her that. you can find that wisdom in yourself maybe, but i think anyone will agree is totally hard if no one's there to show you an example or to tell it to you when you're younger.
That's what happens when you cater to others before yourself. I'm sure he was a great guy to her and she to him but you cant sacrifice yourself. Life is too long lol
@@petrinegordon The last part of your comment🙌
Red flags always show up early and often... but they are so easy to dismiss and keep moving forward until you just have a big ol' disaster on your hands that could have been avoided.
💯💯💯
Girl, so many red flags on the first date and I brushed them off and that feeling of being uncomfortable. Worst relationship ever. Worst 9 months of my life.
@@Bee-lieve623 I have been seeing a guy for about a month.... he is amazing but I got hit by red flags on day one... the amazing part of him is so amazing is walking away the right thing to do?
As for what Adrienne said... everyone says the same thing when things don't work out for them. Just let JESUS be the Center of your life and everything you do. GOD Bless you 🙏
Before the haters start coming at Jeannie let's remember she never said she didnt love him after one year in. If i understand her correctly, she's saying she knew despite their love that she knew it wouldnt work out.
Yeah exactly. U got it.
Then why get married? Answer that
@@javiruiz4405 Well that's the thing right? Shes didnt know until one year into her marriage. The real question is, why did she stay? which is what they're discussing.
@@ReplayAzpect didn't she take couple's therapy? Why go through all of that if she knew it wasn't going to last. I think after a year she may have come to some enlightenment but whatever indication she saw and did nothing about it is no reason for her to think it applies to others.
Humans are not rational no matter how much we try to think we are. She stayed because she loved him and she made the commitment. and to be honest you can know something but still hope for another outcome. It's life
You don’t have to wait so long when you know what’s right for you!
Follow your intuition people!
Thank you Jeannie for being so bold and honest♥️
Nothing says bravery like sitting in a marriage you hate for another 9 years. Heroic stuff
Marriage in the Western world is dead. Never walking into that nightmare.
Agree with you so much! People must follow their gut! No matter how painful it will be at that time for your partner! Follow that voice! We all love each other.
I know, don’t waste years of your life..
@@christinainthecity She wasted his time too cuz he would have loved to be a father much sooner
This is an absolute fact! I knew within that first year. Got divorced 5 years later. Everyone goes into marriage thinking it's forever with the best of intentions. People hide their true selves very well. When that mask falls off...look out! I just pray to God he blocks anyone who is not for my good.
Forever is not even realistic
Jeezy knew it too... 🤷🏻♂️ 😅
People stay thinking that the spouse will change and afraid of what society will say/think which is wrong.
Rosemary Ngugi I have changed several times... I am an ever evolving Aquarian Spouse
Bianca Lord Bianca Lord
Aquarian here. Change is nice but people tend to think we’re fickle and that’s not what I want represented. Balance is key and evolution only works if it’s in a positive direction
But Why get married? Just stay single and date. That's what's blowing me away
Very few people stay in a marriage because of what they think society will say or think (this only applies to power or famous couples or people in really traditional/religious societies). most ordinary folk stay in a marriage because it's familiar and safe, they don't want to let the other partner or kids down, they don't want to deal with the upheaval of going through court proceedings, moving, separating finances, facing life alone again, losing friends, and administering to the challenging emotional needs of any kids as they go through the divorce etc. Sometimes even a toxic or dying relationship seems safer than the unknown because it's familiar
Some people focus on a wedding (one day event) rather than a marriage (lifetime commitment supposibly).
The saddest truth of all
That is sooo true!
Yup
Whoooo💯🙌
A friend I knew told me on the day of her wedding - just before the reception that she knew she had made a mistake. They are divorced today
whoa
Damn
It's the cake, decor,& ppl."non ya business" opinions that hangs so many by the throat.
People are crazy af. Like. Why would she do dat
Chances are, she knew this in the 1st conversation.
I knew within five months and though I was ashamed and embarrassed, I still packed my things and left. Three years later and I am so proud of myself for not waiting around for it to get worse. I am so glad I didn't waste my time or his. That five months felt like five years so I cannot even fathom us being married for ten.
There's nothing to really hold over Jeannie's head about her marriage because she'll just tell you, which can be a good and a bad thing.
😂 true dat
🗣OPPOSITES DO NOT ATTRACT . marry someone who values the same things as you. someone who you want your children to be like. someone that you trust with your life.
I’m learning that lesson the hard way right now. We’ve been married only 4 months and when we started trying to get pregnant it hit me that I’m praying our kids don’t take after him. That’s a BIG FLAPPING RED FLAG that I’m trying to figure out now. I asked us to put a hold on trying to get pregnant and work on these issues now first if we can.
@@Helinacoustic girl....😶 that is not good
nnadaddy girl no it’s not! That’s why I’m trying to figure this out ASAP so if we really aren’t right we need to give ourselves the chance to find the right ones for us.
@@Helinacoustic The first year is always the hardest. Praying for you.🙏
Exactly, I and my husband, in terms of characteristics, we are completely the opposite. He is confident, I am not. He is social and good with people, I am not. He is a not a tidy person, I am. I am good at money m, he is not. But we have the same look at the world, same beliefs, same goals and it is what matters
That is why we need to have relationship with the Father, becuase He knows what you don't. He recently told me that my relationship was over because my husband didn't do his part. He said "See it as a blessing in disguise". That of course was after prayer with people that know His voice.
People have a relationship with The Father and still mess-up. We are called hard headed children. DUMB SHEEP, still His sheep.
I agree! I’ve prayed on my last relationship and heard “You know this is not the one. Move on.” But I wanted it to work so I continued and prayed for signs because at the time he was great all around. I saw sooo many red flags after that prayer which ultimately caused me to leave. Having a relationship with God is so amazing.
I think everyone feels like that when they get married. Marriage isn’t this magic pill that will fix everything.
Lytonya it truly takes work. No lie
THIS THIS THIS
Yes everyone has doubts, and i think that everyone questions themselves if they did the right thing regardless if it will last or not
EXACTLY people here don't notice that those who say i knew right then it won't work and now we're divorced are just justifying things to make it feel right and that they have no regrets on divorcing.
I tell you this 100% true - that relationships have different colors and different approaches. She done that Doesn't mean it will work for you or for me. She thinks that - does not mean it will go better with you.
Spread love everyone!
feeling and knowing - 2 different states of play ........
Yes they say opposites attract sometimes. However, Jeannie and Freddy were just too different with their marriage goals which caused them to be incompatible. I'm glad now they both are finding their own happiness in life after divorcing.
So true they had different goals in the relationship as they grew older . He wanted a family . She didn’t
Yet Jeannie keeps talking about him! She is so negative!
@kakarot songoku "finding happiness" and i bet she's closer to happiness now than she was when she was during their last years of marriage.
@@javiruiz4405 um did you ever stop to think that it's not easy to just forget and move on when you've spent such a long time with one person?
As I’ve gotten older I don’t believe in that saying anymore. Maybe attract physically but mentally there’s just too many differences that the relationship is doom for failure. However, I’m speaking from my own personal experiences with this.
I really appreciate Jeannie’s honesty. Marriage is so scary for me even though I know I want it one day.
Honesty ? She lied about her marriage being great for years now all of a sudden she knew it wasn’t right the first year in ? Bunch of bs. She’s a phony.
Don't be scared of it, but do give it the respect and contemplation it deserves. Marriage is a calling, it's not for everyone.
lady rodriguez very well said. I will definitely keep that in mind for the next few years to come. thank you.
Jason Cromey Nobody says everything in public right away.. she would’ve hoped it’d work out eventually
Me too. Im turning 29 next month but im not ready to have kids or get married
I was with my ex for 11 years and I knew it wasn’t going to work from the beginning. I even told my friends and family. But sometimes you just don’t want to feel like you gave up
I was 36 and felt like it my last chance.
👏👏👏a round of applause from Kim Kardashian atleast she got out of it after 72 days and not years later and live a fake life. & Everyone was laughing at her. You can only get it when you are in these women's shoes.
Wowww that’s crazy. Always trust your intuition!
Bri.V.M. Like ALWAYS don’t ignore it people!!
Yeah even if you wait 9 years to acknowledge it. That's what's crazy....Give me a break....
AllAboutMeNU a lot of people stay bc they hope their intuition is wrong
Bri.V.M. Ten years! She has to be a stupid moron! And yet she has a platform to influencing other morons!
Im not questioning her loyalty, but sometimes we confuse being loyal with being scared of doing the right thing because we fear what others may say. In this case may be she was afraid of breaking her vows or she just wanted her marriage to work so bad she might have settle. Before anyone judges me, I have been in her shoes and yes we often ignore or over look the red flags. Once a relationship is over we can speak and have a sense of freedom.
That's exactly what I was thinking when she was talking about her being loyal. A lot of people do get judge for not trying to fix their marriage for giving up to quickly. I'd hate to be that person who gives up but at the same time I rather "give up" more like follow my intuition be judged by it then to stay.... but that's just me. Jeannie should of followed hers when he had proposed. Because even then she wasn't ready.
So agree,you can be loyal and still be divorced
@@Mel__21 💣💣💣💣💣💣
I thought it was a mistake...but being the loyal person that I am I stuck it out. Turns out...my husband is way more mature than I am. I'm more in love with him today, than we we first got married. I had to grow a little and allow him to lead. I thank God for my husband.
This is so true. I thought I fell in love when I was 18. He proposed to me a year after being together. But things when south. He lied. He cheated. He had a drinking problem. We had a kid. I stayed with him for 9 years. And I left him.
I think most people know BEFOREHAND but are so DESPERATE to get married that they go through with it or they already bought a dress and a venue and sent out invitations so they can’t go back.
Book Bag yep and they get embarrassed so they just go along with it
Its Lit exactly. I think every relationship and engagement should be very slow where you take your time instead of rushing.
Yup, I agree.
Book Bag I think people should take their time with relationships but I don't think engagements should be slow. I think you shouldn't ask someone to marry you until you are truly 100 percent ready.
EXACTLY!!
I knew the moment they got this show... you could tellll from a mile away they werent gonna last... Jeannie was too different, wanted a different life.
😭😭😭
welp, jeezy went from saying he was a good judge of character to filing for divorce after 2 years of marriage.
I was married 15 years, at 13 years I knew it was over, but kept trying to work it out cause like Jeannie I was loyal as hell! Thank God it's finally over.
Both Jeannie and her ex’s time was wasted. I understand wanting to make it work but that’s 10 years gone that you won’t get back.
It’s not wasted time, it’s life lessons that have shaped both of them. You could say they could’ve been with someone else but they’d be living completely different lives. Different not necessarily better
LadyChaos101 true but maybe they could have parted amicably. If you know in your gut that it won’t work out why wait? 🤷🏾♀️ We can never know the path we didn’t take but why ignore your intuition?
Yep, completely wasted.
@@chamab.6800 It's a little thing called denial, plus you have a hope that things will start to change and both partners recognize their rhythm so to speak. Sure she can't get those 10 years back, but she can make things a lot better now for herself.
Not wasted. You grow even in a bad situation.
I think a lot of times women know it during the courting stages as well but they want to keep going forward with someone who is completely wrong for them.
I love that lip color on jeannie😍
Also, I'm so happy I never got that feeling in the first year of my marriage. I see me with my hubby, for LIFE!!
This hit home. I remember in my past relationship if I can tell the story. He had an ex that he was always catering to. One night he even left me in the house to go help her came back around midnight. I was boiling inside. I'm not the confrontational type. I didn't say anything. I could nt slp that night. I remembered the good and bad list from Tyler's movie. Woke up to write down. The good was more than the bad so I continued with the relationship. 5 years later we've graduated we are working. I become the last activity on his list of to do things. I barely see him we barely talk. Now I know he wasn't cheating and he loved me but I think being in love with me was what was missing. I'm thinking we are at a stage where we should be talking kids and marriage. I bring up the conversation and he start listing so many things why he can't. And it finally dawns on me he is not really that into me. We break up and how he behaved around the time before and after made me realize I never even knew him. I fell in love with the idea of what I thought he was. He is not a bad guy but he is not behaving like the guy I knew. I remember Jeannie said it best . He said Freddie said people will only show you their truly colors when they no longer need or want you.
Am I the only one who think that sometimes she's just too...real!?!LoL I know it's the real but I sometimes think that she should keep some things private!!! That's real and shady!! 10 years and saying that now???
missydomtom I think it’s courageous. There are many women who may be feeling the same way in their current marriages and they feel alone and confused. But if people speak out about it, then suffering women can feel like... you know, I’m not the only person who’s gone through this!
Most people want their marriage to work, so they will stay and hope for the best.
missydomtom yes sis I agree she needs to stop like we have forgotten about it and she is looking shady now
Nah, I don't think so...I don't think she meant it as shade, I think she is just realizing the truth and can now confidently say how she feels
It does feel weird listening to her say this because I also remember when she was married and how happy she was but also I have to remember how easy it is to fake being happy as I've done that myself. I think for her shes using this as her platform to open up, she might not have anywhere else to speak like this
Love the yellow on Jeannie
i must agree, when it comes to my failed 12 and a half relationship, i saw so many red flags , i knew that we're not meant to last in just 1 year, and i always knew that he's not a marriage material, i just kept myself busy with work and family responsibilities, looking back, i wish that i should have listened to my gut feeling then,
i shouldn't have wasted good decade of my life, caring for someone who's selfish
She didn't have this feeling with Jeezy??
Dang that's sad to hear. But they always say your intuition never lies.
Nalucha Shakalima I get it. I dated a guy for a year and knew within months that it wasn’t going to work.
@@McKenzieRain151 What a weak pathetic person you must have been. I hope you have improved yourself since
Steve Pickford I have to tell the truth. The person I was with changed my strong character to a weak one. I wasn’t myself when with him. I am stronger now and learned so much. It has made a better woman. I now know what I want. Lesson learned.
@@McKenzieRain151 Full respect to you then. Sure with that attitude you'll get what you want.
@@stevepickford3004 I don't think it is fair to judge her like that. We've all been in situations where we knew something might not work, but we kept going hoping for the best. In her case (though I don't know her story) maybe she was hoping things would change for the better.
Jeannie is very very dramatic! Sometimes I don’t know if that’s the “real” Jeannie because sometimes she seemed a bit acted/rehearsed.
Yes
The same can apply to the "dating period" of your relationship, you can see the red flags during that time but many fail to see or are in denial and assume oh that person will (Magically) change after the I Do's. That's the point of Dating to learn each other habits, wants, needs and true character so you'll know if they are the right one for you in the long term..
So incredibly true! My intuition was dead spot on and I didn't listen!!!!
Going in with that mindset you'll never give 100% into the relationship
Sometimes you know, but are in denial and don't want to face that it was the wrong person and the wrong reasons for a marriage. I'm proud of Jeannie tho, just for investing in herself now. No she Can't get that time back, but you live and learn and Jeannie is starting to live now. And things will be better in the next relationship.
Thank you. I completely agree. Sometimes we feel and know that it's not right but end up doing it anyway for various reasons. Even when writing a test abd we dont go with our intuition and end up choosing the Wrong answer. Then we are like I knew it. Same thing
I love how raw and real Jeanie is. She is the realest that’s why I love her. I learn so much from her. She speaks with real wisdom ♥️ She’s one of my inspirations I love how strong and brave she is ♥️
After I had my daughter I knew it wasn't going to work out. I refused to have more kids. We divorced 15 yrs later. He was a covert narc living a double life. Had a mistress with 2 kids. It's been 10 yrs since the divorce and I'm happier than ever. Met a great man, going on 2 yrs dating, it's wonderful.
I know women say it's their intuition but honestly men know just as well.
Poor tamera like y'all been together for 10yrs ... like I felt that
Rightttt
Nah . Tamera is shook cos she knows Adam ain't right from jump too but she sticking it out
I can actually relate to Jeannie because I knew that our marriage wasn’t gonna work the day we got married. I saw another side of him I was totally shocked 😳 and I’m still trying to work it out. And in public I just pretend as if we’re doing great. Relationships are complicated
Girl I relate to this whole comment
Yes. Been there too. We live life forward and understand it backwards. Growth.
Me too
Me too
Yes I agree. So much. I resonate! When I tell my gfs that I was married, I was embarrassed to tell people I'm with an alcoholic, he only cares about is car, doesn't work to pay the bills, and freeloading mf. I was unhappy for a long time. We didn't have the same financial goals and I'm like not down for that. Bye.
Divorced for 11/2 now after 10 years of marriage and I can admit to having the “what have I done” thought within the first year!! 💯
When it's not right, you can feel within you and once you have that unsure feeling of the relationship it's best to move on despite what others think; cause other people don't have to live your life. While you're being "fake happy " you're only hurting yourself. Sadly many people are unhappy in relationships and marriages and it's disrupting their inner peace. It's not worth it, pay attention to the signs. I'm glad she spoke about it cause many people needed to hear that. We must learn to protect ourselves first.
See how quick the social media team put this up? Y’all need to do better with the other videos too
Right just messy lol
City dweller got a point later on we'll see another extended clip on this topic, & we'll watch it ☻
City Dweller facts
This is America I agree
Fr they need to hire me I’ll be sitting right there with Jamal....
I knew before the wedding. 9 years and 3 kids later and ready to leave.
I’m sure couples who died together felt it wasn’t going to work many times... my grandparents are the “happily married for 50 years” we think awhhh... but found out later all the hell they went through to get there.
Marriage is work and a lot of forgiving and accepting
A lot of forgiving and accepting that is so true. I got divorced after three years of marriage and my ex was not forgiving always bringing up past arguments making it impossible to move forward.
People aren’t willing to do the work, that’s what. Some marriages have genuine abuse and neglect. That’s different. Nowadays they wanna divorce because it doesn’t feel good to them anymore. Just break their covenant, like it’s nothing.
felt - knew: 2 ends of a spectrum
If I was in a relationship and that person cheated on me I would leave.
I still remember the clip where Freddie met Mama Mai for the first time in Vietnam. Jeanie said she knew Freddie was the one then lol.
JackGeezy hindsight 20/20. Rose colored glasses are definitely a thing.
& Tamar said the same about Vince when they were eating chicken sandwiches. 🤷🏽♀️
@@calm_b4thestorm582 oh my damn
Maybe there is no "the one" there is the one for that particular moment as you grow and change they also change and maybe that change is not aligned
@@chichizamba2112 yes cause I was sure my guy bestfriend was the one for me. He felt the same way too but I broke it off after a few months of dating because I just wasn't happy with the "relationship him" I realized It was much better when we were just best friends.
I've never been married so I appreciate Jeannie sharing her experience. Atleast for women like myself I'll know to trust my intuition in the very beginning 👌🏾 thanks Jeannie ♥️
Within the 1st year of dating I knew I was never going to marry my boyfriend and I ended up dating him for 8 years. Why!? Beats me!! 🤔🤭🙄
This is me 😪
@@Claudia-yc8xk yeah. It’s no good. I pray to teach my daughter better. My ex waited for me to change my mind and I knew I was never going to. That’s no good for either end
I've been married 15 years to someone I absolutely adore and I would take caution in considering these comments conclusive. I have heard of many people who felt this way at the outset but turned out beautiful successful marriages. One must remember that the first year may be a trying time to decide whether it will last or not as the first year's r the years of adjustment and adaptation to each other... They have never been framed or regarded as easy years in marriage... Just thinking.
I really needed to hear that. Thanks 😊
You are absolutely right, I'd say the first 2 years are shaky, but if both are in it for each other and loyal, it's gonna turn out great...
Stacy Maddocks this is also true.
If you see red flags in the beginning you should run, you shouldn’t stay just to give the relationship time to blossom. Warning signs are there for a reason.
Iz4 yes i agree red flags like abuse, unfaithfulness, disrespect or a lack of commitment should not be tolerated in a marriage! Marriage is supposed to b a safe place.
I’m dying of laughter because every person has doubts somewhere along the line, and many don’t get divorced. Looking back they feel like they knew it, but they couldn’t have unless they are Raven from that’s so Raven.
R.i.p !!
Adrienne looks GORGEOUS! She has a glow! I wonder if she’s expecting.
Nucola Joyner I see Botox girl
@@onajitephilips8252 true
UA-cam is real shady recommending this now👀 I’m happy for Jeannie tho. Her and Jeezy are perfect
Agree 1000% I remember having the thought while driving to my wedding I shouldn't do this. Was seperated 8 months later
It's true Jeanie, I knew after the first month and my marriage lasted 2yrs. It's hard to believe what your heart is telling you sometimes. Thanks for being real!!
I'm not surprised at all. If you listen to jeannies stories about her ex when they were together and how she wasn't ready to marry, and how she was ok living in different cities from him for years, it was only a matter of time. I think she was too proud to admit it and thats why the marriage dragged on for so long.
Honestly every relationship is work. Every person has flaws that someone might be considered a red flag for some. This is why rushing into marriage is not a good idea.
Being in the same situation as Jeannie is comforting because you realise you’re not alone in the pain and confusion you’re going through. What she said is absolutely right. Within the first 6months after getting married he showed his true colours but I continued to forgive him and Like Jeannie, I was loyal to a fault. I’m now fresh out of a divorce he instigated, and trying to figure out who I am now and what I want because I didn’t realise how much of myself I’d lost In him. I wish I had her confidence because I’m am struggling. I appreciate Jeannie’s openness so much.
You will be alright. Healing takes time. You are on the right track
Bianca Lord thank you💕
I don't know what to believe. When married Jeannie and Freddie were happy. Not all that glitters is gold. I want to know what the red flag was.
It's the negativity in their heads that cause that. Speak life into your situation!! 💯
Tamera😭😭😭😭😭😭.. "y'all were married for ten years"... tamera stooop😅
She's so damn goofy
Because every person who stays married also has those feelings. Hindsight always 20/20.
But doesn't every newly wed want to get divorced the first year? People don't mesh together automatically.
Not necessarily. I think she was more or less referring to the fact that sometimes there is something fundamentally wrong in the relationship. Not so much the little petty things that annoy you about your partner the first year.
when adriennes says she heard from people she means one person
To Be Honestly lmaoo
And that one person was Jeanie 🤣
Lmaoooooooo
You don’t know her friends so back off. She might have other friends we don’t know about.
@@edealobe-manga4893 ew, it was a joke you weirdo.
I know exactly what she is talking about.... I was with my x partner for 10 years, I knew before we got together we weren’t going to last because I saw the signs early. He had no job and I’ve had to support him for 5 years while he was home smoking up my money. Towards the end once I was fed up and voiced my concern, this fool put his hands on me. It’s not as easy to just say “leave” especially if you’ve invested so much financially towards the home.
Were you married?? Being with someone is not the same as being married. If he did not want to work and you had to support him, you already knew he was not the right person.
Marriage is a commitment to keep choosing to love that person each and every day especially on days it’s hard to like them. It’s not going to be easy and yes you will be tested to the core but if two people truly love each other, they will do whatever they can to get through it. There’s no happily ever after, at the end of the day, it’s 2 imperfect being choosing love again and again…. I have been married for 28 years now and there were very hard days. Divorce was not going to be an option, murder many times yes!!! Lol
This is very true. I knew 3 days after I got married that I didn’t want to be married anymore to him. I left at year 4.5. And got divorced exactly a year later. Never again will I settle for less than what I deserve.
So before you got married you didn't see this coming?
Yakhanna I was 19 years old. I didn’t see anything coming. But I knew very early on I made a mistake and wanted out.
At least you were young and got out after a few years. You learned from this experience and grew from it.
I could see it when he came on the show...I’m not surprised...I’m glad she’s happier now
You are SO RIGHT!!! I knew I made a mistake the first frigging week! I got out 5 yrs later after separating and reconnecting,so at least I can say I gave it all I had.
I feel jeanie... I knew within the first 1-2 months me and my ex would not work out but I stayed for over a year and a half. Thankfully we weren’t married so it wasn’t that serious. But still. Now I will listen to my intuition. That relationship completely destroyed my mental health and I had to deal with anxiety and depression which is something I have never dealt with in my life.
I have some compassion for Freddie as well. He looked a nice guy and was often praises by all the ladies. I guess things just weren't meant to be.
Dude he seemed too country.
I think he told her that he wanted to have children knowing that she didn't and he reiterated that a year into their marriage; that's probably what she's talking about without saying.
Ive learned just bc it looks nice...doesnt always mean IT IS!! Its that appearance...can be deceiving!
by why shade him now cause dude found a new love and has a kid?
@@JCALRADIO because he started working on his family while he still was with jeanie
I knew it was doomed when she said she wasn’t ready when he proposed
Totally feel her on this!! I think we do know early on- on some level. I know I did also... but I ignored what my gut was telling me and wrote it off as just anxiety attacks😔. I was also too young and inexperienced in life and love. I too am loyal to a fault and try to see the good in the situation. I tried to be grateful for the positive aspects and what we DID have for so long. If your marriage was a healthy romantic connection to start, then do your best to save it. I will tell anyone that. But if something is truly wrong/missing on a fundamental level, it’s best to move on. For the sake of your happiness. And the happiness of your partner.
So real I was married for 10yrs and I knew it that I was going to end in divorced why we do this s to ourselves is still a mystery to me 🤐
Jeannie and Freddie got divorce, Freddie moved on first even have 2 babies.. his gf is still just a baby mama. Jeannie moved on later got married to a man who’s more affluent within a year and is now freezing her eggs and in therapy. She won. AND Jeannie is pregnant with the man she thinks is right and feel safe, Freddy calling her trash shows the kind of person he is. Yaiks
The true colors show during a divorce
EVERYONE I know, not just divorced couples, think in their first year of marriage that they made a mistake. This is because after the honey moon stage, you get to really know the person and sometimes it is not what you expected. So you guys should chill a little with intuition story. 🙄
Ikr
Lol agree. I think she probably means like values and morals cld have been the signs. But my mom wanted to ship my dad back to his family after the first yr 😂😂😂😂😂 is common. The manners are different, the cleanliness..... many things
Adaeze's Space so true! Through thick and thin, sickness and health and bla bla ... marriage isn’t easy. It’s not glitter and confetti all the time. Before I married my husband I knew what I was getting into. And how I and we can both help one another, grow, laugh, mature ... commit. Fortunately, these were correctable things and we were always open about everything. Been married 10 years and I love that man so much!! We have our days but most of the time it’s been great! I’ve never lived with him before getting married so when we finally did it felt like we were dating again lol. Because of certain habits or styles we are figuring out and we work that out.
If the red flags are there before marriage ... yes definitely follow that. But also be wise before you do say I do. Marriage is a commitment, and divorce for certain circumstances... certain (I.e. adultery, abuse, .... a lil few more)
A. Banana Intuition isn’t just a feeling! It’s usually based on observations you’ve made subconsciously but your conscious mind hasn’t pieced together yet...for example, you walk into a coffee shop and immediately think ‘something’s off here’, it’s because out of the corner of your eye your brain/subconscious mind noticed that there is something shady happening in the corner but your conscious mind hasn’t put it all together yet. That’s why people say to always trust your gut/intuition, it picks up things that your conscious mind hasn’t yet...like you’re walking home late at night and there’s a shadow in front of you, your subconscious mind recognizes the shadow isn’t yours so your intuition warns you that something is off but your conscious mind hasn’t recognized you’re being followed yet. True intuition is a warning you should listen too.
You can search up Carl Jung and the Myers-Briggs explanations of intuition.
It’s not like a moment where you have doubts, it is a constant, consistent feeling that something find wrong that won’t go away. Most ppl honestly have that BEFORE they get married but hope that over time it changes.
Everybody feels that way in the first year of marriage. Commitment is more than your feelings.
Marriage can get hard
Facts. Love and commitment do not equal feelings.
Many have it mixed up!
@@LadyK007 can you explain this more im young but i want to understand cus everytime i hear this type of stuff about marriage it makes it sound really scary. i have never dated anyone so i have no experience. im 22
No. They do not.
Intuition is everything and I swear by it I know when a person playing me or really just not right for me but I have a habit of trying to not go so fast but hell nah I ALWAYS am right never fails.