Sadistic Personality Types - Explosive Sadism
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- Опубліковано 13 бер 2022
- Sadism can be characterised by the desire to hurt others, whether verbally or physically for self pleasure and gratification. Theodore Millan suggests there are four subtypes if sadistic personality, and in this video Darren Magee outlines one of those subtypes, Explosive Sadism.
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Could this be frontal lobe damage?
The old story: the boss abuses the husband. The husband abuses his wife. The wife abuses the kid and the kid abuses the dog.
And anyone who initiates the initial negative experience is ultimately responsible for all the crap that happens as a result, the trickle down effect. All that negative karma is back on the originator.
No matter how often I was abused, I never once abused our dog. Quite the opposite in fact, I did everything I could to protect our dog including picking our dog up and running out of the house with her so she couldn't get abused.
You can have the living $hit beat out of you, for no reason, and still NOT become an abuser.
@@le_th_ I agree, constantly got shit on by other people as a kid and I never (I think) felt I needed to take it out on others
@@le_th_ well said
Reminds me of the sadistic psychopath blonde character in the show DEVS
This can be terrifying I assure you. Been there and ran from the raging explosive narcissistic psychopath.
I experienced this kind of behaviour after revealing I intended to go into management. All I was met with was "why are you copying me?" Bearing in mind I've been in the transport trade for 20 years and actually helped motivate my friend out of a rubbish jobless situation and into the trade I'm in.
He also threw shade all over the idea while at the same time claiming he's got more experience and would be a better suited candidate for the job then me. Its like you set them off and they will not stop until you have broken down by insulting, saying your lying, gaslighting and allsorts. It's like they are a hologram and you just cannot engage with them as they will shape-shift from bully to victim, they concentrate on insignificant details change it slightly and run with it 🤯🤯🤯🤯
Very interesting video. This describes my father, I think he has co-morbidity with bipolar disorder.
Great video....thank you. I'm dealing with some that need me as a scapegoat. They make decisions for me, that I am not allowed to speak. They make decisions that THEY MAKE ALL DECISIONS FOR MY LIFE. I escaped....but they always come back and try a new/different way.
I hope u can REALLY escape to the point of having zero contact, IF that’s what u need. For the most part, people don’t change.
Ah yes, the sudden rage from nowhere, I recognise that now. Goes back to childhood. Then one day, I'm about 48 and had recently moved back home after a terrible experience, I was called into the house and bellowed at for treating the place and my mother like it was a hotel and her my servant. Very interesting. He grabbed me round the neck and pushed me against the wall, that was new. Then dragged mum upstairs by the hair and back of her shirt. I called 999, he now says it didn't happen like I said. I asked why was he arrested and cautioned then? He didn't like that.
Years roll by, I'm mum's carer, she has dementia. I was instructed to upturn a box with rubbish in it. I declined until I fixed the box first. I get yelled at 'do as you're told, I'm your father' yet again I refuse. Next thing, I'm against a wall staring at a red face and a clenched fist. I invite him to hit me as he obviously wanted to. I dared him. I invited him outside, toe to toe. I took my glasses off. He is an ex middle to heavy weight boxer, I a tall, slim 60 year old woman. He backed down. I believe he knew I had no fear of any broken bones as I didn't care if I lived or died by that point. I already knew I was worthless and all that. Now, I know I am better than he was or will ever be. I am liked, I am smart, I am a survivor. I maintain zero contact. He means nothing to me, no emotion at all, just a man. I waste no energy on negative attitude, I'm rebuilding my life and future. The only remenance is, I've lost my sparkle, not interested in anything, even the new home I am buying with the money my solicitor won off him. I'm lazy and procrastinate, self sabbotage. That will return as I start to regain control and have stand on my own two feet instead of waiting for his best advice, to do as I'm told or do nothing.
My advice, anyone whether direct family, maried, partner, whatever. Even if you have children, GET OUT, DON'T LOOK BACK. You must become whole to be the best person you can. Learn to love yourself, see your worth. Only then will you be any use to others.
Wow, what a monster.
And he claims you treated your mom like a servant yet he himself dragged her like a doll upstairs..disgusting.
@@Brxwn9 now I have zero family as he has persuaded everyone, including my mothers side that I am the bad one for getting solicitors for a settlement from her will, which I saw, while stating he was sole benefactor. Despite proof he transferred all her capital into their joint account prior to her death without permission. A wealthy man who simply wants complete control or woah betide anyone who dares cross him, daughter included.
I respect you for that toe to toe thing you said to him 😂 brilliant response to highlight his ridiculousness I love it.
This is exactly what I think my sister used to do. Specially when I stopped reacting to her shit. She’d lose it more and more often. I am convinced that she kept tabs on how much she dominated me and got angry when she didn’t achieve it. Over time she became undeterred. She didn’t stop until she achieved what she wanted. But I stopped talking to her suddenly. I think she lived for inflicting pain within our family of origin. She enjoyed it!! Quite an amazing thing to witness in a lifetime. Who the hell behaves like that?? I still cannot believe it and so I watch these kinds of videos because I’m still in disbelief. Also, I don’t talk to her anymore and I don’t want to either.
Great video again. I’m glad to see your subscribers are increasing. 😊
I have sadistic explosive behaviour but I do not gain any pleasure. I have BPD n from what I understand I'm a psychopath. It's actually distressing. I have no option but to live my life completely isolated from others as they are at risk.
But apparently I lack empathy. I believe I am dissociating. My behaviour is completely different from the person I want to be. I have values and morals, it's really very ego dystonic. Only in a psychopathic / dissociative state is when I can justify anything. I can only explain psychopathy to you as TRUE freedom. When in this state all laws, rules, civilization, morals are lost. One escapes from human mind and reverts back to lizard and animal mind. It's not a nice place to be but I believe all people, even ones with disorders act and think the way they do for survival. If I wasn't like this id probably be dead by now. We are all trying to survive.
I experienced this with a narc ex once. We were mountain biking in an area I didn't know. All seemed to be going well until he inexplicably and out of the blue exploded into a rage, and just took off and left me there alone. I couldn't for the life of me understand what the hell I had done to deserve that rage. It was very scary, and I was left to figure out how to get back to his house as it was his bike I was riding. I can't remember what happened afterwards, as I had been traumatized by it
Classic narcissistic rage
Run away from people like this. You can't change them. Find someone mature not a Child.
Happened to me once with an ex while out cycling! We were on a public road so we couldn't be side by side, so i happened to be the one in front of him all the way. When we got back to his house he absolutely exploded that I always 'wanted to be better' than him, always 'wanted to be ahead' 'showing off I was fitter' blah blah blah. I was completely shocked and just left the house quietly and cycled back home, although it was very late at night. After a few days of silent treatment he crawled back and apologised but I was always on eggshells after that in case it would happen again and I did notice that there were times I knew he was just about able to contain himself if he perceived that something nice had happened in my life e.g. I won a very small sum of money on a lottery card and he just couldn't bring himself to say that's great, well done etc. I couldn't contemplate a future together feeling like that so thankfully I had the courage to let him go.
So glad u wrote this. I was with a real maniac & his behavior was similar.
Wow. I remember mine laughing at me after I got scared one time on our honeymoon. We too were in the woods. I didn't quite know what to make of it. Who are these creatures?
Yes, I've seen this in individuals with both NPD and BPD. It can be absolutely PTSD-inducing it's so explosive.
Excellent explanation, very clear and concise. TY.
Evil has many faces.
Thank you Darren :)
I just joined your Patreon.
Thank you. Very helpful.
Somehow it come to me that this behaviour if often found in rigid feminist personalities. Feminists that belittle everything that men do.
Yes. But they’re even worse towards women they envy.
Thanks for the info
Been there done that, walked on eggshells for many years with narc ex.... Scary times but thankfully no more 👍😀😀
Fantastic content 👍👍👍
The irony of people with narcissistic personality disorder, combined with tendencies toward explosive sadism is found in their conflicting desires. They seek pleasure in others' suffering, exert control through inflicting pain, humiliation, acts of aggression, and violence, all while craving attention, validation, and reassurance. When these people have an anxious attachment style commonly associated with fear of abandonment, their sadistic behavior repels others, leading to further isolation and loneliness for the narcissistic sadist, ultimately fueling their anger. And this creates a self-destructive and relentless cycle.
Gonna ask my therapist about this tmr so interesting great vid
my foster dad was running after one of my brothers with an axe.
Thank you.
If you are a man and you think you might have this. And you are with a girl that you know you don't want to be with. But dont want to hurt her feeling s or deal with it. Just leave her now before the next explosion.
Key is to identify the cause(s) of explosive sadism and construct a path to intervention.
IF someone is self-aware & motivated to change, your idea is great, however, The explosive sadist that I know very well, that hit me in the face as hard as he could, has zero interest in change. He absolutely would not pursue the why of his narcissistic behavior. He believes his abuse is normal, after all, he grew up with it, and is happy with himself. The key is to stay far far away from this class of people.
Faulty brain development?
You can’t fix pathological
Does Explosive sadism Personality Disorder run in families more often which live in industrialized nations which have a well funded military infrastructure in which authoritarian style parenting is being practised more often too only because of nurture instead of nature while men who have been conscripted into the military are from time to time coming back from war suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder like changes in their personalities after they have suffered a series of trauma to their central nervous systems during the war? Since a lot of us human being learn a lot while being socialized through imitation of others than maybe only an inheritable genetic predisposition to contributing factors like Asthma, any condition which could contribute to someone experiencing frequent anxiety be the most logical kind of explanation as to why the human race now has people in it who like to cause suffering in other human beings ever since the days of Cain and Abel?
What if you've observed and experience behaviors that align with BPB, narcissism, psychopathy, paranoia, and elements of sadism? What the hell is it if they fit everything. He definitely fit everything in this video and much much more
What is the difference between Intermittent Explosive Disorder and this disorder?
You do a good job or explaining however your examples have a negative spin and I believe it doesn’t accurately represent how someone feels when exploding . I belive I have ASPD & BPD and can relate to what you are talking about however you need to look at injustice , society and stigma
Yep, that was him.
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I know an explosive sadistic sociopath. The most evil subhuman I’ve ever met that literally sucks the air out of any room they walk into. The only peace you will have in a relationship with these people is when they are far away.
I disagree that the people who are similar to those with Borderline personality disorder are sadists. They don't enjoy aggression. They just can't control anger or are too sensitive to provocation. And they wouldn't necessarily hurt an innocent person for pleasure.
Explosive sadists do it to take their anger off of other people, and make people feel the same pain they did. Their anger is usually victimed to a specific someone.
Explains me now.
What category is sexual sadism?
It’s probably in it’s own category.
Paraphillic category i think
As an adult i have a sadistic behavior that’s what my brother, friend tell me....That i have a sick mindset which it can shock some people how i talk and expose myself...I also lack empathy....I just say to them ‘’I am
Indifferent’’ I did abuse people for my own pleasure gain when i was 25-28 not going to lie about that i use to be sadistic....But by age 32 i don’t abuse people anymore...I still show sadistic behavior but it’s in control without the harming people..I just shared my sadism. I think sadism is part of genetic condition and learned trait from environmental issues i think...No one knows what it cause i still have no clue how i became one....My theory is i was born with this sadism but duo environmental issues my genetic condition just popped out such as getting snapped and became
indifferent, sadistic person....I wasn’t abused by my parents by the way, I love my parents, brother out of this circle i don’t give a rat ass 🤷♂️ no offensive to people it’s not you it’s me. I just tend to not feel their pain when they get hurt 🤷♂️
Pay special attention to Gods Law. Learn them!
The great thing is that you recognize & take responsibility for how you feel. I too believe genetics & environmental factors play a role in personality. There’s a cool little book called “Whatever happened to Justice”. The author writes about 2 rules to live by: 1. Harm No one or their property, and 2. Do what you’ve agreed to do.
@@janetpattison8474 yep well said.
Thank you.
Does Explosive sadism Personality Disorder run in families more often which live in industrialized nations which have a well funded military infrastructure in which authoritarian style parenting is being practised more often too only because of nurture instead of nature while men who have been conscripted into the military are from time to time coming back from war suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder like changes in their personalities after they have suffered a series of trauma to their central nervous systems during the war? Since a lot of us human being learn a lot while being socialized through imitation of others than maybe only an inheritable genetic predisposition to contributing factors like Asthma, any condition which could contribute to someone experiencing frequent anxiety be the most logical kind of explanation as to why the human race now has people in it who like to cause suffering in other human beings ever since the days of Cain and Abel? Can Borderline Personality Disorder in an adult be sometimes the result of trauma to the brain which could be successfully treated now that medical experts believe that regions in our brains do heal if there is enough of those regions left intact only it heals slower after we reach adulthood and slower yet if the adult has any other undiagnosed condition like COPD too along with trauma to the brain. I wonder if sometimes conditions go undiagnosed due to the interference of insurance companies covering things like compensation for veterans who have been injured during war time.
You’re absolutely right. Our war culture in the US does have an effect. A study proved not long ago that the far right extremism is directly related to US wars. The negative destructive fallout. Like Vietnam, Iraq, Iran, Afghanistan and more. Perhaps vets & others see how truly devastating war is, and for what? In Vietnam more than 3 million civilians died, and our servicemen suffered through those times. More vets committed suicide after serving in the Vietnam war than those killed in service or combat. EFT, or emotion freedom technique (great teachers on YT), and EMDR are both being used to help vets, among other alternative things like Ketamine.
For what I know, PTSD was first known as shell syndrome. The studies starter after the WWI with the 1000 miles stared.
I also think that BPD is a type of extreme complex ptsd in most cases but I am not a therapist.
I also think BPD is frequently misdiagnosed with depression-anxiety syndrome or bipolar mainly and there's either a bias or the common, normalized abuse of women which is historical and still present because most people with BPD are women.