This Is What The Narcissist Never Thought You Would Do That Makes Them Regret Until They Die | NPD
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I sure did WIN . Packed and left while he was at work . I planned it for 8 months under his nose . Saved money and had a place to go . He came home one day and I was gone after 24 years of marriage . Got divorced and oh happy day . Never looked back . Sooooo happy and blessed . 🙏❤️❤️❤️
I am so glad for you. I am also planning my way out. I need enough money and income for my 2 children and me. Then i will rent a space and we are gone.
Excellent!
My grandma did that, 100 years ago. Whilst hubby was at work, she organised some removalists, and cleared out, leaving him ONE of every item.
One sheet, 1 pillow, 1 blanket, 1 face flannel, 1 towel.
One plate, knife, fork, spoon, cup, saucer etc etc. Lol.
Imagine the shock he got!
Well done I wish I had left sooner as this thing I was living with took the best years of my life.
24 years. How many years were bad.?
@@ThePlataf..😂😂wow!!
My Mum, 2 brothers, two husbands and now my two adult children were/ are narcissistic! My life sad and chaotic. I'm 66, alone and happy with Jesus and cat! God bless all victims!
I’m so sorry you’d had to endure this kind of abuse,, I suffered from my mother’s abuse until she passed away two years ago. Like you I’m healing through Jesus and educating myself for any future onslaught from anyone who may cross my path. God bless you and stay strong dear, you win in the end with Jesus by your side.❤❤❤
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Lived in a narcisistic marriage for seven years and was left behind - thought that all of it was my fault and I nearly wore myself out with selfblame aftrwards. Sure it was a slow and painful leaning proces
This kind of relationship can never be equal.
Oh my! I could not handle one narcissist and you had to deal with 7!! I can only say a silent prayer for you. I cannot even imagine the suffering you have endured 😢
@sueroberts6193 - I am in a similar situation.
And we end up deeply regretting ever meeting them in the first place.
Regret nothing it’s a lesson learn and do better ❤
I don't regret the narcissists I've met.
They have taught me how to become a better version of myself.
It is an experience, we live for experience. They are good people in this world and bad...
How do I get past all of this?
@JeannaCarson-kkI I had to learn to regulate my emotions. I'm still working on it. My narcississt is our adult daughter. I made plenty of mistakes. Overcompensated for disabilities she suffered from vaccines. I'm the one who took her to the pediatrician. We did everything we could to help her, and she recovered a lot, but was left with physical and emotional deficits. I tried to love her better, but I made the mistake of hardly ever saying no. I spoiled her, I knew she had become selfish but chalked it up to being an only child, she would grow out of it. But she didn't, she wouldn't even share a bite of a favorite food with me,her mom. Then as a teen we gave her more time to grow emotionally, she didn't. I read books, talked to experts, gave her more time. She screwed up in high school and lost her chance at scholarships. So we paid for her to go anyway. She met her future husband and dropped out after 1 year. We gave her a wedding on a line of credit on our house, and we should have never done that. She only appreciated things for the moment. We didn't realize saying yes when we should have said sorry our budget didn't make it possible wouldn't ever make her be kind to us. I helped with the babies, they had two wonderful boys until my health wouldn't let me. Then we had the 09 financial crisis and had to relocate because my husband lost his job. She said we abandoned her and blamed her dad.. critiqued our financial decisions and raged at us in texts and phone calls. We were devastated. I loved her so much, but it was ruining both of our health. Now she has accused us of being the narcissists, telling her delusions to extended family, anyone who will listen. The latest is she told me if I want to come visit she would see me but not her father. I decl8ned because I'm still trying to recover from se autoimmune conditions, and cancer. But was protecting her from the seriousness. So she has all but cut contact with me. I'm trying to just heal and live and let live. I accept I may love her but I no longer trust my heart to her. She had ruined all the happy memories for us to we second guess every word we text, my husband leaves the room if she calls because he finds it difficult to listen to me trying so hard to placate her while she is rude and angry on her end of the conversation. It is heartbreaking.
Absolutely true you hit the nail on the head. If you’ve escaped you won. If you’re still stuck in a relationship get out no matter how hard it is you have to do it. It is literally like escaping from hell, that should be your motivation. No one wants to stay in hell. I wish all of you that I’ve been through narcissistic relationships, healing, and patience, and just understand that the processing works slowly you can survive this and you will. 🙏
Some people can't leave at times. There are many reasons.
Thank you so much for the positive reaction🎉
Dude your profile pick is alarming to people on acid.
True. Been out 3 months. Makes the last 15 years seem like I was in hell like you say.
Ok then I'm going to lose my car and will have to live in a tent! I may have to get rid of my beloved 2 emotional support cats too. I'm trying to get a job that will pay the bills and my car payment. What is the lesser of two evils? If I play my cards right . . . .I can stay until I have the resources. A domestic violence advocate wants to help me get an injunction. But he lives here and then it's game on because he is vindictive. Some victims cannot leave until there ready and that's a fact. I Will start a "go fund me" how does that sound?
I don’t think a narc has any regrets because everything they do is right!
They DO regret loosing a good supply. They enjoy USING PEOPLE.
Fax
My x suggested that we should separate, I agreed. He suggested that we should stop trying, I agreed. Then he lost his mind. I wasn't supposed to agree. I was supposed to beg and plead to come back. Problem was, I was way happier alone. Then he villainized me and turned our mutual friends against me. It was hard, but it was all OK. They weren't real friends. Years later, now that the x is dead, I have had some of these x friends reach out to me. Sorry, you chose your side and made your bed. I don't need you.
You are so on point. Make new friends.
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I doubt they need you either they were just being nice. You sound bitchy
My ex broke up with me and I just moved out. She then accused me of never having loved her and said I agreed too easily. This was after multiple discards and so much devaluation.
They don't regret!!! They just go on to some other unsuspecting lemming. Prayers up for the weak🙏
If they ever circle back to you, they didn’t find what you gave them in their new supplier. That’s the regret they endure.
No weak, just not knowing
@@t.mooreyewknow7996 months later.
So VICTIMS of NARCs are lemmings? You are a narcissist evil 😮😮
I wouldn’t say “weak” at all. I would say “empathetic and unsuspecting.” I was the scapegoat of a very narcissistic family and went NC with all of them 11 years ago. I stayed way longer than I should have - but that’s because I had no idea what I was dealing with …. until I did.
The way we defeat the narcissist is. We continue to spread the word about these people and what they do and how they do it.
Was married to a narc.
38years of a narcissistic devil, was living in hell and I'm beginning to realize how bad it was for me.
I will never look back and I will never forgive for all of the abuse I've suffered 😢❤😊
@@freedoms-bv4gt Same here! In fact , I am more motivated than ever before to dedicate the rest of my life to defeating narcissists
No one will listen, they need to learn the hard way
@alexharrel We cant honesty say that's true for everyone. It all starts by informing.
The best thing i did was go no contact. I just wish i had done it years sooner
I had to go no contact myself, she was destroying me.literly..
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Same here even if I’m having his child seven days after the break up he has a new supply
I understand. Took me 14 years before I went No Contact! Once I did, I felt deeply relieved!
Eep! Same! Still being stalked but hoping his obsessive behavior fades ugh!
He never thought that i became so strong after he left! 💪 tries to come back for years but… no way! 😅
My dad came back, my mom just passed a couple months ago. Shame.
So 😔 sad. Stand Firm. ❤
I just got out! Praise the LORD HALLELUJAH!!!!!! PRAISE THE NAME OF JESUS!!!!!!❤
Omg listen , listen please listen get out! Get out!!! OMG
i just did too... 4wks ago
it's traumatizing but i am confident and God has life for me
SHE WILL NEVER ABUSE ME AGAIN, I WALKED & HEALED, BUT I WILL NEVER FORGET !!
The only way to get back at a narcissist is to pray Psalms for them to our loving Creator. I have experienced it. God says he is my defender, and he is. It's very satisfying to live and experience God's protection.
I agree 💯 Percent 😇🌸🙌🩷🌷🤗
Why pray for this trash, it's such a great gift you give him. Keep your spiritual strength for yourself and your healing
Been there with a narc it was hell please leave go no contact don't fall for the hoover it is all a game with the narc.
Very true 😊
Yes in Jesus name He is my savior protector avenger and defends me
He thought he'd so devastate my finances that I would never bail on him. Big mistake. Huge. I have been blessed with financial help from other sources. No looking back. Always look for other financial resources that the narc cannot hack!
Same.
Same!! ❤🎉
Good for you,mine has tried to take everything but I was Smart by hiding it in billions,I just don't understand why I stayed for so long.
@@charliebrown8678 Most people stay in it because they don't come to realize that they fell in love with an illusion of who they wanted the narc to be and who the narc lead them to believe they were, rather than who they really were. Once that is realized, it becomes easier to look at the situation from more of an objective viewpoint, rather than from an emotional one.
Narcissists do not truly possess the emotional capacity to feel actual regret. They just wonder why you can't see how truly awesome they are and wouldn't listen to their marvelous thoughts and ideas.
Lots of experience with them. Hard to get rid of family, but you learn.
Yes, so true..after 25 years of no contract?.. very happy and have no regrets about leaving him behind...yes!!
Yes you do..look at what is going on now..in Hollyweird? With big names? Like Kim Porter and Casey Ventura?...we are definitely in a sign of the times!!
Hahahaha
What a narc
Demons Straight up Demons 👻🤡👺💩👿👹💀
This is how a co-worker described my former wife - as a succubus (female demon). Fitting description.
She has Cost Me so much in Every respect.A ton of Money , huge amounts! And then there's the enormity of Time Lost and Suffering due to her sick thinking and All the Despair, Suffering, etc. Nothing but Destruction of Everything in her wake!
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My ex-wife would look me in the eye and glare at me in anger, while saying, "I AM EVIL". Clearly she was demon-possessed; however, there were many times she reverted to the woman I first met and married. I loved her deeply, but could never separate her from her "evil twin".
STRAIGHTUP. PHOTOS will show their R eye DARTS out of sync, then returns. Always notice EYEBALLS. The eyes ARE the window to the soul - as it is Written in the Bible. Uncontrollable! Hee hee.
What is a “tiny PE brain?”
Was the creator of this video unable to type the word “pea”into the script that they fed to the soulless AI narration machine?
Not one therapist or friend, who heard me express my frustration attempted to tell me or show me ways I could respond rather than react, so I fed right into it, for decades. The trauma bond was deep. once you learn the truth, there is no turning back. Thank goodness for channels like yours. Thank you Andrew 😉
You can’t respond to it, you just need to get out. There’s no fixing them. There’s no perfect words. They have zero desire to change. You just have to leave. Not for you, but for others who might be reading this thread.
You couldn’t figure it out by yourself???
@@maryanderson2759 Mary, you might want to ask yourself, is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it your place? People here don’t need any more trauma. Stop being a jerk.
I totally agree and sometimes the very one you vent to treat you like you have a victim mentality and you’re at fault. They haven’t a clue what narcissism, love bombing, gaslighting, future faking or what a trauma bond is. Only someone who’s been through this would know. I’ve started the process of becoming freed from a narcissist and your mind will play tricks on you because of the emotional rollercoaster behavior they display. Right now he’s being super sweet, kind, gentle, thoughtful but it’s only an act SCENE 75 to be exact. Fake as hell because as soon as I give in it will turn ugly. So God instructed me to continue to be nice to him BUT follow the process of getting out!!! I was definitely betrayed in this relationship of 10 youthful years of my life.😢 I’ll be fine though with the help of the Lord.❤
@@maryanderson2759 thank you for your understanding. you obviously don’t know much about narcissism and apparently never fell into the trap. I’m
Happy for you. What Happens is you think it’s all your fault, that you just can’t communicate properly when really they have no desire for cooperation, teamwork etc - they want confusion and they breadcrumb enough to keep you confused. All their flying monkeys praise, support and admire the narcissist because they don’t “see” the undermining We all wake up from the fallacy when we finally listen to our instincts and to God.
After all this I’m the Director of my own Life and loving it 14
Years and counting 😇
My resilience is unmatched
Hello Jade it's Dip from India, are you still facing any kind of that ....
I'm just askin
EXAAAACTLY 🙌🏽 The crazy part is that I warned him before he manipulated me to the circus 🤦🏽♀️
Never thought I would leave him after a year of narc abuse. These videos weren't around back in the day 1981-1982. I had no knowledge about NPD these videos are at my fingertips I'm more aware of NPD thanks for sharing your videos they're educational and informative. 👍🏽
Back then the closest thing to information was Carly Simon’s song “You’re So Vain” and narcissism wasn’t entered into the DSM, until, I think 1973. My wife and I were dealing with her parents as a married couple 1978 and on with no clue as to what they were doing until our Restraining Order in 1992. Therapy after that. We remained married until she passed on two years ago.
I am in agreement with you.
Not only will i heal , i am a surviver and, i will survive through God's grace , glory be to God
They don't like being called on their b.s.
Yup. My former mother-in-law and wife are both narcissists, and they either ignored me or became furious when I tried to hold them accountable. They think they're exempt from consequences. News flash - they are NOT! And that includes elderly narcissists!
No they don t !
THATS FOR SURE!!
I was married to a narc for 3 decades and he almost killed me. Draining the life from me every day. He never spoke to me for 12 months except to tell me how useless I was we ha d no intimate relations for 20 years. All the time I was his accountant his maid and his sheff. Nothing more. Except to say his personal punching bag. Emotionally and physically.
He came from hell and the devil himself. I’m so glad that instead of killing myself i flicked him instead. Praise the lord for the courage to stand in the power of faith as that is all I had left. If you’re in a relationship with a narcissistic person. GET THE HELL OUT. and heal. It’s not your fault. Remember they know what there doing. They calculate their every move.
I was doing a lot of very deliberate growing and healing. Looking back, and based on things other people have said, it frightened him. He reacted by jacking up the abuse, until one day he miscalculated and I caught on. I'm out, and right now my life is hard, but it was hard before. I just didn't recognize it. As a friend said, I sometimes struggle to keep my head above water, but that’s been true for a long time. At least now I'm struggling to get somewhere, not just struggling and stuck in one place.
Every time I read comments on these videos, I just wish that there was a place all of us who have been demoralized by these demons could go to heal. Place for everybody there understood the same crap we all endured. It’s really frustrating that only now that I’m leaving him do all my friends and family tell me they never liked him from day one, but didn’t say anything, because it looked like I was happy with him. Really? Such cowards. Is everyone a narcissist? 😂
@dontbeadogsbody3564 "I never liked him from day one" is in the top 10 on the list of dumba** things people say to abuse survivors. Another one is "You've been defending him for years!" (I got that one from my mother. It was hideously funny, in a twisted sort of way. She thought the ex was marvelous until I outed him. She defended my father to the day he died.)
Try calling the National Domestic Abuse Hotline. They can give you resources for domestic violence in your area. There is probably an agency that handles it in your area. They might have support groups and other resources. YES, emotional and narcissistic abuse is considered domestic violence.
If there's nothing in your area, check with the Harriet Tubmam Center in Minneapolis. They do some virtual groups. But check locally first.
Keep healing. You deserve peace.
@annmarieknapp I think I inadvertently gave this a thumbs down! Thank you for this. The "keep going" part is always part of my life, but I had forgotten that I deserve peace. I have spent most of my life in a world that tells me I don't deserve anything. It feels good to have someone tell me I deserve something I want so much.
So true
I was too strong for him...took 20 years to plan my way out....best decision and planning I have ever made.
So true . They can only be described as Pure evil .
Lovely ❤. I am done ✔️, Suffered a lot from that witch. I am living now. Thanks a lot
❤❤❤ 👽💕💕
😢😢😢Hope you keep healing.
Witch and bitch Rhyme for a reason
Just stay strong folks no one is worth get stressed over, life can suck at times but keep laughing.
Heal and shine bright like a diamond and bring awareness to the darkness of the narcissist
It happened to me continually for years and years. He never thought I would be so strong or look him in the eye. He can’t look me in the eye he just punched me! I am still here and he is the fat man who hasn’t moved on, he is nothing!
True! Everything you say is true. God will heal us and allow us to see the narcissist for the people they are. These people are so pitiful, they live the most sad lives and only God can heal them but only if they will allow God in. Lean on God and know that He is our strength! Only God can love us and care for us the way we long for and the way we thought the narc was going to. Once we have God we need no one else.
This is exactly what happens. I did that - 0 contact... so difficult and sad and depressing. But it worked. I am free. True I get sad from time to time but most importantly I am free and it's wirth everything. ❤
bravery is rewarded. keep your heart soft, even from afar, for the hurt child inside these "adults"...they were so abused ...don't let them make you bitter!❤
Wow this hits the nail on the head for me. Mine left when I would no longer give access to my bank account. I also see that he moved on from his ex to me and then kept in contact with his ex. He would never move on from her. I also know he's gotten on dating sites over a year ago but don't think he ever canceled them. Who know who he met from those sites. I've been discarded and of course it's because I'm a terrible person. He's done nothing but lie and make excuses.
Hope they never thought id walk away block them and not look back
Oh, I knew what a narcissist was. I was raised by them. What I didn’t know was the covert. The covert is a different kind of beast. I didn’t know about that particular beast. I feel like that’s the other downfall. People think they know when they don’t. People need to be educated about this. It is detrimental to society
Covert is a lot worse than Overt
@@oldneo4309 Sooooooo much worse! You do not see it clearly until you get out!
Unfortunately my sister never realized she was married to a narcissist and it cost her her life 😢
I just lost my brother to one, I will never forgive her and she will know me, my brother was the kindest, honest, good person ever, she killed him
So sorry. 😢
He tried to kill me in everyday. I said u want to go to war with me not against me Justin!! Well he is learning that now
There is a sicko on me trying ro controll and kill me.
Exactly how I lived, All true, a part of me is broken😭💔🥵healing, processing is hard work, emotions, flashbacks ,so many thoughts,trauma bond🥵🥵embarrassment, they kill steal destroy and vanish is right.
Exactly, 1000% correct on every word, so sad trying to heal. In Jesus name. Dear father God, why do I still think about him why do I still feel something for him I don't know what it is anymore there was a definite shift I don't even know who this person is that I'm married to and that's what makes me so sad I'm not stupid woman how I fell for all of this for 19 years he's legally my husband for 13 now. Separated for 5 cheated, infidelity w a supposed friend of mine as my mom was dying in a different state and I was at her side they were playing groomed me manipulated and lied abandon me 5 months later he calls me up being that I'm so devastated over this loss of my mom and her marriage not having a clue of what was going on he was back in my life in and out back and forth from me to her lying that he was done with her as of this past April blocked it is 10 months he has blocked and was still legally tied I am financially busted broke living in a small studio apartment never live like this before my life besides inflation Play Count Penny's literally Pennies almost everyday but I know the Lord is protecting me and my eyes are wide open I had so many trials and tribulations with this man I did not see it I just had Faith this is our marriage and we took vows and vows I took to heart and spirit I know I said was our marriage is what the Lord intended but I was wrong trauma Bond
You said it "exactly", yes, exactly right. Wow. Thank you. It's such a a blessing to hear that you have complete understanding of it. I appreciate just the fact that you share in the understanding. God bless you.
stop it bro! lol? 100% took me 28yrs to figure this all out by myself. u are the best well rounded explanation of EXACTLY what happened to me & probably to many others as well. kudos. 👌
I did know my person was a narcissist. I am an addictions' counselor and he has experienced serious childhood trauma. I saw the toxic behavour, the dysfunction, the addictions, the self hate, cutting, burning drinking, meaningless sex with multiple women. I tried to help him. I was unable because of the family in my face wanting him to stay the way he was. They were the cause of his problems and childhood trauma and drama. Father, mother and sister are toxic, dysfunctional and encouraged him to keep his addictions. They lived a cultish life, there were no boundaries and everything was acceptable between them no matter what it was. They seemed to have forgotten they were blood relatives. After 8 years I walked away, blocked him, separated with no contact. He had no ambition, was unemployed and a waste of life.
I know exactly what you’re saying and about the family blood thing as my female partner had the same family and I spent years trying to help digging myself in deeper and deeper until I was so lost ,drained and broken and from then on i lived with daily shock and trauma that wasn’t mine to begin with. She didn’t survive her sexual habits and recently passed away and I’m still trying to free myself thinking that there must have been something that I could do to stop her behaviour.I saw where it would end if she kept going down that road but the thrill or importance of destroying me was to inviting. I will never understand how they can do what they do and have no regard for the person that loves them with every inch of their soul
My elderly mother who never said an unkind word about anyone or got in anyone’s business one time said to me. Couldn’t you have found somebody Better?? I knew what she meant.
I am in a narcissistic relationship and have been married to him for 24 or so years... I am disabled and I feel stuck but I have been "separated" from him mentally... I'm 72 and he is 66... he's just recently found my stash of $$$$ and stole it.... but it wasn't all that much... you guys start loving yourself first if you can't get away, your mind will help you❤❤
Oh! my. Get help and get away. Call a women's centre. He won't be there for you anyways when you need him the most.
@@JudyBarrette it's not constant... it's off and on
I am so sorry joan.bless you.
Joan, bless you. Similar here. Take time for yourself to gain moments of calm & peace that will be your legs for going forward. Thank you for reaching out here, come back & keep this lifeline open.
God Bless You!!!! 🙌🏻♥️🙏🏻
Absolutely 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯!!! So very true! Thanks, all Glory to God 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾HALLELUJAH 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I give credit to Johnny Depp. That dude saved me. Thought my ex was an untreated bipolar broad with severe anger management issues. The state took her children, couldn't hold a job, her car was a toilet. Thought I was Angel. Knight in shining armor. Sometimes.... The REST of the time, not so much. Then I watched Johnny Depp and Amber "Turd" on UA-cam. Mine never pooped on our bed, but now I know why my dirty close hamper smelled like tinkle all the time. 🤢
And of course UA-cam, with all their algorithms, brought me around to narcissistic abuse and NPD.
lmao, my story is the same! I was captivated by that as it was unraveling because my wife did many of the same things. I remember my wife saying how much she HATED Amber. I was shocked. I learned alot through that about narcisiits, gaslighting, etc. I even got mad at her a cpl times and called my wife "Ambef" She was livid!
Once he stopped answering my calls as before, I told him I would call him back and never did. I bet he’s still waiting, in dismay. 😅😊😂❤
don’t be fooled johnny is a narc too .
The internet dating world is where most of these narcissister operating. Social media is their main play placer where they do their business
Still healing feel so much better and happier 😅
I didn’t realize I was with a NPD until months after he died. He put me through six years of absolute hell. Yelling screaming lying ruining my credit endless schemes expecting me to pay for. So glad he is gone.
I LIVED and am still ALIVE! Unknown to her she succeeded, and I died, but was raised up and lived. That really pissed her off. She said many times, "I don't know why you're not dead?" & "You should be dead!" she would say with frustration and disappointment in her voice! In the end Yeshua made sure I escaped her further attempts to cause my death. After Yeshua's removal of me to a safe place, I healed and began to discover a lot about her narcissistic self-serving nature and narcissist controls. Lost everything but regained my mind, body, soul and my life. My spirit was made new, Praise Yeshua!
You did it all by yourself with no help, there's only you, you are life
I’m a victim of a narcissistic abusive relationship. In and out of this relationship with the same guy over the last six years. The love bombing, then the devaluing, then the verbal and physical abuse, then the discard.
Then, unfortunately, I got sucked back into the hoovering multiple times with this guy.
He used his great acting and manipulative abilities with alligator tears, crying, begging to coherce $6,000 out of me. Now he’s disappeared again! & I know I’ll never see that money again. I’m so ashamed of myself and very disappointed in him. He said I was his only friend, but I bet he’s already got a new , younger woman lined up to get money out of her. He hasn’t worked in decades. He just love bombs to get money out of women. That’s how he survives. And yes, the Victim card he constantly plays has gotten very old.
Everything that you said in this video is so true! They truly believe in their hearts that they have crushed you and you're never going to be able to get up again but you do get up again and you get up stronger. It is a horrendous journey and I can't even believe I allowed myself to be put through the stuff I went through, but hearing videos like this makes you realize that gas lighting is so much a fact
This is sp bang on I'm devastated but I will be ok.
Thanks to the internet and wonderful videos like these, I only suffered from this devil of a creature for 2 years. It is my sister. I had no idea evil like this existed. My mother suffered from her own child for 25 years, never understanding why she was never enough, why she was never good enough. In the end my mother got dementia, and my devil sister switched over to me for supply. I finally understood what my mother had gone through. My sister kept the abuse of our mother hidden from me for all my life. No longer. I am enlightened. I see you and I know what you are.
I was in long term relationship with a narcissist I give everything I had to her & her kids until she had her next supply lined up , then I was no longer wanted or needed , she even took over the house & it's contents i bought, I'm glad I found God and Christ Jesus they changed my life for the better , I completely forgave her and never looked back.
I pray for her & her new supply on regular basis as Jesus & scripture taught us to do.
All glory to the most high. 🙏❤️
“Lack of education and schooling” JACKPOT!
As sad as an adult falling under a narc’s trap (and it IS), it’s even sadder to be RAISED by a couple of narcs, because you’re groomed to serve them and may not wake up to reality for a long, long time.
So this is lifted from Andrew's UA-cam Channel Narcdaily. Word for word.
Yes, this was a copy from Andrew's UA-cam Channel Narcdaily.
this is right out of my life,
I was in this for 20+ yrs.
and of course I didnt see it till I was on the outside looking in !
Knowledge is power. Applied knowledge is freedom
Yes Sir! Totally correct.
It took me 26 yrs. To figured it out.
Now I'm 63, sick no job, leaving off county aid. No social life, no family because of triangulation by her/narcissist. What's next?
Only God knows!😢
🙌🌷My husband passed away 14 months ago and a couple months ago I hooked up with an old boyfriend from highschool. He's a narcissist 💯 Percent!! Thank God I realized this early after only a couple months. I honestly think im allergic to this person..i get nauseated and want to leave after 5 or 6 hours!! Haven't blocked him yet ive just been answering calls every couple days and politely act very busy. Distancing myself little by little for me is working because it makes me feel better about myself knowing im handling it the way God would want me to with kindness and confidence. Its really hard sometimes when I just want to tell him off but so far so good.
Thank you for all the helpful and encouraging videos you have shared with all of us! God bless you and keep you all safe, healthy, and happy😇🌸🙌🌷🩷
I hooked up with my high school love,and I did truly love her,let her back in the years later and wow what a wake up call,how life changes people, I hope she finds what she is looking for, it was not me I was just a person for her to use. Gl to you.
@@dennyfie Thank you, you too! People in the past need to stay in the past🤗🩷
My life to a T! I didn’t leave when I should have and now at 68, very ill and totally isolated I’m stuck here. At 78 he’s worse than ever. My children are him and alienated me, took my grandchildren away and abused me as much as he does. Please leave if you can. Don’t worry about anyone but yourself.
Wow! You are so right! It is my sister and two ex-husbands! You described everything to a T! My sister always hated me and concentrated on destroying me her whole life because we looked different and she hated when I got compliments! Both exes had her to help destroy me! Today, they are angry that all they have tried, I am still here...Smh....
I've learnt so much from your video's, Andrew. Thank You so much for educating me and helping me understand the 27 years I spent with a narcist. I'm still very effected by my past. It's been 22 years since I started out life of no contact. I realise now and with listening to your video's just how traumatised both my children amd myself were. Thank You so, so much. Kathryn
Yup 5 yrs ago, i am warrior ,& I'm so proud of myself. 🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯💯
I've been told on several occasions my sister must have jealousy toward me. "Why" I asked. Apparently because I'm 13 years younger, slimmer in the physical, an empath unlike her. Well I'm certain she wouldn't want to be an empath, and frankly I wish I wasn't an empath either but there MUST be a reason for her behaviour at least toward me.
I told her we must sever ties for what she ignorantly said to me and her response was "well you never loved me anyway". Good grief. Of course I did but when her true colors showed glaringly through I was done with her in no uncertain terms. Well she was offended. She is my OLDER sister of 13 years and SHE is offended easily. I'm not about to pussyfoot around her. She's a grown woman and if she decides to take offense to things she clearly doesn't even know, by all means. I don't have the stamina not the desire for putrid and insignificant and unnecessary unproven or discussed thoughts she has. I'm done with her. I've put in my time and was shat on many times by her. So, so long sister Gail. I do wish you well just not on my step anymore.
I was DISCARDED, after learning exactly what is NARCISSISM, I told him, (for the third time), "I don't want to live with you anymore!" (and on that third time I also said, "And I want to divide our assets!"). I finally said exactly what my heart already knew! He instantly divorced me, moved to another state, and started dating immediately. It takes longer for those of us who had a legitimate heart bond with The Narcissist, to move on, to thrive, to heal. Never give up!! This video EXACTLY describes what I went through in the past, but that wS never who I was, nor is it who I am NOW!! It has been two years since "my narcissist" left for his new life. (I sent this video to him! Because I'm not quite free of the trauma bond, I still feel like telling him how he behaved towards me! But I know it will not matter to him). I'm not dating yet. I'm productive. I'm not failing at taking care of all my responsibilities-even though he "projected" that onto me! I have new friends. And I've met several "unexpected" people who knew EXACTLY what it means to have been in a close relationship with a narcissist!! The church secretary! The pastor!! But many still have no idea what they are dealing with!! I empathize and strengthen those I meet who are presently involved with a narcissist. I send Utube educational videos like this one to try to open their eyes to the complexities of being in a narcissistic relationship. For me, the most brutal and despairing truths that came to me upon understanding that I was in a marriage to a narcissistic person was realizing that NOTHING I did had any affect on the marriage, and NOTHING I did had any particular meaning to The Narcissist!! I realized with sadness and anger, that I had "wasted" my life energy trying to have an impossible relationship. Now I am in a phase of personal restoration of my own life. I'm building new self esteem, and an entirely new social community!! My pets and my garden are great comforts to me. I love my new church family, and I'm dealing with being the sole member of my family!! Yet I am not alone; I will not allow my past relationship to define my future! 😅😅 by
My own sister, next in my, work place.. your explanation helped me a lot to handle them or handling them.. some of the wounds left life term...
Mine was a friend at church - she started out like a normal person, but as I look back before we graduated high school, she was always jealous/envious of me and would mention that often, I gathered it was a thorn in her side somehow, after high school we went our separate ways, but eventually she returned to the church and we picked up, but things had changed, she was jealous of anything I did at church, she viewed it like I was a threat to her being there with me - she was a daughter of one of the pillars of our church, so I imagine she felt her place was threatened by my being there, which it was not because she has gifts/talents I do not have, but that mattered not to her. She then met a guy and they eventually married, and they went to another church and we did not spend time together. A few years passed and they returned to our church, but once she heard I was interested in a single Pastor from another church she wanted to meet him and so she invited us over for supper. She instantly became jealous and a few months passed and she informed me that she always wanted to be married to a minister, so she told me that if she could not have that, she was going to make sure I did not get that - like it was something better than she got, which I think her husband is a saint for marrying her! Anyway, she told twisted truths and huge lies about me to other church members. Not one of them ever came to me to ask if any of it was true, they believed her fully, so one Sunday when I came to church, the 7-8 people in the foyer never spoke to me, they stood and turned away from me and shunned me. It must have been whoppers she told because many still do not speak to me today. I lost my church home and many that I thought who believed in me would never do that. I rarely trust people anymore, I question everything. I dumped her, she still tries every avenue to get to me, which has not worked for her. She comes into the store where I work and if she comes in, I leave the sales floor and send my sister out to deal with her. It hugely irritates her, and I think she felt I would continue to take her treatment of me...she was so wrong. She caught me off guard one day in the store and she comes up to me and speaks to me like nothing happened or changed. I walked away and left the floor. She asked my sister where I was and she told her she never wants to talk to you again, it does not deter her...she is always attempting to speak to me. She has sent me cards or letters; I return them to sender. She is not too smart and still doesn't get it!!
She gets it but her desire to control you pushes her on to weasel her way back in. Im so glad to hear how you shun her unapologetically. Way to grow! And glow!
Super accurate!
KARMA KARMA KARMA !!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You were so right about my education. I dropped out in first grade and a narcissist flushed me down a toilet.
I can’t believe the amount of trauma I got from this relationship. OMG I’m still having mental problems from this
What kind of mental problem?
I figured things out when my husband took his abuse to the next level. Then I realized who he really was: a mental I'll sick s.o.b. I was done, & it was over
I have found videos about narcissism in the last few days and realise how these people have affected me all my life. You are so right. Before I left my husband of 22 years I found NLP, Neuro linguistic programming, and through that I learned how to treat my stress and lack of confidence and how to take one step at a time. When I told him I was leaving his response was "What will you do? Where will you go? You couldn't even earn a living." Well, I did, I went and I earned a living. However, I find it difficult to trust people. Videos such as this help me to spot narcissism in the people I meet. Thank you. And you are right about the children. He once said to me "Do you wish we'd never had children?"
Resist the Devil and he will flee
I’m suffering so badly right now from discard and him seeing someone new and dumping me all in a month. He made me think I’m crazy. And I woke up and realized finally after videos and therapy, that it has truly always been a lie. He was an alcoholic and caused me and my boy tremendous harm. And is now making me out to be crazy. I’m a mess and I regret letting him in. But I am a warrior, and I will get well and strong, and I will never ignore red flags or my gut again. He made me feel uncomfortable deep within. I knew he was wrong.
if i walk away ill let my kids suffer!!! gotta go to court!!!
This is the wisest time I have spent in over three decades. Thank you for your much needed advice.
22 years over and over off and on. They use children now grandchild and that they've changed while simultaneously threatening to break your teeth out for bringing up their past behaviors
So true thank you for sharing ⚖️
Omg Absolutely perfection. Word for word. I could have wrote this myself. Thank you brother. ❤
Living with a Narc for decades is absolutely exhausting, but given my financial situation, I have to strugle to maintain boundaries daily since I became aware of what I am dealing with: evil. Too bad my whole adult life has been wasted on someone who never loved me. That's the hardest thing to come to terms with. He found the perfect wife. I found the perfect nightmare and finally i am awake. It makes sense now that I know what I am married to. It's so sad to see others being abused by their Narc spouse and haven't figured it out yet. I once was there. What a waste of love. Thank goodness atleast I figured it out. I FOUND AND READ A BOOK THAT OPENED MY EYES.
A narcicist neve regrets, he blames YOU!
Great video. So exactly applies thank you. I hope to pay it forward for the authentic and complete strangers I met that helped me to survive from it all.
Thank you for helping me understand and put into words what I felt during the last years of the relationship. When he left home I didn't feel sorry he left, so I fell into shame because I thought I was a bad person. 😬 I did feel in a zoombie like state. I am still going thru the trauma bond, I believe I am healing. Your words have done me a lot of good. God bless you.
So glad I made it out. I divorced after 27 months. That was 16 years ago. Currently was Discarded by a covert narc exposed to love bombing, then we were quickly engaged. HE found a grudge to hold unto against me & wouldn't say what it was. Then to get his revenge he married someone else while we were engaged. RIGHT before I was scheduled for major surgery. What a shocker for me. He went no contact and did not tell me. A close friend had to break the news. Now I am Free and recovering. We were only together for a few months. Praying for folks going through this abuse. He will reap what he sowed. KARMA is real 🎯💯. The Best is yet to COME 💯.
Thank you. Described to a T. But I told him he was a drop in the bucket compared to what I've been through. I'll pray for you. And thanked him for making room for the right man to come into my life. 😊
This is such a strong word, sadly and probably from someone who has been through it. Thank you for trying to help us.
i have been alone 14 years ... I dont trust myself not to end up there again
Such good clear advice to pass along to others or for yourself if needing info on how to deal with this type of personality.
Once you have healed from this abusive person the inner strength you acquire is tremendous. You won’t tolerate this type of behaviour and will set solid boundaries for yourself and others to abide by. You will also be quick to tell them NO without fear of reprisals. Know and understand this person isn’t and wasn’t the person they had you believe they are. It’s all an act to secure the services for their supply. They are extremely good at manipulating others who are mostly unaware. It’s like you are their slave so to speak and will treat you with very little if any respect and ignore you should it serve them to do so.
No fix is available
No amount of logic changes their thinking.
No amount of patients will help as they only view this as “go harder”. They will always double down on and dismiss anything you complain about and make any achievements you get seem almost insignificant and pointless.
As a regular empathetic person this won’t make any sense. It will appear as though you weren’t trying hard enough or you were being annoying somehow.
No.
It’s just them. They are for lack of better words- assholes.
On every level.
Make an exit plan and get out.
Cut your losses and call it a win.
It may not seem or feel like that but you will be thankful you did in the future.
Remember you aren’t alone.
Be a survivor
Good luck
This couldn't be more a more perfect explaination. I could write a list of people in my former life that this applies to. I would love to get your permission to use this transcript. You hit every point perfectly. Thank you. Enjoy the rest of your life as I am doing. Only faith has held me together. And you know what? God is soooo good.😊
Thank you for this broadcast. This accurately explains everything I thankfully survived, and move forward away from in my mother, my father, my family. GOD delivers me through the love and support of guardian angels.
This is the most telling, insightful message I have identified with . Incredible
We have come to this world to develope and change to the better version of ourselves. We can change consciously by our own choice ( much less painful way ) or unconsciously fall for people like narcissists who will be pushing ALL of our sensitive ( read: weaknesses, undeveloped strength , traumas of our past - to name the few ) buttons. This all will continue to happen until the day we DO REALIZE that our job is to put ourselves in order to become healthy, strong , positive and truly loving person. And from that day all narcissistic people will leave us alone because we healed in us what needed to be healed from the beginning. I hope what I just shared , that some people may find it useful on their life path. You may truly start to feel, regardless of your age, like your life has just begun. Priceless feeling like no any other. I experienced this several times in my life and that truly gives you wings to fly. Life is for change, good change, to make you win not to loose. So wake up eagles and fly high because you were always meant to be : good and free. LET DEAR GOD - TO WHOM WE OWE - A B S O L U T E L Y E W E R Y T H I N G - TO BE ALWAYS YOUR BEST HEALP AND INSPIRATION . Amen.
So helpful and you explained it totally correctly, thank you so much Sir..
He had me convinced that I was crazy 😜 deciding to radically accept and move on was the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done for myself ❤
OMG how did you know the exact details!?!?!?! I swear I knew nothing about a narcissist until this man walked into my life did all these things then decided he no longer loves me left me destroyed devastated demolished shattered crumbled my entire world!!!! Now I'm hurt broken heart hearted and trying to deal cope and heal while missing him like crazy but wouldn't take him back for every dollar in the world or anything else
WOW...powerful, acurate, all encompassing. Among the best presentations. Iv lived everything in this presentation and applaud the production.
I lived 40 years with one been out of in divorce 11 years and took another 10 years to totally be away 50 years of this behavior and finally looming who I am in learning by listening to different people. Talk about this type of behavior I want to thank you. Don't ever quit. Many of us need to hear the different phases
Something wasn't right and my moral compass was spinning. I never knew why. Then when the disrespect got too much I left. Being accused of being a narcissist led me to wanting to know if I am. This taught me that I am not this, I was naive but I have learnt a lot about myself as a result. So maybe a quiet thank you for the experience is in order, however that will only exist in the form of my forgiveness.