The Do's & Don'ts of Accent Furniture & When to Let Them Go
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Is accent furniture something you have too much of or too little? It's one of those things that can sneak in under the radar and start to cause disorder in a space, if not done right. Let me know in the comments below where you get most of your accent furniture and if that is a good thing.
I lose you talking after the vase of flowers. I can hear the music but not what you are saying. This happens frequently to your videos. What am I doing wrong as I don’t see any comments that others are having this problem.
@@traceyelsebough5244 Are you using earbuds or headphones?
I agree. So much psychology in design. My goal is to curate a home full of peace. All of my furniture is either second hand, inherited, or thrifted in this season of life. As I have matured in my design and decor philosophies, I see thrifting as a wonderful resource but there was a time that lived in clutter due to diy and “could use that someday” mentality. Especially saving things for my children that they would need or want one day. Turns out… We raised successful children that can afford to buy whatever they like! 😂 While that’s a wonderful thing, I was absolutely shocked that 5 grown children didn’t take much with them! 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Lesson learned and furniture hoard donated. I have one more child left at home and there’s nothing left to take with her. I think she’s gonna be just fine as well. 😊
This video was so special with your share. I’ve been lifting up your name in prayer for the upcoming Bespoke Design Retreat but I’ll be praying that God’s will and glory be accomplished in those pieces of the four major losses you’ve experienced that have not yet been restored.
Thank you, Brandi! I am being MUCH more selective than I have ever been with the second hand finds. I"m very excited to see that you will be at Bespoke and so appreciate you praying for me. xoxo
This was amazing. Letting Go is something I really struggle with. We have a garage so full of B+ furniture, I joke that I should open my own antique store. But the truth is I wouldn't be able to part with it, even if someone wanted to pay me. 😂
I am sorry you have had so many deep losses and in such a short time. I lost my father three months ago and am seeing the day approach when I will have to arrange my mother's funeral, too. From one soul to another, HUGS.
Thank you so much, I'm sorry about your heartache with your parents, as well! xoxo
So true! I have been an avid garage sale, estate sale, thrift store junkie for years, and accent pieces are cheap and easy to cram into the back of your car! Now as an empty nester I am editing down and letting go, and it has been so freeing. Plus, even more importantly, I am gaining so much space in my home! Your three purposes of accent furniture is accurate and for me it's always storage and a place for a drink/book/iPad.
Good for you! What a great example for all of us!!
So helpful! We don’t give ourselves permission to let something go for whatever reason…and in letting it go, we refresh and clean up the energy/amount of stress that object represented. I find your videos to be very encouraging and full of the warmest common sense. Thank you.
You give the best compliments! Yes, isn't it amazing how much better it feels when finally left something go that isn't working for you anymore?
Love your comment about energy being freed up when we release.
Amen,,,your words of Loss and some pieces have been restored to you and some have not just touched me so much. I lost my mom almost 11 yrs ago and my Dad and Husband 6+ years ago. I lost them 5 days apart. But, recently I have felt that I am in a new season and that God has showed me and my son so much Grace. I am also with open arms waiting for what ever God has next in the season of my life. God Bless you
Yup, you are correct even if it hurts me to say so. I could definitely use some editing in my home.
It's Ok, probably 99.2% of us need it. It's a constant struggle. But, I'm getting better as I age.
Loved this video. I have been redecorating my home with things I already own. Have been decluttering because frankly I'm so tired of being in transition. I love to decorate ..not clean..lol .so I really would like to have things more simple. Today ..my son's girlfriend saw a piece of furniture that I had for over 6 years ...and was putting in yard sale finally because it was collecting too much dust and just frankly driving me crazy! She wanted it and had a perfect place for it. Made me so happy to pass this on to her. Right now I have our bedroom and the living room fully declutterred....they are wonderful rooms...peaceful and I love being in them. Anywho...such an important aspect of decorating....letting go! Thank u for sharing!!!
Yay! Good for you, so happy your furniture can live on and be loved properly now.
Such a beautiful intro, Sarah. I just really loved it. I'm hoping to join your design school soon. We just bought our 1900 Victorian and the biggest decision we've made so far is to paint it blue. =) But I had to scramble and buy furniture so that we had furniture to start with. We don't have drapes/window treatments yet, and I'm trying to be careful about what I buy ... I'm trying to stop buying the little things and save for the big things ... in any case, I hope to join soon. I need help! =)
Oh, I would just love to have you!! Your home sounds ah-mazing!!! You are exactly right to be taking your time, there is no substitute for a well curate home!
wow.. I think you were a gift today. Today I was getting rid of my clutter and you were the extra push. You're giving me a sensation of soft living... Thank you❤
Such a timely video for so many of us. I have too many accent shelves, etc. I'm finally giving myself permission to rehome them. It's often hard to part with lovely items because you remember that you paid good money for them. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Uggh, the money guilt is the worst! It makes me think twice now before paying too much in the first place.
This is such an important lesson and it took me awhile to become completely comfortable with it. Not so much in the accent furniture arena but in the vignettes. I would think something was off so my natural instinct was to fill it, similar to how if we are in a crowed but silent room we often feel the need to break the awkwardness with conversation. It took me a long while how to learn to be comfortable with the silence just as I learned that often spaces didn’t need more, they needed edited. The beginning of this video was so lovely and heartfelt
I was shopping in a locally owned home decor shop a couple of years ago and a customer had the manager follow her to a corner of the store that was beautifully decorated with a small chest with shelves above and flowers and unique items and the customer said, "I want all of this, I have a corner in my house just this size and I want the furniture and the decorations and pictures and all of it. Can you deliver it?" I thought, "She must be rich! She didn't even look at the price of any of it." I guess if you know you are not good at decorating just spend your money like that instead of hiring a decorator! lol --Sheila McDade in Chattanooga, TN
What a great analogy! I'm going to borrow it from you. And yes, vignettes are another culprit. I find myself overstuffing them out of frustration sometimes, too.
Yes, I have seen this, too. It's not quite as meaningful, but maybe she just wanted to be done and move on.@@garymcdade4446
Oh I hate being in public in silence _(unless it's public transit 😅)._ If I'm gonna be in an awkwardly silent place, I'd rather be home!!!
Great video Sarah. Thank you!
I learn so much from watching your videos. Thank you for such inspiring and great information when thrifting and decorating.
Oh, that is the best compliment. thank you so much. I adore my job and all the beautiful souls I get to come in contact with.
I love your channel, your transparency and love of your craft shines through.
Thank you so much!
Sarah, you made such great points! I am someone that LOVES to Thrift! I love my knickknacks. So I used to fill my Home with lots of them. When we decided to downsize to a 400 square foot Studio Apartment, I had to rethink what I wanted to bring into my home. It was a hard process but at the same time very freeing. I was able to sell a few items and donate the rest. Now I'm far more intentional in what I bring into my home and feel I enjoy it more!
I am SO sorry to hear if your losses! A few years ago, I went thru that. It's a hard Season! May you experience God's Peace and Presence as He leads you beside Still Waters 🙏
Thank you, Trudy. My hope is in Christ through it all. He is carrying me and changing me in the process.
Great ideas! Essentialism has been my word for a while.
I myself am in the process of paring down some pieces of accents furniture. And it feels great, because it lets me do better in decorating and finally organizing and loving where I live. My to do list is getting smaller. Enjoyed your program thank you. Have a great day.
Well done, my dear! You inspire us!
I love that you can let go. Thank you for this, it was very heartfelt. May God continue to bless you. As always I love your videos
You are so welcome, thank you for all your kind words!
🇬🇧 Not sure if you realised that one of the photographs you used of a cluttered sitting room, to demonstrate a room packed with too much furniture, was a photograph of our much loved Princess Anne and her husband Timothy Lawrence, in their home Gatcombe park. It’s an historic home, full of beautiful antiques and more modern pieces. You’re absolutely right though there’s too much stuff and it just shows that money doesn’t always guarantee a picture perfect home, although it’s probable a welcome change from the formal palaces she grew up in.
I noticed that too, the Princess Royals home may not suit some but it looks warm and cosy and you wouldn't be afraid of sitting down without ruffling the cushions. It's a lived in home not a show home and I for one actually like it, not my style may I add but there's nothing wrong g with it.
Bunny Williams is also a designer that believes every sitting area needs a small table to set a drink or something on. (And she is also a maximalist!)
Sorry for your loss. I just lost dad on July 26th so I know the sorrow. Prayers for healing. Thanks for the vids, I really enjoy and appreciate them.
Your introduction was thoughtful and eloquent. I am sorry for your losses, but you seem to be moving forward in a healthy way. Thank you for acknowledging God's hand throughout those difficulties. And my condolences on the passing of your mother. Christine.
Thank you, Christine, that means a lot to me. God is showing Himself faithful through it all.
I really enjoyed this video. Life lessons and thoughtful design. Thank you, it was very thoughtful.
Thank you, Maria, you are so welcome!
What a lovely way to remember your beloved mother - the dahlias. 🌸🌺🌸
Ha! I have done all these things! Ugh! I am working on letting. It always feels so good to have a clutter free space!!
Good for you, why don't we do these things sooner???? LOL
Hello! I am so sorry for your losses, may God heal your heart in time. Also, I would love to hear how you gave up sugar! All of your videos are great timing...we are in the process of moving to our 1876 bungalow in Ludington, Mi! I'm doing a full on redecorating 😊
Something to think about. I always enjoy your informative videos.
Oh good, thank you for watching and commenting.
As usual, very great ideas
Great advice, Sarah!! ❤
Thank you, Michele, so glad you liked it!
I just moved from a tiny house to a 2,000 square foot home home. I have NO furniture - so this is helpful to begin my “need/want” furniture list.
Your intro was beautifully done
Loooved this video.🤍🫶🏻🤍
Thank you, Sarah, you are such a love!
My deepest condolences for the loss of your mom. I lost my children's dad last fall...moving forward is hard; letting go is harder.
This was well timed for me. Redecorating bedroom. Have one side of bed to deal with. Good questions. Do I need storage do I need to just place things, and I definitely need to let go what’s there. Thank you. ❤
Oh good! I'm so glad to help bring clarity. You can do this!
So sorry for the loss of your Mom and other loved ones
Thank you, you are so sweet. Resting in God a lot these days.
beautiful
Lovely lead-in!
Thank you, I'm so glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you for the bar cart response! =)
You betcha! xoxo
After many, many years of placing furniture in various houses I've owned, I'm pretty good at editing, especially now that I'm in my downsized phase. But there's one piece of furniture in my dining room that I knew wasn't right when I bought it. The style is too repetitive of the rest of the pieces in there, but worst of all, it's just a little too big. But it IS tremendously functional. It holds board games, a duvet used for guests and most importantly a piece of medical equipment I use every day. And it serves as a "sideboard" for those meals at the table when you want to have the dishes of food nearby, but they don't all fit on the table itself (like Thanksgiving). It also serves to anchor a treasured family oil painting that is jutst right for the room and the space. I have looked literally for YEARS for the right piece for this place, and have never found something this functional that works visually. I could trade it out for a small behind-the-sofa table that's visually perfect for the room, and just the right size, but that would mean I'd have to find a place to store the medical equipment. What am I missing here? There's got to be some solution to this problem that doesn't mean I have to haul the medical equipment from the far reaches of the house to the couch, which is where I need to use it. My style is an eclectic mix of antiques and vintage leaning towards English country cottage, and a mid-century modern or cutting edge NY chic object is going to stick out like a sore thumb, and require major changes in the rest of the house to make it look like it belongs. Do you (or anyone reading this) have any suggestions?
Yes, it really does sound like a perfect piece. What if you changed out the other pieces that are too matchy-matchy?
@@SheHoldsDearly Thank you so much for your thought on this! Part of the problem is that the room is TINY, about 10x10', and the the only other pieces of furniture are the small round dining table (45") and small chairs, and a very small hutch that houses table linens, my beloved collection of very high quality handmade pottery and extra serving dishes. I could change the style of those, but that's the most expensive solution, and again, there's the problem of finding pieces that are the right size.... But you did give me an idea I haven't thought of. What if I stored the extra serving dishes now housed in the bottom part of the hutch somewhere else, and used that space to store the medical equipment...? This would engender a domino effect of other moves, but they're possible, at least in theory. Thanks!
Beautiful ❤
Thank you, Leslie, I'm glad you enjoyed it!
Good Ideas. Blessings.
Thank you so much, Sharon!
@SheHoldsDearly Hello, I just found your channel today and I LOVE it. I just watched “How to use NEW Dark Academia. . .”
But I have a question. . . Is there a way to combine Dark Academia and Primitive aesthetics. I LOVE them both and both of these aesthetics bring me peace and comfort. If there is a way to combine them, would you be willing to do a show on them? I would LOVE IT! I have pictures of my home I can share privately with you via email or some other way of contact. Thank you so very much!!
This is a video I did on mixing design styles. They're not the two you're after, but the principals are the same! ua-cam.com/video/KtGKhtgf3wA/v-deo.html
Your notion of "letting go" and living with an "open hand" made me think of this verse I was thinking about recently: "John replied, “A man can receive only what is given him from heaven." (John 3:27). Wishing you a wonderful season of living with an open hand, both to receive and to give from what heavens bestows to you.
Release a piece that no longer services you. Well said. Somehow makes me feel better about getting rid of a few pieces. It doesn’t seem as harsh or heartless. 😊
Oh good, it especially helps when you know someone else will enjoy it more.
Keep for beeswax for cosmetics and candles!
When I saw your fireplace screen at the beginning of your video I stopped right there. I had seen one at Habitat exactly like it online yesterday and really wanted it but felt it was a bit more than I wanted to spend. I did some checking and found that it was actually a good price for a solid brass Louis the XVI replica fireplace screen. So you guessed it, I have it in my home now and I love it!!
Stop it! That is so FUN! We are fireplace screen twins now! LOL
Yes fireplace twins forever. It's a beautiful thing! @@SheHoldsDearly
Letting go and control takes a lot of skill. I have recently painted and exercising control takes a lot of restraint.
Yes, you are so right. It's like working a muscle. I consciously have to stop myself and answer a list of questions before I bring more things home.
Off topic but where did you get that beautiful blouse or dress?
Oh thank you! Do you mean the dress from the second half of the video? I got that at a thrift store, but it can be found on Ebay sometimes. Here is a link- rstyle.me/+nPAvqN-zEqrDD-lbZqgkDA Its by Lapogee, fabulous brand!! Mine is a navy and cream maxi dress with flutter sleeves, I see a few on Ebay right now.
You were speaking to me: an excess of occasional furniture. Thanks for the guidance.
Ok, good, glad to help. Sorry, if it was hard to hear! xoxo
Just curious, so when you say you don’t eat any sugar even natural sugar. Does that mean you don’t eat fruit anymore?
Sarah, you have mentioned many times items being a "10". Is there a list of requirements you have made to meet the "10" level? If so, would you share?
Aww, such a great question. Actually, stay tuned, I'm going to incorporate my answer in the next video because I think a lot of people would like to hear my answer.
Pet peeves: fake plants, upright pillows on chairs that need to be removed in order to sit, lamps standing on books, mass produced art.
Same for me!
Fake pants are great! No upkeep, bugs, or allergens!
I use to live like that, I felt that the things I filled my space with things I loved and made me happy, also, liked to change things around quite a bit. But as I got older, I have simplified my life with things and yes , so freeing and much easier to clean. BUT…. My problem is. My husband mom died and he was the only one left so got everything and brought it into our home and I don’t want it or like it and doesn’t match my things or my style! What do I do??
Please help, I have asked him to get rid of it all and he tells me no , it was my moms. Not only that, it carries a weird smell in it and I can’t get it out, it’s literally soaked into the wood and everything!?
Yikes, that’s really hard. I would get a storage unit and put the furniture in there. It’s not reasonable that you should have to use her furniture in your home.
@@cynthiafisher9907 Oh my, that is terrible. I'm sorry, I agree with Cynthia. Request a storage unit and let him pay the bill each month. (!) Also, be praying for your husband. it sounds like he is not done grieving and feels guilty- like if he gets rid of the things, he is throwing her away. This is not true, she will live on in other ways and pieces of her are grafted into other lives, but not exactly the same as she was. Does that make sense?
An excellent idea of letting go…hard but doable….
Uggh, it is hard, But, so worth it in the end.
Pollinators are always useful. Sell the honey.
My furniture is mostly inherited or thrift store finds. And am sad that my two grown daughters want nothing of my furniture or china or silver.
Same. I think it is very common with the younger generation now. They say they want experiences instead of things.
Yes, I see that in the younger generations, too. I'm sorry, I hope they are showing they love you in other ways.
That's not a bad thing, per se.@@cynthiafisher9907
@@SheHoldsDearly That’s true. Just bad for us parents who care about heirlooms and want them to care too. But everyone must live their own lives and have their own priorities.
🤚🏽 I might! 👀 I'm 30 and have some of my grandma's former belongings displayed 😊
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Thank you, Lydia!
Okay Sarah, don't avoid the piano accent furniture discussion . . . it was a glaring omission in this video and we all know why . . . lol AS YOU WELL KNOW it is hard to get rid of a piano because they are not valuable . . . people give them away . . . they are so heavy to move on to a truck . . . it is nearly impossible to find someone that wants one in this mobile society. People think, we would have to move that thing every time we move and find a house that has space for it. It may be a sentimental piece to you but visitors to your home just see a big piece of furniture that takes up an entire wall and is not even attractive. Many times I have asked people about their piano, "Oh, do you play?" and 99 percent of the time they say "No, my child took lessons (20 years ago or more) and we just never got rid of it." Like an apology. Even if they do play who wants to entertain their guests by struggling to play their requests? Pianos are the number one elephant in the room accent piece that needs to go when decorating. Of course, if you are Billy Joel you'd have a piano in every room! lol --Sheila McDade in Chattanooga, TN
Right. Just like the sofa hide a beds! We tried to give ours to Goodwill and they wouldn’t take it. Too heavy for people.
Hmm, pianos.. That is a GREAT topic- to me they might be too big to be considered accent furniture. I do love them, but my mother was a music teacher. There are beautiful pianos on every level in my parents' home and I fell asleep to live piano music throughout my childhood. Piano music is my all time favorite. I think the piano needs to evoke that type of sentiment and then, even if it is not played, it can still be treated like a mantle. They make great spots for seasonal decorating and the piano bench gets used for all kinds of things. Otherwise, you are right, maybe donate it to a church or something.
@@lorrem2539 I think a lot of them end up in the dump. :(
@@SheHoldsDearly Yes, you are probably right.
@@lorrem2539 Sofa beds are actually useful tho!
Why you don’t eat honey 🍯 or sugar any more?❤
That was sad to see your bee life go.