It's scary how so many people have met the same demon in different bodies. I didn't realize that even the times I thought were good was a lie as well. Thank God for healing! 🙌
I left mine looking stupid. I abandoned them when they thought that I never would. Out of nowhere. Left them stunned. Tried to make me jealous, didn't work. What could they possibly do next?😂
I thought. How Dare You.............Cheat On Me! Yes I was Hurt Mad and Sad for a darn year Traumatized to ...Da. Max ! The disrespect ...you have to pay attention to what they show you instead of what the say to you. They pull a Lie out the Sky.
My ex suggested we bring another woman into our relationship so he could get her pregnant and we all live together as a family…..that was the last straw for me! I don’t get down like that, I don’t share and he’s got me fucked up! ✌🏼 and I told him I’m not collateral damage!! He had a hard time breaking me down, even after 17 years, I’m too head strong for the bullshit and that pissed him off!!
I hate it when he comes to pick up the baby, and he brings his supply. He wants to intimidate me. She just stares at me and smirks! I don't want him girl keep your demon pet.
Sounds like she got some problems. Her biggest problem she doesn't see YET. She is with a narcissist and it is going to be a hell of a ride for her (or probably already is).
I don't let the demons have the child,I'm saving to leave the area,I'd sooner be totally on my own and start again than let the child go to an abusive,sick,psychopathic family of liars and bullies. I've cut all seeing both of us.
I had a narc try me. I'm an Aquarius and we are known for intelligence. I played the game just to see how far they would go. I noticed every move and waited till their birthday to ghosted and blocked them. Bet that clown won't forget me...😂😂😂
He tried to triangulate me and said he was trying to wake me up. He woke me up alright I filed for divorce and put his ass out And told him I will not compete with trash on no day. I’m worth more than that! He played himself trying to play me. God stripped him of everything except his freedom. Thank you lord!!!
Facts brother, “when you’re starving you’ll eat anything” Narcs are so damn weak and fragile only they would think of these manipulation tactics. I noticed recently that all the narcs I’ve known are actually literally afraid of me, their behavior is a bizarre thing to observe.
Facts. They are very afraid of the ppl they violate because they know that God’s wrath is greater than our own. They’re not in the clear, there’s a price for almost everything.
@@LOVETHYSELFDAILY yeah it’s pretty easy to tell who has darkness and evil in their eyes. They’re always trying to put on a show, it’s so uninteresting I just stare at them with a blank face then they get scared. They’re the most boring people.
Before I was discarded, my Narc would have people he slept with meet him at the grocery store while we shopped for food for the house. It was very disrespectful they think they are slick, but that's when u leave them they are using you to make themselves look good to the new supply
They always have more than one cell phone or device. If you ever go thru there devices you’d be on the floor as to what you see. They are messy individuals. Some have a whole other Life abd situation going on you don’t know about
I worked for my ex covert narc in his office. He adored and admired me, wined and dined me on the weekends, then wouldn’t touch me at the drop of a dime. He had at least 2 other women and asked for permission to date us all. He gave the impression he liked my sister then called me crazy for pointing it out. He pit me against other employees and tossed out my flowers when I began dating someone else. He is egotistical, sneaky, cunning, manipulative and selfish. I cried, cried and cried and still no change. After 3 1/2 years of begging for a commitment, I quit and blocked him. I hear his business is failing now and he wants me back. My credit score is going up and I’m in law school. Good riddance!
Go, go, go. Good for you. I am having to stay with my narcissist wife for a few more months for my protection (financial). I see the light at the end of the tunnel and it is good that you are already in the light and doing well.
Every upload homie does, it helps thousands of people. It should inspire a lot of you watching that you can use that pain, betrayal, and confusion as fuel to find your purpose in life and have hope. If you become successful and a much better person after the relationship with the narc ends, it will eat them alive for the rest of their lives.
The funny thing is that my narc said literally!; that he was giving me breadcrumbs (and that he wish he could give more); instead like you explained he gave me less and less. So happy I find the strength to say goodbye. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
it's a trip because mine came back after 2 months, about a month ago, he knocked on my door at 3:30 a.m. asking if he could use a bathroom and wait to catch them first bus to his neighborhood, and before I went back in my room to go back to sleep, he started muttering something about hoovering! he specifically said he was there to Hoover and he was back on his Hoover s***, and I question him on it, he said you heard me and I'm not talking about bloods and crips, either? cuz he knows I used to roll with the bloods... I know he's been stalking my s***. I know he watch all my s***. he knows what the f*** he's doing. I just ignored it though I went right back to bed.
I picked him up in Chicago to come buy a car from my neighbor. He stayed and helped me for a few months, bought the car and a couple weeks later we knew he would go home or go back to staying with family. We text for a month and a half then out of the blue he breaks up with me in a text saying he knew from the day I came to get him it would be the last time we speak. He just wanted me to see his good side then dropped me like a bag of hot rocks and he'd stay in touch. WTF ... That was the most rotten thing ever. We made love, laughed and had such a good time and I actually wanted to take time off to go visit him on his turf ....and BOOM he's done 😢 and he knew the whole time we loved he was leaving
He has such a paroinid and suspicious mind ...I even tried to add him to my Google maps, like my family always knows where I'm at and he refused but would ask what took so long for me to get home
I wish my Narc only triangulated me with just 1 person. She threw everyone at me even strangers. Of course none of these people ever said anything to me.
16:40 So true it’s repulsive and makes me want to throw up and throw them all out of my life. They are so low and cheap they will never be able to afford having the real you. Never in a healthy way.
Terrel. I've even done this myself because I copied what I saw growing up. Its not until you hear people speak as you do that you realise whats happening. Start by looking in the mirror. Using people makes us feel bad. Period. Identify the behaviour and break generational curses people. Lets become better human beings. With much love from England 🙏🏽
Yes. I agree. People are finally hanging out their family's dirty laundry. There is no excuse for disrespect to another's soul and spirit. The most damaging thing anyone could do is to another person's heart. There's no excuse to try to hurt the people who try to make the world a better place for our children and their children.
Facts on facts Woo Lordtt!!!!!! Stop accepting breadcrumbs and know you deserve the entire loaf and I prefer an organic one😉. Uphold your will and refuse to be trauma bonded and that includes family and friends 🙏🏽.
This is so true I felt my self esteem low so I was comparing and I started trying to look better by working out, going to the dentist, buying more fashion clothing, and then starting to become a wealthy man someway somehow. Like I literally got a better job cuz I was with the narc and first day at the new job I called her phone found out she cheated got discarded quickly and I wasn't focused as much almost cost me the job but after couple days I wanted to improve
@@elizaveta2407 I wouldn't take it that far. That love bomb was incredible at first I smoked smoking marijuana for 4 months trying to get this job because she had 3 kids and I had 2 it was a dream come true I can finally have a family I was there for her and kids until the end of us. She made my dreams into a living nightmare, what made me believe and stay with her ignore all the signs was based on what she told me which I know now (I think) is a lie. Telling me you are the perfect boyfriend, I don't want these guys in 2022, and I only want you she made me feel incredible about myself... Whenever I did try to break her off she would act and say the sweetest things I was a fool
@@elizaveta2407 That's the thing about painful situations, they can always help us grow. we can use pain and anger as fuel by transforming it alchemically through our psychology.
That is what made me walk away! After 30 years! He always had some needy bitch friend on his phone I felt like I had to compete with for his attention!! Now I realize what he was doing all along! I busted him trying to get a hotel room With her! When I asked him about it he denied it! So i sent the text to him that i had gotten off his phone and he still denied it so i left!! Thanks for the info!!
Terrell, When you said, "I don't care how many nights you spent under the stars together" I almost spit my soda out laughing. What night under the stars? He made everything miserable! 😂
The narc even wanna control the tv.. like gawd damn I gotta watch tv when you want too didn’t want to go anywhere she felt someway about that ima be me one way or another…
I was starving for emotions affection and Sex when that which kept me holding on was gone. "Game Over ". I began to have pop ups on Toxic Relationshipd just like Revelation Once you know You Go
My favorite line of your video.. “your feelings, your respect, and your dignity is not for negotiating, zero tolerance”. Absolutely loved this!! Took me 32 years to finally get that and now shit barely gets passed me. Awesome advice!! Great job sir 🙌🏼💯
Absolute truth 💣 bombs here! I was being triangulated by my husband of 12 years, he was grooming the secretary from his work, while devaluing me. I didn't realize what was happening until he brutally discarded me. Cowards and Cheats
You are speaking ALL FACTS 💯🎯✨ My ex is a narcissist and everything you describe. I have recently called him out on his BS in front of mutual friends and associates. He wanted an apology and he ain’t get it what so ever 😂✨
The women my Narc was dealing with were older than me. So he always compared me to them as far as how unaccomplished I was. How "business savvy" they were and things they had. I'm sure he would bring up my youth when he got into with them as a way to throw a dagger at them. Or if I would bring up how I didn't like him dealing with me and these other women because I don't like to share, he would talk about how "immature" I was and how much of a "little girl" and a nag and complainer I was. I remember one time he told me "older women know how to treat a man." I said well why are you here with me go be with them old hoes then smh. One of the women was married, she didn't have the time or energy to "nag" him like I did because she had a whole damn husband smh. I was feeling insecure at first, but I was like fuck that you're literally comparing to bitches that old enough to be my mother smh. He had me involved business wise with these women I met one of them. When she saw me she seemed shocked by how "pretty" I am and she asked me how old I was particularly so that gave away that he had discussed me with her before smfh! I cut him off back in October, I was done with him making me a part of his harem. I deserve better than that.
i hope you learned from this life lesson. That the next instance that ANY man brings up another women to you, That you instantly CUT HIM OFF‼️ Show him you don't play that sh*t! Either your the only one, or he won't have you at all 💯 When you value yourself, these men have no choice but to step up or SHIP OUT!
@@prettyllady I've most definitely learned my lesson. I just really thank God I have learned this is my 20's. Unfortunately those other women are in their 40's and 50's and still haven't learned and still are around for his abusive and toxic behavior.
My ex-narcissist use to do this to me as well. He was a lawyer and all the women he dated were older then me and some married. He would throw them in my face constantly especially when I blocked him for a few weeks - because of his abuse. I was the only young woman in the harem. I told him to forget my existence and go be with them. He just would not leave me alone...
I'm 43 years old and I'm dealing with a 31-year-old man and he's been talking to a little girl who's 22, fake lips, BBL. All that s***. I'm a bodybuilder and up have done personal training before, I'm shredded right now and got my six pack, I got a sculpted glutes and toned as f*** ass biceps and arms, basically I'm the opposite of her. I'm 5'7 is she's 5'2, we both weigh 120 lb... but yeah, she calls me grandma, she's been harassing me. she's been stalking me. she threatened to shoot me. I ran into them over a week ago and I beat the brakes off of her after he busted me in my face in public. she's a coward and a punk. I think it's horrible that she's trying to use the fact that I'm older as an insult to my intelligence when in reality she doesn't know anything about me. I'm autistic and she's clearly a narcissist just like the guy who she's with. she was bragging about how she was going to have him come beat my ass after she was posting pictures less than a month before where he had busted her in the face and split her lip on social media. then all of a sudden she took those down and started harassing me and saying she was going to send him over to beat me up. I was like you better stay in your position and get beat. you got me f***** up. I'm a grown ass woman. And I told her in the beginning I wasn't even interested in him like that! He's an artist out here from Philadelphia and I was mentoring him. He's new to my graffiti crew and as a founding member of 206 Zulu out here, I'm heavily involved in the graffiti scene. I also work with substance use disorder recovery and he got a lot of addictions and I was trying to get him some assistance and some resources out here. All of a sudden I started getting harassed and prank called! I told that b**** I didn't even want this dude, I'm a grown ass woman what do you think I look like dating a whole bump? I diagnosed him with APD in my own mind, not professionally of course, but I told him he needs to go talk to a psychiatrist because he's clearly a sociopath. I've given him a lot of insight to himself but it's not my job to take him to therapy. That's on his b****! The same one who he beats up that brags about how he puts hands on women. I told dude from jump Street that I am happily single and I've been single for 6 years and I'm not planning on dating. In order to protect myself further, I told him I'm not able to fall in love with people and then I'm gay.😂 but he was really mad that I rejected him, and this is how that all started.
I totally agree and have a much better understanding of narc behavior as I also lived it for over 29 years, with God's strength I ask him to release healing and restoration for myself and anyone that has or is going through this type of pain!
I was dating a narcissists I found a receipt of him cheating with a woman I'm a hotel my ex got so mad that I found out I was strong because I knew he was doing something my ex kept saying he wasn't but I was always ahead of my narcissists til this day he hasn't apologized and I'm not looking for anything from him cause it was a total weight off my shoulders I knew who I was even when dealing with a narcissists I have moved on and emotionally detached from the drama and the chaos toxicity. Karma will have his day. I love my peace
You know how we know we are all talking about Narcissists? All the comments relate, T's comments sound like the SAME person we know. ITS DEFINITELY THEM NOT US FAMILY ❤️❤️❤️
You're absolutely on point. Thank you for this. I needed to hear this message. Btw, being from Detroit, I love the old english D. We rock those faithfully
All 3 narcs have done this to me. #1 the ex husband tried calling his mistress in front of me, she answered, he said he wanted to come over, she denied him, I laughed he got mad and attacked me 😂, #2 left me when I gave up everything/everyone for him, when I found out about the other woman and still wanted to stay with him, I became the "other woman" that was terrible. #3 he went from seeing me every time he came back home from work to spend time with me on the weekends, then he went to barely answering my texts, I knew he was bugging and wanted me to blow up his phone and make him look more important than he wasn't, I didn't fall for it and told him just that, now he mad and hasn't spoken to me since 🤦🏽♀️😂😂. Standing up for yourself burns them up inside 🔥🔥. My Peace of mind is Not for negotiation.
I had a situation with a girl who claimed, then proved that she was my ex's offspring. She came to visit unannounced. She then tried to climb in my bed with her dad. He threw her out. I was okay with his behavior...but then he proceeded to validate her and slowly made her into someone I shouldfear because she 'didnt like me'. Every time we would fight she was suddenly important. It was sick! Triangulation at its finest!
Thank you so much for reading my comment asking you for this video on triangulation I appreciate you thank you for reading the comments and getting involved like you are in helping us heal. I'm 5 yrs into my healing thank you God bless you . This made my day
I needed to hear this bc I really thought I was doing something by not answering his calls immediately. I’d answer 3 days, weeks, or even months later not truly understanding that I was still getting high/addicted to him & the bond we had. Doing the work now and your channel is truly helping me during my healing process
You are rock solid Grey rock professional You win! They lose They couldn’t take you and break you. They just broke a toe trying to kick you Your soul said NO!
Whoa, you are so right, the purpose of triangulation is to move the focus and expectations off of them onto you! Thank you Terrell!! Oh a side note, I'd like to add that I believe we all have the same value as humans which doesn't depend of our looks or talents etc. At the same time we are different in terms of achievement, that is also true. But it only affects our self-esteem, not value as human beings.❤
Your calming tone and relaxed mood was helpful. You really articulated what it’s like dealing with someone who has narcissistic tendencies. You explained things in a helpful and professional manner. Thank you for your content! 😊
He kept flirting with other women in front of me while having dinner at a restaurant. I got tired of it and stopped going. Then started chasing behind the neighbor that come over every week. I told him to stay there with her. He refuse to do that just to prove me wrong when I know the truth. I'm doing no contact also. thank you for your videos
My narc would always use hypotheticals using triangulation. We could never have a discussion without him dragging someone else into our chat. I asked one day if we could stay focused on us and not bring anyone else into the discussion and he was LIVID. I was is the ninja crazy😂? We both were highly intelligent intellectuals, but he needed to give me these long drawn out, made up scenarios when checked on his behavior. His behavior never made me want to do more, his behavior made me want to do less. I knew he was stiff arming me. For a minute, he had me confused with the triangulation but once I figured it out and called him out, he began treating me different. I matched his energy and he moved on himself. I didn't chase him. I let him go. I think that made him angrier. I kept traveling, doing stuff I enjoyed. I wouldn't tolerate his breadcrumbs. I turned him down. I'm proud of myself for walking away. We were friends for almost 30 years. I was shocked when the mask fell off, but I'm glad I never got sucked into that life. That little taste was enough for me.
Excellent video. Right on with this topic. Be aware of your partner saying that a relationship with the opposite sex is just a so called "good friend". No - this is all a game to them for a pathetic way to get a reaction out of you. It is never going to be just you as a couple. It gets worse with time. Take my word for it. Get out and get out now.
Me and my lady going through something last night she over my house she showing me videos of my kid. As she scrolls through thr video up pops a screenshot of some dude on ig. I said who is that she said that don't concern you I was sending that to my cousin I have to be loyal to thr group and not let you see the name.i instantly felt sick to my stomach and never said another word to her.she end up leaving I said drive safe good night. I'm not dealing with triangulation good riddens
Man, all so true! U keep seeing them seeking outside attention and they say they're not and they get mad at you to prove it...until you start questioning yourself! I finally decided to listen to myself, not him...and I got the picture...they do it alll on purpose to screw with you. Hard wayto learn to listen to yourself/ your own intuition!
Yup. I once tweeted how I love everything about myself from my skin tone, one dimple, my pretty smile etc & the next time I saw him he tried to break me down by calling me fake. Asking me why I wear fake hair or feel the need to wear make up, how I look like a reptile etc. he kept nitpicking & was going in on me.
This was my first main mistake, as I was being triangulated from the very start, and I should’ve left in the very very beginning. There are so many women in his life, and none of it made any sense, and he kept saying that they were friends and ex-wives and masseuses, and he kept saying for me to not to even ask for them to not be in his life. That was my first red flag and even though I didn’t like it, I let it go and I should never have done that. It would’ve saved me years of hell.
Yup, same spirit different people, I'm thankful for the awakening, it sets you free 🙏 A narc once told me "I found a girl that look like you." I chuckled because I just had this feeling he was bluffing. Well, he ended up marrying a fat chick with no talents who looks nothing like me. Lmao He only said that to make me feel less than, to make me feel like I'm easily replaced. He hoovered me recently after 8 years of no contact. Automatic BLOCK. THIS VIDEO IS WORTH GOLD 🏆 🏆
Yes, it was always some "cousin" I never heard of. "Cousins" poppin up outta the woodwork! Had one too many lies, been cheated on and left one to many times. No contact is the best contact! Be Free! 🙌👑💯
Already kick like button before the video start because I know is gonna be spot on! 🙌🇬🇧😘so many demons on disguise..for me the worst battle is with my own mind and thoughts and all the rumination and the anger some days just want seek revenge..God give us strength 🙏 by the way hitting the gym thank you for your support and your music👏
I should have heard this 30 years ago. Off and on for 30 years...Thank you! You make music....love Superstition, but your real calling is sending this message. I could never figure out why he would bring up other parties...triangulation. HUGE revelation to me--
Wow every video you share is spot on. I’m married to one for 9 years he tried to attack me and hurt me bc I told him I wanted a divorce and for him to get his things and leave. I had to call the police bc he started destroying things in the house. He went to jail & the next day I found out he had been cheating with the same supply from previously. I confronted him about it and haven’t heard from him since. He is still incarcerated one month later. What do you think he is going through right now ??
I am so happy to have found content like this because for 17 years I did not know what to call this abuse that I suffered. I knew I wasn't crazy, although I thought I was sometimes. So happy to be out of this situation and even more happy to find out that it is a name for this disorderly conduct from the narc. Thanks for breaking down triangulation because that was a constant in my relationship.
Drama, drama ain't got no time for immaturity. Know your truth. I'm not inferior to any woman. Sorry, baby girl. I'm wondering about the behaviour of the man involved. That's the behaviour I pay attention to. Don't test the strong ones. May the Lord give these people peace.
My ex was friends with an amazing amount of exes and he slept at their place and they slept at his place. He called me insecure for having an opinion about it.
It's scary how so many people have met the same demon in different bodies. I didn't realize that even the times I thought were good was a lie as well. Thank God for healing! 🙌
Seriously very scary!
Wow I just said that. It's a spirit. A strong hold. So so sad.
Wow lady your message is deep to me wow thankyou Godbless you
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It’s crazy isn’t it?! Accepting that what we thought was “the good” was all a lie is so hard. We are all there with you. Stay strong.❤
And then the narc has the audacity to easily get jealous when they stay doing triangulation...
All true!
The Narcissist and The Empath is a battle of the soul; armor up!
Stay alert!
Stay alive!
Stay strong!
Peace ✌️
Amen ❤
Amen 💯👍
Thankyou will do Amen
Jesus protect me in your HOLY NAME
When I read that I thought...that's crazy...but the narcissist and the empath....is truly a battle....WoW!!!
He's been triangulating me with his ex, and she's playing ball. I'm not playing the game anymore, it's game over!! ❤️❤️❤️
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤kno😢u right never going be just you and that person thankGod I finally out thanks terrell 😂
"you being able to validate yourself is a defense mechanism against their manipulation" SAY IT AGAIN LOUDER !
I left mine looking stupid. I abandoned them when they thought that I never would. Out of nowhere. Left them stunned. Tried to make me jealous, didn't work. What could they possibly do next?😂
Same! 💯
When someone shows you who they are believe them the “first time”
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NOT THE HOW MANY NIGHTS YA’LL SPENT UNDERNEATH THE STARS TOGETHER 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I get it. Triangulation sounds like a setup/stage or a game
Definitely is,all to get a reaction
I thought. How Dare You.............Cheat On Me! Yes I was Hurt Mad and Sad for a darn year Traumatized to ...Da. Max ! The disrespect ...you have to pay attention to what they show you instead of what the say to you. They pull a Lie out the Sky.
My ex suggested we bring another woman into our relationship so he could get her pregnant and we all live together as a family…..that was the last straw for me! I don’t get down like that, I don’t share and he’s got me fucked up! ✌🏼 and I told him I’m not collateral damage!! He had a hard time breaking me down, even after 17 years, I’m too head strong for the bullshit and that pissed him off!!
That’s crazy that some dudes really be straight up with shit like that. Good head on your shoulders love 💪 god bless
She probably was already pregnant by him
Damn the audacity! These people are monsters.
@@manuelgarcia5961 at least he was straight up about it. The majority of them just do it without permission.
I hate it when he comes to pick up the baby, and he brings his supply. He wants to intimidate me. She just stares at me and smirks! I don't want him girl keep your demon pet.
I know karma is on the way don't react. That will only give the narc fuel. With her ugly ass and the damn crutball the DUMMIES.
"...Demon pet repellent..." putting that on a t-shirt or bumper sticker
Sounds like she got some problems. Her biggest problem she doesn't see YET. She is with a narcissist and it is going to be a hell of a ride for her (or probably already is).
I don't let the demons have the child,I'm saving to leave the area,I'd sooner be totally on my own and start again than let the child go to an abusive,sick,psychopathic family of liars and bullies. I've cut all seeing both of us.
@@garysmith4796 I agree completely I just pray for my child before going there and after coming back
I had a narc try me. I'm an Aquarius and we are known for intelligence. I played the game just to see how far they would go. I noticed every move and waited till their birthday to ghosted and blocked them. Bet that clown won't forget me...😂😂😂
He tried to triangulate me and said he was trying to wake me up. He woke me up alright I filed for divorce and put his ass out And told him I will not compete with trash on no day. I’m worth more than that! He played himself trying to play me. God stripped him of everything except his freedom. Thank you lord!!!
Facts brother, “when you’re starving you’ll eat anything” Narcs are so damn weak and fragile only they would think of these manipulation tactics. I noticed recently that all the narcs I’ve known are actually literally afraid of me, their behavior is a bizarre thing to observe.
Facts. They are very afraid of the ppl they violate because they know that God’s wrath is greater than our own. They’re not in the clear, there’s a price for almost everything.
They are crazy.
@@karriesaunders8597 🤣 you made me laugh they really are
They sense your shine. They don't even have to see it. But, you see them, which scares them
@@LOVETHYSELFDAILY yeah it’s pretty easy to tell who has darkness and evil in their eyes. They’re always trying to put on a show, it’s so uninteresting I just stare at them with a blank face then they get scared. They’re the most boring people.
Before I was discarded, my Narc would have people he slept with meet him at the grocery store while we shopped for food for the house. It was very disrespectful they think they are slick, but that's when u leave them they are using you to make themselves look good to the new supply
They always have more than one cell phone or device. If you ever go thru there devices you’d be on the floor as to what you see. They are messy individuals. Some have a whole other Life abd situation going on you don’t know about
Yep 👍
Narcs like to project too, mine would always accuse me of cheating even tho I was loyal for 9 years.
I worked for my ex covert narc in his office. He adored and admired me, wined and dined me on the weekends, then wouldn’t touch me at the drop of a dime. He had at least 2 other women and asked for permission to date us all. He gave the impression he liked my sister then called me crazy for pointing it out. He pit me against other employees and tossed out my flowers when I began dating someone else. He is egotistical, sneaky, cunning, manipulative and selfish. I cried, cried and cried and still no change. After 3 1/2 years of begging for a commitment, I quit and blocked him. I hear his business is failing now and he wants me back. My credit score is going up and I’m in law school. Good riddance!
Good for you his lost never yours yes stay strong sister 💪
Just remember they don’t change, you deserve better
Go, go, go. Good for you. I am having to stay with my narcissist wife for a few more months for my protection (financial). I see the light at the end of the tunnel and it is good that you are already in the light and doing well.
Every upload homie does, it helps thousands of people. It should inspire a lot of you watching that you can use that pain, betrayal, and confusion as fuel to find your purpose in life and have hope. If you become successful and a much better person after the relationship with the narc ends, it will eat them alive for the rest of their lives.
That's right on the mark. Success is the best revenge.
When your heart is starving you’ll eat lies .
The funny thing is that my narc said literally!; that he was giving me breadcrumbs (and that he wish he could give more); instead like you explained he gave me less and less. So happy I find the strength to say goodbye. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
it's a trip because mine came back after 2 months, about a month ago, he knocked on my door at 3:30 a.m. asking if he could use a bathroom and wait to catch them first bus to his neighborhood, and before I went back in my room to go back to sleep, he started muttering something about hoovering! he specifically said he was there to Hoover and he was back on his Hoover s***, and I question him on it, he said you heard me and I'm not talking about bloods and crips, either? cuz he knows I used to roll with the bloods... I know he's been stalking my s***. I know he watch all my s***. he knows what the f*** he's doing. I just ignored it though I went right back to bed.
I picked him up in Chicago to come buy a car from my neighbor. He stayed and helped me for a few months, bought the car and a couple weeks later we knew he would go home or go back to staying with family. We text for a month and a half then out of the blue he breaks up with me in a text saying he knew from the day I came to get him it would be the last time we speak. He just wanted me to see his good side then dropped me like a bag of hot rocks and he'd stay in touch. WTF ... That was the most rotten thing ever. We made love, laughed and had such a good time and I actually wanted to take time off to go visit him on his turf ....and BOOM he's done 😢 and he knew the whole time we loved he was leaving
He has such a paroinid and suspicious mind ...I even tried to add him to my Google maps, like my family always knows where I'm at and he refused but would ask what took so long for me to get home
I wish my Narc only triangulated me with just 1 person. She threw everyone at me even strangers. Of course none of these people ever said anything to me.
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So true it’s repulsive and makes me want to throw up and throw them all out of my life.
They are so low and cheap they will never be able to afford having the real you. Never in a healthy way.
It took me 37 years to finally realize he was not going to charge. He just kept getting worst😢
He put his mom in the middle of it. She said stop beating my son when he was physically abusing me.
Very imported message. Thank you
40 years!! He never changed! Only got worse!!
Terrel. I've even done this myself because I copied what I saw growing up. Its not until you hear people speak as you do that you realise whats happening. Start by looking in the mirror. Using people makes us feel bad. Period. Identify the behaviour and break generational curses people. Lets become better human beings. With much love from England 🙏🏽
Yes. I agree. People are finally hanging out their family's dirty laundry. There is no excuse for disrespect to another's soul and spirit. The most damaging thing anyone could do is to another person's heart. There's no excuse to try to hurt the people who try to make the world a better place for our children and their children.
Facts on facts Woo Lordtt!!!!!! Stop accepting breadcrumbs and know you deserve the entire loaf and I prefer an organic one😉. Uphold your will and refuse to be trauma bonded and that includes family and friends 🙏🏽.
This is so true I felt my self esteem low so I was comparing and I started trying to look better by working out, going to the dentist, buying more fashion clothing, and then starting to become a wealthy man someway somehow. Like I literally got a better job cuz I was with the narc and first day at the new job I called her phone found out she cheated got discarded quickly and I wasn't focused as much almost cost me the job but after couple days I wanted to improve
Awe that's so sad!!
wow, seems like you actually improved your life as a result of being with the narc - surprising positive side effect of narcissistic relationship.:)
@@elizaveta2407 I wouldn't take it that far. That love bomb was incredible at first I smoked smoking marijuana for 4 months trying to get this job because she had 3 kids and I had 2 it was a dream come true I can finally have a family I was there for her and kids until the end of us. She made my dreams into a living nightmare, what made me believe and stay with her ignore all the signs was based on what she told me which I know now (I think) is a lie. Telling me you are the perfect boyfriend, I don't want these guys in 2022, and I only want you she made me feel incredible about myself... Whenever I did try to break her off she would act and say the sweetest things I was a fool
@@elizaveta2407 That's the thing about painful situations, they can always help us grow. we can use pain and anger as fuel by transforming it alchemically through our psychology.
It’s definitely a method to the madness with these Manipulators 🎯🎯🎯
Key!! Always a third party!! I was never a priority! 20 fxxxing years! Still trying to do the same thing. Thankyou sweet for the confirmation 🤗🇦🇺💗👍🙏
That is what made me walk away! After 30 years! He always had some needy bitch friend on his phone I felt like I had to compete with for his attention!! Now I realize what he was doing all along! I busted him trying to get a hotel room With her! When I asked him about it he denied it! So i sent the text to him that i had gotten off his phone and he still denied it so i left!! Thanks for the info!!
You go girl. Good you already went. I will have my day soon, very soon. Good for you.
Terrell, When you said,
"I don't care how many nights you spent under the stars together" I almost spit my soda out laughing. What night under the stars? He made everything miserable! 😂
Brilliant video, thank you. The crazy thing then is they start accusing you of the very thing they are doing! I’m out and staying out 💪
Definitely projections are confessions
The narc even wanna control the tv.. like gawd damn I gotta watch tv when you want too didn’t want to go anywhere she felt someway about that ima be me one way or another…
Omg so blessed to be almost 3yrs. No Contact. Keep disposing Them Terrell 🙏🏾🙏🏾💜❤️💜❤️
Omg! I experienced all of this! I'm so glad that the Lord is a healer and a deliverer! Amen!
No No Hell No when I found out about the sidepiece. And He rejected me more than twice. 3 strike you're out Get Yo Gear and Go ........ NC. I'm free
I was starving for emotions affection and Sex when that which kept me holding on was gone. "Game Over ". I began to have pop ups on Toxic Relationshipd just like Revelation Once you know You Go
My favorite line of your video.. “your feelings, your respect, and your dignity is not for negotiating, zero tolerance”. Absolutely loved this!! Took me 32 years to finally get that and now shit barely gets passed me. Awesome advice!! Great job sir 🙌🏼💯
Dont play their game, they are not even worth it!
Absolute truth 💣 bombs here!
I was being triangulated by my husband of 12 years, he was grooming the secretary from his work, while devaluing me. I didn't realize what was happening until he brutally discarded me. Cowards and Cheats
Please cover the topic on narc destruction of one’s property, and how they are protective of their belongings.
You are speaking ALL FACTS 💯🎯✨ My ex is a narcissist and everything you describe. I have recently called him out on his BS in front of mutual friends and associates. He wanted an apology and he ain’t get it what so ever 😂✨
Soooo true!! These narcissists are so skilled at manipulation.
The women my Narc was dealing with were older than me. So he always compared me to them as far as how unaccomplished I was. How "business savvy" they were and things they had. I'm sure he would bring up my youth when he got into with them as a way to throw a dagger at them. Or if I would bring up how I didn't like him dealing with me and these other women because I don't like to share, he would talk about how "immature" I was and how much of a "little girl" and a nag and complainer I was. I remember one time he told me "older women know how to treat a man." I said well why are you here with me go be with them old hoes then smh. One of the women was married, she didn't have the time or energy to "nag" him like I did because she had a whole damn husband smh. I was feeling insecure at first, but I was like fuck that you're literally comparing to bitches that old enough to be my mother smh. He had me involved business wise with these women I met one of them. When she saw me she seemed shocked by how "pretty" I am and she asked me how old I was particularly so that gave away that he had discussed me with her before smfh! I cut him off back in October, I was done with him making me a part of his harem. I deserve better than that.
i hope you learned from this life lesson. That the next instance that ANY man brings up another women to you, That you instantly CUT HIM OFF‼️ Show him you don't play that sh*t! Either your the only one, or he won't have you at all 💯 When you value yourself, these men have no choice but to step up or SHIP OUT!
@@prettyllady I've most definitely learned my lesson. I just really thank God I have learned this is my 20's. Unfortunately those other women are in their 40's and 50's and still haven't learned and still are around for his abusive and toxic behavior.
Well dont call them old hoes just because hes an asshole. You to will become older , god permitting.
My ex-narcissist use to do this to me as well. He was a lawyer and all the women he dated were older then me and some married. He would throw them in my face constantly especially when I blocked him for a few weeks - because of his abuse. I was the only young woman in the harem. I told him to forget my existence and go be with them. He just would not leave me alone...
I'm 43 years old and I'm dealing with a 31-year-old man and he's been talking to a little girl who's 22, fake lips, BBL. All that s***. I'm a bodybuilder and up have done personal training before, I'm shredded right now and got my six pack, I got a sculpted glutes and toned as f*** ass biceps and arms, basically I'm the opposite of her. I'm 5'7 is she's 5'2, we both weigh 120 lb... but yeah, she calls me grandma, she's been harassing me. she's been stalking me. she threatened to shoot me. I ran into them over a week ago and I beat the brakes off of her after he busted me in my face in public. she's a coward and a punk. I think it's horrible that she's trying to use the fact that I'm older as an insult to my intelligence when in reality she doesn't know anything about me. I'm autistic and she's clearly a narcissist just like the guy who she's with. she was bragging about how she was going to have him come beat my ass after she was posting pictures less than a month before where he had busted her in the face and split her lip on social media. then all of a sudden she took those down and started harassing me and saying she was going to send him over to beat me up. I was like you better stay in your position and get beat. you got me f***** up. I'm a grown ass woman. And I told her in the beginning I wasn't even interested in him like that! He's an artist out here from Philadelphia and I was mentoring him. He's new to my graffiti crew and as a founding member of 206 Zulu out here, I'm heavily involved in the graffiti scene. I also work with substance use disorder recovery and he got a lot of addictions and I was trying to get him some assistance and some resources out here. All of a sudden I started getting harassed and prank called! I told that b**** I didn't even want this dude, I'm a grown ass woman what do you think I look like dating a whole bump? I diagnosed him with APD in my own mind, not professionally of course, but I told him he needs to go talk to a psychiatrist because he's clearly a sociopath. I've given him a lot of insight to himself but it's not my job to take him to therapy. That's on his b****! The same one who he beats up that brags about how he puts hands on women. I told dude from jump Street that I am happily single and I've been single for 6 years and I'm not planning on dating. In order to protect myself further, I told him I'm not able to fall in love with people and then I'm gay.😂 but he was really mad that I rejected him, and this is how that all started.
exactly, that is so true the things you talking about I lived it for 36 years now to actually here someone breaking it down is really heartfelt !!!!
Thank you and yes it’s all from experience
I totally agree and have a much better understanding of narc behavior as I also lived it for over 29 years, with God's strength I ask him to release healing and restoration for myself and anyone that has or is going through this type of pain!
I was dating a narcissists I found a receipt of him cheating with a woman I'm a hotel my ex got so mad that I found out I was strong because I knew he was doing something my ex kept saying he wasn't but I was always ahead of my narcissists til this day he hasn't apologized and I'm not looking for anything from him cause it was a total weight off my shoulders I knew who I was even when dealing with a narcissists I have moved on and emotionally detached from the drama and the chaos toxicity. Karma will have his day. I love my peace
Amen brother!!!!! 🙏
You know how we know we are all talking about Narcissists? All the comments relate, T's comments sound like the SAME person we know. ITS DEFINITELY THEM NOT US FAMILY ❤️❤️❤️
You're absolutely on point. Thank you for this. I needed to hear this message. Btw, being from Detroit, I love the old english D. We rock those faithfully
Yes I was breadcrumbed but I was never programmed into thinking it was enough or being grateful
🗣 I swear you articulate your thoughts immaculately ‼️👏🏾✨️
So true 😮😮😮😮
All 3 narcs have done this to me. #1 the ex husband tried calling his mistress in front of me, she answered, he said he wanted to come over, she denied him, I laughed he got mad and attacked me 😂, #2 left me when I gave up everything/everyone for him, when I found out about the other woman and still wanted to stay with him, I became the "other woman" that was terrible. #3 he went from seeing me every time he came back home from work to spend time with me on the weekends, then he went to barely answering my texts, I knew he was bugging and wanted me to blow up his phone and make him look more important than he wasn't, I didn't fall for it and told him just that, now he mad and hasn't spoken to me since 🤦🏽♀️😂😂. Standing up for yourself burns them up inside 🔥🔥. My Peace of mind is Not for negotiation.
I had a situation with a girl who claimed, then proved that she was my ex's offspring. She came to visit unannounced. She then tried to climb in my bed with her dad. He threw her out. I was okay with his behavior...but then he proceeded to validate her and slowly made her into someone I shouldfear because she 'didnt like me'. Every time we would fight she was suddenly important. It was sick! Triangulation at its finest!
Thank you so much for reading my comment asking you for this video on triangulation I appreciate you thank you for reading the comments and getting involved like you are in helping us heal. I'm 5 yrs into my healing thank you God bless you . This made my day
I needed to hear this bc I really thought I was doing something by not answering his calls immediately. I’d answer 3 days, weeks, or even months later not truly understanding that I was still getting high/addicted to him & the bond we had. Doing the work now and your channel is truly helping me during my healing process
No Contact Is The Best Contact! No Communication Is Communication. Stay Strong! 💪🙌💯
Thank you! This has been one of the best videos, hits me deeply. Just today, I closed the door. Call me “Gray Rock.”
You are rock solid
Grey rock professional
You win! They lose
They couldn’t take you and break you.
They just broke a toe trying to kick you
Your soul said NO!
Whoa, you are so right, the purpose of triangulation is to move the focus and expectations off of them onto you! Thank you Terrell!! Oh a side note, I'd like to add that I believe we all have the same value as humans which doesn't depend of our looks or talents etc. At the same time we are different in terms of achievement, that is also true. But it only affects our self-esteem, not value as human beings.❤
Your calming tone and relaxed mood was helpful. You really articulated what it’s like dealing with someone who has narcissistic tendencies. You explained things in a helpful and professional manner. Thank you for your content! 😊
Thank God for healing! 🙌
This video is important. You knocked it out the park.
Amen brother AMEN 🙏 and you did not go off topic at all, you hit the nail on the head.
Thank you my friend
He kept flirting with other women in front of me while having dinner at a restaurant. I got tired of it and stopped going. Then started chasing behind the neighbor that come over every week. I told him to stay there with her. He refuse to do that just to prove me wrong when I know the truth. I'm doing no contact also. thank you for your videos
This is so on point....and it happened to me without me being aware. Never knew it was " breadcrumming".
Yes ,you are right let them go. 🙏🙏🙏
Protect this King at all cost💪
This makes so much sense, you are really clued up on every detail of their behaviours... Brilliant 👏
Thank you and know em like a book
No lies told here 💯💯💯
Damn I never looked at it like that, thank you for opening my eyes up
🔥🔥😮💨😮💨😮💨 bro . All Praises To The Most High !💪🏽
My narc would always use hypotheticals using triangulation. We could never have a discussion without him dragging someone else into our chat. I asked one day if we could stay focused on us and not bring anyone else into the discussion and he was LIVID. I was is the ninja crazy😂? We both were highly intelligent intellectuals, but he needed to give me these long drawn out, made up scenarios when checked on his behavior. His behavior never made me want to do more, his behavior made me want to do less. I knew he was stiff arming me. For a minute, he had me confused with the triangulation but once I figured it out and called him out, he began treating me different. I matched his energy and he moved on himself. I didn't chase him. I let him go. I think that made him angrier. I kept traveling, doing stuff I enjoyed. I wouldn't tolerate his breadcrumbs. I turned him down. I'm proud of myself for walking away. We were friends for almost 30 years. I was shocked when the mask fell off, but I'm glad I never got sucked into that life. That little taste was enough for me.
Excellent video. Right on with this topic. Be aware of your partner saying that a relationship with the opposite sex is just a so called "good friend". No - this is all a game to them for a pathetic way to get a reaction out of you. It is never going to be just you as a couple. It gets worse with time. Take my word for it. Get out and get out now.
Me and my lady going through something last night she over my house she showing me videos of my kid. As she scrolls through thr video up pops a screenshot of some dude on ig. I said who is that she said that don't concern you I was sending that to my cousin I have to be loyal to thr group and not let you see the name.i instantly felt sick to my stomach and never said another word to her.she end up leaving I said drive safe good night. I'm not dealing with triangulation good riddens
And never look back G believe it was a tactic
I blocked his and her a$$ on all cylinders. How dare he try to pit me against that big foot bremelo 😂😂😂
15:07 Sealed The Deal! God Bless You Mr. Andretti. ❤️
Man, all so true! U keep seeing them seeking outside attention and they say they're not and they get mad at you to prove it...until you start questioning yourself! I finally decided to listen to myself, not him...and I got the picture...they do it alll on purpose to screw with you. Hard wayto learn to listen to yourself/ your own intuition!
Yup. I once tweeted how I love everything about myself from my skin tone, one dimple, my pretty smile etc & the next time I saw him he tried to break me down by calling me fake. Asking me why I wear fake hair or feel the need to wear make up, how I look like a reptile etc. he kept nitpicking & was going in on me.
This was my first main mistake, as I was being triangulated from the very start, and I should’ve left in the very very beginning. There are so many women in his life, and none of it made any sense, and he kept saying that they were friends and ex-wives and masseuses, and he kept saying for me to not to even ask for them to not be in his life. That was my first red flag and even though I didn’t like it, I let it go and I should never have done that. It would’ve saved me years of hell.
Yup, same spirit different people, I'm thankful for the awakening, it sets you free 🙏
A narc once told me "I found a girl that look like you."
I chuckled because I just had this feeling he was bluffing. Well, he ended up marrying a fat chick with no talents who looks nothing like me. Lmao
He only said that to make me feel less than, to make me feel like I'm easily replaced.
He hoovered me recently after 8 years of no contact. Automatic BLOCK.
THIS VIDEO IS WORTH GOLD 🏆 🏆
Yes, it was always some "cousin" I never heard of. "Cousins" poppin up outta the woodwork! Had one too many lies, been cheated on and left one to many times. No contact is the best contact! Be Free! 🙌👑💯
You are so on point with everything that came out your mouth. 💯
Already kick like button before the video start because I know is gonna be spot on! 🙌🇬🇧😘so many demons on disguise..for me the worst battle is with my own mind and thoughts and all the rumination and the anger some days just want seek revenge..God give us strength 🙏 by the way hitting the gym thank you for your support and your music👏
All true statements, Nothing but the truth 🙏🏽
The ex Narc told me that one of the females he use to mess with told him , she couldn’t mess with anymore because he was like crack 🙄😬
Keep telling yourself he’s a narcissist “
Let it go.
He’s a black hole.
You deserve better.
Amen
So true!
I should have heard this 30 years ago. Off and on for 30 years...Thank you! You make music....love Superstition, but your real calling is sending this message. I could never figure out why he would bring up other parties...triangulation. HUGE revelation to me--
Wow every video you share is spot on. I’m married to one for 9 years he tried to attack me and hurt me bc I told him I wanted a divorce and for him to get his things and leave. I had to call the police bc he started destroying things in the house. He went to jail & the next day I found out he had been cheating with the same supply from previously. I confronted him about it and haven’t heard from him since. He is still incarcerated one month later. What do you think he is going through right now ??
9 years wow. He might be getting his carma in a painful way in jail now.
Thank you sir knowledge is power but knowledge not apply is worthless never again I be play for a fool
He always had someone on the side.
I am so happy to have found content like this because for 17 years I did not know what to call this abuse that I suffered. I knew I wasn't crazy, although I thought I was sometimes. So happy to be out of this situation and even more happy to find out that it is a name for this disorderly conduct from the narc. Thanks for breaking down triangulation because that was a constant in my relationship.
Drama, drama ain't got no time for immaturity.
Know your truth.
I'm not inferior to any woman. Sorry, baby girl.
I'm wondering about the behaviour of the man involved. That's the behaviour I pay attention to.
Don't test the strong ones.
May the Lord give these people peace.
Omg i wish i had someone like him to talk to
You know what you are TALKING about 😻💜
Message well received.
My ex was friends with an amazing amount of exes and he slept at their place and they slept at his place. He called me insecure for having an opinion about it.