The new girl my ex is with she tried getting me fired at my job, I ended up quitting and got a better job. She was saying horrible things about me all the time and lies, she tried so hard to be with him now she's the one being used and ignored. It's funny I'm glad he's with her now they're making each other miserable while I enjoy life im 23 btw.
My narcissist ex husband was dating a young woman and our agreement was that if it was serious, we would always introduce for our son's sake. So, he told me about the young woman and how she would be visiting from another state. Once she got here, I made plans for lunch. Turned out, I really liked her so we scheduled girl's activities.We hung out, got our nails done, went dancing, had dinner, etc. One day, she commenred how strange it was that she was hanging out her man's ex-wife. She asked if Iwas jealous.... my answer: naahhh, I know what you got. I ain't mad.....she returned to her home state and promptly broke up with my ex. She later said thaat she couldn't understand why he would break up with me so she knew something must be wrong with him...🤣🤣🤣... sometimes, that's all it takes!🤷♀️
Not a narcissist (though I dated at least one of those and another toxic type), but my ex-fiance became my ex because he was cheating on me. Despite a proven lack of drama over the course of our fairly long relationship, I think he and my ex-friend he was cheating on me with expected or wanted me to "go crazy." It's my guess because they both seemed surprised by my calmness and then forgiveness. They did not last long, likely because I wasn't the villain against whom they could unify. She lost her husband in all of this, too.
@@TheShellybaybee Sometimes, you wish you could warn the new supply. But, sometimes, when they have that real 'pick me' attitude, you just gotta sit back and watch the train go off the rails....
@@donnaholton1981 Its a combination of things, actually. First and foremost, its just not my personality type. I am not a jealous person. I don't lay claim to anyone, not even my children. I lead, I guide, I advise but, most of all, I love. My ex cheated on me MERCILESSLY during our marriage. I begged, I pleaded, I cried, tried to change all the things about me that I thought made him not love me. At the end of the day, it didn't work. That leads me to the second thing about my personality: I will plead all the way to the end. I will beg, I will try to make the person see the light BUUUTT, once I am done, THAT IS IT. I don't feel anything, I don't care what happens to the person. They become a non entity to me, Me and this guy had already been divorced for quite some time when this situation happened. My main thought was to protect my son from some of the skanky women he was bringing around him. You know the saying, 'keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer'. That was the premise of everything that I did..... Everyone thought like you did, 'how could you possibly hang out with someone who is dating your ex husband????!! Turns out, he has a type. They are all just like ME. So, he will never get rid of me! Poetic justice, don't you think??
I know this is true with my ex husband and his now fiancee. I tried to warn her because I knew her before she knew him. She's a great woman but this last 10 years with him has broken her so much. She was amazing before but now she looks exactly like I did when I finally got away from him.
My ex narc got his new supply the same exact engagement ring he got me 🤦🏾♀🤦🏾♀. He is blocked and had the nerve to text me from a different number saying he just got engaged oh and mind you we just broke up 6 months ago. When I blocked that number and didn't respond I guess that pisses him off cause he shows up at my house and got mad cause his key didn't work. Like dude enjoy your fiance and leave me be. I got stories for days. So glad I am free from him
How insane is that, right? If you are so happy why the hell are you still trying to talk to me? My ex told me his new gf was the best thing to ever happen to him. I told him good treat her better than the way you treated me. It's been 10 years of him trying to get me back behind her back. I ain't going. He just got her a ring a few months ago. But has no intention of actually getting married, I truly believe the ring was just to shut her up cause he got me one too when we were together. They never let go. Especially if you are ok with not being with them. It's like they can't understand why anyone would not want them even though deep down they know exactly who they are. They know what they do and know they literally have nothing but pain to offer but how dare you be happy without them.
@@Authenticallyathena so true it's they are like how can you be over me how can you not want me. I'm like get over yourself. It has to be a horrible feeling for them to live that way
@@Kikisharri2 Right, but you also have to be careful feeling that way. Normal feel sorry for people in pain but them, you can't ever feel sorry for them. I know I felt sorry for my narc mother when I started healing, I felt sorry for my narc ex husband when I realized how shit his life must be but then I remember, he knows what to do to be decent but chooses not to. After I made myself realize that I stopped ever feeling bad for him or for my mother to be honest.
While your (ex-)Narcy is love bombing the new supply or victim, you can make your (Great) escape. Pretend you are Steve McQueen in the move the Great Escape!
I’m going through a divorce with a narcissist. I found out he was having a 10 year affair with his cousin and multiple women. She broke it off after l told the family. They are still planning to get back together. The cousin knows he’s a player. She thinks he’s a Prize and he will not abuse her like he did me. News flash narcissist don’t change for nobody.
I believed I had met the man of my dreams when I was the new supply. One day he was really sad and tears started streaming down his face. "OMG what's wrong baby!!" I said. He replied, his ex was going to talk to me and tell me so many lies about him that weren't true to break us up! It's ok I won 't believe anything she says!!! MAN, I constantly think about that conversation. We never spoke. He made sure of that. I am now old supply. It's true nobody wants to hear lies from jealous lovers, because like you said. You feel like your the one that will change him. He wouldn't do that to me!! Surprise it did happen to me. And he moved on to the new supply he had been cheating on me with.
It’s not even worth trying to convince the new supply while they think you’re competing with them and it’s best for them to figure it out on there own delusional mindset.
Facts... I tried to warn my ex husband's new supply. I knew her before he did. I knew she was a nice woman, much like myself actually and I think that is why he picked her. I guess he thought I'd be jealous. Anyway, one night he pushed me again in front of her and I lost it which is what he wanted. This was way before I healed and educated myself on narcissism. However I had receipts to prove to her everything he was trying to do with me and I'm sure other women behind her back. I told her there was nothing tying her to him, I had kids but she had no reason to stay. I told her not to think for one second there weren't several other women(and there were). I told her all of this in front of him and had proof I offered to show her. She said she believed me and seemed hurt. He called me later telling me I ruined his relationship. I said well telling the truth will do that. I don't know what he told her though, cause she stayed. 10 years later she is a shell of the woman I used to know and only just now got a ring. However, he has no intention of actually getting married she just hasn't figured that out yet.
Or the ex wife after she takes him back after a disrespectful discard. It's embarrassing especially if you knew what happened in the marriage in the past. Good luck
The new supply told me she felt like I "fked him up mentally and emotionally " and felt sorry for his sob story that she was going to fulfill and nurturehim with love. He's all yours. Good riddance. 😉 checkmate
Yup the "I know him more; he wants to move on and be happy." Right. I was the bad one who destroyed him! You're gonna eat your words honey especially when you find out he's grooming other chicks. Just cause you're his now gf don't mean he's faithful. Hello divorced twice and every relationship they abandoned him but WE are the crazy ones! 🤪
Don't respond to them , the damage has been done. Let them figure it out. And don't say nothing about the narcissist or toxic person. Don't feed them negative energy ❤️ Keep bring it to the unknown behavior to the light.
So true! I definitely felt that when I started dating narc-ex. A girl who he was repeatedly dumped by him immediately jumped back on the train when I broke up with him. She has narc tendencies as well. Girl, I am not jealous! This is a win for everybody! You two bonding means there are less two toxic people in the dating scene! I would be so worried for the next girl if it wouldn't be you. :D
I feel for anyone that falls for my ex! However, I do not feel obligated at all to forewarn anyone. Specifically for one of the reasons stated! I will not risk my ex thinking I want him back. Hell no! I am still healing along with my kids. However, I haven’t felt this good in the last 10 years!
POV: The new supply... Finding out. "Why didn't you say anything to me before I got messed up with xxxxx?" -"I tried telling you, but you didn't want to hear it."
I was warned about my ex when I was the new supply but I just laughed because OF COURSE I was already told by my ex that this person is crazy and has it out for him.
I laughed so hard when I see my ex with his new girlfriend… she use to try so hard to get under my skin, I saw her last month and she did not have tht same energy, not even a smile, she looks emotionally drained!!! 🤣🤣🤣 I bet she feels stupid now🤦🏽♀️
Absolutely, the new supply was rubbing it in my face thinking she had some grand prize. One month later when she got on his bad side and found out who he really was I got the last laugh.
She is in for a tough time this narrissist is high on the spector scale one of his exs did not make it and I nearly lost my life I wish her the best of luck he is a covert malignant narrissist I moved away from him karma will come to him hopfuly she has knowledge of narrissistic abuse 💯🙌🙏
Lol in the beginning my ex told me “hey since we are serious now I have to let you know my ex is crazy and wants me back but I haven’t talked to her in a long time she’s just crazy” I was just like I’m not worried about it because he was so obsessed in love with me lol I thought. She never reached out to me but who knows what was really going on he was good at hiding everything from me but looking back it makes sense now. He went from the greatest lover ever to the biggest demon.
Yup when I met mine I thought I won the lottery. He was an electrician with his own business. After a year of dating I found out what a monster and nightmare I met. He was so abusive and always in a rage and always ready to snap. Even beat up his own car and broke the steering wheel door and windows. Anything could set him off and mainly he was only abusive to me and the lies and delusionals he believes. I know everyone calls everyone a narcissist today but you don’t kn until you really met one what a horrific situation you will be in. Mine had a women call me and threatened my life
This is EXACTLY what happened, she even did tell me that she always wins. Which - sis - I'm a grown person. That mentality is for children who are emotionally immature.
Yep. Remember how you felt. Yeah, he would think I want him back. No freaking way. I don't need him and his drama. I do get mad at myself sometimes. Cause I was there for him when he was out of work four years. His lazy butt, wants to work another job. To take her on vacation to a cabin in the woods. Go fishing. We were supposed to go there. He was cheap, lazy, liar, cheating user bf. They always think they're 🔥 property. Ha. He thinks I want to know her name. Duh? Why? He can't tell me the truth. I'm just hoping I'll find a much better man. That loves and appreciates me. Let him accidentally see us together. So happy, smiling, holding hands. Watch him treat me like a lady. One day it'll happen and yeah he'll be jealous.
My ex's BM tried to tell me before he got his claws in me, and to try to prove my loyalty I pushed her away. I also knew he wouldn't be happy. I wish I hadn't. After we broke up I reached out to her and heard the most horrible things, things I never experienced. I don't know if it was all true but I dodged bombs, not just bullets if it's the truth. I had an awful experience so I can't imagine what she went through. Except she still wants him 3yrs and an ex wife later. So idk. I wanted to tell his wife/ex wife (person after me) but I assumed she'd be like me. He tried to marry me after a week and we tried for a baby for 4 months, they got together as soon as he was sure I wasnt pregnant, abt 2 weeks after we were over. They were engaged after 3 months & married in a yr & a half, divorced 16mos later. Then he tried coming back, but I'm still with someone so he went to someone else. It's just all such a messy cycle.
BUT, they may not believe you at the moment, however, when the narcissist starts treating them the same way you told them they would then the light will come on and hopefully, they will get out and not lose the time that you did.
I needed to hear this today. I have been in my feelings since I found out he got engaged after I ignored them for 3 weeks. (Thought I was doing no contact but you explained the difference) Thank you I would like to have a 1 on 1 if possible.
I've never ever been the type to approach the other woman...even in my teen years (I'm 27 now). And I'm grateful I've grown with that mentality. I might waste a few minutes trying to tell off the narc but as far as where or who he goes to next.... it's not my business. Mainly because I know whoever that is won't leave. Why bother? His true colors will show and she'll see what I saw soon enough 🥰
Tbh I just beat up his new supply the other night. I attempted to visit my daughter and him one evening and he told me I could not be there bc someone in his family died. He texted me and told me that he wanted me to come back later that day. I left giving him the space he needed to grieve. Little did I know, his new supply was right upstairs. I came back that evening to use his internet bc my phone had been acting insane and returned to his house like he said I could. To my surprise, him and his new supply showed up at the door. This is the same woman that called and texted me months prior asking was I still seeing him. She also threatened me. I tried to explain to her what type of person he was, but she always took him back. When I explained to him why I was there at his house, his new supply laughed at me. I lost it and beat her up really badly. I feel bad but I don’t at the same time. 💯 She should have minded her business. I HATE that my reaction probably boosted his ego and sense of importance, but I can’t take any of it back. Even after I was arrested the next day for that, she was back at his house. This video really validated what that was. Why would you lie about a dead relative? Why would you allow her to be at the door? Why would you allow her to taunt me and make me out to be the fool? I also found out that he gave her a car that he took from me when we got into an argument years ago. He said he sold it to his uncle….. I might have to heal for YEARS after the physical and mental abuse he put me thru, but at least I’m out. I wish her the best. Hopefully she learns before it too late.
They're prideful... they'll say "Maybe he did you that way, but he'd never do ME that way. He loves me..... because I'm so much better. I'm prettier. I'm this. I'm that."
New supply was told he had a family and a baby on the way she didn't care. She & narc emptied our house while our baby was having open heart surgery. I gave her a list of what she was about to lose, car, credit, house. Check, check, check! She was the same age as his eldest daughter. When she left him after 4 years they both had burglary warrants for pickup returns/ shoplifting. She was a nasty piece of work, was cruel to our sons and encouraged them to be disrespectful to me. It was an ugly nightmare.
So true but then my baby daddy go quiet for a little bit and then my baby daddy pop up n do some crazy stuff to get at me. they basically be jealous at times snd try to ruin my relationship and they know what and how to get at that person. They think they win but honestly i just let them think that.
Yep! I was the new supply almost 12 years ago and I can truly say I thought I hit the jackpot and hated the ex for always trying to ruin what we had going on!! He was playing both sides of the fence and having us hating the wrong person. I wish I had let her keep him! Ugh now we have a 6 year old and it all makes sense. He did me the same way he did her when I was pregnant. Silly me thought I was the chosen one and we had some love story that none of the other ones had smh I was young and very inexperienced. At age 37, I can finally see the light! Thank God! I owe that Woman an apology for sure! It was him all along smh 🤦♀️
I just got out of a 10yr relationship with a narcissist.We were friends for 20 yrs before we got together he was so sweet. His baby mother tried to warn me but I didn't listen. I thought we been friends for a long time he wouldn't do that lies. Since he been gone I have been at peace started gaining my weight back I feel really good. I haven't spoken to him in 2wks until a few days ago we met up he told I looked good then all hell broke lose. I just left I wasn't going to let him get away with his previously act. He called me I told him I'm at peace and won't allow the B's. Do you know he told me I should never tell somebody I'm happy.
Yup think you for being worried about me but I'm good I had a chance to reflect on our relationship as a whole and figure out that he had been grooming me since I was his friend I have been through some tough times in my life and always got back up I refuse to keep being somebody fool especially when you know them
I have kids (2) with my ex narcissist and EVERYTHING you mentioned is very true! Now she's expecting 🤦🏽♀️ why would my ex tell our kids not to tell me about the new supply expecting??
I didn't find out till it was to late and I was balls deep in a mortgage (4 years) that his X had to sell her house and escape while he was at work. By then I already knew what I was dealing with and ugh, was stuck too.
Lol. Looking back on it....i should've NEVERRRRR tried to warn her because she stayed with him. 3 year's later, he's still showing me videos of him with other women😂😂😂🤦..that's on her. Im GLAD its HER and NOT ME!!!! 🤷
he gave her the iphone i gave him for his birthday. probably all the other things too, but both deserve it. because she knew about me, about our upcoming wedding, she was already fixated on him during our relationship, he made a video when i was mad about your lies, sent it to her and she enjoyed it.
Ok this seems to be the case even when the new supply contacts you first. My baby daddy got a girl and she get in touch with me out the blue. I didn't know he was dating and didn't really wanna talk to her but I gave in cuz I wanted to safe her. I told her everything. She told me some bad things about them too. One day, I asked if my baby daddy was still out of state with her (cuz she lived out of state) and she replied "Why you wanna know?" And it felt like she was being defensive. I've asked her if he's talked about me too cuz I wanted to make sure she get the facts straight on what happened. Again, she was defensive and said "He wants nothing to do with you!" And to that, I knew she was hooked. They broke up and he came running back for a shoulder to cry on. I thought he didn't want nothing to do with me? Hmm 🤔
The ex tried to warn me but I thought I was the exception to the rule . Turns out that he was everything she said he was and more. I was going to warn the new supply but she tried to befriend me while doing him behind my back so F her. They deserve each other
Also make a video on how to deal when the new supply tries to contact the old supply just to take out their rage for no reason. And why do they do that?
What can you tell me about a narcissist who leaves and go to a new supply who's a narcissist can they tell that they're both narcissists can one be worse than the other just asking.
The narcissists OTHER supply think she winning bc i finally got out... im so unbothered... "ma'am, you was just complaining about him literally punching in the face AGAIN" and we both know (as we all know with narcs) that he's still reaching out to me and trying to come see me. So yay for you, you "won"... Sorry little rant.. she literally texted me tonight which i thought i still had her blocked but i fixed that. But i am happy to say i actually wasnt triggered... just done with dumbfuckery that i slipped into. 😒😕
What about talking with the OLD supply? He had one for 20+years and she left one day. Then i came along. For me it’s been 11 years, but now i know. Things never made sense until i heard you and other UA-cam videos with clinicians and other psychologists. I feel in my gut that the old supply still has no idea what this really was. I feel sad for her. I’d like to compare notes for her sake and my own, to validate and be sure that this is what this is. So many variables though.
The new supply told me I didn't know how to treat him right. Have fun with that lady.
Wow - same ! All three of the women he cheated with let me know, I should have treated him better. I said take him then - pleaseeeeee !!!
The new girl my ex is with she tried getting me fired at my job, I ended up quitting and got a better job. She was saying horrible things about me all the time and lies, she tried so hard to be with him now she's the one being used and ignored. It's funny I'm glad he's with her now they're making each other miserable while I enjoy life im 23 btw.
Yes that is typical…!
My narcissist ex husband was dating a young woman and our agreement was that if it was serious, we would always introduce for our son's sake. So, he told me about the young woman and how she would be visiting from another state. Once she got here, I made plans for lunch. Turned out, I really liked her so we scheduled girl's activities.We hung out, got our nails done, went dancing, had dinner, etc. One day, she commenred how strange it was that she was hanging out her man's ex-wife. She asked if Iwas jealous.... my answer: naahhh, I know what you got. I ain't mad.....she returned to her home state and promptly broke up with my ex. She later said thaat she couldn't understand why he would break up with me so she knew something must be wrong with him...🤣🤣🤣... sometimes, that's all it takes!🤷♀️
Not a narcissist (though I dated at least one of those and another toxic type), but my ex-fiance became my ex because he was cheating on me. Despite a proven lack of drama over the course of our fairly long relationship, I think he and my ex-friend he was cheating on me with expected or wanted me to "go crazy." It's my guess because they both seemed surprised by my calmness and then forgiveness. They did not last long, likely because I wasn't the villain against whom they could unify. She lost her husband in all of this, too.
@@TheShellybaybee Sometimes, you wish you could warn the new supply. But, sometimes, when they have that real 'pick me' attitude, you just gotta sit back and watch the train go off the rails....
Smart girl😁
I seriously don’t understand how women can entertain another woman that was romantically involved with their husband it blows my mind.
@@donnaholton1981 Its a combination of things, actually. First and foremost, its just not my personality type. I am not a jealous person. I don't lay claim to anyone, not even my children. I lead, I guide, I advise but, most of all, I love. My ex cheated on me MERCILESSLY during our marriage. I begged, I pleaded, I cried, tried to change all the things about me that I thought made him not love me. At the end of the day, it didn't work. That leads me to the second thing about my personality: I will plead all the way to the end. I will beg, I will try to make the person see the light BUUUTT, once I am done, THAT IS IT. I don't feel anything, I don't care what happens to the person. They become a non entity to me, Me and this guy had already been divorced for quite some time when this situation happened. My main thought was to protect my son from some of the skanky women he was bringing around him. You know the saying, 'keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer'. That was the premise of everything that I did..... Everyone thought like you did, 'how could you possibly hang out with someone who is dating your ex husband????!! Turns out, he has a type. They are all just like ME. So, he will never get rid of me! Poetic justice, don't you think??
The new supply thinks they won a Prize but they’re actually in for a real big surprise.
They did win a prize.🤣they won a 🤡
@@Chosenoneforever baaaah, ha, ha, ha...ROTF!
Facts because they already said the empath is crazy ...
I never would have listened when I was new supply... I thought I had won a prize for sure......
She won a 🤡yeah you won honey! Keep this🤡🤣😂👆🎉🎉🎉🎉
Lmao😂
Lol so true but they will lose their own life and self-esteem in the long run they just don't know it yet!
I know this is true with my ex husband and his now fiancee. I tried to warn her because I knew her before she knew him. She's a great woman but this last 10 years with him has broken her so much. She was amazing before but now she looks exactly like I did when I finally got away from him.
My ex narc got his new supply the same exact engagement ring he got me 🤦🏾♀🤦🏾♀. He is blocked and had the nerve to text me from a different number saying he just got engaged oh and mind you we just broke up 6 months ago. When I blocked that number and didn't respond I guess that pisses him off cause he shows up at my house and got mad cause his key didn't work. Like dude enjoy your fiance and leave me be. I got stories for days. So glad I am free from him
I'm so happy for you and your new life!!! 🫂
God bless, pray and may happiness encompass you always
How insane is that, right? If you are so happy why the hell are you still trying to talk to me? My ex told me his new gf was the best thing to ever happen to him. I told him good treat her better than the way you treated me. It's been 10 years of him trying to get me back behind her back. I ain't going. He just got her a ring a few months ago. But has no intention of actually getting married, I truly believe the ring was just to shut her up cause he got me one too when we were together. They never let go. Especially if you are ok with not being with them. It's like they can't understand why anyone would not want them even though deep down they know exactly who they are. They know what they do and know they literally have nothing but pain to offer but how dare you be happy without them.
@@Authenticallyathena so true it's they are like how can you be over me how can you not want me. I'm like get over yourself. It has to be a horrible feeling for them to live that way
@@Kikisharri2 Right, but you also have to be careful feeling that way. Normal feel sorry for people in pain but them, you can't ever feel sorry for them. I know I felt sorry for my narc mother when I started healing, I felt sorry for my narc ex husband when I realized how shit his life must be but then I remember, he knows what to do to be decent but chooses not to. After I made myself realize that I stopped ever feeling bad for him or for my mother to be honest.
When you let the new supply win...
While your (ex-)Narcy is love bombing the new supply or victim, you can make your (Great) escape. Pretend you are Steve McQueen in the move the Great Escape!
🤣HELLO… give them so much space, they’ll think your cowering on the moon in a Neil Armstrong costume! F’em😉👍🏿
@@SomeHardFacts Declare victory and run like hell!
@@ulysses8785 gone like a 65 Cadillac 🚙💨🔥
@@SomeHardFacts LOL!
I’m going through a divorce with a narcissist. I found out he was having a 10 year affair with his cousin and multiple women. She broke it off after l told the family. They are still planning to get back together. The cousin knows he’s a player. She thinks he’s a Prize and he will not abuse her like he did me. News flash narcissist don’t change for nobody.
True to that! And wt he doing w his cousin anyways??
@@Michelle-ld9vj they’re sharing family recipes🙄
@@SomeHardFacts lol yeah
@@SomeHardFacts YO!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Michelle-ld9vj lol 😂 was thinking that myself
I believed I had met the man of my dreams when I was the new supply. One day he was really sad and tears started streaming down his face. "OMG what's wrong baby!!" I said. He replied, his ex was going to talk to me and tell me so many lies about him that weren't true to break us up! It's ok I won 't believe anything she says!!! MAN, I constantly think about that conversation. We never spoke. He made sure of that. I am now old supply. It's true nobody wants to hear lies from jealous lovers, because like you said. You feel like your the one that will change him. He wouldn't do that to me!! Surprise it did happen to me. And he moved on to the new supply he had been cheating on me with.
Yep! Think they're competing when no one is competing with them. You win, You're next, enjoy.
It’s not even worth trying to convince the new supply while they think you’re competing with them and it’s best for them to figure it out on there own delusional mindset.
Facts... I tried to warn my ex husband's new supply. I knew her before he did. I knew she was a nice woman, much like myself actually and I think that is why he picked her. I guess he thought I'd be jealous. Anyway, one night he pushed me again in front of her and I lost it which is what he wanted. This was way before I healed and educated myself on narcissism. However I had receipts to prove to her everything he was trying to do with me and I'm sure other women behind her back. I told her there was nothing tying her to him, I had kids but she had no reason to stay. I told her not to think for one second there weren't several other women(and there were). I told her all of this in front of him and had proof I offered to show her. She said she believed me and seemed hurt. He called me later telling me I ruined his relationship. I said well telling the truth will do that. I don't know what he told her though, cause she stayed. 10 years later she is a shell of the woman I used to know and only just now got a ring. However, he has no intention of actually getting married she just hasn't figured that out yet.
Or the ex wife after she takes him back after a disrespectful discard. It's embarrassing especially if you knew what happened in the marriage in the past. Good luck
This is so true, that's why I did not say anything and let them find out for themselves
The new supply told me she felt like I "fked him up mentally and emotionally " and felt sorry for his sob story that she was going to fulfill and nurturehim with love. He's all yours. Good riddance. 😉 checkmate
🤣🤣 this one cured me. Lol.🤣🤣
Yup the "I know him more; he wants to move on and be happy." Right. I was the bad one who destroyed him! You're gonna eat your words honey especially when you find out he's grooming other chicks. Just cause you're his now gf don't mean he's faithful. Hello divorced twice and every relationship they abandoned him but WE are the crazy ones! 🤪
LOL. I bet he was already fked up before you met him.
Don't respond to them , the damage has been done. Let them figure it out. And don't say nothing about the narcissist or toxic person. Don't feed them negative energy ❤️ Keep bring it to the unknown behavior to the light.
I will not expose. It's your turn sis.
So true! I definitely felt that when I started dating narc-ex. A girl who he was repeatedly dumped by him immediately jumped back on the train when I broke up with him. She has narc tendencies as well. Girl, I am not jealous! This is a win for everybody! You two bonding means there are less two toxic people in the dating scene! I would be so worried for the next girl if it wouldn't be you. :D
👀🤣🤣🤣😅 they can have him, at least he stop texting me 😂
Exactly... Imma tell her she's the problem so that she can work harder to make him happy. Keep him off my line
New supply is being love bombed and they think, "what the heck is she talking about?" He is perfect.
LMFAO
I feel for anyone that falls for my ex! However, I do not feel obligated at all to forewarn anyone. Specifically for one of the reasons stated! I will not risk my ex thinking I want him back. Hell no! I am still healing along with my kids. However, I haven’t felt this good in the last 10 years!
Wow, yes me too. I feel amazing. Why would I risk my new freedom?
Im gone like a civil war soldier and don’t give a dam.. im working on healing me😉👍🏿
That is so true and when you do that the new supply thinks you are the narcissist and the real narcissist gets away with murder.
POV: The new supply... Finding out. "Why didn't you say anything to me before I got messed up with xxxxx?"
-"I tried telling you, but you didn't want to hear it."
I was warned about my ex when I was the new supply but I just laughed because OF COURSE I was already told by my ex that this person is crazy and has it out for him.
People dont just become "crazy" for no reason.
@@Ace7of7Cups and yet every one of his exes supposedly did. Including me. 😏
I laughed so hard when I see my ex with his new girlfriend… she use to try so hard to get under my skin, I saw her last month and she did not have tht same energy, not even a smile, she looks emotionally drained!!! 🤣🤣🤣 I bet she feels stupid now🤦🏽♀️
Absolutely, the new supply was rubbing it in my face thinking she had some grand prize. One month later when she got on his bad side and found out who he really was I got the last laugh.
She is in for a tough time this narrissist is high on the spector scale one of his exs did not make it and I nearly lost my life I wish her the best of luck he is a covert malignant narrissist I moved away from him karma will come to him hopfuly she has knowledge of narrissistic abuse 💯🙌🙏
Same
Lol in the beginning my ex told me “hey since we are serious now I have to let you know my ex is crazy and wants me back but I haven’t talked to her in a long time she’s just crazy” I was just like I’m not worried about it because he was so obsessed in love with me lol I thought. She never reached out to me but who knows what was really going on he was good at hiding everything from me but looking back it makes sense now. He went from the greatest lover ever to the biggest demon.
F-k nooo u didn't win . You can have it , I'll pay u 2 take it .
What if I told the new supply that she will get an STD that is INCURABLE and if she doesn't want to believe it, she can ask his daughter? SHE knows.
Leave um Alone...
I would wanna know that!!
I did something similar. but I guess I should have included that it is high risk strain, too, the one that causes cancer.
No, let them have that toxic person. Stay safe 💖
Yup when I met mine I thought I won the lottery. He was an electrician with his own business. After a year of dating I found out what a monster and nightmare I met. He was so abusive and always in a rage and always ready to snap. Even beat up his own car and broke the steering wheel door and windows. Anything could set him off and mainly he was only abusive to me and the lies and delusionals he believes. I know everyone calls everyone a narcissist today but you don’t kn until you really met one what a horrific situation you will be in. Mine had a women call me and threatened my life
This is EXACTLY what happened, she even did tell me that she always wins. Which - sis - I'm a grown person. That mentality is for children who are emotionally immature.
Yep. Remember how you felt. Yeah, he would think I want him back. No freaking way. I don't need him and his drama. I do get mad at myself sometimes. Cause I was there for him when he was out of work four years. His lazy butt, wants to work another job. To take her on vacation to a cabin in the woods. Go fishing. We were supposed to go there. He was cheap, lazy, liar, cheating user bf. They always think they're 🔥 property. Ha. He thinks I want to know her name. Duh? Why? He can't tell me the truth. I'm just hoping I'll find a much better man. That loves and appreciates me. Let him accidentally see us together. So happy, smiling, holding hands. Watch him treat me like a lady. One day it'll happen and yeah he'll be jealous.
If someone came to me to warn me about my narcissist I would not believe them.
My ex's BM tried to tell me before he got his claws in me, and to try to prove my loyalty I pushed her away. I also knew he wouldn't be happy. I wish I hadn't. After we broke up I reached out to her and heard the most horrible things, things I never experienced. I don't know if it was all true but I dodged bombs, not just bullets if it's the truth. I had an awful experience so I can't imagine what she went through. Except she still wants him 3yrs and an ex wife later. So idk. I wanted to tell his wife/ex wife (person after me) but I assumed she'd be like me. He tried to marry me after a week and we tried for a baby for 4 months, they got together as soon as he was sure I wasnt pregnant, abt 2 weeks after we were over. They were engaged after 3 months & married in a yr & a half, divorced 16mos later. Then he tried coming back, but I'm still with someone so he went to someone else. It's just all such a messy cycle.
I feel for her.... and all who will come after
BUT, they may not believe you at the moment, however, when the narcissist starts treating them the same way you told them they would then the light will come on and hopefully, they will get out and not lose the time that you did.
I needed to hear this today. I have been in my feelings since I found out he got engaged after I ignored them for 3 weeks. (Thought I was doing no contact but you explained the difference) Thank you
I would like to have a 1 on 1 if possible.
I was once the New Supply from Texas. I thought I got a GoldMine
I've never ever been the type to approach the other woman...even in my teen years (I'm 27 now). And I'm grateful I've grown with that mentality. I might waste a few minutes trying to tell off the narc but as far as where or who he goes to next.... it's not my business. Mainly because I know whoever that is won't leave. Why bother? His true colors will show and she'll see what I saw soon enough 🥰
Tbh I just beat up his new supply the other night.
I attempted to visit my daughter and him one evening and he told me I could not be there bc someone in his family died. He texted me and told me that he wanted me to come back later that day.
I left giving him the space he needed to grieve.
Little did I know, his new supply was right upstairs.
I came back that evening to use his internet bc my phone had been acting insane and returned to his house like he said I could.
To my surprise, him and his new supply showed up at the door.
This is the same woman that called and texted me months prior asking was I still seeing him. She also threatened me. I tried to explain to her what type of person he was, but she always took him back.
When I explained to him why I was there at his house, his new supply laughed at me.
I lost it and beat her up really badly. I feel bad but I don’t at the same time. 💯 She should have minded her business. I HATE that my reaction probably boosted his ego and sense of importance, but I can’t take any of it back.
Even after I was arrested the next day for that, she was back at his house.
This video really validated what that was. Why would you lie about a dead relative? Why would you allow her to be at the door? Why would you allow her to taunt me and make me out to be the fool?
I also found out that he gave her a car that he took from me when we got into an argument years ago. He said he sold it to his uncle…..
I might have to heal for YEARS after the physical and mental abuse he put me thru, but at least I’m out.
I wish her the best.
Hopefully she learns before it too late.
They're prideful... they'll say "Maybe he did you that way, but he'd never do ME that way. He loves me..... because I'm so much better. I'm prettier. I'm this. I'm that."
so she also approves of bad behavior if it suits somebody? ha, she may screw him over, too
New supply was told he had a family and a baby on the way she didn't care. She & narc emptied our house while our baby was having open heart surgery.
I gave her a list of what she was about to lose, car, credit, house. Check, check, check! She was the same age as his eldest daughter. When she left him after 4 years they both had burglary warrants for pickup returns/ shoplifting. She was a nasty piece of work, was cruel to our sons and encouraged them to be disrespectful to me. It was an ugly nightmare.
That's My Babymama Fasho 🤣🤣🤣
But My Thing Is Won What? Lmfao
So true but then my baby daddy go quiet for a little bit and then my baby daddy pop up n do some crazy stuff to get at me. they basically be jealous at times snd try to ruin my relationship and they know what and how to get at that person. They think they win but honestly i just let them think that.
So true
Yep! I was the new supply almost 12 years ago and I can truly say I thought I hit the jackpot and hated the ex for always trying to ruin what we had going on!! He was playing both sides of the fence and having us hating the wrong person. I wish I had let her keep him! Ugh now we have a 6 year old and it all makes sense. He did me the same way he did her when I was pregnant. Silly me thought I was the chosen one and we had some love story that none of the other ones had smh I was young and very inexperienced. At age 37, I can finally see the light! Thank God! I owe that Woman an apology for sure! It was him all along smh 🤦♀️
I sure thought I won the jackpot.
I almost fell sorry for the new guy.
I just got out of a 10yr relationship with a narcissist.We were friends for 20 yrs before we got together he was so sweet. His baby mother tried to warn me but I didn't listen. I thought we been friends for a long time he wouldn't do that lies. Since he been gone I have been at peace started gaining my weight back I feel really good. I haven't spoken to him in 2wks until a few days ago we met up he told I looked good then all hell broke lose. I just left I wasn't going to let him get away with his previously act. He called me I told him I'm at peace and won't allow the B's. Do you know he told me I should never tell somebody I'm happy.
Block his number and set his emails and texts to go to trash automatically. I'm worried about you....
Yup think you for being worried about me but I'm good I had a chance to reflect on our relationship as a whole and figure out that he had been grooming me since I was his friend I have been through some tough times in my life and always got back up I refuse to keep being somebody fool especially when you know them
@@TheShellybaybee Excuse my language but FUCK him he didn't deserve you from the start! Love yourself and let him and his convict enjoy life together
Yup! Thank you for addressing this topic in this way!
She won a prize all right my trash and she can keep it. Good luck to you lady you’re going to need it. LOL
I have kids (2) with my ex narcissist and EVERYTHING you mentioned is very true! Now she's expecting 🤦🏽♀️ why would my ex tell our kids not to tell me about the new supply expecting??
control. manipulation of the kids. and its kind of hard to hide a baby bump. Someone should tell her that.
Gbu I got discard I'm pretty sure this new supply feels like I did ,I hit the prize all a mask came off she'll get her PRIZE it's going to sting.
Can’t wait for the new supply to see what they really won 🎉🎉
WON WHAT !!!!!!! BAM🥰
Lol jokes on them they can have their keeper..
Spot on! Love these videos
I didn't find out till it was to late and I was balls deep in a mortgage (4 years) that his X had to sell her house and escape while he was at work.
By then I already knew what I was dealing with and ugh, was stuck too.
My ex narc new supply keeps on posting new vides of them together, but I can see the look on ny ex's face OMG they try so hard to make me envious.
I needed this video in my life right now.
Why would a covert dump the new supply after just 2 months
His new supply is also a narc...they both want the spot light...bahahahaha
Lol. Looking back on it....i should've NEVERRRRR tried to warn her because she stayed with him. 3 year's later, he's still showing me videos of him with other women😂😂😂🤦..that's on her. Im GLAD its HER and NOT ME!!!! 🤷
The more you metal in their business the longer they’ll be together. They now have a enemy together (which is you) is the reason they’re holding on!!
@@tru3g3mini44 he showed it to me. I DONT ask him anything. But thanks for assuming
@@tru3g3mini44and FYI: This is my son's father. 😂 If he wants to tell me/show me he's with other women, that's on her for staying. 🤷lol🙃
I was the new supply 24 years ago
You say they say I won, I won" 👉 Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha 😅😂😁😊
Smh
Thank you SOoooo very much.....😳😝
he gave her the iphone i gave him for his birthday. probably all the other things too, but both deserve it. because she knew about me, about our upcoming wedding, she was already fixated on him during our relationship, he made a video when i was mad about your lies, sent it to her and she enjoyed it.
IT NOT GOING TO MATTER.....😳WOW.... 🙆
If you could just be independent and not live for lusts
Ok this seems to be the case even when the new supply contacts you first. My baby daddy got a girl and she get in touch with me out the blue. I didn't know he was dating and didn't really wanna talk to her but I gave in cuz I wanted to safe her. I told her everything. She told me some bad things about them too. One day, I asked if my baby daddy was still out of state with her (cuz she lived out of state) and she replied "Why you wanna know?" And it felt like she was being defensive. I've asked her if he's talked about me too cuz I wanted to make sure she get the facts straight on what happened. Again, she was defensive and said "He wants nothing to do with you!" And to that, I knew she was hooked. They broke up and he came running back for a shoulder to cry on. I thought he didn't want nothing to do with me? Hmm 🤔
The ex tried to warn me but I thought I was the exception to the rule . Turns out that he was everything she said he was and more. I was going to warn the new supply but she tried to befriend me while doing him behind my back so F her. They deserve each other
A gem 😅😂
😂
Also make a video on how to deal when the new supply tries to contact the old supply just to take out their rage for no reason. And why do they do that?
How long til the mask drops?
True
Exactly 🤣
The new supply thinks theyre better
What can you tell me about a narcissist who leaves and go to a new supply who's a narcissist can they tell that they're both narcissists can one be worse than the other just asking.
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Yeah the poo prize
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😂😅
The narcissists OTHER supply think she winning bc i finally got out... im so unbothered... "ma'am, you was just complaining about him literally punching in the face AGAIN" and we both know (as we all know with narcs) that he's still reaching out to me and trying to come see me. So yay for you, you "won"...
Sorry little rant.. she literally texted me tonight which i thought i still had her blocked but i fixed that. But i am happy to say i actually wasnt triggered... just done with dumbfuckery that i slipped into. 😒😕
Omg 😂have fun
What about talking with the OLD supply? He had one for 20+years and she left one day. Then i came along. For me it’s been 11 years, but now i know. Things never made sense until i heard you and other UA-cam videos with clinicians and other psychologists. I feel in my gut that the old supply still has no idea what this really was. I feel sad for her. I’d like to compare notes for her sake and my own, to validate and be sure that this is what this is. So many variables though.
Nope
😂💯🔥
...but, did you really win? 😁
Nope 👎 not your business