Chances are, if you're watching videos like this and are aware of the manipulation, they may view you as too strong to control now. They won't hoover because they recognize they don't have the power to do it anymore.
They are lazy and it would take more work to win us back once we wake up, also they face the chance of rejection which they are too cowardly to deal with
A hoover is not a compliment...I wish more people would process that...a hoover is straight up disrespect because it's a blatant tell tell sign that they don't take you seriously.
They don't anything seriously because they Feel as though Life is a Joke. And why would You even taken Them seriously They are nothing but a bunch of Liar's anyway.
I thought so too because he can talk to me anytime time he want and I don’t have that access when he disappears I was mad he didn’t Hoover Knowledge is power
When they don’t hover it’s a blessing it means you won and they’re afraid of you. Hence on to the next supply, if they Hoover you that means they know they still have access to you and means that they know you’ll take them back over and over again.
@@Nina2598-k5x Yes...that's why they start a smear campaign...THEY TELL LIES TO MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE THE BAD PERSON IN THE SITUATION WHEN THEY KNOW VERY DAMN WELL IT WAS ALL THEM.
And it's crazy how we can see other people's worth better than we can see ourselves. 😔 The narcissist know that you're high worth even if you don't know it.
You MUST BLOCK the narc on social media and your phone! Otherwise you open yourself up to a lot of unnecessary pain. I was with a narcopath for 15 years. I am 3 years no contact and FREE!
Great discussion. When my relationship ended I waited for the Hoover. I was upset when I didn’t get a Hoover! My sister told me, God will block them from me, until my heart has fully released them. Bc they are a threat to my divine light, the angels will not let them pass. I sat with that advice until my ego released the need for validation. “I am being protected” became my simple but powerful mantra. Bye Narc! Wish you peace
@@anitanash7777 keep going. Don’t look back. One day u wake up and u won’t be traumatize anymore. It’ll be over. Keep going. It was like being brainwashed. Keep going n keep praying. 🙏 pray hard.
Truth!!! When the manipulation ends, and you choose YOURSELF, you put fear in the person who has hurt you. We have had the power all along. We are Stronger with He that Is WITHIN US, than he that is in the world.❤❤ Stay strong and encouraged.
You don't realize that because you drama bonded until he ghosted you and you wake up. Thank God he's gone. Silent is golden. Don't want a hoover. It's been a long way of recovery. Every day is getting better.
The narcissists don't want to Hoover because they've already had their eye on another boo thing already behind your back. They're busy occupied with the new stuff. They'll try to Hoover when the new stuff doesn't work out, when they are out on their dusty spread-out behinds and the world and people they really feel kinship to have squeezed them dry, or, worse yet, when they have decided that you have had time to cry and grieve and agonize over them being gone and it is now time to come back and "bless" you with their presence again. The trick is to FOCUS ON ALL THE WRONG THAT THEY HAVE DONE TO YOU. They _want_ us to focus on the few and far-in-between times that they showed kindness, so that we will be broken and addicted to them enough to ignore and overlook the millions of slights, insults, and injuries just to be with them. No more of that!
@@daeclipse03 My dear, you are absolutely right about her having no shame. She must have been suffering deeply from self-esteem issues and ran into a lot of problems with those supplies! Cheating isn't all flowers and rainbows, you know; sleeping around and trying to find true love rarely go together happily.
Wow you had Leon to respond. Your the truth Terrell!!!!❤❤❤ love your content. I have to take breaks from time to time on the narc content but I will say I’ve come quite some way in 2 years.
OMG this is on POINT. I believe he is entertaining the new supply. However, I saw him and he looks smaller. Lost his job and had to send his Porsche back. Don’t mess with Gods child Narc
They are masters at Perception Management. They are outstanding actors. I actually saw my ex Narc at the mall two days ago. He was shocked to see me and we both acted like we did not know each other. He was walking around in circles looking disoriented because of the surprise of seeing me. He looked scared and nervous. LOL. He looked like a zombie. Just not there in the eyes. So glad that he discarded me so I been free. Never to allow him to return nor will i ever speak to him again.
He’s right. My ex hoovered me in the beginning. Then he realized I wasn’t going to take him back unless he changed. Later, my best friend and my LS, on 2 separate occasions, asked him why he was with this new girl when he knew he was still in love with me. His response was “why would I work to be what Tiffany wants when this girl thinks I’m perfectly fine just the way I am.” It hurt at the time but it was also confirmation for me that I did the right thing by leaving him and not turning back.
I can't stop thinking about him, from the minute I wake up to til I go to sleep. I moved 1000klm away from him. The hoovees have stopped a month ago now because he has someone new.
Two reasons mine won’t Hoover: 1. I am standing in the Christian Faith. And he said it “you were never going to leave that for me”. He said he didn’t want to be with someone religious. (But he needed someone religious to tolerate his darkness to fix his immigration). 2. He holds grudges like you wouldn’t believe. He didn’t talk to his mom for years over a property and he didn’t talk to his family in IL because he blames them for a ticket he got that delayed his immigration process. I am grateful to the Lord for freeing me.
14:28 As long as you’re waiting on the revenge, you’re not going to see it. You see karma when you start to heal and move on with your life. 👏🏾 It’s so hard, thanks for sharing how hard this journey is.
My humble opinion is that if they don't hovered ,,because God is protecting us form something irreversible,something that maybe we ll can't n handle, , I called a BLESS , love from out heavenly Father, when we pray to him please,, listen and watch on the rigth time when, he ll answer our prayers ,stay safe & strong,God is in control for sure!!🙏❣
You know what I Love About you. Even though you have other things going on in your life with your music and ETC You STILL Make it your Business to come and Give us Messages! Thank you!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I see which type of people they Hoover: High value person but with no boundries, naive. They will chose easy targets. Since most of use are already educated well enough we are not most likely will be hoovered. The problem is still most of us are stiil co dependent and we want that hoover. But if You are Healed already You will not need or want any other hoover in your life.
The mental aspect is something I will never ever forget but I learned how to process the pain. I'm at peace now. Thank God it was psychological warfare.
I got a random hoover after over a year and didn't take it as a compliment. It was startling considering they were hard-blocked on everything (It was very clear the person is/was spying from a distance.). I also found it very disrespectful and inconsiderate since I've completely moved on. I didn't reply, just blocked them once more.
New to the group, I’ve been with a narcissistic person for 6wks. I realized after the first love bomb the ghosting started. Then the discard and then devaluation started. The last time I saw him I did the discard. Let him know I knew what time it was. With the help of TMH (GOD). I’m happy that he doesn’t hoover me. Kings and Queens God is able to deliver you out. Keep your faith
I haven't been hoovered this time , because he has a new supply , but I did get some validation after him saying everything was my fault, I saw them both in the car and he was in her face screaming and shouting at her , I felt sorry for her because I know how it feels , but also like u say he portrays everything is good , I saw different ❤
Please commenters, don't say "my narc." You do not own that negative energy. I never say his name either. He is called "that entity." I am so much MORE than he will ever be. Certainly not "my/mine" in any way, shape, or form. Great message as usual. Speedy healing.
They know you are worth far more than they can ever be. You are far more valuable than they can ever be. You shine without having to lie, cheat, or steal. They know it was you that are the asset. It's you that has the knowledge, positive energy, and brilliance that they will never attain genuinely. Nothing about them is genuine. Everything about them is fake. And be prepared to see them imitate you. They will take your dreams, aspirations, and goals and suddenly claim them as their own. They will literally take everything that made you who you are and turn it into their own fake traits. For example. Perhaps you wanted to turn a room or basement into a small cinema. Even completed with posters from movies on the wall. Perhaps you always wanted your own gym in your home. Maybe you were into politics and current events. Maybe you are really into cooking. Whatever it may be that makes you unique as an individual and whatever you said out loud to them that you wanted to achieve, they will find a way to do exactly what you said you wanted to do or had already been doing completely copying you. They will be somewhere copying you in front of new targets! This may be another reason why you aren't being hovered. They are somewhere faking being you!😮 And yes, the opposite sex is very much capable of doing this too. But please don't mistake this imitation as flattering. Because it is actually a hard-core sign of jealousy! They will do that while at the same time taking digs at you and your goals and may even be doing things behind your back to destroy or disrupt your goals and your life.
This!!!!! I witnessed it while we were together but when he named his new baby the backup name for our son!!!!!! I knew he was a petty clown. Crazy part I found out way late because I don’t follow him on anything. I blocked him and his family on everything so I 😂😂😂 because you have no original bone in your body.
My ex-narc literally popped up kicking my door at 5am after I been gone for months now… it’s weird. He came here with another female. He was trying to climb up my balcony! I’m gonna talk about it when I start my channel back up. I been through so much with this person and all that he did to me he does not want to let me go. The girl that came to my house with was telling me he wants me but in my mind he had his chance(s). I would never take him back. Who wants to slip back into a world of misery and confusion. Had a baby with another woman and told me he would have his head down if it wasn’t his baby. I could never.
Appreciate your Story, God Speed to your Healing I was stabbed 7 times while I was 2 months pregnant in 2021 by a narcissist ,"We Survived " , I'm a Empath and They are Drawn to us too Destroy, I'm Healed and Delivered, Amen 🙏
Karma came full circle for my ex narc. 6 months after the discard her mugshot popped up for being arrested for fentanyl last week. It honestly didn’t make me feel good to see her like that but when you live like her your conscience is shot and that’s what it takes to quiet your head
My stbx of 18yrs I discarded in Oct 2022, is an addict, herion n crack. He’s on Suboxone, but has been in detox 3x for crack since I left. He was having psychotic breaks, threatening to blow the house up with me in it, stalking me, breaking into the house chasing my imaginary boyfriend thru the yard. It’s a sad thing to watch and I honestly blamed the drugs for years, thinking if he just kicked the addictions, he would be the person he “was,” never knowing, he made that person up, and it was a narcissistic personality disorder, and the drugs were him trying to escape the anxiety from lies and shitty things he was doing. Thank God I don’t hv to be involved or have that burden of watching that shit show unfold anymore. So I can relate with your comments. Hang in there, we’ve got this
My ex won't hoover bc I got a restraining order, lawyered up and I parallel parent with this idiot. I didnt lose anything but a huge monkey on my back. Cheater, liar, abuser. Him and his family are a clan of crows. The devil is a liar!! My peace is priceless 💕
So on point 👏🏼👏🏼💯 I think they know all too well our worth and caliber of person we are and know they don't deserve such a blessing, but instead of treasuring us and caring and loving us properly, they sabotage and ruin everything. I think jealousy comes in as well that we are genuinely good natured people with a beautiful heart and they are so ugly inside. The no hoover can feel devastating but it's really a blessing in disguise 🙏🏼 thank you for juggling so much and still putting out videos! Hope you heal fast 🩷
One of the first nights I was sleeping with him, his phone was blowing up at 3 in the morning.. A female "friend" kept calling! In hindsight I have missed so many red flags!
Silent treatment for years....until the last one....I didn't beg to talk...After 3 months in silence while he was out living the single life...I left....Gone 8 months...No hoover but smearing me everywhere.....holding on and trying to heal.
For me ! My family and friends know all about what she has done and I go back . And then I feel like a fucking rubber chicken . And everyone is laughing behind my for keep going back to this swine . Been here many years ago so it’s a familiar pain . And guess what time does heal , and you learn ! Run Forrest Run !!! God bless the survivors
From what I was told we had to go through this to be come better and live the best life but there’s someone out there we don’t know what we got coming but somebody is going to come and take all the pain away! TP it don’t hurt now oh not now 💯❤️👏🏽🙏
The pain will go away once you properly heal on your own ❤ don’t wait for someone to heal your pain. Once you take your power back, you’ll be so much stronger for the future.
Oooh chile I had to let him go with the words "this is not going to work" and believe it for myself. Yes it hurt; but as I said to him I am not in competition with anyone for his love period. Have a wonderful life and I love you, but me more. Blocked!!!
I'm Narc Free and NC The Narc is community property they bounce supply like a ping pong ball on a Table and rotate recycled supply at a blink of the eye
Just let them folks be. Anything they do post is just a 🎪. Fake news that's what. Narc hoovered me 2x, once before getting married, the 2nd time 3 mos after getting married and on his birthday. I haven't heard not one thing since I told him he needs Jesus. God bless the new supply, she can have him.
I never understood what narcissism was until I began self healing/educating years after he left me, soon realized why this man came into my life because I had been conditioned since birth by a narcissistic older sister- it was all familiar to me... I didnt understand anything about relationships at the beginning, no one told me how to be in one, my parents died before I was 16, so I missed out on that education.. but my instincts were raising red flags, although I didnt know what to do about it.. we both worked for the same company, different departments/building,, I had been in my bldg for 10 yrs by then so I knew everyone,, including a lot of guy friends.. I came into the breakroom one day where the table of installers sat, I knew all of them,, one called me to the table so I came over, chatted, laughed,, then walked over to the vending machines, I am sure all the guys at the table watched me-- including my bf who was sitting in the back,, as soon as I got to the table he goes. who are those guys? I went, who? he points I said oh,, just some installers I know... he goes, but how do you know them.. I went,, I have known them for 10 years... use to take break with them... he goes,, I dont want you talking to them anymore... I sat up in the chair and went, oh?? I see,,, so,, if thats how it is then I can tell you,, not to talk to any women from now on... oh that didnt set well,, he began yelling at me,, & the installers all stood up from their chair... I waved them all down,, my bf goes... why did they do that? I said, probably because they felt you were a threat to me... he goes what they would come to your rescue? & he laughed like it was a joke.. I shook my head yes and said,, dont think you understand my position in this bldg, you treat me wrong you will have a lot of ppl after you.... well,, after he discarded me he married new supply & began stalking me for the next 3 years.. ,,, I heard he came into the bldg once and 4 guys escorted him out of the bldg and told him never to come back,,actually physically picked him up and escorted out the door LOL... about a year after that I was at a wedding, a gf was a bridesmaid & most of the ppl I knew there,,, my gf came over with the groomsman she walked with & he was a co worker of my ex... he tells me that my ex life went sour,, was a full blown alcholic, & had been sleeping in his car for the last 2 weeks wearing the same clothing... oh the poor baby,,, I would imagine the new supply kicked him out.... my ex is on his 6th marriage now...
Bro, this is by far one of your best videos, I'm 5 months of no contact what you described about not wanting to put up with manipulation anymore is where I am. Thank you, it's let's me know that I am on the right track..
I wanna come to Texas and hug you. You're a good man. Thank you for your contribution to all of our healing. It feels so comforting to know that Im not alone.
What’s So Crazy Today I Was Talking To My Neighbor Outside She Explain to me that My Ex Narcissist Boyfriend Been Talking And Looking Up At My Window ever since You Went To Stay At A Family Member House For 6Weeks I Explain to her I don’t know how when he’s the one that let me go in did Me so dirty over a month ago I Went No Contact On My Ex Narcissist No I Didn’t Look At His social media at all or look for him, blocked him and everything so he’s not able to get to me.. This Guy Videos Be So Right the narcissist person they Do Come Looking For You When they The one that did you so dirty they do come looking for you when you go no contact ..
It’s so true! i’m going through this right now. He found a new supply & is turning against me bad cause of her & he is obviously training her to be his new idiot.
I got smeared and she contacted me after 30 days NC after our breakup to try and "be on friendly terms" and then tried to manipulate me into believing it was all mu fault we broke up 😂😂 then she shifted to us being sex friends which i declined and kept my dignity. Found out that night shes got new supply and called her out for who she was and told her never to contact me again. Been 3 weeks NC but she showed up at the lake where i go kayaking twice in the past few weeks even though she lives 35 min away. I acted like i never saw her and went on my way.
The very smart ones don't smear they cover it up as "concern" so instead of them saying my ex is crazy they will say "I'm worried about them, they aren't very mentally ok etc" so it makes them look like a caring person being kind about the "crazy" ex. Ugg I know I accidentally created a monster with my ex, I taught him SO much about intense emotional empathy and psychology. Like A LOT. I watched him mirror my teachings back to me but in manipulative ways and I was like omg..... I just made him smarter and an even stronger and cunning manipulator. He discarded me violently and I'm pretty sure he's back with his ex from 5 years before me. I'm sure he's convinced her he's a changed man and sadly he will look 100% like he is because he learned so much from me but is still that same person only with a new shiny upgraded mask on.
Been 6 months now, no hoover, but I've realized that the child she used me for is the new supply. She was born 4 months ago...maybe I'll meet her someday
Me ex narcissist has not hovered me in some time and I hope he doesn't. Any time he would hoover or call it would trigger me and spoil my mood. I know better he hasn't changed. He destroys women one relationship after another. I learned my lessons. I hope you have a speedy recovery
That's an excellent thing! I'm so thankful that I have overcome that person. In April, I will be single for 1 year! I put myself through something there for a while, but I'm glad with prayer in me. God helped to see me through. What useto cause me tears I no longer cry over anymore. That's an awesome feeling to be able to move forward without having any more soul ties!
I feel so drained. It has been over 1.5 years since break up. But I felt my ex psychopath drained all my energy. I feel no energy and no desire to do anything. I feel very down most of the time.
Get busy doing something that interest you, move from that daily routine. You must get up and do something, meet new people, go walking at a park but don't stay in that place of no desire, it will destroy you mentally..
Man, this was an amazing vid. I hope you're feeling better soon. You summed it all up beautifully. Men cry, too, when they have been emotionally abused . That's not weakness, it's empowerment. I appreciate your point of view.
Sir, you are on point with everything. Knowledge is SOOOOOO much power! To be a victim of a narc is damaging. I am starting to deal and heal within and sheesh, the purge is tough. Whew! Healing is needed. Imma be single for a while.....a long while.😢
I’m in this exact situation right now, for the first time ever she hasn’t hoovered. Its been exactly a week since I’ve talked to her/broke up with her and this is the exact question I’ve been asking myself. She literally cannot manipulate me anymore and your video just gave me new perspectives on why she might actually give up. I wish I could talk to you dude this shit is so hard
They don’t come back because they did not love you like that if one loves you he would come back that’s what happens when a man loves a woman that y no hovering
The day had finally came where I BLOCKED NUMBER and whatever else could be blocked… after blocking #, I deleted #…that was hard for me to do bc I WAS MAKING A CHOICE TO FOLLOW THRU WHEN IN REALITY… I WISHED FOR A DIFFERENT ENDING… to make a choice on somethin that I ain’t wantin to make is called SELF LOVE!
stop worrying about people that ain’t worried about you
Yessss I am trying my best to accomplish this
I have to keep telling myself this.
I’m trying my best with this.
Chances are, if you're watching videos like this and are aware of the manipulation, they may view you as too strong to control now. They won't hoover because they recognize they don't have the power to do it anymore.
That’s EXACTLY the truth!
Yes! 🎯
Accurate and valid 🎯 they are weak individuals and once we recognize our strength and power they definitely realize it.
They are lazy and it would take more work to win us back once we wake up, also they face the chance of rejection which they are too cowardly to deal with
He always told me your too strong you will see
A hoover is not a compliment...I wish more people would process that...a hoover is straight up disrespect because it's a blatant tell tell sign that they don't take you seriously.
Absolutely. They want to see if you’ll give them another chance to do you worse than they did previously. They wanna see if you’re a sucker.
They don't anything seriously because they
Feel as though
Life is a Joke.
And why would
You even taken
Them seriously
They are nothing but a bunch of Liar's anyway.
I thought so too because he can talk to me anytime time he want and I don’t have that access when he disappears
I was mad he didn’t Hoover
Knowledge is power
Yep!!
I agree
My ex narcissist girlfriend will never find a man better than me and she will never be happy.
They are ashamed of themselves and don’t want to show us the shame that they feel in themselves
100%
When they don’t hover it’s a blessing it means you won and they’re afraid of you. Hence on to the next supply, if they Hoover you that means they know they still have access to you and means that they know you’ll take them back over and over again.
for control…they don’t hoover to stay in control of the discard. Some want reverse hoover. Just stay NC and know god has better for you.
They know your worth and have processed it ...the catch is THEY KNOW THEY DON'T DESERVE YOU...they are very aware of your worth
Even if they smear campaign online ?
@@Nina2598-k5x Yes...that's why they start a smear campaign...THEY TELL LIES TO MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE THE BAD PERSON IN THE SITUATION WHEN THEY KNOW VERY DAMN WELL IT WAS ALL THEM.
@@Nina2598-k5x Yes! Even though they do smear campaigns. They are evil & miserable.
@@Nina2598-k5x yes
And it's crazy how we can see other people's worth better than we can see ourselves. 😔 The narcissist know that you're high worth even if you don't know it.
Once you tell yourself that they are demons and soulless it makes it easier.
You have spoken truth..
Facts ❤
Sadly this is true
My brain and my heart are in a constant war
You MUST BLOCK the narc on social media and your phone! Otherwise you open yourself up to a lot of unnecessary pain. I was with a narcopath for 15 years. I am 3 years no contact and FREE!
I want the front row seat to the karma 🙋🏾♀️
Facts 😂😂😂
ur so real 4 this
Great discussion. When my relationship ended I waited for the Hoover. I was upset when I didn’t get a Hoover! My sister told me, God will block them from me, until my heart has fully released them. Bc they are a threat to my divine light, the angels will not let them pass. I sat with that advice until my ego released the need for validation. “I am being protected” became my simple but powerful mantra. Bye Narc! Wish you peace
Absolutely!! ❤❤
Rite amen
Blessings to you. That was some great sound advice.❤
Wow that was great! Thanks!
Your sister is right
when 10 hoover attempts didn't work, they only faced rejection and insults they are too afraid of another narc injury!!
The trauma bond is horrific. !!
I’m finding it too hard…😢
@@anitanash7777 keep going. Don’t look back. One day u wake up and u won’t be traumatize anymore. It’ll be over. Keep going. It was like being brainwashed. Keep going n keep praying. 🙏 pray hard.
Truth!!! When the manipulation ends, and you choose YOURSELF, you put fear in the person who has hurt you. We have had the power all along. We are Stronger with He that Is WITHIN US, than he that is in the world.❤❤ Stay strong and encouraged.
I agree with you..
You don't realize that because you drama bonded until he ghosted you and you wake up. Thank God he's gone. Silent is golden. Don't want a hoover. It's been a long way of recovery. Every day is getting better.
She used to call me or text me all the time after work and now she doesn't. I KNOW she's focusing her attention somewhere else and that hurts me too.
The narcissists don't want to Hoover because they've already had their eye on another boo thing already behind your back. They're busy occupied with the new stuff. They'll try to Hoover when the new stuff doesn't work out, when they are out on their dusty spread-out behinds and the world and people they really feel kinship to have squeezed them dry, or, worse yet, when they have decided that you have had time to cry and grieve and agonize over them being gone and it is now time to come back and "bless" you with their presence again. The trick is to FOCUS ON ALL THE WRONG THAT THEY HAVE DONE TO YOU. They _want_ us to focus on the few and far-in-between times that they showed kindness, so that we will be broken and addicted to them enough to ignore and overlook the millions of slights, insults, and injuries just to be with them. No more of that!
My ex hit me up when she had new supply. She has no shame she was cheating on me after a month with other dudes.
@@daeclipse03 My dear, you are absolutely right about her having no shame. She must have been suffering deeply from self-esteem issues and ran into a lot of problems with those supplies! Cheating isn't all flowers and rainbows, you know; sleeping around and trying to find true love rarely go together happily.
"Get yall asses off they're social media"
Makings of a great T-shirt.
He’s right.
Been there brother 💯
@@operationnarcnemesis2383 I can tell my man. You speak truth👊🏾👊🏾
Wow you had Leon to respond. Your the truth Terrell!!!!❤❤❤ love your content. I have to take breaks from time to time on the narc content but I will say I’ve come quite some way in 2 years.
OMG this is on POINT. I believe he is entertaining the new supply. However, I saw him and he looks smaller. Lost his job and had to send his Porsche back. Don’t mess with Gods child Narc
They are masters at Perception Management. They are outstanding actors. I actually saw my ex Narc at the mall two days ago. He was shocked to see me and we both acted like we did not know each other. He was walking around in circles looking disoriented because of the surprise of seeing me. He looked scared and nervous. LOL. He looked like a zombie. Just not there in the eyes. So glad that he discarded me so I been free. Never to allow him to return nor will i ever speak to him again.
When they don’t Hoover pray he stays away and rest. Move and disappear if you can. Amen 🙏
NO CONTACT 3 YEARS THIS MONTH. ❤
They never cared in the first place, that’s why they are not hovering.
The truth in this video hurts like hell! In the cafe trying to keep it together...eyes welling up.
This happened to remind me to listen to my intuition and stop ignoring the Red Flags
Yes same for me. Best part of the experience
Me too
He’s right. My ex hoovered me in the beginning. Then he realized I wasn’t going to take him back unless he changed. Later, my best friend and my LS, on 2 separate occasions, asked him why he was with this new girl when he knew he was still in love with me. His response was “why would I work to be what Tiffany wants when this girl thinks I’m perfectly fine just the way I am.” It hurt at the time but it was also confirmation for me that I did the right thing by leaving him and not turning back.
Yessss. She don't know the real devil yet
I'm healed from the hurt ...unbothered ........moving on
I want to be free mentally and emotionally, Lord help me!
I can't stop thinking about him, from the minute I wake up to til I go to sleep. I moved 1000klm away from him. The hoovees have stopped a month ago now because he has someone new.
Two reasons mine won’t Hoover:
1. I am standing in the Christian Faith. And he said it “you were never going to leave that for me”. He said he didn’t want to be with someone religious. (But he needed someone religious to tolerate his darkness to fix his immigration).
2. He holds grudges like you wouldn’t believe. He didn’t talk to his mom for years over a property and he didn’t talk to his family in IL because he blames them for a ticket he got that delayed his immigration process.
I am grateful to the Lord for freeing me.
14:28 As long as you’re waiting on the revenge, you’re not going to see it. You see karma when you start to heal and move on with your life. 👏🏾 It’s so hard, thanks for sharing how hard this journey is.
My humble opinion is that if they don't hovered ,,because God is protecting us form something irreversible,something that maybe we ll can't n handle, , I called a BLESS , love from out heavenly Father, when we pray to him please,, listen and watch on the rigth time when, he ll answer our prayers ,stay safe & strong,God is in control for sure!!🙏❣
I think the narc gets the point I ain’t trying to connect in anyway shape or form. That’s a good place to be 😂
You know what I Love About you. Even though you have other things going on in your life with your music and ETC You STILL Make it your Business to come and Give us Messages! Thank you!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You’re welcome 🧡
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Yes, I appreciate it too👍🔥
Bahaha they'll try to make you feel bad and then blame you for it. They're extremely predictable, pathetic people when they target people lol
I see which type of people they Hoover: High value person but with no boundries, naive. They will chose easy targets. Since most of use are already educated well enough we are not most likely will be hoovered. The problem is still most of us are stiil co dependent and we want that hoover. But if You are Healed already You will not need or want any other hoover in your life.
I like that. I high value person without boundaries. Totally codependent. That was me 💯
The mental aspect is something I will never ever forget but I learned how to process the pain. I'm at peace now. Thank God it was psychological warfare.
I got a random hoover after over a year and didn't take it as a compliment. It was startling considering they were hard-blocked on everything (It was very clear the person is/was spying from a distance.). I also found it very disrespectful and inconsiderate since I've completely moved on. I didn't reply, just blocked them once more.
Forgive me for over-posting. This space is like a family for me. I am doing this (journey) alone.
New to the group, I’ve been with a narcissistic person for 6wks. I realized after the first love bomb the ghosting started. Then the discard and then devaluation started. The last time I saw him I did the discard. Let him know I knew what time it was. With the help of TMH (GOD). I’m happy that he doesn’t hoover me. Kings and Queens God is able to deliver you out. Keep your faith
"A movie Director "🎬😅😅
I can't unsee it now! So true!
Thank you for this video.
I haven't been hoovered this time , because he has a new supply , but I did get some validation after him saying everything was my fault, I saw them both in the car and he was in her face screaming and shouting at her , I felt sorry for her because I know how it feels , but also like u say he portrays everything is good , I saw different ❤
Please commenters, don't say "my narc." You do not own that negative energy. I never say his name either. He is called "that entity." I am so much MORE than he will ever be. Certainly not "my/mine" in any way, shape, or form. Great message as usual. Speedy healing.
They know you are worth far more than they can ever be.
You are far more valuable than they can ever be.
You shine without having to lie, cheat, or steal.
They know it was you that are the asset. It's you that has the knowledge, positive energy, and brilliance that they will never attain genuinely.
Nothing about them is genuine. Everything about them is fake.
And be prepared to see them imitate you. They will take your dreams, aspirations, and goals and suddenly claim them as their own.
They will literally take everything that made you who you are and turn it into their own fake traits.
For example. Perhaps you wanted to turn a room or basement into a small cinema. Even completed with posters from movies on the wall. Perhaps you always wanted your own gym in your home. Maybe you were into politics and current events. Maybe you are really into cooking.
Whatever it may be that makes you unique as an individual and whatever you said out loud to them that you wanted to achieve, they will find a way to do exactly what you said you wanted to do or had already been doing completely copying you.
They will be somewhere copying you in front of new targets! This may be another reason why you aren't being hovered. They are somewhere faking being you!😮 And yes, the opposite sex is very much capable of doing this too.
But please don't mistake this imitation as flattering. Because it is actually a hard-core sign of jealousy!
They will do that while at the same time taking digs at you and your goals and may even be doing things behind your back to destroy or disrupt your goals and your life.
Thank you for this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@kimberlyfloyd1009 You are quite welcome. 🌹
This!!!!! I witnessed it while we were together but when he named his new baby the backup name for our son!!!!!! I knew he was a petty clown. Crazy part I found out way late because I don’t follow him on anything. I blocked him and his family on everything so I 😂😂😂 because you have no original bone in your body.
My ex-narc literally popped up kicking my door at 5am after I been gone for months now… it’s weird. He came here with another female. He was trying to climb up my balcony! I’m gonna talk about it when I start my channel back up. I been through so much with this person and all that he did to me he does not want to let me go. The girl that came to my house with was telling me he wants me but in my mind he had his chance(s). I would never take him back. Who wants to slip back into a world of misery and confusion. Had a baby with another woman and told me he would have his head down if it wasn’t his baby. I could never.
Appreciate your Story, God Speed to your Healing I was stabbed 7 times while I was 2 months pregnant in 2021 by a narcissist ,"We Survived " , I'm a Empath and They are Drawn to us too Destroy, I'm Healed and Delivered, Amen 🙏
God bless you for sharing that.. I pray 🙏 that you and your baby made it!!! Narc Free for life!! 🙌 amen 🙏
@@Newmoon520 Amen GOD bless you too 🥰
The narcs mom is currently trying to add me on my social media… I feel so sick to my stomach but at the same time I’m laughing 😂
I don't have the same problem as you, but in my relationship my in-laws were nars like my ex. Watch out.
Karma came full circle for my ex narc. 6 months after the discard her mugshot popped up for being arrested for fentanyl last week. It honestly didn’t make me feel good to see her like that but when you live like her your conscience is shot and that’s what it takes to quiet your head
My stbx of 18yrs I discarded in Oct 2022, is an addict, herion n crack. He’s on Suboxone, but has been in detox 3x for crack since I left. He was having psychotic breaks, threatening to blow the house up with me in it, stalking me, breaking into the house chasing my imaginary boyfriend thru the yard. It’s a sad thing to watch and I honestly blamed the drugs for years, thinking if he just kicked the addictions, he would be the person he “was,” never knowing, he made that person up, and it was a narcissistic personality disorder, and the drugs were him trying to escape the anxiety from lies and shitty things he was doing. Thank God I don’t hv to be involved or have that burden of watching that shit show unfold anymore.
So I can relate with your comments. Hang in there, we’ve got this
SCREW THAT POS!
My ex won't hoover bc I got a restraining order, lawyered up and I parallel parent with this idiot. I didnt lose anything but a huge monkey on my back. Cheater, liar, abuser. Him and his family are a clan of crows. The devil is a liar!! My peace is priceless 💕
So on point 👏🏼👏🏼💯 I think they know all too well our worth and caliber of person we are and know they don't deserve such a blessing, but instead of treasuring us and caring and loving us properly, they sabotage and ruin everything. I think jealousy comes in as well that we are genuinely good natured people with a beautiful heart and they are so ugly inside. The no hoover can feel devastating but it's really a blessing in disguise 🙏🏼 thank you for juggling so much and still putting out videos! Hope you heal fast 🩷
YES ALYSSA, YOUR SO ON IT, THEY MESS UP A GREAT THING FOR THEMSELVES!!!!
Spot on beautiful soul ☺️
One of the first nights I was sleeping with him, his phone was blowing up at 3 in the morning.. A female "friend" kept calling! In hindsight I have missed so many red flags!
Only hoover I need is in the cupboard under the stairs 🙄
Really how many others. No soul ties for me. Let alone STD'S No contact is where I stay. Still afraid they will someday try to find me.
You’re the f@cking man! You are helping me a great deal, probably more than you know. Thank you for making sense of everything I went through
Silent treatment for years....until the last one....I didn't beg to talk...After 3 months in silence while he was out living the single life...I left....Gone 8 months...No hoover but smearing me everywhere.....holding on and trying to heal.
For me ! My family and friends know all about what she has done and I go back . And then I feel like a fucking rubber chicken . And everyone is laughing behind my for keep going back to this swine . Been here many years ago so it’s a familiar pain . And guess what time does heal , and you learn ! Run Forrest Run !!! God bless the survivors
6:28 wooooow 😮Another reason they don’t hoover you anymore: ppl they haven’t yet traumatized are easier to hoover.
People who know they did you wrong stay away from you
From what I was told we had to go through this to be come better and live the best life but there’s someone out there we don’t know what we got coming but somebody is going to come and take all the pain away! TP it don’t hurt now oh not now 💯❤️👏🏽🙏
yes..the person is YOU ❤
you heal
you grow
you self care
The pain will go away once you properly heal on your own ❤ don’t wait for someone to heal your pain. Once you take your power back, you’ll be so much stronger for the future.
I totally agree with you
Yes❤
Oooh chile I had to let him go with the words "this is not going to work" and believe it for myself. Yes it hurt; but as I said to him
I am not in competition with anyone for his love period. Have a wonderful life and I love you, but me more. Blocked!!!
I appreciate how you refer to the narc as “that lady”, I started referring to mine as “that woman”. She doesn’t even deserve for me to say her name.
Thanks for this video! It was needed! We know…”Get our ass off their social media!” We trying fam! 😩😩😩😩💜
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Babbby my ex can’t face me fr ! Everytime I drop our son off he look like a sad puppy !
I'm Narc Free and NC The Narc is community property they bounce supply like a ping pong ball on a Table and rotate recycled supply at a blink of the eye
Just let them folks be. Anything they do post is just a 🎪. Fake news that's what. Narc hoovered me 2x, once before getting married, the 2nd time 3 mos after getting married and on his birthday. I haven't heard not one thing since I told him he needs Jesus. God bless the new supply, she can have him.
I never understood what narcissism was until I began self healing/educating years after he left me, soon realized why this man came into my life because I had been conditioned since birth by a narcissistic older sister- it was all familiar to me... I didnt understand anything about relationships at the beginning, no one told me how to be in one, my parents died before I was 16, so I missed out on that education.. but my instincts were raising red flags, although I didnt know what to do about it.. we both worked for the same company, different departments/building,, I had been in my bldg for 10 yrs by then so I knew everyone,, including a lot of guy friends.. I came into the breakroom one day where the table of installers sat, I knew all of them,, one called me to the table so I came over, chatted, laughed,, then walked over to the vending machines, I am sure all the guys at the table watched me-- including my bf who was sitting in the back,, as soon as I got to the table he goes. who are those guys? I went, who? he points I said oh,, just some installers I know... he goes, but how do you know them.. I went,, I have known them for 10 years... use to take break with them... he goes,, I dont want you talking to them anymore... I sat up in the chair and went, oh?? I see,,, so,, if thats how it is then I can tell you,, not to talk to any women from now on... oh that didnt set well,, he began yelling at me,, & the installers all stood up from their chair... I waved them all down,, my bf goes... why did they do that? I said, probably because they felt you were a threat to me... he goes what they would come to your rescue? & he laughed like it was a joke.. I shook my head yes and said,, dont think you understand my position in this bldg, you treat me wrong you will have a lot of ppl after you.... well,, after he discarded me he married new supply & began stalking me for the next 3 years.. ,,, I heard he came into the bldg once and 4 guys escorted him out of the bldg and told him never to come back,,actually physically picked him up and escorted out the door LOL... about a year after that I was at a wedding, a gf was a bridesmaid & most of the ppl I knew there,,, my gf came over with the groomsman she walked with & he was a co worker of my ex... he tells me that my ex life went sour,, was a full blown alcholic, & had been sleeping in his car for the last 2 weeks wearing the same clothing... oh the poor baby,,, I would imagine the new supply kicked him out.... my ex is on his 6th marriage now...
Bro, this is by far one of your best videos, I'm 5 months of no contact what you described about not wanting to put up with manipulation anymore is where I am. Thank you, it's let's me know that I am on the right track..
I would never put up with any of that from anyone let alone them. So I hope they never do come back. God please protect me from this damaged person.
Amen 🙌🏾
I wanna come to Texas and hug you. You're a good man. Thank you for your contribution to all of our healing. It feels so comforting to know that Im not alone.
Thank you!💪🏾🤘🏾
What’s So Crazy Today I Was Talking To My Neighbor Outside She Explain to me that My Ex Narcissist Boyfriend Been Talking And Looking Up At My Window ever since You Went To Stay At A Family Member House For 6Weeks I Explain to her I don’t know how when he’s the one that let me go in did Me so dirty over a month ago I Went No Contact On My Ex Narcissist No I Didn’t Look At His social media at all or look for him, blocked him and everything so he’s not able to get to me.. This Guy Videos Be So Right the narcissist person they Do Come Looking For You When they The one that did you so dirty they do come looking for you when you go no contact ..
It’s so true! i’m
going through this right now. He found a new supply & is turning against me bad cause of her & he is obviously training her to be his new idiot.
😂 feel pity for ha because we all been ha
I got smeared and she contacted me after 30 days NC after our breakup to try and "be on friendly terms" and then tried to manipulate me into believing it was all mu fault we broke up 😂😂 then she shifted to us being sex friends which i declined and kept my dignity. Found out that night shes got new supply and called her out for who she was and told her never to contact me again. Been 3 weeks NC but she showed up at the lake where i go kayaking twice in the past few weeks even though she lives 35 min away. I acted like i never saw her and went on my way.
The very smart ones don't smear they cover it up as "concern" so instead of them saying my ex is crazy they will say "I'm worried about them, they aren't very mentally ok etc" so it makes them look like a caring person being kind about the "crazy" ex. Ugg I know I accidentally created a monster with my ex, I taught him SO much about intense emotional empathy and psychology. Like A LOT. I watched him mirror my teachings back to me but in manipulative ways and I was like omg..... I just made him smarter and an even stronger and cunning manipulator. He discarded me violently and I'm pretty sure he's back with his ex from 5 years before me. I'm sure he's convinced her he's a changed man and sadly he will look 100% like he is because he learned so much from me but is still that same person only with a new shiny upgraded mask on.
Brother you are one of the best channels on the subject of narcassism. Keep up the good work!
Been 6 months now, no hoover, but I've realized that the child she used me for is the new supply. She was born 4 months ago...maybe I'll meet her someday
Me ex narcissist has not hovered me in some time and I hope he doesn't. Any time he would hoover or call it would trigger me and spoil my mood. I know better he hasn't changed. He destroys women one relationship after another. I learned my lessons. I hope you have a speedy recovery
That's an excellent thing! I'm so thankful that I have overcome that person. In April, I will be single for 1 year! I put myself through something there for a while, but I'm glad with prayer in me. God helped to see me through. What useto cause me tears I no longer cry over anymore. That's an awesome feeling to be able to move forward without having any more soul ties!
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Amen..
I feel so drained. It has been over 1.5 years since break up. But I felt my ex psychopath drained all my energy. I feel no energy and no desire to do anything. I feel very down most of the time.
Trust me its going to get better. Stay strong stay blessed.
@@tamarraslaton thank you so much for support🙏❤️
Get busy doing something that interest you, move from that daily routine. You must get up and do something, meet new people, go walking at a park but don't stay in that place of no desire, it will destroy you mentally..
@@phil692 thank you. I feel much better now. I moved on. God is great🙏❤️
Narcissist destroy your health. I'm an fuct as well knee pain
Man, this was an amazing vid. I hope you're feeling better soon. You summed it all up beautifully. Men cry, too, when they have been emotionally abused . That's not weakness, it's empowerment. I appreciate your point of view.
Sir, you are on point with everything. Knowledge is SOOOOOO much power! To be a victim of a narc is damaging. I am starting to deal and heal within and sheesh, the purge is tough. Whew! Healing is needed. Imma be single for a while.....a long while.😢
That movie Analogy was On Point 👌🏼
Praying for a speedy recovery ❤️🩹 thank you for all you do 💕
I’m in this exact situation right now, for the first time ever she hasn’t hoovered. Its been exactly a week since I’ve talked to her/broke up with her and this is the exact question I’ve been asking myself. She literally cannot manipulate me anymore and your video just gave me new perspectives on why she might actually give up. I wish I could talk to you dude this shit is so hard
Yea my ex phone had it's own bedroom because every time I came around I never ever seen it ... maybe he put it to bed first 🤷🏾♀️
I love your total honesty and that I can relate to everything you say. I’m not alone in this process.
They don’t come back because they did not love you like that if one loves you he would come back that’s what happens when a man loves a woman that y no hovering
4:39 right just say f em
5 years did me whole time getting ran through 😮ahhh this some bs but lesson learned
I like that you always mention that your not going for it 😂🥰
No SH!T on being cheated on PRE-ceremony!!!
I have a kid with mine its hard to have no contact.
You and that gym.You don't care what happens,just take your a$$ to the gym and everything will be ok.😂
The day had finally came where I BLOCKED NUMBER and whatever else could be blocked… after blocking #, I deleted #…that was hard for me to do bc I WAS MAKING A CHOICE TO FOLLOW THRU WHEN IN REALITY… I WISHED FOR A DIFFERENT ENDING… to make a choice on somethin that I ain’t wantin to make is called SELF LOVE!
I take it as a blessing!!!!!
Amen🤘🏾
I pray you feel better.
Yessir.. This is absolutely right on all levels... Hey well soon brotha... This message was needed at the moment
I am not free yet